If your addicted/alcoholic loved one tries to lie, manipulate, or gaslight you, DO THIS!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 8 ก.ย. 2024
- If your loved one is addicted to or dependent on alcohol or drugs, it can be hard to know what to do. In this video, we're going to talk about how to deal with an addicted loved one who tries to lie, manipulate, or gaslight you.
If you're feeling overwhelmed and confused, this video is for you. We'll discuss how to deal with an addicted loved one and what to do if they start to manipulate you. It's important to have a plan of attack if your loved one starts to behave in a harmful way. By following these tips, you'll be able to protect yourself and get through this difficult situation!
⚠️These are educational videos and should not be considered therapy or advice specifically for your situation.
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I have to tell my super investigator self to mind her own business a lot lol. Thank you for just making sense of this all. Also, for telling a bit about your story. It is so helpful to be reminded that we are not in this alone.
20 yrs,I'm a pro.. but no more! I'm sick of it, and I'm leaving! Prisoner no more. Make a choice.
I left. I'm glad I did. We still talk. I got to revisit crazy with him today and remembered what that was like. I met a new man am engaged, moved (lost my gorgeous house) but I'm not walking on egg shells and doubting myself and I'm eating! Imagine that!
"Guilty" is my go-to. Exactly as you describe. I feel bad for the person when he is having a hard time, even knowing his own choices and behaviors are putting him in that desperate situation.
Thank you, Amber. I really needed to hear this today. I just had to put an intervention order against my son. We have been try for ten years to help him and support him. His lost his marriage and his children l cannot do it any more to old. His 43 years old, but in saying that l feel very guilty for doing that l just have to live with the guilt l still love him l hope he will get better.
I’m in the same situation with my 42 yr old son
I just became a supporter of your channel. You are an incredible communicator. This is not a new subject for me ( I grew up with addicted parents, grandparents, spouse) & at nearly 70 y/o - I’d like to make the ‘buck stop here’ before my 3 adult sons wake up one day when life gets real difficult ( as it will) & find alcohol or some substance to ‘ make the pain go away’. It’s GOT to be in their DNA in a powerful way.
Oh, and I was also an RN for a couple decades.♥️😇🙏😊
Hi Bridget, Welcome to our little community. So glad you're here💓💓💓
@@PutTheShovelDown thank you so much!!!
I am at the point where I need to lay down the law. After going through this with her sister, I'm exhausted. So sick of this!! I'll be alright though.
I am supporting you Amber. I'm a member as of yesterday. TY please never stop what you're doing and I am learning and spreading the word
Same here
Yeah! So glad to have you in our little community, Liliana!
You explain the buttons they push so well ! 😬👏
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Sharing your experience helps so much. We don’t always see the underlying reasons for our reactions. Family disease for sure.
You’ve helped me so much!
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At this point I am feeling that I have to live apart from my husband for a while, because after 4 years I am a wreck mentally and emotionally. How is that possible to get in control of myself if you need to live next to each other every day. Hopefully my decision will cure me and help him to follow up🍂
I am in the same boat. :(
@@jaredmliss7642 stay strong🤍
Same boat, with one toddler and three months pregnant. Currently setting boundaries and not being in the same house.
I have been watching your videos alot lately!! Your amazing and so knowledgeable…. Thank you for sharing your videos. They have been very helpful. I believe my daughter has an alcohol problem, breaks my heart, but I’m learning how to approach the situation and getting a better understanding how she may be feeling etc.. so thank you for helping me understand addiction and giving me the tools to help her get better. ❤
You're so welcome, Renee. I'm just glad these videos are helpful for you!
DARVO......WALK AWAY !
This is sad, I relate to all of these topics.
Man I wish I had your videos when i was married to the alcoholic. We stayed friends. He just turned up the drama though and it made me revisit these things. I forgot how it was to live with that. I left. Took the hit to my life started over. Now he hasn't started over and he can't take it to see I'm happy. I feel bad for him but at somw point I need to stop. I don't know why I still feel bad. I think I think it's not totally a choice they make. But we all have to do hard things. You can't sit and die with them like in Blue Velvet. It's not romantic. At one point many years ago, I thought maybe it was.
Thank you.
Welcome 😁
So very well said!
Thank you, Dawn!
I'm like a broken record saying I will support your recovery but not you killing yourself and I am trying to live by this.
WHY do they do this though. What is the purpose behind this behaviour? What is the benefit to them that's greater than hurting the person who loves them?
Amber I'm been watching your videos for awhile. I've been trying to follow your guidance. Your videos have literally been my saving grace. I want to know if calmly ignoring my alcoholic in his alcoholic state is the trick. It's so sad and frustrating and hurtful and annoying. I just want to call him out on the drinking and him lying about drinking and not going to physical therapy to go back to work.
Hey Dana, it's part of the formula. Be sure you're doing the other parts too.
Hi Amber! I just have a question. My loved one has been sober since February 15th. Hes in a sober living home about 100 miles from us. I just wanted to ask if the fear and anxiety I have about their possible relapse will ever leave? It is my understanding that relapse is part of recovery and its inevitable but I have this black relapse cloud hanging over me that cause me to feel extreme anxiety and frustration. Does this feeling ever go?
For me it got easier, less consuming. I'd have 'hunches' and was always right sadly. Then out of the blue he went off the wagon after 2 years sober. I wasn't shocked one bit.
Oh that’s great we can’t even count on our relationships that are bloodlines. Great now I know not to call anybody. Thank you so much for your advice. I think I would rather talk to a tree. It might give me better advice than you.
I love her! 💞 Amber is right.
Well said. I can't agree with the enabling either