I am a brazilian gifted, and since there are no more videos in Portuguese about this topic, I am watching in English and French now, and everyday I find out something new. Watching this video I discovered why I love languages which are completely different from my native one (Portuguese): I like them because they are difficult to learn, such as German, Yoruba, Russian, Japanese and Arabian. On the other hand, languages such as Spanish, which shares about 96% of vocabulary in Portuguese, never atracted me.
I’m really excited about this channel! Please keep it up! If you wouldn’t mind a little constructive feedback, I would offer two suggestions: 1. The magic wand noise gets irritating quickly. I love your titles, but it could do without the sound. 2. I almost didn’t watch your videos because you have kids in the thumbnails and I’m looking for adult content. I would suggest using adults for your thumbnails so as to capture your target audience. Believe me-we are out here dying for content for us and not just kids! Thank you so much for what you are offering! I look forward to more!
Can I just have someone like you in my everyday life? I cry and don't care what people see or think! Part of being an extrovert and gifted. But when people say what they think, I can't help but cry and be deeply hurt. Also, when someone is hurt, I also can't help but feel with them and burst out in tears. Can't count how many times people thought I was weird. It doesn't take a genius to see it on their faces.
I'm 72 and just seeing this and trying to figure out if it is me. I know I am highly sensitive, and certainly much of this I do relate to. In fact, I have been saying "I just want friends who 'get' me, at this point" for many of the reasons you point out.
This is me with my husband in the theater watching Wicked yesterday. 😭 It was so beautiful and such a feast for the eyes, the emotions, and feels. I was trying to describe my human experience to him. Let me just say, he looked worried. 😂 I couldn’t sleep last night thinking about it. I’m going back to see it again. There are so many layers I missed. Anybody have similar?
I'm 56 and completely shut down, and there are no therapists who specialize in treated the gifted in my state (and as we know, traditional therapy is wholly inappropriate for the gifted, leading to misdiagnoses, being invalidated, and even more problems.)
Also, there is so much useful information out there with the other three mind types that have overlap with gifted traits. Look for ASD and ADHD information. The highest over lap of traits is with ASD at roughly 30%. The higher the IQ the harder it is to distinguish between ASD and Gifted. The other Neurodivergent people are actually so much easier to relate to and talk to for also being nonlinear thinkers and more direct language. It’s refreshing, and because where I am there are not many others like me, connecting to these people in my community has been such a positive experience. When you research giftedness you get to see what it actually is and knowing it is biological neurology difference. It’s also equally important to understand exactly what neurotypical people are too. You need both perspectives to understand fully and it’s completely freeing.
lol when you got to creativity, it made me think, maybe that’s why I’ve been obsessed about D&D and role playing game systems lately. And then you specifically mentioned D&D
Wow. Lisa in this one video, you succinctly hit the heart of what has been elusive, inarticulatable (a real word?!), invalidated, insatiable, and relentless for decades. Thank you!
Singing, Christmas, German Carols, baking and cooking, just alone in Nature, research on ancestry and research on personality types, decorating my room, dressing up fancy, singing in a choir, collecting river pebbles and wild flowers, press and stick in a book. Drawing, writing poems. So much that is also part of my adult life. Thing is I was happiest alone or in my Mom's or Opa's company. Now I just love the company of my husband and our children day-to-day.
3:25 and piling on lots of activities that aren't challenging enough does not add up to a satisfactory challenge! (please tell me I'm not the only one who's lived this...)
8:22 UGHHHH, I literally incited what my previous coworkers ended up calling “The HR Revolution” because of this exact scenario. It’s soooo relieving to hear this said as having happened to someone else who’s gifted. And yes, the number of times something similar has happened is abundant.
Thank you for the great videos. Is there one on what gifted children need to be happy? Also how can gifted children thrive in school? Or similar.... Thank you!
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoachingand a note: Thank you soooo much for focusing on us gifted adults! 😭🙌🏽 Though not outrageously abundant, there is comparatively a colossal amount of information on gifted children, and very little on gifted adults. And at least 3/4th’s of the gifted children information is academia focused, which is soooo not relevant to me or many other gifted adults. Especially us reaching or beyond our 30’s and who no longer are in any kind of schooling. And honestly, it wasn’t relevant to me even when I was in school. So thank you for picking up on this need and filling this niche in current information. I have been furiously diving into gifted research and content for 2 years now - becoming an advocate for identification and realization - and though I’ve found sooooo much information, soooo much of it just doesn’t quite hit the mark. But this is exactly what I’ve been looking for. Every video of yours so far is a banger 🙌🏽🔥
Excellent content.We need more studies and information about this subject.The profoundly gifted adult who don't had "discover" in childhood tend to live a life o chaos and mental illness.We suffer a lot in silence.The research that we have today is insufficient and the lives and talent are wasted.Thanks very much.
Thank you for making these videos! I feel so seen and less crazy knowing that I'm not weird or strange, I'm just gifted! I'm going to try to use this info to provide new challenges and opportunities to create so that I don't feel as stuck in a rut and unhappy in life. Thank you!!
What is your take on the true differences between an intelligent low support needs Autistic vs a gifted individual? They sound eerily similar in a lot of cases
There is definitely some overlap, but I think the difference is in the strength of the "harder to manage" behaviors. A gifted person might have SOME executive function difficulties, but an autistic person would have MORE executive function difficulties that have more of an impact on their daily lives. There are a lot of similar examples (difficulty with social interaction, sensory sensitivities, etc) and in each case, the common behaviors differ in intensity in a gifted person vs an autistic person. It's the whole "spectrum" thing -- people can have certain behaviors to a greater or lesser degree, just like someone can be a little afraid of heights and someone else can be terrified of heights. Your thoughts?
Highly gifted family = group two members of my group are now and then self diagnosing themselves as autistic. They are failing to see that their autistic condition fades when they become a absorbed by a complex life challenge. I wish they could avoid giving themselves a sad diagnosis but it does make sense being gifted is constant work. Good to have this space to be grumpy.😅
When it comes to “high sensitivity”, I think the wording used is inaccurate because the comparative baseline group has filters and limited bandwidth for information processing. It’s an unfair comparison because it’s the view point from a completely different mind type that has significant limitations. Neurotypical people are social hierarchy based first and highly sensitive and over sensitive is a weakness in that social context. When NT people know about the actual physiological differences and how it changes people they are fine with the difference. Right now people don’t distinguish between the multiple meanings of gifted, ie., talented , to give a thing to another, and the physiological difference that has high neural density and complex interconnection of the nervous system that increase capacity for information processing/acquisition/application, sensory experience in nonlinear ways.
Appreciate you addressing this topic. I do feel like it's a lot to ask of one's family to support the gifted parent by allowing them to be almost completely absent. The polymath struggle is real, but is the solution really to make everyone around you suffer so you can pursue your passions?
I find it interesting that you got to almost completely disappear and be an absent parent from that. I took that portion as with the support of and communication with your family system. For me, mornings while my partner is still in bed is the perfect time for the extra activities that make me happy. Woodworking, sewing etc. However, occasionally I go deep into these passions and it will be all weekend, every weekend for a while. The hope is that when someone is marrying a gifted person, whether they are calling it gifted or not, is that they have spent enough time with each other to know what kind of person each is, what drives the other, etc. It shouldn’t be a surprise down the line that someone has deep and multiple passions and they want to devote intense time to it.
I've started therapy not so long ago and my therapist and the one I've met before, when searching for therapy, suggested that I might be gifted (or autistic, but that seems to be more unlikely judged by them). I wonder: can you be gifted and absolutely slow in understanding topics that don't interest you? I can identifying with some aspects I've learned about being gifted, even thefeeling of my mind running at a high speed with SOME things. But when learning stuff (especially things I'm not interested in) or getting things explained by others, I'm not fast at all. I need time (and maybe visual instructions). Also, when doing things I'm slower than others. Sometimes bc of perfectionism, sometimes bc I lose the feeling of time... my natural speed seems to be slower than anyones, except when overthinking x'D
I think we are normal human with special quirks that make it a bit harder for the feeling of acceptance. so no box just a littl quirk i like it better like that :)
I think i might be gifted because I recognize so much of what you are talking about in your videos but I also feel like i can't be because I feel like a total failure. I don't know what my "gift" would be and I am bored and angry all the time 😫
A lot of people do believe that giftedness = success, but that's not an automatic correlation. In fact, there is a huge percentage of gifted folks who feel like they've failed. The thing is, success and failure is relative, we're often pushed toward fields that aren't our passion which never works out well, and giftedness isn't so much having a specific talent, but having a brain that works differently than everyone else's. I'd suggest exploring what makes you happy, and what makes you feel good about yourself, then figuring out how to add more of that to your life. Sounds like you need challenge, purpose, and an atmosphere that celebrates your strengths. Good luck!
can we really ask for other to understand and trust us ? thats seem a bit far streched and self center? I get it tho. but like it seems alot to ask... Thank you for the video its very nice to feel understood from time to time. never really took the time to....Lol... anyway ! Have a nice day :)
You may end up lonely, isolated, frustrated and burned out, but there are a few coping strategies you can use. Look for gifted communities online, and search for special-interest groups in your area that might attract other gifted folks (ie: philosophy clubs, gaming groups, literary salons, etc).
I've basically isolated myself from most people as I find it frustrating how seemingly simple they are when I compare their interests and ways of speaking to that of my own, I'm still not certain if I have Asperger's or not, and I'm not really certain I need/want the label if I do. It's hard to find gifted communities to physically interact with when you get a little older. I'm still looking for ways to cope with this and continue to struggle with depression and anxiety.
I am a brazilian gifted, and since there are no more videos in Portuguese about this topic, I am watching in English and French now, and everyday I find out something new.
Watching this video I discovered why I love languages which are completely different from my native one (Portuguese): I like them because they are difficult to learn, such as German, Yoruba, Russian, Japanese and Arabian. On the other hand, languages such as Spanish, which shares about 96% of vocabulary in Portuguese, never atracted me.
Exceptionally well explained, thank you.
All resonated. But I've never thought of myself as.gifted. Beginning to wonder these days. Thanks.
Do you think things could be better with just one or two of those needs met?
I’m really excited about this channel! Please keep it up!
If you wouldn’t mind a little constructive feedback, I would offer two suggestions:
1. The magic wand noise gets irritating quickly. I love your titles, but it could do without the sound.
2. I almost didn’t watch your videos because you have kids in the thumbnails and I’m looking for adult content. I would suggest using adults for your thumbnails so as to capture your target audience. Believe me-we are out here dying for content for us and not just kids!
Thank you so much for what you are offering! I look forward to more!
I’m excited about this channel too!
Ditto! LOVE LOVE LOVE the content so much. That Magic wand noise is very contrasting to your soothing calm voice.
Wait I like the wand noise y'all are some haters 🤣
Me too!! Makes me giggle each time
I have a hard time with the extremely loud intro music and then the soft voice for the rest of the video.
Can I just have someone like you in my everyday life? I cry and don't care what people see or think! Part of being an extrovert and gifted. But when people say what they think, I can't help but cry and be deeply hurt. Also, when someone is hurt, I also can't help but feel with them and burst out in tears. Can't count how many times people thought I was weird. It doesn't take a genius to see it on their faces.
🖐️ You described me to a T. Thank you. Nice to meet you here. 🤗
I'm 72 and just seeing this and trying to figure out if it is me. I know I am highly sensitive, and certainly much of this I do relate to. In fact, I have been saying "I just want friends who 'get' me, at this point" for many of the reasons you point out.
I cried at this part 13:27
Thank you for saying this
I find people finally understand what I’m saying when I tell them I operate like a border collie 😂
This is me with my husband in the theater watching Wicked yesterday. 😭 It was so beautiful and such a feast for the eyes, the emotions, and feels. I was trying to describe my human experience to him. Let me just say, he looked worried. 😂 I couldn’t sleep last night thinking about it. I’m going back to see it again. There are so many layers I missed. Anybody have similar?
❤Thank you for being you❤
I'm 56 and completely shut down, and there are no therapists who specialize in treated the gifted in my state (and as we know, traditional therapy is wholly inappropriate for the gifted, leading to misdiagnoses, being invalidated, and even more problems.)
I’m 55 and this totally resonates with me as well. I also feel well represented by the little girl bee 🐝 in the Blind Melon video in the 90s. 🥰
Find a Therapist who is gifted and specializes in the gifted online and they will do sessions with you from anywhere in the world.
Also, there is so much useful information out there with the other three mind types that have overlap with gifted traits.
Look for ASD and ADHD information. The highest over lap of traits is with ASD at roughly 30%. The higher the IQ the harder it is to distinguish between ASD and Gifted. The other Neurodivergent people are actually so much easier to relate to and talk to for also being nonlinear thinkers and more direct language. It’s refreshing, and because where I am there are not many others like me, connecting to these people in my community has been such a positive experience.
When you research giftedness you get to see what it actually is and knowing it is biological neurology difference. It’s also equally important to understand exactly what neurotypical people are too. You need both perspectives to understand fully and it’s completely freeing.
lol when you got to creativity, it made me think, maybe that’s why I’ve been obsessed about D&D and role playing game systems lately. And then you specifically mentioned D&D
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My brother is in GT and he has been OBSESSED with DnD. He created a D&D club at our college and is always thinking about this stuff. So cool!
Wow. Lisa in this one video, you succinctly hit the heart of what has been elusive, inarticulatable (a real word?!), invalidated, insatiable, and relentless for decades. Thank you!
Singing, Christmas, German Carols, baking and cooking, just alone in Nature, research on ancestry and research on personality types, decorating my room, dressing up fancy, singing in a choir, collecting river pebbles and wild flowers, press and stick in a book. Drawing, writing poems. So much that is also part of my adult life. Thing is I was happiest alone or in my Mom's or Opa's company. Now I just love the company of my husband and our children day-to-day.
3:25 and piling on lots of activities that aren't challenging enough does not add up to a satisfactory challenge! (please tell me I'm not the only one who's lived this...)
8:22 UGHHHH, I literally incited what my previous coworkers ended up calling “The HR Revolution” because of this exact scenario. It’s soooo relieving to hear this said as having happened to someone else who’s gifted. And yes, the number of times something similar has happened is abundant.
I relate with Trust and Belief. I'm dealing with opposition and it feels as if people don't have my best intention at heart. 💔
Such a precise, warm and to-the-point desciption with examples nailing gifted lives
So glad to hear that you followed your intuition and you were right :)
This has been such a great post. Thank you for sharing! 🙏
You bet :) Thanks for commenting!
Thank you for the great videos. Is there one on what gifted children need to be happy? Also how can gifted children thrive in school? Or similar.... Thank you!
Glad you like them! I'm focusing on gifted adults, so I don't have any videos about gifted kids at the moment :)
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching thank you I discovered you in the gifted children's FB group so sorry for the confusion! Thank you for your reply.
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoachingand a note:
Thank you soooo much for focusing on us gifted adults! 😭🙌🏽
Though not outrageously abundant, there is comparatively a colossal amount of information on gifted children, and very little on gifted adults. And at least 3/4th’s of the gifted children information is academia focused, which is soooo not relevant to me or many other gifted adults. Especially us reaching or beyond our 30’s and who no longer are in any kind of schooling. And honestly, it wasn’t relevant to me even when I was in school.
So thank you for picking up on this need and filling this niche in current information.
I have been furiously diving into gifted research and content for 2 years now - becoming an advocate for identification and realization - and though I’ve found sooooo much information, soooo much of it just doesn’t quite hit the mark. But this is exactly what I’ve been looking for. Every video of yours so far is a banger 🙌🏽🔥
@@devongibson4161 Thanks so much for your kind comments! Glad you found me and this mini community :)
Excellent content.We need more studies and information about this subject.The profoundly gifted adult who don't had "discover" in childhood tend to live a life o chaos and mental illness.We suffer a lot in silence.The research that we have today is insufficient and the lives and talent are wasted.Thanks very much.
So true. The waste of talent is heartbreaking.
Great video! It’s like you’re talking about me!
What resources do you have for gifted teens?
Great content!
Thank you for making these videos! I feel so seen and less crazy knowing that I'm not weird or strange, I'm just gifted! I'm going to try to use this info to provide new challenges and opportunities to create so that I don't feel as stuck in a rut and unhappy in life. Thank you!!
What is your take on the true differences between an intelligent low support needs Autistic vs a gifted individual? They sound eerily similar in a lot of cases
There is definitely some overlap, but I think the difference is in the strength of the "harder to manage" behaviors. A gifted person might have SOME executive function difficulties, but an autistic person would have MORE executive function difficulties that have more of an impact on their daily lives. There are a lot of similar examples (difficulty with social interaction, sensory sensitivities, etc) and in each case, the common behaviors differ in intensity in a gifted person vs an autistic person. It's the whole "spectrum" thing -- people can have certain behaviors to a greater or lesser degree, just like someone can be a little afraid of heights and someone else can be terrified of heights. Your thoughts?
Highly gifted family = group two members of my group are now and then self diagnosing themselves as autistic. They are failing to see that their autistic condition fades when they become a absorbed by a complex life challenge. I wish they could avoid giving themselves a sad diagnosis but it does make sense being gifted is constant work. Good to have this space to be grumpy.😅
Thank you, I can't express my gratitude for absolutlely nailing it!
😊
Ugh. Yes. This. 😩 Thanks for helping us!
When it comes to “high sensitivity”, I think the wording used is inaccurate because the comparative baseline group has filters and limited bandwidth for information processing. It’s an unfair comparison because it’s the view point from a completely different mind type that has significant limitations. Neurotypical people are social hierarchy based first and highly sensitive and over sensitive is a weakness in that social context. When NT people know about the actual physiological differences and how it changes people they are fine with the difference.
Right now people don’t distinguish between the multiple meanings of gifted, ie., talented , to give a thing to another, and the physiological difference that has high neural density and complex interconnection of the nervous system that increase capacity for information processing/acquisition/application, sensory experience in nonlinear ways.
Appreciate you addressing this topic. I do feel like it's a lot to ask of one's family to support the gifted parent by allowing them to be almost completely absent. The polymath struggle is real, but is the solution really to make everyone around you suffer so you can pursue your passions?
I find it interesting that you got to almost completely disappear and be an absent parent from that. I took that portion as with the support of and communication with your family system. For me, mornings while my partner is still in bed is the perfect time for the extra activities that make me happy. Woodworking, sewing etc.
However, occasionally I go deep into these passions and it will be all weekend, every weekend for a while.
The hope is that when someone is marrying a gifted person, whether they are calling it gifted or not, is that they have spent enough time with each other to know what kind of person each is, what drives the other, etc. It shouldn’t be a surprise down the line that someone has deep and multiple passions and they want to devote intense time to it.
I was literally putting the speed up to 1.5 right before you talked about Speed 😂😂
I've started therapy not so long ago and my therapist and the one I've met before, when searching for therapy, suggested that I might be gifted (or autistic, but that seems to be more unlikely judged by them).
I wonder: can you be gifted and absolutely slow in understanding topics that don't interest you?
I can identifying with some aspects I've learned about being gifted, even thefeeling of my mind running at a high speed with SOME things.
But when learning stuff (especially things I'm not interested in) or getting things explained by others, I'm not fast at all. I need time (and maybe visual instructions).
Also, when doing things I'm slower than others. Sometimes bc of perfectionism, sometimes bc I lose the feeling of time... my natural speed seems to be slower than anyones, except when overthinking x'D
They all resonated, so cathartic !
Glad to hear it!
How do I know my son is gifted
I think we are normal human with special quirks that make it a bit harder for the feeling of acceptance. so no box just a littl quirk i like it better like that :)
I think i might be gifted because I recognize so much of what you are talking about in your videos but I also feel like i can't be because I feel like a total failure. I don't know what my "gift" would be and I am bored and angry all the time 😫
A lot of people do believe that giftedness = success, but that's not an automatic correlation. In fact, there is a huge percentage of gifted folks who feel like they've failed. The thing is, success and failure is relative, we're often pushed toward fields that aren't our passion which never works out well, and giftedness isn't so much having a specific talent, but having a brain that works differently than everyone else's. I'd suggest exploring what makes you happy, and what makes you feel good about yourself, then figuring out how to add more of that to your life. Sounds like you need challenge, purpose, and an atmosphere that celebrates your strengths. Good luck!
@@ThriveMindGiftedCoaching thank you for your answer. 🙂
can we really ask for other to understand and trust us ? thats seem a bit far streched and self center? I get it tho. but like it seems alot to ask...
Thank you for the video its very nice to feel understood from time to time. never really took the time to....Lol... anyway ! Have a nice day :)
What happens when you can’t find people who get you?
You may end up lonely, isolated, frustrated and burned out, but there are a few coping strategies you can use. Look for gifted communities online, and search for special-interest groups in your area that might attract other gifted folks (ie: philosophy clubs, gaming groups, literary salons, etc).
@@vc6218 sorry to say but look in the mirror. I think you'll find the answer.
Yup, this
I've basically isolated myself from most people as I find it frustrating how seemingly simple they are when I compare their interests and ways of speaking to that of my own, I'm still not certain if I have Asperger's or not, and I'm not really certain I need/want the label if I do. It's hard to find gifted communities to physically interact with when you get a little older. I'm still looking for ways to cope with this and continue to struggle with depression and anxiety.