having watched this channel for so SO many years it is just so unbelievably lovely to see where you guys are at these days and to hear you talk about your friendship and each other so positively and maturely. i’m 22 and i’ve been watching jbu since i was about 15 and i honestly don’t feel i ever quite realised how helpful it’s been for me to see an example of a real friendship and real people over time, kind of makes me feel like everything will be Vaguely Okay! not to burden you with SHAPING YOUNG MINDS or anything oops
totally agree with Allison's later point, there are people who I can communicate my anxieties to and our communication methods align (texting over in person for example) and thats why our friendships are so close. That's the best feeling! When I don't have to ruminate over how to best present my thoughts or whether my ask is too much etc.
As a Pocketcasts user I've literally never opened Apple Podcasts before but I just went and left a 5-star review because that's annoying you lost your previous ones, and I'm a very happy Patreon sub of JBU! ❤
What y'all are talking at ~11 min in, is that essentially masking? Like you're just not masking for each other? Imo that's the ideal criteria for being in my favorites list
100% agree about gabe's knowledge on queer culture and to be able to communicate that eloquently!!! it has taught me so much especially in my own understanding of myself as queer person and also navigating my own gender journey!! gabe has genuinely given me the confidence to also hold my own when I'm (unfortunately) engaged in debates about queerness n transness
I just listened to the don't blame me episode based on Gabe's comment in this episode, and I wanna say thank you for expressing everything I'm feeling atm Gabe. I've just come out as a non-binary lesbian, and chosen to completely not engage with people questioning me or my gender. I understand why this narrative of transness being simple and something 'you always knew' is being pushed, since it's more palatable for cis people, but it doesn't match the lived experience of me or most of the trans people I know, and it makes feeling valid in your gender much harder.
I went to make a new review on the Apple podcast app and realized I had been unsubscribed somehow. When I went to re-follow, it crashes. Every time. Same thing happened to my roommate on her phone (she’d also been unsubscribed somehow). So I figured it was just glitching and come back to it later. I just subscribed to another podcast with no issues so I thought I’d try again (it’d been a few hours) and it still crashes. Just want to let you know since it seems to be just your podcast 🤷🏼♀️
@@JustBetweenUs I did the same thing & saw that I had been unsubscribed. Tried to re-follow & the app crashed. Luckily I follow y'all on patreon but this might be an issue
If anyone else is having this problem, I was able to follow the show without it crashing by using the “…” menu on an episode versus the follow button at the top of the show page.
oof have such an insecurity around people holding on too closely to what i said, maybe finding their wounds in my words? then censor myself due to that fear or let on that i'm hypervigilant about what i'm saying which kind of suggests to them that i expect they view me like i view myself (within that emotional state)? feel like i needed this haha much to think about. no alarms and no surprises please 😂
There's a comment on one of the very early skits on this channel that said "I wish I had someone who looked at me the way Gabe looks at Allison." Today, I wish I had someone who talked about me the way these two talk about each other. As to the complement: Last week I gave a public lecture on "The Intellectual History of the Nerd" to 900 people and the convener walked a kilometre out of their way afterwards to complement me on how well I did.
I’ve been watching / listening to you two and following your journeys since the Buzzfeed days, and you’ve given me laughs, moments of personal clarity, and new ways to give myself grace for life’s toughest moments. But I just got diagnosed with OCD, and I recently had a friendship that meant a lot to me end, and this conversation just hits so much harder. I related to Allison’s story about the accepted and declined invite and how comfortable she feels around Gabe. I am so happy you two have the friendship that you do.
I tend to be more of a couch show person over the podcast, but you best believe I just fought tooth and nail to try and figure out how to leave an apple podcast review. So yeah maybe you just gotta scroll down on the app… found that out like 5min and two separate attempts to google it later.
Hey. Your reminder to stay true to humanity and take a minute for gaza. Anything else is perfunctory and makes subscription to you guys really morally grey.
having watched this channel for so SO many years it is just so unbelievably lovely to see where you guys are at these days and to hear you talk about your friendship and each other so positively and maturely. i’m 22 and i’ve been watching jbu since i was about 15 and i honestly don’t feel i ever quite realised how helpful it’s been for me to see an example of a real friendship and real people over time, kind of makes me feel like everything will be Vaguely Okay! not to burden you with SHAPING YOUNG MINDS or anything oops
same!!! im 22 and have been watching for forever and feels like they are my longtime older friends with the Wisdom™
sugar🥹
That's Phantom, Allison's other dog 😊😊
@@aaran2329 oops😅
totally agree with Allison's later point, there are people who I can communicate my anxieties to and our communication methods align (texting over in person for example) and thats why our friendships are so close. That's the best feeling! When I don't have to ruminate over how to best present my thoughts or whether my ask is too much etc.
Agreed! She phrased this experience so perfectly!
I just love you guys so freaking much. Y'all are literally the only reason I get on this website
😭😭😭 thank you!!
What's your preferred social media platform?
This is a feel good episode
Where can I find the rant about non-binary lesbians? Did I miss something or was it offline?:)
the freedom of not having to *think* when talking to certain people is the absolute best. i love when i don’t have to think !
As a Pocketcasts user I've literally never opened Apple Podcasts before but I just went and left a 5-star review because that's annoying you lost your previous ones, and I'm a very happy Patreon sub of JBU! ❤
thank you so much!!!
What y'all are talking at ~11 min in, is that essentially masking? Like you're just not masking for each other? Imo that's the ideal criteria for being in my favorites list
Yep it's not having to mask my autism so takes way less energy.
I love this episode! I might start a new tradition with my partner to do this every year :)
That would be so sweet
the way gabe cracks me up at the most random stuff... comedy genius. impecable delivery of the silliest things
100% agree about gabe's knowledge on queer culture and to be able to communicate that eloquently!!! it has taught me so much especially in my own understanding of myself as queer person and also navigating my own gender journey!! gabe has genuinely given me the confidence to also hold my own when I'm (unfortunately) engaged in debates about queerness n transness
this was such a delight to watch !
Allison your hair looks amazing!
I just listened to the don't blame me episode based on Gabe's comment in this episode, and I wanna say thank you for expressing everything I'm feeling atm Gabe. I've just come out as a non-binary lesbian, and chosen to completely not engage with people questioning me or my gender. I understand why this narrative of transness being simple and something 'you always knew' is being pushed, since it's more palatable for cis people, but it doesn't match the lived experience of me or most of the trans people I know, and it makes feeling valid in your gender much harder.
Have a blessed Hanukkah. I know this was probably filmed before the holiday. But have a happy 7th night.
Love the text on Allison’s shirt. Poignant.
There is text on Allison's tank?
@@sexyscientist yes
I went to make a new review on the Apple podcast app and realized I had been unsubscribed somehow. When I went to re-follow, it crashes. Every time. Same thing happened to my roommate on her phone (she’d also been unsubscribed somehow). So I figured it was just glitching and come back to it later. I just subscribed to another podcast with no issues so I thought I’d try again (it’d been a few hours) and it still crashes. Just want to let you know since it seems to be just your podcast 🤷🏼♀️
Ugh so sorry!! I think you have to find the new feed link? let us know if this works: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/just-between-us/id1707127144
@@JustBetweenUs Nope, still crashing when I try to follow. I had my roommate try the link too and the same thing.
@@JustBetweenUs I did the same thing & saw that I had been unsubscribed. Tried to re-follow & the app crashed. Luckily I follow y'all on patreon but this might be an issue
If anyone else is having this problem, I was able to follow the show without it crashing by using the “…” menu on an episode versus the follow button at the top of the show page.
This is so sweet :)
oof have such an insecurity around people holding on too closely to what i said, maybe finding their wounds in my words? then censor myself due to that fear or let on that i'm hypervigilant about what i'm saying which kind of suggests to them that i expect they view me like i view myself (within that emotional state)? feel like i needed this haha much to think about. no alarms and no surprises please 😂
aw this was so nice
I love a compliment session 🥹🥹
There's a comment on one of the very early skits on this channel that said "I wish I had someone who looked at me the way Gabe looks at Allison." Today, I wish I had someone who talked about me the way these two talk about each other.
As to the complement: Last week I gave a public lecture on "The Intellectual History of the Nerd" to 900 people and the convener walked a kilometre out of their way afterwards to complement me on how well I did.
the new hair looks good alison!
I’ve been watching / listening to you two and following your journeys since the Buzzfeed days, and you’ve given me laughs, moments of personal clarity, and new ways to give myself grace for life’s toughest moments. But I just got diagnosed with OCD, and I recently had a friendship that meant a lot to me end, and this conversation just hits so much harder. I related to Allison’s story about the accepted and declined invite and how comfortable she feels around Gabe. I am so happy you two have the friendship that you do.
I left a podcast review for ya!
did allison dye her hair or was it always this dark and im crazy?
i think it's dyed!! ur not crazy 💛
The favs convos got me thinking, what if your phone gave you a wrap, like “You sent x number of texts to so and so”.
Would u ever do a Sketch again? For old times sake
or like for me 🥺
WHAT A BEAUTIFUL VIDEO just can't express to you guys how much you have helped me cope with my life's challenges your gentleness and kindness
I have been with you too for a long time I love you so much love your podcast you’re awesome merry Christmas
K guys this was so cute
This was so sweet! Thank you for sharing this!
Love these two couch elephants
Phantom:
Gabe: Hey Phantom! :)
Phantom:
I love this ❤
Did you all do a discussion on treatment of butch women? I'd love to give that a listen.
I'd take a queer history course taught by Gabe!
Like two elephants 🐘 perfect way to end the video!!! Lol
They are in love😂
You found a brother on 23 and me?!
this is the very best thing
Wait why not at 2am central time?
I tend to be more of a couch show person over the podcast, but you best believe I just fought tooth and nail to try and figure out how to leave an apple podcast review. So yeah maybe you just gotta scroll down on the app… found that out like 5min and two separate attempts to google it later.
ahh thank you!!
Hey. Your reminder to stay true to humanity and take a minute for gaza. Anything else is perfunctory and makes subscription to you guys really morally grey.
LOVED this
Catching up on episodes, and I love this feel good episode.
“They never forget” Gabe what?!?!😂
This is the cutest video ever
does anyone know if i can still leave an apple review even if I'm not an apple user??
Unfortunately not 😔😔 you need to have an Apple account to leave a review. I'm in the same situation
Perfect ❤
Huh? Wth happened? Gaby is a man now?
He's a trans man and his name is Gabe 💓
its halirious to see how you are so fed up of each other