AITA for canceling a wedding? - REACTION
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- AITA for canceling a wedding? - REACTION
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Hey, fam! Welcome back to another episode of Real Talk with me, Charlotte Dobre! Today, we're diving into a juicy AITA (Am I the A**hole) dilemma: canceling a wedding last minute. Yeah, you heard that right!
Picture this: You've got the dress, the venue, the cake-all set for the big day. But then, out of the blue, you hit the brakes and call off the whole shebang. Drama alert, am I right?
In this episode, we're delving deep into the murky waters of wedding etiquette and personal boundaries. Did our protagonist make the right call or commit a major faux pas?
Join me as we unpack the situation, weigh in on the moral conundrum, and maybe even learn a thing or two about love, relationships, and self-respect along the way.
So, grab your popcorn, settle in, and let's get real about canceling weddings because sometimes, you gotta do what's best for YOU. Don't forget to sound off in the comments: AITA for canceling my wedding last minute? Let's get the conversation going!
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I knew someone who wanted a small wedding but was bullied and into inviting EVERYBODY so they finally gave in and did invite all the friends and family but changed their wedding date to a Wednesday at 3 and most people couldn't make that dated work but the people they originally wanted.. I always thought it was genius lol
That would certainly work in the USA where the employer decides whether you can have a holiday but not so much in Europe where people have holidays to spare.
@@flitsertheoSame in South Africa. Just take a day of leave.
That would work in the US.
That is brilliant! Have the wedding at the most inconvenient day and time. Only the most loyal and dedicated will attend.
As others mentioned, this would only work in the US. In countries, e.g., the EU, where they essentially shut down during the summer months and everyone leaves on vacation, this might not work.
Man my workplace combines sick days, vacation days, etc into our PTO balance. If you're sick, they take your day from your PTO balance whether you like it or not. Sick for a week? Guess you're not taking that vacation or taking time for yourself! That time you were sick? Yeah that was the time you got to yourself.
If someone canceled their wedding to be with me through trauma, I think I'd be devastated. I'd feel like everyone in the wedding party is put out because of my pain, and that me losing my baby caused a MASSIVE spiraling chain of events to play out. That would be the worst
The girl who cancelled the deposits after her brother’s fiancé made that cruel comment about Toast - she did not need to warn anyone that she was going to do that. The brother’s fiancé should have expected it after saying something so horrible. She contacted her brother right after to let him know.
That story grinds my gears. My soul dog is still with me and I certainly would not have been so gracious about it if the comment had been made to me.
If you can’t afford to get married, you shouldn’t get someone else to pay for you
@@juliehanson8976or at least don’t act like a jerk
I wouldn't have had the self restraint that op did. I'd have straight up said eff you and then canceled everything standing right there in front of her.
The OP had some self-control because I would've been omw to jail for assault and battery. My doggo is like my son, and if you don't like my dog, then I don't like you. May someone pay Ella the karma she deserves later on.
I think Toast would be proud of his mommy for standing up for herself and doing what she needed to do. Losing a pet is a pain that only another pet owner can understand. It leaves a hole in your heart that never fully heals
My husband & daughter passed away on a Monday and my nieces wedding was scheduled that very next weekend. They offered to cancel their wedding, which my husband & I were hosting at our clubhouse. I said absolutely not. Life goes on & we needed something to celebrate. 🥰
I’m sorry for your loss ❤️
Both at the same time? I'm so sorry, I cannot imagine---but what a strong and kind person you are to go ahead hosting for your niece. Wow, just wow. God Bless.
My condolences
I’m so sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences.
I'm sorry for your loss, and commend you for doing that. Not many ppl would❤❤❤❤❤
I have a friend who lost her sister to an accident a few days before her wedding. It changed the day dramatically, but feeling that joy and grief together was a healing day for her family.
I believe the one sister will regret canceling the wedding and the other sister will regret asking her to.
Yeah, especially since cancelling a wedding could also mean the end of a very loving relationship and future together.
she decided not to cancel, though. the update said she decided not to when 99% of the comments said she was an a-hole... 😆
My brother passed on January 3 of 2017. It doesn’t change the joy and hopefulness of the New Year. Grief doesn’t cancel joy and vice versa.
@@annonymous3632 Glad to hear it. Her sister is important, but the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with is also important.
Has the definition of getting eloped changed? When you elope you run off and get married and tell no one. A wedding with 20 is still a wedding just a small one.
It hasn't changed. People are just misusing it.
Yeah. I'm also kinda surprised that I'm hearing that being used as a term for a "small intimate ceremony" .
Here in the Philippines, elopement is when the couple runaway to get married in secret especially if one or two sides are against the union.
A little, it doesn't carry as strong a "running away" connotation anymore. It used to be just a couple finding a priest and making it as fast a possible then running off in a carriage, now it's more of just going to the courthouse and leaving when the vows said amd paper works done.
Well if just get a few people that go and do something fun together and you throw a supprise ceremony for just that group not telling them is more or less elope just with a group of people
That’s what I was thinking!
My mom told me and my siblings that we could elope if we didn't want to stress out about a wedding, we just need to let her know in advance that we're eloping so she can send a gift and a nice card.
Why did I think you meant you and your siblings eloping... together ,,, sweet home Alabama style?😅🤣 for entirely way too lomg
i eloped, weve been together 25 years :) best thing we could have done. save money, pissed off our in laws, both sides and had a blast together
Has she kept her word?
My mom had a small ceremony, with her sister, my aunt as her witness and my dad’s oldest brother, my uncle as his. They were together 25 years. I think all weddings are nice. My friend from school eloped, she and her husband are adorable together.
My parents eloped in Vegas but my mom still brought her mom. They were married for 40 years, until he passed.
For the sister who used her credit card to help her brother: If lil miss fiance is THIS wicked BEFORE the wedding, just imagine how nasty she'll be during the (inevitable) divorce. I hope your brother has permanently removed his rose-colored glasses and can now clearly see the type of person he was about to marry. Girl, you did your brother a solid and he should thank you for it!!!
Never mind the rose tint, I hope he has a prenup.
My brother married into an itialian family. They pulled the we won't pay for the wedding unless it was huge and fancy card the entire time. So my side of the family decided to do our best to help keep it a small wedding and keep costs down. My brother and his wife are grateful.
I've had 4 miscarriages. I would never expect my sister to cancel her wedding to come comfort me. A lot of people want to go through those alone anyway.
Right, I went through it with my SO. Only person that mattered to be there.
Same. When I had a miscarriage, I disbanded want no one to mess with me.
I am so very, very, very sorry for your deep, profound, & terrible losses.
I think that there is no greater pain than losing a child, for any living being.
I wish you Love, Light, comfort, healing, strength, support, Light, Hope, & ever-increasing Peace.
And, if it is still something you desire, I pray that you have the children & family that you dream of. ❤
You are in my heart & my prayers, dear Mother.💗
God be with you & your partner, & family, & hold you close.❤
I'm so very sorry for each of you who have suffered the terrible pain, loss & grief of losing children.
I wish each of you Love, Light, comfort, & healing, strength, support, Light Hope, & ever-increasing Peace.💗
And, if it is still your hope, I wish you each the children & family that you desire.
God be with each of you & your partners, & families.❤
My heart & prayers are with you.❤
@@redwoodrebelgirl3010 thank you I just gave birth to our little miracle rainbow baby!!!
When my niece got married her sister had passed away. She would have been the moh. She wouldn't replace her so a bride's maid carried two bouquets and placed it on a small table next to the bride. Tears yes bride happy yes
That last one. The bride sounds like someone who needs a strong dose of reality, and the OP gave it to her. Amazing. Rest easy, Toasty. Never met you, but I'd bet my whole life on you being such a good boy.
i need everyone to remember, if you date a person who hates/disrespects animals, that is not a red flag, that's a whole red planet, RUN.
What if you’re just a mom with a really special needs child and doesn’t want to take care of yet one more thing that cannot take care of themselves? Because it’s not that I hate animals and I’ve certainly never hurt or disrespected an animal but I also will not be having one any time soon. Not everyone has the fun loving freedom of choice.
@@jennjohnson4067 that's fine. Just remember that if you find someone you like who has a pet they love, don't demand that they get rid of it. That's a red flag. If a guy is allergic to cats I won't date him because I have 3.
@@sarahuher8358 I have cats. Yeah, I know what I said. But cats are different. They make you feel like you’re not alone in your disdain for…. Just about anything 😉🍀🤣🤣
@@jennjohnson4067that mother doesn’t hate the animal, she just cannot handle caring for it given her circumstances. There is a *massive* difference between not wanting a pet and actively hating an animal
Ding ding ding!
Something similar to the sister's miscarriage one. One of my classmates got married last year and two days before the wedding her sister gave birth to her twins. My classmate was sad she couldn't be there but they had FaceTimed her when they were getting ready and had the photographer take pictures of that to show sister was still a part of things. A year later the family all got together in their wedding outfits and had a "belated family photo shoot" with the sister and her now 1-year-old twins. The photos were so sweet and I'm sure the wedding day has so many happy memories because they found these little ways to still include the sister. Basically, my point is, I'm glad the lady went through with the wedding because there's still ways to include people who can't physically make it to the wedding.
Life happens and a wedding is just one day. Not sure how people can lose perspective so much that they destroy lifelong relationships over it. My mom lost her mind (already low contact) so my husband and I just pivoted because all we cared about was that we got married and were able to make some good memories (we did, regardless).
The girl who canceled her brother’s wedding. This made me cry, I lost my sweet furbaby recently. Within 4 freaking days she went from jumping on to my lap to not being able to get up or walk anymore. Cancer destroyed her in a few days. If someone would make such a comment to me about my sick furbaby being death, she would soon follow.
✊
It's so hard when they go so suddenly. That happened with my first dog, who was fine the previous night. Turns out she had cancer. It's fine that the fiancee didn't like animals (though when you get to know one, you often make an exception), but she was downright cruel. I'm sorry about your furbaby. The home just feels empty.
Never put your credit card down for anyone. The level of entitlement is astounding. You are very nice. Had she made a crack about my dead dog I’d have told her I was going to count to three and she better run😄.
Yep, if they don't have the money now they won't ever have the money to pay you back
You are far kinder than me giving them til 3 cuz as much as I wanna say I'd remember I'm an adult, that would be the comment after everything else that would make me choose violence and they would only get a 1 count 😂
Yep! If that was me then i wouldve been taken away in handcuffs that night...
Right? I felt what OP felt when I heard that. Like my body went cold. I think she was right to just walk away. Because what on earth is the response to that?
If you bring up my pets that died years ago, I’ll tear up. Sweet little Toasty JUST died.
I can’t … oh my god I’m so mad!
Oh I would turn into John Wick so fast
Yes elope! In 1993 I got married with a judge and 2 witnesses (great friends). Wedding cost a total of $150! No stress, no drama. The honeymoon weekend was about $300. We called parents and close friends and relaxed (has to go back to work on Monday) Still married after 31 years! Big weddings are a waste and 1/2 get divorced. You marry each other, not your friends and family. Good luck out there!
THIS
Did the same. We are still happily married now, 34 years later.
Congratulations. In my opinion getting married should be most important, not having a big Wedding.
My husband and I, also eloped. We had one of his besties as a witness, and a random woman from the courthouse as the other. We spent the weekend out of town, then informed our parents/families on Monday. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in January!! ❤️
I got married on the fourth of July for a total of around 300$.. in 2010. On the beach. Had my husbands father and my mom there. Was very nice! The biggest cost was getting the county clear to do the fourth of July.
My friend did her wedding right imho... they knew both their families would be crazy to deal with and wanted literally nobody there. They took a "vacation" and shocked everyone when they got home by announcing that they got married! (A beautiful pre-planned wedding on the beach) Then they held a big dinner at a local restaurant for the family to celebrate. While everyone was shocked, there was nothing they could do, except show up to dinner. They were so happy with their stress free wedding.
best idea!
My aunt called one of her sisters from the airport and said she was heading off to Europe on her honeymoon. She asked the sister to let the rest of the family know that she'd gotten married at city hall and didn't want any presents or celebration of any kind. Everyone was cool with it.
When I hear the words "theres an update" on these sort of stories I always let out a happy gasp. I love those words. I totally understand Charlotte!
When me & my husband got married in 1984 we decide to have a small no-wedding wedding overlooking the ocean on the cliffs in Oregon. Kinda like eloping, just us, the justice of peace & another couple. It would've been a perfect day, but in the middle of numptials, cloud cover overtook the sunshine when a massive storm squall blew in. The sky opened up & we were drenched before we could take shelter 😂. Forty years later, and neither of us regret not having a huge wedding with both sides of our families there.
In most cultures, rain is considered a good omen on wedding days.
@@TheBaumcm That's nice to know! Maybe it's true, we're still together 40 years later, happily together ❤️💕
Charlotte “Does anyone else absolutely crave closure?” Me: “Yes!”
Me too, if I see a "To Be Continued" sign at the end of an episode and I need to wait a week, I'm pi**ed. I only like to start a book series when I know it's complete.
One of my absolute worst pet peeves is getting told a story or even watching a movie/show where you don't get to know the ending or get closure for whatever reason. Even worse are the ones that do it intentionally, to try and make you think about what all the different endings could have possibly been. I am 40 this year and I don't have time for that, lol. I understand not all things are going to have a happy ending, and sometimes don't even need it to be, but do not leave me hanging!
Very much so!
Yep. But sometimes you have to provide it for yourself. 😂😭🫠
As an Indian, the 'small' wedding that was agreed upon by me and my then partner was 150-200 people 😂 usually his side has attended weddings of about 1000 people.. a lot of factors contributed to us not getting married eventually .
Right!? We ended up with 240 people. I wish we could have capped it at half that number, but my fiance's immediate family alone is like 100 people.
My husband and I recently eloped because my dad kept giving specific requests that I could only get married during certain months for his convenience and he wanted to be part of XYZ. I also got stressed thinking about people trying to take pictures and getting in the way during the ceremony, so after much thought, we decided to elope in the Colorado mountains and it was gorgeous. We still plan to have a reception, but we’re already married at this point so I’m way less worried about other people now.
Far too often, the wedding becomes about the day rather than the start of a life together, which is why I think it can get out of hand, because people forget that they are messing with their lifelong relationships. I wanted to get married in my hometown, small and have a catered (quicker and easier) backyard BBQ, simple. After my mom canceled my wedding, twice, which my husband and I were paying for, and I found out she was trying to go behind our backs and add and change a bunch of stuff, my husband and I got married in his hometown, with my in laws helping with everything. My extended family chose not to attend for the most part, most likely because my mother lied to them (compulsive), but also because it was a 10 hour drive. At the end of the day, my husband and I got married, we had people who cared with us, and my mother learned her interference would not be tolerated.
A coworker of mine was sick of family drama and arguments from both families wanting THEIR way.
So she and her (now) husband went to Lake Tahoe with her closest sister and his closest brother.
They got married on the Tahoe Queen (paddlewheeler replica) by the ships captain . (There had been a lot of arguments about which family’s church they would get married in as well😂. )
It was in the winter so it wasn’t busy and the pictures from inside the cabin were gorgeous.
They had a reception later and it took a lot of the pressure off since both families realized that there wouldn’t be any celebration if they didn’t behave.
When she said your sick dog is dead now a add popped up for Petco. And My mother Start It laughing across the room.
talk about timing
Glad the bride with her sister’s miscarriage went through with it. I can empathize with her sister with the pain both mentally and physically you don’t want to be around anyone. However, I can understand what the bride is going through also. Mine wasn’t a bridal party member, but instead my grandmother. I was VERY close with my grandmother and the night before my wedding, a few hours before my rehearsal my grandmother was rushed to the hospital unconscious. She had a UTI and became septic. She finally woke up right before our rehearsal. I was devastated and so was she. I did nothing but cry that night, but at no time did I think of canceling or postponing the wedding because I was ready to start my life with my now husband. Instead my husband and I talked at the rehearsal dinner and came up with a new plan. After we got married we went to the hospital to see her and our photographer got pictures of us with her. It was very special! We were even asked to walk around a little bit because the ICU was a buzz that a bride and groom were there and everyone got excited and wanted to see us. We obliged. Very happy with my decision to carry on, and even more so because my grandmother died 7 months later. If we had postponed I don’t know when we could have rebooked and she might not have been there at all. You never know what’s going to happen. Tomorrow is not promised so make the most of today!
As someone who is also Italian and got married last year, I will agree that is definitely an Italian thing to invite everyone and their mother so as not to "offend" anyone. Also my grandma and stepdad got covid the week of my wedding and as much as it sucked that they weren't there, cancelling was never on my mind.
Ugh.. you'll offend this one if you don't invite thst one but then the other one isn't speaking to either... my advantage was that I lived 2k miles away :-) so there was a good excuse!
Yes! My Italian mother just asked if she could invite HER aunts and uncles and cousins to my graduation party 😂
@@HiHi-lt1cb
Tell them to bring money, lots 😂
_j/k_
When I was looking into how many people typically respond yes to an RSVP to get an idea of what my final numbers will be, someone said they invited something like 300 people to their wedding and 80 came.
300?!
..And 80 came?!
I wondered if it was an Italian or Indian wedding because that invite number seemed crazy!
HA that's what I said 😂
I got married amidst the pandemic. The venue, catering everything had to be cancelled as the country declared a curfew 3 days before the date. So we ended up getting married just infront of our immediate family.
Both my husband and I have never been someone who wanted a big wedding and spending a fortune of marriage, so it actually worked out for the best.
We donated more than half of the money we had saved up for the marriage to charity.
We have been together for 13 years, married for nearly 4 years now and we couldn't be more happy. 😁❤️
You two sound like some real nice folks ❤😊 (belated congrats)
We had a Covid elopement too! Coming up on 4 yrs in March. Our very large over 300 people invited wedding, went down to around 10 people. I'm only sad my grandparents weren't there and my sisters who were out of state. Some of my extended family showed up at the church, but stayed in the parking lot and watched online, then honked and flashed their lights when we left! Honestly, it was probably more fun that what we had planned! 😂
SamaraReeves, my daughter did too. So many cancellations with venues and what not. She lived with her now husband close to an army base (he is military) and about 4 hours away. They just decided last minute to get married at their church with just themselves and their pastor. We all watched it on a Zoom call. They took the money they were going to spend to put towards a home. They have no regrets.
That's very sweet of you
This was unexpected! Love the random surprise post at 12 AM EST!!!! My wife and I watch every single one. She loves you so much and I've caught her quoting you a time or two 😂
Me too! Your wife is not alone!😂
I love her vids and don't have a wife. I haven't quoted her yet though haha
I love her vids and don't have a wife. I haven't quoted her yet though haha
So, instead of taking you the feelings of your sister, who just miscarried, into account, your fiancee wants you to always share your wedding anniversary with your mother’s birthday. Always a joint celebration-and a cake- for mommy on your anniversary. RUN!!!
That's exactly how I feel about it. Her fiancee sounds like a momma's boy. She should have canceled for that detail alone, regardless of her sister's loss, but especially because of it. That girl is in for a lifetime of him putting his mom first. "Oh, honey, we can't go on an anniversary trip. It's Mommy's birthday!"
My mother cancelled her wedding one week before her wedding. She told me she just realized she did not want to spend the rest of her life with that person. This was around 1952. She had to notify each guest of the cancellation. She married my father a year later. Of course, I am thrilled that she did because I would not be here otherwise. Better to change your mind before the actual marriage has taken place than to marry and then have to go through the legal process to get out of it.
A year later eh? Sounds like shenanigans going on, sorry😂
There is one exception for a day before cancelation, when even before marriage you constantly fight and can't compromise. A friend did this with his fiancé because he didn't want to be divorced soon after and knew they would be better off with other people. She needed a pushover and wouldn't compromise or meet in the middle and he hated confrontation and was passive aggressive. So he then called it off while admitting it was an a-hole move but better in the end.
i was always the black sheep on my dads side of the family. they only included me because of my dad. but since he passed, it’s like they seem obligated to invite me to thanksgiving/christmas. well this past year my cousin got married. i expected to be invited because it was a large wedding. turns out i was not invited yet somehow my mother was invited even though its not her family ?? this really upset me. then they had the audacity to invite me to the “private” thanksgiving/christmas. which made no sense to me. how are you not inviting me to a large wedding but will invite me to a private thanksgiving/ christmas. make it make sense. i decided to skip thanksgiving/christmas for the first time. it made me feel guilty but i honestly feel like they couldn’t care less. so why should i 🤷🏻♀️
girl don't feel guilty at all. if they don't have any real regard for you, then why should you have any for them?
this shit is a two way street, and they've made it clear they're not really gonna put in the effort, so don't waste your time putting in effort of your own that isn't gonna be reciprocated. and don't feel bad either.
family is who you CHOOSE, the people that love you and SHOW YOU they love you. not blood
@@bottomofastairwellEXCELLENT COMMENT!!!! 👏🏻👏🏻❤️
Yeah fortunately you can choose your friends if not your biological family. Sending a virtual hug 🤗
I’m the blacksheep of my family too, especially after going no contact with my mum’s sister who strangled me when I was 15. I don’t get invited to things, but honestly I prefer it that way. It just means that when my wedding comes, they shouldn’t expect to be given invites neither 😂
Time to make your own traditions.
I'm from South Africa and I usually watch Charlotte's videos later in the day because of the time difference. This is such an amazing surprise, so glad to be starting the day with Honourable Judge Charlotte❤
*My little sister and her boyfriend/fiancé just went to the court house, signed papers, and got married! No one was invited/told, but no one was upset either!* With my sister’s personality, my dad and I knew that’s probably what she’d want . (When my sister was younger, she was shy, and didn’t like being the center of attention.)
So, when they announced their surprise marriage to everyone, my dad and I kinda joked around with each other saying, “we knew it.” 🤭 lol
Somewhat bemused that so many think postponing your own wedding to be with your sister whose baby just died is not ok, but cancelling someone else’s because they said something nasty about a dead dog is fine. That sister who had the miscarriage now has to remember it, and how they missed her sister’s wedding, every time she sees a photo or sends them an anniversary card. Nice. Wedding insurance policies (at least here in the UK) will generally cover rescheduling the wedding for the illness of someone in the wedding party - so not only would have been ok to do that, a company who would actually have to have paid for that would say its ok to do it.
Right??!! I'm scrolling thru these comments like 👀 wtaf is happening??!!! A wedding is a ceremony & a party, those can WAIT if an emergency such as a loss in the family happens!
"The world keeps turning" YEAH and it'll STILL be turning TOMORROW, so I can grieve today if I want!!! 😤
Interesting timing. I wonder if this was meant for tomorrow morning? Lol either way what a nice surprise.
I was going to say this is earlier than normal unless she changed her times.
I was wondering the same thing. I usually get notifications of uploads at 11am instead of 11pm. I'm totally here for it tho 😂
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Yeah, I think this was supposed to be a noon post. Not midnight. But I’m not mad at it 🤣
Right? It is usually sometime mid afternoon ish when I get the notification. Often able to watch at that time fairly easily with my schedule. It's 10pm now and I was about to go to bed but I'm excited to watch this first instead!! So it still works out either way!!
11:53 as somebody who has had multiple miscarriages this is absolutely unacceptable. How dare you take away the joy from somebody else? Specially your sister’s wedding day that’s so selfish.
My exact thoughts
My heart goes out to the woman who lost her baby at 5months .. to lose a child is a loss you never get over .
💔
Unfortunately miscarriages are a very real and unfortunate part of the child bearing process. I feel for her, and absolutely understand her being so devastated about losing it at 5 months along in her pregnancy, but expecting her sister to cancel her wedding because of it is not ok. One in four KNOWN pregnancies ends in miscarriage, that’s not one in four women will have a miscarriage, but that in all pregnancies, 25 percent of the ones we know of will not make it to full term (it is suspected that the number is actually closer to 50%, one in two). And that number was significantly higher before the improvements in our medical technology and such. While I do think we do need significantly more resources for women to help them through this grief and we need to make it more widely acceptable to talk about openly, they can not expect those closest to them to put their entire lives on hold to support them through it.
@@jeanams07I just want to clarify that the vast majority of miscarriages occur during the first trimester of pregnancy. In the post, she stated her sister was 5 months pregnant (around 20 weeks), which is in the second trimester, and it makes the loss even more devastating. I’m unfortunately imaging them finding out during their ultrasound appointment to reveal the sex of the baby. :(
That being said, while tragic, I agree with Charlotte that she shouldn’t have cancelled the wedding. A situation like this puts you between a rock and a hard place, and I would be worried about being able to reschedule the wedding at the same venue, getting the same catering, rebooking people’s flights and hotels, etc.
I’ve lost 6 babies in my short life the last one we lost at 17 weeks it’s been 5 months and his due date is now passed and my partner and I are still shattered I wouldn’t expect someone to change their wedding for us however my BIL set his wedding date for the 1 year anniversary of our sons death. In his case I think the wedding date should have been changed. But 24hrs notice is totally different. It doesn’t matter if you know the risks or if you’ve experienced miscarriages losing a child that close to term is horrific and life changing but to cancel a once in a lifetime time event the day before for something I guarantee her sister will hurt over for years is silly imo.
@@mamaseesa3122I’m so sorry for your loss hun ❤
@@mamaseesa3122you're the one with a problem. She didn't say it in anyway that would result in your remark. And I say this as someone who's been there and done that. Jeez.
Second bride had the chance to dodge a bullet, but didn't. How can you still marry someone who puts himself over the loss of a family member? Death and a grieving sister vs. one day you can always do again? I would never ever trust such a person to treat ME as his family if he does not back me up beeing there for my family. He showed his true colours, hopefully she will never be in a position where she is depenend on his mercy. Playing nice for people who are suposed to love and understand me, while I am in pain and wanting to help my sister through her pain...hell no. You can always pick a new date (and see who is comming a second time, hinting who you might want to remove from your life), but you can never ever undo the damage this does to the relationship with your sister.
„to the man of my dreams“ and then Henry Cavilles picture popps up! priceless!
He's hot physically but a major creeper. Hotness ruined.
Charlotte posting at midnight?!!! SIGN ME UP! I’ll watch her videos any time, anywhere! You’re the queen Charlotte! ❤
It's 9pm where I'm at.
It’s 5am in the UK
It's 1pm here but i still watch it anyway 😂
Haha it's 7 am in my time zone
9pm in British Colombia ❤
After packing all day, running errands like a crazy person, and bathing 5 animals, plus getting kids to bathe and just now sitting down at midnight to finally relax I get this, Yay... Charlotte i needed you tonight 😂❤❤❤❤
Thank you!
Weddings are always something 😈😬🤣
Glad mine was fast and small, basically eloped but at a church on a holiday no one expected. I told our families if they want a huge wedding they can pay for and plan it and we'll show up😂
Girl you're awesome
"Gimme your phone* (smacks it) *Block* 😂😂😂😂 I am dead 😂😂😂😂
My fiancé and I are planning a small wedding, we’re even only inviting maybe 2 of his 7 aunts. His brother is also engaged and I’m so glad that him and future SIL are having the big wedding so we don’t have to. We’re both anti-social hermits and are basically only planning on having the wedding cause we’re still semi-traditional and I’m an only child. That and my Dad almost died when I was 19 and from his hospital bed he promised me he’d listen to his doctors and take better care of himself so he could walk me down the aisle and meet his grandkids someday. Ever since then him walking me down the aisle and our father daughter dance has become even more meaningful to me.
After watching you for years talk about everyone’s wedding drama and giving your two cents, I legit cannot wait for you to engaged and talk about yours. I don’t even know you and I want to celebrate when it happens!! 🎉❤ love you charlotte, you’re my favorite!
The animal-hating bride made me MAD! My husband & I are heading out tomorrow to bring our precious 11-yr old Papillion to the U. of Missouri for 1 month of daily radiation treatment for a brain tumor. It's 5 hours away, so we'll be in a hotel & he can spend nights with us. We did the same thing 3 years ago, with great success - this is a new tumor. Whatever it takes, or costs, to maintain quality of life for our furbabies is what we'll do - no regrets!
All the best to you two and your sweet Papillion ❤ I pray to the universe that your puppy beats it again and that the three of you will be together for a looooooong time ❤ Much love ❤
Prayers 😢
Tell Papillon we all love him and are cheering for him. ❤
Papillon c'est en français ça s'appelle pas comme ça en anglais maman Charlotte ❤😊
Sending you the best of luck that your sweet furbaby comes out of this happy, healthy, and with many more years to have with you both
This is EXACTLY what happened to my husband and I. Don't buckle! Elope!
My 10 year old just walked in and said oh your watchin auntie charlotte 😂 I said of course! We love auntie charlotte don’t we?! He laughs and says yeah! 😊 she funny and I love her voices like you walk around the house doing your voices 😂 ❤❤❤
03:28 I'm Italian, I can confirm that weddings are basically family fights and trying to please people that will never be pleased.
Every time I hear you speaking in Italian I always get that proud mama look for no reason at all.
Love you tons girl❤
So happy to see the update to the last story! I know we've read through that one before (the dog made it unforgettable for me) but we didn't have the update last time! Glad to see things turned out well for OP and her brother.
Story 1: (NTA) Once you get engaged everyone wants to put their two cents of advice into your wedding but often don't want to put two cents of their money into it. Don't let toxic people attend your wedding or don't have a wedding and elope.
EDIT for the update: A general rule, is don't bother warning people that they probably won't take the bed news well, especially when they're toxic people, it'll make it worse. That mum, "But fam-i-ly...." she doesn't know the difference between family and relatives.
Not all family is blood related.
My mother died and the next day I had to get ready with my brother to attend my fathers wedding to my step mom…we were devastated but life goes on and my father was having a milestone even signifying the rest of his life.. so we put our feelings on hold and showed up to support.. they did bring me out to dance and I had to fake smile, pretending to jump around the enjoying when I didn’t even want to move a muscle and cry in a corner
Very respectful and strong of you! ❤
So sorry!
to come together be a griefing moment and share happiness also.
Damn man your a stronger person then I
Sorry to hear.
When my stepson got married he was brilliant. Because of modern family logistics (his mom married 3 times) stepson and his fiance (along with the best man and MOH) went to Las Vegas to get married. When they got back they threw a large outdoor reception for all their friends and family members. Bride & Groom put on their wedding attire for pictures then after changed to shorts & t-shirts to enjoy their party.
There's been redit stories about people still getting married even after a parent died a week before the wedding. Making a toast and going after the wedding to support the sister is definitely the right choice and this bride is clearly not ready to get married
People pass all the time. Sometimes you have to push on.
I can’t imagine going through with the wedding after my niece or nephew passed away! If the baby died 4 months after it was born instead of 4 months before would you still have the wedding without her? To some people the grief is the exact same. 11:28
The way I yelled “OH HEEEEYYLL NOO” to the doggy comment and the turbo tax commercial came on to save me from further cursing
The last story reminds me of a proverb in my language, "hate the animal, but eats its eggs."
Essentially meaning, when someone hates or disrespects the other person, but want the privileges and benefits that that person offers. Disgusting behaviour lol
That is literally me on how I feel about chickens. XD
My daughter was bullied by her in laws - everyone was trying to tell her what to do and how to do it when it came to her wedding… so they went to the courthouse and told them after they got married.
That part about not being able to stand by and enable her cruelty... EXACTLY 💯
She didn't ruin her brother's wedding, she drew a line that hopefully he recognizes and eventually leaves this awful woman.
"Give me your phone. Blocked. Done." I have replayed this part many times since I have told people EXACTLY THE SAME SHIT to block people that were outright abusive and assholes and yet half of them didn't until way later when they were completely upset and hurt by them. I wield it like a fucking shield and it's fantastic. Make them seethe with the block. Doesn't get better than that.
I agree with Charlotte. I love when there are updates to these where they tell us what happened. Closure!
9:39
this is why I advise ALL wedding planning people to spend the little extra and hire security for the event (BOTH parts)... it's one headache off your plate and you don't have to get personally involved in any situations.. JUST leave clear instructions (and possibly pictures if 'unwanteds') and let them deal with it...
Oh this sure rang a bell with me! I had a lot of stress over family stuff while planning my wedding. After getting so upset and not really wanting to be around my family, I canceled mine. We let everyone know that we would be postponing the wedding and then planned an elopement! We went to Hawaii and got married, just the two of us. It was amazing and wonderful. No one else went along and Hawaii was perfect. I would recommend this to anyone!
Unless you're immediate family, who WANTS to go to a wedding? Ever notice people say "I HAVE to go to a wedding this weekend:"? Never "I GET to go to a wedding this weekend". My husband and I opt out of every invitation we can.
12:45 ouch this is tough, I know how it feels to lose a baby and in your head and heart that baby has a life ahead, you have plans for this life, you love this baby and it is a loss of life. Miscarriage or born it’s a loss of a life. I think that’s pretty major. If it had been a still birth for example then attitudes would be different. If the sisters are close, then could the bride even enjoy her wedding while grieving for and with her sister for the loss of her niece/nephew? I don’t know what to feel about this. 😢 I’m sorry for this lady and her partner’s loss.
Props to the brother from the last story for sticking by his sister and not turning a blind eye to his fiancée's cruelty. I've seen so many reddit wedding horror stories, I fully expected him to be an ass as well.
OMG a Saturday night special ❤ i don't think i can love you anymore than i already do😂
Sunday arvo where l am lol
@@chucky6367 it's Saturday 9:07p.m. in Oregon🤗
@@terrikeentkit hella is!!!! I’m in Oregon too!!
@@Livingingratitudeforever well hello there🤗
@@terrikeentk hi!! 🤗 If you are near PDX, I hope you made it through the ice storm alright last month! I am a 30F living near Portland and I manage a large apartment community. It was rough but other areas got hit way harder. Glad to see another fellow PNW friend here! ☺️
My husband and I, also eloped. We had one of his besties as a witness, and a random woman from the courthouse as the other. We spent the weekend out of town, then informed our parents/families on Monday. We celebrated our 36th anniversary in January!! ❤️
Congratulations 💖
@@chatnoir9038 Thank you so much!!!! Every year on our anniversary, he gives me a red rose. We need a bigger vase. 🤭✌🏻❤️
I had a small wedding 30 people in total, and everyone that wasn’t invited understood and supported me because they’re my family & friends ❤
I personally think that on the second one, she wouldn't be the AH at all, if she had cancelled. If it were me, I would've cancelled without a second thought.
A wedding is an event that can always be postponed or moved, and her going to be with her grieving sister is not her choosing her sister over her partner, and if I ever had a partner that tried to say it was, they wouldn't be my partner anymore.
I know not everyone thinks of a miscarriage like this, but I and anyone that wanted the baby that was miscarried would think of that like my sister just lost her child. If her sister had a one year old that suddenly passed away, then everyone would think it inappropriate to have a wedding right after her niece/nephew died.
It feels so horrible to think that anyone would think of her as an asshole for going to her grieving sister after the death of a child she wanted. Imagine how her sister felt, grieving over the death of her child and being told her sister's still having the wedding without her, and she doesn't get to be a part of it. She was grieving, of course she was upset about her sister still having the wedding.
Your partner is your priority, but this was a wedding, not the partner being in the hospital. It's expensive, but it can be moved. Choosing to go to a funeral instead of having a wedding should never make you the asshole.
1000% agreed, cannot believe the coldness towards that situation in this comment section! At five months that’s a still birth too, absolutely horrific to go through. I can’t imagine going forward with a wedding and trying to salvage that day with that going on.
Somebody missed the AM and PM on the 12 o'clock 😂
I relate so hard.
That’s what I said too 🤣🤣
😂😂😂🤦♀️
Midnight happiness?! JOY AT WORK?! YAAAY! THANK YOU!
Also - Toast has a "sibling". He's called Crumb
That's not eloping. It's changing to a private destination wedding.
**UPDATE TO STORY ABOUT WEDDING AND SISTER MISCARRIAGE - REDDITORS THINK THE STORY IS FAKE - see comments for additional details**
(Anyways here was my original comment, I don't feel like deleting lol - basically though, the "reactions" make a lot more sense now given the story was basically made up)
Idk the story with the OP wanting to cancel her wedding the day beforehand because of her sister is kinda tough for me 13:39
Like I definitely agree that you should want to prioritize your partner and how they feel, but shouldn’t the reverse be true as well? Like shouldn’t OP’s fiancé have understood the intense emotional and devastating place that OP was in and had a better conversation with her other that “We can’t move the wedding because I really want this to be our wedding date because it’s my mom’s bday - also it’s inconvenient for people”
Idk based on what OP wrote, her fiancé did not seem at all sympathetic. Personally I would have found it so upsetting if one of my nieces or nephews died the day before my wedding. It would put an incredibly sad weight on what should be a really joyful day. It also sounded like for OP that it was incredibly important for her to have her sister there, who I’m sure has been by her side most of their lives.
I didn’t like how it sounded like the sister tried to guilt trip OP, that it’s her “responsibility “ to drop her wedding and come comfort her, but I’ve never been in a place where I’ve lost a child, and I know grief can be so hard.
OP just seemed to be put in an unfair position, with neither side actually recognizing how she might feel.
The fiancé didn’t seem to even consider how upset and distraught OP could be over this, and how that will be in the back of her mind for her entire wedding ceremony and how upset she may be in the long run by not getting to have her sister there.
Her sister is equally awful for trying to guilt OP into coming.
Hopefully she made the right decision by going through with the wedding. I just hope it doesn’t lead to resentment against her husband in the long run. I also hope that her relationship with her sister wasn’t permanently damaged or anything like that, since she seemed to really love her sister as well.
Just some of my thoughts, now to hear the rest of the update lol
that's exactly what I thought! I don't understand why everyone called OP an asshole...her sister just lost her baby and the sadness is probably making her act a bit unhinged while OP (who also lost her niece) wants to be there for her sister. I get that OP canceling the wedding will probably trouble many people but this is kinda of an extreme situation and, honestly, I wouldn't be able to be happy during the ceremony with all that going on...
It really looks like everyone kinda minimized the loss of this baby (including OP's now husband, who seemed to care more about the date of the wedding than what had happened).
@@chiarybLuE Thank you for replying, I honestly thought maybe my take was a bit crazy based on the comments and Charlotte's reaction, like I must've been missing something 😅 kinda glad to know someone else registered that too - I really hope OP and the sister are doing okay
I"m genuinely surprised the Reddit comments didn't pick up on the husband's comments about the wedding date and other "reasons" - I feel like they'd usually have a field day with any indication of a partner valuing something like his wedding being on his mom's birthday over supporting his partner during a family emergency 😅 like that's a serious red flag to me and I'm still honestly confused why no one else (besides us lol) seemed to view it that way... In the end it almost seemed like OP was gaslighted/ guilted anyways into the wedding being the "right" thing to do and just ignored how she felt to please the most amount of other people
Hope she's okay though, I might try to find the story myself to see if there are more details that I missed
@@chiarybLuE Woah found some MAJOR TEA for this story after looking into it closer! Originally a lot of people in the comments were also questioning if it was even real since the sister was supposed to be maid of honor and lived 14 hours away and wasn't in town yet the day before the wedding, so people found that odd
There was only one other post from OP which is titled "I finally got married to the love of my life" which sounds good. The post was deleted though. People in the comments who saw the post before it was deleted had some TEA
*Apparently* the sister LIED about the miscarriage! She hadn't lost the baby.
No other info besides that unfortunately. Maybe the sister was angry about OP getting so much attention and was trying to guilt her into cancelling the wedding and coming to see her in order to possibly ruin OP's life or something. No idea though. Based on the title though, everything went okay for OP and she's happily married (as of 1 year ago). No clue what ended up happening with the sister
But I guess good on reddit for pointing out that the sister's behavior was suspicious and convincing OP to still go through with the wedding
Super bizarre circumstances though, honestly I would hate it if I had to look back on my wedding day and it involved that much grief and drama.
(If any of those stories were true, I sense some therapy in OP's future)
(Even though the sister lied apparently though, I still feel like the fiance should have been more understanding/ sympathetic, unless he thought the sister would pull some BS like that, but in that case then just talk to your fiance about it... It all honestly sounds more and more sus as I dive into it more lol)
r/happyrants
•Posted by
u/throwawayfianceig
1 year ago
I finally got married to the love of my life
spoiler
I met my wife two years ago at a bar. At the time we'd both gotten out of toxic relationships. My ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend actually knew each other, and that's what kept us talking. She gave me her number and when we reached the end of the night, I suggested we head back to my place. Unfortunately she didn't feel the same. Since it was late at night and dark, I drove her home so she didn't have to walk or grab an Uber whom she didn't trust.
When we got there I dropped her off and she started to bawl her eyes out, saying she'd never been treated with such kindness. Needless to say we met up the next morning for breakfast and hit it off from there. Our relationship has always been bumpy, and we've made plenty of mistakes. She acts off impulse whereas I like to be calm and collected before I make any decisions. She always wants to help people, but I won't go out of my way to sign up for a thousand charities just because I can. She's forgetful and I remember everything. She balances her temper but I get angry quickly. The way we clash sometimes hurts, but sometimes it also allows us to blend in a perfect mix, equally balancing each other out.
When my mom passed away, I was devastated. She was the only person there for me in that time. I'd lost most of my friends, suffered a major self-esteem loss, and quit everything I was passionate about, lost in my own grief. For nearly a month she worked overtime to provide for what I wasn't doing. She took care of the house, cleaned everything, spent hours of her own time taking care and comforting me, and on her days off work she was always searching for ways to assist me. I've returned the favor over the time we've known each other and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
When I proposed outside the place we met, I know she was overjoyed to start a life together. She spent months planning the wedding. Lots of setbacks happened. My grandfather got sick (and recovered), we couldn't find a venue on the day we wanted and lots of the people we invited said they couldn't take work off on the particular day we were searching for. And the day before the wedding, we received the news that my wife's sister was having a miscarriage and had to induce labor. A lot of things happened before it was the wedding day.
We were missing a MOH but that didn't make it any less special. I had the best day ever and I know she did too. I felt like sharing because she's the best love I've had throughout my life and I couldn't imagine being without her. I've had doubts along the way but now I know she's the one for me.
I had to put this somewhere because I'm excited to spend the rest of my life with her and grow closer.
r/happyrants
•Posted by
u/throwawayfianceig
1 year ago
I finally got married to the love of my life
spoiler
I met my wife two years ago at a bar. At the time we'd both gotten out of toxic relationships. My ex-boyfriend and her ex-boyfriend actually knew each other, and that's what kept us talking. She gave me her number and when we reached the end of the night, I suggested we head back to my place. Unfortunately she didn't feel the same. Since it was late at night and dark, I drove her home so she didn't have to walk or grab an Uber whom she didn't trust.
When we got there I dropped her off and she started to bawl her eyes out, saying she'd never been treated with such kindness. Needless to say we met up the next morning for breakfast and hit it off from there. Our relationship has always been bumpy, and we've made plenty of mistakes. She acts off impulse whereas I like to be calm and collected before I make any decisions. She always wants to help people, but I won't go out of my way to sign up for a thousand charities just because I can. She's forgetful and I remember everything. She balances her temper but I get angry quickly. The way we clash sometimes hurts, but sometimes it also allows us to blend in a perfect mix, equally balancing each other out.
When my mom passed away, I was devastated. She was the only person there for me in that time. I'd lost most of my friends, suffered a major self-esteem loss, and quit everything I was passionate about, lost in my own grief. For nearly a month she worked overtime to provide for what I wasn't doing. She took care of the house, cleaned everything, spent hours of her own time taking care and comforting me, and on her days off work she was always searching for ways to assist me. I've returned the favor over the time we've known each other and I wouldn't trade it for the world.
When I proposed outside the place we met, I know she was overjoyed to start a life together. She spent months planning the wedding. Lots of setbacks happened. My grandfather got sick (and recovered), we couldn't find a venue on the day we wanted and lots of the people we invited said they couldn't take work off on the particular day we were searching for. And the day before the wedding, we received the news that my wife's sister was having a miscarriage and had to induce labor. A lot of things happened before it was the wedding day.
We were missing a MOH but that didn't make it any less special. I had the best day ever and I know she did too. I felt like sharing because she's the best love I've had throughout my life and I couldn't imagine being without her. I've had doubts along the way but now I know she's the one for me.
I had to put this somewhere because I'm excited to spend the rest of my life with her and grow closer.
I have a soul dog too. I respect what she did. Never allow anyone to speak to you that one and about someone you had so much love for. Never the asshole in a situation like that.
marriage seems like such a foreign concept to me. i have never met anyone in my life that would make me even think about marriage. 💀
When I was younger, I spontaneously said to my sister "Isn't it weird that people feel the need to partner up like they're doing a science project?", expecting her to agree with me. She looked at me like I was insane and I got the message haha. Still, I persist in the notion that I am not the alien, everyone else is.
Hii I'm George 😂😂😂
I used to feel this way too, until I met my now-husband at 22. I never saw myself as someone who would get married while growing up. There's a reason why you marry 'the one', rather than 'one of them'.
All this to say, you may be pleasantly surprised later on! If not, that's okay too. The most important thing is being comfortable with yourself and the life you choose.
That's totally fine!
Same. Like the idea that you come home and that person is just … THERE. Get out. 😂
(I’m not mocking those who do marry. I’m expressing why it wouldn’t work for me.)
The first story is exactly why I didn’t even invite my parents to my elopement. They only heard about our engagement/wedding the day after it happened cause I was not gonna play that game about “well you have to invite your family” with all 7 siblings of mine and all their kids (that’s over 30 people) when we only had space for 20 people. Plus with her OCPD I could not handle her trying to control my whole wedding!
Admittedly these videos from you helped me chose to elope so thanks Charolette! If I have a baby girl I will name her in your honor (if my husband agrees of course)
ALL RISE FOR THE HONORABLE JUDGE CHARLOTTE!! 🦃🦃
The sister(of the bride) who has a miscarriage sounds as if she was expecting the wedding to be cancelled. Which is wild, even in that situation.
The problem is that every anniversary they'll ever have is going to also be reminding them of the lost baby, and it will make it difficult for everyone involved to deal with that.
So sorry for the loss of sweet Toast! RIP big guy! Run wild and free across the rainbow bridge and fly high with your new Angel wings!! 🩵🐾✝️🪽🌈
Because of covid we had a tiny wedding of seven people, me, him, my son and his girlfriend, his Mum, his brother and his sister-in-law. Best day of my life. Nothing to worry about, all enjoyed it very much. We then had a party with lots of people some time later, that was also a lovely, lovely day. We felt it worked out as being the best way to do it.
With regards to the bride whose sister lost her baby. As someone who has a sister, and suffered many miscarriages, I’m not sure I could go ahead with my own wedding and celebrations, knowing the grief my sister is going through. A miscarriage at five months might also mean having to go through a still birth. Let me say having a miscarriage is like someone ripping your heart and soul out of your body. I’m not saying she should cancel the wedding but is not the a-hole for wanting to be with her sister at this terrible time.
Totally agree. I felt like people were being a bit cold in their answers but I dunno 😕
Also to add, your hormones are all over the place after a miscarriage not to mention the impact on your emotional and mental health. I think the sister can be forgiven for being what some people are seeing as demanding and unreasonable.
Wait.. something doesn't add up in story 2.. The sister is the MOH, lives 14 hours away and was not there the day before the wedding? How was she going to be there on time?
Was she not helping out with the wedding at least a couple days prior? Then she tells the bride the day before the wedding that it's her responsibility to comfort her??
I think MOH sister is being somewhat manipulative. And for a moment bride was selfishly not considering everyone else who is impacted.
The wedding versus sister one that was such a tough choice and can we just applaud the person for being so gracious when called out and applying the advice they got? Like Kudos, that was a sticky situation.
My husband and I were just ready to leave for my sister's rehearsal, dinner and then rehearsal. Their wedding was the next day. Our Grandpa died getting ready to come to the dinner. 😢 It's was heartbreaking. 💔
My sister and her fiancé were ready to postpone the wedding and my parents talked to them and told them that my Grandpa would be so upset to know he had ruined their special day. He was so happy and excited for them. They chose to proceed with their original wedding plans. It was a hard day for all of us to power through, really rough. Looking back 43 years now, I think they did the right thing. ❤
Poor Toast... I'm sure he had a wonderful life though. Brother's fiancee not liking animals is a huge red flag. I like dogs and cats more than people, and I have more 4-legged friends than 2-legged, I'm in bed surrounded by 3 cats and 2 dogs right now. I can't imagine not having pets, I've pretty much always had at least one dog or cat from the time I was born. (I was starting to get emotional and one of my cats, Lily, just came over to touch foreheads. How can anyone live without that level of pure love?) R.I.P. Toasty boy ❤
Spontaneous timing ! And we are all here for it !!
Charlotte at midnight , and here I am already snug in bed, snacks and goodies at my side , dogs are settled in , and I am happy !
Our dog Polo likes Charlotte a lot 😂
He was snug at the foot of our bed, and now he wants my hubby ( also a Mike ) to move over so he can watch with me ♥ 🐶
hating or treating animals bad will always be a big red flag for me. shame on that bride !
My husband and I got married at the courthouse. Brought our 2 young sons and a friend. After hearing so many stories of these weddings and stuff ( husband watches with me) we are so Happy we got married at courthouse and didn't have a wedding.... 5 months later mom thru a reception. I got the wedding cake I wanted and we had lots of good family fun and food. ❤simple is sometimes best!
Recent studies have found a correlation between cost of the wedding and length of the marriage.... it suggests that the more expensive the wedding, the shorter the marriage, and greater the likelihood of divorce in general.
I haven't read the specifics on the study in terms of data collection, sample size, bias... etc so I can't attest to its accuracy.... but it's something to think about. 🤷♀️
I went to an incredibly lavish wedding, but the marriage lasted less than a year.
I've heard this too. One of the reasons being, after a huge, lavish wedding settling down to day-to-day life is a big letdown. My husband and I got married at the courthouse, just us two. Don't regret it in the least. We'll be happily married 20 years in a few months.
@@maggieb4736good point, I would also think it has something to do with fixating on perfection, ideals versus expectations, and general values of people looking to create an event versus the compromise needed for a successful relationship, not to say lavish folk can’t have values but those unwilling to compromise for certain things, like lifelong relationships, might have difficulty in relationships. People who can lose perspective enough to think the day is more important than the life they are about to begin, that small details out of place can “ruin the day”, or who think of it as their “special day” rather than A special day, are likely to lose perspective in other areas.
In my mind, this made the most romantic line in the world be, "I love you. Let's run away together." Not bad. Not bad.
@@TheBaumcm , could be. If what I see on TH-cam is any indication, lol, things (Bridezillas) have gotten out of hand---it's more about the wedding than the marriage itself.
Randomly checked TH-cam to be greeted by a lovely video! Can't wait to watch it, your videos always brighten my day!
Got married in my mom’s living room with my bestie and my husband’s buddy. No guests, not crazy feelings, no opinions, etc. 30 years later I wouldn’t change a thing.
3:55 That mum seems trouble anyways, if she’s having falling outs with several of her children. As she doesn’t appear to respect their wishes, I can understand why.
I've seen enough videos like this one to know that if I ever get married, I'd just go down to the courthouse in my nicest pair of jeans and not tell anyone until after everything has been signed.
I’m well aware of my level of petty, like sending what seems to be an invitation but really just says I’m getting married and not only are you not invited but you are banned and the lack of you presence is the biggest gift of all 😂😘
Girl I’m high as shit doing my nails right now HELLO YEAH ❤❤❤❤ LOVE YOU BABYGIRLSSSS
I'm smoking a bowl right now!😂
Hell yeah, let's all get high and watch the POTATO QUEEN
😂😂😂 I could never do nails high lmao
As you told about the last one…. I cried when you told us Toast died,…I lost my first dog 9 Years ago… still heart broken and lying with my two other dogs on the couch cuddling. How can anyone be like that! Dogs are the most wonderful creatures to me ❤️❤️❤️ RIP Toasty
Dogs are like children, in the sense that they are open books and deserving of every protection. I was teaching when I got my first. I went to the pound 3 times, which broke my heart but one trip, the animals were not a good fit for my lifestyle, one, the dog I wanted (beautiful brindle collie) was processing for adoption, and the last was my girl, for which I will always be thankful for the volunteers, knowing what I was looking for, for pointing her out. I was looking to give both myself and the dog the best chance of forever. I don’t know if she was my “heart” dog, as I fall in love with every single one I meet, but I think I was her “heart” person. She loved everyone but she could only tolerate being without me for a couple of days. She was absolutely amazing though, beautiful, smart, and just wanted to please, and anyone who looked at her sideways would’ve gone butt over elbows shortly after.
The two things my nana loved to do most were to dance and to play cards, and she always said she'd like to die doing one or the other. She actually ended up dying while dancing at a wedding.
A Charlotte upload at midnight?!?! My week has been made ❤
this pretty much happened to friends of mine. their parents backed them. they ran to Hawaii where they had mickey and minnie as best man and maid of honor, we had no idea until a mass text and photos from Disneyland. they had a party when they got back