I think you hit the jackpot. Such topics are very important nowadays. People are feeling so isolated in urban cities. China just experienced 2 cases of public killings. One by a driver using his car and another was a ex-student using a knife to stab people in his school. All these came from emotional imbalance ands stress. Suicide cases and self harm are on the rise. Such topics will gain lots of interest. I liked what she was saying in this video. There is so much we need to learn about our inner state. We focus so much on the outside that we forgotten about our internal terrain. I listen to motivational clips by Dr Joe Dispneza when i cycle. I try to clear up emotional debris within myself. I also meditate daily. Many a times, people would look at me when they hear these motivational talks because I use a speaker so they can hear too. So it got me thinking, were they thinking what’s wrong with this guy that he needs to listen to motivational videos? But maybe deep inside, they also needed to hear something motivational in their lives.
And parenting too.. related to the mental health of kids. And how to discipline the children with empathy.. how not to trigger them or cause them trauma. Can interview a child psychologist.. or child therapist..
Qi is just amazing, my favorite guest in your interviews. She’s the kind of person who impresses you without even trying. Incredibly smart and logical, she has a way of breaking down complex ideas so they make perfect sense. At the same time, she’s deeply in tune with emotions and can connect with people on a meaningful level. She’s the kind of person you can’t help but admire. Singapore is so lucky to have her. It’s sad that she left New York. I wish I had the chance to meet her if she were still in NYC.
Qi has an amazing wealth of knowledge. I loved her ideas on the check-ins. The frequency of the check-in and the purposes which are clearly defined. This is a very smart way to keep and build emotional bonding. This was my favorite interview you’ve done Max.
Thank you! Holding space is also a privilege. My work is rewarding because I have the privilege of being let into people's deepest moments of joy and suffering.
This woman is such an inspiration I feel so so inspired at such intelligence integrity confidence yet humble human being and extremely smart - we need more people like her
Dear Mr. Chernov, thank you for sharing how wonderful Qi is, especially her teaching of a tool to promote mutual awareness between couples and parents and children. This is one of your best episodes for me, Spasiba.
Pure wisdom. People can resonate when they grow older. But for those who watched this in their years and took the advices, they're blessed and doomed to have happy life.
Thank you very much, Mr. Max 🙏🙇♀️ Liken how she shares with viewers about the 5 minutes to be presence with our loved one. Fabulous ❤❤❤ In crazy uncertain times of the world, this is exactly what i need for my spouse and family.
I was married to my Malaysian Chinese Narcissist for 22 years. After year 4 it was staying together for the child. Over the years she got worse and she formed the daughter into another narcissist just like her. When I realized that I filed for divorce. After we divorced she lied to everyone, telling them I'd gone back to the USA to start a business there. When I went back to her home town of Kualah Pilah (there is a chicken martibak there that is my favorite) I talked to the guy who was my tailor and when he found out I'd divorced her he was amazed. She lied to EVERYONE.
I always feel that I am a student of life. I am here to learn many things about myself and the world around me. Emotional well being is not just about emotions. It’s about us and our core values. It’s about knowing why we are here, what is this meaning called life. We are here to learn, to grow and to become the best version of ourselves, or if not, the worst version. Most of the time, the worst comes out first. But there have been those whose best version came out early in life. Those were the blessed ones. Trading is, in my humble opinion, the most dramatic moments where the worst and best version of a person come to the surface. You come face to face with fear, greed, doubts within you. You are forced to transcend yourself if you wish to succeed. It’s like trying to tame a fire. Either the fire consume you or you manage to subdue and control it and make it your servant for life. You come face to face with your worst enemies from within. It’s one hell of a roller coaster ride. What is the purpose of life? Why am I born? What should I be doing? Most people choose the path of education, career, family, old age and death. This is what we see everyday around us. But is there something more than this usual grind? Maybe there is. But most people don't want to know it. Not interested in it. So they go through a series of trails and errors. And they find themselves asking, why am I doing all this for? This is why this lady’s interview got so many likes. People are questioning, what the hell am I doing?
Thank you for the post. It gave me a great deal of perspective on life and relationships. Can you advise Qi to write a book? I feel her knowledge would help a lot of parents and couples. Lau Pa Sat is a great location! I don’t know how you could talks so long and resist feasting. Love your posts!
Such a wonderful interview about family and relationship, that I think every couple should watch. Basically a forty minute of free couples therapy session, full of valuable lessons. I think the click bait thumb nail is doing a disservice to this interview. The video has so much more to offer.
Simple these past era get married for all the wrong reason like it's just an obligation. They do not know what true love is, and how to love then without such wisdom equals lifetime of misery. Suggy Don't rush but always be open to love and be loved then who knows lightning might strike!. God i miss the hawker food in Singapore!
Sex is the most enjoyable experience human enjoy that costs next to nothing and couples should enjoy at average 15-20 times per month even if you are in your 60s. Being faithful to your partner is the key to full enjoyment of your relationship.
I have no idea why US citizens or American has to do anything with Qi, but this label is everywhere. She is inspiring, insightful, and resilient, and nothing to do with where she comes from.
Pleasure IS derived from scrolling!! It wasn’t wasted at all. Guilt is the issue of concern n not scrolling waste! You derived pleasure from Instagram scrolls!!
It's 100% true, and yet so many of us need to be reminded that focusing on the "facts" and "objectivity" or "logic" doesn't bring us closer to our partners. Focusing on the subjective emotions that arise in our partner helps us connect deeper.
@ I’ve been believing that idea since years ago, back then sometimes i thought its funny to think that way and now I feel like its no longer questionable as it is the right fundamental. Somehow I found this video while digging about the demographic crisis that arises in some countries in our region and the risks to a decade forward. I’m very happy to be linked here as i figured out from other Max videos that you were a former IB, I hope we can do some research in the future. Thank you so much!
Lol..I think this is an enormous advertisement to the interviewee that I ended up thinking this is TMI for the internet..she enchanted our interviewer into a therapy session..at least that was my impression at the parents section (35:30) hehe.
My mom had literally brought her hatred for my dad into the grave, from a loveless marriage, for as long as I can remember since I was a kid. I have enough of PTSD to "last a life time" from the violence and verbal abuse they hurled at each other. So Qi, I, for one, do not hate you for saying that I wished my parents had gotten a divorce.
Thank you Max. But as a middle age man now, I have largely forgiven my parents and understood most of the difficulties and struggles they had in their marriage. So I think I'm quite fortunate in this sense.
Thank you for sharing this and for giving me encouragement on my message. It's a hard message to deliver, especially in traditional family cultures. I'm sorry to hear about your childhood experiences, and bravo to you for making peace with the past.
Thank you, Qi, for the kind words. Unlike my parents' generation, I have a liberal mindset due to my passion in science and technology. I also developed somewhat of a confrontational personality as a form of defense mechanism towards the PTSD I accumulated. Whenever I confronted my parents about the past, I often allowed my emotional outbursts, to mix with as much logical thinking as I could master, in order to be as fair as possible to both parents. The emotional, yet mostly logical, verbalizing of anguish in countless quarrels with my parents over the years had allowed me to look at the dysfunction in my family from multiple perspectives and thus helped me to make peace with a lot of the frustrations and anguish. I think my way of "making peace with the past", if I may say, should not be conventional for most people. It can also be frowned upon as being extremely disrespectful to elderlies in the traditional Chinese family culture.
@@hcbevin3234 Confrontation is one way of reconciling with the incongruence you felt internally. As children, we work really hard to try to figure out when something isn't quite right and we carry that confusion into adulthood. You're right that your method of reconciliation is "disrespectful" to elders in one culture, but your parents' way of nurturing you is also seen as "disrespectful" to a child's right to a loving environment (for example, in the humanistic philosophy framework). There are other ways of reconciling with the past. Many people who experienced adverse conditions growing up have tried EMDR therapy, which works neurobiologically to reprocess past memories. There are also books and documentaries about childhood trauma, which may help you in your continued healing - "The Body Keeps the Score" (Bessel van der Kolk) and "The Wisdom of Trauma" (Gabor Mate) - both are written/produced by medical doctors who focused later in their careers on psychological issues for which there no obvious physical symptoms but which do affect physical health.
9:51 My partner and I once sat for a conversation after our kids were asleep. Knees touching and everything, and rather than talking, we ended up having another kid 😅
Very educational and love her clarity. Not something I'd practise I guess cos what is life without some drama, cry fests, arguments, trials as a errors and make-up fun? Lol And here we are, doomscrolling comments for 20 min .. lol
Where I live most women are not able to think that way because we are not educated that well. Our options are limited to our ability to culture and education that shape our thinking, ability to find solutions, and how curios we are.
advise is good , but both have to be in the same frequency and timing , and that's the most difficult part. Imagine you open up yourself to your spouse for that 2 mins and he/she say " come on i don't time for this now , You didn't mop the floor today !" Haha
You're right, this is not an exercise to do unilaterally. Emotional connection requires safety and if you're sharing but your partner isn't receiving - that's unsafe and doesn't feel good.
I listened to this lady - and as she was talking, i realised ( as I have many times... but do nothing about it) that so MUCH of the "situations" she's referring are linked to "modern life" So, without criticising her methods (they're probably quite a healthy assist to surviving) ...I don't think the "Deal" between Personal Life, Society Life, Employment Life, Government Life is good, healthy or satisfying anymore. The Life "deal" that's been made in the 21C looks like a shit deal - especially for our children.
I'm interested to hear more of your thoughts on this. I agree with your take on modern "life" - and for those who choose to live in this modern social / economic contract, the therapy that I offer are partly coping skills for making the insanity of modern life more bearable and sane.
@@SeeingQi Well Qi... I would need to really think about all the internecine links between State/Society/Corporations and the Individual, for many hours. Let's say, that the first 'victim' in a 21C society is the freedom to have a 'vision' (big or small) and to make it a reality. Similar to realities that were historically available. Such as the freedom and access to the tools that makes it possible: Time, Open Systems set for the benefit of the people; fair and equitable taxation, Law and opportunity. In many modern societies, the People do not come first in the Society that their Forefathers/Mothers built. Small examples: How did we get to a position where Apple etc off-shore their tax liabilities, even though they were "birthed" within the free, pre-educated, stable, financed Society, they took advantage of? (but the People cannot do the same). This makes them "un National" - a rule unto themselves. How is it that "modern life" has much less 'Time' available to families, than the previous generation? How is it that having full domain over your Data, Identity is impossible. How is it, that Political Structures are not fully controlled and monitored by Law- set, over time, by the people - for the people? Ultimately: how is it that a regular citizen feels to be controlled by the State (and many powerful external players) and not by a Constitution that is immutable - until changed by the Will of the People - not the compromised State? And - why do so many, very different/divers people, ALL feel the same dissatisfaction? To have so MANY people, all feeling the same means that external factors have set the tone...not themselves?
U know, I paid to be premium user on TH-cam is to avoid having ads, and definitely i don't appreciate ads within video. I fully underatand having extra earning from ads, but more than 1 throughout 1 video is not cool and sickening.
What can we do when your partner is lazy to put in a little effort into the relationship? Doesn't even bother to check on me at all. Glued to the screen for online shopping. Not even bothered to do or even say anything nice or show affection? Even if you remind her whats going on.... she refuse to improve on it?
Do you want more content about mental health and self-help?
Very much. Topic is equally important.. Mental health content on regular intervals greatly helps.different perspective across cultures.
Pfft, absolutely!
I think you hit the jackpot. Such topics are very important nowadays. People are feeling so isolated in urban cities. China just experienced 2 cases of public killings. One by a driver using his car and another was a ex-student using a knife to stab people in his school. All these came from emotional imbalance ands stress.
Suicide cases and self harm are on the rise. Such topics will gain lots of interest. I liked what she was saying in this video. There is so much we need to learn about our inner state. We focus so much on the outside that we forgotten about our internal terrain.
I listen to motivational clips by Dr Joe Dispneza when i cycle. I try to clear up emotional debris within myself. I also meditate daily. Many a times, people would look at me when they hear these motivational talks because I use a speaker so they can hear too. So it got me thinking, were they thinking what’s wrong with this guy that he needs to listen to motivational videos? But maybe deep inside, they also needed to hear something motivational in their lives.
i am sure there are those who listened to her want to know where to find her. Perhaps you can offer a link, or something?
And parenting too.. related to the mental health of kids. And how to discipline the children with empathy.. how not to trigger them or cause them trauma. Can interview a child psychologist.. or child therapist..
Qi is just amazing, my favorite guest in your interviews. She’s the kind of person who impresses you without even trying. Incredibly smart and logical, she has a way of breaking down complex ideas so they make perfect sense. At the same time, she’s deeply in tune with emotions and can connect with people on a meaningful level. She’s the kind of person you can’t help but admire. Singapore is so lucky to have her. It’s sad that she left New York. I wish I had the chance to meet her if she were still in NYC.
Agreed. She was the reason I subscribed. Pls have her on more times😊
Qi has an amazing wealth of knowledge. I loved her ideas on the check-ins. The frequency of the check-in and the purposes which are clearly defined. This is a very smart way to keep and build emotional bonding.
This was my favorite interview you’ve done Max.
Thank you for watching and for the encouraging words!
So much wisdom, clarity of her own mind and seeing mental pitfalls....
@@youguan-vb9vm Thank you!
Once i see it is her, i straight click in and im not disappointment at all. She is Amazing
she is!
Thank you, Frank! The internet can be a harsh place - I appreciate your support.
She is so good, listening is a skill. Holding space is a skill.
Thank you! Holding space is also a privilege. My work is rewarding because I have the privilege of being let into people's deepest moments of joy and suffering.
This interview is so good!! Pls bring Qi here more regularly， love her since the first vid u did with her 👍
Great job Max! The best interview so far. Insightful and educational. Your guest is very knowledgeable and generous to share. Thank you
Thank you for watching 😊
This is actually really good!! Never heard of Qi before now I am a fan!
Thank you from Malaysia, Max! Thank you for introducing me to Qi - I like her and her advice a lot :) x
This woman is such an inspiration I feel so so inspired at such intelligence integrity confidence yet humble human being and extremely smart - we need more people like her
Dear Mr. Chernov, thank you for sharing how wonderful Qi is, especially her teaching of a tool to promote mutual awareness between couples and parents and children. This is one of your best episodes for me, Spasiba.
Thank you 😊
15:01 one of the best mental health specialist I have listened to.
Thank you, Mahesh
Thanks for your both, very educational interview and looking forward to seeing more with her on this channel.
Pure wisdom. People can resonate when they grow older. But for those who watched this in their years and took the advices, they're blessed and doomed to have happy life.
Absolutely love this video :) Qi is superb. Thank you!
totally love this interview n talk on self awareness n mental health. Yes, more of such self-improvement n well being interviews pls. 🙏
Glad you enjoyed the topic!
Very enlightening. This video is a mini therapy session for everyone, not just about issues with couples. Thanks Max for interviewing her again. =)
What a fascinating video! We need more of this!!!
Thanks for having Qi again. I always enjoyed her sharing
Thank you for watching again, Teddy
This is a really good interview! Thank you Max! So many insights gained; I’m grateful for this! 🌹❤️
Wow Qi is good, really really good. I love the subtle insights into relationships that can make a big difference.
Great conversation - lots of valuable insights
Thank you very much, Mr. Max 🙏🙇♀️
Liken how she shares with viewers about the 5 minutes to be presence with our loved one. Fabulous ❤❤❤
In crazy uncertain times of the world, this is exactly what i need for my spouse and family.
Excellent interview Max and some good takeaways and learnings from Qi.
woah, i didnt expect to be getting so much nuggets from this. Qi seems like an amazing therapist.
I really appreciated this conversation!
Max, this interview is really insightful and a gem of knowledge that all of us can relate to
Thank you Max for bring us another wonderful episode with Qi. 👍
Thank you for watching this second episode!
Excellent interview! I learnt a lot, thank you both 🙏
One of my own favorite interviews now!
Thank you for watching!
That’s a good explanation, i think it brings the sense of empathy
Qi is amazing and she can keep sharing her story here ! 💞
She has so much wisdom! Amazing interview!
Wow Qi is good. More important, she gives practical, useful guidance. Excellent interview!
I think this is the second time she is being your guest, goo to have her back.
yes!
It was a pleasure to be back. Max asks great questions in his interviews!
Such a great interview!
Qi is a very impressive person.
this is quality talk because you brought up the topic i have faced in my life...thanks
Really enjoyed listening to Qi speaking and articulating her views ❤
Excellent advice indeed. Thanks.
This was just beautiful
Thank you for this insightful interview
What a brain-dessert video! Thanks for uploading
I was married to my Malaysian Chinese Narcissist for 22 years. After year 4 it was staying together for the child. Over the years she got worse and she formed the daughter into another narcissist just like her. When I realized that I filed for divorce. After we divorced she lied to everyone, telling them I'd gone back to the USA to start a business there. When I went back to her home town of Kualah Pilah (there is a chicken martibak there that is my favorite) I talked to the guy who was my tailor and when he found out I'd divorced her he was amazed. She lied to EVERYONE.
sounds like the plot of some monster movie from pixar lol
wow.
Loser white men anyways
In the eyes of a Narcissist, only they themselves are right. Happy that you move on because it is never easy to leave a Nar
Makes me wonder which type of a person can a narc live with? Maybe a narc and a narc?
I always feel that I am a student of life. I am here to learn many things about myself and the world around me.
Emotional well being is not just about emotions. It’s about us and our core values. It’s about knowing why we are here, what is this meaning called life. We are here to learn, to grow and to become the best version of ourselves, or if not, the worst version. Most of the time, the worst comes out first. But there have been those whose best version came out early in life. Those were the blessed ones.
Trading is, in my humble opinion, the most dramatic moments where the worst and best version of a person come to the surface. You come face to face with fear, greed, doubts within you. You are forced to transcend yourself if you wish to succeed. It’s like trying to tame a fire. Either the fire consume you or you manage to subdue and control it and make it your servant for life. You come face to face with your worst enemies from within. It’s one hell of a roller coaster ride.
What is the purpose of life? Why am I born? What should I be doing? Most people choose the path of education, career, family, old age and death. This is what we see everyday around us. But is there something more than this usual grind? Maybe there is. But most people don't want to know it. Not interested in it. So they go through a series of trails and errors. And they find themselves asking, why am I doing all this for? This is why this lady’s interview got so many likes. People are questioning, what the hell am I doing?
thanks man . very good lesson i learn today
Great video Max ! 👍
Wow her advice is so very useful.
👌👍🏻👌👌 Thank you for the interview which I got a lot of clear and supportive ideas about marriage and family 🎉 🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for the post. It gave me a great deal of perspective on life and relationships.
Can you advise Qi to write a book? I feel her knowledge would help a lot of parents and couples.
Lau Pa Sat is a great location! I don’t know how you could talks so long and resist feasting.
Love your posts!
Great advices!
Such a wonderful interview about family and relationship, that I think every couple should watch. Basically a forty minute of free couples therapy session, full of valuable lessons. I think the click bait thumb nail is doing a disservice to this interview. The video has so much more to offer.
That’s absolutely what I wanted to say! I’m hesitant sharing, posting it on my FB so that more people would watch and learn, because of the thumbnail.
@@Vanessatpy LOL, the thumbnail is '"sensational"
Thank you. I'm really glad to hear you enjoyed it and I leave it to Max, the TH-cam expert, to pick his thumbnails ;-)
amazing interview. well done
She was definitely the office co-worker friend that was sought to have an ear to lean on.
She is amazing!!
Like common sense, but better. Enjoyed this wise lady so much. Thanks.
Simple these past era get married for all the wrong reason like it's just an obligation. They do not know what true love is, and how to love then without such wisdom equals lifetime of misery. Suggy Don't rush but always be open to love and be loved then who knows lightning might strike!. God i miss the hawker food in Singapore!
Love and marriage have nothing to do with each other. People confuse relationship for love
Sex is the most enjoyable experience human enjoy that costs next to nothing and couples should enjoy at average 15-20 times per month even if you are in your 60s. Being faithful to your partner is the key to full enjoyment of your relationship.
Thank you Max
I have no idea why US citizens or American has to do anything with Qi, but this label is everywhere. She is inspiring, insightful, and resilient, and nothing to do with where she comes from.
Pleasure IS derived from scrolling!! It wasn’t wasted at all. Guilt is the issue of concern n not scrolling waste! You derived pleasure from Instagram scrolls!!
"..partnership is an emotional enterprise" 💯💯💯
It's 100% true, and yet so many of us need to be reminded that focusing on the "facts" and "objectivity" or "logic" doesn't bring us closer to our partners. Focusing on the subjective emotions that arise in our partner helps us connect deeper.
@ I’ve been believing that idea since years ago, back then sometimes i thought its funny to think that way and now I feel like its no longer questionable as it is the right fundamental. Somehow I found this video while digging about the demographic crisis that arises in some countries in our region and the risks to a decade forward. I’m very happy to be linked here as i figured out from other Max videos that you were a former IB, I hope we can do some research in the future. Thank you so much!
Very useful interview
How do I follow Qi? I've become a fan of hers since your last interview with her.
Me too! 😍 instagram.com/seeing_qi
She’s perfect!
Lol..I think this is an enormous advertisement to the interviewee that I ended up thinking this is TMI for the internet..she enchanted our interviewer into a therapy session..at least that was my impression at the parents section (35:30) hehe.
Love it !
Thank you!
very smart person....
A better venue will reduce background noise and the poor lady needn't have her voice drown
She so nice to agree without a drink to quench her throat 😅
No better venue than Lau Pa Sat 💪
@@MaxChernov you sound like a singaporean now lol
My favorite yong tau foo used to be here 🎉
My mom had literally brought her hatred for my dad into the grave, from a loveless marriage,
for as long as I can remember since I was a kid.
I have enough of PTSD to "last a life time" from the violence and verbal abuse they hurled at each other.
So Qi, I, for one, do not hate you for saying that I wished my parents had gotten a divorce.
I’m sorry to hear that! 🙏
Thank you Max. But as a middle age man now, I have largely forgiven my parents and understood most of the difficulties and struggles they had in their marriage. So I think I'm quite fortunate in this sense.
Thank you for sharing this and for giving me encouragement on my message. It's a hard message to deliver, especially in traditional family cultures. I'm sorry to hear about your childhood experiences, and bravo to you for making peace with the past.
Thank you, Qi, for the kind words.
Unlike my parents' generation, I have a liberal mindset due to my passion in science and technology.
I also developed somewhat of a confrontational personality as a form of defense mechanism towards the PTSD I accumulated.
Whenever I confronted my parents about the past, I often allowed my emotional outbursts, to mix with as much logical thinking as I could master, in order to be as fair as possible to both parents.
The emotional, yet mostly logical, verbalizing of anguish in countless quarrels with my parents over the years had allowed me to look at the dysfunction in my family from multiple perspectives and thus helped me to make peace with a lot of the frustrations and anguish.
I think my way of "making peace with the past", if I may say, should not be conventional for most people.
It can also be frowned upon as being extremely disrespectful to elderlies in the traditional Chinese family culture.
@@hcbevin3234 Confrontation is one way of reconciling with the incongruence you felt internally. As children, we work really hard to try to figure out when something isn't quite right and we carry that confusion into adulthood. You're right that your method of reconciliation is "disrespectful" to elders in one culture, but your parents' way of nurturing you is also seen as "disrespectful" to a child's right to a loving environment (for example, in the humanistic philosophy framework). There are other ways of reconciling with the past. Many people who experienced adverse conditions growing up have tried EMDR therapy, which works neurobiologically to reprocess past memories. There are also books and documentaries about childhood trauma, which may help you in your continued healing - "The Body Keeps the Score" (Bessel van der Kolk) and "The Wisdom of Trauma" (Gabor Mate) - both are written/produced by medical doctors who focused later in their careers on psychological issues for which there no obvious physical symptoms but which do affect physical health.
❤ she's gorgeous
I have a partner who is brought up not to expose themselves vulnerable,not to talk abt emotions, to bury bad emo under carpet.
This is unfortunately very common - many of us were raised to be "avoidant" and "keep the peace."
What's her full name? Does she have a TH-cam channel? She's so smart! She's eloquent, articulate, and knows her stuff. She's like a real-life oracle!
Yes! Check out the description below the video
She’s great
hi Max, could you please share what camera and lens you were filming with ? thanks
Now i'm questioning my life...
1:03 easy! just turned off your handphone.
9:51 My partner and I once sat for a conversation after our kids were asleep. Knees touching and everything, and rather than talking, we ended up having another kid 😅
She was point on about staying unhappily married for the kids it is not good for them.
Does this lady have a channel to follow?
of course! check the video description
Very educational and love her clarity. Not something I'd practise I guess cos what is life without some drama, cry fests, arguments, trials as a errors and make-up fun? Lol
And here we are, doomscrolling comments for 20 min .. lol
😂
I also enjoy my share of doomscrolling ... moderation is key :-)
lots of good idea
Damn, did I just get a free therapy session?
Where I live most women are not able to think that way because we are not educated that well. Our options are limited to our ability to culture and education that shape our thinking, ability to find solutions, and how curios we are.
I can't afford atas healing session. I rather used Super Glue. 🎉
Hahahaha❤🎉 be kind and gentle to your good soul!😊
Just buy your friend a bucket of beer for a talk and ,you dont need these therapy
Do what works for you! Having a friend who can listen is actually the best and most basic form of mental health care.
@@SeeingQi, yes, i needed to find such a friend.
From China, studied in US , work in NY, now in Spore. CHINA needs people like you too. 😂
advise is good , but both have to be in the same frequency and timing , and that's the most difficult part. Imagine you open up yourself to your spouse for that 2 mins and he/she say " come on i don't time for this now , You didn't mop the floor today !" Haha
You're right, this is not an exercise to do unilaterally. Emotional connection requires safety and if you're sharing but your partner isn't receiving - that's unsafe and doesn't feel good.
Save my marriage and my life ?
I listened to this lady - and as she was talking, i realised ( as I have many times... but do nothing about it) that so MUCH of the "situations" she's referring are linked to "modern life"
So, without criticising her methods (they're probably quite a healthy assist to surviving) ...I don't think the "Deal" between Personal Life, Society Life, Employment Life, Government Life is good, healthy or satisfying anymore. The Life "deal" that's been made in the 21C looks like a shit deal - especially for our children.
I'm interested to hear more of your thoughts on this. I agree with your take on modern "life" - and for those who choose to live in this modern social / economic contract, the therapy that I offer are partly coping skills for making the insanity of modern life more bearable and sane.
@@SeeingQi Well Qi... I would need to really think about all the internecine links between State/Society/Corporations and the Individual, for many hours.
Let's say, that the first 'victim' in a 21C society is the freedom to have a 'vision' (big or small) and to make it a reality.
Similar to realities that were historically available. Such as the freedom and access to the tools that makes it possible: Time, Open Systems set for the benefit of the people; fair and equitable taxation, Law and opportunity.
In many modern societies, the People do not come first in the Society that their Forefathers/Mothers built.
Small examples:
How did we get to a position where Apple etc off-shore their tax liabilities, even though they were "birthed" within the free, pre-educated, stable, financed Society, they took advantage of? (but the People cannot do the same). This makes them "un National" - a rule unto themselves.
How is it that "modern life" has much less 'Time' available to families, than the previous generation?
How is it that having full domain over your Data, Identity is impossible.
How is it, that Political Structures are not fully controlled and monitored by Law- set, over time, by the people - for the people?
Ultimately: how is it that a regular citizen feels to be controlled by the State (and many powerful external players) and not by a Constitution that is immutable - until changed by the Will of the People - not the compromised State?
And - why do so many, very different/divers people, ALL feel the same dissatisfaction? To have so MANY people, all feeling the same means that external factors have set the tone...not themselves?
She advocates - stay in the marriage or rip off your spouse!
U know, I paid to be premium user on TH-cam is to avoid having ads, and definitely i don't appreciate ads within video.
I fully underatand having extra earning from ads, but more than 1 throughout 1 video is not cool and sickening.
Do you understand that without ads this channel would not exist?
Прикольно Макс, красава😅
What can we do when your partner is lazy to put in a little effort into the relationship? Doesn't even bother to check on me at all. Glued to the screen for online shopping. Not even bothered to do or even say anything nice or show affection? Even if you remind her whats going on.... she refuse to improve on it?
definitely not like someone educated in mainland China. so fluent her English, so articulate
Racist
Pro-tip: if life is not balanced it is not a successful life ⚔️😎⚖️
Does Michael Rosen know you've used his likeness for your advert?
ofc! I sent it to him to approve
@@MaxChernov Oh! Cool!
She simply can't have enough. That make her asking for more. Pick up a queue ticket. If you don't mind the look.
Pleasure is a Good Thing, But it's a Dessert Of Life Not The Meal.
if you're having issue with ur wife, how u release your tension? just releast on another girl lah.. ez pz.
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It's because she is doing Chad and Tyrone on the side. If you are in a sexless relationship, leave now. It's over.
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