INTJ male that was scooped up by my ENFP girlfriend. I love interviews like this and I love that you all deep dive into the functions. I used to be extremely hard on my partner before I learned of mbti. Partly because mbti has allowed me to give myself permission to be more compassionate towards myself, thus being able to extend that outwardly… and the other part of it is just understanding that we all have different gifts and when used together we can all sort of fir together like puzzle pieces. Not that we are incomplete for anyone that’s reading. To all ENFP’s reading this. I love that my Fi feels safe to come out and play around the majority of you all I come across and I love the energy you bring to the table. Don’t be afraid of “screwing up” through trial and error. It’s your greatest gift! You do what most of us IxxJ’s get stuck on and that’s merely starting something, whatever project it is,regardless of how it may end. You are appareciated. Thank you PH and Kyle for this amazing interview!
Thanks, @Em! I love how understanding the cognitive functions can produce a knowledgeable appreciation - not "ignoring the hard parts" but: "I appreciate all of you because I know that those weaknesses are intrinsically tied with your awesome parts!" I love your thoughts about being more compassionate towards yourself has allowed you to extend it outwardly - that's very powerful. I still struggle with that, because I still often feel that my energy and ideas/ideals can be inconvenient (both to me and to others who want short-term stability & peace). And that's a great point - while we are complete in ourselves to a degree, we gain power and a richness to life by fitting together with those who are different from us. There's an interconnectedness that's incredibly valuable when we can form communities who share values, but have a diverse skillset to draw upon (incl. cognitive functions, but also our experiences/perspectives, talents, education, etc). ~Kyle
I find it interesting that you have become so invested in your role as a parent and husband. People often refer to enfps as having a hard time sticking to anything. I listened to the interview because my partner is an enfp and, like you, he is super loyal, faithful, we had our 4 kids young. I feel disheartened because we rely on him but his work is hurting him. We are slowly accepting that change is in order. This interview was helpful and inspiring.
As CS Joseph notes, ENFP-ISTPs are the most common Romantic pairing for those types. Why? Because each other's strongest cognitive function is the other's weakest (trickster.) So each feels the other has each other's blind spot. Then, as CSJ notes, you got the ISTP's Se parent giving the Si inferior of the ENFP a good experience. And vice versa.
The mbti cognitive function stack is wrong for introverted sensors. So ISTJs actually lead with TiSe. ISTJs want to export their Ti thoughts on how things should be into Se reality. Socionics has the correct stacking. The rational behind the J and P works for introverted sensors (Te/Fe prefetence) never made sense. The leading function being judging = J does make sense.
INTJ male that was scooped up by my ENFP girlfriend. I love interviews like this and I love that you all deep dive into the functions. I used to be extremely hard on my partner before I learned of mbti. Partly because mbti has allowed me to give myself permission to be more compassionate towards myself, thus being able to extend that outwardly… and the other part of it is just understanding that we all have different gifts and when used together we can all sort of fir together like puzzle pieces. Not that we are incomplete for anyone that’s reading.
To all ENFP’s reading this. I love that my Fi feels safe to come out and play around the majority of you all I come across and I love the energy you bring to the table. Don’t be afraid of “screwing up” through trial and error. It’s your greatest gift! You do what most of us IxxJ’s get stuck on and that’s merely starting something, whatever project it is,regardless of how it may end. You are appareciated.
Thank you PH and Kyle for this amazing interview!
Thanks, @Em! I love how understanding the cognitive functions can produce a knowledgeable appreciation - not "ignoring the hard parts" but: "I appreciate all of you because I know that those weaknesses are intrinsically tied with your awesome parts!"
I love your thoughts about being more compassionate towards yourself has allowed you to extend it outwardly - that's very powerful. I still struggle with that, because I still often feel that my energy and ideas/ideals can be inconvenient (both to me and to others who want short-term stability & peace).
And that's a great point - while we are complete in ourselves to a degree, we gain power and a richness to life by fitting together with those who are different from us. There's an interconnectedness that's incredibly valuable when we can form communities who share values, but have a diverse skillset to draw upon (incl. cognitive functions, but also our experiences/perspectives, talents, education, etc).
~Kyle
I recognize a lot - a lot! - of myself in this. To a degree that is surprising me. Enjoying the interview series generally.
What a FANTASTIC interview. So much wisdom shared from both parties. Thank you Personality Hacker and Kyle!
I find it interesting that you have become so invested in your role as a parent and husband. People often refer to enfps as having a hard time sticking to anything. I listened to the interview because my partner is an enfp and, like you, he is super loyal, faithful, we had our 4 kids young. I feel disheartened because we rely on him but his work is hurting him. We are slowly accepting that change is in order. This interview was helpful and inspiring.
As CS Joseph notes, ENFP-ISTPs are the most common Romantic pairing for those types. Why? Because each other's strongest cognitive function is the other's weakest (trickster.) So each feels the other has each other's blind spot. Then, as CSJ notes, you got the ISTP's Se parent giving the Si inferior of the ENFP a good experience. And vice versa.
The mbti cognitive function stack is wrong for introverted sensors. So ISTJs actually lead with TiSe. ISTJs want to export their Ti thoughts on how things should be into Se reality.
Socionics has the correct stacking.
The rational behind the J and P works for introverted sensors (Te/Fe prefetence) never made sense. The leading function being judging = J does make sense.
Since in Socionics ISTJs = Inspector = Keirsey's inspector = LSI (TiSe) ENFPs and ISTPs are a Dual pair.
As a 28-years-old ENFP with Lyme disease, I think you reached your target audience
csjoseph says enfp and istp is best combination ? i think he says its silver........
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In find the ENFPs the easiest of personalities to type.