I Try To Forget Everything And So Should You
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Research referenced in this video:
Forgetting generates a novel state that is reactivatable (2022) - www.science.org/doi/10.1126/s...
Decay happens: the role of active forgetting in memory (2013) - philpapers.org/rec/HARDHT
Dopamine-based mechanism for transient forgetting - (2020) - www.nature.com/articles/s4158...
Sleep is for forgetting (2013) - www.jneurosci.org/content/37/...
The function of dream sleep (1983) - www.rctn.org/vs265/crick-mitch...
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00:00 Opening Sequence
01:11 Introduction
02:12 Hermann Ebbinghaus and his curve
03:08 The novel brain state of forgetting
03:49 Active Recall and Spaced Repitition
04:15 The trap of remembering everything
06:34 How I Use Notion
09:45 Mental clarity
11:18 More science on forgetting
12:12 How should we forget? - วิทยาศาสตร์และเทคโนโลยี
I feel like you shifted up a gear in this video. The philosophy, pacing, music, non tech research are in a different league than your already wonderful videos. Bravo!
Comforting to know that I'm not the only one dreaming about missing classes or exams, or forgetting to review before my finals. I find it weird that I've only started dreaming these things in my 30's after becoming a sr. engineer. At first I thought it is due to my fear of failing, but yeah it indeed messes up my head for the first few hours of my day. I should learn how to forget more ;-)
An L7 who can cite a Borges story?This is the content I come to your channel for
Cite? Hes reading from a screen.
@@kattihatt I don't think you understand what cite means
@@wortyle tell me what im missing.
@@kattihatt try to read anything from your screen and see how far it gets you
@@abiieez i dont understand what youre trying to say.
🤩The trap of remembering everything! Really wish this was reflected in modern interviewing.
I am an interviewer. What can people like me do to improve?
I have a similar dream a few times a year, I hate it so much. But now I know I am in good company. Thank you so much for this video!
I am a retired molecular biologist and I had dreams like that until I was well into my early 60s. Mostly about organic chemistry and equations: I would be in an exam and realize that I had not studied. Science and medicine is highly demanding and we all had to keep up w/ changing science (example virology and immunology, nuff said). His advice about 'clearing out" old knowledge from years of forcing one's mind to memorize and also apply extremely complex data for years is very important: I am retired now but I learned that as a Biologist (basically I am biologist) one's OWN MIND actually REBOOTS at night.. and like he said "transiently forgets" if one gets really solid sleep: very important to get to the level of DREAMs or LUCID DREAMING which means that one's mind has now cleared out and rearranged the neurons which one has created from the constant demand. HE understands what is going on .. bringing in the biology part of this. EXCELLENT... ADVICE. I have used his techniques for years. I just heard.. he said about SLEEP.. I didn't hear.. that until just now.. GREAT ADVICE. :)
Thanks for this video. I am a fresh engineer at AWS and have appreciated your videos. This one hit the closest to me. I have pretty intense ADHD. I forget a lot. It warps how I perceive and interact with the world in an inescapable way. It has been perhaps the most constant shame of my life, one which I have avoided addressing.
This is in part because I was able to get by in school quite well. As you mention, the demands of memory are different in that context, and can be overcome with constant study. I have found in my short career, though, that my memory needs to be managed and conceptualized differently. Part of this has been seeking pharmaceutical treatment finally, but much has been left unanswered. This video helped provide some of those answers and a great deal of affirmation for my life of forgetting. Thank you.
Man, that slack notification at 12:00 almost gave me a heart attack 😂Not to mention, that dream has just started haunting me.
In any case, thanks for this insightful session!
Damn. That slack notification was definitely a test. And I definitely failed...
I literally checked my slack to see wether it is from my important clients ...
Got me too lol
same here
I had to change my slack notification sound after a few years because of my reaction. Now I'm not even at a company that uses slack anymore and that notification still has an effect...
That's a really nice painting behind you!
I actually just last night had a dream of oversleeping an exam -- I graduated from college 8 years ago. This video could not have come at a more serendipitous time. Thank you so much!
Love the new tone and calm delivery. Much more natural. Great content and advice too. ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Congradulations on 100K Steve! Well deserved
This is akin to a zen teaching: Only that which is empty can be filled. Great way of introducing such a concept to a larger crowd.
Amazing content! Concepts and information that would be very very hard to get from a specific course and a video that will help a lot of people! Thanks a lot Steve!
The best video I've watched on TH-cam all year! Thank yous so much!
Congratulations on 100K.
You inspired me to take steps towards career growth and I just wanted to thank you for your insight.
I wish you the very best this year and continued success.
Take care.
Congrats on 100k! Great topic today, I've been thinking about a lot of the same topics in 2023 after reading some of Cal Newport's work. Loving his Time-block planner and will convert it to Notion once I get the hang of it
Wow this is an incredible video - such high quality content. Thank you 🙏🏼
Wow I have to say this is a really well and structured video. You definitely know how to keep your audience entertained. Subscribed
best video thus far..thanks for the insights tied directly into your personal journey!
Priceless content! thanks for sharing
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we need lifestyle videos like a day in a staff engineer life, day in a family man, etc
the discord invite is not working for me, says it's invalid. Thansk for the content!
Amazing video as always, thank you!
Steve, this is awesome! Love the new storytelling format that’s coming out 🤩
awesome channel. awesome video Steve!
Needed to hear this - thank you!
congrats on 100k! quality quality quality
Very well said. I guess a lot of us do what you just mentioned and it's good to hear on this topic from you
Another very insightful video, Steve! And congrats on the Notion sponsorship. It’s so good to see it being used in a Tech channel as well. 🎉
Love this, great mix of science and practical application
I have that nightmare often as well. Thanks for the clarification.
Ha! I've had that same dream, even a decade+ after college. Hate that feeling when I wake up.
I'm with you 100% on this. Also a reason for good documentation - write it down so you don't have to remember some vague detail you figured out when you were neck deep in the work.
Yeah I was also cursed by these nightmares that I'm still in college and that I was missing classes all these years and now I need to pass the exam.
I thought I was the only one who got these dreams. Wow this is like therapy for real guys hahaha 😅
same here, once in a month or two, after 23 years...
Only 47k views, so underrated! This is a great video and I think a great direction to take your channel. I learned something and now will work on forgetting it!
Thank you for another amazing video 🙌
Love this. Also there's some cool research where people who forget faster remember faster. Almost computer memory-esque in that way.
I'm learning a lot from your channel. Awesome videos!
What a fantastic message
More gold - thank you!
Fantastic video, very important to those who are new to their careers.
Steve, I have the same dream it’s almost frightening how close yours is to mine. Mine only differs in that I am failing a class and can’t graduate because of it. I wake up every time anxious and thankful I’m not in college! Thanks for the new perspective.
Goosebumps Steve. Wow.
Hey, you comment often? I’m Rich.. might I get you a like? New subscriber but been getting to know the channel. Great advice. You have lovely eyes.
Best video yet
Great video Steve! The quality on this one was high!
Hi Steve,
I've tried to do the same thing where I remember things that I probably don't need to know because I never want to forget them. Your insight is great and the charts make me feel a lot better about my own knowledge decay. If you're looking for content ideas, I'd also like to see a video about everything you use Notion for and how you organize it.
I checked my work computer when I heard the slack notification. Great video as always!
I like the idea of staying creative. Great content I enjoyed this perspective
Love this video. Thank you :)
Great video, love your channel
! Awesome advice learned early.. !
I am glad? to know that I am not the only one getting this kind of nightmare. I am out of school for 20 years and still getting nightmares about missing classes and failing exams.
Great video Steve! I'd love to see more about how you organize your Notion workspace. I love the idea of Notion but I don't know how to get started with it. Your templates look awesome!
As usual quality content, thank you for being able to be compared to you uncle Steve
Wow, dude. Amazing content! I just discovered your channel today (via SDE Good Reads). Well done!
Packing some serious production gear there. And this video was definitely an up in production quality. 👏
Even as a tax lawyer I really appreciate your content. It is relevant to many professions. Thank you!
I swear I had the same dream. It was the end of the semester and I had somehow gotten my schedule mixed up, so I ended up hoping I can make up the work and still pass. I was so happy when I woke up realizing it was just a dream.
amazing! pl keep making such videos
Across time, I usually valued more knowing the reference of information than the information itself. Meaning that I don't know how to build a compiler anymore, but if needed, I can find the right books or search terms to regain the information.
The downside is that I feel like I can give good directions to my peers, but sometimes I can't explain why.
Happy mixing! :D
OMG, I cant believe this. I had this dream even today and was wondering why am I even getting this dream at the age of 35 and I'm a Staff Engg with almost 15 years exp now. Infact my dream is about being late for an exam due to over sleep or completely skipping it by forgetting the date. I always have this dream. I once discussed this with my husband and thought its only me. I never wanted to google about it since I know the perils of sh!it load of irrelevant information which might misguide and make me feel miserable. But REALLY? there is a community out there? I'm glad to know this :D This is surprisingly weird feeling of relief after watching this video and knowing about it.. Thanks for making this.
Perfect video for getting off line n do sht thx god m watching this rn. My first time of the year wake up at 6
I worked at Microsoft full time while getting an MBA at Seattle University. Fifteen years later I still have recurring nightmares where I don't graduate.
Great video :)
I never thought there was a person who has similar sort of dreams like I do. I havethose dreams many times, they are almost the same, either in college or high school.
I'm in my mid 30's and I'm pleased to announce that I no longer have these exam dreams as of 3 years ago. I'm a "who the hell knows, get it done" software engineer.
The problem is until a big tech company actually denounces the leetcode garbage we will be forever stuck with it. It is disgusting that a company like leetcode has become a gate keeper to talent. Even more disgusting are the companies that continue to use it was a representation of a programmers skill..
Wow great content
I would say when I clicked on this video I had very low expectations. How wrong was I. Thanks for the great content.
we need lifestyle videos like a day in a staff engineer life, day in a family man, etc
Amazing video but I do want to mention that dreams can be a good indicator of what the brain is processing (in terms of content & emotions), not random and this nice analogy for this video. The book Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker covers this topic but people can read up on it in related researches too. The reality is, when you are having that dream, it's much more likely that you *do* have subconscious anxiety or anxious / stressful experiences in the previous day (especially relating to deadlines and/or missing something big) and it surfaced as what your brain correlated with similar emotions. Another example is that when your brain is processing location information (a new city you have to learn to navigate), you may dream of being in a maze. It's merely a symptom that the brain is processing it. Yes it is still good -> because the dreams can process and "resolve" these learnings, emotions, micro-traumas appropriately. A symptom of PTSD is these sleep cycles and mechanisms are disturbed such that the functions of sleep (and dreams) are damaged.
You should still never be upset by a dream's content. You should feel happy much like the video explained, because it's indeed all part of the brain process to get you ready and better for the next day. Instead of dwelling on the dreams (aka side effects of brain activity), you should try to continue sleeping if it's accidental wake up early or get on with your day. In fact, if you don't dwell on the dreams, chances are you won't remember wtf happened within hours even if you tried your hardest to remember afterwards, no matter how crazy or amazing or scary it is. The only reason you remember the dream was because the brain didn't have time to clear the cache and you woke up during the dream cycle itself - and if you dwell on it then it becomes part of your waking memory. They are supposed to be gone quickly (but if it doesn't, and it's traumatic, then you may be entering PTSD realms)
Production value 🤯
Congrats on another quality video Steve. What's the string piece played in the background in the beginning?
I was sad to forget stuffs, now I feel better about myself :p
I have the same reoccurring dream!
Only in mine, I sign up for a class, completely forget to go (even to the final) then I get my grades and see a 0. That's when I realize that I signed up for a class that I forgot to show up to.
Great. Now I will come back next day to remember what you said in this video. LOL
College nightmares haunt all of us. I keep dreaming about missing exams
Interesting vedio.
I forget everything lmao, but now I know im not alone, thank you
You are not alone, my long-term memory is garbage but I think that it's a fairly normal thing.
Storytelling, sponsors integration, messaging, ending
Everything was so on point
Can you please tell how you learnt this?
I have had this nightmare several times
Holy crap. I have the exact same recurring dream
This made me feel better about not remembering all the details of leetcode and maths classes in college… used to think I have a shitty memory
Your brain will tend to remember what it needs to.
Instead of trying to remember everything, I take really good notes and tag things. I also work best with examples - when I research a piece of tech, I create a small project using it. If I need to use that piece of tech again, I can refer back to the small project.
Also, I put basically everything into a TODO "app". I don't even have to remember to stop at the end of the day, stop for lunch, etc. My phone notifies me. I can safely forget everything with a deadline because everything is recorded.
I think we should store fundamentals and processes of how we solve any problem or do any creative work instead of memorizing data. Sleep has to be the best Garbage Collector in existence. Also having a derivation led slow brain which indexes on max generalized models as possible instead of memorizing everything works wonders. Also having a derivation led brain lets you index and rely on intuition as the best insight or perspective to any complex problem as well.
Wow, I had this dream. Didn't tell about it and at the same day I found this video. Spooky...
All you have to do is look at a computer and remember your brain is memory not a hard drive. If you want to preserve your memory you need to save it to a physical/digital medium. Aka you need to write documentation.
Surprised it wasn't mentioned: forgetting gives you perspective on old ideas, stuff you might have convinced yourself worked at the time of writing, but are found to be flawed when you view it after you'd forgotten and picked it back up. It also breaks tunnel vision or a person's tendency to believe one line of argument that keeps a person stuck when that argument fails (e.g., when you read, you might build knowledge based on some misunderstanding, which eventually causes you to be stuck when trying to learn a more complex idea. Forgetting lets you start fresh)
I have the same dream!!
I have that dream too but I'm always trying to find the classroom on exam day.
This video has been sitting in my watch later for months because I keep forgetting to watch it. Maybe I don't need to....
🔥📽️ sir
Reminded me of a Mr Beast video with that sponsor spot cohesively mixed into the middle. Good info.
This is helping me with being flexible.
I was really into developing with Flutter, but now design requirements required me to learn React (I didn't come from web stack). This is quite intimidating mostly b/c I'm scared I'll lose my Flutter knowledge when i need it. Now I know that forgetting is normal and even useful, I am less scared of the switch.
This is exactly me when learning next programming language, what did he say about it in the video?
@@ProMinecraftSprite He didn't use this example, I am just trying to apply his message - which is to say that forgetting is natural and don't let the fear of forgetting to stop you from moving forward w/ more important priorities.
Love this! Arthur Conan Doyle wrote that Sherlock Holmes didn't even know whether the earth orbited the sun or the other way around. The reasoning: "A fool takes in all the lumber of every sort that he comes across, so that the knowledge which might be useful to him gets crowded out"
What a coincidence that i have the same dream. By the way I'm an Electrical Engineer and I graduated a decade ago and still have the same kind of anxiety as I missed an exam or failed one.
Holy shit, I've had this dream so much.
Me too, and it always freaks me out. Then when I wake up I realize that I never actually went to college at all so it's absolutely wild that I have this dream.
@@anarchoyeasty3908 Yea it's like College PTSD or something. I've had the dream in so many different varieties; I thought I was the only one.
Can you make a full video on how you use notion for your career . Can you also put any templates that you use?
Omg I get the same recurring dream
How can we avoid perfectionism and increase productivity?
13:20 i have forgetten more than you ever learnt damn
Similar effect for musicians is revisiting a piece years later, after not playing it at all. Your mind works through the piece in the background somehow (?) and you will always play it better than before. (This only applies to experienced musicians who can visualize playing in their mind, not novices.)