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Your speech on men benefiting as well when we loosen the oppression regarding women's sexuality: music to my ears.
Women in the west actually have more sexual market value then men. Statistically, women generally have more sexual partners than men.
As a woman, I would hate if the person I'm dating wanted sex right off the bat because Ik 9 times out of 10 he wouldn't commit to a relationship (he'd hit it and quit it) and that's why a lot of women practice celibacy. And this goes both ways as the culture of today encourages women to be more promiscuous.
What's so virtuous about spreading your legs to every person you meet?
i dont beleive it benefits at all I think ti does the complete oppsoite, i think the idea that Women need to "overcome their sexual oppression" is exactly the type of language that is building this culture where men view sex the way they do. they deep down know a problem with it thats why they want women who arent involved in it but many simple are to naive to recognize that they themselves are a part of the problem.
@@draedon_ it's not about sexual activity. You can be sexually active amd not sleep with every second person you meet. By doing that you show that you don't actually care about who's the person you're sleeping with - you don't want to know about their personality, their life, etc. People generally don't like vanity.
@@rockstarburne Jane Austen use to receive a flood of letters from women in disbelief that she actually enjoyed sex. Women thought it was just a “wifely” duty. They never learned their body, to try to be attractive was sinful, and sexual desire = internal damnation. That is excessive. I understand modesty, however only a small number of people (especially younger) have even moderate numbers of sexual partners. The average age people are losing their virginity is 22 and teen pregnancy is down, as well as the birth rates in general. So, no sexual liberation of women and men is not hurting anyone. It is allowing something natural to be natural instead of guilt and shame ridden. Repression makes people weird and let’s be honest it’s not as if women are any safer in Amish attire.
I feel like the only thing I disagree with is that women don’t repress other women’s sexuality. I feel like women slut shame and the like very often
Man you're really hitting on those points about men wanting a "virgin like woman" when I was younger I sort of had that stupid mentality a little bit. But at the same time I held myself to those same standards. I saw the double standard and I never wanted to be a person that has sex with just anyone I have to feel a real connection to someone because sex is vulnerable and intimate for me. It's dumb as hell that dudes will want to have sex with literally anybody but expect their woman to be a pure nun or something. That kind of mentality I could never fully get behind. I think you're doing good work breaking the stigmas.
Saki Dickerson As a female, I appreciated what you said. I’ve never liked the double standard with men being encouraged. Yet, women are shamed for basic nature.
Weirdly enough when it comes to my experience. Most of the social stigma or shaming imposed on women are seemingly by other women whereas men either don't care or are to afraid to even do that. Especially in the workplace.
@@Enerjjak I've definitely found a good portion of men have that opinion, but they're often younger and more insecure. Where as there are sooo many women who have this belief and it's often times women that I respect in many ways so it's a huge let down that they'll slut shame other women who want to have sex. Women are definitely super harsh on each other. 😑
so much respect for that❤
The fun fact is that lots of guys expect a woman to be "a pure nun", as you said, but at the same time also a great and passionate lover who gives amazing blowjobs right away 😂😂 like.. How??
THANK YOU FOR CALLING OUT SEXISM WHEN IT COMES TO SEXUALITY!!
Yeah, feminism all the way. Let me just call out the inequality when it comes to dating, sexual life, where women have the advantage. Maybe that's where the 'sexism' comes from? Maybe it's because women are generally more valuable than men when it comes to dating?
@@apollo5261 This makes no sense. The op is talking about the double standard when it comes to sex: it is acceptable for men to have a lot of sex while it isnt for women or they’ll be seen as a slut.
@@apollo5261This gives off “Guys this doesn’t involve me and I’m sad so I’m gonna spew some shit that will include me, even though it doesn’t apply” type of energy.
I’m so addicted to watching these breakdowns, haha. The way you read and analyze is so interesting, and I feel like I’m always learning so many great social skills.
Same !!! I'm learning so much and having fun... its great :)
When he said he was visualizing the people watching his video, I was picking my nose
nice
I was doing that as I read this comment and laughed out loud lolol
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Ive started a new job and decided to take up the advice of being vulnerable with confidence and i dont think ive ever had a stringer bond with colleagues. Its been a month now and its changed my outlook completely, thank you anthony.
I LOVE THIS BEC
Omg similar thing happened with me and my internship buddies
ngl, been struggling with being vulnerable at work. glad it’s working for you bro and im going to do the same
Love the new background btw
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Stupid hook up shows like love island literally lower my IQ and raise my confidence at the same time.
love island is a dumb show but it’s so entertaining i can’t help but watch it
just vibin lol same
😂😂😂😂👌🏼same
I like the uk version lol
I high key want you to review and analyze every episode... with all the drama that has happened I want your expert opinion on the relationship dynamics and why they have ended up the way they have!!!
Every time you talk about gendered issues you absolutely NAIL IT it's so refreshing!! I think oftentimes men feel it's not their place to speak on it, or that they need to performatively support women without thinking about it too much. It's lovely to hear an intelligent and compassionate approached applied to the stigmas and challenges affecting men and women respectively without comparing them to each other or making it a competition 💕
ooh please react to Ryan Renolds and Blake Lively
Yes yes yes yes yes yes yes
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Thank you for making the comment about women and purity/sex. Men and women both want sex! If it's consensual and everyone is having a good time what's the issue right?
There's real wisdom in being "pure". It's in ones best interest to treat sex as something of sanctity. To treat it as a precious and beautiful form of bonding and vulnerable self-expression that is reserved only in the sanctity of a committed
relationship of mutual love and respect, with someone very special to you, (& of whom you are special to).
What may be pure to you may not be pure to someone else. I say focus on your sex life and allow others to define and experience what’s right for them.
@@danielleelizabeth9417
Yes, every adult has the free will and right to choose how they conduct their sex life (as long as it's legal). Tho, there are cultural taboos against sexual debauchery for good reasons. It often leads people towards a variety of consequential effects.
This is your experience. Have you asked in depth questions to millions of people to back up your what you just stipulated?
Many people are unhappy for many reasons; to pin it on “debauchery” is making a judgement based on perhaps your experience or your perceptions of others experience.
If one is confident in themselves they carry their confident throughout interactions. If people need validation from others this becomes apparent and not just in sexual situations.
Thanks for your opinion though. Also no need to relay that we stick with legal interactions . To feel the need to stipulate to grown adults that they should partake in “legal” sexual interactions when this is obvious comes across awkwardly.
Did you have an experience where you needed to demand adults to just partake in legal intercourse?
I have never needed this reminder personally. Sex does not have to be equated with debachery or anything unbecoming. The fact that is your go to analysis relays to me your experience with sex has not been pleasant at times.
I wish you the best; and hope you can keep an open mind in sexual interactions and in life in general.
@@danielleelizabeth9417
No, my post wasn't intended as a reflection of my own sexual experiences, but rather, an attempt at an objective overview on the subject.
In my previous post, I emphasized "legal" sex, simply as a way to be more precise and clear (to eliminate all variables of illegal sexual behavior).
The intent of my reply was to point out that although people have the right to determine their own sexual behaviors, however, one's choices and their sexual behavior has significant effects upon the individual and the society.
The psychological and emotional scars resulting from uncommitted sexual relationships precipitate anxiety, low self-esteem, suicidal tendencies, divorce, and family breakdown. Sexually transmitted diseases, including AIDS, and unwanted pregnancies raise concerns about public health and welfare.
▪︎Health Consequences
There is no denying the catastrophic effects of the sexual revolution. In the 1950s, before the onset of this revolution, there were two notable sexual diseases worldwide: syphilis and gonorrhea. Various other sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) were known only in the world of prostitution. Doctors have now identified more than 25 kinds of STDs. According to the World Health Organization, “More than 1 million people acquire a sexually transmitted infection (STI) every day,” and “Each year, an estimated 500 million people become ill with one of 4 STIs: chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis and trichomoniasis." The effects of these diseases range from minor discomfort to chronic pain, infertility, and, in some cases, death.
▪︎Psychological Consequences
AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases spread in proportion to the decline in moral values and faithful relationships between men and women. Although sexually active people may escape contracting a sexually transmitted disease or having an unwanted pregnancy, there is more at risk than these physical consequences. The psychological impact of sexual relationships outside of marriage can sometimes be even more profound and long-lasting than the physical results. In addition, there are social consequences -- such as pornography, prostitution, and children born out of wedlock -- that have serious implications for the wider community. These aspects are rarely addressed in most sex education programs.
▪︎Negative Impact on Society
An intricate connection between sex and the forces of love, life, lineage, and conscience extends the influence of sexual behavior far beyond its effects upon the two individuals involved. Complex issues arising from promiscuity have a negative impact upon families, communities, and nations as well as the physiological and psychological health of sexual partners.
▪︎Pornography
Many people consider pornography to be a way to obtain harmless pleasure. But a U.S. Attorney General's Report and several independent studies have shown conclusively that this is not the case. There is a correlation between the increase in pornography and the increase in rapes and sexual violence. Long-term exposure to pornography creates an emotional withdrawal, greater acceptance of violence toward women, less sympathy toward rape victims, and desensitization to violence. Such images of easy sex with willing women and children are linked to soaring sex crime rates. There is evidence that pornography often correlates with organized crime and drug trafficking.
▪︎Prostitution
Like pornography, the business of prostitution and the practice of sex outside of marriage feed upon each other. Prostitution reduces whole persons to the economic value of their sexual organs.
▪︎Domestic Violence
Sex apart from marriage is associated with increased domestic violence. Far more violence occurs between unmarried partners than between husband and wife. For instance, cohabitating couples are more than three times likely to have their fights escalate to shoving, hitting, and throwing things compared to married couples." A couple of reasons why this happens is because cohabiters tend to be less connected to their network of kin and peers so there is more isolation and anonymity.
▪︎Family Breakdown
Extramarital affairs strike at the very heart of the family -- the marriage vow. Infidelity unravels all the bonds of love and obligation. It causes upheaval in the families of both partners, including the betrayed spouses, children, relatives, and friends.
In overturning traditional values and authority, the sexual revolution promised freedom from restraints. The products of modern technology offer imperfect protection from disease and unwanted pregnancy. There are no condoms to shield the heart from pain. After several decades, the psychological and social consequences are becoming apparent.
▪︎Sex without Commitment
The media glorified this new immorality, since it boosted sales of products, movies, and music. The public could be manipulated through sexual arousal. In an effort to outdo each other, entertainers have been constantly pushing back the limits of acceptability.
Thanks to the entertainment industry, which has become the primary agent for promoting the values of the sexual revolution throughout the world, young people are growing up in a highly sexualized environment. Every day they are bombarded by sexual messages via TV, movies, videos, advertisements (especially on the internet), books, magazines, and music, most of which promote the physical pleasures of sex and downplay any element of responsibility. Premarital and extramarital sexual relations are depicted as glamorous, exciting, and generally without negative consequences. Young people are being fed a never-ending diet of unrealistic portrayals of the sexual experience.
▪︎Children Born Out of Wedlock
A child born outside of marriage presents a host of challenges to the mother. The impact of unwed parenthood on mothers can be grave. Girls who become pregnant are likely to leave school, limiting their potential for educational advancement and economic security. Unwed mothers generally find it difficult to get married, because few men are willing to take care of another man's child. All these factors contribute to poverty. In 2013, 3.5 thousand babies were born to unmarried teenagers.63% of unwed teen mothers in the U.S. receive government aid within the first year. Taxpayers paid 9.4 billion dollars just in the year 2010 for costs associated with teen childbearing in the United States.
your channel is literally the best content ever. you verbalize ideas l’ve observed over the years and now it’s finally all coming together
Kasia!!!!
Yesssss
I love that you want to change the idea that women have to be pure, it's true, we are the same as men, but no one talks about this as something equal. I like the way you analyze things.
Hiiii!!
@@AnthonyRecenello Hiiiii! Great video 🌟
You need to watch the UK or even Australian version of this show! It’s so much better👍🏻 and this is coming from an American... oops🤣
The Australian version, coming from an Australian is pretty toxic. But I guess that adds to the enjoyment hahaha
Whta did you learn in today's vid? put it ina new commenta nd ill respond. 😘
Love island is genuine but so superficial at the same time. It encourages hook up culture example the sharing beds, the hideaway, attractive other partners ect, and yet the goal is to make long lasting relationships. I love the friendships made through the show though it's the cutest thing 💕
Hey Ant I really love your videos, could you please react to Chloe and Lucifers relationship? Would be really interesting to hear your thoughts
I like the thing you said about knowing your goal or something. I just started going to a new school in a new town and my first day was hella awkward. the teacher ask me a question but I was silent. I'll make sure to be more comfortabe and be in the moment. I have a strong accent (kinda sound like a drunk valley girl with a low voice), I am a theater kid (love singing songs from musicals too much)... Big gay energy mixe with french vibes but everyone in my class are hocke straight boys vibe. I doomed so I better have fun while I'm at it.
@@iellaterreur7865 FUCK YES EXACTLY GABIE UR MY NEW FAV PERSON
In today’s vid, I learnt that Laying in bed, eating ice cream and watching you comment on love island is Awesomesauce
I just want to say, I met someone new for the first time in a long time yesterday and now that I'm reflecting back on our conversation, I'm amazed at how since I started watching you my whole demeanor and approach has changed. When I speak to new people it's like our energies bounce off each other and it's so enjoyable. SO thank you!
Wow I’m so happy. Keep being engaged!
Yes! Thank you for talking about the double standard. Every single guy I've slept with on the first date decided not to date me because it was "too easy". Then, when I wait to have sex, I get the "we're both grown! If we want to have sex, we can have sex!" speech. Drives me nuts!
Exactly. It’s soooo dumb.
you should watch more episodes! things get really heated later on when new guys and girls come
I would love him to make a video about the weird way james reacted to moira after she went on a date with calvin, and how it completely ruined their 'relationship'
@@handproud yess ikr that's what i was thinking
That guy anthony likes creeps me out.. I dont trust him at aalllll.. At alll... Is he actually a decent guy?
@@kkibela I really can't tell. I really liked him at first, but what he did in last night's episode with mercades was so disrespectful to Cely and it ruined everything for me loll
In realizing I DESPERATELY need to watch Love Island. Especially the UK version
The woman you put on your shirt line at the beginning was the most attractive of all in the video !! Cheers, fun informative content.
Thanks dustin
Please react to John Krasinski and Emily blunt
liked just for the sexual oppression talk- agree 10000%
@Anthony Recenello ive realised most of my insecurities as a young woman stem from misogyny- men not understanding or fearing woman and their bodies and shaming them for it. It has made us feel like we have to be perfect all the time
Keara Koterwas I’m sorry you have to deal with that
@@kearakoterwas9071 I’m sorry to hear that, unfortunately that’s a problem with society, and I think in the future, thanks to the progressive nature of our generation, these things will change in time.
@@benwright3430 I bloody hope so- perhaps future generations will have it easier. I hope to raise some pretty woke kids haha. Hopefully they can at least be aware of where these things stem from earlier in life. I also think that there's a lot of freedom in figuring out what is at the root of some habitual thought patterns and behaviours in our society. It certainly helped me to let go of some of the things I was scared of and feel empowered. I wish people talked about this stuff more
Deadass
Hey! I really liked this video and love to see more of love island reactions! Have a nice day! 😌❤️
10k likes gets a part 2!
Pleaseeee react to the episode of “casa amor” on love island 👀👀
He said some “this man is seducing me right now😂😂😂” I love itttt. Johnny and Cely are everything duuuude. I’m trying to find me a Johnny now 🤯
lol hi savannah
This was literally one of the best videos that Anthony made. Such great insight! I love listening to his feedback
There’s this one guy in this show, specifically on ep 11 and 10, his name is Eric. I really really strongly believe you should react to him. He has a different vibe from the rest and just seems so charming and seductive right from the get go, without seeming creepy. He seems so calm yet has a ton of presence, he seems so into the people around him. I would probably love the guy if it wasn’t for his fugly cheetah print shirt
(Edit: also there’s a clip of him near the end of ep 10 where he’s talking one on one with carol and that’s one of the clips I think you should react to if you actually do)
I love the new background it's so relaxing
I love these popular real y tv reactions. Keep doing em!
Izuku Midoriya it’s deku 👁
you're such a king omg
THANK YOU FOR SAYING WOMAN SHOULD NOT BE DEGRADED FOR WANTING TO HAVE SEX!!!
There is nothing wrong with being confident in your sexuality and exceeding it between consenting adults. Your right it’s a cultural stigma; in Europe it’s slightly different. So glad I have traveled abroad and have interacted with men who respect not the idea of me but the genuine me.
Being a capable, confident and sexual woman.
Exercising not exceeding
plz do a part two because the relationship in the islands have rlly progressed and i rlly wanna see your take on them
I'm already in a successful 6 year relationship but it's still fun to watch your videos Anthony. Really gives some insight into what we do right and what we can work on :)
"Knowing how to be socially confident is so important. It’s unfortunate, too bad, tragic, because the majority of the education we get in school, is academics such as Chemistry, Physics, or Math, History,
but in the real world, none of those things really matter.
It’s really your ability to inspire, communicate, to lead, and engage people that’s going to move you in upper management if you’re climbing a corporate ladder, and what gets you a date if you’re single, and you want to put yourself out there, and even build a brand new network if you’re in a new city. That’s what it means to me."
Love you reacting to reality shows it’s so entertaining
Fascinating insight particularly on the sex stuff. I hope one day our society can reach that state of chilled out-ness about sex while still acknowledging that it is an intimate and meaningful things. It would be a utopia for relationships!
you should do a jaleb analysis ! (Justine + caleb) they are the winners of this season of love island USA ! they are loved by many
I love your videos Anthony & your personality. I love your confidence not that "fake" putting on a show while making videos. You are amazing! 😊
I really appreciated how you started out describing healthy confidence. It actually helped ground what I have been trying to teach myself lately. You’re awesome!
I really appreciate this video, especially your talk on vulnerability. Your insight really puts relationships and connection, and most importantly self love, into perspective, so thank you for that!
I didn't want this video to end, i could listen to you for hours
This stream is just a masterpiece
Really liked a note about zoomers and trash shows
wow intro hit n I was already ready to give u my number , this man really knows what he’s doing
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I feel so uncomfortable watching these shows lol, like I’d be so out of my element when it comes to this type of aggressive loud attitude, it’s something I’m really insecure about lol
@Marina Prp thanks for the kind words 🙏
Anthony, I love your videos! Your advice has really helped me come out of my shell. I've been "trusting my vibe" and I've been at lot more relaxed in social situations. Thank you 💕💕💕
I just discovered your channel last night and it is actually so fun and educated to watch.!
Loooove your analyses! This whole channel is so helpful. I really have to work on being present and engaged, and as comfortable being myself as possible so that I can have genuine relaxed conversations like those. Also thank you for sharing the iconic audiobook, gotta listen to that soon. Also I'd be interested in seeing you do a classic charm video (or some other kind of personality analysis) on Brie Larson since people have become so split about her. I wonder how much of the negative is true or if it comes from a place of still wanting women to only be one kind of personality... Anyway thanks again for the wonderful video! Can't wait for more!
I really want him to react to the casa amor episodes!!!!! that's when it gets crazy
If there’s more, PLEASE do a part 2 🙏🏼 I really enjoyed this video.
I agree with the personality thing. I have seen actors I find attractive only in certain movies or shows even though they are still physically attractive. It might explain why people always tell me that I look 1000x prettier/more attractive in person.
I love that you analyzed reality tv of this kind ! I've always found those social behaviors fascinating. Looking forward to a next episode.
wow you were so spot on about james!! please react to moira and james’ fall out!! it gets so intense!
Waiting for a part two. I can't wait to see you react to the latest couples now especially Jaleb.
Hey this is the first time I'm watching your chanel. I like watching the TV show love island and I liked watching what you have to say and your reaction to it.
I'd definetly watch another video if you did one on this topic :)
Ok
Bro, just discovered you ... This is some good content.
Can you follow and react to the whole season of love island?! I think it would be interesting to see how the contestants develop over the season!
Would love to hear more opinions on Moira and James, Mackenzie and Connor, and Cely and Johnny. Can't wait to hear what you have to say about their relationship dynamics!
your clothing is genius, creative for sure. she has great eyes.
Could you make a video on how to be more confident and open as an insecure/shy person?
This is a really common theme throughout his videos he gives a lot of great advice for coming out of your shell a lottt :)
I love how you lean to the side a little when you talk seriously lol
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I found you yesterday and I can't stop watching.
I love your videos so much! I think it would be so interesting for you to react to more tv show characters like you did with Joey and I'd love to see reactions to all different kinds of people like Jordan Peterson or Joe Rogan or Dr Mike❤❤❤
It's good to hear you, because you say interestong things about relationships and it's a topic that interested me all the time. It's good that you are handsome, so it's double pleasure to watch your videos 😀. Greetings from Poland ❄️⛄
can we all just take a moment to simp over 'iconic'
Just found this show over the last weekend! Love the reaction!
I love that you enjoyed the commentary from the voice over😂😂😂 to me it's the best part🙌🙌
Liking this video for your words on how wrong it is to de humanise women as sexual beings so refreshing to hear!
A 2nd ep please. This is interesting!
Did u “like” it?
@@AnthonyRecenello I like your videos. In shape of a click and my opinion.
Please React to love island South Africa “Thimna and Libho”
you should react to Larri and Brady Potter
Hey Anthony, Iv always been a very open and vulnerable person which is something you talked about in this video, but people tell me that I overshare which stops people from coming to me for help or reliability. How do I find that balance? Thank you!
rly appreciate what u said on women sexuality and what you intended to do with ur channel
Def should do one about Camila and Lauren
stan tommy and molly for still being together after love island tho
I've watched this video 3 times already, please make a part 2!!!!
Wow. You stopped me from clicking off (just because I don’t even watch this show so idk why this is recommended for me lol) but ur view point of virgin like women and how men perceive us really caught me by surprise. You are so refreshing!! Never heard a man in my life say that and I never knew how to explain this to people but that’s how I feel!! Great video 🙌🏻🙌🏻
8:00 love this speech 🙏🙏🙏
Thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you for talking about women’s sexuality in such a supportive way. My friends and I have stopped being ashamed of talking about sex so openly, we wish men wouldn’t be so turned off or weirded out about it. It’s a hideous double standard.
It's not a double standard.
A lot of women finds it repulsive that guys sleeps with a lot of girls.
A lot of men finds it repulsive that women sleeps with a lot of guys.
Truth to be said you need to understand people are different and want different things in life.
Some wants a lot of partners and some truly just wants that one.
We are humans, our way of socializing can and is different from each other. Not everyone wants to sleep with everyone else.
Not everyone wants to sleep with someone just because they like them. Some people only sleeps with people they love and that is okay.
If someone wants to spend their youth wasting time on a lot of temporary partners go do that - just don't become that desperate person that tries to destroy others happy relationship.
@@sebastianwallin3726 while I respect your response it has nothing to do with promiscuity or sex. The double standard is the discussion of it in general. Talking about women’s desires, wants, and needs. Women often feel shamed or embarrassed talking about sex wether they are having it with one partner, multiple, or not at all. Discussing sex related topics like stds, safety, body image, mental health, and intimacy are important sex related topics that have nothing to do with just talking about your physical experience.
@@sebastianwallin3726 also, despite my misleading username (which is that of my favorite Beatle) I am a woman with plenty of experience with this opinion.
@@georgeharrison318
The way my response dealt with promiscuity was that it is individual and from my experience people can easily do whoever they want they just don't want to face the social backlash.
Actions like doing the bf's father, doing all his friends, cheating on him, bullying by jealousy, etc.
There is a difference between love and lust.
So far the only taboo is being out of control of one's lust.
In my perception this entire dilemma of promiscuity is more or less just girls feeling bad about the guys they want getting girlfriends they love and are loyal to.
@@sebastianwallin3726 again you’re missing my point completely. Good luck to ya
So thankful for your channel
love this video!! please make a love island series!!!
Ok Alexa!
Please make more parts of this show!
Hey Anthony! I'd love to see you react To Darci from 90 day fiance. I'd love to see you delve into why she acts and behaves like she does at age 45 (running around with you her guys who MUST be foreign, getting cheated on every time, undercover narcissists)
Please, please make it happen! I love your videos so much and the way you articulate yourself. 30 mins fly by in no time when I'm watching you. So informative a😊💯❤️👏
i def will
Yes, yes, yes!! And love the shirt, Anthony!! Iconic- epic!!!! Love it 😍
The little speech at the end was very LA. I’ve commented about this before but I think you’re missing a key part of the equation: attachment theory. Humans are evolutionarily wired to form attachments to one another and insecure attachment is the source of a lot of the anxious attachment you’re referring to.
Can you explain more?
Anthony Recenello yeah for sure. You’re mixing together lots of ideas - I agree with you about removing the pressure around sex, especially for women. That would be awesome. I don’t know however if it would have the consequence of making people less attached as you’ve said. So attachment theory comes from child development psychology. Humans are evolutionarily wired to attach to each other, as it benefitted our survival to do so. Infants form an attachment (emotional and proximal) to their caregivers. It’s like an imprint on the nervous system and affects your attachments to others and the way you handle intimacy as an adult. There are three main attachment styles: secure (most of the population), anxious, and avoidant. A polyamorous sex culture would further TRIGGER and not abate an anxious person’s anxious attachment. The healthiest thing for the anxiously attached is to acknowledge their intimacy needs and seek out a partner who can provide emotional security aka a secure partner (as opposed to an avoidant partner, who would be very attractive to the anxious bc it would play out the pattern of love they are familiar with but in doing so would trigger them). I found myself repeating patterns in relationships for years and just learned about attachment theory this year. Massive game changer.
Mishvo in Motion thanks for that! what I’m wondering is how strong are these attachments in everyone? Because I notice it only in severe cases. Also, did they do tests that this new lifestyle would trigger attachments? Or is that only speculation? I’d love to read where it says that if there is evidence pointing to it.
@@AnthonyRecenello Estimates are around 50% of the people are secure, 20% anxious, 25% avoidant, and 5% fearful (combo of anxious and avoidant) (from Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel SF Heller). My understanding is it's a spectrum but you predominantly fall into one attachment type for each type of relationship you have in your life (friend, partner, parent, etc). I'll use Love is Blind bc I think you did a video on them? Lauren is secure but leans avoidant sometimes while Cameron is secure. Gianina is anxious and Damian is secure. Jessica was anxious and I think Mark was secure. Or in Married at First Sight, Matt was EXTREMELY avoidant and it completely triggered Amber. Whereas Deonna was also avoidant but Greg was secure so he could handle it. I believe Jamie was avoidant leaning secure and Beth was anxious - hence their "rollercoaster of emotions" experience. (Google avoidant-anxious attachment) Anxious and avoidants are much better off being paired with someone who is secure than with each other. Studies show the secure person sort of "brings the other person to their level of healthy intimacy", whereas an avoidant-anxious pairing triggers both parties to become more of what they already are (think of Matt and Amber).
I searched in Google scholar about your second question - here's on article I found journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0265407514529065 "Additionally, those higher in anxiety held negative attitudes toward consensual non-monogamy (CNM); however, anxiety was unrelated to willingness to engage in CNM. Perhaps anxiety was not related to willingness to engage in CNM because anxious people envision both the negative and positive implications of CNM relationships. For instance, highly anxious individuals might see CNM as an opportunity to gain affection from multiple partners but also as involving heightened threat of abandonment by those partners."
"Importantly, the results of Study 2 illustrate that avoidance differently predicted actual engagement in CNM versus monogamy. Individuals in CNM relationships report that they are happy, satisfied, and in love (de Visser & McDonald, 2007; Jenks, 1985; Ritchie & Barker, 2006), paralleling the qualities reported by those low in avoidance and anxiety. Thus, we expected those currently involved in a CNM relationship to be lower in avoidance and anxiety than those in a monogamous relationship."
In an ideal world, we would all be securely attached and be able to handle polyamory. But in reality, I believe the avoidants wouldn't have the communication skills, empathy, or emotional glue to successfully navigate that type of relationship while the anxious would be, well, very anxious about being abandoned.
Love the vids so helpful in my life I really appreciate your advice thx Anthony 😁
Pls do a video about dylan o'brien ❤
Obviously anthony is enlightened.
Lolz far from it 🤣
No we don't have the same type of libidos.
Yeah we don’t empirically but women’s libido is not zero
@@artisticagi nobody says women have no libido. Nobody with sense would either, given the world is billions strong.
@s 97 as with anything, there are outliers. Most don't and a few do, and those few are closer to the middle of the bell curve. Far to the right of it would be the people with the highest libidos and they would be exclusively men.
While I totally agree with you on guys and female sexuality I will say that most the of slut shaming iv heard irl (not on the internet) is from other girls. I don't know if its jealousy or just culture and society but yea
I think it has to do with te same idea that men are perpetuating of having a “virgin-like” girlfriend. Women that wants to have a relationship with a man gets stuck that idea that if she’s not virgin like she won’t have a relationship and they see other girls that show their sexuality and sensuality as a slut.
@@katfunez I think that's a great explanation! The fact that a girl can show her sexuality and guys respond positively (This is becoming more common. I definitely prefer a girl who is more forward and "sexual" than a girl who tries to hide it) might differ to what they thought is supposed to "work"
I enjoy your content so much! you give great insight into a lot of situations that I wouldn't have noticed such as the fast-talking theory on one of your other videos. Can you do one with the Ace Family, I used to be such a fan, but for some reason that I can't pinpoint, I don't watch them anymore.
14:46 at this moment ...she knew...
Such a great video!
I dont watch this show. But Id LOVE to continue watching you react to it.
We live in a very small town. Everybody knows everybody. I've been single 15 years with a couple 2 year relationships in there. My recent ex boyfriend of 2 years use to try to shame me because I'd dated a few men we've run into. He says I've been "passed around" and now it's his turn. I stand up for myself. He's now an ex.
Please react to Courtmien (Courtney and Damien from Smosh) it is becoming a popular ship and there is a vid called WE TRIED FOLLOWING A JEFEREE STAR MAKEUP TUTORIAL it is just the two of them
My only issue with your talk on presence and stuff like that, is that all too often I have found that my presence when I'm truly engaged and in the moment is overwhelming or intimidating for others to handle. How do I get around that as an extreme introvert with a deep voice and a naturally intimidating appearance?
Love. Presence is super sharp about how people are feeling and you acknowledge and build trust w them during the convo.
I like you man, you have an interesting way of presenting your ideas.
Love your message man trying to live it x
This was great! Please do more vids on this show