I love her insight about "getting out of the dynamic of power and control." So key! And the way to do it, pretty simple: revealing the self, both parties mattering! (A whole new way of being, especially for, what call 'em (us...I should own it): care-takers, perfectionists, people-pleasers.)
Another great insight of Shery's: suicidality -- like all addictions -- being a way to avoid "being in one's skin." In that case, a connection with a human being who is able to be responsible and authentic would be a real help...as a caretaker would not be because that does not -- really -- work, possibly because it ends up actually being judgemental! A person able to "own" being scared or uncomfortable and maintain, in a respectful way, that they matter, too, when something another person is doing is not working for them...well, it just sounds like a balm and a joy to run across!
I love her insight about "getting out of the dynamic of power and control." So key! And the way to do it, pretty simple: revealing the self, both parties mattering! (A whole new way of being, especially for, what call 'em (us...I should own it): care-takers, perfectionists, people-pleasers.)
Another great insight of Shery's: suicidality -- like all addictions -- being a way to avoid "being in one's skin." In that case, a connection with a human being who is able to be responsible and authentic would be a real help...as a caretaker would not be because that does not -- really -- work, possibly because it ends up actually being judgemental! A person able to "own" being scared or uncomfortable and maintain, in a respectful way, that they matter, too, when something another person is doing is not working for them...well, it just sounds like a balm and a joy to run across!