Thank you all for watching, if you could do me a favour, hit subscribe and turn notifications on it helps us more than you know 🙏🏻 currently we have 74% of regular viewers than haven’t subscribed 😅 appreciate you all.
Hello Stephen and team, is there a reason that you've removed the time stamps? I like watching video's all the way through but then when I want to take notes, I love being able to know where each part of the conversation is. I'm guessing it was perhaps a change to increase time watched? Anyway, thanks for the content, appreciate it! :)
As a psychotherapist, I listen for a living and speak with conscious intention. This speaker has refreshed my commitment to always improving my skills and remembering, moment by moment, that my presence, the embodiment of honest, authenticity, integrity, and listening, is the very means of the service I offer
Psychotherapist as well, and I saw a lot of people in my graduate training soo focused on the techniques and research, when the deepest most important aspect of effective therapy is non-judgmental listening. My dedication in practice and life has always been purely humanistic, so I completely agree. Blessings, friends 🙏
can you talk about how you do this? both the listening and speaking with intention. it's not a small thing whether for business, dating or even having fulfilling relationships.
"Uncomfortable is a call for assessment" Wow, love it. From here on I will look into why I don't listen to those who are way off from my values and principles. Thank you for interviewing him, Stephen.
Stephen you are so correct! I click on the podcast link every Monday and Thursday regardless of the name. Why? Because I trust your team to deliver quality content.
🇬🇧 not being as consistent in my watching schedule BUT I AM in watching every episode that is produced - isn’t he So on point SO consistently?! I hold his opinion in such high esteem ✌🏼
It is human to judge someone who doesn't or can't articulate themselves properly - but it's also sad. This is why it is so important to invest in yourself by developing overall communication skills. Very insightful interview, thanks.
Some of the treasures that I gathered from Julian speech: 1. Listening 👂is the sound of democracy. 2. With conscious listening, the result is always understanding.🧐 3. There is usually a good reason for what people say or do.👍 4. Honesty should be tempered with love.❤️
36:17 I was failing everything because I wouldn't sleep at night due to CPTSD from my parents constantly fighting, but saving the worst for when we went to bed (when we could obviously hear them). I'd sleep on the bus and in history class. Math felt impossible to me. Then we started doing algebra and at first it felt absolutely foreign but once I got it, I really got it. I was so proud to take my test results out to my dad (our bus driver) and show him.. I got 98%. I was exploding with pride and excitement in anticipation. He said, "where's the other 2%?" Stabbed me in the heart. Perfectionism has ruined me and I'm only 41. I'm just now starting to realize how all this happened.. my current "situation". Now I'm going to heal that part of me and move TF on. I'm perfectly imperfect. I'm good enough and that is enough.
I have to state that I was never a podcast listener. I'm a little impatient. But after listening to one of your shows I look forward to them. I appreciate your work.
The Buddha; “ Only speak if it serves a better purpose than your silence”. That translates into only speak if you have no personal interest in being heard. Remain silent as long as your honesty tells you that your views are biased. This is the noble path for those that aspire towards the ultimate truth and enlightenment. For everyone else, do whatever you please!
He's right about that. They didn't teach me how to speak publically. I learned how to do it on my own. What they did let us do in school was read aloud. But, I remember when I got into show business: I narrated my first show on my own with my team as teenager. I pulled it off enough that there was an interest in management. One of the things he said was about breathing. I had no problem in that area , because I trained in Martial Arts. Part of Martial Arts is the art of breathing. When you punch somebody you constantly breathing out. I learned some Yoga techniques as well. I also had some singing lessons where I learned how to breath effectively. I'm a singer by the way. I've worked in a Gospel group for years. Learning how to use the diaphragm. Plus now I do my own TH-cam videos where by I narrate my own stories on Artists I care about. I found my niche with that. It has gotten better. I notice the stories which was narrated well. I got the most views. So he's right its a skill. Like him. I'm not so much of an extrovert. But, I've learned to overcome that when its vital to be an extrovert in the things I enjoyed to do. It has paid off.
Fascinating to hear someone promoting what I would call 'compassionate assertiveness'. As an introvert, life long people pleaser who suffered burnout in my early 40s, I've done a lot of soul searching / reflection and work on being assertive with compassion to others. No guaranteed outcomes and certainly not easy but better than my old ways! Thank you Julian and Steven.
I am a language trainer and I watched his TED about speaking skills n trust me it was a turning point in my class and my life, as I have a firm believe " communication is the key". ❤ Respect ❤
Stephen, you are such a lucid and sensitive podcaster. The guests you bring to the show are of course brilliant in themselves, and from this episode, I understand how much care goes into cherry-picking persons that we as the audience can connect to. You give us a deep belief that you genuinely care about us on the other side of the screen. But also your energy to seamlessly bind with the personality on the other side of the table is so enchanting. And above that, your team does a miraculous job of turning the conversations into artistic visual and auditory experiences as well. What I would maybe ask for is, if it would be possible, to get links to books, videos, and other content that is mentioned in the conversation in the description? It would be easier for deep-diving on the topic ... and maybe a plant or two in the studio 😅🪴 Thank you ever so much for pursuing this path. The world is changing for the better because of you and your team
This could be an eyeopener for social media, where having a differrent opinion throws people into attack mode. What they don't understand is that this behavior wins no one over and fir people like me brings out resistance mode. I hope more people are encouraged to maaintain & share their opinion without caving to popular opinion or mob mentality.
I was fortunate as a young territory sales representative to have a boss that arranged for speaking engagements at major utilities companies and would then nominate me as the one to deliver the talk. Looking back now over 40 yrs., those talks are among the most impactful skill development efforts I’ve ever gone through. Invaluable to me over the years.
This episode is the epitome of perfectly timed in every way. I needed this information SO much more than I realized. This is my new obsession. I am so excited to explore this further and finally master the art of being heard.
Crying every day and not knowing why is the nervous breakdown we all deny we have had or will have if we’ve tried to stay in the fray without Gods help!!❤
Watching on YT where my ears are regularly assaulted by screeching salespeople begging me not to skip and I can't skip the ad' fast enough!! Fascinating conversation. I remember studying psychology GCSE where I first heard that noise is/can be a stimulus to violence - something I was very aware of but not consciously. Thank crunchy for mute buttons! I really enjoyed listening to this, thank you both xxx
Love this ...I’m always for learning , born in a poor economic family reading was my toy and joy . I taught my children to read with expression, all three became great Orators Leaders, and Community Concerned . THE POWER OF WORDS.....can be a great deterrent to problems and save lives and the abuse of this power can be just the opposite, thanks Steven I keep coming back to your podcast soon I will be doing mine....
Brilliant episode, with both male voices sounding so beautiful!!!! Makes me wish I was there in a third chair, taking part in both the listening and communicating.
In all the episodes I’ve watched so far you go off down rabbit holes with people that are so fascinating then pull it back to link in with the original point, amazing skill!
This is one of these conversations that isn't as important because it has new information, but rather explaining really important points that we tend to forget. And is super well spoken.
That " bless you" idea to people who annoy you when you are in a more unconscious state brings you back into awareness. I found it really helpful when people are cutting you off in traffic or being really aggressive etc. Brian Scott did an amazing video on this
Attending one of the top schools in the UK, followed by Cambridge (as Julian Treasure did) - bound to speak well. I went to similar schools/college and I can tell you, everyone around me whether they were introverted or not spoke 'well'. Yes, you can practice and develop confidence. But absolutely, I think we should be honest and acknowledge that you have a massive head start with that kind of education and upbringing. To add, for me, it's not about how confident someone sounds or how great their voice is (both of which unfortunately do get you far - look at our last ex PM who got away with a lot because of 'the way he speaks') or even how authentic. (You can be really authentic about having an intention that isn't great... power, greed, attention, etc). So ultimately, I think it's content and intention. What is this person saying and why?
Absolutely loved this interview! Julian is so inspiring! As a budding public speaker and a sound healer, his discussion on the importance of sound, listening, and how to be heard was fascinating and so helpful to me. Blessings. ❤
Captivating, simply captivating. At 65 I thought I was reasonably atuned to conversing and actively listening, but Julian`s contribution has given me much more to contemplate. Thanks Steven.
I am so grateful to hear someone on your show or anyone’s show for that matter, talking about something so integral to being connected with one another. Listening as well as speaking. I have contemplated for some time presenting myself to women in power or rather women who have much to give but the sound of their voice is an obstacle. I hear a high pitched, nasality coupled with vocal fry and I have to unplug because it simply hurts my ears and my own vocal instrument. Thank you so much for creating space for this.
Yes, vocal fry is a contagious disease that's blighting ther voices of millions, especially women for some reason. A tragedy when there's all thaewonder of a magnificent voice to explore.
I ended up hear as someone who doesn't feel heard (and works extraordinarily hard to listen). At times I've felt selfish wanting to be heard, but when says that it's actually a need to be heard, that really struck home.
I used to listen to Tim Ferris all the time but then he started talking about chaga mushrooms too much 😅. Steve’s podcast just gets better and better. I feel like he’s filled the gap that Tim Ferris left for me! Great work Steve! Looking forward to seeing more 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
I have found TH-cam talks such as Ted Talks, to Be immensely informative for personal development and growth to be a better human being. There was so much to unpack on todays discussion, I feel it has the possibility to be life changing. Coming from a mental health social worker, trained to listen, I took a lot from this. Can’t wait to watch again with notebook at hand.
Good morning to you both. My Dad has and still does encourages and pushes listening First. 'Two ears One mouth' he says. This wee saying I now encourage and action, so to speak.😀 Thankyou again for sharing. 💜
There is a quote I’ve come across recently that resonates “Seek first to understand then to be understood.” Stephen covey 5th habit in the book “7 habits of highly effective people”. You guys named Stephen seem to be very intuitive and most of all, motivated to give your best without expectation. I thank you for that my friend.
In my journey it's been helpful for me to look at gratitude in a different way than the usual "what I am thankful for" Instead: What am I doing that makes OTHERS grateful FOR ME So it turns out that when being of service, that generates a stronger attraction to the Universe, which operates within cosmic law
I try to be intentional about listening, especially because I know all too well what it feels like not to be truly heard. I am usually intentional about being present, putting away distractions, summarizing or asking clarifying questions. But I can certainly improve my listening by not trying to formulate responses while someone else is talking.
This was a brilliant interview. I can't believe I just watched this whole interview from start to finish. This gentleman really knows how to Capture an audience
The best thing is he asks questions like he is in the audience. He is interested to know things and never hesitates to ask the hard questions. Amazing! ♥️
I LOVE Julian Treasure! When I taught Oral Communications at the college level, his videos were required listening. I also played How to Speak so that others Will Want to Listen", and then we practiced the exercises in class.
Julian explaining how he uses 'bless you' for when he's out and about to practice love and well wishing for strangers/whoever we bump into is something I've taken up the practice of doing too, so it was really nice and reassuring hearing that from someone else who sees it as effective. It really does lighten the load. In my case I don't usually think negatively of people, but there are plenty of times where I have done without even realising, esp judging without meaning to. The more we practice kindness and love (esp to those we don't particularly get on with), the easier it becomes and more at ease we eventually feel. So, thank you Julian for sharing this! ^_^ *goes back to watching* Also absolutely gobsmacked hearing Julian is 64 years old! Holy moly...he really doesn't look it at all! Looks like he's still in his is 40S!
What a great episode, Mr. Treasure is delightful and charming. I'm an avid watcher here and took to pen and paper rather quickly jotting down notes - as of late, I have been very conscious of my speaking, not just with my voice, but also how I communicate and come across, especially in my work place. Thank you so much!.
Fun fact... RASA also means "to feel" in Sanskrit and in Singapore all homecooks will emphasize how important it is to cook with "rasa", it basically means the love has to be tasted in the food... it's also used to describe passion in a performance or a display.. essentially it's about making a connection between the effort and the result whether cooking or creating something, so that's a great acronym! Receive, Appreciate, Summarize and Ask.. Now to share this with my husband, if he'll listen hahah! Let's start validating people with RASA!
Would love to see time stamps on your videos so we can jump around and target specific portions/topics of the conversation. Thanks for sharing. Great content!
Perfect timing I am In the process of improving this skill to become a public speaker and to help get my message to millions with impact leading to lifelong transformation 👏👏👏, great interview Steven , listening and learning you bring on valuable speakers thank you so much for delivering consistently never bored here ,so refreshing to hear the depth of the speakers journey through your intelligent questions👍
The moment I pressed that play button, something very powerful shifted inside of my emotional body. Right there I knew this was going to be an incredible episole. Thank you!
I listen to you almost daily. I greatly enjoy your guests. Today's speaker/guest has pointed out sounds generated with businesses. This, has inspired me to articulate something I feel that I normally would not have pointed out. The music you play the beginning of your podcast is very difficult for me to listen to. It feels very dark to me and does not feel insightful and uplifting as your guests. I am probably the only one that feels, but like I said your guest inspired me to communicate it. Thank you for bringing forth valuable guests on topics that provide knowledge and enlightenment. Keep up the great work you do. ❤
1.18- ABSOLUTELY!!! Food is highly emotional. I am a functional nutritionist and have a deep understanding of how powerful the right foods are for our health. Yet my Italian heritage _ where food is almost a religion- means that there are certain meals that will never be reduced down to just nutrition.❤
Steven, I understood the value of your guest up to 1:33:08 when he began to speak “as a minority”. At which point I thought, “Tough shit” Mr male/caucasian/Scot. Sometimes it is important to”fight” even if it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for the majority. I perceived him to be dismissive? arrogant? And possibly needing a therapist himself. At this point I wondered whether looking up his other Ted talks was something I wanted to subject myself to. Thx for all you do Steven!
Thank you Julian . I learnt a lot from you today . I appreciate the way you deliver your words / I noticed you brought out the authentic part of the precentor he was more childlike at one point which I thing was him showing his natural . 😃💫💫💫⭐️
Recently, I read an interesting book that partially focused on breathing. It emphasized that breathing should be full, meaning we should breathe using both the stomach and the chest simultaneously.
I'm enjoying this , I am actually writing my "life Map" I have broken it into 5 quarters...I am in the bottom of the fourth quarter and in this I found out why I had not meet my life goal ,but very close.. I use to call in to radio talk shows and then listen to myself as if I was detached and critiqued my voice, my tone, and my timing was I overbearing or seem snooty, totally not my intention or my personality but sound and tones makes the difference...One day I walked into public community radio station on my own and asked to join, I was given a script for a news report ...I did and with only one reading I got the spot to do.. .I am now on public radio and before I get home I am listening and myself to improve. This was great advice and yes you should know who you are ,I have values ,which I believe , I like acronyms, great show. YES, GRATITUDE is a Must...to grow and find peace. I SUBSCRIBED WHAT A SMALL "PRICE" TO PAY for great gifts of wisdom.
Well this was a terrible choice to start listening to at 4am! It's now nearly 0530 and it's brilliant. What a fantastic conversation on a really interesting topic. Yep, subscribed.
Stephen, I have a question. At the one hour four minutes mark, The speaker is telling a very personal story, I hung on every word he said. I saw something change in his face, His eyes particularly, as I’m sure many others did too. It seems like a raw, deeply personal time in his life.. One that I myself have not experienced but I am a mother and have experience loss in other ways and this definitely brought tears to my eyes. I love your channel because of the topics but more importantly because of the delivery and the authenticity. What I’ve noticed and I might be wrong, please correct me if I am, but it seems like when the speaker is having an emotional moment like this and you’re observing it firsthand while we are watching it through our screen later on, so maybe I miss it..but I don’t think I’ve seen you moved emotionally by what they have said, to the point of tears or looking emotionally pulled. Not to say that you should be, but I am someone who is so deeply moved by the emotions of others which is both good and bad. Have you ever been moved to tears by one of your speakers? Do you guard in moments like these so you don’t show that level of vulnerability? I know boys were brought up to be men who do not show emotion through tears and I’m trying to break that with my sons. I personally try very hard not to cry in front of people because I feel so vulnerable but I fail miserably sometimes. I’ve always thought of myself as a very open minded person but as I get older I realize that’s just not the case. Yeah I am fascinated by the life experiences of others and the way it shapes their views and opinions and I am very open minded to what they think and feel and why but I’m not always excepting of it and I’ve been quick to dismiss it in the past. I’m trying to be thoughtful and intentional about the way that I word what I am trying to say and as you probably noticed, I’m still working on it. I appreciate your channel and I’ve gained so much knowledge that I may have otherwise missed but it has helped me grow and heal and learn vastly. Thank you for the time, dedication, and effort that you put into this channel. It is very inspiring.
I have started watching and listening to your podcasts and I absolutely like the content. You are doing a great job of inviting experts in the fields with priceless suggestions and help for us to improve and flourish🙏 The only thing is they are long episodes and one feels demotivated moving towards the last quarter of videos. Maybe keeping episodes shorter works better. Great job.
The breathing tactic was he hit the nail on the head for me I needed this today with everything that possibly could happen to my world today with the anniversary of my fathers passing today and Friday my last Aunt death the breathing exercise made me dizzy but it helped just now WOW
Stephen, you are doing such an incredible service for mankind!! Just love the talks I listen to! When I first starting listening to you talks a couple of months ago, I wasn’t sure how I would be able to choose from your long list of excellent guests!!! And of course, there no need to choose, since the youtube algorithms are able to choose what I might like, much better than I can!! Thank you so much again!!!
1:30:33 I've just stumbled over this fantastic podcast about the power of active listening in promoting mutal understanding and thus avoiding conflict . The horrible violent events happenning and worsening since October 7th in lsrael and PaIestine and the endorsing of the most powerful side by other powerful parties are a fitting example of the silo mentality and the dehumanisation that occur when we don't listen actively to others.
Loved, loved, loved your guest!! ❤ Steven, how has your collection of guests over the period of your podcast, shaped you into who you are today? And is there any ONE guest who made the biggest impact in your life, since starting this podcast! 😊❤️
Brilliant talk, very grateful to have just come across this channel, so much genuine valuable information from these conversations to apply to life and improving oneself which is rare in this era of infinite meaningless distractions online. Thank you and bless you.
I remember when I started my show/podcast, I was so scared I was not good enough, the more I did it, took time to reframe my questions and interviews questions, this has been my transformation. I still am learning.
Affected and effected are different words with different meanings. Steven, let your editors know the difference. Love your work mate xx Also re values, they are based on core beliefs. What was seen and heard and believed to be true is the first iteration of this. As we grow up we need to make these core beliefs conscious and see where they need adjusting to better align with what we think of as our values. Otherwise our apparent values are not represented in our actions.
I bought Julian's book on Audible a month ago and watched this episode today, I'm really thankful he came on your show. Can't wait for the movie of this episode to come out starring Will Smith and Tom Hanks :)
Steven and Julian, I have found this podcast very helpful and eye-opening. Thank you very much☺ I love watching the podcasts and never fail to learn something new
Thank you for so many amazing podcasts Steven. You truly have a gift for creating deep and profound conversations with all of your guests. It would definitely be a great idea to change your opening and closing music. Find a piece of music that complements the level of work and commitment that is taken to create such fantastic content so that it is on a par with the quality of your channel. It is your musical signature. The wisdom Julian shared with you about how important music is in relation to how we experience something is so true.
I do enjoy what is being discussed... fascinating I am uncomfortable with the idea of someone being skilled and perhaps is just that a skill ... something about being yourself and coming from the heart would be important... it is fascinating
Steven, I am a new listener of your podcast and love them, this one in particular! I could listen to the two of you talk all day. Seriously, keep up the amazing work, its so valuable and appreciated.
WHAT?! Broccoli is so fking good I eat bowls for days & months. Just add sesame oil & garlic salt. McDs is disgusting in comparison, leaves me feeling ill, messes with my digestion, and isn't at all filling. I GET EXCITED FOR BROCCOLI, MY DUDE!!
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With all the amazing information in this video I will hit subscribe! Much love brother ❤
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Hello Stephen and team, is there a reason that you've removed the time stamps? I like watching video's all the way through but then when I want to take notes, I love being able to know where each part of the conversation is. I'm guessing it was perhaps a change to increase time watched? Anyway, thanks for the content, appreciate it! :)
As a psychotherapist, I listen for a living and speak with conscious intention. This speaker has refreshed my commitment to always improving my skills and remembering, moment by moment, that my presence, the embodiment of honest, authenticity, integrity, and listening, is the very means of the service I offer
I think more professionals really need to listen to this.
Psychotherapist as well, and I saw a lot of people in my graduate training soo focused on the techniques and research, when the deepest most important aspect of effective therapy is non-judgmental listening. My dedication in practice and life has always been purely humanistic, so I completely agree. Blessings, friends 🙏
can you talk about how you do this? both the listening and speaking with intention. it's not a small thing whether for business, dating or even having fulfilling relationships.
"Uncomfortable is a call for assessment" Wow, love it. From here on I will look into why I don't listen to those who are way off from my values and principles. Thank you for interviewing him, Stephen.
Stephen you are so correct! I click on the podcast link every Monday and Thursday regardless of the name. Why? Because I trust your team to deliver quality content.
Thank you so much Adriana ❤️
🇬🇧 not being as consistent in my watching schedule BUT I AM in watching every episode that is produced - isn’t he So on point SO consistently?! I hold his opinion in such high esteem ✌🏼
this my first time here...
100% same!
Absolutely! You always present interesting people and topics. I don't know many of the "celebrities", but I totally enjoy all of the presentations.
Julian Treasure is the best speaker I’ve ever heard! Tremendously listenable!
Julian is such a lovely man, humble and down to earth; which so much to offer the listeners. Thank you Steven for hosting him on your podcast 🙏
He’s definitely fake humble
It is human to judge someone who doesn't or can't articulate themselves properly - but it's also sad. This is why it is so important to invest in yourself by developing overall communication skills. Very insightful interview, thanks.
True
Same dynamic with writers.
Some of the treasures that I gathered from Julian speech:
1. Listening 👂is the sound of democracy.
2. With conscious listening, the result is always understanding.🧐
3. There is usually a good reason for what people say or do.👍
4. Honesty should be tempered with love.❤️
Boring obviuous and useless
Thank you so much.
36:17 I was failing everything because I wouldn't sleep at night due to CPTSD from my parents constantly fighting, but saving the worst for when we went to bed (when we could obviously hear them). I'd sleep on the bus and in history class. Math felt impossible to me. Then we started doing algebra and at first it felt absolutely foreign but once I got it, I really got it. I was so proud to take my test results out to my dad (our bus driver) and show him.. I got 98%.
I was exploding with pride and excitement in anticipation.
He said, "where's the other 2%?"
Stabbed me in the heart.
Perfectionism has ruined me and I'm only 41. I'm just now starting to realize how all this happened.. my current "situation". Now I'm going to heal that part of me and move TF on.
I'm perfectly imperfect.
I'm good enough and that is enough.
Thank you for this. Thank you so much.
I have to state that I was never a podcast listener. I'm a little impatient. But after listening to one of your shows I look forward to them. I appreciate your work.
The Buddha; “ Only speak if it serves a better purpose than your silence”. That translates into only speak if you have no personal interest in being heard. Remain silent as long as your honesty tells you that your views are biased. This is the noble path for those that aspire towards the ultimate truth and enlightenment. For everyone else, do whatever you please!
He's right about that. They didn't teach me how to speak publically. I learned how to do it on my own. What they did let us do in school was read aloud. But, I remember when I got into show business: I narrated my first show on my own with my team as teenager. I pulled it off enough that there was an interest in management. One of the things he said was about breathing. I had no problem in that area , because I trained in Martial Arts. Part of Martial Arts is the art of breathing. When you punch somebody you constantly breathing out. I learned some Yoga techniques as well. I also had some singing lessons where I learned how to breath effectively. I'm a singer by the way. I've worked in a Gospel group for years. Learning how to use the diaphragm. Plus now I do my own TH-cam videos where by I narrate my own stories on Artists I care about. I found my niche with that. It has gotten better. I notice the stories which was narrated well. I got the most views. So he's right its a skill. Like him. I'm not so much of an extrovert. But, I've learned to overcome that when its vital to be an extrovert in the things I enjoyed to do. It has paid off.
Fascinating to hear someone promoting what I would call 'compassionate assertiveness'. As an introvert, life long people pleaser who suffered burnout in my early 40s, I've done a lot of soul searching / reflection and work on being assertive with compassion to others. No guaranteed outcomes and certainly not easy but better than my old ways! Thank you Julian and Steven.
Any content you would recommend
I am too! Same as your position. Let's not stop learning and working for the betterment of ourselves. Be safe!
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F: Faith
L: Love
A: Acceptance
G: Gratitude
I am a language trainer and I watched his TED about speaking skills n trust me it was a turning point in my class and my life, as I have a firm believe " communication is the key". ❤ Respect ❤
Becoming more conscious everyday is his goal. ❤
Stephen, you are such a lucid and sensitive podcaster. The guests you bring to the show are of course brilliant in themselves, and from this episode, I understand how much care goes into cherry-picking persons that we as the audience can connect to. You give us a deep belief that you genuinely care about us on the other side of the screen. But also your energy to seamlessly bind with the personality on the other side of the table is so enchanting. And above that, your team does a miraculous job of turning the conversations into artistic visual and auditory experiences as well.
What I would maybe ask for is, if it would be possible, to get links to books, videos, and other content that is mentioned in the conversation in the description? It would be easier for deep-diving on the topic ... and maybe a plant or two in the studio 😅🪴
Thank you ever so much for pursuing this path. The world is changing for the better because of you and your team
Lmaoooo A plant...
I can get behind that,
So maybe a plant can get behind him 😂
So well stated!!
One thing I really like about your videos Steven, is the respect you show towards your partner too. ✌🏾
Walking outside with my headphones listening to this. I love our guest today thank you 🙏 his words are like natural serotonin for my head ✨️ 😌
Great to read a comment of appreciation from another NZLer.
This could be an eyeopener for social media, where having a differrent opinion throws people into attack mode. What they don't understand is that this behavior wins no one over and fir people like me brings out resistance mode. I hope more people are encouraged to maaintain & share their opinion without caving to popular opinion or mob mentality.
This is ACTUALLY as important as the introduction implies. All the self-help and mental health and relationship stuff comes down to THIS.
Julian and Sir Ken Robinson have a very very similar speaking style. Same spacing s and tone variation.
Word!...& intonation...😅
I was fortunate as a young territory sales representative to have a boss that arranged for speaking engagements at major utilities companies and would then nominate me as the one to deliver the talk. Looking back now over 40 yrs., those talks are among the most impactful skill development efforts I’ve ever gone through. Invaluable to me over the years.
This episode is the epitome of perfectly timed in every way.
I needed this information SO much more than I realized.
This is my new obsession. I am so excited to explore this further and finally master the art of being heard.
Crying every day and not knowing why is the nervous breakdown we all deny we have had or will have if we’ve tried to stay in the fray without Gods help!!❤
Being part of this conversation helps to make up for all the flippant discourse we are subjected to daily 🎉
Watching on YT where my ears are regularly assaulted by screeching salespeople begging me not to skip and I can't skip the ad' fast enough!!
Fascinating conversation. I remember studying psychology GCSE where I first heard that noise is/can be a stimulus to violence - something I was very aware of but not consciously. Thank crunchy for mute buttons!
I really enjoyed listening to this, thank you both xxx
Love this ...I’m always for learning , born in a poor economic family reading was my toy and joy .
I taught my children to read with expression, all three became great Orators Leaders, and Community Concerned . THE POWER OF WORDS.....can be a great deterrent to problems and save lives and the abuse of this power can be just the opposite, thanks Steven I keep coming back to your podcast soon I will be doing mine....
Brilliant episode, with both male voices sounding so beautiful!!!! Makes me wish I was there in a third chair, taking part in both the listening and communicating.
I laughed out when he said how irritating it is for nonsense being delivered brilliantly. How true.
In all the episodes I’ve watched so far you go off down rabbit holes with people that are so fascinating then pull it back to link in with the original point, amazing skill!
This is one of these conversations that isn't as important because it has new information, but rather explaining really important points that we tend to forget. And is super well spoken.
That " bless you" idea to people who annoy you when you are in a more unconscious state brings you back into awareness. I found it really helpful when people are cutting you off in traffic or being really aggressive etc. Brian Scott did an amazing video on this
Wow, I never saw Julian before, he is so delightfuly smart. Treasure indeed. I’m gonna search him for more talks, thanks
Attending one of the top schools in the UK, followed by Cambridge (as Julian Treasure did) - bound to speak well. I went to similar schools/college and I can tell you, everyone around me whether they were introverted or not spoke 'well'. Yes, you can practice and develop confidence. But absolutely, I think we should be honest and acknowledge that you have a massive head start with that kind of education and upbringing.
To add, for me, it's not about how confident someone sounds or how great their voice is (both of which unfortunately do get you far - look at our last ex PM who got away with a lot because of 'the way he speaks') or even how authentic. (You can be really authentic about having an intention that isn't great... power, greed, attention, etc). So ultimately, I think it's content and intention. What is this person saying and why?
Absolutely loved this interview! Julian is so inspiring! As a budding public speaker and a sound healer, his discussion on the importance of sound, listening, and how to be heard was fascinating and so helpful to me. Blessings. ❤
Same! I came here to write this
Captivating, simply captivating. At 65 I thought I was reasonably atuned to conversing and actively listening, but Julian`s contribution has given me much more to contemplate. Thanks Steven.
This is amazing 👆🏽
I'm so glad to hear this Philip.
I am so grateful to hear someone on your show or anyone’s show for that matter, talking about something so integral to being connected with one another. Listening as well as speaking. I have contemplated for some time presenting myself to women in power or rather women who have much to give but the sound of their voice is an obstacle. I hear a high pitched, nasality coupled with vocal fry and I have to unplug because it simply hurts my ears and my own vocal instrument. Thank you so much for creating space for this.
Yes, vocal fry is a contagious disease that's blighting ther voices of millions, especially women for some reason. A tragedy when there's all thaewonder of a magnificent voice to explore.
I ended up hear as someone who doesn't feel heard (and works extraordinarily hard to listen). At times I've felt selfish wanting to be heard, but when says that it's actually a need to be heard, that really struck home.
I used to listen to Tim Ferris all the time but then he started talking about chaga mushrooms too much 😅. Steve’s podcast just gets better and better. I feel like he’s filled the gap that Tim Ferris left for me! Great work Steve! Looking forward to seeing more 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Same with Joe Rogan 😅
I have found TH-cam talks such as Ted Talks, to Be immensely informative for personal development and growth to be a better human being. There was so much to unpack on todays discussion, I feel it has the possibility to be life changing. Coming from a mental health social worker, trained to listen, I took a lot from this. Can’t wait to watch again with notebook at hand.
Happy for you bro.
Good morning to you both.
My Dad has and still does encourages and pushes listening First.
'Two ears One mouth' he says. This wee saying I now encourage and action, so to speak.😀
Thankyou again for sharing.
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There is a quote I’ve come across recently that resonates “Seek first to understand then to be understood.” Stephen covey 5th habit in the book “7 habits of highly effective people”. You guys named Stephen seem to be very intuitive and most of all, motivated to give your best without expectation. I thank you for that my friend.
Such a pleasant person to hear speaking. I learnt a lot today.
Bless you, Steven
In my journey it's been helpful for me to look at gratitude in a different way than the usual "what I am thankful for"
Instead:
What am I doing that makes OTHERS grateful FOR ME
So it turns out that when being of service, that generates a stronger attraction to the Universe, which operates within cosmic law
I try to be intentional about listening, especially because I know all too well what it feels like not to be truly heard. I am usually intentional about being present, putting away distractions, summarizing or asking clarifying questions. But I can certainly improve my listening by not trying to formulate responses while someone else is talking.
This was a brilliant interview. I can't believe I just watched this whole interview from start to finish. This gentleman really knows how to Capture an audience
The best thing is he asks questions like he is in the audience. He is interested to know things and never hesitates to ask the hard questions. Amazing! ♥️
Absolutely love this talk. It's not only about a particular skill but comments the society and its problems. Love it. Thank you.
I do yoga and it does help me a lot to focus on my breathing. It helps tremendously!
I LOVE Julian Treasure! When I taught Oral Communications at the college level, his videos were required listening. I also played How to Speak so that others Will Want to Listen", and then we practiced the exercises in class.
Julian explaining how he uses 'bless you' for when he's out and about to practice love and well wishing for strangers/whoever we bump into is something I've taken up the practice of doing too, so it was really nice and reassuring hearing that from someone else who sees it as effective. It really does lighten the load. In my case I don't usually think negatively of people, but there are plenty of times where I have done without even realising, esp judging without meaning to. The more we practice kindness and love (esp to those we don't particularly get on with), the easier it becomes and more at ease we eventually feel. So, thank you Julian for sharing this! ^_^
*goes back to watching*
Also absolutely gobsmacked hearing Julian is 64 years old! Holy moly...he really doesn't look it at all! Looks like he's still in his is 40S!
I also love to say bless you when I meet people. They smile. It’s great feedback ❤
Such a great conversation between two brilliant people, thank you 🙏
What a great episode, Mr. Treasure is delightful and charming. I'm an avid watcher here and took to pen and paper rather quickly jotting down notes - as of late, I have been very conscious of my speaking, not just with my voice, but also how I communicate and come across, especially in my work place. Thank you so much!.
Wow what a beautiful spirit this Julian has!
I'm really glad I came across this video today - very relevant to my current season. Thank you 🙏
😂 I too go around blessing people! Bless you both Julian and Stephen ❤❤❤
This is by far the best video I have watched on TH-cam. Thank you. 😊
Fun fact... RASA also means "to feel" in Sanskrit and in Singapore all homecooks will emphasize how important it is to cook with "rasa", it basically means the love has to be tasted in the food... it's also used to describe passion in a performance or a display.. essentially it's about making a connection between the effort and the result whether cooking or creating something, so that's a great acronym! Receive, Appreciate, Summarize and Ask.. Now to share this with my husband, if he'll listen hahah! Let's start validating people with RASA!
Would love to see time stamps on your videos so we can jump around and target specific portions/topics of the conversation. Thanks for sharing. Great content!
Faith that all will be ok? isnt that more like hope?
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Hope implies it MIGHT be okay. Faith has NO doubt. Hope this helps.
Perfect timing I am In the process of improving this skill to become a public speaker and to help get my message to millions with impact leading to lifelong transformation 👏👏👏, great interview Steven , listening and learning you bring on valuable speakers thank you so much for delivering consistently never bored here ,so refreshing to hear the depth of the speakers journey through your intelligent questions👍
The moment I pressed that play button, something very powerful shifted inside of my emotional body. Right there I knew this was going to be an incredible episole. Thank you!
This episode is profoundly valuable and informative.
Great interview. Julian Treasure is so right about how our ‘cancel culture’ is so damaging.
I listen to you almost daily. I greatly enjoy your guests. Today's speaker/guest has pointed out sounds generated with businesses. This, has inspired me to articulate something I feel that I normally would not have pointed out. The music you play the beginning of your podcast is very difficult for me to listen to. It feels very dark to me and does not feel insightful and uplifting as your guests. I am probably the only one that feels, but like I said your guest inspired me to communicate it. Thank you for bringing forth valuable guests on topics that provide knowledge and enlightenment. Keep up the great work you do. ❤
Thanks to this guy, I have realized my negativity bias
I love your values! Thank you for sharing. I am a psychotherapist and I try to live and transmit similar values to my dear clients.
1.18- ABSOLUTELY!!! Food is highly emotional. I am a functional nutritionist and have a deep understanding of how powerful the right foods are for our health. Yet my Italian heritage _ where food is almost a religion- means that there are certain meals that will never be reduced down to just nutrition.❤
Wow, best interview ever! So many golden nuggets. Think I need to watch it again 🙏🙌
Steven, I understood the value of your guest up to 1:33:08 when he began to speak “as a minority”. At which point I thought, “Tough shit” Mr male/caucasian/Scot. Sometimes it is important to”fight” even if it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable for the majority. I perceived him to be dismissive? arrogant? And possibly needing a therapist himself. At this point I wondered whether looking up his other Ted talks was something I wanted to subject myself to. Thx for all you do Steven!
Thank you Julian . I learnt a lot from you today . I appreciate the way you deliver your words / I noticed you brought out the authentic part of the precentor he was more childlike at one point which I thing was him showing his natural . 😃💫💫💫⭐️
Great episode. Julian Treasure is a treasure. I use his Ted Talk in my English class to introduce class protocols.
Recently, I read an interesting book that partially focused on breathing. It emphasized that breathing should be full, meaning we should breathe using both the stomach and the chest simultaneously.
WOW! what an intelligent man and learnt so much. Thanks Steven for bringing some amazing people.
I'm enjoying this , I am actually writing my "life Map" I have broken it into 5 quarters...I am in the bottom of the fourth quarter and in this I found out why I had not meet my life goal ,but very close.. I use to call in to radio talk shows and then listen to myself as if I was detached and critiqued my voice, my tone, and my timing was I overbearing or seem snooty, totally not my intention or my personality but sound and tones makes the difference...One day I walked into public community radio station on my own and asked to join, I was given a script for a news report ...I did and with only one reading I got the spot to do..
.I am now on public radio and before I get home I am listening and myself to improve. This was great advice and yes you should know who you are
,I have values ,which I believe , I like acronyms, great show. YES, GRATITUDE is a Must...to grow and find peace. I SUBSCRIBED WHAT A SMALL "PRICE" TO PAY for great gifts of wisdom.
Well this was a terrible choice to start listening to at 4am!
It's now nearly 0530 and it's brilliant. What a fantastic conversation on a really interesting topic. Yep, subscribed.
Hahaha, 05:20 am does not make it better!
As always , amazing and positive life changing contents. Thank you so much. Bless you more.
Stephen, I have a question. At the one hour four minutes mark, The speaker is telling a very personal story, I hung on every word he said. I saw something change in his face, His eyes particularly, as I’m sure many others did too. It seems like a raw, deeply personal time in his life.. One that I myself have not experienced but I am a mother and have experience loss in other ways and this definitely brought tears to my eyes. I love your channel because of the topics but more importantly because of the delivery and the authenticity. What I’ve noticed and I might be wrong, please correct me if I am, but it seems like when the speaker is having an emotional moment like this and you’re observing it firsthand while we are watching it through our screen later on, so maybe I miss it..but I don’t think I’ve seen you moved emotionally by what they have said, to the point of tears or looking emotionally pulled. Not to say that you should be, but I am someone who is so deeply moved by the emotions of others which is both good and bad. Have you ever been moved to tears by one of your speakers? Do you guard in moments like these so you don’t show that level of vulnerability? I know boys were brought up to be men who do not show emotion through tears and I’m trying to break that with my sons. I personally try very hard not to cry in front of people because I feel so vulnerable but I fail miserably sometimes. I’ve always thought of myself as a very open minded person but as I get older I realize that’s just not the case. Yeah I am fascinated by the life experiences of others and the way it shapes their views and opinions and I am very open minded to what they think and feel and why but I’m not always excepting of it and I’ve been quick to dismiss it in the past. I’m trying to be thoughtful and intentional about the way that I word what I am trying to say and as you probably noticed, I’m still working on it. I appreciate your channel and I’ve gained so much knowledge that I may have otherwise missed but it has helped me grow and heal and learn vastly. Thank you for the time, dedication, and effort that you put into this channel. It is very inspiring.
Amazing podcast. You have no idea the impact this, almost 2 hours, have done in my life. Thank you so much.....
I have started watching and listening to your podcasts and I absolutely like the content. You are doing a great job of inviting experts in the fields with priceless suggestions and help for us to improve and flourish🙏 The only thing is they are long episodes and one feels demotivated moving towards the last quarter of videos. Maybe keeping episodes shorter works better. Great job.
The breathing tactic was he hit the nail on the head for me I needed this today with everything that possibly could happen to my world today with the anniversary of my fathers passing today and Friday my last Aunt death the breathing exercise made me dizzy but it helped just now WOW
Stephen, you are doing such an incredible service for mankind!! Just love the talks I listen to! When I first starting listening to you talks a couple of months ago, I wasn’t sure how I would be able to choose from your long list of excellent guests!!! And of course, there no need to choose, since the youtube algorithms are able to choose what I might like, much better than I can!! Thank you so much again!!!
1:30:33 I've just stumbled over this fantastic podcast about the power of active listening in promoting mutal understanding and thus avoiding conflict . The horrible violent events happenning and worsening since October 7th in lsrael and PaIestine and the endorsing of the most powerful side by other powerful parties are a fitting example of the silo mentality and the dehumanisation that occur when we don't listen actively to others.
Listening --- compassion -- is the sound of democracy - Wow!
That was absolutely beautiful to listen to. Thank you both so much, blessed be 🌼
What was your best part from clip ?
A genuinely authentic specialist… very enjoyable. Thanks.
Loved, loved, loved your guest!! ❤ Steven, how has your collection of guests over the period of your podcast, shaped you into who you are today? And is there any ONE guest who made the biggest impact in your life, since starting this podcast! 😊❤️
This was excellent and much needed in society. Thank you 🙏
Thank you Stephen for hosting amazing guests. Barbara and Julian I learned alot from them.
What an interesting man. I really enjoyed listening to his voice, his thoughts about listening, and his values.
Brilliant talk, very grateful to have just come across this channel, so much genuine valuable information from these conversations to apply to life and improving oneself which is rare in this era of infinite meaningless distractions online. Thank you and bless you.
I am going to watch this AGAIN - brilliant
Julian Treasure my new hero.
I remember when I started my show/podcast, I was so scared I was not good enough, the more I did it, took time to reframe my questions and interviews questions, this has been my transformation. I still am learning.
Affected and effected are different words with different meanings. Steven, let your editors know the difference. Love your work mate xx
Also re values, they are based on core beliefs. What was seen and heard and believed to be true is the first iteration of this. As we grow up we need to make these core beliefs conscious and see where they need adjusting to better align with what we think of as our values. Otherwise our apparent values are not represented in our actions.
I bought Julian's book on Audible a month ago and watched this episode today, I'm really thankful he came on your show. Can't wait for the movie of this episode to come out starring Will Smith and Tom Hanks :)
Steven and Julian, I have found this podcast very helpful and eye-opening. Thank you very much☺ I love watching the podcasts and never fail to learn something new
Thank you for so many amazing podcasts Steven. You truly have a gift for creating deep and profound conversations with all of your guests. It would definitely be a great idea to change your opening and closing music. Find a piece of music that complements the level of work and commitment that is taken to create such fantastic content so that it is on a par with the quality of your channel. It is your musical signature. The wisdom Julian shared with you about how important music is in relation to how we experience something is so true.
Great interview. His values that he explained sound very stoic. 🤔
I do enjoy what is being discussed... fascinating
I am uncomfortable with the idea of someone being skilled and perhaps is just that a skill ... something about being yourself and coming from the heart would be important... it is fascinating
Steven, I am a new listener of your podcast and love them, this one in particular! I could listen to the two of you talk all day. Seriously, keep up the amazing work, its so valuable and appreciated.
WHAT?! Broccoli is so fking good I eat bowls for days & months. Just add sesame oil & garlic salt. McDs is disgusting in comparison, leaves me feeling ill, messes with my digestion, and isn't at all filling.
I GET EXCITED FOR BROCCOLI, MY DUDE!!