You literally hit on just about everything I’ve experienced lately and with excellent advice, I thank you for sharing these tips for what works for you.❤
My glow up has been halted by guilt. I have put my family and others before me for so long, i feel guilty when i put myself on the front burner. I know that doesn't sound good, but it is true.
Thank you for the road trip analogy. I’m guilty of letting perfectionism and comparison stunt my growth/progress. Something unique about me: I have the ability to understand both sides of situations. My friends seek my advice to help them look at their obstacles from multiple points of view. I usually give them something to ponder that they have never thought about.
That is a really unique gift- not most people can do that without “choosing sides”. I try to keep the road trip analogy in my head when I get frustrated with my progress. I hope it helps you to start letting go of perfection and comparison.
I made a point to finally get back to following my dream this year..... cleared a whole room to pursue it, set everything up..... and spent two days in there in the last two months.🤦🏻♀️It's like my mind was there but my spirit let go and my body followed with resistance. I need to spend some time in prayer tomorrow to get back on track. 🙏🏻Mentally I want this so much but I need to be all in, not just halfway. Thank you for this cause it helps me not feel so alone like it's only me. ❤❤
I know I am so delayed in responding, but you can do this! You also have to give yourself grace when things don't go according to plan. How are you now?
@@kristidoingthings Not doing great. Still filling my time with other things and still longing to be following my dream. 🤦🏻♀️Good thing is I'm getting lots of things accomplished lol Bad thing is my dream is still on hold. Maybe it's a timing thing and I'm getting ready for what is to come? Lord, I don't know.
One unique aspect about me is, once I’ve made up my mind, it’s a done deal. “All in” is an issue I’m struggling with at this moment, because I feel as though I have less time ahead of me. 😊
Remember you are no good to anyone, if you aren't optimal and you will always have you and God because relatives will die. Obedience is better than sacrifice.
The all or nothing trap is a big one for me. I have to keep reminding myself to just be a little better than the day before so that I don’t get sucked into it again. And this is now especially true since my chronic illness diagnosis. There will be days when I won’t be able to do anything. But I have to keep moving forward, and be better the next day, even if it’s as small as drinking 1 cup of water more.
This is so good!!! The mindset of being a little better each day is key and giving yourself grace when you need it. Sounds like with your illness you especially need to just focus on the small daily steps 🫶🏽
@@kristidoingthings definitely so. But I brushed my teeth and washed my face. That’s better than yesterday. I even worked on my diagnosis story. I just set up my phone and free recorded. I felt so good afterwards. Bit like journaling, in a way.
My current struggle is balancing family and not being disappointed in where I am for keeping others ahead of me.so in essence I fall into the guilt trap, comparison, and wanting things to happen quickly.
I feel like I fall in and out of the comparison trap. I do now however catch myself when I do that. It's crazy that I can't pinpoint something unique or special 😔. You've made me stop and think.
My uniqueness is my ability sort out what is working for me and what’s not. Being flexible with change has been key to becoming the woman I want to be. A trap I’ve fell in more is more, perfectionist trap after restarting my journey for the umpteenth time. I self sabotaged thinking success meant having everything in order
Being flexible is such a wonderful trait that I’m still growing in. No more restarting for you, missy!!! Just keep going. I’m glad you recognize where you are and now that you do you can start addressing that specifically 😉
as a college student I find a reason it is difficult for me to have a “glow up” that turns into a lifestyle are my finances. I’ve been learning a lot of DIY maintenance skills which I post on my channel ❤
Love this!!! It doesn't take a lot of money to glow up. Honestly, the internal glow up is so much more important and makes so much more of a difference that the external. That will come. You can buy more stuff here and there. But truly believe that the mind/body/spirit has to come first. ♥️ Also, best of luck in school!!!
Letting one area fall to the wayside because it doesn’t feel comfortable. Need to keep taking small steps in right direction, till find something that is right fit. Definitely need to keep whole picture in mind.
You have to do what works for you and that's okay! You will find that right fit and the series of lifestyle changes that make you feel like your best self. 💜
I usually fall in the comparison trap. I have always been told how well I am able to keep it together or bounce back from difficulties. I’m not sure if that’s unique.
Thanks Kristi, I appreciate you so much. I’m 61 years young, (but I feel 35) anyway, I’m still becoming my higher self. At this stage I’m actually focusing more on me. I’m so inspired by your posts, you never know who you are going to touch. Thanks 😊
Something super unique about me is the balance of High emotional intelligence and big picture thinking. Being able to see the whole picture and know and understand others view of that picture and what is blocking them from seeing all of the picture and helping them to remove their blocks is what helps me build high performing teams!!! #summerglowup60
Perfection trap for sure. Not amazing at giving myself grace. Working on it!👍 One unique thing about me is my talent with plants. Love this time of year when everything is lush and green 💚
Ooohhh, I’m so jealous! I love plants but I have very little talent in keeping them alive. Keep working on it! It’s taken me a long time to realize we can’t beat ourselves up into changing. 😉
Hello Kristi! My traps are perfection and the all in. When it comes to perfection, I think it's more so that I like to do things well, and not have any regrets, knowing that I gave it my very best effort, based on the knowledge and capabilities I had at the time. My special gifts are that I pick up accents and languages fairly easily. I currently speak, understand, and write in 4½ languages: French, English, Spanish, Bulu (Southern part of Cameroon, Central Africa), and some Korean. I am planning on taking Korean classes, to become more fluent in it. I have probably missed the 4 hours window, for the opportunity to win a prize. Oh well...
Something that was so powerful for me was realizing that not EVERYTHING has to be perfect. Some things do need to be just right. But some things just need to get done. You're a polyglot! So jealous!! Do you get the opportunity to speak in those languages regularly?
I feel like I’ve been into a few categories. I’m all or nothing if it’s not gonna if I can’t picture it and see the steps ahead I won’t start. I’m off Balance where go all in one area and neglect others because I’m a perfectionist who really is looking for validation not because I think I’m perfect to be perfect. Just want to be noticed childhood trauma. And I also deal with comparison and feeling like it goes back to validation of what about me? When is it going to be my turn when things gonna work out for me when I have to stop striving. When does my glow up season start manifesting?
Hey loves! Happy Mother’s Day!!! Can’t wait to hear which of these traps you’ve fell into, or any that I’ve missed.
You literally hit on just about everything I’ve experienced lately and with excellent advice, I thank you for sharing these tips for what works for you.❤
You're so welcome!!! Glad that it resonated with you ♥️
My glow up has been halted by guilt. I have put my family and others before me for so long, i feel guilty when i put myself on the front burner. I know that doesn't sound good, but it is true.
I am in the same boat. I have guilted myself too long and now it is negatively impacting my family. Time to take care.
Oooh, I hadn’t thought of this but it’s a good one! What does your family say when you’re not taking care of your needs?
Yes it is! You deserve and NEED it!
I love this! 💗 Never thought about some of these! START UGLY 👏🏻 START UNPREPARED 👏🏻 JUST START!!!! 😄
Exactly!!! We never get anywhere waiting for the perfect time. 😉
Thank you for the road trip analogy. I’m guilty of letting perfectionism and comparison stunt my growth/progress. Something unique about me: I have the ability to understand both sides of situations. My friends seek my advice to help them look at their obstacles from multiple points of view. I usually give them something to ponder that they have never thought about.
That is a really unique gift- not most people can do that without “choosing sides”. I try to keep the road trip analogy in my head when I get frustrated with my progress. I hope it helps you to start letting go of perfection and comparison.
@@kristidoingthings ❤️
I made a point to finally get back to following my dream this year..... cleared a whole room to pursue it, set everything up..... and spent two days in there in the last two months.🤦🏻♀️It's like my mind was there but my spirit let go and my body followed with resistance. I need to spend some time in prayer tomorrow to get back on track. 🙏🏻Mentally I want this so much but I need to be all in, not just halfway.
Thank you for this cause it helps me not feel so alone like it's only me. ❤❤
I know I am so delayed in responding, but you can do this! You also have to give yourself grace when things don't go according to plan. How are you now?
@@kristidoingthings Not doing great. Still filling my time with other things and still longing to be following my dream. 🤦🏻♀️Good thing is I'm getting lots of things accomplished lol Bad thing is my dream is still on hold. Maybe it's a timing thing and I'm getting ready for what is to come? Lord, I don't know.
One unique aspect about me is, once I’ve made up my mind, it’s a done deal.
“All in” is an issue I’m struggling with at this moment, because I feel as though I have less time ahead of me. 😊
Ahh, you’re committed to your decisions. I love that!!! What God has for you is yours 😉
Remember you are no good to anyone, if you aren't optimal and you will always have you and God because relatives will die.
Obedience is better than sacrifice.
The all or nothing trap is a big one for me. I have to keep reminding myself to just be a little better than the day before so that I don’t get sucked into it again. And this is now especially true since my chronic illness diagnosis. There will be days when I won’t be able to do anything. But I have to keep moving forward, and be better the next day, even if it’s as small as drinking 1 cup of water more.
This is so good!!! The mindset of being a little better each day is key and giving yourself grace when you need it. Sounds like with your illness you especially need to just focus on the small daily steps 🫶🏽
@@kristidoingthings definitely so. But I brushed my teeth and washed my face. That’s better than yesterday. I even worked on my diagnosis story. I just set up my phone and free recorded. I felt so good afterwards. Bit like journaling, in a way.
My current struggle is balancing family and not being disappointed in where I am for keeping others ahead of me.so in essence I fall into the guilt trap, comparison, and wanting things to happen quickly.
So easy to do that. Be kind to yourself hon. We can only do what we can do and we have to give ourselves grace.
Nobody should be ahead of you but God. Check your idolatry boo.
I feel like I fall in and out of the comparison trap. I do now however catch myself when I do that. It's crazy that I can't pinpoint something unique or special 😔. You've made me stop and think.
What do others tell you is unique about you? What compliments do you receive?
My uniqueness is my ability sort out what is working for me and what’s not. Being flexible with change has been key to becoming the woman I want to be.
A trap I’ve fell in more is more, perfectionist trap after restarting my journey for the umpteenth time. I self sabotaged thinking success meant having everything in order
Being flexible is such a wonderful trait that I’m still growing in.
No more restarting for you, missy!!! Just keep going. I’m glad you recognize where you are and now that you do you can start addressing that specifically 😉
as a college student I find a reason it is difficult for me to have a “glow up” that turns into a lifestyle are my finances. I’ve been learning a lot of DIY maintenance skills which I post on my channel ❤
Love this!!! It doesn't take a lot of money to glow up. Honestly, the internal glow up is so much more important and makes so much more of a difference that the external. That will come. You can buy more stuff here and there. But truly believe that the mind/body/spirit has to come first. ♥️ Also, best of luck in school!!!
Letting one area fall to the wayside because it doesn’t feel comfortable. Need to keep taking small steps in right direction, till find something that is right fit. Definitely need to keep whole picture in mind.
You have to do what works for you and that's okay! You will find that right fit and the series of lifestyle changes that make you feel like your best self. 💜
I usually fall in the comparison trap. I have always been told how well I am able to keep it together or bounce back from difficulties. I’m not sure if that’s unique.
That’s very unique. It’s something special about you and such an amazing quality. ❤️
Girl, comparison can be SO hard to overcome!!! You got this.
I'm very resilient, I have this ability to bounce back from any situation, no matter what.
Love this!!! My sister is like that and I’ve always admired her for it.
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Working on the perfection trap! Great video! 😃👍🏾
Thank you so much. I am STILL working on it! We'll get there 😉
Thanks Kristi, I appreciate you so much. I’m 61 years young, (but I feel 35) anyway, I’m still becoming my higher self. At this stage I’m actually focusing more on me. I’m so inspired by your posts, you never know who you are going to touch. Thanks 😊
Oh wow, that is so kind and I am honored to be part of your journey! 💜
Something super unique about me is the balance of High emotional intelligence and big picture thinking. Being able to see the whole picture and know and understand others view of that picture and what is blocking them from seeing all of the picture and helping them to remove their blocks is what helps me build high performing teams!!! #summerglowup60
I love that! You definitely sound like a leader!
Perfection trap for sure. Not amazing at giving myself grace. Working on it!👍
One unique thing about me is my talent with plants. Love this time of year when everything is lush and green 💚
Ooohhh, I’m so jealous! I love plants but I have very little talent in keeping them alive.
Keep working on it! It’s taken me a long time to realize we can’t beat ourselves up into changing. 😉
Hello Kristi! My traps are perfection and the all in. When it comes to perfection, I think it's more so that I like to do things well, and not have any regrets, knowing that I gave it my very best effort, based on the knowledge and capabilities I had at the time.
My special gifts are that I pick up accents and languages fairly easily. I currently speak, understand, and write in 4½ languages: French, English, Spanish, Bulu (Southern part of Cameroon, Central Africa), and some Korean. I am planning on taking Korean classes, to become more fluent in it.
I have probably missed the 4 hours window, for the opportunity to win a prize. Oh well...
Something that was so powerful for me was realizing that not EVERYTHING has to be perfect. Some things do need to be just right. But some things just need to get done.
You're a polyglot! So jealous!! Do you get the opportunity to speak in those languages regularly?
I’m guilty of the perfection trap. I do not know how to give myself the same grace that I extend to others! Working on it though!!!
Ahhh, makes so much sense. Giving ourselves grace is something we have to practice doing bc it’s so easy to beat ourselves up.
I love this , makes so much sense ,,, we build confidence by just starting 🔥
And it’s so simple!!! 🤗
The road trip analogy is sooooo good!! You really got me with that one 😅
Good!!! Lol! It’s something I’m always thinking of when I want to change course 😅
I'm glad I got a notification for this! I'm trying to glow up this spring summer too!
Yes, girl!!! You've got this!
Oh my goodness. The EXACT video I needed to hear today. Thank you!
Oh, good!!! I'm so happy that it resonated with you and gave you what you needed. Go get your glow up on!!!
I feel like I’ve been into a few categories. I’m all or nothing if it’s not gonna if I can’t picture it and see the steps ahead I won’t start. I’m off Balance where go all in one area and neglect others because I’m a perfectionist who really is looking for validation not because I think I’m perfect to be perfect. Just want to be noticed childhood trauma. And I also deal with comparison and feeling like it goes back to validation of what about me? When is it going to be my turn when things gonna work out for me when I have to stop striving. When does my glow up season start manifesting?
Ooh, this is so real. So now I'm going to push you. How are you working to overcome that?
Wow! I guess I have fallen into all 5 🤦🏾♀️
I did the same thing!!! This video is from lived experience! Lol. Now, we just do better!
All true!❤
Thanks, hon! No more sabotaging our progress!
I really like that gas analogy!😉
I’m glad! I try to keep it at the front of my mind when I let my natural perfectionist tendencies start to get in the way.
@@kristidoingthings I just made a pit stop. Time to get back on the road! Thanks. I’ll definitely use that the next time I get distracted!!!!
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Thinking you need a glow up, is ruiming youre glow up.
Thanks for sharing!