Fearful-avoidant (disorganized) “attachment style” is a latecomer to attachment theory. Its authors merely copy-pasted verbatim the DSM 4 diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. So, it is not an attachment style at all! It is a personality disorder. Recently, there has been a proliferation of such sham constructs: “dark empath”, “maladaptive daydreaming”, “shy or quite borderline”, and “recovered narcissist” come to mind.
That would have been my question - why the Borderline Personality disordered person does not rather have an anxious-avoidant/ fearful-avoidant instead of a dismissive-avoidant attachment style. Thank you for clarifying!
I want something clarified. You say that disorganized attachment style is merely Borderline Personality Disorder. But that people with Borderline Personality Disorder have dismissive-avoidant attachment style not disorganized attachment style. I am pretty sure I have disorganized attachment style. And may be a Borderline (I'm a male). I do shift between deactivation and activation.
Sehr geehrter Prof Vaknin, wenn die Kollegen anders gesagt haben, dann sind sie alle falsch. Sie, allerdings, sind genau richtig! . Wie schön, wie Sie alles so einfach und klar in Worten fassen können. Ganz liebe Grüße aus Deutschland!
I totally agree as I’ve had quite a few relationships with borderlines. My question now is, is anxious-preoccupied attachment tied to any personality disorder?
Prof I have a question. Can a narcissist be driven into anxious attachment behaviour/faked emotions by a borderline? In other words can the abandonment anxiety of the narcissist be triggered in such a way? Of course the underlying reason for this behaviour would be self-serving, unlike the real anxious attachment.
Fearful-avoidant (disorganized) “attachment style” is a latecomer to attachment theory. Its authors merely copy-pasted verbatim the DSM 4 diagnostic criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder. So, it is not an attachment style at all! It is a personality disorder. Recently, there has been a proliferation of such sham constructs: “dark empath”, “maladaptive daydreaming”, “shy or quite borderline”, and “recovered narcissist” come to mind.
That would have been my question - why the Borderline Personality disordered person does not rather have an anxious-avoidant/ fearful-avoidant instead of a dismissive-avoidant attachment style.
Thank you for clarifying!
.....and cannot be successfully treated.
I want something clarified. You say that disorganized attachment style is merely Borderline Personality Disorder. But that people with Borderline Personality Disorder have dismissive-avoidant attachment style not disorganized attachment style. I am pretty sure I have disorganized attachment style. And may be a Borderline (I'm a male). I do shift between deactivation and activation.
wow. You've done it again. Thank you
Got my coffee. Now time to delve rrrrright in. Look it up
Prof sam you help so many.
Sehr geehrter Prof Vaknin, wenn die Kollegen anders gesagt haben, dann sind sie alle falsch. Sie, allerdings, sind genau richtig! . Wie schön, wie Sie alles so einfach und klar in Worten fassen können. Ganz liebe Grüße aus Deutschland!
amazing video
Thank you very much❤️❤️❤️
I totally agree as I’ve had quite a few relationships with borderlines. My question now is, is anxious-preoccupied attachment tied to any personality disorder?
I think he said dependent personality disorder
Prof I have a question. Can a narcissist be driven into anxious attachment behaviour/faked emotions by a borderline? In other words can the abandonment anxiety of the narcissist be triggered in such a way? Of course the underlying reason for this behaviour would be self-serving, unlike the real anxious attachment.
Yes. Search the BPD playlist.
All human behavior is self serving.
Spot on Professor, thank you so much
Many thanks Prof.Vaknin 👏👏👏