I healed my inner child a little bit today. It finally snowed a bit here (north western Germany) and i went outside to clean the walkway so nobody slips and hurt themselves. I also build a medium sized snowman. I was basically finished with it when the 8 year old girl living across the street who's family i have contact with every now and then came back from school with her mom and she must have seen me building the snowman. She ran towards me and helped me with the detail work on the snowman and it turned out amazing. This little carefree kid warmed my heart and gave me hope that i myself might become a dad someday. :)
Good for you! What a truly heartfelt moment with a child's authenticity, combined with the first big steps to climb your mountain everest. Keep climbing greetings from the Netherlands
Timestamps: 0:39 Distracted behaviour 1:30 Lots of guilt 2:31 eager to please 3:36 the perfect pursuit 4:33 Speaking up for yourself 5:13 self-sabotage
Damn that brings me back, my therapist called me emotionally handicaped! First of all: f@&& them! And second: one of the few things I believe in is this.... Broken doesn't mean hopeless. 😘
Same here, I guess the truth always hurts a little. I also encountered a completely clueless therapist. In my case, he told me that I'm emotionally handicapped. In the back of my head, I still hear a faint remark regarding something about sticks and stones... But this doesn't fly in a situation involving a professional person, wich you should be able to confide in. I'm pretty sure they don't realise the potential damage a single remark can cause. If you dare to be honest to yourself, that's the most important. That's the best place to start a new frame of mind. Don't know how long ago this therapist moment has been, but you're still hanging in there! 😘
I'm still reparing my inner child and I still have a lot of bottled up emotions and wounds. I keep everything inside of me and I just continue to grow and improve wherever I lack. Don't know when or how but hopefully I heal from whatever bottled up rage I have inside me
@@werrr-po1et Long story short I have a lot bottled emotions that I don't want to share with no one because I don't want to let my guard down for anyone at all and I don't trust anyone including my family
Sounds like my inner child needs some serious healing/self love because every single sign is me. I used to think this was just my personality, but now I know better. Also, I'm getting help from a therapist. Maybe it's time to take this video to them.
I healed my inner child by been the mom I never had . My kids often tells me mom it's wonderful to be your daughter 💗. I gave what I never had and I loved the way I'm wanted to be loved . I GAVE THE LOVE THAT HEAL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Applause from around the globe! Honestly proud of you! Probably 99% of kids want this to be true for their offspring. But there is a huge chance you repeat what you've always known... awesome that you broke the cycle 🏆👏🏻
I'm learning to REST. I always felt if I'm not doing something, I'm lazy. I require things to go as planned because my childhood was filled with uncertainties (I'm learning to let it flow, I cant control everything), I trained myself to not have expectations, you won't be disappointed (it's a trust issue, still learning to deal with this). Speaking positive affirmations over myself, I am worthy.
The only thing that prevents me from moving on from my parental abuse is my brain not being able to accept how they treated me like a reactive object that they could punch and love at the same time at their whims and fancies. When an adult hits another out of anger its called crime/abuse. When an adult hits a child weaker than them, its labelled as discipline. Abusive parents see their children as reactive expensive dolls that they adore and abuse at the same time.
Damn... got me speechless for a second... I will never understand the switch between having a tiny miracle being born and abuse. The only thing I can promise you is that you are not the one to blame. I also grew up with mentally unhealthy parents, and they get away with this simpley because you are a child. This is supposed to be the most pure love on the planet, and getting used to toxic parental love is 100x worse than a garbage boy/girlfriend... Read my typed letters; this is on them. I know it barely helps, but that doesn't change the message
This resonated with me so much,, especially not standing up for myself and putting my family members needs before myself…I made myself sick with stomach issues because I was made to feel “less than” even now as an adult..with a therapist, I’m seeing what I need/want to change about myself so I can heal❤️🙏🏾
There are really a lot of similar things in terms of a ruined childhood, and realizing this, I tried to ignore it, but now it has just grown into ignorance and neutrality. I've always felt like there's something unique about being the perfect person and trying your best to make as many friends as possible and please them, knowing that it's not going to work that way. But even without this aspiration, I understand that I am losing my own individuality and desire to do something.
I was listening to this at 3 am while cleaning my room because i can't sleep due to my mind being loud.. and everything relates to me, i felt somewhat sad that i could relate to all of it, because then it would mean i had a lot of trauma as a child.. but thankfully, it'd also mean that i could stop gaslighting myself that im fine and everything's fine, and im just "overacting".. thank you for this video it trully helped me understand more about myself.. P.s. im bawling my eyes out at 3 am, tho i somewhat feel at ease that what i felt and what i did was the cause of my trauma. ☺️
@blckspdsz6270 omg so relatable! Not just the insomnia but the whole enchilada.... No matter how happy I was with my newly found knowledge, the truths that hit the hardest also opened up the biggest floodgates... Transformation doesn't only happen extremely slowly. It is also hard and painful. But I promise you that releasing that grief is monumental. These are the first steps to climb your Mount everest. Hopefully your room is pristine by know and good luck with your climb up the mountain. If you need a shirpa for support, just let me (or us) know! Greetings from the Netherlands
I grew up being told fights were my fault.. or when i tried to explain something , i was told they were excuses. Certain things i learned slower than others, teachers never cared to understand. Other kids think your weird. People consider you lazy. You hyper focus on what you believe is important but others tell you "its no big deal". Being told men only want sex... That the world is nothing but cruel and makes you so paranoid to the point of a hermit. a lot of double standards and beatings and Im still trying to figure out those triggers 30 years later. I cannot afford a real diagnosis or any therapy. I heard this video and just cried. I have only 2 people who know and have seen what i see. It is heartbreaking in one sense but i love them so dearly
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes bairepersons, I have a similar experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction, and mushrooms have significantly contributed to my recovery and being clean today.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Check, check, check, check, check and check! With self sabotage comes the perfectionism issue - everything less than is not acceptable, so before you fail you just... never come to the point where you can fail. And if you do push yourself together and fail the regret is enormous.
Very accurate. Would love more info on addressing these kinds of problems, particularly during times when no one is available to help out, like late at night. That's when I feel a channel like this is the most helpful.
I find most of the signs relatable. Back then, I wasn't aware that the behaviors I engaged in were due to a wounded inner child. I also didn't understand what was happening and why it did. All I wanted to do were to avoid pissing off the aggressors and getting yelled at. In my culture, it's considered normal and acceptable to verbally abuse ( and sometimes physically abuse ) kids when they fail to meet the expectations set for them. I had to reassure my inner child that whatever happened wasn't entirely her fault and that the aggressors didn't know how to communicate effectively with a sensitive child. During our discussion, I learned that I needed a trusting adult with whom I could talk about anything and help to guide me through the chaos. My inner child hasn't completely healed but at least I know what to do.
When you lose your self-esteem coz the people you look up to refuse to validate you, you start to think you don't deserve good things in life coz they make you feel like a lost cause, just close your eyes while the God of peace and love puts His arms around you, and gives you strength to break free from these limiting beliefs! She writes sad songs just to deal with it all, if the therapist doesn't seem to understand what you're going through, the God of all comfort won't let you walk alone, He swore to find your smile and put His arms around you, and make you unbreakable ❤
Timestamps 1). Distracted behaviour 0:37 2). Lots of guilt 1:28 3). Eager to please 2:30 4). The perfect pursuit 3:34 5). Speaking up for yourself 4:31 6). Self-sabotage 5:11 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Hey phyce2Go. I really didn't expect how much I needed this video and when you started talking about perfectionism at 4:10 my entire body froze. I recently have had many issues with my father regarding blackmail, gaslighting and manipulation in our relationship and I'm so happy that this carries on what caused me to grow up in this perfect yet seemingly always missing something manner.. ❤ thank you so much for releasing this you have no idea how much it's helped and I'm sure others agree ❤
i related to a few of them but that last one is so me. Im pursuing a career in fashion design, somerhing i’ve always wanted to do. I remember one time i showed my dad my first fashion sketch i did that i was so proud of and he just called it dumb and not a good career. it hurt my feelings and ever since i’ve been self-sabotaging and doubting everything. I’m really hoping i can get over this
Kadar me je popadlo,sem šla po trgovinah,kot,da bi bila na sprehodu.Bolj zdravo je,to zdaj opažam,da se sprehajam v naravi,ne po enem prostoru-trgovini!
As bad as trauma is and can be, the human brain is wonderfully malleable which means that with the right person and effort you can overcome this trauma. Just remember to be kind to yourself as we are all flawed but we still remain on the path to better ourselves :)
6:37 my dad used always yelled at me when I was a kid now when he does I don’t even show any emotion because I know if I do he would yell at me more sometimes when people do something similar I close off her I over explain because I don’t want them to feel hurt. It has been had for me too deal with emotions I have been trying get better. It’s hard because I lost my mom when I was9 so I didn’t really have that someone to go to but I had my Nana sadly she died when I was 15 so it’s been almost 5 years since that happened it’s sometimes hard when deal with females I do try my best and since my last brake up because of miss understanding and feelings being up in the air I have been really working on it.💙THANKS FOR LISTENING SORRY SO LONG 😅
Perfect timing . Btw can you please make a video on how to stay motivated in any physical health journey. Because I'm a person if i miss one day i procrastinate for 1 month😭🤡 + healthy habits to change your body physically and mentally both
From what I see, my inner child's traumas didn't come from my parents, it was solely because I was and still am so critical of myself... How does one "fix" that? From this video, I do "suffer" from over-achieving perfectionism and blaming myself on a lot of stuff. Just making a single mistake makes me feel as if my world has crumbled and that I should be ashamed of making a mistake cuz I can't make mistakes...
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
I don't feel guilt, I can feel sorry, just not guilt. I also don't really relate to any of these, but there is most likely something else I could relate to
Instead of this "inner child" popular psychology nonsense, you should be talking about contemporary attachment-based perspectives. I mean, Integrative Attachment Therapy to overcome Attachment Disturbances; how else will you comprehensively address deep-rooted attachment insecurity, which could manifest as a litany of C-PTSD symptoms & typical co-morbidities, chronic high levels of anxiety, chronic compulsive caretaking behavior, latent or chronic depression, maladaptive perfectionism, addictions & compulsions, dismissiveness / avoidance, disorganization (shifting states of mind), contradictory goal states (double-mindedness), poor or incomplete self-development, poor self-agency / self-efficacy, incomplete cognitive and/or metacognitive development, poor reflective functioning, poor explorational and/or collaborational verbal and/or non-verbal capacity and/or behavior... And you just want this all to be fixed with this "inner-child" "reparenting"-fix? That is profoundly wishful thinking. Fixing any of the aforementioned in combination will be most beneficially achieved through integrative attachment therapy, and not these unsuitable "inner child" "reparenting" schemes.
My inner child is hurting some im trying my best to heal em it just taking some time i have alot more issues then i thought i had..but it be ok i don't feel completely ok right now but it will be alright it just takes time patience,and showing kindness to myself..inconing my inner child.🌼
I can see that I have a hard time speaking up sometimes for several reasons. One is because I wasn't raised by my mom as a kid and have been around a somewhat toxic household because older cousins staying with my great grandmother
I honestly lost connection with my inner child years ago and now got snowed in since Sunday now Thursday I was in my room for most of the time and started to reconnect. I don't know where to go now or what to do. I cut out mostly everyone because I was ignored for so long as a middle child and put to the side by most family. All my friends are married with kids and I am single so can't hang out. I was shocked to hear my inner child for 17 years
I've heard numerous people over the years tell me "Kids are resilient, so don't worry too much about it." If that is true, why do so many adults go to therapy to specifically address childhood trauma? As for reparrenting your inner child, I've never really understood what that meant. Giving ourself unconditional love sounds great, but what does that actually mean? What does that look like? How do you do it?
I heal my inner child through cosplay, since I was always bullied for liking dress up even in elementary school which caused me to stop. Now I cosplay all my favorite characters from things I liked in the past and still like today, as well as original characters I’ve made that each have amazing story to go along with them.
V otroštvu so me primerjali z drugimi-če nisem bila odlična s samimi petkami,sem pri eni učiteljici padla v nemilost! Potem pomerjanje in nošenje oblek:v enem obisku trgovine se spomnim,dolgo nazaj je bilo,sem oblekla oblekco,ki je dobesedno visela na meni-mami je rekla prodajalki,da želi,da malo shujšam,prodajalka pa ji je rekla,da sem že tako drobna in ni potrebe po izgubi kilogramov!To je bilo zelo dolgo nazaj.V trgovinah,kjer kaj pomerjam se zdim sama sebi ogromna-večja,kot sem v resnici! Pa je to en hendikep v meni!
Well... I... Related a lot, all of the things in this video are things i do, besides speaking up for myself because i mostly stay quiet and try to shut up
Are they reading my mind again? Its been the fourth time😭😭 But thank you as always, my inner child is probably locked up inside of me so i think it is time to confront it
I need a lot of help. Just hard to ask, especially when you don’t have a lot of money for said help. Especially when I turned a friend against my partner, which wasn’t my intention. I was trying to talk stuff out, but turns out I’m the bad one…
Hi, could you please help me? I have a severe fear of confrontation so I find it hard to tell someone like my parents that’s why I’m suffering and more upset than I seem and I need help to figure out how to overcome this emotion.
I have every one of it . But I don't understand, I was a good student, my parents were loving, though I was bullied . I still don't understand why I am so wounded
Wait- the the- wait- i do have trouble fitting in with people even in a young age and maybe the combination is that i have loving parents and want to make them proud that i can do this etc. I don't want to self diagnose because it's only a symptom of what i maybe haveing glad for even thinking of watching this video
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
Who's someone you appreciate lately? Let's put the first letter of their name to honour them.
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I healed my inner child a little bit today. It finally snowed a bit here (north western Germany) and i went outside to clean the walkway so nobody slips and hurt themselves. I also build a medium sized snowman. I was basically finished with it when the 8 year old girl living across the street who's family i have contact with every now and then came back from school with her mom and she must have seen me building the snowman. She ran towards me and helped me with the detail work on the snowman and it turned out amazing. This little carefree kid warmed my heart and gave me hope that i myself might become a dad someday. :)
OMG BRO! LITERALLY TEARED UP! WELL DONE!! 🎉🎉🎉🖤🖤🖤
das ist wirklich super sweet! eines tages wirst du soweit sein glaub einfach nur weiter daran :)
Hello from North-West, too! ❤ Sounds great. 🤍
Good for you! What a truly heartfelt moment with a child's authenticity, combined with the first big steps to climb your mountain everest. Keep climbing greetings from the Netherlands
Aww💕this was so sweet, thank you for sharing this, made me smile..you had fun making the snowman and your young neighbor had fun too I’m sure ❤️
Timestamps:
0:39 Distracted behaviour
1:30 Lots of guilt
2:31 eager to please
3:36 the perfect pursuit
4:33 Speaking up for yourself
5:13 self-sabotage
Thank you! 🖤
"Caring for your inner child has a powerful and surprisingly quick result: Do it and the child heals." Martha Beck.
How
My mother wants me to not have it, no wonder I believe she's no mother of mine
How tho?
I know what I must do.
Well this just ripped open the curtains on why I act the way I act.
Saaaame. I've been early in the process of doing parts work and helping heal my inner child... and this video literally made me cry
I think I ripped something also.
You are speaking my truth and it hurts a little bit😢 but it's better than the time my therapist called me "lazy"
Wow great therapist.
That therapist shouldn't be one, therapist are supposed to comfort others not make others feel bad.
Screw that therapist if they dont try to understand you then you need a new one. And your a awesome person 😊
Damn that brings me back, my therapist called me emotionally handicaped!
First of all: f@&& them! And second: one of the few things I believe in is this....
Broken doesn't mean hopeless. 😘
Same here, I guess the truth always hurts a little.
I also encountered a completely clueless therapist. In my case, he told me that I'm emotionally handicapped.
In the back of my head, I still hear a faint remark regarding something about sticks and stones... But this doesn't fly in a situation involving a professional person, wich you should be able to confide in. I'm pretty sure they don't realise the potential damage a single remark can cause.
If you dare to be honest to yourself, that's the most important. That's the best place to start a new frame of mind. Don't know how long ago this therapist moment has been, but you're still hanging in there! 😘
I'm still reparing my inner child and I still have a lot of bottled up emotions and wounds. I keep everything inside of me and I just continue to grow and improve wherever I lack. Don't know when or how but hopefully I heal from whatever bottled up rage I have inside me
did you started adhd?
@werrr-po1et I'm still treating it but at the same time I don't care no more
@@sandiletwala3001 what kind of problems you have gotten? and the worse problems?
@@werrr-po1et Long story short I have a lot bottled emotions that I don't want to share with no one because I don't want to let my guard down for anyone at all and I don't trust anyone including my family
I really wish you to fully heal from past memories and experiences
Sounds like my inner child needs some serious healing/self love because every single sign is me. I used to think this was just my personality, but now I know better. Also, I'm getting help from a therapist. Maybe it's time to take this video to them.
I healed my inner child by been the mom I never had .
My kids often tells me mom it's wonderful to be your daughter 💗.
I gave what I never had and I loved the way I'm wanted to be loved .
I GAVE THE LOVE THAT HEAL ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Applause from around the globe! Honestly proud of you! Probably 99% of kids want this to be true for their offspring. But there is a huge chance you repeat what you've always known... awesome that you broke the cycle 🏆👏🏻
My inner child, in different ages, still seeks healing. Four-year-old Peach is much better, but other parts of me are still working on feeling better.
I'm learning to REST. I always felt if I'm not doing something, I'm lazy. I require things to go as planned because my childhood was filled with uncertainties (I'm learning to let it flow, I cant control everything), I trained myself to not have expectations, you won't be disappointed (it's a trust issue, still learning to deal with this).
Speaking positive affirmations over myself, I am worthy.
The only thing that prevents me from moving on from my parental abuse is my brain not being able to accept how they treated me like a reactive object that they could punch and love at the same time at their whims and fancies. When an adult hits another out of anger its called crime/abuse. When an adult hits a child weaker than them, its labelled as discipline. Abusive parents see their children as reactive expensive dolls that they adore and abuse at the same time.
Damn... got me speechless for a second...
I will never understand the switch between having a tiny miracle being born and abuse. The only thing I can promise you is that you are not the one to blame.
I also grew up with mentally unhealthy parents, and they get away with this simpley because you are a child.
This is supposed to be the most pure love on the planet, and getting used to toxic parental love is 100x worse than a garbage boy/girlfriend... Read my typed letters; this is on them. I know it barely helps, but that doesn't change the message
This resonated with me so much,, especially not standing up for myself and putting my family members needs before myself…I made myself sick with stomach issues because I was made to feel “less than” even now as an adult..with a therapist, I’m seeing what I need/want to change about myself so I can heal❤️🙏🏾
There are really a lot of similar things in terms of a ruined childhood, and realizing this, I tried to ignore it, but now it has just grown into ignorance and neutrality. I've always felt like there's something unique about being the perfect person and trying your best to make as many friends as possible and please them, knowing that it's not going to work that way.
But even without this aspiration, I understand that I am losing my own individuality and desire to do something.
I was listening to this at 3 am while cleaning my room because i can't sleep due to my mind being loud.. and everything relates to me, i felt somewhat sad that i could relate to all of it, because then it would mean i had a lot of trauma as a child.. but thankfully, it'd also mean that i could stop gaslighting myself that im fine and everything's fine, and im just "overacting".. thank you for this video it trully helped me understand more about myself..
P.s. im bawling my eyes out at 3 am, tho i somewhat feel at ease that what i felt and what i did was the cause of my trauma. ☺️
@blckspdsz6270 omg so relatable! Not just the insomnia but the whole enchilada....
No matter how happy I was with my newly found knowledge, the truths that hit the hardest also opened up the biggest floodgates...
Transformation doesn't only happen extremely slowly. It is also hard and painful. But I promise you that releasing that grief is monumental.
These are the first steps to climb your Mount everest.
Hopefully your room is pristine by know and good luck with your climb up the mountain. If you need a shirpa for support, just let me (or us) know! Greetings from the Netherlands
I grew up being told fights were my fault.. or when i tried to explain something , i was told they were excuses. Certain things i learned slower than others, teachers never cared to understand. Other kids think your weird. People consider you lazy. You hyper focus on what you believe is important but others tell you "its no big deal". Being told men only want sex... That the world is nothing but cruel and makes you so paranoid to the point of a hermit. a lot of double standards and beatings and Im still trying to figure out those triggers 30 years later. I cannot afford a real diagnosis or any therapy. I heard this video and just cried.
I have only 2 people who know and have seen what i see. It is heartbreaking in one sense but i love them so dearly
Same. Had this feeling like I can see my inner child crying and I don't know what to do to help him.
Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.
Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!
Yes bairepersons, I have a similar experience with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction, and mushrooms have significantly contributed to my recovery and being clean today.
I wish those were more easily accessible where I live.
Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?
Is he on instagram?
bairepersons is the man
AND THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE!!!!!!! I now know where all these thoughts are coming from
Totally relatable, even too much.😅
The thing is any of my 8 therapists have been able to achieve significant progress, so I don't trust them anymore.
Ohhh goddd i just started to process my inner child wounds from jan 1 and you posted a video on it.
Thank youu sooo muchhhh!!!
I love my inner child and I will always talk to her and play Barbie dolls❤❤ I love you inner child you are so beautiful
This video hurts me in many ways, everything is true... I really do hate myself, I wish i were gone but I just cant leave the people I love behind...
Check, check, check, check, check and check!
With self sabotage comes the perfectionism issue - everything less than is not acceptable, so before you fail you just... never come to the point where you can fail. And if you do push yourself together and fail the regret is enormous.
Very accurate. Would love more info on addressing these kinds of problems, particularly during times when no one is available to help out, like late at night. That's when I feel a channel like this is the most helpful.
I find most of the signs relatable. Back then, I wasn't aware that the behaviors I engaged in were due to a wounded inner child. I also didn't understand what was happening and why it did. All I wanted to do were to avoid pissing off the aggressors and getting yelled at. In my culture, it's considered normal and acceptable to verbally abuse ( and sometimes physically abuse ) kids when they fail to meet the expectations set for them. I had to reassure my inner child that whatever happened wasn't entirely her fault and that the aggressors didn't know how to communicate effectively with a sensitive child. During our discussion, I learned that I needed a trusting adult with whom I could talk about anything and help to guide me through the chaos. My inner child hasn't completely healed but at least I know what to do.
When you lose your self-esteem coz the people you look up to refuse to validate you, you start to think you don't deserve good things in life coz they make you feel like a lost cause, just close your eyes while the God of peace and love puts His arms around you, and gives you strength to break free from these limiting beliefs! She writes sad songs just to deal with it all, if the therapist doesn't seem to understand what you're going through, the God of all comfort won't let you walk alone, He swore to find your smile and put His arms around you, and make you unbreakable ❤
Timestamps
1). Distracted behaviour 0:37
2). Lots of guilt 1:28
3). Eager to please 2:30
4). The perfect pursuit 3:34
5). Speaking up for yourself 4:31
6). Self-sabotage 5:11
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
Hey phyce2Go. I really didn't expect how much I needed this video and when you started talking about perfectionism at 4:10 my entire body froze. I recently have had many issues with my father regarding blackmail, gaslighting and manipulation in our relationship and I'm so happy that this carries on what caused me to grow up in this perfect yet seemingly always missing something manner.. ❤ thank you so much for releasing this you have no idea how much it's helped and I'm sure others agree ❤
i related to a few of them but that last one is so me. Im pursuing a career in fashion design, somerhing i’ve always wanted to do. I remember one time i showed my dad my first fashion sketch i did that i was so proud of and he just called it dumb and not a good career. it hurt my feelings and ever since i’ve been self-sabotaging and doubting everything. I’m really hoping i can get over this
Ever since I’m growing up, I’ve been slowly losing my inner child and now it’s trapped from the mistakes of the past.
Then seek fucking professional help
I dont have low self esteem, somehow my emotions recover super fast so i constantly bully myself to avoid being arrogant
It feels like I finally found what's wrong with me. Thank you, Psych2go
Kadar me je popadlo,sem šla po trgovinah,kot,da bi bila na sprehodu.Bolj zdravo je,to zdaj opažam,da se sprehajam v naravi,ne po enem prostoru-trgovini!
As bad as trauma is and can be, the human brain is wonderfully malleable which means that with the right person and effort you can overcome this trauma. Just remember to be kind to yourself as we are all flawed but we still remain on the path to better ourselves :)
6:37 my dad used always yelled at me when I was a kid now when he does I don’t even show any emotion because I know if I do he would yell at me more sometimes when people do something similar I close off her I over explain because I don’t want them to feel hurt. It has been had for me too deal with emotions I have been trying get better. It’s hard because I lost my mom when I was9 so I didn’t really have that someone to go to but I had my Nana sadly she died when I was 15 so it’s been almost 5 years since that happened it’s sometimes hard when deal with females I do try my best and since my last brake up because of miss understanding and feelings being up in the air I have been really working on it.💙THANKS FOR LISTENING SORRY SO LONG 😅
Can I be your friends if it is ok?
Relatable! As a child I often got a very sarcastic Good Luck! when I told my parents what I wanted to do. Big or small.
Perfect timing . Btw can you please make a video on how to stay motivated in any physical health journey. Because I'm a person if i miss one day i procrastinate for 1 month😭🤡 + healthy habits to change your body physically and mentally both
My parents told me when I was a very young child they could do whatever they want to me. And they did.
What they did to you?im sorry if they did something wrong,alots of love for you
I'm sure it wasn't as bad as my childhood. 😢
You’re right about the message. We need to heal our inner child 🧒
I can relate to some of these I apologize a lot even when it wasn’t my fault I have also cried quietly on my bed a few nights ago 😕
I'm going to share this with my girlfriend. She needs this. Thank you very much!
Awwww 😭
I was going through all of these right now. Thank you for making this video topic. ❤❤❤
Thankyou
Perfect timing❤ thank you for this
From what I see, my inner child's traumas didn't come from my parents, it was solely because I was and still am so critical of myself... How does one "fix" that?
From this video, I do "suffer" from over-achieving perfectionism and blaming myself on a lot of stuff. Just making a single mistake makes me feel as if my world has crumbled and that I should be ashamed of making a mistake cuz I can't make mistakes...
i remember this one time i felt like no matter what i did, people just didn’t notice me. i tried everything-confidence boosters, social tips, you name it-but nothing seemed to work. then i found this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it completely shifted how i saw myself. it’s not just about being noticed; it’s about understanding the energy you project. honestly, this book made all the difference for me. if you’ve ever felt invisible, you need to read it.
Man, you guys hit me at the start and end of my day.
Yeah no one cares
@ you don’t, and that’s fine. Take care
I don't feel guilt, I can feel sorry, just not guilt. I also don't really relate to any of these, but there is most likely something else I could relate to
Instead of this "inner child" popular psychology nonsense, you should be talking about contemporary attachment-based perspectives.
I mean, Integrative Attachment Therapy to overcome Attachment Disturbances; how else will you comprehensively address deep-rooted attachment insecurity, which could manifest as a litany of C-PTSD symptoms & typical co-morbidities, chronic high levels of anxiety, chronic compulsive caretaking behavior, latent or chronic depression, maladaptive perfectionism, addictions & compulsions, dismissiveness / avoidance, disorganization (shifting states of mind), contradictory goal states (double-mindedness), poor or incomplete self-development, poor self-agency / self-efficacy, incomplete cognitive and/or metacognitive development, poor reflective functioning, poor explorational and/or collaborational verbal and/or non-verbal capacity and/or behavior...
And you just want this all to be fixed with this "inner-child" "reparenting"-fix?
That is profoundly wishful thinking.
Fixing any of the aforementioned in combination will be most beneficially achieved through integrative attachment therapy, and not these unsuitable "inner child" "reparenting" schemes.
Some things just don't go awsy. Ever. Ya'lls content is always helpful though❤
thank you so much for always working hard and putting in so much effort to make these wonderful videos ♡
thank you for sharing your beautiful video. i appreciate the help that the psych2go team share with us ❤
Excellent, now can you do a video on the healing part?
My inner child is hurting some im trying my best to heal em it just taking some time i have alot more issues then i thought i had..but it be ok i don't feel completely ok right now but it will be alright it just takes time patience,and showing kindness to myself..inconing my inner child.🌼
I can see that I have a hard time speaking up sometimes for several reasons. One is because I wasn't raised by my mom as a kid and have been around a somewhat toxic household because older cousins staying with my great grandmother
I honestly lost connection with my inner child years ago and now got snowed in since Sunday now Thursday I was in my room for most of the time and started to reconnect. I don't know where to go now or what to do. I cut out mostly everyone because I was ignored for so long as a middle child and put to the side by most family. All my friends are married with kids and I am single so can't hang out. I was shocked to hear my inner child for 17 years
6 out of 6 to the t, as usual. Thank you for the effort in this channel
Every word said in this video is so relatable to me
I've heard numerous people over the years tell me "Kids are resilient, so don't worry too much about it." If that is true, why do so many adults go to therapy to specifically address childhood trauma?
As for reparrenting your inner child, I've never really understood what that meant. Giving ourself unconditional love sounds great, but what does that actually mean? What does that look like? How do you do it?
Thankyou for making these videos 😊
I heal my inner child through cosplay, since I was always bullied for liking dress up even in elementary school which caused me to stop. Now I cosplay all my favorite characters from things I liked in the past and still like today, as well as original characters I’ve made that each have amazing story to go along with them.
Crazy how everyone of your Videos fits me like a glove ❤, not sure if going to a therapist would help tho....
Well that's not only too close to home, it stands on my doorstep...
It's so funny that I carried so much that I never realized how much this was me. Completely. My inner child needs me to take care of it.
Question: around the cut off age for an inner child? Like 7, 10 or even your teens?
Ig 12 . Because 13 is a teenage first year. But it's never late to start your healing journey
Timing could not get any better
May i do a video suggestion? Can you do a type of video that explains why not to hide anger or something like that? You dont have to
What happens in our past, shapes our present much more than most of us realize.
V otroštvu so me primerjali z drugimi-če nisem bila odlična s samimi petkami,sem pri eni učiteljici padla v nemilost! Potem pomerjanje in nošenje oblek:v enem obisku trgovine se spomnim,dolgo nazaj je bilo,sem oblekla oblekco,ki je dobesedno visela na meni-mami je rekla prodajalki,da želi,da malo shujšam,prodajalka pa ji je rekla,da sem že tako drobna in ni potrebe po izgubi kilogramov!To je bilo zelo dolgo nazaj.V trgovinah,kjer kaj pomerjam se zdim sama sebi ogromna-večja,kot sem v resnici! Pa je to en hendikep v meni!
Well... I... Related a lot, all of the things in this video are things i do, besides speaking up for myself because i mostly stay quiet and try to shut up
I don't even have the courage to finish watching this video after social exclusion and bullying got mentioned...
Are they reading my mind again? Its been the fourth time😭😭
But thank you as always, my inner child is probably locked up inside of me so i think it is time to confront it
Can you please do a video explaining the fight, flight and freeze responses please 🤍🤍
I need a lot of help. Just hard to ask, especially when you don’t have a lot of money for said help. Especially when I turned a friend against my partner, which wasn’t my intention. I was trying to talk stuff out, but turns out I’m the bad one…
I'm so lucky I got good parents...
I'm a ppl-pleaser so ye. I'm a lil bit perfectionist a week ago because I got a quiz bee 2w from now
I think I may have had some childhood in my trauma.
Hi, could you please help me? I have a severe fear of confrontation so I find it hard to tell someone like my parents that’s why I’m suffering and more upset than I seem and I need help to figure out how to overcome this emotion.
No matter how often I'm beaten down, i will now lose.
I really think it's time I start working towards healing, but for some reason I'm scared of being okay. Is that normal?
My inner child critics makes me feel validated
"Psiduck" 5:17
I have every one of it . But I don't understand, I was a good student, my parents were loving, though I was bullied . I still don't understand why I am so wounded
Are emotional traumatic experiences in early 20s considered as childhood trauma.. does those be coped with the inner child healing?
It's never a specific age to heal yourself. You can do it whenever you feel like it ❤
Mine's been dead for years, there's no point is resurrecting it now, it just is what it is
Brala sem eno knjigo,kjer mama pravi svoji hčerki:lepa si,takšna kot si-tudi če si predrobna ali pa malo zaobljena!
Small? Fat?
What if i find two or three symptoms in me😢
Wait- the the- wait- i do have trouble fitting in with people even in a young age and maybe the combination is that i have loving parents and want to make them proud that i can do this etc. I don't want to self diagnose because it's only a symptom of what i maybe haveing glad for even thinking of watching this video
Maybe this is why I'm a raging alcoholic 😢
No it's bad for you 😢
With me, it's chronic pain 😢
i used to think being magnetic was just about looks or confidence, but i couldn’t have been more wrong. i read this book called Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it totally changed my perspective. it breaks down the energy and mindset behind true attraction in a way that just makes sense. once i started applying what it taught, i noticed people reacting to me differently almost instantly. it’s seriously worth a read.
Thanks
Maybe it said and misunderstood but how do you actually heal your inner child explain it to me like im a child cause im not the smartest
I speak the hell up and yes i got slapped so many times but i will said what's true. I am no chicken shit person and that's a fact.
My inner child told me that she wanted to be alone today
I don't like my inner child and I want to heal.😭😢
I hate the fact im all of these and im still a child.
Seems like todays the day to cry..
My inner child was murdered decades ago, by fire😢
one night i was scrolling through my phone, feeling like i’d never figure out why some people just seem so magnetic. then i came across this book, Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and something about it caught my attention. reading it was like turning on a light in a dark room. it’s not about pretending to be someone you’re not; it’s about unlocking the energy you already have. trust me, this book is worth every page
That duck has had enough
Hah, my score is 4 out of 6 LET'S GOOOO