This week is the saddest in my life. We meet when I was 18, we married at age 20. We divorced after 23 years together, but our love for each other never stopped. I was always there for him and he was for me throughout our 50 yrs knowing each other.. it was a love that remained always. He loss his fight last Sunday, and passed away. My heart is filled with so much pain.. I will miss us forever. I am now left with wonderful memories. I try each day to think of a past memory of him, it makes smile..tell someone you love them as much as you can.. I know he knew how much I loved him!!
Oh Susan....I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You met your soulmate and that love lasted a lifetime...and beyond. My story is so much like yours. I will always love my ex-husband..he has been so ill these past years and I like to think my love for him has helped him cope with his circumstances...but his love helped me too. It's so hard...please know you are in my thoughts....be well and be good to yourself, Susan
I was blessed to have a husband who loved me for 53 years. Now I’m alone after his death, and I do miss his presence and his love. I always felt loved by him so I am grateful I experienced a loving nurturing relationship. I’m sad you have not felt the security of deep abiding love. You have worked hard to heal from the hurt you’ve experienced, and I believe you have helped women who are struggling with similar issues. You are a blessing to many women.
So glad you had all those years together. My husband has been gone for 4 yrs and I still miss him so. 32 years with him and we lived each other. He ended up with many health issues and Parkinson’s too. I was caregiver for 3 years and it took a toll on us both. We have our lovely memories. Take care Kathy. God bless.
@@cherylthepearl4085 My husband retired a few years ago and we both realized some mild symptoms he experienced (loss of balance, muscle issues) were apparently Parkinsons, but he never went to Dr because he was otherwise healthy, now retired he is totally disabled, walkers to get around, cant stand up and it is Parkinsons and progressed rapidly, so I know what you mean, It is hard for this 6'4 rough tough diesel mechanic to need help with anything, but we are adapting, "for better or for worse, rich or poor, in sickness and health" and we meant it.
@@cherylthepearl4085 it is sad that things ended the way that they did. You have more good memories than bad, and that is a blessing. I wish you the best.
But having that wonderful relationship wasn't Magic. There were many reasons why you had that relationship and I'm sure one of the reasons is because you worked at it. Marriage is not a fairytale. And we are still worthy even if we no longer have a husband. My mother lost my dad after almost 60 years and she misses him so much. He was the love of her life. She's redefining her life and having fun with her little ladies in her complex and doing little lunches. She's visiting her nieces. And she does not want another man in her life. He was everything to her and she is going to enjoy her life until it is her time when she can rejoin him again.
I was madly in love with my husband when I met him. It was romance. Now we have been married 62 years. It's not the romance now. I love him more now than the beginning. He helps me around the house and I know he cares for me. It isn't lovey dovey but knowing he cares. He isn't perfect an neither am I.
"Under the Tuscan Sun". Such a wonderful movie with Diane Lane. Love, divorce, an Italian adventure that led to new & interesting friends & a happy ending.
When I was going through my divorce I watched "Under the Tuscan Sun" over and over. The first part in the lawyer's office was me so I would always cry. The scenery is so beautiful.
Under the Tuscan Sun and It’s Complicated are 2 movies which I absolutely love! If I cannot sleep 💤 I watch one of them. I also love For Love of the Game (such a heart wrenching love story) which happens to end well.
I’m a little older than you, married a couple times, I’d like someone to go to dinner with, call once in awhile. But, I don’t want to belong to any man again, I like my alone time. I also have a sweet doggie to keep me company. My family thinks I’m too attractive and have a lot to give to someone, not to find someone special, but we will see. Thanks for a wonderful, thought provoking video! Hi Dezi, you little sweetheart!🐶🥰
I have changed my beliefs over the years, since I have 'grown up' and matured. The word 'love' is a verb, it's something you do - it's not something that happens to you. If you choose to love someone or something, it's entirely up to you. As we age, the need to 'love' someone for how they look tends to wane - and that is because we no longer see them as a potential partner to produce children. Now that I have retired, I have no desire to change anything about my life to accommodate someone else's needs. Especially if that someone is not mature enough to meet their own needs. I choose to love books, music, travel, my family, my garden, a cup of coffee, a pot of tea. What I love is endless. This idea of 'falling in love' to me is rooted in fairytales. Love is a verb - you decide to do it, or you don't. Probably not a popular idea, but if you 'get it' - you don't spend wasted years looking for something elusive and unmeasurable.
well if that works for you that is great...wasn't looking to fall in love but when it happened I realized the difference between loving someone and falling in love. There is a difference ! I am glad I know that difference ...but wish I didn't because I can never have him.
@@wandalanders8700 yes.. I know what you mean.. I've been stuck in a "loveless marriage" for 25 years.. I thought I was doing fine just by focussing on "self love", and my love for nature etc.. Roll forward some years thinking I was coping well ... when 1 morning I wake up and I feel totally lost and empty.. Although I gain respite from nature and all the other things I "love"... there was a gaping hole in my heart that not even my own children could fill... And that hole has always been there.. I've just been too busy to notice... That hole is there because 30 years ago I too had found my "soul mate" and lost him because of circumstances.. When you find that person.. it's like you have found your other half that complements you.. It's something you cannot put into words.. It's a feeling so intense that it can break you.. You can simply BE with each other and KNOW exactly what the other is feeling or thinking.. It's a connection that is incomparable to anything else and it is totally out of your control. It can be a blessing and a curse. As tough as I like to think I am, being like these ladies commenting here... when you experience that level of "love", you see life with a different perspective...
It is such a gift to have your honesty about life's issues, Susan. I am 65 and am going through a reflection time these days. I married my sweetheart at 18 and lost him 5 years ago after 41 years of marriage. I still cry when I see older couples holding hands and miss that so much. Sometimes I feel brave to think that I am making it on my own while other times I feel like I just cannot do this. I miss the simple gesture of holding hands. Even so, I cherish my alone time and have made my home a place of beauty and peace, which helps to soothe a broken heart. May your heart's desire be fulfilled, Susan, for you are surely a woman of deep sensitive thoughts and you & Desi deserve the best. Love to you both
Patty Allen You are not alone. I feel your pain when seeing older couples holding hands. It makes me so sad..even though I lost my husband at a relatively young age. It's been 27 years; I'll never stop missing him. Many blessings to you! 💖
Patty, I feel your grief but as a woman who has never married (not yet anyway, at 55) I also feel happy for you that you have known such love. My parents have been together over 60 years, so I have seen that love in action. You and they are very blessed. I guess I am blessed in other ways but I still haven't given up hope of finding big love for myself. Bless you dear 💖🤗🕊️
Rosey C - I am so, so sorry to hear you lost your love so many years ago. God Bless you and may you find joy, peace & love in your life. WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE !!!
@@lynnea286 I appreciate your words so much. I am so glad to read you are a woman of HOPE for your future !!! WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE ! MAY HE GIVE YOU THE DESIRES IF YOUR HEART !!! GOD BLESS YOU !! 💖
@@roseyc.5846 Rosey, It saddens me to read you lost your sweetheart so many years ago. We will always miss our sweethearts but we know that our love goes on into eternity. God Bless You !!!
You are such a romantic, lovely person! 🌹🌹 When I was young, I so wanted to be pretty, but I was not. I set myself up for disappointment many times. Then, I just gave up on men and concentrated all my time between work and going nights to the university. I found many men attractive but I had to get my college degree and work because the rest of my life wasn’t working. Finally, I found a college professor who wasn’t particularly good looking, but he was VERY smart. Anyhow, we started dating and got married in 1989. I went all the way through night school from remedial math to graduate. Now I have the greatest husband in the world, and a Masters Degree to boot. I am so grateful.
I am 63 and starting law school soon. I feel confident I will find love while I am pursuing meaning. People get ideas in their heads as to what life looks like at certain ages. I so reject this. And I am all the better for it.
@Sheryl Chapman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Saying that your husband "wasn't particularly good looking" sounds unkind and does not necessarily need to be said! Everything else sounds lovely!💗
One thing I’ve learned is that you can be in a relationship and still feel alone. A relationship doesn’t fix that feeling. Meditation and gratitude help tremendously and so does being curious and interested in life. ❤️
I had divorced and was happy to be on my own, I spent time in worship with my savior. One day this tall beautiful man showed up on my doorstep. I wasn't ready for anyone, anywhere, anyhow. God had other plans, 15yrs later we are still best friends, great lovers, kind spirits together. Most importantly we put all trust in God. God wants more for us than we want for ourselves. My advice= There are very few things in life that are worth having, you are the only one who can make yourself one of those things. God loved you enough that he created you perfectly. He loved you enough that he sacrificed his only begotten son for you.
@@kristinburton4953 God has answered so many of my prayers and guided me through life that I know better than to think life just unfolds randomly. PEACE!
Susan, you are truly a woman, very feminine. I watch a lots of videos. The women on them, don't show feminine things like you do. Through your videos, it has made me rechecks my home decor and my clothing. Thank you for waking me up, you are the mirror that makes me see me. Thank you Sis.
Same for me, I am changing both decor, and will be also with clothing. I am Susanizing my apt now, starting with flowers. Found some really gorgeous ones that actually feel, and look real.
Susan, I just finished watching the movie, based upon your recommendation. I had never seen it and am so glad that I now have. I met the love of my life at 42. I was always the hard-working academic who received accolades for that, but never felt particularly attractive. He made me feel as if I were the most beautiful woman in the world. We married soon thereafter and had the fairy tale romance for twenty years until he passed from cancer five years ago. In the final weeks of his life, one day he looked at me with those bedroom eyes and said, “You are just as beautiful as the day I met you.” Once in while, when we least expect it, love gives us a fairy tale. It was such an incredible romance that I doubt any other would ever measure up to it, but I feel so blessed to have experienced such a pure, unconditional, and all-encompassing love that I think that feeling will last me a lifetime.
For me it’s “Prince of Tides” another Streisand movie. So I returned to my Southern home and my Southern life. It is in the presence of my wife and children that I acknowledge my life, my destiny, I am a teacher, a coach and a well-loved man. And it is more than enough.
Great movie and Streisand should have won Best Director for it too! But Hollywood just wasn’t ready to acknowledge what anyone with half a brain could see...an amazing woman.
Yes, single may be lonely , but tougher still is married and lonely. After all, you’re right there, and yet ignored, or worse yet passed by for the affections of Beer and TV. 🙄
Thank you for saying this. I relate to that Lauren Becall moment so much and I’m only 44. If I ever find myself free to choose again, I will not ever settle.again. Not ever. I love you and I love that you went to this vulnerable place for us to feel that our feelings are not uncommon.. 💖🙏. You’re my favorite.
When you spoke about Rose, saying she was not beautiful enough... tears began to stream down my face, those words must have triggered something deep inside of me..............
I did the same! I was the ugly duckling. I used to wonder many years ago in high school if the pretty girls knew how lucky they were. Did they KNOW? How did it feel to have it ALL. And most of all, they didn't know how lucky because they didn't know what it felt like to be ugly. I hope this makes sense. Hard to describe. Now I feel more beautiful than ever. Wish I'd had a gran of this confidence back then! Life.
Susan, these are my favorite videos that you create. You're so honest in conveying what so many of us are feeling and experiencing right along side you. I love the meaningful, emotional and weighty topics. They touch me and make me confront things that I don't share with others. Even my best friends and those closest to me. I come away from videos like this one finding myself opening up more emotionally and letting the walls I've built up around me come down a few more inches. I thank you for that.
I was in love and married and it went horribly wrong. I remarried in my 40s. I do not love him the same way for sure. And I don't think I could ever love as I did when I was a young woman. Together, we are good company, we each do our part, it is safe, nice, peaceful, and it is comfortable. And when he holds me, I noticed, a long time ago, that I always end up with a smile on my face. I love this life more than being in love with someone who is immature, only wants to play and cannot offer any security.
I wish I could be comfortable and OK with something like that but for me unless it's a fiery passionate love that takes over everything at first then settles into what you describe , but unless its a passionate love from both ends then I can't be in that situation, feels like I'm deeply missing something. I need that passion from both sides, it's like air to me... To me personally, this kind of all consuming love relationship is the most satisfying in life and gives the greatest happiness... I've tried to "settle" for security and safety, but without passion it feels dead and pointless to me... I need to deeply love & want and be deeply loved & wanted in return, nothing less will make me feel as alive, at peace, content or like I've found IT. I'll give it all I have then. If he does too. 😌 ✨️
I fell in love twice in my life. Now that I have gotten older, I am beyond picky. I do not think that I can fall in love again. The older men online are not physically appealing at all. I do not want to give up, but it is not happening for me. I hate being alone and I want a life partner so bad, but I cannot find what I am looking for, so until I find him, I will stay with my soulmutt.
No one will ever love you like a dog. No one. For me, they are all I could ever want for love. If someone comes along that’s great, but a dog needs you & is grateful for you every second of every day. Nothing brings me such joy, love & purpose.
I can relate to how you feel. I’m 65 and I’ve done the online dating too and even though I’am in really good physical shape and take care of myself it seems like the women are very picky, but maybe I’am too. I can imagine what you are finding online. I look around at guys that are my age and they look physically terrible with scruffy beards and don’t seem to have any pride in their appearance.
My beloved died five years ago. We were married almost 45 years and together for almost 50. I admire that you still believe in love. As for myself, I have taken this time to concentrate on loving me, You have made me feel that I am not walking alone.
My dear husband of 41 years passed 5 years ago also and I still miss him terribly. As Susan said, waking up in his arms once more would be such a wonderful gift. God Bless you as I know the loss you feel.
I lost the love of my life last March and I’m struggling so much with the loss. We were together 40 years, married 35. We were madly in love with each other every day we were together and I’d give anything to feel his arms around me, to hear his voice, to look into his eyes, to smell him. I was in love with the smell of him. I miss everything about him. I know I’ll never love another because our love was so complete that nothing could compare to it. But it hurts to be alone, too. I hate living alone. My heart hurts every day I’m without him. I know how you ladies feel. We need to start a club to learn to live without them and still feel fulfilled, but I don’t know how long I’ll have to wrestle with the grief I feel. I think maybe a “club” would help; you think?
Lynn, you are not alone and yes, after the shock and a move, I started a Grief Group which has now been running for several years three times a week. I highly recommend attending one and, if not available, start one! Much Love 💕
I read the book and watch the movie Anna Karenina, learned Don't confuse lust for love. Lust can easily fade. Strong long-term relationships are built on more than just physical connection. Emotional, intellectual & spirtual connection create deeper levels of love.
I know what it's like when you love someone - who doesn't love you ...😢 That sentence is the 'highlight' of my life - at least for the last 10 years! And I long to have someone who will be with me, and in whose arms I will wake up every morning ...☀ Thank you, Susan for your kindness and beauty, your gently words and soul. Many regards to you and friends of your channel ❤❄
Oh.. I waited all week for this! There are three TH-cam channels carrying me through emotionally just now. You (of course), Beau of the Fifth Column and Ed Trevors. You are such a gift, Susan. Thank you for helping open eyes, hearts and souls. I was a widow for 28 years before meeting and marrying my true love at 51. With age brings the realization that beauty is so very much more than just the outer aesthetic. There is always the possibility of love, no matter our age. Thanks once again to you, for you.
Thank you Teresa for telling me this....I am so happy you met your soulmate...I think we all have a true love and it makes me wonder if love isn't just good timing! Love you and thank you for being here! Susan & Desi
I think having someone as we age is nice and also fraught with heartache when one passes. Married 25 years and find myself wondering who is going to take care of whom in our old age. Although only 58 and much life left to live, it is something I think about often. I work with the elderly and it is sad at times when family doesn’t step up and care for them and they are often forgotten with no one to love and care for them. Susan your life, from this view, seems warm and cozy. Much to appreciate and enjoy. Surround yourself with good friends. I think you have learned a lot in the past 10 years of being single. I have a good life, but honestly I would love to have your beauty!
@presta graver. Your post was a comfort to me. I’m 59, and sometimes I feel like I worry too much about old age and death, and feel like I’m being morbid. My husband is 9 years older, at 68. We’ve been together 40 years. Oops, 41. I worry about us getting old. Getting sick. One of us ending up alone. I feel sometimes like I’m wasting the present by worrying about the future. I’m working on it, and I hope I can change my mindset. Doesn’t help that we have no children, and I moved my mom in with us because she needs us at 80, and I refuse to have her in a nursing home, so now that I’ve brought that up, I’m sure that’s what makes me worry. Lol.
@@Mexicobeanpole I am glad my post was a comfort to you! Bless you for bringing your Mom into your home to live with you. Nothing better than giving of yourself to help forget your own troubles! Enjoy this season in her life and yours.
Hi Susan, Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt thoughts with us. I am confident that there is someone wonderful out there for you to love. I remember the movie the Mirror Has Two Faces. I love it too! I was single at the time and like you pushing into my 40s. I had never been married. That movie really touched my heart and gave me hope. Then I bumped into a man at the airport and what ya know! We wound up dating and getting married! I loved the song from the movie because my husband and I went for coffee!! In any event, I highly recommend the movie "All That Heaven Allows" which is a 1955 romance film (it's a serious drama not a comedy) starring Jane Wyman and Rock Hudson. It's about a well-to-do widow and a younger landscape designer falling in love. It holds a special place in my heart because I married a man much younger than me (we've been married 20+ years now). I love this movie because I think it really shows the tenderness of real love no matter what ages the people are. Plus it gives hope to older women who have not yet married, or are divorced or widowed. Thank you again for all you do and share. You are an absolute delight! Love and God Bless, Mary
. I loved this video, Miss Susan ..I have seen that movie....And I understood it very well, .....every LTR , and my marriage , I was always with a younger man. ..It is a wonderful movie. I am 66 years young , and At this stage of life.....I do still want the passion. the Valentines, ( maybe not the chaos,lol...) but I dont want to settle for something that is " OK" when there is Life yet to be lived....Love yet to be demonstrated ....I am - and always have been- the " Hopeful Romantic"..... because I want to be a HOPEFUL Romantic, not a ' Hopeless One" ( and I pray no one takes offense to that, and will understand what I am meaning !) ...There are a number of good movies to suggest.....I loved " Murphys Romance " ; " A walk in The Clouds"; " How Stella Got her Groove Back".... " The Notebook" ; " Picnic " ( I adore the Old movies, I am just that kind of woman...)
This was the movie I thought about when Susan asked for suggestions on movies to discuss...”All That Heaven Allows”! I saw this one recently...a touching story!
I think you may have overlooked one important point. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! It's a beautiful gift that God has given us. We are all fortunate that we are not cloned.
Yes, many of us feel like you do. Not feeling like we could love someone like one should be loved; but also longing to have that special love. Your beautiful, Inside and outside. You are loved.
I know a couple that I admire very much. He is one of the most handsome men ever and she isn't what most people would perceive as attractive, but he does and so do I. She doesn't fuss over herself, but yet her personality, wit and the confidence she emits make her so very attractive and he loves her like crazy and so do I. I've always been a bit jealous of the fact that she doesn't feel the need to "fix" herself up to feel good about herself. My favorite romantic movie is Moonstruck because it isn't too deep or sappy. It has my favorite love line ... "Do you love him, Loretta? - Ma, I love him awful." Love to you and your darling little Desi! Laurie
I just celebrated my 47th anniversary a couple days ago, and I have been Blessed to never have had to worry about being loved or worrying I was "not enough", and I mean that....never. I have a couple of things going on in my life that are worrying me to pieces and today I just had to get "out of my head" so I went outside and started working, I raked, cleaned, swept, raked more, took care of the feral cats, picked up things, and then realized a few hours had passed, so back in house to clean up and start dinner, my husband is totally disabled after retirement and he was sitting on the couch, I sat by him for a minute and said out loud "I am never going to be like the ladies I see on t.v...all pulled together, hair and nails done, dressed smart," I am like the little kid late to school, shoes untied, glasses askew, shirt untucked, dirt on my pants from the garden, acorns or a feather in my pocket form outside, and on and on, and he just looked at me and leaned over and kissed me on the cheek and said "your a doll" and about made me cry.....
Not an obvious romantic tale but: One of my favorites: “Scent of a Woman”. It’s about choices we make, how we evolve, how we care for others and how we live our life. It’s beautiful and you will love the tango scene.
My favorite line is Pacino's "I'm in the dark here"...His delivery of that line is gut wrenching. Not just being "blind" but being lost. Feeling alone. Aren't we all one time or another.🌻
You’ve got one faithful boyfriend in Desi. He looks at you with such adoring eyes. “Dr. Zhivago” is my favorite love story. Saw it on the IMAX screen. Julie Christie and Omar Shariff gave such good performances and the scenery was breathtaking.
I love it too but it makes me incredibly sad. Just watched it a couple of days ago and had a hard time shaking off the sadness. Don’t know why it affects me that way.
One of my MOST FAVORITE movies ever! My son was 2 when the movie came out; he recently purchased the dvd for me because I loved it so. He is 26 and about to get married himself. I am a hopeless romantic...but it never just worked out for me...but that is okay...You never know what could happen later in life. Thank you for sharing this movie today. It meant so much to me.
I am touched by your honesty and vulnerability. I can relate to your situation. I too will be fine without it, but how sweet it would be to slow dance with a beautiful man who adores me and I him.
I was 47 in 1996. That movie made an impact. In grade school I was the fattest girl in school- the only child of a single alcoholic mother who had been homecoming queen at Ohio State University. No one would talk to me. They just laughed at me. I had no friends. My mother was a retail buyer and said she was embarrassed buying my clothes in the Chubette department. Put me on a diet, got my hair all cut and pretty and I grew taller and finally fit into all the free sample clothes she got. That fall I went to junior high for 7th grade and all those kids who laughed at me wanted to be my best friends- the boys wanted to be my boyfriends and I was voted Best Looking on the Freshman Ballot. And I was miserable. I was still the same person inside- I was that fat little girl inside and I learned a horrible lesson- that people wouldn’t like me unless I looked good. I’m 71 and still dragging that fat little girl along with me always thinking people will only like me if I look good. Excruciating
Sad. So it's time to embrace that little fat girl, and be the mother, lover and all the friends for her, the ones she never had yourself. Finally. It is never too late for love and self acceptance.
@@carolesimmons1 It's loving/respecting ourselves and having enough in our emotional 'bank accounts' to give to others, that makes the world go around!
This video seems to be about finding happiness. We are socialized to believe happiness is the goal. I have come to understand that I must seek meaning, not happiness. Happiness is only felt in fleeting moments. With whatever time I have left here I will seek only meaning & will pursue what is right & important - what is meaningful to me. If I do that moments of happiness may be a biproduct. I may or may not meet someone who shares my devotion to meaning. It would be nice, but in pursuing meaning I have heeded my soul & will secure something right & good that can never be taken from me via divorce or even death. I don’t wish to sound sanctimonious, but this is something I wish I had prioritized & understood at 20 rather than at 60+. I was likely meant to learn this all along. I have love in me that is needed in so many places. Understanding this “new goal” has given me a fresh start & so much to look forward to. I feel like I finally know what I’m doing. Mostly.
Wow, what a wonderful video! I loved your comments in "Finding Love Over 60 - The Mirror Has Two Faces," and the way you spoke was so genuine, humble, and refreshingly real. You opened your heart and allowed us to see the real you, and the lovely woman that you are. It took some amazing courage to do that. You are a treasure, and your little dog is a cutie pie. P.S. You asked viewers to suggest a good movie, and I recommend "I'll See You in My Dreams," a 1951 musical starring Doris Day and Danny Thomas. Signed, A Lonely Widower
That’s it! That comment you made about loving yourself enough to walk into a room and own it. That’s the key! It’s not about being the most beautiful woman. And it’s not about being self-centered. It’s about loving yourself enough that you stop thinking about yourself and become truly completely interested in learning about others. That’s what can make us incredibly attractive. Let’s accept and love ourselves, ladies!
I loved this message. Truly enjoyed listening to you very inspirational . I was married 23 years and single now 17 years. At this point I could take it or leave it. For so many years I felt that I needed a man in my life I’m over it.
That scene where He is in the truck ahead of her sitting at the stop light and she is sitting next to her husband with her hand on the door handle, struggling to decide if she should jump out of the truck and go to him or stay with her husband....... I tear up every time at that scene!
I feel the same, Linda. I lost my husband three years ago and I will never marry again. I loved and was loved for 22 years. I won't find that again. I'm so sorry for your loss.
Hi Susan! I too watched The Mirror has Two Faces, really liked it. You know, one of my all time favorite old movies is Breakfast At Tiffany's. I've always loved Audrey Hepburn. Also, there is no doubt in my mind you will find someone again. You are too kind and caring a person not to! Also, i think the mirror is very kind to you. Take care.
It is so easy to listen to you and relate to your messages. I am married but very much alone as my husband announced he is gay after 28 years, but we are still together, but apart, going into 31 years. I am 73 and have been so lost. It’s very hard to give up the idea of a loving, physical relationship because I thrive on human touch and communication. It’s just caused me so much pain and I’m having great difficulty moving beyond it. It would have been much easier if we were friends, but we just really don’t get along very well. Thank you for being here. You help me reach those little places that need healing.
The animal shelters are brimming with beautiful little dogs - and one is waiting for you. I’ve heard many have taken dogs during this pandemic and are realizing they don’t want them so there will be one out there that needs you.
@@janedelaney4327 Imagine adopting a precious dog who needs a home & love so desperately - just to avoid death in a shelter - and the person decides they don’t “want you.” I don’t want a person like that anywhere near me.
Another beautiful video that spoke to my heart - so many truths shared about love. And ended with quite a laugh at the obvious disinterest of Desi in the subject!
Oh Sis, you have touched my heart again as usual. I married the second time because he was a very nice guy, with a wonderful family, sisters, and brothers, all went to church, and he loved my daughter who was 4 years old. I never felt that 'im crazy about him feeling '. i just felt like, I can be happy with all this he has to offer. I don't mean stuff, I mean, a good upbringing. I've had a great life with him and then, through menapause, taking care of my parents, working full time, and my daughter having a disabled son,,,,,,,,,,,I left. Had no idea where I was going , but I left after 23 years. Stayed married for 37 years till I gave up on ever getting back together. Now, here I am, alone with no hope to meet another man. I have given up. But to end on a better note, I am ok with it. I think if it was meant to happen, it will or won't. You are wanting another chance.....I hope you get it. Love, Simone
OH Simone...your story brought me to tears...I have sort of pieced it together and I think I know a little bit how you feel. I find that menopause does play a role in me looking back and wondering if I did the right thing...when I left Ed I felt just like you did....just up and left...it was comfortable but I left anyway...you are beautiful and sometimes I think the idea of meeting a great love is better then really meeting him...:) Love you girl...
51 and married for 30 yrs now. We started dating in high school and I think I was in love with the idea of marriage,a home and children and I got all those things but never felt very secure that he really loves me and I have questioned over the years if I ever truely loved him. I feel like I settled, like I couldn’t do any better. I see devoted couples and want that. I feel like my soul mate is out there somewhere and I’ve never found him. I second guess my choices in life all the time. I regret a lot but I feel like it’s too late now. So I try to find joy in my hobbies and try to stay positive and daydream a lot.
Not settling is the very best thing to do. I was married to my soul mate for 27years - the best of my life. Sadly it all fell apart for silly reasons and I think we both have our regrets and are still friends. He went on to marry again and seems to be happy. I on the other hand spent 8 years on my own. Those days were good because I got to know myself again and found a love for life that had been missing for a long time. I dated a couple of men but there was no spark for me and what I had experienced in my marriage seemed impossible to find again and keeping a roof over my head was getting more and more difficult alone so eventually I settled.... There is no lonelier place to be than in a loveless relationship.... You are such a beautiful soul, I pray the right person shows up for you someday soon. Every video you make lifts my spirits thanks you for being there and give Desi a big hug for me xxxx
I met my husband at the age of 15, and we married when I just turned 20, this coming September will be our Golden Wedding Anniversary. We are true soulmates, I had a psychic reading last year, and the psychic told me I was married to my twin flame, she said it is a step above a soul mate. I can’t imagine my life without him, and now as we get older, I get very frightened of the thought of one of us having to mourn the other, we grew up together, growing older, but I am afraid one day one of us will be without the other, I want to stop the hands of time. Susan I have never seen that movie, although I have heard of it many times. I am going to see if it’s on Amazon prime and watch it. I have a feeling I am in for a treat, it sounds like my kind of movie. It’s a funny thing about that darn mirror, some days I look in it and I think who the heck is that, and some days I look at it, and think you look pretty darn good for 69 LOL Last week I thought my hair was starting to thin, all week I was so worried, until Today I went to the salon and after she colored my hair, I realized It was my gray roots , all the way home at every light I looked in the mirror and thought I spent the whole week upset and worried, what we women do to ourselves, men always are so self assured about themselves Have a great week both you and Desi xo
I'm same as you although I met my husband when I was 9 and he 11. We married when I was 19 and have been married 46 years this year and we have 4 grown children. We are retired and spend all day every day with each other. Like you I worry what's in store for us when one of us isn't here.
@@KathyBath yes, all of a sudden this has been in my mind, it never used to be, I think it’s because my next birthday is my 70th, it makes you think, although we are both very healthy, we eat plant based, don’t drink don’t smoke, we do everything we can, but just the last two weeks I have heard of cancer amongst friends, gets scary
One of my favorite feel good movies with a really great message to it is, Moon Struck, it's beautifully written, wonderfully acted, a story we can relate to, you won't be disappointed, everyone I recommend it to, loves it.
The best video you’ve ever done by far. You were the genuine you !! You spoke from the heart which is what makes you a very beautiful Person..... Love you Always.... You remind me of what I miss most
Hi Susan! Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful video with us. The message you tell is something we can all relate to in this mature community that I love being a part of. Here’s to a healthy, safe and peaceful year my beautiful friend! Hugs, Betty 🥰
Thanks Susan for this wonderful video about the mirror has two faces, it brought me back in time when I was about 31 years old and I remember that movie so well. What you say especially in the end is what I have been thinking too sometimes, and I am 55 years old now, maybe love will never find us again, but longing for it and dreaming about it can be as beautiful too (but we still must have hope for love to find us someday, never give up on that dream). My aunt gave me a card when I was 18 years old and that card said, don't think that you are unlucky because your dreams never came true, you are unlucky if you have never dreamed.
“A walk in the clouds” is my movie recommendation. Thank you for another beautiful week. Susan please if you don’t already have one, buy a heating pad that you can spray with water for moist heat. The first 8 hours can be tough and it provides the best relief! I hope yours goes smoothly. It’s okay if you don’t make a video for us. Please take care of yourself!
How do you keep busy? Divorced after 52 years of marriage. I was always so busy taking care of a big house and family. Now, I'm alone most if the time.
@@aungar2403 I never had Children, because my husband traveled in his career, so I have always taken care of a large home and always had a beautiful yard,I am a advid gardener...now, since my husband passed resently, so many changes..I moved to a beautiful large apt, with a porch, and patio.. I am a decorator, do that every day, and help people with their homes... trust me I stay very busy... good luck to you, find things you love to do...💖 ..
I haven’t seen this movie but definitely will try to find it. I always think of Scarlett in Gone With the Wind...she had the outer beauty but only wanted what she couldn’t have...whereas sweet Melanie had such inner beauty that it made her more beautiful than Scarlett. I remember reading it when I was young and soooo wanting Scarlett to love Rhett...such a great novel and movie. Hugssss
I have always loved the movie “Dr Zhivago”, about two very different people who come together quite platonically during a rough period, work together, worry together and then become lovers. The scene where Julie Christie looks up from her book in a darkened library in Siberia to see Omar Sheriff coming through the door gets me every time.
I have not been in a relationship for decades and had absolutely no desire. A year ago last September, a friend of mine and I went to the race track and saw the Cure tribute band, suddenly I turned to my friend and said maybe it would be nice to meet someone afterall, she laughed because I was adamant on never, never getting into a relationship. Anyway, suddenly a boy a new in high school started calling me and we've been talking on the phone since last May. We live miles apart. I'm a bit skeptical, but I am willing to give it a try. Is this TMI? It would be nice to spend the rest of my life with a companion, but with that said also love. Thank you for this video. You may want to watch Brief Encounter with Trevor Howard and Celia Johnson, 1945.
I married very young and had 3 children. It was a unhappy marriage to the wrong person. I was divorced at 30 raised my children on my own and remarried at 40 because I didn’t want to be alone. Another unhappy marriage stole my spirit! I was divorced again at 50. I was broken mentally and emotionally. It took years of soul searching and getting to know who I really was and learning how to love myself. Fortunately, I also had a fulfilling and time consuming career. I didn’t date at all, I was finally happy with my life and truly enjoyed being alone. I was not interested in getting “involved” and I suppose, deep down, I didn’t know how to trust my own judgement. One day at age 64 I went to the beach with my childhood girlfriend and met a man by chance at a little restaurant on the beach. My friend and I shared a table with him because the place was crowded and no where else to sit. As we all chatted, we discovered he and I were both born in the same city 1200 miles from where we met and we both raised our children in the same city in yet another state from where we were born. I was living in NY and he was living in FL, but it was something bigger than either of us. We really enjoyed each other’s company and continued to see each other. We each travelled back and forth, we Skyped and pursued our long distance relationship. We married two years later and are together now for almost 8 years. I’m 72 and he is 77. We are happy and in love. Just this evening, while we were finishing dinner, he turn to me and said I love you so much, you are beautiful and sexy and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. Love happens, sometimes when you least expect it.
@@deeb66 oh my gosh, your story is almost exactly like mine! I was married twice, had two daughters with the first one, terrible man. Divorced few years later, remarried to an alcoholic, but I didn't want to be alone and he was a good stepdad. I was in my early 50s when we divorced. Then, at age 60 met the most wonderful man on Match.com. He lived about 50 mi away, so we probably would never have met. I am now 75 and we've been married for 10 years! Third time was the charm!
Everything you say about love and just wanting someone to make you feel loved is so true. I had the greatest guy in the world and he passed away almost 8 years ago. Our relationship was like a puzzle that fitted together in every way. We loved the same things and doing together the same hobbies. He made me the most beautiful Victorian doll house for my collection of replicate doll furniture I collected in our travels. I would hear him humming with ear phones on his head in his work shop. He was so happy and it just melted my heart. There isn’t a day when I get up in the morning I tell him how much I miss him. I thank God every day for the gift of him. Yes, I miss him but I know there is no one that could ever take his place. I have learned to make a lot of girl friends and try to do some of the same things we used to do. I will always have my wonderful memories till I die.
I know the dialogue by heary in " The Way We Were"...Ive seen it so many times. I feel every pain and every bit of love in that movie....when she says " hows your girl, Hubble?" . And she touches his hair...i just cry. The same feelings of not being good enough resignat throughout this movie as well. You must watch!
I loved The Notebook but cried at the end of The Way We Were. I don't like tear jerkers or things that end badly. That's why I won't read or watch anything by Nicholas Sparks. I was talked into watching The Notebook and was pleasantly surprised. Love that movie.
Hi Susan, sometimes life can be very unfair to women not all the time but sometimes. Sometimes one can feel lonely even though that person is married or with someone. Sometimes I feel it’s better to be alone if one feels lonely, then to have someone and feel that way. Anyway, it’s wonderful to see you again and Desi, I do want to take this opportunity and thank you for subscribing to my channel, it’s an honor. 😌 Thank you, give a hug and kiss to Desi for me until next time God bless. 🥰❤️
Your videos always make me introspective and today’s was no different; I love the idea of a mental makeover vs a physical makeover. I think as we age we (or at least I) loose confidence and can become more fearful of living life to its fullest so a mental makeover is definitely in order for 2021. As for favourite movie, one of my all time favourites is “Love Actually.” I know people think of it as a traditionally Christmas movie, but it follows several couples in their relationships and shows how complicated those relationships can be, which I think is true to life - our romantic as well as platonic/friendship relationships can be very complicated. Edited to say that our relationships with ourselves can also be very complicated.
Thanks for reminding me to use my Swagger! I get so caught up with my to do list and going through tasks I forget to promote myself. I was listening to this video while I was dutifully cooking broccoli at the stove. By the end of the video I was strutting my stuff! Love you two❤🐕
Susan, such a great video tonight. This is important work you are doing in the world, I would even call this "a calling." You are speaking deeply about meaningful topics. You are being a counselor, social worker, coach, encourager, a friend, a wise guide, a motivator, a healer and so much more. Continue to be brave and bold and share your gifts and your self introspection.
While watching a movie the other day I was so taken when the leading man looked at the leading lady and told her that she was exceptional. Exceptional, wow. I know I don't NEED a man, but I think it would be amazing to hear that from someone that you love.
Not too many people have heard of this movie. I watched it when I was a teenager and I still remember it in my 60s. I cried like a baby. It would be interesting to watch it again so many years later. So many great old movies.
My grandmother divorced her abusive husband in 1915 and raised her 2 children alone. A divorced woman back then was not accepted in society and was basically shunned. Fast forward, at 55 years old she met a wonderful man and remarried. On the train to Chicago for their honeymoon he had a massive stroke. He was totally paralyzed and could not even speak. She cared for him at home for 7 years, until he passed away. She never remarried, he was the love of her life.
Susan, please wear a mask when you go out. Even if it very small percentage take all the precautions you can. I want you to stay safe & healthy. I'm sure others will agree with me that you have become a great friend even if we have not met face to face.
I always wear a mask...even when I walk Desi...there is a shot at the thrift store when I am looking in the mirror and I slide my mask down to take the shot and then slipped it back up. I am so sorry if you thought I wasn't wearing one. If I could I would get Desi a mask!!! Love you!, Sues
Susan you are a beautiful woman inside and out. Just focus on the positive, put it on your vision board and you will bring someone into your life. You may not want to remarry but some special to have as a great partner. There are many men out there looking for someone like you. Thank you for encouraging us. Life is meant to be shared!
Terms of Endearment, re-watched it recently and it helped solidify for me that love comes in all shapes and sizes. The relationship between Shirley Maclaine and Jack Nicholson reminds us that love can grow despite tricky conditions. I loved a man once that was like the Jack Nicholson character, I never forgot him. I wasn't brave enough to tell him at the time that I loved him but I owned it much later, privately to myself. Love sometimes is a very private thing.
Susan, please watch an old movie from the 40s called "The Enchanted Cottage." it is with Robert Young and Dorothy McGuire. It is a beautiful love story. i've watched it many times and it is one of my favorites. i am so happy that i recently discovered your channel. i look forward to your (and Desi's) videos.
As a woman whose husband had numerous affairs-I can relate. Rejected, unwanted and eventually he divorced me. Fast forward 7 years - I don’t want another relationship. I am not bitter.’I just won’t trust again. A little sad, but it’s really okay. Life isn’t all about an intimate relationship. So much more to life.
I'm going through a divorce right now at 51 and this video really touched me. Thank you for sharing your reflections so poetically. I'm relieved to be out of this marriage with someone who when I asked "are you even still attracted to me?" (after 1 year of marriage), after a long pause he replied, "one can love someone without being attracted to them." That just devastated me and prompted my steps toward divorce after I immediately thought back in reply, "yes, if it's your mother (or other relative)." Anyhow, so yes, that was the first and only time when I felt love towards someone who didn't find me attractive. Unrequited love is horrible and now, like you, I still wonder if I'll ever truly love someone again and be held. Until then, let's love ourselves as best we can and you do that so well!!! Thank you for sharing your journey and being such an inspiration. Oh, and another movie recommendation from a few years back: Debra Winger and Billy Crystal in "Forget Paris." Great romantic comedy or...dramedy?!
Thinking of what you said, I was married for 24 years. My husband loved me a lot. I thought I was in love but it was not enough for me. I undulated back and forth trying to be happy because he was a very good man. Anyway we divorced many years ago. I have been in love but they didn’t love me back enough to want a long term relationship. Today I am still open to a relationship but I just don’t want to search for it. I am content and okay by myself but deep down, yes it would be nice to share the rest of my life with a true love and respectful relationship. I am 70 years old!!
"Falling in love" with Meryl Streep and Robert de Niro, feeling that in love with someone, the passion. "The Notebook". I was in an on and off toxic situation with a narcissist for far too many years. When I finally managed to liberate myself from it in November 2019, I felt dead inside and was sure that I would never be able to feel love or anything else for someone again and I accepted it. Half a year after life surprised me with a man, we made each other feel like teenagers in love and it felt so good to be able to experience that again. Thank you, stay healthy and blessed, lot's of love to you and all your subscribers 🌷🌷🌷🌷
I love classic novels and the most romantic thing I ever heard was a couple reading to each other at night and discussing the book. Can only dream. My favorite movie is While You Were Sleeping.
My all time favorite too! Sometimes we have a vision in our heads of what we think we want, and it’s not reality for what we need in our life to fulfill us!
This week is the saddest in my life. We meet when I was 18, we married at age 20. We divorced after 23 years together, but our love for each other never stopped. I was always there for him and he was for me throughout our 50 yrs knowing each other.. it was a love that remained always. He loss his fight last Sunday, and passed away. My heart is filled with so much pain.. I will miss us forever. I am now left with wonderful memories. I try each day to think of a past memory of him, it makes smile..tell someone you love them as much as you can.. I know he knew how much I loved him!!
Oh Susan....I am so deeply sorry for your loss. You met your soulmate and that love lasted a lifetime...and beyond. My story is so much like yours. I will always love my ex-husband..he has been so ill these past years and I like to think my love for him has helped him cope with his circumstances...but his love helped me too. It's so hard...please know you are in my thoughts....be well and be good to yourself, Susan
I’m so very sorry ...💔
I'm so very sorry for your loss sweetheart. I'll say a prayer for you 💔😢🌷
You had a love that some women can only dream of. You were lucky. I'm sorry for your loss. God Bless you
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I was blessed to have a husband who loved me for 53 years. Now I’m alone after his death, and I do miss his presence and his love. I always felt loved by him so I am grateful I experienced a loving nurturing relationship. I’m sad you have not felt the security of deep abiding love. You have worked hard to heal from the hurt you’ve experienced, and I believe you have helped women who are struggling with similar issues. You are a blessing to many women.
So glad you had all those years together. My husband has been gone for 4 yrs and I still miss him so. 32 years with him and we lived each other. He ended up with many health issues and Parkinson’s too. I was caregiver for 3 years and it took a toll on us both. We have our lovely memories. Take care Kathy. God bless.
@@cherylthepearl4085 My husband retired a few years ago and we both realized some mild symptoms he experienced (loss of balance, muscle issues) were apparently Parkinsons, but he never went to Dr because he was otherwise healthy, now retired he is totally disabled, walkers to get around, cant stand up and it is Parkinsons and progressed rapidly, so I know what you mean, It is hard for this 6'4 rough tough diesel mechanic to need help with anything, but we are adapting, "for better or for worse, rich or poor, in sickness and health" and we meant it.
@@chrisfry436 such a difficult change for you both. Good luck.
@@cherylthepearl4085 it is sad that things ended the way that they did. You have more good memories than bad, and that is a blessing. I wish you the best.
But having that wonderful relationship wasn't Magic. There were many reasons why you had that relationship and I'm sure one of the reasons is because you worked at it. Marriage is not a fairytale. And we are still worthy even if we no longer have a husband. My mother lost my dad after almost 60 years and she misses him so much. He was the love of her life. She's redefining her life and having fun with her little ladies in her complex and doing little lunches. She's visiting her nieces. And she does not want another man in her life. He was everything to her and she is going to enjoy her life until it is her time when she can rejoin him again.
Staying single is less stressful.
amen
Amen!
Very true. Men caused too much unhappiness and stress in my life. Single is better x
Amen. Finding true peace comes when you are older.
Amen!
I was madly in love with my husband when I met him. It was romance. Now we have been married 62 years. It's not the romance now. I love him more now than the beginning. He helps me around the house and I know he cares for me. It isn't lovey dovey but knowing he cares. He isn't perfect an neither am I.
Lucky girl.. your have done good karmas in the past that you got such a good husband in this birth.. your Jupiter must be good in your horoscope
"Under the Tuscan Sun". Such a wonderful movie with Diane Lane. Love, divorce, an Italian adventure that led to new & interesting friends & a happy ending.
The best movie ever!
@@jlina that's a good one! Viggo mortenson is 🔥🔥🔥
When I was going through my divorce I watched "Under the Tuscan Sun" over and over. The first part in the lawyer's office was me so I would always cry. The scenery is so beautiful.
Hello Kathy..
Under the Tuscan Sun and It’s Complicated are 2 movies which I absolutely love! If I cannot sleep 💤 I watch one of them. I also love For Love of the Game (such a heart wrenching love story) which happens to end well.
I’m a little older than you, married a couple times, I’d like someone to go to dinner with, call once in awhile. But, I don’t want to belong to any man again, I like my alone time. I also have a sweet doggie to keep me company. My family thinks I’m too attractive and have a lot to give to someone, not to find someone special, but we will see. Thanks for a wonderful, thought provoking video! Hi Dezi, you little sweetheart!🐶🥰
Susan Mulvey , me too! I like my little house and my quiet life, I like being the Captain of my tiny ship!
I have changed my beliefs over the years, since I have 'grown up' and matured. The word 'love' is a verb, it's something you do - it's not something that happens to you. If you choose to love someone or something, it's entirely up to you. As we age, the need to 'love' someone for how they look tends to wane - and that is because we no longer see them as a potential partner to produce children. Now that I have retired, I have no desire to change anything about my life to accommodate someone else's needs. Especially if that someone is not mature enough to meet their own needs. I choose to love books, music, travel, my family, my garden, a cup of coffee, a pot of tea. What I love is endless. This idea of 'falling in love' to me is rooted in fairytales. Love is a verb - you decide to do it, or you don't. Probably not a popular idea, but if you 'get it' - you don't spend wasted years looking for something elusive and unmeasurable.
well if that works for you that is great...wasn't looking to fall in love but when it happened I realized the difference between loving someone and falling in love. There is a difference ! I am glad I know that difference ...but wish I didn't because I can never have him.
Words every women should hear! Thank you.
Turned 50 and all of a sudden I felt exactly the way she does
Touché 🙏🏻 Well said and I totally agree. I choose to love too, not a partner but many things in my life, first and foremost I choose to love me..♥️
@@wandalanders8700 yes.. I know what you mean.. I've been stuck in a "loveless marriage" for 25 years.. I thought I was doing fine just by focussing on "self love", and my love for nature etc.. Roll forward some years thinking I was coping well ... when 1 morning I wake up and I feel totally lost and empty.. Although I gain respite from nature and all the other things I "love"... there was a gaping hole in my heart that not even my own children could fill... And that hole has always been there.. I've just been too busy to notice... That hole is there because 30 years ago I too had found my "soul mate" and lost him because of circumstances.. When you find that person.. it's like you have found your other half that complements you.. It's something you cannot put into words.. It's a feeling so intense that it can break you.. You can simply BE with each other and KNOW exactly what the other is feeling or thinking.. It's a connection that is incomparable to anything else and it is totally out of your control. It can be a blessing and a curse. As tough as I like to think I am, being like these ladies commenting here... when you experience that level of "love", you see life with a different perspective...
'Sometimes I wake up so brave!! 🏆
And sometimes I wake up so scared...'⏳
...LIFE 🌹
Oh Joy....perhaps too honest for my own good...but it really is what it is and it's ok....xxoo Thank you for being here, Susan
yes, Joy! Me too!
It is such a gift to have your honesty about life's issues, Susan. I am 65 and am going through a reflection time these days. I married my sweetheart at 18 and lost him 5 years ago after 41 years of marriage. I still cry when I see older couples holding hands and miss that so much. Sometimes I feel brave to think that I am making it on my own while other times I feel like I just cannot do this. I miss the simple gesture of holding hands. Even so, I cherish my alone time and have made my home a place of beauty and peace, which helps to soothe a broken heart. May your heart's desire be fulfilled, Susan, for you are surely a woman of deep sensitive thoughts and you & Desi deserve the best. Love to you both
Patty Allen You are not alone. I feel your pain when seeing older couples holding hands. It makes me so sad..even though I lost my husband at a relatively young age. It's been 27 years; I'll never stop missing him. Many blessings to you! 💖
Patty, I feel your grief but as a woman who has never married (not yet anyway, at 55) I also feel happy for you that you have known such love. My parents have been together over 60 years, so I have seen that love in action. You and they are very blessed. I guess I am blessed in other ways but I still haven't given up hope of finding big love for myself. Bless you dear 💖🤗🕊️
Rosey C - I am so, so sorry to hear you lost your love so many years ago. God Bless you and may you find joy, peace & love in your life. WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE !!!
@@lynnea286 I appreciate your words so much. I am so glad to read you are a woman of HOPE for your future !!! WITH GOD ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE ! MAY HE GIVE YOU THE DESIRES IF YOUR HEART !!! GOD BLESS YOU !! 💖
@@roseyc.5846 Rosey, It saddens me to read you lost your sweetheart so many years ago. We will always miss our sweethearts but we know that our love goes on into eternity. God Bless You !!!
You are such a romantic, lovely person! 🌹🌹
When I was young, I so wanted to be pretty, but I was not. I set myself up for disappointment many times. Then, I just gave up on men and concentrated all my time between work and going nights to the university. I found many men attractive but I had to get my college degree and work because the rest of my life wasn’t working. Finally, I found a college professor who wasn’t particularly good looking, but he was VERY smart. Anyhow, we started dating and got married in 1989. I went all the way through night school from remedial math to graduate. Now I have the greatest husband in the world, and a Masters Degree to boot. I am so grateful.
Smart is very appealing.
I am 63 and starting law school soon. I feel confident I will find love while I am pursuing meaning. People get ideas in their heads as to what life looks like at certain ages. I so reject this. And I am all the better for it.
@@rs5570 great for you! I know you can do this!
@@rs5570 ... love your comment. ❤
@Sheryl Chapman. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! Saying that your husband "wasn't particularly good looking" sounds unkind and does not necessarily need to be said!
Everything else sounds lovely!💗
One thing I’ve learned is that you can be in a relationship and still feel alone. A relationship doesn’t fix that feeling. Meditation and gratitude help tremendously and so does being curious and interested in life. ❤️
Smiles, hello Jennifer 🌺 😊
I had divorced and was happy to be on my own, I spent time in worship with my savior. One day this tall beautiful man showed up on my doorstep.
I wasn't ready for anyone, anywhere, anyhow. God had other plans, 15yrs later we are still best friends, great lovers, kind spirits together. Most importantly we put all trust in God.
God wants more for us than we want for ourselves.
My advice= There are very few things in life that are worth having, you are the only one who can make yourself one of those things.
God loved you enough that he created you perfectly. He loved you enough that he sacrificed his only begotten son for you.
@@kristinburton4953 how's that thought pattern working out for you?
@@JND-zf4sg I always heard if you want to make God smile tell Him your plans. God bless you and your husband with many years of joy!
@@kristinburton4953 God has answered so many of my prayers and guided me through life that I know better than to think life just unfolds randomly. PEACE!
@@kristinburton4953 Holy F@#$k that's priceless..! Good on ya mate!
@@kristinburton4953 Well, looks like you have all you ever wanted and need. You are obviously a very happy person.
Susan, you are truly a woman, very feminine.
I watch a lots of videos. The women on them, don't show feminine things like you do. Through your videos, it has made me rechecks my home decor and my clothing. Thank you for waking me up, you are the mirror that makes me see me. Thank you Sis.
Same for me, I am changing both decor, and will be also with clothing. I am Susanizing my apt now, starting with flowers. Found some really gorgeous ones that actually feel, and look real.
Your comment is just beautiful and I totally agree. She is the soul of a poet.
@@hopenoneya8161 me too, more flowers. I bet your home is already beautiful.
@@carola3046 thank you. I bet your home is beautiful as well.
@@hopenoneya8161 love that! “Susanizing!” Susan, you’re a verb! Love your style and sense of romance!
Susan, I just finished watching the movie, based upon your recommendation. I had never seen it and am so glad that I now have. I met the love of my life at 42. I was always the hard-working academic who received accolades for that, but never felt particularly attractive. He made me feel as if I were the most beautiful woman in the world. We married soon thereafter and had the fairy tale romance for twenty years until he passed from cancer five years ago. In the final weeks of his life, one day he looked at me with those bedroom eyes and said, “You are just as beautiful as the day I met you.” Once in while, when we least expect it, love gives us a fairy tale. It was such an incredible romance that I doubt any other would ever measure up to it, but I feel so blessed to have experienced such a pure, unconditional, and all-encompassing love that I think that feeling will last me a lifetime.
For me it’s “Prince of Tides” another Streisand movie.
So I returned to my Southern home
and my Southern life. It is in the presence of my wife
and children that I acknowledge my life,
my destiny, I am a teacher, a coach and a well-loved man.
And it is more than enough.
Pat Conroy is my favorite author. The book is so great.
JLou C YES to "Prince of Tides"!! 💖💖💖
Great movie and Streisand should have won Best Director for it too! But Hollywood just wasn’t ready to acknowledge what anyone with half a brain could see...an amazing woman.
Many are not alone but yet so lonely.
Being lonely in a relationship is actually much much worse, than being really alone.
@@yvonnefluckiger1501 yes it is
Yes, single may be lonely , but tougher still is married and lonely. After all, you’re right there, and yet ignored, or worse yet passed by for the affections of Beer and TV. 🙄
@@cruisingaltitudewaitress3396 my Mom was ignored & I saw her loneliness ...was heartbreaking.
@@yvonnefluckiger1501 Amen!
Thank you for saying this. I relate to that Lauren Becall moment so much and I’m only 44. If I ever find myself free to choose again, I will not ever settle.again. Not ever. I love you and I love that you went to this vulnerable place for us to feel that our feelings are not uncommon.. 💖🙏. You’re my favorite.
What a beautiful way of putting it. This is exactly how I was feeling as I watched.
When you spoke about Rose, saying she was not beautiful enough... tears began to stream down my face, those words must have triggered something deep inside of me..............
Hush darling everts beautiful in their own way.
I think I know what you mean...being a woman has so many layers...my love to you...
I did the same! I was the ugly duckling. I used to wonder many years ago in high school if the pretty girls knew how lucky they were. Did they KNOW? How did it feel to have it ALL. And most of all, they didn't know how lucky because they didn't know what it felt like to be ugly. I hope this makes sense. Hard to describe. Now I feel more beautiful than ever. Wish I'd had a gran of this confidence back then! Life.
Susan, these are my favorite videos that you create. You're so honest in conveying what so many of us are feeling and experiencing right along side you. I love the meaningful, emotional and weighty topics. They touch me and make me confront things that I don't share with others. Even my best friends and those closest to me. I come away from videos like this one finding myself opening up more emotionally and letting the walls I've built up around me come down a few more inches. I thank you for that.
I was in love and married and it went horribly wrong. I remarried in my 40s. I do not love him the same way for sure. And I don't think I could ever love as I did when I was a young woman. Together, we are good company, we each do our part, it is safe, nice, peaceful, and it is comfortable. And when he holds me, I noticed, a long time ago, that I always end up with a smile on my face. I love this life more than being in love with someone who is immature, only wants to play and cannot offer any security.
BRAVO!
I wish I could be comfortable and OK with something like that but for me unless it's a fiery passionate love that takes over everything at first then settles into what you describe , but unless its a passionate love from both ends then I can't be in that situation, feels like I'm deeply missing something. I need that passion from both sides, it's like air to me... To me personally, this kind of all consuming love relationship is the most satisfying in life and gives the greatest happiness... I've tried to "settle" for security and safety, but without passion it feels dead and pointless to me... I need to deeply love & want and be deeply loved & wanted in return, nothing less will make me feel as alive, at peace, content or like I've found IT. I'll give it all I have then. If he does too. 😌 ✨️
I fell in love twice in my life. Now that I have gotten older, I am beyond picky. I do not think that I can fall in love again. The older men online are not physically appealing at all. I do not want to give up, but it is not happening for me. I hate being alone and I want a life partner so bad, but I cannot find what I am looking for, so until I find him, I will stay with my soulmutt.
I wonder if men feel the same way that they are "not beautiful enough"??
No one will ever love you like a dog. No one. For me, they are all I could ever want for love. If someone comes along that’s great, but a dog needs you & is grateful for you every second of every day. Nothing brings me such joy, love & purpose.
I can identify so much with your reply. I feel exactly the same way!
@@chrisfry436 NO! Because they think that they are very beautiful really. A gift to all women.
I can relate to how you feel. I’m 65 and I’ve done the online dating too and even though I’am in really good physical shape and take care of myself it seems like the women are very picky, but maybe I’am too. I can imagine what you are finding online. I look around at guys that are my age and they look physically terrible with scruffy beards and don’t seem to have any pride in their appearance.
The Bridges of Maddison County with Meryl Streep and Clint Eastwood. That film has so many memories for me x
My beloved died five years ago. We were married almost 45 years and together for almost 50. I admire that you still believe in love. As for myself, I have taken this time to concentrate on loving me, You have made me feel that I am not walking alone.
My dear husband of 41 years passed 5 years ago also and I still miss him terribly. As Susan said, waking up in his arms once more would be such a wonderful gift. God Bless you as I know the loss you feel.
I lost the love of my life last March and I’m struggling so much with the loss. We were together 40 years, married 35. We were madly in love with each other every day we were together and I’d give anything to feel his arms around me, to hear his voice, to look into his eyes, to smell him. I was in love with the smell of him. I miss everything about him. I know I’ll never love another because our love was so complete that nothing could compare to it. But it hurts to be alone, too. I hate living alone. My heart hurts every day I’m without him. I know how you ladies feel. We need to start a club to learn to live without them and still feel fulfilled, but I don’t know how long I’ll have to wrestle with the grief I feel. I think maybe a “club” would help; you think?
Lynn, you are not alone and yes, after the shock and a move, I started a Grief Group which has now been running for several years three times a week. I highly recommend attending one and, if not available, start one! Much Love 💕
@@janonthelam3418 can people join? Or is membership closed, now? Thank you for answering me. xoxo
@@chewkie01 yes it would.
I read the book and watch the movie Anna Karenina, learned Don't confuse lust for love. Lust can easily fade. Strong long-term relationships are built on more than just physical connection. Emotional, intellectual & spirtual connection create deeper levels of love.
“Something’s Gotta Give” is one of my favorite movies of all time! So beautiful and sweet! ❤️
I aree with this one . hilarious
Yes!!!!!! I love Diane Keaton. Not so much Jack Nickelson but they played well together. This is a story for us older women.
I suggested it, too. I won't even admit how many times I've watched it. Should I buy a backup dvd? Do they ever wear out? 😄
Something’s Gotta Give is my favorite movie.. Diane Keaton is my favorite actress! ♥️♥️♥️
I know what it's like when you love someone - who doesn't love you ...😢 That sentence is the 'highlight' of my life - at least for the last 10 years! And I long to have someone who will be with me, and in whose arms I will wake up every morning ...☀ Thank you, Susan for your kindness and beauty, your gently words and soul. Many regards to you and friends of your channel ❤❄
Oh.. I waited all week for this! There are three TH-cam channels carrying me through emotionally just now. You (of course), Beau of the Fifth Column and Ed Trevors. You are such a gift, Susan. Thank you for helping open eyes, hearts and souls. I was a widow for 28 years before meeting and marrying my true love at 51. With age brings the realization that beauty is so very much more than just the outer aesthetic. There is always the possibility of love, no matter our age. Thanks once again to you, for you.
Thank you Teresa for telling me this....I am so happy you met your soulmate...I think we all have a true love and it makes me wonder if love isn't just good timing! Love you and thank you for being here! Susan & Desi
Hello Teresa..
Hello Teresa,how are you feeling today?
I think having someone as we age is nice and also fraught with heartache when one passes. Married 25 years and find myself wondering who is going to take care of whom in our old age. Although only 58 and much life left to live, it is something I think about often. I work with the elderly and it is sad at times when family doesn’t step up and care for them and they are often forgotten with no one to love and care for them. Susan your life, from this view, seems warm and cozy. Much to appreciate and enjoy. Surround yourself with good friends. I think you have learned a lot in the past 10 years of being single. I have a good life, but honestly I would love to have your beauty!
@presta graver. Your post was a comfort to me. I’m 59, and sometimes I feel like I worry too much about old age and death, and feel like I’m being morbid.
My husband is 9 years older, at 68. We’ve been together 40 years. Oops, 41.
I worry about us getting old. Getting sick. One of us ending up alone. I feel sometimes like I’m wasting the present by worrying about the future.
I’m working on it, and I hope I can change my mindset.
Doesn’t help that we have no children, and I moved my mom in with us because she needs us at 80, and I refuse to have her in a nursing home, so now that I’ve brought that up, I’m sure that’s what makes me worry. Lol.
@@Mexicobeanpole I am glad my post was a comfort to you! Bless you for bringing your Mom into your home to live with you. Nothing better than giving of yourself to help forget your own troubles! Enjoy this season in her life and yours.
Hi Susan, Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt thoughts with us. I am confident that there is someone wonderful out there for you to love. I remember the movie the Mirror Has Two Faces. I love it too! I was single at the time and like you pushing into my 40s. I had never been married. That movie really touched my heart and gave me hope. Then I bumped into a man at the airport and what ya know! We wound up dating and getting married! I loved the song from the movie because my husband and I went for coffee!! In any event, I highly recommend the movie "All That Heaven Allows" which is a 1955 romance film (it's a serious drama not a comedy) starring Jane Wyman and Rock Hudson. It's about a well-to-do widow and a younger landscape designer falling in love. It holds a special place in my heart because I married a man much younger than me (we've been married 20+ years now). I love this movie because I think it really shows the tenderness of real love no matter what ages the people are. Plus it gives hope to older women who have not yet married, or are divorced or widowed. Thank you again for all you do and share. You are an absolute delight! Love and God Bless, Mary
Love that movie too
. I loved this video, Miss Susan ..I have seen that movie....And I understood it very well, .....every LTR , and my marriage , I was always with a younger man. ..It is a wonderful movie. I am 66 years young , and At this stage of life.....I do still want the passion. the Valentines, ( maybe not the chaos,lol...) but I dont want to settle for something that is " OK" when there is Life yet to be lived....Love yet to be demonstrated ....I am - and always have been- the " Hopeful Romantic"..... because I want to be a HOPEFUL Romantic, not a ' Hopeless One" ( and I pray no one takes offense to that, and will understand what I am meaning !) ...There are a number of good movies to suggest.....I loved " Murphys Romance " ; " A walk in The Clouds";
" How Stella Got her Groove Back".... " The Notebook" ; " Picnic " ( I adore the Old movies, I am just that kind of woman...)
I just thought of “All that Heaven Allows.” It’s a wonderful movie!
Love that movie!
This was the movie I thought about when Susan asked for suggestions on movies to discuss...”All That Heaven Allows”! I saw this one recently...a touching story!
I think you may have overlooked one important point. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder! It's a beautiful gift that God has given us. We are all fortunate that we are not cloned.
Oh yes, and I forgot to say that when we love someone we developed " kind eyes"....everything they do or say is magic...
Yes, many of us feel like you do. Not feeling like we could love someone like one should be loved; but also longing to have that special love. Your beautiful, Inside and outside. You are loved.
I love you Deb....xooo
I know a couple that I admire very much. He is one of the most handsome men ever and she isn't what most people would perceive as attractive, but he does and so do I. She doesn't fuss over herself, but yet her personality, wit and the confidence she emits make her so very attractive and he loves her like crazy and so do I. I've always been a bit jealous of the fact that she doesn't feel the need to "fix" herself up to feel good about herself. My favorite romantic movie is Moonstruck because it isn't too deep or sappy. It has my favorite love line ... "Do you love him, Loretta? - Ma, I love him awful." Love to you and your darling little Desi! Laurie
Just watched that last week. Total joy!💞 Free on you tube by the way.
I just celebrated my 47th anniversary a couple days ago, and I have been Blessed to never have had to worry about being loved or worrying I was "not enough", and I mean that....never. I have a couple of things going on in my life that are worrying me to pieces and today I just had to get "out of my head" so I went outside and started working, I raked, cleaned, swept, raked more, took care of the feral cats, picked up things, and then realized a few hours had passed, so back in house to clean up and start dinner, my husband is totally disabled after retirement and he was sitting on the couch, I sat by him for a minute and said out loud "I am never going to be like the ladies I see on t.v...all pulled together, hair and nails done, dressed smart," I am like the little kid late to school, shoes untied, glasses askew, shirt untucked, dirt on my pants from the garden, acorns or a feather in my pocket form outside, and on and on, and he just looked at me and leaned over and kissed me on the cheek and said "your a doll" and about made me cry.....
Not an obvious romantic tale but: One of my favorites: “Scent of a Woman”. It’s about choices we make, how we evolve, how we care for others and how we live our life. It’s beautiful and you will love the tango scene.
My favorite line is Pacino's
"I'm in the dark here"...His delivery of that line is gut wrenching. Not just being "blind" but being lost. Feeling alone. Aren't we all one time or another.🌻
You’ve got one faithful boyfriend in Desi. He looks at you with such adoring eyes. “Dr. Zhivago” is my favorite love story. Saw it on the IMAX screen. Julie Christie and Omar Shariff gave such good performances and the scenery was breathtaking.
I love it too but it makes me incredibly sad. Just watched it a couple of days ago and had a hard time shaking off the sadness. Don’t know why it affects me that way.
I am a film aficionado and for me my favourite film is also Doctor Zhivago...nothing compares.
You are right...Desi has my heart!
One of my MOST FAVORITE movies ever! My son was 2 when the movie came out; he recently purchased the dvd for me because I loved it so. He is 26 and about to get married himself. I am a hopeless romantic...but it never just worked out for me...but that is okay...You never know what could happen later in life. Thank you for sharing this movie today. It meant so much to me.
What a sweet son you have. What a love.
A movie I have watched over and over is "Something's Gotta Give" with Diane Keeton and Jack Nicholson.
What a beautiful and inspiring video , you have Desi who loves you unconditionally....love the way he looks at you with admiration
Thank you
I am touched by your honesty and vulnerability. I can relate to your situation. I too will be fine without it, but how sweet it would be to slow dance with a beautiful man who adores me and I him.
Murphy's Romance for the PERFECT LOVE STORY!!! and the Notebook.....You gotta love James Garner.
The Notebook is my favorite Nicholas Sparks book AND movie. Oh! How I cried!!
Watched "Notebook" today..boy did the tears flow.."good" tears
Loved Murphy’s Romance!
Mine too
@@artismyheart4886 How do you like your eggs? Loved it!😊
I was 47 in 1996. That movie made an impact. In grade school I was the fattest girl in school- the only child of a single alcoholic mother who had been homecoming queen at Ohio State University. No one would talk to me. They just laughed at me. I had no friends. My mother was a retail buyer and said she was embarrassed buying my clothes in the Chubette department. Put me on a diet, got my hair all cut and pretty and I grew taller and finally fit into all the free sample clothes she got. That fall I went to junior high for 7th grade and all those kids who laughed at me wanted to be my best friends- the boys wanted to be my boyfriends and I was voted Best Looking on the Freshman Ballot. And I was miserable. I was still the same person inside- I was that fat little girl inside and I learned a horrible lesson- that people wouldn’t like me unless I looked good. I’m 71 and still dragging that fat little girl along with me always thinking people will only like me if I look good. Excruciating
Sad. So it's time to embrace that little fat girl, and be the mother, lover and all the friends for her, the ones she never had yourself. Finally. It is never too late for love and self acceptance.
@@yvonnefluckiger1501 thank you! I have been working on that- I appreciate your encouragement!!
@@carolesimmons1 It's loving/respecting ourselves and having enough in our emotional 'bank accounts' to give to others, that makes the world go around!
Forgive yourself right this instant for being hard on yourself!! Come to the softer side!! It’s over♥️
Thank you Susan you truly are blessed! I love your creativity and honesty. Fried green tomatoes is my movie.
You never fail to make me cry. Splendor in the Grass with Natalie Wood & Warren Beatty is my favorite.
I adore Desi he acts like a little man
This video seems to be about finding happiness. We are socialized to believe happiness is the goal. I have come to understand that I must seek meaning, not happiness. Happiness is only felt in fleeting moments. With whatever time I have left here I will seek only meaning & will pursue what is right & important - what is meaningful to me. If I do that moments of happiness may be a biproduct. I may or may not meet someone who shares my devotion to meaning. It would be nice, but in pursuing meaning I have heeded my soul & will secure something right & good that can never be taken from me via divorce or even death. I don’t wish to sound sanctimonious, but this is something I wish I had prioritized & understood at 20 rather than at 60+. I was likely meant to learn this all along. I have love in me that is needed in so many places. Understanding this “new goal” has given me a fresh start & so much to look forward to. I feel like I finally know what I’m doing. Mostly.
RS that was beautiful, and true for me too.
RS Thank you for sharing your thoughts, as this is so true for me as well.❤
Thank you RS.
Make it matter!
Wow, what a wonderful video! I loved your comments in "Finding Love Over 60 - The Mirror Has Two Faces," and the way you spoke was so genuine, humble, and refreshingly real. You opened your heart and allowed us to see the real you, and the lovely woman that you are. It took some amazing courage to do that. You are a treasure, and your little dog is a cutie pie. P.S. You asked viewers to suggest a good movie, and I recommend "I'll See You in My Dreams," a 1951 musical starring Doris Day and Danny Thomas.
Signed, A Lonely Widower
"Doctor Zhivago" has always been my favorite love story. It still moves me.
That’s it! That comment you made about loving yourself enough to walk into a room and own it. That’s the key! It’s not about being the most beautiful woman. And it’s not about being self-centered. It’s about loving yourself enough that you stop thinking about yourself and become truly completely interested in learning about others. That’s what can make us incredibly attractive. Let’s accept and love ourselves, ladies!
Susan you look so beautiful in that last frame! I love “Under the Tuscan Sun”. I hope you too have a wonderful week ahead. 🙏🏽☮️🇺🇸
I thoroughly enjoyed “Somethings Got to Give”.
Oh Mary I love that movie!!!
This is my favorite too and the one I was going to suggest! ❤️
I was going to recommend this one, too!
Love this movie too! I watch it a lot.
@@lindahallman3747 I think it's really my all time favorite - right up there with "Moonstruck."
I loved this message. Truly enjoyed listening to you very inspirational . I was married 23 years and single now 17 years. At this point I could take it or leave it. For so many years I felt that I needed a man in my life
I’m over it.
Ear, Pray and Love. I’ve watch this movie many many times. It’s a absolutely wonderful movie.
You are such a beautiful person inside and out - how right you are about revisiting things and being able to see the true message xxx
The Bridges of Madison County made in 1995.💕
Such a moving, heartfelt story!! Have you seen it? I bawl my eyes out every time I watch it. SO GOOD!!!
That scene where He is in the truck ahead of her sitting at the stop light and she is sitting next to her husband with her hand on the door handle, struggling to decide if she should jump out of the truck and go to him or stay with her husband....... I tear up every time at that scene!
Great movie and a great book.
@@artismyheart4886 ....YES!!! Omg. It's such a great movie!! Meryl and Clint were amazing in it!! ❤
My husband passed away two years ago December 1.Thats it for me.I am in my 70s and would not marry again.He was my love.
I feel the same, Linda. I lost my husband three years ago and I will never marry again. I loved and was loved for 22 years. I won't find that again. I'm so sorry for your loss.
You were truly blessed ❤
@@Melissabella Thank you and I would never marry again either.
You are a lucky woman. I can only envy women who have that and know it with all their heart.
At 66 I settled, now 4 years later I’m filled with regret. Susan I envy you.
Hi Susan! I too watched The Mirror has Two Faces, really liked it. You know, one of my all time favorite old movies is Breakfast At Tiffany's. I've always loved Audrey Hepburn. Also, there is no doubt in my mind you will find someone again. You are too kind and caring a person not to! Also, i think the mirror is very kind to you. Take care.
It is so easy to listen to you and relate to your messages. I am married but very much alone as my husband announced he is gay after 28 years, but we are still together, but apart, going into 31 years. I am 73 and have been so lost. It’s very hard to give up the idea of a loving, physical relationship because I thrive on human touch and communication. It’s just caused me so much pain and I’m having great difficulty moving beyond it. It would have been much easier if we were friends, but we just really don’t get along very well. Thank you for being here. You help me reach those little places that need healing.
Hello Lisa..
I want a companion like Desi - loyal, loving and enjoys going out for walks!
The animal shelters are brimming with beautiful little dogs - and one is waiting for you. I’ve heard many have taken dogs during this pandemic and are realizing they don’t want them so there will be one out there that needs you.
And rocks a bow tie! 🤗❤️
sounds like my hubby :)
@@janedelaney4327 Imagine adopting a precious dog who needs a home & love so desperately - just to avoid death in a shelter - and the person decides they don’t “want you.” I don’t want a person like that anywhere near me.
Hello Kathleen..
Another beautiful video that spoke to my heart - so many truths shared about love. And ended with quite a laugh at the obvious disinterest of Desi in the subject!
I'm madly in love with Desi! He is irresistible! Waking up next to that face would be enough for me. 🐾❤
So true. Both dog and owner are 😀🙃😳 the epitome of cute!!!!
I do love Desi madly....he is a little demanding and hates me to go out....but then again he never asks for a beer....:) xxoo Love you!
Well Susan, you are the first happiness Desi has ever known. Who would blame him? Those little eyes and that face just melts my heart...❤
LOVED this .... I really don’t know many women of a certain age who couldn’t relate.....❤️
Oh Sis, you have touched my heart again as usual. I married the second time because he was a very nice guy, with a wonderful family, sisters, and brothers, all went to church, and he loved my daughter who was 4 years old. I never felt that 'im crazy about him feeling '. i just felt like, I can be happy with all this he has to offer. I don't mean stuff, I mean, a good upbringing. I've had a great life with him and then, through menapause, taking care of my parents, working full time, and my daughter having a disabled son,,,,,,,,,,,I left. Had no idea where I was going , but I left after 23 years. Stayed married for 37 years till I gave up on ever getting back together. Now, here I am, alone with no hope to meet another man. I have given up. But to end on a better note, I am ok with it. I think if it was meant to happen, it will or won't. You are wanting another chance.....I hope you get it. Love, Simone
OH Simone...your story brought me to tears...I have sort of pieced it together and I think I know a little bit how you feel. I find that menopause does play a role in me looking back and wondering if I did the right thing...when I left Ed I felt just like you did....just up and left...it was comfortable but I left anyway...you are beautiful and sometimes I think the idea of meeting a great love is better then really meeting him...:) Love you girl...
Hello Simone..
51 and married for 30 yrs now. We started dating in high school and I think I was in love with the idea of marriage,a home and children and I got all those things but never felt very secure that he really loves me and I have questioned over the years if I ever truely loved him. I feel like I settled, like I couldn’t do any better. I see devoted couples and want that. I feel like my soul mate is out there somewhere and I’ve never found him. I second guess my choices in life all the time. I regret a lot but I feel like it’s too late now. So I try to find joy in my hobbies and try to stay positive and daydream a lot.
The mirror has many more than just two faces. And they’re all true.
Haha! Great comment.
wow......
Humans are multi faceted just like diamonds.
Not settling is the very best thing to do. I was married to my soul mate for 27years - the best of my life. Sadly it all fell apart for silly reasons and I think we both have our regrets and are still friends. He went on to marry again and seems to be happy. I on the other hand spent 8 years on my own. Those days were good because I got to know myself again and found a love for life that had been missing for a long time. I dated a couple of men but there was no spark for me and what I had experienced in my marriage seemed impossible to find again and keeping a roof over my head was getting more and more difficult alone so eventually I settled.... There is no lonelier place to be than in a loveless relationship.... You are such a beautiful soul, I pray the right person shows up for you someday soon. Every video you make lifts my spirits thanks you for being there and give Desi a big hug for me xxxx
I met my husband at the age of 15, and we married when I just turned 20, this coming September will be our Golden Wedding Anniversary. We are true soulmates, I had a psychic reading last year, and the psychic told me I was married to my twin flame, she said it is a step above a soul mate. I can’t imagine my life without him, and now as we get older, I get very frightened of the thought of one of us having to mourn the other, we grew up together, growing older, but I am afraid one day one of us will be without the other, I want to stop the hands of time.
Susan I have never seen that movie, although I have heard of it many times. I am going to see if it’s on Amazon prime and watch it. I have a feeling I am in for a treat, it sounds like my kind of movie.
It’s a funny thing about that darn mirror, some days I look in it and I think who the heck is that, and some days I look at it, and think you look pretty darn good for 69 LOL
Last week I thought my hair was starting to thin, all week I was so worried, until Today I went to the salon and after she colored my hair, I realized It was my gray roots , all the way home at every light I looked in the mirror and thought I spent the whole week upset and worried, what we women do to ourselves, men always are so self assured about themselves
Have a great week both you and Desi xo
I'm same as you although I met my husband when I was 9 and he 11. We married when I was 19 and have been married 46 years this year and we have 4 grown children. We are retired and spend all day every day with each other. Like you I worry what's in store for us when one of us isn't here.
@@KathyBath yes, all of a sudden this has been in my mind, it never used to be, I think it’s because my next birthday is my 70th, it makes you think, although we are both very healthy, we eat plant based, don’t drink don’t smoke, we do everything we can, but just the last two weeks I have heard of cancer amongst friends, gets scary
Hello Christine..
The Holiday or Under the Tuscan Sun; love both of these movies; hope you and Desi have a great week ahead as well. Sending much love from SE Texas!!!
Under the Tuscan Sun is my favorite!
I love both these movies!!!❤️❤️
Hello Melinda..
One of my favorite feel good movies with a really great message to it is, Moon Struck, it's beautifully written, wonderfully acted, a story we can relate to, you won't be disappointed, everyone I recommend it to, loves it.
The best video you’ve ever done by far. You were the genuine you !!
You spoke from the heart which is
what makes you a very beautiful
Person..... Love you Always.... You remind me of what I miss most
Hi Susan! Thank you so much for sharing this beautiful video with us. The message you tell is something we can all relate to in this mature community that I love being a part of. Here’s to a healthy, safe and peaceful year my beautiful friend! Hugs, Betty 🥰
Hello Betty..
Thanks Susan for this wonderful video about the mirror has two faces, it brought me back in time when I was about 31 years old and I remember that movie so well. What you say especially in the end is what I have been thinking too sometimes, and I am 55 years old now, maybe love will never find us again, but longing for it and dreaming about it can be as beautiful too (but we still must have hope for love to find us someday, never give up on that dream). My aunt gave me a card when I was 18 years old and that card said, don't think that you are unlucky because your dreams never came true, you are unlucky if you have never dreamed.
Hi Deborah I'm here for you
“A walk in the clouds” is my movie recommendation. Thank you for another beautiful week. Susan please if you don’t already have one, buy a heating pad that you can spray with water for moist heat. The first 8 hours can be tough and it provides the best relief! I hope yours goes smoothly. It’s okay if you don’t make a video for us. Please take care of yourself!
Having a man takes soooo much energy....I am 68, by myself... I have a beautiful life... A Man?... Maybe!
Hi Marcia
How do you keep busy? Divorced after 52 years of marriage. I was always so busy taking care of a big house and family. Now, I'm alone most if the time.
Good for you! You’re not by yourself, you’re with yourself🌹
@@jenniferjackson9642 Absolutely..I am loving my alone time... thank you💖
@@aungar2403 I never had Children, because my husband traveled in his career, so I have always taken care of a large home and always had a beautiful yard,I am a advid gardener...now, since my husband passed resently, so many changes..I moved to a beautiful large apt, with a porch, and patio.. I am a decorator, do that every day, and help people with their homes... trust me I stay very busy... good luck to you, find things you love to do...💖
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I haven’t seen this movie but definitely will try to find it. I always think of Scarlett in Gone With the Wind...she had the outer beauty but only wanted what she couldn’t have...whereas sweet Melanie had such inner beauty that it made her more beautiful than Scarlett. I remember reading it when I was young and soooo wanting Scarlett to love Rhett...such a great novel and movie.
Hugssss
Time Enough,Hi beautiful
I have always loved the movie “Dr Zhivago”, about two very different people who come together quite platonically during a rough period, work together, worry together and then become lovers. The scene where Julie Christie looks up from her book in a darkened library in Siberia to see Omar Sheriff coming through the door gets me every time.
Dr. Zhivago is a classic love story. Julie Christie and Omar Shariff gave performances of a lifetime.
Hello Karen..
I have not been in a relationship for decades and had absolutely no desire. A year ago last September, a friend of mine and I went to the race track and saw the Cure tribute band, suddenly I turned to my friend and said maybe it would be nice to meet someone afterall, she laughed because I was adamant on never, never getting into a relationship. Anyway, suddenly a boy a new in high school started calling me and we've been talking on the phone since last May. We live miles apart. I'm a bit skeptical, but I am willing to give it a try. Is this TMI? It would be nice to spend the rest of my life with a companion, but with that said also love. Thank you for this video.
You may want to watch Brief Encounter with Trevor Howard and Celia Johnson, 1945.
I married very young and had 3 children. It was a unhappy marriage to the wrong person. I was divorced at 30 raised my children on my own and remarried at 40 because I didn’t want to be alone. Another unhappy marriage stole my spirit! I was divorced again at 50. I was broken mentally and emotionally. It took years of soul searching and getting to know who I really was and learning how to love myself. Fortunately, I also had a fulfilling and time consuming career. I didn’t date at all, I was finally happy with my life and truly enjoyed being alone. I was not interested in getting “involved” and I suppose, deep down, I didn’t know how to trust my own judgement.
One day at age 64 I went to the beach with my childhood girlfriend and met a man by chance at a little restaurant on the beach. My friend and I shared a table with him because the place was crowded and no where else to sit. As we all chatted, we discovered he and I were both born in the same city 1200 miles from where we met and we both raised our children in the same city in yet another state from where we were born. I was living in NY and he was living in FL, but it was something bigger than either of us. We really enjoyed each other’s company and continued to see each other. We each travelled back and forth, we Skyped and pursued our long distance relationship. We married two years later and are together now for almost 8 years. I’m 72 and he is 77. We are happy and in love.
Just this evening, while we were finishing dinner, he turn to me and said I love you so much, you are beautiful and sexy and I am happier than I have ever been in my life. Love happens, sometimes when you least expect it.
@@deeb66 oh my gosh, your story is almost exactly like mine! I was married twice, had two daughters with the first one, terrible man. Divorced few years later, remarried to an alcoholic, but I didn't want to be alone and he was a good stepdad. I was in my early 50s when we divorced. Then, at age 60 met the most wonderful man on Match.com. He lived about 50 mi away, so we probably would never have met. I am now 75 and we've been married for 10 years! Third time was the charm!
@@trishac9516 Great story too! ♥️
Everything you say about love and just wanting someone to make you feel loved is so true. I had the greatest guy in the world and he passed away almost 8 years ago. Our relationship was like a puzzle that fitted together in every way. We loved the same things and doing together the same hobbies. He made me the most beautiful Victorian doll house for my collection of replicate doll furniture I collected in our travels. I would hear him humming with ear phones on his head in his work shop. He was so happy and it just melted my heart. There isn’t a day when I get up in the morning I tell him how much I miss him. I thank God every day for the gift of him. Yes, I miss him but I know there is no one that could ever take his place. I have learned to make a lot of girl friends and try to do some of the same things we used to do. I will always have my wonderful memories till I die.
Hello Jeanette..
Movie Suggestion: "The Way We Were" or/and "The Notebook".
good choices!
I love the Notebook!❤️
I know the dialogue by heary in " The Way We Were"...Ive seen it so many times. I feel every pain and every bit of love in that movie....when she says " hows your girl, Hubble?" . And she touches his hair...i just cry. The same feelings of not being good enough resignat throughout this movie as well. You must watch!
I loved The Notebook but cried at the end of The Way We Were. I don't like tear jerkers or things that end badly. That's why I won't read or watch anything by Nicholas Sparks. I was talked into watching The Notebook and was pleasantly surprised. Love that movie.
Redford rocks! Streisand is stunning!
Hi Susan, sometimes life can be very unfair to women not all the time but sometimes. Sometimes one can feel lonely even though that person is married or with someone. Sometimes I feel it’s better to be alone if one feels lonely, then to have someone and feel that way. Anyway, it’s wonderful to see you again and Desi, I do want to take this opportunity and thank you for subscribing to my channel, it’s an honor. 😌 Thank you, give a hug and kiss to Desi for me until next time God bless. 🥰❤️
I’m sure there is someone out there that would love to share his life with you. I’m sure of it! Have a wonderful week!
Happy new year Vickie, hope this year brings joy and happiness to all Americans and all over the world 🌎
Hello Vickie..
This was a beautiful video Susan! And I just watched 'The Mirror Has Two Faces' and it was beautiful too!!
I strongly recommend the movie "Sliding doors" with G. Paltrow. AMAZING movie for all of us that think about "what if..."
That's an excellent thought provoking movie.
Hello Yam..
Your videos always make me introspective and today’s was no different; I love the idea of a mental makeover vs a physical makeover. I think as we age we (or at least I) loose confidence and can become more fearful of living life to its fullest so a mental makeover is definitely in order for 2021. As for favourite movie, one of my all time favourites is “Love Actually.” I know people think of it as a traditionally Christmas movie, but it follows several couples in their relationships and shows how complicated those relationships can be, which I think is true to life - our romantic as well as platonic/friendship relationships can be very complicated. Edited to say that our relationships with ourselves can also be very complicated.
Thanks for reminding me to use my Swagger! I get so caught up with my to do list and going through tasks I forget to promote myself. I was listening to this video while I was dutifully cooking broccoli at the stove. By the end of the video I was strutting my stuff! Love you two❤🐕
Susan, such a great video tonight. This is important work you are doing in the world, I would even call this "a calling." You are speaking deeply about meaningful topics. You are being a counselor, social worker, coach, encourager, a friend, a wise guide, a motivator, a healer and so much more. Continue to be brave and bold and share your gifts and your self introspection.
While watching a movie the other day I was so taken when the leading man looked at the leading lady and told her that she was exceptional. Exceptional, wow. I know I don't NEED a man, but I think it would be amazing to hear that from someone that you love.
I agree!
Thank you... I just watched the movie for the first time. Your comments were on point. So, Thank you ❤️
Hello am John from Maryland USA how about you ?
@@johnrakestraw6216, I well. I am from Alabama. Thanks for asking.
@@roxannebrown5384 how are you doing ? Nice to meet you
@@roxannebrown5384 are you there
I would like to discuss the movie..... Imitation of Life...
An Awesome movie!
Not too many people have heard of this movie. I watched it when I was a teenager and I still remember it in my 60s. I cried like a baby. It would be interesting to watch it again so many years later. So many great old movies.
Fantastic movie.
My grandmother divorced her abusive husband in 1915 and raised her 2 children alone. A divorced woman back then was not accepted in society and was basically shunned. Fast forward, at 55 years old she met a wonderful man and remarried. On the train to Chicago for their honeymoon he had a massive stroke. He was totally paralyzed and could not even speak. She cared for him at home for 7 years, until he passed away. She never remarried, he was the love of her life.
Susan, please wear a mask when you go out. Even if it very small percentage take all the precautions you can. I want you to stay safe & healthy. I'm sure others will agree with me that you have become a great friend even if we have not met face to face.
I always wear a mask...even when I walk Desi...there is a shot at the thrift store when I am looking in the mirror and I slide my mask down to take the shot and then slipped it back up. I am so sorry if you thought I wasn't wearing one. If I could I would get Desi a mask!!! Love you!, Sues
@@LittlePoet please do not think I’m shaming you. I was just concerned for you. 💕
Hello Vickie..
Susan you are a beautiful woman inside and out. Just focus on the positive, put it on your vision board and you will bring someone into your life. You may not want to remarry but some special to have as a great partner. There are many men out there looking for someone like you. Thank you for encouraging us. Life is meant to be shared!
Terms of Endearment, re-watched it recently and it helped solidify for me that love comes in all shapes and sizes. The relationship between Shirley Maclaine and Jack Nicholson reminds us that love can grow despite tricky conditions. I loved a man once that was like the Jack Nicholson character, I never forgot him. I wasn't brave enough to tell him at the time that I loved him but I owned it much later, privately to myself. Love sometimes is a very private thing.
Susan, please watch an old movie from the 40s called "The Enchanted Cottage." it is with Robert Young and Dorothy McGuire. It is a beautiful love story. i've watched it many times and it is one of my favorites.
i am so happy that i recently discovered your channel. i look forward to your (and Desi's) videos.
As a woman whose husband had numerous affairs-I can relate. Rejected, unwanted and eventually he divorced me. Fast forward 7 years - I don’t want another relationship. I am not bitter.’I just won’t trust again. A little sad, but it’s really okay. Life isn’t all about an intimate relationship. So much more to life.
Not all men want to screw around...
Amen I find happiness from other Hobbies. It has never felt so good to not be crying over a man. I have freedom and no drama.
Hello Helen..
So true, Helen!!
I'm going through a divorce right now at 51 and this video really touched me. Thank you for sharing your reflections so poetically. I'm relieved to be out of this marriage with someone who when I asked "are you even still attracted to me?" (after 1 year of marriage), after a long pause he replied, "one can love someone without being attracted to them." That just devastated me and prompted my steps toward divorce after I immediately thought back in reply, "yes, if it's your mother (or other relative)." Anyhow, so yes, that was the first and only time when I felt love towards someone who didn't find me attractive. Unrequited love is horrible and now, like you, I still wonder if I'll ever truly love someone again and be held. Until then, let's love ourselves as best we can and you do that so well!!! Thank you for sharing your journey and being such an inspiration. Oh, and another movie recommendation from a few years back: Debra Winger and Billy Crystal in "Forget Paris." Great romantic comedy or...dramedy?!
Wow for me too
Am John from Maryland USA how about you ?
Thinking of what you said, I was married for 24 years. My husband loved me a lot. I thought I was in love but it was not enough for me. I undulated back and forth trying to be happy because he was a very good man. Anyway we divorced many years ago. I have been in love but they didn’t love me back enough to want a long term relationship. Today I am still open to a relationship but I just don’t want to search for it. I am content and okay by myself but deep down, yes it would be nice to share the rest of my life with a true love and respectful relationship. I am 70 years old!!
"Falling in love" with Meryl Streep and Robert de Niro, feeling that in love with someone, the passion. "The Notebook".
I was in an on and off toxic situation with a narcissist for far too many years. When I finally managed to liberate myself from it in November 2019, I felt dead inside and was sure that I would never be able to feel love or anything else for someone again and I accepted it. Half a year after life surprised me with a man, we made each other feel like teenagers in love and it felt so good to be able to experience that again.
Thank you, stay healthy and blessed, lot's of love to you and all your subscribers 🌷🌷🌷🌷
I love classic novels and the most romantic thing I ever heard was a couple reading to each other at night and discussing the book. Can only dream. My favorite movie is While You Were Sleeping.
Rebecca B They ONLY want the young women..the younger, the better! 🙄
My all time favorite too! Sometimes we have a vision in our heads of what we think we want, and it’s not reality for what we need in our life to fulfill us!
I didn't expect to find someone else who likes While You Were Sleeping. My favorite too.
@@dianalee603 I actually really do not watch those types of movies but that one touches my heart .
I love that movie too...totally underrated...it had so many elements that many women can relate to.
It really nice
Am John from Maryland USA how about you ?