Coping strategies for the fearful avoidant INFJ
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ก.พ. 2025
- In this video I give a little bit of background about my origins of my fearful avoidant tendencies and coping strategies on how I'm working on becoming a more secure person.
You are lovely and your energy is so calming! Thank you for your suggestions and insight ❤❤❤
Thank you!!
It's very interesting that at a work conference 20 years ago, we all took the Myers-Briggs test. My best friend at work & I were at the INFJ table with two other women. Only four of us. The extroverts were standing room only around their tables, while we sat in silence. 😅 One of my autistic sons is an introvert while the other is very extroverted.
Did you know you were an INFJ before the work conference? I am curious about the difference between extroversion and introversion in Autistic people. I feel like I only know introverted autistic people.
I go into nature with my dogs too, more into places with no humans when I'm overwhelmed. I struggle too to stay in the moment, my mind is always racing here and there.
How compassionate and brave of you to share this. It is only recently that I am trying to deal with this. A widow after many years of marriage when i was largely sheltered, I find myself trying to address this totally alone. Your video is really helpful, knowing that someone else feels the same for a start. And you DO look good today! Thanks for sharing.
Thank you for sharing as well! It is an ever evolving road and I still feel like I have so much to learn about me. I am glad you commented. I recently joined a women's support group and it has been immensely helpful to know some of my struggles are shared. I wish you the best and know there is so much magic and joy out there for you. 🥰
From one FA INFJ to another - thank you! I feel so met in everything you’re sharing in this video. Just found out about my personality type and attachment style which have resulted in me finding likeminded people for - what feels like - the first time ever.
Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏼
I am so glad it helped! I feel like there is a lot of information out there that indicates that FA style is impossible to work on but I disagree!! There is so much to look forward to in growth.
Thais Gibson from the Personal Development School is very helpful to me.
Thank you for sharing. As bizarre as it sounds I feel heard after listening to you. I feel less alone. It's very hard for me to relate to other people. I understand them and interact with them but it feels like they are living in a different world. To hear people like you who I can actually relate to and to hear that person say, hey this can work. You living can work. I feel very emotional to say it but thank you.
It doesn't sound bizarre at all. Seriously spent a lot of time feeling alone and alien..still do sometimes. I think there is a reason..you are meant to continue your growth path and find yourself. Then you will be able to relate in the parts of yourself that feel like not separate from everything..not everyone will be a good fit but you will be ok with that. It's a journey I am still on.any blessings friend 🥰
Thank you for sharing. My avoidant ex had a hard time being vulnerable with her feelings and communicating with me. Any insight. I hope you continue to grow. Take care.
Thanks for watching. I do not know your specific situation so I will just have to respond from my experience and knowledge. I had an avoidant ex. Dismissive avoidant. He very rarely was vulnerable and shared any feelings. Now I understand it is because recognizing feelings feels overwhelming quickly to him and as a child there was no one to help him deal with big feelings. He was left alone most of the time. So generally there was no motivation for sharing his feelings because that would immediately mean he was weak and couldn't or wouldn't be able take care of himself. He never expected anyone to meet his emotional needs. Someone like that projects that perception onto others as well and thinks that no one should ask for someone to meet their emotional needs either. A fearful avoidant experience is more like sometimes our emotional needs were met in childhood and sometimes we were hurt by that same person another time so trusting someone to treat you kindly is very difficult and that's the reason we might not share. Two very different motivations for not sharing emotions but outwardly they can look similar. I will say it's easier to connect with a fearful avoidant than a dismissive one but both are challenging and take enormous amounts of effort and both type of avoidants need to be doing their own healing or it's next to impossible to have a healthy relationship.
@@christinadonnelly781 I appreciate your response. I pray that one day she just develops the awareness of her avoidant attachment style. Take care.
I'm an INFJ who just realized i have Avpd, and somehow instinctively i already started doing the same things as you to make it better. The methods are so similar i got the chills 😨 They really do give result. Start from smallest things, then slowly do more each day.
Thank you so much for sharing this, it's giving me extra affirmation that i'm on the right path 😊
Wishes you continuous improvement and fulfillment, thanks again 🌸
Thank you! I totally relate the the avoidant part. It makes relationships hard. Its weird..maybe not so weird that as an INFJ we intuitively know how to work on ourselves. I am glad you are finding relief..I often forget to tell myself how far I have come but comments like yours also let me know I am on the right path. Thank you very much and keep going!!🥰