Crying because this is everything I needed to hear today. I'm 8 weeks and just so, so miserable and can't be excited and this is the first time I've heard something honest and relatable. I can't thank you enough for this video.
I’m not pregnant. Nor do I ever want to get pregnant. Yet I found this video so informative. Hopefully gaining more insight into an experience I’ll never have will make me more empathetic once my friends start getting pregnant.
On behalf on pregnant women, Thank you! I find too many people run on assumptions re: pregnancy instead of just offering compassionate support. You seem like you would really care and offer that, so thank you :)
I was always empathetic towards pregnant women but having my closest friends become mothers surely amped up the compassion and willingness to help out. Plus I get to have surrogate nephews and nieces.
Lily! I remember watching this back in 2018 when my husband and I were first trying, and throughout the years I always knew I would come back to it. After finally going through IVF this year, I had my first positive pregnancy test and am currently 4 weeks. I am so happy to be back here re-watching with a newfound understanding and joy. 💕
Totally balling my eyes out watching this. I’m very much in the depths of the feeling very low / sick / unmotivated / ungrateful and this video has helped. It does feel like it’s just never ending
Hey Lily, I'm about 7 weeks pregnant now with my first, and I have just been going back and watching this and your first trimester vlog and I just wanted to say thanks for how honest you were. I have been feeling sooo sick, and just hearing that someone else has gone through it makes me feel better. You are the first person who I've ever heard talk about that sort of personality loss feeling, and if I hadn't heard it from you I might have been harder on myself.
I’m currently 11 weeks, this video was such a breath of fresh air. I’m sick of being told how I should be feeling or that I’m exaggerating how I feel, I should be grateful for this gift. It has been such a challenge getting up most days but this has made me feel more positive that things will start to ease Thank you and merry Christmas
Hi Lily! I’m 23 weeks pregnant with my first which is also a girl and you have totally summed up my first trimester! I had sickness up to 19 weeks and to be honest just was ruining it all for me so it’s so comforting to know that it’s normal to feel like that! I can be more excited now although there’s still plenty of pregnancy I don’t enjoy! Roll on April 2019 so it can be over with the best gift. Have an amazing Christmas 🎄
Not all pregnancy involves sickness etc so don't worry if you have a lack of symptoms. I was pregnant with awful symptoms but none of my friends had morning sickness or spd but we all had healthy babies. Great video. Excited for baby! Happy Christmas everyone xx
i just came out of my first trimester with my third baby...i feel like you literally took every single word you said right out of my mind and it really really helped me that you validated all my feelings and thoughts. thank you so much i loved this video. good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!
Thank you for your honesty! So many articles online tell you to be a super woman with all the healthy food and exercise when sometimes it just can't happen. I has a miscarriage and few people asked me what I did wrong. WTF. Judgement on pregnant women is amazing. As you say, we recognize that being pregnant (if intended) is a privilege but we should be allowed to state the truth and complain about it too. It's our body!
I think some ppl don't mean bad but it's like "oh no, is it because you were stressed?" or "is it because you went on a long train ride?". Nope. Just happened. Didn't eat anything weird, didn't go nuts exercising. After I got a few of these reactions, I stopped sharing. Oh well.
Hi Lily. I’m nearly 18 weeks and I can SO totally relate to EVERYTHING you’ve mentioned in thanks video. I too found the first trimester so so difficult, from the nausea, to the lack of personality, the tiredness, feeling sad and unhappy (even you’re grateful) people not understand and making comments like ‘ your not Ill your pregnant ‘ the carrying Cheerios around in your bag!!! Just everything!!! I’m finally starting to feel a bit better, but still don’t have this ‘glow, burst of energy’ everyone buzzes on about !!! Think it’s so great you’ve done this video and been so honest - I was nodding all the way through. Wishing you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy x
Facial mist is a lovely one, and it’s nice in early labour and the hospital afterwards. Neals yard have a lovely hand sanitiser too. It’s the little things. I just had my second bundle of joy last week and I was much more active in the last trimester than my first pregnancy, not going to the gym but kept going for walks right up to due date and I noticed even though I’m 4 years older this time I was way more energised before baby came. Good luck to all the expectant mothers. It’s the most truly amazing journey. Bump to baby is incredible.
Thank you for your honesty, I felt so bad that I was feeling so sad about being pregnant. Glad to hear that later I will feel more like myself. So happy to hear I am not alone. The sickness is on another level and I can't wait to hit the second trimester.
Hello Lily. I just wanted to comment to say thank you for making this video. I’m currently almost 7 weeks pregnant after trying for around 8 months and I’m over the moon. However, I’ve been so confused as I feel low, anxious, sad and generally just not myself (alongside the nausea). I cannot tell you how much better I feel after watching you talk in this video, to know that I’m likely not alone in the way I’m feeling. Thank you for being so honest when you made this, I cannot tell you how much of a help it has been x
In tears watching this! 8 weeks at the moment and just feeling horrible 😅 so it was really nice to see someone relating to a feeling that nakes you feel very alone. Thanks for that ❤️
I am a few weeks ahead of you and I think what you said here is both really true but also very important. I was horribly sick my first trimester and everything you said about cutting yourself some slack and doing what is best for you is exactly what I wish had been said to me. It does get better but before it does, allow yourself to do exactly and only what will make you feel better; or at least less miserable. Thank you for putting this kind of content out there. It will be so beneficial to others struggling through those first weeks.
Yes to not worrying about eating super healthy in the 1st trimester. I had the WORST morning sickness for the first 17-18 weeks... They were the worst days of. my. life. It was total survival mode. I had to switch from my carefully selected multivitamins to gummies. I ate potato chips and frozen jellos for days on end. I did feel better by 20 weeks (ffs) and ate relatively healthy from then. My baby is super healthy. It's going to be okay, eat what you can. Obviously you can't get dehydrated or malnutrition, but your body is stronger than you think. Also, yes to communicating with your spouse. My husband was scared and felt horrible for me. He felt guilty and said he would have never wanted kids if this was what I had to go through. Talk to them and tell them what you need from them, even if it's leaving you alone or helping with chores. All in all, it's going to be wonderful (and hard), but this too shall pass. Truly the happiest days of my life now.
Hi Lily! I’m new to your channel and I never usually comment on TH-cam videos but I wanted to thank you so much for this video and all the pregnancy-related chatty sections of your videos. I’m currently struggling in my 11th week of my first pregnancy and your videos are such a huge comfort to me. Even though I have many mom-friends and desperately want to hear about other people’s experiences with their pregnancies, I find myself not wanting to talk about how I’m feeling since I feel too tired and down to do so - which results in feeling very lonely. You are the only person who had the exact same symptoms as I do and is able to perfectly verbalize my pain and struggle with my first trimester, and that makes me feel so comforted, understood, and validated. Thank you so much for sharing so openly and honestly, and I look forward to your next videos :)
I find it so crazy how pregnancies can be so different for each person! There’s no right or wrong experience and it’s hard for different people in different ways x
When you got to “f this ****” at the end, I cried! Thank you so much for this so real video and the weekly ones during your 1st, too. I’ve only known I’m pregnant for four days and the nausea started on day two of that (yesterday). Struggling right now with how I can get to work, be at work, and get home from work with this. Yesterday was rough doing that, and today I’ve ended up at home. I want to shout it to everyone but at same time no one. Discovering this video and your channel has been the best help of my day. Thank you, Lily.
Gosh when you talk about the personality change and anxiety!!! I thought I was weird for feeling like that. You’re literally describing what I’m feeling!
Nearly two years to the day since you posted this but I remembered you had made these really honest videos and I’m now 7 weeks pregnant and suffering so just want to say thank you! I’ve also had Covid so feel like a zombie and this makes me feel a little more normal and hopeful!
I will be 7 weeks tomorrow and the nausea has been so bad!! Literally at the 6 week mark everything switched and I feel like a different person now, I hate this feeling!! Thank you for sharing makes me feel less alone ❤️ Eating some cheerios before bed now!
I’m almost 7 weeks now and really feeling it. Thank you for making this video. The first trimester can be a bit lonely for sure, so this advice is so so valuable! 💗
I’m in my first trimester and so much resonates. I feel blank too. And so so exhausted and then I feel guilty that I can accomplish the tasks I used to do and need to do really. Thank you! This was comforting.
Im 7 weeks and feeling so sick from waking to going to sleep. Its rough!!! Literally congratulate myself for getting through every hour. This is an ivf baby and i always told myself I would feel so grateful for morning sickness but my goodnesss, i had no idea 😬
20 weeks already?! Wishing u all the best for the rest of your pregnancy. For my first baby I had hyperemesis gravidarum for the whollleeeee pregnancy & from that I was diagnosed with antenatal depression. I was put on high risk of potentially having postpartum depression because of that! But as soon as my baby was born I started to feel like I was myself again & all my symptoms started to go! It was crazy, I reckon it took me maybe 2ish days to feel fully myself and I was sooo happy! My advice for any mama to be is that there is light at the end of the tunnel!
I feel the exact same about how slowly it's going! I'm 6 weeks 5 days and found out at 3 weeks 6 days and these past three weeks have been excruciatingly slow, both because I now feel nauseous on and off all day and because I just want to get to a scan to make sure everything is OK in there.
As Bags&beauty said, sick in the first trimester is normal but so is not feeling sick. I've experienced both. Love you Lily and sorry you had a bad three months but it's not like that for everyone.
This is a great video but just to reassure people who aren’t feeling sick or crap, not every pregnancy or every person is the same. There are a number of women who don’t suffer morning sickness and don’t feel terrible every day. You are not weird and shouldn’t worry or go to the doctors because you aren’t having morning sickness. Everyone is different!
Bags&Beauty definitely. Most of my friends and sisters weren’t sick at all, they just felt very tired. Everyone is completely different and there is no “normal” x
Lily Pebbles absolutely! I am due my second any day. They are different sexes but I have felt the same with both, so just goes to show all these old wives tales are nonsense! There is definitely no ‘normal’ in pregnancy. I hope the rest of your pregnancy continues well and is enjoyable!!
This. I had literally no pregnancy symptoms apart from no periods and it was so worrying! My whole pregnancy was very atypical, it took me a long time to feel movements and even then they weren't regular and my placenta was anterior which muffled a lot. I had a perfectly healthy baby 2 weeks ago, try to keep positive and think of the end goal x
@@charmax88 thank you for this. I've been so worried thinking that something is wrong with me because although I'm nauseous here and there, I haven't vomited and I'm almost seven weeks.
Really liked this video. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant on my first. While I've had a different start than you, I can relate to a lot. I wasn't physically sick more than twice in the first trimester but felt ill from 4pm everyday. So dinner for 3 weeks was crackers with butter & a bowl of grapes. Also completely echo the telling a few people. I told my mam, sister & a couple of select friends. My other half didn't want to tell his family & I respected that. I saw a great post on facebook about how you're not supposed to tell people in case of miscarriage etc but that you should tell the people you might need should that happen. It means it's not a double blow trying to tell them. I also told work early (bout 8 weeks) as we were starting to plan for this year and I knew I wouldn't be there. Told my boss in confidence & it made such a difference, he was so supportive and helpful if I needed anything.
I love this! I really wish I would have had this when I was pregnant. You summed it up perfectly. One thing I hated was when people would say "oh I loved being pregnant". Pregnancy is not all sunshine and roses. First trimester is sickness and gross, second isn't too bad and third is full on invasion of the body snatchers lol. I had migraine headaches my entire pregnancy and while it was 100% worth it and I am grateful that I was able to experience it, it was not easy and I am glad you are being so candid about what it can be like, I really could have used having that when I was going through it.
I first watched your pregnancy vlogs/videos when I wasn’t pregnant and found them informative as I knew I’d like to try for a baby in the near future. I’m now 7+ weeks and I’ve revisited them for support and found them really helpful! I seem to be having a similar experience to you, good days and bad days... the sickness has kicked in 🥴 but it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this experience and it’s ok just to wallow in it for a while! Thank you for your honesty 💕
So true. I’m 10.5 weeks and it’s so important to not feel guilting about feeling rubbish. My symptoms kicked in at 4.5 weeks and have only just started to let up! Home stretch, can’t wait for that 12 week mark
I'm currently 7 weeks and found this so helpful. Been really struggling with sickness this past week! I'm so glad I'm not the only one that doesn't feel excited and just feels crap right now xx
I have NEVER commented on a TH-cam video before, but just wanted to say that I've just hit my second trimester and REALLY wish I'd seen this before! Such good advice, thank you.
Pregnancy sounds like hard work. I always envisioned pregnancy as a euphoric high, guess I was wrong. I believe you. Everything we chose to do in life is hard work. Thanks for being honest with us. It's good that you have a supporting partner in Rich. Wishing you an easier reminder of your pregnancy Lily. x
Thank you so so much! I’m 7 weeks now, and these were immensely helpful. For me, I have bouts of nausea, but the worst part is just sheer exhaustion, all the time. One day, I couldn’t even muster up the strength to cut a tomato! Also, there’s an app for Dads-to-be, it’s called Daddy Up! It’s hilarious, but also has some good tips. Thank you again!
Thanks for this lily! I am 7 weeks and feeling absolutely awful. So exhausted and sick and having to take time off work - really getting me down :(. It’s hard to stay positive and feel excited when you feel so ill. So thank you for letting me know I’m not alone and it will get better xxx
I do love your honesty two pregnancy down and both very different naturally second time very different because resting isn’t an option. Love how open and frank you are do not change xx
Lilly. I'm 2 weeks behind you. I've enjoyed knowing that you feel exactly the same way I do and therefore I am not a total fanny for crying about being sick 😁 the sickness has slowed but not completely gone. I don't mind because now I'm starting to feel the baby move so that makes everything worth it already. 😊 You're doing a great job Lilly 🤘😍
Thank you so much for this video! I am currently 9 weeks and This is literally everything I’m feeling and hearing you say that it’s all okay and normal really has made me feel soooo much better. I’m crying from feeling understood and just how wonderful this video is ❤️ thank you from Texas, USA ❤️
I love this! I have a 15 month old now and this video bought back my first 16 weeks of pregnancy to a tee!!!! I had a morning routine of turning up to work, drinking a glass of warm milk and then vomiting in the loo..so awkward when no one knows you're pregnant haha. 'It'll pass' is a good motto to take into motherhood as well. All the really hard baby stuff is always just a phase. xxx
Omg, I found out a was pregnant a couple of days ago, and I've just been feeling so shit - anxious and nauseous and NOT excited at all. And just feeling so guilty that I am not excited when I wanted it so bad before - like I'm such and idiot for believing I could do this. I broke down crying seeing this. Thank you so so much! Saw this a long time ago but really needed it now.
Me too! Found out 4 days ago and have had so much anxiety/nausea and such low energy. Family who we have told are super excited and I just feel like I can’t do this 😢
This was so helpful. Thank you for this! I’ve followed you for years but honestly skipped the pregnancy content at the time as it just wasn’t relatable to me. Now I am so so grateful I can come back to it
I'm 34 weeks today. My 1st trimester experience was nowhere near as bad as yours (watched the vlog) but every pregnancy and every person are different. I was working 45 hours full time at that point still and work kept my mind off most of the times. I have to admit, although I did feel sick (I refuse to call it morning sickness, I was absolutely fine in the morning and then felt horrible usually after 3pm onwards for the rest of the day) I never actually was physically sick. I don't know if that's a blessing, I saw it more like a curse as I couldn't find relief in any way. Plus I had those sudden exhaustion bouts, where I would feel fine one minute and completely drained the next. Obviously letting your family know as soon as possible is the best thing to do and it benefits you because of the advice and the extra attention you will get, but unfortunately my whole family and close friends live abroad, so I didn't get the benefit of that. I do see the difference it makes to one of my British friends though, as she is 12 weeks pregnant right now and I was one of the very first people she told. It also made me feel so much better to be able to share all of these experiences I went through (and still going) with someone who is currently going through the same! My top tip for the first trimester is related to coffee. I'm one of those people who have 3-4 cups of coffee per day, sometimes more, so going from that to decaf was a shock to the system. I struggled to wake up most days and wasn't feeling awake for a good 2-3 hours after I was already up. My midwife told me I can only have a cup of coffee a day, which at the beginning I was having in the morning, but that wasn't enough still. What I ended up doing is having half a teaspoon of normal coffee and half of decaf in the morning, which allowed me to have another half and half cup later in the day when I needed it the most. I told my pregnant friend to do the same and she has been so thankful I shared with her, because she was struggling herself! Keep it up with the great content, you are doing a fabulous job!
I think this is the best video you have ever done. Thank you for being so honest and warm and compassionate. Wishing you all the best and merry Xmas. Also enjoy your last Xmas just the two of you! Don't forget that.
Goes to show how every pregnancy is so different because fresh food in the first 10 weeks was the last thing I could eat. I couldn’t even walk through the fresh produce section in the supermarket. Crisps (specifically pickled onion Monster Munch), noodles and fizzy orange drinks was what worked for me. My top tip is don’t be scared or shocked by your crazy emotions. I actually cried in Sainsbury’s because they didn’t have the flavour of stand n stuff taco kit I wanted.The poor teenage guy who worked there wasn’t sure what to do with me 😂😂 And wear panty liners all the time, snissing will happen ... a lot.
Currently at 6 weeks and the nausea & tiredness really hitting now.. and don’t feel excited just anxious 😥 thank you so much for this wonderful honest and open video it has made me feel so so much better about feeling so rubbish 🙂💛
I'm not pregnant or plan on being pregnant anytime soon as I am 23, but I thoroughly enjoyed this video Lily! thank you so much for your honesty, openness and advice - I watch so many youtubers but never get this much insight in to pregnancy! it'll definitely help me in the future for when I do want to get pregnant xx
i explained that in my first trimester video.. I felt so crap mentally, yet i knew i was happy to be pregnant especially as i have polycystic ovaries. i just felt like i shouldn't be pregnant etc but i knew it wasn't really how i felt if that makes sense. it was all just a shock moment
Thank you for making this video, I'm having a horrible time puking and feeling sick and I feel kind of less alone knowing that it's normal to feel really bad at the beginning
I’m 14 weeks at the moment and I feel like I had a very similar first trimester to yourself, so glad my morning sickness has seemed to have subsided, that was hard going!
I remember all that the sickness ,the tiredness, the moodiness ! For the whole 12 weeks ! Then I miscarried at 12 weeks ! After we'd stopped being so sad about it first thing my husband said was 'does we mean we have to do the tiredness and grumpiness all over again?' ! Because I was such a joy ! Haha ! And yes yes we do ! One day if we are lucky enough ! Best reason in the world to feel like crap ! At least if you get a baby out of it is worth it ! Otherwise I spent two months feeling awful for nothing ! Better luck next time :-) Congrats on the pregnancy:-)
Thank you for this video! I am 7 weeks pregnant and feel like absolute crap most of the time and lazy and unmotivated. I had a miscarriage in Sept so I am so much more nervous and anxious with this pregnancy. I have my ultrasound soon and I’m just so terrified. I like watching your videos because they are so honest and real and exactly how I feel too.
You could try Ginger lemon infusion by Twinings, ginger is supposed to help with nausea and it is caffeine free and delicious. Merry Christmas to you and Rich! Hope you have a great time!
Each pregnancy is so different. I felt great in my first trimester, sick in my second and then great in my last again. I only put on 5lbs, didn't need maternity jeans until I was about 30 weeks pregnant... All great, but I think because I looked "great" (not my words...) People presumed I felt ok or just forgot I was pregnant. I got a lot of "oh this is the second trimester, this is the easy bit" when it was by far the hardest part for me. X
Brings the memories all back when food was like medicine and water had a smell to it,I couldn’t use a particular cup as it made me feel so sick,I went on to have four more children,3have left my nest now and motherhood really is living the dream 🙌x
I am loving all your videos in pregnancy Lily! I am pregnant with my second and I am 22 weeks. Totally get everything you have been saying especially the bigger picture is very exciting but the little things are really hard. Good luck and have a wonderful Christmas xx
This was so relieving to me i am only 5 weeks but my stomach although its not a bump is hard and bloated a lot and its nice to know its not all in my head and i have been so anxious all i do is worry im very glad it goes away 😌
I had absolutely no symptoms in my first and second trimester. I had my first scan at 6 or 8weeks. Our midwife suggested that and it didn't cost us anything. After that we told our parents and sisters at 12 weeks or so. We told our other friends and family at our wedding about 14 weeks in. I'm over 30 weeks now and start feeling my pelvicbone now but nothing serious. My bump is so small some people still don't even notice. 😂 And I'm not a huge or tiny person.
TammyTTalks Thank you for this! I am 8 weeks and feel worried to death I have no “clear” symptoms. I only have been feeling tired but I have started convincing myself I’m just lazy and making it up! I know symptoms or no symptoms are no indication about how healthy your baby is but having no symptoms made me feel a little alone when reading things online about everyone having morning sickness and sore boobs, etc. It also makes me constantly worry something is definitely wrong. Reading your post just makes me feel 100 times better, thank you so much.
Loved this video only 23 not planning on children but really enjoy your walk through life and realistic approach . It was like listening to a sister or a best friend. Merry xmas lily and a happy new year x
Wonderful video! I’m in my first trimester with my second bubs, and I feel so much sicker this time. I find myself getting frustrated with my own body, but I really need to remember that this is all normal and it’ll (hopefully) pass. Thanks for such an honest video, I know that it takes guts to put stuff about pregnancy out there xx
At IKEA they sell green rubber krokodiles for the bathtub to make it less slippery ... we always use it for the kids. You can remove it after every bath.
Absolutely LOVED this video, I relate to so much of it and you have such a great way of describing things. I recently started watching your videos after seeing you on Anna’s channel and I’m so glad I did- I’m 25 weeks pregnant, so on the ride together!
I'm in my 8th week with my first. I got my first ultrasound at 8 weeks here in America and they were able to do it on my tummy. I'll be 9 weeks on the American holiday Thanksgiving and 12 weeks on my birthday. I totally get what you mean about looking forward to the day you'll be another week in (Thursdays for me).
Watching this today after finding out I am pregnant again after my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage last Christmas. Just hoping it all goes smoothly this time. Wish I could get excited but I just don't want to get my hopes up when I am nowhere near 12 weeks yet.
Such a helpful and bloody REAL video!!! Yes I feel shit and the horrible metallic taste at 6 weeks is constant! And I don’t want to eat healthy or avacados etc! In fact I want nothing except sleep 😴
Crying because this is everything I needed to hear today. I'm 8 weeks and just so, so miserable and can't be excited and this is the first time I've heard something honest and relatable. I can't thank you enough for this video.
I’m not pregnant. Nor do I ever want to get pregnant. Yet I found this video so informative. Hopefully gaining more insight into an experience I’ll never have will make me more empathetic once my friends start getting pregnant.
On behalf on pregnant women, Thank you! I find too many people run on assumptions re: pregnancy instead of just offering compassionate support. You seem like you would really care and offer that, so thank you :)
I was always empathetic towards pregnant women but having my closest friends become mothers surely amped up the compassion and willingness to help out. Plus I get to have surrogate nephews and nieces.
Lily! I remember watching this back in 2018 when my husband and I were first trying, and throughout the years I always knew I would come back to it. After finally going through IVF this year, I had my first positive pregnancy test and am currently 4 weeks. I am so happy to be back here re-watching with a newfound understanding and joy. 💕
I had a mis miscarriage in early November but I got pregnant again right away! I'm about 7 weeks.. wish me luck and send positive vibes please
mariahtr this is me right now!! Hope everything went wonderfully
Reading this now... How'd everything go??
Totally balling my eyes out watching this. I’m very much in the depths of the feeling very low / sick / unmotivated / ungrateful and this video has helped. It does feel like it’s just never ending
Kirsty Doyle look up pregnancy meditation videos! They really helped me in my first trimester
Hey Lily, I'm about 7 weeks pregnant now with my first, and I have just been going back and watching this and your first trimester vlog and I just wanted to say thanks for how honest you were. I have been feeling sooo sick, and just hearing that someone else has gone through it makes me feel better. You are the first person who I've ever heard talk about that sort of personality loss feeling, and if I hadn't heard it from you I might have been harder on myself.
I’m currently 11 weeks, this video was such a breath of fresh air. I’m sick of being told how I should be feeling or that I’m exaggerating how I feel, I should be grateful for this gift. It has been such a challenge getting up most days but this has made me feel more positive that things will start to ease
Thank you and merry Christmas
Not even pregnant but still here for all these videos!
Hi Lily!
I’m 23 weeks pregnant with my first which is also a girl and you have totally summed up my first trimester!
I had sickness up to 19 weeks and to be honest just was ruining it all for me so it’s so comforting to know that it’s normal to feel like that! I can be more excited now although there’s still plenty of pregnancy I don’t enjoy! Roll on April 2019 so it can be over with the best gift. Have an amazing Christmas 🎄
Not all pregnancy involves sickness etc so don't worry if you have a lack of symptoms. I was pregnant with awful symptoms but none of my friends had morning sickness or spd but we all had healthy babies. Great video. Excited for baby! Happy Christmas everyone xx
i just came out of my first trimester with my third baby...i feel like you literally took every single word you said right out of my mind and it really really helped me that you validated all my feelings and thoughts. thank you so much i loved this video. good luck with the rest of your pregnancy!
Thank you for your honesty! So many articles online tell you to be a super woman with all the healthy food and exercise when sometimes it just can't happen. I has a miscarriage and few people asked me what I did wrong. WTF. Judgement on pregnant women is amazing. As you say, we recognize that being pregnant (if intended) is a privilege but we should be allowed to state the truth and complain about it too. It's our body!
84pik I can’t believe people said that to you, how awful. Miscarriage must be so hard, keep well.
Wow, people are always ''there'' for us just to make sure to make everything harder, as if that will make their shitty lives a bit easier to bear.
I think some ppl don't mean bad but it's like "oh no, is it because you were stressed?" or "is it because you went on a long train ride?". Nope. Just happened. Didn't eat anything weird, didn't go nuts exercising. After I got a few of these reactions, I stopped sharing. Oh well.
I feel so weak while being pregnant now. Feeling ready for bed at only 8pm. Your video makes me feel better Lily. And Rich is so sweet. Xxx
Hi Lily. I’m nearly 18 weeks and I can SO totally relate to EVERYTHING you’ve mentioned in thanks video. I too found the first trimester so so difficult, from the nausea, to the lack of personality, the tiredness, feeling sad and unhappy (even you’re grateful) people not understand and making comments like ‘ your not Ill your pregnant ‘ the carrying Cheerios around in your bag!!! Just everything!!! I’m finally starting to feel a bit better, but still don’t have this ‘glow, burst of energy’ everyone buzzes on about !!!
Think it’s so great you’ve done this video and been so honest - I was nodding all the way through.
Wishing you all the best with the rest of your pregnancy x
Facial mist is a lovely one, and it’s nice in early labour and the hospital afterwards. Neals yard have a lovely hand sanitiser too. It’s the little things. I just had my second bundle of joy last week and I was much more active in the last trimester than my first pregnancy, not going to the gym but kept going for walks right up to due date and I noticed even though I’m 4 years older this time I was way more energised before baby came. Good luck to all the expectant mothers. It’s the most truly amazing journey. Bump to baby is incredible.
Thank you for your honesty, I felt so bad that I was feeling so sad about being pregnant. Glad to hear that later I will feel more like myself. So happy to hear I am not alone. The sickness is on another level and I can't wait to hit the second trimester.
Hello Lily. I just wanted to comment to say thank you for making this video. I’m currently almost 7 weeks pregnant after trying for around 8 months and I’m over the moon. However, I’ve been so confused as I feel low, anxious, sad and generally just not myself (alongside the nausea). I cannot tell you how much better I feel after watching you talk in this video, to know that I’m likely not alone in the way I’m feeling. Thank you for being so honest when you made this, I cannot tell you how much of a help it has been x
In tears watching this! 8 weeks at the moment and just feeling horrible 😅 so it was really nice to see someone relating to a feeling that nakes you feel very alone. Thanks for that ❤️
I am a few weeks ahead of you and I think what you said here is both really true but also very important. I was horribly sick my first trimester and everything you said about cutting yourself some slack and doing what is best for you is exactly what I wish had been said to me. It does get better but before it does, allow yourself to do exactly and only what will make you feel better; or at least less miserable.
Thank you for putting this kind of content out there. It will be so beneficial to others struggling through those first weeks.
Yes to not worrying about eating super healthy in the 1st trimester. I had the WORST morning sickness for the first 17-18 weeks... They were the worst days of. my. life. It was total survival mode. I had to switch from my carefully selected multivitamins to gummies. I ate potato chips and frozen jellos for days on end. I did feel better by 20 weeks (ffs) and ate relatively healthy from then. My baby is super healthy. It's going to be okay, eat what you can. Obviously you can't get dehydrated or malnutrition, but your body is stronger than you think. Also, yes to communicating with your spouse. My husband was scared and felt horrible for me. He felt guilty and said he would have never wanted kids if this was what I had to go through. Talk to them and tell them what you need from them, even if it's leaving you alone or helping with chores. All in all, it's going to be wonderful (and hard), but this too shall pass. Truly the happiest days of my life now.
Hi Lily! I’m new to your channel and I never usually comment on TH-cam videos but I wanted to thank you so much for this video and all the pregnancy-related chatty sections of your videos. I’m currently struggling in my 11th week of my first pregnancy and your videos are such a huge comfort to me. Even though I have many mom-friends and desperately want to hear about other people’s experiences with their pregnancies, I find myself not wanting to talk about how I’m feeling since I feel too tired and down to do so - which results in feeling very lonely. You are the only person who had the exact same symptoms as I do and is able to perfectly verbalize my pain and struggle with my first trimester, and that makes me feel so comforted, understood, and validated. Thank you so much for sharing so openly and honestly, and I look forward to your next videos :)
I find it so crazy how pregnancies can be so different for each person! There’s no right or wrong experience and it’s hard for different people in different ways x
When you got to “f this ****” at the end, I cried! Thank you so much for this so real video and the weekly ones during your 1st, too. I’ve only known I’m pregnant for four days and the nausea started on day two of that (yesterday). Struggling right now with how I can get to work, be at work, and get home from work with this. Yesterday was rough doing that, and today I’ve ended up at home. I want to shout it to everyone but at same time no one. Discovering this video and your channel has been the best help of my day. Thank you, Lily.
Gosh when you talk about the personality change and anxiety!!! I thought I was weird for feeling like that. You’re literally describing what I’m feeling!
I’m 7.5 weeks pregnant and this was very comforting to watch/hear. Definitely feeling similar to how you described yourself. Thanks!
Nearly two years to the day since you posted this but I remembered you had made these really honest videos and I’m now 7 weeks pregnant and suffering so just want to say thank you! I’ve also had Covid so feel like a zombie and this makes me feel a little more normal and hopeful!
I will be 7 weeks tomorrow and the nausea has been so bad!! Literally at the 6 week mark everything switched and I feel like a different person now, I hate this feeling!! Thank you for sharing makes me feel less alone ❤️ Eating some cheerios before bed now!
I’m almost 7 weeks now and really feeling it. Thank you for making this video. The first trimester can be a bit lonely for sure, so this advice is so so valuable! 💗
I’m in my first trimester and so much resonates. I feel blank too. And so so exhausted and then I feel guilty that I can accomplish the tasks I used to do and need to do really. Thank you! This was comforting.
Im 7 weeks and feeling so sick from waking to going to sleep. Its rough!!! Literally congratulate myself for getting through every hour. This is an ivf baby and i always told myself I would feel so grateful for morning sickness but my goodnesss, i had no idea 😬
Literally, every thing you said in the video is so genuine, relatable and comforting to hear.
20 weeks already?! Wishing u all the best for the rest of your pregnancy. For my first baby I had hyperemesis gravidarum for the whollleeeee pregnancy & from that I was diagnosed with antenatal depression. I was put on high risk of potentially having postpartum depression because of that! But as soon as my baby was born I started to feel like I was myself again & all my symptoms started to go! It was crazy, I reckon it took me maybe 2ish days to feel fully myself and I was sooo happy! My advice for any mama to be is that there is light at the end of the tunnel!
I feel the exact same about how slowly it's going! I'm 6 weeks 5 days and found out at 3 weeks 6 days and these past three weeks have been excruciatingly slow, both because I now feel nauseous on and off all day and because I just want to get to a scan to make sure everything is OK in there.
As Bags&beauty said, sick in the first trimester is normal but so is not feeling sick. I've experienced both. Love you Lily and sorry you had a bad three months but it's not like that for everyone.
Not pregnant but still enjoying the content! Thanks Lily for your honesty and down to earth advice! :)
I'm not pregnant, but there is no video that you upload that I don't watch. I enjoy every one of them!
This is a great video but just to reassure people who aren’t feeling sick or crap, not every pregnancy or every person is the same. There are a number of women who don’t suffer morning sickness and don’t feel terrible every day. You are not weird and shouldn’t worry or go to the doctors because you aren’t having morning sickness. Everyone is different!
Bags&Beauty definitely. Most of my friends and sisters weren’t sick at all, they just felt very tired. Everyone is completely different and there is no “normal” x
Indeed, it made me worried at first, but now I just feel Lucky I don't have any symptoms.
Lily Pebbles absolutely! I am due my second any day. They are different sexes but I have felt the same with both, so just goes to show all these old wives tales are nonsense! There is definitely no ‘normal’ in pregnancy. I hope the rest of your pregnancy continues well and is enjoyable!!
This. I had literally no pregnancy symptoms apart from no periods and it was so worrying! My whole pregnancy was very atypical, it took me a long time to feel movements and even then they weren't regular and my placenta was anterior which muffled a lot. I had a perfectly healthy baby 2 weeks ago, try to keep positive and think of the end goal x
@@charmax88 thank you for this. I've been so worried thinking that something is wrong with me because although I'm nauseous here and there, I haven't vomited and I'm almost seven weeks.
Really liked this video. I'm currently 21 weeks pregnant on my first. While I've had a different start than you, I can relate to a lot. I wasn't physically sick more than twice in the first trimester but felt ill from 4pm everyday. So dinner for 3 weeks was crackers with butter & a bowl of grapes. Also completely echo the telling a few people. I told my mam, sister & a couple of select friends. My other half didn't want to tell his family & I respected that. I saw a great post on facebook about how you're not supposed to tell people in case of miscarriage etc but that you should tell the people you might need should that happen. It means it's not a double blow trying to tell them. I also told work early (bout 8 weeks) as we were starting to plan for this year and I knew I wouldn't be there. Told my boss in confidence & it made such a difference, he was so supportive and helpful if I needed anything.
I love this! I really wish I would have had this when I was pregnant. You summed it up perfectly. One thing I hated was when people would say "oh I loved being pregnant". Pregnancy is not all sunshine and roses. First trimester is sickness and gross, second isn't too bad and third is full on invasion of the body snatchers lol. I had migraine headaches my entire pregnancy and while it was 100% worth it and I am grateful that I was able to experience it, it was not easy and I am glad you are being so candid about what it can be like, I really could have used having that when I was going through it.
I first watched your pregnancy vlogs/videos when I wasn’t pregnant and found them informative as I knew I’d like to try for a baby in the near future. I’m now 7+ weeks and I’ve revisited them for support and found them really helpful! I seem to be having a similar experience to you, good days and bad days... the sickness has kicked in 🥴 but it’s comforting to know I’m not alone in this experience and it’s ok just to wallow in it for a while! Thank you for your honesty 💕
Literally just found out I’m pregnant today and yours if the first video I watched. Thank you so much for sharing! ❤️
mum-to-be stunning as always 🌹
So true. I’m 10.5 weeks and it’s so important to not feel guilting about feeling rubbish. My symptoms kicked in at 4.5 weeks and have only just started to let up! Home stretch, can’t wait for that 12 week mark
I'm currently 7 weeks and found this so helpful. Been really struggling with sickness this past week! I'm so glad I'm not the only one that doesn't feel excited and just feels crap right now xx
I have NEVER commented on a TH-cam video before, but just wanted to say that I've just hit my second trimester and REALLY wish I'd seen this before! Such good advice, thank you.
I'm currently in my first trimester and feeling so off. your videos about pregnancy really help me, thank you for sharing!
Pregnancy sounds like hard work. I always envisioned pregnancy as a euphoric high, guess I was wrong. I believe you. Everything we chose to do in life is hard work. Thanks for being honest with us. It's good that you have a supporting partner in Rich. Wishing you an easier reminder of your pregnancy Lily. x
You are the first honest TH-camr I’ve seen and I’m so so so grateful. Subscribed!
Thank you so so much! I’m 7 weeks now, and these were immensely helpful. For me, I have bouts of nausea, but the worst part is just sheer exhaustion, all the time. One day, I couldn’t even muster up the strength to cut a tomato!
Also, there’s an app for Dads-to-be, it’s called Daddy Up! It’s hilarious, but also has some good tips. Thank you again!
Thanks for this lily! I am 7 weeks and feeling absolutely awful. So exhausted and sick and having to take time off work - really getting me down :(. It’s hard to stay positive and feel excited when you feel so ill. So thank you for letting me know I’m not alone and it will get better xxx
I do love your honesty two pregnancy down and both very different naturally second time very different because resting isn’t an option.
Love how open and frank you are do not change xx
Lilly. I'm 2 weeks behind you. I've enjoyed knowing that you feel exactly the same way I do and therefore I am not a total fanny for crying about being sick 😁 the sickness has slowed but not completely gone. I don't mind because now I'm starting to feel the baby move so that makes everything worth it already. 😊 You're doing a great job Lilly 🤘😍
Not pregnant ...and I watch you Lily 😆you have a special way of giving information that is useful and interesting. Thank you so much
Thank you so much for this video! I am currently 9 weeks and This is literally everything I’m feeling and hearing you say that it’s all okay and normal really has made me feel soooo much better. I’m crying from feeling understood and just how wonderful this video is ❤️ thank you from Texas, USA ❤️
Rewatching this because I'm 4 weeks pregnant right now! I already have some symptoms. I need more videos like this!! ♡
I love this! I have a 15 month old now and this video bought back my first 16 weeks of pregnancy to a tee!!!! I had a morning routine of turning up to work, drinking a glass of warm milk and then vomiting in the loo..so awkward when no one knows you're pregnant haha. 'It'll pass' is a good motto to take into motherhood as well. All the really hard baby stuff is always just a phase. xxx
Omg, I found out a was pregnant a couple of days ago, and I've just been feeling so shit - anxious and nauseous and NOT excited at all. And just feeling so guilty that I am not excited when I wanted it so bad before - like I'm such and idiot for believing I could do this.
I broke down crying seeing this. Thank you so so much! Saw this a long time ago but really needed it now.
Me too! Found out 4 days ago and have had so much anxiety/nausea and such low energy. Family who we have told are super excited and I just feel like I can’t do this 😢
@@elliefae6947 So nice to hear that I'm not alone. Sending good thoughts your way!
This was so helpful. Thank you for this! I’ve followed you for years but honestly skipped the pregnancy content at the time as it just wasn’t relatable to me. Now I am so so grateful I can come back to it
I'm 34 weeks today. My 1st trimester experience was nowhere near as bad as yours (watched the vlog) but every pregnancy and every person are different. I was working 45 hours full time at that point still and work kept my mind off most of the times. I have to admit, although I did feel sick (I refuse to call it morning sickness, I was absolutely fine in the morning and then felt horrible usually after 3pm onwards for the rest of the day) I never actually was physically sick. I don't know if that's a blessing, I saw it more like a curse as I couldn't find relief in any way. Plus I had those sudden exhaustion bouts, where I would feel fine one minute and completely drained the next.
Obviously letting your family know as soon as possible is the best thing to do and it benefits you because of the advice and the extra attention you will get, but unfortunately my whole family and close friends live abroad, so I didn't get the benefit of that. I do see the difference it makes to one of my British friends though, as she is 12 weeks pregnant right now and I was one of the very first people she told. It also made me feel so much better to be able to share all of these experiences I went through (and still going) with someone who is currently going through the same!
My top tip for the first trimester is related to coffee. I'm one of those people who have 3-4 cups of coffee per day, sometimes more, so going from that to decaf was a shock to the system. I struggled to wake up most days and wasn't feeling awake for a good 2-3 hours after I was already up. My midwife told me I can only have a cup of coffee a day, which at the beginning I was having in the morning, but that wasn't enough still. What I ended up doing is having half a teaspoon of normal coffee and half of decaf in the morning, which allowed me to have another half and half cup later in the day when I needed it the most. I told my pregnant friend to do the same and she has been so thankful I shared with her, because she was struggling herself!
Keep it up with the great content, you are doing a fabulous job!
I think this is the best video you have ever done. Thank you for being so honest and warm and compassionate. Wishing you all the best and merry Xmas. Also enjoy your last Xmas just the two of you! Don't forget that.
Oven chips, every day for a week. Saved my life!
This helped so much. Had to cry when you said it is going to get better. Thanks for your tips.
Goes to show how every pregnancy is so different because fresh food in the first 10 weeks was the last thing I could eat. I couldn’t even walk through the fresh produce section in the supermarket. Crisps (specifically pickled onion Monster Munch), noodles and fizzy orange drinks was what worked for me.
My top tip is don’t be scared or shocked by your crazy emotions. I actually cried in Sainsbury’s because they didn’t have the flavour of stand n stuff taco kit I wanted.The poor teenage guy who worked there wasn’t sure what to do with me 😂😂
And wear panty liners all the time, snissing will happen ... a lot.
Currently at 6 weeks and the nausea & tiredness really hitting now.. and don’t feel excited just anxious 😥 thank you so much for this wonderful honest and open video it has made me feel so so much better about feeling so rubbish 🙂💛
I'm not pregnant or plan on being pregnant anytime soon as I am 23, but I thoroughly enjoyed this video Lily! thank you so much for your honesty, openness and advice - I watch so many youtubers but never get this much insight in to pregnancy! it'll definitely help me in the future for when I do want to get pregnant xx
i explained that in my first trimester video.. I felt so crap mentally, yet i knew i was happy to be pregnant especially as i have polycystic ovaries. i just felt like i shouldn't be pregnant etc but i knew it wasn't really how i felt if that makes sense. it was all just a shock moment
Thank you for making this video, I'm having a horrible time puking and feeling sick and I feel kind of less alone knowing that it's normal to feel really bad at the beginning
Thank you so much for this video. I am in my first trimester and everything just feels so surreal right now. This was just so helpful!
I’m 14 weeks at the moment and I feel like I had a very similar first trimester to yourself, so glad my morning sickness has seemed to have subsided, that was hard going!
I remember all that the sickness ,the tiredness, the moodiness ! For the whole 12 weeks ! Then I miscarried at 12 weeks ! After we'd stopped being so sad about it first thing my husband said was 'does we mean we have to do the tiredness and grumpiness all over again?' ! Because I was such a joy ! Haha ! And yes yes we do ! One day if we are lucky enough !
Best reason in the world to feel like crap !
At least if you get a baby out of it is worth it ! Otherwise I spent two months feeling awful for nothing !
Better luck next time :-)
Congrats on the pregnancy:-)
emzie0509 So sorry to read this. Agree completely, that quote best reason ever for feeling like crap is what got me through HG
@@jokevern4359 that makes you an absolute hero ! :-) no one said motherhood was easy - even when baby is only size of a bean ;-)
Congratulations Rich and Lily. You gave great advice that will be so helpful to many people. Well done.
This video was perfect! It’s everything I’ve been feeling, and it’s just good to know that I’m not alone! Thank you for the tips, and sympathy!
Wow, Lilly your skin looks amazing. I don’t know anything about pregnancy, but I presume this is what it means to be “glowing”
Xxx
This video put to words my exact feelings. The validation I felt afterwards was insane. Thank you so much for this. ❤️
Thank you for this video! I am 7 weeks pregnant and feel like absolute crap most of the time and lazy and unmotivated. I had a miscarriage in Sept so I am so much more nervous and anxious with this pregnancy. I have my ultrasound soon and I’m just so terrified. I like watching your videos because they are so honest and real and exactly how I feel too.
Rosie Kepkay congratulations!!!! 💗💗💗💗💗💗
You could try Ginger lemon infusion by Twinings, ginger is supposed to help with nausea and it is caffeine free and delicious. Merry Christmas to you and Rich! Hope you have a great time!
Each pregnancy is so different. I felt great in my first trimester, sick in my second and then great in my last again. I only put on 5lbs, didn't need maternity jeans until I was about 30 weeks pregnant... All great, but I think because I looked "great" (not my words...) People presumed I felt ok or just forgot I was pregnant. I got a lot of "oh this is the second trimester, this is the easy bit" when it was by far the hardest part for me. X
Brings the memories all back when food was like medicine and water had a smell to it,I couldn’t use a particular cup as it made me feel so sick,I went on to have four more children,3have left my nest now and motherhood really is living the dream 🙌x
Just added The F Word in my list of books that inspired me this year (A section on my college applications) Lots of love from Pakistan!!! 💞💞💞💞
I am loving all your videos in pregnancy Lily! I am pregnant with my second and I am 22 weeks. Totally get everything you have been saying especially the bigger picture is very exciting but the little things are really hard. Good luck and have a wonderful Christmas xx
This was so relieving to me i am only 5 weeks but my stomach although its not a bump is hard and bloated a lot and its nice to know its not all in my head and i have been so anxious all i do is worry im very glad it goes away 😌
Always appreciating your honesty. Hope you'll have an amazing Christmas!
As a midwifery student, I find this very interesting to hear about your experience! xx
I had absolutely no symptoms in my first and second trimester. I had my first scan at 6 or 8weeks. Our midwife suggested that and it didn't cost us anything. After that we told our parents and sisters at 12 weeks or so. We told our other friends and family at our wedding about 14 weeks in. I'm over 30 weeks now and start feeling my pelvicbone now but nothing serious. My bump is so small some people still don't even notice. 😂 And I'm not a huge or tiny person.
TammyTTalks Thank you for this! I am 8 weeks and feel worried to death I have no “clear” symptoms. I only have been feeling tired but I have started convincing myself I’m just lazy and making it up! I know symptoms or no symptoms are no indication about how healthy your baby is but having no symptoms made me feel a little alone when reading things online about everyone having morning sickness and sore boobs, etc. It also makes me constantly worry something is definitely wrong. Reading your post just makes me feel
100 times better, thank you so much.
@@nka4622 I'm 30 weeks and I had no symptoms also. I have had a lovely pregnancy :)
Good tips! Totally agree with buying maternity pants ASAP (might as well get your $ worth and be comfortable), telling a friend, and using Ovia
Thank you for your honesty Lily, I'll definitely come back to these videos when I'll have a little one on the way :)
Loved this video only 23 not planning on children but really enjoy your walk through life and realistic approach . It was like listening to a sister or a best friend. Merry xmas lily and a happy new year x
I’m 5 weeks & 6 days 💙 scared yet excited. Love this video!
Wonderful video! I’m in my first trimester with my second bubs, and I feel so much sicker this time. I find myself getting frustrated with my own body, but I really need to remember that this is all normal and it’ll (hopefully) pass. Thanks for such an honest video, I know that it takes guts to put stuff about pregnancy out there xx
I didn’t know about the bath temperature thing! So informative for future! Ty x
At IKEA they sell green rubber krokodiles for the bathtub to make it less slippery ... we always use it for the kids. You can remove it after every bath.
Absolutely LOVED this video, I relate to so much of it and you have such a great way of describing things. I recently started watching your videos after seeing you on Anna’s channel and I’m so glad I did- I’m 25 weeks pregnant, so on the ride together!
I'm in my 8th week with my first. I got my first ultrasound at 8 weeks here in America and they were able to do it on my tummy. I'll be 9 weeks on the American holiday Thanksgiving and 12 weeks on my birthday. I totally get what you mean about looking forward to the day you'll be another week in (Thursdays for me).
Watching this today after finding out I am pregnant again after my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage last Christmas. Just hoping it all goes smoothly this time. Wish I could get excited but I just don't want to get my hopes up when I am nowhere near 12 weeks yet.
Im in 17 week and im feeling Sick any days like you, but you re rigth the first trimester is the worst (for now) congrats again !
Merry Christmas for You, Rich and Baby and Your families! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Such a helpful and bloody REAL video!!! Yes I feel shit and the horrible metallic taste at 6 weeks is constant! And I don’t want to eat healthy or avacados etc! In fact I want nothing except sleep 😴
Thank you! That video made me feel so much better.
your skin looks so good in this video!
Thanks for sharing such great tips with us. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!!