Anyone (on the ASD spectrum or not) dread it until you actually get in and it’s okay? But knowing your body is going to leave the comforting effect of being in the shower and then hitting the cold air feels like an ordeal too? 🤔
I am autistic and I experience demand avoidance. I don't mind showering if I don't have to, but if I feel pressured to shower due to other people or because I need to go out and do something then it's a massive ordeal and really hard for me.
I hate taking showers mainly because it is extreme sensory hell every time!!!! I definitely don’t take a shower everyday, only Wednesday and on the weekend. I love feeling clean but I just have a really difficult time with the sensory aspect of brushing my teeth, showering, washing my face, and being in the rain. My excuse is that it’s more eco-friendly!
I don't have autism, but I have a medical condition that makes my skin more sensitive (eczema), and there's a special type of soap that I get that's a lot gentler on skin called "Softsoap". Highly recommend for people with skin or sensory issues. 😊
"I didn't know this really bothered me, but apparently it does." This is me 😂. So many times I'll be talking to my parents about something and be like, wow, I'm really worked up about this. I didn't know I cared so much 😂. Great video 😄
You did it! You're braver than me still :) for me, it's such a freaking process with a bunch of tasks and everything has to stop for it and it seems super unnecessary unless I smell bad or something. With quarantine, I think I have set some shower gap records... 😅
I generally shower every other day, skipping an extra day once a week because the number of days in a week is not divisible by 2 (and the scheduling of dealing with a cycle which alternates every other week would be too annoying; so as-is it is typically a M/W/F schedule). I might (rarely) shower on two adjacent days, but this is usually in special circumstances. Seems like a reasonable compromise...
Thank you so much for this...I was recently diagnosed at 27 and am now learning about my condition and my own issues...and unfortunately, hygiene is one of them. Just like you said, I love feeling clean and love smelling good but just HATE the process of showering and brushing my teeth...something I'm trying to work on. But thank you SO much for your bravery in coming on and talking about such a personal topic.💙
This is so me, too!! I HATE showers. I always say if I could wish for one thing in the whole world, it would be to never have to shower ever again but always be clean. I shower twice a week if I'm lucky.
i like showering and i like feeling clean, but you have to do it like every day and then youre old and die? also executive dysfuntion? can i just shower before leaving the house? let me be a gremlin in peace?
I have a similar issue with brushing my teeth especially my tongue. I love the feeling of a clean mouth and hate having a dirty mouth but it feels awful doing it
@@WiwyWish When the spit gets too close to end of tounge i would gag. You brush your teeth for sensation in gums. It makes me think better and my face wouldn't hurt bad after smiling.
I struggled with showering up until my mid-teen years. I've always hated how It impacted my senses: the sound of water falling, the smell of strong shampoo, and the feeling of water on my skin. Not to mention it interfered with my extremely stringent routines. I was told I stink god knows how many times; one girl actually yelled at me like that on a bus, humiliating me in front of everyone else. Other kids would group up and give me dirty looks and say ew every time I pass down the halls. I still have those traumatic events circulating in my mind, which is why I watched videos like this one to relate with other autistic folk. Very nice video, actually. Back then I was unaware of my diagnosis (my parents hid it from me), so I waded through my early-ish years like that. Honestly, how hard is it for people to at least be considerate when telling others that they have bad odor?
I don't have autism but I also hate showering, i hate the feeling of my hands and feet drying after being wet for a long time, it's like the air feels like I'm rubbing against paper so I only shower about twice a week, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who hates showering
I HATE BATHS AND SHOWERS!!! GOD I wish I didn't need to water to get myself clean but i guess it's the only way! I remember when i was a toddler and i didn't want to go but i did because there was some bath toys and I got distracted Whatever It feels good afterwards but ur all wet and it is not comfortable getting water in your eyes I do shower once a week but i kinda need more probably So i do shower but i do not like it
Yay. Me and you are similar as I was arguing with my brother about this earlier as he showers every day (he's neurotypical) but I only shower when my parents force me to(I'm autistic) and would shower less if possible without being shouted at. You are not alone in your washing habits or only liking water in certain situations
Yessss 👏🏻 And I realised afterwards that I was kinda lying, because I what for as long as I can. If I don’t have anything to do for a long time, I will not showet until I have to! ☺️
F*** your parents they are a**holes They need to understand that they can't force you to do sh*t. They may explain and try to convince you but forcing is an awful approach
Same, my mam cares way too much about what other people think. Also saying that people can smell you even if I can't smell myself and doesn't know how I can go more than a day without a wash and not feel dirty. She also become fuming because we went out with people and they had a meal but I wasn't hungry and when some left we merged onto one table and I noticed they didn't eat their side salad (tomato & cucumber) so as it had been a while since I eat and was my usual time to eat but wasn't hungry; to save it from just going in the bin, I ate the salad. It had not sat there very long and I hate seeing perfectly good food go to waste, I am known for this; but my mam hated this; she claimed that I looked like she wasn't feeding me, despite their being barely anyone in and me talking (known for having a loud voice, from my dad) about how I'm not hungry but it is food time and if it's just going to go in the bin. So was literally told off for eating salad, reducing waste, and saving money (instead of leaving it and buying food I wouldn't finish), despite her knowing I like doing these things and it was my usual food time. But she apparently couldn't believe I done that and was seething but didn't want to make a scene in the mostly dead seating area. Is it just me or does that sound unreasonable? Also sorry for the rant
I will not admit how long I haven’t showered for I am going fit my autism assessment soon a d I have anxiety and depression 👀 but I hate when my hair is wet and sticks to my back I can’t put clothes on till I am completely dry because I have melt down over my clothes sticking to me 👀
5:57 literally the best change of topic ever! :D This was really insightful to be honest and makes alot of sense. Though I really can't go more than a day without showering as it's a sensory thing. But also I don't feel as alert without a shower either to be honest. But this was pretty brave and there will be others who relate for sure! Nice job Sara! : )
Haha! Thanks 😂 But, yes, it’s was quite difficult putting out there so I’m glad people enjoyed the video at least ☺️👍🏻 If you want, I can colormatch your wedding 😂😎
I do my best to shower every other day! Every day if I’m outside a lot and sweat a lot. But there are definitely times I will admit I’ve showered only once or twice in a week. I don’t like to smell bad and I like being IN the shower when I’m in there, it’s just sometimes it’s exhausting to make myself shower! #executivedysfunctiongang
You are not the only one that’s exactly how I feel but the reason why I don’t shower every day that’s because it makes my psoriasis worse. I have autism and ADHD.
This video was AMAZING and You are amazing! This was so helpful. My son is Autistic and also has ADHD (and Sensory Processing Disorder) and he has a hard time explaining why showering bothers him. So this was great, thank you so much. :)
It is ADHDelightfully Autisterrific to see other people like me talking about their experiences with having autism in an allistic society. /gen /pos Showering is a tough one for me too for mostly the same reasons but with different nuances.
I'm ok with showers because I usually focus on the parts that need washed and just use the shower head to wash the parts that need it, so it's less intense. I take a bath once a week to take care of the rest. But washing my hair is the worst. I can only use my very special shampoo because most shampoos smell to strong and give me headaches and nausea. I can't use a hair dryer because it's too loud and I don't like the feeling. But I also hate the feeling of wet hair. It's a traumatic even that I try to only go through once a week and no more. But if I wait too long my head gets very itchy and I end up scratching my scalp until it bleeds, which is also really bad. Yeah, I wish I had the courage to just shave my hair off, but as a woman I'm still scared of going bald.
I also have an issue with showering too. I have what was called PDD-NOS, ADHD, language based learning disability, anxiety and depression. I’m older. Born in the 1960s. Thank you for talking about it. I was actually better younger than now if I don’t go out and that doesn’t include chronic pain.
I hate showers with a passion! I like baths a bit more because I can bring my computer and watch a movie or show, I can light a candle and use a fancy bath bomb. Also baths take a while to fill up and be ready for me to get in so it gives me a natural buffer to mentally prepare. If it makes you feel better, Washing your hair daily is actually really bad for it because it strips the natural oils, and your hair will get used to how often it is washed. I rinse my hair maybe twice a week, and I only wash it with shampoo every two ish weeks. The last few days before I wash it, the oil buildup is kinda gross but I can tell it's slowly reducing so I just wear it up. I am actually slowly starting to transition to not using shampoo at all because the buildup of product actually makes it need to be washed more. My goal is to get to the point where I can just rinse it with Apple Cider Vinegar water once a week (I still condition every time I get it wet though because it's belly button length and my natural oils will never make it all the way down). So long story short, it's actually better for your hair to wash it less frequently. You can tell people it's for hair health!
I love to take hot showers and I’m obsessed with being clean. But I definitely wouldn’t judge people that have trouble with it. I don’t struggle with this particular issue but I have sympathy for those that do. I have other sensory struggles particularly with sound and light. It bothers me if light isn’t natural. I don’t do well with lamps and light bulbs. It can actually even hurt my body and it causes me anxiety sometimes. Thanks for sharing. Hope you have a good day!💕
It’s probably not that fun for you either with the light. My main sensory issues are around sounds, but this showering problem is like a problem always, because it changes your body in so many ways, everytime! I love that you can don’t judge 💜☺️
Lol mostly its the wetness that bothers me. Yes i agree with your perspective exactly i assumed i was just wierd. Love your channel. Its like watching alternate universe where i am a beautiful young and witty Norwegian. Thanks for sharing
I don't like showing or bathing. I don't even know the reason why. I love going to a pool or jacuzzi. It triggers my anxiety, and it just seems odd. I can go for longer than a week.
I am autistic originally diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome and I can relate to this. I hate the process of showers I'd like the feeling of being clean. Showers can be a sensory nightmare and a executive functioning nightmare. Sometimes I skip a day. I use 72-hour antiperspirants to stop smelling bad.
I skip often; I am lucky if I shower once a week. My itchy scalp usually makes me do it. Water in my face plus tactile sensitivity and the temperature constantly changing. All the task changing as well. I hate getting wet, too; I always carry an umbrella so the rain does not get me wet. I wholeheartedly agree @WillWellington, and I am diagnosed with Asperger's as well.
I shower when I need too , not everyday because that is just too much of a hastle. I think one aspect of it is because autism is a socially affecting condition we don't want people around much so we just forget that good personal hygiene is a thing other people place alot of value on, plus I have better things to do with my time . Plus if you shower every day you are stripping your skin of the oils it has and needs and you will have a weaker immune system because you are not used to bacteria , so being dirty is better for you in the long run.
For me, I really like being with people, so that’s not my reasoning, but I know a lot of autistic people feel the same way as you! And I so agree that it’s takes up so much time dor doing something we don’t enjoy 😅 Love how well thought out for comments was 👍🏻☺️
I personally love showering. It is so calming. I love the sound and the warm feeling of the water. But afterwards I need to rest xD which some people find weird. But I don't like to shave myself. I do it because I feel good afterwards but it can be exhausting sometimes. I absolutely hate wearing make up which made me feel less girly. I honestly don't care anymore if people think of me in that way but it bothered me when I was younger. I forced myself to wear make up which stressed me out. I think we all should take care of ourselves as good as we can and stop judging people for doing things differently. As you said we don't have to shower everyday and we can wash ourselves even without taking a shower. I have a question: I don't have social media anymore because I wanted to spend less time on the phone but now I want to learn more about autism.. what kind of social media should I use for connecting with like minded and autistic people? Have a nice day y'all
This comment made me feel connected 💜. I understand where you are coming from. A lot of the time I sit down IN the shower because I Get so tired of it 😅. I think it depends on what you’re looking for. I found a community in TH-cam, I got friends and stuff through here. But I use Instagram for all the autistic socialation now. And I’m in a lot of autistic fb-groups, but it’s centered around autism moms, but it’s a lot of support there. I feel like the hate is on Twitter, insta and tiktok. But that’s just my opinion. :)
@@WiwyWish Haha, omg same. I sit in my shower as well xD sometimes I just kind of "space out". But I am in a state of my life where I realize that I have sensory issues and I just accept it. For example I bought the most comfortable bras ever last week and they are a life changer. There is so much stuff we can do to feel more safe we just have to let the social standards and false expectations go and be our true authentic selve. That is what I believe right now. You are right insta and twitter can be quite toxic sometimes. That is why I deleted it. Thank u for your honest answer and talking about this even if it is difficult
I wash my hair every 7-10 days because it's super chemically treated! Dry shampoo is my friend. (It's also thin/fine, so every style holds better on 4th+ day hair.) I love BEING clean and scented stuff but loathe the in between state of being wet/dry and getting into and out of the bath. So I bathe every other day. I'm sedentary and housebound, so I am not even being active enough to smell like anything but perfume unless I am sweaty from having a panic attack, haha.
Omg, you queen, maybe I should just wait 10 days! I cannot do dry shampoo, my hair feels so weird.. Do you have any recommendations?(idk how to write that word 😅)
@@WiwyWish I kind of like the grit/slight ...tackiness (that's not the right word but I think you know what I mean) of dry shampoo - I've tried them all and most of them are the same. I'm not sure I could recommend (
Thanks for the help, I’ll try it out! I’ve actually wanted to color my hair silvergrey a long time! I love coloring my hair, except it being ruined 😅 Maybe I’ll cut of all of my hair soon! Kinda tired of dealing with it, eventho I really enjoy long hair!!
Showing daily is a relatively new concept (and it actually is bad for your hair) - historically only rich people could do this. I don't like the feeling of the shower water pelting my skin, so I shower every other day, although with covid going on I really don't see many people, so I haven't been showering on this schedule as regularly as I used to.
Hi! Recently diagnosed with autism and adhd.. also hair stylist of almost 10 years👋🏻 there’s really no “right time” to wash your hair. Whenever clients ask me how often, I say however often fits your lifestyle and your needs.. but do not wash every day if you can help it! Over washing can cause dry scalp which gets confused for dandruff and you don’t want to get started down the anti dandruff product black hole if you don’t need to! One big tip that’s helped me out a lot: use dry shampoo at the end of your wash day, before you go to bed, it helps *prevent* oil build up while you sleep ❤️
Showering every day always seemed strange to me. If I'm among people, I force myself to do it every other day but when alone then why bother showering until it starts itching?
I hate showering and always have for the same reason as you and also because I don't like getting water in my eyes and ears. I also hate the way my fingers feel when I clip my nails so I avoid it as long as I can.
Me, too. I am diagnosed autistic and am tactile over-sensitive. Showering with its change in temperatures and the water on my face is extreme overload on the tactile sense for me. It gives me a lot of anxiety, too. I am going to try a handheld showerhead for more control, but I'm not sure what else I should do to enable me to get in at least 3 times a week.
I support individuals on the spectrum. Some of whom adore being in the bath or shower. Some hate it. Some despise clothing and some have favourite garments. It's frustratingly challenging, but we can all work together to accept people's individualities.
I love your energy! And yeah, I fought my mom every single night as a kid when I had to wash my hair XD now it's just a time management issue. Unless I have an exact rhythm and routine, it doesn't get done.
Fun fact, showering every day isn't as necessary as you might think. And neither is using lots of shampoo, etc every time. So showering every few days, or showering every day, but not doing a "deep" shower every time, is an ok way to do it. And showering less can actually lead to there being less oil in your hair, etc, since showering a lot trains the body to make more oil than it needs (since there is a reason it's there, and showering gets rid of it, so the body begins to make more and more), so showering less will eventually lead to you actually not needing to shower so often.
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thank you for sharing this (even if its 2 yrs old) - i feel the exact same way about this as you and i feel a lot better about knowing im not alone on this feeling..
Thanks, i honestly hate it, i have mild Aspergers and find showering and hair washing such a horrid waste of time. I shower twice a week at most but I need to shower more I know I stink a bit at times but you know what it is what it is and at least I’m not going days on end. You have beautiful skin, love very pale skin. Stunning.
Thank you for sharing! I’m the same!! I don’t like showers either :( I prefer baths because I can choose what parts of me are wet and and at when. Plus I don’t always want my hair to get wet, and I feel rushed in a shower. And I can do other relaxing things in a bath that I can’t in a shower, like read or play on my phone or something. I’d rather put off washing my hair too!
Omg you're so lovelyyy, I'm really happy to have found your channel! I binge-watched a few of your video, starting with this one :p I throught you had like thousands of subscribers at first. Also I spent a year arguing wih my familly why I don't think it's necessary to shower everyday so this really one spoke to me I hope your channel will grow, all the best darling ⭐✨✨
I spent an entire day during my beautiful Thanksgiving holiday lying in bed because I can't get myself to tick off the hardest thing on my to-do list, personal hygiene. When I have a structure, I can keep up with personal hygiene, sort of, or at least I can say to myself "oh, I didn't shower because I didn't have the time in the morning" and then just go about my day feeling presentable. It is the weekends and holidays that are the hardest for me, and they really made me realize how hard showering it is for me, comparing to other things I do that neurotypicals may consider hard.
I hate showers as well. To make my hair last longer before needing a shower, I use dry shampoo. So sometimes I can go a week or two between needing to wash my hair properly.
Do you have some tips on which dry shampoos? Because a lot of them makes my head feel weird and stuff, so I di wanna use it, but I love the idea of having it. :)
@@WiwyWish I use this kind. I don't like most hair products, but I don't mind this one. smile.amazon.com/dp/B0057NE7NQ/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_bP15EbJVT2Y2R
im watching this after showering for comfort lmao. showers are hells for me n m not even sure if im autistic. the transition from being dry to wet, the temp change, the energy required to clean, the lights i have to have on if im at someone's else house, the sounds, everything sucks. ive done everything i can to make my showers more comfortable for me and they still suck.
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Great video. My son is autistic and he doesn't like to wash that often, especially his hair. This helps me understand better, but honestly I don't like to shower everyday either but it's just cause i'm lazy lol
*searching youtube for help how to hate showering less for precisely these reasons while i sit in my robe and towel putting off showering* lol. for real, thanks for this video - i always feel so self-conscious about my hygiene and i really am so so uncomfortable with the whole process but i agree i LIKE to be clean, i don't like to be dirty, but i hate every sensory thing and every change involved in it. exhausting lol. anyway, from one adhd and autistic who hates showering every day to another, thank you lol
I really understand you ❤️ It’s not easy, and we are really told that we are disgusting if we don’t shower enough, so it’s a lot of shame that comes with it also! Love that mire people than me feel this way! ☺️
@@WiwyWish yas definitely! it's so dumb lol if i don't bother you or stink, whatever! my therapist has recommended wipes to use but that sounds even worse because they always leave that slime. anyway, just found your channel and i love your content!! you're very inspiring to me :)
I hate showering and I get away with people not noticing. I'm trying to get to a 2 times a week goal. But it also plays into my procrastination on doing laundry and it's a vicious cycle 😢
I actually don't mind about showering this bad but some things I have to do like plan when I am going to wash my hair and it takes ages because it doesent always work the way I like because 7 days a week is not even so it gets messed up sometimes BC I like to have my hair clean for certain days when I'm doing things also when my hair is dirty I will not go anywhere or want to change BC It feels terrible and I do hate about showering is putting condishoner on my hair even when it's just the ends it just feels terrible the way my hands rub on my hair but then after I wash it feels alot better Is anyone the same?
It's crazy to wash your hair every day. When I hear that people do that I think two things:either they have the enviable trait of loving showers OR they are a people pleaser. I wish there was more awareness that there are other ways to clean oneself than showering every time. When you get married it helps--your spouse can smell your clothes and tell you if they stink. I only wash my hair once a week with detergent free shampoo.
hey thank you so much for doing this video, i am also Autistic, and i have a channel on here, where i talk all things Autism, this is so well needed for society to understand. I understand the feeling about water, it feels prickly on my skin, so instead I have a bath. Looking forward to more content from you x
3 years! That’s so nice! It’s people like you who make people see that autism is a thing :) And thank you 💜 For both watching me and being open about your autism with the world ☺️
I love you so much I really needed to hear this (/ _ ; ) I’ve been feeling like a freak of nature for so long now I’ve been feeling really sad lately because of this reason. It’s always been an issue I’ve dealt with but recently it’s been on my mind a lot since it’s getting close to that time again and I haven’t brought myself to do it yet There’s so much I wish I could say in this comment just to get it off my chest since I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this kind of stuff(and even if I did no one would really understand it) but kinda like a thing you mentioned in the video, I fear what people might say or think(since it’s very frowned upon in this society) In many ways it’s not something that can really be openly discussed(especially online where people are the harshest) because the judgment you’ll get for it, combined with the lack of desire to try to understand or hear you out on something most people are just so instantly put off by It feels lonely being like this and dealing with this especially when no one really understands because it’s something that is as easy and simple as breathing for them(when it’s not for you/me/us) It’s been on my mind so much lately and like a sign from god or the universe a video popped up about hygiene and autism when looking up something that wasn’t even that earlier today I watched it hoping to get something from it but it didn’t really provide me much so I was back to feeling down again Then tonight I ran out of things to watch on TH-cam(that was distracting my mind from this subject to cheer me up) and it started to creep back into my mind and I decided to see what I could find on TH-cam about this Your video was the first video to pop up For the first time IN MY LIFE I don’t feel alone about this I’ve been feeling sad about this but I’ve been pushing it to the back of my mind and trying not to let the emotions get to me so much but seeing this video just made me cry. Everything finally came pouring out Thank you so much for making this video 🙏
I find showers, or even rain therapeutic. Maybe I'm an imposter in this Asperger's game. Sorry if this sounds dismissive, but you have very good verbal skills, by the way.
Recently I only didn't shower one day. Because I was to ill to get out of bed. It is good you talk about this. But this video won't get many views on the alga rhymnn. Your meltdown video will get more. That be naughty you could do a whole series on meltdown videos. The problem is with the thing it is a meltdown everyday almost. But I pleased for the video. A comedy said the same this fear of germs. You need greams to keep a strong immune system what happens if a pandemic happens. Which it has. "Why do I have to shower everyday?" He said on stage.
I think I’ll make videos I think are needed, and not what the stats say I should make videos about. But I will definitely make more videos about meltdowns ☺️ Thank you for the tips! And THANK YOU for waiting for this video :)
AutiSIMSara Yeah, it's you tube it is a messed up platform. You have to pick topic which get you views. But Witt meltdown everyone has them. But it seems it more pressure meltdown with autism. Some idiot NT it autistic adult acting like toddlers throwing their toys out the pram. But it can take a week to hit a meltdown. Toddlers it can take seconds. Connor another you tuber said maybe we need to find another word for meltdown when it's related to autism. A emotional episode autism individual called it once.
Am autistic. I hate showering too. I maybes shower once or twice a week. I try to avoid doing it as much as possible. If I got to go somewhere like an appointment or shopping then yes, I will make an effort but doing it really tires me out mentally. I can't remember the last time I washed my hair though, at least a couple of months. I usually wear a shower cap to keep my hair dry in the shower. My hair isn't too greasy. I should wash my hair but it just adds an extra 10 to 15 minutes in the shower doing it. Just can't be bothered. Back in my childhood before we had gas central heating we had a bath once a week and the bath water was shared because it cost so much money to heat up a tank of water. No, nobody will tell you that you stink. People are too polite. A parent might but not a stranger. I wouldn't tell a stranger they stink might get beaten up for it.
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My dad bullies me a lot for my hygiene and yea I try to keep up but it’s never good enough he expects me to be 100% 247 and if I can’t keep up I’m disgusting a disappointment and I keep trying to get better at it but sometimes I just can’t Should he be more understanding or do I just need to try harder?
I just need a reminder to do the task and the step by step instructions. I want people to say directly you stink. If you don't say you stink like body odor I won't know. Then tell me to shower. If I stink like I fart just tell me I fart and go to bathroom. If I poop my diaper say you poop your diaper lets get clean up. If you don't tell me I am wet diaper then I won't know like today I wet through my diaper today because I didn't know i was wet. Just say as is. I won't be upset because you are saying the truth and you help me with my hygiene and it makes you happy and me happy so I don't have skin issues or body odor. Including in social skills and behaviors and many other skills with multiple steps. I like to feel clean and and I don't like the smell and my skin feels yucky if I don't shower. The sensory issues of the shower is hard to cope with. The part with shower with too much pressure like after they fixed the pipes down the street at dads house made it hurt a bit. The sun or bright lights. The small space so having a shower chair was helping me and the Ballance. I wish to God people saw that before and got me a chair. I thought it was for people who can't stand or walk. Then to have the shower head come off and to have a way to turn off the water to soap up. The best part is the flower scent stuff is the part I want. The hot water bothers me. The steam bother me. Them hot water to cold air in winter so hard for me. I hate water in my face and ears. The part is bubble bath I am in water and more comfortable for me. The thing is I can't get in a bath tub.
Autistic people smell sweet but can't smell rancid. Best thing to do is shower every other night or every night if your body gets smelly faster. Scrub the dirt off and lather up your hair and rinse with clean water. Autistic people have smell sensitivities, and we try to accomodate them, however other people who have strong smell sense can smell it and it can make it really tough for some of us. Person who is sensitive to smells, who has ocd, etc. It affects them. Please lets all accomdate each other and just take a shower every other day at least.
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Anyone (on the ASD spectrum or not) dread it until you actually get in and it’s okay? But knowing your body is going to leave the comforting effect of being in the shower and then hitting the cold air feels like an ordeal too? 🤔
I am on the spectrum and yes I can relate to this, don't know how to overcome it though
I am autistic and I experience demand avoidance. I don't mind showering if I don't have to, but if I feel pressured to shower due to other people or because I need to go out and do something then it's a massive ordeal and really hard for me.
I hate taking showers mainly because it is extreme sensory hell every time!!!! I definitely don’t take a shower everyday, only Wednesday and on the weekend. I love feeling clean but I just have a really difficult time with the sensory aspect of brushing my teeth, showering, washing my face, and being in the rain. My excuse is that it’s more eco-friendly!
Same, 👏🏻 You 👏🏻 Do 👏🏻 You 👏🏻
My excuse is I can't afford the cost which is partially true. Soap isn't cheap either.
I don't have autism, but I have a medical condition that makes my skin more sensitive (eczema), and there's a special type of soap that I get that's a lot gentler on skin called "Softsoap". Highly recommend for people with skin or sensory issues. 😊
"I didn't know this really bothered me, but apparently it does." This is me 😂. So many times I'll be talking to my parents about something and be like, wow, I'm really worked up about this. I didn't know I cared so much 😂. Great video 😄
YESSS!! Same, thank you! Tell me something small that really bothers you! If you want to ofc :)
You did it! You're braver than me still :) for me, it's such a freaking process with a bunch of tasks and everything has to stop for it and it seems super unnecessary unless I smell bad or something. With quarantine, I think I have set some shower gap records... 😅
I generally shower every other day, skipping an extra day once a week because the number of days in a week is not divisible by 2 (and the scheduling of dealing with a cycle which alternates every other week would be too annoying; so as-is it is typically a M/W/F schedule). I might (rarely) shower on two adjacent days, but this is usually in special circumstances. Seems like a reasonable compromise...
Woopwoop 🎉It is a process, I sooo agree! We should make a month «No shower july» or something 😎
AutiSIMSara Hang on! Do you have a boyfriend at the moment?
Won't he want you to shower everyday.
I have a boyfriend. He doesn’t care if I do either :)
Thank you so much for this...I was recently diagnosed at 27 and am now learning about my condition and my own issues...and unfortunately, hygiene is one of them. Just like you said, I love feeling clean and love smelling good but just HATE the process of showering and brushing my teeth...something I'm trying to work on. But thank you SO much for your bravery in coming on and talking about such a personal topic.💙
This is so me, too!! I HATE showers. I always say if I could wish for one thing in the whole world, it would be to never have to shower ever again but always be clean. I shower twice a week if I'm lucky.
I hate washing because I always feel sick and itchy afterwards.
But I hate being sweaty.
I have a carer twice a week to remind me to.
i like showering and i like feeling clean, but you have to do it like every day and then youre old and die? also executive dysfuntion? can i just shower before leaving the house? let me be a gremlin in peace?
I have a similar issue with brushing my teeth especially my tongue. I love the feeling of a clean mouth and hate having a dirty mouth but it feels awful doing it
Saaaaame! I always gag when I brush my teeth, it’s awful 😔
@@WiwyWish When the spit gets too close to end of tounge i would gag. You brush your teeth for sensation in gums. It makes me think better and my face wouldn't hurt bad after smiling.
I struggled with showering up until my mid-teen years. I've always hated how It impacted my senses: the sound of water falling, the smell of strong shampoo, and the feeling of water on my skin. Not to mention it interfered with my extremely stringent routines. I was told I stink god knows how many times; one girl actually yelled at me like that on a bus, humiliating me in front of everyone else. Other kids would group up and give me dirty looks and say ew every time I pass down the halls.
I still have those traumatic events circulating in my mind, which is why I watched videos like this one to relate with other autistic folk. Very nice video, actually. Back then I was unaware of my diagnosis (my parents hid it from me), so I waded through my early-ish years like that.
Honestly, how hard is it for people to at least be considerate when telling others that they have bad odor?
Thank you.
I don't have autism but I also hate showering, i hate the feeling of my hands and feet drying after being wet for a long time, it's like the air feels like I'm rubbing against paper so I only shower about twice a week, it's nice to know I'm not the only one who hates showering
I HATE BATHS AND SHOWERS!!!
GOD I wish I didn't need to water to get myself clean but i guess it's the only way!
I remember when i was a toddler and i didn't want to go but i did because there was some bath toys and I got distracted
Whatever
It feels good afterwards but ur all wet and it is not comfortable getting water in your eyes
I do shower once a week but i kinda need more probably
So i do shower but i do not like it
Yay. Me and you are similar as I was arguing with my brother about this earlier as he showers every day (he's neurotypical) but I only shower when my parents force me to(I'm autistic) and would shower less if possible without being shouted at. You are not alone in your washing habits or only liking water in certain situations
Yessss 👏🏻 And I realised afterwards that I was kinda lying, because I what for as long as I can. If I don’t have anything to do for a long time, I will not showet until I have to! ☺️
F*** your parents they are a**holes
They need to understand that they can't force you to do sh*t. They may explain and try to convince you but forcing is an awful approach
Same, my mam cares way too much about what other people think. Also saying that people can smell you even if I can't smell myself and doesn't know how I can go more than a day without a wash and not feel dirty.
She also become fuming because we went out with people and they had a meal but I wasn't hungry and when some left we merged onto one table and I noticed they didn't eat their side salad (tomato & cucumber) so as it had been a while since I eat and was my usual time to eat but wasn't hungry; to save it from just going in the bin, I ate the salad.
It had not sat there very long and I hate seeing perfectly good food go to waste, I am known for this; but my mam hated this; she claimed that I looked like she wasn't feeding me, despite their being barely anyone in and me talking (known for having a loud voice, from my dad) about how I'm not hungry but it is food time and if it's just going to go in the bin.
So was literally told off for eating salad, reducing waste, and saving money (instead of leaving it and buying food I wouldn't finish), despite her knowing I like doing these things and it was my usual food time. But she apparently couldn't believe I done that and was seething but didn't want to make a scene in the mostly dead seating area.
Is it just me or does that sound unreasonable?
Also sorry for the rant
I will not admit how long I haven’t showered for I am going fit my autism assessment soon a d I have anxiety and depression 👀 but I hate when my hair is wet and sticks to my back I can’t put clothes on till I am completely dry because I have melt down over my clothes sticking to me 👀
5:57 literally the best change of topic ever! :D This was really insightful to be honest and makes alot of sense. Though I really can't go more than a day without showering as it's a sensory thing. But also I don't feel as alert without a shower either to be honest. But this was pretty brave and there will be others who relate for sure! Nice job Sara! : )
Haha! Thanks 😂 But, yes, it’s was quite difficult putting out there so I’m glad people enjoyed the video at least ☺️👍🏻 If you want, I can colormatch your wedding 😂😎
Ha i was actually wondering what you thought about this. Convenient.
Thanks kids
I do my best to shower every other day! Every day if I’m outside a lot and sweat a lot. But there are definitely times I will admit I’ve showered only once or twice in a week. I don’t like to smell bad and I like being IN the shower when I’m in there, it’s just sometimes it’s exhausting to make myself shower! #executivedysfunctiongang
Great job. This helps me understand my 7 y.o. granddaughter
Yay! So happy for that :)
You are not the only one that’s exactly how I feel but the reason why I don’t shower every day that’s because it makes my psoriasis worse. I have autism and ADHD.
I don’t have psoriasis, but I love that you can relate :) 💜
This video was AMAZING and You are amazing! This was so helpful. My son is Autistic and also has ADHD (and Sensory Processing Disorder) and he has a hard time explaining why showering bothers him. So this was great, thank you so much. :)
Thank you 💜 So nice to hear that my frustrations can help somebody! :)
It is ADHDelightfully Autisterrific to see other people like me talking about their experiences with having autism in an allistic society. /gen /pos
Showering is a tough one for me too for mostly the same reasons but with different nuances.
Thank you so much for talking about this topic now I understand why my 2yo daughter doesn’t like showering but loves playing with water in a pool.
Np, thanks for being here and wanting to learn and understand 💜 It’s people like you who make this world easier to be in 💜
I use baby wipes in between showers .
Thank you. You are awesome. This video made me understand my son better. 👏
I'm ok with showers because I usually focus on the parts that need washed and just use the shower head to wash the parts that need it, so it's less intense. I take a bath once a week to take care of the rest. But washing my hair is the worst. I can only use my very special shampoo because most shampoos smell to strong and give me headaches and nausea. I can't use a hair dryer because it's too loud and I don't like the feeling. But I also hate the feeling of wet hair. It's a traumatic even that I try to only go through once a week and no more. But if I wait too long my head gets very itchy and I end up scratching my scalp until it bleeds, which is also really bad.
Yeah, I wish I had the courage to just shave my hair off, but as a woman I'm still scared of going bald.
I also have an issue with showering too. I have what was called PDD-NOS, ADHD, language based learning disability, anxiety and depression. I’m older. Born in the 1960s. Thank you for talking about it. I was actually better younger than now if I don’t go out and that doesn’t include chronic pain.
I hate showers with a passion! I like baths a bit more because I can bring my computer and watch a movie or show, I can light a candle and use a fancy bath bomb. Also baths take a while to fill up and be ready for me to get in so it gives me a natural buffer to mentally prepare. If it makes you feel better, Washing your hair daily is actually really bad for it because it strips the natural oils, and your hair will get used to how often it is washed. I rinse my hair maybe twice a week, and I only wash it with shampoo every two ish weeks. The last few days before I wash it, the oil buildup is kinda gross but I can tell it's slowly reducing so I just wear it up. I am actually slowly starting to transition to not using shampoo at all because the buildup of product actually makes it need to be washed more. My goal is to get to the point where I can just rinse it with Apple Cider Vinegar water once a week (I still condition every time I get it wet though because it's belly button length and my natural oils will never make it all the way down). So long story short, it's actually better for your hair to wash it less frequently. You can tell people it's for hair health!
I love to take hot showers and I’m obsessed with being clean. But I definitely wouldn’t judge people that have trouble with it. I don’t struggle with this particular issue but I have sympathy for those that do. I have other sensory struggles particularly with sound and light. It bothers me if light isn’t natural. I don’t do well with lamps and light bulbs. It can actually even hurt my body and it causes me anxiety sometimes. Thanks for sharing. Hope you have a good day!💕
It’s probably not that fun for you either with the light. My main sensory issues are around sounds, but this showering problem is like a problem always, because it changes your body in so many ways, everytime! I love that you can don’t judge 💜☺️
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Probably same as me cleanliness OCD to but if my skin ms sensitive so have to anyways my own sweat would give me rashes
i told my friends daughter who has Aspergers to watch your videos because she speaks like you...
Lol mostly its the wetness that bothers me. Yes i agree with your perspective exactly i assumed i was just wierd. Love your channel. Its like watching alternate universe where i am a beautiful young and witty Norwegian.
Thanks for sharing
Yes! Showers are awful, especially washing hair. It’s sensory overload. I’m glad I’m not the only one to hate the process! 😂
Yey 👏🏻 We’re all in this together 🎶
I don't like showing or bathing. I don't even know the reason why. I love going to a pool or jacuzzi. It triggers my anxiety, and it just seems odd. I can go for longer than a week.
I am autistic originally diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome and I can relate to this. I hate the process of showers I'd like the feeling of being clean. Showers can be a sensory nightmare and a executive functioning nightmare. Sometimes I skip a day. I use 72-hour antiperspirants to stop smelling bad.
I skip often; I am lucky if I shower once a week. My itchy scalp usually makes me do it. Water in my face plus tactile sensitivity and the temperature constantly changing. All the task changing as well. I hate getting wet, too; I always carry an umbrella so the rain does not get me wet. I wholeheartedly agree @WillWellington, and I am diagnosed with Asperger's as well.
I shower when I need too , not everyday because that is just too much of a hastle. I think one aspect of it is because autism is a socially affecting condition we don't want people around much so we just forget that good personal hygiene is a thing other people place alot of value on, plus I have better things to do with my time . Plus if you shower every day you are stripping your skin of the oils it has and needs and you will have a weaker immune system because you are not used to bacteria , so being dirty is better for you in the long run.
For me, I really like being with people, so that’s not my reasoning, but I know a lot of autistic people feel the same way as you! And I so agree that it’s takes up so much time dor doing something we don’t enjoy 😅 Love how well thought out for comments was 👍🏻☺️
I personally love showering. It is so calming. I love the sound and the warm feeling of the water.
But afterwards I need to rest xD which some people find weird.
But I don't like to shave myself. I do it because I feel good afterwards but it can be exhausting sometimes.
I absolutely hate wearing make up which made me feel less girly. I honestly don't care anymore if people think of me in that way but it bothered me when I was younger. I forced myself to wear make up which stressed me out.
I think we all should take care of ourselves as good as we can and stop judging people for doing things differently.
As you said we don't have to shower everyday and we can wash ourselves even without taking a shower.
I have a question: I don't have social media anymore because I wanted to spend less time on the phone but now I want to learn more about autism.. what kind of social media should I use for connecting with like minded and autistic people?
Have a nice day y'all
This comment made me feel connected 💜. I understand where you are coming from. A lot of the time I sit down IN the shower because I Get so tired of it 😅.
I think it depends on what you’re looking for. I found a community in TH-cam, I got friends and stuff through here. But I use Instagram for all the autistic socialation now. And I’m in a lot of autistic fb-groups, but it’s centered around autism moms, but it’s a lot of support there. I feel like the hate is on Twitter, insta and tiktok. But that’s just my opinion. :)
@@WiwyWish Haha, omg same. I sit in my shower as well xD sometimes I just kind of "space out".
But I am in a state of my life where I realize that I have sensory issues and I just accept it. For example I bought the most comfortable bras ever last week and they are a life changer.
There is so much stuff we can do to feel more safe we just have to let the social standards and false expectations go and be our true authentic selve. That is what I believe right now.
You are right insta and twitter can be quite toxic sometimes. That is why I deleted it. Thank u for your honest answer and talking about this even if it is difficult
Yaaaas, I’ve never heard anyone else space out in the shower! It’s nice to here somebody feel and be the same way :)
I shower every other day not everyday since it dries my skin out so I put lotion on everytime I shower
I wash my hair every 7-10 days because it's super chemically treated! Dry shampoo is my friend. (It's also thin/fine, so every style holds better on 4th+ day hair.) I love BEING clean and scented stuff but loathe the in between state of being wet/dry and getting into and out of the bath. So I bathe every other day. I'm sedentary and housebound, so I am not even being active enough to smell like anything but perfume unless I am sweaty from having a panic attack, haha.
Omg, you queen, maybe I should just wait 10 days! I cannot do dry shampoo, my hair feels so weird.. Do you have any recommendations?(idk how to write that word 😅)
@@WiwyWish I kind of like the grit/slight ...tackiness (that's not the right word but I think you know what I mean) of dry shampoo - I've tried them all and most of them are the same. I'm not sure I could recommend (
Thanks for the help, I’ll try it out! I’ve actually wanted to color my hair silvergrey a long time! I love coloring my hair, except it being ruined 😅 Maybe I’ll cut of all of my hair soon! Kinda tired of dealing with it, eventho I really enjoy long hair!!
Showing daily is a relatively new concept (and it actually is bad for your hair) - historically only rich people could do this. I don't like the feeling of the shower water pelting my skin, so I shower every other day, although with covid going on I really don't see many people, so I haven't been showering on this schedule as regularly as I used to.
Right, historically we shouldn’t, that’s my new excuse to why I Don’t shower too often 😂 (I’m joking a Little bit)
Hi! Recently diagnosed with autism and adhd.. also hair stylist of almost 10 years👋🏻 there’s really no “right time” to wash your hair. Whenever clients ask me how often, I say however often fits your lifestyle and your needs.. but do not wash every day if you can help it! Over washing can cause dry scalp which gets confused for dandruff and you don’t want to get started down the anti dandruff product black hole if you don’t need to! One big tip that’s helped me out a lot: use dry shampoo at the end of your wash day, before you go to bed, it helps *prevent* oil build up while you sleep ❤️
I'm autistic, and I absolutely HATE showering and washing my hair!
Showering every day always seemed strange to me. If I'm among people, I force myself to do it every other day but when alone then why bother showering until it starts itching?
I hate showering and always have for the same reason as you and also because I don't like getting water in my eyes and ears. I also hate the way my fingers feel when I clip my nails so I avoid it as long as I can.
I don't like getting into or out of the warm wet feeling. While I'm there it's fine tho.
Me, too. I am diagnosed autistic and am tactile over-sensitive. Showering with its change in temperatures and the water on my face is extreme overload on the tactile sense for me. It gives me a lot of anxiety, too. I am going to try a handheld showerhead for more control, but I'm not sure what else I should do to enable me to get in at least 3 times a week.
I support individuals on the spectrum. Some of whom adore being in the bath or shower. Some hate it. Some despise clothing and some have favourite garments. It's frustratingly challenging, but we can all work together to accept people's individualities.
Right! It’s important to understand that if you’ve met one autistic person you’ve met one :)
Oh hullow!!! I like the enthusiastic intro /i greeting.
I love your energy!
And yeah, I fought my mom every single night as a kid when I had to wash my hair XD now it's just a time management issue. Unless I have an exact rhythm and routine, it doesn't get done.
Thank you for making this video. It makes me understand my teen more and also why I hated showering as a teen.
Fun fact, showering every day isn't as necessary as you might think. And neither is using lots of shampoo, etc every time. So showering every few days, or showering every day, but not doing a "deep" shower every time, is an ok way to do it. And showering less can actually lead to there being less oil in your hair, etc, since showering a lot trains the body to make more oil than it needs (since there is a reason it's there, and showering gets rid of it, so the body begins to make more and more), so showering less will eventually lead to you actually not needing to shower so often.
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thank you for sharing this (even if its 2 yrs old) - i feel the exact same way about this as you and i feel a lot better about knowing im not alone on this feeling..
Thanks, i honestly hate it, i have mild Aspergers and find showering and hair washing such a horrid waste of time. I shower twice a week at most but I need to shower more I know I stink a bit at times but you know what it is what it is and at least I’m not going days on end.
You have beautiful skin, love very pale skin. Stunning.
Thank you for sharing! I’m the same!! I don’t like showers either :( I prefer baths because I can choose what parts of me are wet and and at when. Plus I don’t always want my hair to get wet, and I feel rushed in a shower. And I can do other relaxing things in a bath that I can’t in a shower, like read or play on my phone or something.
I’d rather put off washing my hair too!
Omg you're so lovelyyy, I'm really happy to have found your channel! I binge-watched a few of your video, starting with this one :p I throught you had like thousands of subscribers at first. Also I spent a year arguing wih my familly why I don't think it's necessary to shower everyday so this really one spoke to me
I hope your channel will grow, all the best darling ⭐✨✨
Thank you ❤️ So fun you enjoy my content and meee ☺️Right! We don’t have to shower EVERY day 👏🏻
And thanks again :)
@@WiwyWish I do enjoy uuu. Yes !!! you're welcome ! :)❤️
Awww, you so sweet 💜 I enjoy u 2 ☺️
My thoughts exactly
You are my hero for making this video lol
I spent an entire day during my beautiful Thanksgiving holiday lying in bed because I can't get myself to tick off the hardest thing on my to-do list, personal hygiene. When I have a structure, I can keep up with personal hygiene, sort of, or at least I can say to myself "oh, I didn't shower because I didn't have the time in the morning" and then just go about my day feeling presentable. It is the weekends and holidays that are the hardest for me, and they really made me realize how hard showering it is for me, comparing to other things I do that neurotypicals may consider hard.
I'm autistic and I hate showering everyday I know how you feel.
Thank you for this!
I'm autistic and I don't mind taking showers! Showering and brushing my teeth is part of my morning routine!
I hate showers as well. To make my hair last longer before needing a shower, I use dry shampoo. So sometimes I can go a week or two between needing to wash my hair properly.
Do you have some tips on which dry shampoos? Because a lot of them makes my head feel weird and stuff, so I di wanna use it, but I love the idea of having it. :)
@@WiwyWish I use this kind. I don't like most hair products, but I don't mind this one.
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Well done.
I’m not alone. x
I found you recently, I feel the same :D I hate shower because the same sensory issues.
im watching this after showering for comfort lmao. showers are hells for me n m not even sure if im autistic. the transition from being dry to wet, the temp change, the energy required to clean, the lights i have to have on if im at someone's else house, the sounds, everything sucks. ive done everything i can to make my showers more comfortable for me and they still suck.
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Omg thank you 🥺❤️
Great video. My son is autistic and he doesn't like to wash that often, especially his hair. This helps me understand better, but honestly I don't like to shower everyday either but it's just cause i'm lazy lol
What I don't like is bathrooms in general. Loud amplifying echo chambers that melt my brain.
*searching youtube for help how to hate showering less for precisely these reasons while i sit in my robe and towel putting off showering* lol. for real, thanks for this video - i always feel so self-conscious about my hygiene and i really am so so uncomfortable with the whole process but i agree i LIKE to be clean, i don't like to be dirty, but i hate every sensory thing and every change involved in it. exhausting lol. anyway, from one adhd and autistic who hates showering every day to another, thank you lol
I really understand you ❤️ It’s not easy, and we are really told that we are disgusting if we don’t shower enough, so it’s a lot of shame that comes with it also! Love that mire people than me feel this way! ☺️
@@WiwyWish yas definitely! it's so dumb lol if i don't bother you or stink, whatever! my therapist has recommended wipes to use but that sounds even worse because they always leave that slime. anyway, just found your channel and i love your content!! you're very inspiring to me :)
Hvis det er noen trøst, så dusjer jeg max hver 3-4 dag (med mindre jeg trener) , og det går heeeelt fint 😘
Det ER en trøst!
I hate showering and I get away with people not noticing. I'm trying to get to a 2 times a week goal. But it also plays into my procrastination on doing laundry and it's a vicious cycle 😢
I actually don't mind about showering this bad but some things I have to do like plan when I am going to wash my hair and it takes ages because it doesent always work the way I like because 7 days a week is not even so it gets messed up sometimes BC I like to have my hair clean for certain days when I'm doing things also when my hair is dirty I will not go anywhere or want to change BC It feels terrible and I do hate about showering is putting condishoner on my hair even when it's just the ends it just feels terrible the way my hands rub on my hair but then after I wash it feels alot better Is anyone the same?
It's crazy to wash your hair every day. When I hear that people do that I think two things:either they have the enviable trait of loving showers OR they are a people pleaser. I wish there was more awareness that there are other ways to clean oneself than showering every time. When you get married it helps--your spouse can smell your clothes and tell you if they stink. I only wash my hair once a week with detergent free shampoo.
the same happens to me, i hate taking showers and other hygiene activities for the same reason as yours.
hey thank you so much for doing this video, i am also Autistic, and i have a channel on here, where i talk all things Autism, this is so well needed for society to understand. I understand the feeling about water, it feels prickly on my skin, so instead I have a bath. Looking forward to more content from you x
Thank you! Love that you have a channel! Good for more people to raise awareness, keep going 💜 I actually just took a bath ☺️👏🏻
@@WiwyWish hey ive subscribed to your channel :) ive been on here 3 years x
3 years! That’s so nice! It’s people like you who make people see that autism is a thing :) And thank you 💜 For both watching me and being open about your autism with the world ☺️
0 dislikes as I should be keep up the videos 🙌🙌
I completely relate
I love you so much I really needed to hear this (/ _ ; )
I’ve been feeling like a freak of nature for so long now
I’ve been feeling really sad lately because of this reason. It’s always been an issue I’ve dealt with but recently it’s been on my mind a lot since it’s getting close to that time again and I haven’t brought myself to do it yet
There’s so much I wish I could say in this comment just to get it off my chest since I don’t really have anyone I can talk to about this kind of stuff(and even if I did no one would really understand it) but kinda like a thing you mentioned in the video, I fear what people might say or think(since it’s very frowned upon in this society)
In many ways it’s not something that can really be openly discussed(especially online where people are the harshest) because the judgment you’ll get for it, combined with the lack of desire to try to understand or hear you out on something most people are just so instantly put off by
It feels lonely being like this and dealing with this especially when no one really understands because it’s something that is as easy and simple as breathing for them(when it’s not for you/me/us)
It’s been on my mind so much lately and like a sign from god or the universe a video popped up about hygiene and autism when looking up something that wasn’t even that earlier today
I watched it hoping to get something from it but it didn’t really provide me much so I was back to feeling down again
Then tonight I ran out of things to watch on TH-cam(that was distracting my mind from this subject to cheer me up) and it started to creep back into my mind and I decided to see what I could find on TH-cam about this
Your video was the first video to pop up
For the first time IN MY LIFE I don’t feel alone about this
I’ve been feeling sad about this but I’ve been pushing it to the back of my mind and trying not to let the emotions get to me so much but seeing this video just made me cry. Everything finally came pouring out
Thank you so much for making this video 🙏
Thank you for opening up and being vunerable ❤️ Thank you so much, you made me wanna start make videos again ❤️
😊🤭😝
I'm happy happy happy now and I have autism
Most dermatologists agree that modern western people shower too often, disrupting the natural microbiome that keeps the skin healthy.
I find showers, or even rain therapeutic. Maybe I'm an imposter in this Asperger's game. Sorry if this sounds dismissive, but you have very good verbal skills, by the way.
I bet you smell wonderful, but the way I’m also on the spectrum and I like showering, I love smelling great. I haven’t washed my hair for ages.
I HATE to shower!
Recently I only didn't shower one day.
Because I was to ill to get out of bed.
It is good you talk about this.
But this video won't get many views on the alga rhymnn.
Your meltdown video will get more.
That be naughty you could do a whole series on meltdown videos.
The problem is with the thing it is a meltdown everyday almost.
But I pleased for the video.
A comedy said the same this fear of germs.
You need greams to keep a strong immune system what happens if a pandemic happens.
Which it has.
"Why do I have to shower everyday?"
He said on stage.
I think I’ll make videos I think are needed, and not what the stats say I should make videos about. But I will definitely make more videos about meltdowns ☺️ Thank you for the tips! And THANK YOU for waiting for this video :)
AutiSIMSara Yeah, it's you tube it is a messed up platform.
You have to pick topic which get you views.
But Witt meltdown everyone has them.
But it seems it more pressure meltdown with autism.
Some idiot NT it autistic adult acting like toddlers throwing their toys out the pram.
But it can take a week to hit a meltdown.
Toddlers it can take seconds.
Connor another you tuber said maybe we need to find another word for meltdown when it's related to autism.
A emotional episode autism individual called it once.
Am autistic. I hate showering too. I maybes shower once or twice a week. I try to avoid doing it as much as possible. If I got to go somewhere like an appointment or shopping then yes, I will make an effort but doing it really tires me out mentally. I can't remember the last time I washed my hair though, at least a couple of months. I usually wear a shower cap to keep my hair dry in the shower. My hair isn't too greasy. I should wash my hair but it just adds an extra 10 to 15 minutes in the shower doing it. Just can't be bothered. Back in my childhood before we had gas central heating we had a bath once a week and the bath water was shared because it cost so much money to heat up a tank of water.
No, nobody will tell you that you stink. People are too polite. A parent might but not a stranger. I wouldn't tell a stranger they stink might get beaten up for it.
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My dad bullies me a lot for my hygiene and yea I try to keep up but it’s never good enough he expects me to be 100% 247 and if I can’t keep up I’m disgusting a disappointment and I keep trying to get better at it but sometimes I just can’t Should he be more understanding or do I just need to try harder?
I love having baths, its just if i have the energy to have one lol
I just need a reminder to do the task and the step by step instructions.
I want people to say directly you stink. If you don't say you stink like body odor I won't know. Then tell me to shower. If I stink like I fart just tell me I fart and go to bathroom. If I poop my diaper say you poop your diaper lets get clean up. If you don't tell me I am wet diaper then I won't know like today I wet through my diaper today because I didn't know i was wet. Just say as is. I won't be upset because you are saying the truth and you help me with my hygiene and it makes you happy and me happy so I don't have skin issues or body odor.
Including in social skills and behaviors and many other skills with multiple steps.
I like to feel clean and and I don't like the smell and my skin feels yucky if I don't shower.
The sensory issues of the shower is hard to cope with. The part with shower with too much pressure like after they fixed the pipes down the street at dads house made it hurt a bit. The sun or bright lights. The small space so having a shower chair was helping me and the Ballance. I wish to God people saw that before and got me a chair. I thought it was for people who can't stand or walk. Then to have the shower head come off and to have a way to turn off the water to soap up. The best part is the flower scent stuff is the part I want. The hot water bothers me. The steam bother me. Them hot water to cold air in winter so hard for me. I hate water in my face and ears. The part is bubble bath I am in water and more comfortable for me. The thing is I can't get in a bath tub.
at the end of the video you made me think of the comedian Patti Harrison
I have to search her up!
I am the same way because I have Autism too. I feel the same way about what other people say about US AUTISM people. It’s not my style either.
You are so cute and you remind me of Aurora! ☺️💛
Aaaah thank you!! Aurora who? Artist or Disney princess? Both are very cool ☺️
AutiSIMSara I was thinking the artist!
Autistic people smell sweet but can't smell rancid. Best thing to do is shower every other night or every night if your body gets smelly faster. Scrub the dirt off and lather up your hair and rinse with clean water. Autistic people have smell sensitivities, and we try to accomodate them, however other people who have strong smell sense can smell it and it can make it really tough for some of us. Person who is sensitive to smells, who has ocd, etc. It affects them. Please lets all accomdate each other and just take a shower every other day at least.
Stylish videos, your english seems perfect now. You know napoleon told josephine not shower for 4 days when he was coming home, thats Hot, seriously!
Thank you
NORGE!
Hello fellow Norwegian.
Talking helped me but been plateau diminished returns
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I bet if you lived in Florida you would want to jump in the shower 2 or 3 times a day
Idk about that. Was in Africa for 5 weeks and did not want to shower more than every 2/3 day. 😂 But maybe!
You're cute :) btw