The Fearful Avoidant's Dating Checklist (Part 2)

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    In this video I'll talk about the fearful avoidant's dating checklist, or needs in the dating phase of a relationship.
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  • @helenaaugusta9027
    @helenaaugusta9027 3 ปีที่แล้ว +65

    FA dating check list part 2
    1. Am I taking care of within myself the things that I am hoping other people will take care of outside of myself?  (am I taking as good care of my health and myself as I am for others?)
    2. Am I in balance with people pleasing? Am I abandoning myself anywhere because I am people pleasing?
    3. Am I communicating clearly who I am and what I expect from others?
    4. Am I showing up to the relationship to myself if there is one to either communicate about it or set a harder boundary if necessary in order to proceed?
    5. Am I speaking up when I feel frustrated or am I just burying my resentment and it’s gonna come out in a different ways long term?  please practice speaking up and this is a huge part of being successful in the dating phase
    6. Am I questioning my stories and communicating instead of making assumptions ?
    thank you so much Thais! :)

    • @rhenchiea.9938
      @rhenchiea.9938 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Thank you for transcribing 🙏

    • @helenaaugusta9027
      @helenaaugusta9027 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      @@rhenchiea.9938 you’re welcome! I wrote that notes to help me understand it better lol. Glad I could help! ❤️

    • @fredaaa-
      @fredaaa- 3 ปีที่แล้ว

      thanks

  • @Hopeful12421
    @Hopeful12421 3 ปีที่แล้ว +44

    Off topic but girl your make up is ON POINT 🙌🏾

    • @NH-zu7tq
      @NH-zu7tq 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Yes @personaldevelopmentschool Thais is girl crush material for sure!!

  • @andrear6701
    @andrear6701 3 ปีที่แล้ว +10

    This was definitely me, I was so focused on the affection I never had growing up but waswas getting in the relationship that I ignored red flags, forgot about my boundaries and became codependent ..👎🏽

  • @matthewschultz3986
    @matthewschultz3986 3 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    Thank you Guru Gibson 😁!!

  • @pashaniane
    @pashaniane 3 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Meee! I tend to not be able to focus on multiple things at once (relationships, work taking care of myself) that’s why I thrive most when I’m single / early stages of dating

  • @priancavail6520
    @priancavail6520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thank you Guru Gibson!! Can you pls do a video on Red Flags, Denial and moving thru Non-Negotiables for each Attachment Style in the dating and honeymoon stages?

  • @priancavail6520
    @priancavail6520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I referred you to a friend a few days ago and she found you so knowledgeable!👍😘

  • @bernadettemeade7259
    @bernadettemeade7259 3 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Thanks for another fantastic video which really goes into so much detail. As an FA I struggle with high anxiety in relationships with men, emotional closeness and vulnerability. Its ended the last 3 relationships I had as I lost weight, panic attacks, nightmares. Is that a common problem for FA?

    • @katenicholson4152
      @katenicholson4152 ปีที่แล้ว

      Omg, I also had nightmares due to my fear and anxiety!

  • @lisve
    @lisve 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Such great videos! Thank you for posting :)

  • @Sophiaahhaahh
    @Sophiaahhaahh 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You look beautiful Thais :) thanks for another great video xoxox

  • @SpiralJoel
    @SpiralJoel 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Awesome yeah thanks

  • @TatiTalks
    @TatiTalks 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is great, Thais.

  • @lookaroundyou8108
    @lookaroundyou8108 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    How to fit romantic relationship in this hectic lifestyles we r all forced to live, I have to sacrifice something to fit in something new, or else I won't be giving things the quality and I will be extremely tired from trying to fit all
    Yet ppl say don't sacrifice anything, both involved in the relationship have to sacrifice something right?
    How do ppl manage this?

  • @alessandrasalituri2502
    @alessandrasalituri2502 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    So helpful!!!

  • @ceciliaruidiaz2088
    @ceciliaruidiaz2088 3 ปีที่แล้ว

    You are looking soooo god!!!!!!!! 🔥
    I'm happy to see you blooming Thais!

  • @priancavail6520
    @priancavail6520 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Why do many of us ignore the Redflags and STOP signs and stay with someone? I saw many redflags during the dating and honeymoon stages as an AA and stayed with my ex FA. Hindsight I could kick myself and could have avoided so much pain & suffering!!

  • @bobbyjean1581
    @bobbyjean1581 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Thanks for this. I am FA dating another FA. He is 6 years younger than me (me 34, him 28). I keep worrying about whether this age gap is an issue and I don't know if this is me deactivating or it's a real issue? I wouldnt say our lifestyles are vastly different. He has kids and I don't so he actually has more responsibilities than me despite being younger. Also I think of genders were switched noone would even see this age difference as significant. Does anyone have any advice on this?