How to Avoid A Life You Regret (a conversation with Thomas Brag from
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Timestamps:
0:52 - How do you know you're making the right decisions?
6:14 - Grammarly
7:22 - Finding the Middle Way
20:31 - Going Full Circle
25:25 - Fine-Tuning Your Intuition
Yes Theory: Seek Discomfort
Nathaniel: Sits on tree root 🛋️
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yeah, i`m uncomfortable for him
This comment made me laugh.
@@pattyray4841 haha thanks Patty
He made sure Brag is comfortable clap clap clap
This was such an awesome conversation, the way that we make decisions as human is so complex so to explore that with you was super insightful. Excited for more great conversations to come 🙏
I like Thomas. What he says rings true about Yes Theory. It's why I thought there was an element of ingenuity to Yes Theory, and why I quit watching. Maybe they will figure out a better way.
Iam watching this video only becoz of thomas ❤😘😘
Yes, please!
Thomas is relatable, love it when he sits down and talks. Like his 100 days of mediation video
Thomas and Nathaniel. The 2 favorite you tubers I haven't met yet. I met Amar and Matt, but not you guys. I hope we can meet. 🤗
"I just want to know that this decision is my own"
This is gold.
A reminder to all
Kyllä vain !
Definitely something I'm going to ask myself more often
This collab is exactly what i needed but never expected
Absolutely
Yeah me too!
SO MUCH!
Seriously
omg so true
Dude, you should totally start a podcast. this conversation was soo good and so evolving. Thanks a lot man :)
100% please start a Podcast
That’s a great idea 🥰
Please!!
Agreee !
Yes i thought the same when the video started
*5 things to quit right now:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself*
Number 3 hits hard
@@MkwiiProTT indeed
1 thing to quit right now:
1. Oversimplifying self improvement
6. Leaving spam comments in bold on larger channels in your genre to gain publicity
@@MkwiiProTT definitely true
Watching 2 fellow introverts and overthinkers having a thoughtful and insightful conversation is a true joy of life
Same!
Nathaniel Drew's content is self-improvement with actual honesty, intimacy, grounded-ness, life, and humanness. This is why I think this channel shines the most among the rest. It leaves a bad taste in my mouth lumping his "content" as "self-improvement" but, yeah, his messages and stories are just something very special in the age of content that pushes people like they're supposed to be machines and make them feel guilty for some flaw they have in their productivity and subjective shortcomings. Nathaniel Drew just reminds me again that I'm human, and that the things I'm looking for often aren't what they seem to be, and that the real things may be just right in front of me the whole time. Nathaniel Drew is a meditation. Nathaniel Drew is a friend. Not a channel, but a friend who really impacts how I see my life, and how I love the people around me.
I'm really glad that he and Thomas (& Yes Theory) are his friends now since I always watched both Yes Theory and Nathaniel and I kind of lumped both of these channels in the same bubble of "channels that actually see the experience of life with whole heart". And yeah, thank you guys so much.
Wow Nikko, that really means a lot. Thank you :)
Yes, I totally agree with u. Nathaniel just has this charisma that he exudes and It makes u connected to him instantly. Everyone has their journey and it’s nice to see people sharing theirs in an honest way.
What’s ur favorite video of his?
So..true..Its feels wholesome to just see him figure things out in life .
*Something that helped me recently was musings on* "If I had one year left to live."
I wrote this journal entry about what I'd like the rest of my life to look like, if the expiration date was one year from today. The results shocked me. I realized out of everything I'd want to do, none of them were increased thrills or risky choices because "if it's all going to end soon anyways, what's the point?" No; they were all things I want to do TODAY but am afraid of engaging on.
I'd start a podcast. I'd have conversations with people about mental health. I'd open dialogue with people I've hurt and want forgiveness from. I'd simply be a better human being.
Now the challenge is "waking up" and realizing that I don't need to think I'm going to die to live the life I want to live. I simply need to take the steps that future me (and younger me) is begging for.
We don't make choices out of fear -- that's fine, it's a human tendency to fear. But it's what you fear, and what it causes you to do or not do, that makes all the difference.
There is no life to regret if you choose the right thing every moment.
@@fabioniemeyer6158 Oh my gosh I'm smiling so wide!! I'm happy it affected you in this way. Best of luck on your journey to adapting that story
I love this (:
that’s for this
Ari, that is so well said! Thank u for that and I’m pretty sure that u can accomplish it! 🙏❤️
@Inner Core Ari // Self Reflection That's such a wonderful idea! I might do that too in a few weeks :) It'll probably be a little frightening to imagine life ending soon, but I might get a lot of insight in return
"Creating is like dropping a fishing line into your brain."
(Hayao Miyazaki)
This turns everything into so much fun
I'm going to cry these are my two favourite TH-camrs omg
Compose yourself please.
@@ranevc let her cry
💫
Really enjoy these genuine chill conversations sometimes all the heavy edited stuff gets to be too much
What’s ur biggest takeaway?
@@MindNow that I’m on the right path with how I’ve set myself up to create. How about you?
@@massagewithmike what do u want to create if I may ask?
I think it’s a complex topic and for me what’s real is what I come to direct experience 😊 but yeah overall, human beings are complex and how the mind works
@@MindNow i want to create a very relaxed slow pace life where i get to be creative, work at my own pace and help out the world in some way
@@massagewithmike I wish u only the best brotherhood! I’m pretty sure u can do it!
I have many goals in life, and one of them is to have a deep conversation with Nathaniel
What are you doing to tell him?
@@ranevc how much time does he have? Because literally anything 😆 gotta start with life abroad first😤
As they mentioned, The feeling that "I'm not working now" on day offs, freaks me out.. Not enjoying and not working and being in that state of regret..
I have to learn to get out of this..
Thanks for the video..
2 of my favorite people talking about one of my favorite topics? Now, this is a good day. Can't wait to dig in!
What’s ur biggest takeaway brother?
Thank you for this INCREDIBLE conversation! This was super inspiring and insightful. Here are some notes that I took while watching:
- Check in with yourself often to make sure your decisions are really your own.
- Differentiate the things you can't control from the things you can control.
- Listen to your intuition.
- Your strategy has to change over time. ("What got you here won't get you there.")
- Don't be afraid of doing things that don't scale. Instead, recognize when it's time to change.
- If things are not working out, try to get some distance. (Be aware of tunnel vision. Try to look at the bigger picture. Try something new.)
- Moderation / "The Middle Way"
- Processing and reflecting on experiences is important.
- Spending quality time with people or menial things like doing the dishes can be productive as well. Make sure to not fall into the productivity trap!
- People have no fucking idea what they are doing. No one has "figured it out", so don't feel bad about the fact that you haven't figured it out either.
- Explore your boundaries. Expand your horizon by trying new things and experimenting. Retune your intuition.
- Even if you figure out that your old way of doing things was actually right for you, it was still worth it because you were able to solidify that.
- "My ass cheeks dude!" 🤣
Eye contact is key to great connection , Solid life talk lads sitting under a tree just being humans :)
"Detachment means to have neither regrets for the past nor fears for the future; to let life take its course without attempting to interfere with its movement and chance, neither trying to prolong the stay of things pleasant nor to hasten the departure of things unpleasant. To do this is to move in time with life, to be in perfect accord with its changing music." - Alan Watts
So basically being passive ?
@@caterinas6863 No not necessarily. Move in a direction, if you want choose an island you wish to swim to, but don't push hard against the current if things become turbulent and move you in a different direction. You don't need to be passive, just flexible so that you can move with the rhythms of life, especially those things that are not in our control, or you will be exhausted and unhappy. Have goals, but don't set them in stone.
I think the word detachment needs to be replaced
@@swolemaz_ Perhaps it could be better worded, but detachment doesn't mean being emotionally void or detached from reality/society/yourself, it's simply being accepting and present. If you emotionally invest yourself so deeply into your pursuits, and things don't go to plan, you will feel wretched. Or as another example, if you become so immersed in reading the news, you may perceive that to be reality, and every new story might bring with it anxiety and despair. Detachment, to me at least, is something more along the lines of stoicism.
Funnily enough I came across Alan Watt's description of it today - he does a far better job of explaining it: th-cam.com/video/AyFjiAWr9YM/w-d-xo.html
Yoo Nathaniel, I'm 17 now, these types of conversations are so valuable to me and I think to a lot of people around my age. It's really refreshing to hear that it's okay to not have everything figured out, it really takes off a lot of pressure in making decisions. Thank you so much for sharing 🙏
“Figuring things out” ...life is there to experience and live. There’s nothing to be figured out, but to enjoy the ride, wouldn’t u agree?
@@MindNow Hey man, that's a beatiful way to look at things, and I definitely agree that's ultimately the "purpose". But still, you gotta find a way to get some freedom, and you're always going to have to earn money, find meaningful work, etc. So on the practical side of life you still gotta figure out how things work best for you. And I'm not enlightened, so that can be a little stressful sometimes :)
@@merlijn1722 I mean, that’s the beauty of it though, isn’t it? Life is about figuring things out because there ALWAYS is more, especially when u think u hv figured it all out 😄 what’s ur take on that?
@@MindNow Yeah man, there's definitely always more, and you will always encounter new challenges no matter how well you have your shit together.
@@merlijn1722 hahaha exactly! But that’s good! I mean how would life look like without challenges? It’s like a movie without challenges...would u go watch it??
Yo this is a perfect add to your channel dude. Didn't think I needed to sit in on a 30 minute convo under a tree but boy was I wrong. You two are the best youtubers hands down. So much respect.
I listened to this over a course of 3 days just to digest everything bit by bit. Thanks boys! It was really inspiring!
regretting my life is one of my biggest fears so i want to live present in each moment
Man! You have read my mind. I was recently binge watching Yes Theory and to see two of my favourite creators on the platform hit it off is amazing
As a new creator on TH-cam, hearing you two’s hard-earned wisdom is immensely guiding. Thank you guys so much for letting us listen in on this much-needed conversation.
“Life is a series of experiments”. Cool mindset. Thanks for this chatting Thomas!
I wasn’t expecting this but I’m incredibly glad this video exists
The conundrum of knowing you have to make a change becauaw what you're currently doing is depleating you & yet not having enough energy to exert into making the change. *sending the last oz of drive I have to you beautiful souls who can relate.💞 I see you & it will get better
22:35 I feel that - it’s been such a blur between 8,000 and 80,000 subscribers that I feel disconnected from myself and my situation sometimes. It’s surreal.
I enjoyed listening to you guys while I was doing my two new favourite things: gardening and making macrame decor.
I really enjoyed it.
I think I'm gonna watch this again and again because I know I can relate to this for a long time, I think anyone can feel it in their life, at anytime in their life.
I am so happy that you guys talk and value “Middle Path” and, love the conversation. It really worths watching
What’s ur biggest takeaway?
I just realized how much I love the soundtrack added throughout your videos. It sounds top-notch. I'm amazed & inspired by your thought-provoking videos. Keep up the great work Nathan.
I love that you’re talking about the grey area between success and failure ! I think it’s something we need to remind ourselves because we’ve been told that success is the ultimate goal !
What’s ur ultimate goal? Or better yet, what is happiness?
@@MindNow exactly! I think personally my ultimate goal is to create more regenerative systems (as opposed to just sustainable). But on an overall note I really just want to have experiences and enjoy living I don’t really necessarily aspire to have a yacht or an unnecessarily huge villa.
What about you?
@@MiaMakesThings I love what u said about “enjoying living” I think THAT is the ultimate goal, isn’t it? Just live and do ur best. Make the best out of what u hv bc life is beautiful with its ups and downs 😊 it’s awesome that u strive for regenerative instead of sustainable. Could u maybe give me an example?
Uuh, my goal is long 😄 but I’ll just share the most important one which is I want to help low self esteem people because I went through it and I just have the strong desire to help anyone who also goes through it, which is what I’m trying to do with my TH-cam channel. 😊🙏❤️
Hey Nath ! Just wanted to thank you for your work, it's just the perfect content I needed right now, and those conversations are just always so helpful. Thanks again man
Since covid I‘ve been more to myself and got a bit introverted (and that‘s werid, because I normally am a very extroverted person) but this video changed that, just listening to you two really put the life back in me! Thanks so much!
C'est génial j'adore! Ce serait cool de faire + de vidéos comme ça, c'est super agréable de vous entendre parler de philosophie, de développement personnel, de la vie et à quel point elle est étrange! Superbe vidéo😁👌
Thank you for continuing to share what authentically matters in life, truly appreciate
this is exactly what I needed to start off my day today!!! Life is incredibly challenging and hearing this was very motivating / reassuring
I'm in love with your background!
It's winter here and I miss summer days like this one you've got! Hearing these beautiful tweeting!
with this kind of conversations, life just make sense for a moment
"I just want to make sure that this decision was my own" - I had to write that down because it feels like it's what I need to do every single day. Amazing video as always 👏
"I just want to make sure that this decision was my own"
i really thomas hit the nail in the beginning about having to shift away from reacting to everything and instead reflecting. i've felt pretty angry and strongly about a lot of things these last two years and i know it wasn't myself, but having someone speak about it really helped pinpoint what it was i was experiencing! so thank you for this lovely conversation!
What an ultimate goal - getting to hang out and have a convo with Thomas Brag. Amazing. You both are such great content creators and an inspiration to a lot. Thanks for the content.
Two very intelligent conversations. Why can't my friends and I talk like this??
I really needed to hear this! I've been really trying to improve myself for the past three weeks and recently felt like there was no more room to breathe, like I was in a constant state of being challenged like you described in the video. Love the calm scenery of just you two guys sitting down in a park talking, instead of all these flashy and overedited videos from nowadays
5:35 Really resonated with that. Been realizing that getting too wrapped up in social media and being a creator, one needs time to detach and go outside of the self.
The deep thoughts you evoke with your videos are so important. Thank you Nathaniel 🙏🏼
Love you both so much! two of my favorite content creators together, i had a blast. You should do more of these!
You always upload this kind of content when I need it the most. I guess I just need it 🙏🏽 I love your conversation videos.
Beautiful conversation - Thank you for sharing 🌸💕🕊
Wow. I related so much to so many things you said. Thanks for recording this conversation and sharing it. Meant so much to hear some things you said 🙌🏼
good video bro, love the longer form talks
Every time I am going trough something or asking myself questions you make a video that reflects perfectly how I feel and gives me the insight that I need. Thank you for that 🌻
It is inspiring to see how you both are super present. This is a masterpiece of a conversation.
Ever thought of doing a podcast, with these sort of conversations, would be awesome!
Favourite video ever! It's also so exciting that you will record similar videos over, for instance a decade, and will be able to look back at your growth.
You guys are awesome for making videos about topics like this, keep it up!
Thank you for this, I didn’t know I needed to hear most of the stuff you two said
I used to beat myself up so much about doing things in my business that I knew would work and help but that wouldn't scale. Hearing Thomas say, "You've got to do things that don't scale to start the momentum and then change." made me feel so much better today. I'm at that "change" point. Thanks for this!! Totally unexpectedly helpful!
Been waiting for this for a looooong time!
Honestly love the work you guys put out and more importantly, appreciate you guys as such wonderful people! 🤍
Such a beautiful conversation :) thank you for sharing!
This video made me feel a range of things so I’ll just say that this is the most relatable thing I’ve heard in a long while. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and navigating the conversation so well! So therapeutic, insightful, and comforting.
Thank you so much for this. Your guys energy and passion about certain subjects was absolutely contagious - and I felt like I was sitting right there with you guys.
This is therapy on a third person perspective.
Can we all agree that Nathaniel’s animations are just immaculate?? My compliments to the chef 👨🍳🤌🏽✨
I lOVE this. I spent hours live streaming and talking about this exact thing. I've spent hours and almost sleepless nights grinding out content and the high of gaining followers and views is like a wave, but in the end, it isn't sustainable. I realized I almost hated making things and drawing and I had to take a big break and let myself naturally begin to feel hunger to make things and then letting myself create without the immense stress of quantity. The quality of content and artwork I've been able to make has been worth the slowing down of the "factory production" levels of creation. Great video thank you for the simple yet informative video. I am so grateful to be able to relate to other content creators, makes me feel less alone. Thank you.
Great freaking video. The energy is there. Love you guys
A huge pleasure to listen to this conversation
Genuine and quality talk right there.
Thank you for this conversation. I really appreciate all your videos!!! keep going at your own pace and creating art
This is the video I knew I needed but couldn’t find because there are so few people addressing the other extreme, thank you ❤️
This is simply beautiful. I would love to meet both of you since I follow both of your channels and I completely adore both of you as the amazing individuals you are (including the rest of the Yes Theory fam) and being able to witness this simple (and not so simple) conversation between you two guys as two friends sitting under a tree having an amazing chatter is incredible. This was poetically beautiful. Thank you for this gift.
so grateful for this video!
I always seem to really relate with Thomas and what experiences he has. I hadn't heard of your channel until it was recommended to me but I'm glad it was :)
Re: taking 5 weeks off social media: Without a break like that it’s hard to shift priorities and shift gears into a new direction. YES!
Also “What got you here won’t get you there.” And So much of life is figuring out tools and tips to give yourself perspective when you lose it.
Love you both and amazingly you guys are becoming inspiration in my life so thank you for that!Keep it up please!
Really enjoyed hearing two guys talk serious! I really needed to hear this...talking about changing it up and taking a different turn in the road and especially relying on intuition more...instead of constantly overthinking and analyzing . Thanks for sharing...
The way you two talked to each other was wonderful to watch. It made me ready-eyed in the end. I felt how genuine your relationship is! Thank you for all the advice 🙏🙌🏻🙌🏻
Loving this video! Love how the conversation flows with great ideas!
8:20 Time of reflection vs Living in survival mode.
This is something I’ve thought about a lot lately, have had multiple meaningful conversations about and have wanted to combine those thoughts into a video myself.
Last 3 years my videography business has grown and I’ve been constantly overworking + trying to chase my personal dreams (travel vids, art, new brand) and trying to cope with a lot of changes etc, feeling highly stressed for months and constantly in the survival mode. To the point I burned out multiple times - first my health started to take a toll, physical pains, depression and overall it took me a lot of time to bounce back from intense projects. To the point i was doing and achieving more than ever, but unhappy and least confident I had ever felt. And the conclusion I’ve come to - the most important thing is to have time between experience. Have time to reflect. And not to stay in survival mode months and months at a time. Thank you for touching on this and helping me remind the importance of time for reflection.
Brother, I don’t know u, but from this comment I’ve read, I just wish u only the best and believe it or not, you WILL achieve ur dreams.
Such a great collaboration. I definitely enjoy these long format conversations
What a great conversation, I really enjoy it.
This collab makes me so happy. You both are such ambitious people and I’m happy we get to learn from you through these mediums. Playing this on repeat for the next 8 hours 🙃
Thanks this is so helpful! God Bless
i needed this thank you ❤️
I love how the conversation is organic and inspirational!
As an aspiring creator, this is exactly the conversation I needed to hear, and I'm sure many others did as well! Thank you both making it happen 🙌
Nathaniel, thank you so much for recommending "Yes theory", it's a treasure! I'm watching them every day for 2 weeks, and they are just amazing!
This is a great video Nathaniel! Thank you for your work
This was such a thought provoking conversation. It showed how to be completely honest with ourselves without the burden or guise of ego.
amazing video thank you guys!
I would love to see you on Yes Theory, that would be an interesting perspective of what adventures they'd take you on!
Thank you for sharing! This is the content the world needs more of.
love this !! much needed conversation
Outstanding - Thank you for sharing!
There is just this calm and peaceful vibe in your videos that I cant find anywhere else
This is BY FAR the best collab I've ever watched. Thank you!
wow....thank you. Such a great talk, took away so much every moment. God bless.
This is crazy like how they were talking about different things yet I didn't feel any discontinuation n at the same time it was what I exactly needed to hear!
Thank you for sharing. I literally took notes during this video and wrote down some things that really resonated with me and were a comfort to know that 2 people that I look up to felt the same way. I am considering a big change right now to take a break from working FT to concentrate on improving my health and stress level, hopefully gain more energy, and to spend more quality time with my little one. Like you said when you’re worn down the answer is not buckling down and keep doing the same thing. ✌️☮️