Just gave my life to Jesus and decided not to have sex before marriage anymore, what would few good advices how to not gave into temptation when times comes
Set clear boundaries at the beginning. That person will either respect them and grow closer to you or it may push them away. Either way, it is a good result.
Flee from sexual temptation (refer to 1 Corinthians 6:18) , this means that you should take measures to ensure that you don't end up in circumstances that make it easy to fall into sexual tempation (for example, it would be foolish to have a date at someone's house while you're alone on a friday night)
You gotta understand that every Christian person may seem Godly up until marriage and then change. I'm not saying you should have trust issues but definitely don't rush it. I don't want to wake up one day and get notified the woman I married wants to be single again because she's bored or there's something more exciting. People can change at any moment. So I'm taking my time because I'm not having sex outside of marriage anyways so I'm not rushing at all.
@@12Messenger discernment will let you be able to see through whatever facade someone is putting up or if they are genuine. You have to pray for discernment and God will give you. Discernment will save you from a case scenario like that.
Some of the best advice you gave in this video is when you discussed not settling and not looking for things that are permissible especially with the Lord’s help. The importance of finding someone that loves the Lord and wants to honor Him in your relationship is going to lead to a great relationship! It is extremely important to never become someone who is not yourself that you lose your convictions as well as your desires. Make sure that you are doing spiritual practices with your future spouse. It is better to only date one person and be committed to them than to date around and miss out on a blessed relationship. Be vocal about your beliefs and if that person loves you, they will work on difficult discussions with you! Don’t fear rejection so much so that you lose who God is calling you to be! Honor the Lord in your life and never forget that God knows not only what your desires are in a future spouse but what you need! Allow the Holy Spirit to renew your mind and heart! Don’t withhold goodness from others. Thank you for also saying that you can experience different people and personalities from having friends! The enemy wants you to think that you’re missing out but it’s more noble to honor God above everything! Be vigilant and keep fighting the good fight! God bless you man!
I guess part of my current problem is related to how much i can fit on my plate. Can i finish my degree maintain my family highschool and university connections, and lock down a job, and study the word and grow in my faith, and commit to a long term relationship, and move out of my parents house because i can't even afford rent without a job. Sometimes i feel like im lining up dominos and i can't tip the first one over as fast as i want to. Some of these solve others, but this just feels like alot and i don't want to add the last straw that might break my back.
Honestly, I think this best can be summed up as: There is no one-size-fits-all solution for everyone. Some advice works for some people but other advice works for other people. Some people may have to date for years before getting married, while others could somehow get married sooner. Some people are also better off getting married much later in life than others who married earlier because the people who married later needed more time to develop better maturity and wisdom.
So I’m a 15 year old teen guy, and I just got into a relationship with a girl, and we are going to be dating next year. Y’all got some tips and advice on how I should keep our relationship God centered and keep it long term so we can get married in the future? We both want that, I just need some tips on how to keep us Christ driven and preparing for marriage in the far future. Love you all, to the glory of God!❤
@@Spuckley. Pretty much, we are in a dating relationship with out the dating. Her parents hate me because I don’t look good in their eyes. So we are just waiting till her parents like me to officially start dating.
@Lonewolf.Games-363 listen a while ago one of my friends had this issue where the mom did not like them for some reason and never did. Dont wait for permission becuase you don't need permission today date, that is your partner/Girlfriends decision to date on the first place and it's not right for parents to keep that for some reason as that's selfish.
@@Lonewolf.Games-363 although I think it would be best to wait. It says in the bible to honer your mother and father, so you should wait as a sign that you respect them and care about this.
1. Everyone, including Christians, constantly say you should at least date for year or two before marriage. I understand that that's a good way to get to know someone but I think people tend to forget that everyone's love story is different (while one couple might get married in 3-4 years another one might get married in 3 months) it's really not right to judge someone just cause they have a different story than you (this is not directed to you, it's for everyone). Plus, in my personal opinion, if a relationship lasted for more than 2-3 yrs without marriage as a guarantee, then I'd honestly seriously wonder, what are your intentions, bro??? 2/3. Even some Christians move in together before marriage and honestly there's no way not to sleep together or to at least "dance with devil" if you do live together before marriage. You don't need to sleep with someone to be sexually compatible. If you're dating... that kind of attraction is usually all ready there. 4. You don't need to date multiple people in order to know who's the one. If you're meant to be, you'll definitely know (or at least I would). 5. The honeymoon phase doesn't last forever. That's just a lie that romance movies and novels brainwash you with. If someone leaves the second you have an argument with them then they never cared for you in the first place or they're just extremely immature. 6. No relationship is easy and you're not always going to feel "in love" with your partner. 7. Most guys wouldn't like it or would get insecure and jealous if their girlfriend had a bunch of close guy friends and it's the same with girls. I would never tell you who you can and can't talk to but if I'm dating you and I start to notice that you're hanging out with and talking to your "best friends" of the opposite sex more than me... I will get jealous and mad.
Is it ok for me (a 9th grader) to date? There’s this girl who I like (she is a good Christian too) and she has made it pretty obvious she likes me, do I pursue her or is it too early
Be honorable to her first and be clear with your intentions. Before you pursue her, continue to be discipled and build a strong foundation what your values are in the Lord! Be careful to not pursue her as a means to just date but to know her as well. Be clear about what your desires are with this relationship. Put the Lord in the relationship and give it to Him before anything! Don’t be afraid to give up the relationship as well if it leads to not honoring God. If you want God to bless it, you must surrender it to Him. Be mindful of your flesh and be honest to God about this! God bless you
In addition, be sure you are on mission vocationally. If you're dating in 9th grade, that's great -- take steps such that you'll be ready for marriage right out of school. Get a job, save intentionally, and get an idea of where you're going. That way it could make sense for her to go with you. I'm 20 and I wish I'd gotten on my feet vocationally five or six years ago. There was a girl I probably could have married, but even if I didn't I would be ready now in ways that, financially, I'm not. Do all to the glory of God. Set boundaries. Do hard things. Honour all; love the brotherhood; fear God; honour the king.
You Honestly i am glad I gave up waiting for marriage and Finally be willing to Sleep with a girl I hate being a Virgin and I wasted years of my life Being absent I wasted time and experience and opportunities Unlong with many other things God has failed me many times and i can't Keep living a life alone. I honestly need a relationship and family
I would commend you to rethink how God works. I have struggled myself in the past with the feeling that God is “failing” us, but really that is giving in to a temptation of thoughts. So long as we surrender to Jesus Christ, we will be led in the path of righteousness. This is often not the path we want (flesh), but instead the path that God hopes we take (spirit) because He loves us. 2 Samuel 22:31 says this: “This God-his way is perfect; the word of the Lord proves true; he is a shield for all those who take refuge in him.” Please give the Lord another chance. He alone is the way of eternal life and joy.
Psalm 103 has helped me recently. I was moved by verse 5. It is a promise, that God will satisfy us. It's an encouragement not to loose hope. 2 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits, 3 who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases, 4 who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy, 5 who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
I know this videos about dating but thfor a lot of people especially men in the modern world Don't really want a date, modern Women and with modern Society culture in life style And economy Men really don't wanna deal with the Modern world in modern society in modern dating Just look up statistics Even for christian man it's not really good idea
My friend, you appear to have a problem on your hands. Not the dating landscape though. Your mentality has been poisoned by the masses! You gotta take a step back homie. It's not nearly as bad as you think it is. Hell, if you stay the course, it could be even BETTER! The negativity will keep you in a place where it's all nothing but awfulness. Try harder my man, we're God's greatest warriors! It'll suck climbing that mountain but it'll be worth it. Heck, I'm climbing it right now. You'll surely find others here and IRL who are too.
@ModelJames13 There's bad people out there. I know. But there's also GOOD people out there. If you search for something, you will find it. Don't be content with just the misfortune you see. It can be a bit before you see the bright side. The longer you take, the harder it'll be though to pull yourself over. Even if you don't believe Christ will provide for you if you try( which he will, he's scary that way,) are you fine with where you're at now? Is it not worth giving it your all to see if you can do better than where you're at? You can't control others, but you can control yourself. Just go try.
Just gave my life to Jesus and decided not to have sex before marriage anymore, what would few good advices how to not gave into temptation when times comes
Set clear boundaries at the beginning. That person will either respect them and grow closer to you or it may push them away. Either way, it is a good result.
Flee from sexual temptation (refer to 1 Corinthians 6:18) , this means that you should take measures to ensure that you don't end up in circumstances that make it easy to fall into sexual tempation (for example, it would be foolish to have a date at someone's house while you're alone on a friday night)
It's really hard to have sex with a woman accidentally. If you stay out of the bedroom you should be pretty safe. 😎
You gotta understand that every Christian person may seem Godly up until marriage and then change. I'm not saying you should have trust issues but definitely don't rush it.
I don't want to wake up one day and get notified the woman I married wants to be single again because she's bored or there's something more exciting. People can change at any moment. So I'm taking my time because I'm not having sex outside of marriage anyways so I'm not rushing at all.
@@12Messenger discernment will let you be able to see through whatever facade someone is putting up or if they are genuine. You have to pray for discernment and God will give you. Discernment will save you from a case scenario like that.
Everything single word you said in this video is true thank you for always opening our eyes to things we fail to understand 💯
Some of the best advice you gave in this video is when you discussed not settling and not looking for things that are permissible especially with the Lord’s help. The importance of finding someone that loves the Lord and wants to honor Him in your relationship is going to lead to a great relationship! It is extremely important to never become someone who is not yourself that you lose your convictions as well as your desires.
Make sure that you are doing spiritual practices with your future spouse. It is better to only date one person and be committed to them than to date around and miss out on a blessed relationship. Be vocal about your beliefs and if that person loves you, they will work on difficult discussions with you! Don’t fear rejection so much so that you lose who God is calling you to be!
Honor the Lord in your life and never forget that God knows not only what your desires are in a future spouse but what you need! Allow the Holy Spirit to renew your mind and heart! Don’t withhold goodness from others.
Thank you for also saying that you can experience different people and personalities from having friends! The enemy wants you to think that you’re missing out but it’s more noble to honor God above everything!
Be vigilant and keep fighting the good fight!
God bless you man!
Thank you for sharing, Aidan.
I guess part of my current problem is related to how much i can fit on my plate. Can i finish my degree maintain my family highschool and university connections, and lock down a job, and study the word and grow in my faith, and commit to a long term relationship, and move out of my parents house because i can't even afford rent without a job. Sometimes i feel like im lining up dominos and i can't tip the first one over as fast as i want to.
Some of these solve others, but this just feels like alot and i don't want to add the last straw that might break my back.
Honestly, I think this best can be summed up as: There is no one-size-fits-all solution for everyone. Some advice works for some people but other advice works for other people. Some people may have to date for years before getting married, while others could somehow get married sooner. Some people are also better off getting married much later in life than others who married earlier because the people who married later needed more time to develop better maturity and wisdom.
God uses people!!! Ugh I love how is on a roll about sexual stuff and dating! ❤❤❤❤
Sooooo many people need to hear this in church on Sundays ! ❤
So I’m a 15 year old teen guy, and I just got into a relationship with a girl, and we are going to be dating next year. Y’all got some tips and advice on how I should keep our relationship God centered and keep it long term so we can get married in the future? We both want that, I just need some tips on how to keep us Christ driven and preparing for marriage in the far future. Love you all, to the glory of God!❤
I just need advice cuz I’m the guy and I know there are things I need and don’t need to do that I am sure I don’t know about.
Wait I'm confused, so you got into a relationship but aren't dating until next year? I'm confused
@@Spuckley. Pretty much, we are in a dating relationship with out the dating. Her parents hate me because I don’t look good in their eyes. So we are just waiting till her parents like me to officially start dating.
@Lonewolf.Games-363 listen a while ago one of my friends had this issue where the mom did not like them for some reason and never did. Dont wait for permission becuase you don't need permission today date, that is your partner/Girlfriends decision to date on the first place and it's not right for parents to keep that for some reason as that's selfish.
@@Lonewolf.Games-363 although I think it would be best to wait. It says in the bible to honer your mother and father, so you should wait as a sign that you respect them and care about this.
What do you put in your hair bro I might grow the flow
1. Everyone, including Christians, constantly say you should at least date for year or two before marriage. I understand that that's a good way to get to know someone but I think people tend to forget that everyone's love story is different (while one couple might get married in 3-4 years another one might get married in 3 months) it's really not right to judge someone just cause they have a different story than you (this is not directed to you, it's for everyone). Plus, in my personal opinion, if a relationship lasted for more than 2-3 yrs without marriage as a guarantee, then I'd honestly seriously wonder, what are your intentions, bro???
2/3. Even some Christians move in together before marriage and honestly there's no way not to sleep together or to at least "dance with devil" if you do live together before marriage. You don't need to sleep with someone to be sexually compatible. If you're dating... that kind of attraction is usually all ready there.
4. You don't need to date multiple people in order to know who's the one. If you're meant to be, you'll definitely know (or at least I would).
5. The honeymoon phase doesn't last forever. That's just a lie that romance movies and novels brainwash you with. If someone leaves the second you have an argument with them then they never cared for you in the first place or they're just extremely immature.
6. No relationship is easy and you're not always going to feel "in love" with your partner.
7. Most guys wouldn't like it or would get insecure and jealous if their girlfriend had a bunch of close guy friends and it's the same with girls. I would never tell you who you can and can't talk to but if I'm dating you and I start to notice that you're hanging out with and talking to your "best friends" of the opposite sex more than me... I will get jealous and mad.
Is it ok for me (a 9th grader) to date? There’s this girl who I like (she is a good Christian too) and she has made it pretty obvious she likes me, do I pursue her or is it too early
Be honorable to her first and be clear with your intentions. Before you pursue her, continue to be discipled and build a strong foundation what your values are in the Lord! Be careful to not pursue her as a means to just date but to know her as well. Be clear about what your desires are with this relationship. Put the Lord in the relationship and give it to Him before anything! Don’t be afraid to give up the relationship as well if it leads to not honoring God. If you want God to bless it, you must surrender it to Him. Be mindful of your flesh and be honest to God about this!
God bless you
@@aidanevans4938 thank you bro 🙏
In addition, be sure you are on mission vocationally. If you're dating in 9th grade, that's great -- take steps such that you'll be ready for marriage right out of school. Get a job, save intentionally, and get an idea of where you're going. That way it could make sense for her to go with you.
I'm 20 and I wish I'd gotten on my feet vocationally five or six years ago. There was a girl I probably could have married, but even if I didn't I would be ready now in ways that, financially, I'm not.
Do all to the glory of God. Set boundaries. Do hard things. Honour all; love the brotherhood; fear God; honour the king.
@@fresholiveoil6490 this is excellent advice
Go for it and do not sin, then it's good. 👍
You Honestly i am glad I gave up waiting for marriage and Finally be willing to Sleep with a girl
I hate being a Virgin and I wasted years of my life Being absent I wasted time and experience and opportunities Unlong with many other things
God has failed me many times and i can't Keep living a life alone. I honestly need a relationship and family
I would commend you to rethink how God works. I have struggled myself in the past with the feeling that God is “failing” us, but really that is giving in to a temptation of thoughts. So long as we surrender to Jesus Christ, we will be led in the path of righteousness. This is often not the path we want (flesh), but instead the path that God hopes we take (spirit) because He loves us.
2 Samuel 22:31 says this: “This God-his way is perfect; the word of the Lord proves true; he is a shield for all those who take refuge in him.”
Please give the Lord another chance. He alone is the way of eternal life and joy.
Why do you comment this on every single video again and again?
@davesyoutubechannel1951 i don't and if i do its is only a few times and only videos That are relative to my comment
Psalm 103 has helped me recently. I was moved by verse 5. It is a promise, that God will satisfy us. It's an encouragement not to loose hope.
2 Bless the Lord, O my soul, and forget not all his benefits,
3 who forgives all your iniquity, who heals all your diseases,
4 who redeems your life from the pit, who crowns you with steadfast love and mercy,
5 who satisfies you with good so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s.
Then do it right and get married first.
I know this videos about dating but thfor a lot of people especially men in the modern world Don't really want a date, modern Women and with modern Society culture in life style And economy
Men really don't wanna deal with the Modern world in modern society in modern dating Just look up statistics
Even for christian man it's not really good idea
My friend, you appear to have a problem on your hands. Not the dating landscape though. Your mentality has been poisoned by the masses! You gotta take a step back homie. It's not nearly as bad as you think it is. Hell, if you stay the course, it could be even BETTER! The negativity will keep you in a place where it's all nothing but awfulness. Try harder my man, we're God's greatest warriors! It'll suck climbing that mountain but it'll be worth it.
Heck, I'm climbing it right now. You'll surely find others here and IRL who are too.
@@DarkDodgers Sadly I can concur that he is correct about modern women. It really is that bad.
@ModelJames13 There's bad people out there. I know. But there's also GOOD people out there. If you search for something, you will find it. Don't be content with just the misfortune you see. It can be a bit before you see the bright side. The longer you take, the harder it'll be though to pull yourself over.
Even if you don't believe Christ will provide for you if you try( which he will, he's scary that way,) are you fine with where you're at now? Is it not worth giving it your all to see if you can do better than where you're at? You can't control others, but you can control yourself. Just go try.
@@DarkDodgers Trying is how I came to this conclusion. 😎