How I Learned To Love Myself

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    Learning to love yourself more is one of the most commons things that we struggle with. Improving the amount of self love we have will often times increase our levels of confidence, decrease the amount of validation we need from others, and bring more happiness into our lives. So today I'm going to show you how I approach this issue. This is how I learned to love myself.
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  • @studyme-selftaughtlife4958
    @studyme-selftaughtlife4958 5 ปีที่แล้ว +12108

    *When you help others, you’re helping yourself grow as an individual.*

    • @divyankgupta4178
      @divyankgupta4178 5 ปีที่แล้ว +40

      Vice versa also true

    • @vedpel861
      @vedpel861 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @AddictedToMusic103 can you rephrase your question

    • @luna5226
      @luna5226 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      AddictedToMusic103 idk what you mean by why so much attention, but a person is going to learn if they want to. You could attempt to help and succeed. But a lot of people won’t listen because they’re allowing their ego to control them. What I’m trying to say is, people will always learn if they want to. If they truly want change, they’ll allow it. If they don’t listen and you’ve tried many times, then, you’d have to let them learn the hard way. Sometimes you gotta let those people go, because they can manipulate your energy and have you thinking and or feeling low. Hope I helped in any way.

    • @filmora757
      @filmora757 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      No-one desires to help another. Instead they want to dominate them......

    • @campeanalexandru5698
      @campeanalexandru5698 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @Ro 3D Puppetteer nice english pleb...

  • @JamenEllis
    @JamenEllis 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6931

    What if Keanu Reeves looked up this video on how to love himself.

    • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385
      @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 5 ปีที่แล้ว +218

      He won't he already loves himself lol.

    • @hiyoise
      @hiyoise 4 ปีที่แล้ว +232

      I Like TH-cam.
      well, you don't really know what's going on in a person. who knows? everyone has personal issues and everyone has something keeping them from loving themselves.

    • @ruatsangawhite7261
      @ruatsangawhite7261 4 ปีที่แล้ว +41

      @@lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 the unending loop of paradox would create a singularity

    • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385
      @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      @@ruatsangawhite7261 ok

    • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385
      @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @Jonathan Rodriguez why could he be suffering while his rich and what not come one don't be silly now😂

  • @lotee360
    @lotee360 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1603

    Being socialy awkward is like the hardest thing to deal with 😩

    • @dylanboswell9975
      @dylanboswell9975 2 ปีที่แล้ว +217

      That and waking up everyday feeling useless

    • @yumyumyawn
      @yumyumyawn 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Yes to both comments

    • @X_ctacy
      @X_ctacy 2 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Not the hardest thing but I agree

    • @brendangolledge8312
      @brendangolledge8312 2 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      That's because being socially awkward makes you rejected when you try to socialize. So it hurts a lot to develop social skills when you are undeveloped. Maybe you can try to focus on your effort or the intention more.

    • @jeanfrancois1873
      @jeanfrancois1873 2 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      Try nofap, trust me

  • @catherinemaedumangas4504
    @catherinemaedumangas4504 3 ปีที่แล้ว +683

    Who else here can’t appreciate themselves and end up loosing their confidence and interest to anyone. Who’s with me😞

    • @jerenekimman3222
      @jerenekimman3222 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      Same i always thought that no one would love me..

    • @borahtae
      @borahtae 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      People are always disappointed when you don’t try hard enough and they’re disappointed when your best isn’t enough. It does something to someone eventually...

    • @energeticstunts993
      @energeticstunts993 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same, but for a person like me, I do work, have passions, have loyal friends, I still feel like I am not enough, I don't get it XD

    • @langeleonardjuguilon1252
      @langeleonardjuguilon1252 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I LOVE YOU

    • @mavis9650
      @mavis9650 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @Gabrielle Pangilinan SAME.

  • @skonfudowany7411
    @skonfudowany7411 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6070

    you just wanted an excuse to draw keanu reeves, didn't you

    • @aye428
      @aye428 5 ปีที่แล้ว +199

      I wouldn't blame him haha

    • @kamui4708
      @kamui4708 5 ปีที่แล้ว +49

      This is an example...be the one who you like

    • @sparcomusic887
      @sparcomusic887 5 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      @Crippling Depression yeah thats my question too

    • @abhishekpurkayastha1
      @abhishekpurkayastha1 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      🤣

    • @surya8891
      @surya8891 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Lol

  • @SkyBlue-wp5nx
    @SkyBlue-wp5nx 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5836

    Half of this video is basically about how Keanu Reeves is a literal saint. And Im okay with that.

    • @anandrajsingh6104
      @anandrajsingh6104 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Becoming Saint is actually very safe .

    • @Edzhjus
      @Edzhjus 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It is possible..Megatron also fears Predaking.. 🙄

    • @rexyz5875
      @rexyz5875 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Yes

    • @gase1691
      @gase1691 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      "No matter how hard you try, no matter how smart you are, you will be remembered for your evil deeds."

    • @naviecard5439
      @naviecard5439 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nyehehhehe

  • @karinvala731
    @karinvala731 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2028

    "If you hate yourself, change your personality"
    Yeah, swell advice you got there..

    • @arwa7518
      @arwa7518 4 ปีที่แล้ว +348

      He didn't say that you should change your personality he said that if you hate yourself that means that you hate something about yourself and you should do the opposite of that so you can love yourself more

    • @serenasmith1662
      @serenasmith1662 4 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Only you can find the way

    • @karinvala731
      @karinvala731 4 ปีที่แล้ว +229

      @@arwa7518 ...thats exactly what changing your personality is. Just because you hate something doesn't make it wrong or bad. You can hate something because you have been shamed and bullied into a distorted perception of yourself. So this advice is really harmful since it tells you to change things about yourself that might not even need changing.

    • @RICKETYP
      @RICKETYP 3 ปีที่แล้ว +59

      @@submissivekoala fucking love this reply

    • @codyh9155
      @codyh9155 3 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      @@submissivekoala Got em'

  • @winkleberry3041
    @winkleberry3041 4 ปีที่แล้ว +165

    It’s not about what you can do as someone else, it’s about being able to accept you as a whole with whoever you are. I looked up to extroverts and tried to be one even though I’m an introvert. I used to be truthful and confident in my independence. I ended up becoming too selfless, suicidal, and worried about not being the most people pleasing personality. I couldn’t become someone else because it’s not who I am meant to be. You can be lazy, thick, skinny, loud, quiet, shy, and own yourself. Being happy with the light and dark within you is the ultimate happiness. You just have to let yourself believe that you can change, but don’t do it to for/to become someone else, do it because you want to be a better version of You. Nobody else will be You except for you.

    • @jettyboy6718
      @jettyboy6718 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thanks I needed to hear that

    • @UniquelyHerz
      @UniquelyHerz ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Awesome 👏

    • @ldoh896
      @ldoh896 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Perfectly said

    • @orgldesgn2032
      @orgldesgn2032 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Soo true

    • @user-zr6ue6ug9v
      @user-zr6ue6ug9v 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Well written ❤

  • @27emailsicantsend
    @27emailsicantsend 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7677

    Why does Keanu look like Jesus in some of these illustrations? 😂😂

    • @yanmonteiro6472
      @yanmonteiro6472 5 ปีที่แล้ว +175

      -ahemhereallyisahem-

    • @inklo.4266
      @inklo.4266 5 ปีที่แล้ว +70

      i JUST THOUGHT THE SAME THING HBANALXbmsjskhsjsksmsiskxxm-

    • @ajiekowski
      @ajiekowski 5 ปีที่แล้ว +310

      because he is

    • @filmora757
      @filmora757 5 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      Reincarnation

    • @pranjal967
      @pranjal967 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

      Cz he is ...duh ! Right ? :p

  • @sonofgodsdad3227
    @sonofgodsdad3227 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1550

    Imagine telling that story to someone...
    "Yeah my plane just had to do an emergency landing but Keanu Reeves was on the plane as well and he drove all of us to our destination."

    • @ashleyphoenix633
      @ashleyphoenix633 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

      That would be the best story ever!! 😂

    • @havewissmart9602
      @havewissmart9602 4 ปีที่แล้ว +28

      We would be like: suuuuuuure......
      That guy: no for real!

    • @charlossen
      @charlossen 3 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      "Yeah and he started playing country music on the ride"

    • @smolchild1057
      @smolchild1057 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      @@charlossen and everyone clapped. :)

  • @z306jynng
    @z306jynng 3 ปีที่แล้ว +86

    “Think of someone you like”
    Me : Azula from Avatar the last airbender
    Oh, okay I’ll take over the world

  • @zaara3273
    @zaara3273 3 ปีที่แล้ว +153

    Taking up traits from someone else's personality u like and then loving yourself for owing that is more like toxic positivity. You just need to love and accept yourself just as you are.

    • @user-youdontknowme
      @user-youdontknowme 3 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      I totally understand what you're getting at. But the thing is, I can never look at something from one point of view. So my question is, what about people like, psychopaths? Pedophiles? Cannibals? Narcissists? Etc etc what about them? They're just being themselves when in our opinion they're doing 'bad' things. I know, there are factors that may make a person have dangerous tendencies. But my question remains, we should accept ourselves for what we are, but what if that real self is, for the lack of a better word, dangerous and toxic?
      Does it all come down to 'be yourself but not like that'? Who gets to decide what's acceptable and what's not? And why?

    • @amoora2235
      @amoora2235 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@user-youdontknowme wow. I guess at this point it would be all subjective POVs

    • @user-youdontknowme
      @user-youdontknowme 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@amoora2235 😅 ikr
      It gets very fuzzy when we start thinking about it. From a religious point of view, limits of morals and such are quite clear. But I would love to hear from a non-religious point of view.

    • @rtl6042
      @rtl6042 2 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@user-youdontknowme that's also right. But for that, they could have just said we need to eradicate our toxic traits and love ourselves as we are. When we say we need to change ourselves for being able to love ourselves, that's kind of- like we are not embracing our own selves.

    • @user-youdontknowme
      @user-youdontknowme 2 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      @@rtl6042 you're right too. But then again, isn't he in a way embracing himself by doing what he wants to do? Like, he wants to incorporate the things he loves in his own character and love himself for it. So isn't he just doing what he wants and accepting and loving himself the way he wants?
      You can do you and love yourself for it, and he has the choice to do what he wants to do. Is there a rule that only living with what traits you were born with is self acceptance? Don't we all acquire traits and habits and hobbies etc as we grow up? Isn't he just consciously choosing what he wants within himself and then being happy because he now is the best version of himself according to him?

  • @rainbowfoxmagicgrrrl
    @rainbowfoxmagicgrrrl 5 ปีที่แล้ว +474

    "just be a social butterfly" uh-huh okay

    • @AngieAJ
      @AngieAJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +29

      Not that easy though

    • @cherrae1887
      @cherrae1887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +20

      Yh but to love yourself you have to practice and leave the things keeping to hate yourselves isn't it clear

    • @asnbozhan
      @asnbozhan 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      What if I've social anxiety?
      ( ̄‐ ̄)

    • @AngieAJ
      @AngieAJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@cherrae1887 easier said than done for some.

    • @cherrae1887
      @cherrae1887 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      @@AngieAJ it's my experience tbh, ik it's really hard but not impossible

  • @sarahawesomesause1149
    @sarahawesomesause1149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3022

    Don’t want to make this too personal, but back in December I was going through a bad depressive period. Around December 23 I decided to start some kind of change. I didn’t have many friends, so I was spending all of my time in my bedroom. I thought I would start small and start being productive. So I started a storyboard (that I’m still working on), I played my guitar more, and I focused on improving my anatomy and perspective skills while sketching. By the time my winter break ended and I had to start my classes again, I still had a lot of anxiety issues but I had built up a lot of moral and was learning a lot about my personality and general. I was really happy about it. I think it was around this time that I found your video about your self improvement journey through high school, and I’m a sophomore, so when you mentioned that you realized that you went through high school with no memorable moments, I started thinking how my high school experience has basically been the same way so far. It took me a while to start working through my social anxiety, but about three weeks ago I started using my hobbies to communicate more with my peers. I brought portraits that I painted and gave them to people, I started embroidery and would give people the demos that I had made, and recently I started bringing my guitar (apparently lunging around a huge guitar case let’s other guitarists realize that there’s another guitarist in the area). This semester has definitely been a huge improvement, and your videos definitely made me realize some things in my life that I needed to change, so thanks! (Sorry if this went on forever!)

    • @milicamandic228
      @milicamandic228 5 ปีที่แล้ว +106

      That sounds amazing! If you don't mind me asking, how did you find the self-discipline needed for all of this? I want to make some similar changes, but I always end up procrastinating or just doing something easier etc. Do you have any advice?

    • @sarahawesomesause1149
      @sarahawesomesause1149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +137

      Milica Mandić Tbh, procrastination used to be a huge problem of mine. I would constantly be telling myself that I could just do the task another time. I guess the key to be more self disciplined would be consistency. When I was going through that depressive phase, for example, I had terrible hygiene. Like, I would probably shower once every two weeks. I started making progress by basically forcing myself to shower every night. Eventually it became routine. I don’t think self improvement is an easy thing to accomplish, but it’s definitely worth it. I also used my anxiety basically as motivation, which sounds strange, but it was basically a way of me using my negative traits in a positive way. I’m not sure if this works for everyone, but one example of me using my anxiety as motivation would be during one project I had for my drivers ed class. We were supposed to turn in a packet and PowerPoint presentation about different cars. It was a group assignment and the people I got paired up with were just straight up lazy and didn’t do anything. I was able to finish the PowerPoint and packet by myself, but the day before the due date, I lost the flash drive. I was freaking out pretty bad, but I decided to just start the whole thing over with the few hours I had left. I think that usually I would have just decided to tell the teacher the situation and not turn in anything, but I started thinking about how embarrassing it would be to have nothing finished when we all had a week and a half to work on this. When I turned it in, it wasn’t a perfect score, but at least it wasn’t a failure. Since then I’ve been using that anxiety to any project I start, and I put as much effort as I can into it. I hope this helps!

    • @milicamandic228
      @milicamandic228 5 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      Wow, thank you, that helps!

    • @congdungnguyen7354
      @congdungnguyen7354 5 ปีที่แล้ว +31

      @@sarahawesomesause1149 Great me too, I'm using the pain ("shyness, lovesickness" ) as my motivation to do martial arts 5 times per week and go deep in myself. It works: Now I can say I'm an optimistic person.

    • @sarahawesomesause1149
      @sarahawesomesause1149 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      Improvement Pill Thanks, really appreciate it!

  • @LowKeyJaded
    @LowKeyJaded 3 ปีที่แล้ว +237

    Me: *looks up this video*
    Me: hmm....
    Me: *Starts hating myself just a little bit more*

    • @dakine4238
      @dakine4238 3 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      me: don't go down that path, there are people that will make your life difficult don't make it difficult for yourself.

    • @kymonimitchell2816
      @kymonimitchell2816 3 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Same 😢

    • @emela7133
      @emela7133 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Exactly!!

  • @MrDuLac
    @MrDuLac 3 ปีที่แล้ว +87

    It’s also important to recognize that Keanu has gone through a lot, continuously. Serious struggles.
    It’s frequent that the kindest people are the ones who have gone through some not-so-kind things. Real, raw humanity. ❤️

    • @LoveHeartWIPS
      @LoveHeartWIPS ปีที่แล้ว

      I can say this is true. Thank you

    • @LoveHeartWIPS
      @LoveHeartWIPS ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I can say this is true. Thank you

  • @valdemarakenes6222
    @valdemarakenes6222 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1350

    When you asked me to chose a celebrity Keanu Reeves was my first Choice! Hes totaly my favorite actor!

    • @3amDayDreamer
      @3amDayDreamer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Keanu Reeves is a great person

    • @nemexi5440
      @nemexi5440 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same!

    • @jakeyu2404
      @jakeyu2404 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Is he still dating that trans actress

    • @HeyItzSpider
      @HeyItzSpider 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@jakeyu2404 yeah

    • @cosythe1st
      @cosythe1st 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      same

  • @P0MMESKOPF
    @P0MMESKOPF 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1313

    that´s because he left the matrix
    he knows we are all one

    • @jvibes3280
      @jvibes3280 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @TomyIneXtriCable
      @TomyIneXtriCable 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @ragnar6994
      @ragnar6994 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

    • @hamsterGoneCrazy
      @hamsterGoneCrazy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Indeed Mr. Smith

    • @adelam6409
      @adelam6409 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @mai08cho
    @mai08cho 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Namjoon taught me how to love myself

  • @cookiecola63
    @cookiecola63 3 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Have searched the whole internet for practical self-love advices and this small single advice worths a thousand times more than all of them together.
    Thank you.

  • @AleMaia
    @AleMaia 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1855

    I didn’t know those stories about Keanu! So sweet!
    The advise you’re giving here is simple, yet useful. Thank you!

    • @juliocarlos7131
      @juliocarlos7131 5 ปีที่แล้ว +21

      He is the sweetest man in the world. We have to award him. Noble prize of existence. NOW!

    • @charlierobles316
      @charlierobles316 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      In the Matrix he took 1 million dollars of his pay to give it to the other actors in the movie

    • @nightshade7092
      @nightshade7092 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yeah, Keanu is amazing!

  • @venuslowe
    @venuslowe 5 ปีที่แล้ว +789

    You: “Keanu Reeves-”
    Me: *claps loudly*

    • @sj5484
      @sj5484 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      😂😂😂 lol dude SAME!!!!

    • @asmarasuntrust
      @asmarasuntrust 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Why does this have little likes???

  • @luisterrust
    @luisterrust 3 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    The longest relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself! love yourself like nobody else ✅✅✅

  • @benkoertge127
    @benkoertge127 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    how did i end up here from bonelab

  • @nothinmulch
    @nothinmulch 5 ปีที่แล้ว +274

    Another reason to love Keanu is because he uses his riches to help others. He realizes its an enormous privilege to be rich and knows not everyone can be where he is. Its like having a superpower.

  • @mrbrownhook
    @mrbrownhook 5 ปีที่แล้ว +360

    Thank you, improvement pill.For always being there for us.

    • @soumadip_skyy_banerjee
      @soumadip_skyy_banerjee 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      U read my mind!

    • @r011ing_thunder6
      @r011ing_thunder6 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      He was there when I got laid for the first time. In the same room. Great guy.

  • @AngieAJ
    @AngieAJ 3 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    Also, when doing a presentation, imagine your favorite person smiling at everything you say :)

  • @inekkoya
    @inekkoya 4 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    The only person you are gonna be with your whole life is yourself. Why spending time on judging yourself when you can try to love yourself little by little💜
    Thank you bts for showing me how to love myself💜💜

  • @adamwestcoast5723
    @adamwestcoast5723 5 ปีที่แล้ว +332

    Keanu Reeves is like Jesus lowkey

    • @krazylevin
      @krazylevin 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      lol

    • @laracastillo3245
      @laracastillo3245 4 ปีที่แล้ว +15

      *HIGH KEY*

    • @Vall_Ey
      @Vall_Ey 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      But if not wrong, I ever heard he is not christian but buddhist. Cmiiw

  • @imback2killu328
    @imback2killu328 5 ปีที่แล้ว +73

    Elon musk taught me to work hard and give something back to this planet. To keep going even when no one believes in you because there is always someone who does and that's you.

    • @dmax1
      @dmax1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I wish I could give you more likes

    • @Jayyk09
      @Jayyk09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@dmax1 I gave it, your comment made me do so😅

    • @dmax1
      @dmax1 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Jayyk09 thanks lol

  • @caraboo5896
    @caraboo5896 2 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    See when I think about “changing yourself.” I think “force yourself out of your comfort zone to make friends. Or push my self in a situation where I have to fake being confident all to somehow love myself. Though your video changed my stupid thoughts and it makes so much sense that if you really wanna love your self just be a better person and try not to brag! I wrote a lot but I just wanna say thanks for this. :]

    • @Blossom535
      @Blossom535 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      You can do it , it’s not necessarily faking it but look at it like It’s something you can practice and work on and over time you will build it and it’ll become easier also you’ll feel better with each goal . I’m trying baby steps sometimes we just got to face our fears

  • @phantomvibrator5450
    @phantomvibrator5450 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    this dude told us something we all knew but didnt realize

  • @juliocarlos7131
    @juliocarlos7131 5 ปีที่แล้ว +317

    *sees the dark shadow*
    Brain: *keanu*
    *Is actually keanu*
    Me: 0.0 oh gad yes

  • @shei8296
    @shei8296 5 ปีที่แล้ว +185

    “Love myself, love yourself” ~ kim namjoon 💜

  • @mochimochigod6742
    @mochimochigod6742 4 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    This video is more "making others love me" than loving myself. It's like I would need to become an entirely different person than what I am to feel happy and loved.

    • @VellaRachel
      @VellaRachel 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I promise you you don’t have to create a whole new personality to do random acts of kindness and boost your mood. Anyone can do that in any number of ways

  • @MsGenXodus
    @MsGenXodus 4 ปีที่แล้ว +111

    How is pretending to be someone else helpful in learning to love yourself? I'm not a wealthy celebrity who can afford to pay for rides for dozens of people whom I've got nothing in common with aside from a common destination.
    I suspect that the narrator doesn't actually love himself, he loves the idea of pretending to be someone else. This is not the same thing. It is also not healthy to force yourself to behave in a particular way that is against your nature.

    • @omega6872
      @omega6872 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Exactly what I wanted to say

    • @calvin4530
      @calvin4530 3 ปีที่แล้ว +23

      the title literally said "how i learned to love myself". its based on his own experience. he is just sharing how he did it to himself, and using it as an advice to anyone else. we all have our own cope mechanism, and its up to us if we will strive to be better

    • @johnybrokeit
      @johnybrokeit 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Totally agree with you, I almost clicked the dislike button.
      Im an awesome person but sometimes i fail and fail bad; I came on here to look for ways to love myself in such scenarios!

    • @lihongli6594
      @lihongli6594 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I agree. It will make someone never feels enough if he follows the advice in the video.

    • @lNFECTlONCA
      @lNFECTlONCA 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      The only reason he used Keanu was because he is a popular figure who people know and can easily refer to as he tells his story. If he used a nobody he saw down the street people wouldn’t really know what type of person that individual is and will probably be disinterested cause nobody cares about a nobody. Keanu reeves on the other hand - you seem so narrow minded I feel really bad for you

  • @zukorights
    @zukorights 5 ปีที่แล้ว +371

    me : *admires zuko *
    me: soo uhh how can I *checks notes* learn firebending and get a best character development and redemption arc in history?

    • @kinaadman7584
      @kinaadman7584 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

      Well, Zuko was abandoned by her mother and leave to marry another man. His scar was caused by his father and even his sister is as insane as his father. His uncle died leaving him all alone with no "normal" family to lean onto. He has all the rights to turn into evil after having a horrible past with no normal childhood but instead of walking onto the dark path, he befriended Aang and his gang, his mortal enemy. He improved his skill and became a fire lord. Despite his horrible past, he never forgets her mother. He searched all over for her and in the end, he accepted her new family. Zuko has a lot of humility and improvement as person too!

    • @iliash2025
      @iliash2025 5 ปีที่แล้ว +17

      My favourite character in this show (and one of the best i have ever seen) is uncle Iroh : the wise old man living his life the way he wants to while helping those he meets along the way…so many of his quotes are pure gold... yeah i'm a fanboy :p

    • @ashleyphoenix633
      @ashleyphoenix633 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      I just love how this character is so well written because he has such a great development through out the series. Zuko is constantly misunderstood (technically at first was a villain not entirely though ) and just wants to be accepted by his father since he doesn't obtain the honor that Ozai practically stole from him , Zuko goes and obeys the orders that have been given to capture the avatar in order to get his honor back. But I simply adore the redemption arc especially when Iroh helps Zuko long the way . I'm talking also about the episode where Aang's bison goes missing but Zuko manages to locate Appa later Iroh appears in the exact moment then gives a epic speech that made him question who he was ...at the end of the episode Zuko his blue mask off and throughs it out to the ocean (that in away is saying that he is letting part of that past , talk about symbolic ). Including the Zuko Alone episode

    • @ashleyphoenix633
      @ashleyphoenix633 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@iliash2025 I know right. Me too I'm such a fangirl and Iroh always gives the most epic and wisest speeches in all of the series

    • @rwinter13rw
      @rwinter13rw 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I'm sorry but the best character development and redemption arc has to go to Arthur Morgan from RDR2

  • @scarlettphoenix3656
    @scarlettphoenix3656 4 ปีที่แล้ว +23

    I don't understand how I started to hate myself. I'm not a bad person, but suffer from extreme depression and low-self esteem. Even my husband is ignoring me and distancing away .

    • @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385
      @lovepeaceisneverguaranteed7385 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      U just lonely its normal we all feel lonely from time to time but don't hate yourself I know u say u don't know your source of hating yourself but u being depressed about is pointless just try to do things that u love or in other words love yourself and your husband will not ignore u.

    • @arohisonyalkar248
      @arohisonyalkar248 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Same here..

    • @thinkwhatsyourlife5908
      @thinkwhatsyourlife5908 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      Im sorry I feel for you ik this feeling

  • @eulaliacampelo
    @eulaliacampelo 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    This reminds me of something I've learned with Ali Abdaal! "Choose yourself "! We tend to be told to be ourselves, but we can, if we want, choose ourselves, and there's nothing wrong with neither choices(stay you or change)... thanks for the video, now I attached this concept to the idea of self love!

  • @candidooliveira2182
    @candidooliveira2182 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    The LOVE you give to others is a reflexion of the LOVE you have for YOURSELF

  • @closetpsychologist4027
    @closetpsychologist4027 5 ปีที่แล้ว +115

    Briliant. Keanu Reeves has cracked the code. That guy is working God's plan. An epically great human

  • @mars3210
    @mars3210 5 ปีที่แล้ว +466

    He looks like Jesus

    • @kossiscott1002
      @kossiscott1002 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      Mars well he really does in real life

    • @mars3210
      @mars3210 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@kossiscott1002 yeah i know XD

    • @enemyoftherepublic777
      @enemyoftherepublic777 4 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Except he’s so much better

    • @f.g.2125
      @f.g.2125 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      It's because he is-

    • @catinsoop
      @catinsoop 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Ok yt comment section is glitching it’s say you have 5 comments yet it shows me an infinite number of comments

  • @windflier1684
    @windflier1684 3 ปีที่แล้ว +51

    “how to love yourself”
    “just change yourself to be loveable.”
    Yes, 1 min is indeed 60 seconds.

  • @renukakrishnan2590
    @renukakrishnan2590 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This is my most favorite TH-cam channel . Always motivating, genuine advice, boosts my mood when I feel low. Keep up the work man, you are doing awesome ❤

  • @BlackPenzo
    @BlackPenzo 5 ปีที่แล้ว +421

    You can't just become a different person. People usually can't just swap personality traits out. I feel like the advice should go more towards how you can love who you are before you say "You need to change to be able to love yourself"

    • @gaffatsy9193
      @gaffatsy9193 4 ปีที่แล้ว +95

      Yeah but the thing is, you can change. You are the way you are because of experiences, so you should be able to have new experiences based on what you want to change yourself. Go after what you want in life, it isn't easy

    • @user-eo5en5tm6h
      @user-eo5en5tm6h 4 ปีที่แล้ว +102

      If you admire a trait, chances are that you were already meant to be that sort of person with that specific trait. We admire traits for a reason. You're not really 'changing' yourself. Call it improvement.

    • @rizkaayuassyifa4383
      @rizkaayuassyifa4383 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Right

    • @lynic-0091
      @lynic-0091 4 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      @@user-eo5en5tm6h Interesting

    • @meghnalekshman4137
      @meghnalekshman4137 4 ปีที่แล้ว +62

      I think there's a huge difference between changing to someone you're not and changing to a better version of yourself.

  • @ehnyu2694
    @ehnyu2694 5 ปีที่แล้ว +62

    YOU SHOWED ME I HAVE REASONS I SHOULD LOVE MYSELFFFFFFF

    • @nrhnnhbtrsy
      @nrhnnhbtrsy 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I just came back from listening to that song 😭

    • @angelic18
      @angelic18 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      UUUUOOOOOOO

  • @harvey3190
    @harvey3190 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video makes so much sense, it's unbelievable. It's almost like I had this idea in the back of my mind , but the video helped bring it out.

  • @halepham6963
    @halepham6963 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is the realest advice i've ever heard

  • @andrewnguyen4827
    @andrewnguyen4827 5 ปีที่แล้ว +24

    Love your yourself = being a magnet . Watching improvement pill's conversation skills is loving yourself. Your videos motivated me to work on myself. Thank you for your help.

  • @LitEpicGamer
    @LitEpicGamer 5 ปีที่แล้ว +59

    Careful you don’t want people to pretend to be someone there not. You can’t take traits that disagree with who you are

    • @kimmyakaurmom337
      @kimmyakaurmom337 4 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      i kinda thought that too but i honestly don’t know what is what anymore i j wanna love myself

    • @Jayyk09
      @Jayyk09 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Identity is defined by what you do, the more you so something the more it becomes your identity
      - Mark Manson (Subtle Art of Not giving a F**k)
      - James Clear (Atomic Habits)

  • @hillystudies487
    @hillystudies487 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The Beauty of Freedom is Immeasurable
    The Satisfaction of Dignity is Divine
    You Do Not Need to be Someone You Are Not
    JUST you are FINE
    The world Needs You
    Because There is Only One You
    And Only You Can Be You, Like You Do
    LOVE from Cappadocia!

  • @clanterminaition3257
    @clanterminaition3257 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    us BONELAB users got caught in 4K

  • @spark0420
    @spark0420 5 ปีที่แล้ว +249

    Today I ordered a rope from eBay and planed to kill myself. But this video has made me think, if I help others and try become a better person I might be happy again. Thank you

    • @simeoda
      @simeoda 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Luca OasisMonkeys ❤️

    • @someguy5874
      @someguy5874 4 ปีที่แล้ว +22

      U still alive?

    • @anonymous-fn2ky
      @anonymous-fn2ky 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

      how r u doing now? hope uve improved n hv become simwat happier...not worth killing urself jus to feel pain in after life...

    • @kamyskitty-mixes89
      @kamyskitty-mixes89 4 ปีที่แล้ว +30

      Hey there, if you can just stick with it for a little longer, throw out the rope - or, better yet, help someone out using it, maybe you're at the local docks by the beach and someone needs help getting their boat tied down. Or maybe a friend wants help decorating their porch, suggest stringing it up around the ceiling of it and wrapping some led lights around the rope. Just so long as you don't use it negatively. Please don't do any harm to yourself. You are a living human being just like everyone else.
      Always remember that you are loved, spread your love further to others to let them know they are as well and let this cycle become a cycle. 💙

    • @Shrek-pu8uu
      @Shrek-pu8uu 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Are you alive? Please let me know if yes!!

  • @melitopinto4034
    @melitopinto4034 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Just what I desperately needed. Thank you so much improvement pill.

  • @terryarmstrong1029
    @terryarmstrong1029 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This should have a billion views !

  • @Holagrimola
    @Holagrimola ปีที่แล้ว +17

    DO NOT DO THIS!!!
    I did this almost 10 years ago, and while it did help me feeling better about myself, it also made me value myself by external factors, and by doing so, I became utterly judgemental of anyone not having that much of the trait as I did, and it kind of became a competition, which allowed myself to look down on the 'lesser ones'. I'm talking about how the frame of mind is, not what I actually believe. Because I did notice these thoughts come up, which made me try to unravel all of the added layers. You see, the thing is that you never really manage your worth as a human being, only worth of actions.
    Now, even though my story is anecdotal, and people are different, I do believe there is a real risk of the same happening to you, or others.

    • @Nola5427
      @Nola5427 ปีที่แล้ว

      I think a person has to have balance and that will help alot.

    • @JustABoy98
      @JustABoy98 ปีที่แล้ว

      Exactly this video is the root of telling other people to be people pleaser , the worst take on self love I have seen 😴

  • @sonamyfunnumber1553
    @sonamyfunnumber1553 5 ปีที่แล้ว +19

    I hate my self and I don't speak to anyone I just stand there and waiting to someone to talk to me 😢

    • @thelesbianholyspirit9649
      @thelesbianholyspirit9649 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Hello, you shouldn't hate yourself

    • @Coanimals
      @Coanimals 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      That's an amazing attitude "WAITING FOR SOMEONE TO TALK TO YOU"😂

  • @ifnotwhynot7890
    @ifnotwhynot7890 4 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Loving yourself is the key to a happy life guaranteed.

  • @Vlek
    @Vlek 4 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Hey man, i cant thank you enough for making this video
    Im always mad at myself for giving upwhen it gets too hard, even tough i know i can do it.
    And because of thid video i realised what was holding me back.
    It was my own fear of making it too hard that caused me to always want to give up before it gets hard.
    So thank you man, i really needed to realise this

  • @jahwarrior965
    @jahwarrior965 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Most importantly, you must perform these acts with a loving intention that is genuine.

  • @saren3115
    @saren3115 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Out of all the self love videos I’ve tried to watch on here this is the best! I love the fact about using a favorite character and/or person you look up too and try to use the traits yourself:) thank you so much

  • @pellopellopello1
    @pellopellopello1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +36

    This kinda seems like the equivalent of telling depressed people to just cheer up.

    • @bodacious12
      @bodacious12 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      not really, this actually gives advice

    • @LloydRhodesBrandon
      @LloydRhodesBrandon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      “Just cheer up” is much more vague than “start doing kind things day to day”, don’t you think?

    • @pellopellopello1
      @pellopellopello1 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@LloydRhodesBrandon not really, what i got from this video is if you wanna be a person you love just do what other people that you love do, but if it were that easy i think we'd have a society of perfect people by now :-)

    • @LloydRhodesBrandon
      @LloydRhodesBrandon 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      pellopellopello1 That’s fair. I have wrestled on and off with depression for years. Motivation is dead when you’re depressed. However I think a point that the video doesn’t touch on really is how momentum can be gained; if you can push yourself to do just one little nice/cool thing today, it’ll be half as difficult to do one tomorrow, half again the next day, and so on. Momentum is such a powerful thing. I didn’t understand that for a long time. I waited until it felt easy to take action. But that doesn’t happen until you start taking action when it isn’t easy xx

  • @avivapeimer8158
    @avivapeimer8158 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is actually brilliant. Thank you!

  • @maudoki_prod
    @maudoki_prod 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    'Stop being like that' , wow! Thanks, never thought about it

  • @nadie2016
    @nadie2016 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    Dude, you've been hitting the GYM! you look so muscular in comparison to old videos

  • @pigeonoverlord9433
    @pigeonoverlord9433 5 ปีที่แล้ว +126

    Seriously who DOESN’T like Keanu Reeves??? XD

    • @noormustafa8764
      @noormustafa8764 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

      I didn't even know him🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @Jess-ew3tm
      @Jess-ew3tm 4 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      I dont really know them like that

    • @oliverwarlock241
      @oliverwarlock241 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      Matrix protagonist

  • @sona8876
    @sona8876 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So happy i found this video i could cry.

  • @komahinacanon526
    @komahinacanon526 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    thank you so much, i have anxiety,depression,ocd not to mention very low self steem but im trying to really change myself into being more confident and happy

  • @Thugh130
    @Thugh130 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I'm going to start being more confident, outgoing and happy. 💪🏽

  • @cottoncandy113
    @cottoncandy113 4 ปีที่แล้ว +13

    Wow, I have asked this question for years and this is the most straightforward answer I've gotten. I'll try it. Thank you! ❤️

  • @xvoxo3073
    @xvoxo3073 4 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    My friend met Keanu Reeves and they talked about life, I’m so jealous

  • @anya_kayyy
    @anya_kayyy 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I was just on a 1 hour long call with a friend arguing about how she needs to love herself and at the end I finally got her to agree to do something with me (I’m still planning it) anyway I think this channel is gonna be really helpful so thank you

  • @damilolaowolabi9148
    @damilolaowolabi9148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is the best video you’ve made in my opinion. Thanks for this. It’s a good sign to me that I’m on the right path. Keep on going man💪🏽

  • @derek554
    @derek554 5 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This motivated me to keep making videos. I just got to 10K. THANK YOU IP!!❤️❤️❤️

  • @itzzara_6985
    @itzzara_6985 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This video boosted my motivation to an extent where words can't explain. Thank you so much.

  • @arcticridge
    @arcticridge 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    YOU'RE BREATHTAKING!

  • @kara6320
    @kara6320 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    such a simple concept that ive never thought of mindblowing! I feel like now I'm going to make a list of all the traits i like in others and try to emulate that thank you for a great video!

  • @theplumscrub1627
    @theplumscrub1627 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Thank you.
    I have a terrible lot of bad throughts about myself, and this cleared up for me what to do.

  • @akidmuzaffar
    @akidmuzaffar 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    YOU'RE BREATHTAKING

  • @viverasschweiz
    @viverasschweiz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    one of the most delighted videos one you tube.

  • @VanOnline
    @VanOnline 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    I've been struggling with this for a long time, but your video broke it down so easily where I can take practical steps, thank you thank you thank you!!!!

  • @lauralu9265
    @lauralu9265 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    A different perspective on a topic that has been covered so much. Great video. Thank you.

  • @kw7814
    @kw7814 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I love your videos. Your channel and many other self-improvement and spiritual channel are changing my life. Heres to the 2020s and how amazing it'll be for me and others.

  • @KhadiffaAlexis
    @KhadiffaAlexis 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    There are persons I admire because of their UNIQUE personalities and traits that doesn't mean I have to start behaving like them. You are giving people an unhealthy way for self love, I don't think this was intended. Yes, it's okay to have persons as inspiration or role models but we must always remember that each and every one of us are unique. In my opinion, the key to loving yourself is taking time to actually appreciate yourself that includes self-care days, positive affirmations, praying etc. Self-love also means picking up on our bad habits. It's a lot more to self-love and it varies for everyone. Hope everyone's doing well

  • @Tsaier
    @Tsaier 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is a hot take I have never thought of before, it's pretty helpful. Thanks Improvement Pill!

  • @blossom6505
    @blossom6505 5 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    i was thinking about your channel like 5 minutes ago and now you posted so thanks 🤩

  • @oOZorni
    @oOZorni 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I started to love myself by accepting my weaknesses and turning them into strengths and something to be proud of

  • @sparkofwisdom3483
    @sparkofwisdom3483 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    That's amazing! I just uploaded an interview with an awesome life coach talking about this exact topic. I love it that people are interested in knowing more about what self love is and how to truly love themselves. It's critical for our mental, emotional and social health.

  • @kienmaple
    @kienmaple 4 ปีที่แล้ว +40

    It's more complicated than this. Interesting idea nonetheless.

  • @ritenchaudhari397
    @ritenchaudhari397 5 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Whenever You upload a video,
    You bring a smile on my face

  • @HYBRIDLqTHEORY
    @HYBRIDLqTHEORY 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yall are breathtaking

  • @jenno5555
    @jenno5555 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    What I learned from this video is to take the time to work on yourself when you hate yourself. Like meeting new people, work out, be creative, volunteer and ect. When you actually move around and do stuff, you discover things you like about yourself. You need to gently shock your system to get out of the self-hating rut. Have agency over YOUR LIFE.

  • @psychogenesis6755
    @psychogenesis6755 5 ปีที่แล้ว +189

    1.5 mill.... Where’s the face reveal??

    • @selfimprovement3682
      @selfimprovement3682 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Improvement Pill k

    • @samiirahmed534
      @samiirahmed534 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Be satified with his content that matters most smh

    • @psychogenesis6755
      @psychogenesis6755 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      samiir ahmed yeah true, but it bothers me that I know his voice but not his face. Idk if he doesn’t want to it’s fine. Ultimately it’s his choice. I just don’t wanna die not knowing you know?

    • @samiirahmed534
      @samiirahmed534 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@psychogenesis6755 ofcourse, he do likes more than you to be known for his intellectual information. It is just that he isnt ready for it now. If he reveals it benefits him more and gets him recognized. Time will tell.

    • @mrbrownhook
      @mrbrownhook 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ImprovementPill i will live to that, in Gods grace

  • @python3x
    @python3x 2 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Man, this video... this is probably the most important video of my entire life. You helped me wake up the mindset that I used to have, which unfortunately I had forgotten a long ago. Huge thanks to you, YOU'RE BREATHTAKING :)

  • @FlimByNomaan
    @FlimByNomaan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks Man... I appreciate it! Lots of love!❤❤❤

  • @Cloud-so2fd
    @Cloud-so2fd 2 ปีที่แล้ว

    This really helped me so much, I’m gonna watch this often to remind myself of these things. Your channel is very useful, thank you so much.

  • @Mermaidbear313
    @Mermaidbear313 5 ปีที่แล้ว +33

    WWKD? - What Would Keanu Do?

  • @alexdark466
    @alexdark466 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Okey , you've got some valid points there...

  • @DeanRendar
    @DeanRendar 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    im grateful for a world that allows me to try again where i have failed, and return wiser and appreciative of the subtleties i didn't recognize early on, there's a sacredness in knowing you are making something better of your own relationship with you each and everyday and thus the world. i wasn't mad at the world, i was mad at myself for wrongly assuming the world was never going to be ok with me. ive come to peace with that errored thinking and will try to let that feeling be known more to those around in an effortless way, for health and overall well being we all deserve.

  • @user-hp5mr4yz8h
    @user-hp5mr4yz8h 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    This video is very easy to understand and so helpful! Thank you! Loving oneself IS the key to everything!