Hey Everyone! Nicole here. If you are interested in doing coaching calls with Dr.B call me 1800-779-4715- I will work you onto his schedule! Have a great day♡
That was the raw truth. It’s difficult to want to feel our true selves in this crazy world we live in now. How imbalanced is our society where the wealthy get a pass and the underprivileged are stamped criminals? Our family history is alcoholism. I’m in recovery and look at alcohol as a toxic house cleaner now. I’ve recently experienced deep trauma of losing my sister with whom I was deeply close. She died of a heart attack after a flight and was sober for 7 years. I’m trying to find myself again. I’m currently caring for my ailing parents and my life is suddenly in limbo. Too rub more salt into my wounded situation, my middle sister is a full blown alcoholic and a toxic narcissist. She wanted to destroy me because I told her who she was. She spread horrid lies and alienated me from a majority of my relatives. Thank you for letting me express what is happening in my life. I don’t know if anyone is even reading this but if you are, thank you. 😢😓
I’ve been trying to pinpoint what caused my addiction and with the help of this video and a bit of google, I think I figured it out. Depression, anxiety and low self esteem from an inferiority complex kind of thing. I grew up with a low socioeconomic status, was constantly teased by peers throughout my school years(specifically about being less than them for being poor and having a single mom or how I looked/what I wore) which continued into adulthood, a problem I dealt with as a kid that I was regularly shamed about and my younger brother being treated differently than me(like choices he was able to make that I wasn’t and certain rules around things that favored him, even up to how much more strict my mom was with me as a teenager than him in regards to things like general freedom and curfew time-6:30 pm when I was 17-I don’t recall him even having a curfew but if he did it was definitely much later than mine). Just so many things that have happened from childhood into adulthood that have formed such a low self esteem. Drugs became my way to deal with it, to shut it out even for a moment. I’ve never been able to really convey how severely inferior I’ve always felt and how bad it’s been for my mental health. I’m so happy I’ve made improvements(one of them getting clean!) and don’t feel as bad as I used to-it’s manageable now. Thank you Dr. B, you’re an amazing person and great doctor.
You we’re believing what people told you who you were. They didn’t give you the space to develop your own path to become who you are. My heart aches and I sympathize with moments in your life. Complete cruelty at a young age stamps you and you believe them. Please continue your journey and discover yourself. Your life is yours and yours alone. Sending you love and light! Become the beautiful butterfly you are. 🙌🏼🤍😊💕🙏🏼🦋
Thanks Dr b, you certainly do address the hard calls of dealing with the here n now, yet as we all get older there is only so much we can do n this seems to be pointing to our underlyin issues that have to be acknowledged and eventually addressed.I think the break down of the importance of family is huge, the lack of wise involvement n protection for our teens etc. Love n understanding n right application of right principles is the ideal, we all stumble forward, best we can, dont quit, make a diff where we can, against all odds things will work together for good in long run
Bang on. Id like to share my story with you. I think it validates many of your points. I believe my education and career would be of great interest to you as I have suffered and do today from addiction.
My husband worked at a halfway house in hawaii and he says 9 times out of 10 there is dual diagnosis with mental health and substance abuse. Which brings me back ti myself. I have been evaluating more times then I can count bc I grew up in the system. Was ripped from my mother at age 1 and spent my formative years being abused in every form. I now do have OCD really bad but I believe bc I HAD ZERO control as a child and now can't function without out. But with that said my son has sensory issues and watching him struggle brought back those memories for me........I just don't think people knew about it back then unfort. I was pegged as a problem child bc I was in foster care..... my mother wasn't in my life at all. Father same.
Hi @Dr b my name is Terri. I'm 56 days clean from methamphetamine and I'm also 12 weeks pregnant. I was wondering if you can do a topic on that?? I have not seen a Dr. I quit on my own which I know is dangerous. I'm gonna try see one within the week. I just been having bad anxiety and feeling ashamed to see one. But I really like that I found this. Your videos give me a sense of hope. I'm scared to relapse and I'm scared just from it all. .
Very good video dr b could you make a video about poly abuse and like What are the most commons benzos Coc opiates harmreduce what to do about crawings etc just some bump i seen all your videos they are so awsome and logic and so much to learn and would be good think was a year a go u did the longer video :))
Poly substance abuse is quite different than poly substance dependence. Remember, if it is not getting in the way of living life to the fullest your still poly addicted, but the DSM characterizes dependency different than abusing said drugs.
I absolutely love your videos! I truly wish I had you as my Dr.! I haven't found one as understanding or with the necessary tools and all around genuine want to help here in Canada unfortunately! Although I am on methadone and otherwise been sober for almost 2 years I have not dealt with the underlined issues etc that always lead back to relapse. I am trying harder then ever before and more hopeful also that I will get through all of this without another relapse especially as I am now lowering off methadone! (From well over 100mls to currently at 53mls) it would be nice to have a Doctor that actually works with me and truly cares as you show you do! To feel even understood by a Doctor and not feel judged and just a number kinda deal! Quick in and out, minimal time and conversations between patient and Doctor etc. Anyways thank you for your videos they help so much truly! 😊
I struggle to achieve complete withdrawal. I did not have clonezapam for 3 years, Covid happened and living with husband, I am back on them. The withdrawal was brutal and unbearable life on standby. I feel hurt because it was my husband who gave clonezapam as his brother is a psychiatrist. Everyone shunned me since then accusing me including my family with no support. It hurts to live with my husband
There was an event that spike my way to addiction ,, I was sober for 12 years and the event happened again and I relapse again and now I don't know what to do , is costing My my life , job , family, and my relationship I feel lost
I often wonder what is the best way to heal from an attachment wound. Having difficulty quitting drinking for several years. 7 years abstinent over 15 years. About the personal narrative you talked about. is it just realistic to say that it is enough to find positives in the false self or is it still judging oneself and diminishing the ego that needs to be reinforced... In reality I simply believe that I am me even when I allow myself to drink moderately and try to believe that I am like everyone else. If it works
Dr. B. How do I install that sense of self in children whose father is addicted and left. They feel abandoned and I'm struggling to show them their father left due to his poor coping vs him choosing drugs over them.
I really appreciated how you explained the distortion of time for those who need development. Would you talk more about this? Or suggest other videos where you have discussed senses of time?
Hey Dr. B whats your position on NAD+ therapy for recovery, I was looking into using this for weaning off benzos to make the transition much smoother....your imput would be much appreciated!
Please please 🙏, do an in depth video of the dangers and effects of mixing alcohol and cocaine. I have just about destroyed my existence with mixing these two things. N I need knowledge to help myself
I believe that I abuse amphetamines is that I was born in 1966. I was diagnosed with bronchial asthma/ cardiac asthma. From the time of age 4 I was prescribed inhalers. I was also given Primatine tablets Broncaide tablets, antihistimines etc ... I've been addicted from the time of early childhood. My brain developed with amphetamines....stimulates
Is f up is like dr b use detox the thing is u can go ”make it” jail , rehab what ever but the crawings etc and that could be for any substanse if u took it long time is f..up the relapse:/ and the stigma and is so complex
Keep it up, meth is #1 on my worst drugs because I love it Soo much and function well chipping it. 20 years since I put a torch to my frozen pond in a pizzo
I am so stupid and I have been through trama. I lost my only child my son my mom dad and husband. I want off th I s crap. After I broke my are in 5 places I am almost 59. Have diabetes hbp high cholesterol. Kidney issues. Liver issues. I was on oxycodone for 4 years then I switch to Suboxone. I cold turkey and didn’t know I would withdrawal. My bp went sky high. I’m on 1.5 a day. Will I have high blood pressure after I cut down to almost nothing. I’m scared to die. My dad was 85 stopped taking his oxycodone didn’t know about withdrawals. They put him on more but it didn’t help. His bp was sky high. Never had hbp. I keep telling them to give him pain pills. They finally did when they dehydrated him and his kidney stopped working. I would give him water. I didn’t care. Then they lied and told me he had lung cancer. That was a lie.
What do I do if my 10 1/2 year old son says he can’t sleep without Mom. He said he wants to be brave and sleep in his own bed and his father and I even encourage it . He has done it sometimes but it doesn’t last and he ends up back in my bed to sleep. Also I have auto immune disease after growing up in a dysfunctional, pill addiction, alcoholic, gambling , fighting parents household. I’m also on anxiety /panic meds for years now.
Your son needs you. Yes he is growing up but he may be slightly developmentally a lil behind. Home should be a safe place so create that for your children. If we arent that safe place for our kids, theyll seek it out from someone elsewhere.
Dr b. I've watch your podcast for over a 9 month span. Is there a way we can speak about. Heantos 4. Are you knowledgeable about this. Please fb pm me I'd love to speak more less privately or we can go about it hear. Being I don't thin addicted people know anything about this. Everyone seems to turn to shit kratom. Or anti diarrhea meds. Subox. So on. Please find time to get back 🙏
Cannot agree more. Like I wrote here before, invest into our children first by investing into pregnant mothers, meaning, give them plenty of time and financial resources for mentally, emotionally and physically healthy pregnancy and then during the first postnatal year. And not make them work until contractions start and then again go back 6 weeks after delivery.
I think we try to find and blame this whole trauma theory but that is flawed thinking. I didn’t use bc I had trauma or bad things in my life. I used bc it feels good and over time I didn’t know I was slowly digging a whole deeper and then I became addicted and had to undig that whole. That’s it. Not a grand explanation. We just like how it feels. I’m not saying childhood events or even adult events of divorce, abuse, losing a child or a job doesn’t cause one to numb out. Sure they can but also people just like to get high to escape the banality of daily routine. That’s it
The 1st 15 minutes are kinda' hard to interpret, too many big words. Just break it down into non-phsycology jargon. Mostly, we are not psychology majors/ students. But the last 15 minutes or so make absolute sense. But, what about genealogy? I'm an alcoholic and all of my family were alcoholics on my mother's side that I know of. So, is alcoholism in my genes or is it not? Is it really a disease or is it just an outside affect from all the things you discussed but not related to biological genealogy? Did I just follow what a witnessed growing up, even though I hated it & swore to never drink as a child? My only Sibling/ older Brother died as an ultimate but indirect result of his alcoholism/ addiction to Benzos which were over prescribed to him since College at the age of 46. He became a type 1 diabetic from acute pancreatitis from the alcohol abuse. Then, after all those years of continuous drinking, use of benzos, his life tore apart by divorce, he just kinda gave up (I assume) and would not take his insulin shots when he was drinking. So he died ultimately from not taking insulin for his diabetes while continuously drinking. Also, my Dad definitely had psychological issues as well, after my mom divorce him, he cracked when we were very young and was never the same. He supported us verbally & when we saw him, but not financially with child support. I also went thru a divorce & was greatly traumatized by it & it seems that myself & my Brother have hadcthe same affect as my dad after being divorced. It really had/has messed us up mentally, not to be the same person as we were. How can I find a psychiatrist / psychologist who would really take the time and understands this type of affect of the trauma in someone's life and work with me to get my life back (I'm in Jax FL, 20 yr retiredVeteran)? Once I became an adult, I realized all of the past trauma/ screwed up childhood that I had been through resulted in blocking most of that stuff out of my memories subconsciously somehow, the good & the bad.
@StayInAlive to be a whole creative human we must be willing to be very honest with ourselves. This means sitting with the programming we grew up in. Feel all the crappy feelings we are trying to run away from by using any substance. It takes that willingness. That awareness that you want health and a new better life. That is the way that worked for me.
Dr. B. I’m a 29 year old male have been fighting my addiction before I was done with puberty. My main drug of choice was benzos until I discovered opiates-which led me into of course becoming an IV fentanyl user. I’ve been clean from the needle for a couple years now, but still have been having trouble getting more than a year clean. I’ve been on suboxone for 2 and a half years. I would do good for a couple months on the subs, end up relapsing and back to square one. Long story short, I have now 9 months without relapsing 9 months with nothing but suboxone and marijuana. But here the past few months I feel nauseous I feel sick all of the time and I can’t help but feel it’s the suboxone making me sick. It can’t be healthy for me to take 8 mgs of suboxone every day for almost 3 years. So I want to get off of them but I can’t. I’ve tried once to go into a rehab to detox from the subs but that detox was even worse than the fentanyl was and it lasts for weeks. So I left the rehab back on the subs. I feel trapped I wake up everyday and have to sit for 45 mins while a pill dissolves under my tongue. Then the rest of the day I feel nauseous and get a lot of headaches. I feel trapped. Yes life isn’t as bad as it was when I was abusing drugs, but I still don’t feel at my full potential
Try lipsol vitamin c mega dosing 20 grams first 3 days while on meds. Thin daily take your vitamin c levels up. It's a proven study put off .by drugs like suboxne witch are another long lasting opiate. Subtex is bullshit when detox can be painless. I've been there 42 years got on oxy from a car wreck in 1999 I've had zero wd symptoms doing mega dosing vitamin c. With dhlp so on. Want more information find me ill can give you help. Only problem is sleep stay away from kratom it's a liver enzyme damage fools errand. Or heantos 4
Hey Everyone! Nicole here. If you are interested in doing coaching calls with Dr.B call me 1800-779-4715- I will work you onto his schedule! Have a great day♡
Hi! How much is it to get an appointment
Same question 🤔, How much???
1:12 dr b I could use some help
Ur very good weel done
That was the raw truth. It’s difficult to want to feel our true selves in this crazy world we live in now.
How imbalanced is our society where the wealthy get a pass and the underprivileged are stamped criminals?
Our family history is alcoholism. I’m in recovery and look at alcohol as a toxic house cleaner now.
I’ve recently experienced deep trauma of losing my sister with whom I was deeply close.
She died of a heart attack after a flight and was sober for 7 years. I’m trying to find myself again.
I’m currently caring for my ailing parents and my life is suddenly in limbo.
Too rub more salt into my wounded situation, my middle sister is a full blown alcoholic and a toxic narcissist.
She wanted to destroy me because I told her who she was. She spread horrid lies and alienated me from a majority of my relatives.
Thank you for letting me express what is happening in my life.
I don’t know if anyone is even reading this but if you are, thank you. 😢😓
Listen up therapists... to this wonderfully articulated explanation, easily adjusted to the specifics of your own substance recovering clients.
This is the one I have never been able to grasp, or maybe pinpoint.
I can only speak awesome things of my childhood, parents, upbringing
I’ve been trying to pinpoint what caused my addiction and with the help of this video and a bit of google, I think I figured it out. Depression, anxiety and low self esteem from an inferiority complex kind of thing. I grew up with a low socioeconomic status, was constantly teased by peers throughout my school years(specifically about being less than them for being poor and having a single mom or how I looked/what I wore) which continued into adulthood, a problem I dealt with as a kid that I was regularly shamed about and my younger brother being treated differently than me(like choices he was able to make that I wasn’t and certain rules around things that favored him, even up to how much more strict my mom was with me as a teenager than him in regards to things like general freedom and curfew time-6:30 pm when I was 17-I don’t recall him even having a curfew but if he did it was definitely much later than mine). Just so many things that have happened from childhood into adulthood that have formed such a low self esteem. Drugs became my way to deal with it, to shut it out even for a moment. I’ve never been able to really convey how severely inferior I’ve always felt and how bad it’s been for my mental health. I’m so happy I’ve made improvements(one of them getting clean!) and don’t feel as bad as I used to-it’s manageable now. Thank you Dr. B, you’re an amazing person and great doctor.
You we’re believing what people told you who you were.
They didn’t give you the space to develop your own path to become who you are.
My heart aches and I sympathize with moments in your life. Complete cruelty at a young age stamps you and you believe them.
Please continue your journey and discover yourself. Your life is yours and yours alone.
Sending you love and light! Become the beautiful butterfly you are.
🙌🏼🤍😊💕🙏🏼🦋
@@AimeeAimee444 I give myself Space and nobody rules my roost 43 still getting there slowly
@@KnightShift006 You go Micheal! 🙌🏼🤍😁✊🏼
guy is actually a genius! wisdom, experience, delivery and RESONANCE. thank you
I don't remember most of my life from childhood..I remember bits and pieces
I love that youtube is better than any dr Ive ever had... Love ur channel
Lol ty 🙏
Thanks Dr b, you certainly do address the hard calls of dealing with the here n now, yet as we all get older there is only so much we can do n this seems to be pointing to our underlyin issues that have to be acknowledged and eventually addressed.I think the break down of the importance of family is huge, the lack of wise involvement n protection for our teens etc. Love n understanding n right application of right principles is the ideal, we all stumble forward, best we can, dont quit, make a diff where we can, against all odds things will work together for good in long run
You are a wealth of knowledge Dr. B. Thank you for taking the time to share
I really like watching your videos and learning.....
I could empathize with almost everything you explained here. This was immensly illuminating thank you.
🙏
Bang on. Id like to share my story with you. I think it validates many of your points. I believe my education and career would be of great interest to you as I have suffered and do today from addiction.
My husband worked at a halfway house in hawaii and he says 9 times out of 10 there is dual diagnosis with mental health and substance abuse. Which brings me back ti myself. I have been evaluating more times then I can count bc I grew up in the system. Was ripped from my mother at age 1 and spent my formative years being abused in every form. I now do have OCD really bad but I believe bc I HAD ZERO control as a child and now can't function without out. But with that said my son has sensory issues and watching him struggle brought back those memories for me........I just don't think people knew about it back then unfort. I was pegged as a problem child bc I was in foster care..... my mother wasn't in my life at all. Father same.
Ty for sharing
Thank you for taking the time to do this deep dive!
Thank you dr.
Hi @Dr b my name is Terri. I'm 56 days clean from methamphetamine and I'm also 12 weeks pregnant. I was wondering if you can do a topic on that?? I have not seen a Dr. I quit on my own which I know is dangerous. I'm gonna try see one within the week. I just been having bad anxiety and feeling ashamed to see one. But I really like that I found this. Your videos give me a sense of hope. I'm scared to relapse and I'm scared just from it all. .
I've been kicking for seven straight days the cocaine I've been taking was laced within all I didn't know it
I like the way you talk … good job
🙏
Very good video dr b could you make a video about poly abuse and like What are the most commons benzos Coc opiates harmreduce what to do about crawings etc just some bump i seen all your videos they are so awsome and logic and so much to learn and would be good think was a year a go u did the longer video :))
Working on it.
Poly substance abuse is quite different than poly substance dependence. Remember, if it is not getting in the way of living life to the fullest your still poly addicted, but the DSM characterizes dependency different than abusing said drugs.
Ppp
I love these new videos of yours, much❤️, John A.
Thank you for feedback. I am always down to teach about drug mechanics and here to do so but I want to get much more out there.
another great video
I absolutely love your videos! I truly wish I had you as my Dr.! I haven't found one as understanding or with the necessary tools and all around genuine want to help here in Canada unfortunately! Although I am on methadone and otherwise been sober for almost 2 years I have not dealt with the underlined issues etc that always lead back to relapse. I am trying harder then ever before and more hopeful also that I will get through all of this without another relapse especially as I am now lowering off methadone! (From well over 100mls to currently at 53mls) it would be nice to have a Doctor that actually works with me and truly cares as you show you do! To feel even understood by a Doctor and not feel judged and just a number kinda deal! Quick in and out, minimal time and conversations between patient and Doctor etc. Anyways thank you for your videos they help so much truly! 😊
🙏🙏🙏
Dr. B I just adore you ..
🙏
I struggle to achieve complete withdrawal. I did not have clonezapam for 3 years, Covid happened and living with husband, I am back on them. The withdrawal was brutal and unbearable life on standby.
I feel hurt because it was my husband who gave clonezapam as his brother is a psychiatrist. Everyone shunned me since then accusing me including my family with no support. It hurts to live with my husband
I never thought I would be a drug addict and it sucks
Ty for sharing
Dr b . What do you think about micro dosing from benzodiazepines???
Taper?
@@DrBAddictionRecovery yes . To taper off.10 years off alprazolam use ?
There was an event that spike my way to addiction ,, I was sober for 12 years and the event happened again and I relapse again and now I don't know what to do , is costing My my life , job , family, and my relationship I feel lost
It’s hard to give meaningful feedback here but are there good professionals available?
I often wonder what is the best way to heal from an attachment wound. Having difficulty quitting drinking for several years. 7 years abstinent over 15 years. About the personal narrative you talked about. is it just realistic to say that it is enough to find positives in the false self or is it still judging oneself and diminishing the ego that needs to be reinforced... In reality I simply believe that I am me even when I allow myself to drink moderately and try to believe that I am like everyone else. If it works
Dr. B. How do I install that sense of self in children whose father is addicted and left. They feel abandoned and I'm struggling to show them their father left due to his poor coping vs him choosing drugs over them.
In short, become mom and dad and touch kiss hold and love. It will be tough. There will be ups and downs. And it is a damn marathon. Hope that helps
Serious poetic prose 😮 in the object relation analyses
Good enough mother-Winnicott
I really appreciated how you explained the distortion of time for those who need development. Would you talk more about this? Or suggest other videos where you have discussed senses of time?
Hey Dr. B whats your position on NAD+ therapy for recovery, I was looking into using this for weaning off benzos to make the transition much smoother....your imput would be much appreciated!
Hi Dr B. , I live in Canada and I am trying to get off benzo and lyrica ? Can you help? Thx
Yes
Please please 🙏, do an in depth video of the dangers and effects of mixing alcohol and cocaine. I have just about destroyed my existence with mixing these two things. N I need knowledge to help myself
I think I have one up but I’ll do one again
I believe that I abuse amphetamines is that I was born in 1966. I was diagnosed with bronchial asthma/ cardiac asthma. From the time of age 4 I was prescribed inhalers. I was also given Primatine tablets Broncaide tablets, antihistimines etc ... I've been addicted from the time of early childhood. My brain developed with amphetamines....stimulates
I’m currently trying to find answers after 15 years clean off meth relapsed and still doing this knowing the outcome
Is f up is like dr b use detox the thing is u can go ”make it” jail , rehab what ever but the crawings etc and that could be for any substanse if u took it long time is f..up the relapse:/ and the stigma and is so complex
The nature of the beast. Knowledge, vigilance, good professional help, and love thyself! Peace and good luck.
Keep it up, meth is #1 on my worst drugs because I love it Soo much and function well chipping it. 20 years since I put a torch to my frozen pond in a pizzo
@@pinealeye8578what frozen pond? Lol..
I am so stupid and I have been through trama. I lost my only child my son my mom dad and husband. I want off th I s crap. After I broke my are in 5 places I am almost 59. Have diabetes hbp high cholesterol. Kidney issues. Liver issues. I was on oxycodone for 4 years then I switch to Suboxone. I cold turkey and didn’t know I would withdrawal. My bp went sky high. I’m on 1.5 a day. Will I have high blood pressure after I cut down to almost nothing. I’m scared to die. My dad was 85 stopped taking his oxycodone didn’t know about withdrawals. They put him on more but it didn’t help. His bp was sky high. Never had hbp. I keep telling them to give him pain pills. They finally did when they dehydrated him and his kidney stopped working. I would give him water. I didn’t care. Then they lied and told me he had lung cancer. That was a lie.
Saw your other comments and concerned for you. Are you ok? It's been a while
What do I do if my 10 1/2 year old son says he can’t sleep without Mom. He said he wants to be brave and sleep in his own bed and his father and I even encourage it . He has done it sometimes but it doesn’t last and he ends up back in my bed to sleep. Also I have auto immune disease after growing up in a dysfunctional, pill addiction, alcoholic, gambling , fighting parents household. I’m also on anxiety /panic meds for years now.
Your son needs you. Yes he is growing up but he may be slightly developmentally a lil behind. Home should be a safe place so create that for your children. If we arent that safe place for our kids, theyll seek it out from someone elsewhere.
@@BunnyTree Thank you 🙏🏻🥰 I will continue to do that .
Can you heal narcissism?
If addiction, is essentially a "Trauma Response", why do so many refer to it as a disease??
It can be both
@@DrBAddictionRecovery Please elaborate and/or do a video on the topic.
Dr b. I've watch your podcast for over a 9 month span. Is there a way we can speak about. Heantos 4. Are you knowledgeable about this. Please fb pm me I'd love to speak more less privately or we can go about it hear. Being I don't thin addicted people know anything about this. Everyone seems to turn to shit kratom. Or anti diarrhea meds. Subox. So on. Please find time to get back 🙏
So everyone who does drugs has issues in life?
Can’t always say everyone and I would say most. Also, I would describe it as a conflict with the relation to self and/or others.
Cannot agree more. Like I wrote here before, invest into our children first by investing into pregnant mothers, meaning, give them plenty of time and financial resources for mentally, emotionally and physically healthy pregnancy and then during the first postnatal year. And not make them work until contractions start and then again go back 6 weeks after delivery.
I think we try to find and blame this whole trauma theory but that is flawed thinking. I didn’t use bc I had trauma or bad things in my life. I used bc it feels good and over time I didn’t know I was slowly digging a whole deeper and then I became addicted and had to undig that whole. That’s it. Not a grand explanation. We just like how it feels. I’m not saying childhood events or even adult events of divorce, abuse, losing a child or a job doesn’t cause one to numb out. Sure they can but also people just like to get high to escape the banality of daily routine. That’s it
So in other words , it was my f up childhood ??
Lol
The 1st 15 minutes are kinda' hard to interpret, too many big words. Just break it down into non-phsycology jargon. Mostly, we are not psychology majors/ students. But the last 15 minutes or so make absolute sense. But, what about genealogy? I'm an alcoholic and all of my family were alcoholics on my mother's side that I know of.
So, is alcoholism in my genes or is it not? Is it really a disease or is it just an outside affect from all the things you discussed but not related to biological genealogy?
Did I just follow what a witnessed growing up, even though I hated it & swore to never drink as a child?
My only Sibling/ older Brother died as an ultimate but indirect result of his alcoholism/ addiction to Benzos which were over prescribed to him since College at the age of 46. He became a type 1 diabetic from acute pancreatitis from the alcohol abuse. Then, after all those years of continuous drinking, use of benzos, his life tore apart by divorce, he just kinda gave up (I assume) and would not take his insulin shots when he was drinking. So he died ultimately from not taking insulin for his diabetes while continuously drinking. Also, my Dad definitely had psychological issues as well, after my mom divorce him, he cracked when we were very young and was never the same. He supported us verbally & when we saw him, but not financially with child support.
I also went thru a divorce & was greatly traumatized by it & it seems that myself & my Brother have hadcthe same affect as my dad after being divorced.
It really had/has messed us up mentally, not to be the same person as we were. How can I find a psychiatrist / psychologist who would really take the time and understands this type of affect of the trauma in someone's life and work with me to get my life back (I'm in Jax FL, 20 yr retiredVeteran)? Once I became an adult, I realized all of the past trauma/ screwed up childhood that I had been through resulted in blocking most of that stuff out of my memories subconsciously somehow, the good & the bad.
Got it. I’ll start working on this and improve and thx
@@DrBAddictionRecovery i think your videos made total sense, wasnt complex
Gabor is fundamentally wrong in his conclusions as to the “why” of addiction.
Basically what you are saying is addiction is caused by attachment trauma.
@StayInAlive I have read his work. Don't entirely agree with him.
@StayInAlive he is so open ended. Addiction is complicated. Check out Put The Shovel Down on TH-cam. She is very grounded in here approach.
@StayInAlive neither
I think it's about buried shame and confusion from either childhood or other trauma.
@StayInAlive to be a whole creative human we must be willing to be very honest with ourselves. This means sitting with the programming we grew up in. Feel all the crappy feelings we are trying to run away from by using any substance. It takes that willingness. That awareness that you want health and a new better life. That is the way that worked for me.
@StayInAlive Good advice
Say confabulate more….
ok
Dr. B. I’m a 29 year old male have been fighting my addiction before I was done with puberty. My main drug of choice was benzos until I discovered opiates-which led me into of course becoming an IV fentanyl user. I’ve been clean from the needle for a couple years now, but still have been having trouble getting more than a year clean. I’ve been on suboxone for 2 and a half years. I would do good for a couple months on the subs, end up relapsing and back to square one. Long story short, I have now 9 months without relapsing 9 months with nothing but suboxone and marijuana. But here the past few months I feel nauseous I feel sick all of the time and I can’t help but feel it’s the suboxone making me sick. It can’t be healthy for me to take 8 mgs of suboxone every day for almost 3 years. So I want to get off of them but I can’t. I’ve tried once to go into a rehab to detox from the subs but that detox was even worse than the fentanyl was and it lasts for weeks. So I left the rehab back on the subs. I feel trapped I wake up everyday and have to sit for 45 mins while a pill dissolves under my tongue. Then the rest of the day I feel nauseous and get a lot of headaches. I feel trapped. Yes life isn’t as bad as it was when I was abusing drugs, but I still don’t feel at my full potential
1. You need to shift the way you see this. Hard. 2. The marijuana . About all I can add here. If able and in California come see me as a patient.
Try lipsol vitamin c mega dosing 20 grams first 3 days while on meds. Thin daily take your vitamin c levels up. It's a proven study put off .by drugs like suboxne witch are another long lasting opiate. Subtex is bullshit when detox can be painless. I've been there 42 years got on oxy from a car wreck in 1999 I've had zero wd symptoms doing mega dosing vitamin c. With dhlp so on. Want more information find me ill can give you help. Only problem is sleep stay away from kratom it's a liver enzyme damage fools errand. Or heantos 4