How To Let Go Of Resentment & Anger For Good!
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 29 มิ.ย. 2024
- An in depth talk about some of my personal findings about the theme of letting go of resentment and anger. I hope it helps you!
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0:00 Today's agenda
2:22 Right now, don't give the mind belief or importance
6:30 Anger and resentment only pollute our life
11:06 Expectations lead to anger and resentment
16:28 Reward the good, don't punish the bad
19:12 It is not your job to settle the score
24:25 Consume the darkness with your light
27:45 Value your relationships
32:38 It's just not worth it
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I believe anger can be used productively sometimes. It is not always a negative emotion. I also think that we should be careful not to call any emotion a “poison”. This sort of labeling can make us judge our emotions instead of effortlessly observing and welcoming them.
Letting go of anger gives power. It is power.
The world responds to that kind of power, in positive ways❤️ It allows love
Thank you for this video. I've been caught in the anger loop for about 9 months now due to the difficulty my kid has in adjusting with 1st grade school. It's absurd and she'll outgrow it probably but for me it's so absurdly painful because every time I think she has progress and I can let go, she regresses and it's really hard on me to sustain the amount of energy needed for the whole situation. I'll try to meditate on "reward them for who they are, don't punish them for what they are not, It's not your job to settle the score" as this seems the part resonating with me the most. As parents we think it's our job to fix the bad behaviors of our kids, and teachers certainly remind us that excessively but in the end, they are their own humans and we can only try to help as much as possible.
So much wisdom in this teaching. Very useful as w ay of living anf letting go of resentment, anger which is a total waste of life.
Thank you for your message Sunny! This is an important one for me. I pushed somebody special out of my life, seemingly for good. My ego tries so hard to keep reminding me of things she said to me and about me. And to keep reminding me of how long it’s been since we spoke. I’m ready to let it go, I have been for awhile. But the thoughts keep coming, and sometimes I catch it right away and notice when it happens, and other times, it just goes through these loops. This message will help me continue to let go. 🙏
Amazing video. I heard you put words together in such a beautiful way that I am moved to share this with someone in my life who I think is particularly open to change.
That is beautiful to hear! Thank you for sharing
Making total sense! 🙏love you so much dada…. You are my guru…. Your every word make sense to me … so kind … so much devotion 🙏 thank you for everything
Such a beautiful authentic video Sunny. I noticed the maturity right when you said it in the video😅 LOL
Seems i had not been honest with myself about letting go of anger but once I did, I was able to see the blessing instead.🎉
Wonderful video. I think this is the Best i've heard in years on how to let go and forgive. Having the right perspective. I feel lighter and freer already. This is a life changer ! THANK YOU Sunny ! ✌️❤🙏
Such an important teaching. So true. So timely for me. Thank you so much for your clarity, love and wisdom, Sunny.
Glad it helped Venita :)
Sunny I listen to you all the time, and I deeply respect the work that you do, your sincerity and authenticity is obvious to everyone. But to be honest, I’m kind of tired. It seems like it’s never ending battle. No matter what the situation is. It always seems to come back to, you if I just look at it different it’ll be different. I’m just kind of tired of always trying to change the way I am looking at it, instead of just actually having the power to change it.
Don't be afraid then to move in a new direction and experiment with something else :) Through experimentation, clarity comes and we find our way.
Try just not trying to change anything. Maybe you're trying too hard to change things that you actually don't have the power to change. ❤ That is very tiring.😊
@@allysonedwards4792 Thank you For your kind words. It just gets hard some days
This is a fantastic video that arrived at the right time in my view so that I could watch it. Personally, I did not think it was too long.
Looking forward to this! I want to let go of all anger and resentment! And the possibility of using it to help with my spiritual growth sounds amazing!❤
I'm happy it brought you clarity Melanie!
Recently I wonder if we hold an attack thought i.e "i hate them" our own mind doesn't know it is the source of the thought and fears its own thinking, like a voice in the shadows threatening you.
Emotions are like our social immune system, anger originally intended in the moment to maintain safety and boundaries. Repressed we choose compliance from caregivers, we create a tank of rage that is feared by our conscious mind. We judge these angry thoughts as our own and feel guilty with their content.
Thanks So much for your explanations and your videos this came to me when I needed to hear this almost like magic. I just had situations in my life that didn’t quite went like I had planned expected it to be which includes other people negotiating work contracts. I planed them out myself but would rather hire than do it myself this time. Exactly like you described they didn’t quite wanted to do it my way and another changed rules in a done deal. When I herd your explanation it k licked I just felt it and started laughing instead it felt so right other people have their opinion I have mine I can’t do nothing about that what so ever and the only one suffering the frustration anger irritation is myself poisoning my day for something I never can control. This helped me a lot and I’m happy again for now anyway once again thank you ❤
Thank you Sunny topic is spot on it’s health and good for the Soul
Oh God yes Sunny I can relate.
Anger was my life! From one moment to the next. Years of rumination while the other person suffered nothing. Lol
Fabulous lesson Sunny - If only they made ‘foregiveness’ a compulsory subject in Primary school it would be a different world.❤
That was very clear. Thank you, Sunny.
Very good Sunny what you have said is great and helpful.
Thank you so much for this video Sunny. This is something that I noticed i need to do to really be happy and I am grateful for your advice in this process. ❤
This video was just what I was looking for. Thanks for this.
Very good Sunny
Ex Sunny very beneficial 😊
Thanks for making this video
Yes the three poisons The Three fires
Please make a video about stillness of mind
Thanks Sunny😊
Great video Sunny as usual I’ve learned a ton
Thank you!
Thanks ❤❤❤
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Lots of great info here - thank you for making this available. My issue is that when I feel resentment it is in my body: pounding heart, loss of vision, incessant thoughts, tight neck - the list goes on! Once I am in that space I am in fight mode, I can't access my thinking mind to calm myself and I end up making decisions based on my [bodily] anger which I often regret. How to get out of that state so I can think and make better decisions?
I heard a man say he broke thirty years of panic attacks from flying. He said he was told to confront the symptoms that are brought about by the panic attack. Like say his chest tightened, he would then say “come on chest, you can do better, you can go tighter, is that all you got”? He said as he did that, and some deep breathings in between, his symptoms vanished, and he flew panic free or the first time in thirty years….
This helps immensely. Thanks
Hey Sunny, I have not yet watched the video but I am familiar with some of your material and I want to ask: what would you recommend if someone has deeply repressed negative feelings such as anger or deep shame or fear - which might not come to mind on their own? Wouldn't it be beneficial to trigger them somehow and then allow them to be? How would you go about that?
hi George, life itself triggers it out of us. We don't need to make any effort to do so. When they arise, these things should be observed and allowed, and not identified with. The advice in this video also sheds light on the personal and practical elements of how to see/outgrow anger and resentment in a brand new way.
At the end you gave good advice but for mee too late.
why too late?
You look like a Dr in that shirt
haha true
Yes but it is important to process the storied anger in the body with somatic exercises (processing the repressed anger that is in the body). Many health conditions result as a result of repressed anger (Check out Dr. Gabor Mate). This is why Adyashanti stepped back from teaching and is taking anti-anxiety meds for what he calls PTSD. The stored anger in the body must be process or chronic pain, chronic fatigue, migraines and many other symptoms can result. Spiritual bypass of emotions is a real thing within the Spiritual Community as people come to mediation, working with the mind, etc. as a bandaid when there is emotional work to do.
Hello Eveline, yes what is conventionally referred to as spiritual bypassing is not what is being suggested in this video :)
Many thanks Sunny. It came on the perfect time for me in my life. Very helpful 😊
🌅Thank You 👁️Sunny You Have Beautiful 🤍There lS Difficulty When other who contined in blind toxic behavior to openly lie and twisted they Ugly Attitude and refuse to ackntowledge that What they Have been Doing lS Just so Wrong and Unexceptible🙏namaste🪷