19:17 HOLY CRAP!!! My abusive ex did this too!! He would always poke my tongue when I yawned to ruin my yawns!!! He'd also get _pissed_ off when I yawned....I think he thought I thought he was boring. NEWSFLASH: _he was a wet rag of a human._
the very first woman should’ve never told her partner what her therapist told her. i mean, glad shes out of there and well, but why in your right mind would you tell your abuser that you KNOW he will hurt u. idk, thats just not very smart to me. she should’ve up and left in silence.
just to clarify, in my head, if they were to have a long “genuine” conversation about it and the patterns her therapist noticed, that just gives him leverage on how to hide it better
oohh i never really thought about my first and only relationship…. that lady that said her bf hated her b/c she loved him unconditionally he also told me b/c i gained weight he wasn’t attracted to me 😅 it rang true.. i found pictures of his “best friend” in his phone….crazy and the last time i saw him he used his key to come in my house at 2 am and then he looked completely different like he was losing his mind. went upstairs and begin to pray in front of our child’s crib… mind you he’s never prayed or been religious in the 5 years i’ve known him. i asked him what was he doing and he the way he came at me and told me to never interrupt him while praying was scary… i knew i had to leave…
well, this is really putting it out there: but the MOST horrible thing. Dated a guy, got pregnant by the guy, guy's dad was a cop and told me to terminate the pregnancy or he would make it hard on me and make sure my six year old daughter was placed in foster care, terminated the pregnancy, call the guy to confirm after I leave the clinic, guy tells me he effed my sister in the past and starts to compare our va jay jays....
The father with the 13 year old daughter who is aware of his abusive behavior is pretty dumb to think that his daughter would be completely unaware. She was already exposed to his bad behavior and mistreatment of her mother in person even if she was a couple years younger at the time 9, 10, 11, 12 she will remember. It doesn’t surprise me at all that the daughter would go in her mom’s phone and read messages from her dad. He is blaming the mother for the daughter seeing it, but he could not be verbally abusive to her so there would be nothing bad for his daughter to see. No, he expects to be able to continue the abuse of the mother and the mother continue to try and hide it for him. He can’t control what other people do but he damn sure can control himself. The simplest solution for him is to get some help and stop being abusive.
While literally foaming at the mouth, he said "I will kill you and your damn cat". I was angrier about his threat towards my innocent pet than towards me. He was angry because I wanted to get away from him. He was evil.
A support woman being in whatever manifestation they want to be in. But I also want to encourage women to fully rock their natural hair. For some reason I just really believe, from the bottom of my heart, whatever naturally grows out of your head is one of the most complementary things you have! Sorry, not sorry. ❤🎉
21:25 wow. A woman that would say that to the guy she’s dating, his father is in the hospital and having a fairly significant emergency and as we get older, that’s really important and she says that? You should’ve said no it’s not OK and ghosted that woman that’s a great lesson for you to think about maybe what red flags you may have missed in that wretched human.
The woman @ minute 7 is allowing the post relationship abuse. If he was that abusive he needs to be away from her and her daughter forever. If he would abuse her he would abuse the child ( emotionally for sure). With abusive men, you have to go no contact or you make it more dangerous for yourself. They're used to feeding off your pain like a shark when it smells blood. If you keep allowing it, they will nip everyday just to get the blood.
the thing about boyfriends or some men that makes them scary is that they never show their techtics and then youll find girlfriends lik the first girl going around telling the psycho what her therypist told her so the psycho can learn to come off as a sane person 😑or talking online on how to make the bf less crazy or more in love with them instead shutting tf up and leaving the psycho
The woman in the blue shirt and glasses sounds like she's dating a narc. They are really good at keeping up appearances around other people but treat you like sh#t behind closed doors. Thats why friends and family think its you that's crazy. I've literally watched this happen in real life. And they will loose it if anyone finds out how they really treat you because I guarantee you he's already badmouthing you to all his friends and family. Its the craziest thing to witness.
24:06, girl im sorry, but dating culture that obligating your partner to be your "nurturer" picking and dropping you off is weird , i mean it didn't sound like a situation you need to be so panicked..he was an ass from the manner but i think you're also problematic when you had no phone online and others cannot reach you and you make it sounds like others' fault 100% . You're lucky your parents still went tk pick you honestly, I mean it's cute and sweet and expected to be pick and given ride by your bf/gf when you've one, but they have their own life and especially when you're just teen/young adult both of you will have your own life and productive activities ,it's weird to feel entitled to have your partners life revolve only around you exclusively without any effort to teamwork in the middle, i mean like you have your phone unreachable nobody in my family will be able to do that and not get problems later, it's irresponsible in a way. Tho your bf too was a jerk for just ditching you knowing your behaviour ,but well, i guess youngsters just thoughtless.
@ But it makes no sense I thought men wanted someone who will stand with them thick or thin?!! 🤨🤨That man is either has someone else, or he’s just str8 up demented and needs to be institutionalized.
Wait, you said that your therapist told you to leave your boyfriend because he might kill you and then you told him hoping he would change and upon receiving that information that he asked you how he could fix it. Thats what you wanted.
Never share your trauma with nobody but your therapist come on now girl why would u really go back to and say my therapist said your gonna kill me people really be thinking ppl are not capable of stuff
He might've been curious about how to fix his anger in the sense of *wanting to murder his partner* but that's a hell no get out. And the fact her therapist had to tell her to get out is a big thing because it means he's been doing tons of things to make the therapist believe she's in danger. That ain't a good situation, even if he was curious. Best he doesn't get into a relationship until he can work on himself and fix whatever the heck was going on...
@RowanWolf22 oh no... full agree! I was just trying to see the brighter point in that one. Most absve exs of that sort could usually care less about that part ....
When a man calls you crazy. It's self projection.
When a man calls you anything it's self projection. Male accusations are always confessions.
It is projection & so giving them the benefit of the doubt is dangerous.
I was with a textbook narcissist and I really relate to alot of this. I’m so proud of all of us for getting out! Much love! Namaste! ❤
19:17 HOLY CRAP!!! My abusive ex did this too!! He would always poke my tongue when I yawned to ruin my yawns!!! He'd also get _pissed_ off when I yawned....I think he thought I thought he was boring.
NEWSFLASH: _he was a wet rag of a human._
How beautiful was the last woman? 😊
Beautiful red hair, skin and she seemed like a sweetheart. ❤
the very first woman should’ve never told her partner what her therapist told her. i mean, glad shes out of there and well, but why in your right mind would you tell your abuser that you KNOW he will hurt u. idk, thats just not very smart to me. she should’ve up and left in silence.
just to clarify, in my head, if they were to have a long “genuine” conversation about it and the patterns her therapist noticed, that just gives him leverage on how to hide it better
oohh i never really thought about my first and only relationship…. that lady that said her bf hated her b/c she loved him unconditionally he also told me b/c i gained weight he wasn’t attracted to me 😅 it rang true.. i found pictures of his “best friend” in his phone….crazy and the last time i saw him he used his key to come in my house at 2 am and then he looked completely different like he was losing his mind. went upstairs and begin to pray in front of our child’s crib… mind you he’s never prayed or been religious in the 5 years i’ve known him. i asked him what was he doing and he the way he came at me and told me to never interrupt him while praying was scary… i knew i had to leave…
well, this is really putting it out there: but the MOST horrible thing. Dated a guy, got pregnant by the guy, guy's dad was a cop and told me to terminate the pregnancy or he would make it hard on me and make sure my six year old daughter was placed in foster care, terminated the pregnancy, call the guy to confirm after I leave the clinic, guy tells me he effed my sister in the past and starts to compare our va jay jays....
Your sister never told you?!
The father with the 13 year old daughter who is aware of his abusive behavior is pretty dumb to think that his daughter would be completely unaware. She was already exposed to his bad behavior and mistreatment of her mother in person even if she was a couple years younger at the time 9, 10, 11, 12 she will remember. It doesn’t surprise me at all that the daughter would go in her mom’s phone and read messages from her dad. He is blaming the mother for the daughter seeing it, but he could not be verbally abusive to her so there would be nothing bad for his daughter to see. No, he expects to be able to continue the abuse of the mother and the mother continue to try and hide it for him. He can’t control what other people do but he damn sure can control himself. The simplest solution for him is to get some help and stop being abusive.
Men who can't control his own urges, his addictions, his demons, his emotions and his body parts are WEAK.
While literally foaming at the mouth, he said "I will kill you and your damn cat". I was angrier about his threat towards my innocent pet than towards me. He was angry because I wanted to get away from him. He was evil.
A support woman being in whatever manifestation they want to be in. But I also want to encourage women to fully rock their natural hair. For some reason I just really believe, from the bottom of my heart, whatever naturally grows out of your head is one of the most complementary things you have! Sorry, not sorry. ❤🎉
These stories are making me think that maybe I might be the toxic one😮🤦🏾♀️
One thing all these women have in common is a lack of boundaries & self respect
Yes, it’s almost like abusers break those to things down in their victims or something
21:25 wow. A woman that would say that to the guy she’s dating, his father is in the hospital and having a fairly significant emergency and as we get older, that’s really important and she says that? You should’ve said no it’s not OK and ghosted that woman that’s a great lesson for you to think about maybe what red flags you may have missed in that wretched human.
The woman @ minute 7 is allowing the post relationship abuse. If he was that abusive he needs to be away from her and her daughter forever. If he would abuse her he would abuse the child ( emotionally for sure). With abusive men, you have to go no contact or you make it more dangerous for yourself. They're used to feeding off your pain like a shark when it smells blood. If you keep allowing it, they will nip everyday just to get the blood.
I opened up to my ex about my SA when I was 5. He said during a later argument that it was my fault.
the thing about boyfriends or some men that makes them scary is that they never show their techtics and then youll find girlfriends lik the first girl going around telling the psycho what her therypist told her so the psycho can learn to come off as a sane person 😑or talking online on how to make the bf less crazy or more in love with them instead shutting tf up and leaving the psycho
04:00 a great Reason to never dait agian..😳
The woman in the blue shirt and glasses sounds like she's dating a narc. They are really good at keeping up appearances around other people but treat you like sh#t behind closed doors. Thats why friends and family think its you that's crazy. I've literally watched this happen in real life. And they will loose it if anyone finds out how they really treat you because I guarantee you he's already badmouthing you to all his friends and family. Its the craziest thing to witness.
I know it was OVER the minute my ex boyfriend told me my Breathing was annoying Him
Wait WTF 😳?? That sounds like a death threat already SMH
All weirdos, dangerous ones 👎🏻
6:49, this was so traumatic for her that she had to set it to this horrible music.
18:47 how is that toxic? You know people do that because you're supposed to cover your mouth when you yawn. Its called manners.
The black girl with the bf that got a credit with her name knew and she didn't dump him?
24:06, girl im sorry, but dating culture that obligating your partner to be your "nurturer" picking and dropping you off is weird , i mean it didn't sound like a situation you need to be so panicked..he was an ass from the manner but i think you're also problematic when you had no phone online and others cannot reach you and you make it sounds like others' fault 100% .
You're lucky your parents still went tk pick you honestly,
I mean it's cute and sweet and expected to be pick and given ride by your bf/gf when you've one, but they have their own life and especially when you're just teen/young adult both of you will have your own life and productive activities ,it's weird to feel entitled to have your partners life revolve only around you exclusively without any effort to teamwork in the middle, i mean like you have your phone unreachable nobody in my family will be able to do that and not get problems later, it's irresponsible in a way. Tho your bf too was a jerk for just ditching you knowing your behaviour ,but well, i guess youngsters just thoughtless.
Wowww...these stories are terrible 💔
Ikr....😢
He hated her bcuz she took care of him when he was in his worst state?!🤨🤨 What?!
Men are sth else
@ But it makes no sense I thought men wanted someone who will stand with them thick or thin?!! 🤨🤨That man is either has someone else, or he’s just str8 up demented and needs to be institutionalized.
Wait, you said that your therapist told you to leave your boyfriend because he might kill you and then you told him hoping he would change and upon receiving that information that he asked you how he could fix it. Thats what you wanted.
Never share your trauma with nobody but your therapist come on now girl why would u really go back to and say my therapist said your gonna kill me people really be thinking ppl are not capable of stuff
These women participated in these problems. After the first few times, you’re no longer the victim.
They’re victims you’re gross for this comment
no, it's called a #traumabond
No that’s not how the cycle of abuse works. Educate yourself instead of victim blaming
Thanks tips will take that under advisement 👍👍🤭
lol awesome so men have zero responsibility to just be decent humans ✅
On that first one... I mean.. at least he was curious how to fix it.....🤷♀️
He might've been curious about how to fix his anger in the sense of *wanting to murder his partner* but that's a hell no get out. And the fact her therapist had to tell her to get out is a big thing because it means he's been doing tons of things to make the therapist believe she's in danger. That ain't a good situation, even if he was curious. Best he doesn't get into a relationship until he can work on himself and fix whatever the heck was going on...
@RowanWolf22 oh no... full agree! I was just trying to see the brighter point in that one. Most absve exs of that sort could usually care less about that part ....
Who knows- sometimes people just want to hurt certain people, the next person might not give him an urge to murder.
This is disturbing.