I remember being 40 and being at a new job, going to the office cafeteria and seeing a female colleague having lunch with another female I didn't know. They were relaxed and leaning back; it didn't seem to be an intensely private conversation. So I paused at their table, smiled and asked, "Mind if I join you?" The woman I knew said, "Uh ... actually yes, we wanted some time to catch up." I smiled and said that was fine, maybe some other time, and went to another table, where I ate alone. I had such a mix of feelings. I felt so excluded, even though I get their need for time alone with a friend. I know I would not have shut someone else out like that.
This video definitely makes a lot of sense to me, especially with my job. While I don't get bullied anymore like I was in High School, there's still people grouping together in their cliques, & I still feel the social rejection. It's just so hard to fathom these supposed adults still have that high school mentality. I like forming bonds with my coworkers from different walks of life & it's just sad that I see others that close off other people.
Thank you I needed to hear that tonight. Struggling with a one sided gal friendship and time to let it go and refocus on me and look for friends that will honor and value me….you are a wise young lady! Hugs💕
I was rejected from 3rd grade. I never healed. Yah once in a while I'd come out of my shell but I was always bullied, I have a sense of people pleasing. I never told my parents that I was ostracized because they moved me to an expensive school. So I just learnt to build a wall and smile to people but NEVER let them in unless it's a loved one.
Minutes before watching your video, I was crying and I was praying to God to help me get through this latest rejection. I can’t quite work out why I’m rejected so often as I think I’ve got really good social skills 😥Your advice picked me up SO MUCH!! I’m going to go back and watch it again and take some notes so I can remind myself of ways I can view my situation from a NEW perspective and how I can LEARN to apply this to new and existing relationships. Thanks again Whitney....this is the video I needed to see!! 💕
Aww Louise. Thank you so much being brave and sharing that. I'm thankful that this video resonated with you and I hope it continues to give you the boost you need. You're doing great! Always here for you.
Louise Banks I’ve experienced this in EVERY WORKPLACE. If an enemy sees anyone talking to me, SHE will convince that person everyone else I talk to to hate/shun/talk crap about me and they all actually take joy in it. It’s sick that ppl can be this cruel and easily manipulated. Painful life I tell ya.
I have it everywhere....I don't have many friends....as I've had a lot of crazy people in my life unfortunately I've had to get rid of a lot of people.....I get ignored a lot and I'm used to it know....it's not nice but I prefer my own company too being hurt all the time....
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I have had my fair share of rejection. In fact, I feel I have been rejected more than the average person. It's been happening since I was in first grade at 5 years of age(I started school early), where a group of kids got together manufactured a story and told our home room teacher, to whom I was a favorite, that I was insulting her behind her back. She took me out in front of the entire class and whipped me. When the Bible teacher came to class the next day she was talking about respecting our elders and asked if there is anyone who doesn't do that. The whole class said my name out loud in unison. And the story was told to the teacher once again and she shook her head in disgust. I stopped taking at school and did not say a word for 3 years because of this trauma. Fast forward to a few years ago, my dad, who lived overseas, stopped talking to me because I wouldn't convince my mom not to sell their house during their divorce process. A few years later my dad passed away with out me being aware that he was even sick. None of my large family on his side send their condolences and I felt really hurt by that. I tried to contact some family members but no one was willing to communicate with me. I sent an email to two of my cousins who were like sisters to me and I ask them to forgive me for whatever it is that I have done. One of them told me that I was accused by my dad of conspiring to swindle him out of money during the sell of the house and that everyone wanted nothing to do with me. I had to explain to her the truth and we now have a good relationship but I lost almost all of my relatives on my dad's side. Six years ago, I got sick and stopped working and spent most of my days in my house. The group of friends that I were like family to me for over a decade distanced themselves to me. They didn't offer any help to my husband who was overwhelmed with taking care of everything or any encouragement to me. I asked them a few days ago what to tell me what I have done in a text message and one of them responded back saying she doesn't want to discuss things any further. Two of them responded saying I must have been too sensitive and they have their own lives to worry about and two have remained silent. About a year ago, my closest friend, who I considered to be my sister, told me she had a dream about me and she can no longer be my friend. I am devastated by all that has been happening and feel like I would never ever amount to anything to anyone besides my mom, my husband and my kids. I don't even want to ever make any attempt at friendship ever again as long as I live. I would actually be fine if I stopped existing at any moment.
Am sorry to hear about your experience! Life can be this hard for some of as! Please don't give up on your self, you mentioned you have kids and a husband you matter to them! Your life matters, God loves you! If you want to talk Melese42@ gmail.com am here for you 😘😘😘
Social rejection hurts because no one can do anything about.... police catches crimes sometimes, parents and teachers could catch bullies sometimes, but you are on your own when facing social rejection.
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I can relate to this entirely because I'm going through an almost identical suitation to this lady. Its funny because even Whitney's suitation at school a similar thing happened to me. Thank you for your perspective on ways with dealing with it. I'll be putting some those into practice I think. I often think my energy is wasted wanting to fit in with these people who ultimately have qualities I don't admire. I need to put my focus on people who deserve me as a friend. Thank you for this video! :) x
I'm a big fan of yours Whitney and I never would have guessed you were introverted. You've always seemed to me like the kind of girl who would do well in school and be popular and well liked by everyone. I never once thought you could feel overwhelmed in any situation...but hearing that you occasionally feel that way, it's so relatable and is inspirational. I'm glad to be able to have you in my life even if it's only one sided through TH-cam. You're an amazing woman, wise beyond your years and I think this video is just what I needed at this time in my life. So thank you. Sure, you might have a thumbs down or two but the people that will take your advice and run with it will not only make you proud but they'll also live a better life because of it. You've done a lot of good.
Thank you for posting this!!! I've been living in the world of social rejection almost all of my life and there's times when it's too much for me to deal with but this video posted really helps me put things in perspective!!
Hi, Whitney I am glad you read the e- mails and messages. It makes my feel good that you do and I understand when you do not respond. Thank you for putting the word out again it makes me know that you care and that is nice to know. :)
At least you had friends before you were stabbed in the back. I didn't even have any close friends growing up to even know how betrayal feels like. Only experience I had was verbal bullying by most of the guys in school. Also never dated, because not even girls wanted me around. Besides music classes.
I feel you Whitney. To the Carolyn who commented below, about co-workers whom did mind you sitting with them are so uncouth that their behavior and lack of manners or social norms is the biggest flag that you do not need anything to do with them and you are flying so much higher than their grade school antics of exclusion which is that of pea brained mean girls who are probably doing it because of their own social insecurities and lack of any personal growth. At work be professional and minimally polite to them and thats it! Find a better class of women to associate with. One does not have to be friends with people just because you work for the same company. And any new hire you see feeling a bit awkward, I believe you will do what is right and invite them to come sit with you.
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
TH-cam has kick my butt over and over, haha Oh my goodness, but the butt kicking was what I needed to hear at the moment. I've realise they made me a better person . I had a recent dream regarding an old partner I used to try so hard to please, but thru retropecting was taking more of me. She told me to stop holding onto her and let her go and that i needed to go on live my truths. Thats when i woke up from the dream time and found this video here. Your words i do cherish are so encouraging. It makes me feel replunish and renew... your are right about so many things... oh my goodness I will dig a lil deeper and heal up old scars. Haha, i feel like such an emotional wreck at times. Kool video. Thanks tk
Hi , You are just too sweet. You just changed my thinking viewpoint . Its just a great video . You have a very good quality of guiding people , you must have been involved in alot of spirituality because when I was at time too sipitual, I always had that kind of clarity of thoughts and directions. Thanks alot
PS, do you mind telling me what microphone you use? I'm in the market for one and am a little overwhelmed at the choices. Your voice was nice and crisp.
why do I bother with some people at work. I want to fell like I belong but all most fell like I don't. some people at work are really nice to me and see how hard I work and make team effort. other times I don't know why I bother to make any social conversations. when I am feeling this way I turn to music. at least I can feel good.
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
don't worrry your passions you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I really want to have fun during my last few months of highschool but yet I feel ostracized. I have great habits and I do ton of things. I always try to do good things. I look good. but shit I feel abandoned
Things will get better. I know it may not seem like it at the moment, but there are a lot of good people out there. And the older you get, the stupider these "cliques" seem. They just become lame, and no mature person feels good about being in them.
I feel so rejected people don’t respond to me like it’s heart they never invite I had a Group that rejected my Group made me cry and feel down they excluded me left out I feel like I’m not as special as I used to be I used to or sweet as I used to be I feel the person I used to be interested is not taking two days to reply people want you have they like to see me fail I deserve it I feel disliked haters lose They are a stab in the back to me
I'll talk to you just message me you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you" Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process. If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I'm trans and as soon as I changed people started to disappear. A year ago the last one went away so I've been all alone all the time since then. The feeling of injustice is overwhelming because I didn't do anything to deserve this. My father refusing to see me, even dogs don't do that so for me, humans are not worth the risk anymore. Strangely I'm happier than I've ever been but 1 or 2 days a month I get hit by loneliness, hard, and it's tonight. And there are no videos for those in my situation, it's always about low esteem, feeling rejected, misunderstood... NO not for me, I don't feel rejected, I am. Anyway, I'm not sure I should do this, but I can't talk to anyone, better than nothing I guess. So Whitney, you don't answer mails, you cancel last minute and no replies here, I sure wouldn't risk a friendship with you and how important do you think we feel when you tell us you won't answer anyone cause it's yourself first. Anyway, good luck but I think you should reach out a little more.
I hate to be mean to you but at least your getting emails, views, likes and dislikes from people. try working hard and all getting no response what so ever that even your closest friends ignore in the process. i too am doing video vlogs, 4 down working on a 5th and the audience is not there. try being ignored on facebook (that's worse) which is why i have more of lurker on fb. and if you ignore this message you just prove my point, & you wont be the 1st to ignore me here on you tube.
cabebet there are people either worst. names some aren't even. names their sentences and besides i have. had this name for 10 years. TH-cam was a different world 10 years. ago b4 it became too Hollywood.
Males will always be a hundred times more ignored by everyone and everything than women.Thats just the gynocentric society we live in.I have had close life long friends drop myself and others over night because it was simply time for different friends/circles.
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I remember being 40 and being at a new job, going to the office cafeteria and seeing a female colleague having lunch with another female I didn't know. They were relaxed and leaning back; it didn't seem to be an intensely private conversation. So I paused at their table, smiled and asked, "Mind if I join you?" The woman I knew said, "Uh ... actually yes, we wanted some time to catch up." I smiled and said that was fine, maybe some other time, and went to another table, where I ate alone. I had such a mix of feelings. I felt so excluded, even though I get their need for time alone with a friend. I know I would not have shut someone else out like that.
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wow, that was incredibly rude!
This video definitely makes a lot of sense to me, especially with my job. While I don't get bullied anymore like I was in High School, there's still people grouping together in their cliques, & I still feel the social rejection. It's just so hard to fathom these supposed adults still have that high school mentality. I like forming bonds with my coworkers from different walks of life & it's just sad that I see others that close off other people.
Wooow. This is my life
Unfortunate high school is within people’s mind! I feel so drained and overwhelmed by ostracism and gossip … it is unbearable!
@@carolinavelluto the "reel world" is highschool 2.0
Thank you I needed to hear that tonight. Struggling with a one sided gal friendship and time to let it go and refocus on me and look for friends that will honor and value me….you are a wise young lady! Hugs💕
I was rejected from 3rd grade. I never healed. Yah once in a while I'd come out of my shell but I was always bullied, I have a sense of people pleasing. I never told my parents that I was ostracized because they moved me to an expensive school. So I just learnt to build a wall and smile to people but NEVER let them in unless it's a loved one.
Minutes before watching your video, I was crying and I was praying to God to help me get through this latest rejection. I can’t quite work out why I’m rejected so often as I think I’ve got really good social skills 😥Your advice picked me up SO MUCH!! I’m going to go back and watch it again and take some notes so I can remind myself of ways I can view my situation from a NEW perspective and how I can LEARN to apply this to new and existing relationships. Thanks again Whitney....this is the video I needed to see!! 💕
Aww Louise. Thank you so much being brave and sharing that. I'm thankful that this video resonated with you and I hope it continues to give you the boost you need. You're doing great! Always here for you.
Louise Banks I’ve experienced this in EVERY WORKPLACE. If an enemy sees anyone talking to me, SHE will convince that person everyone else I talk to to hate/shun/talk crap about me and they all actually take joy in it.
It’s sick that ppl can be this cruel and easily manipulated. Painful life I tell ya.
Social skills are no use if you're ostracized
I have it everywhere....I don't have many friends....as I've had a lot of crazy people in my life unfortunately I've had to get rid of a lot of people.....I get ignored a lot and I'm used to it know....it's not nice but I prefer my own company too being hurt all the time....
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I have had my fair share of rejection. In fact, I feel I have been rejected more than the average person. It's been happening since I was in first grade at 5 years of age(I started school early), where a group of kids got together manufactured a story and told our home room teacher, to whom I was a favorite, that I was insulting her behind her back. She took me out in front of the entire class and whipped me. When the Bible teacher came to class the next day she was talking about respecting our elders and asked if there is anyone who doesn't do that. The whole class said my name out loud in unison. And the story was told to the teacher once again and she shook her head in disgust. I stopped taking at school and did not say a word for 3 years because of this trauma. Fast forward to a few years ago, my dad, who lived overseas, stopped talking to me because I wouldn't convince my mom not to sell their house during their divorce process. A few years later my dad passed away with out me being aware that he was even sick. None of my large family on his side send their condolences and I felt really hurt by that. I tried to contact some family members but no one was willing to communicate with me. I sent an email to two of my cousins who were like sisters to me and I ask them to forgive me for whatever it is that I have done. One of them told me that I was accused by my dad of conspiring to swindle him out of money during the sell of the house and that everyone wanted nothing to do with me. I had to explain to her the truth and we now have a good relationship but I lost almost all of my relatives on my dad's side. Six years ago, I got sick and stopped working and spent most of my days in my house. The group of friends that I were like family to me for over a decade distanced themselves to me. They didn't offer any help to my husband who was overwhelmed with taking care of everything or any encouragement to me. I asked them a few days ago what to tell me what I have done in a text message and one of them responded back saying she doesn't want to discuss things any further. Two of them responded saying I must have been too sensitive and they have their own lives to worry about and two have remained silent. About a year ago, my closest friend, who I considered to be my sister, told me she had a dream about me and she can no longer be my friend. I am devastated by all that has been happening and feel like I would never ever amount to anything to anyone besides my mom, my husband and my kids. I don't even want to ever make any attempt at friendship ever again as long as I live. I would actually be fine if I stopped existing at any moment.
Am sorry to hear about your experience! Life can be this hard for some of as! Please don't give up on your self, you mentioned you have kids and a husband you matter to them! Your life matters, God loves you! If you want to talk Melese42@ gmail.com am here for you 😘😘😘
Social rejection hurts because no one can do anything about.... police catches crimes sometimes, parents and teachers could catch bullies sometimes, but you are on your own when facing social rejection.
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
Thank you for this.. this video was WAY too relatable. It made me feel liberated
Guess people everywhere can be more alike than they think
I can relate to this entirely because I'm going through an almost identical suitation to this lady. Its funny because even Whitney's suitation at school a similar thing happened to me. Thank you for your perspective on ways with dealing with it. I'll be putting some those into practice I think. I often think my energy is wasted wanting to fit in with these people who ultimately have qualities I don't admire. I need to put my focus on people who deserve me as a friend. Thank you for this video! :) x
I'm a big fan of yours Whitney and I never would have guessed you were introverted. You've always seemed to me like the kind of girl who would do well in school and be popular and well liked by everyone. I never once thought you could feel overwhelmed in any situation...but hearing that you occasionally feel that way, it's so relatable and is inspirational. I'm glad to be able to have you in my life even if it's only one sided through TH-cam. You're an amazing woman, wise beyond your years and I think this video is just what I needed at this time in my life. So thank you.
Sure, you might have a thumbs down or two but the people that will take your advice and run with it will not only make you proud but they'll also live a better life because of it. You've done a lot of good.
Thank you for posting this!!! I've been living in the world of social rejection almost all of my life and there's times when it's too much for me to deal with but this video posted really helps me put things in perspective!!
Thank you for this video. This is just something that I struggle with on a daily basis.
Hi, Whitney I am glad you read the e- mails and messages. It makes my feel good that you do and I understand when you do not respond. Thank you for putting the word out again it makes me know that you care and that is nice to know. :)
I'm resonating alright. That was way too relatable. Now i feel the need to fix my life ^.^
At least you had friends before you were stabbed in the back. I didn't even have any close friends growing up to even know how betrayal feels like. Only experience I had was verbal bullying by most of the guys in school. Also never dated, because not even girls wanted me around. Besides music classes.
Fk haters, know that you have supporters!
I feel you Whitney. To the Carolyn who commented below, about co-workers whom did mind you sitting with them are so uncouth that their behavior and lack of manners or social norms is the biggest flag that you do not need anything to do with them and you are flying so much higher than their grade school antics of exclusion which is that of pea brained mean girls who are probably doing it because of their own social insecurities and lack of any personal growth. At work be professional and minimally polite to them and thats it! Find a better class of women to associate with. One does not have to be friends with people just because you work for the same company. And any new hire you see feeling a bit awkward, I believe you will do what is right and invite them to come sit with you.
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
This resonates with me. Thanks for posting.
That's it
No more people pleasing
Thank you so much for making this video. I really needed to hear this right now. Really makes me think.
Ever since I started pre school, the world seemed to treat me very indifferent. Fuck the world, I rock 😎
Yes, you do!
TH-cam has kick my butt over and over, haha Oh my goodness, but the butt kicking was what I needed to hear at the moment. I've realise they made me a better person . I had a recent dream regarding an old partner I used to try so hard to please, but thru retropecting was taking more of me. She told me to stop holding onto her and let her go and that i needed to go on live my truths. Thats when i woke up from the dream time and found this video here. Your words i do cherish are so encouraging. It makes me feel replunish and renew... your are right about so many things... oh my goodness I will dig a lil deeper and heal up old scars. Haha, i feel like such an emotional wreck at times. Kool video. Thanks tk
Hi , You are just too sweet. You just changed my thinking viewpoint . Its just a great video . You have a very good quality of guiding people , you must have been involved in alot of spirituality because when I was at time too sipitual, I always had that kind of clarity of thoughts and directions. Thanks alot
Thanks for watching and sharing!
Thanks so much for sharing these awesome points. really great lessons you've shared.
Thank you for watching! Glad you found it helpful
you are so awesome
Just saw this video, so touched. Love it! Thanks!
Yay, glad you love it!
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Thank you!
Eco-Vegan Gal Uncensored I think it's her voice. Just a beautiful voice.
why do I bother with some people at work. I want to fell like I belong but all most fell like I don't. some people at work are really nice to me and see how hard I work and make team effort. other times I don't know why I bother to make any social conversations. when I am feeling this way I turn to music. at least I can feel good.
Great channel! I enjoyed your video a lot
Thank you so much for watching!
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
Amazing video, thank you. ❤
Thanks for watching!
Social and romantic rejection isn't something that happends to females
don't worrry your passions
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I really want to have fun during my last few months of highschool but yet I feel ostracized. I have great habits and I do ton of things. I always try to do good things. I look good. but shit I feel abandoned
Things will get better. I know it may not seem like it at the moment, but there are a lot of good people out there. And the older you get, the stupider these "cliques" seem. They just become lame, and no mature person feels good about being in them.
What are you talking about I'm like the most infamous person people have ever met 🧐
wow INFJ much?
I feel so rejected people don’t respond to me like it’s heart they never invite I had a Group that rejected my Group made me cry and feel down they excluded me left out I feel like I’m not as special as I used to be I used to or sweet as I used to be I feel the person I used to be interested is not taking two days to reply people want you have they like to see me fail I deserve it I feel disliked haters lose They are a stab in the back to me
I'll talk to you just message me
you can look torwards your interest and find facebook groups or local groups that participate in your inerest you can find friends their but also with the people who are "not like you"
Brene Brown has great teachings on vulnerability and going through rejection and allowing yourself to feel negative emotions Is the key to feeling positive emothions more often. Be a good person and don't let hatred and rejection change you. Because bitterness will destroy your before sadness. get into hip hop become a rapper Hip Hop = Higher and infinite power healing our people . Express yourself through rap write songs about how you feel to release the emotions learn to freestyle yes you can become good at this. Just be patient with yourself just continue to say one word and a phrase and a word that rhymes with the first one. Like this my name is DEXTER they say its not and i'm like WHATEVER lol also I have good artist you can listen to they will let you know there are people they truly care about mankind. I'm pretty sure your mind is thinking that everyone is selfish. This isn't a judgement. These are the Artist th-cam.com/users/AkalaOfficialChannel th-cam.com/channels/kUMk5PAKx2DHRYzfr8i4AA.html Also get into different hobbies like sports or video games become stronger and empower yourself and get better by just doing ( don't over think it or exert extra effort and accept yourself and don't try to improve your flaws) and trust the process.
If you feel that you can't accept yourself now improve yourself to a certain level only and then put yourself into situations in which you don't know the outcome/ vulnerability.
I'm trans and as soon as I changed people started to disappear. A year ago the last one went away so I've been all alone all the time since then. The feeling of injustice is overwhelming because I didn't do anything to deserve this. My father refusing to see me, even dogs don't do that so for me, humans are not worth the risk anymore. Strangely I'm happier than I've ever been but 1 or 2 days a month I get hit by loneliness, hard, and it's tonight. And there are no videos for those in my situation, it's always about low esteem, feeling rejected, misunderstood... NO not for me, I don't feel rejected, I am. Anyway, I'm not sure I should do this, but I can't talk to anyone, better than nothing I guess. So Whitney, you don't answer mails, you cancel last minute and no replies here, I sure wouldn't risk a friendship with you and how important do you think we feel when you tell us you won't answer anyone cause it's yourself first. Anyway, good luck but I think you should reach out a little more.
I hate to be mean to you but at least your getting emails, views, likes and dislikes from people. try working hard and all getting no response what so ever that even your closest friends ignore in the process. i too am doing video vlogs, 4 down working on a 5th and the audience is not there. try being ignored on facebook (that's worse) which is why i have more of lurker on fb. and if you ignore this message you just prove my point, & you wont be the 1st to ignore me here on you tube.
cabebet there are people either worst. names some aren't even. names their sentences and besides i have. had this name for 10 years. TH-cam was a different world 10 years. ago b4 it became too Hollywood.
Males will always be a hundred times more ignored by everyone and everything than women.Thats just the gynocentric society we live in.I have had close life long friends drop myself and others over night because it was simply time for different friends/circles.
I say Dance you say Dunce... :) Im so sick of that song...
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