My grandmother always told me I wasn’t her son’s daughter and treated me badly because he married my mom after I was born. I felt extremely vindicated to find out my siblings and I are all full siblings. Too bad she died before I could show her this evidence.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I have a similar story with my family. My mother accused my sister-in-law of being pregnant with someone else's baby before she married my brother. I fought with my mom, defending my sister-in-law. I said to myself, please let that child look exactly like my brother. When her first grandchild, my first niece, was born, not only was she born a good 9 months and a week AFTER they got married, she looks so much like her dad, with her round face and almond eyes. Of course my mother didn't apologize. To this day, she doesn't get along with my brother and his family, and favours some grandchildren over others. Being older doesn't always mean becoming wiser. I wish you healing, peace and joy *hugs* ❤️
I’m sorry you were treated poorly by your grandma. My mom was treated the same way by her father and his family. They didn’t believe she was his because she had her mom’s darker coloring vs his red hair and blue eyes. DNA eventually proved that she was his daughter all along.
My son ordered the DNA test..the day he got the results he called me. He said.."Mom, is there anything you want or need to tell me before I open this?" And then he added if he shared it with his sister was there going to be anything different she needed to know..would they both match? At first I was insulted..but only for a few quick seconds. I assured him there were no hidden secrets and he and his sister would match 100%. They did but after reading several of these stories he said he had seen I am greatly impressed and appreciated that fact he waited and came to me first giving me a chance to tell him just in case.
Very good on you! I totally understand feeling insulted but I'm happy he gave you a chance. I took at test earlier this year and just this week I find out I probably have a brother the same age as me on my dads side. My parents have been apart for over 30 years so if it turns out to be true I hope my mom isn't hurt by it too badly.
@@silentj624 My sisters and I have a brother we do not know, on my father's side. I used to have long talks with my father and he would tell me stories of his time in the Navy. He told me about this brother of ours in California.
I’m very impressed with your son, very mature and thoughtful of him, you can’t for sure hold onto an feelings of being insulted. Glad it all worked out for all of you!
The nice thing is that your father (the man who raised you) passed some of his traits on to you. It sounds like was a wonderful man... and therefore you are blessed.
I would only raise one point. It's important to know who your biological parents are to see if you are predisposed to certain diseases. In this particular case it was her mother who failed her. As far as the man who raised her as his own, well, if there was no need for him to know then let it be. Why ruin a man's life near the end of his days?
Honeysuckle Blossom my dad’s birth father died when my dad was five and so my dad was raised by his stepfather. My dad is a spitting image of his biological father and is barely anything like his stepfather
I once sat in a meeting at school with a boy and his father. The boy knew that the man was not his biological father but the man had raised him. The boy said at one point in the meeting "you are not my father... (pause) but you are my Dad, and I love you..." There wasn't a dry eye in the house afterwards.
I am thankful the man who was her real dad, who raised her, did not ever know. He was an honorable man, lived an honorable life, was good to his family and believed the best in them. To repay that devotion with pain would have been destructive and reprehensible.
My X was adopted & our daughter tested to see what that half of her dna held. In the end I was able to determine the identity of her dad’s birth parents & family. Maybe a year ago a new very close match appeared for her & her dad’s half sister. Turns out he is a half brother, given up for adoption, the 2nd baby the birth mom gave up. He didn’t know he was adopted & both parents have passed. He is still coming to grips with it all.
My ex always suspected he wasn't his Dad's "real" son, and was treated different for that reason. Ancestry verified he's his sister's half sibling at 60 years old, and it brought him closure and forgiveness
@@qtsmhealth This is a very naive comment. Parents treat even biological children differently. Human beings are so prone to this. All parents should attempt to treat children equally of course. But it is an effort. It's not natural to treat everyone 100% the same.
Sometimes there is an earlier marriage or relationship, with the dad marrying the woman with two prior children, adopting them and raising them as him own.
We really don't know if he knew or not. I had friends there were in a similar situation. With one friend her dad knew. But no one knew he knew for 30 years. He always knew. Another friend similar situation and learned had dad married her mom when she was 2 and her sister was a baby. They back dated their marriage date 3 years and never told the kids. It is what it is. In both situations the kids thought mom cheated...but both neither did.
Like what she says, its hard to know if its better to know the truth ... Sometimes the truth can tear an otherwise happy family apart, like in this case she can potentially detest her mother so much for the affair that it overrides all the great memories they shared together ... If there's no hproblem within the household, only happy memories, why seek out something that can probably cause upheavals within the family ?
God allowed this to become revealed after all parties who could have experienced hurt had passed. Only her mother remained who fully knew the truth anyway. It seems it happened this way for a reason to spare much pain, especially her real dad who raised her, who did not deserve such pain at all.
Susan Sauls This doesn’t have a thing on this world to do with god. The mother outlived the others and perpetrated a terrible lie . God gives free will and she used hers in a disgusting way.
The same thing happened to me. It’s so shocking I’m still in denial sometimes. My husband said he wished he’d never talked me into getting the test. I don’t regret it at all. It really messes with your head when all involved have passed away and you can’t ask questions. You feel your whole life is a lie.
I feel sad for her natural Father's widowed wife. As it must be bad enough to lose your husband. And then to be told he fathered a daughter when she didn't know. These situations can have a ripple effect.
@@carolancarey992 She may not have been. I worked with an older man yrs ago, who told me he'd been married 38 yrs & after they had their 2nd boy, when married 2 yrs, his wife slept in the other bedroom as she was done having children. He said he'd had affairs with women over 50, so he didn't have any more children & cause a "scandal."
Even though my parents aren't my biological parents, they are still my parents. They raised me after all and should get credit! I found my birth mother a few years ago but we have not met yet.
I loved my parents, they are my only mom and dad even though I was blessed to find my birthmother and have her In my life for 30 yrs. they are all in Heaven now. Meeting her and my siblings was a really good thing for me and some of them also got to know my adopted parents. Lots of love and respect was shared.
@@2Ryledit doesn't always work out. I knew my birth mother as an aunt till I found out the truth when I was 12. Was adopted within the family when I was nit quite 2. Some things aee best left alone.
We went down to get our blood typed to receive emergency cards. The poor nurse nearly fell out of her chair when I didn't match. She thought she had revealed a terrible secret. My parents laughed and said, "She's adopted."
@Honeysuckle Blossom but don't forget that a family where everyone has brown eyes, one child CAN have blue eyes,if for example there is a grandmother or grandfather with blue eyes. Many people think that two browneyed parents must get all their children browneyed but that is not true at all. I personally know a family with four kids where all the kids are copy of their dad. Mom and dad has brown eyes and three brothers have brown eyes and one has light blue eyes. the mums grand mom has same lightblue eyes,but noone else of their relatives has blue eyes,all other uncles and grandparents and aunts has brown eyes.
I went thru same thing. Ancestry dna showed that my father was a young man that hooked up with my Mother one night only at age 23. MY mother was 23 and single. I was raised by my wonderful grandparents. Unfortunately, my birth father had passed away at 83 before DNA. I have contact with a half brother and sister. They are all good people. My dad had a total of 8 kids. I waited until I was 80 years old to find my truth. I now feel at peace and so thankful for DNA testing. I am a mix of many nations.
My aunt was the result of an affair and my aunt found out from ancestry dna. However both my grandparents were having affairs at that point, and ended up divorcing when my aunt and mom were kids, so there was trouble in paradise between both parents for a long time. However my aunt was still so shocked and saddened to find out her “Daddy” wasn’t her bio dad💔
@@deependofshallow Mine didn't. They told me before I knew what adoption meant. They said that they didn't want anyone to hurt me with the information. "Other people get whatever children. YOU were chosen."
I totally understand what happened this woman ... it happened to me as well. Once I knew the truth i reached out to my 6 nieces who are now in my life and I am sharing the story of our mother they never knew about their grandmother ... but now they do and all the other children she had. This has helped me understand a deeper dense of our mother I grew up with her and all the dots connect.
Your parent doesn't always mean biological. The parents who raised you are the ones who changed your diapers, stayed up with you when you were sick and waited for you when you decided to break curfew.
A lot of these older generations will realize their mom lied about who their dad was after getting these tests. Children deserve a right to know who their biological family is, so it's selfish of the mom/even step parent not to let them know at some point. They could of had a chance to reach out to that family to bond before it's too late.
I thought the interview said her father did not know. My mom's sister has a childhood friend who has four kids and none are from the husband. Shocking. It really shows how pointless geneologies are.
Oh I talk to my mother about it regularly and she would never give me the name of the guy who got her pregnant… She said it was a person not worth knowing… And I guess she was right. Oh and my sister were their child so she was my half-sister… And when she learned all of this she was about a hateful a person as you could meet
Debilane23 while I understand your thinking, but that would be mean women can pick and choose who is the dad and sleep around and have affairs and as long as know one knows it’s ok
My husband was told at the age of 14 his father was not his bio dad.He was so upset could not deal with the betrayal he turned to drugs and drink at a early age,he felt as if he didnt belong many tears and heartache was shared still to this day it hauts him.
My ancestry dna test brought a long past family secret to light. Had I not taken it on a whim, we would never have known. Its a good thing. Everybody is actually relieved and delighted to know what we now know.
When taking these tests keep 1 old saying in mind " Momma's baby , Daddy's MAYBE " ! Also when at college my roommate told me he was adopted and this concerned him I then told him family is not what it's cracked up to be . Years later on the phone he told he reconnected with his siblings and well he told me I was right in what I said and why I said it , his siblings could not hold a job. And always wanted to borrow money , I met the people who raised him , they were his family . It's more important to know the truth than live a lie .
Yeah I knew a woman who was adopted. She got in contact with her birth mom in her early 20's. At first she thought her bio mom was the coolest person ever, so fun, they'd go to concerts together and stuff, but she quickly found out her bio mom was really dysfunctional and just couldn't adult. Sadly the woman who adopted her was a narcissist, so it's not like the family that raised her was any better, but at least they were more stable. Life doesn't always turn out the way we hope, but at least she has answers and doesn't have to wonder about certain things her whole life. I suppose there's some peace in that.
My daughter just got a call from a woman about 8 years younger than she is. She had done a DNA test and had followed up with the family members that were on the test. In doing that, she got my daughter's name and got in touch with her. Apparently, my ex husband and this girls mother had a fling after we were divorced. But, the real surprise in all this is that the man my daughter's dad had grown up thinking was his dad, was not his dad at all. All the DNA tests being done did not mention his last name or any person with his last name as a relative of either my daughter or her half sister. Apparently, grandma was a "rolling stone." They did find out who his real father was. All are deceased now. This girl never got to meet her real father and her real father never knew that another man was his birth father. Grandma is deceased too. Kinda sad really! If he had known he had another daughter he would have wanted to know her and if his mom had known she had another grand daughter, she would have loved her. My daughter and her half sister plan on meeting in September. The family resemblance is amazing. I'm excited for them.
At least your situation with this child is AFTER you broke up with your ex. This is great that you are excited for your daughter. You can help her & this new-found sister gain greater insight into the GOOD aspects of who your Ex is. It may be a bit difficult to keep back the bad info, [maybe reveal it later] but for the child's sake it would be so EMPOWERING. Kudos! God Bless you all with His Shalom Peace as you embark on this journey together.
Mine resulted in connecting with a man who's dna pointed him to me. Turns out my mom was adopted. NO ONE knew this. Probably even her. I went from thinking I was 75% German to learning that I'm 80% scots irish, with 3rd cousins all over County Cork.
I found a first cousin last year who was a child of my rascally uncle. My sister knew her in high school. She's upset and I'm keeping her secret as it's her story to tell if she ever wants to. Her "dad" is still alive and she wishes not to tell him. My uncle has passed, but she has 5 living siblings. Things could change someday and she would be welcomed with open arms by everyone.
It's a long story, but....turns out, my aunt was raped and had a daughter, 16 years later my uncle raped the daughter my aunt had since it wasn't his child and he was a pig. The 16 yr old hid the fact that she was raped by her (step father) she had the baby, step father insisted it ( a boy was born, but said it was a girl to throw her off) be taken away and adopted, …. years later she looked for her daughter, found the family that had her(but it was really a boy unbeknownst to her) was told to go away and stay away, that the baby was not there (when it really was) she kept on looking until she died...…...5 years later that boy did a DNA test and so did my niece on the other side of the family....We find out my aunt knew all the time and didn't tell where the baby was.....there is so much to this story, but he never got to see his birth mother.....but the biological family welcomed him and he is close with all of them now. He has aunts & uncles that are really his half siblings...…...are you following this? It's really confusing. It all turned out well except for the biological mother, who was my cousin, she died without ever finding her son or knowing that she had a son and not a daughter. Bittersweet story
It could be; yes. My uncle was a disgusting man and there is so much more to tell, but it would hurt a lot of people. My aunt is already afraid of what is going to happen to her when she stands before Jesus. She's 85 now. I'm sure she's forgiven. But it is one heck of a story!
I know my Dad is not my father but he is Daddy and I love him to bits, I am 58 now but 52 years ago in my 6th birthday is when I started to call him Daddy and I still call him Daddy today, when Mom got sick we looked after her together when she passed away I noticed he was worried but he never said a word. One day we were at our new Dr getting to know him and he asked us when it was time where would I place my “Father” I looked straight in the eye and told him I did not care where my “Father went” but for my daddy I would be looking after him I heard a sob next to me and that’s when I realised he had been worried as to what would be happening in the future because he was not my biological father. At first I was stunned and then I realised this was what had him worried since Mom passed away as she was my biological mother. I told him that I know he was not my “Father” but I also knew at the age of 6 he “Was my Daddy” and that he would always be there for me and the day I called him “Daddy” on my 6th birthday I was making a promise to him that I would be there always for him. Dr was quite during the whole talk and afterwards he said we had acted more like Father and Daughter than so many of his patients. That was 10 years ago and we still visit the Dr together in all our meetings. Dad did say if I wanted to contact my Father he would help, I asked him what for, the man had nothing to do with me he was just the sperm that added life to an egg, but You my Dad are the one who brought me up and gave me values to following my life, his answer was I might like to get to know all of my brothers and sisters, whom my Father has quite a lot of due to his fooling around before, during and after my Mother divorcing him. I knew about them but I’m just not interested at this time in my life.I think this is why I have not done the DNA test yet.
If a Viking husband came home after 3 years abroad and discovered 2 more children, the response was a jovial one: "I see I've had 2 more children since I was away, so happy to have a bigger family, I'm your papa and I love all of you!"
Viking women also had much more power as an individual than in other cultures. She could divorce and my personal favorite that I don't know if it's true but TH-cam told me so; so it's gotta be true lol. But only the women did the ledgers and math because it was seen as witchcraft. Women work. Makes me laugh
@@aftersexhighfives that is so interesting! Started researching it after reading your comment and I am shocked and delighted that it is historically correct. *Go vikings*
I know for some people this story is a big deal . For those of us who's father was a real piece of work all by their selves. We sit back and wish we had a man who loved us as much as any father would. He may not have been your real dad but he loved you and you never know he may have guessed you weren't his but didn't care he loved you anyway.we will never know the real truth once we loose our parents.we can only guess at the truth. I am so sorry the man you called father isn't still with you.
True, my dad was alcoholic and abusive, but he was my bio dad as I match cousins from his side of the family. No, I do not wish he was not my father, I just wish he had been a loving father and not addicted to alcohol. I am glad my mom did not cheat on him which shows what a good woman she was. However, as abusive as he was I would not have blamed her if she had.
@@peachygal4153 La vida es así. ¿Si tu hijo es alcohólico y abusivo, no lo quieres? Sí, porque no elegimos, es la naturaleza la que nos da la familia y nos obliga a quererla, aunque sean malos. Genética.
what I find interesting is that it is considered "normal" to advise adopted children that they are adopted but not children born to a coupe that they have half siblings. My four full siblings and I found this out in our twenties. Luckily our father knew of our mom's previous child and we all adapted quickly. I was so happy to have an older sister. I just wish I had met her sooner.
Not a NPE story, but I found out in 2018 that I have a full sibling as a result of an Ancestry test. I was raised to believe I was an only child, and had no idea that my parents had another child prior to having me that they gave up for adoption. Once I asked my mom, she was finally honest with me.
I went on a self-discovery journey that involved history books and digging through files in old archives, it was a fabulous journey that ends with me living in the World of created science fiction that we exist in now. I was raised with honesty and truth also and taught that it is in the pages of books that were written by the people who lived before us! DNA testing didn't exist when my father was alive. This was a great story to prove that the ones you have trusted your entire life, may be holding secrets that they will take the grave - IF, you don't question the events of the past! Excellent interview! Always question :)
Then there was this fellow who always called his children "mother of five". It so happened they were visiting friends and when it was time to leave our fellow said to his wife "come along, mother of five". His by now pissed off wife responded "coming, father of three".
That happened with my folks. Father came home after work and cheerfully called out ‘Hello Mother of three’. My mom, who had a rough day called out ‘hello father of two’. We joke about it all the time. I think her meaning was - in jest - the kids were so bad today, one is no longer with us. Pretty sure I’m Dad’s cause I look just like his sister. 😂🤣
Always be cautious when taking a DNA test. Be prepared for the unexpected. And remember Don’t blame anyone if you haven’t walked in their shoes. Try to have some compassion. It’s not always about us 🙏🏽
Anglo-American jurisprudence has for centuries presumed that the child is the offspring of the husband. This preserves family integrity contrary to Camille's sense of integrity.
Lo sé. En España, no; aquí, hijo es ADN. Cualquier padre puede reclamar la paternidad. Pero las que compran óvulos están inscritas en el Registro Civil, como madres.
I’m 51 Grew up in a foster home The man who I was told is my father died when I was 19,,,, I met him three times. He always denied saying he wasn’t my father. My mother swears he was my father,,,,, when I was 12 I was told by a family friend my real father was an Italian chef. I really want to get a dna test now. I’ve been asked my entire life if I’m Italian.
In a sense I am not so sure that there were so many lost opportunities. The man whom she thought was her father did a great job. It is unfortunate that she didn't get to meet her biological father because everyone is naturally curious.
That woman told her biological father’s widow he fathered two kids with her Mom!?! Man that’s cold. I would have waited until she was dead to approach my siblings as why destroy her memories? It was cruel.
After years of being in the DNA database, my mom finally got a hit on her paternal side. She doesn’t know who her father is. Nice young man sent a message wondering how they could be related. Looks like his Grandma might be my moms sister. He doesn’t want to hurt his family so dropped it. 😔 I told him I understand and wished him well.
Oh, that's rough. I have a friend whose biological father answered her letter by basically telling her he couldn't do it. Couldn't form a relationship with her, etc. Apparently his current family and even his parents and siblings didn't know he'd had a kid back when he was younger and he wasn't going to ever bother telling them. Sometimes people are hurtful and things are messy.
My step dad found out he had a half sister he never knew about 2 years ago. When his mom was nineteen she got pregnant and the guy don’t want anything to do with the child. She couldn’t go to her parents for help because her dad would have literally killed the guy for abandoning her so she had to give the baby up for adoption. The sister took a dna test and matched with a cousin.
Why? Whats the point if you're happy and loved by those who've raised you? Anyone can be a 'donor', but not everyone can be a father, such as the one she had.
@@AShroudOfTruth Porque tienes derecho a saber quiénes son tus padres. A la que compró el óvulo, nadie la obligó. La naturaleza es la ley, no un juego.
My mom (RIP) died in 2022 at 75. But on her 70th birthday, I got an email from Ancestry and I was so excited that I opened it at 2:30 am and I never went back to sleep because there were first, second and third cousins of a family that wasn’t the one we knew about. So I told her on her birthday that her dad wasn’t her dad. A man who died in her arms. I showed her her great grandparents photos and unfortunately everyone on this new side wanted nothing to do with us. And I figured out which brother was her father after she had passed.
May I ask you why? In my opinion, the mother clearly betrayed his trust and didn't respect him enough. If my wife or husband cheated on me, I'd like to know.
A DNA test can't say whether someone is Swedish or not. If the results said she was Nigerian or Chinese, there would be a problem, but DNA can't tell Swedish from Norwegian, English, German, French, etc.
I knew from what little my mom told me… That he was from the USA possibly Illinois or Indiana… So when the DNA test picked up that area. I knew We had to hire a private investigator is to actually locate their address
So was it ok for her mother who was married to be having an affair with a married man and tricked her husband into raising two children that wasn't his? And was it ok for her to lie to her children having them to believe her husband was their father? People are missing the mortals of this story
My mom was single at the time she got pregnant by this married man… As soon as he knew she was pregnant… He said he was married and had to go back to America
@@dedebites7378 The same thing happened to a friend of mine. She was dating a man, got pregnant, found out he was married, and ended up giving the baby up for adoption because she just couldn't raise a kid on her own at the time. It was really sad, but she did what she could given the circumstances.
I refer to my ex-husband as "SD" for sperm donor because that's all he ever was. Just because a man can ejaculate, it doesn't make him a father. Same with women. Just because you are able to give birth, it doesn't make you a mother. Mom and Dad are the people who hold you, feed you, comfort you, educate you, etc. etc. etc. Most of all, they love you.
On the plus side you gain family you didn't know. I'm seeing this happen with a family member that has the same issue. Her new found family is very nice & welcoming.
My mom has a fling with some guy while she was in the army got pregnant married another guy. Other guy didnt know she already pregnant. Well she claims shes pregnant by new husband, but math didnt add up by the time they were married and her husband being sent overseas. When their case went in front of judge for her to divorce him get child support for my brother. Judge told my mom she wasnt getting support cause apparently he was overseas at the time my mother got pregnant with my brother. This was in 1968. My brother born in may 66 they married in October 65
I wonder how she feels about her birth mother who kept this secret from her and her oldest brother for so many years, and if this situation has affected their relationship. Also, has it changed her relationship with her other four siblings from her original family? I guess it is true that what is done in the "dark" will eventually will be brought to light, at least in this case it was.
It was not her eldest brother that is her full sibling. She was the 4th child and youngest. He was the 3rd. the older 2 (4 total kids not 4 more siblings besides those 2) were their Dad's bio children.
I agree. I notice that acronym has been usurped by other websites and it's a little distressing because NPE something different than not parent expected. A different moniker needs to be thought up for those who are misinformed.
What is the name of the Facebook group for NPE (Not Parent Expected)? My brother-in-law made that discovery when he was 69 years old. He also discovered at the same time that the son he raised was not his own! Both his NPE and the mother of the son he raised had died before revealing the big secret.
I was raised in a cloak of lies. I did this test and found my "step-father" is my real Dad. I am an only child with 5 half- siblings. I didn't do it to judge anyone in a bad light. I love everyone very much. ❤
I think the man who raised her is her dad...forget what the test say. He may have known and chosen to accept her as his own from day 1. She has no proof he never knew.
Camille's dad didn't know she wasn't his. I knew a man who knew his son wasn't his son (his wife had an affair and got pregnant) but he treated his son as if he gave birth to him himself. He adored that little boy. I don't know if the man is still alive and it is not likely the son knows he wasn't his real dad.
I understand and appreciate her desire to know. I'm not so confident that approaching her deceased fathers(biological) children was completely appropriate. The poor widow now has to question everything she new as truth up until this point. You might as well stop at car crashes and let critically injured parties know that their definitely going to perish and confirm for them that it's too late to correct or even understand anything that may have regrettably happened in their life. I'm sure that the poor old widow will be fine, especially if this lady could stop by now and then and remind her that she'll inevitably die and the pain from the necessity for everyone to know the truth will probably go away then....
So, how does she know for sure that her 'Dad' didn't know? Did she ask her mom about it? I didn't hear one question about whether or not her Mom and Dad may have agreed to keep it secret.
If I found out my mother kept something like that from me for my whole life, I’m not sure what I would do. I’m adopted so my entire genetic background was kept from me my whole life, until I took a DNA test. But at least information wasn’t known by my parents and kept a secret intentionally. That’s not right. Every human being has the right to know who their biological parents are.
Every human being has a right to know who their biological parents are. One reason people who are adopted commit suicide 4 times more than people who weren’t (yes this is true. Look up the statistics, please) is because we have no idea who we are or where we came from. You can lie to a child about it all you want about who their biological parents are, but thanks to DNA testing, they will find out sooner or later. And I know adoptees who were lied to about being adopted who now don’t speak to their adoptive families. The truth always catches up, and the damage from the lies is permanent. Please don’t assume I would lie to my child about anything. You don’t know me at all.
People make the best decisions they can, and 40, 50, 60 years ago those decisions were somewhat limited by what society would tolerate. Who will be judging our decisions down the road, based upon the society they are living in then, as opposed to the one we are living in today?
@@karengoldner4719 Tienes toda la razón. La naturaleza tiene leyes: padres son los que ella dice: ADN. No hay más. Padres adoptivos, es otra cosa. ¿Si tu hijo es malo o te abandona, deja de ser tu hijo?
This happened to someone I know. She too discovered the dad she thought was her biological father... was not. But she is getting to know her biological father. He never knew about her either.
Heartbreaking I did ancestry with brother due that mother passed away and results where that my brother was half brother cried and never told my brother so he wont be hurt. My mother never told family. I found out ancestry! My father always stated that it was his son no matter results are. We dont know if brother father still alive but I found some his family members.
My grandmother always told me I wasn’t her son’s daughter and treated me badly because he married my mom after I was born. I felt extremely vindicated to find out my siblings and I are all full siblings. Too bad she died before I could show her this evidence.
😢 that’s terrible
Wow, your grandmother treated you badly because of something your mother may or may not have done. Humans can be so incredibly ignorant and cruel.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I have a similar story with my family. My mother accused my sister-in-law of being pregnant with someone else's baby before she married my brother. I fought with my mom, defending my sister-in-law. I said to myself, please let that child look exactly like my brother. When her first grandchild, my first niece, was born, not only was she born a good 9 months and a week AFTER they got married, she looks so much like her dad, with her round face and almond eyes. Of course my mother didn't apologize. To this day, she doesn't get along with my brother and his family, and favours some grandchildren over others. Being older doesn't always mean becoming wiser. I wish you healing, peace and joy *hugs* ❤️
What a horrible cruel person.
I’m sorry you were treated poorly by your grandma. My mom was treated the same way by her father and his family. They didn’t believe she was his because she had her mom’s darker coloring vs his red hair and blue eyes. DNA eventually proved that she was his daughter all along.
My son ordered the DNA test..the day he got the results he called me.
He said.."Mom, is there anything you want or need to tell me before I open this?"
And then he added if he shared it with his sister was there going to be anything different she needed to know..would they both match?
At first I was insulted..but only for a few quick seconds.
I assured him there were no hidden secrets and he and his sister would match 100%. They did but after reading several of these stories he said he had seen I am greatly impressed and appreciated that fact he waited and came to me first giving me a chance to tell him just in case.
Very good on you! I totally understand feeling insulted but I'm happy he gave you a chance. I took at test earlier this year and just this week I find out I probably have a brother the same age as me on my dads side. My parents have been apart for over 30 years so if it turns out to be true I hope my mom isn't hurt by it too badly.
@@silentj624 My sisters and I have a brother we do not know, on my father's side. I used to have long talks with my father and he would tell me stories of his time in the Navy. He told me about this brother of ours in California.
You should audit yourself... why did he order the test in the first place?
I’m very impressed with your son, very mature and thoughtful of him, you can’t for sure hold onto an feelings of being insulted. Glad it all worked out for all of you!
The nice thing is that your father (the man who raised you) passed some of his traits on to you. It sounds like was a wonderful man... and therefore you are blessed.
I would only raise one point. It's important to know who your biological parents are to see if you are predisposed to certain diseases. In this particular case it was her mother who failed her. As far as the man who raised her as his own, well, if there was no need for him to know then let it be. Why ruin a man's life near the end of his days?
You are loved that's all that matters 💗💗💕💕💗💕❤️
Honeysuckle Blossom my dad’s birth father died when my dad was five and so my dad was raised by his stepfather. My dad is a spitting image of his biological father and is barely anything like his stepfather
did she say "I'm not blessed?" I didn't hear that.
What he did was nice but this is a man's worst fear and unfortunately why men slut shame women
I once sat in a meeting at school with a boy and his father. The boy knew that the man was not his biological father but the man had raised him. The boy said at one point in the meeting "you are not my father... (pause) but you are my Dad, and I love you..." There wasn't a dry eye in the house afterwards.
Parents are ones who raised and nurtured you..!!
I'm not crying, you're crying!!
Jim Stewart has cancer of kidney today he said he’d vote for you I gave him a gold coin.
It's easy to be a sperm donor. It's a whole other deal to be a dad.
@Honeysuckle Blossom . Mp ml
I am thankful the man who was her real dad, who raised her, did not ever know. He was an honorable man, lived an honorable life, was good to his family and believed the best in them. To repay that devotion with pain would have been destructive and reprehensible.
My X was adopted & our daughter tested to see what that half of her dna held. In the end I was able to determine the identity of her dad’s birth parents & family. Maybe a year ago a new very close match appeared for her & her dad’s half sister. Turns out he is a half brother, given up for adoption, the 2nd baby the birth mom gave up. He didn’t know he was adopted & both parents have passed. He is still coming to grips with it all.
The man who raised her was her dad.
Jessica yes he was,but he wasn't her father.
Yeah yeah, obviously.....
Blah... blah....blah.
True, but it didn’t erase her biological identity
@@mrsTraveller64 No he wasn't her biological father, but he was better than that. He raised her and she loved him.
@@nutcracker2916 but that was not the point.
I’m sort of glad her father didn’t have to go through the painful truth of this. He sounds like he was a wonderful father.
I thought that too. It would have only caused him pain.
@@julienielsen3746 Good people deserve justice too. He died not getting that. Plus the girl he raised said herself that he liked the truth.
My ex always suspected he wasn't his Dad's "real" son, and was treated different for that reason. Ancestry verified he's his sister's half sibling at 60 years old, and it brought him closure and forgiveness
I don't understand people who treat a child differently. I don't care what a person feels in their heart. We should be fair and caring on purpose.
@@qtsmhealth This is a very naive comment. Parents treat even biological children differently. Human beings are so prone to this. All parents should attempt to treat children equally of course. But it is an effort. It's not natural to treat everyone 100% the same.
He could have forgiven at any point in his life. Forgiveness is something you do for yourself. I don't understand how having proof changed anything.
He knew...he was a decent person who realized the kids needed a stable, loving environment to call home.
It’s difficult to understand how the mother had not one but two children with her lover.
It seems mommy was not a trustworthy person after all.
Sometimes there is an earlier marriage or relationship, with the dad marrying the woman with two prior children, adopting them and raising them as him own.
Once you have one, the next must come easier.
Kate No its not hard to understand at all.
Well, the kids wouldn't look different because the two men look almost like they are the same person!
I'm glad her father didn't know. Why put him through the pain? Sometimes it's better not to know the truth.
We really don't know if he knew or not. I had friends there were in a similar situation. With one friend her dad knew. But no one knew he knew for 30 years. He always knew. Another friend similar situation and learned had dad married her mom when she was 2 and her sister was a baby. They back dated their marriage date 3 years and never told the kids. It is what it is. In both situations the kids thought mom cheated...but both neither did.
It’s always best to know the truth.
Like what she says, its hard to know if its better to know the truth ...
Sometimes the truth can tear an otherwise happy family apart, like in this case she can potentially detest her mother so much for the affair that it overrides all the great memories they shared together ... If there's no hproblem within the household, only happy memories, why seek out something that can probably cause upheavals within the family ?
God allowed this to become revealed after all parties who could have experienced hurt had passed. Only her mother remained who fully knew the truth anyway. It seems it happened this way for a reason to spare much pain, especially her real dad who raised her, who did not deserve such pain at all.
Susan Sauls This doesn’t have a thing on this world to do with god. The mother outlived the others and perpetrated a terrible lie . God gives free will and she used hers in a disgusting way.
The same thing happened to me. It’s so shocking I’m still in denial sometimes. My husband said he wished he’d never talked me into getting the test. I don’t regret it at all. It really messes with your head when all involved have passed away and you can’t ask questions. You feel your whole life is a lie.
I feel sad for her natural Father's widowed wife. As it must be bad enough to lose your husband. And then to be told he fathered a daughter when she didn't know. These situations can have a ripple effect.
Exactly, but he fathered two children. Her brother was also a product of the affair.
yup very sad, Im sure she was broken hearted to learn this
@@carolancarey992 She may not have been. I worked with an older man yrs ago, who told me he'd been married 38 yrs & after they had their 2nd boy, when married 2 yrs, his wife slept in the other bedroom as she was done having children. He said he'd had affairs with women over 50, so he didn't have any more children & cause a "scandal."
The same with the mother who cheated on her husband with the man who was married. It takes two to tango.
Even though my parents aren't my biological parents, they are still my parents. They raised me after all and should get credit! I found my birth mother a few years ago but we have not met yet.
Why not?
I loved my parents, they are my only mom and dad even though I was blessed to find my birthmother and have her In my life for 30 yrs. they are all in Heaven now. Meeting her and my siblings was a really good thing for me and some of them also got to know my adopted parents. Lots of love and respect was shared.
@@2Ryledit doesn't always work out. I knew my birth mother as an aunt till I found out the truth when I was 12. Was adopted within the family when I was nit quite 2. Some things aee best left alone.
We went down to get our blood typed to receive emergency cards.
The poor nurse nearly fell out of her chair when I didn't match. She thought she had revealed a terrible secret. My parents laughed and said, "She's adopted."
My sister use to say I was adopted and my dad wood agree and they lol .personally I'm a goddess I fell from the clouds they have bumped there heads
@@rhondamachado1288
Mom said other people were stuck with what they got, but we were chosen. 😁
Baskerville Bee, I too am adopted and my parents told me that exact same thing!
@Honeysuckle Blossom but don't forget that a family where everyone has brown eyes, one child CAN have blue eyes,if for example there is a grandmother or grandfather with blue eyes. Many people think that two browneyed parents must get all their children browneyed but that is not true at all. I personally know a family with four kids where all the kids are copy of their dad. Mom and dad has brown eyes and three brothers have brown eyes and one has light blue eyes. the mums grand mom has same lightblue eyes,but noone else of their relatives has blue eyes,all other uncles and grandparents and aunts has brown eyes.
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I went thru same thing. Ancestry dna showed that my father was a young man that hooked up with my Mother one night only at age 23. MY mother was 23 and single. I was raised by my wonderful grandparents. Unfortunately, my birth father had passed away at 83 before DNA. I have contact with a half brother and sister. They are all good people. My dad had a total of 8 kids. I waited until I was 80 years old to find my truth. I now feel at peace and so thankful for DNA testing. I am a mix of many nations.
Maybe the man that you thought was your biological father knew & loved you because you are part of the woman he loved & he kept his vows.
Little Bit Absolutely!
Exactly!
And maybe he loved you because you were loveable.
Katrina what does that mean? Don't all babies deserve love?
Little Bit that’s how I like to think about it. Thankyou
My aunt was the result of an affair and my aunt found out from ancestry dna. However both my grandparents were having affairs at that point, and ended up divorcing when my aunt and mom were kids, so there was trouble in paradise between both parents for a long time. However my aunt was still so shocked and saddened to find out her “Daddy” wasn’t her bio dad💔
interesting
In Kenya you are my sister or brother completely if we share a mum. N you r my dad as long as you raised me
That's how I see it too from the Bible belt of the United States. Anyone can father a child but only exceptional men can be a Dad.
@Wilhelm Geisler you never heard of Kenya?! I live in Finland and I've heard of Kenya since I was a child..
@Wilhelm Geisler Kenya is a country in east Africa
@@spookyvangimp rape is nomal
I agree....
Biology doesn’t make a parent
Anastasia Zoldak True, just as the biological identity of a child is not. Altered simply because another man raised you.
No, it does not. It does make a sire and dam.
@@deependofshallow
There are more fertile people than there are true parents.
Baskerville Bee And no true parent lies to child about biological identity
@@deependofshallow
Mine didn't. They told me before I knew what adoption meant. They said that they didn't want anyone to hurt me with the information.
"Other people get whatever children. YOU were chosen."
I totally understand what happened this woman ... it happened to me as well. Once I knew the truth i reached out to my 6 nieces who are now in my life and I am sharing the story of our mother they never knew about their grandmother ... but now they do and all the other children she had. This has helped me understand a deeper dense of our mother I grew up with her and all the dots connect.
Every child DESERVES to know where they came from...100%! Honesty in this area of life is paramount.
Your parent doesn't always mean biological. The parents who raised you are the ones who changed your diapers, stayed up with you when you were sick and waited for you when you decided to break curfew.
Well no. I would disagree with that.
so who is your Daddy ... are you sure ...
@@ScarlettO323 ¿Entonces si tienes un hijo malo, no es tu hijo?
@@thewhizkid3937 Yo tampoco.
A lot of these older generations will realize their mom lied about who their dad was after getting these tests. Children deserve a right to know who their biological family is, so it's selfish of the mom/even step parent not to let them know at some point. They could of had a chance to reach out to that family to bond before it's too late.
I wonder if she also dared to ask her mother if her father knew that two children he raised were not his.
I thought the interview said her father did not know.
My mom's sister has a childhood friend who has four kids and none are from the husband. Shocking. It really shows how pointless geneologies are.
Oh I talk to my mother about it regularly and she would never give me the name of the guy who got her pregnant… She said it was a person not worth knowing… And I guess she was right. Oh and my sister were their child so she was my half-sister… And when she learned all of this she was about a hateful a person as you could meet
Anyone else think the 2 men looked a lot alike? And Jessica LT is right. The dad who raised her WAS her daddy.
Not surprising the two men resembled each other, the mother obviously had a certain type that she found attractive.
If you took care of me I called you Dad or Mom that's it for me.
Debilane23 while I understand your thinking, but that would be mean women can pick and choose who is the dad and sleep around and have affairs and as long as know one knows it’s ok
@@JW-qz4jl What a stupid comment. Debi is saying the people who raise you are Mom and Dad. It doesn't matter if they're biological or not.
My husband was told at the age of 14 his father was not his bio dad.He was so upset could not deal with the betrayal he turned to drugs and drink at a early age,he felt as if he didnt belong many tears and heartache was shared still to this day it hauts him.
My ancestry dna test brought a long past family secret to light. Had I not taken it on a whim, we would never have known. Its a good thing. Everybody is actually relieved and delighted to know what we now know.
When taking these tests keep 1 old saying in mind " Momma's baby , Daddy's MAYBE " ! Also when at college my roommate told me he was adopted and this concerned him I then told him family is not what it's cracked up to be . Years later on the phone he told he reconnected with his siblings and well he told me I was right in what I said and why I said it , his siblings could not hold a job. And always wanted to borrow money , I met the people who raised him , they were his family . It's more important to know the truth than live a lie .
Non)New york
Yeah I knew a woman who was adopted. She got in contact with her birth mom in her early 20's. At first she thought her bio mom was the coolest person ever, so fun, they'd go to concerts together and stuff, but she quickly found out her bio mom was really dysfunctional and just couldn't adult. Sadly the woman who adopted her was a narcissist, so it's not like the family that raised her was any better, but at least they were more stable. Life doesn't always turn out the way we hope, but at least she has answers and doesn't have to wonder about certain things her whole life. I suppose there's some peace in that.
No creas, muchas no son las madres: compran óvulos.
Wow, the two men look somewhat alike, and she looks like both of them!
Certainly similar enough that she wouldn't have stood out as being someone else's.
Mom must have had a "type".
My daughter just got a call from a woman about 8 years younger than she is. She had done a DNA test and had followed up with the family members that were on the test. In doing that, she got my daughter's name and got in touch with her. Apparently, my ex husband and this girls mother had a fling after we were divorced. But, the real surprise in all this is that the man my daughter's dad had grown up thinking was his dad, was not his dad at all. All the DNA tests being done did not mention his last name or any person with his last name as a relative of either my daughter or her half sister. Apparently, grandma was a "rolling stone." They did find out who his real father was. All are deceased now. This girl never got to meet her real father and her real father never knew that another man was his birth father. Grandma is deceased too. Kinda sad really! If he had known he had another daughter he would have wanted to know her and if his mom had known she had another grand daughter, she would have loved her. My daughter and her half sister plan on meeting in September. The family resemblance is amazing. I'm excited for them.
At least your situation with this child is AFTER you broke up with your ex. This is great that you are excited for your daughter. You can help her & this new-found sister gain greater insight into the GOOD aspects of who your Ex is. It may be a bit difficult to keep back the bad info, [maybe reveal it later] but for the child's sake it would be so EMPOWERING. Kudos! God Bless you all with His Shalom Peace as you embark on this journey together.
Mine resulted in connecting with a man who's dna pointed him to me. Turns out my mom was adopted. NO ONE knew this. Probably even her. I went from thinking I was 75% German to learning that I'm 80% scots irish, with 3rd cousins all over County Cork.
I found a first cousin last year who was a child of my rascally uncle. My sister knew her in high school. She's upset and I'm keeping her secret as it's her story to tell if she ever wants to. Her "dad" is still alive and she wishes not to tell him. My uncle has passed, but she has 5 living siblings. Things could change someday and she would be welcomed with open arms by everyone.
There is no point in hurting him at the end of his life. It would be cruel.
Last year my niece did a DNA test and it opened a can of worms in our family, oh boy did it!
Do share!
It's a long story, but....turns out, my aunt was raped and had a daughter, 16 years later my uncle raped the daughter my aunt had since it wasn't his child and he was a pig. The 16 yr old hid the fact that she was raped by her (step father) she had the baby, step father insisted it ( a boy was born, but said it was a girl to throw her off) be taken away and adopted, …. years later she looked for her daughter, found the family that had her(but it was really a boy unbeknownst to her) was told to go away and stay away, that the baby was not there (when it really was) she kept on looking until she died...…...5 years later that boy did a DNA test and so did my niece on the other side of the family....We find out my aunt knew all the time and didn't tell where the baby was.....there is so much to this story, but he never got to see his birth mother.....but the biological family welcomed him and he is close with all of them now. He has aunts & uncles that are really his half siblings...…...are you following this? It's really confusing. It all turned out well except for the biological mother, who was my cousin, she died without ever finding her son or knowing that she had a son and not a daughter. Bittersweet story
Whoa! What a story. I don't even know how this could be a book story.
@@katieirish5765 oh Katie! 😭
It could be; yes. My uncle was a disgusting man and there is so much more to tell, but it would hurt a lot of people. My aunt is already afraid of what is going to happen to her when she stands before Jesus. She's 85 now. I'm sure she's forgiven. But it is one heck of a story!
I know my Dad is not my father but he is Daddy and I love him to bits, I am 58 now but 52 years ago in my 6th birthday is when I started to call him Daddy and I still call him Daddy today, when Mom got sick we looked after her together when she passed away I noticed he was worried but he never said a word. One day we were at our new Dr getting to know him and he asked us when it was time where would I place my “Father” I looked straight in the eye and told him I did not care where my “Father went” but for my daddy I would be looking after him I heard a sob next to me and that’s when I realised he had been worried as to what would be happening in the future because he was not my biological father. At first I was stunned and then I realised this was what had him worried since Mom passed away as she was my biological mother. I told him that I know he was not my “Father” but I also knew at the age of 6 he “Was my Daddy” and that he would always be there for me and the day I called him “Daddy” on my 6th birthday I was making a promise to him that I would be there always for him. Dr was quite during the whole talk and afterwards he said we had acted more like Father and Daughter than so many of his patients. That was 10 years ago and we still visit the Dr together in all our meetings.
Dad did say if I wanted to contact my Father he would help, I asked him what for, the man had nothing to do with me he was just the sperm that added life to an egg, but You my Dad are the one who brought me up and gave me values to following my life, his answer was I might like to get to know all of my brothers and sisters, whom my Father has quite a lot of due to his fooling around before, during and after my Mother divorcing him. I knew about them but I’m just not interested at this time in my life.I think this is why I have not done the DNA test yet.
Son tu familia y los buscarás.
If a Viking husband came home after 3 years abroad and discovered 2 more children, the response was a jovial one: "I see I've had 2 more children since I was away, so happy to have a bigger family, I'm your papa and I love all of you!"
Viking women also had much more power as an individual than in other cultures. She could divorce and my personal favorite that I don't know if it's true but TH-cam told me so; so it's gotta be true lol. But only the women did the ledgers and math because it was seen as witchcraft. Women work.
Makes me laugh
@@aftersexhighfives no women were just so much smarter and like dummy R Kelly many couldn't even read or write much less do any math!
Are you joking or is that true??
I'm not sure if I thinks that's wonderful or worrisome whether it's true or false.
@@aftersexhighfives that is so interesting! Started researching it after reading your comment and I am shocked and delighted that it is historically correct.
*Go vikings*
@@displayname5100 its true
I know for some people this story is a big deal . For those of us who's father was a real piece of work all by their selves. We sit back and wish we had a man who loved us as much as any father would. He may not have been your real dad but he loved you and you never know he may have guessed you weren't his but didn't care he loved you anyway.we will never know the real truth once we loose our parents.we can only guess at the truth. I am so sorry the man you called father isn't still with you.
Well put ! I could not have said it better !
wings of fier girl 1 I identified with the neighbor. My parents couldn’t overcome their war time traumas. DNA is not everything.
I appreciate men like this but they are clearly beta men raising somebody is child
True, my dad was alcoholic and abusive, but he was my bio dad as I match cousins from his side of the family. No, I do not wish he was not my father, I just wish he had been a loving father and not addicted to alcohol. I am glad my mom did not cheat on him which shows what a good woman she was. However, as abusive as he was I would not have blamed her if she had.
@@peachygal4153 La vida es así. ¿Si tu hijo es alcohólico y abusivo, no lo quieres? Sí, porque no elegimos, es la naturaleza la que nos da la familia y nos obliga a quererla, aunque sean malos. Genética.
I get the impression that this woman had a problem with her mother that reached beyond parentage.
Everyone involved has the right to know the truth.
WOW!! I too am all about truth!! I'm glad your Mom was honest when confronted with this...
what I find interesting is that it is considered "normal" to advise adopted children that they are adopted but not children born to a coupe that they have half siblings. My four full siblings and I found this out in our twenties. Luckily our father knew of our mom's previous child and we all adapted quickly. I was so happy to have an older sister. I just wish I had met her sooner.
Not a NPE story, but I found out in 2018 that I have a full sibling as a result of an Ancestry test. I was raised to believe I was an only child, and had no idea that my parents had another child prior to having me that they gave up for adoption. Once I asked my mom, she was finally honest with me.
Update
The interviewer seems to be very in favor of lying to people.
Ah! The “good old days” so many long to go back to, when “family values” reigned and everyone followed the rules.
So true!!! As the saying goes, "all that glitters, ain't gold"
Not everyone have played by the rules. In the history of ever.
I would dispute this. There have been many secrets, rapes and rules broken throughout time. Fortunately now they can be easily uncovered.
I went on a self-discovery journey that involved history books and digging through files in old archives, it was a fabulous journey that ends with me living in the World of created science fiction that we exist in now. I was raised with honesty and truth also and taught that it is in the pages of books that were written by the people who lived before us! DNA testing didn't exist when my father was alive.
This was a great story to prove that the ones you have trusted your entire life, may be holding secrets that they will take the grave - IF, you don't question the events of the past!
Excellent interview! Always question :)
Then there was this fellow who always called his children "mother of five". It so happened they were visiting friends and when it was time to leave our fellow said to his wife "come along, mother of five". His by now pissed off wife responded "coming, father of three".
Well, that's a way to find the humor.
That happened with my folks. Father came home after work and cheerfully called out ‘Hello Mother of three’. My mom, who had a rough day called out ‘hello father of two’. We joke about it all the time. I think her meaning was - in jest - the kids were so bad today, one is no longer with us. Pretty sure I’m Dad’s cause I look just like his sister. 😂🤣
Always be cautious when taking a DNA test. Be prepared for the unexpected. And remember
Don’t blame anyone if you haven’t walked in their shoes.
Try to have some compassion.
It’s not always about us 🙏🏽
I’m not having compassion for cheaters 🤷🏾♀️
Anglo-American jurisprudence has for centuries presumed that the child is the offspring of the husband. This preserves family integrity contrary to Camille's sense of integrity.
Lo sé. En España, no; aquí, hijo es ADN. Cualquier padre puede reclamar la paternidad. Pero las que compran óvulos están inscritas en el Registro Civil, como madres.
Remember truth is a two edge sword that cuts both ways.
It's good he never knew, might have destroyed him
I’m 51
Grew up in a foster home
The man who I was told is my father died when I was 19,,,, I met him three times. He always denied saying he wasn’t my father. My mother swears he was my father,,,,, when I was 12 I was told by a family friend my real father was an Italian chef. I really want to get a dna test now. I’ve been asked my entire life if I’m Italian.
do it!
Have you done the test yet?
@@deebuczek8390 not yet,,,,, it’s $200+ right?
@@craigandlisao9736 $60 when it is on sale
Hasta que no te hagas la prueba de ADN, no sabrás la verdad.
Truth. Never too late. And family should be cherished.
Luv her brother’s response, it was hilarious, “God save the queen”😂
So much pain and so many missed opportunities...ALL bc of lies 💔
In a sense I am not so sure that there were so many lost opportunities. The man whom she thought was her father did a great job. It is unfortunate that she didn't get to meet her biological father because everyone is naturally curious.
That woman told her biological father’s widow he fathered two kids with her Mom!?! Man that’s cold. I would have waited until she was dead to approach my siblings as why destroy her memories? It was cruel.
After years of being in the DNA database, my mom finally got a hit on her paternal side. She doesn’t know who her father is. Nice young man sent a message wondering how they could be related. Looks like his Grandma might be my moms sister. He doesn’t want to hurt his family so dropped it. 😔 I told him I understand and wished him well.
Oh, that's rough. I have a friend whose biological father answered her letter by basically telling her he couldn't do it. Couldn't form a relationship with her, etc. Apparently his current family and even his parents and siblings didn't know he'd had a kid back when he was younger and he wasn't going to ever bother telling them. Sometimes people are hurtful and things are messy.
The father looks JUST LIKE her.
The nose, eye brows and lips
Spitting image!
Exactly!
Bingo 👍🏿
My step dad found out he had a half sister he never knew about 2 years ago. When his mom was nineteen she got pregnant and the guy don’t want anything to do with the child. She couldn’t go to her parents for help because her dad would have literally killed the guy for abandoning her so she had to give the baby up for adoption. The sister took a dna test and matched with a cousin.
Secrets like that in our family didn't need a DNA test. Letters were found and lives were turned upside down.
Everyone has a right to know who they are and where they came from.
Why? Whats the point if you're happy and loved by those who've raised you? Anyone can be a 'donor', but not everyone can be a father, such as the one she had.
@@AShroudOfTruth Porque tienes derecho a saber quiénes son tus padres. A la que compró el óvulo, nadie la obligó. La naturaleza es la ley, no un juego.
Why would u even tell him...let it go
Truth is a HUGE priority. She is a wise woman.
My mom (RIP) died in 2022 at 75. But on her 70th birthday, I got an email from Ancestry and I was so excited that I opened it at 2:30 am and I never went back to sleep because there were first, second and third cousins of a family that wasn’t the one we knew about. So I told her on her birthday that her dad wasn’t her dad. A man who died in her arms. I showed her her great grandparents photos and unfortunately everyone on this new side wanted nothing to do with us. And I figured out which brother was her father after she had passed.
I’m not getting a dna test, no way jose
fairy bliss LOL.
Right??? The stuff I DO know is distressing enough!
No, your dad didn't need to know.
May I ask you why? In my opinion, the mother clearly betrayed his trust and didn't respect him enough. If my wife or husband cheated on me, I'd like to know.
The biological father has kept a secret far too long it needed to be told
@@Etelvinicius May be true for you, but may not be for other families!
A DNA test can't say whether someone is Swedish or not. If the results said she was Nigerian or Chinese, there would be a problem, but DNA can't tell Swedish from Norwegian, English, German, French, etc.
They can pretty much pinpoint an area of the world with the most concentration of that DNA type.....
I knew from what little my mom told me… That he was from the USA possibly Illinois or Indiana… So when the DNA test picked up that area. I knew
We had to hire a private investigator is to actually locate their address
@@dedebites7378 Estadounidense no existe como raza, son descendientes de europeos, africanos, indígenas....
So was it ok for her mother who was married to be having an affair with a married man and tricked her husband into raising two children that wasn't his? And was it ok for her to lie to her children having them to believe her husband was their father? People are missing the mortals of this story
My mom was single at the time she got pregnant by this married man… As soon as he knew she was pregnant… He said he was married and had to go back to America
I don't think anyone was passing any judgement here. It was just the story of what is, not what should or shouldn't be.
@@dedebites7378 The same thing happened to a friend of mine. She was dating a man, got pregnant, found out he was married, and ended up giving the baby up for adoption because she just couldn't raise a kid on her own at the time. It was really sad, but she did what she could given the circumstances.
I refer to my ex-husband as "SD" for sperm donor because that's all he ever was. Just because a man can ejaculate, it doesn't make him a father. Same with women. Just because you are able to give birth, it doesn't make you a mother. Mom and Dad are the people who hold you, feed you, comfort you, educate you, etc. etc. etc. Most of all, they love you.
You created children with your X out of love. That is not just a SD. This posting says more about you than your X.
I say that ALL THE TIME!!!
@@glenn71144 how do you know it was out of love???
¿Si tu hijo es malo o te abandona, no es tu hijo?
This woman would use truth as a weapon. What about loyalty to the memory of the man who raised her. Where is her compassion.
On the plus side you gain family you didn't know. I'm seeing this happen with a family member that has the same issue. Her new found family is very nice & welcoming.
Dee Dee I certainly wish mine was more welcoming
Camille looks just like her biological father.
I’m glad she grew up with a Dad, however sad her dad wasn’t given the opportunity to decide for himself.
I personally know of 3 situations where the test results that did not turn out well.
My mom has a fling with some guy while she was in the army got pregnant married another guy. Other guy didnt know she already pregnant. Well she claims shes pregnant by new husband, but math didnt add up by the time they were married and her husband being sent overseas. When their case went in front of judge for her to divorce him get child support for my brother. Judge told my mom she wasnt getting support cause apparently he was overseas at the time my mother got pregnant with my brother. This was in 1968. My brother born in may 66 they married in October 65
This happened to my husband and his sister! A shocker!
I wonder how she feels about her birth mother who kept this secret from her and her oldest brother for so many years, and if this situation has affected their relationship. Also, has it changed her relationship with her other four siblings from her original family? I guess it is true that what is done in the "dark" will eventually will be brought to light, at least in this case it was.
It was not her eldest brother that is her full sibling. She was the 4th child and youngest. He was the 3rd. the older 2 (4 total kids not 4 more siblings besides those 2) were their Dad's bio children.
What a great person your mother was!! sad to find out this way!!
Really? I hope that’s sarcasm. Mom was a Trollop.
NPE stands for "non parental event". It doesn't say anything about whether it was expected or not.
I agree. I notice that acronym has been usurped by other websites and it's a little distressing because NPE something different than not parent expected. A different moniker needs to be thought up for those who are misinformed.
NPE means “Non Paternal Event” NOT “Not parent expected”
Sounds like my family’s secret lie . Lies are wrong especially the lie of who the father is ?
Y la madre. Muchas compran óvulos.
What is the name of the Facebook group for NPE (Not Parent Expected)? My brother-in-law made that discovery when he was 69 years old. He also discovered at the same time that the son he raised was not his own! Both his NPE and the mother of the son he raised had died before revealing the big secret.
I was raised in a cloak of lies.
I did this test and found my "step-father" is my real Dad. I am an only child with 5 half- siblings.
I didn't do it to judge anyone in a bad light. I love everyone very much. ❤
My Husband just learned he had half siblings at the age of 46 - so do not worry - he is so excited to know them and be part of their lives now.
So happy for him…… wish mine turned out as good
I think the man who raised her is her dad...forget what the test say. He may have known and chosen to accept her as his own from day 1. She has no proof he never knew.
Camille's dad didn't know she wasn't his. I knew a man who knew his son wasn't his son (his wife had an affair and got pregnant) but he treated his son as if he gave birth to him himself. He adored that little boy. I don't know if the man is still alive and it is not likely the son knows he wasn't his real dad.
I understand and appreciate her desire to know.
I'm not so confident that approaching her deceased fathers(biological) children was completely appropriate. The poor widow now has to question everything she new as truth up until this point. You might as well stop at car crashes and let critically injured parties know that their definitely going to perish and confirm for them that it's too late to correct or even understand anything that may have regrettably happened in their life.
I'm sure that the poor old widow will be fine, especially if this lady could stop by now and then and remind her that she'll inevitably die and the pain from the necessity for everyone to know the truth will probably go away then....
Thousands are learning the truth about their biological fathers…can be really tragic to some…
So, how does she know for sure that her 'Dad' didn't know? Did she ask her mom about it? I didn't hear one question about whether or not her Mom and Dad may have agreed to keep it secret.
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@@Etelvinicius No está subtitulado y no hablo inglés.
... why would a Swedish person be known for being a stickler for the rules? We’re not known for being very strict with our kids. I’m so confused.
Clearly she looked like her true father...I would like to have seen the brother too!
If I found out my mother kept something like that from me for my whole life, I’m not sure what I would do. I’m adopted so my entire genetic background was kept from me my whole life, until I took a DNA test. But at least information wasn’t known by my parents and kept a secret intentionally. That’s not right. Every human being has the right to know who their biological parents are.
I’m sure if you had an affair that resulted in a pregnancy that you would tell, right? Of course you wouldnt.
Every human being has a right to know who their biological parents are. One reason people who are adopted commit suicide 4 times more than people who weren’t (yes this is true. Look up the statistics, please) is because we have no idea who we are or where we came from. You can lie to a child about it all you want about who their biological parents are, but thanks to DNA testing, they will find out sooner or later. And I know adoptees who were lied to about being adopted who now don’t speak to their adoptive families. The truth always catches up, and the damage from the lies is permanent. Please don’t assume I would lie to my child about anything. You don’t know me at all.
People make the best decisions they can, and 40, 50, 60 years ago those decisions were somewhat limited by what society would tolerate. Who will be judging our decisions down the road, based upon the society they are living in then, as opposed to the one we are living in today?
@@karengoldner4719 Tienes toda la razón. La naturaleza tiene leyes: padres son los que ella dice: ADN. No hay más. Padres adoptivos, es otra cosa. ¿Si tu hijo es malo o te abandona, deja de ser tu hijo?
We found an aunt to my daughter, no one in the family knew she existed, DNA found her
I needed to know who my father is too.
This happened to someone I know. She too discovered the dad she thought was her biological father... was not. But she is getting to know her biological father. He never knew about her either.
This is the future. It will be mandatory for all newborns and their parents. It will cause and prevent a lot of heartache.
La compra de óvulos hará que sea obligatorio. No tardaremos en verlo.
Great feeling story. Thank you.
Truth is often surprising.
Heartbreaking I did ancestry with brother due that mother passed away and results where that my brother was half brother cried and never told my brother so he wont be hurt. My mother never told family. I found out ancestry! My father always stated that it was his son no matter results are. We dont know if brother father still alive but I found some his family members.