Sorry Anthony, but this video is complete clickbait. I started mirroring my crush’s body language by following her around down dark alleys and she can’t seem to get enough of me. It got so bad that she had to put up a restraining order to keep herself away from me. Check and MATE😀
I know it's in good nature but I think that joking about stalkerish behaviour normalizes it. I once was in a convo with my colleagues from uni and they were making jokes about hegemonic masculinity by joking about beating your wife/girlfiend and I did feel a bit uncomfortable but I didn't know I could say something about it until my female colleague (whom I always respected greatly) said that it's not ok. That it's not funny. And I do agree. I'm not holding it against you, it's not anyone's fault that society puts those ideas out there but I just hoped that i could show you a different perspective, the way my female colleague showed it to me
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@@igut214 here we're making fun of stalkers and their mentality how they think they're doing nothing wrong by stalking women, and yes, making jokes about women being beaten is never funny I agree
Advices like "wear red if you want to increase someone's attraction to you", to me, feels the same as "shave your body hair if you want to increase your performance in cycling or swimming", at the end of the day it does make a difference, but it's such a small one that it will only be significant at a high level competition, and since we shouldn't be treating dating as a competition, wearing red does not make any difference
For real! And the way they test them is having people who have every other factor be the same or similar, and seeing if red will make a difference. Like of course but now have someone be awkward and the other be confident, then put the awkward person in red. No difference
Funnily enough, anyone who does treat it as a competition and, as a "top" competitor won't actually be in the game for long. Assuming they have everything else in order to go with it 😂
I will never understand the idea that men are less attractive when they smile. Personally, when I see a guy who never smiles, it makes me assume that he is antisocial and less approachable. On the contrary, men who smile (genuinely) seem more trustworthy, confident, and interesting. Am I the only one? Because I dont think I am.
you're not the only one. before my boyfriend confessed to me and I knew he liked me, I couldnt get enough of his smile and had many photos. it was one of the things that peaked my interest. it usually is in general with everyone.
Yeah I feel quite self conscious so I would feel like that person hates me or I'm irritating that person so I would get really uncomfortable and back off.
Why is this so wholesome? I clicked on this expecting him to be kinda douchy and pretentious, but then he was actually kinda chill? And then he mentioned his audiobook and I was like “oh here comes the sell-out” but it’s free? Wth theres still genuine people on youtube
I feel like you already found the perfect alternative for "eye contact": Observe. It's not too deep, not too superficial. It describes a continuous awareness towards the appearance of the Person.
I wouldn't say they purposely made that video clickbait-y. The sources they got the information from are really old, I checked. Most of the sources I saw were at least 7 years old. Society keeps changing. Their video is not updated, in my opinion.
The psych2go video: 50% things you will do subconsciously and are unnecessary to worry about 40% misleading or improper advice 10% actually something of value
Anthony Recenello you are honest so kind and I love how you actually look through your comments and reply it brightens my day when I see you’ve taken the time to reply to me Thank you
@@bentobento3241 it doesn't take that much to write a comment on TH-cam, it's not like he's been typing or thinking about what he should type for 6 hours
Gosh, as someone with Autism spectrum disorder socializing is so hard for me. We need good advice in order to bring our need for connection with the world out. The world seems like it's not made for us sometimes. We're really sincere and honest people, which can be either refreshing or off-putting to people.
I have BPD so I miss a lot of social cues and assume something else is happening or I misjudge people's tones and think that they are trying to hurt me when they are not. So relatable but in a different way
Some colour theory for yall: Red is a warm colour, it's eye catching and it holds your focus. Someone wearing red will hold your focus more than someone not wearing red, however this response is momentary. It passes in less than a second and long term it won't have any effect. Interestingly, this is a technique that many artists use. Next time you look at an art piece, look at the layout of the colours and see where your eyes fall first.
@@Xo.Griffin it's when you watch videos of a series or channel or etc back to back. For example if you watch an entire season of Game of thrones, you binged that season.
Jesus your content is good. I can really tell you get it. A lot of people I think focus too much on how to get the person to like them rather than seeing them for who they are and if their someone they’ll like to be with. That’s literally dating, finding people you’re attracted too that you can connect with.
@@zarahshabs7936 I think a lot of people fall into that trap because they are lonely or trying to use the person they are trying to "date" to make themselves feel better, whether they mean to or not. It's really all mental health, if someone has a healthy lifestyle and is happy with themselves then you don't feel as desperate to get people to like you. At least that's my conclusion from all the research I've done.
Thanks for reminding me to stop looking for someone who is worlds apart from me and to stop chasing women who doesn't share the same interest with me because sometimes i just need to burn my brain for things to say and topics to talk about, you my dude helped me sustain a healthy mindset for there's someone for me already all i have to do is to wait.
Theres romance and romcom movies that really harm the dating scene by fictionalizing and idealizing something that is virtually unrealistic. It seems horror is opening up more to breaking this mold and calling attention to the flaws in this and accepting your genuine self to find ones that you will genuinely end up long term with. I think things like Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind and 1000 Days of Summer are red nance movies that highlight issues of media romanticized dating. Esp days of summer where Zoey portrays this mans manic pixie dream when in reality he is only seeing what he wants and not her, he is romanticizing an idealized version of her into a toxic relationship. It's a great movie.
I hate staring into people's eyes SO SO SO SO MUCH!! 😰😰😰😰😰 I JUST HATE IT SO MUCH, EVEN IF I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO THAT PERSON, ITS SO UNCOMFORTABLE. I mean glancing and looking back and forth to look at someone is a lot more comfortable to me. Or even what you said, just examining their body language and other things sometimes around you.
Same, my crush usually looks at me intensely in the eye, but I get really self conscious and can’t look at anyone in the eyes even during the conversations
Saaamee I was going out with this boy and I just couldn’t look him in the eyes 💀 I keep telling myself to practice and not be so fucking awkward. I have social anxiety, so that probably contributes 😂
Glancing around makes you look suspicious and awkward though...you don't have to *stare* necessarily, but at least make eye contact when the other person is talking to you :)
i like when someone smiles but at the same time he/she are serious when they need to and have a deeper personality than that smile and simply being positive
Mirroring body image is so fake. Just be yourself! React in a genuine way, you never need to pretend to be someone you aren't. Trying new things because YOU were always interested but never had courage to do it is fine. As long as it's for YOU and not specifically to impress others! I can't stress it enough. You won't genuinely click with someone long term by faking a persona. You won't be genuinely happy with yourself. A great media representation of this very oddly via a horror tv show from SciFi is Channel Zero the Dead End House season. One character faces his mirror idealized self. It's eye opening. I'm thinking Daniel Isn't Real also broaches this topic. It's on Shudder. I can't confirm bc I haven't watched it yet but It seems to carry the same concept of being your authentic self vs an idealized self that has been influenced by what it considered stereotypically "cool" and has been wrongfully normalized towards specific genders. I.e. The idea of masculinity. The stereotype and misbelief women only like bad boys etc.
@@mustnz998 anything of the 'dating advise' is manipulation. you cant keep up the act forever. you can't stop being 'cool' aftere you snagged the person you wanted.
I catch myself mirroring people's actions a lot of times (if someone yawns or cracks their knuckles especially), but it's never on purpose and I try not to. The fact that people do it on purpose is so weird to me.
I started watching Psych2Go years ago and over time I saw their content reused and increasingly clickbait-y with very little science It seems to be a hit or miss sometimes it's good sometimes it's... astrology
I watched a couple Psych2Go videos and I couldn't even get to the end of them. The person who made them probably means well, but has a clear lack of expertise. I saw so many things in those videos that are oversimplified or flat out wrong. I wish people would be more careful about the advice they give, especially when trying to share that advice in such a wide scope such as on TH-cam.
@@maudlynn5554 Thank you for your subjective, close minded, perspective on every single comment Michael. Let's flip-flop and put your character into question now on baseless accusations. Are you able to take any advice someone gives you and put it into practice yourself? Or are you lazy? Do you give up after a couple fails , pull out your phone, and curse whoever put their video and their own way of thinking out for everyone to see? Everyone!! Do you think they wouldn't be making any money or racking up views if the advice they gave didn't work ? You're allowed to use the skills you have to make money . That's kinda how this society works lol Quit trollin 😂
They reuse videos ideas as well. These two videos: th-cam.com/video/IMa2spCLrjI/w-d-xo.html th-cam.com/video/MHndEN4vgzA/w-d-xo.html sound very similar. If the channel has the guts to be this lazy and recycle their ideas, then it isn't legit at all
I've always thought "dating coaches" ( DATING IS NOT A SPORT ) are clickbait, until I came across your channel. I admire the approach you show the 3 key points you keep summoning in this video. You are humble and present and that is all you need to be a pleasant presence in a video Keep it up and thank you for trying to make people better
I think that is taking it out of context. When you are doing any type of flirting, you do it with discretion and only do it when/where it feels natural. You don’t molest someone to try to win them over🙃
Sure. Maybe it’s not related to flirting but I don’t get that creepy american way for influencing, showing power or winning people over by touching them. Especially from dude who is 40 y.o. who I was getting money from. In Europe it’s different...
🤣🤣🤣 I love how disgusted he is in regards to touching. I once went to this rooftop bar with some friends and this guy came up to me, started talking to me, separated me from my group by putting himself in-between me and them and then kept tapping my shoulder/arm. All things wrong...
When you soul gaze you're basically walking through the garden of their mind. When you connect with them you feel one another watering each others' flowers. They bloom, the vegetables sprout, the bees buzz, the birds chirp, the sun shines.. And all of your senses feel stimulated simply from those moments spent looking into the spectales of someone else you love.
I thought it’d be interesting to get a professional’s perspective because the premise is debunking the myth that boys act mean to the girls they like. This “principle” continues to shape the main character’s dating life well into adulthood.
Ooooh I would love that! It's my favorite rom com cuz it's not purely happy endings or straightforward answers. Some awkward and bad parts... But it's still a rom com.
Thanks for this, I remember watching these a few years ago when I didn't necessarily have many critical thinking skills. You've helped me rethink what I learned at first.
Humor is also subjective so thats a tricky thing, I guess if you share a sense of humor it also means you may share other aspects, such as a look at life?
When I was a freshman in college and starting my way to get my BA in Psychology, I had originally subscribed to psych2go because I thought they were interesting but as I got into my sophomore yr of college and was in research methods, I learned so much that I started realizing how Psych2go was VERY unreliable in terms of research because they rarely used Peer Reviewed Articles or Valid resources. They would use websites that aren’t considered academic resources and also the number of videos I started to see that they would upload would consist of being the same thing or just silly that is literally clickbait. I recently graduated from college this spring and I have a friend who decided to major in psychology so I kindly advised her not to go on that channel because it’s not reliable
I mean... TO be fair, they do say at the beginning of each video (and the description) that you shouldn't use their material for self diagnostician, and to, in fact, seek professional help if you think you may be struggling with a mental illness. BUT, with that being said... I do see your point... Couple years back, I thought I was suffering from depression, saw a video of theirs about depression, and thought, "Yup! That's me!" At the time, I did go and get professional help, and turns out I was actually depressed. So, in a way, I'm thankful for Pshych2Go. They at least steered me in right direction to getting better help :) Though with all that being said, the whole channel is a big clickbaity mess. As they say, DON'T EVER use it as a use for diagnosing. Sorry for the long read :(
@@Rainbowthehedgehog Its pop-psychology, some of their videos are borderline bs, some are helpful/insightful, but yea as far as citing actual literature... eh, sparsely. But whenever it *really* matters like talking about actual "diagnosis" they tend to back things up with DSM or some real papers (though I havent watched everything, so maybe there is even more bs than I am missing).
If a video is about introverts everybody is introverted in the comments if its about a disease everybody in.the comments have bipolarity i noticed that
Playing "aloof" can sometimes come across as not interested and thus the other person can lose interest. He added the additional explanation that makes all this helpful
I really love your advice on paying attention to the person of interest. Actually caring about that person can never be faked, especially if the individual is focused on what they are doing to influence their interest rather than actually listening and caring about their interest. The real difference between wanting to be with a specific person and actually caring about them will go far in how long and fulfilling the relationship is.
Psychology is so hard to break down as when dealing with people, there will always be "the exception". Blanket statements do not translate well when dealing with the subject. That said, there are tests you can do to find "objective truths" about yourself. You can test for "majority answers" and usually those results can be replicated within a percent or 2. After watching many dating advice videos by many different people, I have found out several things. 1) I have extreme low self esteem. I wish I didn't, but I do. Does that mean I am thinking about ending it? No. those tendencies NEVER enter my mind, I still love life. Just don't think highly of myself. 2) At my age it seems like the dating pool is very sparse. The question when ask what I notice about women first when they walk in the room, I usually say "The left hand". Is there a ring? 3) I have found dating sites and apps useless. Not only do I rarely get matches, of the few times it does happen, it seems no one responds. From my perspective, some girls seem to have the problem of getting too many matches and never having any of them pan out, ugly guys like me get a match then a message saying "come to my website and we can chat per minute".
Love your channel, used to watch all these click baity dating channels and now I know just how much of a waste of time it has been. Thank you for redirecting my attention back to what really matters
Yup. A lot of these "Signs a guy/girl likes you" videos seem to forget about cultural context. In some countries, people lean over and "stare" at each other, while in other countries it's the opposite.
‘do i really have to explain all of this stuff?’ *is his literal job* 🤣 also, i feel like i totally get where you’re coming from and came into this out of pure curiosity - but you definitely misrepresented one of their points about dominance & submission only to use it later yourself, which it kind of looked like you noticed in the video haha! of course, it sounds stodgy when approached from a purely scientific standpoint but these things have reached an almost global consensus for a reason, and a lot of the stuff you guys know colloquially came from the initial scientific and psychological consensuses reached first with which, you guys are able to adapt to actual usability in practice! tl;dr, the science does often hold weight for the most part. it’s just that it needs clarification, colloquilisation and adapting to be able to be used tangibly by the everyday person/dater. that’s all! i feel like dating coaches are basically the interpersonal science translators of our time-but we only see a handful that are actually good & that are considerate of each individual temperament, as opposed to general advice translated from even more general scientific consensus despite vast variability. science is the raw ore, it’s up to coaches and therapists to create their brand of jewellery!
I mean, the process is functionally equivalent, anyone who can't reproduce just can't reproduce but the biomechanical function is literally the same.... So what about homosexuals and those who can't reproduce? The purpose, function and process is the exact same. Omg what? What are you actually saying?
so what i am getting from this video Psych2go: robotic data based on what has been observed Anthony: the human interpretation on why the behavior occurred
I love that Anthony is always talking about concepts that work to be the best that you can be and it really clears up the mist behind these clickbait videos. I think most clickbait get at these concepts indirectly but our focus should not be on doing things like mirroring, pitch changing our voice, etc. but instead to focus on being our best selves and things like that will come along which I never thought about. I also love that Anthony gives guidance to achieve this life style quality. Amazing work and I'll make sure to pass along your teachings if people talk about this clickbait stuff!
Be your best self! Don't fake interest or knowledge in something. Ask about things that you don't know about if your interested in something they know. Don't just quickly blow them off if not interested. State why you don't like it them gently steer the conversation into something you know. Share your interests and knowledge when someone shows they wanna know about it. Don't force your views. Dating is about happiness with yourself and the other person and while sometimes it may be something new and slight uncomfortable it's not about being fake and forcing something that's totally outside your wheelhouse
19:46 A lot of the psychology studies aren't necessarily "proofs", which is why you're needing to make this point. The video is passing them off as being factual. Psych is very highly based around correlation and theories, not solid facts.
Yes, but flirting was evolved because MOST living things want to reproduce. I'm asexual and aromatic, but since humans like me barely make a difference in this world due to all the other living things reproducing all the time, we can be assured that life and nature will still continue with or without us, so that's why I just sit back, relax, and be a useless hot mess on the internet while my parents attempt to get me into Harvard or some other good university like that even though I'm basically hopeless by now. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
At one stage I was going through a breakup and searched on TH-cam for these kinds of videos... what irritated me eventually were ALL videos were from cheeky guys claiming they are experts on giving women advice how to treat a guy. ALL the advice were so one-sided, as if women were crazy and men have the right to play games and test you. Then you check the comments and you see how it made women MORE anxious and doubting themselves and taking "vows" never to date again... Women are basically not allowed to be just themselves, you are basically told you must be afraid to lose a guy. Go check, all these videos from guys are exactly the same as if they copied it from somewhere. I felt so bad eventually about myself and blamed myself for past broken relationships just because these videos told me I was not good enough and will never be...
I think that a lot of the conclusions from research referenced in such videos are just lost in translation. A lot of the nuance of the research is often lost in such clickbaity videos and articles. Good research usually addresses all the factors that might influence the results (like society's different expectations for people based on gender).
As an ADHD/autistic person who struggles with eye contact and focusing on looking at someone directly when we're talking - I've found that my peripheral vision for noticing micro expressions has got really good, to the point that I can detect what someone's feeling, or any change in what they're feeling when I'm sat next to them and not looking at their face directly at all 😂. Or even when I can't really see someone, I can often sense their mood if I know them well. If its someone I'm close with, I get goosebumps if they're experiencing a negative emotion, and feel a kinda smooth, calmness with positive emotions (but not laughter, that's different 🤣). I do think people need to be more open and accepting regarding "eye contact" and looking directly at someone when you're talking, because I guarantee if it looks like I'm looking right at you and paying attention... I'm not 😂. That's just now how it works for me, I find it way easier to follow and be engaged in a conversation if I'm either looking off to the side or moving my gaze around the environment. I think being autistic makes it overwhelming to look directly at someone for an extended period of time, and being adhd makes it difficult to stay focused on looking at someone AND listening to what they have to say at the same time. I do personally mention this in conversations where it could seem like I'm not engaging, so the other person hopefully understands, but not everyone is confident and comfortable enough to do this! I feel like neurodivergent people have to spend most of their time trying to fit neurotypical standards, and it would be nice if people would understand why things are different for us, and meet us halfway.
@@odinsutherin2880 It's definitely not the easiest thing in the world. I'm pretty content, but I still want things in life. That's good. That's purposeful, right? ;)
At first I thought the title of this video was clickbaity and way too harsh and I was ready to defend psych2go, but after watching I couldn’t agree more with you! A little disappointed in them now.
10:00 thank you daddy lol but really me and my dad have been going through a HELL of a lot lately, and I think he failed to learn that very thing, respect. It's nice to hear it from someone else. I have such a hard time with eye contact, but not when I think about it as respect for the other person... that will help a lot I think
RED **Me, looking at my red trix cereal box** "Is attractive, but not in that way 😂" btw I didn't expect this video to be so funny, I laugh so hard at his reactions 😂😂😂
Eye contact is important, especially when across the room. However, the person needs to learn how to glance/ look NOT STARE. I also think it would be a good idea to provide an example of across the room and conversational. I'm a STARER when in conversation since I'm a lip reader bc I can't hear well but it doesn't come across as crazy, too intense. I think a combination of what both you said is a great idea. However, again I think a visual example of this would be best so that people know how to make great eye contact that isn't creepy and also isn't examining the persons body language so they can try to read that
25:18 First video of yours I ever watched and I only say something because it was amusing to me, earlier when you mentioned being present for the second time and I noticed you were focused on some key points I was thinking to myself "Ah, I feel like this guy is going to try to sell me a book by the end of this." so I had a laugh, I'm glad that you made it free and it's great that you have something you're proud of and have worked hard on so it is completely fair to bring it up.
I am in the UK, its 3.30am, I cannot sleep. I see you have finally posted this video so I watched this and after so much cuteness feel restful again. Thank you for doing these videos, you have no idea how you are helping me change for the better and, more importantly, wanting too! It must be those freckles! ❤️
I am a copywriter and I learned a lot about writing and copy and stuff. One thing I notice from mediocre and successful copy is how complexity it is The more complex the copy is, the more you feel like it's trying to impress you. The simpler it is, the more you feel like it helps you. The first time I watch your video, my impression for you is you speak very simple stuff. And I like it. From a copywriter's perspective, it's obvious you are successful. Also you speak a lot of truth. And it blows my mind. I like it. A lot!!
Hey Anthony, I'm interested to know how did you become a social development coach? Did you have to study something, besides from socializing trough people? At which point did you know you could help people with it?
Hey, could you possibly make a video about Abel Tesfaye (aka The Weeknd) ? I know there’re not plenty interviews of him but lots of women find his mysterious character so attractive and I’d like to see your personal view on it.
Thank you so much. You are the first I've seen make a video like this, but NOT bash the creators, or cut out key parts to make them look bad. You gave us legit advice, instead of just going, "That's wrong, that's wrong, so is that", you acknowledged when they weren't to far off, while politely correcting them when they weren't. That's how to TH-cam.
I find it very ironic that I CONTINUE to get dating related ads, and dating advice ads, whenever I watch your videos. Loving the vids, honestly the ads just give me a laugh
I'm enjoying a lot not only listening the explanation and learning more, but also watching Anthony's reactions /facial expressions while watching the video.
I knew you'd be frustrated because I watched some of their videos XDDD And she might have started out as cute but in the end her tone became very weirdly up&downy choppy... was she trying to flirt with me? XD
Hey Anthony! I don't know if the comment section would be the right place for this but I'm in a phase of total confusion and doubt. There's this one girl that I've been best friends with for atleast 3 to 4 years. And we get along pretty well. We've had moments where we would have a sort of "cry session" where we both console each other and give advice to one another bringing each other up. We always try to support and if no such "support" is needed, we still try and communicate with each other and hang out alot. So, Last year, she confessed to me at our village (we live in the same village lol) telling me that she really liked me and all and decided to hide that feeling because she was so scared of making things awkward. She knew that I was with another girl at that time but was so tired of hiding what she really felt about me. I proved it to her that it wouldn't be awkward and spent more time with her. Nothing changed and we would still have such a great time with each other. The "confession event" was brought 2 weeks later on accident in a conversation and so we decided and agreed upon each other that we wouldn't start a romantic relationship. Reason being that we fear of loosing each other. In present time, I decided to go to her house regularly (with social distancing of course) and we would talk alot about what's been going on through our lives. She's been with another guy which she's been dating only this 2020. I knew of it and actually helped him with his shyness and confess to her and all that "wingman" stuff. My question is this, Why do I suddenly feel attracted to her years later by just remembering our times together and such? Why do I feel sadness all of a sudden remembering that she has a relationship with another guy currently? I mean as I mentioned I helped the guy ALOT and became the messenger of these two people. I remember being so excited and happy knowing that they got together, But why now? Why do I feel a certain hint of sadness? Why of all times I suddenly became attracted to her even though I knew that she's with another guy? I support them alot but I still feel sad inside. And should I still confess to her? Right now or maybe when she's single again? Even if we agreed to not enter a romantic relationship a year ago? Thanks, and keep up the great content Anthony! I apologize if the story and or my question is a bit messy😅
There's definitely an element of valuing someone by looking them in the eyes which is so powerful, but not too much so they feel uncomfortable. Value and respect go hand in hand. Some people are never shown they're valuable in their whole lives
12:00 In my psychology and sociology classes they mentioned that humor is the opposite of sexual attraction. The logic she states seems to be put a little flimsy yet I do believe having similar humor creates a stronger bond and being open and yourself establishes stronger connection so it isn't quite wrong. Sociologically we are drawn most to those who feel familiar because familiar is safe. Those that remind us of people who have already gained our trust or admiration. Having similar humor could tie into having similar experiences and thus a shared understanding and outlook of a situation. It also shows level of self control and wit, if someone is joking about "easy" things such as using cliche's or dirty jokes (in the wrong setting or in excess) then it doesn't show as much of self control. Or even that you are trying to be unattractive on purpose. (Which I have done) I personally think fart jokes are funny, and yeah it is an easy joke but timed well and in the right company it is more innocent than for an example a racist or sexist joke or the sort that uses shock value which shows less social dignity. Safe humor such as "No barcode, guess it's free." tells you they are pulling things out from surface thinking in order to be social and friendly whereas making a clever, subtle pun that catches you off guard (as long as you are coming up with the connection yourself and not coping it) shows that you make analytical observations and compare them with other things very quickly therefore -possibly- more introverted and reserved. Either humor(besides harmful ones) is valid yet someone can feel more of a connection with some types of humor than other because of the reflection of personality. The attraction is not caused by humor alone.
i personally have found pupil dialation to be fairly accurate. one time my friends (one of which was a little more than a friend) and i were just kinda screwing around with it, and even just saying the same of someone's crush can make their pupils dialate at the thought of them.
The issue that I have with this with this is that in practice, out and about, in crowds or with a group, there can be a large variety of reasons for your pupils to dilate. Perhaps they see someone else they're attracted to - pupils dilate. Perhaps they're in the shade - pupils dilate to take in more light. Perhaps they're in the sun - they could be attracted to you but the bright light could stop their pupils from dilating. Its very variable and difficult to pick up on if you're not intensely staring into their eyes.
@@andreaw2053 very true. we were in a moderately-lit room, so light wasnt really an issue, and we were deliberately trying to see what made people's pupils dialate. normally, it would be difficult to tell from more than 2 feet away.
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Thanks for this video review. Looking forward to more. :)
Hey! Hi Psych2Go!
This is tense😬
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I can’t tell if this is passive aggressive or genuine
hello Psych2Go ◉‿◉
Sorry Anthony, but this video is complete clickbait. I started mirroring my crush’s body language by following her around down dark alleys and she can’t seem to get enough of me. It got so bad that she had to put up a restraining order to keep herself away from me. Check and MATE😀
I think the heart he gave means this gave Anthony a little laughy laugh, lol!
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I know it's in good nature but I think that joking about stalkerish behaviour normalizes it. I once was in a convo with my colleagues from uni and they were making jokes about hegemonic masculinity by joking about beating your wife/girlfiend and I did feel a bit uncomfortable but I didn't know I could say something about it until my female colleague (whom I always respected greatly) said that it's not ok. That it's not funny. And I do agree. I'm not holding it against you, it's not anyone's fault that society puts those ideas out there but I just hoped that i could show you a different perspective, the way my female colleague showed it to me
@@igut214 here we're making fun of stalkers and their mentality how they think they're doing nothing wrong by stalking women, and yes, making jokes about women being beaten is never funny I agree
Advices like "wear red if you want to increase someone's attraction to you", to me, feels the same as "shave your body hair if you want to increase your performance in cycling or swimming", at the end of the day it does make a difference, but it's such a small one that it will only be significant at a high level competition, and since we shouldn't be treating dating as a competition, wearing red does not make any difference
For real! And the way they test them is having people who have every other factor be the same or similar, and seeing if red will make a difference. Like of course but now have someone be awkward and the other be confident, then put the awkward person in red. No difference
Funnily enough, anyone who does treat it as a competition and, as a "top" competitor won't actually be in the game for long. Assuming they have everything else in order to go with it 😂
YOU RIGHT
Wearing red wont make you attractive to me. If you already are, you'll just become more attractive
Yes it never was to begin with.
I will never understand the idea that men are less attractive when they smile. Personally, when I see a guy who never smiles, it makes me assume that he is antisocial and less approachable. On the contrary, men who smile (genuinely) seem more trustworthy, confident, and interesting. Am I the only one? Because I dont think I am.
100% agreed
you're not the only one. before my boyfriend confessed to me and I knew he liked me, I couldnt get enough of his smile and had many photos. it was one of the things that peaked my interest. it usually is in general with everyone.
I loooove it when men smile! It makes them seem genuine and way more attractive
Agreee
Yeah I feel quite self conscious so I would feel like that person hates me or I'm irritating that person so I would get really uncomfortable and back off.
Why is this so wholesome? I clicked on this expecting him to be kinda douchy and pretentious, but then he was actually kinda chill? And then he mentioned his audiobook and I was like “oh here comes the sell-out” but it’s free? Wth theres still genuine people on youtube
SAME PLEASE KADSJKLSAJD
@@sapphireblue9209 Tf with that key punch lol?
I’m surprised to,- and psych is even the top comment lol
I hope something you accomplished, you will give it out for free also.
:)
Right!? He’s so gracious how he critiques people. So freaking loving it’s inspiring
I feel like you already found the perfect alternative for "eye contact": Observe. It's not too deep, not too superficial. It describes a continuous awareness towards the appearance of the Person.
🙏🏻
I love how Anthony is basically translating these clickbait videos into actual dating advice
I wouldn't say they purposely made that video clickbait-y. The sources they got the information from are really old, I checked. Most of the sources I saw were at least 7 years old. Society keeps changing. Their video is not updated, in my opinion.
@@mind_system well, that may be right I mean, has happen a lot since 7 years ago but... that's not actually too old for the psycological research
Yes!! Thank you Anthony for clarifying these myths 💜💜
But has he actually got any psychology education or is he just judging from his own opinions.
Sara Lowe he’s a dating expert, he’s a professional
The psych2go video:
50% things you will do subconsciously and are unnecessary to worry about
40% misleading or improper advice
10% actually something of value
I personally think that all Psych2go videos suck.
This looks like an old video from psych2go
It is
You don't say 😯
It sounds like it
It seems like they kinda still agree with these points though
dang i thought they were good people though they seemed like it
“A little laughy laugh”
I don’t know why but this brings me quite a bit of joy
You bring ME quite a bit of joy
Anthony Recenello you are honest so kind and I love how you actually look through your comments and reply it brightens my day when I see you’ve taken the time to reply to me Thank you
@@AnthonyRecenello breath taking
Yess, made me smily smile lol :3
@@bentobento3241 it doesn't take that much to write a comment on TH-cam, it's not like he's been typing or thinking about what he should type for 6 hours
I don't know what to expect when I see that expression in the thumbnail
Same ahahah😅
You really break down faking it vs being real and working on yourself. The most important thing is being authentic. Thx for pointing that out.
Gosh, as someone with Autism spectrum disorder socializing is so hard for me. We need good advice in order to bring our need for connection with the world out. The world seems like it's not made for us sometimes. We're really sincere and honest people, which can be either refreshing or off-putting to people.
I hope I can help 🙏🏻
it's like you said Anthony. learn how to be happy and the rest will follow :)
I’m high functioning autistic as well, gang gang
I have BPD so I miss a lot of social cues and assume something else is happening or I misjudge people's tones and think that they are trying to hurt me when they are not. So relatable but in a different way
Some colour theory for yall:
Red is a warm colour, it's eye catching and it holds your focus. Someone wearing red will hold your focus more than someone not wearing red, however this response is momentary. It passes in less than a second and long term it won't have any effect.
Interestingly, this is a technique that many artists use. Next time you look at an art piece, look at the layout of the colours and see where your eyes fall first.
But in the end in Social life it's very different. Wine red Suits won't make you attractive alone.
@@themasterofanalyticsandwie1342 my point exactly :)
Oh god im finally back been a month without access to the internet but on the bright side, binging all of the vids is gonna be heaven
dont google shane dawson
Wait.... binging?
@@Xo.Griffin it's when you watch videos of a series or channel or etc back to back. For example if you watch an entire season of Game of thrones, you binged that season.
@@kaitlynrhiger1839 lmao 😂😂😂😂😂
Jesus your content is good. I can really tell you get it. A lot of people I think focus too much on how to get the person to like them rather than seeing them for who they are and if their someone they’ll like to be with. That’s literally dating, finding people you’re attracted too that you can connect with.
that's so true!! why do so many people fall into this trap...I don't get it
@@zarahshabs7936 Well it is something I think most people don't get taught about.
Broo fr especially when they find someone physically attractive or something lol
@@zarahshabs7936 I think a lot of people fall into that trap because they are lonely or trying to use the person they are trying to "date" to make themselves feel better, whether they mean to or not. It's really all mental health, if someone has a healthy lifestyle and is happy with themselves then you don't feel as desperate to get people to like you. At least that's my conclusion from all the research I've done.
@@samysue10 so true!! It’s def often people who just want to be liked/validated, which is not a good framework for a healthy relationship anyway
Honestly it’s fun and all when he reacts to dating videos but I wouldn’t mind seeing him actually discuss and give his opinion on more topics
And there I was, thinking there isn't such a thing as a real, good and healthy-advice-giving dating coach... Thanks Anthony! Happiness is the way.
Video: “How to Flirt”
Also video: #1: Literally look at their eyes
Me: I can’t do that, it’s too intimate
Yeah, but you have to be head to head, eyes wide as a deer. Really stare into their soul like you're about to murder them 😂
@@rae8961 never look away and don't breath visually
Thanks for reminding me to stop looking for someone who is worlds apart from me and to stop chasing women who doesn't share the same interest with me because sometimes i just need to burn my brain for things to say and topics to talk about, you my dude helped me sustain a healthy mindset for there's someone for me already all i have to do is to wait.
Theres romance and romcom movies that really harm the dating scene by fictionalizing and idealizing something that is virtually unrealistic. It seems horror is opening up more to breaking this mold and calling attention to the flaws in this and accepting your genuine self to find ones that you will genuinely end up long term with. I think things like Eternal Sunshine of a Spotless Mind and 1000 Days of Summer are red nance movies that highlight issues of media romanticized dating. Esp days of summer where Zoey portrays this mans manic pixie dream when in reality he is only seeing what he wants and not her, he is romanticizing an idealized version of her into a toxic relationship. It's a great movie.
Never watch Kdramas. 😂
I hate staring into people's eyes SO SO SO SO MUCH!! 😰😰😰😰😰 I JUST HATE IT SO MUCH, EVEN IF I'M NOT ATTRACTED TO THAT PERSON, ITS SO UNCOMFORTABLE. I mean glancing and looking back and forth to look at someone is a lot more comfortable to me. Or even what you said, just examining their body language and other things sometimes around you.
Same, my crush usually looks at me intensely in the eye, but I get really self conscious and can’t look at anyone in the eyes even during the conversations
Saaamee I was going out with this boy and I just couldn’t look him in the eyes 💀 I keep telling myself to practice and not be so fucking awkward. I have social anxiety, so that probably contributes 😂
Glancing around makes you look suspicious and awkward though...you don't have to *stare* necessarily, but at least make eye contact when the other person is talking to you :)
@@shrimppoo i have social anxiety too so yep. I have to glance away and it helps me think and process information when I'm looking away
@@RedRoseSeptember22 maybe in American culture 😩😩
Humor is important because most people close their eyes when they laugh.
True as hell
I've never seen anyone laugh with their eyes closed
@@somerandomguy7546 this guy did
i like when someone smiles but at the same time he/she are serious when they need to and have a deeper personality than that smile and simply being positive
Mirroring body image is so fake. Just be yourself! React in a genuine way, you never need to pretend to be someone you aren't. Trying new things because YOU were always interested but never had courage to do it is fine. As long as it's for YOU and not specifically to impress others! I can't stress it enough. You won't genuinely click with someone long term by faking a persona. You won't be genuinely happy with yourself. A great media representation of this very oddly via a horror tv show from SciFi is Channel Zero the Dead End House season. One character faces his mirror idealized self. It's eye opening. I'm thinking Daniel Isn't Real also broaches this topic. It's on Shudder. I can't confirm bc I haven't watched it yet but It seems to carry the same concept of being your authentic self vs an idealized self that has been influenced by what it considered stereotypically "cool" and has been wrongfully normalized towards specific genders. I.e. The idea of masculinity. The stereotype and misbelief women only like bad boys etc.
Unconscious mirroring is a sign you like them. HOWEVER, it defeats the purpose if it's not unconscious. It's just manipulation at that point.
@@mustnz998 anything of the 'dating advise' is manipulation. you cant keep up the act forever. you can't stop being 'cool' aftere you snagged the person you wanted.
I catch myself mirroring people's actions a lot of times (if someone yawns or cracks their knuckles especially), but it's never on purpose and I try not to. The fact that people do it on purpose is so weird to me.
“Happiness is attractive” oh oh
Hahah yeah lol
I love that. Perfect representation of an "Ah HAH" moment like "oh OHH" XD
My pupils get bigger when I look at my friend, we always joke about it and I'm pretty damn sure I don't want her.
I think dilated pupils can also mean you're happy right? I forget but I read somewhere that people's pupils dilate from pleasure or happiness...
Oooh😂😂😂😂😂
You have such adorable genuine reactions, love when you smile chuckle and your eyes wrinkle up
😁
I started watching Psych2Go years ago and over time I saw their content reused and increasingly clickbait-y with very little science
It seems to be a hit or miss sometimes it's good sometimes it's... astrology
Oh, so I'm not the only one having this feeling. Good to know ^^
I've felt the same way tbh, but honestly I still watch their videos because they're entertaining to me.
Me too
...same
I watched a couple Psych2Go videos and I couldn't even get to the end of them. The person who made them probably means well, but has a clear lack of expertise. I saw so many things in those videos that are oversimplified or flat out wrong. I wish people would be more careful about the advice they give, especially when trying to share that advice in such a wide scope such as on TH-cam.
I think the dating ones might not be top notch but the ones on disorder and signs for different things is more their focus?
@Kray The Fin not everyone is genuine
@@maudlynn5554 Thank you for your subjective, close minded, perspective on every single comment Michael.
Let's flip-flop and put your character into question now on baseless accusations.
Are you able to take any advice someone gives you and put it into practice yourself? Or are you lazy?
Do you give up after a couple fails , pull out your phone, and curse whoever put their video and their own way of thinking out for everyone to see? Everyone!!
Do you think they wouldn't be making any money or racking up views if the advice they gave didn't work ? You're allowed to use the skills you have to make money . That's kinda how this society works lol
Quit trollin 😂
They reuse videos ideas as well. These two videos: th-cam.com/video/IMa2spCLrjI/w-d-xo.html
th-cam.com/video/MHndEN4vgzA/w-d-xo.html
sound very similar. If the channel has the guts to be this lazy and recycle their ideas, then it isn't legit at all
I've always thought "dating coaches" ( DATING IS NOT A SPORT ) are clickbait, until I came across your channel. I admire the approach you show the 3 key points you keep summoning in this video. You are humble and present and that is all you need to be a pleasant presence in a video
Keep it up and thank you for trying to make people better
Touching thing is very manipulative and gross tool. I believe that managers (old guys) in the USA are trained to use it often. Yuck...
I think that is taking it out of context. When you are doing any type of flirting, you do it with discretion and only do it when/where it feels natural.
You don’t molest someone to try to win them over🙃
Sure. Maybe it’s not related to flirting but I don’t get that creepy american way for influencing, showing power or winning people over by touching them. Especially from dude who is 40 y.o. who I was getting money from. In Europe it’s different...
bitka like that hand on the small of the back thing, I hate it
None of you seem to understand how touching is supposed to be used in situations with flirty vibes where the other person is clearly reciprocating.
Consilium Pacis we know that, but we were talking about the daily random touching we get as women
🤣🤣🤣
I love how disgusted he is in regards to touching.
I once went to this rooftop bar with some friends and this guy came up to me, started talking to me, separated me from my group by putting himself in-between me and them and then kept tapping my shoulder/arm.
All things wrong...
When you soul gaze you're basically walking through the garden of their mind. When you connect with them you feel one another watering each others' flowers. They bloom, the vegetables sprout, the bees buzz, the birds chirp, the sun shines.. And all of your senses feel stimulated simply from those moments spent looking into the spectales of someone else you love.
Britt Bluejay ??
You're definitely a 4 on the enegram scale. I also think that's beautiful to say
That was deep, love it!
And to plant said garden, share all one's fruits and vegetables, only to then lock the other out of the garden? What then.
Link me the book when you and Pyropagerik write it.
Would you ever consider making a reaction video to scenes from “He’s Just Not That Into You”?
Yes
@@AnthonyRecenello Yes, but also what is that?
@@adrianmartinez7014 its a movie
I thought it’d be interesting to get a professional’s perspective because the premise is debunking the myth that boys act mean to the girls they like. This “principle” continues to shape the main character’s dating life well into adulthood.
Ooooh I would love that! It's my favorite rom com cuz it's not purely happy endings or straightforward answers. Some awkward and bad parts... But it's still a rom com.
Psych2Go deadass told you to manipulate women into dates 😂
@@directrulefromgamerchair3947 Yeah kinda like a Yandere
Thanks for this, I remember watching these a few years ago when I didn't necessarily have many critical thinking skills. You've helped me rethink what I learned at first.
Anthony: humour is a sign of intelligence!
Me, as a highly intelligent person: I knew it! I am a humourous person after all!
My friends: ...
😂 I laughed
Relatable
Humor is also subjective so thats a tricky thing, I guess if you share a sense of humor it also means you may share other aspects, such as a look at life?
You using the word humorous made this funny
psych2go always triggers me so much, because their videos might lead to a lot of kids self diagnosing themself.
SAME
When I was a freshman in college and starting my way to get my BA in Psychology, I had originally subscribed to psych2go because I thought they were interesting but as I got into my sophomore yr of college and was in research methods, I learned so much that I started realizing how Psych2go was VERY unreliable in terms of research because they rarely used Peer Reviewed Articles or Valid resources. They would use websites that aren’t considered academic resources and also the number of videos I started to see that they would upload would consist of being the same thing or just silly that is literally clickbait.
I recently graduated from college this spring and I have a friend who decided to major in psychology so I kindly advised her not to go on that channel because it’s not reliable
I mean... TO be fair, they do say at the beginning of each video (and the description) that you shouldn't use their material for self diagnostician, and to, in fact, seek professional help if you think you may be struggling with a mental illness. BUT, with that being said... I do see your point...
Couple years back, I thought I was suffering from depression, saw a video of theirs about depression, and thought, "Yup! That's me!" At the time, I did go and get professional help, and turns out I was actually depressed. So, in a way, I'm thankful for Pshych2Go. They at least steered me in right direction to getting better help :)
Though with all that being said, the whole channel is a big clickbaity mess. As they say, DON'T EVER use it as a use for diagnosing. Sorry for the long read :(
@@Rainbowthehedgehog Its pop-psychology, some of their videos are borderline bs, some are helpful/insightful, but yea as far as citing actual literature... eh, sparsely. But whenever it *really* matters like talking about actual "diagnosis" they tend to back things up with DSM or some real papers (though I havent watched everything, so maybe there is even more bs than I am missing).
If a video is about introverts everybody is introverted in the comments if its about a disease everybody in.the comments have bipolarity i noticed that
I’m glad he reacted to this I desperately need dating advice
Playing "aloof" can sometimes come across as not interested and thus the other person can lose interest.
He added the additional explanation that makes all this helpful
“Italian people are very emotional and touchy-feely people” This explains everything!
I've always liked cheesy pick up lines when the person using them knows the lines are cheesy and it's done as joke/ ice breaker.
same
I really love your advice on paying attention to the person of interest. Actually caring about that person can never be faked, especially if the individual is focused on what they are doing to influence their interest rather than actually listening and caring about their interest. The real difference between wanting to be with a specific person and actually caring about them will go far in how long and fulfilling the relationship is.
Yk im not even planning on dating anyone and i dont have a crush on anyone but i just like listening to what he has to say
Psychology is so hard to break down as when dealing with people, there will always be "the exception".
Blanket statements do not translate well when dealing with the subject.
That said, there are tests you can do to find "objective truths" about yourself.
You can test for "majority answers" and usually those results can be replicated within a percent or 2.
After watching many dating advice videos by many different people, I have found out several things.
1) I have extreme low self esteem. I wish I didn't, but I do. Does that mean I am thinking about ending it? No. those tendencies NEVER enter my mind, I still love life. Just don't think highly of myself.
2) At my age it seems like the dating pool is very sparse. The question when ask what I notice about women first when they walk in the room, I usually say "The left hand". Is there a ring?
3) I have found dating sites and apps useless. Not only do I rarely get matches, of the few times it does happen, it seems no one responds. From my perspective, some girls seem to have the problem of getting too many matches and never having any of them pan out, ugly guys like me get a match then a message saying "come to my website and we can chat per minute".
Love your channel, used to watch all these click baity dating channels and now I know just how much of a waste of time it has been. Thank you for redirecting my attention back to what really matters
beautiful 🙏🏻
it's interesting how looking at somebody's face shows respect, when in japan it's disrespectful
Yup. A lot of these "Signs a guy/girl likes you" videos seem to forget about cultural context. In some countries, people lean over and "stare" at each other, while in other countries it's the opposite.
I wonder if that is a result of the "America is the entire world" social phenomena.
Think her video was supposed to be more like a fun fact video, rather than this is how you should flirt. Or at least that’s how I took the video.
‘do i really have to explain all of this stuff?’
*is his literal job* 🤣
also, i feel like i totally get where you’re coming from and came into this out of pure curiosity - but you definitely misrepresented one of their points about dominance & submission only to use it later yourself, which it kind of looked like you noticed in the video haha! of course, it sounds stodgy when approached from a purely scientific standpoint but these things have reached an almost global consensus for a reason, and a lot of the stuff you guys know colloquially came from the initial scientific and psychological consensuses reached first with which, you guys are able to adapt to actual usability in practice! tl;dr, the science does often hold weight for the most part. it’s just that it needs clarification, colloquilisation and adapting to be able to be used tangibly by the everyday person/dater. that’s all! i feel like dating coaches are basically the interpersonal science translators of our time-but we only see a handful that are actually good & that are considerate of each individual temperament, as opposed to general advice translated from even more general scientific consensus despite vast variability. science is the raw ore, it’s up to coaches and therapists to create their brand of jewellery!
This is like a college thesis paper, read the whole thing just because it was so well written lol liked the ore metaphor at the end too, A+
‘Find a mate for reproduction’ like.. what about homosexuals or people who can’t produce or those who just don’t wanna reproduce omg
shut up
@@jaydenorr566 ignorance at it's finest
I mean, the process is functionally equivalent, anyone who can't reproduce just can't reproduce but the biomechanical function is literally the same.... So what about homosexuals and those who can't reproduce? The purpose, function and process is the exact same. Omg what? What are you actually saying?
Damn bro that's some reaaaaaal quarantine learning here, when the pandemic to be over to practice in real life lol
so what i am getting from this video
Psych2go: robotic data based on what has been observed
Anthony: the human interpretation on why the behavior occurred
So have a genuine conversation by being yourself, rather than trying to manipulate an encounter 👏
Last time i did that my crush ghost me
I love that Anthony is always talking about concepts that work to be the best that you can be and it really clears up the mist behind these clickbait videos. I think most clickbait get at these concepts indirectly but our focus should not be on doing things like mirroring, pitch changing our voice, etc. but instead to focus on being our best selves and things like that will come along which I never thought about. I also love that Anthony gives guidance to achieve this life style quality. Amazing work and I'll make sure to pass along your teachings if people talk about this clickbait stuff!
Be your best self! Don't fake interest or knowledge in something. Ask about things that you don't know about if your interested in something they know. Don't just quickly blow them off if not interested. State why you don't like it them gently steer the conversation into something you know. Share your interests and knowledge when someone shows they wanna know about it. Don't force your views. Dating is about happiness with yourself and the other person and while sometimes it may be something new and slight uncomfortable it's not about being fake and forcing something that's totally outside your wheelhouse
27:10 "That person is going to feel the creep." I'm deadd
25:58 I was confused when I first saw the picture, I thought that was a stickman sitting on other stickman's butt.lol😂
I see it now, I can't unsee it.
19:46 A lot of the psychology studies aren't necessarily "proofs", which is why you're needing to make this point. The video is passing them off as being factual.
Psych is very highly based around correlation and theories, not solid facts.
Woman also tend to wear red on their periods according to that study
"For reproduction"
Me: they know not all people are straight and want kids right?
Yes, but flirting was evolved because MOST living things want to reproduce. I'm asexual and aromatic, but since humans like me barely make a difference in this world due to all the other living things reproducing all the time, we can be assured that life and nature will still continue with or without us, so that's why I just sit back, relax, and be a useless hot mess on the internet while my parents attempt to get me into Harvard or some other good university like that even though I'm basically hopeless by now. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
It's our instinct to reproduce in order to survive as a species. No one can suppress that.
@@Gyum-gk8nc Ehi, your future is yours. Don't waste it over.
At one stage I was going through a breakup and searched on TH-cam for these kinds of videos... what irritated me eventually were ALL videos were from cheeky guys claiming they are experts on giving women advice how to treat a guy. ALL the advice were so one-sided, as if women were crazy and men have the right to play games and test you. Then you check the comments and you see how it made women MORE anxious and doubting themselves and taking "vows" never to date again... Women are basically not allowed to be just themselves, you are basically told you must be afraid to lose a guy. Go check, all these videos from guys are exactly the same as if they copied it from somewhere. I felt so bad eventually about myself and blamed myself for past broken relationships just because these videos told me I was not good enough and will never be...
I think that a lot of the conclusions from research referenced in such videos are just lost in translation. A lot of the nuance of the research is often lost in such clickbaity videos and articles. Good research usually addresses all the factors that might influence the results (like society's different expectations for people based on gender).
As an ADHD/autistic person who struggles with eye contact and focusing on looking at someone directly when we're talking - I've found that my peripheral vision for noticing micro expressions has got really good, to the point that I can detect what someone's feeling, or any change in what they're feeling when I'm sat next to them and not looking at their face directly at all 😂. Or even when I can't really see someone, I can often sense their mood if I know them well. If its someone I'm close with, I get goosebumps if they're experiencing a negative emotion, and feel a kinda smooth, calmness with positive emotions (but not laughter, that's different 🤣).
I do think people need to be more open and accepting regarding "eye contact" and looking directly at someone when you're talking, because I guarantee if it looks like I'm looking right at you and paying attention... I'm not 😂. That's just now how it works for me, I find it way easier to follow and be engaged in a conversation if I'm either looking off to the side or moving my gaze around the environment.
I think being autistic makes it overwhelming to look directly at someone for an extended period of time, and being adhd makes it difficult to stay focused on looking at someone AND listening to what they have to say at the same time. I do personally mention this in conversations where it could seem like I'm not engaging, so the other person hopefully understands, but not everyone is confident and comfortable enough to do this!
I feel like neurodivergent people have to spend most of their time trying to fit neurotypical standards, and it would be nice if people would understand why things are different for us, and meet us halfway.
As a Psychologist my motto is just be genuine, be in the moment ❤
I wonder if we will ever get to see Anthony's girlfriend
Hard facts of my life as translated based on what he said. I will be alone forever because I havent been happy in well over a decade
Find another unhappy person. Usually happy people are repulsive to people who are unhappy.
Ahhh, happiness. The ultimate goal. Like this if you’re happy.
fayestardust I think there are more people that are sad 😂
@@odinsutherin2880 It's definitely not the easiest thing in the world. I'm pretty content, but I still want things in life. That's good. That's purposeful, right? ;)
I will come back to this later, and like this eventually. I will try not to forget it.
Racoen I’ll hold you to that.
**liking the comment while aware that i’m not happy** 🤪
9:40 "Presence is respecting your life." Really appreciated this.
Can u watch nikocado and orlin moments
Or
Liza and David dobrik
Or larray and his bf moments
Liza and Dobrick aren't even together anymore.
Nik and Orlin would be interesting. Man those dudes rub me off differently even if they're just capitalizing their antics on purpose
At first I thought the title of this video was clickbaity and way too harsh and I was ready to defend psych2go, but after watching I couldn’t agree more with you! A little disappointed in them now.
Congrats on 100k
Yes, I’m the type of person who likes and comments on their own comment
thank yoU!!!
I 100% disagree about the badboy thing. Me personally not attracted to badboy looking.
I mean I disagree to the video he's watching
“Cheesy pickup lines just doesn’t work”
Every person that has bad humor or loves cheesy pickup lines: 👁👄👁
10:00 thank you daddy
lol but really me and my dad have been going through a HELL of a lot lately, and I think he failed to learn that very thing, respect. It's nice to hear it from someone else. I have such a hard time with eye contact, but not when I think about it as respect for the other person... that will help a lot I think
🙏🏻
I feel nervous seeing red and always felt uncomfortable wearing it, so yes, it's stupid.
RED
**Me, looking at my red trix cereal box**
"Is attractive, but not in that way 😂"
btw I didn't expect this video to be so funny, I laugh so hard at his reactions 😂😂😂
Eye contact is important, especially when across the room. However, the person needs to learn how to glance/ look NOT STARE. I also think it would be a good idea to provide an example of across the room and conversational. I'm a STARER when in conversation since I'm a lip reader bc I can't hear well but it doesn't come across as crazy, too intense.
I think a combination of what both you said is a great idea. However, again I think a visual example of this would be best so that people know how to make great eye contact that isn't creepy and also isn't examining the persons body language so they can try to read that
25:18 First video of yours I ever watched and I only say something because it was amusing to me, earlier when you mentioned being present for the second time and I noticed you were focused on some key points I was thinking to myself "Ah, I feel like this guy is going to try to sell me a book by the end of this." so I had a laugh, I'm glad that you made it free and it's great that you have something you're proud of and have worked hard on so it is completely fair to bring it up.
Go listen
I am in the UK, its 3.30am, I cannot sleep. I see you have finally posted this video so I watched this and after so much cuteness feel restful again.
Thank you for doing these videos, you have no idea how you are helping me change for the better and, more importantly, wanting too!
It must be those freckles! ❤️
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Oh my god I didn't know I needed it but I definitely do
Bro I do MACRO expressions and my mom will just laugh at my face when I talk to her... It's a lotta fun lol
I am a copywriter and I learned a lot about writing and copy and stuff.
One thing I notice from mediocre and successful copy is how complexity it is
The more complex the copy is, the more you feel like it's trying to impress you.
The simpler it is, the more you feel like it helps you.
The first time I watch your video, my impression for you is you speak very simple stuff.
And I like it. From a copywriter's perspective, it's obvious you are successful.
Also you speak a lot of truth. And it blows my mind. I like it. A lot!!
You should do a video helping us understand if someone's attracted to us
Hey Anthony,
I'm interested to know how did you become a social development coach? Did you have to study something, besides from socializing trough people? At which point did you know you could help people with it?
Hey, could you possibly make a video about Abel Tesfaye (aka The Weeknd) ? I know there’re not plenty interviews of him but lots of women find his mysterious character so attractive and I’d like to see your personal view on it.
Me watching this video after watching a psych2go video like: ｡◕👄◕｡
"Are you a woman? Smile!"
Anthony : 😐
"Uh lil laughy laugh" 😂😂😂
Thank you so much. You are the first I've seen make a video like this, but NOT bash the creators, or cut out key parts to make them look bad. You gave us legit advice, instead of just going, "That's wrong, that's wrong, so is that", you acknowledged when they weren't to far off, while politely correcting them when they weren't. That's how to TH-cam.
I find it very ironic that I CONTINUE to get dating related ads, and dating advice ads, whenever I watch your videos. Loving the vids, honestly the ads just give me a laugh
Interesting I thought I turned them off
I'm enjoying a lot not only listening the explanation and learning more, but also watching Anthony's reactions /facial expressions while watching the video.
My ex would grab my waist, or my hands, arms, but it made me uncomfortable because it felt forced. I have panic attacks now because of it.
I knew you'd be frustrated because I watched some of their videos XDDD
And she might have started out as cute but in the end her tone became very weirdly up&downy choppy... was she trying to flirt with me? XD
Hey Anthony! I don't know if the comment section would be the right place for this but I'm in a phase of total confusion and doubt.
There's this one girl that I've been best friends with for atleast 3 to 4 years. And we get along pretty well. We've had moments where we would have a sort of "cry session" where we both console each other and give advice to one another bringing each other up. We always try to support and if no such "support" is needed, we still try and communicate with each other and hang out alot. So,
Last year, she confessed to me at our village (we live in the same village lol) telling me that she really liked me and all and decided to hide that feeling because she was so scared of making things awkward. She knew that I was with another girl at that time but was so tired of hiding what she really felt about me. I proved it to her that it wouldn't be awkward and spent more time with her. Nothing changed and we would still have such a great time with each other. The "confession event" was brought 2 weeks later on accident in a conversation and so we decided and agreed upon each other that we wouldn't start a romantic relationship. Reason being that we fear of loosing each other. In present time,
I decided to go to her house regularly (with social distancing of course) and we would talk alot about what's been going on through our lives. She's been with another guy which she's been dating only this 2020. I knew of it and actually helped him with his shyness and confess to her and all that "wingman" stuff.
My question is this,
Why do I suddenly feel attracted to her years later by just remembering our times together and such?
Why do I feel sadness all of a sudden remembering that she has a relationship with another guy currently?
I mean as I mentioned I helped the guy ALOT and became the messenger of these two people.
I remember being so excited and happy knowing that they got together,
But why now? Why do I feel a certain hint of sadness? Why of all times I suddenly became attracted to her even though I knew that she's with another guy? I support them alot but I still feel sad inside.
And should I still confess to her? Right now or maybe when she's single again? Even if we agreed to not enter a romantic relationship a year ago?
Thanks, and keep up the great content Anthony!
I apologize if the story and or my question is a bit messy😅
Are you a WOMAN? Smile!! Be pleasant so you can attract the mean domineering man you really want!
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Eye contact is very powerful. I made contact with a girls eye and she instantly had tears of joy, there's nothing quite like it
There's definitely an element of valuing someone by looking them in the eyes which is so powerful, but not too much so they feel uncomfortable. Value and respect go hand in hand. Some people are never shown they're valuable in their whole lives
You should do a video about helping girls as to how to attract guys they're interested in
Nah just let men improve themselves and the rest will follow
@@bengreeley5681 you might have a point right there
12:00 In my psychology and sociology classes they mentioned that humor is the opposite of sexual attraction.
The logic she states seems to be put a little flimsy yet I do believe having similar humor creates a stronger bond and being open and yourself establishes stronger connection so it isn't quite wrong. Sociologically we are drawn most to those who feel familiar because familiar is safe.
Those that remind us of people who have already gained our trust or admiration. Having similar humor could tie into having similar experiences and thus a shared understanding and outlook of a situation.
It also shows level of self control and wit, if someone is joking about "easy" things such as using cliche's or dirty jokes (in the wrong setting or in excess) then it doesn't show as much of self control. Or even that you are trying to be unattractive on purpose. (Which I have done) I personally think fart jokes are funny, and yeah it is an easy joke but timed well and in the right company it is more innocent than for an example a racist or sexist joke or the sort that uses shock value which shows less social dignity.
Safe humor such as "No barcode, guess it's free." tells you they are pulling things out from surface thinking in order to be social and friendly whereas making a clever, subtle pun that catches you off guard (as long as you are coming up with the connection yourself and not coping it) shows that you make analytical observations and compare them with other things very quickly therefore -possibly- more introverted and reserved.
Either humor(besides harmful ones) is valid yet someone can feel more of a connection with some types of humor than other because of the reflection of personality. The attraction is not caused by humor alone.
i personally have found pupil dialation to be fairly accurate. one time my friends (one of which was a little more than a friend) and i were just kinda screwing around with it, and even just saying the same of someone's crush can make their pupils dialate at the thought of them.
The issue that I have with this with this is that in practice, out and about, in crowds or with a group, there can be a large variety of reasons for your pupils to dilate. Perhaps they see someone else they're attracted to - pupils dilate. Perhaps they're in the shade - pupils dilate to take in more light. Perhaps they're in the sun - they could be attracted to you but the bright light could stop their pupils from dilating.
Its very variable and difficult to pick up on if you're not intensely staring into their eyes.
@@andreaw2053 very true. we were in a moderately-lit room, so light wasnt really an issue, and we were deliberately trying to see what made people's pupils dialate. normally, it would be difficult to tell from more than 2 feet away.