Yeah nah, I'm a wholesale extrovert and last minute is a BIG no-no unless I know you extremely well and you know me well enough to ensure it's something I'd like. I have a life too and you expecting me to drop everything is rude AF.
@@cathyb7560 not me. But I get it I really do. Between covert and my bad back, I have not left the house in order over two years period that is getting extreme. And I'm about to go within the next 30 days because my back is getting better and I've had my inoculations. What's the most part this was a great reset. PS that's our secret lol
What are Liz's hourly rates for this service? She's fantastic and assertive and so amazing at upholding boundaries! wow. She is the bodyguard, I mean personal assistant all us introverts need.
I have never felt so heard and validated before. Explaining my "nothing" days to my mostly extroverted family has always been a fundamental struggle. Even though this is meant to be a funny skit it really does hit the nail on the head for me.
My father has never understood my need for "nothing" days. Instead, he'd (figuratively) yell at me and call me lazy. I haven't lived with my parents for 35 years, but I still feel like I'm doing something wrong if I'm not doing something productive. I'm going on vacation soon to a cabin in a state park that has no TV and no Wi-Fi. I'm going to do nothing productive, and I'm not going to feel guilty about it. Well, maybe a little for wasting vacation time by doing nothing. And a little more for not doing as much reading, playing games on my tablet, etc. as I had planned. Ugh, it never ends. 😫
Yup. And other ppl just don't get that this isn't a reflection on them OR how we feel about them. It's just time we need ALONE so we don't go utterly CRAY-CRAY. They really should thank us
"between looking out the window because he heard a commotion and pacing around imagining full-blown scenarios that will never happen" okay y'all must have some introverts on your writing team because that is way too accurate.
My extrovert brother and wife often tell me, when I see them every third month or so, or by text and calls, that I need to be more social. I do buy my own groceries, in person, and that's social enough. Huh, there is that curb loading thing, but I won't know what I want until I see what I want, and not everything is listed on store websites.
A lot of "non introverts" don't realize we as introverts are very sensitive and absorb energy good or bad. That is EXACTLY why we have to constantly recharge. Its so true .,....I need alone time frequently after human exposure. It's not a bad thing! The world needs sensitives!
while i avoid large groups of people, other people per se are not the biggest problem for me. the most exhausting thing is small talk, especially when strangers just start talking to me. that's very irritating. it's like, don't ask me about the weather (because you can just take a look outside or around you), or ask me how i am (because i will tell you). i'll be happy to engage in more serious conversations with one or two other persons, though, if they are able to get to the point quickly. so, i guess it's more about unnecessary and prolonged contact, not contact in itself.
Yeah, that was really tough as a kid when I didn't understand that not all the emotions I feel at times belong to me. It really helped when i got old enough to recognize other people's energy and the effect it has on me.
I wouldn't mind being the personal assistant of an introvert. You wouldn't have to make small talk with your boss. All communication would be by text or email. There are probably some wealthy introverts who have personal assistants just like that.
If I was wealthy I would absolutely do this. Like low key the assistant wouldnt be even 100% sure im real. xD with Bonuses based on bs believability and all the perks.
I am amazed at all the introverts who responded on this video. I am an introvert hermit also. I always feel like there is something wrong with Me for not wanting to hang out with friends and family and go do "normal" activities. People make me tired. I enjoy them and I love them, I love talking to My family and having PLANNED visits ( never just drop in on an introvert)..but after they leave I need at least a few weeks to recharge. I have a theory that We introverts are actually empath's and we are drained by other peoples energy and emotions. That's why we prefer the company of animals and plants. Anyway I am glad to see I am not alone and as weird as I thought.
I, too as an introvert, approve this and need this in my life. Extroverts dont get how quickly introverts energy is depleted and how long it takes for us to recharge ourselves.
As an introvert, I would totally hire this woman. She gets me. Down to leaving the chips on a table near the door of the room where I'm hiding so I can just sneak my hand through and take the snack without revealing the rest of myself to anybody. You're hired, lady.
As an introvert, that was a brilliant explanation about introverts! My mom who is a high energy person learned a long time ago that me and my dad (who are both introverts) need that time to relax and do nothing. My high energy sister still doesn't get it but it's also fun because me doing nothing bugs the hell out of her. 😂
@@youareworthalot1228 As many extroverts found during 2020, if they don't get constant contact with other people, they are the ones that lose energy. So it bugs them when they are denied access to others, because that's what fires them up. Human psychology is really weird but that's just how it works. Some people need solace for energy, others need socialization. I like to think of extroverts as social vampires.
My cousin is an introvert and his parents would let him do whatever he wanted but when he graduated (barely) high school it was time to earn a living and pay rent just like his older siblings. His dad arranged for him to work for me. I'm a hardass that's worked like an adult since I was 8 so I can't stand laziness. I showed up at their house at 4:30 AM and drug him out of bed by his boxers threatened to turn the hose on him unless he got moving. He worked for me all summer and it broke him of his laziness. I've dozens of stories of me busting his ass at making him do some work and that's why he went to work at Walmart
@@youareworthalot1228 speaking as a hardass that hates laziness we can find peace, it's when we come home after a long day and a job well done. That's what happens when you're a true country boy raised on a farm not a city woosie raised on video games
I'm an introvert who has been very busy recently. As a result, I often feel exhausted and overwhelmed. I just postponed an appointment today because I was tried then I thought maybe I should go to the gym.But I ended up eating dinner alone and watched youtube.I felt a bit guilty for not being productive. Then I saw this video and realized that doing nothing isn't a waste of time. Thank you. I really needed this message.
Totally feel you. After 30 years if working at 200% I've been on a 5 month break trying to get rid of everything in my house. I barely leave home. Thanks to supermarkets who deliver... My SIM card has been out of my phone for 2 months, no WhatsApp or calls, I only check emails once a day, sometimes. I don't feel guilty at all! Though I wish the house sorting was dine so that I could do nothing everyday. Lesson: house sorting is also draining and isn't refreshing 🙄. I'm thinking of getting a cleaner to help out and just dump everything into boxes.
I really wish I had this. It would save me so much energy. But the assistant needs to say things like "She's busy all day and what she is doing is confidential."
As an introvert I love this video. A lot of people don’t understand them and think they are just being rude when in reality they just want their alone time and social interaction is hard for them sometimes. I remember one at work my coworker asked me if I wanted to go to a restaurant with her and some other coworkers after work and I said no I was tired and just wanted to relax at home and she got an attitude and said everyone was tired from work and were still going. I said well they may have the energy for that but I don’t. That’s the struggle introverts go through on a daily basis
It's all communication and understanding. Hardest things in human existence. If I was the coworker who'd asked, I'd ask on one more occasion, then stop. After that, stop. Wait for the other person to put together the initiative. It's a delicate line of ensuring you aren't pushy, and also understanding signals. For example, you're being truthful, but the same line gets used to mean "I'm uninterested in y'all" and pushing against that can be incredibly negative and unwanted. So, offering a second opportunity later on, then giving space until someone lets you know they'd like to do a thing seems to be a solution, while keeping communication open. Asking the initiator to keep asking isn't, I think, great as it crosses so many social complications, and also risks overstimulating the other person. It's a tricky social dance, though, since now the introvert will need to step forward.
I am one of those who thinks it’s rude to ignore plans/texts. I respect introverts who respond saying I don’t have the energy today, or I’ll get back to your text next week. I’m not an introvert or an extrovert, some people give me energy and some people drain me. Some alone time (reading, exercising) gives me energy and other alone time (TV, overeating) drains my energy.
Although as an introvert I approve of this message, I want to push back on the idea that introverts do nothing when they are alone! I am usually super busy.
Same. I don't want to hang out because I want to read, knit, sew, work in my garden, make a mega batch of bread, yes maybe mindlessly watch TH-cam a bit, but mostly do stuff! Just... ALONE! 😛
"Steve is RECHARGING. He's overwhelmed and drained. It doesn't matter why, he just is." I'm exceedingly emotional right now, always thought I was the only person on the planet who felt this way ❤️❤️❤️
Liz and Ryan this is your best work and bravo to the whole IAST team for pushing a strong mental health/self care message. Doing nothing IS doing something. ❤️
It's not me time for introverts....it's the time we need to process all the talking all of the extroverts in our lives do as well as all of the social interactions that we have either been forced to participate in or chose to take part in recently. We aren't being selfish, we just need a lot of recharging time to be able to face people and when we don't get it our reserves get low and we get cranky. 😩
Doing "nothing" is a way to enjoy and savour the simplest things in life. Curling in bed under blanket, watching the sky from the window, taking long shower, having discussion with inner self, etc. It's very important to have "doing nothing" day, there's a lot to do although it may seem unproductive.
I need this woman in my life, but it would stress me out having her in the house working while I'm avoiding people. My friends know you don't just show up at my door.
I still have fond memories of my varsity flat. I spent many times lying flat on my stomach behind the couch, hiding from who ever was knocking on my door so they could not see me through the window. I moved to a place with locked gates manned by security. If I did not let them know someone was coming to see me they will just say I'm not at home. I bought them the biggest Christmas prezzies. Nothing gives me more anxiety than ppl just showing up at my home. Now I have 3 bullmastiffs so no one can get close go my door. 😀
Yes, I love living in a secure building and having all my devices on silent. I alone choose when I will engage with the world (Well apart from when I have to go to work, dang it)
Yeah my friend told me that's why I don't hear my phone ring, "turn up your phone"! Doesn't realize I KEEP it on silent including all notifications. I never tell stalkers my secrets, lol.
Honestly, this is how I felt when I took a year off for health reasons. I feel like my friends never really understood but I just needed to get to a better place.
Yep, as someone who doesn't like lots of loud noise, gets distracted continually and needs time out to get over social hangovers because polite talking is hard work with my brain, this is spot on!
Extroverts can get extremely angry from being ignored. Just like in this video. They just can't believe how an introvert can literally schedule a whole to literally do nothing. To them it's impossible and unthinkable.
Truth was spoken at the end. You don't need to do anything in order to be productive. It's called self-care, and it is perfectly valid. I learned this during quarantine 2020.
This was me on weekends. I worked like crazy, high energy and productive all week then crashed Friday night and recharged on the weekend. People dragged in on Monday morning but I was ready to go! Retired now with a comfortable balance of stop and go. Fun video!! But yeah, that diet is awful!
This is why I love having fellow introvert friends. We all make plans with the knowledge that it will never actually happen. All the fun of thinking we will be capable of doing things without the guilt when we inevitably can't!
Liz, this was masterful. As someone who used to work for a exec who hated to be disturbed this was exactly how my days went. Bravo! Now we need a bit on how an introvert gets an appointment with a busy extrovert.
I have never been so personally attacked like this, and I soon as I pick which game I want to not really play, I will be writing a strongly worded letter.
Dame, I wish I could have that kínd of assistant in my life. What she said about taking 25 min to decide which game to play, that broke my heart, that’s exactly what I do all the f****ing time
Thank you for affirming that I am not alone with this thought process...altho, I'm fine with being alone lol. And yes, the weekend is for recharging from pretending to enjoy being around people during the week.
So the text thing is about energy, but more the anxiety about the energy it's going to take if you do that thing, &/or disappointing said texter and the energy that will take dealing with the guilt about hurting someone's feelings and the fact that you know you should be more people-y. Not to mention, seeing that person later and them knowing and you knowing that you didn't respond to their text, awkward. And well, that's a LOT of energy. Or so a friend told me... 😉
I usually say, I need more "buffer" around me, or I need my "space," or I just want to be "alone." But, I like the more polite way she puts it and will start using her term, I need to "recharge."
I like that too because people tend to get their feelings hurt if we say we need space or to be alone like you said. It's just true about us. We do need that down time to recharge but, a good thing about us is that we tend to be more thoughtful in how we respond to people because we usually think before we respond to them, especially text messages 🤣
A former housemate called it "peopling." Peopling took a lot of energy, and there would be a need afterward to restore, as well as kind of hitting a wall where you can't people anymore for a bit.
As an introvert I get my dose of social interactions from monday to friday at work. On saturday and sunday I want to do NOTHING. And the replies to text messages were spot on - I may see it, but it'll probably take me a few hours (or more) to respond. If you're not dying, your messages can wait (especially the ones asking to hang out).
Completely accurate, just wish others would understand how we need to recharge vs thinking it’s weird or that we’re bored when we choose to not do anything on a certain day.
The responding to the text message thing is EXACTLY me 😂 I thought I was the only one who felt like it takes so much energy to even respond to a text message haha
I'm an introvert for sure. Hermit by choice, one might say. Mental health is important and self-care is important, but being honest and direct and clear with people you supposedly care about is important too. Avoidance is no way to nurture those few relationships people like me actually have. Just tell them the truth and they'll be more understanding and forgiving. It's worked for me for decades whereas people didn't stick around as long when I was younger because I didn't know how to tell them and there was lots of miscommunication.
Even when transparency and the thought of self express , to a point everything is addressed . There will always be that lowly educated ones that would disrespect people and force others into the conversation they want no part of ( it’s nots in a job scenario ) which is energy draining . It’s harassing with this kind of bigot but I’m learning to cope eventually though it does make me less productive over time and they are also the same person that would question and point finger at me for ‘ recharging ‘ .
That's it. Thank you! I can't approve of this video completely. Getting ghosted can cause someone else loads of anxiety. That's so selfish... Of course, we can be introverts without being jackasses!
Can't decide if I feel seen, feel called out, or am suddenly living in joy/terror of when phone AIs start promoting this as a built-in feature. All around, excellent sketch!
I need my down time, alone, doing what "I" want, not what others want. What I find hurtful is the "popular" opinion by "specialists" that being alone is bad, that encouraging people to be socially active "makes you live longer", that we are "required" to interact and be social to "have a better life". That "studies show..." puts pressure on me to "conform" to the extrovert's needs which are not mine. Even sitting here, typing this message, makes me feel like I am "wasting time" expressing my needs when I should be "out there" being active and social. Some days it just feels like too much and I can't get my energy back.
"Look's like Steve's just added a 10 minute block of 'crafting the perfect text message to respond to Roger about the concert without hurting his feelings'." As an introvert, I can tell you that text msg takes longer than 10 minutes to craft.
As an introvert there are 100% some people who I can hang out and do nothing with that don't drain my social battery. My husband and my best friend are two such examples. I can be alone together with them.
As an introvert, I now wish I had a personal assistant. Either I try to be confident about sometimes turning down last-minute plans for the sake of my well being but end up regretting it because I feel in retrospect that I sounded rude, I try to respond in any way possible but end up saying nothing because I'm afraid of being rude, or I get roped into doing the thing anyway lol. This video was soooo relatable XD
This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: “There are things you have to do, and things you want to do, but don’t forget to do nothing every once in a while”
I'm introverted. I love friends, get togethers and hanging out but in shorter amounts. I dont enjoy loud talking, meaningless chatter, pointless team building activities (thank goodness I'm now retired). Its exhausting. Not having to go to endless Christmas gatherings made the season 2020 the best ever since being an adult. I'm glad people realize this is exaggerated satire but we do like to enjoy our world peacefully and thoughtfully. Namaste.
Actually, the personal assistant would attend all social functions on behalf of the introvert. Being an off the Myers Briggs scale for Introvert, I can assure you I would love this.
I need to take the test again, because I took it during college, which was the most social I've ever been. I came out quite "well-adjusted" but I am definitely NOT
I wanted to laugh at this but it hit too close to home. The lunch part was perfect: a bowl of cocoa puffs, beef jerky, and for dessert, a bowl of cocoa puffs.
I sometimes use my alone time to write draft texts. It’s especially important to create just the right message when responding to friends’ texts that are weeks old.
I would love to have the script printed out so I could defend my own "down time" with Liz's genius lines🤣 I'll have to just play it back over and over to take notes lol 📝
I am a nurse and an introvert. I hate when people disturb my leisure time. One time is My boss called me after i had ended my day shift to let me know we dont have enough staff in the evening because someone decides to not show up because he got angry his leave wasnt approved for that day. Anyway, my boss said i live nearby the hospital and didnt have any particular plans that evening so i was the perfect person to call back and do a double shift. My boss had the audacity to say i need to come to work because they have no one else. I told her i had been working double shift for three days straight, had no rest days and been working straight without a day off for two weeks, and now i had to sacrifice my only rest time to cover your lazy staff. What gets me is that even my colleagues were talking bad about me not taking that double shift because they were severely short staffed and the ward was hectic and busy af. They said the same thing about me not doing anything at home but still refuses to do double shift. I told them “my free time does not equal ‘free to come to work anytime at your command’ and your emergency does not count as an emergency for me”
@@hellhound1389 Wish I was like you. My I start our strong then by 2 I am tired and have to rest. My lupus has affected my heart and given me pericarditis. So glad that didn’t happen to you.
@@MCeili my HSP killed my kidneys but my heart is like a machine. I have to be on dialysis but I work my ass off all the time. Still try and run my business when I'm not hooked up to Dracula
Mixed connective tissue disease and Hashimoto's Thyroiditis ... I have Kidney issues, but am not as bad off as either of you. Still, I work hard at my daily life & on a good day I can skip a nap, on a bad day I need my bed not 2 hours after I've left it. I'm an introvert with Chronic Illness and migraines that hit hard, often. This video about Needing to recharge/rejuvenate, is spot on. I can only tolerate so much "people-ing", there are not enough spoons in the universe for me to deal with people some days. I absorb energy, good & bad, and it seriously Drains me.
I don't consider coco puffs to be self care. But I have learned to get more-or-less healthy food that's easy and quick to prepare. After being around people all day, I'm drained. Eating a decent meal, along with the alone time, helps me replenish my energy. Now if I could have a personal assistant go grocery shopping for me, that would save even more energy! Another thing that has helped me is learning how to acknowledge and release my emotions. (Instead of blocking them.) It's still a work in progress. But I feel more energy than I used to because I've been able to process and release stuff I was carrying around for years. And guess what? I needed alone time to be able to do that.
You can't just invite an introvert to a concert same day. We need at least 2 months notice before we say no.
So true 😂
Depends on the band. Anything heavy metal is an instant yes, even if I have to move to Antarctica for 10 years afterwards.
I’m an ambivert but i hate last minute invites. I mean, who does that?!? 😂
I laughed wayyy to hard at this. Of course from my couch. At home. Alone. In the dark.
Yeah nah, I'm a wholesale extrovert and last minute is a BIG no-no unless I know you extremely well and you know me well enough to ensure it's something I'd like. I have a life too and you expecting me to drop everything is rude AF.
As an extreme introvert who thoroughly enjoyed the COVID lockdowns that allowed me to channel my inner hermit, I deeply connect with this clip.
Yeah when everyone was upset about being stuck inside, I was confused.😂😂
I was upset when the lockdowns ended.
@@cathyb7560 not me. But I get it I really do. Between covert and my bad back, I have not left the house in order over two years period that is getting extreme. And I'm about to go within the next 30 days because my back is getting better and I've had my inoculations. What's the most part this was a great reset. PS that's our secret lol
@@biggee8111 I’m glad your back is getting better and hope the healing continues.
Same here! I'm still zooming my friends to watch movies together and they have finally accepted that I will not be on camera.
What are Liz's hourly rates for this service? She's fantastic and assertive and so amazing at upholding boundaries! wow. She is the bodyguard, I mean personal assistant all us introverts need.
I was waiting for Roger to ask if he can hire Liz also!!
Yes
Id pay her good money for this
This! Is what I need in my life. Where do I sign up?
Yes! I would hire her in an instant 🤣🤣
I have never felt so heard and validated before. Explaining my "nothing" days to my mostly extroverted family has always been a fundamental struggle. Even though this is meant to be a funny skit it really does hit the nail on the head for me.
My father has never understood my need for "nothing" days. Instead, he'd (figuratively) yell at me and call me lazy. I haven't lived with my parents for 35 years, but I still feel like I'm doing something wrong if I'm not doing something productive. I'm going on vacation soon to a cabin in a state park that has no TV and no Wi-Fi. I'm going to do nothing productive, and I'm not going to feel guilty about it.
Well, maybe a little for wasting vacation time by doing nothing. And a little more for not doing as much reading, playing games on my tablet, etc. as I had planned. Ugh, it never ends. 😫
@@lisagd22 enjoy! Going to a cabin and writing is on my bucket list.
@@adarateranroldan If you're near West Virginia, try the state parks with legacy or classic cabins.
I just make shit up like oh I’m on a work call lol
Hahaha!! I first read that as 'Heard and Violated' 😅 Like, 'stop spying on me. but also, thank you.'
Introverts unite! We're here, we're uncomfortable and we wanna go home!
This should be a chant.
@@tswain92_ if we all could actually accomplish meeting in the same place I agree 100% lol
@@tswain92_ YES! Agree 100%!
Oh yes! I could see this as a tattoo!
Yes Yes Yes!!!
By the way, alone time doesn't necessarily mean doing nothing. It just means not doing something with other people, especially high energy people.
Yep. Sometimes even an evening of annoying chores can be restful.
Say it louder, sis
Yup. And other ppl just don't get that this isn't a reflection on them OR how we feel about them. It's just time we need ALONE so we don't go utterly CRAY-CRAY. They really should thank us
It’s thinking time 😊
Atleast not with real people in real life. CGI is ok.
"between looking out the window because he heard a commotion and pacing around imagining full-blown scenarios that will never happen" okay y'all must have some introverts on your writing team because that is way too accurate.
Writing is an introvert JOB
I lol'd so hard at that and that's tough for me lmao
Yeah I would really like it if they got out of my head, now I'm pacing the room trying to figure out how they got in there 😂
That full blown scenario thing…that’s Maladaptive daydreaming…check it out
Introverts with anxiety no less! I have done that so many times.
Doing nothing IS doing something. I felt that in my soul.
Hi how are you doing?
As an introvert, I definitely approve this message...LOL. This is beyond accurate and its hilarious.
Same 😆 🤣
My extrovert brother and wife often tell me, when I see them every third month or so, or by text and calls, that I need to be more social. I do buy my own groceries, in person, and that's social enough. Huh, there is that curb loading thing, but I won't know what I want until I see what I want, and not everything is listed on store websites.
Saaaammmmmee!
Wow. They nailed it! Lol
100%
A lot of "non introverts" don't realize we as introverts are very sensitive and absorb energy good or bad. That is EXACTLY why we have to constantly recharge. Its so true .,....I need alone time frequently after human exposure. It's not a bad thing! The world needs sensitives!
Well I'm not sure the world actually NEEDS us (and I HATE being needed so I'd rather NOT think that) but I liked everything else you said
Wow, you just taught me something about myself that I wasn't sure how to articulate. Thank you
while i avoid large groups of people, other people per se are not the biggest problem for me.
the most exhausting thing is small talk, especially when strangers just start talking to me. that's very irritating. it's like, don't ask me about the weather (because you can just take a look outside or around you), or ask me how i am (because i will tell you).
i'll be happy to engage in more serious conversations with one or two other persons, though, if they are able to get to the point quickly.
so, i guess it's more about unnecessary and prolonged contact, not contact in itself.
Yeah, that was really tough as a kid when I didn't understand that not all the emotions I feel at times belong to me. It really helped when i got old enough to recognize other people's energy and the effect it has on me.
“Doing nothing often leads to the very best something.”
-Winnie the Pooh
Love that smart bear!
"It's not the things that you do, it's the thinks that you think." -- The Cat in the Hat
@@lazyhomebody1356 So very true.
lol didn't expect that
“Imagining full-blown scenarios that will never happen…” 😂
That mini monologue about taking care of yourself by doing nothing needs to be broadcast everywhere
That needs to be a Short, a Reel, a TikTok, and whatever other short form easily-shared video form!
Agreed! Tell the world!
🙌🏿🙌🏾🙌🏽🙌🏼🙌🏻
After these last few years the last thing people need to do is nothing.
Yes especially for those who suffer with Chronic Illness.
"Don't invite me to do something last minute. I enjoy doing nothing so I need to know ahead of time if my plan to do nothing needs to be changed."
Exactly!
thank you very much!
As an introvert, I completely understand. Even responding to texts deciding to go do something and be social is draining!
And it truly does take at LEAST 10 min to craft an appropriate text response!
Yes! God I hate texting. I feel pressure to reapond
@@carpdirector6836 I seriously thought I was the only one 😂
@@carpdirector6836 it will take more than 10 mins to reply an email.. my life.. 😭😭
Yesss I feel this way all the time! And I never understand why!
Responding takes energy. People always wanna tell you what you should be doing
I wouldn't mind being the personal assistant of an introvert. You wouldn't have to make small talk with your boss. All communication would be by text or email. There are probably some wealthy introverts who have personal assistants just like that.
I’m taking applications, but only by email.
If I was wealthy I would absolutely do this. Like low key the assistant wouldnt be even 100% sure im real. xD with Bonuses based on bs believability and all the perks.
How much $?
This is not my official reply. This is to notify you that I am considering my response.
We don't call them personal assistants, we call them understanding wives.
I am amazed at all the introverts who responded on this video. I am an introvert hermit also. I always feel like there is something wrong with Me for not wanting to hang out with friends and family and go do "normal" activities. People make me tired. I enjoy them and I love them, I love talking to My family and having PLANNED visits ( never just drop in on an introvert)..but after they leave I need at least a few weeks to recharge. I have a theory that We introverts are actually empath's and we are drained by other peoples energy and emotions. That's why we prefer the company of animals and plants. Anyway I am glad to see I am not alone and as weird as I thought.
Exactly! We are empaths. We need a virtual club that never actually meets. I wonder what you would call a gathering of empaths.
Hibernating IS self care sometimes
I, too as an introvert, approve this and need this in my life. Extroverts dont get how quickly introverts energy is depleted and how long it takes for us to recharge ourselves.
Doing nothing is definitely doing something, thanks for emphasizing that. Great video!
Amen
I spend a great deal of time doing nothing.
The way she’s reading it like it’s a CEO itinerary 😂👍
Not all heroes wear capes. Some just hold an appointment book and defend the schedule.
As an introvert, I would totally hire this woman. She gets me. Down to leaving the chips on a table near the door of the room where I'm hiding so I can just sneak my hand through and take the snack without revealing the rest of myself to anybody. You're hired, lady.
As an introvert, that was a brilliant explanation about introverts! My mom who is a high energy person learned a long time ago that me and my dad (who are both introverts) need that time to relax and do nothing. My high energy sister still doesn't get it but it's also fun because me doing nothing bugs the hell out of her. 😂
*feels attacked on your sister's behalf* lol 😅😒😜
I wonder why it bugs people. Because I can have peace maybe and they can’t. Idk.
@@youareworthalot1228 As many extroverts found during 2020, if they don't get constant contact with other people, they are the ones that lose energy. So it bugs them when they are denied access to others, because that's what fires them up. Human psychology is really weird but that's just how it works. Some people need solace for energy, others need socialization.
I like to think of extroverts as social vampires.
My cousin is an introvert and his parents would let him do whatever he wanted but when he graduated (barely) high school it was time to earn a living and pay rent just like his older siblings. His dad arranged for him to work for me. I'm a hardass that's worked like an adult since I was 8 so I can't stand laziness. I showed up at their house at 4:30 AM and drug him out of bed by his boxers threatened to turn the hose on him unless he got moving. He worked for me all summer and it broke him of his laziness. I've dozens of stories of me busting his ass at making him do some work and that's why he went to work at Walmart
@@youareworthalot1228 speaking as a hardass that hates laziness we can find peace, it's when we come home after a long day and a job well done. That's what happens when you're a true country boy raised on a farm not a city woosie raised on video games
I'm an introvert who has been very busy recently. As a result, I often feel exhausted and overwhelmed.
I just postponed an appointment today because I was tried then I thought maybe I should go to the gym.But I ended up eating dinner alone and watched youtube.I felt a bit guilty for not being productive.
Then I saw this video and realized that doing nothing isn't a waste of time.
Thank you. I really needed this message.
Totally feel you. After 30 years if working at 200% I've been on a 5 month break trying to get rid of everything in my house. I barely leave home. Thanks to supermarkets who deliver... My SIM card has been out of my phone for 2 months, no WhatsApp or calls, I only check emails once a day, sometimes. I don't feel guilty at all! Though I wish the house sorting was dine so that I could do nothing everyday. Lesson: house sorting is also draining and isn't refreshing 🙄. I'm thinking of getting a cleaner to help out and just dump everything into boxes.
@@bookkeepingsmes2089 I found doing things either by room or by theme works the best.
I wish you the best for your reorganization!
I love this! I wish everyone would understand this about us introverts! I need an assistant!😂
I don't need an assistant. That's 1 too many people for me to deal with. =)
@@jamesanthony8438 I so agree. Fewer, not more people in my life.
Steve's friend, well "friend" seemed to understand about the 'resting and recharging' so I might use that
i want this assistant damn it-😭
Yes
I really wish I had this. It would save me so much energy. But the assistant needs to say things like "She's busy all day and what she is doing is confidential."
I agree! It's no one's business what you're doing and you don't need to be judged for it. I am 100% with you on this :)
as an introvert, i approve of this message, doing nothing is definitely doing something for me, tuesdays are my recharge days
As an introvert I love this video. A lot of people don’t understand them and think they are just being rude when in reality they just want their alone time and social interaction is hard for them sometimes. I remember one at work my coworker asked me if I wanted to go to a restaurant with her and some other coworkers after work and I said no I was tired and just wanted to relax at home and she got an attitude and said everyone was tired from work and were still going. I said well they may have the energy for that but I don’t. That’s the struggle introverts go through on a daily basis
It's all communication and understanding. Hardest things in human existence.
If I was the coworker who'd asked, I'd ask on one more occasion, then stop. After that, stop. Wait for the other person to put together the initiative. It's a delicate line of ensuring you aren't pushy, and also understanding signals. For example, you're being truthful, but the same line gets used to mean "I'm uninterested in y'all" and pushing against that can be incredibly negative and unwanted.
So, offering a second opportunity later on, then giving space until someone lets you know they'd like to do a thing seems to be a solution, while keeping communication open. Asking the initiator to keep asking isn't, I think, great as it crosses so many social complications, and also risks overstimulating the other person.
It's a tricky social dance, though, since now the introvert will need to step forward.
I am one of those who thinks it’s rude to ignore plans/texts. I respect introverts who respond saying I don’t have the energy today, or I’ll get back to your text next week. I’m not an introvert or an extrovert, some people give me energy and some people drain me. Some alone time (reading, exercising) gives me energy and other alone time (TV, overeating) drains my energy.
Although as an introvert I approve of this message, I want to push back on the idea that introverts do nothing when they are alone! I am usually super busy.
Yes! Just because we're introverts doesn't mean we're lazy!
Oh, I dunno
I agree. It kind of made us sound lazy but we're not. We just need to be away from pressure.
@@eponine318 I actually do agree with you, but I was making a dumb joke. See my username?
Same. I don't want to hang out because I want to read, knit, sew, work in my garden, make a mega batch of bread, yes maybe mindlessly watch TH-cam a bit, but mostly do stuff! Just... ALONE! 😛
"Steve is RECHARGING. He's overwhelmed and drained. It doesn't matter why, he just is." I'm exceedingly emotional right now, always thought I was the only person on the planet who felt this way ❤️❤️❤️
Liz and Ryan this is your best work and bravo to the whole IAST team for pushing a strong mental health/self care message. Doing nothing IS doing something. ❤️
My mouth dropped open at “pacing around imagining scenarios” I did not expect to be called out like this
I need this PA so bad. Being the only introvert in my family, they just don’t understand the importance of Me Time.
It's not me time for introverts....it's the time we need to process all the talking all of the extroverts in our lives do as well as all of the social interactions that we have either been forced to participate in or chose to take part in recently. We aren't being selfish, we just need a lot of recharging time to be able to face people and when we don't get it our reserves get low and we get cranky. 😩
Hey!! My name is Abby Batchelor hahaha we are name twinsies!
Doing "nothing" is a way to enjoy and savour the simplest things in life. Curling in bed under blanket, watching the sky from the window, taking long shower, having discussion with inner self, etc. It's very important to have "doing nothing" day, there's a lot to do although it may seem unproductive.
As an introvert with a chronic illness, this is spot on.
I love this woman so much. As an introvert, I wish I could have an assistant like her
The only downside is then needing to deal with the assistant. It’s just too much. 🪦
@@musicalbenches So true. That means daily interaction with at least one person....nope!!
@@musicalbenches aww but she's so cute, I can handle her presence from time to time!
I need this woman in my life, but it would stress me out having her in the house working while I'm avoiding people. My friends know you don't just show up at my door.
I still have fond memories of my varsity flat. I spent many times lying flat on my stomach behind the couch, hiding from who ever was knocking on my door so they could not see me through the window. I moved to a place with locked gates manned by security. If I did not let them know someone was coming to see me they will just say I'm not at home. I bought them the biggest Christmas prezzies. Nothing gives me more anxiety than ppl just showing up at my home. Now I have 3 bullmastiffs so no one can get close go my door. 😀
Yes, I love living in a secure building and having all my devices on silent. I alone choose when I will engage with the world (Well apart from when I have to go to work, dang it)
Yeah my friend told me that's why I don't hear my phone ring, "turn up your phone"! Doesn't realize I KEEP it on silent including all notifications. I never tell stalkers my secrets, lol.
Honestly, this is how I felt when I took a year off for health reasons. I feel like my friends never really understood but I just needed to get to a better place.
Great explanation of an introverts need for peace. Do not judge. It is a requirement.
Yep, as someone who doesn't like lots of loud noise, gets distracted continually and needs time out to get over social hangovers because polite talking is hard work with my brain, this is spot on!
@Amy Taylor Better. Thank you.
Extroverts can get extremely angry from being ignored. Just like in this video. They just can't believe how an introvert can literally schedule a whole to literally do nothing. To them it's impossible and unthinkable.
Truth was spoken at the end. You don't need to do anything in order to be productive. It's called self-care, and it is perfectly valid. I learned this during quarantine 2020.
This was me on weekends. I worked like crazy, high energy and productive all week then crashed Friday night and recharged on the weekend. People dragged in on Monday morning but I was ready to go! Retired now with a comfortable balance of stop and go. Fun video!! But yeah, that diet is awful!
Be glad you didn’t work weekends. Us who work in retail(I’m a manager) don’t get to enjoy weekends. 😩
I hear you. I waitressed for a while and had split shifts, odd days on and off. Wore me out!
This is why I love having fellow introvert friends. We all make plans with the knowledge that it will never actually happen. All the fun of thinking we will be capable of doing things without the guilt when we inevitably can't!
Omg, as an introvert, I’m going to get a PA just like this if I ever win the lotto.
Very accurate! However, Liz's desk would be outside the front door. No way is anyone coming inside the house! lol
Liz, this was masterful. As someone who used to work for a exec who hated to be disturbed this was exactly how my days went. Bravo!
Now we need a bit on how an introvert gets an appointment with a busy extrovert.
I have never been so personally attacked like this, and I soon as I pick which game I want to not really play, I will be writing a strongly worded letter.
As an introvert, who is on the autism spectrum, I wholeheartedly approve of this.
Dame, I wish I could have that kínd of assistant in my life. What she said about taking 25 min to decide which game to play, that broke my heart, that’s exactly what I do all the f****ing time
Thank you for affirming that I am not alone with this thought process...altho, I'm fine with being alone lol. And yes, the weekend is for recharging from pretending to enjoy being around people during the week.
👏👏👏👏
As an introvert, I want this assistant. This is hilarious and absolutely accurate.
So the text thing is about energy, but more the anxiety about the energy it's going to take if you do that thing, &/or disappointing said texter and the energy that will take dealing with the guilt about hurting someone's feelings and the fact that you know you should be more people-y. Not to mention, seeing that person later and them knowing and you knowing that you didn't respond to their text, awkward. And well, that's a LOT of energy. Or so a friend told me... 😉
Plus the entire going to a concert thing, talk about an energy drain, all those people and all that noise...
This is how a lot of us Lupus patients feel when we’re having a flare up.
@@MCeili Mixed Connective Tissue Disease & Hashimoto's Thyroiditis also.
Yes, the judgement of it all😦
Ghost hugs for all in the thread ;-;
"Responding takes energy".
Thank you!!
I usually say, I need more "buffer" around me, or I need my "space," or I just want to be "alone." But, I like the more polite way she puts it and will start using her term, I need to "recharge."
I'm the kind of person that would've walked past her and kicked in the door and drug his ass outside and turned on the hose
I like that too because people tend to get their feelings hurt if we say we need space or to be alone like you said. It's just true about us. We do need that down time to recharge but, a good thing about us is that we tend to be more thoughtful in how we respond to people because we usually think before we respond to them, especially text messages 🤣
As an introvert, I feel like this was a full-blow PSA to all the extroverts about what we're like.
Thanks for spreading awareness 🤣🤣🤣
A former housemate called it "peopling." Peopling took a lot of energy, and there would be a need afterward to restore, as well as kind of hitting a wall where you can't people anymore for a bit.
Ouch and true. Expecially when "doing nothing" is doing something to relax and recharge.
I’ve 100% fantasized about having an assistant for my life to guarantee my alone and quiet time
Maybe you should get one.
As an introvert I get my dose of social interactions from monday to friday at work. On saturday and sunday I want to do NOTHING.
And the replies to text messages were spot on - I may see it, but it'll probably take me a few hours (or more) to respond. If you're not dying, your messages can wait (especially the ones asking to hang out).
Completely accurate, just wish others would understand how we need to recharge vs thinking it’s weird or that we’re bored when we choose to not do anything on a certain day.
"He's overwhelmed and drained, doesnt matter why, he just IS." please say it LOUDER for the parents in the back
Ryan is such a great addition to the cast!!! His facial expressions are gold.
She’s just telling people what homie’s whole schedule is. FIRED!!!!!!!!!
Comedic license
This is so well written and acted. I wish y’all had a regular one hour show! New kinda soap opera!
Yes!!
"imagining full blown scenarios that will never happen" . glad I'm not the only one who does this.
I love this! It completely justifies my life.
The responding to the text message thing is EXACTLY me 😂 I thought I was the only one who felt like it takes so much energy to even respond to a text message haha
You are hired, I need you starting now
"Don't tell me he's going to pull that just got your text thing!"
"Well he won't now." 🤣🤣🤣
I'm an introvert for sure. Hermit by choice, one might say. Mental health is important and self-care is important, but being honest and direct and clear with people you supposedly care about is important too. Avoidance is no way to nurture those few relationships people like me actually have. Just tell them the truth and they'll be more understanding and forgiving. It's worked for me for decades whereas people didn't stick around as long when I was younger because I didn't know how to tell them and there was lots of miscommunication.
This.
Even when transparency and the thought of self express , to a point everything is addressed . There will always be that lowly educated ones that would disrespect people and force others into the conversation they want no part of ( it’s nots in a job scenario ) which is energy draining . It’s harassing with this kind of bigot but I’m learning to cope eventually though it does make me less productive over time and they are also the same person that would question and point finger at me for ‘ recharging ‘ .
I’m an extrovert, and what you said is important. If you don’t want to hang out, just be honest about why. We will understand.
SPOT ON
That's it. Thank you! I can't approve of this video completely.
Getting ghosted can cause someone else loads of anxiety. That's so selfish... Of course, we can be introverts without being jackasses!
Omg, this is SO accurate!! I wish everyone understood "doing nothing" is productive and not rude. Where can I hire my personal assistant?! 🤣
Can't decide if I feel seen, feel called out, or am suddenly living in joy/terror of when phone AIs start promoting this as a built-in feature. All around, excellent sketch!
This is definitely a step up from just saying, "I got shit to do."
This was scarily relatable. I am on holidays but I would love to have a personal assistant.
I need my down time, alone, doing what "I" want, not what others want. What I find hurtful is the "popular" opinion by "specialists" that being alone is bad, that encouraging people to be socially active "makes you live longer", that we are "required" to interact and be social to "have a better life". That "studies show..." puts pressure on me to "conform" to the extrovert's needs which are not mine. Even sitting here, typing this message, makes me feel like I am "wasting time" expressing my needs when I should be "out there" being active and social. Some days it just feels like too much and I can't get my energy back.
Definitely me 🤣 just need the secretary to have people leave me alone 🤣🤣
"Look's like Steve's just added a 10 minute block of 'crafting the perfect text message to respond to Roger about the concert without hurting his feelings'."
As an introvert, I can tell you that text msg takes longer than 10 minutes to craft.
As an introvert there are 100% some people who I can hang out and do nothing with that don't drain my social battery. My husband and my best friend are two such examples. I can be alone together with them.
Ironically the people I can do that with are also introverts. Extroverts cant pull it off
@@Birdbike719 Extroverts wanna TALK. It's awful.
@@lilykep and talk, and talk, and talk...
My family enjoyed hanging out in the living room reading together, seperately. Good times!
@@Birdbike719 not to mention all the questions, heavy sighs and fidgeting. I can’t relax with all of that.
The assistant deserves some sort of award- excellent actress.
As an introvert, I now wish I had a personal assistant. Either I try to be confident about sometimes turning down last-minute plans for the sake of my well being but end up regretting it because I feel in retrospect that I sounded rude, I try to respond in any way possible but end up saying nothing because I'm afraid of being rude, or I get roped into doing the thing anyway lol. This video was soooo relatable XD
The ultimate introverts goal. This is what we feel all the time. I need Liz like right now.
I think Steve needs a nutritionist for one lol.... (even though I'd never turn down Reece's cups)
Hi how are you doing?
This reminds me of one of my favorite quotes: “There are things you have to do, and things you want to do, but don’t forget to do nothing every once in a while”
Mental Health and self care are so important!
Hi how are you doing?
I'm introverted. I love friends, get togethers and hanging out but in shorter amounts. I dont enjoy loud talking, meaningless chatter, pointless team building activities (thank goodness I'm now retired). Its exhausting. Not having to go to endless Christmas gatherings made the season 2020 the best ever since being an adult. I'm glad people realize this is exaggerated satire but we do like to enjoy our world peacefully and thoughtfully. Namaste.
Actually, the personal assistant would attend all social functions on behalf of the introvert. Being an off the Myers Briggs scale for Introvert, I can assure you I would love this.
That could be handy, they maintain your social connections for when you actually have enough energy/a good enough reason to attend yourself.
I need to take the test again, because I took it during college, which was the most social I've ever been. I came out quite "well-adjusted" but I am definitely NOT
I wanted to laugh at this but it hit too close to home. The lunch part was perfect: a bowl of cocoa puffs, beef jerky, and for dessert, a bowl of cocoa puffs.
This is exactly me! I can so relate! You really captures extremely introverted people so well!
Damn, hilarious skit that surprisingly has a good moral!!! Wasn't expecting that but pleasantly surprised. :D
I feel personally attacked by this video, and I'm gonna need to take a couple days for some "me time" to recover from this.
I sometimes use my alone time to write draft texts. It’s especially important to create just the right message when responding to friends’ texts that are weeks old.
I would love to have the script printed out so I could defend my own "down time" with Liz's genius lines🤣 I'll have to just play it back over and over to take notes lol 📝
Just look under the video's description, and then scroll down to the bottom and click on "Show Transcript."
Or you could just watch the video again & write down what you hear.
I am a nurse and an introvert. I hate when people disturb my leisure time. One time is My boss called me after i had ended my day shift to let me know we dont have enough staff in the evening because someone decides to not show up because he got angry his leave wasnt approved for that day. Anyway, my boss said i live nearby the hospital and didnt have any particular plans that evening so i was the perfect person to call back and do a double shift. My boss had the audacity to say i need to come to work because they have no one else. I told her i had been working double shift for three days straight, had no rest days and been working straight without a day off for two weeks, and now i had to sacrifice my only rest time to cover your lazy staff. What gets me is that even my colleagues were talking bad about me not taking that double shift because they were severely short staffed and the ward was hectic and busy af. They said the same thing about me not doing anything at home but still refuses to do double shift. I told them “my free time does not equal ‘free to come to work anytime at your command’ and your emergency does not count as an emergency for me”
I always love It's a Southern Thing skits. As an introvert, this one explains me so well.
A low decibel zone!!! OMG this is the funniest thing I've heard today! Was feeling low, thabk you sm for this brilliant sketch 😆😆😂😂😂😂😂❤
As someone with Lupus I totally get this, and wish I had a personal assistant my self.
I have HSP (similar to lupus) I can't stand to sit still and am always working. On my worst day I can out work my able bodied relatives
@@hellhound1389 Wish I was like you. My I start our strong then by 2 I am tired and have to rest. My lupus has affected my heart and given me pericarditis. So glad that didn’t happen to you.
@@MCeili my HSP killed my kidneys but my heart is like a machine. I have to be on dialysis but I work my ass off all the time. Still try and run my business when I'm not hooked up to Dracula
Mixed connective tissue disease and Hashimoto's Thyroiditis ... I have Kidney issues, but am not as bad off as either of you. Still, I work hard at my daily life & on a good day I can skip a nap, on a bad day I need my bed not 2 hours after I've left it. I'm an introvert with Chronic Illness and migraines that hit hard, often. This video about Needing to recharge/rejuvenate, is spot on. I can only tolerate so much "people-ing", there are not enough spoons in the universe for me to deal with people some days. I absorb energy, good & bad, and it seriously Drains me.
@@hellhound1389 You are impressive! Hope to be that strong soon. Benlysta is definitely helping.
I don't consider coco puffs to be self care. But I have learned to get more-or-less healthy food that's easy and quick to prepare. After being around people all day, I'm drained. Eating a decent meal, along with the alone time, helps me replenish my energy.
Now if I could have a personal assistant go grocery shopping for me, that would save even more energy!
Another thing that has helped me is learning how to acknowledge and release my emotions. (Instead of blocking them.) It's still a work in progress. But I feel more energy than I used to because I've been able to process and release stuff I was carrying around for years. And guess what? I needed alone time to be able to do that.