I'm suicidal and the truth is that nobody cares. I stopped talking about it and about depression, about how I'm a loser because I saw that is useless and it's like I'm just annoying other people. Better keep quiet, then.
Hi, a quick reminder from someone who was usually the therapist friend... It's NOT easy to support someone who actually is suicidal, please take care of yourself too !
@@gray414 I truly hope they get better! Keep reminding them they are beautiful every day, even when they don’t believe it (you might already be doing that too!) it might not be much, but it could help a little, and sometimes a little is more than enough Remember to take care of yourself as well, you are just as beautiful and strong as they are, and it’s amazing you try your best to take care of your friends You are awesome and so are they! Take care of yourself alright? It’s much easier to fill somebody’s cup when your own cup is already filled
@@gray414 omg yayyyy so glad to hear they are getting better! And yes keep at it! I’m sure you two will bloom into very pretty sunflowers ^^ (yes cringe pun intended-)
my boyfriend is suicidal. he's too young to go to a therapist alone, and i can't help either because we share the same age, and basically mental health are taboo in indonesia so her mother never concider his mental health a serious case. this video really helps because sometimes i just don't know how to support him. thank you so much
@@omorilistensmusic3188 same, it feels difficult to speak that with someone you don't have the trust of all time, to tell... maybe the worst and hardest that is the deepest inside of you. Try doing it, it is never to late, if you wish... you can. Hope you feel better
if you need help go talk to your friend and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
@@jeffreydarmisco7088 I appreciate your reply. Not to be a debbie downer but many people are uncomfortable when you lay out your true dark feelings. I had to cancel health ins because I can't afford it but with or without I've gone to several psychologists/psychiatrists. Every advice and tip they have given me has only given me temporary happiness. It's not helping that I've been forced to live in a hotel for the last few months and will be here for 2 more. All the staff compliment me all the time for being the most pleasant and friendliest guest they ever had. I do things for all of them and with a smile on my face but underneath it all is pure sadness. I'm an empath who feels/feeds off of others emotions. I try to heal and fix others but can't help or heal myself. I journal, exercise, mediate, eat healthy, do hobbies. Even in times of extreme sadness I have been known to say yes anytime someone wants to do something but here I am still sad.
It's so dumb that most people's solution is "just be happier." They might word it like "Just take a walk" or "Just bake a cake." But those aren't solutions that will apply to everyone. The solution is an actual engaging conversation that continues through multiple sessions. Having someone care enough about you to have a conversation and discuss the topic is so much better than trying to solve it in one go. (I'm not a mental health professional, I'm just speaking about what helped me through it.)
Only person that save me and i could(use to) rely on is my wife but shes so wrapped up in that dam tiktok that im all alone. I wanna die but my kids still need me
What they really mean to say is , “Talk to a licensed mental health professional “. I think you can also journal about everything you have to say but can’t find someone to say it to. You can pretend to be talking to a friend. That friend could even be yourself. You could write a letter to yourself and tell little you, present you,& future you what you wish someone you love would tell you. You can list down names of songs or artists that you like to listen to and why you listen to them. You can write about your day or about the most memorable memories that you may have that make you ,you. You can write down a page about things that cause you pain, you could destroy that page and tell what we is in that page that they have no more access to enter your life. (I’m not a licensed professional. I’m just providing ideas & suggestions)
Only person I’m interested in talking to is a wife and she is about 20 years late. This world is utterly offensive if your a real man these days. Beyond offensive what this older generation did to younger men.
My brother helped me tremendously when I was suicidal. He never guilted me, whereas my parents did. He had this one thing he would say, "Describe how you feel with as many words as you need."
i should add that immediately recommending they call a suicidal hotline is a horrible idea. (speaking from experience) it makes them feel like you dont want to deal with them. like you dont care enough about them to even try. especially when they specifically went to you to talk about it because they trust you and enjoy your company. its just very dismissive. plus, talking to strangers doesnt work for everyone. some people really need a friend or close family member for their comfort to mean anything.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help...
@@matheodaniel1364 Eh, I beg to differ, while I have no knowledge or experience of it, others may have "Temporary Problems", but I know from my 4 year experience of dealing with suicidal thoughts and going to therapy that some problems are cronic, life isn't something you just snap your fingers and everything is ok, but then again, maybe you're right, idk, at this point I'm just so lost in life that the word hope doesn't even seem to exist, it seems as if I know absolutely nothing yet the world has got everything figured out and leaving me in the dust
@@matheodaniel1364 I am sorry that this was the experience you had with suicide hotline. Sadly though, not everyone have people among family or friends they can trust and talk about such sensitive matter. A few times, my city's hotline helped me and they were the only ones I really could turn to because of my family's judgemental attitude and the fact that I was lonely with no friends.😔
When we were teens me and my sister told each other everything, including all our depressive, self harming, suicidal thoughts and actions. Neither of us had a support system outside of each other. One night after a particular nasty fight with mom I could just tell that something was off with my sister. She went and locked herself in her room, and I immediately ran after her, and spent almost an hour outside her door just talking to her, and telling her that I loved her and how much fun I have when we talk and how she's the only one who gets me, and just begging for her to let me in or just say something to me. After a while she finally let's me in. She's sobbing, and says that whole time she was standing there with the samurai knife that's usually mounted on the wall in her hands, prepared to plunge it into her stomach but couldn't bring herself to do it with me listening so she waited for me to leave, but the longer I stayed the less conviction she had to die. Things could have ended much worse if I hadn't recognized the potential crisis she was in, and I'm so thankful that she's still here with me 💓🙏
A couple years ago, I was around 14, I was on a discord server when I noticed someone asking for venting, I won't get into details but he was on the brink of pulling the trigger, I stayed up for 11 hours I think just talking to him. He's now in a university, good friends and a better attitude. Not the only one I saved, I usually go off of my own experiences but never compare myself with them. Life will always get better, Helping others is as important as taking care of yourself. ♥️
Had to look up this video recently because, being 14 too, 2 people started showing depressed feelings in 2 different servers in the span of 1 week. They're fine now, but im not taking my eye off those situations for some time now...
I was at the beach late one night writing when I met a man who was on his way to the top of the condo beside us to leap off. I asked him why he wanted to do that and we talked for hours, he ended up writing me a song that night about meeting an angel on the beach that saved his life. Afterwards he went home to his sister's house, and did not jump, at least not that night. He just needed someone to care, and to listen even a stranger. I didn't know him, but I always hoped he went for help like we talked about. People are afraid of those who have 'mental issues'. My boyfriend told me his issues after we met. He thought I would be afraid to love him. I am not. Personally I have always been hurt by those who have mental issues but don't realize it. I would much rather be with someone who does know and is actively seeking counseling and help.
@@Ace_03years ago I used to be too. But then I realized, I didn't know them so what do I care if they don't want to talk? I did what I felt was right by offering, and that was what was important to me. Always listen to your gut, if you feel it isn't safe then don't, but what my teacher taught me years ago was that you don't have to do anything except show up and be willing. All I ask people sometimes 'are you ok?' If they want help, they will talk. If the say go away, ok no problem. Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them and a stranger is easier to talk to sometimes. At least they know someone cared enough to ask. Sometimes they talk, sometimes they don't. I went from horribly shy to my profession (20+ years as a natural healing practitioner, life coach and massage therapist) that helped me. Now I am used to asking the right questions to get them to talk, if that is what they want.
I am suicidal, but i have a suicidal friend, and we made a bet. Whoever lives longer, dont have to go to therapy. He becomes less and less suicidal each day, and I'm here to support him, he's here to support me. It's so good to have someone who really knows what I'm going throught
Some ppl really do this as a manipulative thing tho. .. So, u prob gotta forgive humans in general bc ppl dont always know what to look out for? Ppl rnt all the same. My ahhh, its complicated. My fiance... hes got tons of issues. I've gone through every route I could think of on my own. And I tried turning to yt. And I also told him he needs help. Actual professional help. Hes trying to stay clean, & he's taking something for his anxiety, so, 🤷♀️ that is pretty monumental for him. Its just easy to get frustrated w/ him. I think anyone outside prob has all the answers in the world but they also don't know what its like dealing w/ him so much. Honestly sometimes I lowkey hate his fam. Bc I know they have a huge part in his horrible personality :/. I def put him through some obstacles. But if I mean sh. to him, then he needs to simma the hell down. Its pitiful how they've raised a "man" into this world. I know his mom has come back around and she's trying. She has a breakdown pretty much everytime we see her. So, u can tell she has lots of remorse. But I can tell, shes fd up his vision of what loves supposed to be like. All the dad does is depend on ppl like a child, still continues to f up, & then blame the mom for not being there. But hes only there bc he doesn't stop depending on ppl. I mean that man's like a hunded :/ stays at his s.dads from time to time. If not there, is w/ his ex wife's dad. So, its always been way more convenient for him to run his mouth... same thing goes for his grandkid. In short,short, thinks the world revolves around him.. just like the son... & just like the son, hes "suicidal." Just like the moms mentioned... As a female, I feel a little ashamed to ask for help. So I always thought it was way more of a macho thing to be like that even worse, for males. Full of pride. But nope, not his dad. Dude has no shame whatsoever. Like let alone, less of a man, does he not feel less of a person. You don't actually get to have all the excuses in the world, lame ass. I've def told his dad to grow up to his face. But anyways, yes, I completely think he does things for attention. It can be excessive. Also, not gonna even lie. I completely tell him its selfish. And if im manipulative... then dont think I wont get creative w/ my words. Bc if he truly wuved me, then he wouldn't off himself. And other crazy puzzling weird things like that. 🤷♀️ I mean... apparently it works!
I'm suicidal and have been since 10 it's getting way worse as life goes on. I am not very old and have not had it for long cause I'm in middle school yet. If your reading this, I just want to let you know that you matter. It may not be easy but your getting through it so keep it up as long as you can. If I can battle through it, I know you can and it makes me happy to know that there are people my age going through the same thing (not saying any of you reading are my age I mean you might be but that's not the point) the point I you matter and I and lots of others feel and experience what your going through and look at where we are now. Alive. I hope I made at least one persons day and this made my night alot better. It can be hard to tell someone what your going through an I also have trouble with that. Your not alone and I and everyone else care for you. Keep it up your doing great and NEVER GIVE UP! peace ❤✌🏻
You too! Never give up! You are an amazing person! Love yourself always💝 You are so strong! Sending you a lot of strength to go ahead! 💖🌌 Live happily forever💙
thank you. im in the seventh grade and I have been suicidal since i was also ten. i plan to end my life today but after reading this comment im contemplating whether i should or not
what a huge lie. people die all the time and no one ever cares. just tell them to do a flip when they end it. If you gotta go at least make it noteworthy.
never say “think about what i would feel” or “think about what your family would feel”. because that’s guilt tripping and selfish. someone’s pain is more important than your own happiness.
Imma be honest with you Sometimes it is the only thing you can do to keep them alive in that moment Its like reminding them theres people there that care, that will hurt if they die It depends on the wording for sure, but it may be the only thing to get that person through the day
@@laddumb698 hmmm it depends, but on bad suicidal cases, they won’t really care anymore, because of the pain, nothing really matters anymore. i know that bc i was suicidal before too. what you can do tho, is be there for them. instead of saying those insensitive things, you can say “i may not fully understand what you are going through, but i will be with you all the way” trust me it helps
@@stier7587 i know that It just varies from person to person i guess I mean when im at my worst, i talk myself out of it by saying how upset other people would be Im sure im not the only one like me so😅 But yes i understand what you mean It all comes down to the individual person
@@coral1234 in most cases of toxic parents, they keep giving you so much pressure to fulfil their unrealistic expectations, and most of the time, gaslighting. they gaslight you and gaslight you until you just keep bottling up your emotions and end up breaking in the long run. if ever any of you have toxic parents, i am so sorry for that kind of treatment. no child deserves to grow up in a toxic environment.
One time when I had someone step in when I was suicidal was when I was couch-surfing in Denmark. I was feeling very lonely, to the point where I was considering jumping from the balcony of the apartment I was house-sitting at. On the worst day of my ordeal, one of my friends called me up and asked if I wanted to come over. During the visit it came out just how bad of a state I was in. He didn't feel right leaving me alone, so arrangements were made for someone else to take over house-sitting, and I stayed for a few days with my friend. He took very good care of me during that time, and made sure that I knew that I wasn't alone and that I mattered. What he did is why I'm still alive today.
@@thunderrusher7186ok this a late reply but I have no Friends either I have had 3 "Friends" but turns out they were Fake,I have suicidal thoughts sometimes but theres no way i could comit suicide cuz i have nothin to do it with.maybe thats good tho 😢
I would negotiate with myself by saying that I wouldn’t do it right now, I would wait for a few months, and if it didn’t get better, THEN I would do it. I did that over and over and over again, and it’s been 2 years and I’m finally happy again :)
I did the same , but the idea of suicide is still freeing to me . Whenever I felt stuck , with no way out no help no light i would tell myself that if things didn't get better then I will free myself . That always brought me some comfort that I wouldn't have to be trapped for years , in a few days things would get better and i would gain sanity back .
If you're dependent on different circumstances to be happy, you would never find true happiness. You start to be truly happy when you enjoy even just the smallest things in life.
For anyone struggling, I offer you a hug, my softest blanket and whatever your comfort food is. I love you all and hope you know you do matter, you are amazing and you deserve all the good things.
I’ve thought about suicide as an idea, but I never thought about actually doing it. I have a small case of depression and a HUGE case of anxiety, so your channel really helps me. I have a cousin who used to have suicidal thoughts. I was at a party at her house and walked by her room. I saw her curled up on her bed, telling herself that she was a bad person. My heart dropped when I witnessed this. I ran outside to tell my aunt about it, and they talked. A couple of days later, she found out that I saw her. She thanked me for telling her mom and now she doesn’t think about that stuff anymore. I’m really glad that she’s ok. And for anyone who is having these thoughts, you have a purpose. You deserve to live. If you die, you’ll miss out on amazing opportunities. I hope you all have a good day/night! ❤️
Same, I’m not exactly depressed and all that but I’m just disappointed with my life In General and 90% of me is just anxiety and loneliness, hoping itl go away later in life but lol idk
I have ADD anxiety and depression and only one teacher has taken time to actually understand ADD she helped me through some shit and ... I have wanted to kill myself for as long as I can remember my past thoughts I have never told anyone about it until this comment the thoughts about my family falling apart without me alive has kept me alive thank you for listening.
My life just feels like it's fall apart. My family is mad at me, my grades are going down, and I'm beginning to hate my only friends. im really struggling because of my severe autism... why continue life when it's only struggles and it's not changing whatever I do it never is not now, not later, I am becoming more suicidal every week. I want to drink alcolhol to forget it forger my struggles and just pois3n myselfes .
I don’t know if this is just me but I never like to talk about my mental health with friends or family. Even though deep down I would really need to have a conversation about my suicidal thoughts with them, the last thing I want to do is burden them with my problems. I also feel kind of ashamed for having these thoughts. Idk why but it’s kinda like a feeling of embarrassment ig? It’s hard to explain but yeah. Thanks for reading this if u did.
This makes sense. I imagine you love and care about them and this is why you don't want to "burden" them. I don't know your friends or family, so I don't know how they are, but I believe at least some of them are completely willing to help you however they can. And this is another idea. If you feel embarrassed or concerned about telling them everything, maybe you can ask them to simply help you find a therapist or to give you a ride there, without having to disclose everything at once. Then later you can decide what they need to know, and they realize that you are also getting help from a professional. They will feel more at ease knowing someone else is also helping you, and knowing specific ways they can help. Speaking from my experience, at least. You can decide what you prefer. My best wishes for you, Irene!
I too, dislike telling my problems to the people whom I know and love. I thought that it would cause them more trouble. There were times where I needed to calm myself down and a personal diary is very helpful for that. I still have my diary with me although it’s full of negative vents but that doesn’t matter, what mattered is that it had helped me through my struggles despite having no one to talk to. It’s completely normal to feel this way and you don’t have to be ashamed about it. Mental health is a growing problem nowadays and shouldn’t be ignored. If possible, you may want to consider a therapist to help in aiding you or maybe a diary could help as well. 😅 Everyone has a different approach in tackling their own problems so please do what you think is best for you. 👍
Yeah. Recently I opened up a bit to a friend and "no one cares if you need therapy ju" so that's outta the way. I dont wanna burden my other friend, my best friend, because she's moving to another country and I'm honestly ashamed of having these thoughts but not being able to actually harm myself. I keep telling myself that I should get help and stop believing I'm just going through some edgy phase, like the friend who told me nobody cared I needed therapy said I didn't have therapy 2 years ago. And I had no way of knowing if I actually did have depression or not since I barely looked at the symptoms. So I like to believe these past 2 years are just some weird edgy phase that I won't need my parents to discover about in order to get better..
As someone who has a lot of depressed friends, i almost started crying multiple times during this video because it reminds me of so many of my friends. I'm glad i found that channel so i can learn how to help them
There are some benefits to not having friends. One of them is, I know nobody depressed, save myself. Depressed people should not be around one another, regardless of what group therapists say. Depression feeds upon itself. With more depressed people together, they will never feel relief. With an ever growing multitude of depressed people, there are more depressed people than those not depressed, due to the current condition of society. Thus, I chose not to risk meeting anybody else depressed. To assure this, I simply deleted the social aspect of my life. This does not help my depression. However, it assures it does not get worse. Social isolation is probably the best thing a depressed person can do. It also build self-reliance, strong independence, resourcefulness, and resiliency. Since the depression does not get worse, using my method, I quit the antidepressant drugs. The withdrawal and detoxification was brutal. But it was not making me any less depressed anyway. Today, there are no drugs flowing through me, not even caffeine. The depression is manageable. But if I let anybody into my life, that barely manageable depression could collapse into crippling depression. Thus, I maked sure I will not make friends with anybody.
Don’t throw away your life dude, talk to a mental doctor When someone commits suicide, other people around her/him may end up getting depressed and end up wanting do it too😕
I had a friend who was a victim of suicide. They always bottled up their emotions and i was too stupid to notice the signs, i miss them so much. I wish I could've helped them with their struggles. Thank you so much for this video, suicide needs more awareness.
hey I can relate to that feeling you know you wish you could have done more but honestly I failed to save my friend and I feel awful cause it was my fault
its not your resposibility to make them feel better, nor was it your fault. if you feel bad about not noticing then take this as a learning experience and try to pay attention more in the future.
@@lukecohen9833 its not your 'job' to save someone, it was their decision to end it all. dont feel bad about it please even if i dont know everything behind the scenes. :)
As a former suicidal, I can confirm those signs are on point. Self-deprecating humor is also a sign that someone is considering killing themselves. I didn't have anyone with me when I was on the verge of killing myself. The only reason I didn't go through with it was because I didn't have the guts to do it. Today I'm alright, just a little depressed, but I'll be okay on my own.
hi ik it may be working for u but it kinda sounds like ur shoving those feeling down yk? ik this may sound repetitive but if u haven’t it truly helps to talk to sumbody abt it
@Felipe Azevado I hope you are ok now. God cares about you. My only hope is in Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who came to die for our sins so we could be free. Otherwise I don't have any hope here. I wish you all the best.
I have struggled with depression since 6th grade and just recently started to take pills and go to therapy. About 7 months ago, I had a knife to my chest at almost 2am. My mom has dealt with depression so I called her on messenger and she was downstairs within maybe a minute. We cuddled on the kitchen floor as I cried and afterward to cheer me up she turned on disney movies and made me my favorite food, best mom ever! 😊
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for helP
you need to believe my friend. God said.... It is He who sent down tranquillity into the hearts of the believers that they would increase in faith along with their [present] faith. And to Allah belong the soldiers of the heavens and the earth, and ever is Allah Knowing and Wise
I don't mean to ruin the mood, but I wanna share that my mom is the reason I cant recover :( she makes me feel like I'm a failure even if I'm trying so hard.. But your mini story time was so sweet
@@shizuu9710 same, she's the reason why I am depressed, she is toxic and never compromises with me, also I told her that I am lgbtq+ but she replied me with "INTERNET HAS SPOILED YOU, DON'T TOUCH THAT DAMN PHONE EVER AGAIN" in fact, internet is the only place where I feel valid, worthy and secure and also I sometimes tell her to compromise a bit but she says "don't argue,(taunting) you're gonna make us famous and everybody's gonna gonna use you as an example" (she meant that children should be respectful) I am just waiting to die
As a person who thinks about suicide, the only tip I have for anyone who is in this situation is: never force anyone to talk to you at all times, especially people with depression. One of the reasons I got worse over time was the psychological pressure I have to answer my friends
But when i want to try and understand how they feel to be able to help them, how do i approach the questions without pressuring them? Thank you for sharing what you have for everyone and stay strong
@@warqaanizar2527 "How are you doing today\this week? Maybe I could do [Thing], if not, that's totally okay, and remember I'll always be here for you, even if you just want a hug." Idk if this is any good
@@confusedghost9320 So what I need to do is act like I don't know they have suicide so that they wouldn't feel stressed about someone knowing,right? And then,say something like "How are you today?", "I hope you are having a nice day!", right? If they show a sign that means they don't want to talk to me,do I leave them alone for the entire day or do something about it?
@@ProximaCentauri-vy2po how you felt writing that: OMG THIS IS GONNA BE SO FUNNY BRO and it turned out that you are a scumbag who binge watches quandale memes
I’m still a kid, but aspire to be a therapist, not for the money, not for the common job, not for the rep, or anything crazy. Psychology, and seeing someone grow… it’s my purpose in this world.
Same, I think it's a really amazingly interesting subject, plus I could help people, may it be strangers or my friends and family. And I wanna understand depression more, so that I can help my brother who struggles with it
My brother just died 2 days ago.. And all of the signs you've discuss in this video is accurate... Thank you for this video, now I know how to talk to people who shows these signs.. However it's too late for my brother.....
Hey, I'm sorry and I know your brother loves you a lot. You are still connected with him. He's with you. His soul is with you. I just want you to know that he loves you and don't worry he is out there somewhere, maybe next to you. You just can't see him. His soul will love and remember you forever and he will forever be alive in your heart.
My sincerest condolences. I know that there's nothing I can say that will stop the pain instantaneously but know that you are not alone in your pain and you, yourself, have much to offer. Hoping the days get easier for you
I’ve saved about 3 people from committing suicide and I’ve helped someone save another. I had no idea what I was doing and I was lucky that none of them ended up going through with it. This video helped out a lot. Thank you.
My friend and I saved another friend from committing before, now I wish we could save him from SWEARING LITERALLY EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY LIKE HOLY CRAP
I've helped 3(?) people as well, but it was over text because we live so far apart. I broke like 3 of the rules because I never knew them before now, but thank God it still worked. I just told them how much they meant to me, that I cared a lot for them, that they could do it, etc etc. Its hard to support somebody when it emotionally crushes you as well, but I'm glad I was able to help somebody in need. I'm still great friends with one of them, and we hang out and talk about random shit all the time 😂
@Jennifer Smith I can understand your point, but goal isn't to shut them in mental hospital, but to help them see life is worth living. For people with depression there is therapy and medicine. If they still want to die after this all, I get it. You want to give'em choice, but it's very important to make sure they understand everything in both options. I hope you understand what I mean and also sorry for all mistakes in my writing. If you want you can give me some feedback what do you think now.
No one actually helps beyond the suicidal episode and that's the problem; You're not a hero for helping someone during *one* episode. You're only a hero if you stay and actually do something and are willing to pay the money or life forwards or to show you have faith in them. Once you've been suicidally depressed long enough, people stop caring.
That’s not even remotely true no doubt the people who don’t care yeah they’ll stop caring but the people who are always constantly in your life care about you and they never stop
I’ve been there myself there are people who care but the people who don’t you don’t have to engage with them you can cut them out of your life if you want to
I have been suicidally depressed ever since I was 11 years old. People stop caring after you've tried to kill yourself multiple times because they think you're just acting out or causing a scene. I personally won't stop trying to commit suicide until I am successful. Life is lonely and full of negativity and negative people, who love to mistreat others. Especially when they are depressed.
2:08 Recognise the signs 3:01 Ask them how they are 3:21 Ask specifically about suicide 3:55 Stay with them 5:07 Keep them safe & remove harmful items 5:40 Acknowledge their feelings are legitimate 6:06 Repeat their words back to them in your own way 6:33 Empathise with them 6:43 Encourage them to focus on getting through today 7:16 Identify a Hook 8:05 Offer Support & Hope 8:50 Don't minimise their problems or Say anything judgemental 9:13 Help them develop a safety plan 10:31 Follow-up
i hate how my mind whenever someone talks about suicide or self harm just goes immediatly uncomfortable and wanting to leave instead of helping them. Thank you for making this video also the comments in here are actually so sad i hope yall live a better life and have a very great day today with no wet socks, the cold side of the pillow, your cereal and milk there and a lot of fortunes in life. pls remember your a amazing person who many people love and your worth it
I wish I could have known these sooner. When I was in secondary school, there was a friend suffering family troubles so she wanted to kill herself to end this pain forever. At that time, I thought that she was crazy. Years later, when I experienced more pains in life, I realized that if we have never been in that situation, we would never understand how painful it must feel. So it is important to acknowledge and respect their feelings before we want to do st to help. I also realize that there are more people thinking about suicide than we think. They may not tell you that but there can be some signals. If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does
"If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does" _And..._ no one still does it. Ever. No one cares.
2:08 1 recognize the signs 3:03 2 ask them how they are 3:20 3 ask specifically about suicide 3:55 4 stay with them 5:06 5 keep them safe; remove harmful items 5:40 6 acknowledge their feelings are legitimate 6:03 7 repeat the words back to them in your own way 6:21 8 empathize with them 6:42 9 encourage them to focus on getting through 'today' 7:14 10 identify a hook 8:05 11 offer support and hope 8:49 12 don't minimize their problems 9:14 13 help develop a safety plan 10:32 14 follow up 11:17 outro
There is a friend of mine i actually saved from a really possible suicide, he was so stressed and sad with his life to the point where he cut his arm 3 times, gladly the wounds weren't too deep or lethal, so i got him to treat them, then stayed and listen to anything he had to say while comforting him. 2 weeks later there was barely any signs of suicide and started to see hope of finding someone to love, i told him there would be someone soon and precisely it happened the next month, he found a beautiful girl that understood and made him show his emotions, making him cry for the first time. Nowadays they both are a happy couple(and just a tiny bit active if u get what i mean) that makes each other happy.
Thank you for being there for him. There are so many people like that that are lost to the world forever because nobody was there for them. Nothing makes me happier than seeing a broken soul find happiness. You are a true hero.
I like the rose thorns around the hand. It's a good representation that people helping the suicidal have lots of weight on there shoulders and will probably be scarred in some way after all is said and done
@I Am Sorry. So glad to hear you're doing better now, I belive in you, you can get through this tough time. Keep going and please don't ever lose hope for today, tomorrow or any other day. Remember about the people you love, they're here for you. Sending best wishes :)
Well, I'm hoping that the pain is worth it anyway, you know...? Hell, I kind of hate it when people say that normal people that don't have depression don't owe the depressed person anything... I mean, yeah, I guess I kind of get it if the depressed person is needy and demanding of them, forcing themselves on to them, but I mean, when they put it like that, I can't help but feel like their saying that they don't care about people even if they might be depressed enough to want to die, because they got all these other... negative traits beyond just their depression, and well... that kind of really hurts to hear... It's not always easy to be less than just depressed... It's easy to have it make you feel other negative things too... I wish I had someone care about me even with my inner demons... Haven't found anyone like that though, I just ended up scaring everyone off and having myself be called the monster... Heh... funny... Sigh, bastards... ... At least I tried...
@@indigowendigo8165 Most people are willing to help in their own way, the problem is that most of them don’t know how. As someone who constantly helps people with their mental issues, it can be really draining and worrying sometimes, but honestly, I feel it’s worth it. You shouldn’t be afraid of seeking help, there’s probably someone you trust that can offer support and love, but as far as it goes, I’d advice to seek professional help too, since there’s so much a person without education can do, and a doctor will know of things your friend don’t. (I’m sorry if it’s hard to understand, English isn’t my first language lol)
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I know I’m late but the only reason I’m alive today is because I made a pact with another suicidal friend of mine. We both agreed that neither one of us is allowed to hurt or kill ourselves until the other died, and the determination to keep each other safe ultimately protected us. We each sought help and found ways to cope because despite all that was weighing on us we cared enough about each other to hold on for each other’s sakes. Now a few years later my suicidal thoughts are almost completely gone, I’ve begun to transition to my true gender and I have the strength and experience to support others when they struggle with mental health. And as for my friend, they’re still with me and they’re in a much better spot than they had ever thought possible. It really does something when you have someone you can lean on and when you have someone you want to stick around for.
hey I wish that could that could happen but my best friend killed herself and now I don't want to live I'm glad that you and your friend are in a better place quick question what are your pronouns?
I have this same kind of built in pact with my mom. We both are suicidal but we are each others will to live. Honestly with out her I don’t have a reason to work or do anything. Life is just so pointless to both of us so everything we do is for the other person. And it’s not toxic we don’t like threaten each other, we just understand the reality of how we feel about living in general
Someone in this comment section stopped me from committing suicide I don’t know who you are but I owe my life to you. You saved me that day and i still think about you
14: Don't be disappointed by a lack of immediate results. If you've invested in a person, it can feel disappointing to not see them turn around towards health quickly. Just remember, it took a lot of beating down for them to reach this point, so it will likely take a lot of support and/or time to come back. A flower doesn't grow immediately no matter how much it's watered, especially one that's withered; but with proper attention and care, every flower will be able to bloom on its own. Just, please, please don't give up on it while waiting.
Bro my mom always say focus on your health and study but when i got worse or average result she always told me about things like i have very much depreesed thisnis not but in my health she always tolds that plzzz recover your body before someone joke on your face and no one is yours okkk.... Only that i cant regret myself but yesss i try to work hard daily for that but sometimes i study and and more focus on my face but my mom always say you are bieng bad by your face and watever she says this affect in my brain heart and nowww on straight today i regreteddd all my parents doing for me i need sucideeeeee😭😭😭but this video....tolddd meee bro
As someone who aspires to become a therapist friend but also needs one, this comment is comforting. I already knew that, but somehow I just now actually realized that there's still hope. I'll think about this whenever I feel down, thanks!
This sound cliche but the thought of failing to save others is a terrible feeling for me. I never want to let my friends/family succumb to suicide so this vide helps me to help prevent that.
I can understand you homie... It really does feel terrible if you fail to save someone from such circumstances... But if you tried your best, then you're never the one to be blamed yk... ♡
You do the best you can, but you are probably not a professional and can't be expected to know exactly the right things to say or do. Even if you do everything you can based on the best practices, it may not work to prevent a suicide. I would watch the video several times, but keep in mind it's never your fault.
As someone who has talked several people off the ledge, sometimes you just gotta hear them out. None of the cheesy cliches work in that moment. Just hear them out, remind them of why you love them, and tell them you’re here and listening.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
@@draglide2912 Please keep going, you're strong and I believe you can get through this. Remember that no matter what might be going on right now, everything may always change for the better. Reach out to people you trust if you ever feel the need to talk to someone, and if you need it we're all here for you ready to listen. sending support your way! *support incoming* :)
was planning to do it at 14 when i was 13, told myself ill do anything that might make me feel alive even if a short moment, I'll give life a chance.. I turned 19 last month, things still feel hard but atleast I'm still here.
try to practice sports, physical activities, it will give joy and pleasure to always be well. read more, avoid violent or depressing things. things will work out little by little, the important thing is to believe and never give up.
I have had a few friends with suicidal thoughts and what I find interesting here is that a lot of this advice are stuff I've done subconsciously without realising it. I've never really been completely suicidal myself but depression is something I've had to deal with ever since my early teens. A lot of the time I just say what I would want others to tell me when I'm at my worst,I'm ironically really bad at reaching out for help but helping those people sometimes helps me ground my own self in figuring out what to do. I just suck at taking my own advice :/
Hooks are absolutely so important! I was suicidal, and it took a long time to overcome those feelings. I was always reminded of my baby brother, my art, or even just my favourite places. Hearing that always made me reconsider. If I did die, I would never play with my brother, never draw another character, never see those places again. Reminding people what they would miss the most is important and so helpful.
@That clone trooper in the back on the high ground i don't really get what the joke is here, are you really making a jab at me under a comment about depression?
You could say something similar but about someone’s future,if they commit, they will never get the chance to be successful or have kids or a wife, etc. and, they will never be able to... Be so utterly confused and disappointed at my bad jokes that they get more laughs out of making fun of it than the joke itself
At the beginning of 2021 I met an amazing girl online, I was so lonely and had no good friends before, but after meeting her everything changed. We became best friends and everything was good until we both started opening up about our mental health issues. I myself have considered and thought about suicide so many times, but I always knew that I'm too weak to actually harm myself and I was scared that if I survived, I would regret the consequences. Personally, I have so many reasons to live, but at the time when I'm facing a hard situation, I feel like living is not worth it anymore. Sometimes I think that I have depression, but later I just make myself think that I'm being too dramatic and overreact. My friend also became a big reason for me to live, but the problem is that we both live too far away. When we got closer, she opened up about her depression and how much she's struggling with it. Just a few months ago a really bad day happened. We were both having a hard day and she wanted to talk out with me, but I was too busy. Later when I texted her again, she told me that she's trying to commit suicide. Back then I realized how useless I was because I wasn't there for her physically. I was so scared to lose her and I knew that I would never forgive myself. I kept trying to call her, talk with her and stop her. That was one of the worst days of my life. Somehow I managed to stop her and now we're both alive... Having a long-distance friendship is honestly so bad, especially when you're so close and you need each other physically. I wanted to hug her and tell her that she always has me and that I'll be with her no matter what happens. I knew that if only she didn't live on the other side of the world, it all would be different. Blaming distance also isn't a solution, but I wish I knew more ways to help her while being so far away. Whenever we talk now, I always ask how she is, let her know that I'm there for her, that she's not alone and has me. We got so close that she often says that I'm her only reason to live and I'm willing to do anything to help her. I hope no other person gets to experience a situation like this. Everyone be safe and just know that you're not alone, there are so many reasons to live and if you don't want to live for yourself, live for someone else, someone who is precious to you. And even if you don't have a person like that in your life now, you can never know, maybe you'll meet that person very soon and it'll change your life. :) My reason to live : -My family -My best friend -BTS, Stray Kids, Enhypen, TXT, Ateez, Seventeen, Astro.
I know exactly how you feel..long distance sucks! and I hate it so much it makes me feel helpless>< You are a good friend and don't forget to take care of yourself
It's scary how we had almost the same experience. I also met a online friend, back in summer last year. Compared to my current mental state, I wasn't really struggling much mentally back then. When I started to talking him, we quickly became friends and even a few days into our friendship, we were already opening up to each other about our own mental issues and past experiences. We supported each other all the time. Partly because he was a gamer, he didn't take care of himself enough so I often reminded him to get some sleep, eat, and drunk. For me, he helped me mend my friendship with my ex, a relationship that I felt guilty of ending but knew that it wasn't working for me. As the months passed, my online friend and I became even closer. We would call each other the light in our darkness and cheered the other up when we mentally break down. I even stopped him from harming himself again. Admittedly, he was the person I became the closest to, including my family and friends. We deeply cared for each other but our story did not end well as yours did. We started to become distant, mostly because of me. I could say that the start of school was the only reason I became distant with him but I would be lying. I'm not exactly sure of the reasons why we were becoming distant but we eventually became distant to the point of talking only 2 or 3 times in a week. One very late school night, at 3 AM, which i was fortunately awake at the time,he messaged me out of nowhere, saying goodbye and he was going to commit suicide afterwards. I quickly went on and begged him to not do it, to not waste the life that changed me. But no matter how much I begged in text, no matter how much I cried, he still decided to go through it. He stopped texting me but eventually came back on, saying that he let an online coin flip generator decide whether he should commit suicide or not. Thankfully, it landed on the side to not do it but, just like you, I felt helpless.I had no power to stop him from considering suicide or even from harming himself. Even until now, I wish I was with him irl. All that happened afterwards was that he told me that he was sent to a rehab center after he tried committing suicide and shortly after, all his social media accounts were deleted. I don't even know if he still is alive today. .. I couldn't help him at all. I felt like I abandoned him in the times he needed me the most. Until now, I blame myself for not doing the best I could to help him. I can't deny that I'm jealous that both of you are still good friends after everything that happened. I still continue to wish that we would still be friends... To you and those reading this, cherish your dear friends and don't let them go. You'll never when they will leave you or if they are on the verge of leaving . Always check up on your friends. Don't become distant like I did. I can't genuinely say to live for someone else because there are people like me who abandons friends. However, the feeling of supporting someone and being supported definitely made me feel lighter. I know I rambled a lot, but the point is: Find the right people to be by your side for a long time, if not forever. If u can't find anyone, be that person who will stay by someone's side. Your world will definitely change. Taking care of yourself including leaning on others :) (TWT I don't even know if I'm making sense anymore )
@@montolia1118 Hey Jasmine, first of all i’m not that good in English but I hope you can understand me. I wanted to tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty at all, I know it's hard for you to stop blaming yourself but it's not your fault. I have been through something similar and I blamed myself a LOT but the truth is that we are humans and our capabilities are limited we can't be the superheroes we wanted to be for our beloved ones they should be willing to help themselves by their own we can only offer the support. And sometimes we need a break for ourselves after spending so much energy with someone especially if we weren't aware that we are overwhelming ourselves we distance ourselves from them AND THAT'S OKAY we need that. This situation could be tricky.. Suddenly you might find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed..so don’t forget to take care of yourself, always remember that you can only give him your love and support and that's it you can’t save him and it’s not your responsibility. Do the things you like more often such as drawing, singing, meditation or whatever it helps and it gives you the energy you need for this situations. I hope your friend could get better soon, and take care of yourself first if you wanna help💗
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Not a soul, including my family and genuinely close friends took any chance at comforting me in my worst times. A few times in my life I had to take conscious decision to not cause any harm. Worst part is, I can't blame anyone, as I know my friends and family are genuine and ready to help with whenever, just not this topic as it seems to be surreal for everyday life. In this case you can only man up if you want to get through, I really hope to meet empathic people later in my life, but also I am very bad at meeting people so I am probably fcked anyway. Sorry I talked about myself too much here, it may be cringe but I had to get this off my chest
Hey if you want anyone to talk to I am here also if you have discord you can vent to me there. And I can understand with your family. I will say maybe try to talk to people on the internet as you commented now. For me at least I find it easier to talk to people online and not have to mask my emotions. But if you still don’t want to it’s fine take time to try stuff that you enjoy.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
I used to feel the same way, I am finally trying to mend the Social part into my Life. I started smiling at myself in the mirror and talking to myself for fun and thinking about funny stuff or things that amused me that i could try for laughs or my imagination. If that does not work for you i recommend weed edibles when you are of age, But don’t make it a habit. Try to use it as a crutch or gradually get off it when you are comfortable or to save it for tough time moods occasionally.
As someone who has nobody, and has never really had anyone there for me, this video hit close to me, since i try to keep myself going but with every day that passes im slowly wondering why i should bother continuing. Thank you, i love your videos and they help me understand myself a little bit more
Mate, I know it's tough. I know it may seem like there is no hope, no light at the end of the tunnel but just keep in mind that without darkness there is no light. Sometimes we need to step back from others or ask for a loving embrace from them. However you want to approach it mate, just remember that once you pull the trigger or slip into the rope you're missing out on a life, your life, your amazing sometimes hard life. I don't know if anyone will see this but if they do please, hold on and try to search for the light. . . Good night/morning, God Bless!
I've thought things like that too, and it seemed so dark and couldn't find a purpose, well, I'm still trying to find one.. just remember you're not alone, we're going through it but you can choose what side u wanna see, the bright or the dark side of things, and once you understand that you can't control things happening but what your next steps are gonna be, you can then begin to change your point of view of the events, and thus your life
I’m being 100% straight here. Few suicidal people have somebody who cares about them enough to stick by their side, watch them and care for them. If there is someone that will actually do that for them, that is wonderful! What WILL happen? Well, a concerned person or a therapist will call emergency services to get the suicidal person “Help”. I am a medical professional. What help? It is just a perpetuated fantasy to make people feel like there’s something that can be done. Now, if somebody has something like schizophrenia or another chemical imbalance and they need to be medicated and observed, then hospitalisation can absolutely work! But, for people who have been traumatised and have logically decided that they do not want to exist anymore, there is only more suffering when being shunted off to the psych hospital. Even if you go in voluntarily, you will be put in the hospital where you will be treated like a criminal; a bunch of low paid techs, who’ve had three months training will be both indifferent and rude. Possibly even abusive. you will have your belongings taken away and won’t even be able to use a pen. You will be on a ward with junkies and people who may actually hurt you, Security is pretty loose when it comes to your safety there. You might get a 20 minute session in with bored doctor whom you may never see again. They’ll be five hours late for the one appointment you have. On the day you’re supposed to leave, they won’t turn up on time and you’ll have to stay an extra day. You will be sedated with antihistamines, even if they make you feel sic. Some neurotic nurse practitioner will snap at you if you ask if you can just not take those pills and will write that you are “non-compliant“ in your notes. Notes that no one will ever read anyway. Then, after a few days, you will be sent home and told to “follow up with your doctor“ and given a psychologist appointment in a couple of weeks. It actually does NOTHING good. You just realise to keep your mouth shut so that you don’t get punished with the hospital again. It hammers home that nobody actually cares. They will make you feel much much worse about yourself. I would go as far as to say, if you care for somebody who is suicidal enough to stay with them, hold them and comfort them, then do so! If you don’t and you’re just going to call emergency services because you want to be responsible, Understand that you’re probably not helping them. It’s not like calling an ambulance for somebody who is sick or hurt. I’m sorry, but the state of psychological services in the US, UK and Canada (all countries where I have worked) sucks.(especially in the US) And those are countries with good medical care.
I'm sorry if this is triggering, but this is my experience.... I've made up my mind a while back that I don't want to live anymore. I've made up my mind that I've "checked out". 2022 was an especially rough year for me where, in my opinion, between my diagnosed disorderes and multiple life stresses it was a perfect storm. I breath to check a box at this point, even now as I write this I feel this is still (mostly) true. I get told on the regular (even from my therapist and psychologist, and friends) I don't see you as depressive/this person you paint. It's defeating to say the least. What helps me "stay here" is the fact that there's always tomorrow (to commit to this act). What helps me stay here is the fact that at least ONE person in my life, no matter how significant or insignificant (could be someone I've touched or helped motivate to seek more from life) would feel they have to update me with things I've missed (had I committed). I'll be blunt I'm 30 and I'm not sure if I'll see 31 or 35, but I'm still breathing as I type this. I write this in hopes to whomever reads this that you're not alone, I get it. Those who sympathize with me get it. You're not alone.
Everyone that is here because they want to help their friends... you are the people that deserve the whole word. Please take care of yourselves too, you guys are honestly holding the weight of everyone emotional baggage on your side. That's an exhausting burden and you need to remember that you are important too. And if its getting to much, remember that their weight isn't at all your responsibility
The fact you see us as an emotional burden is exactly why we as suicidal people want you all to leave us alone. Go virtue signal to the poor; they need it more
My wife recognized my signs back in July and took me to be admitted in the hospital. After a week in the psych ward I was diagnosed with BPD and C-PTSD. It’s been a really long road, but I appreciate videos like this showing us the realistic side of mental illness.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
To be honest, i'm a suicidal person myself and i will show my friends and family this video, so they can understand better on how to help me feel better... Thank you so much for making this video.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
I didn't expect someone to reply to my comment. Heh... It's good to see that there are people like you out there who wants to help others. Thank you for the nice reply.
I have bad thoughts to, I'm glad people out there like this channel give other people true facts on how to actually help people like you and me from dying and making us feel better
My first ever girlfriend died to suicide. For the past 4 years I've done nothing but blame myself. Anyone considering suicide, just know. I'd rather see a post of you making it through the day then see a post of your funeral.
My friend recently admitted to being suicidal to me. Now that I’m watching this video, gosh, how could I never notice? I see them everyday at school, they seemed so happy, yet, the signs were all here. This was a good lesson for me that no matter how a person may be like from the outside, there still is a chance that they are broken on the inside.
Storytime: I have a best friend. When we meet by Twitter, she was so happy and full of joy, when we got closer, she talked me about her problems. I tried to undertsand and try to help her because I love her and I don't want her to be sad everyday. One day, she told me that she was to kill herself, it literally break my heart, I was so deseperated trying to convince her that night to not do that, I didn't want to lose her, and the next day I woke up early and talk to her, try to convince her one last time and she finally give up, like, she doesn't want to commit suicide. That memory still hurts but I'm still with my best friend that I fucking love and trying to help her with everything
Recently I saved my best friend - who attempted committing suicide many times - from trying to commit suicide again. My best friend told me that they will avoid doing it just to keep me happy. I also somehow did it without this video :) (but it's really helpful, so please watch it whole, guys!) Some tips that worked for me: - give them freedom of opinion. They may be very sad because they never got to say what they think about certain things. - tell them to "stay safe" every time you say goodbye. Every time I did this (which was a lot), they said that they'll try to stay safe as best as they can. - give hugs if you're comfortable! (Even virtual hugs, they really help) - tell them that they can talk to you or text you whenever they want to. It really helps with stress. - send/show them pictures of cute things, like animals or plushies! It really makes them happy. - try to stay positive! And don't be too serious over things like old scars, some people don't like that and invading their privacy, or ruining their mood. And don't be too silly when things really get serious! It may be sometimes annoying to them. Hope you stay safe, guys! :3
When I was living one day at a time, it was the worst time of my life. I was miserable every second. But I also recognize that only thinking one day at a time is probably why I'm alive right now.
As someone with low empathy, it's really hard to me to help people with suicide because people need to tell me they're feeling the emotion for me to understand they are. So thanks for the help ! :D
idk if i'm low in empathy or not, but i was wrong about many things by just assuming based on my processing so yeah, i need solid evidence (for my lil dumb brains 🤭)
Someone with overflowing empathy here, and I must say, i think it honestly means more to ppl to hear reassuring things from ppl with low empathy. Because they know it’s difficult for y’all to understand. It’ll make the comments feel more genuine. I think it’s really sweet that u came here to find out how to go abt it
I have low empathy too,and i decided not to involve in it,i do not understand people's need properly,and i dont want to help anyone because i ccan only make it worse,i do not want to involve myself because i can get in danger too
I've found my low empathy to be helpful for my own approach to helping in this stuff. It means talking about these subjects doesn't bother me at all, and so I can easily stay calm and think through what to say. Considering that my mind tends to drift towards *giving advice* (best way to show that things can get better, for me, is to explain *how* they can) rather than focusing more on kind words, lacking empathy is very helpful. (Though I *am* fairly good at recognising and understanding what people are feeling, that doesn't affect my own feelings negatively at all - only one person is an exception to this)
I had a close friend who was suicidal when I was in 7th grade. She started messaging me over Facebook messenger about not wanting to be here anymore and it scared the hell out of me. I was able to help them through this hard time, and I am glad to say that she is now doing just fine and still seeing therapists for help.
Also a sign if someone is suicidal is when you ask them if they are suicidal and they just stand there not saying anything like looking away or taking a really long time to say "no" (This may happen when the suicidal person is really close friends with you and doesn't wanna let you know they wanna commit suicide) (EDIT: This doesn't 100% mean they are suicidal they might have just not heard you clearly or just wants to be alone)
I 100% relate to this. Every time I've opened up about depression and suicide I've been shot down and criticized, so that definitely contributes to feeling like you need to hide/deny your suicidal feelings. One of the scariest things in the world to me is opening up to someone about serious stuff like this because I've only ever had bad experiences with being vulnerable.
I relate. I occasionally have suicidal or self-damaging thoughts. I never go through with it, because I am a Christian who believes God cares about me. I also like trying to succeed regardless, I love writing stories, I love playing video games, and I have too many things amd people I care about. Either way, it's hard to escape these thoughts because I am waaay too much of a perfectionist. If something doesn't go as planned, I get worried and upset. A lot of times my parents don't even want to talk to me about this, and I am not close enough to my friends to say anything of the sort. It's tough but I've been improving.
Suicidal or depressed people are in a very sensitive and painful emotional state, which can make some of them seem rude or "hostile" against the person helping them. Please don't leave their side and help them regardless of their attitude towards you. You'll see that staying with them until the end is very rewarding. They truly need your help. Lots of love ;)
Aww men I wish I could have someone to talk to, I had a good friend that I could talk to about literally everything, hugging etc. But now I don't have anybody. I guess writing this comment helps. I just want a hug...
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help, make friend in internet communities and when the pandemic ends try to be more social so you can get new friend
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One of my friends in a friend group had been suicidal for a while, the night he opened up about it we all listened to him and we talked, for a while he was a little unstable so we stuck with as much as possible and eventually he started going to therapy. Im glad we managed to help him through this and to see him smile again. Moral of the story: just being with someone suicidal and talking about it with them, can help a lot.
My dog saved me... She was most sweetest most genorous and most loyal animal in the world. The lace was on my neck I just needed kicked out the chair under my legs but She sit down lookin' at me and start crying like 'please don't do that!!'.
@@t.s... She's gone 3 years ago but I never forgot what She's done for me... But thanks for your question I'm pretty fine now. I isolated from toxic "friends and start to be better. But when I was in this friendships I don't realize that was the part of my problem. 😊
I had a friend who was suicidal,and kept harming themselfs,but you have helped me get them rid of that suicidal felling and now they are recovering from the scars,and live life as they should.I do have to agree that it made me extremely anxoius ,stressed,and sad,and scared,so take care of yourself too!It s not easy to help someone who Is suicidal.Thank you so much!I hope I will find someone too!❤
As a person who was suicidal and skipped school alot because of my fear of failure my parents helped me fight it alot. Even though I was allready in grade 7 my parents walked me to school to help me feel stronger and not afraid. They'd even distance themselves behind me and kinda follow me when we got close to school as to not embarrass me or anything. They used alot of the Tips in the video and as the person who was reciving their Support I can confirm it helped
I hope this video will help people, Sadly for me this is too late i lost my girlfriend (20 years old) about 3 months ago she drove into a tree. The most important part is talk with them and don't be scared to ask them what they want you to do if it happens, how they want you to live on after it happens (i know it sounds extreme) But i was always scared of talking about (if it happens) now i live with so many questions making me think about how to move on...
I hope you will be fine in the future. I don't know you or your girlfriend but one thing I know is when you love someone you don't want them to feel pain even after you're gone. I think she will love to see you happy again. Keep her as a sweet memory and go on with your life. I know it can be hard but you can do it
speak with family or friends about this questions and stuff or surch a consellor. The will not give you the answer, cose the closet answer to your questions is 42, but the will help! it will be hard but i will share a quote that helps me in my darkest ours: Bob Ross: "Gotta have opposites dark and light, light and dark in painting. It's like in life. Gotta have a little sadness once in a while so you know when the good times come."
I personally struggle with depression constantly so I can relate to all of this. I'm still alive because something deep down is still holding on but nobody in my life truly understands me or how to help me they just make it worse so hopefully sharing this video with them will help.
Hope that your still alive. Because if I’m being frank the world would suck without you. I hope you get the help you need and I want you know I love you and will be praying for you
I know love , it is hard when no one notices especially when it is someone close to you , but first of all you gotta believe and trust yourself first , I want to tell you this , I may not know you personally but I care for you deeply and you are important to this world, keep being strong. Trust yourself, believe in who you are, remember you passions and everything is worth living for, no matter what sticky situation you think you are in , You will go through it, be you , believe in yourself.
take a minute, I know that it seems like there is no way out but believe me there is always one . No matter what situation you are In, no matter how tough it might be , I want you to never give up , you are important to me , I know that I don’t know you personally, but I do care about you deeply, so much that I feel like I have to tell you this, I don’t care where you come from , I don’t care about what society may think you should be , you are unique, you have place in this world, I want you to feel proud and happy with your self, people make mistakes, every one does ,we need to learn from those mistakes, you have a purpose, you just need to let go of everything that blurring your vision, because I promise you that eventually all that matter is who you choose to be , who you truly are , you gotta remember that . I know some people are bad , I know that some people are ignorant and selfish, some are heartless , some will try to let you down , but you should care only about what you believe in , believe In yourself. Your kindness, your soul is the hope for this world, you will find happiness, think about what you passionate about , don’t give up on that feeling , the stars,when you succeed in something you worked hard , when you just enjoying yourself, seeing animals around , the happiness of doing what you love . It is hard, I know that but once you are willing to look up, look around You , beyond the pain, to see that you eventually, what really matter is that you didn’t give up because it will make you stronger, I’m sorry if no one noticed, I’m sorry if you don’t feel appreciated, But know that you know your worth, you are your best friend , you need to love yourself first . the future may seem scary , your thoughts may be confusing , but in your heart you know that whatever it is , if you will be just who you are you WILL pass this , you CAN do this , trust yourself, noticing your emotions, understand why you feel this way but you gotta keep up and trust yourself. Doesn’t matter what everyone think or does , it is your life, I believe in you , I want you here in this world, you are too important, we can go through this , I’m here with you . I love you and so so proud of you, every single word i mean this because I truly care for you. You gotta believe in yourself, there is always an opportunity to start over , to see this world in a different light . I hope and wishes you the happiness you deserve. Because you my friend, deserves happiness. It is never too late to be the best version of yourself, to be who you are . I deeply appreciate you and hope you the best
You’re right no one will truly understand you or me I also feel no one understands me no one may understand you fully but at least one kind person will care to try
as someone who is suicidal, it is very true that just having someone to talk to about how I’m suicidal does help. Honestly the remove all harmful items away one is very true, but still doesn’t prevent it, cause there is still a bunch of other ways.
Well that was more relatable than I expected. Now I'm gonna go talk to the friend that saved me. When everyone was dismissive of everything I did a girl I hadn't seen or spoken to in years was working at the local store and though I was usually pretty emotionless and tried to blend in much as possible and to my surprise she never wanted anything in return. why she liked me was the one mystery that I couldn't leave unfinished but the moment she called me her brother I didn't care about that anymore and found myself caring for someone else.
When I was in worst depressive episode of my life recently my mom said "how do you think it makes me feel to have such a miserable daughter?" It hurt SO much. I already knew it was hard for her but I had no control over my debilitating depression. I was already feeling massively ashamed and disgusted with myself and like a burden and it just made me want to end it even more. Please people never say that to someone suffering. Nobody chooses to feel that bad and all we want is for the pain to end. I also want to say these videos are really helpful for me trying to recover. I feel understood and cared for just by watching them, which is what I need more than anything. Thank you Psych2Go ❤
Reading that anyone could be so selfish to say that made my blood boil (and I regularly find myself using my rigid “treat everyone as your equals with their own desires on how to be treated” as a crutch [the “golden rule” doesn’t exactly work for the suicidal]). I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
@enderger5308, it’s remarkable how many people respond that way. I’ve had a ton of unhelpful, dismissive, or borderline-cruel responses. I’ve even been told to shut up about that. “We’re tired of hearing the same thing.” 🙄 “But” “That’s just more of the same tired story.” I’m still here in SPITE of that. But I feel like I’m not allowed to talk about certain topics. This often happens in the midst of those “closest to us”.
Helping my current girlfriend when she was just a suicidal person I reached out for a long time ago got us where we are today My mom told me I was stupid for staying up late preventing her from committing suicide and said that people who want to commit suicide just do it instead of saying it I'm taking notes to not be like my mother
Thank god you won’t need it I’ve known 3, technically 4 suicidal people and it’s kinda scary. The 4th I just heard of and worried, the 3rd actually tried to strangle themselves in school and I kinda knew them, the 2nd had tried sucide and had SA marks that popped up halfway through the year, and the 1st I’m currently friends with and still a little worried since they’ve been suicidal in the past. This is the one I’ve actually talked to and it’s kinda scary to think that if you were to say something wrong they are gone
Yes it really is! My bsf was suicidal and still gets a bit suicidal so. Try to ask them how they are and how they’re feeling and they update me every now and then on how many days theyre clean o(of self harm) i love them so much ❤️ Anyways have a good day/night Bye bye ♥️
For me, I was going through an incredibly dark time at the start of junior year. One day I told my mom that I didn’t want to live anymore because there was to much stress on my life. We talked about it and She told “I can’t help you if your dead” That really made me realize what suicide meant. I wouldn’t see my dog, my friends. I wouldn’t eat any sweets or watch anime. At the time of writing this I have fallen back into those thoughts do to an extremely emotional past 2 days. But suicide is never the answer. Death will come but we should never force it’s hand.
Legit the best thing you can do is just let them know you are there for them, and do everything you can to get them out the house and or get a smile on their face for even 5 seconds. Depression is shit, it eats away at you, you get so caught up in it that it bring so many other problems than just being upset
To answer the question at the end I was at the brink of suicide and I was gonna end that day but as I was leaving a friend of mine saw me and asked “what’s wrong” I replied in tears “Nobody loves me” and she looked me dead in the eyes and said “Then who am I” and I rode the bus home and that lead me to where I am today and I also want to say thank you Psych2Go because my girlfriend just told me today that she was contemplating suicide and this is the recourse I needed and I will ask if she wants to make a safety play so yet again thank you and keep up the good work :)
I wish I could be that friend, but I’m the jokester if the group so they would never take me seriously, wait... HOLY CRAP, I could say wat ur friend said, they wouldn’t take me seriously but they would laugh so hard the would never attempt again, that might actually work
All these stories on the comment section start so sad, they turn out good in the end, I am truly glad, even if you're a stranger, that you didn't commit suicide. I am a sympathetic and empathetic person, I can't help feeling empathy, have a good day! (There are very few people I cannot tell how they feel.) :)
This is just the video I needed. I was just in a conversation with an online friend about how her life mattered but she just wasn't listening. Thank you so much for all of this Edit: she seems a bit better now, thank you for everyone’s support :)
@@Jords250 That's not true. When someone is convinced they want to do something, it's very hard to talk them down. I spent nearly an hour trying to convince a friend to continue with life, but they wouldn't listen. After a while, I finally said the right thing to convince them, and they're still here today. I value them as a friend, and we're still best friends. Just because someone doesn't listen while they're in a dark place doesn't mean they aren't a real friend, it just means they're a bit stubborn. Changing a "final" decision is gonna be tough, but it can be done. That's why this video exists.
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@@shirleyjeannite5724 Try saying all what you feel to any friend or family member. If you start letting all the words go out, you can finally not feel so heavy, like you felt before.
when I somehow made up my mind and talked with my mum bout me being suicidal she literally lashed out on me rather than giving a shoulder to me. From that day I stopped talking bout what's inside me with anyone and it literally hurts.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help...
It's also my mum's fault that I'm depressive. I told her the same like you did and she literally killed me. When I went to the school therapist. And I don't know if I was completely dumb but I told her. She went mental. She told me the school would write it down in my school documents, and that I would never get a job. And...still I love her. After all she is my mother. But I can't call her my mum anymore. Of course she is the person who cooks for me and takes care but, she doesn't cares about my mental health and that is what kills me.
I am very sorry my guys. But you are worth it! And every day is full of hidden gifts and blessings if only we would seek them out. Sometimes I take long walks outside right after it rains; the fresh smell, the damp roads, the popping green of the leaves and grass gives me a deep sense of joy and peace. It's something that helps me feel better, and maybe something like that will help you to, too. I really hope you guys find support
i kniw how you feel very much, my b. mom (birth mom) literally said it my hormones and stuff when i was literally thinkimg suicide every single day past like 6 years (at the time i told her i was sad)
@@Schwupsdupsbeepboop that's how my mom is too. I told her that I wanted to go to a therapist, and she started freaking out. She kept on asking why, but I didn't feel comfortable talking to her about it and that I much rather talk to a professional about it. Also, whenever I talk to her about anything, she becomes so judgemental and I constantly feel like she's lashing out at me. Anyways, my mom responded by saying that everything I tell them will follow me wherever I go. She's a nurse working at a mental health unit in a hospital, so she thinks she knows everything about therapists and psychologists, but I noticed right away that she clearly doesn't. But that's what sucks about being a minor, you always have to depend on someone else's decisions, even if it's about your mental or physical health. I sometimes feel unlucky that I have someone as a mother who doesn't take mental health and my thoughts seriously. I mean, I know she's my mom and has bought me everything that I wanted, and I know she takes care of me and spoils me a lot. But buying me everything won't make my mental issues and distresses go away. She even said that people with depression are just faking it or something like that. It terrifies me that I can't fully trust the person I'm dependent on.
My best friend was suicidal for a long time. When she first told me about, I was about 14. I didn’t know what to do, but I just acted like I did. I talked a lot with her and seeing this video now, it seems like I did it in the right way. She’s doing much better now and also has professional help. She told me a while ago that it was very close sometimes and that I quite literally saved her life at least 3 times. I’m so glad I still have her right now and that she’s so much happier. Edit: We made it through. I also started to struggle a lot mentally, but we helped each other as good as we could. She went to therapy eventually, I didn’t. But now we are both doing much better, having neither suicidal thoughts nor still resorting to self-harm. I’m so grateful that we have come this far :)
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Do you have a friend who might be suicidal? Comment below how you tried to help. And how did it worked out? Let’s help each other out.
Well I know , it's me
Cause I have nothing to do and I am not even 19 ,
I’m the friend.
I'm suicidal and the truth is that nobody cares. I stopped talking about it and about depression, about how I'm a loser because I saw that is useless and it's like I'm just annoying other people.
Better keep quiet, then.
Oh I am suicidal friend!
Hi, a quick reminder from someone who was usually the therapist friend... It's NOT easy to support someone who actually is suicidal, please take care of yourself too !
Thank you Take care of yourself so you can continue to care for those you love who need you.
@@gray414 I truly hope they get better! Keep reminding them they are beautiful every day, even when they don’t believe it (you might already be doing that too!) it might not be much, but it could help a little, and sometimes a little is more than enough
Remember to take care of yourself as well, you are just as beautiful and strong as they are, and it’s amazing you try your best to take care of your friends
You are awesome and so are they!
Take care of yourself alright? It’s much easier to fill somebody’s cup when your own cup is already filled
Yeah, I have been a therapist friend for quite a few people, three at minimum. So I can definitely relate and agree with this.
@@dumlord1581 remember to take care of yourself kay?
You helped everybody, so make sure to take some time to help yourself
@@gray414 omg yayyyy so glad to hear they are getting better!
And yes keep at it! I’m sure you two will bloom into very pretty sunflowers ^^ (yes cringe pun intended-)
my boyfriend is suicidal. he's too young to go to a therapist alone, and i can't help either because we share the same age, and basically mental health are taboo in indonesia so her mother never concider his mental health a serious case. this video really helps because sometimes i just don't know how to support him. thank you so much
I hope he's well.
how old are you guys?
im not being weird, am i?
I would love to go to a therapist but I am scared of being questioned by my pain and feeling of guilt.
@@omorilistensmusic3188 same, it feels difficult to speak that with someone you don't have the trust of all time, to tell... maybe the worst and hardest that is the deepest inside of you.
Try doing it, it is never to late, if you wish... you can.
Hope you feel better
@@omorilistensmusic3188 hello kid how was Omori
There is no worse feeling than having a support system but still feel completely alone. It also doesn't help that I don't have any family left.
if you need help go talk to your friend and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
I’m here to listen if you need it!
@@jeffreydarmisco7088 I appreciate your reply. Not to be a debbie downer but many people are uncomfortable when you lay out your true dark feelings. I had to cancel health ins because I can't afford it but with or without I've gone to several psychologists/psychiatrists. Every advice and tip they have given me has only given me temporary happiness. It's not helping that I've been forced to live in a hotel for the last few months and will be here for 2 more. All the staff compliment me all the time for being the most pleasant and friendliest guest they ever had. I do things for all of them and with a smile on my face but underneath it all is pure sadness. I'm an empath who feels/feeds off of others emotions. I try to heal and fix others but can't help or heal myself. I journal, exercise, mediate, eat healthy, do hobbies. Even in times of extreme sadness I have been known to say yes anytime someone wants to do something but here I am still sad.
@@cococoffee2305 That is very thoughtful of you. Thank you.
There should always be support for you in your local Catholic church
they always say "talk to someone" when nobody takes you seriously
It's so dumb that most people's solution is "just be happier."
They might word it like "Just take a walk" or "Just bake a cake." But those aren't solutions that will apply to everyone. The solution is an actual engaging conversation that continues through multiple sessions. Having someone care enough about you to have a conversation and discuss the topic is so much better than trying to solve it in one go.
(I'm not a mental health professional, I'm just speaking about what helped me through it.)
Only person that save me and i could(use to) rely on is my wife but shes so wrapped up in that dam tiktok that im all alone. I wanna die but my kids still need me
What they really mean to say is , “Talk to a licensed mental health professional “. I think you can also journal about everything you have to say but can’t find someone to say it to. You can pretend to be talking to a friend. That friend could even be yourself. You could write a letter to yourself and tell little you, present you,& future you what you wish someone you love would tell you. You can list down names of songs or artists that you like to listen to and why you listen to them. You can write about your day or about the most memorable memories that you may have that make you ,you. You can write down a page about things that cause you pain, you could destroy that page and tell what we is in that page that they have no more access to enter your life. (I’m not a licensed professional. I’m just providing ideas & suggestions)
Only person I’m interested in talking to is a wife and she is about 20 years late. This world is utterly offensive if your a real man these days. Beyond offensive what this older generation did to younger men.
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My brother helped me tremendously when I was suicidal. He never guilted me, whereas my parents did. He had this one thing he would say, "Describe how you feel with as many words as you need."
You have a wonderful brother
@Splish splash your opinion is trash same
@Splish splash your opinion is trash your brother is ()
my brother would just say im weird. he's 18.
My sisters would just say f off...
i should add that immediately recommending they call a suicidal hotline is a horrible idea. (speaking from experience)
it makes them feel like you dont want to deal with them. like you dont care enough about them to even try. especially when they specifically went to you to talk about it because they trust you and enjoy your company. its just very dismissive. plus, talking to strangers doesnt work for everyone. some people really need a friend or close family member for their comfort to mean anything.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help...
The hotline puts you on hold. don't ask how I know that
@@forgor4410 our country's hotline doesn't answer lol
@@matheodaniel1364 Eh, I beg to differ, while I have no knowledge or experience of it, others may have "Temporary Problems", but I know from my 4 year experience of dealing with suicidal thoughts and going to therapy that some problems are cronic, life isn't something you just snap your fingers and everything is ok, but then again, maybe you're right, idk, at this point I'm just so lost in life that the word hope doesn't even seem to exist, it seems as if I know absolutely nothing yet the world has got everything figured out and leaving me in the dust
@@matheodaniel1364 I am sorry that this was the experience you had with suicide hotline. Sadly though, not everyone have people among family or friends they can trust and talk about such sensitive matter. A few times, my city's hotline helped me and they were the only ones I really could turn to because of my family's judgemental attitude and the fact that I was lonely with no friends.😔
When we were teens me and my sister told each other everything, including all our depressive, self harming, suicidal thoughts and actions. Neither of us had a support system outside of each other. One night after a particular nasty fight with mom I could just tell that something was off with my sister. She went and locked herself in her room, and I immediately ran after her, and spent almost an hour outside her door just talking to her, and telling her that I loved her and how much fun I have when we talk and how she's the only one who gets me, and just begging for her to let me in or just say something to me. After a while she finally let's me in. She's sobbing, and says that whole time she was standing there with the samurai knife that's usually mounted on the wall in her hands, prepared to plunge it into her stomach but couldn't bring herself to do it with me listening so she waited for me to leave, but the longer I stayed the less conviction she had to die. Things could have ended much worse if I hadn't recognized the potential crisis she was in, and I'm so thankful that she's still here with me 💓🙏
you're a great sibling and so many people wish they had someone like you in their lives. I'm proud of you, and I'm proud of her too. ♡
I can imagine the whole story.. lol.. but Hats off to you, You saved your precious sister❤
That's really nice
You saved her life holy crap
Thank you for doing that. You saved her life. I hope she's doing better now.
A couple years ago, I was around 14, I was on a discord server when I noticed someone asking for venting, I won't get into details but he was on the brink of pulling the trigger, I stayed up for 11 hours I think just talking to him. He's now in a university, good friends and a better attitude. Not the only one I saved, I usually go off of my own experiences but never compare myself with them. Life will always get better, Helping others is as important as taking care of yourself. ♥️
Had to look up this video recently because, being 14 too, 2 people started showing depressed feelings in 2 different servers in the span of 1 week. They're fine now, but im not taking my eye off those situations for some time now...
I was at the beach late one night writing when I met a man who was on his way to the top of the condo beside us to leap off. I asked him why he wanted to do that and we talked for hours, he ended up writing me a song that night about meeting an angel on the beach that saved his life. Afterwards he went home to his sister's house, and did not jump, at least not that night. He just needed someone to care, and to listen even a stranger. I didn't know him, but I always hoped he went for help like we talked about.
People are afraid of those who have 'mental issues'. My boyfriend told me his issues after we met. He thought I would be afraid to love him. I am not. Personally I have always been hurt by those who have mental issues but don't realize it. I would much rather be with someone who does know and is actively seeking counseling and help.
So true
Ya same. I'm too afraid to approach someone bc of the feeling of being rejected or responding in a rude way.
@@Ace_03years ago I used to be too. But then I realized, I didn't know them so what do I care if they don't want to talk? I did what I felt was right by offering, and that was what was important to me. Always listen to your gut, if you feel it isn't safe then don't, but
what my teacher taught me years ago was that you don't have to do anything except show up and be willing. All I ask people sometimes 'are you ok?' If they want help, they will talk. If the say go away, ok no problem. Sometimes people just need someone to listen to them and a stranger is easier to talk to sometimes. At least they know someone cared enough to ask. Sometimes they talk, sometimes they don't. I went from horribly shy to my profession (20+ years as a natural healing practitioner, life coach and massage therapist) that helped me. Now I am used to asking the right questions to get them to talk, if that is what they want.
@@teripage3314 Btw thanks for sharing part of your story. I wish I could meet you in real life and talk to you in person.
@@Ace_03 well I live in Kentucky, but we have on line 🙂
I am suicidal, but i have a suicidal friend, and we made a bet. Whoever lives longer, dont have to go to therapy. He becomes less and less suicidal each day, and I'm here to support him, he's here to support me. It's so good to have someone who really knows what I'm going throught
Hm i should try that
That is the coolest ideea ever 😃
@@marymochizuki8436 ikr
you're both very lucky to have each other's back. I hope both of you have a very long and happy lives.
@@isaachall9473 That's not funny. Don't say that.
You have no idea how enraged I feel when someone discards suicidal tendencies for selfishness, whether it's true or not.
Some ppl really do this as a manipulative thing tho. .. So, u prob gotta forgive humans in general bc ppl dont always know what to look out for? Ppl rnt all the same. My ahhh, its complicated. My fiance... hes got tons of issues. I've gone through every route I could think of on my own. And I tried turning to yt. And I also told him he needs help. Actual professional help. Hes trying to stay clean, & he's taking something for his anxiety, so, 🤷♀️ that is pretty monumental for him. Its just easy to get frustrated w/ him. I think anyone outside prob has all the answers in the world but they also don't know what its like dealing w/ him so much. Honestly sometimes I lowkey hate his fam. Bc I know they have a huge part in his horrible personality :/. I def put him through some obstacles. But if I mean sh. to him, then he needs to simma the hell down. Its pitiful how they've raised a "man" into this world. I know his mom has come back around and she's trying. She has a breakdown pretty much everytime we see her. So, u can tell she has lots of remorse. But I can tell, shes fd up his vision of what loves supposed to be like. All the dad does is depend on ppl like a child, still continues to f up, & then blame the mom for not being there. But hes only there bc he doesn't stop depending on ppl. I mean that man's like a hunded :/ stays at his s.dads from time to time. If not there, is w/ his ex wife's dad. So, its always been way more convenient for him to run his mouth... same thing goes for his grandkid. In short,short, thinks the world revolves around him.. just like the son... & just like the son, hes "suicidal." Just like the moms mentioned... As a female, I feel a little ashamed to ask for help. So I always thought it was way more of a macho thing to be like that even worse, for males. Full of pride. But nope, not his dad. Dude has no shame whatsoever. Like let alone, less of a man, does he not feel less of a person. You don't actually get to have all the excuses in the world, lame ass. I've def told his dad to grow up to his face. But anyways, yes, I completely think he does things for attention. It can be excessive. Also, not gonna even lie. I completely tell him its selfish. And if im manipulative... then dont think I wont get creative w/ my words. Bc if he truly wuved me, then he wouldn't off himself. And other crazy puzzling weird things like that. 🤷♀️ I mean... apparently it works!
Thank you. It's important to validate people's experiences and feelings.
@@Psych2go My online friend is suicidal and i still don't know what to do because they're so far away what do i do
Try calling and talking.
@@aubrey1698 i did
I'm suicidal and have been since 10 it's getting way worse as life goes on. I am not very old and have not had it for long cause I'm in middle school yet. If your reading this, I just want to let you know that you matter. It may not be easy but your getting through it so keep it up as long as you can. If I can battle through it, I know you can and it makes me happy to know that there are people my age going through the same thing (not saying any of you reading are my age I mean you might be but that's not the point) the point I you matter and I and lots of others feel and experience what your going through and look at where we are now. Alive. I hope I made at least one persons day and this made my night alot better. It can be hard to tell someone what your going through an I also have trouble with that. Your not alone and I and everyone else care for you. Keep it up your doing great and NEVER GIVE UP! peace ❤✌🏻
You too! Never give up! You are an amazing person! Love yourself always💝 You are so strong! Sending you a lot of strength to go ahead! 💖🌌 Live happily forever💙
As someone who has also been through this at a similar age keep going!
@@NyxTheRandomPerson keep going on! Love yourself
thank you. im in the seventh grade and I have been suicidal since i was also ten. i plan to end my life today but after reading this comment im contemplating whether i should or not
what a huge lie. people die all the time and no one ever cares. just tell them to do a flip when they end it. If you gotta go at least make it noteworthy.
never say “think about what i would feel” or “think about what your family would feel”. because that’s guilt tripping and selfish. someone’s pain is more important than your own happiness.
Imma be honest with you
Sometimes it is the only thing you can do to keep them alive in that moment
Its like reminding them theres people there that care, that will hurt if they die
It depends on the wording for sure, but it may be the only thing to get that person through the day
@@laddumb698 hmmm it depends, but on bad suicidal cases, they won’t really care anymore, because of the pain, nothing really matters anymore. i know that bc i was suicidal before too. what you can do tho, is be there for them. instead of saying those insensitive things, you can say “i may not fully understand what you are going through, but i will be with you all the way” trust me it helps
@@stier7587 i know that
It just varies from person to person i guess
I mean when im at my worst, i talk myself out of it by saying how upset other people would be
Im sure im not the only one like me so😅
But yes i understand what you mean
It all comes down to the individual person
but if they are toxic parent did we just think or risk our life for them?they just want us to died
@@coral1234 in most cases of toxic parents, they keep giving you so much pressure to fulfil their unrealistic expectations, and most of the time, gaslighting. they gaslight you and gaslight you until you just keep bottling up your emotions and end up breaking in the long run. if ever any of you have toxic parents, i am so sorry for that kind of treatment. no child deserves to grow up in a toxic environment.
One time when I had someone step in when I was suicidal was when I was couch-surfing in Denmark. I was feeling very lonely, to the point where I was considering jumping from the balcony of the apartment I was house-sitting at. On the worst day of my ordeal, one of my friends called me up and asked if I wanted to come over. During the visit it came out just how bad of a state I was in. He didn't feel right leaving me alone, so arrangements were made for someone else to take over house-sitting, and I stayed for a few days with my friend. He took very good care of me during that time, and made sure that I knew that I wasn't alone and that I mattered. What he did is why I'm still alive today.
I wish I had friends.
Thank you Heather for sharing. You have a wonderful friend who cares for you. Thank you for being here.
@@Psych2go what if i said i had no friends and i try many times suicide attempts
@@thunderrusher7186ok this a late reply but I have no Friends either I have had 3 "Friends" but turns out they were Fake,I have suicidal thoughts sometimes but theres no way i could comit suicide cuz i have nothin to do it with.maybe thats good tho 😢
I would negotiate with myself by saying that I wouldn’t do it right now, I would wait for a few months, and if it didn’t get better, THEN I would do it. I did that over and over and over again, and it’s been 2 years and I’m finally happy again :)
I wanted to commit suicide but I was afraid of how painful that would be..
I'm so happy for you! Hope you will always be happy :)
I did the same , but the idea of suicide is still freeing to me . Whenever I felt stuck , with no way out no help no light i would tell myself that if things didn't get better then I will free myself . That always brought me some comfort that I wouldn't have to be trapped for years , in a few days things would get better and i would gain sanity back .
If you're dependent on different circumstances to be happy, you would never find true happiness. You start to be truly happy when you enjoy even just the smallest things in life.
Also, I'm glad you're happy again.
"you should TREAT yourself now!
you serve ALL purpose
your life is EVERYTHING"
-HighTierHuman
🌤👩🌤
@@Kleinshootilebron james
@@guh69you are my sunshine
@@LftardedMY ONLY SUNSHINE 🌚
@@Raiden0944you made me happy
For anyone struggling, I offer you a hug, my softest blanket and whatever your comfort food is. I love you all and hope you know you do matter, you are amazing and you deserve all the good things.
Food aint taste the same when one is depressed but it offers a little bit of comfort. Drinks are better a little bit.
Lies. Lies. Lies.
Thx that actually does feel better
Thank you for the kind support and message.
@@Psych2go those are literally empty platitudes
I’ve thought about suicide as an idea, but I never thought about actually doing it. I have a small case of depression and a HUGE case of anxiety, so your channel really helps me. I have a cousin who used to have suicidal thoughts. I was at a party at her house and walked by her room. I saw her curled up on her bed, telling herself that she was a bad person. My heart dropped when I witnessed this. I ran outside to tell my aunt about it, and they talked. A couple of days later, she found out that I saw her. She thanked me for telling her mom and now she doesn’t think about that stuff anymore. I’m really glad that she’s ok. And for anyone who is having these thoughts, you have a purpose. You deserve to live. If you die, you’ll miss out on amazing opportunities. I hope you all have a good day/night! ❤️
Same, I’m not exactly depressed and all that but I’m just disappointed with my life In General and 90% of me is just anxiety and loneliness, hoping itl go away later in life but lol idk
I have ADD anxiety and depression and only one teacher has taken time to actually understand ADD she helped me through some shit and ... I have wanted to kill myself for as long as I can remember my past thoughts I have never told anyone about it until this comment the thoughts about my family falling apart without me alive has kept me alive thank you for listening.
hello other me
My life just feels like it's fall apart. My family is mad at me, my grades are going down, and I'm beginning to hate my only friends. im really struggling because of my severe autism... why continue life when it's only struggles and it's not changing whatever I do it never is not now, not later, I am becoming more suicidal every week. I want to drink alcolhol to forget it forger my struggles and just pois3n myselfes
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I don’t know if this is just me but I never like to talk about my mental health with friends or family. Even though deep down I would really need to have a conversation about my suicidal thoughts with them, the last thing I want to do is burden them with my problems. I also feel kind of ashamed for having these thoughts. Idk why but it’s kinda like a feeling of embarrassment ig? It’s hard to explain but yeah. Thanks for reading this if u did.
This makes sense. I imagine you love and care about them and this is why you don't want to "burden" them. I don't know your friends or family, so I don't know how they are, but I believe at least some of them are completely willing to help you however they can.
And this is another idea. If you feel embarrassed or concerned about telling them everything, maybe you can ask them to simply help you find a therapist or to give you a ride there, without having to disclose everything at once. Then later you can decide what they need to know, and they realize that you are also getting help from a professional. They will feel more at ease knowing someone else is also helping you, and knowing specific ways they can help. Speaking from my experience, at least. You can decide what you prefer.
My best wishes for you, Irene!
I also find it difficult to disclose my feelings to my family.
I too, dislike telling my problems to the people whom I know and love. I thought that it would cause them more trouble. There were times where I needed to calm myself down and a personal diary is very helpful for that.
I still have my diary with me although it’s full of negative vents but that doesn’t matter, what mattered is that it had helped me through my struggles despite having no one to talk to.
It’s completely normal to feel this way and you don’t have to be ashamed about it. Mental health is a growing problem nowadays and shouldn’t be ignored.
If possible, you may want to consider a therapist to help in aiding you or maybe a diary could help as well. 😅 Everyone has a different approach in tackling their own problems so please do what you think is best for you. 👍
Yeah. Recently I opened up a bit to a friend and "no one cares if you need therapy ju" so that's outta the way. I dont wanna burden my other friend, my best friend, because she's moving to another country and I'm honestly ashamed of having these thoughts but not being able to actually harm myself. I keep telling myself that I should get help and stop believing I'm just going through some edgy phase, like the friend who told me nobody cared I needed therapy said I didn't have therapy 2 years ago. And I had no way of knowing if I actually did have depression or not since I barely looked at the symptoms. So I like to believe these past 2 years are just some weird edgy phase that I won't need my parents to discover about in order to get better..
My sister died from suicide just recently and now im having this thought of extreme sadness. And im afraid of talking it to them
a thunderbolt flashes outside while your watching this video, you feel like you dont have a good feeling about this.
@Shsbshdkamwnsj You mean High level
As someone who has a lot of depressed friends, i almost started crying multiple times during this video because it reminds me of so many of my friends. I'm glad i found that channel so i can learn how to help them
Please take care of yourself too✨❤️
You're a very empathetic person, it's good to see that you see your friends and not just yourself. But remember to take care of yourself too
This is such a wholesome comment section and I love it ✨. Where was this side of the internet when I was growing up…
There are some benefits to not having friends. One of them is, I know nobody depressed, save myself. Depressed people should not be around one another, regardless of what group therapists say. Depression feeds upon itself. With more depressed people together, they will never feel relief. With an ever growing multitude of depressed people, there are more depressed people than those not depressed, due to the current condition of society. Thus, I chose not to risk meeting anybody else depressed. To assure this, I simply deleted the social aspect of my life. This does not help my depression. However, it assures it does not get worse. Social isolation is probably the best thing a depressed person can do. It also build self-reliance, strong independence, resourcefulness, and resiliency. Since the depression does not get worse, using my method, I quit the antidepressant drugs. The withdrawal and detoxification was brutal. But it was not making me any less depressed anyway. Today, there are no drugs flowing through me, not even caffeine. The depression is manageable. But if I let anybody into my life, that barely manageable depression could collapse into crippling depression. Thus, I maked sure I will not make friends with anybody.
Don’t throw away your life dude, talk to a mental doctor
When someone commits suicide, other people around her/him may end up getting depressed and end up wanting do it too😕
I had a friend who was a victim of suicide. They always bottled up their emotions and i was too stupid to notice the signs, i miss them so much. I wish I could've helped them with their struggles. Thank you so much for this video, suicide needs more awareness.
hey I can relate to that feeling you know you wish you could have done more but honestly I failed to save my friend and I feel awful cause it was my fault
its not your resposibility to make them feel better, nor was it your fault. if you feel bad about not noticing then take this as a learning experience and try to pay attention more in the future.
@@lukecohen9833 its not your 'job' to save someone, it was their decision to end it all. dont feel bad about it please even if i dont know everything behind the scenes. :)
@@mintyisfresh no, not a job, but id rather have my ass tied sky high to my floor than just walk away and say "eh not my problem not my job oh well"
hey I hide and bottle it all up and I regert it it kills me and it will
As a former suicidal, I can confirm those signs are on point. Self-deprecating humor is also a sign that someone is considering killing themselves.
I didn't have anyone with me when I was on the verge of killing myself. The only reason I didn't go through with it was because I didn't have the guts to do it.
Today I'm alright, just a little depressed, but I'll be okay on my own.
hi ik it may be working for u but it kinda sounds like ur shoving those feeling down yk? ik this may sound repetitive but if u haven’t it truly helps to talk to sumbody abt it
I'm ngl i would retether kill my self than commit Suicide. 😭😭😭😭😭😂😂
I don’t know you but I’m so happy you aren’t suicidal anymore
@@hugs3385 Thank you so much :)
@Felipe Azevado I hope you are ok now. God cares about you. My only hope is in Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who came to die for our sins so we could be free.
Otherwise I don't have any hope here.
I wish you all the best.
Theres two type of comments in this video:
1. Actual advice
2. 👨🏿⚡👨🏿🌩️
So you're saying there's one type of comments?
@@arthurcallahan1863He's out of line, but he's right.
Bruv @@arthurcallahan1863
@@arthurcallahan1863 Theres two. The second one is from people who have seen the lowteirgod meme under this video
@@lexionplayz563the joke is that low tier god also counts as advice
I've died many times in my imagination :")
Actually, me too by suicide
Edit: Wow, this is actually the first time that I receive so much likes, thanks to y’all guys. ❤️💋❤️💋❤️💋❤️💋❤️💋
same
Me too
Me in my favorite video game 😂
oh my, are y'all alright? need to talk to someone or something?
I have struggled with depression since 6th grade and just recently started to take pills and go to therapy. About 7 months ago, I had a knife to my chest at almost 2am. My mom has dealt with depression so I called her on messenger and she was downstairs within maybe a minute. We cuddled on the kitchen floor as I cried and afterward to cheer me up she turned on disney movies and made me my favorite food, best mom ever! 😊
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for helP
you need to believe my friend. God said....
It is He who sent down tranquillity into the hearts of the believers that they would increase in faith along with their [present] faith. And to Allah belong the soldiers of the heavens and the earth, and ever is Allah Knowing and Wise
@@oneunitednation1543 sorry but I don't find the "God" stuff helpful. I've had bad experiences with religion and I'm an atheist.
I don't mean to ruin the mood, but I wanna share that my mom is the reason I cant recover :( she makes me feel like I'm a failure even if I'm trying so hard..
But your mini story time was so sweet
@@shizuu9710 same, she's the reason why I am depressed, she is toxic and never compromises with me, also I told her that I am lgbtq+ but she replied me with "INTERNET HAS SPOILED YOU, DON'T TOUCH THAT DAMN PHONE EVER AGAIN" in fact, internet is the only place where I feel valid, worthy and secure
and also I sometimes tell her to compromise a bit but she says "don't argue,(taunting) you're gonna make us famous and everybody's gonna gonna use you as an example" (she meant that children should be respectful)
I am just waiting to die
As a person who thinks about suicide, the only tip I have for anyone who is in this situation is:
never force anyone to talk to you at all times, especially people with depression. One of the reasons I got worse over time was the psychological pressure I have to answer my friends
But when i want to try and understand how they feel to be able to help them, how do i approach the questions without pressuring them? Thank you for sharing what you have for everyone and stay strong
@@warqaanizar2527 "How are you doing today\this week? Maybe I could do [Thing], if not, that's totally okay, and remember I'll always be here for you, even if you just want a hug." Idk if this is any good
@@confusedghost9320 So what I need to do is act like I don't know they have suicide so that they wouldn't feel stressed about someone knowing,right?
And then,say something like
"How are you today?",
"I hope you are having a nice day!",
right?
If they show a sign that means they don't want to talk to me,do I leave them alone for the entire day or do something about it?
@@confusedghost9320 And when they seem to be in a good mood, do I let them enjoy the moment and don't approach them?
its really hard to keep going when people who dont understand worsen your condition
My best friend committed suicide exactly 3 months ago; when I saw this I immediately started to cry
Oh my god sorry for you loss brother 😢
I'm sorry bro I hope you're feeling alright 🤕
@@ProximaCentauri-vy2po how you felt writing that: OMG THIS IS GONNA BE SO FUNNY BRO
and it turned out that you are a scumbag who binge watches quandale memes
@@ProximaCentauri-vy2po and your heart shrunk 5x smaller
@@ProximaCentauri-vy2po you are a jerk, do you not understand what death feels like to close friends?
I’m still a kid, but aspire to be a therapist, not for the money, not for the common job, not for the rep, or anything crazy. Psychology, and seeing someone grow… it’s my purpose in this world.
I'm proud of you kiddo, you will be a great therapist someday ❤
That sounds like an incredible ambition. Keep that optimism and you will be one of the greatest therapists in the world.
Very proud of you, The world needs more of you, I hope you have a happy and peaceful life too!!♥️🫂
Sounds awesome, and you make alot of money to just talk to a depressed person
Same, I think it's a really amazingly interesting subject, plus I could help people, may it be strangers or my friends and family. And I wanna understand depression more, so that I can help my brother who struggles with it
My brother just died 2 days ago.. And all of the signs you've discuss in this video is accurate... Thank you for this video, now I know how to talk to people who shows these signs.. However it's too late for my brother.....
I'm so sorry for your loss
Hey, I'm sorry and I know your brother loves you a lot. You are still connected with him. He's with you. His soul is with you. I just want you to know that he loves you and don't worry he is out there somewhere, maybe next to you. You just can't see him. His soul will love and remember you forever and he will forever be alive in your heart.
Where the same
My sincerest condolences. I know that there's nothing I can say that will stop the pain instantaneously but know that you are not alone in your pain and you, yourself, have much to offer. Hoping the days get easier for you
Hey bro dont blame urself for it ok?
I’ve saved about 3 people from committing suicide and I’ve helped someone save another. I had no idea what I was doing and I was lucky that none of them ended up going through with it. This video helped out a lot. Thank you.
What did you actually tell them,or talk to them?
My friend and I saved another friend from committing before, now I wish we could save him from SWEARING LITERALLY EVERY SECOND OF THE DAY LIKE HOLY CRAP
I've helped 3(?) people as well, but it was over text because we live so far apart. I broke like 3 of the rules because I never knew them before now, but thank God it still worked. I just told them how much they meant to me, that I cared a lot for them, that they could do it, etc etc.
Its hard to support somebody when it emotionally crushes you as well, but I'm glad I was able to help somebody in need. I'm still great friends with one of them, and we hang out and talk about random shit all the time 😂
Did you save them or force them to stay in this godforsaken loop?
@@Northstar54 God made it in the first place, I don’t think it’s,”God foresaken” or really that bad at all.
TREAT YOURSELF NOW!
YOUR LIVE ITS EVERYTHING
I feel like this might be the most important video you’ve posted. (Though I don’t know where I’d be without psychological tips from this hard work.)
That’s why I immediately clicked on this video because I want to help people who are going through this in there life
@Jennifer Smith I can understand your point, but goal isn't to shut them in mental hospital, but to help them see life is worth living. For people with depression there is therapy and medicine. If they still want to die after this all, I get it. You want to give'em choice, but it's very important to make sure they understand everything in both options. I hope you understand what I mean and also sorry for all mistakes in my writing. If you want you can give me some feedback what do you think now.
It’s def with the “signs that someone is suicidal” video. It was great.
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It is the most important post so far
No one actually helps beyond the suicidal episode and that's the problem; You're not a hero for helping someone during *one* episode. You're only a hero if you stay and actually do something and are willing to pay the money or life forwards or to show you have faith in them. Once you've been suicidally depressed long enough, people stop caring.
That’s not even remotely true no doubt the people who don’t care yeah they’ll stop caring but the people who are always constantly in your life care about you and they never stop
I’ve been there myself there are people who care but the people who don’t you don’t have to engage with them you can cut them out of your life if you want to
So True 😞
Yes, I agree but sometimes. If you notice they completely put no effort to stop for a long time then, I say no. They should try a little!
I have been suicidally depressed ever since I was 11 years old. People stop caring after you've tried to kill yourself multiple times because they think you're just acting out or causing a scene. I personally won't stop trying to commit suicide until I am successful. Life is lonely and full of negativity and negative people, who love to mistreat others. Especially when they are depressed.
2:08 Recognise the signs
3:01 Ask them how they are
3:21 Ask specifically about suicide
3:55 Stay with them
5:07 Keep them safe & remove harmful items
5:40 Acknowledge their feelings are legitimate
6:06 Repeat their words back to them in your own way
6:33 Empathise with them
6:43 Encourage them to focus on getting through today
7:16 Identify a Hook
8:05 Offer Support & Hope
8:50 Don't minimise their problems or Say anything judgemental
9:13 Help them develop a safety plan
10:31 Follow-up
Thx, and for exchange this is for you 👑
@@iamquestioning2195 Aww thank you so much ^^ I hope you are doing well 🌸
@@petralinn same to you, God bless.
Good human
@@iamquestioning2195 You're awsome I hope both of you are doing well❤
i hate how my mind whenever someone talks about suicide or self harm just goes immediatly uncomfortable and wanting to leave instead of helping them. Thank you for making this video
also the comments in here are actually so sad i hope yall live a better life and have a very great day today with no wet socks, the cold side of the pillow, your cereal and milk there and a lot of fortunes in life. pls remember your a amazing person who many people love and your worth it
I wish I could have known these sooner. When I was in secondary school, there was a friend suffering family troubles so she wanted to kill herself to end this pain forever. At that time, I thought that she was crazy.
Years later, when I experienced more pains in life, I realized that if we have never been in that situation, we would never understand how painful it must feel. So it is important to acknowledge and respect their feelings before we want to do st to help.
I also realize that there are more people thinking about suicide than we think. They may not tell you that but there can be some signals. If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does
"If there is anything you can help, just do it. Even when all you can do is to stay with them, keep an eye on them, listen to them... Because you might be the ONLY one who does" _And..._ no one still does it. Ever. No one cares.
SUCH BEAUTIFUL WORDS…
2:08 1 recognize the signs
3:03 2 ask them how they are
3:20 3 ask specifically about suicide
3:55 4 stay with them
5:06 5 keep them safe; remove harmful items
5:40 6 acknowledge their feelings are legitimate
6:03 7 repeat the words back to them in your own way
6:21 8 empathize with them
6:42 9 encourage them to focus on getting through 'today'
7:14 10 identify a hook
8:05 11 offer support and hope
8:49 12 don't minimize their problems
9:14 13 help develop a safety plan
10:32 14 follow up
11:17 outro
Thank you
Thanks ^^
Pin plz
That’s... something I never knew could be helpful until I see it
Thanks
There is a friend of mine i actually saved from a really possible suicide, he was so stressed and sad with his life to the point where he cut his arm 3 times, gladly the wounds weren't too deep or lethal, so i got him to treat them, then stayed and listen to anything he had to say while comforting him. 2 weeks later there was barely any signs of suicide and started to see hope of finding someone to love, i told him there would be someone soon and precisely it happened the next month, he found a beautiful girl that understood and made him show his emotions, making him cry for the first time. Nowadays they both are a happy couple(and just a tiny bit active if u get what i mean) that makes each other happy.
Thank you for being there for him. There are so many people like that that are lost to the world forever because nobody was there for them. Nothing makes me happier than seeing a broken soul find happiness. You are a true hero.
Glad your friend is in a much happier/safer state of mind. :)
This is really a good story.
Aww that's a good ending🤗
@@ぎrlsせxy Shut up bot
i’m glad that without even watching this video i’ve used number eleven to encourage the person i love and help them through rough spots
I like the rose thorns around the hand. It's a good representation that people helping the suicidal have lots of weight on there shoulders and will probably be scarred in some way after all is said and done
@I Am Sorry. So glad to hear you're doing better now, I belive in you, you can get through this tough time. Keep going and please don't ever lose hope for today, tomorrow or any other day. Remember about the people you love, they're here for you. Sending best wishes :)
@@ぎrlsせxy Dude go somewhere else, this is not the right place for these type of jokes.
no it's just hermit purple
Well, I'm hoping that the pain is worth it anyway, you know...? Hell, I kind of hate it when people say that normal people that don't have depression don't owe the depressed person anything... I mean, yeah, I guess I kind of get it if the depressed person is needy and demanding of them, forcing themselves on to them, but I mean, when they put it like that, I can't help but feel like their saying that they don't care about people even if they might be depressed enough to want to die, because they got all these other... negative traits beyond just their depression, and well... that kind of really hurts to hear...
It's not always easy to be less than just depressed... It's easy to have it make you feel other negative things too...
I wish I had someone care about me even with my inner demons... Haven't found anyone like that though, I just ended up scaring everyone off and having myself be called the monster...
Heh... funny... Sigh, bastards...
... At least I tried...
@@indigowendigo8165 Most people are willing to help in their own way, the problem is that most of them don’t know how. As someone who constantly helps people with their mental issues, it can be really draining and worrying sometimes, but honestly, I feel it’s worth it. You shouldn’t be afraid of seeking help, there’s probably someone you trust that can offer support and love, but as far as it goes, I’d advice to seek professional help too, since there’s so much a person without education can do, and a doctor will know of things your friend don’t.
(I’m sorry if it’s hard to understand, English isn’t my first language lol)
NOW is the time to help someone suicidal, you should help someone NOW! 🌩🌩🌩🌩🌩🌩
You seen the clips?
@matthewsoficial8941 I am suicidal
To whoever reads this,
i love you
i love your smile
i love your laugh
i love your personality
i love your hair (or lack thereof)
i love your insecurities
i love your accomplishments
i love your failures
i love your eyes
i love your beauty
i love your handwriting (or the way you communicate)
i love the way you dance
i love you on your happy days
i love you on your sad days
i love you on the days you feel lonely
i love you on the days you feel helpless
i love you on the days you feel like no one cares
i love you on the days you feel forgotten
i love you on the days you feel unmotivated
i love you on the days you feel loved
i love you on the days you feel sick
i love you on the days you feel motivated
i love you on the days you feel depressed
i love you on the days you feel stresses
i love you on the days you feel crazy
i love you on the days you feel hopeful
i love you on the days you feel cuddly
i love you on the days you feel clingy
i love you on the days you feel amazing
i love you on the days you feel beautiful
i love you on the days you feel like a failure
i love you on the days you feel angry
i love you on the days you feel aggressive
i love you on the days you feel horrible
i love you on the days you feel safe
i love you on the days you feel unsafe
i love you on the days you feel vulnerable
i love you on the days you feel weird
i love you on the days you feel ok
i love you when you're healthy
i love how you sing (or hum or feel the music)
i love your taste in music
i love your taste in movies
i love your taste in tv shows
i love the way you move
i love the way you act
i love you when you cry
i love you when you're kind
i love you when you're mean
i love you when you're alone
i love you when you can't feel
i love you when you feel too much
i love you when you can't take life anymore
i love you when you feel like it's too much
i love you when you're asleep
i love you when you have nightmares
i love you when you have dreams
i love how you believe
i love you when you believe in yourself
i love you when you don't believe in yourself
i love you when you hate yourself
i love you when you love yourself
i love the way you think
i love you problems
i love your solutions
i love how you support
i love you when you're in pain
i love you when you're hurt
i love your promises
i love your secrets
i love your attitude
i love you sass
i love your creativity
i love your voice (or lack thereof)
i love you hand gestures
i love your stories
i love your wounds
i love your scars
i love your face
i love your past
i love your future
i love your present
i love your outfits
i love your style
i love your art
i love your honesty
i love you when you lie
i love you when you're tired
i love you when you're energetic
i love how you look
i love how you cook
i love you when you're adventurous
i love you when you're scared
i love your imperfections
i love your perfections
i love you when you worry
i love you when you talk (or communicate)
i love your opinions
i love you when you have a headache
i love you when you have a stomach ache
i love you when you help others
i love you when you need help
i love you when you're mature
i love you when you're immature
i love you in the hard times
i love you in the easy times
i love you when life is meh
i love you when you're responsible
i love you when you're irresponsible
i love you when you fight
i love you in your darkest moments
i love you in your brightest moments
i love your heart
i love you in the day
i love you in the night
i love you at midnight
i love you at 3 am
i love you at all times
i love you at your best
i love you at your worst
i love the little things you do
i love all of you
i love you when you're you
i love 𝙮𝙤𝙪.
From the stranger on the internet who loves you :)
(this is for anyone who needs it like i do a lot of the time and i hope it helped)
You mean helping a person commit suicide💀
@@YourFriendlyneighborhood-gf9xoand I love you hon
I know I’m late but the only reason I’m alive today is because I made a pact with another suicidal friend of mine. We both agreed that neither one of us is allowed to hurt or kill ourselves until the other died, and the determination to keep each other safe ultimately protected us. We each sought help and found ways to cope because despite all that was weighing on us we cared enough about each other to hold on for each other’s sakes. Now a few years later my suicidal thoughts are almost completely gone, I’ve begun to transition to my true gender and I have the strength and experience to support others when they struggle with mental health. And as for my friend, they’re still with me and they’re in a much better spot than they had ever thought possible. It really does something when you have someone you can lean on and when you have someone you want to stick around for.
hey I wish that could that could happen but my best friend killed herself and now I don't want to live I'm glad that you and your friend are in a better place quick question what are your pronouns?
I once took a life and I still hear the voices asking me if I enjoyed it or regret it
@@bruintjesuus Shit, man...
If it's okay to ask, what led to you taking that life?
I have this same kind of built in pact with my mom. We both are suicidal but we are each others will to live. Honestly with out her I don’t have a reason to work or do anything. Life is just so pointless to both of us so everything we do is for the other person. And it’s not toxic we don’t like threaten each other, we just understand the reality of how we feel about living in general
Someone in this comment section stopped me from committing suicide I don’t know who you are but I owe my life to you. You saved me that day and i still think about you
14: Don't be disappointed by a lack of immediate results. If you've invested in a person, it can feel disappointing to not see them turn around towards health quickly. Just remember, it took a lot of beating down for them to reach this point, so it will likely take a lot of support and/or time to come back. A flower doesn't grow immediately no matter how much it's watered, especially one that's withered; but with proper attention and care, every flower will be able to bloom on its own.
Just, please, please don't give up on it while waiting.
Bro my mom always say focus on your health and study but when i got worse or average result she always told me about things like i have very much depreesed thisnis not but in my health she always tolds that plzzz recover your body before someone joke on your face and no one is yours okkk.... Only that i cant regret myself but yesss i try to work hard daily for that but sometimes i study and and more focus on my face but my mom always say you are bieng bad by your face and watever she says this affect in my brain heart and nowww on straight today i regreteddd all my parents doing for me i need sucideeeeee😭😭😭but this video....tolddd meee bro
@@Jeonkook99-77 You got this
"YOU'RE GONNA STAY ON MY DICK UNTIL YOU DIE!"
@@Jeonkook99-77my username is r3tr1
As someone who aspires to become a therapist friend but also needs one, this comment is comforting. I already knew that, but somehow I just now actually realized that there's still hope. I'll think about this whenever I feel down, thanks!
This sound cliche but the thought of failing to save others is a terrible feeling for me. I never want to let my friends/family succumb to suicide so this vide helps me to help prevent that.
this how i be feeling all the time
cuz i feel like i don’t have the right words to say to them to reassure them
I can understand you homie... It really does feel terrible if you fail to save someone from such circumstances... But if you tried your best, then you're never the one to be blamed yk... ♡
You do the best you can, but you are probably not a professional and can't be expected to know exactly the right things to say or do. Even if you do everything you can based on the best practices, it may not work to prevent a suicide. I would watch the video several times, but keep in mind it's never your fault.
As someone who has talked several people off the ledge, sometimes you just gotta hear them out. None of the cheesy cliches work in that moment. Just hear them out, remind them of why you love them, and tell them you’re here and listening.
And that doesn't work either when it's just not true...
you dont know how well this worked.im so happy,i saved my friends life
thank you
I've found the phrase "no feeling is final" extremely powerful
Oh Lord, it might be true... But how long a feeling can last!🙁😔
I cried watching this.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
I am too dead inside to even feel anything anymore
Same tho, worts part is that i was in the bus to school ;~;
It's okay bud
@@draglide2912 Please keep going, you're strong and I believe you can get through this. Remember that no matter what might be going on right now, everything may always change for the better. Reach out to people you trust if you ever feel the need to talk to someone, and if you need it we're all here for you ready to listen. sending support your way!
*support incoming* :)
was planning to do it at 14 when i was 13, told myself ill do anything that might make me feel alive even if a short moment, I'll give life a chance.. I turned 19 last month, things still feel hard but atleast I'm still here.
great job bro
try to practice sports, physical activities, it will give joy and pleasure to always be well. read more, avoid violent or depressing things. things will work out little by little, the important thing is to believe and never give up.
Very proud
Hope ur better
💗
why was there a lightning strike right when I clicked on this video…
It's fate I guess😂
Same i clicked on this video and then i see a black guy in the window, i live in 11 floor.
It's for setting the *SCENERY*
I have had a few friends with suicidal thoughts and what I find interesting here is that a lot of this advice are stuff I've done subconsciously without realising it. I've never really been completely suicidal myself but depression is something I've had to deal with ever since my early teens. A lot of the time I just say what I would want others to tell me when I'm at my worst,I'm ironically really bad at reaching out for help but helping those people sometimes helps me ground my own self in figuring out what to do.
I just suck at taking my own advice :/
My words. I have nothing to add.
💗💔
Same.
I can't say it in a better way
Exactly
This is exactly me. I haven’t been suffering depression though, just trust issues.
Hooks are absolutely so important! I was suicidal, and it took a long time to overcome those feelings. I was always reminded of my baby brother, my art, or even just my favourite places. Hearing that always made me reconsider. If I did die, I would never play with my brother, never draw another character, never see those places again. Reminding people what they would miss the most is important and so helpful.
@That clone trooper in the back on the high ground i don't really get what the joke is here, are you really making a jab at me under a comment about depression?
You could say something similar but about someone’s future,if they commit, they will never get the chance to be successful or have kids or a wife, etc. and, they will never be able to...
Be so utterly confused and disappointed at my bad jokes that they get more laughs out of making fun of it than the joke itself
Hell is the only thing keeping me from not being dead.
Me who has no hooks
@@IDKWHAT2NAMETHISS i don’t really have time to watch the video. when are u supposed to remind them of hooks? daily and organically in conversation?
At the beginning of 2021 I met an amazing girl online, I was so lonely and had no good friends before, but after meeting her everything changed. We became best friends and everything was good until we both started opening up about our mental health issues. I myself have considered and thought about suicide so many times, but I always knew that I'm too weak to actually harm myself and I was scared that if I survived, I would regret the consequences. Personally, I have so many reasons to live, but at the time when I'm facing a hard situation, I feel like living is not worth it anymore. Sometimes I think that I have depression, but later I just make myself think that I'm being too dramatic and overreact.
My friend also became a big reason for me to live, but the problem is that we both live too far away. When we got closer, she opened up about her depression and how much she's struggling with it. Just a few months ago a really bad day happened. We were both having a hard day and she wanted to talk out with me, but I was too busy. Later when I texted her again, she told me that she's trying to commit suicide. Back then I realized how useless I was because I wasn't there for her physically. I was so scared to lose her and I knew that I would never forgive myself. I kept trying to call her, talk with her and stop her. That was one of the worst days of my life. Somehow I managed to stop her and now we're both alive... Having a long-distance friendship is honestly so bad, especially when you're so close and you need each other physically. I wanted to hug her and tell her that she always has me and that I'll be with her no matter what happens. I knew that if only she didn't live on the other side of the world, it all would be different. Blaming distance also isn't a solution, but I wish I knew more ways to help her while being so far away. Whenever we talk now, I always ask how she is, let her know that I'm there for her, that she's not alone and has me. We got so close that she often says that I'm her only reason to live and I'm willing to do anything to help her. I hope no other person gets to experience a situation like this.
Everyone be safe and just know that you're not alone, there are so many reasons to live and if you don't want to live for yourself, live for someone else, someone who is precious to you. And even if you don't have a person like that in your life now, you can never know, maybe you'll meet that person very soon and it'll change your life. :)
My reason to live :
-My family
-My best friend
-BTS, Stray Kids, Enhypen, TXT, Ateez, Seventeen, Astro.
I know exactly how you feel..long distance sucks! and I hate it so much it makes me feel helpless>< You are a good friend and don't forget to take care of yourself
you are such an incredible friend, i hope I can help my friends this much. also, BTS is a great reason to live :))
It's scary how we had almost the same experience. I also met a online friend, back in summer last year. Compared to my current mental state, I wasn't really struggling much mentally back then. When I started to talking him, we quickly became friends and even a few days into our friendship, we were already opening up to each other about our own mental issues and past experiences. We supported each other all the time. Partly because he was a gamer, he didn't take care of himself enough so I often reminded him to get some sleep, eat, and drunk. For me, he helped me mend my friendship with my ex, a relationship that I felt guilty of ending but knew that it wasn't working for me. As the months passed, my online friend and I became even closer. We would call each other the light in our darkness and cheered the other up when we mentally break down. I even stopped him from harming himself again. Admittedly, he was the person I became the closest to, including my family and friends.
We deeply cared for each other but our story did not end well as yours did. We started to become distant, mostly because of me. I could say that the start of school was the only reason I became distant with him but I would be lying. I'm not exactly sure of the reasons why we were becoming distant but we eventually became distant to the point of talking only 2 or 3 times in a week. One very late school night, at 3 AM, which i was fortunately awake at the time,he messaged me out of nowhere, saying goodbye and he was going to commit suicide afterwards. I quickly went on and begged him to not do it, to not waste the life that changed me. But no matter how much I begged in text, no matter how much I cried, he still decided to go through it. He stopped texting me but eventually came back on, saying that he let an online coin flip generator decide whether he should commit suicide or not. Thankfully, it landed on the side to not do it but, just like you, I felt helpless.I had no power to stop him from considering suicide or even from harming himself. Even until now, I wish I was with him irl. All that happened afterwards was that he told me that he was sent to a rehab center after he tried committing suicide and shortly after, all his social media accounts were deleted. I don't even know if he still is alive today. ..
I couldn't help him at all. I felt like I abandoned him in the times he needed me the most. Until now, I blame myself for not doing the best I could to help him. I can't deny that I'm jealous that both of you are still good friends after everything that happened. I still continue to wish that we would still be friends...
To you and those reading this, cherish your dear friends and don't let them go. You'll never when they will leave you or if they are on the verge of leaving . Always check up on your friends. Don't become distant like I did. I can't genuinely say to live for someone else because there are people like me who abandons friends. However, the feeling of supporting someone and being supported definitely made me feel lighter.
I know I rambled a lot, but the point is: Find the right people to be by your side for a long time, if not forever. If u can't find anyone, be that person who will stay by someone's side. Your world will definitely change. Taking care of yourself including leaning on others :)
(TWT I don't even know if I'm making sense anymore )
@@montolia1118 Hey Jasmine, first of all i’m not that good in English but I hope you can understand me.
I wanted to tell you that you shouldn't feel guilty at all, I know it's hard for you to stop blaming yourself but it's not your fault.
I have been through something similar and I blamed myself a LOT but the truth is that we are humans and our capabilities are limited we can't be the superheroes we wanted to be for our beloved ones they should be willing to help themselves by their own we can only offer the support.
And sometimes we need a break for ourselves after spending so much energy with someone especially if we weren't aware that we are overwhelming ourselves
we distance ourselves from them AND THAT'S OKAY we need that.
This situation could be tricky.. Suddenly you might find yourself exhausted and overwhelmed..so don’t forget to take care of yourself, always remember that you can only give him your love and support and that's it you can’t save him and it’s not your responsibility.
Do the things you like more often such as drawing, singing, meditation or whatever it helps and it gives you the energy you need for this situations.
I hope your friend could get better soon, and take care of yourself first if you wanna help💗
So I'm not the only one who's too weak to harm myself?
I would say:
Your life is everything
You serve all purpose
You should treat yourself, now!
I like knives
HighRankHuman
3 Quotes to Live By:
1) "Don't compare yourself to someone else, compare yourself to your yesterday's self."
2) “You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending”
3) "Once you decide your lifes purpose, you will only have to pack one thing: "Your Heart."
Love from a small channel💙
Suicide doesn’t end the chances of life getting worse, it eliminates the possibility of it ever getting any better.
@@whitebeard5521 It does both. It eliminates any chances of it becoming anything.
@@PanRobak. agreed on this one
Except my yesterday's self is better than my today self
Not a soul, including my family and genuinely close friends took any chance at comforting me in my worst times. A few times in my life I had to take conscious decision to not cause any harm. Worst part is, I can't blame anyone, as I know my friends and family are genuine and ready to help with whenever, just not this topic as it seems to be surreal for everyday life. In this case you can only man up if you want to get through, I really hope to meet empathic people later in my life, but also I am very bad at meeting people so I am probably fcked anyway. Sorry I talked about myself too much here, it may be cringe but I had to get this off my chest
Hey if you want anyone to talk to I am here also if you have discord you can vent to me there. And I can understand with your family. I will say maybe try to talk to people on the internet as you commented now. For me at least I find it easier to talk to people online and not have to mask my emotions. But if you still don’t want to it’s fine take time to try stuff that you enjoy.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
I used to feel the same way, I am finally trying to mend the Social part into my Life.
I started smiling at myself in the mirror and talking to myself for fun and thinking about funny stuff or things that amused me that i could try for laughs or my imagination.
If that does not work for you i recommend weed edibles when you are of age, But don’t make it a habit.
Try to use it as a crutch or gradually get off it when you are comfortable or to save it for tough time moods occasionally.
Your not alone. This happened to me. The only reason that I'm probably alive is because I knew I would hurt others.
@@MoonlitBookworm73
You mean to say it effects/hurts others Feelings.
I do agree with you on that one.
As someone who has nobody, and has never really had anyone there for me, this video hit close to me, since i try to keep myself going but with every day that passes im slowly wondering why i should bother continuing.
Thank you, i love your videos and they help me understand myself a little bit more
Well there is positivity in having nobody you have yourself only yourself and you cant never betray yourself you will always be there for you
@@LPbyDavid I think that some people would enjoy to have someone to talk to and have by their side. Everyone is different.
Remember that your not alone....I'm with you too
Mate, I know it's tough. I know it may seem like there is no hope, no light at the end of the tunnel but just keep in mind that without darkness there is no light. Sometimes we need to step back from others or ask for a loving embrace from them. However you want to approach it mate, just remember that once you pull the trigger or slip into the rope you're missing out on a life, your life, your amazing sometimes hard life. I don't know if anyone will see this but if they do please, hold on and try to search for the light. . .
Good night/morning, God Bless!
I've thought things like that too, and it seemed so dark and couldn't find a purpose, well, I'm still trying to find one.. just remember you're not alone, we're going through it but you can choose what side u wanna see, the bright or the dark side of things, and once you understand that you can't control things happening but what your next steps are gonna be, you can then begin to change your point of view of the events, and thus your life
I’m being 100% straight here.
Few suicidal people have somebody who cares about them enough to stick by their side, watch them and care for them. If there is someone that will actually do that for them, that is wonderful!
What WILL happen? Well, a concerned person or a therapist will call emergency services to get the suicidal person “Help”. I am a medical professional. What help? It is just a perpetuated fantasy to make people feel like there’s something that can be done.
Now, if somebody has something like schizophrenia or another chemical imbalance and they need to be medicated and observed, then hospitalisation can absolutely work! But, for people who have been traumatised and have logically decided that they do not want to exist anymore, there is only more suffering when being shunted off to the psych hospital.
Even if you go in voluntarily, you will be put in the hospital where you will be treated like a criminal; a bunch of low paid techs, who’ve had three months training will be both indifferent and rude. Possibly even abusive. you will have your belongings taken away and won’t even be able to use a pen. You will be on a ward with junkies and people who may actually hurt you, Security is pretty loose when it comes to your safety there. You might get a 20 minute session in with bored doctor whom you may never see again. They’ll be five hours late for the one appointment you have. On the day you’re supposed to leave, they won’t turn up on time and you’ll have to stay an extra day. You will be sedated with antihistamines, even if they make you feel sic. Some neurotic nurse practitioner will snap at you if you ask if you can just not take those pills and will write that you are “non-compliant“ in your notes. Notes that no one will ever read anyway. Then, after a few days, you will be sent home and told to “follow up with your doctor“ and given a psychologist appointment in a couple of weeks. It actually does NOTHING good. You just realise to keep your mouth shut so that you don’t get punished with the hospital again. It hammers home that nobody actually cares. They will make you feel much much worse about yourself.
I would go as far as to say, if you care for somebody who is suicidal enough to stay with them, hold them and comfort them, then do so! If you don’t and you’re just going to call emergency services because you want to be responsible, Understand that you’re probably not helping them. It’s not like calling an ambulance for somebody who is sick or hurt. I’m sorry, but the state of psychological services in the US, UK and Canada (all countries where I have worked) sucks.(especially in the US) And those are countries with good medical care.
it's because most people don't care. it's all about obeying others.
Hi
Hello
I'm sorry if this is triggering, but this is my experience....
I've made up my mind a while back that I don't want to live anymore. I've made up my mind that I've "checked out". 2022 was an especially rough year for me where, in my opinion, between my diagnosed disorderes and multiple life stresses it was a perfect storm. I breath to check a box at this point, even now as I write this I feel this is still (mostly) true. I get told on the regular (even from my therapist and psychologist, and friends) I don't see you as depressive/this person you paint. It's defeating to say the least.
What helps me "stay here" is the fact that there's always tomorrow (to commit to this act). What helps me stay here is the fact that at least ONE person in my life, no matter how significant or insignificant (could be someone I've touched or helped motivate to seek more from life) would feel they have to update me with things I've missed (had I committed).
I'll be blunt I'm 30 and I'm not sure if I'll see 31 or 35, but I'm still breathing as I type this. I write this in hopes to whomever reads this that you're not alone, I get it. Those who sympathize with me get it. You're not alone.
You're not alone either
I get what you mean. Stay safe :)
@Christopher Allen have some hope man, you can get through it :)
I have a plan…I’m very much alone
Please stay. You're not alone. We're all here for you.
Everyone that is here because they want to help their friends... you are the people that deserve the whole word. Please take care of yourselves too, you guys are honestly holding the weight of everyone emotional baggage on your side. That's an exhausting burden and you need to remember that you are important too. And if its getting to much, remember that their weight isn't at all your responsibility
Thank you ❤️
Thank you
The fact you see us as an emotional burden is exactly why we as suicidal people want you all to leave us alone. Go virtue signal to the poor; they need it more
@@MB-xv7er amen
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I will call stuff like this out dude. They just constantly remind us how burdening we are
My wife recognized my signs back in July and took me to be admitted in the hospital. After a week in the psych ward I was diagnosed with BPD and C-PTSD. It’s been a really long road, but I appreciate videos like this showing us the realistic side of mental illness.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help..
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I wish there were more comments like this
To be honest, i'm a suicidal person myself and i will show my friends and family this video, so they can understand better on how to help me feel better...
Thank you so much for making this video.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help.
I didn't expect someone to reply to my comment. Heh...
It's good to see that there are people like you out there who wants to help others.
Thank you for the nice reply.
Great idea, keep reaching out, keep looking for support, don't give up. Take care.
I hope your doing okay. Good on you for taking steps to get better help
I have bad thoughts to, I'm glad people out there like this channel give other people true facts on how to actually help people like you and me from dying and making us feel better
My first ever girlfriend died to suicide. For the past 4 years I've done nothing but blame myself.
Anyone considering suicide, just know. I'd rather see a post of you making it through the day then see a post of your funeral.
to everyone watching this: you’re an angel and a amazing friend never forget that
May God bless you for your kind words although I am not an angel. 😄😊
My friend recently admitted to being suicidal to me. Now that I’m watching this video, gosh, how could I never notice? I see them everyday at school, they seemed so happy, yet, the signs were all here. This was a good lesson for me that no matter how a person may be like from the outside, there still is a chance that they are broken on the inside.
Storytime: I have a best friend. When we meet by Twitter, she was so happy and full of joy, when we got closer, she talked me about her problems. I tried to undertsand and try to help her because I love her and I don't want her to be sad everyday. One day, she told me that she was to kill herself, it literally break my heart, I was so deseperated trying to convince her that night to not do that, I didn't want to lose her, and the next day I woke up early and talk to her, try to convince her one last time and she finally give up, like, she doesn't want to commit suicide. That memory still hurts but I'm still with my best friend that I fucking love and trying to help her with everything
A similar thing happened to me with my friend on twitter.
Thats amazing
Hats Off, You saved your loving ones❤
friends like you are what i need
Recently I saved my best friend - who attempted committing suicide many times - from trying to commit suicide again. My best friend told me that they will avoid doing it just to keep me happy. I also somehow did it without this video :) (but it's really helpful, so please watch it whole, guys!)
Some tips that worked for me:
- give them freedom of opinion. They may be very sad because they never got to say what they think about certain things.
- tell them to "stay safe" every time you say goodbye. Every time I did this (which was a lot), they said that they'll try to stay safe as best as they can.
- give hugs if you're comfortable! (Even virtual hugs, they really help)
- tell them that they can talk to you or text you whenever they want to. It really helps with stress.
- send/show them pictures of cute things, like animals or plushies! It really makes them happy.
- try to stay positive! And don't be too serious over things like old scars, some people don't like that and invading their privacy, or ruining their mood. And don't be too silly when things really get serious! It may be sometimes annoying to them.
Hope you stay safe, guys! :3
Thank you, great advice!
This is really good advice, thanks for sharing ❄
I wish sombody would try to get me to not attempt
When I was living one day at a time, it was the worst time of my life. I was miserable every second. But I also recognize that only thinking one day at a time is probably why I'm alive right now.
A friend of mine abandoned me and insulted me in the worst way possible... I feel like I can not deal with it and you're video made me feel better.
my life would be over at that point.
@@C0metm it almost was, if I'm honest. Also to clarify, I have SEVERE abandonment issues.
As someone with low empathy, it's really hard to me to help people with suicide because people need to tell me they're feeling the emotion for me to understand they are. So thanks for the help ! :D
idk if i'm low in empathy or not, but i was wrong about many things by just assuming based on my processing so yeah, i need solid evidence (for my lil dumb brains 🤭)
Someone with overflowing empathy here, and I must say, i think it honestly means more to ppl to hear reassuring things from ppl with low empathy. Because they know it’s difficult for y’all to understand. It’ll make the comments feel more genuine. I think it’s really sweet that u came here to find out how to go abt it
I have low empathy too,and i decided not to involve in it,i do not understand people's need properly,and i dont want to help anyone because i ccan only make it worse,i do not want to involve myself because i can get in danger too
I've found my low empathy to be helpful for my own approach to helping in this stuff. It means talking about these subjects doesn't bother me at all, and so I can easily stay calm and think through what to say. Considering that my mind tends to drift towards *giving advice* (best way to show that things can get better, for me, is to explain *how* they can) rather than focusing more on kind words, lacking empathy is very helpful.
(Though I *am* fairly good at recognising and understanding what people are feeling, that doesn't affect my own feelings negatively at all - only one person is an exception to this)
Dont worry, as emotionless, i can tell you its not that hard to help anyone when you can,
I had a close friend who was suicidal when I was in 7th grade. She started messaging me over Facebook messenger about not wanting to be here anymore and it scared the hell out of me. I was able to help them through this hard time, and I am glad to say that she is now doing just fine and still seeing therapists for help.
Also a sign if someone is suicidal is when you ask them if they are suicidal and they just stand there not saying anything like looking away or taking a really long time to say "no"
(This may happen when the suicidal person is really close friends with you and doesn't wanna let you know they wanna commit suicide)
(EDIT: This doesn't 100% mean they are suicidal they might have just not heard you clearly or just wants to be alone)
I 100% relate to this. Every time I've opened up about depression and suicide I've been shot down and criticized, so that definitely contributes to feeling like you need to hide/deny your suicidal feelings. One of the scariest things in the world to me is opening up to someone about serious stuff like this because I've only ever had bad experiences with being vulnerable.
I relate. I occasionally have suicidal or self-damaging thoughts. I never go through with it, because I am a Christian who believes God cares about me. I also like trying to succeed regardless, I love writing stories, I love playing video games, and I have too many things amd people I care about. Either way, it's hard to escape these thoughts because I am waaay too much of a perfectionist. If something doesn't go as planned, I get worried and upset. A lot of times my parents don't even want to talk to me about this, and I am not close enough to my friends to say anything of the sort.
It's tough but I've been improving.
Suicidal or depressed people are in a very sensitive and painful emotional state, which can make some of them seem rude or "hostile" against the person helping them. Please don't leave their side and help them regardless of their attitude towards you. You'll see that staying with them until the end is very rewarding. They truly need your help. Lots of love ;)
Aww men I wish I could have someone to talk to, I had a good friend that I could talk to about literally everything, hugging etc. But now I don't have anybody. I guess writing this comment helps. I just want a hug...
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help, make friend in internet communities and when the pandemic ends try to be more social so you can get new friend
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Hugs. I'm sorry I can't help you. I hope things get better for you💗
You can definitely write to us. And here's a big virtual hug
One of my friends in a friend group had been suicidal for a while, the night he opened up about it we all listened to him and we talked, for a while he was a little unstable so we stuck with as much as possible and eventually he started going to therapy. Im glad we managed to help him through this and to see him smile again.
Moral of the story: just being with someone suicidal and talking about it with them, can help a lot.
God bless you for helping
My dog saved me... She was most sweetest most genorous and most loyal animal in the world. The lace was on my neck I just needed kicked out the chair under my legs but She sit down lookin' at me and start crying like 'please don't do that!!'.
Dogs know more than we do
That's what I'm saying.
Dogs ( I think ) can actually sense your emotional mood and help
Hey, how are you? Are you okay? Both of you, your dog and you?
@@t.s... She's gone 3 years ago but I never forgot what She's done for me... But thanks for your question I'm pretty fine now. I isolated from toxic "friends and start to be better. But when I was in this friendships I don't realize that was the part of my problem. 😊
I had a friend who was suicidal,and kept harming themselfs,but you have helped me get them rid of that suicidal felling and now they are recovering from the scars,and live life as they should.I do have to agree that it made me extremely anxoius ,stressed,and sad,and scared,so take care of yourself too!It s not easy to help someone who Is suicidal.Thank you so much!I hope I will find someone too!❤
Oh and even Tho i am,I am too tired to do anything bad so-yep lol
As a person who was suicidal and skipped school alot because of my fear of failure my parents helped me fight it alot. Even though I was allready in grade 7 my parents walked me to school to help me feel stronger and not afraid. They'd even distance themselves behind me and kinda follow me when we got close to school as to not embarrass me or anything. They used alot of the Tips in the video and as the person who was reciving their Support I can confirm it helped
I tried to commet suicud in was in school i put a belt around my neck and plulled on it it dose not i wont try agan
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As a kid who has depression,anxiety,suicidal and has no one to talk to about it...I already planned how to end my story....
I hope this video will help people,
Sadly for me this is too late i lost my girlfriend (20 years old) about 3 months ago she drove into a tree.
The most important part is talk with them and don't be scared to ask them what they want you to do if it happens, how they want you to live on after it happens (i know it sounds extreme)
But i was always scared of talking about (if it happens) now i live with so many questions making me think about how to move on...
I hope you will be fine in the future. I don't know you or your girlfriend but one thing I know is when you love someone you don't want them to feel pain even after you're gone. I think she will love to see you happy again. Keep her as a sweet memory and go on with your life. I know it can be hard but you can do it
speak with family or friends about this questions and stuff or surch a consellor. The will not give you the answer, cose the closet answer to your questions is 42, but the will help! it will be hard but i will share a quote that helps me in my darkest ours: Bob Ross: "Gotta have opposites dark and light, light and dark in painting. It's like in life. Gotta have a little sadness once in a while so you know when the good times come."
Oh dear man, I hope you’re coping well, I wish you all the best. Remember the good times you had with her and move forwards, I believe in you.
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I personally struggle with depression constantly so I can relate to all of this. I'm still alive because something deep down is still holding on but nobody in my life truly understands me or how to help me they just make it worse so hopefully sharing this video with them will help.
Hope that your still alive. Because if I’m being frank the world would suck without you. I hope you get the help you need and I want you know I love you and will be praying for you
I know love , it is hard when no one notices especially when it is someone close to you , but first of all you gotta believe and trust yourself first , I want to tell you this , I may not know you personally but I care for you deeply and you are important to this world, keep being strong. Trust yourself, believe in who you are, remember you passions and everything is worth living for, no matter what sticky situation you think you are in , You will go through it, be you , believe in yourself.
take a minute, I know that it seems like there is no way out but believe me there is always one . No matter what situation you are In, no matter how tough it might be , I want you to never give up , you are important to me , I know that I don’t know you personally, but I do care about you deeply, so much that I feel like I have to tell you this, I don’t care where you come from , I don’t care about what society may think you should be , you are unique, you have place in this world, I want you to feel proud and happy with your self, people make mistakes, every one does ,we need to learn from those mistakes, you have a purpose, you just need to let go of everything that blurring your vision, because I promise you that eventually all that matter is who you choose to be , who you truly are , you gotta remember that . I know some people are bad , I know that some people are ignorant and selfish, some are heartless , some will try to let you down , but you should care only about what you believe in , believe In yourself. Your kindness, your soul is the hope for this world, you will find happiness,
think about what you passionate about , don’t give up on that feeling , the stars,when you succeed in something you worked hard , when you just enjoying yourself, seeing animals around , the happiness of doing what you love . It is hard, I know that but once you are willing to look up, look around You , beyond the pain, to see that you eventually, what really matter is that you didn’t give up because it will make you stronger, I’m sorry if no one noticed, I’m sorry if you don’t feel appreciated, But know that you know your worth, you are your best friend , you need to love yourself first .
the future may seem scary , your thoughts may be confusing , but in your heart you know that whatever it is , if you will be just who you are you WILL pass this , you CAN do this , trust yourself, noticing your emotions, understand why you feel this way but you gotta keep up and trust yourself. Doesn’t matter what everyone think or does , it is your life, I believe in you , I want you here in this world, you are too important, we can go through this , I’m here with you .
I love you and so so proud of you, every single word i mean this because I truly care for you.
You gotta believe in yourself, there is always an opportunity to start over , to see this world in a different light .
I hope and wishes you the happiness you deserve. Because you my friend, deserves happiness. It is never too late to be the best version of yourself, to be who you are . I deeply appreciate you and hope you the best
@@yuvals5177 thank you so much for writing this it wasnt meant for e but my tears took everyword all the same ❤️
You’re right no one will truly understand you or me I also feel no one understands me no one may understand you fully but at least one kind person will care to try
as someone who is suicidal, it is very true that just having someone to talk to about how I’m suicidal does help. Honestly the remove all harmful items away one is very true, but still doesn’t prevent it, cause there is still a bunch of other ways.
Well that was more relatable than I expected. Now I'm gonna go talk to the friend that saved me. When everyone was dismissive of everything I did a girl I hadn't seen or spoken to in years was working at the local store and though I was usually pretty emotionless and tried to blend in much as possible and to my surprise she never wanted anything in return. why she liked me was the one mystery that I couldn't leave unfinished but the moment she called me her brother I didn't care about that anymore and found myself caring for someone else.
How sweet. :)
@@taylermuilenburg5029 thanks
Touching note. You're a Good Person.
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@@tdesq.2463 thank you
Thank You for sharing, and for setting a good example. Very commendable. Gets my respect. 👍
When I was in worst depressive episode of my life recently my mom said "how do you think it makes me feel to have such a miserable daughter?" It hurt SO much. I already knew it was hard for her but I had no control over my debilitating depression. I was already feeling massively ashamed and disgusted with myself and like a burden and it just made me want to end it even more. Please people never say that to someone suffering. Nobody chooses to feel that bad and all we want is for the pain to end.
I also want to say these videos are really helpful for me trying to recover. I feel understood and cared for just by watching them, which is what I need more than anything. Thank you Psych2Go ❤
Reading that anyone could be so selfish to say that made my blood boil (and I regularly find myself using my rigid “treat everyone as your equals with their own desires on how to be treated” as a crutch [the “golden rule” doesn’t exactly work for the suicidal]). I’m so sorry you had to go through that.
It’s amazing how hurtful the wrong response can be.
@enderger5308, it’s remarkable how many people respond that way.
I’ve had a ton of unhelpful, dismissive, or borderline-cruel responses. I’ve even been told to shut up about that. “We’re tired of hearing the same thing.” 🙄
“But”
“That’s just more of the same tired story.”
I’m still here in SPITE of that.
But I feel like I’m not allowed to talk about certain topics. This often happens in the midst of those “closest to us”.
Helping my current girlfriend when she was just a suicidal person I reached out for a long time ago got us where we are today
My mom told me I was stupid for staying up late preventing her from committing suicide and said that people who want to commit suicide just do it instead of saying it
I'm taking notes to not be like my mother
So your mom cared for you enough to keep you alive, but didn't like whether you care enough for another to do the same? 😠
I’m glad that you still kept being with her even though your mom said such things. Good job man, you did the right thing❤️
@@apparentlylexy Thanks, she's actually the only person I've dated who actually loves me for who I am, I wouldn't change her for nothing :)
You're so loyal and patient, the world needs more ppl like you, all the best to your relationship with your gf☺❤🍀
@@Jack_Woods if there is a world best bf award that will belong to you man really you are kind we need more people like you😊
You life is EVERYTHING, you serve ALL PURPOSE, you should love yourself NOW. - High tier god
I don’t think I’m going to ever need this but I feel like this is good information to know.
Why does your profile pic fit your comment?
Thank god you won’t need it
I’ve known 3, technically 4 suicidal people and it’s kinda scary. The 4th I just heard of and worried, the 3rd actually tried to strangle themselves in school and I kinda knew them, the 2nd had tried sucide and had SA marks that popped up halfway through the year, and the 1st I’m currently friends with and still a little worried since they’ve been suicidal in the past. This is the one I’ve actually talked to and it’s kinda scary to think that if you were to say something wrong they are gone
Yes it really is!
My bsf was suicidal and still gets a bit suicidal so. Try to ask them how they are and how they’re feeling and they update me every now and then on how many days theyre clean o(of self harm) i love them so much ❤️
Anyways have a good day/night
Bye bye ♥️
For me, I was going through an incredibly dark time at the start of junior year. One day I told my mom that I didn’t want to live anymore because there was to much stress on my life. We talked about it and She told
“I can’t help you if your dead”
That really made me realize what suicide meant. I wouldn’t see my dog, my friends. I wouldn’t eat any sweets or watch anime.
At the time of writing this I have fallen back into those thoughts do to an extremely emotional past 2 days. But suicide is never the answer. Death will come but we should never force it’s hand.
your feelings are valid🥺i love you so much
Legit the best thing you can do is just let them know you are there for them, and do everything you can to get them out the house and or get a smile on their face for even 5 seconds. Depression is shit, it eats away at you, you get so caught up in it that it bring so many other problems than just being upset
To answer the question at the end I was at the brink of suicide and I was gonna end that day but as I was leaving a friend of mine saw me and asked “what’s wrong” I replied in tears “Nobody loves me” and she looked me dead in the eyes and said “Then who am I” and I rode the bus home and that lead me to where I am today and I also want to say thank you Psych2Go because my girlfriend just told me today that she was contemplating suicide and this is the recourse I needed and I will ask if she wants to make a safety play so yet again thank you and keep up the good work :)
I wish I could be that friend, but I’m the jokester if the group so they would never take me seriously, wait... HOLY CRAP, I could say wat ur friend said, they wouldn’t take me seriously but they would laugh so hard the would never attempt again, that might actually work
All these stories on the comment section start so sad, they turn out good in the end, I am truly glad, even if you're a stranger, that you didn't commit suicide. I am a sympathetic and empathetic person, I can't help feeling empathy, have a good day! (There are very few people I cannot tell how they feel.) :)
@@OfficialTrAshProductions Hey man from the bottom of my heart thank you and I hope you have a great day no great year. :)
@@black_skooma8744 It's my goal in life to make everyone happy and make sure they feel loved, you have a good year as well. :))))
This is just the video I needed. I was just in a conversation with an online friend about how her life mattered but she just wasn't listening. Thank you so much for all of this
Edit: she seems a bit better now, thank you for everyone’s support :)
Guess she not a real friend
I hope your friend is doing fine. I know it's hard but I believe you'll help them. Good luck!
@@Jords250 That's not true. When someone is convinced they want to do something, it's very hard to talk them down. I spent nearly an hour trying to convince a friend to continue with life, but they wouldn't listen. After a while, I finally said the right thing to convince them, and they're still here today. I value them as a friend, and we're still best friends. Just because someone doesn't listen while they're in a dark place doesn't mean they aren't a real friend, it just means they're a bit stubborn. Changing a "final" decision is gonna be tough, but it can be done. That's why this video exists.
@@Jords250 that's not true she was depressed when you feel like that sometimes you don't want to talk to anyone
@@bonnietelocole6777 Could you please elaborate on what was the "right thing to convince them"? I would really appreciate that ❤
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Letting go, absolutely. But HOW???!
@@shirleyjeannite5724 Try saying all what you feel to any friend or family member.
If you start letting all the words go out, you can finally not feel so heavy, like you felt before.
I've been a therapist friend for 5-6 years now. Thanks, I needed this.
when I somehow made up my mind and talked with my mum bout me being suicidal she literally lashed out on me rather than giving a shoulder to me. From that day I stopped talking bout what's inside me with anyone and it literally hurts.
if you need help go talk to your friends, family and people you trust, life can be great and will get even better after the pandemic ends so do not waste it and life have a lot of good experiences and memories that are gonna make you think it was all worth it, a lot of people who tried to end their lives remember that they changed their mind and are happy to be alive, if necessary search for help in the internet and if you can afford it call a therapist "ending your life is a permanent solution to a temporary problem" also do not be shy to call for help...
It's also my mum's fault that I'm depressive. I told her the same like you did and she literally killed me. When I went to the school therapist. And I don't know if I was completely dumb but I told her.
She went mental. She told me the school would write it down in my school documents, and that I would never get a job. And...still I love her. After all she is my mother. But I can't call her my mum anymore. Of course she is the person who cooks for me and takes care but, she doesn't cares about my mental health and that is what kills me.
I am very sorry my guys. But you are worth it! And every day is full of hidden gifts and blessings if only we would seek them out. Sometimes I take long walks outside right after it rains; the fresh smell, the damp roads, the popping green of the leaves and grass gives me a deep sense of joy and peace. It's something that helps me feel better, and maybe something like that will help you to, too.
I really hope you guys find support
i kniw how you feel very much, my b. mom (birth mom) literally said it my hormones and stuff when i was literally thinkimg suicide every single day past like 6 years (at the time i told her i was sad)
@@Schwupsdupsbeepboop that's how my mom is too. I told her that I wanted to go to a therapist, and she started freaking out. She kept on asking why, but I didn't feel comfortable talking to her about it and that I much rather talk to a professional about it. Also, whenever I talk to her about anything, she becomes so judgemental and I constantly feel like she's lashing out at me. Anyways, my mom responded by saying that everything I tell them will follow me wherever I go. She's a nurse working at a mental health unit in a hospital, so she thinks she knows everything about therapists and psychologists, but I noticed right away that she clearly doesn't. But that's what sucks about being a minor, you always have to depend on someone else's decisions, even if it's about your mental or physical health. I sometimes feel unlucky that I have someone as a mother who doesn't take mental health and my thoughts seriously. I mean, I know she's my mom and has bought me everything that I wanted, and I know she takes care of me and spoils me a lot. But buying me everything won't make my mental issues and distresses go away. She even said that people with depression are just faking it or something like that. It terrifies me that I can't fully trust the person I'm dependent on.
My best friend was suicidal for a long time. When she first told me about, I was about 14. I didn’t know what to do, but I just acted like I did. I talked a lot with her and seeing this video now, it seems like I did it in the right way. She’s doing much better now and also has professional help. She told me a while ago that it was very close sometimes and that I quite literally saved her life at least 3 times. I’m so glad I still have her right now and that she’s so much happier.
Edit: We made it through. I also started to struggle a lot mentally, but we helped each other as good as we could. She went to therapy eventually, I didn’t. But now we are both doing much better, having neither suicidal thoughts nor still resorting to self-harm. I’m so grateful that we have come this far :)
You probably won't go far , I won't I know it , best of luck to you dear .
Now iam going for a lie down .
I feel so proud that all of the points that were talked about in this video is all the things I am doing.
I hope whoever you are helping gets better. People like me may secretly want to get better
The person you're helping is really lucky to have you, then. Good job!
People usually watch this to help other people but I'm the one who's suicidal and I'm watching this