TEACHING AN E-GIRL TO TEXT HER CRUSH | First Date
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Damn :/ I got passed up on
Ben is the best possible choice to be Tiana’s first date. I have never seen anyone like him in the history of TH-cam or reality tv-a guy who shows such a good and unique personality right out of the gate. What I love most is that Ben doesn’t have tunnel vision in any sense of that term. As Anthony said, he notices the world around him, he’s curious about Tiana, and he’s...just such a great guy. I have to say that what completely sealed the deal for me was how Ben did his best to make her comfortable the entire time; and by the end of the date, she started to come out of her shell as little as a result. Go Ben!
Damn have you ever been to a public highschool before or
I will say he is a good normal guy .
Agreed
I'm confused as to why this isn't doing numbers. It's so good. I'm 21 and have never been on a date, so seeing them interact with the tips and commentary was really helpful.
u are so pretty!
@@psycherevivedby Thank youu 💜
So true. I'm 40 and his videos are having a major impact on my life. Super grateful 😁
Well I’m 26 and same here.
“MINE IS HELLA INFECTED” WHEN I SAY I DIED
Okay but like why is this so much better and more genuine than the usual reality dating shows you see on NBC. 😅
Best compliment ever
Not gonna lie, i was picturing Anthony following them around with a camera.
Saaaaame
Lmao
All hail Benddha
Lol Benddha was brilliant
Anthony you’re re setting gender norms 1 video at a time my man, as a progressive dude I love to see it!!!
@@joshwilliams3199 hell yeah! It must have been so liberating for the girl as well to do! Whether they went on the second date is a whole different question but this simplifies things sooo much
Analyse Thomas Shelby from the series peaky blinders next. He's a very interesting character
@@joshwilliams3199 ayo is that Cristiano Ronaldo in your profile pic??
As someone who's also never had a date before (at 21) I really really appreciate this video. Also, those two are cute af
Damn didn't expect so many people to not have been on a date yet at that age. Glad I'm not the only one 😅
Bruh he was so inviting and she was completely not inviting. Dont be afraid to make moves people. Confidence is attractive.
ahh it came out so good i love this!! and wow ur right i do be lacking eye contact hahaha
💪💀
It gets easier in time when you are self aware about it and practice. I used to be terrible with it and sometimes I still am. Anxiety increases my lack of eye contact, but when 8 super comfortable with somebody it is easier, so I try to practice then with ppl I’m comfortable with!
I love how you pointed out the hesitation before he asked her to skate sometime. And the whole thing when she is drafting the text.and she was nervous to send it. Dang so relatable.
Ben is one of the most naturally chilled dudes I've ever seen. And that's coning from a woman who spent her 20s living and working in a Buddhist community. What a cool human. Beat first date ever.
Hey where’s the Buddhist community you live and work at?
@@Jadedgems it was called the Friends of the Western Buddhist Order in East London UK.
@@samayantra I wish I could find a place like that where I live. I need more chill, more in the present, and peace in my life!
@@TheKatarinaGiselle i hear you! the right living conditions play a big part in our well being and growth too..but community life was challenging it wasnt all chill.. there were a lot of passionate women living and practicing together..it was a very growthful time though and glad i did it.
The girl definitely isn't my type but the dude, he is so chill...i am not gay but he attracs people. You can tell he is 100% living his life
Gay
@Lonk yeah he really is
I had the same thoughts!
Simp
Nobody:
Literally nobody:
Recenello: "puts vloggers into a DATE"
Yo Ben is a chill dude
supremely chill
@@AnthonyRecenello extremely chill
Lol all Ben’s are, it’s in the name 😂
She said she's never been on a date but she's gone on plenty of tinder "hangouts". I'm guessing her not treating them as dates is probably part of why they weren't successful
She’s lying for the cam
@Gustav Gamer when did she say she slept with them....plus who tf cares about body count these days, if you do then stick with those who also do
@@maplelu9514 people with standards
@Gustav Gamer cave man
I can totally relate to her “bro-ing” with guys and not knowing how to flirt or clearly show interest. Working on it!
loved the format!!!
Loved how you went about this. Not gonna lie, I was expecting something cheesy, but this was simple but genuine and I enjoyed it!
I really want an update with these two.
We are in times when tinder one night stands are not considered dates and the actual dinner, talking etc without sleeping with someone are considered as a date. I think if you see the person for the first time and no matter what you do, it's still a date. I think people should never be ashamed for not having a boyfriend, not having had sex with anyone or kissed anyone even if they are in their 20s. I think it's more disgusting when someone is under 17 and has already done all of this. People forget that there's a thing called "childhood" and it does not include having boys in your life in a shape and form as having sex with them or kissing them etc. I had a childhood until I got 17 and got then my first kiss. didn't sleep with anyone until I was 21 and I was in my first relationship. I think mentally I turned out better human than these people who have had sexual short "relationships" since they were 15/16. People who start their romantic relationships later or right away with a right person, are mentally more mature and see sex, dating, relationship and everything related to that in different light and actually value these things. Society is truly ruined .. I so far do not know any person who has been having sexual one night stands for 5+ years and value the sex as something you should do with emotions and with someone you truly like and not in form as crush. They are immature and childish. To be in real relationship, as Anthony has talked about in his videos before, requires patience and time. If you are immature, jumping like a tarzan from D to D (or V to V), you are still mentally a child and looking for distraction for a real problem.
I am so happy Anothony promotes real dates and having a real communication without all this tinder, instagram, TH-cam kind of ping pong dating society, kind of hoeing around attitude.
I agree with your point but the way it was delivered sounded like you demeaning people because they don’t think like you. Be aware that most had parents who did not tell them what to look for in a relationship and because of mainstream media promoting that lifestyle, a lot just unconsciously learn from that and think that is the way it is. It’s very sad but it’s deeper than just ‘people are disgusting’
“I normally don’t text right after the first date and let them create that narrative in their head” LMFAOOO
I laughed so hard
What does that even mean?!? Seriously? Asking for me, not for a friend. 🙂
@@kalamatajane yeah i dont understand either. They both agreed to meet again but now he doesn’t want to text her to set the date???
toxic af
That’s facts tho I allota guys do this ; even me
Do another vid with Ben he has interesting personality :)
You are literallly learning a girl to express her feelings in a safe and relaxed way 😀 This is AWESOME!
I'm really bad at first dates. So seeing people go on okay dates made me learn so much.
Though I'm in a 3 year relationship with someone I had an awkward couple dates with because we both suck :)
Wtf
I must say I really like this format. It gives form to the advice you usually give! The little intersections with your analysis give insight into what is happening and pick up on little things one might miss :)
They seem like cool people and I hope they have fun together!
It reminds me of Blind Date back in the day except healthy 😅
You should do that with Kennedy Walsh 😄
Go tell her
Yess good idea!
YASSSS
@@cristianabarbosa3783 I don't think she would do it though 😂😂
This is brilliant man. I learnt a lot and I hope there is more of these to come.
Could you do a charisma breakdown of somebody in combat sports like a Tyson Fury, Conor McGregor, Jorge Masvidal etc. Since they are such big personalities but also very charismatic in their own ways
This was awesome and gave me good advice, I hope to see Tiana feel more confident when dating, she's got this
Tiana is so beautiful inside & out. She just exudes attractive energy! I hope she finds the right person for her... 💞
But for some reason I get the feeling that her texting Ben first made him pull away like he said, it took him off his game 😔
could have swore that he said he has no attachment to any outcome. either way, should be a non factor. i love it when girls hit me up. takes a bit of the mind reading out of the process. Anthony doin god's work!
@@iansamuel1811 I wish all men felt the same as you ... It would make our lives as women much easier 😁
@@EvaMariposa i feel the same and i dont know anyone who doesnt
maybe u think about it to much if u see he didnt text u after a while text him
Thats was really unexpected.. How did he go from 'shes beautiful' to.. I let them create a narrative in their head' I"d love to get Anthonys thoughts on that.
@@wolfbad512 guilty as charged... I Do tend to overthink at times. But it's mostly due to past experience. We tend to be more hesitant when we've been burnt a few times 😉
I loved this !!! They’re both adorable, and I actually think they’d be great together, or just as friends ! Hope tiana is able to open her heart to it.
That was good! I really like this! Can’t wait for the follow up!
I’m glad!
I love this. Tiana has such an amazing personality and so does Ben!
Hey Anthony, I stumbled upon this video series of yours, and I have to say, I'm so thoroughly impressed. The way you capture the authenticity of people has a timeless and grounded quality that a lot of dating shows don't have. You have the usual options: obvious fake reality television, pick up artisty stuff, "fake social experiments", drunk 2am post-club interviews, and even millennial laboratory projects like "Jubilee". None of these video series have caught my eye the way your First Date series has. Your videos remind people (who are otherwise lost in our overwhelming social-media fueled modernity) that ultimately being yourself is the goal, caring about your own well-being and the well-being of others. This sort of authentic journey-oriented approach to dating is exactly what I and many others have wanted for a while, but have not seen manifested on youtube before. Hope you continue the series, and I hope to be able to meet you someday to learn more about what's led you to making such great videos.
Best,
Sam
This means so much to me Sam. 🙏🏻
@@AnthonyRecenello Thanks for the reply Anthony. If you ever need a subject for another one of these videos, I would love to be your client. Best.
she’s really attractive when shes open to being herself
One hundred percent
That sideway good bye hug. I've gotten it after dates. Maybe not as pronounced as her, and maybe just the face tilted slightly away. Always felt it was a signal of disinterest. Like "please don't kiss me" or something. Not sure if it is on purpose or not. At least not a good sign. Not sure where I want to go with this comment, but...
Actually, looking at it again, it seems like he initiated the side-hug.
From my experience, it is definitely “please don’t kiss me” but not out of disinterest but more out of respect for myself and a lot of times we do get kissed when we don’t go for the side hug. I get some men are trying to be romantic but I just met you, you do not have any right to just grab my face and kiss me when I allowed a hug. The full hug should tell you the person is interested bc it’s still a form of affection. If some men didn’t take advantage of a full hug from a woman, then they wouldn’t all get a side hug. Imho Ben initiated the side hug bc he’s aware that’s what will make Tiana comfortable but also let her know he’s interested by breaking the physical barrier.
@@teresa3940 Nicely written :)
What exactly do you mean with "not out of disinterest but more out of respect for myself"?
@@lyn1896 I am personally uncomfortable with kissing someone I just met so I respect my boundaries instead of cross them by trying to win over the guy
@@teresa3940 loving this healthy discourse between u guys
@@teresa3940 That makes sense.
I wonder if I have ever been in a situation like that, and given up on dating the girl because I though she was not interested 🤔
I guess a situation like that is ideal for doing what Anthony forced the vlogger to do: making her send a short text. Then there are no misunderstandings. I love that 😁
Very very instructional! You might be the first to have such a in depth approach to first dates, Anthony! Congrats man!
This is awesome do more of these
You are so good Anthony. They need a second date. Relax Tiana, have fun, enjoy yourself, most important, be yourself!
Generation Zs Dating Dilemma:As fast as Attraction on first sight is activated, as fast is the Interest lost on no sight.
Solution is not to stop looking at them
Ben has a great personality and I love your commentary on their personalities and how they interacted
They're both beautiful. I hope she can grow more confident.
I missed Anthony so much.
😘
I totally saw her in a hollywood target in the last couple of months! She’s brave for doing this vid!
Ok I finished the video. I have some thoughts on this
Thanks for this thoughtful comment. A lot of stuff was cut out for time. If there’s enough interest I’d love to get her back on the channel.
Aaaw, loved it. They were both so adorably sweet and super laid back, hope they pursue each other haha
Yes, the environment tip was PARAMOUNT. I also interact with my environment a lot and when a guy notices this about me during a date it is always a major point for a big sloppy compliment. Lol.
It shows you LOVE your world and everything in it, instead of fearing the unknown like most people do
This is such an underrated SHOW, you are really good, and the quality of your videos is really well produced! good job!
Omg. Please do more of these. This was awesome.
Hahahahah the girl that's makes no eye contact is totally me on a date because I feel uncomfortable. Oke I'm going to change it the next time😂
At least we learn something here, btw I reccomend if you're scared to look into the eyes, try looking in the eyebrows or forhead, after you feel more confident you can try to look in the eyes
I have never heard someone say, "like" that many times in my whole fookin life.
nerves do be making ya do that :")
Do you live in LA?
like= scared to have a pause before saying something. Its very american thing since i have friends from all kinds of english speaking countries and never heard of it more than by americans. usually people say it to avoid quietness.
@@sakidickerson No.
Fookin shit
I like this format.
Thanks Ashley
@@AnthonyRecenello My roommate was on the edge of her seat asking what happened. "We gotta wait until the next video!" I said. I really hope Ben doesn't overreact to her texting first!... The whole video started a good conversation between my friend and I about our past dates though - so thank you. Looking forward to watching this series =)
@@ashleyg.76 I’m so glad. That’s what I made this for :-)
i like the fo-reality show vibe lol
Ben was such a sweetheart! Where did you find him?! I hope things work out for them. She seems like such a nice girl too:)
Ok but like...did they go skating?
Also you need to do more of these❤
That couple is so cute - great matchmaking Anthony. Tiana and Ben showed a little nervousness which was hard to watch, but they braved it out. (This is why I don't like watching sports - so much at stake - nerve wracking) I'm thinking Ben would have to be really patient with Tiana because without a lot of friend and family support she might easily give up on him, especially if he expects dating savvy from her. That's her first date remember. I notice Tiana's posture shows she needs to work on self esteem. I took a karate class which helped me with my stance though maybe for her try a ballet class. I had an ex that when we walked around the neighborhood he interacted too much with strangers in a weird kind of aggressive way - he turned out to be a stalker. Ben did it in a charming way.
"Benddha" HAHAHAH He's so cute
Can you do an episode on ladies in their late 20s-early 30s?
yes please
Oooohh, I hear some beautiful bossa nova in the background!
Hey Anthony, this is awesome finally after a long time, you posting this content format, in person, I love it man, please please, keep it up, enyoing it!
This entire series is SOOO good I can’t wait for you to release more! I’ve watched them all lol
I looveeed this video soo bad!! and all the things you point out, makes it so valuable cause it’s entertaining and educational
That format is REALLY cool , thank you for always trying to Spice up your content !
After watching this I would even love to get analyzed by Anthony 😂
Can you teach personality. I would argue no. I think it’s about if the person wants to change by themselves. Having someone say to open up be yourself doesn’t mean you do it, I would say it makes you less yourself because your forcing yourself to do that.
I agree, Jack!
Isn't personality just pre-written and possibly changeable?
Isn't personality just pre-written and possibly changeable?
Bro, I love your vids. Tiana and Ben were a good potential matchup! I'm not a dating coach at all. I do fairly average, I would say. I watch your videos for the psychological intel I can gain from raw human interactions. I'm a medical student, and usually I watch police interrogation videos or bodycam footage for referencing purposes. It's nice to watch the sweeter side of human psychology every once in a while. Thanks for not "reality tv"'ing their interactions. And thanks for honest responses for your reaction videos. I understand that you have an idea for a video and things you want to talk about before making one, and I do take that into account. When I balance the positive and negative bias from a content creator with the raw body-language in the form of micro-expressions (You used one in this vid, good job) with the interpreted intent, I seem to find a pretty good middle ground between what you do to entice viewers and curious folks online and what is down to 100p genuine reaction. Sorry if that seems like an insult, it's a complement. I study humans, and, in my biased opinion, you're a damn good one. You have a purpose, a goal, and something to bring to, not only the platform, but to conversation. To keep this brief (by my standards,) keep up the great content.
I LOVE BEN
This is pretty good shit. Ben has the kind of swag I go for in guys but without the shit self-esteem to undermine it. A cool younger guy. A few years too young for me though.
The best format ever, please keep doing thid
Hahaha I feel like these videos are just telling me how unattractive I am, how I do everything wrong, etc. for 20 minutes straight.
I love tiana I first saw her on TikTok and I live her personality and he’s so cute! Good video
Yeah she’s great
YOOOOOO I LOVE THIS VIDEOOOOOOOO
Thanks!
Omg this video was so so good! I really enjoyed watching it! Please do more of these!!
"I gotta go, I think TH-cam's about to kick me off their property." XD
lol this episode is great. all it needs is the youtube algorithm to pick it up
Oh trust me I’ve been saying the same thing for a while.
omg this is so relatable im cringing hahaha.
If I was to date now I'd be totally different though. I'm more in touch with my intuition so I can go off my gut if I vibe with someone or not and be more playful/flirty cos I'm more in touch with my femininity and sexuality. I feel like she didn't find him attractive initially but didn't have a clear enough intuition to speak up.
Is this a Netflix special?
Love you Anthony
The og italian fan
😘
Shes like “i never been on a date before”. Finally has a date, and doesn’t follow up.... derrrrrrrr
I love this series anthony god DAAM this wass greeatt! Cant wait for the next one hahaha!!!
Maan this should be a TV show. I'm loving Anthony's commentary
This was legendary Anthony! Can’t wait to see how things went for these two
This is awesome!!! You’re killin it
Bring this show back pleaseeee
DUDE i have an episode that i never edited cuz it takes sooooo long and nobody watches these. but im gonna bring back my coaching videos in a new way this summer. very excited. im planning on going to NYC and coaching viewers right then and there.
Anthony....you are such a likeable person, and have such a great face. I used to sculpt portrait busts for a company, and so I tend to watch faces closely. Yours is so appealing, that whenever I watch your videos, I mostly just watch you, lol.
That’s amazing I’m just imagining my bust as someone enters the front door. 🤦🏻♂️ Would be quite hilarious.
@@AnthonyRecenello We got requests for custom pieces from some famous Hollywood folks, so why not a Recenello :D
@@oliviatrue2907 LOLLLLLLL well if you come up w anything let me know :-)
Omg I was waiting so long for a video, I realy love ur advices 💜, im like a bro too 😂, and this video was in a perfect moment in my journey to understand that im always making me go to the friendzone for many reasons, thank you for help in this way and dont stop it pleaaaase sorry for my english
I'm late but I love these first date videos!!
Thanks Jacob
Loved the video, I feel like a learned a lot about things that I've done in first dates and that I didn't consciously noticed before
I wish you had set up someone in there 30's. I feel like in my 20's it wasn't hard for me to meet guys the same age.
That’s coming
Yay! Thank you!!!
I just wanted to call-out that the only dude you asked Tiana to opine on “attractive-ness” was the Asian man, Alex. It’s a stereotype in the West that Asian men are unattractive. As a Chinese-American woman myself, I think we must hold each other accountable in unlearning propagandized and racialized beauty standards. I appreciate your work and hope you’ll hear this out!! If nothing else, then in the name of fairness. I say this, Anthony, because I think you’re great. Enjoy your watching your videos!! Just think we can all hold our communities accountable during this racial reckoning, in big ways and small!
I agree I’d like to end the prejudice and racism in dating. But I don’t think Tiana was judging based on his race though. 🙏🏻
Just watched all of these, quality content man love to see it
🙌🏻
The King has returned
I loved this video So creative Anthony! You need to make more of these! Now I’m wishing I was a TH-camr so you could set me up 😣
Maybe one day!
@@AnthonyRecenello 🥺🥺 thanks for believing in me
I could see it now me looking at Anthony every 2 min to see if I’m doing good or not on my date💀
She is so pretty. I think it would show even more if she had better posture,
Really dope idea for a video! Amazing commentary. You've been an inspiration for my channel :)
:-)
This is so cute!
you should put Peter park tv for sure lol
Love the format and content of these videos!! Can't wait for more!
Anthony ur the fucking best. Period.
The format reminds me of the mtv “Blind Date” show in the 2000s xD
😉