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Why All Your Emotions Are Completely Logical
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 25 มี.ค. 2022
- This video is for you if ever think that your emotions are illogical, you shouldn't be feeling how you're feeling, or there's something wrong with you for feeling how you do.
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Hi Noah! I have been watching your videos for a long time, maybe since 2012, around when your book came out. I never commented on your videos before. But in this moment I feel it is the moment to do so. Thank you for all you do! You have been a blessing in so many people's lives, and your work and effort have contributed to more live giving in this world than anyone can think or imagine. Thank you for being who you are! So much love and support for you man! Love from Canada
Aww thanks for sharing with me Gerrid. I really appreciate your message. I'm so happy to have supported you throughout the years. You're very welcome Gerrid from Canada!
Noah! Such wisdom. The root of it all: "It's very hard to see clearly the roots of our emotional pain when we're rejecting our emotions and hating our emotions."
:) Becca
Love you Noah! You are so articulate & real. Your words are powerful! Thank you for sharing your clarity…sending love to all on this thread from Arizona! ❤️🌵☀️
:) Thanks Alyssa. You're so welcome!
Keep on sharing the love! 🥰🥰🥰
Thanks for all you do Noah. I’m feeling so depressed and defective all the time and I feel like I have nothing to live for at times. But your videos give me a glimmer of hope during dark times like this. Gives me a little hope that maybe one day I’ll be happy and confident again🙏
I started to affirm that my emotions are normal and acceptable 💯 I love how you said healing from rejection . Super powerful❤
:) I'll add that your emotions are beautiful, lovable, and healthy.
Thanks for responding to my comment Noah. I think you're honestly one of the luckiest guys on earth to have that shift happen to you. It's strange how some have it and some people don't. I know of another guy called Gary Weber who went through the same type of shift you had. He had been practicing mindfulness and mantra meditation for years but to no avail.
One day, he stumbled upon the teachings of Ramana Maharshi, and he started asking himself questions like "who am I?", "where am I?", "what thinks?", and shortly after asking himself these questions, his mind stopped. Another individual who's mind stopped, you probably know him, is Eckhart Tolle.
He became suicidal one night and said to himself "I cannot live with myself any longer". When he noticed that statement in his mind, he thought, "That's strange, it sounds like there is 2 of me - me and myself. Which one is real? Who is the self I cannot live with?" After that, he woke up in the morning with his mind permanently silenced. What's interesting is that it sounds like Eckhart accidently asked himself exactly the type of question Ramana would recommend.
Ramana would say - "The mind is like a monkey, never still for one second. It is an almost hopeless task to try and quieten it; the best thing to do is to give it a productive employment and not allow it to fritter itself away building endless pictures. Let it concentrate on the thought “Who am I?” When other thoughts arise, one should not pursue them, but should inquire: ‘To whom do they arise?’ It does not matter how many thoughts arise. As each thought arises, one should inquire with diligence, “To whom has this thought arisen?”. The answer that would emerge would be “To me”. One should then enquire, “Who am I?” The thought ‘who am I?’ will destroy all other thoughts, and like the stick used for stirring the burning pyre, will itself in the end get destroyed. Then, there will arise Self-realization".
Noah i have enjoyed ur content for years! Thank u for the valuable gems u have been dropping for us for so long!
You're welcome DiamondLife!
You are helping people in so many levels
Today morning I just thought to watch your videos . Following you since 2013
Thank you so much Noah !
Whenever suffering or pain come up. I watch your videos they really help me a lot. Thank you so much Noah your the best😊
You're welcome Bluey. I'm happy my videos have helped you.
So nice to see you back on TH-cam, Noah! ♥️
Thank you Nena :) Nice to be back
Thank you Noah. Your videos are so comforting, soothing. This inconditional, accepting love that emanates from them, so from you... it helps when I'm low sometimes (like now). I'm just really grateful :) and as I see you read the comments I wanted to give back a little positive energy :)
You're welcome! Thank you for the positive energy :) It feels nice to hear that my energy is comforting for you.
I got the notification for this video today just as I started my break at work (I'm a cashier at a hardware store). my ex (we work in the same store) who I was with only 7 months (and ghosted me) had just walked in with his 8 yr old son to do some shopping. I really cared about the son. my ex ignored me of course, and I him, but his son looked right at me. He gave me the most disapproving look. I waved and smiled and he turned away. it tore me up so bad and I was shaking and had to hide and cry. I felt so stupid for having all of this emotion and I couldn't stop shaking. I felt self hatred and sorrow and disgust towards myself. and I felt stupid for all of my feelings. and then I listened to this video on my break. and it helped me. thank you. I needed to express this.
aww I hear you. It makes total sense why you would have that emotional response. And I'm so glad that my video could soften your relationship towards your emotions in that moment. Wishing you so much gentleness towards your pain right now.
Nice to see a new video from you Noah! Thank you for helping making this video about emotions because I've been sooo emotional lately 💕
:) You're so welcome. Hope it helps.
It feels good to be alive because of people like you.. I've been rescued by your videos in the past and this one kind of reminds me of those.. I'm always thankful for that
awww :) It means a lot to me that I could support you when you needed it.
god bless you Noah
for years I had (on and off) problems but found your videos to be a bliss to my troubled heart. so just I want to say thank you so much.
Thank you for this helpful message. Accepting that there is a reason and a connection to why we have an emotional response to seemingly benign situations is a catalyst to heal our old wounds.
Yes, exactly :) You're welcome Willow
Hi Noah, This was so helpful today. Thank you so much.
You're welcome Jen
Thank you Noah. Your honest videos have been a great help to me over many years. Your journey continues to be a source of strength to many. Always a privilege to see you teach. Best wishes.
That feels really nice to hear. It's my pleasure. I'm so glad that sharing my discoveries has been helpful for you! Gratitude received :)
You've helped me get through tough times over the years at times when I've felt hopeless. Thanks for your videos!
I'm so happy to hear I was helpful for you in tough time Theone. You're so welcome.
best wishes from Poland !
Thank you Jurek
Man, you make my light bulbs go off every time you upload a video. Keep going!
:) I will
Hi Noah, thank you for this message, it came just at the right time!
Sometimes I'm so hard on myself for being triggered so easily and not just being happy, but it makes perfect sense, no need to compare my experience to anybody elses. I'm working on accepting my emotions for what they are. Thanks for bringing me closer to acceptance. :)
You're welcome adaludwina! Yeah, your triggers are there because something painful happened in your childhood, and that part of you deserves your love and care when it gets triggered :)
Thanks for the video brother Noah. I would like to ask if you have heard of IFS? It's a therapy modality which has been of massive help to me. It paints the picture that we are made up of sub-personalities, or 'parts', which have their own feelings, beliefs and thoughts. The key lesson is that each part has positive intent. For instance, a people pleaser part may have developed from the trauma of being rejected as a child. To avoid that pain, you prioritize other people's needs before your own. In the long run, you come to resent your people pleasing ways because you're not confident, living on other people's terms and you don't feel connected to yourself or others ironically. It's easy to criticize yourself for this, but when you understand how or why it serves you, you can completely change the way you relate to yourself and the world. You can integrate that part of yourself to become the beautiful, whole human being you always were.
Your teachings in this video really reminded me of IFS and I encourage anyone reading this to look into it. It has changed me for the better when I felt utterly hopeless and confused with life.
I have heard of IFS. I totally resonate with it and think it can be incredibly helpful. Thanks for sharing Alimbo.
@@NoahElkrief Thanks for your videos, I have found them very helpful
Thank you, Noah! You explained it very well and it's helpful.
You're welcome Veroniqueme :)
I liked the way you worded everything, I hope more people can get as much value out of this. great job.
That was a llittle relieve when I am literally experiencing so much hateness to myself and my emotions at the monent. Thank you for the video.
You're welcome Sally. You deserve to feel that relief and softness towards yourself.
So.much insight...i feel lucky to have found you
Good to see you back, Noah! Haven't watched the video yet but thanks in advance!
Happy to be back :) Enjoy the video.
so glad you're still on youtube and still uploading even after all these years
:)
If all emotions are logical, then the most logical thing to do is to rationalise the emotion - there are reasons why you feel a certain way at any given time of the day. Breaking down into steps - be aware and accept , identify the characteristics of the space and time when you acquired the said emotion and note your resolution/response to the emotion (helpful to work with a therapist). To move forward is to decide how to respond to your current emotion. The only reason why you kept making the wrong responses is due to the fear of not knowing what is going to happen afterwards. Your previous experience has nothing to do with your decision at the present time. In short, ground yourself to the current space and time and live in the present moment.
Thanks for sharing
Noah Elkrief: MAYBE this message is SIMPLE, but it's VERY IMPORTANT for me!
:) Thanks for sharing Andrzej.
Thx 🙏 friend
You're welcome Faheem
Thanks from Brazil!
You're welcome Eduardo from Brazil!
Good morning and thank you Noah.
From Charlotte North Carolina
Good morning and you're welcome Mark!
Welcome back Noah 🦁🌞
Thank you!
Your videos have helped me more in the last 2 days than any other video has in the last yr. Will you please make some for drug addiction. My ex is a meth addict. He has relapsed 8 times in 23 yrs..It him when he was sober . Had been sober for 2.5 yrs. He relapsed during the relationship. He's a different person now. So sad to watch.
Thank you Noah I needed this! ❤
You're welcome Ovidiu. I'm really glad I could help.
I never understood why as a child I was scared of going to the doctor. Logically, I was thinking "they're here to help me, so why am I afraid ?"
Now I can see one reason, being that I felt shame about going to the doctor. As if I was "broken" and I went there to get fixed. The fact that I had bad eyesight and that I could tell the doctor was frustated as we had to determine the right lenses for my eyes. Or the fact that I had lots of allergies when I was a child, and after doing a test it turned out that I was allergic to most of the things they tested on me - cat and dog hair, dust mites, birch trees among other things. So it felt like I was a particularly bad case and that they had to "deal with me".
It's never been a huge part of my life, and my allergies have gotten much better. But this came up while watching this video. Thanks for sharing Noah.
You're welcome! That's exactly what I'm talking about. When we don't understand the connection to why we feel an emotion (i.e. fear), we can think there is something wrong with us. But, as soon as we find the connection, we realize it's extremely logical.
Noah,
I have a video suggestion. I want to know what you think about narcissists. Do you think they can change?
I’ve been watching all three versions of A Christmas Carol, on Disney+. There’s the Mickey’s version, the Muppets’ version, and Jim Carrey’s version. I think Charles Dickens was trying to say there’s always hope.
But I’ve also been watching TH-cam videos about Red Pill. All those TH-camrs say narcissists can’t change.
Hopefully one day I’ll get to hear your opinion on that matter.
Hi Jesus, my perspective is that nobody IS a narcissist, some people just have patterns/behaviors that are narcissistic. And my perspective is that every type of pattern, behavior, belief, pain, or trauma can be healed. However, of course, the desire to heal has to come from within each person, and not from outside of them.
Awesome!
Thank you, Noah. Blessings from El Paso, TX!
Thank Noah! Definitely needed to hear this! I was wondering....how do I take care of my emotions? Is accepting them from a place of love enough?
You're welcome Meaghan! It might be enough to accept your emotions from a place of love, and it might not be. Sometimes, we need to ask the emotion (our inner child) what's going on from a place of deep care, and then deeply listen to how they feel. Sometimes, we may need to support the child's emotional expression, clear up a false conclusion, give an inherited pattern back to our parents, or just let them know how much love them. Sometimes it's super simple, and sometimes it's not.
@@NoahElkrief thanks Noah! That helps so much!
Thank you🙏🏻
Why does emotional pain have to be triggered by a past association? It makes more sense to me that its triggered by objectively antisocial scenarios that cause loneliness, disconnection, etc.
Hi Noah, good to see you again. I am also working on this so I am glad I stopped for a listen.
:) I'm also glad you stopped by Daniel
Thankyou
Bless you Noah.
:)
Thank you Noah! 🌞
You're welcome Tanya!
Hope you're doing well mate!
I started a new job yesteeday. And the night before I watched your "fall asleep fast video"
I ended up not sleeping at all. But it was ok.
Ive watched that video so many times.
Take care.
Congratulations on starting a new job! I'm sorry my video wasn't able to help you sleep :( I hope you like the job!
@@NoahElkrief Oh no no! On the contrary, it made me not care If I did or not! Rather than sitting laying worried about not being able to.
It's been a great help, as have many of your vids. Been watching your work for years man.
Amazing! Freedom :) Happy to help! I know you've been around here for a while. I remember you :)
@@NoahElkrief thanks man. It's nice to feel remembered.
I’m so excited 😆 when new videos comes
:)
Definitely feel this!
Happy to hear it Cori!
Hi Noah, great to see you looking so smiley and chill once again, juat wanted to know what you opinion in breathwork along with Non dual teaching, did you see breath work made a big diffrence for your practices in that area, or what practices do you think are most effective in this to maybe enchace sensitivity and help realise ones true self. Cheers🙏
My main perspective is that everyone must follow their own intuition about what modality feels right for them in a particular moment as I don't believe in rules or hierarchy of healing forms. I found breathwork and nonduality to both be a little helpful and a little hurtful for me. Breathwork was helpful in letting go of some stuff I didn't know was there. But, it also relies on activating the nervous system, which can go against my intention of relaxing my nervous system. Nonduality can support peace on one level, but I found that much of my deep pain, needs, and desires felt ignored when I was around nonduality. I prefer to work on buried emotions and beliefs. But, that's just my preference and what worked for me.
Hey Noah, do you have any favourite emotional healer/wellbeing philosophers? Mine are you, Anthony De Mello, Eckhart Tolle, Gary Weber, Albert Ellis, David Burns, Aaron Beck, Alan Watts, Adyashanti and Sam Harris. I haven't found a single person who I agree with 100%, but they each give out such valuable insights on certain topics that I feel happy to share their names.
I actually don't have any favorite healer, teacher, philosophers. I tend to just like working through stuff within myself. So, I prefer modalities over teachers. I have had many bodyworkers who have helped me a lot through craniosacral therapy, acupuncture, myofascial release, breathwork, thai yoga massage, chi nei tsang, and others. I have also been helped by regression therapy, inner child work, rebirthing, spirit guides, internal family systems, authentic relating, and non-violent communication. My tendency is to find something very helpful for a few months, then I no longer resonate with it anymore and move on to the next thing.
Thanks for this video
You're welcome Dilcia
thank you
Thank You 🙏
You’re welcome Berrit
When life hard “keep calm and watch Noah videos”
:)
Love your videos😊
:) Cristiana
Loving these videos and developing a crush on you ☺️
Please give time frame
Do you think you need to know the conexion between your emotional reaction and the emotional wound that caused being triggered?? Or do you think by simply feeling your feelings in your body in the present moment is enough?? Xx
My experience is that sometimes just feeling your feelings is enough, and sometimes it's not. I actually have a video about why just allowing your feelings often isn't enough.
@@NoahElkrief thank you so much!! I'll watch it now.
What if you find it hard to feel anything sadness happiness anything and your empty
Sometimes, as a way to stay safe and avoid pain, we can disconnect from our emotions. This can cause us to feel numb and empty. I would recommend searching videos about how to come out of disassociation, and how to feel/connect to your emotions. I know that experience can be really hard and I'm sorry you're going through it. I hope you can find help.
@@NoahElkrief thanks even crying feels amazing to me because it allows me to feel something
I hear you. I've been there. Good luck!
How do we have the experience you had in 2009 in the wheat field where 90 percent of your thoughts permanently vanished? Is there a certain practice or type of meditation we can do or do you think it was just a kind of grace? I think I remember you made a comment a while back where you said that the main factor in your awakening wasn't the meditation you had done, but the desire for the truth, and the fact that you wanted the truth more than anything else. But I have no idea what the truth your referring to or talking about is.
The truth is I have absolutely no idea how to make that type of shift happen.
❤️HUGZ❤️
:)
Noah, im living with my mother inlaw and my father. And when my mom doesnt care sometimes about me and doesnt show kindness to me it makes me suffer because i feel need towards getting kindness from her
Noah please tip me about it and tell me which of your videos will help about my issue
Please ❤️
Its hard suffering ☹️
I'm sorry that your mother isn't being kind to you. How old are you?
Hey Noah, how are you getting on with your courses? I think you're currently making a how to forgive yourself course, when do you think that will be released?
I actually finished that one about 4 months ago. I just didn't launch it yet. I'm not sure when I will do that. Maybe a month or so.
Happy weekend
:)
Ah wow, I didn't realise you had finished the forgive yourself course 4 months ago. I just thought you were still working on it cause it says coming soon on your website. How many new courses have you made? Sounds like you've been a busy bee these past few months.
I made 4 last year. I was busy with other things this year so far. But I created an outline for a new course a few days ago about how to deal with resistance to joy, happiness, love, peace. I'm really excited about creating it.
Do you still offer financial hardship prices for your 1 on 1 sessions or is this no longer an option?
I do still offer discount prices for those who need it. I just don't state that on my sessions page anymore because I have been trying to do less 1-on-1 sessions in order to have more time to create courses. Send me an email, and hopefully we can work something out. Noah [at] noahelkrief [dot] com.
Hi Noah, I have been following your videos forvthe last year. I have been trying to accept all emotional feelings come through my mind but I want to know that Does emotional feeling to hurt yourself is acceptable? Thank you
Hi Chanpho, I'm sorry that feelings are coming up about hurting yourself. Typically, when we want to hurt ourselves, it's because we feel some sort of shame. When we feel shame, it is not because we are bad in some way, but because we were treated by others at some point in our life in ways that were less than loving. The shame in us deserves our love and deserves to be listened to, seen, and taken care of. I wish you lots of gentleness in attempting this.
@@NoahElkrief thank you very much. Honestly, I am not feeling shame about myself, instead I praise and credit myself but my thought of hurting self come up spontaneously and because the intensity of anxiety and depression. I do not choose to end my life because I love and respect myself. I found out that by not accepting this irrational feeling but questioning and verifying the feeling, I am able to put a stop on the thought and turn it into positive. So I learn that I do not have to accept all feelings that are not benefit to myself. But I just want to know your opinion. Thank you very much again for your response and help.
@@chanphoieng1650 Hi, I'm sorry for my false assumption. My perspective is that to accept a feeling is not in conflict/contradiction with questioning/healing it. You can accept the feeling, listen to it, care for it. And, then you can investigate its roots, and work to unhook it or heal it. My video about why just allowing feelings often isn't enough could be helpful for you.
Hey it's been a minute since you uploaded your last video. Hope everything's well!
Yeah, it has been a few months. Everything is good over here. Just haven't felt the desire to make videos for a little. I'll probably be posting more the next month or so.
This is completely wrong!! Automatic negative thoughts are completely illogical and false! A person with a panic attack that feels he’s or she’s going to die or going crazy is having a completely illogical thought so please don’t say things that will effect people negatively before reading enough. Btw I have PHD in Clinical psychology
If you believe that you're going to die or go crazy, it's not illogical at all to feel that way. The thought might be illogical (no evidence that you're going crazy) but if someone hasn't seen that the thought is illogical, and genuinely believes or feels that they're on the verge of a mental breakdown, then it's not surprising or illogical at all to feel scared in that situation, because going crazy could have a major impact on their emotional well-being. I think that's what Noah was getting at in this video. Aaron Beck and Albert Ellis (the fathers of modern psychotherapy) says this in their lectures and writings.
Hi Hind, thanks for your message. I hear you, and I really appreciate that you want to protect people from false information that could hurt people. I imagine that you're a really caring person.
Regarding your message, I completely agree with you. Every thought that creates pain is illogical and false. I published a book 10 years ago that breaks down how to disbelieve many of our false negative thoughts.
However, what I'm sharing in this video is something very different. The essence of what I'm saying in this video could be described as "all emotions have a source that is logical". If we have a panic attack in a situation that is safe, we are clearly not responding logically to the situation in the present moment. However, there is a logical reason why we have this response. Something about the current situation reminds our system of a time when we were in danger.
Thank you for your care Hind.
@@darkmana1000 No dear Beck and Ellis addressed cognitive distortions throughout their career and as a result their impact on humans emotions, I’m not against a word of what Noah is saying in this video I’m against the title 🙏🏼😊
@@NoahElkrief thank you Noah I really enjoyed your very informative video and totally understand that you are trying to link association or conditioning to emotions to validate them however I’m totally against the title as the title itself could create a form of anxiety to people with anxiety / panic disorder plus I don’t find it very relative to the video itself.
I apologize but this is my opinion 🙏🏼😊
I understand what you mean Hind. The title could easily be misunderstood and doesn't exactly describe what I'm talking about in the video. I just like the simplicity and directness of the title, and I hope that any misunderstanding from the title can be cleared up by watching the video. Your opinion is very welcome here.