When my mom passed away it was from liver failure so she was jaundice, she knew she was going to pass away quickly after it came as a complete surprise - and she started talking about her wishes which I was so grateful for . I was only 34 and had no support . My mom left it up to me but really didn’t want an open casket and I was planning on honoring her request and my preference - the embalming fluid ended up interacting with the jaundice and even with the funeral home bringing in someone else , they couldn’t get her to look natural- she had a green tint. The mortician was mortified - and I started laughing - I firmly believe my mom wanted me to feel certain in my decision and made it crystal clear that it was going to be a closed casket. ❤ 2014 and I miss her so much
Hi, we are so very sorry to hear 😔 you have lost your mum. Lossing our parents is very hard. We both send you our deepest condolences 🌹 it doesn't matter how long ago the loss stays with us forever 💔 Oh yes jaundice is an Embalmers nightmare 😬 it's definitely a very careful chemistry mix we need to do and sometimes it works and we can clear most of that yellow but lots of time the green tinge wins 😬 Thank you for sharing your story, please take good care 💚💚
I found this channel because i walked by the morgue in the hospital i work in, and accidentally saw 3 bodies being transferred into cold storage. I appreciate you two breaking down the process, so that’s it’s a medical process, and not something out of a horror movie. Thank you.
My sister was 25 and her little boys were 5 and 9, died in a fire and the funeral parlor told my mom and dad they couldn't see them. It was a terrible time and we could never really say good bye.
Hi Alphonse, what an incredible sad story, we are so sorry to hear of such a tragic loss 😔 we send our deepest condolences to all of your family. I totally understand not been able to say your last goodbye unable to view the family when it's a sudden loss. I live through a similar thing myself with the sudden loss of my mum. You think everyday that they might just walk back through the door..... because you never got to see them 😔 over the years and especially since working in the industry I have come to realise that it was probably best I didn't see the awful injuries to my mum and I now remember her as she was not what I might have witnessed in her coffin. Sometimes it is just to awful for family to see the traumatic injuries and funerals home may advice against a viewing and as much as this is not what the family want to hear it is sometimes better not to see. Of course all family have rights to see their loved ones no matter what, in cases like that all we can do is advise, guide and support them. I hope this has help a little, take care stay safe Tracy & Trish x
Sometimes, funeral directors and embalmed advise against viewing due to extremely traumatic causes of death, and when advanced decomposition is present. Viewing the remains in those cases can result in extremely severe psychological trauma for the decedent's loved ones
My son's best friend,he was as close as a son to me. He was in a car wreak, and later died. I am still haunted of him in the casket. They didn't do a very good job, he was turning blue. And when put my hand on his chest, I could feel bubble wrap. I lost my mind , right at the funeral home. And they had to hold me up. I will never forget that. And I when I die I see him as he was before it happened. Thats all I can hope for.
When i deal with a death in hospice, I wipe my feet on the rug as I walk out the door, mentally, asking God or Ancestors I leave my pain here allow me to sleep so i can help the family tomorrow when I am called upon.
I am so happy that you do not do much of the SUBSCRIBE AND LIKE anymore. It puts me off in many channels, and I cannot imagine that it indeed influences anyone to subscribe. I prefer a genuine interest like many poeple show to you. Love it.
My son committed suicide, with a gun, at the age of 25. This was 10 years ago. I did not see him after and he was cremated right away so we didnt have any viewings. Even tho my daughter tells me i wouldnt have been able to handle seeing him, i have been kicking myself for 10 years for not. Knowing now, the effort u put into reconstruction, it may have been possible to have a viewing, but maybe not. Anyway all rhis rambling to say i understand the the need to have closure , even when its not advisable. Rock and a hard place situation
What a terrible thing to endure. We are so sorry this happened.🌷 It's hard to say what could have been done or not without seeing him, but please know he would have been looked after well. 💜sending love xx
Very interesting facts - I always wondered where you draw the line between viewable and not viewable... I had no idea you could restore a loved one to the degree that you have! Your compassion is so strong!!! You are an angel, both of you are angels by helping people begin their healing process after losing a loved one!! Embracing death is healthy mentally and is a message that needs to be heard. Keep up the good work!! 😇😇
Dear Tracy & Trish. I left a comment this morning about this very subject, but it was on another of your videos. However, now I've watched this video, I have a better understanding of why I was strongly advised not to view my mum's body. Many thanks. You're angels.
Thank you for answering BOTH my questions. Today is my lucky day! So sad about those poor children but the process is indeed interesting. I didn’t know it could take upwards of 2 weeks. That’s intense. I don’t know how you do it, but not all heroes wear capes as they say 🦸♀️ Thank you again! You two made my day :)
My brother took his own life last year and by the time he was actually brung back up to where we live (he was a long distance truck driver) they said it wasn't possible to view him as he had decomposed too much, in a way I'm pleased I never actually seen him and remember him when he was alive but also sad that I never actually got to say goodbye to him. Him and me were actually born in the same year, he will forever be 31 💔😭
Yes for those who die young will never grow old 💔 we are both very sorry to hear you lost your brother so very young 😔 Sending you lots love your way 💚💚
Thank you for the information on a subject most of don’t know much about. You all make it so relaxed, and viewing this I am not going through a loss which is so different. Keep up the very informative videos.
One of my best friends was murdered he took two 12 gauge shotgun blasts to the face and the side of the head his brother had to identify him from the tattoos on his hand his mom wanted to see him and the doctor said remember him how he was. RIP Andy.
I absolutely love your channel and have been obsessed for days now! I am very passionate about wanting to work in the funeral industry as a funeral director and you have just blown me away with all your insight, information and overall warmth!! It is unfortunate that the schooling isn't readily available for my area. Not sure how I'd be able to study unless I move somewhere else lol.
Hi Meagan, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏 Not sure we're you are in the world but is they a funeral home near by you could maybe call for a chat about your interest and see if there have any information to help you out, could be worth a try. Take good care 😊💚💚
I live in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. To be a licensed funeral director or mortician, you need to take the college course in Toronto (4 hours away from me so I'd have to move). There are a few funeral homes in my area looking for funeral director assistants but again, if I want to be licensed, I would have to take a school course. Definitely something I would have to look into in the future.
Even without a viewing, the human mind tends to go to a very dark place to conjure up something to fill in the blanks for what it was not allowed to see. Many years ago, a young lady I worked with was injured in a head on collision that killed the other 3 occupants in the truck with her. She died a few days later with massive head injuries. I did not visit her in the hospital or go to the funeral, because someone had described her as having a blackened, massively swollen head, and i thought by not visiting her, i could remember her the way she was before the accident. WRONG! I will forever think of her with a giantly swollen black head. After watching your videos, i now realize they probably could have made her look very presentable even though it happened some 40 years ago. My point with this story is that people's minds often fill in the blanks with images that are far worse than the actual injuries of their loved ones that they weren't allowed to see.
Hi, yes we totally agree, us humans are good at imaging the worst. The reason I do this job is because I experienced the same thing when my mum was killed 😞 From what I was told about her head injury I think I imagined them thousand times worse, it's just awful. If I can restore and reconstruct any trauma to the body I will do so the family can have that viewing, as I know how difficult it is if you don't see the person. Thank you for your comments take good care 🤗💚💚
Hi ladies..👋👋 That answered my previous question about Trish’s line of work..also was wondering why & how these videos came about..and personally I think it’s the perfect and best way. Well done & thank you. Well done & good luck with your embalming exams & course Tracey. I do have a few questions well probably a lot if ok? Stay safe T&T 🙏🙏
15 years ago, my cousin was found dead in his vehicle in front of his home. They think he suffered a heart attack. It was several days before his siblings found him. Due to the freezing conditions, and the thawing, the mortician advised against a viewing and recommended cremation, which they did. It is goid to know that they consider both the deceased and the family.
Hi Tonis, oh wow we are sorry to hear that how sad and tragic for you all 💚 When a mortician or funeral directors advise against a viewing it is usually best not to. Take care 😊💚
I'd be interested in your thoughts about this modern day "taboo" around death, everyone that's asked me where I work are mortified (no pun intended lol) to hear that I work in the industry. Where as earlier cultures and civilizations didn't see death as something to be afraid of, I wonder where the disconnect emerged?
Thanks ODie, we kind of touched on this in today's video but would be happy to cover it off some more in future, because the taboo is it's definitely something that fascinates us both as well. It's definitely worth deeper exploration. :)
Hi Tracy, yes it is very different in the USA, the industry here in Australia unfortunately is not regulated, so anyone can set up a funeral home and mortuary...! I got on the job training to become a mortician, have been a mortician for 8 years now. Only in the last 2 years decided to do my embalming studies. I have only 1 semester left then I will be a qualified embalmer. Here in Australia a lot of the morticians are not embalmers. Thanks for your question, take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow hello hello how are you doing amazing I love your videos and also I actually work at two funeral homes and I actually got all my study from online and TH-cam that's how I learned everything I know but no I'm not a licensed embalmer and I am here in the United States the State of Florida which they do require you to be licensed to embalm but you can do removals and other work without being licensed please keep the videos coming
Hi Prince, I only know about the British Royal family. There use a funeral company by the name of Leverton & Sons based in Camden, London. The undertaker and embalmers will go to the royal house hold to do the prep, the body will not go to the funeral home normally. I don't know about other traditions with other countries. Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
my friend took there own life by the time they were found he was a skeeleton pretty much his only anitial identifiers were his clothes and trainers around his bones his head had been found in sepperate room of abandoned building he went too so his sister and mum never said a proper good bye
If you can remember, what was the worst day of your job and what is the worst part of your job?? Also as someone said before when I go I don’t want anyone to wear suits and dress up in nice dresses or what not. I want people to come in clothes that they wear every day and clothes that they are comfortable in and if that means coming in with a bathing suit and sandals on or anything that makes it less stressful for the loved one trying to find the right clothes to wear and if they look good wearing specific kinds of clothes. They have enough to worry about with the grieving and mourning without having to worry about what to wear. I wouldn’t want anyone dressing up at all. Just whatever makes them comfortable. Every day clothes, That’s what I want
Very interesting topic! Thank you beautiful ladies for bringing this up. It was a question I was curious about. I would like to ask, how do you handle a body from a person that committed suicide or died by cyanide poisoning?
What’s the process to do intern as a mortician in Australia. I’m from a third world country, very curious to be in the morgue, but not within my country...
Hi Gavin, we covered this in a few of our vids - in Australia, you need to approach some local funeral directors and often start as a funeral arranger or funeral director’s assistant before you can start to get time in the mortuary. There are also some courses you can do to become a qualified embalmer, but you need to have a mentor in the industry and a mortuary to work out of along with some other requirements. Hope this answers your question, thanks for watching!
Hi ladies just a quick question for you ? why do some people get buried inside the coffin and others in just a sheet such as people that are islam for example ?
Hi there, thanks for your question. It's often just cultural tradition, religious requirements or personal preference. Being buried without a coffin is the most natural way. We did a video on natural burials about a year ago, you might like to have a look. 🙂
I would like to know, who collects the body from where the person has died.. Just say home natural causes and where is it first taken please. Or if died in a nursing home, Do all bodies go to a morgitory (fridge somewhere) thanks also if no viewing is there any preparation done and is any preparation done for cremation if no viewing.
Hi Kym, thank you for your question. We have done many videos on all of theses subject. I just can not pin point each video sorry. A quick rundown is. If a death at home (not suspicious) the body is transferred from the home direct to the funeral homes mortuary (funeral home chosen by family members of the deceased), so say that it's the company I work for, the transfer team would go and do this (and we are 24/7) this is also the same for nursing homes, here in Queensland Australia nursing homes do not have a cold storage room for a resident that has died, so we need to transfer ASAP. Hospitals usually have a morgue, the deceased will be placed in the cold storage until a designated funeral home has been chosen to pick them up. So pick ups from hospital are always in business hours so no need to call the funeral home out in the middle of the night. As for preparing a body if it is a direct Cremation or burial or if it's a full service with or without a viewing I will always prepared the body as if there is to be a viewing no matter what the Final disposition is. I do know and have witnessed it myself that other funeral companies and mortician do not prep bodies no one will see, and just place them in the coffin as is. I could not sleep at night if I was to do this. That deceased is someone loved one, someone's mum, dad, sister, brother, uncle, aunty and friend, treat everyone with kindness, dignity and respect, that's my moto always 😁 Stay safe and healthy ☺️💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank You for taking the time to write that. muchly appreciated. Incredible what You do absolutely incredible, your job is not for Everyone so therefore I am grateful for people like You that can.. Firstly in my opinion be that Brave.. Be Bless 🙏
Such kind words, thank you so much. And thank you your support. We started this channel so people can really know what happens in a funeral home mortuary and to get us all talking about death, so we are not scared and to understand it's part of all of our lives. We should all have a right to know and have choses what to do when our time comes. Stay safe and healthy 😘💚
Hi Karen, it can be very hard, but I have lots of support around me. And we give lots of support to the families too. Thank you for watching, take care 😊💚
Can I ask you? This is a tough one, I almost dont want to ask! But it's an open channel right? You have had so much experience I'd like to open the taboo door, how do you deal (personally) with the care of deceased children? I know how hard it can be from my experience, but what would you care to share with the public,, if anything, again, I'm sorry to ask x
Hi Mark, no problem asking that question, it's sad, but we don't see it as taboo at all. It happens regularly. Happy to talk about it on a up and coming video maybe. I have touched briefly on it before. It has been quite traumatic in some cases. Take care 💚
It can be. You will find lots of Morticians that just don't want to become an embalmer. But lots that do train to become an embalmer. Thanks for your question 😊💚
I’m absolutely fascinated by this job. I’d Love to change career. I currently work in pathology as a scientist but I’ve always wondered how people Get into care of the deceased
My mother-in-law passed on July 19th, and her funeral has been delayed till August 11th (inconsiderate out of town relative causing delay) . She is supposed to have an open casket, but I don't know if that's a good idea. She's embalmed so is this still possible?
So very sorry to hear you have lost your mother-in-law we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹 If she is embalmed you should be able to still have an open casket 💚💚
Thank you for your kind words ladies ❤ I feel at ease now that you said she should still be able to have a viewing and not a closed casket since she will be embalmed 🙏Blessings to you both
Death is a part of life. Having to deal with it for the first time when you have lost a lovedone. Information is power so chanels such as this are,in my view, essential. It should be a celebration of a person's life. I attended the funeral of a family friend. He was from a large family (Irish) and worked in construction. He'd be paid at 1pm on a Friday in cash go straight to the pub go home at closing time and whatever cash was left was his wife's housekeeping money. Eugene was a character he drank in a local club had a bet on the horses and drank a half pint of guinness with a hot toddy chaser. Barstaff kept a kettle behind the bar to make Eugene his toddy. Best way to describe Eugene is to imagine a cheeky teenager in an old man's body driving a disabled electric bike like he was on a harley davidson! His parish priest came out of retirement to officiate at the service. He outlined events and annecdotes from Eugene's life. One such story Eugene received a letter from his bank manager asking him to come in for a chat. Eugene went saw the manager and asked "why do you want to see me?" The manager said "I have called you in because I am concerened about your overdraft" After a short pause Eugene replied "well there's no point is both being concerned. Thanks for your time" and walked out! The service was a rollercoaster of laughter and tears and all the better for being led by someone who cared about Eugene. I'm sure that level of care displayed by Tracy in her work means a great deal to families of those who she has cared for.
Steve, thank you for sharing that wonderful story of a little snap shot of Eugene's life, what an amazing character and lived is life how he wanted to. The bank manager 😂 if only we could all say that to them 😉
@@Areyoudyingtoknow He certainly was a character. His wake lasted a full week held in an upstairs room of the club he drank in booked as a private function. People who knew the family came from Ireland the USA and Canada. They had a horse drawn hearse about 400 mourners walking behind the hrarse. The landlord of a pub he drank in occasionally ran a bikers riding club. On the day of the funeral members rode their bikes and stopped traffic on side streets so the procession could travel from church to cemetery unimpeded. No one asked them to it was just their way of showing respect to a genuinely nice man 😊. Lovely man from a lovely family getting a lovely send off.
I want to see the photos of my friends suicide because I need to. Studies have shown that it can be beneficial. Her husband said no. I believe in Texas, USA. The next of kin can direct for the photos not be released. However, he is agreeable to letting me see the autopsy report. She and I were best friends for over 40 years prior to her death
When my mom passed away it was from liver failure so she was jaundice, she knew she was going to pass away quickly after it came as a complete surprise - and she started talking about her wishes which I was so grateful for . I was only 34 and had no support . My mom left it up to me but really didn’t want an open casket and I was planning on honoring her request and my preference - the embalming fluid ended up interacting with the jaundice and even with the funeral home bringing in someone else , they couldn’t get her to look natural- she had a green tint.
The mortician was mortified - and I started laughing - I firmly believe my mom wanted me to feel certain in my decision and made it crystal clear that it was going to be a closed casket. ❤ 2014 and I miss her so much
Hi, we are so very sorry to hear 😔 you have lost your mum. Lossing our parents is very hard.
We both send you our deepest condolences 🌹 it doesn't matter how long ago the loss stays with us forever 💔
Oh yes jaundice is an Embalmers nightmare 😬 it's definitely a very careful chemistry mix we need to do and sometimes it works and we can clear most of that yellow but lots of time the green tinge wins 😬
Thank you for sharing your story, please take good care 💚💚
You have to inject water slowly and then inject the fluid
I found this channel because i walked by the morgue in the hospital i work in, and accidentally saw 3 bodies being transferred into cold storage. I appreciate you two breaking down the process, so that’s it’s a medical process, and not something out of a horror movie. Thank you.
Thanks for watching 😊
My sister was 25 and her little boys were 5 and 9, died in a fire and the funeral parlor told my mom and dad they couldn't see them. It was a terrible time and we could never really say good bye.
Hi Alphonse, what an incredible sad story, we are so sorry to hear of such a tragic loss 😔 we send our deepest condolences to all of your family. I totally understand not been able to say your last goodbye unable to view the family when it's a sudden loss. I live through a similar thing myself with the sudden loss of my mum. You think everyday that they might just walk back through the door..... because you never got to see them 😔 over the years and especially since working in the industry I have come to realise that it was probably best I didn't see the awful injuries to my mum and I now remember her as she was not what I might have witnessed in her coffin. Sometimes it is just to awful for family to see the traumatic injuries and funerals home may advice against a viewing and as much as this is not what the family want to hear it is sometimes better not to see. Of course all family have rights to see their loved ones no matter what, in cases like that all we can do is advise, guide and support them. I hope this has help a little, take care stay safe Tracy & Trish x
Sometimes, funeral directors and embalmed advise against viewing due to extremely traumatic causes of death, and when advanced decomposition is present. Viewing the remains in those cases can result in extremely severe psychological trauma for the decedent's loved ones
So very sorry for your loss 😢. That's so sad.
I’m watching this one 3 years later in September 2024. I love that you talk to the deceased ❤️.
Thank you 🩷❤️
My son's best friend,he was as close as a son to me. He was in a car wreak, and later died. I am still haunted of him in the casket. They didn't do a very good job, he was turning blue. And when put my hand on his chest, I could feel bubble wrap. I lost my mind , right at the funeral home. And they had to hold me up. I will never forget that. And I when I die I see him as he was before it happened. Thats all I can hope for.
W are so very sorry to hear this 😞 sending you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
Please look after yourself and take good care always ❤️❤️
😮oh no... I'm so sorry
When i deal with a death in hospice, I wipe my feet on the rug as I walk out the door, mentally, asking God or Ancestors I leave my pain here allow me to sleep so i can help the family tomorrow when I am called upon.
That's so special 🙏💚💚
Your respect, compassion, and care for the decedents and their loved ones really shows. God bless you.
Thank you so much. It means a lot for you to say that🙂
@@Areyoudyingtoknow You’re very welcome!
I am so happy that you do not do much of the SUBSCRIBE AND LIKE anymore. It puts me off in many channels, and I cannot imagine that it indeed influences anyone to subscribe. I prefer a genuine interest like many poeple show to you. Love it.
My son committed suicide, with a gun, at the age of 25. This was 10 years ago. I did not see him after and he was cremated right away so we didnt have any viewings. Even tho my daughter tells me i wouldnt have been able to handle seeing him, i have been kicking myself for 10 years for not. Knowing now, the effort u put into reconstruction, it may have been possible to have a viewing, but maybe not. Anyway all rhis rambling to say i understand the the need to have closure , even when its not advisable. Rock and a hard place situation
What a terrible thing to endure. We are so sorry this happened.🌷
It's hard to say what could have been done or not without seeing him, but please know he would have been looked after well. 💜sending love xx
Very interesting facts - I always wondered where you draw the line between viewable and not viewable... I had no idea you could restore a loved one to the degree that you have! Your compassion is so strong!!! You are an angel, both of you are angels by helping people begin their healing process after losing a loved one!! Embracing death is healthy mentally and is a message that needs to be heard. Keep up the good work!! 😇😇
Thank you for your beautiful feedback. It's so nice that there are people who understand what we are trying to do.🙂
Dear Tracy & Trish. I left a comment this morning about this very subject, but it was on another of your videos. However, now I've watched this video, I have a better understanding of why I was strongly advised not to view my mum's body. Many thanks. You're angels.
Thanks Kernow, just answered your other comment 💚
Thank you for answering BOTH my questions. Today is my lucky day! So sad about those poor children but the process is indeed interesting. I didn’t know it could take upwards of 2 weeks. That’s intense. I don’t know how you do it, but not all heroes wear capes as they say 🦸♀️
Thank you again! You two made my day :)
We're just happy you are enjoying our vids 😁thanks for watching Mel B x
My brother took his own life last year and by the time he was actually brung back up to where we live (he was a long distance truck driver) they said it wasn't possible to view him as he had decomposed too much, in a way I'm pleased I never actually seen him and remember him when he was alive but also sad that I never actually got to say goodbye to him. Him and me were actually born in the same year, he will forever be 31 💔😭
Yes for those who die young will never grow old 💔 we are both very sorry to hear you lost your brother so very young 😔
Sending you lots love your way 💚💚
Thank you ladies love your TH-cam it’s easy to watch & educational. Keep working on your book don’t stop 🌹 🌹
Hi L X, thanks for your encouragement and for watching. Stay safe x
Love them. My way of dealing w death is to laugh at it. My humor gets pretty dark but it helps me very much.
Thank you 🤗💚💚
Our family is the same way. 👍🏻
Thank you for your kindness.
So nice of you, thank you 🤗💚💚
Thank you for the information on a subject most of don’t know much about. You all make it so relaxed, and viewing this I am not going through a loss which is so different. Keep up the very informative videos.
Hi Frances, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏 take care 💚💚
I like that you are so open about it. Sometimes it’s very hard to understand what all goes on. ❤
Thank you! 🩷🩷
I’ve told my kids I want a celebration .. bright clothes and my favourite dance songs from my past.
❤️ yes it's about celebration of life. Thank you for sharing ☺️❤️❤️
One of my best friends was murdered he took two 12 gauge shotgun blasts to the face and the side of the head his brother had to identify him from the tattoos on his hand his mom wanted to see him and the doctor said remember him how he was. RIP Andy.
On no we are so very sorry to hear such a traumatic story of your friend Andy 😔 hope you are all doing ok, take good care 💚💚
I absolutely love your channel and have been obsessed for days now! I am very passionate about wanting to work in the funeral industry as a funeral director and you have just blown me away with all your insight, information and overall warmth!! It is unfortunate that the schooling isn't readily available for my area. Not sure how I'd be able to study unless I move somewhere else lol.
Hi Meagan, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏
Not sure we're you are in the world but is they a funeral home near by you could maybe call for a chat about your interest and see if there have any information to help you out, could be worth a try.
Take good care 😊💚💚
I live in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. To be a licensed funeral director or mortician, you need to take the college course in Toronto (4 hours away from me so I'd have to move). There are a few funeral homes in my area looking for funeral director assistants but again, if I want to be licensed, I would have to take a school course. Definitely something I would have to look into in the future.
It's a shame it's so far away. Thanks for sharing take care out in beautiful Canada 💚💚
Wow a lot of interesting facts I did not know. Thank you and keep up the awesome work!
Thanks Davis for watching 🙂
Excellent video, ladies. Greetings from the US. I just found your channel and am really enjoying it.
Hi David Grub, welcome from downunder and thank you for watching ☺️ hope you are safe and well over in The USA
Even without a viewing, the human mind tends to go to a very dark place to conjure up something to fill in the blanks for what it was not allowed to see. Many years ago, a young lady I worked with was injured in a head on collision that killed the other 3 occupants in the truck with her. She died a few days later with massive head injuries. I did not visit her in the hospital or go to the funeral, because someone had described her as having a blackened, massively swollen head, and i thought by not visiting her, i could remember her the way she was before the accident. WRONG! I will forever think of her with a giantly swollen black head. After watching your videos, i now realize they probably could have made her look very presentable even though it happened some 40 years ago. My point with this story is that people's minds often fill in the blanks with images that are far worse than the actual injuries of their loved ones that they weren't allowed to see.
Hi, yes we totally agree, us humans are good at imaging the worst. The reason I do this job is because I experienced the same thing when my mum was killed 😞 From what I was told about her head injury I think I imagined them thousand times worse, it's just awful.
If I can restore and reconstruct any trauma to the body I will do so the family can have that viewing, as I know how difficult it is if you don't see the person.
Thank you for your comments take good care 🤗💚💚
I really look forward to your vlogs! Thanks for sharing your stories and information!
Hi Anne, thank you so much for your support 💚 💚
Hi ladies..👋👋
That answered my previous question about Trish’s line of work..also was wondering why & how these videos came about..and personally I think it’s the perfect and best way. Well done & thank you.
Well done & good luck with your embalming exams & course Tracey.
I do have a few questions well probably a lot if ok?
Stay safe T&T 🙏🙏
Happy for all your questions Dave, that's what we're here for 🙂we will look at some of these in upcoming videos. Thanks!
@@Areyoudyingtoknow thank you 😁
One beautiful lady, Thank you
15 years ago, my cousin was found dead in his vehicle in front of his home. They think he suffered a heart attack. It was several days before his siblings found him. Due to the freezing conditions, and the thawing, the mortician advised against a viewing and recommended cremation, which they did. It is goid to know that they consider both the deceased and the family.
Hi Tonis, oh wow we are sorry to hear that how sad and tragic for you all 💚
When a mortician or funeral directors advise against a viewing it is usually best not to.
Take care 😊💚
How do you recover after such horror. God bless yall
With lots of support from family and friends ❤️🙏❤️
I love your head wrap! Are they for sale?
Hi, no sorry not for sale, I bought mine in a local market 💜🩷
Do a body's eyes open often. And, if they do, why?
No. They don't open but often they are open at the time of death, and we close them. 💜
I'd be interested in your thoughts about this modern day "taboo" around death, everyone that's asked me where I work are mortified (no pun intended lol) to hear that I work in the industry. Where as earlier cultures and civilizations didn't see death as something to be afraid of, I wonder where the disconnect emerged?
Thanks ODie, we kind of touched on this in today's video but would be happy to cover it off some more in future, because the taboo is it's definitely something that fascinates us both as well. It's definitely worth deeper exploration. :)
Thanks for replying 😊
Thank you beautiful lady’s for your Chanel
Thank you so much for your kind words and on going support 🙏💚💚
Congratulations Tracy ❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much Prince 😙💚
God Bless you both.hugs
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Do you study to be a mortician Tracy? Here in the USA I didn’t know we have people that work in the prep room and aren’t embalmers. Fascinating.
Hi Tracy, yes it is very different in the USA, the industry here in Australia unfortunately is not regulated, so anyone can set up a funeral home and mortuary...!
I got on the job training to become a mortician, have been a mortician for 8 years now. Only in the last 2 years decided to do my embalming studies. I have only 1 semester left then I will be a qualified embalmer. Here in Australia a lot of the morticians are not embalmers.
Thanks for your question, take care 😊💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow hello hello how are you doing amazing I love your videos and also I actually work at two funeral homes and I actually got all my study from online and TH-cam that's how I learned everything I know but no I'm not a licensed embalmer and I am here in the United States the State of Florida which they do require you to be licensed to embalm but you can do removals and other work without being licensed please keep the videos coming
Royal 👑 deaths do you have to be a special Mauritanians? Do they get tested differently?
Hi Prince, I only know about the British Royal family. There use a funeral company by the name of Leverton & Sons based in Camden, London. The undertaker and embalmers will go to the royal house hold to do the prep, the body will not go to the funeral home normally. I don't know about other traditions with other countries. Thanks for your question take care 😊💚
my friend took there own life by the time they were found he was a skeeleton pretty much his only anitial identifiers were his clothes and trainers around his bones his head had been found in sepperate room of abandoned building he went too so his sister and mum never said a proper good bye
So sad. We are sorry for your loss Ebony 💜
Love your channel!
Thank you, we really appreciate that you took the time to let us know, Maddison 😁
15:59 16:00 Love this Chanel. I'm a retired mortchain
Thank you so much ❤️❤️
@@Areyoudyingtoknow you're welcome
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If you can remember, what was the worst day of your job and what is the worst part of your job?? Also as someone said before when I go I don’t want anyone to wear suits and dress up in nice dresses or what not. I want people to come in clothes that they wear every day and clothes that they are comfortable in and if that means coming in with a bathing suit and sandals on or anything that makes it less stressful for the loved one trying to find the right clothes to wear and if they look good wearing specific kinds of clothes. They have enough to worry about with the grieving and mourning without having to worry about what to wear. I wouldn’t want anyone dressing up at all. Just whatever makes them comfortable. Every day clothes, That’s what I want
Ladies your brilliant xx
Thank you 😊💚💚
Very interesting topic! Thank you beautiful ladies for bringing this up. It was a question I was curious about.
I would like to ask, how do you handle a body from a person that committed suicide or died by cyanide poisoning?
Hi there, all bodies are cared for the same way with care for individual requests and requirements. 💜
This must be the hardest thing to do and look after “children” 😭😭😭
Hi Prince, yes it can be very difficult 😔 Take care 😊💚
What’s the process to do intern as a mortician in Australia. I’m from a third world country, very curious to be in the morgue, but not within my country...
Hi Gavin, we covered this in a few of our vids - in Australia, you need to approach some local funeral directors and often start as a funeral arranger or funeral director’s assistant before you can start to get time in the mortuary. There are also some courses you can do to become a qualified embalmer, but you need to have a mentor in the industry and a mortuary to work out of along with some other requirements. Hope this answers your question, thanks for watching!
Hi ladies just a quick question for you ? why do some people get buried inside the coffin and others in just a sheet such as people that are islam for example ?
Hi there, thanks for your question. It's often just cultural tradition, religious requirements or personal preference. Being buried without a coffin is the most natural way. We did a video on natural burials about a year ago, you might like to have a look. 🙂
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thanks will take a look at it
I would like to know, who collects the body from where the person has died.. Just say home natural causes and where is it first taken please. Or if died in a nursing home, Do all bodies go to a morgitory (fridge somewhere) thanks also if no viewing is there any preparation done and is any preparation done for cremation if no viewing.
Hi Kym, thank you for your question. We have done many videos on all of theses subject. I just can not pin point each video sorry. A quick rundown is. If a death at home (not suspicious) the body is transferred from the home direct to the funeral homes mortuary (funeral home chosen by family members of the deceased), so say that it's the company I work for, the transfer team would go and do this (and we are 24/7) this is also the same for nursing homes, here in Queensland Australia nursing homes do not have a cold storage room for a resident that has died, so we need to transfer ASAP. Hospitals usually have a morgue, the deceased will be placed in the cold storage until a designated funeral home has been chosen to pick them up. So pick ups from hospital are always in business hours so no need to call the funeral home out in the middle of the night.
As for preparing a body if it is a direct Cremation or burial or if it's a full service with or without a viewing I will always prepared the body as if there is to be a viewing no matter what the Final disposition is. I do know and have witnessed it myself that other funeral companies and mortician do not prep bodies no one will see, and just place them in the coffin as is. I could not sleep at night if I was to do this. That deceased is someone loved one, someone's mum, dad, sister, brother, uncle, aunty and friend, treat everyone with kindness, dignity and respect, that's my moto always 😁
Stay safe and healthy ☺️💚
@@Areyoudyingtoknow Thank You for taking the time to write that. muchly appreciated. Incredible what You do absolutely incredible, your job is not for Everyone so therefore I am grateful for people like You that can.. Firstly in my opinion be that Brave.. Be Bless 🙏
Such kind words, thank you so much. And thank you your support. We started this channel so people can really know what happens in a funeral home mortuary and to get us all talking about death, so we are not scared and to understand it's part of all of our lives. We should all have a right to know and have choses what to do when our time comes.
Stay safe and healthy 😘💚
What happened to the two children?
Hi Michael, unfortunately it was a car accident 😔
Bless your heart, must of been so difficult, to work on the kids ❤❤
Hi Karen, it can be very hard, but I have lots of support around me. And we give lots of support to the families too. Thank you for watching, take care 😊💚
Does Tracy work at a funeral home or Hospital ?
In a funeral home 💚
Can I ask you? This is a tough one, I almost dont want to ask! But it's an open channel right? You have had so much experience I'd like to open the taboo door, how do you deal (personally) with the care of deceased children? I know how hard it can be from my experience, but what would you care to share with the public,, if anything, again, I'm sorry to ask x
Hi Mark, no problem asking that question, it's sad, but we don't see it as taboo at all. It happens regularly. Happy to talk about it on a up and coming video maybe. I have touched briefly on it before. It has been quite traumatic in some cases. Take care 💚
I know there's cultural & religious culturals. Have u ever had a Jewish person in your care? Is it different from a regular funeral?
Thanks for the questions. It might be an interesting topic to answer these in an upcoming vid. Thanks for watching 🙂
Is a mortician and embalmer two separate job positions or is it the morticians roll to carry out both?
It can be. You will find lots of Morticians that just don't want to become an embalmer. But lots that do train to become an embalmer. Thanks for your question 😊💚
Interesting vids. I don't want viewing anyway. Would rather people remember me as I was when alive.
Fair enough, often it's a decision the family make, so . Make sure your family understand your wishes Neal.🙂
I’m absolutely fascinated by this job. I’d Love to change career. I currently work in pathology as a scientist but I’ve always wondered how people
Get into care of the deceased
Just apply to all your local funeral homes. Good luck ❤️❤️
My mother-in-law passed on July 19th, and her funeral has been delayed till August 11th (inconsiderate out of town relative causing delay) . She is supposed to have an open casket, but I don't know if that's a good idea. She's embalmed so is this still possible?
So very sorry to hear you have lost your mother-in-law we both send you our deepest condolences 🌹🌹
If she is embalmed you should be able to still have an open casket 💚💚
Thank you for your kind words ladies ❤ I feel at ease now that you said she should still be able to have a viewing and not a closed casket since she will be embalmed 🙏Blessings to you both
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Death is a part of life. Having to deal with it for the first time when you have lost a lovedone. Information is power so chanels such as this are,in my view, essential. It should be a celebration of a person's life.
I attended the funeral of a family friend. He was from a large family (Irish) and worked in construction. He'd be paid at 1pm on a Friday in cash go straight to the pub go home at closing time and whatever cash was left was his wife's housekeeping money. Eugene was a character he drank in a local club had a bet on the horses and drank a half pint of guinness with a hot toddy chaser. Barstaff kept a kettle behind the bar to make Eugene his toddy. Best way to describe Eugene is to imagine a cheeky teenager in an old man's body driving a disabled electric bike like he was on a harley davidson!
His parish priest came out of retirement to officiate at the service. He outlined events and annecdotes from Eugene's life.
One such story Eugene received a letter from his bank manager asking him to come in for a chat.
Eugene went saw the manager and asked "why do you want to see me?" The manager said "I have called you in because I am concerened about your overdraft"
After a short pause Eugene replied "well there's no point is both being concerned. Thanks for your time" and walked out! The service was a rollercoaster of laughter and tears and all the better for being led by someone who cared about Eugene. I'm sure that level of care displayed by Tracy in her work means a great deal to families of those who she has cared for.
Steve, thank you for sharing that wonderful story of a little snap shot of Eugene's life, what an amazing character and lived is life how he wanted to. The bank manager 😂 if only we could all say that to them 😉
@@Areyoudyingtoknow He certainly was a character. His wake lasted a full week held in an upstairs room of the club he drank in booked as a private function. People who knew the family came from Ireland the USA and Canada. They had a horse drawn hearse about 400 mourners walking behind the hrarse. The landlord of a pub he drank in occasionally ran a bikers riding club. On the day of the funeral members rode their bikes and stopped traffic on side streets so the procession could travel from church to cemetery unimpeded. No one asked them to it was just their way of showing respect to a genuinely nice man 😊. Lovely man from a lovely family getting a lovely send off.
I want to see the photos of my friends suicide because I need to. Studies have shown that it can be beneficial. Her husband said no. I believe in Texas, USA. The next of kin can direct for the photos not be released. However, he is agreeable to letting me see the autopsy report. She and I were best friends for over 40 years prior to her death
We are sorry you went through this.💙thank you for sharing your story, this is not something that happens really in Australia.
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Hello hope you are well Briety 😚💚💚
I love your videos, but I wish you could shorten the opening and get on with the topic.
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There is nothing gross
Thanks for your comment👍
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