MOVING AWAY FROM FAMILY LIFE UPDATE | SAHM VLOG | KAYLA BUELL
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- Today's vlog is a bit emotional, but hey - that's what I do. I share my life with you guys! Here's how I'm dealing with moving away from my family and a mini life update + a baby boy clothing haul. Love you guys! xoxox, Kayla
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My dad always tells me, "I'm only a phone call away". With the technology we have now, you could always video chat your family as well. I wish you the best of luck. Also, that beautiful boy of yours is the cUUUUUtest!! I'm so excited for my little man in June.
Safe travels. ♡
That's true; 15 yrs ago, I moved to 300km away from my dad for my first job, and we only talked by phone once a week. Now, my dad has retired to Brazil, and I am in Portugal, but with whatsapp and skype and etc., etc.,... I feel way closer to my dad now (with the Atlantic Ocean between us) than when we were just 300km away...
Hey Kayla, tip for travelling with a toddler: wrap a few gifts in wrapping paper (ideally activities/ toys to keep her busy). Give her one when you get settled on the plane and the novelty is starting to wear off for her, then give her another every time she gets bored / restless. Don’t let her know there are more until you need to deploy another one. This saved me on many long haul flights with my toddler! Good luck on your big adventure!!
This is great advice. No shame in bribing her to keep her happy on the flight, highly recommend gifts and some treats and an iPad etc.
I moved from Canada to the USA to marry my husband and I’d never lived anywhere but my family home and the dorms at university only an hour away. It was exciting but also hard. I knew no one. I couldn’t work for three months so I volunteered at the library which helped to get me out of the house which is so important. Maybe try to find a moms group there. FaceTime is great for family. And friends. I talk to my parents on it every Sunday. And we keep up with texts and stuff too. Make sure to plan trips back home too when you can.
This is genius! Saving this for our next flight!
pixie saytar Stealing this!
I’ve lived away from my family for about 4 years now. Saying goodbye is always the hardest part of living away from family and never gets easier. When I do see my family (which is usually every 6 months) I really appreciate and enjoy the time we spend together (more than I ever did before) the time we have together is more meaningful and memorable. We have a group chat and video call all the time 😊 it’s never easy but everything will be okay! My husband and I are expecting our first baby in May, and I have learned so much from watching your videos ❤️
As a Military wife I feel you girl. Last year we moved from Florida, where I lived my whole life, to California. I’m not gonna lie, It still gets to me some days and I know it doesn’t make it any easier but I can tell you it eventually does get a little easier. We’re all here for you and I’ll be praying for you continuously❤️
I’ve moved to a new state twice: Philly (my hometown), to Utah, to Alaska (my current state). Not easy!
Just continue to let yourself grieve over this change and loss while thinking about the upside. Maybe you can look into play groups in VA to meet other Moms in the area with kids. Putting down roots and meeting people really helps. Hugs!!
Nancy - Well, hi fellow Alaskan! 😄 I forgot about FaceTime or using an Echo Dot so your phone isn’t tied up, but that’s audio only.
Hey, Kayla I love how you’re showing how you feel with what your struggling with. I’ve also been away from home for 2 years and it’s not easy. I catch myself crying when i think about home. I’m from New Jersey and now I live in Florida and it’s a difference between the two places. I’m still not used to it but ima managing. I love how you shared the way you felt because it’s not always easy.
Good luck with the move, you are so brave and it’s not easy to make big life changed but you’re doing an amazing job love following your journey ☺️ when I moved away from family my dad said to me “even though we are far away, at night look at the moon and I’ll be looking at the same one thinking of you” somehow it made me feel like I wasn’t so far away xxx
I appreciate you opening up and always showing the reality of being a mom and life! You’re one of my favourite TH-camrs. I hope you have a smooth transition moving. Change is never easy, but will get easier with time!
Oh wow Kayla, I relate to you on this so much. I am actually in the process of planning a move to Texas within the next 4 months for the exact same reason (my husband got a better job). I am scared but excited at the same time. I have been to Texas and I have to say that I love it but we don’t know many people there and we would be leaving all of our family here in NYC.... thank you for sharing this. I am keeping it together now but I know that I am going to become a mess as we get closer to the move.
YOU GOT THIS! ❤️❤️ I’m young, 20 years old in college & I look forward to your videos more than you know!! Anyway, while this very far off from your journey, and isn’t anything as hard as as mama life and the married life-I struggled so much when moving away from home to go to school, as I’m the oldest of four children! It felt sooooo weird to be the first one heading off to college, while my other siblings are still in middle school. I felt like It was going way to fast and sometimes I still feel like that, especially when I go home for holidays and stuff. It’s hard each time. But I’ve learned that even though it feels so weird and sad and uncomfortable at first, I always manage to get back into the swing of things and it feels a lot better and worth it when that finally happens! Whenever I go back to school after a break, I think that I literally FaceTime my mom 10 times a day for the first week back, crying and homesick, but then a week or two later, I’m like ok I got this. Just had to get back into the newer part of my life, chill for a second, and enjoy the new things in my life, even if it’s just college 😂
I feel you so much girl! I moved from New Mexico to Oregon 2 years ago for my spouse's job. I left all my friends, family and a job I loved for the move. I was excited for a new adventure but I had no idea what I was getting myself into! It took me a solid 3 months of being so homesick and sad before I really accepted that this was my new home. But after that I was able to make some of the greatest friends ever and explore new parts of my personality and interests that I might never have while still in my comfort zone at home. You will get through it, but give yourself the time and space to be sad. Don't try to rush into making "everything be ok." It takes time, but it will be worth it! There is always something to gain from a brand new experience. Love you, your channel, and all the advice I have learned from you! You have been a life-saver as I navigate my first pregnancy (18 weeks with a little boy right now)! :)
Hey!! I am from Canada and my husband is from Utah and when we got married I made the move to the USA to be with him because for us it made more sense. It was really hard in the beginning because I was like you and had never been far from my family and we’re crazy close! But FaceTime made all the difference in the world because I can still call them and see them and it feels like I’m at home talking to them still. It becomes a new kind of normal and though the holidays can be hard, there’s something beautiful about being in a place that’s just “yours” and no one else’s. I also found that I appreciate my family even more now that I’m far away. It makes seeing each other in person so much more special!
I’m originally from Maryland and my entire family is there, but I live in Washington state now with my husband and his family. The best advice I have is to take every single opportunity to go home and visit. I still cry and get emotional and I’ve been here for 5 years, it doesn’t really get easier. But I go home as often as possible and that makes it so so so much better! Traveling can be a hassle and expensive and all that, but it is SO WORTH IT
I have been living in New Zealand for the past 5 years, all of my family is in France. I am due with my first in June.
It’s hard to find new bearings in a place away from home but you can do it and it’s so worth it. Focusing on the possible benefits has helped me adapt to my new country and also new neighbourhood when I moved in with my now husband and his family. The possibilities are huge no matter how scary it is. ❤️ hugs to you and your little ones ❤️🤗
One day at a time.
That’s all you even know you’ll have! Don’t stress about things tomorrow or the next day.
There’s only today.
For each day brings its own troubles
“So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.”
Matthew 6
This made me very emotional and definitely hit home for me. I’m from California and currently live in Rhode Island. The complete opposite side of the country and zero family here. It’s very hard no doubt about it. My advice is to go back as much as you can.
Hi Kayla, I understand how you feel. Straight out of college I moved from all my family and friends in Africa to the US and it was so terrible. Had to stay with family for a while and then had to basically build my life from scratch. It’s been 5 years and i still miss them all the time but it gets better. You’ll be fine. It’ll be hard in the beginning but it’ll get better especially as you have your family with you. Stay strong darling ❤️❤️❤️
I moved from Toronto, Canada to London, UK after I got married and it really is so hard to be away from parents, and siblings! We also just had a baby boy a few months ago, and it's been really hard/feel the same guilt when it comes to having my baby boy away from his grandparents. All I have to say is thank god for social media/technology! You will get adjusted and be busy with the kids, and it will get easier with visits back and forth, which will just make the moments more special!
I have lived away from family since I was 17 when I went to college. It was hard at first but you get used to it. I am 31 now and have a 19month old toddler and I do miss my parents a lot and could use their help but my husband and I have found our groove. I do also feel a lot of guilt for living so far away from family but this is where the opportunities are for our family and ultimately it’s the best decision for us. I hope you find peace with your decision and know that you’re not alone with how you feel and there are so many people in the same boat💕
Never lived far from family either but can only imagine what you’re feeling! Almost wept with you when you were talking about it. Wish I could offer help but I don’t know anything, however did want to mention that I have the Evenflo Pivot XPand and I LOVE IT! You will not regret your purchase. Sending you lots of love! You got this Kayla 💕
Everyone's comments are really nice, and I'll try to not be repetitive. No matter how close/far, family is always missed. When I moved away from home (FL) for the 1st time, I held it together until after I left, so my mom wouldn't feel so bad by seeing me cry. Every now and then, I felt sad and became teary eyed. However, most of the time I was too busy to remember to miss my hometown, family, and friends. Keeping up with my family and friends through the phone helped. You'll be so busy with the new house, work, and your babies, you'll barely have time to stop and think. I know not everyone is the same, but hopefully that helps. & because you'll be with your immediate family, you'll have more time for yourself and them too. Again, not everyone is the same, but hopefully it'll be your case so you won't feel so bad about it. ❤
Not from USA (so wasn’t a new state but half our country away) but I moved from my mom when I was 19 and starting university. I called her everyday and text when I couldn’t call. FaceTime is golden and a great way for your kids to see grandma and the rest of the family. And just remind yourself that you can always move back but during this period in the new state it is an adventure and a new chapter in your book. It doesn’t have to be bad it can be an opportunity to grow and discover new things (both for yourself, your family and in just general life) ❤️❤️
Hang in there mama. I bet is so hard. We also have always lived close to family and when we think if we ever have to move away I would be devastated. I’m for one extremely afraid of change, you should be proud of your self for taking this huge step for your little family. The one great thing is that we have FaceTime. So you can at least still see your family even if is not physically. You are strong and an amazing wife and mom it’s ok to be sad. ❤️
I miss my mum so much wishing just to hear her voice again. It never leaves you but you learn new ways to deal with life ups and downs and come out so much stronger to.
Hey Kayla! I really understand what are you going through, I left Brazil and my family when I was 18 to come to the USA to have a better education and I’ve been here for almost 10 years. I understand the feeling of guilt for not being there with your family and feeling that you are hurting them. But you are doing what’s best for you and for your family and they will understand. Just allow yourself to feel all the emotions that you are feeling right now. It’s not always easy, especially around holidays and birthdays, but have faith that it will get better over time, also you are only one FaceTime away from seeing them. Everything is going to be ok, and you will always have their support even though they are not next to you! Wish you all the luck!! Kisses 😘
I love watching your videos but recently they’re especially relatable! I had our first son a few months ago who has also had reflux and colic, and we moved country when he was 8 weeks old.
I’m definitely still figuring it out still, it’s been hard. I think the best advice is to remember you still have your husband as your best friend and companion and your children to love and keep you busy. Hopefully between you visiting and your family coming to visit there won’t be long between visits.
It’s really helped me to always have the next visit planned and in the diary so you have that to look forward to.
Also it isn’t forever and you may well end up moving home again in the future.
I hope the snoo works for you! We were very tempted but then heard about the mamaroo bassinet which is new. It’s much cheaper and works like the mamaroo chair but is a bassinet for overnight sleep. It hasn’t arrived yet but so excited to try am praying it helps! The only difference between it and the snoo I think is it doesn’t have the built in swaddle and doesn’t move upon sensing the baby move so you have to control it. It was a lot cheaper though. I hope it works!!
Sending love! All will be well. Huge life changes are scary but always after a period of a lot of change things settle down to a new normal and you will look back on this x
You being so sensitive makes you a beautiful person. I know what it's like to feel super anxious about things. It's hard but also makes you live your life thoughtfully and cherishing every little happy moment. Lots od love ♥️
Hey girl! I moved from Pa to Kansas right after college and I feel you. It’s really hard to move away from family and have to start all over in a new place. What helped me is to find a group or an activity that met up once a week. It gave me something to look forward to every week and it allowed me to meet new people which helped me find new groups and activities. I know there’s a lot of mommy and me or moms of toddlers groups. You got this girl! Keep your head up❤️.
I get it. I'm in Australia and moved from Canberra to Perth (cross country) for the same reason. It gets easier, but I've been here for over 18 months and I still have my bad days and that's okay too! Embrace the bad days, it makes the good days so much better. Good luck!
I have two kids as well. My son is 4 and my daughter is 2.5 months old. My parents have never met their grandkids and I haven’t seen my parents in 7 years. I get the feeling of missing your family!
Hang in there momma! ♥️
Wow. I landed on this vid accidentally, and was thinking what a waste of time; shouldn't she concentrate on caring for the children rather than making videos?!
Then I looked up what SAHM stood for and saw all the thankful comments below. I rescind my nasty thoughts. You ladies are HEROES!!!
My wife put her career on the back burner to be there for me and our 5 children. It has been hard (financially), but worth it. There is nothing better for children than to learn and grow with the comfort and security of knowing mum is there (and dad). These vlogs would never be our cup of tea, so I won't be subscribing, but keep up the good work inspiring other mums / families, and all best wishes.
my parents are separated & it’s just me and my older sister that were living with my mom. my older sister moved out 3 years ago and I felt the biggest guilt on thinking about moving out with my partner. it was just her and I for years and it was really hard at first. I cried constantly because I truly realized how much I missed her. we facetime every day which makes both of us feel better :)
Hi! It is very hard to move away from family! In my experience I moved from Mexico to Texas and although it wasn’t extremely far from my family (8 hr trip) and even I was excited and happy because I was newly wedded I had anxiety and depression for some time. But always try to keep a positive and grateful state of mind. That helped me.
That was back 2018-2019
Now on 2020 we moved from Texas to Michigan and we don’t know anyone we are in our own. Once the excitement wears off it is sad and mixed emotions. But You get over it and it becomes your new normal. You’ll be good
You just need to give yourself time don’t force anything.
😘 we have been here for a month and we are happy and in constant communication with our families and I think moving away contributed to that. But we feel like we are closer than before !
We are a military family so we have moved a lot in the last 10+ years. Take the time to get settled in to your home first and then look to outside things you and your kids can do so you don't feel so isolated. I guess a plus for you is that you can drive back home if you really need to go home. Our first move was Germany so that wasn't an option. I talk to my mom everyday which really helps not seeing family often.
I lived away from home for 6yrs and my biggest regret was always not making the most of the time spent together before I moved. Make the most of these 8 days. Do the simple things with your family that you love the most and will miss the most. Sending you love from England xx
Hi Kayla, I relate to you on so many levels, I'm also 29. 19 months ago I lost my mom to cancer. Now I'm pregnant and on hospital bed rest away from my toddler. I defiantly understand the overwhelming feeling of processing all the emotions. Grieving, being grateful, and heartbroken all in the same breath. Hang in there!
I love your videos! I know I'm late watching this video, but I have also seen your most videos as well. Going back to your older videos to see what it was like when you became a mom of 2. We have so much in common; I also graduated from FIU and from the pembroke pines area and very close to my parents. I eventually moved away with hubby (then my bf) and it was so hard, so I completely understand the stress and the emotional component. I have a little girl, and love to see your day to day videos with the kids. Keep up the great work, and props that you can do youtube and be a SAHM. I know it takes a lot of discipline!
I totally understand how you’re feeling. My husband is stationed in Germany so I had to leave my family in Texas to come live here. Not only that but I was pregnant! So I also felt very guilty for taking my baby away from my mom and dad. Not even giving them the chance to be there the day she was born. It was really hard for a while and you will always miss them but it gets better as you adjust day by day ❤️
I moved to Georgia from Toronto three years ago and it was very hard at first. I go home whenever I can, and I call my mom everyday. Making friends locally helped a bunch. Stay strong and know that you'll get through it and learn to navigate your new circumstance. Much love to you and your family! You got this, momma.
Hey Kayla, I lived away from family for about two years. I recommend face to face calls, either facetime or Marco Polo is a great app that you can send long video messages. Seeing the people I think makes it better than just phone calls. Also find something that is familiar to you quickly. Either a Target or a restaurant that will make this new place feel more normal.
It made me so sad to see you sad because you are such a sweet person! 😭 I am very close to my family too so I understand how hard it would be to move away from them! I will be praying for you during this big move and transition in your life!
Aww! I'm 34 weeks along. (Military family- and this is our first baby) we've moved so many times. And it's hard. I can only imagine with two babies. I moved away from my home at 18, for college and marriage and I've moved many times around the country so I guess by now I'm used to it. But it does get lonely.
The hardest part for me has been not being able to share the excitement of preparing for baby with family and friends, no baby shower, my mom will most likely not be here for the birth...
But I do have to say, it gets better. I've been loving VA since we moved here a year ago. Not sure what area you'll be at, but theres so much to do. The weather (at least for me is perfect- compared to our other duty stations)
Best of luck to you!
You are an amazing person. You made me cry 😢. And I’m in kind a situation like you I’ll be moving to Florida soon but I’m moving closer to family bc I will be going through a separation so that is hard too. We are here for you always ❤️❤️
I feel you! Like not me I didn't move away but my mum moved to Australia for 2 years and it was so tough not being able to see her. And she struggled not being surrounded by family. It was easier for me obviously cos I stayed in England. All I can say is that facetiming her just randomly when our timezones kind of matched up saved our sanity even if it was just for 5-10 minutes to say hi and what are you doing today. But the only thing I can really recommend is while your kids are still babies find a mum and toddler group to reach out at least for Riley too so she can start her life with some new friends which might make the transition easier. Sending so much love x
I'm 20 and have a 6 week old and only have my in laws. The rest of my family lives in other states. I know how hard it is to not have family close! You got this mama! Love how raw this video is. You are truly one of my favorite TH-cam moms!
Hi Kayla! My daughter is 5 months old and I can't imagine what is would be like to pack everything up with a new baby, let alone two. We moved when I was about 7 months pregnant to a different part of town and I was so grateful it happened before she came. Wishing you luck in the move!!
Hi Kayla, I know moving away to a different state is hard, and being away from your family is hard. I moved continents and when I was 13 and been in boarded school since then and im now 19 and haven't lived in the same continent as them since I was 13. It is challenging, but it will get easier, and you can always phone them and facetime them. It took me a while to adjust and I felt soo homesick but it will get better. so I know exactly what you are going through and the best advice I can give to you is keep busy, get your mind onto something you enjoy, do the things you love and it will be a great experience for you. I love watching your channel and Jackson and Riley are so cute.
I was 27 when i moved to another country and we are now about 500 miles away from my hometown. It’s perhaps not as far as in your case, but i felt exactly the same. We manage to see each other about 5 times a year and before i had my son, i wasn’t aware of the distance that much. When i gave birth and my family has visited us in the first week, I’ve realized how my mom and dad and sister and the rest of the family won’t see my little guy growing up and hitting the milestones etc. and i was broken in tears when they left.. it is hard but it becomes easier with time. You will appreciate each day you spend with them even more but you will also create your own life and will gladly returning back to tour new home❤️
Thank you for sharing and being honest about the move. I totally get you. We move to a whole new continent on 2018 with a 18 month old toddler and it was pretty difficult to try to juggle it all ; however, I have to say that both our families and us tried every day to stay in touch, share pictures of the highlights of our days and lots and lots of FaceTime or Video calls. I’m just so grateful for technology because it does make big difference. Also we we more coordinated to visit each other.
I've lived away from family/in-laws (I'm married with a toddler and another baby on the way) for 2 years now and it's definitely hard. I'm also Catholic and we sort of 'shopped around' and went to a few churches in the area before joining one. Our church community has been so welcoming and we've met some really wonderful people through church - honestly if it wasn't for that, we might not have wanted to stay in the area we live in. Best of luck to you -- I feel for you right now.
Once I got married, we moved to Virginia to finish college. For the first 18 years of our marriage, we didn’t live near either of our families. Our daughter looked forward to seeing both sides of her family atleast once or twice a year. It was hard, but it made us focus on our marriage and making a life of our own. We had our own traditions, and just became a strong little family unit. It also made the times we did see our families sweeter.
I’ll be praying for you and your family as you make this difficult, but necessary transition. You can do it!
Blessings.🙏🏾🙏🏾
You got this girl! It will be hard but if you guys don’t like it, it’s only temporary and you can come home. Sometimes living away from family is better because then when you do see them it’s planned, and the time together is such quality time.
My grandma and aunt live in Ireland and I see them for 2-3 weeks every year, so when we do see each other it’s straight hanging out and doing everything together for 2 weeks lol. That’s more time then I spend with a lot of family members that literally live in my same neighborhood.
I’ve never lived further than 15 minutes from my family. I can’t imagine moving away, but I’m sure you guys are doing what’s best for your family right now. I’m sure it’s normal to feel upset, worried & nervous about moving away.
You’ll adjust and pull through, you’re a strong momma & I know you’ll do great. Even if you have to FaceTime/ call your mom 15 times a day lol
I can totally understand your feelings. I lost my mom at a young age and always felt I needed to get away and start new.
At the age of 18 I packed up from kansas and moved across the world to now germany. I've been here for almost 5 years now and sadly I cant say it gets easier, sometimes it's very hard but I would never regret my decision. I love this new life I have. I'm even pregnant with my first child now and it definitely is in my mind always that I wish my family was around to help me but then again I've made a new family here and I know you will find many people to help you through. You're such a kind hearted person so i know you will meet some great people that will hopefully help a bit.
Just want to send my love you and your families way. Love your videos❤ definitely been helping through my pregnancy. Keep your head up I know you'll figure it out 💕
I completely understand your feelings. I'm also pregnant with my first child, and even though family and in-laws each only live 2 hours away, I'm said that they are not around all the time. They even have mentioned the same feelings and it made me cry. I know that I have friends here with me, but it is just not the same. It just makes you realize how much you love them and they love you.
Keep strong!
What caused you to move from
Kansas to Germany? Quite a bitt of a move! I want to visit Germany and go to the cuckoo clock store in the Black Forest
@@ryanm7249 well my best friend is originally from Germany and would tell me about how amazing it is and I decided ok I'll take a vacation there and see how I like it. Well in the end I just stayed. I never flew back home from my 'vacation' because I just loved it here.
You should come out to Germany and the black forest is amazing. Even after 4 years I feel like I live in a fairytale. Everything is just old and beautiful here
@@triciathomson8678 Well when I get a little money to do that I will!
You made me cry Kayla it’s not easy especially with kids your going to be ok and things will workout for the best manny blessings and safe travels I don’t know how it’s like to leave family behind but your still going to visit your mom and she will be with you for 2 weeks ❤️ thanks for being honest and real your an amazing mama to your 2 precious Kiddos
My husband and I moved away from our families 5 years ago. In that time we had a baby girl and I am currently pregnant with a a baby boy. It’s so hard !!! I have spent so many days and nights crying over the fact that I can’t go see my mom and dad. I grew up very close to my grandparents, and I feel so guilty that my children don’t have that everyday like I did. But when we are home, or when they visit... that time is so precious and so memorable and now we can plan trips and I see it now as a blessing. You will be sad, and there always will be a little part of your heart missing, but with the help of your kids you will get through it. Xo
You should drag your Mom or Dad along with you for the first two weeks of the move. That will allow you to explore the town/city and join up in Mommy-Baby groups ( to meet other people) and to join a gym (not to lose weight but to again start the social thing). It is all about making a strategy. Also - you need to do this so that your husband is less stressed - he is starting a new job with more responsibilities - so you also need to think about decreasing his stress as the breadwinner (he is not coming home at night and hearing how much you are stressed out). Figure out the strategy and pre map out your grocery stores, doctor, etc
I moved 6 hours away at 17. I honestly have no advice but to know that it gets easier. And utilize FaceTime a lot! Also adding into your budget money to go see your family!
Good luck Kayla🏠 👨👩👧👦❤️ you guys will figure it out in no time. I moved away from my family when I was 19, you will miss them like crazy but when you see them the time together will be special! You got this 🙏🏼😊
Gosh your kids are absolutely adorable!
Don’t be stressed! I know moving is a lot.... I moved literally 5 times since May of last year. This will be a great adventure! I went from my home state Oklahoma to Nebraska to South Dakota! I was horrified and I just always told myself no matter where I am My family will always love me and support me. I will keep you in my prayers. 🙂💕 Also I’m pregnant and have been through most of the moves. I’m due at the end of this month!
I totally understand how you're feeling. I also spent my whole life in Florida and ended up suddenly moving away from family. As a military spouse, me and my husband have moved twice in the 3 years we've been together. Its tough leaving family, especially when you're so close to them. I will say that the first month is probably the hardest, but it does get easier. In the beginning you'll be so busy unpacking and getting settled that you wont have much time to think about other things. Facetime or video chat ends up being you're best friend. Being able to see everyone's face, even though you're not there in person, is so wonderful and it makes you feel less far away. You'll get through it. You're a strong mama. Taking things day by day is the way to go. ❤❤❤
My husband’s brother and his wife just recently moved 4 hours away from us (we used to live in the same apartment complex which is 15 minutes from my in-law’s house so we were all very close and saw each other almost daily; neither of them have ever lived away from home either). They had a 1 year old and a 4 week old baby when they moved, and it was 10 days before Christmas. She said that the beginning is really really hard, but it gets easier every single day. It’s been 4 months and she’s thriving there and loving it. She said her marriage has been totally strengthened because they have to lean on each other so much more, and she feels like a more capable mother now that she’s been doing it all on her own. She’s even starting to make friends. It’s hard, but definitely worth stretching yourself in order to grow as a person!!
All I have to say is I FEEL YOU GIRL! I too was born and raised in Miami, never left. I met my husband and he joined the Navy and that entailed us moving to Chicago for a year and then to Virginia currently. I get soooo homesick and miss my family and friends all the time! I miss the people, the loud Hispanics lol, the restaurants, the pan tostado and café con leche. I'm currently 38 weeks pregnant and it makes me soooo sooo sad that my mom isn't close by to help me with my first ever baby. We hardly know anyone in Virginia either so it'll literally be just me and my husband as new parents for the first time, without a local support system. But I will say, I am grateful for all these new experiences. We recently bought a home, which would've been impossible back in Miami. So there's also the positive parts.
Thank you for being so open about your emotions about your move! You and I are the same age and I’m moving away from home in a couple of days. While it’s only about 30-40 mins away, I still feel those same emotions. It’s all just very hard moving away from the people you’re familiar with and who you love. Def gonna watch your other videos to see how you’ve coped with the move. Your video really really helped me validate my feelings and feel a bit better about things 😊😊
I live in Dallas and I'm not gonna lie it is hard. We have missed weddings, baptisms, baby showers and so many holidays but at the end of the day we are making decisions for my son's future. Good luck!
My husband and I just moved from GA to PA 3 weeks ago for my husband’s job. We don’t have kids yet. It’s been hard. Some days are good and some days are hard. I spent half of yesterday in tears. I can’t imagine doing this with 2 children. Lean on your husband and be open about how you’re feeling. Use FaceTime for family back home ❤️
Girl it's okay 💕 I moved from home at 18 (joined the Marine Corps 🙃). I'm 22 now, I still get homesick! I got married, I just had my first baby (she just turned 3 weeks). I'm originally from Chicago & I live in San Diego & I have no family here. I find myself crying sometimes for being out here alone but you will get through it!! My family is upset for not being able to be close to me & the new family member but I video chat them and text them all the time! You got this! 💕
I know how you feel i moved to another country few years ago and 1 month ago i had a baby my parents came to see him but the next time they going to see him its going to be in the summer. I felt very guilty when they left but i remind my self that we came here for a better future for my family and that makes it better!! So just remind your self why you doing it and you ha e to think of your own family now😙
My husband and I were in an international long distance relationship for 7 years, and in the end, somebody needed to move. Initially I moved to him, then when we got married he moved to my home country, and now we're looking at moving to a new country together (and we're in the process of starting our own family, via fertility treatments). It's definitely scary leaving everything you know behind! But you'll eventually be able to feel at home once you get into a bit of a routine -- and now, travelling is so easy with planes, buses, trains, etc., so seeing your extended family isn't impossible! Look at it like a new adventure! And if you need to chat/vent/etc. there's always plenty of us ready and willing to listen.
It’s so normal to feel this way. I’m a military spouse, so we are always far from family. The worst is not being about to go to my moms for a visit or dropping my daughter off at my sisters while I run to the dr. It is a very different lifestyle than most people know. But it’s a new adventure and you will meet great people. Keep an open mind and know that you’re only a plane ride away from your family 🥰
I'm moving from Mexico to Germany in July. I'm so scared even though my German is pretty decent. Wish me luck 😅
Hang in there. This is growing you as a person. I am supper close to my mom and I call her every day and video call her so she can see her granddaughter. I dont live near any of my family but it has made us even closer as a family.
I moved away from my family almost a year ago. I have 3 kids, my youngest is only a month old. I was felt guilty and sad at first. And I still have waves of sadness when everyone back home gets together for a family dinner. But you find your new normal. It will feel like home eventually ❤
So in September I moved away from my family out of state for the first time and it’s been hard at times but then there’s times were I forget that they are states away I’m originally from California and moved to North Dakota for my husbands job but I talk on the phone or FaceTime almost daily and when they don’t hear from me they call me so I feel that has helped me and I have a trip planned to go back home in June, I was super emotional about the move for 2 weeks before we moved then the day we packed the moving truck and said bye to my family I lost it but I had my mom. With me for the first week so having her help reassured me that we were doing the right thing for our little family ( no kids yet 😢) so I’m no help there but thank you for sharing your true emotions with us! ❤️prayers and love sent to you for comfort and peace ❤️
I was born and raised in Florida and about three years ago I moved to Colorado. It was a huge adjustment. My husband, who was my boyfriend at the time, and I ended up breaking up for about 9 months and I felt like I had no one but I made friends, explored the town and found myself during that time. I call my mom just about everyday and everything has worked out great. I'm now married and expecting a little one in July and my husband and I will celebrate our 11 year anniversary this year of being together.
There will be some tough days but those days will start to become less and less and time goes on. You got this!
I moved away from home at 18 for school and met my now husband 8 years ago. I'm from Kansas City, MO and I moved to Valley City, ND. I'm my moms only child and we are super close. I never thought I'd move away from my family in a million years. From my wedding to now having my first child, I've had to do all of it away from my family. Now that I've had my little girl I've had the same guilt of changing my life so drastically and doing it without my mom. I miss her dearly. We usually make a trip down about twice a year. But it never feels like enough. It's definitely hard, but try not to be so hard on yourself for doing what you feel is best for your family.
I’m a military spouse and moved away from my home Guam for the first time 2 years ago with my two kids and it was one of the hardest things We had to go through..we are at Virginia Beach and though it’s far away from home we make the best of the time we are here. Being away from family taught me to take things day by day and not stress too much.You got this momma! It’s an emotional journey but I know you’ll get through it❤️
I traveled with my two kids with my mom and it really helps to have snacks! I had my iPad and earphones for my 4 year old at the time, and my 11 month old at the time i would give her her paci or bottle when the plane took off and landed. The pressure may hurt their ears and it’s helped me at that time! Safe travels to y’all 😊
I know the feeling. I left my family behind to move to the US over 3 years ago and this week I was able to finally see my mother again and she was able to meet my little 5 month old. Find the strength in your kids and your husband, let the new place surprise you and I know it’s hard but try to block those sad feelings with a video or a conversation with your husband; I kept looking forward and even tho there where times I just wanted my mother I found confort on my husband he became my rock, Share your feelings EVERYDAY and let your husband confort you! That’s how I stay happy and enjoying life
Hi Kayla💗 I've experienced what you're experiencing and still do! I was born and raised in boston for 22 years and then moved to be with my husband in Boca Raton, FL. We then moved to Orlando and then moved to Pittsburgh, PA. It was a huge adjustment moving to these places and I found it difficult to be away from family and friends for a while, but it does get better. You will find your groove and it will become your new normal.💗 I would really suggest getting out there and maybe joining a mom group, I've found that's helped me a lot. :)
Exactly the same i went through when I moved to USA 4 years ago, I had no family here, no friends
Had decided to come for my higher studies and even today I miss them
But trust me life is like hard adulting, you’ve been lucky to make most of it for 29 years and you’ll cherish every moment you will get to spend with them ❤️ this will pass too, you’ll be happy again
Good luck on your move!! I can sympathize with moving away from family,I'm Canadian but lived in MN most of my life due to my dad's job....I married a guy from TX and we moved there when my daughter was 8 and it was hard on most of us,my parents took care of her since she was an infant while I worked....we lived with his parents for 2 mths until we found a house....the change in climate I hated since I was used to the cold.Take care and ur babies are so precious 🥰
I am so glad that you are doing so well in your new home/state, as I am going back in time to watch this......it's great that your mom has come to visit you and you have gone there and are going again now......I know how hard it is to live away from family as we have been doing it for years when both our kids married Americans and moved away. I am sure you will move back or move closer in a few years to come. As for us, I have mentioned that we plan to move closer to our daughter, son in law and grandkids next year. We have had enough with the border closure and only being able to see them in this one park. WE also live 4 hours away over 2 mtn passes that we can't drive thru in the winter.... Once we move there, we will be about 20 min away from their home, plus the border crossing. You can be so proud of yourself, Kayla, in what you have overcome in the last 6 months. You have made a beautiful home, and take such pride in decorating it. You and your family have figured out how to visit each other. If you can either go there or have them come to you every 4 months or so, and have 2-3 week visits, it will be fine- enough continuity for everyone. So, way to go, you are doing so well with all that you do- great wife, mom, daughter.....you've got this!!!!! Andrea from British Columbia, Canada........xxx
Facetime and texting is the best way I stay connected to my family. They're in CA and I'm in TX. It was hard at first, but with time it gets better.
We face time with my moms and sister mulitple times a week with our daughter so they can talk to her (shes 8 weeks old) but to keep her familiar with them and love them... we make efforts to make trips there and they come here and we just keep doing our best. It will get easier i promise! Stay strong momma!
Hugs sweet girl ❤️❤️❤️ I moved 9 hours away from my family when my oldest was 1. It was hard, but also exciting! She is now 3 and we have a 9 month old...we are moving back “home” (same town as my family) in 2 weeks and I am over the moon excited! I’ve missed my niece and nephews so much, and can’t wait to be near my parents and siblings. Hang in there. We FaceTime every single day with family members, they send fun packages for every holiday, and visit often...so that helped!
My husband is in the military so we started out being 7 hours away from my family for 3.5 years (with no kids so it was easier), now we are 30 minutes away from my family and are having our second child soon. It is definitely scary to think that when we have to move I won’t be able to get help from my mom or grandparents either but FaceTime is amazing and we currently FaceTime my husbands dad every Sunday morning so that keeps the relationship strong for sure. Then he gets to see his granddaughter every week too! It is definitely beneficial for everyone to have that weekly communication. I hope you are able to see the positives and find easy ways to keep in contact with your family. P.S. Love your channel!
Totally understand with in the next four months my 3 month old will have lived in 4 states. Germany in December! All of those we will actually live in. Husband is military so we go where they tell us. It is had to be far from family but I also think it’s amazing. You build such a strong family unit. You and your husband will have to lean on each other so much. You got this!!!
Hi Kayla, I totally understand what you are going through. I have a 1 month old baby and live away from both my parents and my fiancé’s family. They both visited about a week after she was born and it was so nice having them here, just hanging out spending time and enjoying sharing meals together. Something I am not used to! It’s def hard bc my grandparents on both sides passed away when I was very young so I never got to experience what it was like being around grandma and grandpa and it’s something I def don’t want my kids to miss out on. I cry all the time bc I miss them and wish they were here to at least have Sunday dinner every weekend. My mom also runs a day care facility and I am so sad she has the capability to take care of my daughter once I return back to work but since they live far I need to find a stranger to take care of her :( my advice is to use your phone ! I talk to my parents daily, we have a family group chat on our phone and are constantly sending messages, and I also face time them often so they get to see their granddaughter. I know it’s not the same but you just have to make the best of the situation. For the holidays I always save up for travel expenses way in advance and book flight tickets in advance too, that way at least we can share major holidays as a family. If you need someone to talk to im here ! Xoxo
I literally started crying when u did 😭 stay strong kayla ❤️❤️ God bless!❤️
You will get through it! This is a lot for both of you, so much change but you guys are in the home stretch and it’s going to be fine! You are a tough cookie 🙂 love from Canada 🇨🇦!
You made me cry with you Kayla. I totally understand you! I have a daughter and am expecting a baby boy due in September. I don't have any family around. God has a bigger plan for us. I am from Brazil and live in Iowa away from everyone. It's so hard when you have kids but we can make a support network with other people in the same situation and soon we start to settle and seeing a new light! I'm sending lots of love and support to you guys and wish a safe trip there. ❤️
Hey Kayla, first I want to say I love your videos and as a first time mom, they have helped me through a lot. I completely understand how you feel. I’m very close to my family and I moved from California to Montana. I ended up getting pregnant a month after I moved here and I didn’t have my family for my entire pregnancy, the delivery, or my postpartum recovery and this is my first baby. I cried for the first few months here, but I’ve made a lot of good friends and the people here are so nice, and I’m sure the same is true for Virginia. I cope by FaceTiming my family as often as I can. It’s definitely really hard, but you can do it. I believe in you, and I’ll pray for you and your family to have safe travels and an easy adjustment to your new home.
I know exactly how you feel.. I was sad that I had to move to Virginia to be with my husband for work because I’ve never been away from home.. I’ve lived with family in Hawai’i my whole life and knew nothing else. I dealt with a lot of sadness and feeling separated but had to build my life up again by thinking of the pros. I also was sad that I had my son here because my mother wouldn’t be able to experience being a grandmother and play with him. You’re not alone🖤
Oh it's horrible seeing you so sad. You got this! I believe you were dealt this path in life to learn and grow. You were chosen to have these struggles. Moving away from family is always going to be hard, it would be crazy if it wasn't, you will enjoy seeing them so much and find so much joy in planning seeing them and really appreciate those moments with them even more. Look forward to your new exciting, scary, fun, unknown adventure in life.
We moved countries when my daughter was 9 months. It was hard at first but I forced myself to get out there and meet some mummy friends. I’ve met some wonderful people and Im so glad I forced myself to go to baby groups. I now can’t imagine living anywhere else 😃. You can do this 👍
I live out of home for university in Australia. I'm super close with my mum and often get sad that I can't see her 24/7. We both have very busy lives and even though we facetime often, we're usually doing stuff while we facetime. My mum has a 9 year old even though Im much older and I would understand trying to talk to her while she was putting on washing or getting her food or even making dinner. We try to watch certain shows 'together' and then talk about that episode, we text all the time and sometimes we even voice call while we do groceries just for that 'together' experience. She sends me things and I, her. Im not sure how far Virginia is but whenever possible, my mum roadtrips to see me or if I have time off uni, I go and stay with her. I understand it's a lot harder with little ones but try to vacation to eachother once a month or every 2 months. It's a process but you'll get there. Incorporate eachother into your routines
Thank you for opening up and being so honest, you have validated so many of my feelings! I went the opposite direction, DC area to Maine, and it still is so hard being away from family. But I am learning to embrace my new area, and hold onto the hope that maybe someday we can move closer again ♥️
Aww girl I feel you! 💕 My baby boy is 8 weeks old and I have my son (stepson) he’s 7 but he’s practically mine since he was 3. I live in SoCal and my parents in Mexicali (Mexico) it’s only a 3hr drive but still hard when there’s work and school. My mom still hasn’t met my baby he’s the first grandchild in my family. We’ll be able to finally go next week, it’s hard because I always wanted my kids to grow up around them as much as possible. I try to keep in touch and video call them so the kids can see them as much as I can. It’s a little hard still, I would like to be able to go visit every other week or something ugh. Be positive, don’t let that stop you from being happy. If it’s for something positive and good for your little family just keep that in mind. Much love! Hope you’re doing well. 🥰🥰🥰 P.S: omg I cant believe my baby is already in 0-3 & 3 months I feel he’s getting big super fast 😭 Jackson looks tiny😍 also my baby was 8lbs 15oz lol
Aww I understand how you feel. I got married very young and my husband joined the coast guard and we had to move from our home in California all the way to Florida. It was tough but we learned how to make a place a home and I promise you guys will get there too. You’ll always miss your parents and siblings, but it will become less and less painful