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I needed this. In my early 30s, disabled since birth, never married nor engaged, and am working a job that could pay more but doesn’t. This video is so comforting.
This feeling can get even worse when everyone around you pretends to have it all together when they actually don't... and this becomes particularly true in social media. Most of the times, when we feel behind in life, that sensation stems from comparing our achievements to other people's, and often those are not even real or entirely so. Bear this in mind and focus on yourself because being yourself with your weaknesses and strengths is your superpower.
Thats why I only use youtube. And if I use other social media platforms I use a separate account and only limit the content I want to see. I only choose educational and helpful contents. My life has been better ever since doing that.
My biggest issue is comparing myself to celebrities lol. Really toxic trend, trying to break out of it. I can't even enjoy watching most films or tv shows anymore because of it.
Hey fam! I hope I'm of help 1. Life isn't always happy - 1:17 2. Everything in life is sure to pass - 3:12 3. Acknowledge the good in your life - 4:13 4. Write your own life - 5:21 5. Your mind can lie and knows how best how to convince you - 6:13 6. There is... Or can be someone out there who loves you - 7:27 Remember everyone.. I'm going through this crazy time too.. always remember that there is someone who'll be there for you.. believe me if you have none.. you have YOURSELF the precious human ever Love you guys don't lose hope.. NEVER 💜
31 and basically done nothing since I was 19. 12 years behind on jobs, relationships, mental health, everything. 1 short vacation, no relationships, work 2 days a week, smoke, drink, no friends, 2 nights out in that time. I love my family though. They're why I'm here. Stay strong everyone
Ever since I graduated college, I haven’t done much except staying at home for months. It doesn’t help that my parents still treat me like a child and doesn’t trust me to drive nor do anything else on my own. I’m not even allowed to work any jobs until I finish university. I see my friends travelling around, earning money, making memories while I’m here, living the same day over and over. Every time I try to express negative feelings, my parents would brush it off since they’re not emotionally capable to handle these emotions. So, I’m managing on my own. I feel disconnected and useless. People around me expect me to be a growing, capable adult but at the same time, still treat me like a little child. Who doesn’t get confused on how to act? I can’t… Society is just too confusing Not to mention the financial situation I’m in. I can’t help but blame my parents for making such stupid financial mistakes before having me, to the point where I can’t enjoy the same financial ease my siblings had. My siblings never had to worry about money, while I had to grow up thinking that if I have no want or desire, our financial situation will become better.
Your situation resonates with me a lot, only I dropped out of university and find myself in a similar situation all the same. I think what is eating away at me is that my feeling of disconnection is overbearing. I'm not really sure I have anyone frequently in my life any more, I've not had a normal a life by any means and this has lead me to envy anyone that has a practically normal life by comparison, which I am very well aware is extremely unhealthy. Worst of all, I have achievements that line up with what I wanted ever since I was a child, like making games and meeting heroes, when you fulfil your dreams what do you have to reach for any more? Society really is confusing, we can only do our best to try to be the change we want to see in society, rather than adding to the problems. I try when I can to stand up for others and advocate for social change, but I can't always be that person, sometimes It can just be hard to get out of the bed in the morning, but we have to try all the same because we only get one life, so it has to be precious. I wish you all the happiness and success in the world, and I hope you start to gain the autonomy and decision making you desire, rather than languishing. Its a challenge. We have to try to be gentle with ourselves when we don't achieve the changes we want in our lives. PS: I hope replying to a comment from a month ago isn't jarring or weird for you, writing a message like yours (or mine) can be intense so you might not be feeling the same way right now. Either way, I hope you are doing well!
Same. I'm constantly depending on others as a almost 22 yr old adult and I feel so pathetic. People treat me like a child but it is my fault. Sometimes i think about just selling my body for money or pan handling. Maybe it will be easier to be a bum and giveup.
@@ZaylidinOfficial Atleast you have accomplished things. Im a drop out because i became homeless. The best thing in my life is becoming a mom but i worry i cant take care of my child. No matter how hard my husband tries to find a job he just cant seem to while others in his same shoes are getting jobs all around him. Life just sucks sometimes
I’m about to graduate and I am so scared of how the world is going to treat me. I am a Pre-Med student and I don’t think I did such a good job like I wanted to. My GPA is not good enough for admissions, I am scared for the admissions test that I have to take. I’ve done so much stuff for my community to make up for my poor scores but I feel like it is not good enough. It’s so hard not to envy my friends who have stable careers, more than likely will get into medical school, have stable relationships with their families and partners. I’m tired of pretending that I’m ok, but I’m not, I feel alone and lost. I feel like I’ve wasted my youth in a dream that seems unreachable because of a broken system. I want to become an empathetic physician, but It’s so discouraging to know that you have to meet someone’s standards with a number and not character. Im sorry for my rant but I really don’t know how to let go of this pressure
Same here. I don't know what you are going through but I am sorry for your pain because of it. It's easier said than done but please keep trying your best and don't give up! No matter how dark your surroundings become there will always be a bright light to bring you out of the darkness. You just have to find it first. Sending you much love and good vibes 🤗💛
@@FutureFendiFsnista Thank you for the uplifting words. I wish I could copy/paste them right back at you. It gives me hope to know there are still good people in the world who'd take the time to encourage a complete stranger in a moment of sadness. I wish you the very best, and I hope that, whatever you are going through, the pain passes soon and you are able to look back and see the purpose in the struggle. Much love to you, MJ. ♡♡♡
@@maicey_t. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. To be unrealistically optimistic and thinking things will magically work out for you if you don't even make a token effort, will ruin your life as much as the faulty belief, that the entire world is out to get you. 8,000,000,000 human beings do not even know you exist, never will, nevermind have any sort of opinion about you. Most people will never know you exist, let alone have any sort of positive, mixed, or negative opinion of you. This itself can be terrifying, or liberating, and the choice is yours to make.
Don't know who you are but know you are loved even by a stranger like me and never give up even when things get dark or if your struggling, theres always a small light. Just have to keep going till is as bright as the sun.
When my anxiety and depression starts getting really overwhelming (which is nearly everyday since I’m not on antidepressants) I try to rewire my thinking to be more positive. I remind myself to take it “minute by minute” in my head until I can get myself into a better headspace. I hope this helps someone 🙂
You know what, I think that might be key for many of us i got worse on several antidepressants amd mood stabilizers they do anything BUT what they claim ...and they ALL SAY "we really don't know how any of this works and it might work in SOME of you"...then we go on zapping our brains with so many pills in my experience that is key I think and I'll try it a REALLY GOOD TRY although some say "trying is lying" we must simply DO... either way I'll try breaking my day in little parts mentally with to do lists...
@@poosaykleen i’m sorry to hear that, i hope you understand that you’re worthy and not a bad person. You’re incredibly amazing and still remember to thank yourself for keep going living your life no matter what, even if thoughts came there’s hope in you, maybe you can’t see it right now but you will, trust me. Never give up because of anxiety, thoughts or depression, we are ourselves and those bad one are not us. Hope i helped!
Definitely needed this reminder today. I’m feeling really alone and “ghosted” by those around me. But as much as it hurts, I will keep fighting and will not give up!
I'm right there with you. Feeling those same feelings. The "ghosted" part sucks. Trying to read beyond the initial reaction to figure out what the situation is trying to teach me. Geez though it's hard to not get dragged down by the immediacy of the sucky feelings that go with it all!
I remember when my mom got sober, suddenly everyone ghosted her. It was because she started standing up for herself and people didnt like that they couldn't manipulate her anymore or scapegoat her for things she didnt do.
@@malumachado4561 Amen to that! God bless those of us struggling to do the right thing & stay on the right path! It is a lonely road In this country right now. ♥️🙏😔
I feel the same. I'm a shy person and people seems to not understand what is it so I'm often ghosted. But even when I try to be gentle and go see them it's the same
@@Auurify I think you're just going through a stage. I'm also going through a stage rn, I just lost my best friend forever (haha, LOST my best friend FOREVER) And it's all my fault. Someone who used to love me like she wasn't a normal selfish human now hates me for being toxic. And our mutual friends all shun me too. For the past two months, I genuinely didn't see a future. I don't have any talents, I don't have any friends, I don't have a youtube channel. But today I reconnected with one of my old elem school friends and she's nice enough to still embrace me (probably only because she hasn't seen how toxic I can be when I don't control my anger but at least it's something) Either way, I don't think I will make the same friendship mistake again, and today I felt hopeful. Life is like a tough teacher. Maybe you just got a C- on your last test and are beating yourself up over it. But I love how even though life won't be nice and curve your grade (ie. can't change the past), it'll still throw more tests at you, stubbornly giving you chances to make things better until the day you die. It's almost like life is... believing you can do it. I have not a clue if this rant helped you but I do know that because you're alive, you're a) fighting some s*** b) gonna win this s*** I think you might want to watch exubr1a, his vids always help me put things in perspective.
I can attest that there will be a dawn. After 4 years of deep depression and solitude, I am finally seeing the good more often than not. Don't give up on you. You are worthy of the life you are living.
I had undiagnosed adhd that affected all my relationships and took my career, money,etc. I’m 40 today and just finding this out is freeing but also devastating
im 16, and i was actually diagnosed with adhd at a much younger age, except my parents are assuming its gone by now, and whenever I bring it up, i'm "being overdramatic" and "you can't just rely on meds for the rest of my life"
@@MaxGamer07wastaken it’s more of a physiological health issue. With ADHD the executive dysfunction is pretty much a bypass of the prefrontal cortex due to stress. Meds are only a nudge in the right direction but for some it’s necessary
@@The_Vanished I'm aware, and also aware that I can't completley rely on meds, but I was talking to them back then, and to you now, about a more permanent fix, if one exists
I'm so sorry. I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with my adhd when I was young, but spent the majority of my life in denial because i was told that adhd isn't real. I only came to recently as an adult of 32 and have been able to support myself in learning as much as I can about it, trying to practice self-compassion and advocating for myself as much as possible. It is devastating as you say, it rattles your entire identity and way of relating to others. But also gives you a sense of peace knowing it was that all along. You've got this, it gets easier and the journey isn't linear but be kind to yourself.
Whenever I feel like giving up, I remember that I'm not the only one going through depression and there's millions of people around the world fighting too 🧡 we can do it together
If you want to get over depression you have to realise that depression is more like a puzzle or a journey into your own mind. You have to realise that only you can control who you are and who you become. Begin to slowly organise your life. Take small steps at first like doing your own laundry. As you begin to slowly organise your life you can begin to create a plan and figure out what makes you fulfilled. There are many other more specific things you can do to get out of depression, but those are more case specific.
This reminds me of my search for love as a shut-in. Can't really go out and date. And the normal non-shut-ins hate my idea of having a roommate romance. Actually I don't want more friends, just one person to love.
It's painful knowing that I kinda feel left behind in life. I know life has so much to offer in terms of future experiences and opportunities, stuff like that, but honestly time literally flies by so quickly that I couldn't even immediately catch up to it on time. Despite all of that, I still continue to push myself cause giving up for me is simply not an option. Taking away your own life is also not an option. With a forced smile on my face, I gotta keep moving forward even though it's so hard from time to time.
Every small step forward will compound some day. You don't become rich with one penny but you can not become rich unless you start gathering money penny by penny. This is true of anything you wish for in life. If you have something you wish you could be. Find out the tiny steps that you have to take to get to that and start taking them. Even if it's just keeping your room clean. You got this sophia
Whenever I feel alone (and I feel alone a lot), I remember a quote I found online- "The Sun is also alone, but it still shines." It really cheers me up.
This totally hits home! I'm in my early 40s, struggling with epilepsy and couldn't keep the job I always wished to have...being a preschool teacher. I filed for disability for my epilepsy but got denied over 5 times. Any guy I've been interested in never liked me back, so I gave up on ever having somebody to love me. My grandma isn't in the best of health and my mom got diagnosed with cancer. I truly feel like I'll never be as successful as other friends and family members are!
That must be difficult to deal with. While I can understand the difficulties that having a disability can bring, I can only imagine how hard having the rest is. While it's hard, you have a family of sorts here and friends who won't judge or pick on you for feeling left behind. 🤗 Sending virtual hugs
Christ sees what you're going through your loved no matter what just know that you are cared for that seems to be extremely stressful I have been in points in my life where I wanted to take my own life but I remember that Christ loves me and he loves you just remember that
Most of my life I've been alone, stuck in my head and confused about how my life has gone with nothing much to show for it has made me feel like a failure even though I've tried time and time again to the point of frustration that I gave up at a point in time after I lost someone I genuinely loved and have made attempts to take my own life but it's videos like this this that give me some semblance of hope that my life will get better despite feeling like an absolute mental and emotional train wreck.
I kinda resonate with you, studying a major I don't like after dropping out of another one that I didn't like. Not really knowing what I like anymore and these 1 year and a half or 2 years of isolation (im with my family, but they are...stupid, to make it simple, so I'm isolated) has made me reach some dark places in my brain, but I'm gonna fight and go to therapy or something, I will try anything and not give up until there are no other options.
@@gericko4931 The only thing you can do is fight the dark thoughts that plague your mind. I too understand the family dynamic you speak of. I rarely interact with any of my family (I do not know where their loyalties lie, dont speak with 3/4 of them due to their two mouthed crabs in a bucket, hyena mentality)and constantly isolate myself from them as a means to not absorb the energy they emit, otherwise I'd either be institutionalized in a mental asylum or dead from taking my own life
Well. The problem with these philosophies is that they don’t acknowledge that the term being “behind in life” is not used to frame a feeling which erects from comparing yourself to others. Its coming from the fact, that you are in a place as an adult, where you are lacking things, which you essentially need to be happy or have a feeling of wellbeing. I will take myself as an example. I always struggled in school. Despite learning a lot, I barely passed high school. When I was 20, I worked my ass of to attend college. Which 24 I enrolled. Like in school, I learned a lot, but didn’t manage to write good enough grades to get my degree. I even changed three times my major. Nothing helped. With 29 I left college. No Degree. Only a huge debt. The only job I could find, was as a cashier at a local restaurant. I still work there. I still have a lot of debt. Despite that I always struggled making friends. I treated people nice, but they treated me like a doormat. I never had a friend as a kid or a teen. Same with love. Despite I tried approaching women. Every single rejected me. I never had a hug, a kiss, a date or a relationship. Here I am. 31. Lonely, poor, no friends, no love. Its not about comparing myself to others, its about that what adults need to be somewhat happy, I don’t have.
I never had a boyfriend or even a real date before I met my husband. You just never know. At 61, looking back, I can tell you that 31 is young still. Hang in there, look for cheap therapy, (alot of interns still in school offer cheap therapy, or sliding scale.) You don't need to do it for years, just get yourself some perspective and objectivity. Remember lots of people are struggling to find a decent job and wage right now, that has nothing to do with you or your worth. I'm saying a prayer for you, I feel like I was exactly in your shoes at 31, and I am fairly happy now after therapy, finding a job that fit for me after LOTS of jobs that didn't, etc.
I know this kind of misses the point of not giving into those thoughts of one's life being over, but when I start having thoughts like my life's over and I have no one/no purpose/etc., I tell myself 'Screw it, if there's nothing left for me, I'm gonna live for myself. I'm gonna do whatever I want that makes me happy. What I've always told was acting selfish - I don't care. I'm gonna eat my favorite foods, stay in my pajamas all day, watch all my favorite films. My life's over, nobody cares about me, so why not do what makes _me_ happy during what time I have left? But, juuust in case my life _isn't_ over, I'm still going to be reasonable and refrain from things I may regret, e.g., carelessly spending money, reckless behavior, etc.' It's what gets me thru periods of having those thoughts until I'm able to think clearly and realize my life is not, in fact, over yet.
@@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 or you come here trying to better SOMETHING about your life or yourself. clearly.... there is still hope left in you :)
I lost my retail job when it closed in 2020, a job I hated but couldn't get out of because I felt bad leaving the others in that hellhole yet that was all I knew how to do. But I landed on a better one with less pressure, doesn't cause much anxiety, and not retail. The funny thing was that this job was being offered to me for a couple years but didn't jump on it due to above reasons. My life is far from perfect but that job loss was in fact for the better. So I think there's something better out there for certain types of people but they tend to overlook.
I really needed the reality check of "you're not supposed to be happy 24/7" On social media, everything is a highlight reel, and it's easy to start believing that your peers are constantly happy and achieving
I'm always trying to tell myself that I'm not alone, that I can do this, that I don't have to end my life but when everyone proves the opposite to me and sometimes I just feel like why Am I even fighting for? Are these struggles even worth it? What if I don't even have a future? I just... don't know what to do anymore and things became meaningless..
Hey I'm with you on that one on such a personal level. Everytime I get this motivation and feel like I can do this... then one day I just have zero hope. I think it has to do with worrying about the future too much. Try to remain present and focus on what is happening now. It took me some practice but this helps me and it led to a more hopeful future and happiness for me. I know it will for you too. 🙌
Don't care about others live your life for yourself, don't try to please others, but even if u do the best they still criticise you, so I hope you find "what you really" love, I will be cheering for you, don't give up 💜💜
I understand how you feel. Recently, I talked to one of my school bully that lead me to poor mental health, lack of social support and finally, suicidal attempt (this was 2017). It's been 4 years now. I asked her, why didn't you helped me, why no one cared as if my life didn't matter? Guess what, she wasn't sorry. In fact, she said, oh I guess you realised your mistakes now? That's great. She sees my suicidal attempt as sinful and a mistake rather as my attempt for a cry of help, support and understanding from people. It was hurtful because I was expecting an apology rather she only made me feel like my existence is a mistake. I cried A LOT but life is not worth for these stupid people, just like the people you mentioned in your life. Someday, it will make sense, just don't give up because if you do, next person will be the next victim of the same life struggles. Live your life to tell a story, so that more people can learn to be compassionate, understanding and supportive of each other.
I have been feeling like this for over a month now... and yes, I have also considered just ceasing to care about anything and just lying under my covers for the rest of my life. After many days , I finally saw a glimmer of hope, a brief assurance. I pray that you overcome whatever you are going through, and you can find meaning again... remember life can be a b!tch sometimes , but you are never alone... theres someone out there rooting for you and you gotta make it through for that person. Sending you virtual hugs!
Not everyone can put themselves back together after falling into depression I almost didn’t; I nearly pulled the trigger on my own life about a year ago. To make the story short, I became overwhelmed by other people putting their depression on me and my own depression to the point where I couldn’t recognize what I had that was good vs the bad. After that I started taking note of 100 things that I was thankful for in life for about a few weeks and started to have some change for the better. At this I’m a bit better because of what I did and I learned that things are only as bad as you make them. For anyone who may be going through a rough patch like what I went through that took the time to read this, please remember that you are amazing and are loved.
I cried a lot while watching this video. My mind have been doing all the possible things to make me feel like I’m a failure, and I couldn’t fight it today. I truly needed a little amount of positivity.
I'm 49 and suffered a lifetime of social anxiety. Even though I was very monetarily successful and in very good physical shape I feel my life is over :(. Being alone is terrible.
I'm younger but when I read your comment I don't feel alone thanks to you. At least less alone. I thought finally someone who can understand me. I'm socially anxious too. Very very anxious and the more I feel juged the more it gets worse. My family isn't supportive at all. They don't get it. They say I'm crazy, I must go to a psychiatric.
@@b.unicornette7734 Same here, my family denied it. I was also extremely overprotected growing up, complicated story. Time passed. I guess you have to learn to accept it. I watched a video that really struck a chord. It was about "not giving a f&#k" about other people. Like being strong and not caring about others. I slowly incorporate that into everyday life. I am a distance inline skater, I talk to women here and there, and got numbers. I have a skate partner, probably nothing will come it, she is quite a bit younger than me, but we spend lots of time together. I don't care at this point, better than being alone, and nice to see a text from someone. Also, If they reject me, I say to myself their loss. Also learn to build value in yourself. Maybe it means working out or accomplishing something. Good luck, it is a very difficult journey. I think I missed out on so many milestones, it is painful.
@@justathought7221I get you. Although staying postive it's about the mental state, it's hard on a daily basis. Some would tell 'oh yeah you can still do whatever you want". No it's not that easy. I'm 30, I hate to admit it. Time flies. I see my wrinkles and it breaks my soul. My student years are becoming far and it breaks my soul. Just to think about those years.... I want to cry. Because I chained myself not to date, not to be happy, not to dare date anybody because of my toxic parents who told me as a kid not to ever ever sleep with guys as if they would eat me, as if it's a crime. When you are a kid you absorb things. You believe it deeply. So I stayed single since forever untill now. Believe it or not, I'm a virgin. The only guy who wanted to date me was french and I'm a moroccan. I was 25, was petrified, was all shocked and confused of him liking me. No, it was impossible, a joke. I'm hideous. Nobody would like me. So he thought I messed with him. But he would never know the hell I go through to even let someone touch me. I'm getting older and all my ex friends or actual pals are married, engaged, mothers of one or two etc. They have a good job, a husband, a house. They can travel. I can't. All those things, I don't have them. I'm 30 and society, patents are pressuring me to find a man, a husband although I have my demons, hate myself and just im stock in the phase " what I'm I gonna do with my life?". I'm socially anxious, I struggled to even study and get my degree. I struggle now to find a job, a good one and be satified about it. I don't even have a car. I just want to be happy and optimistic but something is draging me down. Some days I feel alright. Most of the days, I get dark thoughts. I don't even like being human. I hate it. I'd like so much to live the life of a bird. It sucks to be a human, to feel, to think, to have to buy every single tool for your body. To battle to feel recognised, appreciated, to fit in. It sucks even more to be a woman. In the country I live in it's hell to walk in the streets as a woman. So here's why I understand your pain and I feel you. I hope at least that you're feeling less alone.
6 Things to Remember When You Feel Like Your Life Is Over: 1) Life isn't always happen 1:17 2) Everything in life is sure to pass 3:12 3) Acknowledge the good in your life 4:13 4) Write your own life 5:21 5) Your mind can lie and knows best how to convince you 6:13 6) There is.. or can be someone out there who loves you 7:27 Have a great day Psych2Goers!
Well. The problem with these philosophies is that they don’t acknowledge that the term being “behind in life” is not used to frame a feeling which erects from comparing yourself to others. Its coming from the fact, that you are in a place as an adult, where you are lacking things, which you essentially need to be happy or have a feeling of wellbeing. I will take myself as an example. I always struggled in school. Despite learning a lot, I barely passed high school. When I was 20, I worked my ass of to attend college. Which 24 I enrolled. Like in school, I learned a lot, but didn’t manage to write good enough grades to get my degree. I even changed three times my major. Nothing helped. With 29 I left college. No Degree. Only a huge debt. The only job I could find, was as a cashier at a local restaurant. I still work there. I still have a lot of debt. Despite that I always struggled making friends. I treated people nice, but they treated me like a doormat. I never had a friend as a kid or a teen. Same with love. Despite I tried approaching women. Every single rejected me. I never had a hug, a kiss, a date or a relationship. Here I am. 31. Lonely, poor, no friends, no love. Its not about comparing myself to others, its about that what adults need to be somewhat happy, I don’t have.
Thanks for the video. I just bawled my eyes out while watching it. I'm in my early 30s, with a decent job, but not very promising career path. My parents are getting older, while I don't have a partner (and honestly I still don't know if I'll ever find one since I'm socially awkward). I'm starting to look for investments and a possible career change, to better prepare myself financially for the possibility that I'll be alone until I die. Recently I'm also finding that it's difficult to accept that I'm already in my 30s. It's silly, but I feel like I'm not ready. So many doors to new opportunities will be closed to me in the coming few years because those opportunities will prefer younger candidates. I'm scared because it feels like there'll be no way out once I hit a certain age. No more restart button.
I know this is months late, hope everything is going well for you. I am looking for videos for my partner as he's in a dark place right now and I'm trying to help him, and came upon your comment. I'm 35 and have been in the same situation, one thing I will say is, if you want to be with someone and share your life with someone don't look for perfection, people are awkward in general, so that's something you have in common with them. I have switched careers 3 times now, I'm a graphic designer, changed to programming and currently marketing, trying to be a successful entrepreneur, now I'm at my 7th business attempt so that's 6 failures, which have taught me something. And for successful I don't expect to become the next millionaire on the block, I just want a business that can pay the bills and sustain some people while doing something positive for others. Try to lower your expectations, you don't need to be perfect, enjoy your parents, enjoy your time, we worry about stupid things and don't know if we will be alive the next hour. Enjoy life one step at a time, everything is uncertain but death. So whatever you do, make sure it is fulfilling. No one has time to be worried about things like "money" (which is something we made up), or career (which is related to money, your career can change no problem). The struggles you have right now, are the same struggles people in their 50s have, as well as people in their 70s. Stop worrying so much and just enjoy the trip. I see so many clients that are changing their career at 50 years old, or doing their first business. Life changes a lot, some times the pacing is slow, some times fast. There's no such thing as a "secure job" or "secure path", one day everything is fine and the next you could be fired or changing job, or even a pandemic hits and everything goes to shit. Some times you can't control what happens, and you have to be ready to change and adapt. This happens often. Instead of worrying if you should change career right now or not, ask yourself, is what you are doing worth it? are you enjoying it? do you find fulfillment with it? if the answer is yes, then you're in the right path. Worst scenario, you learned a new skill. Next.
Hey there. I know it has been 9 months since you posted this. I had all the same qualities you described. I turned 30, have a very well paying job and also a very good future ahead of me. I am married and immigrated with my wife during the pandemic which was very hard. My parents are also getting old and I honestly don't know if I will ever see them again (except for video call of course). One piece of advise I can give you is, don't beat yourself up for not being in a relationship. Take it slow. It is better to not have someone, than to just hastly jump into a relationship you will regret. Remember, you have lived all by yourself for quite some time. Having someone in your life which you need to compromise with is a very difficult adjustment. My the way, my wife and I met on Tinder. We are both socially awkward. There are many people who are. We didn't meet for hookups, but arranged our first date. She was herself not sure if she wanted to meet up. Her parents followed us around on our first date (without me knowing), just to put her at ease 😅 .
@Noirlite Very interesting points you made. It's indeed primary to figure out where the respective person starts. If he/she is just a little off as you say or if there are life threatening/altering issues. I would like to add my own experience, as I learned that all the support out there, whether it's from official sources like therapy or coaches or from private ones like family and friends, after all is said and done, it's alway ME that has to take the steps and do stuff. That needs to be accepted. Self-responsibility. It is my responsibility to figure out what needs to be done, how it needs to be done, what resources I have for that and where I can find additional knowledge and/or support in order to do it successful. So thinking about personal standards, like at what time do I want to go to bed, wake up, how much sleep do I wanna have each night, it's important to figure out my personal standards and raise them. We are not our highest standard. We are much more the lowest standard that we still tolerate to exist. If I tolerate coming late for appointments at the maximum 30minutes, then I'm usually late by 20-30 minutes. I gotta stop tolerating that, set a new standard and act accordingly. The results will follow. It's in our own hands. It's also in our own hands how to react to problems, stress and hurdles. Most of us by the age of let's say 35 have already experienced many different situations and challenges. And mastered them. Overcame them. Outlastet them. So I'd say each of us has their own set of successes and stories where we're proud of. Could be an academic degree. Could be the driver license. Could be a tough situation where we found and made(!) a way out of. These things will help us to believe. To believe, that we actually CAN do it and have it in us, to prevail. Each and every single one of them is proof for us personally, that we have won and can win and will win, if we put the necessary steps into action. No matter how tough the situation, we always shall gather our personal resources and concentrate them. Faith in ourselves and in our abilities is one of them. We have won before. We have mastered difficult times before. We have survived before. It doesn't matter if these personal success stories would be seen as a success by other people. Doesn't matter at all. It's ourselves that need to see those "trophies of mind", in order to convince ourselves of our power. So what do I want to say with all that? To me, we are all creators. Most of us are not aware how much actually we can create for ourselves and beloved ones. So we need to find our ways back towards our personal faith and our plentiful personal resources. What do I know? What can I do? What do I have that I can work with? With all that consumption of stuff out there, and I'm guilty of that myself, we forgot that we actually are way more powerful than we think. So we gotta realize that again, come back to it again. So that each and everyone can create their own best versions of oneself and their own best life that they want. And with this, each and everyone of us will have more personal resources to work together and help each other. It's what made us humans survive that long in the first place. Noirlite and Red, I appreciate your comments and what you each added to the discussion. It made me think and realize some things. Thank you for that. I wish you only well.
@Noirlite Appreciate the comment :) though, I never said settling "for anyone", I said "lower your expectations", because nowadays everyone is looking for the perfect person that will fulfill ALL your needs, that's not real and is never going to happen. I myself have been in very dark places, suicide thoughts have crossed my mind, but once you hit that wall HARD enough and find yourself at the point of deciding if you want to continue or not, you begin to appreciate things that might seem small, but are meaningful. TLDR; money is not the solution for loneliness, depression or even to achieve happiness. Life changes a lot, for good or bad, and to survive, you need to adapt to the changes. Don't try to make people get you out of depression, only you can get yourself out of that mindset.
@@Red-fg9qr i don't know man. It's literally easier said than done for me. I dont understand how someone can change career path like that easily when I can't even make one myself. When I was still in school, I used to think that I can do anything but I found out in real life it's only half the equation. I came to realise that I'm not good at anything. I dont know what to do and I don't know what do I need to know. I'm surrounded by people who have no concept of success. They don't live their lives, they're just surviving. And I have very poor personal development. That's 3rd world country for y'all.
I feel like a lot of my childhood neglect hindered me from being a successful adult like my peers. My parents were very controlling and coddling so I always had to find ways to learn to be independent or know basic adult things. It's hard because having that neglect also led me to find love and attention through other people and a lot of the time it ended up ending in a lot of hurt and toxic situations. This video helped remind me that I don't always have to stay like this, so going to keep going a little at a time and learn to love myself too so I won't feel the need to get validation from others. Thank you.
8:40 .. as if my inner child spoke to me again. I got tears in my eyes.. I used to tell these to myself from a very young age.. I have been an extrovert, bright and active girl for the outside world all my life but only a few know how sensitive and vulnerable I am from the inside.. I have been insecure about so many things in my life from a very young age. When I look back, I just want to protect that child - tell her that I like you and love you, and she isn't alone anymore.
I've recently been feeling behind in life, and on the verge of a mental break down. I'm 17 and worrying about becoming an adult and not knowing what the heck I'm doing with my life. So I've been rushing school and I got a job and am working 5 days a week now, and I have been just a wreck lately, and I'm burning out. But, this video has helped me alot and I think I can convince myself to chill out a little bit, so thank you.😌
you are just in the phase. Just walk through the path, take rest regularly. I dont know if you will be in the destination you wanted to be, But i know that you will lead a peaceful life
Can I tell you something bro you're a kid and the reason why I tell you is this 11 years ago I was literally right where you're at I was dealing with major depression that was so difficult that I couldn't even stand straight some days I was so fatigued I graduated high school with the 3.75 GPA and I didn't go to college for 2 years I wasn't doing anything for 7 months after I left my part-time job that I had which was the first job I ever had I volunteered for different places for 7 months while not being in school I finally worked a job for a year and a half and then went to community college and transferred to a state school after that. Bro 17 years old you're not even officially starting your adult life yet. You should have seen me as an 18 year old I was such an idiot and I was such a kid do not at all put yourself under so much stress and expect immense things for yourself know that you are literally just starting your life God loves you bro and I'm telling you I went through literal hell when I was that age keep trucking bro I respect you.
“YOU are NOT what happens to you” Loved that! I focus on what is happening to me & connect my worth to it. When really… I am not that. Things just happen sometimes & out of our control. I lost my job. = im dumb, loser…. No! Maybe the company is downsizing or closing. It’s not my fault.
trust me, they dont have their careers figured out. everyone i know from high school (i graduated 12 years ago) has done NOT A SINGLE THING with their degree. most of them are stay at home moms. while dad works some job at a warehouse because it pays well... trust me. your career isnt the definition of success. Remember that. when i was 25 i realized the definition of success lies within yourself and what YOU think it is.
@@19powpow91 absolutely agree with this. at 29, i finally realized that society puts so much pressure on you finding happiness, fulfillment and community in your job but it’s simply not the truth… it’s so important to have passions and identity outside of your job. 100%, success is what you make it, how you define it❤️ sending love!!!
“Happiness is a moment, a passing one at that, for if it stayed any longer we would forget we were ever happy at all” adding to my collection of quotes! That you so much for this!
Thx 1. Life isn't always happy - 1:17 2. Everything in life is sure to pass - 3:12 3. Acknowledge the good in your life - 4:13 4. Write your own life - 5:21 5. Your mind can lie and knows how best how to convince you - 6:13 6. There is... Or can be someone out there who loves you - 7:27 7. Remember everyone
Oh man I can feel what you're saying. I keep trying to believe that there's good at the basis of everything. That somehow it's all going to turn out alright. And then I get smacked down one more time. And, each time I'm ready to give in, thank goodness, there's this voice way in the back that says (from what seems like very far away) that there is at least one more thing to learn. Dang it for that voice! But I figure I owe it to myself to learn all that I'm able to. The getting through it part is so hard. Maybe break it into smaller pieces?
@@shawnclark2550 I want to say some goofy thing like "find your flashlight man!". And then I remember just how hollow platitudes can be. I've sat so many times in difficult places with people that I love trying to talk me out of them. Thinking that they really have no idea how I feel. And in many ways, they don't. But, so far anyway, there's always been something that's rang true, even though it's not exactly what I thought I needed. I've almost relished those times where I've wanted to give up more than anything else. And (thus far), I've just gotten pissed off that something inside of me stops me from doing so. But there's also something inside of me that keeps me going. Keeps me seeking light. It IS out there. Keep reaching out. However you can. Find your flashlight (sorry - I couldn't resist! ) Keep talking. There are people out there who care.
@@kelleytuck1584 I'm a girl. If If I knew where the flashlight was, I would have grabbed it a long time ago. I can't hold out hope forever. Maybe I just need to accept that this is all there is. Maybe that would be more realistic. 😪 I hope you all find your flashlight though. 💕🙂
A load of emotions have been weighing on my mind,with everything that's been going on. I cried so hard towards the end of the video,mainly because the little one who was reciting some beautiful lines suddenly reminded me of my 11 y/o self. I haven't cried this hard ever. Thank you for the video,you literally uploaded it when I needed it the most.God bless you :)
I'm 36. I have no meaningful friends or relationships in my life, no education, no career, and no prospects for a better future. I'm not behind, my life never began. Now I just wish it would end.
It seems like everyone around me is making their dreams come true and yet here I am, still struggling everyday. I am definitely happy for their achievements but I just can't help but think " When will be that time when my life gets better ?" I am longing for the day when I will not be worried about my family's basic needs. Life is really hard and I am desperate to hear comforting words that's why I am here.
I have lived my life in a sea of sadness, depression, and feelings of low self worth. It started at the age of seven from being told I would not go forward a grade. The reasons were spoken about, and fixable, but I only heard that I was not good enough to go forward. Having imprinted on such negative beliefs, it became impossible to evade them. Only at the age of fifty, after a 'nervous breakdown', did I figure out the cause of all my suffering. At the age of seventy three, I am now largely free of old default barriers to success and happiness. The stains of past negative thoughts and emotions may never be completely cleared from my mind. They still weigh me down from time to time. Yet I was born to be in a far different mental state than that which I have carried. It is that truth that keeps me on track to complete a journey of healing. At seven, I believed my life was over. We live what we believe. There is a world of 'better' waiting for me, and for others in similar circumstances. I like to quote a line from the movie, "Galaxy Quest": - "Never give up! Never surrender!"
Interesting. How did the nervous breakdown help? Mine occurred at 7, too, when no one gave me a Valentine. I already knew I wasn't loved at home, but up until then, I had always felt loved by my peers. And I _wasn't_ loved by my peers ever again. It gave me a severe inferiority complex I still haven't solved at 56.
the way that childs voice came up i froze on my spot i just felt like it was my inner child talking to me and my eyes are bluring out and now i feel good thank u
It's not about always being happy. It's about reaching somewhere in life. I have lost 16 years of my life trying to make a marriage work which was full of abuse. Despite my education, at 51 I have no career no children and now trying to start again. I am now married to a much older loving loveable person. He surely has brought much respite. But I am no where at all. I have no job leave aside a career. Listening to such videos picks me up even if for a while
Giving my heart the time to heal has been so tough, i cant stop telling myself im lazy but this gave me so much comfort and i wanted to cry in relief, ill still have those thoughts at times but i know ill remember this, thank you from the bottom of my heart
no matter how hard i try to convince myself that everything is going to be better, i just can't escape this cycle of feeling left behind and always empty. meds don't help, and i have no one to talk to. i just bottle it up and honestly, i don't know what i need do to overcome these thoughts.
Maybe you could try to draw or write of something, let the emotions flow out other ways if you don't know how to talk about it! There are people here for you, friends, family, strangers on the internet I hope you can get better ^^
I feel like this channel is talking to me every time with every video at every moment 😢🙏🏽 Still healing from a break up and these tormenting thoughts creep in whenever im bored or especially at night.
I graduated in 2019. I joined in as a trainee in a company. As ambitious I have been I wanted to go abroad for studies. I gave my first attempts later on and unfortunately i felt short. Then COVID happened and i had to change all my plans. I switched off to doing MBA from a good Business school here at my home place and started preparing for it wholeheartedly from 2021. I wholeheartedly dedicated myself just for the sake of getting into good Business school. I gave my all but still felt short. It was heartbreak moment for me.Till now by June 2023 I felt like I wasted a lot of time in trying to achieve the best and later on realising that it is in for the best interest for me to take up a job. I have been doing some courses online and now looking for a job. But in these moments, I have been seeing that my friends have gone ahead and I am still behind. I feel like I am behind in every aspect of the life. The feeling is very depressing and I am just holding my-self good. For some time now I have been practicing gratitude and being concentrating on getting a Job, while staying positive. I always remember that I have my parents support for which I am very grateful for 🙏🏻🤗. I hope and pray that I would get a breakthrough 🙏🏻💯.
Being more transparent is easily one of the best things I’ve ever done. I have always been my biggest bully and just letting people in has helped immensely. This channel is amazing because it explains aspects of my life that I struggle to explain. Thank you
Even tho I've been hurt by people online I never quit. I kept going even tho some days are hard for me I didn't let the hurt get the best of me But your videos do help! and remember if y'all feel like the hurt can get the best of you don't let it. Just keep going! “Your sparkle shall glow forever, and never become dull”
*_Not everyone with big dreams can live "perfectly" in other's eyes. Remember that you are born special, and the path you'll take is also special. Don't ever compare yourself to others, whether they are richer or poorer than you. You're fine the way you are. Doesn't that explain why the entire universe is as random and abstract as it is? Isn't that the exact same thing we humans are?_* _Never beat yourself up, just because you fail. It's not the end of the world as they say when you didn't get what you wanted. Something in my dreams reminded me, again and again, and I wanted to say this to you: _*_You'll get there._*
I know that all things can change. Seven years ago I found out I had cancer...the cancer is gone but I can't eat enough to keep my weight up, so in order for me to live I have a feeding tube [ that is always painful]. Due to other medical issues I can't drive anymore and doing hobbies are like chores. Still looking for that one bright spot in my life...
I'm just sitting at my desk, past bedtime, watching this instead of sleeping. I just don't wanna feel like I'm bothering my parents, I wanna be worth something to them. (in my opinion) All I do is sit around, being completely useless, crying, and just generally sad today. Today's been horrible, we had to cancel a trip cause everyone was getting stressed. And now here I am, still not being helpful in any regard. I'm sorry if I made you reading this feel awful, I hope for the best and comfort to all and more, I wish that everyone even if you're not reading this, has the best life you can. After all, we only have one. :)
Thanks for all you do... I'm in my 30's and I RELATE TO ALOT of this... I really appreciate you and this channel forming and it will continue to GROW!!!... LOVE ALL WHO PUTS Over 100% into this.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
That Poem at the End is so wonderfull! It is so important to always remember the positiv parts of every Single Day! To everyone reading this: You are a great Person and you can archiev the Goals you set for yourself! Never stop believing in You!
I'm between appointments with my therapist/ counselor, and this message hit me hard, "your mind lies to you...and knows how best to convince you" Thank you for reminding me how true this is, and that I don't have to listen to it.
I had a suicide attempt. I have never been more wrong about life than in those 45min I lay in the garage with the car on. It became clear that something is here for me. And I was willing to suffer until I achieve it. Life is bigger than me. If you are thinking that you are better off dead or your unlovable, that's bullshit. Don't let thoughts dictate your actions. And remember it is hurting only now, but it can change.
@@greatwavefan397 um,I don't want to be rude or anything and I don't know what you are going through but ur comment was a little negative. Even if we don't know or notice there is always somebody who cares about u and loves you just haven't found that person yet,and I wish u luck in finding that person.Not to be rude but pls refrain from commenting something negative it could hurt somebody and instead try and be positive and spread love and hope.With love,somebody.
The fact that imagery from Over The Garden Wall was used here just impacts me more, as I always saw that story, personally, as one about hope vs hopelessness/depression, and one that helped me immensely.
its so easy to think that I have failed and that I can never achieve and be who I want in life but just know that there is still so much out there and I still have so much life left to live
Tw rant I never felt so left behind in my life. Both of my bestfriend (we interact online) have already had people who liked them and relationships. Both have a strong support system towards their careers. Both have close real life friends. Both have complete families. I used to have a complete family until my mother died a year ago. I've been especially jealous of one best friend but after losing my mom and my only real life support, my mental health went downhill even as my body continues to do chores, study, work, and other responsibilities. I feel like life has given me the shorter end of the stick and I feel furious towards my circumstances. Seeing my best friend, as much as I love them, are a reminder of what I can't have. I feel so left behind. On a happier note, I'm able to push my thoughts and control my reactions to a big extent. Now I'm trying to heal from my frustrations while finding a way out of my circumstances.
The references you make with the art design is extremely fascinating. I don't catch most of them, but the few that I click onto bring a small smile of recognition.
Success is subjective. Don’t compete with others. Instead, model the habits of others who have what you want. We define the meaning of our lives. We are responsible for our own happiness. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner beliefs. When we change, everything else changes.
I have never attempted to take my life, only considered it. But I usually always think of what would happen to my friends and family if I died and that strongly discourages me from acting out on my negative thoughts.
it's been a year of fighting, I'm getting tired of believing in such optimistic things. The outcomes of trying to fight is just so negative that i dont find any hope anymore. I hope you guys don't give up your fight, i may feel like this but im still trying :))
If you can 1% better today and 2% better tomorrow, you have already won. :) maybe that is just a warm cup of tea and a 5 min meditation. Build on it. Give it as much focus as you can. Go deep into this feeling of this small comfort.goethe once wrote that no matter how small the steps are that we are making, we are still making progress.
Look at you now Yes, it’s been a year of survival, a year of pain, and a year of despair, but you have done the impossible Your’e a survivor You keep pushing on through the hopelessness, and you’ve made it so far. I don’t know what you have been through, but the fact that you have made it this far means that you are resilient. If you cannot find hope in your environment, create it for yourself. Give yourself something small that brings you joy, and actively seek hope. It’s okay to feel tired from the fights you have faced, but don’t let this pain run you over. Pick yourself up and keep surviving. I’m so proud of you for making it this far. I hope that your tired heart may find rest soon, and that your life will give you hope again. You are loved.
I suffer from seasonnal depression, I am a relatively happy person otherwise (Most of the time, life still happen!) and I can't imagine living with it year long. I had a pretty bad one one year that lasted a whole year. I wanted to die, not being the one to do it, but I wanted an accident, a mistake, anything! Then, one day, I was in those same thought and, for a moment, I thought "but I don't want to be run over by a truck..." It wasn't all sunshine after that, but it was the point I started to get better. Why do I tell this story? Because that small moment helped me, a lot. And something tells me, just maybe, it will come to you soon too. "Bah! You are too optimistic!" Yes! I am, and sometimes, it explode right in my face! But if I learned anything in life, it's 2 things: We always regret more what we didn't do than what we did, even if it turns badly (Some exeptions apply) and second, a bird is not confident in the branch it perch upon, it is confident in it's wings. Ok, things might go wrong, but you can be sure I will find a solution! And I am sure you can too. You don't need to be perfect tomorrow, heck, I am not and perhaps, we will never be. But you know what? It's ok like that. When I feel down and I decide to take a walk with a starbucks and the fall colors, I like that soothing feeling. I wouldn't feel it if I was always up! You are still trying, and you know what, it is beautiful, you may feel weak because you are tired, but you are a warrior, for all it may be worth, I believe in you :)
Thanks for, helping me see a little bit more clearly. I think my dim fading ember resparked into a small flame, and that's more than enough for me to push forward through the dark abyss of my negative mind. And perhaps I'll find a way out of this dark labyrinth and find light somewhere leading out. I'm not the only life I effect, I'll push forward if not for myself, then for whoever cares for me. And I recognize you care.
Thank you, thank you very much. I can't express how much this video comforts me, and making me feel alive again. For whoever made this video, I hope you're living the best life you can ever have.
Thank you for dropping this video. I keep coming back to it and I am always amazed how relatable it is no matter when you listen to it. Constant comparison and domestication by society standards have caused a lot of doubt I put onto myself. Whoever is reading it, don't be hard on yourself and be gentle with the journey you are on. Sending my love to all of you.
There is no one “just around the corner” unless you’ve put them there. My life is over, it’ll just take 30 to 40 years more for my matter to give out. There is no hope.
Not true. 😕 You're right about one thing: There is no one around the corner unless you put them there, so you have to put them there. Life is never over until your heart stops.
I haven’t even been in just a little rut, I’ve been stuck feeling like my life is over for the past 8ish years and I’m 20 years old. I haven’t done anything of worth and I keep trying by getting jobs that I can’t push myself to keep, or waste money on school trying to figure out what I want to do with my life.
well the thing is im alone, everywone is having fun and i can't even talk to ppl of my age bc my social anxiety will pop off and it makes everything so hard for me
Hey, hey, hey! Don't just look on the negative side. If you're alone, you're probably not. It's just something you need to look out for. And you may be an introvert. At times, as an introvert, I felt alone too. Everyone may be having fun, but remember that they're not always like that. They have feelings too. They might even be hiding how they feel with a mask. And social anxiety? I got your back! I feel kind of socially anxious as well, I don't tend to interact with people. But when I do, they're actually pretty nice! So maybe you can relate. There's always someone who will truly understand.
I scrolled through all the usual fawning comments just to find a message thread like this one. We're not all angsty cishets in our teens and '20s. Particularly when you're past the age of 50, these videos often don't speak to reality. Is it really a life if you had to spend it all "working on yourself" in a vain attempt to get to where most people started from? Literally no one wants to talk about what happens when - despite therapy, meds, and education/intellect - you've failed and fallen behind at nearly every turn; when each decision you finally thought was the right one just led you to another dead end (or worse); and when you are still mired in the loneliness and struggle while watching your peers' *children* achieve what you never will. There is such a thing as too old to get it right. Sometimes it really is too late, but no one wants to talk about that, either. Platitudes are more comforting. Maybe there should be a channel that makes videos for the ones who've struggled and sought solutions their whole lives and found themselves in a corner anyway. Now, I could relate to that.
I had started my life out pretty late. Long story short, was held captive until 28. It's a very strange experience. Feeling so incredibly behind on absolutely everything. As if what I'm doing now could have happened a decade ago. But regardless my life is so immensely better than what was before.
Just remember you're not alone. We have listed helpline in the description box. Disclaimer: Video is made for educational purposes and do not substitute for professional advice. Please reach out to a qualified healthcare provider or mental health professional if you are struggling.
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Thanks for making these videos! Really appreciate it!
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everything in this video does not apply to me
Pheraphy don't work for me but thank you
"your born to be real, not perfect" - Suga
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No, they are not a boi. they deserve the title: *L E G E N D*
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Every man dies, but not every man truly lives
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If you ever feel broken.. just remember that Mc Donald’s ice cream machine is always broken, but everyone loves it regardless! ❤️
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I literally cried because of this!
BAHAHAHA that’s amazing thank you
I am 34 and enrolling with university for first time in my life. I am happy, thankfull, and proud.
But for yourself. Proud of you.
Good luck 🙏🙏
I’m very proud of you❤️
Congrats
Wish all the best mate..!!
I needed this. In my early 30s, disabled since birth, never married nor engaged, and am working a job that could pay more but doesn’t. This video is so comforting.
Youre enough
Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light. (Ephesians 5:14)
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Keep Fighting, do not give up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Because of hardship you will go far in life.
You are not alone in this. Keep your chin up and plod along. Good will come to you.
I am proud of how strong you are❤️ keep going and never give up
Bless you
This feeling can get even worse when everyone around you pretends to have it all together when they actually don't... and this becomes particularly true in social media. Most of the times, when we feel behind in life, that sensation stems from comparing our achievements to other people's, and often those are not even real or entirely so. Bear this in mind and focus on yourself because being yourself with your weaknesses and strengths is your superpower.
I connect this to so much especially in School everyone looks as if they have all there life planned out and ure just there.
Social media are so shallow.
Love this 💙
Thats why I only use youtube. And if I use other social media platforms I use a separate account and only limit the content I want to see. I only choose educational and helpful contents. My life has been better ever since doing that.
My biggest issue is comparing myself to celebrities lol. Really toxic trend, trying to break out of it. I can't even enjoy watching most films or tv shows anymore because of it.
Hey fam! I hope I'm of help
1. Life isn't always happy - 1:17
2. Everything in life is sure to pass - 3:12
3. Acknowledge the good in your life - 4:13
4. Write your own life - 5:21
5. Your mind can lie and knows how best how to convince you - 6:13
6. There is... Or can be someone out there who loves you - 7:27
Remember everyone.. I'm going through this crazy time too.. always remember that there is someone who'll be there for you.. believe me if you have none.. you have YOURSELF the precious human ever
Love you guys don't lose hope.. NEVER 💜
jokes on you my expiry date was in 2019
Time traveler
i do not want hope sir.
Thank you time traveller
How is it that you've watched this video a week ago?
Did you pay or siomething?? xD
31 and basically done nothing since I was 19. 12 years behind on jobs, relationships, mental health, everything. 1 short vacation, no relationships, work 2 days a week, smoke, drink, no friends, 2 nights out in that time. I love my family though. They're why I'm here. Stay strong everyone
Exactly the same...
God bless you and keep you safe. And best wishes for your future. Fingers crossed!
I fully support the increasingly psychedelic nature of these cartoons.
Same!
Psychedelics are the substances that helped me overcome my deepest depression by helping me see a new point a view
And the Over The Garden Wall reference.
YES.
@@LLydarth yess
Ever since I graduated college, I haven’t done much except staying at home for months. It doesn’t help that my parents still treat me like a child and doesn’t trust me to drive nor do anything else on my own. I’m not even allowed to work any jobs until I finish university. I see my friends travelling around, earning money, making memories while I’m here, living the same day over and over.
Every time I try to express negative feelings, my parents would brush it off since they’re not emotionally capable to handle these emotions. So, I’m managing on my own. I feel disconnected and useless.
People around me expect me to be a growing, capable adult but at the same time, still treat me like a little child. Who doesn’t get confused on how to act? I can’t… Society is just too confusing
Not to mention the financial situation I’m in. I can’t help but blame my parents for making such stupid financial mistakes before having me, to the point where I can’t enjoy the same financial ease my siblings had. My siblings never had to worry about money, while I had to grow up thinking that if I have no want or desire, our financial situation will become better.
Your situation resonates with me a lot, only I dropped out of university and find myself in a similar situation all the same. I think what is eating away at me is that my feeling of disconnection is overbearing. I'm not really sure I have anyone frequently in my life any more, I've not had a normal a life by any means and this has lead me to envy anyone that has a practically normal life by comparison, which I am very well aware is extremely unhealthy. Worst of all, I have achievements that line up with what I wanted ever since I was a child, like making games and meeting heroes, when you fulfil your dreams what do you have to reach for any more?
Society really is confusing, we can only do our best to try to be the change we want to see in society, rather than adding to the problems. I try when I can to stand up for others and advocate for social change, but I can't always be that person, sometimes It can just be hard to get out of the bed in the morning, but we have to try all the same because we only get one life, so it has to be precious.
I wish you all the happiness and success in the world, and I hope you start to gain the autonomy and decision making you desire, rather than languishing. Its a challenge. We have to try to be gentle with ourselves when we don't achieve the changes we want in our lives.
PS: I hope replying to a comment from a month ago isn't jarring or weird for you, writing a message like yours (or mine) can be intense so you might not be feeling the same way right now. Either way, I hope you are doing well!
Same. I'm constantly depending on others as a almost 22 yr old adult and I feel so pathetic. People treat me like a child but it is my fault. Sometimes i think about just selling my body for money or pan handling. Maybe it will be easier to be a bum and giveup.
@@ZaylidinOfficial
Atleast you have accomplished things. Im a drop out because i became homeless. The best thing in my life is becoming a mom but i worry i cant take care of my child. No matter how hard my husband tries to find a job he just cant seem to while others in his same shoes are getting jobs all around him. Life just sucks sometimes
I’m about to graduate and I am so scared of how the world is going to treat me. I am a Pre-Med student and I don’t think I did such a good job like I wanted to. My GPA is not good enough for admissions, I am scared for the admissions test that I have to take. I’ve done so much stuff for my community to make up for my poor scores but I feel like it is not good enough. It’s so hard not to envy my friends who have stable careers, more than likely will get into medical school, have stable relationships with their families and partners. I’m tired of pretending that I’m ok, but I’m not, I feel alone and lost. I feel like I’ve wasted my youth in a dream that seems unreachable because of a broken system. I want to become an empathetic physician, but It’s so discouraging to know that you have to meet someone’s standards with a number and not character. Im sorry for my rant but I really don’t know how to let go of this pressure
I can relate to this. Especially that I'm a Filipino and my parents care less about mental health.
This showed up in my feed last night as I was sitting and crying about this exact thing. It felt like the universe heard me. Thank you for the hope.
Same here. I don't know what you are going through but I am sorry for your pain because of it. It's easier said than done but please keep trying your best and don't give up! No matter how dark your surroundings become there will always be a bright light to bring you out of the darkness. You just have to find it first. Sending you much love and good vibes 🤗💛
@@FutureFendiFsnista Thank you for the uplifting words. I wish I could copy/paste them right back at you. It gives me hope to know there are still good people in the world who'd take the time to encourage a complete stranger in a moment of sadness. I wish you the very best, and I hope that, whatever you are going through, the pain passes soon and you are able to look back and see the purpose in the struggle. Much love to you, MJ. ♡♡♡
@@maicey_t. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
To be unrealistically optimistic and thinking things will magically work out for you if you don't even make a token effort, will ruin your life as much as the faulty belief, that the entire world is out to get you.
8,000,000,000 human beings do not even know you exist, never will, nevermind have any sort of opinion about you. Most people will never know you exist, let alone have any sort of positive, mixed, or negative opinion of you.
This itself can be terrifying, or liberating, and the choice is yours to make.
Don't know who you are but know you are loved even by a stranger like me and never give up even when things get dark or if your struggling, theres always a small light. Just have to keep going till is as bright as the sun.
When my anxiety and depression starts getting really overwhelming (which is nearly everyday since I’m not on antidepressants) I try to rewire my thinking to be more positive. I remind myself to take it “minute by minute” in my head until I can get myself into a better headspace. I hope this helps someone 🙂
That is good advice. Sometimes that's allI can do.
You know what, I think that might be key for many of us i got worse on several antidepressants amd mood stabilizers they do anything BUT what they claim ...and they ALL SAY "we really don't know how any of this works and it might work in SOME of you"...then we go on zapping our brains with so many pills in my experience that is key I think and I'll try it a REALLY GOOD TRY although some say "trying is lying" we must simply DO... either way I'll try breaking my day in little parts mentally with to do lists...
Sometimes people need meds
with me im just forced into suicidal thoughts
@@poosaykleen i’m sorry to hear that, i hope you understand that you’re worthy and not a bad person. You’re incredibly amazing and still remember to thank yourself for keep going living your life no matter what, even if thoughts came there’s hope in you, maybe you can’t see it right now but you will, trust me. Never give up because of anxiety, thoughts or depression, we are ourselves and those bad one are not us. Hope i helped!
Definitely needed this reminder today. I’m feeling really alone and “ghosted” by those around me. But as much as it hurts, I will keep fighting and will not give up!
I'm right there with you. Feeling those same feelings. The "ghosted" part sucks. Trying to read beyond the initial reaction to figure out what the situation is trying to teach me. Geez though it's hard to not get dragged down by the immediacy of the sucky feelings that go with it all!
I remember when my mom got sober, suddenly everyone ghosted her. It was because she started standing up for herself and people didnt like that they couldn't manipulate her anymore or scapegoat her for things she didnt do.
@@malumachado4561 Amen to that! God bless those of us struggling to do the right thing & stay on the right path! It is a lonely road In this country right now. ♥️🙏😔
I feel the same. I'm a shy person and people seems to not understand what is it so I'm often ghosted. But even when I try to be gentle and go see them it's the same
I just cut off ties with those types of people.
We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.
Finding a friend who understands you … is important… !
@@sheilameyers152 Yes!! Very important!!!
Yeah, so true. When life doesn't give us our vision of perfect, maybe it's trying to give us something better.
I don't feel like I have a worthy life awaiting for me, so what's the point.
@@Auurify I think you're just going through a stage.
I'm also going through a stage rn, I just lost my best friend forever (haha, LOST my best friend FOREVER) And it's all my fault. Someone who used to love me like she wasn't a normal selfish human now hates me for being toxic. And our mutual friends all shun me too.
For the past two months, I genuinely didn't see a future. I don't have any talents, I don't have any friends, I don't have a youtube channel. But today I reconnected with one of my old elem school friends and she's nice enough to still embrace me (probably only because she hasn't seen how toxic I can be when I don't control my anger but at least it's something) Either way, I don't think I will make the same friendship mistake again, and today I felt hopeful.
Life is like a tough teacher. Maybe you just got a C- on your last test and are beating yourself up over it. But I love how even though life won't be nice and curve your grade (ie. can't change the past), it'll still throw more tests at you, stubbornly giving you chances to make things better until the day you die. It's almost like life is... believing you can do it.
I have not a clue if this rant helped you but I do know that because you're alive, you're
a) fighting some s***
b) gonna win this s***
I think you might want to watch exubr1a, his vids always help me put things in perspective.
I can attest that there will be a dawn. After 4 years of deep depression and solitude, I am finally seeing the good more often than not. Don't give up on you. You are worthy of the life you are living.
I had undiagnosed adhd that affected all my relationships and took my career, money,etc. I’m 40 today and just finding this out is freeing but also devastating
im 16, and i was actually diagnosed with adhd at a much younger age, except my parents are assuming its gone by now, and whenever I bring it up, i'm "being overdramatic" and "you can't just rely on meds for the rest of my life"
@@MaxGamer07wastaken it’s more of a physiological health issue. With ADHD the executive dysfunction is pretty much a bypass of the prefrontal cortex due to stress. Meds are only a nudge in the right direction but for some it’s necessary
@@The_Vanished I'm aware, and also aware that I can't completley rely on meds, but I was talking to them back then, and to you now, about a more permanent fix, if one exists
I'm so sorry. I was lucky enough to be diagnosed with my adhd when I was young, but spent the majority of my life in denial because i was told that adhd isn't real. I only came to recently as an adult of 32 and have been able to support myself in learning as much as I can about it, trying to practice self-compassion and advocating for myself as much as possible. It is devastating as you say, it rattles your entire identity and way of relating to others. But also gives you a sense of peace knowing it was that all along. You've got this, it gets easier and the journey isn't linear but be kind to yourself.
"Tough times never last, but tough people do" - Pladimir Vutin
I can’t help but remember that meme 💀
So true.
Vladimir Putin. Lol.
OMG Donald Trump commented this 😱😱
That’s vladimir putin tho
Whenever I feel like giving up, I remember that I'm not the only one going through depression and there's millions of people around the world fighting too 🧡 we can do it together
If you want to get over depression you have to realise that depression is more like a puzzle or a journey into your own mind. You have to realise that only you can control who you are and who you become. Begin to slowly organise your life. Take small steps at first like doing your own laundry. As you begin to slowly organise your life you can begin to create a plan and figure out what makes you fulfilled. There are many other more specific things you can do to get out of depression, but those are more case specific.
💛Thank you for help 😀😍
This reminds me of my search for love as a shut-in. Can't really go out and date. And the normal non-shut-ins hate my idea of having a roommate romance. Actually I don't want more friends, just one person to love.
True🙂
How does that help? If anything, it just reinforces how insignificant and worthless we are.
It's painful knowing that I kinda feel left behind in life. I know life has so much to offer in terms of future experiences and opportunities, stuff like that, but honestly time literally flies by so quickly that I couldn't even immediately catch up to it on time. Despite all of that, I still continue to push myself cause giving up for me is simply not an option. Taking away your own life is also not an option. With a forced smile on my face, I gotta keep moving forward even though it's so hard from time to time.
I know how you feel. I think sometimes I stay alive only because it would crush certain people and be so painful for them.
This is really admirable for you to do, I feel the same way
I felt that
Every small step forward will compound some day. You don't become rich with one penny but you can not become rich unless you start gathering money penny by penny. This is true of anything you wish for in life. If you have something you wish you could be. Find out the tiny steps that you have to take to get to that and start taking them. Even if it's just keeping your room clean. You got this sophia
i can relate
Whenever I feel alone (and I feel alone a lot), I remember a quote I found online- "The Sun is also alone, but it still shines." It really cheers me up.
thank you for sharing this
This totally hits home! I'm in my early 40s, struggling with epilepsy and couldn't keep the job I always wished to have...being a preschool teacher. I filed for disability for my epilepsy but got denied over 5 times. Any guy I've been interested in never liked me back, so I gave up on ever having somebody to love me. My grandma isn't in the best of health and my mom got diagnosed with cancer. I truly feel like I'll never be as successful as other friends and family members are!
That must be difficult to deal with.
While I can understand the difficulties that having a disability can bring, I can only imagine how hard having the rest is.
While it's hard, you have a family of sorts here and friends who won't judge or pick on you for feeling left behind.
🤗 Sending virtual hugs
Christ sees what you're going through your loved no matter what just know that you are cared for that seems to be extremely stressful I have been in points in my life where I wanted to take my own life but I remember that Christ loves me and he loves you just remember that
Please do not lose hope❤️ stay strong and be positive. Prayers for you
Most of my life I've been alone, stuck in my head and confused about how my life has gone with nothing much to show for it has made me feel like a failure even though I've tried time and time again to the point of frustration that I gave up at a point in time after I lost someone I genuinely loved and have made attempts to take my own life but it's videos like this this that give me some semblance of hope that my life will get better despite feeling like an absolute mental and emotional train wreck.
I kinda resonate with you, studying a major I don't like after dropping out of another one that I didn't like. Not really knowing what I like anymore and these 1 year and a half or 2 years of isolation (im with my family, but they are...stupid, to make it simple, so I'm isolated) has made me reach some dark places in my brain, but I'm gonna fight and go to therapy or something, I will try anything and not give up until there are no other options.
@@gericko4931 The only thing you can do is fight the dark thoughts that plague your mind. I too understand the family dynamic you speak of. I rarely interact with any of my family (I do not know where their loyalties lie, dont speak with 3/4 of them due to their two mouthed crabs in a bucket, hyena mentality)and constantly isolate myself from them as a means to not absorb the energy they emit, otherwise I'd either be institutionalized in a mental asylum or dead from taking my own life
Well. The problem with these philosophies is that they don’t acknowledge that the term being “behind in life” is not used to frame a feeling which erects from comparing yourself to others. Its coming from the fact, that you are in a place as an adult, where you are lacking things, which you essentially need to be happy or have a feeling of wellbeing.
I will take myself as an example.
I always struggled in school. Despite learning a lot, I barely passed high school. When I was 20, I worked my ass of to attend college. Which 24 I enrolled. Like in school, I learned a lot, but didn’t manage to write good enough grades to get my degree. I even changed three times my major. Nothing helped. With 29 I left college. No Degree. Only a huge debt. The only job I could find, was as a cashier at a local restaurant. I still work there. I still have a lot of debt.
Despite that I always struggled making friends. I treated people nice, but they treated me like a doormat. I never had a friend as a kid or a teen. Same with love. Despite I tried approaching women. Every single rejected me. I never had a hug, a kiss, a date or a relationship.
Here I am. 31. Lonely, poor, no friends, no love. Its not about comparing myself to others, its about that what adults need to be somewhat happy, I don’t have.
I never had a boyfriend or even a real date before I met my husband. You just never know. At 61, looking back, I can tell you that 31 is young still. Hang in there, look for cheap therapy, (alot of interns still in school offer cheap therapy, or sliding scale.) You don't need to do it for years, just get yourself some perspective and objectivity. Remember lots of people are struggling to find a decent job and wage right now, that has nothing to do with you or your worth. I'm saying a prayer for you, I feel like I was exactly in your shoes at 31, and I am fairly happy now after therapy, finding a job that fit for me after LOTS of jobs that didn't, etc.
I know this kind of misses the point of not giving into those thoughts of one's life being over, but when I start having thoughts like my life's over and I have no one/no purpose/etc., I tell myself 'Screw it, if there's nothing left for me, I'm gonna live for myself. I'm gonna do whatever I want that makes me happy. What I've always told was acting selfish - I don't care. I'm gonna eat my favorite foods, stay in my pajamas all day, watch all my favorite films. My life's over, nobody cares about me, so why not do what makes _me_ happy during what time I have left? But, juuust in case my life _isn't_ over, I'm still going to be reasonable and refrain from things I may regret, e.g., carelessly spending money, reckless behavior, etc.' It's what gets me thru periods of having those thoughts until I'm able to think clearly and realize my life is not, in fact, over yet.
Great mentality. I love the idea of fighting through the negative demons
Best comment yet.
I do this :)
If there's nothing left for me then I only want to watch the world burn.
@@idreamindarknessandsleepto1475 or you come here trying to better SOMETHING about your life or yourself. clearly.... there is still hope left in you :)
Sending virtual hugs to everyone who needs it 🤗
Remember ur not alone.. life can be really hard sometimes..But let's hold hands and face it!
Me too!
Sending virtual hugs for u too
Virtual Hugs!
Thank u sm💛
🤗
Hey I lost my job today and I just wanted to say that your videos help a lot and I really appreciate your content.
Keep up the good work 👍
So did I!!
And I’m relieved (except for the $$) because it was grueling.
Best of luck to us both!! 👍
Hope you find your way. Best of luck mate👍
I lost my retail job when it closed in 2020, a job I hated but couldn't get out of because I felt bad leaving the others in that hellhole yet that was all I knew how to do. But I landed on a better one with less pressure, doesn't cause much anxiety, and not retail. The funny thing was that this job was being offered to me for a couple years but didn't jump on it due to above reasons. My life is far from perfect but that job loss was in fact for the better. So I think there's something better out there for certain types of people but they tend to overlook.
I lost my job almost 3 years ago.
My nigga I lost my job over a month ago n I don't feel this bad. Hopefully this helps someone but keep ur head up fam
I really needed the reality check of "you're not supposed to be happy 24/7" On social media, everything is a highlight reel, and it's easy to start believing that your peers are constantly happy and achieving
I have these feelings the entire day. My life feels completely lost, no rope to pull back, no base, just floating in space without a goal.
Me too😞
Same I have no goal but just to live but I really want a mercedes s class the lights and interior looks so good
Yep.
@@user-mq9lx9im3x you can work towards owning that mercedes then. Who knows on your way to own the car, you find a purpose in life? ☺️💕
I'm always trying to tell myself that I'm not alone, that I can do this, that I don't have to end my life but when everyone proves the opposite to me and sometimes I just feel like why Am I even fighting for? Are these struggles even worth it? What if I don't even have a future? I just... don't know what to do anymore and things became meaningless..
Yeah for now its meaningless but at the end it makes all sense
Hey I'm with you on that one on such a personal level. Everytime I get this motivation and feel like I can do this... then one day I just have zero hope. I think it has to do with worrying about the future too much. Try to remain present and focus on what is happening now. It took me some practice but this helps me and it led to a more hopeful future and happiness for me. I know it will for you too. 🙌
Don't care about others live your life for yourself, don't try to please others, but even if u do the best they still criticise you, so I hope you find "what you really" love, I will be cheering for you, don't give up 💜💜
I understand how you feel. Recently, I talked to one of my school bully that lead me to poor mental health, lack of social support and finally, suicidal attempt (this was 2017). It's been 4 years now. I asked her, why didn't you helped me, why no one cared as if my life didn't matter? Guess what, she wasn't sorry. In fact, she said, oh I guess you realised your mistakes now? That's great. She sees my suicidal attempt as sinful and a mistake rather as my attempt for a cry of help, support and understanding from people. It was hurtful because I was expecting an apology rather she only made me feel like my existence is a mistake. I cried A LOT but life is not worth for these stupid people, just like the people you mentioned in your life. Someday, it will make sense, just don't give up because if you do, next person will be the next victim of the same life struggles. Live your life to tell a story, so that more people can learn to be compassionate, understanding and supportive of each other.
I have been feeling like this for over a month now... and yes, I have also considered just ceasing to care about anything and just lying under my covers for the rest of my life. After many days , I finally saw a glimmer of hope, a brief assurance. I pray that you overcome whatever you are going through, and you can find meaning again... remember life can be a b!tch sometimes , but you are never alone... theres someone out there rooting for you and you gotta make it through for that person. Sending you virtual hugs!
It's so sweet of you that you people mentioned the Suicide helplines.
Not everyone can put themselves back together after falling into depression I almost didn’t; I nearly pulled the trigger on my own life about a year ago. To make the story short, I became overwhelmed by other people putting their depression on me and my own depression to the point where I couldn’t recognize what I had that was good vs the bad. After that I started taking note of 100 things that I was thankful for in life for about a few weeks and started to have some change for the better. At this I’m a bit better because of what I did and I learned that things are only as bad as you make them. For anyone who may be going through a rough patch like what I went through that took the time to read this, please remember that you are amazing and are loved.
I cried a lot while watching this video. My mind have been doing all the possible things to make me feel like I’m a failure, and I couldn’t fight it today. I truly needed a little amount of positivity.
Here's a virtual hug🤗 and hoping that you're in a better place today.
I'm 49 and suffered a lifetime of social anxiety. Even though I was very monetarily successful and in very good physical shape I feel my life is over :(. Being alone is terrible.
I'm younger but when I read your comment I don't feel alone thanks to you. At least less alone. I thought finally someone who can understand me. I'm socially anxious too. Very very anxious and the more I feel juged the more it gets worse. My family isn't supportive at all. They don't get it. They say I'm crazy, I must go to a psychiatric.
@@b.unicornette7734 Same here, my family denied it. I was also extremely overprotected growing up, complicated story. Time passed. I guess you have to learn to accept it. I watched a video that really struck a chord. It was about "not giving a f&#k" about other people. Like being strong and not caring about others. I slowly incorporate that into everyday life. I am a distance inline skater, I talk to women here and there, and got numbers. I have a skate partner, probably nothing will come it, she is quite a bit younger than me, but we spend lots of time together. I don't care at this point, better than being alone, and nice to see a text from someone. Also, If they reject me, I say to myself their loss. Also learn to build value in yourself. Maybe it means working out or accomplishing something. Good luck, it is a very difficult journey. I think I missed out on so many milestones, it is painful.
Hugs ❤️🤗 i dont feel as alone either
Same age. Same issues. Very lonely. About to celebrate the big 50. Alone. But I’m gonna make the most of it. 🫂
@@justathought7221I get you. Although staying postive it's about the mental state, it's hard on a daily basis. Some would tell 'oh yeah you can still do whatever you want". No it's not that easy. I'm 30, I hate to admit it. Time flies. I see my wrinkles and it breaks my soul. My student years are becoming far and it breaks my soul. Just to think about those years.... I want to cry. Because I chained myself not to date, not to be happy, not to dare date anybody because of my toxic parents who told me as a kid not to ever ever sleep with guys as if they would eat me, as if it's a crime. When you are a kid you absorb things. You believe it deeply. So I stayed single since forever untill now. Believe it or not, I'm a virgin. The only guy who wanted to date me was french and I'm a moroccan. I was 25, was petrified, was all shocked and confused of him liking me. No, it was impossible, a joke. I'm hideous. Nobody would like me. So he thought I messed with him. But he would never know the hell I go through to even let someone touch me.
I'm getting older and all my ex friends or actual pals are married, engaged, mothers of one or two etc. They have a good job, a husband, a house. They can travel. I can't. All those things, I don't have them. I'm 30 and society, patents are pressuring me to find a man, a husband although I have my demons, hate myself and just im stock in the phase " what I'm I gonna do with my life?". I'm socially anxious, I struggled to even study and get my degree. I struggle now to find a job, a good one and be satified about it. I don't even have a car. I just want to be happy and optimistic but something is draging me down. Some days I feel alright. Most of the days, I get dark thoughts. I don't even like being human. I hate it. I'd like so much to live the life of a bird. It sucks to be a human, to feel, to think, to have to buy every single tool for your body. To battle to feel recognised, appreciated, to fit in. It sucks even more to be a woman. In the country I live in it's hell to walk in the streets as a woman. So here's why I understand your pain and I feel you. I hope at least that you're feeling less alone.
6 Things to Remember When You Feel Like Your Life Is Over:
1) Life isn't always happen 1:17
2) Everything in life is sure to pass 3:12
3) Acknowledge the good in your life 4:13
4) Write your own life 5:21
5) Your mind can lie and knows best how to convince you 6:13
6) There is.. or can be someone out there who loves you 7:27
Have a great day Psych2Goers!
Ah, yes. Life isn't always "happen"
@@rbxless LMAO-
It is supposed to be "happy", we get it
Well. The problem with these philosophies is that they don’t acknowledge that the term being “behind in life” is not used to frame a feeling which erects from comparing yourself to others. Its coming from the fact, that you are in a place as an adult, where you are lacking things, which you essentially need to be happy or have a feeling of wellbeing.
I will take myself as an example.
I always struggled in school. Despite learning a lot, I barely passed high school. When I was 20, I worked my ass of to attend college. Which 24 I enrolled. Like in school, I learned a lot, but didn’t manage to write good enough grades to get my degree. I even changed three times my major. Nothing helped. With 29 I left college. No Degree. Only a huge debt. The only job I could find, was as a cashier at a local restaurant. I still work there. I still have a lot of debt.
Despite that I always struggled making friends. I treated people nice, but they treated me like a doormat. I never had a friend as a kid or a teen. Same with love. Despite I tried approaching women. Every single rejected me. I never had a hug, a kiss, a date or a relationship.
Here I am. 31. Lonely, poor, no friends, no love. Its not about comparing myself to others, its about that what adults need to be somewhat happy, I don’t have.
@@rbxless Idk what he meant? maybe "life Doesn't happens"???? who knows
Thanks for the video. I just bawled my eyes out while watching it.
I'm in my early 30s, with a decent job, but not very promising career path. My parents are getting older, while I don't have a partner (and honestly I still don't know if I'll ever find one since I'm socially awkward). I'm starting to look for investments and a possible career change, to better prepare myself financially for the possibility that I'll be alone until I die.
Recently I'm also finding that it's difficult to accept that I'm already in my 30s. It's silly, but I feel like I'm not ready. So many doors to new opportunities will be closed to me in the coming few years because those opportunities will prefer younger candidates. I'm scared because it feels like there'll be no way out once I hit a certain age. No more restart button.
I know this is months late, hope everything is going well for you. I am looking for videos for my partner as he's in a dark place right now and I'm trying to help him, and came upon your comment.
I'm 35 and have been in the same situation, one thing I will say is, if you want to be with someone and share your life with someone don't look for perfection, people are awkward in general, so that's something you have in common with them. I have switched careers 3 times now, I'm a graphic designer, changed to programming and currently marketing, trying to be a successful entrepreneur, now I'm at my 7th business attempt so that's 6 failures, which have taught me something. And for successful I don't expect to become the next millionaire on the block, I just want a business that can pay the bills and sustain some people while doing something positive for others.
Try to lower your expectations, you don't need to be perfect, enjoy your parents, enjoy your time, we worry about stupid things and don't know if we will be alive the next hour. Enjoy life one step at a time, everything is uncertain but death. So whatever you do, make sure it is fulfilling. No one has time to be worried about things like "money" (which is something we made up), or career (which is related to money, your career can change no problem).
The struggles you have right now, are the same struggles people in their 50s have, as well as people in their 70s. Stop worrying so much and just enjoy the trip. I see so many clients that are changing their career at 50 years old, or doing their first business. Life changes a lot, some times the pacing is slow, some times fast. There's no such thing as a "secure job" or "secure path", one day everything is fine and the next you could be fired or changing job, or even a pandemic hits and everything goes to shit. Some times you can't control what happens, and you have to be ready to change and adapt. This happens often. Instead of worrying if you should change career right now or not, ask yourself, is what you are doing worth it? are you enjoying it? do you find fulfillment with it? if the answer is yes, then you're in the right path.
Worst scenario, you learned a new skill. Next.
Hey there. I know it has been 9 months since you posted this. I had all the same qualities you described. I turned 30, have a very well paying job and also a very good future ahead of me. I am married and immigrated with my wife during the pandemic which was very hard. My parents are also getting old and I honestly don't know if I will ever see them again (except for video call of course).
One piece of advise I can give you is, don't beat yourself up for not being in a relationship. Take it slow. It is better to not have someone, than to just hastly jump into a relationship you will regret. Remember, you have lived all by yourself for quite some time. Having someone in your life which you need to compromise with is a very difficult adjustment.
My the way, my wife and I met on Tinder. We are both socially awkward. There are many people who are. We didn't meet for hookups, but arranged our first date. She was herself not sure if she wanted to meet up. Her parents followed us around on our first date (without me knowing), just to put her at ease 😅 .
@Noirlite Very interesting points you made. It's indeed primary to figure out where the respective person starts. If he/she is just a little off as you say or if there are life threatening/altering issues.
I would like to add my own experience, as I learned that all the support out there, whether it's from official sources like therapy or coaches or from private ones like family and friends, after all is said and done, it's alway ME that has to take the steps and do stuff. That needs to be accepted. Self-responsibility. It is my responsibility to figure out what needs to be done, how it needs to be done, what resources I have for that and where I can find additional knowledge and/or support in order to do it successful.
So thinking about personal standards, like at what time do I want to go to bed, wake up, how much sleep do I wanna have each night, it's important to figure out my personal standards and raise them. We are not our highest standard. We are much more the lowest standard that we still tolerate to exist. If I tolerate coming late for appointments at the maximum 30minutes, then I'm usually late by 20-30 minutes. I gotta stop tolerating that, set a new standard and act accordingly. The results will follow. It's in our own hands.
It's also in our own hands how to react to problems, stress and hurdles. Most of us by the age of let's say 35 have already experienced many different situations and challenges. And mastered them. Overcame them. Outlastet them. So I'd say each of us has their own set of successes and stories where we're proud of. Could be an academic degree. Could be the driver license. Could be a tough situation where we found and made(!) a way out of. These things will help us to believe. To believe, that we actually CAN do it and have it in us, to prevail. Each and every single one of them is proof for us personally, that we have won and can win and will win, if we put the necessary steps into action. No matter how tough the situation, we always shall gather our personal resources and concentrate them. Faith in ourselves and in our abilities is one of them.
We have won before. We have mastered difficult times before. We have survived before. It doesn't matter if these personal success stories would be seen as a success by other people. Doesn't matter at all. It's ourselves that need to see those "trophies of mind", in order to convince ourselves of our power.
So what do I want to say with all that?
To me, we are all creators. Most of us are not aware how much actually we can create for ourselves and beloved ones. So we need to find our ways back towards our personal faith and our plentiful personal resources. What do I know? What can I do? What do I have that I can work with?
With all that consumption of stuff out there, and I'm guilty of that myself, we forgot that we actually are way more powerful than we think. So we gotta realize that again, come back to it again. So that each and everyone can create their own best versions of oneself and their own best life that they want. And with this, each and everyone of us will have more personal resources to work together and help each other.
It's what made us humans survive that long in the first place.
Noirlite and Red, I appreciate your comments and what you each added to the discussion. It made me think and realize some things. Thank you for that. I wish you only well.
@Noirlite Appreciate the comment :) though, I never said settling "for anyone", I said "lower your expectations", because nowadays everyone is looking for the perfect person that will fulfill ALL your needs, that's not real and is never going to happen.
I myself have been in very dark places, suicide thoughts have crossed my mind, but once you hit that wall HARD enough and find yourself at the point of deciding if you want to continue or not, you begin to appreciate things that might seem small, but are meaningful.
TLDR; money is not the solution for loneliness, depression or even to achieve happiness. Life changes a lot, for good or bad, and to survive, you need to adapt to the changes. Don't try to make people get you out of depression, only you can get yourself out of that mindset.
@@Red-fg9qr i don't know man. It's literally easier said than done for me. I dont understand how someone can change career path like that easily when I can't even make one myself. When I was still in school, I used to think that I can do anything but I found out in real life it's only half the equation. I came to realise that I'm not good at anything. I dont know what to do and I don't know what do I need to know. I'm surrounded by people who have no concept of success. They don't live their lives, they're just surviving. And I have very poor personal development. That's 3rd world country for y'all.
I was complaining God about my situation then this video came ... God came to help me in the form of this message from this video....Thank You 🙏🏻💖
I feel like a lot of my childhood neglect hindered me from being a successful adult like my peers. My parents were very controlling and coddling so I always had to find ways to learn to be independent or know basic adult things. It's hard because having that neglect also led me to find love and attention through other people and a lot of the time it ended up ending in a lot of hurt and toxic situations.
This video helped remind me that I don't always have to stay like this, so going to keep going a little at a time and learn to love myself too so I won't feel the need to get validation from others. Thank you.
"Everything in life is sure to pass"
I- I like that 😮💕
A lot of time if I’m not feeling to good I tell myself that my situation is eventually going to change
8:40 .. as if my inner child spoke to me again. I got tears in my eyes.. I used to tell these to myself from a very young age.. I have been an extrovert, bright and active girl for the outside world all my life but only a few know how sensitive and vulnerable I am from the inside.. I have been insecure about so many things in my life from a very young age. When I look back, I just want to protect that child - tell her that I like you and love you, and she isn't alone anymore.
I've recently been feeling behind in life, and on the verge of a mental break down. I'm 17 and worrying about becoming an adult and not knowing what the heck I'm doing with my life. So I've been rushing school and I got a job and am working 5 days a week now, and I have been just a wreck lately, and I'm burning out. But, this video has helped me alot and I think I can convince myself to chill out a little bit, so thank you.😌
you are just in the phase. Just walk through the path, take rest regularly. I dont know if you will be in the destination you wanted to be, But i know that you will lead a peaceful life
Can I tell you something bro you're a kid and the reason why I tell you is this 11 years ago I was literally right where you're at I was dealing with major depression that was so difficult that I couldn't even stand straight some days I was so fatigued I graduated high school with the 3.75 GPA and I didn't go to college for 2 years I wasn't doing anything for 7 months after I left my part-time job that I had which was the first job I ever had I volunteered for different places for 7 months while not being in school I finally worked a job for a year and a half and then went to community college and transferred to a state school after that. Bro 17 years old you're not even officially starting your adult life yet. You should have seen me as an 18 year old I was such an idiot and I was such a kid do not at all put yourself under so much stress and expect immense things for yourself know that you are literally just starting your life God loves you bro and I'm telling you I went through literal hell when I was that age keep trucking bro I respect you.
“YOU are NOT what happens to you”
Loved that!
I focus on what is happening to me & connect my worth to it.
When really… I am not that. Things just happen sometimes & out of our control.
I lost my job. = im dumb, loser…. No!
Maybe the company is downsizing or closing. It’s not my fault.
I personally love Schopenhauer's idea about trying to reduce our suffering as much as possible instead of seeking happiness.
This line from AJR keeps me going when I need it: "It's gonna get really, really, really, really bad before it's okay."
"Won't you help me sober up? Growing up has made me numb, and I wanna feel something again."
I JUST WANNA FEEL SOMETHING AGAIN
AJR with Sober up and Weak literally define me as a person. Scratch that somehow 2 entire albums of theirs just resonate so strongly with me.
@@LeoTheMonts YES THIS. THIS
@@themacaronibaconlord8234 SCREECHES IN RELATABILITY
It is absolutely positively wise to realize that one cannot always be happy in life. On top of that, it is wise to realize that everything will pass.
Love the kid who read the poem couldn't stop smiling. And the animation is always adorable.
“If you’re going through hell, keep going” - Winston Churchill
I was so sad that all my friends have their carrers figured out but i don't..this video made me feel so much better🥺
Same Keep Doing What you Love And Stay Determine!
trust me, they dont have their careers figured out. everyone i know from high school (i graduated 12 years ago) has done NOT A SINGLE THING with their degree. most of them are stay at home moms. while dad works some job at a warehouse because it pays well... trust me. your career isnt the definition of success. Remember that. when i was 25 i realized the definition of success lies within yourself and what YOU think it is.
@@19powpow91 i needed to hear that🥺 thank you...ily❤
@@joebiden123mail5 thanks a lot❤❤
@@19powpow91 absolutely agree with this. at 29, i finally realized that society puts so much pressure on you finding happiness, fulfillment and community in your job but it’s simply not the truth… it’s so important to have passions and identity outside of your job. 100%, success is what you make it, how you define it❤️ sending love!!!
“Happiness is a moment, a passing one at that, for if it stayed any longer we would forget we were ever happy at all” adding to my collection of quotes! That you so much for this!
O my gosh the pucca reference. Someone still remembers
gotta love the 'over the garden wall' theme, and finn and Jake's tree house. thank you for adding references, it makes it little bit more relatable.
Thx
1. Life isn't always happy - 1:17
2. Everything in life is sure to pass - 3:12
3. Acknowledge the good in your life - 4:13
4. Write your own life - 5:21
5. Your mind can lie and knows how best how to convince you - 6:13
6. There is... Or can be someone out there who loves you - 7:27
7. Remember everyone
Sometimes our thoughts are backed up by so much insecurity they create lies that we believe
Those thoughts feel as true as the sun rises. But people tell me they're just stories that I keep repeating. It's so hard.
People keep saying that there’s a light to the end of the tunnel but at this point I’m convinced it’s just a train speeding right at me
Oh man I can feel what you're saying. I keep trying to believe that there's good at the basis of everything. That somehow it's all going to turn out alright. And then I get smacked down one more time. And, each time I'm ready to give in, thank goodness, there's this voice way in the back that says (from what seems like very far away) that there is at least one more thing to learn. Dang it for that voice! But I figure I owe it to myself to learn all that I'm able to. The getting through it part is so hard. Maybe break it into smaller pieces?
Aphelion 🤣 I feel you 👀😱
I can't see anything ahead. It's always dark. I never see anything. I'm constantly fumbling around in the dark.
@@shawnclark2550 I want to say some goofy thing like "find your flashlight man!". And then I remember just how hollow platitudes can be. I've sat so many times in difficult places with people that I love trying to talk me out of them. Thinking that they really have no idea how I feel. And in many ways, they don't.
But, so far anyway, there's always been something that's rang true, even though it's not exactly what I thought I needed. I've almost relished those times where I've wanted to give up more than anything else. And (thus far), I've just gotten pissed off that something inside of me stops me from doing so. But there's also something inside of me that keeps me going. Keeps me seeking light. It IS out there. Keep reaching out. However you can. Find your flashlight (sorry - I couldn't resist! ) Keep talking. There are people out there who care.
@@kelleytuck1584 I'm a girl. If If I knew where the flashlight was, I would have grabbed it a long time ago. I can't hold out hope forever. Maybe I just need to accept that this is all there is. Maybe that would be more realistic. 😪
I hope you all find your flashlight though. 💕🙂
A load of emotions have been weighing on my mind,with everything that's been going on. I cried so hard towards the end of the video,mainly because the little one who was reciting some beautiful lines suddenly reminded me of my 11 y/o self. I haven't cried this hard ever.
Thank you for the video,you literally uploaded it when I needed it the most.God bless you :)
I hope you feel better 💕 Keep going 💞
Don't give up. I've been feeling the same. A lot of emotions have come up and I am dealing with it with medication.
I'm 36. I have no meaningful friends or relationships in my life, no education, no career, and no prospects for a better future. I'm not behind, my life never began. Now I just wish it would end.
It seems like everyone around me is making their dreams come true and yet here I am, still struggling everyday. I am definitely happy for their achievements but I just can't help but think " When will be that time when my life gets better ?" I am longing for the day when I will not be worried about my family's basic needs. Life is really hard and I am desperate to hear comforting words that's why I am here.
I have lived my life in a sea of sadness, depression, and feelings of low self worth. It started at the age of seven from being told I would not go forward a grade. The reasons were spoken about, and fixable, but I only heard that I was not good enough to go forward. Having imprinted on such negative beliefs, it became impossible to evade them. Only at the age of fifty, after a 'nervous breakdown', did I figure out the cause of all my suffering. At the age of seventy three, I am now largely free of old default barriers to success and happiness.
The stains of past negative thoughts and emotions may never be completely cleared from my mind. They still weigh me down from time to time. Yet I was born to be in a far different mental state than that which I have carried. It is that truth that keeps me on track to complete a journey of healing. At seven, I believed my life was over. We live what we believe. There is a world of 'better' waiting for me, and for others in similar circumstances. I like to quote a line from the movie, "Galaxy Quest": - "Never give up! Never surrender!"
Interesting. How did the nervous breakdown help? Mine occurred at 7, too, when no one gave me a Valentine. I already knew I wasn't loved at home, but up until then, I had always felt loved by my peers. And I _wasn't_ loved by my peers ever again. It gave me a severe inferiority complex I still haven't solved at 56.
This video helped me so much! I just had an existential crisis, and this helped me a lot!
I have tht everyday ✨✨❤️
5 days ago?
@@greatwavefan397 not everyone is born at the same time, so people have the realization at different points in time
When i was in a dark phase of my life it got better when i realized most of the things in this video.
I hope this video helps a lot of people!
the way that childs voice came up i froze on my spot i just felt like it was my inner child talking to me and my eyes are bluring out and now i feel good thank u
It's not about always being happy. It's about reaching somewhere in life. I have lost 16 years of my life trying to make a marriage work which was full of abuse. Despite my education, at 51 I have no career no children and now trying to start again. I am now married to a much older loving loveable person. He surely has brought much respite. But I am no where at all. I have no job leave aside a career. Listening to such videos picks me up even if for a while
A lesson from a shopkeeper in The Messenger… “This, too, shall pass.”
Giving my heart the time to heal has been so tough, i cant stop telling myself im lazy but this gave me so much comfort and i wanted to cry in relief, ill still have those thoughts at times but i know ill remember this, thank you from the bottom of my heart
no matter how hard i try to convince myself that everything is going to be better, i just can't escape this cycle of feeling left behind and always empty.
meds don't help, and i have no one to talk to. i just bottle it up and honestly, i don't know what i need do to overcome these thoughts.
What's on your mind?
Maybe you could try to draw or write of something, let the emotions flow out other ways if you don't know how to talk about it! There are people here for you, friends, family, strangers on the internet
I hope you can get better ^^
I feel like this channel is talking to me every time with every video at every moment 😢🙏🏽 Still healing from a break up and these tormenting thoughts creep in whenever im bored or especially at night.
I graduated in 2019.
I joined in as a trainee in a company.
As ambitious I have been I wanted to go abroad for studies. I gave my first attempts later on and unfortunately i felt short. Then COVID happened and i had to change all my plans. I switched off to doing MBA from a good Business school here at my home place and started preparing for it wholeheartedly from 2021. I wholeheartedly dedicated myself just for the sake of getting into good Business school. I gave my all but still felt short. It was heartbreak moment for me.Till now by June 2023 I felt like I wasted a lot of time in trying to achieve the best and later on realising that it is in for the best interest for me to take up a job.
I have been doing some courses online and now looking for a job.
But in these moments, I have been seeing that my friends have gone ahead and I am still behind. I feel like I am behind in every aspect of the life. The feeling is very depressing and I am just holding my-self good. For some time now I have been practicing gratitude and being concentrating on getting a Job, while staying positive. I always remember that I have my parents support for which I am very grateful for 🙏🏻🤗. I hope and pray that I would get a breakthrough 🙏🏻💯.
Being more transparent is easily one of the best things I’ve ever done. I have always been my biggest bully and just letting people in has helped immensely. This channel is amazing because it explains aspects of my life that I struggle to explain. Thank you
Even tho I've been hurt by people online I never quit. I kept going even tho some days are hard for me I didn't let the hurt get the best of me But your videos do help! and remember if y'all feel like the hurt can get the best of you don't let it. Just keep going! “Your sparkle shall glow forever, and never become dull”
*_Not everyone with big dreams can live "perfectly" in other's eyes. Remember that you are born special, and the path you'll take is also special. Don't ever compare yourself to others, whether they are richer or poorer than you. You're fine the way you are. Doesn't that explain why the entire universe is as random and abstract as it is? Isn't that the exact same thing we humans are?_*
_Never beat yourself up, just because you fail. It's not the end of the world as they say when you didn't get what you wanted. Something in my dreams reminded me, again and again, and I wanted to say this to you: _*_You'll get there._*
I think I may have found the comment i was looking for. Im glad youre here :)
I know that all things can change. Seven years ago I found out I had cancer...the cancer is gone but I can't eat enough to keep my weight up, so in order for me to live I have a feeding tube [ that is always painful]. Due to other medical issues I can't drive anymore and doing hobbies are like chores. Still looking for that one bright spot in my life...
I'm just sitting at my desk, past bedtime, watching this instead of sleeping.
I just don't wanna feel like I'm bothering my parents, I wanna be worth something to them. (in my opinion)
All I do is sit around, being completely useless, crying, and just generally sad today.
Today's been horrible, we had to cancel a trip cause everyone was getting stressed.
And now here I am, still not being helpful in any regard.
I'm sorry if I made you reading this feel awful, I hope for the best and comfort to all and more, I wish that everyone even if you're not reading this, has the best life you can.
After all, we only have one. :)
Thanks for all you do... I'm in my 30's and I RELATE TO ALOT of this... I really appreciate you and this channel forming and it will continue to GROW!!!... LOVE ALL WHO PUTS Over 100% into this.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
You are so welcome! 💕
*realizes that nobody ever sees me cry even when im in public*
Yea cause we are bottled up our feelings
@@magdalene1279 yea
i'am so sorry u feel that way i keep bottling my emotions too. u r not alone and you'll never be. i love u
@@sillycatsayshi aww that’s so sweet 🥺❤️
At least you can cry. I have not in years and trust me it’s painful.
That Poem at the End is so wonderfull! It is so important to always remember the positiv parts of every Single Day! To everyone reading this: You are a great Person and you can archiev the Goals you set for yourself! Never stop believing in You!
I'm between appointments with my therapist/ counselor, and this message hit me hard, "your mind lies to you...and knows how best to convince you"
Thank you for reminding me how true this is, and that I don't have to listen to it.
You are right about one thing in your analysis : "we are own our worst enemies" Very true that insight!
I had a suicide attempt. I have never been more wrong about life than in those 45min I lay in the garage with the car on. It became clear that something is here for me. And I was willing to suffer until I achieve it. Life is bigger than me. If you are thinking that you are better off dead or your unlovable, that's bullshit. Don't let thoughts dictate your actions. And remember it is hurting only now, but it can change.
❤
"Here comes the sun, bringing you love~ and shining on everyone~"
- Bill Wurtz
Soon maybe... I find one...
SCP-001: *i don't think so pal*
@@greatwavefan397 um,I don't want to be rude or anything and I don't know what you are going through but ur comment was a little negative. Even if we don't know or notice there is always somebody who cares about u and loves you just haven't found that person yet,and I wish u luck in finding that person.Not to be rude but pls refrain from commenting something negative it could hurt somebody and instead try and be positive and spread love and hope.With love,somebody.
"Here comes the sun little darling, here comes the sun. It's going to be alright, alright" - Nina Simone
"Happiness is a moment, a passing one at that, where if it stayed any longer, we would forget that we were even happy at all" -Psych2Go
The fact that imagery from Over The Garden Wall was used here just impacts me more, as I always saw that story, personally, as one about hope vs hopelessness/depression, and one that helped me immensely.
its so easy to think that I have failed and that I can never achieve and be who I want in life but just know that there is still so much out there and I still have so much life left to live
Tw rant
I never felt so left behind in my life. Both of my bestfriend (we interact online) have already had people who liked them and relationships. Both have a strong support system towards their careers. Both have close real life friends. Both have complete families. I used to have a complete family until my mother died a year ago. I've been especially jealous of one best friend but after losing my mom and my only real life support, my mental health went downhill even as my body continues to do chores, study, work, and other responsibilities.
I feel like life has given me the shorter end of the stick and I feel furious towards my circumstances. Seeing my best friend, as much as I love them, are a reminder of what I can't have. I feel so left behind. On a happier note, I'm able to push my thoughts and control my reactions to a big extent. Now I'm trying to heal from my frustrations while finding a way out of my circumstances.
🫂
"I can't give up! I need to get that Porsche and a house in the Caymans!"
- famous last words
Well, the person who made that quote is definitely optimistic. That's a good thing, because someone else might be able to be happy. :)
I want a mercedes s class the interior looks so good with the lights I need that
The references you make with the art design is extremely fascinating. I don't catch most of them, but the few that I click onto bring a small smile of recognition.
Success is subjective. Don’t compete with others. Instead, model the habits of others who have what you want. We define the meaning of our lives. We are responsible for our own happiness. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner beliefs. When we change, everything else changes.
It’s great hearing from parents that “I’m behind in life”
You guys at psych2go are so sweet and amazing! You make someone like me who feels as if no one else understands me feel not so alone in this world
Huh that's relatable 😜😁
-A fellow INTP always lost in his mind 99,9%
I agree! A fellow INFP as well here ❤😢
@@MARK-dn2zm hahah it's nice to see fellow mediators, yep I'm In my own little world half of the time
i’m always lost in my imagination. really calm and comforting place.
@@juliet2292 That's exactly how I would describe it
I have never attempted to take my life, only considered it. But I usually always think of what would happen to my friends and family if I died and that strongly discourages me from acting out on my negative thoughts.
it's been a year of fighting, I'm getting tired of believing in such optimistic things. The outcomes of trying to fight is just so negative that i dont find any hope anymore.
I hope you guys don't give up your fight, i may feel like this but im still trying :))
If you can 1% better today and 2% better tomorrow, you have already won. :) maybe that is just a warm cup of tea and a 5 min meditation. Build on it. Give it as much focus as you can. Go deep into this feeling of this small comfort.goethe once wrote that no matter how small the steps are that we are making, we are still making progress.
Ive always said that you only lose when you give up fighting. Keep trying :)
Look at you now
Yes, it’s been a year of survival, a year of pain, and a year of despair, but you have done the impossible
Your’e a survivor
You keep pushing on through the hopelessness, and you’ve made it so far. I don’t know what you have been through, but the fact that you have made it this far means that you are resilient.
If you cannot find hope in your environment, create it for yourself. Give yourself something small that brings you joy, and actively seek hope. It’s okay to feel tired from the fights you have faced, but don’t let this pain run you over. Pick yourself up and keep surviving.
I’m so proud of you for making it this far. I hope that your tired heart may find rest soon, and that your life will give you hope again.
You are loved.
I suffer from seasonnal depression, I am a relatively happy person otherwise (Most of the time, life still happen!) and I can't imagine living with it year long.
I had a pretty bad one one year that lasted a whole year. I wanted to die, not being the one to do it, but I wanted an accident, a mistake, anything! Then, one day, I was in those same thought and, for a moment, I thought "but I don't want to be run over by a truck..."
It wasn't all sunshine after that, but it was the point I started to get better. Why do I tell this story? Because that small moment helped me, a lot. And something tells me, just maybe, it will come to you soon too.
"Bah! You are too optimistic!" Yes! I am, and sometimes, it explode right in my face! But if I learned anything in life, it's 2 things: We always regret more what we didn't do than what we did, even if it turns badly (Some exeptions apply) and second, a bird is not confident in the branch it perch upon, it is confident in it's wings. Ok, things might go wrong, but you can be sure I will find a solution! And I am sure you can too.
You don't need to be perfect tomorrow, heck, I am not and perhaps, we will never be. But you know what? It's ok like that. When I feel down and I decide to take a walk with a starbucks and the fall colors, I like that soothing feeling. I wouldn't feel it if I was always up!
You are still trying, and you know what, it is beautiful, you may feel weak because you are tired, but you are a warrior, for all it may be worth, I believe in you :)
You are not alone, we are fighting together ❤️
Eliminating insecurities and being yourself is the greatest maturity in life
Thanks for, helping me see a little bit more clearly. I think my dim fading ember resparked into a small flame, and that's more than enough for me to push forward through the dark abyss of my negative mind. And perhaps I'll find a way out of this dark labyrinth and find light somewhere leading out. I'm not the only life I effect, I'll push forward if not for myself, then for whoever cares for me. And I recognize you care.
"It's our scars in life that makes us beautiful." -- Greg Sarris. I'm glad I watch this and to remind myself about the good in me. Thank you.
Thank you, thank you very much. I can't express how much this video comforts me, and making me feel alive again. For whoever made this video, I hope you're living the best life you can ever have.
Thank you for dropping this video. I keep coming back to it and I am always amazed how relatable it is no matter when you listen to it. Constant comparison and domestication by society standards have caused a lot of doubt I put onto myself. Whoever is reading it, don't be hard on yourself and be gentle with the journey you are on. Sending my love to all of you.
There is no one “just around the corner” unless you’ve put them there. My life is over, it’ll just take 30 to 40 years more for my matter to give out. There is no hope.
Not true. 😕 You're right about one thing: There is no one around the corner unless you put them there, so you have to put them there. Life is never over until your heart stops.
Then I need to stop my heart.
@@NestortheArgonaught don't do that 🙁
I haven’t even been in just a little rut, I’ve been stuck feeling like my life is over for the past 8ish years and I’m 20 years old. I haven’t done anything of worth and I keep trying by getting jobs that I can’t push myself to keep, or waste money on school trying to figure out what I want to do with my life.
well the thing is im alone, everywone is having fun and i can't even talk to ppl of my age bc my social anxiety will pop off and it makes everything so hard for me
Hey, hey, hey! Don't just look on the negative side. If you're alone, you're probably not. It's just something you need to look out for. And you may be an introvert. At times, as an introvert, I felt alone too. Everyone may be having fun, but remember that they're not always like that. They have feelings too. They might even be hiding how they feel with a mask. And social anxiety? I got your back! I feel kind of socially anxious as well, I don't tend to interact with people. But when I do, they're actually pretty nice! So maybe you can relate. There's always someone who will truly understand.
Take time off and recharge, you don't have to be involved in society all the time. You can rejoin it later when you've healed.
Stop watching anime
@@happymolecule8894 i don't watch anime
3:43 "give your heart the time it needs to heal"
And this is gonna take a while.
Wait patienly for it, its gonna be a looooooooooong journey.
I love how these videos just cement your impressions of yourself as a being a failure. I'm not behind in life, I've blown it.
I know exactly what you mean. I've yet to get through one of these videos without feeling the urge to smash something.
I scrolled through all the usual fawning comments just to find a message thread like this one. We're not all angsty cishets in our teens and '20s.
Particularly when you're past the age of 50, these videos often don't speak to reality. Is it really a life if you had to spend it all "working on yourself" in a vain attempt to get to where most people started from?
Literally no one wants to talk about what happens when - despite therapy, meds, and education/intellect - you've failed and fallen behind at nearly every turn; when each decision you finally thought was the right one just led you to another dead end (or worse); and when you are still mired in the loneliness and struggle while watching your peers' *children* achieve what you never will.
There is such a thing as too old to get it right. Sometimes it really is too late, but no one wants to talk about that, either. Platitudes are more comforting.
Maybe there should be a channel that makes videos for the ones who've struggled and sought solutions their whole lives and found themselves in a corner anyway. Now, I could relate to that.
I had started my life out pretty late. Long story short, was held captive until 28. It's a very strange experience. Feeling so incredibly behind on absolutely everything. As if what I'm doing now could have happened a decade ago. But regardless my life is so immensely better than what was before.
This video made me cry, especially when the child’s voice came on, it reminded me how deeply my inner child needs me… thank you for this ❤