Relate. Yung jowa ko ngayon hindi nanligaw sakin biglang kame na lang. 😅 So di ko naexperience ung down slope from peak. From the start, walang good morning, good night, sweet words, etc. Yun ung normal state nia, minahal ko sya as is. And we're happily inlove ❤️
Sa akin din .. di man lang nagsabi nangliligaw cya . Tapos parang kami na,na hindi naman kasi hindi cya umakyat ng ligaw gusto ko kasi yung kinakantahan ako sa window.. di ko cya type pero na inlove ako sa kanya.. pero tinanong ko cya nanliligaw ka ba? Sagot naman nya, hindi..pero kailangan pa ba? .. .. pero mahal nya ako.. tapos ginagawa nya lahat para lang mapasaya ako. Kahit di ko sinabi sa kanya na itigil ang pagsisigarilyo pero cya lang huminto..😊 kaya ganun natutunan ko na lang cya mahalin.. nakakatanda nga lang tawag nya sa akin..darling 😅😅😅
I'm working as a nurse here in England. One day, my friends and I got bored so we downloaded Tinder just for fun. And the first man I went on a date with is already my boyfriend now. He's British. Wala silang ligaw ligaw. I even told him na ligawan muna niya ako. Sabi niya sa akin hindi niya alam yun which is understandable naman talaga. So okay, from first day we met each other at a coffee shop, he asked me right away if I could be his girlfriend... sabi ko ayaw ko friends muna kami pero he convinced me and finally sabi ko we'll see how it goes and take things slow. And now... we are already more than a year together. He's not perfect but I know he loves me a lot. Kahit ang lakas ng topak ko, matampuhin ako, masungit ako, never siya nag-give up sa akin. 😆
I learned this lesson at a very young age. I witness my mother's misery because of my father's abusive behavior. When I asked her why on earth did she marry that kind of man, she told me he wasn't like that when he was still courting her. He was the sweetest boyfriend, after a few months of dating he proposed and got married. Only then, he revealed his true color. That's why i was so skeptical of courtship i never entertained anyone who tried. You gotta be my friend first and show me who you really are for me to trust you. Sooo, I ended up courting my guy best friend!😅 indeed, he's the sweetest bf. 🥰
I like this Real Talk content ❤️ "Don't glorify courtship. Love the guy in his normal state." Same with women, this is the very reason why we ask a guy to be a friend. It is not a "rejection" but next step to getting to know him. Dahil pag hindi talaga namin gusto, hindi namin kukulitin out of nowhere or randomly. Lol Masarap kasi yung boyfriend mo na, bestfriend mo pa. Mas madaling mag open up.
this is why you should vet a guy before giving the "oo". appreciate maginoong efforts but don't fall for it because they're probably just putting on a mask & love bombing you. i do think(i could be wrong.lol) that darbs is referring to love bombing, not just ligaw. kasi may nanliligaw din na hindi ganoon ka extreme ang pagpapanggap because they understand na kahit gusto ka nila, you should also somehow earn the sweet side of them. it doesn't mean that if someone is chasing you, they're already sure of you and you two are compatible with each other. know their character. don't be blindsided by chemistry, evaluate a person from a neutral perspective. never ignore red flags!
My boyfriend and I didn't go through courting stage kasi naniniwala sha sa sinabi ni Sir Ferdinand Marcos na " I don't believe in courtship. It's a waste of time. If I love the person I'll tell her right away. But for you I'll make an exception. Just love me now, and I'll court you forever " kaya ayun derecho na😊😊😊 getting stronger kahit LDR❤
I agree. Sa ligawan stage, you try to give your best impression. Once you're in a relationship (or marriage), that's when you see the other person's flaws because you will be together 24/7. A real relationship will be tested when you see the person's flaws and you have to ask yourself, "can I put up with this?"
That's the exact words that my ex BF told me that he did not believe in courtship. I asked him once why he did not courted me and he said he wants me to see the real him without pretending and without impressing me. He just wanted me to see what Kind of guy he is and if I will accept him or not. You just reminded me of him kuya Darbs and unfortunately we just broke up last night. Because of so many things. I also watched your video entiltled "bakt may bumabalik sa ex nila" if I'm not mistaken that's the title and I realized that we're a victim of a right love in the wrong time. And we decided to be friends nalang muna and we're hoping that maybe destiny will make something for us to reconnected again. Also believe that the love is sweeter the second time around. But if we're not really for each other. Then I believe there's a deserving someone that is reserved for us.
That's what my ex did. He love-bombed me in the first few weeks and rushed our relationship. We immediately moved to one place and that was how I witnessed his true colors. He was a full-blown Narcissist and I was abused for 10 months. Beware of men that lovebomb you during the first few weeks or months.
Thank you for giving me an affirmation that it's okay to act according to how I feel. There's this guy who likes me and I am developing feelings for. My gut feeling tells me for the first time that it's okay to open up to him and just be myself. I am a little hesitant because my friends keep telling me to play hard to get but I feel like I have to be true to my feelings towards him since I can feel his sincerity. I've never felt this with anyone else. BTW, he also follows you on Facebook.
Aminado ako as a girlfriend, dumating ako sa point, na nasabi ko sa boyfriend ko"Hind nai ikaw yung minahal ko" but he made me realized na possible talaga magchange yung gnung way but ang mahalaga di nagbabago yung Love and Part na din siguro ng pagiging immature yun but now sanay na kami sa isat isa, we understand each other na. Matured enough to understand our differences and similarities. To understand the changes. My gash feeling ko nakikipag kwentuhan ako sayo kuya darbs hahahaha. Tanda ko din yung sinabi mo kuya na Love your partner hindi dahil sa mga benefit na nakukuha mo (like hindi dahil napapasaya ka nya, hndi dahil naappreciate ka nya, hindi dahil naibibigay nya yung gusto mo, etc), but love them kasi mahal mo talaga sya. Kasi kahit makita mo pinakapanget na bagay sa kanya, mamahalin mo parin sya. Grabe yun. ❤ THANKS KUYA DARBS Thankful din ako mas matired sakin boyfriend ko, kasi pinapaintindi nya sakin yunv mga bagay na hindi ko pa narerealize 😅
I am currently in a no label relationship🥺 we are like a real couple when we are together, we are happy and we are trying to know each other. He said he learned from his last relationship that you can know the people in just 1 year.
Di ako nanligaw ever since, and proud ako sa bagay na yon. Kapag tipo ko yung babae ichachat ko lang like may itatanong ako sa kanya na "What if ganito nangyari sayo..." "What if di ganitong course kinuha mo ano course mo ngayon?". Every single day, iniisip ko ano kaya itatanong ko? ano kayang topic na pwede mabigay ko sa kanya para makilala ko pa siya, in a way na di boring sympre. Well, I have that mindset na much better to have that tactic like than thinking "Ano kayang regalong ibibigay ko sa kanya?" "Ano kayang gusto niyang pagkain kpg uwian mamaya?". Less gastos but at the same time mas makikilala mo yung babaeng tipo mo. First time ko manuod ng video mo kuya darbs! And ang worth it nung pgging first time. Sana maheart!
For me mas naniniwala ako sa friends muna bago maging lovers kasi yung pang liligaw is kind of pretending kasi di ba wala namang nanliligaw na ipinapapakiata yung totoo siya kasi ang pinapakita nya yung best version of his self that the real version for his self.
pero ako noong nanligaw ako sa ex ko pinakita ko kaagad kung sino ako kung magustuhan niya ako or hindi ok lang, pero noong naging kami na,pinakita ko na ung d best version ko, pero bigla niya akong iniwan, kasi ang babae hindi talaga nila alam kung anong gusto nila kasi habang pinapakita mo na maging mabuti ka mas lalong lumalayo
Ako I prefer to see on how a person can struggle on challenges. Dun mo makikita if that person can fight for you, can commit, if a person has integrity. You will able to see on how he can cope on the adversities in life. Kasi in boyfriend and marriage years hindi palaging smooth sailing ang buhay. If you and your partner knows how to cope on the challenges of life without compromising your relationship over money or with a 3rd party and mature enough with God's guidance, that person is the right one.
What? You want to see a person struggle? That is why Men nowadays are not courting anymore. Courting is one sided towards women. And men are waking up.
Because of this content of yours, ngiba ang pananaw ko sa panliligaw. Now it all make sense.. Its just sad that I expected so much from "ligaw" that existed decades ago which doesnt exist na sa panahon ngayon. 😊
hi Real Talk Darbs, I like your attitude on how you explained everything.. Yes totoo mahirap magpanggap dahil hindi kakayanin gawin yan ng tuloy tuloy lalo kung hindi tlga siya ganyan.. Ako when someone courting pinapakita ko talaga may real attitude and it's up to them if they turn on or turn off.. Like what i always said this is me and i am not a great pretender..
Very well explained po! Naisip ko rin po itong topic na ito kya lang i have no words for it. LOL. Pero d tlga ako naniniwala sa courtship. I agree "you're just showing your best side" during this stage. Para saken, your inner knowing/intuition will tell you who's the one for you kahit pa walang courting or kahit pa ideny mo or lumayo ka..
My friend once posted this: I don't understand why guys would try so hard to get the girl they want in the beginning, then once they got her, they stop trying as hard or doing the things they did to get her. Don't be a type of man who's only good at first, sweet at first, fun and exciting only at first. Keep on pursuing her. Keep on putting some effort to make her roll her eyes and smile right after. Keep on doing new things you never did before. In that way, you’ll never lose her. -- And this is my reply: It is because of the standards. Once a guy fulfilled the standards that has been set? That's when they started to get inconsistent. That's why it is better to let the guy set standards for himself na willing siyang gawin , hindi lang dahil sa kailangan niyang gawin kasi gano'n yung gusto no'ng babaeng pinu-pursue niya. For girls, once a guy asked you what do you like or what you prefer? Don't answer. Kasi kapag naglapag ka diyan, susubukan nilang maging gano'n para lang makuha ka. Kapag okay na sila, babalik na sila sa dating siya , kaya nasasabi no'ng ibang babae na nagbabago yung lalaki - no, he is just bringing his true self, na isinantabi niya kasi pinipilit niya na pantayan yung hinahanap mo.
I think there are certain limitations to this idea of courtship and no courtship at all. I do believe it's more of having that discernment na kahit na sabihin nila na ganto sila or magpanggap sila or i-love bomb ka pa nila, malalaman at malalaman mo by their fruit (kung pano sila sa ibang tao), their lifestyle, and most importantly the kind of people they're hanging out with. So it's more of pursuing frienship na lang muna with boundaries and focus more on getting to know who they really are at their core para hindi ka basta basta ma-attach.
This is why exactly what I was trying to say to my ex🤦🏽♂️ Kaya sinabi ko nalang sa kanya na “give yourself sometime to think if he is really showing the real him during nanliligaw sya sayo” I am only worried for her to get hurt kasi I dont want her to make the mistake tulad ng ginawa nya dati which is by choosing me na kahit ang layo-layo ko sa kanya and di ko sya niligawan over the guy who liked her for a long time and courted her for sometime na rin whom was everyone in her group of friends, classmates pati narin teachers nya na nag predict na maging sila. I felt so sorry na di kami nag work out dahil mahirap talaga ung LDR lalo na dahil may basketball, work tsaka school ako at the same time.
Hi Kuya Darbs, well honestly, only this year i am following u, this year lang din ako nahohook sa mga videos mo and I’ve learned tons sa mga shina-share mong views, opinion, experiences etc etc… now my question is, where and how i can buy ur shirt/s or merchandise? Tnx! Be safe and TC! 🙏🏼😁
Napapahanga po talaga ako sa galing niyooo... I agreee... Pero naniniwala parin ako sa ligaw (but after you've known each other well, as your real selves)
im from gen z. naabutan ko yun ligaw stage. na kahit nasa fast pace tech na tayo.. hinahanap ko ang ligaw. na halos wala na now. pero nun narining ko itong real talk mo, nagising ako. tama ka..na sa ligaw stage naka best foot forward.. well sana its not too late for me, at maka adjust nako sa kung anu meron sa panahon now. thank you sa real talk darbs.
HAHAHHA yea mas sweet talaga sila sa umpisa pero Yung boyfriend ko hndi ganyan e 😆 Nong nanligaw siya 2 months na daw . Actually Di po talaga siya nag paalam o nag tanong na manliligaw sya nararamdaman ko lang Yung care nya at na appreciate ko Yung time na binibigay nya 🤣pinakita nya Lang yung normal sides nya and I like him kahit nakita ko na bad sides nya 😍 Syempre pinag usapan Namin Kung anong meron talaga then ayon naging Kami😍 At I am surprised because day by day simula nung naging Kami mas minamahal ko sya Lalo . I don't know why . I can't explain . Mas naging sweet sya , mas nag effort siya and eveytime na susurprise ako Kasi Diko Naman akalain na ganun pala sya . Well , mas gusto ko sa kanya Yung pagiging honest nya and totoo sa sarili nya pag may Mali sakin Sasabihin nya talaga .Wala Sayang finifilter at ang faithful nya until now mag 3yrs. Na Kami ❣️
Para sa akin kuya.. Eversince di tlaga ako naniniwala sa ligaw.. Diretsahan lang na mag friends lng kami to know each other.. Pero di ko naman cnasabi na wala na syang pag asa.. Atleast walng expectations, walang sakitan ng loob.. At the end mararamdaman mo at makikita mo nalng na sya how honestly, truelly and completely love him.. Given by God.😊
I agree with you @realtalkdarbs 👍🏻 Most men are making good impressions but will not sustain them in the long run that’s why many women will become disappointed. The man should show his real personality and offer his best character to the woman he likes. So that the woman will not have high expectations to the man and get disappointed in the end.
Personally, dati naniniwala ako but since then i experience na sa umpisa lang maayos but when things comes low eh dun ngkakaron ng problem. Kaya I do agree that if you never try you'll never know kasi kapag kayo na mas makikita mo sya kung ano sya , kung paano nya tatangapin un mga bagay bagay at ihandle.
super agree.. when a person liked me and vice versa lets go and if it turned off that's it... at least no ifs and but.. but its not on day 1 it's aftr the talk we had
Perhaps I was the "pabebe" type. Hahaha! This video made me subscribe to this channel. I mean, he speaks facts! True enough, he doesn't sugar-coat what needs to be said. I just nodded to a lot of his points. Indeed, maybe i should act based on what I feel and not what others tell me to feel. Pero, ang hirap! Maybe on your next video you can talk about the how tos. Because in truth, it's hard to go against the norms and just act based on pure feelings.
Nice Sir Darbs! Tsaka sa Kakanuod ko ng Korean - Thai at Chinese dramas parang di na din ako talaga ako believed sa ligawan 😂 I also don't like someone asking me if "Pwede bang manligaw?". 😅
Well, I think it should all be based on maturity because even the definition of courtship also depends on maturity. I don't hold people back on what they believe in or not. All I know is that they should learn that there are consequences to their actions. If in doubt, ask a friend. If it is easier for them to discern their army of couters through traditional courtship then let them. If they prefer to just jump in with their only courter, why not. But really, they should know the consequences. If they don't, at least they should learn from it then 😂🤣
Same, I agree. I do not believe in ligaw din. when I was younger siguro who would not want to have someone make ligaw diba? but as I get older for me ligaw is a waste of time. My boyfriend and I knew eachother for a week before we hang out and we got together in just 3 days kami na! He said na he want to pursue me and make ligaw but I said no need because it's a waste of time. I like you enough and let see where this will take us. Then after a week something came up and I had a huge situation where I need to find a new place. I had no money and all and offered me to live together (imagine less than 2 weeks of being together pa lang) I hesitated but still had no choice but he secures me na we will still have our individuality even if we live together. Then pandemic breaks and everything was history. Living with him is the best decision I have ever made. I have seen and witnessed how such amazing guy he is. no pretentions just love care and respect towards me. We are now almost 3 years of living together and being together. Never been the happiest and at peace in my whole existence. No ligaw needed because it felt like he is courting me every single day.
I like u kuya. We have in common direct to the point. Ganon din ako sa taong nagtatapat sakin ng ddamin nila. I love him romantically or not..it means i love him not only the good side of him or the good thing he do.
Ramdam ko what you're trying to say, hehehe ganda ung di na pahabain pa ang courtship, mas maiging dun nyo nya madiscover ung isat isa inside your relationship. Like us, ng fiance ko, dami akong nadidiscover na my mga pa surprise png nalalaman pla un tao. Getting stronger til now, we are LDR and going to 3years na ngaung 17th of march.
Naranasan kong di maligawan. Naging kami instant ng partner ko. Very liberated tapos live in agad after one month in a relationship. Dun ko siya nakilala ngvmas maigi. Ngayon. 3byears and coubting na kami. And with one baby girl. Thanks God. ❤️
I do believe in courting stage..but nasa tao kasi yan.. time and patience is the key.. know the person and trust earn for a certain time. So trust the process.. love takes time. Mahirap na mag sisi sa uli.
20 yrs ago ako ang nagpakita ng motibo sa naging asawa ko. Ako ang namasyal kung saan alam ko nag i stay every afternoon. At ako din ang nag aya sa kanya na magtanan kami kahit wala pang nangyari noon sa amin. At nagtagal kami ng 20 yrs. at nagkaroon ng isang anak.
That's true. Sabi ng mother ko mahawakan lang ang dulo ng daliri noon kasal na agad. Agree ako sa yo. Kasi ngayon may crush ako at ako na gumagawa ng paraan. Bakit pa patagalin kung masaya ka naman sa ginaagawa mo. Maraming against. Trinay ko sundin sila pero hindi naman ako masaya. Kaya sabi ko gagawin ko yung gusto ko.
masarap ligawan kaya,ang mali lang doon yong mag iinarte ka ng bongga.kc lalo kong kaya kang panindigan o matured na,hirap din supalpalin mo unless d talaga pupwede na omoo ka.pero yong pa good effect nya,syempre nag uusap kayo,unti unti mong ipalahad yong kong anu ba talaga motive nya sayo.
Di naman lahat pwede idaan sa feelings hahaha. Agree ako about sa hindi kailangang pahabain ang panliligaw, pero hindi dun sa part na babaliwalain mo na yung sinasabi ng parents mo , kapag hindi mo sila sinunod at nirespect yung kung anong gusto nila para sayo hindi strong ang tawag dun lalo na at wala ka pa sa tamang edad para sa kaharutan ( for teenagers). Pero kung independent kana talaga sige go, pero kung feeling independent ka lang , ewan ko lang hahahahah
Iba po kasi ang panliligaw noon s panliligaw ngayon. Noon ang lalaki pag nanliligaw gusto ka tlaga o mahal katalaga, or sincere efforts talaga kaya kaya nila manligaw ng matagal dahil talagang inaantay katalaga nila at seryoso at gusto tlga mgsettle down"true love waits" ika nga kaya nga mas maraming marriages noon n umaabot hanggang pagtanda. Ngayon kasi pag nanliligaw ang lalaki, mostly gusto lang maka iscore.. Realtalk lang po.. Applicable ang panliligaw noon kasi po marespeto pa ang mga lalaki sa babae unlike ngayon na mainipin n ang mga lalaki. There's nothing wrong with courtship, sadyang nagiba lang po ang generation ng guys noon sa ngayon.
It was my reaction based on a female's perspective, did not mean to be biased. However, to be fair mas maraming decent women noon same as respectful men, same as mas maraming mga di na modest na babae ngayon, at the same time mas maraming abusive guys ngayon. Di niyo kailangam maoffend, quits lang po dahil parehong gender rin nmn ay nagiba na ng mindset.
Sorry to say this but I think the true definition of courtship is showing who you are for the girl to love you. Not being the guy the girl wants so she could love you.
I still want my man to make courtship just to do formality. But it's not longer like before. I still want to receive love letters or make me feel m so important to him. My man it means we shared same doctrine en beliefs so important to me. Pag pareho Naman kayo mag isip, it's easy to fall in love na. The shared doctrine are your guidance to a relationship. You can never fool the doctrine coz it defined yourselves.
Ang importante kilalanin ng maige ung tao at wag maxado mag madali.ang pangit nmn tignan kung madami ka ng nahahalikan bago mo pa makita ung tamang tao para sau.hnd ko cnsbing makikita mo ung right one agad agad sa gantong pamamaraan pero once na nakita mong willing mag hintay ung tao nakakasiguro ako na hnd ka matatakot na mahalin xa.opinion ko lang
"Dont tell him your standards, because it'll be easier for him to pretend" - random person on twitter
Nice
Ohhh
Correct..I still believe in courting
Thanksss.....💖💖💖
Omggg so true
Relate. Yung jowa ko ngayon hindi nanligaw sakin biglang kame na lang. 😅 So di ko naexperience ung down slope from peak. From the start, walang good morning, good night, sweet words, etc. Yun ung normal state nia, minahal ko sya as is. And we're happily inlove ❤️
so happy to know that!!
Same here😁😁😁akala ko weird yong ganon😁 good to know hindi pala🙂🙂
Sa akin din .. di man lang nagsabi nangliligaw cya . Tapos parang kami na,na hindi naman kasi hindi cya umakyat ng ligaw gusto ko kasi yung kinakantahan ako sa window.. di ko cya type pero na inlove ako sa kanya.. pero tinanong ko cya nanliligaw ka ba? Sagot naman nya, hindi..pero kailangan pa ba? .. .. pero mahal nya ako.. tapos ginagawa nya lahat para lang mapasaya ako. Kahit di ko sinabi sa kanya na itigil ang pagsisigarilyo pero cya lang huminto..😊 kaya ganun natutunan ko na lang cya mahalin.. nakakatanda nga lang tawag nya sa akin..darling 😅😅😅
Kaya mas ok yung karelasyon mo ay naging kaibigan mo muna ksi wlang pretensions..🙂 Like me, my partner now is my best friend before. 😚
best foundation of every relationship is friendship
I'm working as a nurse here in England. One day, my friends and I got bored so we downloaded Tinder just for fun. And the first man I went on a date with is already my boyfriend now. He's British. Wala silang ligaw ligaw. I even told him na ligawan muna niya ako. Sabi niya sa akin hindi niya alam yun which is understandable naman talaga. So okay, from first day we met each other at a coffee shop, he asked me right away if I could be his girlfriend... sabi ko ayaw ko friends muna kami pero he convinced me and finally sabi ko we'll see how it goes and take things slow. And now... we are already more than a year together. He's not perfect but I know he loves me a lot. Kahit ang lakas ng topak ko, matampuhin ako, masungit ako, never siya nag-give up sa akin. 😆
I learned this lesson at a very young age. I witness my mother's misery because of my father's abusive behavior. When I asked her why on earth did she marry that kind of man, she told me he wasn't like that when he was still courting her. He was the sweetest boyfriend, after a few months of dating he proposed and got married. Only then, he revealed his true color. That's why i was so skeptical of courtship i never entertained anyone who tried. You gotta be my friend first and show me who you really are for me to trust you. Sooo, I ended up courting my guy best friend!😅 indeed, he's the sweetest bf. 🥰
Nagkatuluyan ba kayo?☺just curious hihi😊
Curious po jf nagkatuluyan kayo
kayo padin ba?
I like this Real Talk content ❤️
"Don't glorify courtship. Love the guy in his normal state."
Same with women, this is the very reason why we ask a guy to be a friend. It is not a "rejection" but next step to getting to know him.
Dahil pag hindi talaga namin gusto, hindi namin kukulitin out of nowhere or randomly. Lol Masarap kasi yung boyfriend mo na, bestfriend mo pa. Mas madaling mag open up.
this is why you should vet a guy before giving the "oo". appreciate maginoong efforts but don't fall for it because they're probably just putting on a mask & love bombing you. i do think(i could be wrong.lol) that darbs is referring to love bombing, not just ligaw. kasi may nanliligaw din na hindi ganoon ka extreme ang pagpapanggap because they understand na kahit gusto ka nila, you should also somehow earn the sweet side of them.
it doesn't mean that if someone is chasing you, they're already sure of you and you two are compatible with each other. know their character. don't be blindsided by chemistry, evaluate a person from a neutral perspective. never ignore red flags!
My boyfriend and I didn't go through courting stage kasi naniniwala sha sa sinabi ni Sir Ferdinand Marcos na " I don't believe in courtship. It's a waste of time. If I love the person I'll tell her right away. But for you I'll make an exception. Just love me now, and I'll court you forever " kaya ayun derecho na😊😊😊 getting stronger kahit LDR❤
I agree. Sa ligawan stage, you try to give your best impression. Once you're in a relationship (or marriage), that's when you see the other person's flaws because you will be together 24/7.
A real relationship will be tested when you see the person's flaws and you have to ask yourself, "can I put up with this?"
8 years na kami ng asawa ko. Walamg ligawan.
Totoo yung sinabi na if mag workout then go. Pag hindi let go.
That's the exact words that my ex BF told me that he did not believe in courtship. I asked him once why he did not courted me and he said he wants me to see the real him without pretending and without impressing me. He just wanted me to see what Kind of guy he is and if I will accept him or not. You just reminded me of him kuya Darbs and unfortunately we just broke up last night. Because of so many things. I also watched your video entiltled "bakt may bumabalik sa ex nila" if I'm not mistaken that's the title and I realized that we're a victim of a right love in the wrong time. And we decided to be friends nalang muna and we're hoping that maybe destiny will make something for us to reconnected again. Also believe that the love is sweeter the second time around. But if we're not really for each other. Then I believe there's a deserving someone that is reserved for us.
Finally! Akala ko ako lang may belief nang ganito 😊 happy to know na hindi ako nag-iisa.
Bakit hindi ko na discover si kuya darbs nung dati. Ma prevent ko sana yung mga masamang nangyari.
That's what my ex did. He love-bombed me in the first few weeks and rushed our relationship. We immediately moved to one place and that was how I witnessed his true colors. He was a full-blown Narcissist and I was abused for 10 months. Beware of men that lovebomb you during the first few weeks or months.
Thank you for giving me an affirmation that it's okay to act according to how I feel. There's this guy who likes me and I am developing feelings for. My gut feeling tells me for the first time that it's okay to open up to him and just be myself. I am a little hesitant because my friends keep telling me to play hard to get but I feel like I have to be true to my feelings towards him since I can feel his sincerity. I've never felt this with anyone else. BTW, he also follows you on Facebook.
by all means go ahead and confess! its a win win anyway. if he liked you back great! if he didnt atleast to prevented wasting time
Aminado ako as a girlfriend, dumating ako sa point, na nasabi ko sa boyfriend ko"Hind nai ikaw yung minahal ko" but he made me realized na possible talaga magchange yung gnung way but ang mahalaga di nagbabago yung Love and Part na din siguro ng pagiging immature yun but now sanay na kami sa isat isa, we understand each other na. Matured enough to understand our differences and similarities. To understand the changes. My gash feeling ko nakikipag kwentuhan ako sayo kuya darbs hahahaha.
Tanda ko din yung sinabi mo kuya na Love your partner hindi dahil sa mga benefit na nakukuha mo (like hindi dahil napapasaya ka nya, hndi dahil naappreciate ka nya, hindi dahil naibibigay nya yung gusto mo, etc), but love them kasi mahal mo talaga sya. Kasi kahit makita mo pinakapanget na bagay sa kanya, mamahalin mo parin sya.
Grabe yun. ❤ THANKS KUYA DARBS
Thankful din ako mas matired sakin boyfriend ko, kasi pinapaintindi nya sakin yunv mga bagay na hindi ko pa narerealize 😅
1 year in a no label relationship and now we're official Kase pinili na namin lagyan ng authority ✨❤️
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I am currently in a no label relationship🥺 we are like a real couple when we are together, we are happy and we are trying to know each other. He said he learned from his last relationship that you can know the people in just 1 year.
Di ako nanligaw ever since, and proud ako sa bagay na yon. Kapag tipo ko yung babae ichachat ko lang like may itatanong ako sa kanya na "What if ganito nangyari sayo..." "What if di ganitong course kinuha mo ano course mo ngayon?". Every single day, iniisip ko ano kaya itatanong ko? ano kayang topic na pwede mabigay ko sa kanya para makilala ko pa siya, in a way na di boring sympre. Well, I have that mindset na much better to have that tactic like than thinking "Ano kayang regalong ibibigay ko sa kanya?" "Ano kayang gusto niyang pagkain kpg uwian mamaya?". Less gastos but at the same time mas makikilala mo yung babaeng tipo mo.
First time ko manuod ng video mo kuya darbs! And ang worth it nung pgging first time. Sana maheart!
For me mas naniniwala ako sa friends muna bago maging lovers kasi yung pang liligaw is kind of pretending kasi di ba wala namang nanliligaw na ipinapapakiata yung totoo siya kasi ang pinapakita nya yung best version of his self that the real version for his self.
pero ako noong nanligaw ako sa ex ko pinakita ko kaagad kung sino ako kung magustuhan niya ako or hindi ok lang, pero noong naging kami na,pinakita ko na ung d best version ko, pero bigla niya akong iniwan, kasi ang babae hindi talaga nila alam kung anong gusto nila kasi habang pinapakita mo na maging mabuti ka mas lalong lumalayo
Sad to say bro..may mga bagay talaga hindi natin pwding pilitin😥
Ako I prefer to see on how a person can struggle on challenges. Dun mo makikita if that person can fight for you, can commit, if a person has integrity. You will able to see on how he can cope on the adversities in life.
Kasi in boyfriend and marriage years hindi palaging smooth sailing ang buhay. If you and your partner knows how to cope on the challenges of life without compromising your relationship over money or with a 3rd party and mature enough with God's guidance, that person is the right one.
What? You want to see a person struggle?
That is why Men nowadays are not courting anymore. Courting is one sided towards women. And men are waking up.
kaibigan kong babae nagrecommend sakin dto, its so worth the watch.
Because of this content of yours, ngiba ang pananaw ko sa panliligaw. Now it all make sense.. Its just sad that I expected so much from "ligaw" that existed decades ago which doesnt exist na sa panahon ngayon. 😊
hi Real Talk Darbs, I like your attitude on how you explained everything.. Yes totoo mahirap magpanggap dahil hindi kakayanin gawin yan ng tuloy tuloy lalo kung hindi tlga siya ganyan.. Ako when someone courting pinapakita ko talaga may real attitude and it's up to them if they turn on or turn off.. Like what i always said this is me and i am not a great pretender..
Finally may magpaliwanag na rin ng maayos sa matagal ko nang pinaniwalaa ... thanks RTD ...must watch.....god bless more power
Nakakagising toh ha!!! 👏🏻👏🏻 Thank you!
Very well explained po! Naisip ko rin po itong topic na ito kya lang i have no words for it. LOL. Pero d tlga ako naniniwala sa courtship. I agree "you're just showing your best side" during this stage. Para saken, your inner knowing/intuition will tell you who's the one for you kahit pa walang courting or kahit pa ideny mo or lumayo ka..
My friend once posted this:
I don't understand why guys would try so hard to get the girl they want in the beginning, then once they got her, they stop trying as hard or doing the things they did to get her.
Don't be a type of man who's only good at first, sweet at first, fun and exciting only at first.
Keep on pursuing her.
Keep on putting some effort to make her roll her eyes and smile right after. Keep on doing new things you never did before.
In that way, you’ll never lose her.
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And this is my reply:
It is because of the standards. Once a guy fulfilled the standards that has been set? That's when they started to get inconsistent. That's why it is better to let the guy set standards for himself na willing siyang gawin , hindi lang dahil sa kailangan niyang gawin kasi gano'n yung gusto no'ng babaeng pinu-pursue niya.
For girls, once a guy asked you what do you like or what you prefer? Don't answer. Kasi kapag naglapag ka diyan, susubukan nilang maging gano'n para lang makuha ka. Kapag okay na sila, babalik na sila sa dating siya , kaya nasasabi no'ng ibang babae na nagbabago yung lalaki - no, he is just bringing his true self, na isinantabi niya kasi pinipilit niya na pantayan yung hinahanap mo.
I think there are certain limitations to this idea of courtship and no courtship at all. I do believe it's more of having that discernment na kahit na sabihin nila na ganto sila or magpanggap sila or i-love bomb ka pa nila, malalaman at malalaman mo by their fruit (kung pano sila sa ibang tao), their lifestyle, and most importantly the kind of people they're hanging out with. So it's more of pursuing frienship na lang muna with boundaries and focus more on getting to know who they really are at their core para hindi ka basta basta ma-attach.
Love to hear this po👍... guidance na para sa mga single kung anu ang dapat 🙂
This is why exactly what I was trying to say to my ex🤦🏽♂️ Kaya sinabi ko nalang sa kanya na “give yourself sometime to think if he is really showing the real him during nanliligaw sya sayo” I am only worried for her to get hurt kasi I dont want her to make the mistake tulad ng ginawa nya dati which is by choosing me na kahit ang layo-layo ko sa kanya and di ko sya niligawan over the guy who liked her for a long time and courted her for sometime na rin whom was everyone in her group of friends, classmates pati narin teachers nya na nag predict na maging sila. I felt so sorry na di kami nag work out dahil mahirap talaga ung LDR lalo na dahil may basketball, work tsaka school ako at the same time.
its. ok brother. not being with someone will eventually lead you with the right one
Super nice explanation! Yahhh...
Hi Kuya Darbs, well honestly, only this year i am following u, this year lang din ako nahohook sa mga videos mo and I’ve learned tons sa mga shina-share mong views, opinion, experiences etc etc… now my question is, where and how i can buy ur shirt/s or merchandise? Tnx! Be safe and TC! 🙏🏼😁
Napapahanga po talaga ako sa galing niyooo...
I agreee...
Pero naniniwala parin ako sa ligaw
(but after you've known each other well, as your real selves)
Love this episode
very informative ser thanks
im from gen z. naabutan ko yun ligaw stage. na kahit nasa fast pace tech na tayo.. hinahanap ko ang ligaw. na halos wala na now. pero nun narining ko itong real talk mo, nagising ako. tama ka..na sa ligaw stage naka best foot forward.. well sana its not too late for me, at maka adjust nako sa kung anu meron sa panahon now. thank you sa real talk darbs.
indeed! so much relate in this content
Naglalive din ako sa Fb page namin, nag-aadvice din ako sa Live ko at pareparehas tayo ng mindset Kuya Darbs.😁 Galing niyo po.❤️
Salamat Boss 😁 Ito yung topic na mismo at sakto sa panahon 👍👍👍
HAHAHHA yea mas sweet talaga sila sa umpisa pero Yung boyfriend ko hndi ganyan e 😆 Nong nanligaw siya 2 months na daw . Actually Di po talaga siya nag paalam o nag tanong na manliligaw sya nararamdaman ko lang Yung care nya at na appreciate ko Yung time na binibigay nya 🤣pinakita nya Lang yung normal sides nya and I like him kahit nakita ko na bad sides nya 😍 Syempre pinag usapan Namin Kung anong meron talaga then ayon naging Kami😍 At I am surprised because day by day simula nung naging Kami mas minamahal ko sya Lalo . I don't know why . I can't explain . Mas naging sweet sya , mas nag effort siya and eveytime na susurprise ako Kasi Diko Naman akalain na ganun pala sya . Well , mas gusto ko sa kanya Yung pagiging honest nya and totoo sa sarili nya pag may Mali sakin Sasabihin nya talaga .Wala Sayang finifilter at ang faithful nya until now mag 3yrs. Na Kami ❣️
"everybody should act according to their happiness" ✨
Kuya Darbs deserves more subscribers. Yung mga nababasa ko mula noon sinasummarize niya haha galeeeeng
Hi kuya darbs. Sa fb lang talaga ako nanonood ng vids mo, pero na move na ako dito sa YT mo to show support hehe ❤
Para sa akin kuya.. Eversince di tlaga ako naniniwala sa ligaw.. Diretsahan lang na mag friends lng kami to know each other.. Pero di ko naman cnasabi na wala na syang pag asa.. Atleast walng expectations, walang sakitan ng loob.. At the end mararamdaman mo at makikita mo nalng na sya how honestly, truelly and completely love him.. Given by God.😊
yes maam! keeping things simple is the way to go
❤️😊👍🏻
I agree with you @realtalkdarbs 👍🏻 Most men are making good impressions but will not sustain them in the long run that’s why many women will become disappointed. The man should show his real personality and offer his best character to the woman he likes. So that the woman will not have high expectations to the man and get disappointed in the end.
Personally, dati naniniwala ako but since then i experience na sa umpisa lang maayos but when things comes low eh dun ngkakaron ng problem. Kaya I do agree that if you never try you'll never know kasi kapag kayo na mas makikita mo sya kung ano sya , kung paano nya tatangapin un mga bagay bagay at ihandle.
Kaya siguro may M. U or no label kasi yun na yung paraan para makilala yung taong gusto mo na may gusto din sayo.
Hello po😊
I am almost done watching all your vids. 🙂
super agree.. when a person liked me and vice versa lets go and if it turned off that's it... at least no ifs and but.. but its not on day 1 it's aftr the talk we had
I totally see your point but for us women we want to see the sincerity that‘s why we still believe in courtship.
Perhaps I was the "pabebe" type. Hahaha! This video made me subscribe to this channel. I mean, he speaks facts! True enough, he doesn't sugar-coat what needs to be said. I just nodded to a lot of his points. Indeed, maybe i should act based on what I feel and not what others tell me to feel. Pero, ang hirap! Maybe on your next video you can talk about the how tos. Because in truth, it's hard to go against the norms and just act based on pure feelings.
Nice Sir Darbs! Tsaka sa Kakanuod ko ng Korean - Thai at Chinese dramas parang di na din ako talaga ako believed sa ligawan 😂
I also don't like someone asking me if "Pwede bang manligaw?". 😅
Well, I think it should all be based on maturity because even the definition of courtship also depends on maturity. I don't hold people back on what they believe in or not. All I know is that they should learn that there are consequences to their actions. If in doubt, ask a friend. If it is easier for them to discern their army of couters through traditional courtship then let them. If they prefer to just jump in with their only courter, why not. But really, they should know the consequences. If they don't, at least they should learn from it then 😂🤣
Very good pa din yung relationship na nag start as friends. Kasi normal kayong 2 no pretentions.
Hi Darbs, new subscriber here. Thanks for this, very sensible content. :) More power and continue doing this. I'm glad I stumbled upon your channel
Yes!! Tama un.wag na patagalin kung mahal nyo nmn ang isat isa
Hit the nail right on the head! 👍
Exactly true Kuya darbs.. Very well said😊👏❤️
Sir dahil madami akong natutunan subscribe na ko
Anggaling👏👏👏👏👏
Ang galing mo tlga kuya darbs👏👏👏
amen! realtalk!
Same, I agree. I do not believe in ligaw din. when I was younger siguro who would not want to have someone make ligaw diba? but as I get older for me ligaw is a waste of time. My boyfriend and I knew eachother for a week before we hang out and we got together in just 3 days kami na! He said na he want to pursue me and make ligaw but I said no need because it's a waste of time. I like you enough and let see where this will take us. Then after a week something came up and I had a huge situation where I need to find a new place. I had no money and all and offered me to live together (imagine less than 2 weeks of being together pa lang) I hesitated but still had no choice but he secures me na we will still have our individuality even if we live together. Then pandemic breaks and everything was history. Living with him is the best decision I have ever made. I have seen and witnessed how such amazing guy he is. no pretentions just love care and respect towards me. We are now almost 3 years of living together and being together. Never been the happiest and at peace in my whole existence. No ligaw needed because it felt like he is courting me every single day.
I love your content po 😍
I like u kuya. We have in common direct to the point. Ganon din ako sa taong nagtatapat sakin ng ddamin nila. I love him romantically or not..it means i love him not only the good side of him or the good thing he do.
Omg kakapanood ko lng nito..tapos 1 year ago na play tong video na to...bat it's matches my belief..,,😍😍😍😍
Ramdam ko what you're trying to say, hehehe ganda ung di na pahabain pa ang courtship, mas maiging dun nyo nya madiscover ung isat isa inside your relationship. Like us, ng fiance ko, dami akong nadidiscover na my mga pa surprise png nalalaman pla un tao. Getting stronger til now, we are LDR and going to 3years na ngaung 17th of march.
Kahit hnd kaliligawan ...pag kayo na araw2x kng liligawan at araw2x kang pipiliin kahit ano man ang mangyari 😊
Love him on his normal state ❤
Agree to this kuya darbs! 👏👏👏
Learning😊😊😊
Naranasan kong di maligawan. Naging kami instant ng partner ko. Very liberated tapos live in agad after one month in a relationship. Dun ko siya nakilala ngvmas maigi. Ngayon. 3byears and coubting na kami. And with one baby girl. Thanks God. ❤️
Solid lahat ng content...
Eveything make sense. Love the content ❤️
Ayoko na din ng ligaw ligaw darbs..
I love you ❤️ Galing!
I do believe in courting stage..but nasa tao kasi yan.. time and patience is the key.. know the person and trust earn for a certain time. So trust the process.. love takes time. Mahirap na mag sisi sa uli.
Galing talaga ni Tito darbs 😁😁😁
20 yrs ago ako ang nagpakita ng motibo sa naging asawa ko. Ako ang namasyal kung saan alam ko nag i stay every afternoon. At ako din ang nag aya sa kanya na magtanan kami kahit wala pang nangyari noon sa amin. At nagtagal kami ng 20 yrs. at nagkaroon ng isang anak.
Strong men admires strong women is like smart men admires smart women...saka ako nanliligaw pag in a relationship na kami.
..right, dadis!? 😉
Indeed, totally agree with you daddy. 😘😉
well said po kuya darbs👏👏👏
I love you kuya Darbs💛
That's true. Sabi ng mother ko mahawakan lang ang dulo ng daliri noon kasal na agad. Agree ako sa yo. Kasi ngayon may crush ako at ako na gumagawa ng paraan. Bakit pa patagalin kung masaya ka naman sa ginaagawa mo. Maraming against. Trinay ko sundin sila pero hindi naman ako masaya. Kaya sabi ko gagawin ko yung gusto ko.
masarap ligawan kaya,ang mali lang doon yong mag iinarte ka ng bongga.kc lalo kong kaya kang panindigan o matured na,hirap din supalpalin mo unless d talaga pupwede na omoo ka.pero yong pa good effect nya,syempre nag uusap kayo,unti unti mong ipalahad yong kong anu ba talaga motive nya sayo.
you have a point.. tama naman talaga sinabi mo.
Di naman lahat pwede idaan sa feelings hahaha. Agree ako about sa hindi kailangang pahabain ang panliligaw, pero hindi dun sa part na babaliwalain mo na yung sinasabi ng parents mo , kapag hindi mo sila sinunod at nirespect yung kung anong gusto nila para sayo hindi strong ang tawag dun lalo na at wala ka pa sa tamang edad para sa kaharutan ( for teenagers). Pero kung independent kana talaga sige go, pero kung feeling independent ka lang , ewan ko lang hahahahah
same tyo kuya darbs! hahaha more power!
Iba po kasi ang panliligaw noon s panliligaw ngayon. Noon ang lalaki pag nanliligaw gusto ka tlaga o mahal katalaga, or sincere efforts talaga kaya kaya nila manligaw ng matagal dahil talagang inaantay katalaga nila at seryoso at gusto tlga mgsettle down"true love waits" ika nga kaya nga mas maraming marriages noon n umaabot hanggang pagtanda. Ngayon kasi pag nanliligaw ang lalaki, mostly gusto lang maka iscore.. Realtalk lang po.. Applicable ang panliligaw noon kasi po marespeto pa ang mga lalaki sa babae unlike ngayon na mainipin n ang mga lalaki. There's nothing wrong with courtship, sadyang nagiba lang po ang generation ng guys noon sa ngayon.
Sorry po, pero nonsense at illogical ang mga sinabi mo ✌
Also, negative ang perception mo sa mga lalaki. At sa mga babae hindi mo sinabi yung negative.
you're being negative sa lalake pero ung negativity ng mga babae hindi mo rin sinasabi pls have a gender equality
It was my reaction based on a female's perspective, did not mean to be biased. However, to be fair mas maraming decent women noon same as respectful men, same as mas maraming mga di na modest na babae ngayon, at the same time mas maraming abusive guys ngayon. Di niyo kailangam maoffend, quits lang po dahil parehong gender rin nmn ay nagiba na ng mindset.
Realtalk 😊
Sorry to say this but I think the true definition of courtship is showing who you are for the girl to love you. Not being the guy the girl wants so she could love you.
This is soooooo Lit and Trueee!!!!
I still want my man to make courtship just to do formality. But it's not longer like before. I still want to receive love letters or make me feel m so important to him. My man it means we shared same doctrine en beliefs so important to me. Pag pareho Naman kayo mag isip, it's easy to fall in love na. The shared doctrine are your guidance to a relationship. You can never fool the doctrine coz it defined yourselves.
the best ka, lodi na kita
Naalala ko bigla yung love story ni Oyo Sotto and Kristine Hermosa.
Btw, thank you sa video, sobrang helpful sya, lalo na sa girls.😉
Ang importante kilalanin ng maige ung tao at wag maxado mag madali.ang pangit nmn tignan kung madami ka ng nahahalikan bago mo pa makita ung tamang tao para sau.hnd ko cnsbing makikita mo ung right one agad agad sa gantong pamamaraan pero once na nakita mong willing mag hintay ung tao nakakasiguro ako na hnd ka matatakot na mahalin xa.opinion ko lang
Kuya darbs gawa ka naman video about sa relasyong matured woman at younger guy
I agree!
Agree agree agree...
Ako din hindi naniniwala sa ligaw ligaw, sagutin mo agad para magkaalam na kung tatagal sa topak mo. Ganern.😂😅
Hahaha topakin talaga ang mga girls.
Pag topakin edi lipat ka dun sa wlang topak.
Super agree 👍