@@masculinitymatters9030 Because then she would have to say words that she actually believed in. Do you think it is easy to spout a word salad that is a non-apology avoidance of accountability?
She wanted "more" like what she's used to at an all you can eat w no time limit food trough. She knows she has no worth so she acts that way to overcompensate and act like she is a trophy. Poor Sasquatchina
Lmao, classic gaslighting from her. I’m not embarrassing you, I’m just gonna take out my phone record you and then openly criticise you in front of thousands of strangers
Still trying to defend her entitled position. She is full of hypocrisy. Talking but she didn’t mean to shame him, meanwhile she’s recording the interaction with him. Lord of mercy her delusion is untold.
You know what's really messed up? The entire thing was faked, both her & the guy were actors hired by a red pill dating coach. Look up "cheesecake factory date fake" & you'll find a few vids that exposed it & there's actually 2 different takes that were posted by the coach.
She fails to realize two things: 1) She lost her privileges when she came downstairs an hour late to get into the car. Most men would have long driven away. 2) She was the one to pull out her phone and make this private situation public. In the end I believe she got what she wanted and that was her 30 seconds of fame.
What she means folks, is that she’s sorry that it backfired on her when she pulled out the camera and broadcast herself to the world and she will try to never show her true persona like that ever again. 👍👋
textbook narcissist 😂😭 the reason she’s speaking so slow is because she’s actively trying to come up with words to make our portrayal of herself sound good! if she was really saying the truth, her words come out so easily!
Girl, that video wasn’t about sparking a conversation. I can’t with the lies. You were an hour late after that man made reservations at the restaurant you wanted. You had the nerve to get upset about the Cheesecake Factory. You were out of order. You don’t need to empower me you might need to empower yourself and learn to be on time.
You’re overthinking this thing sistah. The brother took you to dinner at a nice restaurant and you refused to get out of the car! That’s disrespectful. There’s no need for dialogue!
Actually, he dodged a bullet. Imagine if it took a half dozen dates, or a vacation, or an engagement, or a marriage, or even a divorce for him to discover her true nature! He might have lost a couple of hours and some gas, but not getting her way in the first few minutes of date taught him all he needed to know about her.
You embarrassed yourself. No need to jump on social media, curb your enthusiasm and impulse to stream. You're refusing to BEND and acknowledge you were wrong. You were LATE and that started this messy chain of events. Being late is disrespectful and unfortunately adds fuel to fire of negativity of what black women deal with.
Not only is she completely self centered and entitled, but also is the the type of person to never back down when she is wrong let alone exposed as a douchebag to the whole world. I've met people like this who literally can't put a hand up in any situation where they were out of pocket. She is clearly that kind of person which is just painful to be around
As a black woman, this is not how I want to be represented. Keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No matter what a woman looks like, she deserves to be treated well. I'm out, going to the Cheesecake Factory.
She don’t have to go Cheesecake Factory it was her attitude when he opened the door she wa late maybe she should have asked to go to different place. The guy is kinda dorky she’s right she felt she deserve better because she make more money she’s more educated you can tell. There was misunderstanding because he felt rejected by her too
She didn't learn anything. Will never change her entitled mindset. Refusing to be accountable. She was herself, was not trying to spark a discussion. Trying to make excuses because no one took her side.
"Spark discussion." It did. Just not the way that she intended. "Foster learning and growth." We learned that you don't apologize and that you need to grow up!
It wasn't a moment. It was your attitude. You didn't reject the cheesecake factory. You rejected HIM and made rules for him to be able to have you exist around him.
She stated, “ interesting high a moment in time can shape how people view you,” does she not realize that goes both ways, she was trying to Portray that Respectful Man in a bad light ! It came out portraying exactly who She Really Is, as a grown woman myself I am embarrassed for all woman. People are becoming more deranged, narcissistic, and more and more immature every day, God help us!
Now she’s saying that it was all to open up a discussion. Nobody airs out their private life and puts someone on blast like that for the sake of a discussion that he didn’t even know was going to take place !!!
I'm top 3ish% income earner in the US. The cheesecake factory is the absolute max money I would spend on a 1st date. I dont understand why nobody understands that a partner needs to have similar values, and that starts on the 1st date. I have to think about retirement, my children's education and inheritance, making sure my family is taken care of if I die. If i have to spend $$$$ to get someone's attention, they aren't partner material. They aren't on the same page and they will be a liability, not an asset. Looks have nothing to do with it unless you're only not looking for long term. You spend money to get laid, not to find love. The simpler and friendlier she is to date, the more likely she is to get married. This woman is OK looking, but shes expensive, aggressive and antagonistic. She is simply a liability. End of story.
I am not at your level but my mental is right where you are sitting. I want a driving business. I drive lyft but want to make it my own. Amen. Keep swimming
I'm sick and tired of people using the terms "growing" and "learning" as a means to justify being nasty, rude and disrespectful. As a grown Woman, it shouldn't take you having to go on a talk show to understand that your behavior was inappropriate and rude, definitely not empowering to Women. Where is Iyanla Vanzant when you need her? This Woman needs the hard truth spoken to her in a manner that only Iyanla V. can do. Kevin, I'm sorry but you missed the mark here buddy.
The first rule in presentations is to know your audience. When this video went viral, the audience changed. Good luck, lady. Why would any man want to date you? That man treated you with kindness and respect. How did you treat him in return? If that is how you treat men who treat you right. Why would any man be bothered with you.
Recording him with intention to humiliate him on the internet is classless, rude foolishness….You were so hurtful to that sweet man. Just embarrassed yourself in the process
You haven't said anything close to an apology or taken any accountability. You are who you are, and nothing is going to change for you. Enjoy your cats as you grow even older.
You don’t want to be misused and you’re all for empowering women but you didn’t mention misusing a man and giving him the honor of making 1 single decision without any blah blah. He asked you out, he made the decision to go there and you couldn’t find it in your heart to appease him for 1 hour. That says a lot about you immediately. Learn to be unselfish today. Peace and good luck.
What’s even crazier is he originally had reservations at the place she wanted.. but that went out the window due to her being an hour late. Cheesecake Factory was the default option.
She couldn’t even do a simple apology for that man ! She is a Disgrace and this should be a lesson to all women !!! This type of foolishness is not Tolerated
If this went the way you thought in your head…you wouldn’t be here now. Stop the cap!!! Please ma’am, take some accountability and responsibility. Change your behavior. Stop trying to turn your 15 minutes into 16!
She wanted more from her date but the crazy part is that HE HAD more for her. She ended up being a whole hour late and they left at the time that the reservation was for. The mental gymnastics performed to justify her actions is truly crazy. I hope that she takes time to seriously reflect and actually grow. It’s so sad because she actually passed up on a really great guy.
She really shouldn't have put this video out. There were a lot of speculation around her original video being fake and a skit. Now she's just showing she was a legit narcissist all along.
It would've been more believable to me if the guy paid her to act like an entitled narcissistic ass to make himself look good, rather than somebody filming themselves acting how she did and expecting support.
I feel like whether or not the video is a skit is irrelevant. She actually believes this stuff and made the video to promote her misguided version of “women’s empowerment”.
Her nasty attitude had nothing to do with empowering women. As for respect, it has to be given to be received. She recorded that encounter to show her “girls” just what kind of power she thought she had based solely off her looks. The references to, “Look at me”, made her come across as shallow and conceited. She needs to learn humility. That man didn’t deserve that.
She didn’t deserve him. Dude honestly seemed like such a sweetheart and solid dude. Then these women end up as single mothers raising broken kids and blame a group of people for their oppression
Lol is she serious?..you just solidified the publics opinion about you. Men avoid these types of women when looking to wife. He'll be in divorce court 3 years later fighting for money he made and she didn't.
"When I accidently set his house on fire, stabbed him 23 times, made my getaway in the car I stole, and led the police on a two hour high speed chase my purpose was to start a conversation about our criminal justice system."
In a nutshell! She has learned nothing! Not really interested in hearing anything more from her. You don't need to continue to rummage through a trash can to know there is nothing but trash inside!
I do see real remorse in her eyes love, or mud on her face😊, I just couldn't resist I do pray for the best for her I really feel in my heart she's going to learn, but most definitely if she does not accept accountability there is no accountability here so I'm like flatlining 😉
She said out loud “you don’t take someone like this to a Cheese Cake Factory “. Don’t try to back track 😳😂 that statement alone shows your true self. Don’t try to justify your actions 🤷🏾😳🤔
I’m sorry but what is wrong with the Cheesecake Factory? The man was very respectful to you even until the end and dropped you off at home. That man is not your husband he was courting you to get to know you better and you just showed him who you were. I’m a high value woman and I happen to love the Cheesecake Factory. As women we gotta stop this entitlement if we’re trying to genuinely meet a descent man.
“It’s interesting to me how angry someone can get about things that don’t directly affect them.” Let me introduce you to: empathy, justice, compassion, humanity, care, kindness, respect, basic human decency. Pick one.
Courtship is more serious and traditional than dating. It involves getting to know your partner with the expectation that marriage is the end goal. Understand the difference. Or just say it for what it is, that you do. You look for guys to buy you a meal.. you don't speak for woman, specially when you act like a child.
Hahaha great shade. She is slow as well in not realizing how unattractive and rude she is lol! And slow for not appreciating a good cheesecake from the cheesecake factory....
Friend, there is no harm or shame on saying I was wrong and I’m sorry. Always remember when you pull out the camera on others, you’re also pulling it out on yourself. Life is more than food, clothes, looks and all these superficial things, true life is about relationships and doing to others as you would have them do to you. It was a horrible mistake that you made, life goes on, but just don’t repeat it, and please apologize to the Gentleman, because he is all that and more. I wish you lots of luck and I pray that you don’t repeat the same mistake ever again. ❤
Very well said. Very close to the saying about when “you’re pointing the finger at someone, you’ve got fingers pointing back at yourself”. I hope the backlash that she is receiving is inadvertently teaching other young ladies to forgo such behavior.
As a woman, She does NOT speak for me. She’s ungrateful and selfish. I’m glad he took you home and put you out. If he had continued the date , Or relationship NOTHING he do for you would EVER satisfy you. You need to stay single and date yourself ONLY!
She is in her late 30s early 40s talking somebody as beautiful as her won't go to Cheesecake Factory.... no wonder she single. she bout to go out single.
“Hi everyone. I tried to make someone look stupid, but in actuality ended up looking foolish myself. I’m going to bring up women empowerment to hopefully get some humility back, even though it has nothing to do with my date.” Pretty much what I heard.
No accountability! We knew this was coming. Deflect by blaming fake TH-cam talking points. What she did has nothing to do with what she is saying now. Misdirection at its finest.
On the bright side, she displayed her narcistic toxicity early enough that the dude was able to dodge that bullet. It's very doubtful that she will ever realize that it is her, not the rest of the world, that is the problem... even when she reaches 50 and is trying to understand why she is alone.
So She was so focused on controlling the situation as an example of “empowerment” that She blew the opportunity to show what a “good date” looks like? Making Him wait, and Them late was empowering? What’s wrong with actually HAVING the meal at the Factory, get to KNOW the Cat via good convo, and suggest the Venue If there IS a second date based on CHARACTER and CHEMISTRY? This was just Horrible. No wonder nobody knows anybody. To busy STUNTIN’ and FRONTIN’. But….maybe it’s all an act to make this exact same point. (?) Yeah…I know…I’m trying to keep hope alive. …just can’t believe its REALLY that bad out there.
I actually feel sorry for her, seems like she’s the type of woman that no matter what a man does for her… she will never be happy. It will never be enough
“A moment in time can shape how so many view you,” So, if folks agreed with you, that he was in the wrong…then how would he be viewed? Thankfully it backfired.
I took a woman to McDonalds on our first date. Little did she know that I had spoken to her sister before the date. Her sister told me that their family was poor growing up, their father was never in the picture, and their mother would take them both to McDonald's as a special treat. I would have taken her to a Michelin star restaurant or even the cheesecake factory; but she wanted to go to McDonald's because it made her happy. And that's all that mattered.
Since you put real effort into it, I'll let you know the truth. Taking a date to McDonald's will usually be seen as disrespectful. Less than 1% of women would agree to that, and I'll tell you why. McDonald's is where we go to get a cheap nasty snack. And that's the values such a date offer presents. Cheap and nasty. I assume you would like your date to show up looking like they put in good effort. If a man tried to take me to McDonald's during the stage of trying to impress I'd feel extremely disrespected. I'm a low maintenance lady and that's how I would interpret it. A good lady isn't concerned with your money, but you should at least have effort. Good luck
@@xxkissmeketutxx I think you just skipped his whole beautiful story and only focused on Mcdonald’s. He said he could’ve taken her to a Michelin but he chose HER happiness instead of trying to impress her. Not everyone is made the same way. Mcdonald’s is my guilty pleasure and I wouldn’t mind going there, so keep your judgments to yourself.
@@xxkissmeketutxxThe whole point of this story is that he did what he KNEW (beforehand) what would make his date feel happy. If she likes McDonald's, then more power to her. Leave it be.
She playing the victim role now but she was trying to record him to make him look bad wow women u old enough to know what she was doing l was done once she started recording
Sister this made it worse I didn’t hear anything close to an apology or an acceptance of accountability but instead heard nothing but gaslighting comments about it’s not this it’s that you were trying to embarrass him we aren’t dumb. You can definitely understand why people are getting upset with you; you are a reflection of black woman and showing your behind like that isn’t cool I’m a black man and love my sisters but it breaks my heart when I hear the stereotypes that people throw on them; women like you are the reason some guys say I don’t black women honestly. That guy had to be slightly traumatized and I wouldn’t blame him if he thinks twice about approaching another black woman. Fix your attitude humble yourself and respect the people in the world giving you energy. I pray your like 21 22 still learning but if you’re 30 I got 0 hope for you
It seems to me she's trying, more than anything, to rationalize her behavior, rather than being Accountable for own actions & behavior. She seems contrite only b/c the video went viral at the expense of her reputation
Her tantrum absolutely wasn't "empowerment" of any sort - it was pure entitlement. The most offensive thing (and there were many!...) was that she didn't even have the decency to discuss her issues with her date - she tried to 'out' him on social media instead. Didn't see her look at him even once, the whole time. She seems to have no introspection whatsoever. I hope her date finds someone who will be mutually respectful and gracious. Edit: Was this whole thing really just a skit..? I'm relieved but also - Question: Why do this? 🙄
I am a girl. This was NOT about lady empowerment! You got checked. I hear no apology for treating that dude VERY BADLY. Nobody can tell that lady nothing! Karma is for real. She still did not learn anything.
Kevin Samuels "Buy a dog and die alone" She is the definition of narcissism. She addressed the camera and not her date. Gaslights, her version is the correct one, thinks is more important than she really is, its about her and no one else. She is the main character and everyone is an NPC.
I like how in any video we see her in, she starts with something that sounds like she'll apologize for her behavior. But then it turns into how wonderful she is for being willing and thoughtful enough to work with her demands/expectations.
Whenever people talk about how good they look and they deserve great things from their partners because "I'm the prize, I look so good," I'm immediately reminded of the Mythology of Narcissus and my mind is blown how they don't see that it leads to spiritual death. This stupid thot was the embodiment of Narcissus.
This is EXACTLY what Kevin Samuels has been speaking about👆🏼. In KEVIN SAMUELS voice R.I.P. “ How would you rate yourself between 1 to 10?” Nvm.. don’t answer that.
Good comment. Never take anyone for granted and always be thankfull if any invite you to a restaurant or a cup of coffee. If a woman is gratefull for the small things I do, I will go a long way for her.
A true narcissist. Still has not learned anything and is looking for excuses. Admit that you have messed up and really grow instead just talking about growth.
My dear sister….it’s about accountability You took it back a few degrees when J stood 10 toes down It shouldn’t take all that Women this is a good guy from a family with no history of divorce….marinate on that That’s why he was calm….he has foundation What does toxicity and entitlement come from Brokenness
You know how we love ourv fake symbolism. As long as she's first, it doesn't matter if it's first in the family to divorce, she'll just call it breaking barriers
OMG. This lady took too much time to finish her speech, so I had to set the playback speed to 2x. Plus, I agree with the rest of the commenters: No Accountability. Geez.
I thought the objective of dating is “getting to know each other”, and not to publicize through social media, how much a man can spend on you. Why is it even relevant? The game is that the man “put on his best face” on a first date. What about the next day, the next week or year? You just set black women 100 steps back in the dating market. Certainly this will result in more men insisting on coffee dates, or allow phones, texts, faxes, to be the medium for “getting to know someone.”
"Your interpretation." Trick PLEASE! That was ALL YOU! You just didn't like the backlash you're receiving because YOU THOUGHT this was 2019 when you could get away with bs like this! But now men are aware, and are no longer putting up with this crap!💩
She spoke a lot, but didn't say a damn thing.
She wrote the shyt down too...how hard is it the write out a key word outline?
that part.
She's speaking in circles
That was a weak attempt at damage control.
@@masculinitymatters9030 Because then she would have to say words that she actually believed in. Do you think it is easy to spout a word salad that is a non-apology avoidance of accountability?
She didn’t want to “embarrass him”. But the irony is, she ended up embarrassing herself. 🤡🤡🤡
I think the whole purpose was to embarrass him.
She recorded him, in his car, without his consent.
She wanted "more" like what she's used to at an all you can eat w no time limit food trough. She knows she has no worth so she acts that way to overcompensate and act like she is a trophy. Poor Sasquatchina
And did freaking clown… and she ain’t all that
Karma
Lmao, classic gaslighting from her. I’m not embarrassing you, I’m just gonna take out my phone record you and then openly criticise you in front of thousands of strangers
This was definitely not women empowerment. As a woman I am tired of bad behavior being packaged as empowerment
Yes 💯‼️‼️‼️
FACTS MY SISTER
The truly wild part is isn't she a dating Coach?
@@AfroPick82 wow she is. She is losing clients now
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Wow. If true, that was swing and a miss.
What baffles me is how confident she is that she did nothing wrong.
She's prob a narc
@@stickystick105Narcotics Officer ?!?
Still trying to defend her entitled position. She is full of hypocrisy. Talking but she didn’t mean to shame him, meanwhile she’s recording the interaction with him. Lord of mercy her delusion is untold.
She couldn’t even do a simple apology for that man ! She is a Disgrace and this should be a lesson to all women !!!
You know what's really messed up? The entire thing was faked, both her & the guy were actors hired by a red pill dating coach. Look up "cheesecake factory date fake" & you'll find a few vids that exposed it & there's actually 2 different takes that were posted by the coach.
Nah, she's deranged. That respectable young man, who had the misfortune of wasting his time, dodged a big damn bullet.
She fails to realize two things:
1) She lost her privileges when she came downstairs an hour late to get into the car. Most men would have long driven away.
2) She was the one to pull out her phone and make this private situation public.
In the end I believe she got what she wanted and that was her 30 seconds of fame.
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Nothing like non positive fam… can present many life challenges.
Yep
Tru dat!!
What she means folks, is that she’s sorry that it backfired on her when she pulled out the camera and broadcast herself to the world and she will try to never show her true persona like that ever again. 👍👋
I agree!🤣👀
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Thank you for speaking English because that itch just sounded like “WONKWONKWONKWONK WONK….”😂🤣😂🤣#SheBlewIt
🙏🏾 understood 😂😂😂
This is it, right here!!
She said she didn't want to embarrass him, if that was true why would she start recording him without his knowledge? I still don't see accountability.
She is like a. 5. Acting. Like. She. Is. A. 8 look like a dwwn running. Back
You know your gender loves to lie. That's all y'all do is seek out to embarrass and emasculate men
Not EMBARRASS him??? SHE LOCKED THE MAN OUT OF HIS OWN CAR!
Physical and mental exercise is essential for health.
She embarrassed herself more than she did him.
If sloths could talk, they probably speak a lot faster than her.
Hehehe😂
textbook narcissist 😂😭
the reason she’s speaking so slow is because she’s actively trying to come up with words to make our portrayal of herself sound good! if she was really saying the truth, her words come out so easily!
Yup...it was a temporary damage control as she faced lots of backlash..🎉
EXACTLY!!!
Girl, that video wasn’t about sparking a conversation. I can’t with the lies. You were an hour late after that man made reservations at the restaurant you wanted. You had the nerve to get upset about the Cheesecake Factory. You were out of order. You don’t need to empower me you might need to empower yourself and learn to be on time.
Facts!
Savagery.
Truth. She does need to empower a treadmill cuz she needs it.
@@jazizo321 😂😂😂😂
Nothing at all
You’re overthinking this thing sistah. The brother took you to dinner at a nice restaurant and you refused to get out of the car! That’s disrespectful. There’s no need for dialogue!
Yep she should have called a Uber, better yet stayed home.
I’ll say it again: She’s lucky he didn’t make her walk for locking THE FKN CAR DOOR😡 #ThisFknDummy
Actually, he dodged a bullet. Imagine if it took a half dozen dates, or a vacation, or an engagement, or a marriage, or even a divorce for him to discover her true nature! He might have lost a couple of hours and some gas, but not getting her way in the first few minutes of date taught him all he needed to know about her.
@@samobispo1527 Amen👊🏿👊🏿👊🏿
@@samobispo1527 You’re right!
You embarrassed yourself. No need to jump on social media, curb your enthusiasm and impulse to stream. You're refusing to BEND and acknowledge you were wrong. You were LATE and that started this messy chain of events. Being late is disrespectful and unfortunately adds fuel to fire of negativity of what black women deal with.
Not only is she completely self centered and entitled, but also is the the type of person to never back down when she is wrong let alone exposed as a douchebag to the whole world. I've met people like this who literally can't put a hand up in any situation where they were out of pocket. She is clearly that kind of person which is just painful to be around
She speaks so slow that I became a grandad for the second time
Whaaaaahaaaahaaaaa...brilliant
Watch in 2x
She walks slow too. She was an hour late that the reservations to the first restaurant was cancled
😂😂😂😂😂
As a black woman, this is not how I want to be represented. Keep in mind that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. No matter what a woman looks like, she deserves to be treated well. I'm out, going to the Cheesecake Factory.
he deserves to be treated well.
She deserves to be treated well if and only if she treats others well.
She don’t have to go Cheesecake Factory it was her attitude when he opened the door she wa late maybe she should have asked to go to different place. The guy is kinda dorky she’s right she felt she deserve better because she make more money she’s more educated you can tell. There was misunderstanding because he felt rejected by her too
@@rachael862 Educated is the last thing that woman is.
@@slashlightning3261💯👍
She didn't learn anything. Will never change her entitled mindset. Refusing to be accountable. She was herself, was not trying to spark a discussion. Trying to make excuses because no one took her side.
"Spark discussion." It did. Just not the way that she intended.
"Foster learning and growth." We learned that you don't apologize and that you need to grow up!
Facts she definitely needs to pull up
@entertainingblackmanvideos7691
Well... she didn't reject him. He rejected her. You obviously did not see the video of the date that went nowhere.
@entertainingblackmanvideos7691hello mr white knight
@entertainingblackmanvideos7691You must not have seen what everyone else saw. Umm.. No, that is not what happened. HE decided that enough was enough.
It wasn't a moment. It was your attitude. You didn't reject the cheesecake factory. You rejected HIM and made rules for him to be able to have you exist around him.
EXACTLY!!! Thank you for saying that.
She intentionally decided to embarrass him. She's cappin🧢
What’s cap is this entire thing, altogether. These fools created this scenario as a skit. Absolutely pathetic
She intentionally decided to TRY to embarrass him. Unfortunately, for her, she's the only one that got embarrassed. Lol
"Its interesting how a moment in time can shape how people view you" roughly translates to "its interesting how my actions actually have consequences"
😂😂😂 right! Gross
She doesn't know how to apologize
She stated, “ interesting high a moment in time can shape how people view you,” does she not realize that goes both ways, she was trying to Portray that Respectful Man in a bad light ! It came out portraying exactly who She Really Is, as a grown woman myself I am embarrassed for all woman. People are becoming more deranged, narcissistic, and more and more immature every day, God help us!
Now she’s saying that it was all to open up a discussion. Nobody airs out their private life and puts someone on blast like that for the sake of a discussion that he didn’t even know was going to take place !!!
"I get courted....." You dont court a pig just because it's wearing a silk scarf.
U said what many of us thought. She looks like a middle linebacker, most of us are still trying to figure out what the guy saw in her.
Someone who looks like her gets courted? By who? Hyenas from the safari? Blind men? 👀
She's disgusting. What was that guy thinking?!
I'm top 3ish% income earner in the US. The cheesecake factory is the absolute max money I would spend on a 1st date. I dont understand why nobody understands that a partner needs to have similar values, and that starts on the 1st date. I have to think about retirement, my children's education and inheritance, making sure my family is taken care of if I die. If i have to spend $$$$ to get someone's attention, they aren't partner material. They aren't on the same page and they will be a liability, not an asset. Looks have nothing to do with it unless you're only not looking for long term. You spend money to get laid, not to find love. The simpler and friendlier she is to date, the more likely she is to get married. This woman is OK looking, but shes expensive, aggressive and antagonistic. She is simply a liability. End of story.
Facts
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Modern women are not looking for partners they're looking for sponsors🤑🤑🤑🤑
I am not at your level but my mental is right where you are sitting. I want a driving business. I drive lyft but want to make it my own. Amen. Keep swimming
No accountability! 😂
She skipped rite over that
And responsibility/ownership for her wrong with no remorse.
You go on a date to facilitate discussion and to encourage learning? The more she talks the more lost, arrogant and selfish she sounds.
She belongs with Logan Paul
Amen, to that brother. 😊 Truth!
Wow, Not once did she apologize . Smh.. all that talk she did for Wendy's Biggie Bag date...
I'm sick and tired of people using the terms "growing" and "learning" as a means to justify being nasty, rude and disrespectful. As a grown Woman, it shouldn't take you having to go on a talk show to understand that your behavior was inappropriate and rude, definitely not empowering to Women. Where is Iyanla Vanzant when you need her? This Woman needs the hard truth spoken to her in a manner that only Iyanla V. can do. Kevin, I'm sorry but you missed the mark here buddy.
The first rule in presentations is to know your audience. When this video went viral, the audience changed. Good luck, lady. Why would any man want to date you? That man treated you with kindness and respect. How did you treat him in return? If that is how you treat men who treat you right. Why would any man be bothered with you.
Recording him with intention to humiliate him on the internet is classless, rude foolishness….You were so hurtful to that sweet man.
Just embarrassed yourself in the process
She started off with wanting more from my date.
You haven't said anything close to an apology or taken any accountability.
You are who you are, and nothing is going to change for you. Enjoy your cats as you grow even older.
Agreed
Not going to get an apology either (entitlement)
She removed the mask, and no matter how beautiful she thinks she is on the outside, we saw how ugly she is on the inside.
Cats are not going to enjoy her. They will likely experience neglect as mommy is selfish.
@@TheSuperPsychoKillerright? Poor cats
You don’t want to be misused and you’re all for empowering women but you didn’t mention misusing a man and giving him the honor of making 1 single decision without any blah blah. He asked you out, he made the decision to go there and you couldn’t find it in your heart to appease him for 1 hour. That says a lot about you immediately. Learn to be unselfish today. Peace and good luck.
Exactly!🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌
What’s even crazier is he originally had reservations at the place she wanted.. but that went out the window due to her being an hour late. Cheesecake Factory was the default option.
You know Kevin Wesley is putting together these skits and then having exclusive interviews with these actors he hired 😏
@@dh914 if he is, that’s some 4D chess moves.
YOUR COMMENT SAVED ME FROM SAYING THE SAME SHIT WOMEN ALWAYS RUN TO THE ENPOWERING WOMEN BULLSHIT WHEN THEY FUCK UP
This is typical American behavior. Not taking responsibility for their actions yet deflecting and making it someone else’s fault.
She couldn’t even do a simple apology for that man ! She is a Disgrace and this should be a lesson to all women !!! This type of foolishness is not Tolerated
If this went the way you thought in your head…you wouldn’t be here now. Stop the cap!!! Please ma’am, take some accountability and responsibility. Change your behavior. Stop trying to turn your 15 minutes into 16!
Exactly! #FknDummy
She wanted more from her date but the crazy part is that HE HAD more for her. She ended up being a whole hour late and they left at the time that the reservation was for. The mental gymnastics performed to justify her actions is truly crazy. I hope that she takes time to seriously reflect and actually grow. It’s so sad because she actually passed up on a really great guy.
She won’t you can tell 5 minutes and nothing close to accepting accountability she is gonna end up alone or with someone of her caliber
She won’t grow she didn’t even apologize now she’s full of herself
C'mon we all know she won't do any of that!
A lot of great guys are realy mean because of females like her
She doesn’t need to grow anymore 🐳
She really shouldn't have put this video out. There were a lot of speculation around her original video being fake and a skit. Now she's just showing she was a legit narcissist all along.
It would've been more believable to me if the guy paid her to act like an entitled narcissistic ass to make himself look good, rather than somebody filming themselves acting how she did and expecting support.
I feel like whether or not the video is a skit is irrelevant. She actually believes this stuff and made the video to promote her misguided version of “women’s empowerment”.
This is why this entitled baby girl will always hear at restaurants, “Woman, party of one!” Kevin Samuels was right.
You don't deserve anything more from anybody the way you treated that man you owe him an apology
When someone shows you who they are, believe them!
She just wanted to humiliate the dude. Good thing he is a class act and dealt with it in a respectful manner but didn't compromise his values.
Good part, he never triggered her. If not she would've attacked him and played the victim. Have him behind bars.
Her nasty attitude had nothing to do with empowering women. As for respect, it has to be given to be received. She recorded that encounter to show her “girls” just what kind of power she thought she had based solely off her looks. The references to, “Look at me”, made her come across as shallow and conceited. She needs to learn humility. That man didn’t deserve that.
She didn’t deserve him. Dude honestly seemed like such a sweetheart and solid dude. Then these women end up as single mothers raising broken kids and blame a group of people for their oppression
Lol is she serious?..you just solidified the publics opinion about you. Men avoid these types of women when looking to wife. He'll be in divorce court 3 years later fighting for money he made and she didn't.
SHE IS EMBARRASSED AND HAS NOTHING TO SAY IN HER DEFENCE - she is just horrible
Feel like she’s gas lighting me.
“Purpose was to spark discussion and growth” - girl what? 😒
SHE IS! Lmfao
Stay awsy. F rom women like this. Pleaee. Guys. Please.
Definitely
"When I accidently set his house on fire, stabbed him 23 times, made my getaway in the car I stole, and led the police on a two hour high speed chase my purpose was to start a conversation about our criminal justice system."
She is one of those mental health counselors. Lookup Nickia Lowery.
It makes my heart sing to see all these women on here, not cosigning her B.S. Thank you, ladies.
Fr
Ratcheta has gotten her lesson.
Her and the oyster girl can lick each others wounds sometime.
In a nutshell! She has learned nothing! Not really interested in hearing anything more from her. You don't need to continue to rummage through a trash can to know there is nothing but trash inside!
I do see real remorse in her eyes love, or mud on her face😊, I just couldn't resist I do pray for the best for her I really feel in my heart she's going to learn, but most definitely if she does not accept accountability there is no accountability here so I'm like flatlining 😉
She said out loud “you don’t take someone like this to a Cheese Cake Factory “. Don’t try to back track 😳😂 that statement alone shows your true self. Don’t try to justify your actions 🤷🏾😳🤔
I’m sorry but what is wrong with the Cheesecake Factory? The man was very respectful to you even until the end and dropped you off at home. That man is not your husband he was courting you to get to know you better and you just showed him who you were. I’m a high value woman and I happen to love the Cheesecake Factory. As women we gotta stop this entitlement if we’re trying to genuinely meet a descent man.
She was trying to embarrass the young man and ended up embarrassing her Damn self! 😅
“It’s interesting to me how angry someone can get about things that don’t directly affect them.” Let me introduce you to: empathy, justice, compassion, humanity, care, kindness, respect, basic human decency. Pick one.
I read this as soon as she said it 🤣 just thought I’d let you know
You forgot the most important one....Accountability.
Beautiful comment. The world would be an even better place if more people cared about each other.
You forgot to mention the knowledge of how the world actually works. She can’t say something horrible and not expecting people to be angry at her.
She also meant racism on one black person should not affect the other black people.
Courtship is more serious and traditional than dating. It involves getting to know your partner with the expectation that marriage is the end goal. Understand the difference. Or just say it for what it is, that you do. You look for guys to buy you a meal.. you don't speak for woman, specially when you act like a child.
Chile, I know your mama raised you right you go baby girl say that ❣️💯🙏😉
she speaks just as slow as she processes information
Hahaha great shade. She is slow as well in not realizing how unattractive and rude she is lol! And slow for not appreciating a good cheesecake from the cheesecake factory....
In five minutes she managed to say absolutely nothing speed it up lady I’m gonna fall asleep 😴
Friend, there is no harm or shame on saying I was wrong and I’m sorry. Always remember when you pull out the camera on others, you’re also pulling it out on yourself. Life is more than food, clothes, looks and all these superficial things, true life is about relationships and doing to others as you would have them do to you.
It was a horrible mistake that you made, life goes on, but just don’t repeat it, and please apologize to the Gentleman, because he is all that and more.
I wish you lots of luck and I pray that you don’t repeat the same mistake ever again. ❤
Very well said. Very close to the saying about when “you’re pointing the finger at someone, you’ve got fingers pointing back at yourself”. I hope the backlash that she is receiving is inadvertently teaching other young ladies to forgo such behavior.
This woman is crazy
How is that empowering women? What about the sisters that love to dine at the cheesecake factory? What are you saying about them? She's still clueless
As a woman, She does NOT speak for me. She’s ungrateful and selfish. I’m glad he took you home and put you out.
If he had continued the date , Or relationship NOTHING he do for you would EVER satisfy you. You need to stay single and date yourself ONLY!
She is in her late 30s early 40s talking somebody as beautiful as her won't go to Cheesecake Factory.... no wonder she single. she bout to go out single.
“Hi everyone. I tried to make someone look stupid, but in actuality ended up looking foolish myself. I’m going to bring up women empowerment to hopefully get some humility back, even though it has nothing to do with my date.” Pretty much what I heard.
This was the calmest gaslight I’ve ever seen displayed 😂 is accountability just not a thing we do anymore?
Tryna act like she did nothing wrong
Everyone is an innocent victim especially on the internet..
No accountability! We knew this was coming. Deflect by blaming fake TH-cam talking points. What she did has nothing to do with what she is saying now. Misdirection at its finest.
On the bright side, she displayed her narcistic toxicity early enough that the dude was able to dodge that bullet. It's very doubtful that she will ever realize that it is her, not the rest of the world, that is the problem... even when she reaches 50 and is trying to understand why she is alone.
She is spoiled and entitled... This is not an apology it's an explanation for her bad behavior... She learned nothing
So She was so focused on controlling the situation as an example of “empowerment” that She blew the opportunity to show what a “good date” looks like?
Making Him wait, and Them late was empowering?
What’s wrong with actually HAVING the meal at the Factory, get to KNOW the Cat via good convo, and suggest the Venue If there IS a second date based on CHARACTER and CHEMISTRY?
This was just Horrible.
No wonder nobody knows anybody.
To busy STUNTIN’ and FRONTIN’.
But….maybe it’s all an act to make this exact same point. (?)
Yeah…I know…I’m trying to keep hope alive.
…just can’t believe its REALLY that bad out there.
Oh it is bad out here 😩 i wouldve went to cheesecake factory with him. He seemed super nice
I actually feel sorry for her, seems like she’s the type of woman that no matter what a man does for her… she will never be happy. It will never be enough
That's her problem and most likely self inflicted,
She wants a trap star, that sells drugs and buys her a car just cuz. She wishes, she ain't no Megan good
“A moment in time can shape how so many view you,” So, if folks agreed with you, that he was in the wrong…then how would he be viewed? Thankfully it backfired.
I took a woman to McDonalds on our first date. Little did she know that I had spoken to her sister before the date. Her sister told me that their family was poor growing up, their father was never in the picture, and their mother would take them both to McDonald's as a special treat.
I would have taken her to a Michelin star restaurant or even the cheesecake factory; but she wanted to go to McDonald's because it made her happy. And that's all that mattered.
Since you put real effort into it, I'll let you know the truth. Taking a date to McDonald's will usually be seen as disrespectful. Less than 1% of women would agree to that, and I'll tell you why.
McDonald's is where we go to get a cheap nasty snack. And that's the values such a date offer presents. Cheap and nasty.
I assume you would like your date to show up looking like they put in good effort.
If a man tried to take me to McDonald's during the stage of trying to impress I'd feel extremely disrespected.
I'm a low maintenance lady and that's how I would interpret it.
A good lady isn't concerned with your money, but you should at least have effort.
Good luck
@@xxkissmeketutxx I think you just skipped his whole beautiful story and only focused on Mcdonald’s. He said he could’ve taken her to a Michelin but he chose HER happiness instead of trying to impress her. Not everyone is made the same way. Mcdonald’s is my guilty pleasure and I wouldn’t mind going there, so keep your judgments to yourself.
@@xxkissmeketutxxThe whole point of this story is that he did what he KNEW (beforehand) what would make his date feel happy. If she likes McDonald's, then more power to her. Leave it be.
This woman lost her Moral Compass. Maturity starts when you stop posting your private life on Social Media !!!. She need to grow !!!!
This goes for me too. I also need to have maturity myself. 🙏💯
You didn't "empower" anyone acting like a spoiled brat. You make all sisters look bad.
So, basically, what I got here was that she thinks this man abused her by taking her to Cheesecake Factory 😂
He took you to the cheesecake factory.. how is that mistreating you or abusing you 😅
N A R C I S S I ST .
She playing the victim role now but she was trying to record him to make him look bad wow women u old enough to know what she was doing l was done once she started recording
He was nice to even drive her home, after such horrible behavior.
She put it out there. Now you're to victim.😂😂😂
Sister this made it worse I didn’t hear anything close to an apology or an acceptance of accountability but instead heard nothing but gaslighting comments about it’s not this it’s that you were trying to embarrass him we aren’t dumb. You can definitely understand why people are getting upset with you; you are a reflection of black woman and showing your behind like that isn’t cool I’m a black man and love my sisters but it breaks my heart when I hear the stereotypes that people throw on them; women like you are the reason some guys say I don’t black women honestly. That guy had to be slightly traumatized and I wouldn’t blame him if he thinks twice about approaching another black woman. Fix your attitude humble yourself and respect the people in the world giving you energy. I pray your like 21 22 still learning but if you’re 30 I got 0 hope for you
Exactly what I was thinking, black women are amazing and it's females like this who ruin love and happiness for other black women.
She’s talking SO SLOWLY I can’t even get through this
And I didn’t…at the second smack, I stopped listening! Just here for this comment! 😂😂
It seems to me she's trying, more than anything, to rationalize her behavior, rather than being Accountable for own actions & behavior. She seems contrite only b/c the video went viral at the expense of her reputation
Her tantrum absolutely wasn't "empowerment" of any sort - it was pure entitlement. The most offensive thing (and there were many!...) was that she didn't even have the decency to discuss her issues with her date - she tried to 'out' him on social media instead. Didn't see her look at him even once, the whole time. She seems to have no introspection whatsoever.
I hope her date finds someone who will be mutually respectful and gracious.
Edit: Was this whole thing really just a skit..? I'm relieved but also - Question: Why do this? 🙄
She forgot she was on the Internet 🤣😂
CLEARLY lmao
I am a girl. This was NOT about lady empowerment! You got checked. I hear no apology for treating that dude VERY BADLY. Nobody can tell that lady nothing! Karma is for real. She still did not learn anything.
He learned in a couple of hours why none of her 3 baby daddies stuck around.
Play this at 1.75 speed.
Kevin Samuels "Buy a dog and die alone" She is the definition of narcissism. She addressed the camera and not her date. Gaslights, her version is the correct one, thinks is more important than she really is, its about her and no one else. She is the main character and everyone is an NPC.
How hard is it to say I am sorry. 😂😂😂
I like how in any video we see her in, she starts with something that sounds like she'll apologize for her behavior. But then it turns into how wonderful she is for being willing and thoughtful enough to work with her demands/expectations.
Whenever people talk about how good they look and they deserve great things from their partners because "I'm the prize, I look so good," I'm immediately reminded of the Mythology of Narcissus and my mind is blown how they don't see that it leads to spiritual death. This stupid thot was the embodiment of Narcissus.
The constant smacking and slow talking drove me nuts.
Nobody is going to want to date her after that.
This is EXACTLY what Kevin Samuels has been speaking about👆🏼.
In KEVIN SAMUELS voice R.I.P. “ How would you rate yourself between 1 to 10?”
Nvm.. don’t answer that.
Exactly. Kevin would’ve celebrated his reaction to her disrespect
😂
AVERAGE AT BEST AND A WHOLE MESS
@@jervishorton7372 Preach👊🏿
Just take accountability and move on. Drop the shovel. The hole is deep enough.
😂😂😂😂😂😂 period!
Well said.
But its supposed to be 6ft deep 🤦♀️🤣
Interesting how showing your true colors can influence how people view you
Ladies if you want me to take you a 5 star restaurant just be on time that's it
I would feel so blessed if someone took me to the cheese cake factory. I love gratitude.
Good comment. Never take anyone for granted and always be thankfull if any invite you to a restaurant or a cup of coffee. If a woman is gratefull for the small things I do, I will go a long way for her.
BYE FELICIA 😅
I looked through ALL the comments before I wrote what you wrote…..
What I’m sayin man
😂
A true narcissist. Still has not learned anything and is looking for excuses. Admit that you have messed up and really grow instead just talking about growth.
Every woman to her own order😢
Lip smacking makes this hard to watch
My dear sister….it’s about accountability
You took it back a few degrees when J stood 10 toes down
It shouldn’t take all that
Women this is a good guy from a family with no history of divorce….marinate on that
That’s why he was calm….he has foundation
What does toxicity and entitlement come from
Brokenness
You know how we love ourv fake symbolism. As long as she's first, it doesn't matter if it's first in the family to divorce, she'll just call it breaking barriers
Lmao I’m inclined to agree
She still goofy and look goofy
Hope she's not an hour late 🥴
Apparently Bad behavior is encouraged in this society. Get you passports fellas or deal with this mess.
OMG. This lady took too much time to finish her speech, so I had to set the playback speed to 2x. Plus, I agree with the rest of the commenters: No Accountability. Geez.
I thought the objective of dating is “getting to know each other”, and not to publicize through social media, how much a man can spend on you. Why is it even relevant? The game is that the man “put on his best face” on a first date. What about the next day, the next week or year? You just set black women 100 steps back in the dating market. Certainly this will result in more men insisting on coffee dates, or allow phones, texts, faxes, to be the medium for “getting to know someone.”
Maturity starts when you stop posting your private life on Social Media.
"Your interpretation." Trick PLEASE! That was ALL YOU! You just didn't like the backlash you're receiving because YOU THOUGHT this was 2019 when you could get away with bs like this! But now men are aware, and are no longer putting up with this crap!💩
2019??....More Like 1989!!...Ain't No Man Putting Up This Today!!...