My Grandmothers Hates Me: Fixing The Relationship Before It's Too Late | Look Me In The Eye
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 28 ส.ค. 2024
- Meet Kayla, who longs to reconnect with her father after 18 years of separation, fueled by doubts about her paternity. Belle, haunted by her grandmother's words and actions, seeks closure after over a decade of estrangement. Taylor hopes to bridge the emotional gap with her brother, Ty, who withdrew after their parents' divorce.
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I wish I could see my grandmother one more time. Sometimes I worry I won’t be able to remember her voice anymore. It’s been so long ❤
You’ll see her again- eventually
@@JL-iu7fk
What an ominous comment to leave.
Well, it sounds like you were lucky enough to have a grandma who didn't tell you to your face that she likes your newborn baby sister better at 5 or 6 years old
Caylee and her Dad moved me to tears. I wish both families all of the best.
😢me too
So happy for Kayleigh to get the answers she was looking for, but what a toxic mother and grandmother she has.
Caylee and her dad story made me cry! That was so emotional.
Dad came with no daughters left with 2. Crying
Caylee dad and the fiancee made me cry so beautiful ❤
Love the experiment and words break more then you know.
You never forget words so try to be silent in youre anger and wait till you calm down to speak.
Blyth is a bit of a drama queen. She made grandma come all this way only to turn her nose on her.
Indeed!!
This makes me cry. My adult daughter has completely cut me off. I give her the space and reach out periodically to tell her I love her, I’m sorry, I’m here unconditionally. It’s been several years. I haven’t given up, but I have given up the horrific guilt surrounding it. I had to. It was killing me. 🥺
I'm sorry to hear this yes your right to give up feeling guilty it gets you know where I believe your on the right track reaching out and living your life at the same time.people can change there mind and reunite for sure I wish you the very best🌈
Sending you big hugs
@@joannedibben2352 Thank you so much for your kind words 💗
@@StAlphonsusHasAPosse That is so kind. Thank you so much 💗
@@joannedibben2352I don't know the circumstances surrounding you and your daughter, and I am not judging either of you. I went no contact with my mum after 35 years of her cruelty and lies. She was toxic, and my mental health was at rock bottom, so I had to cut her off. She doesn't respect my boundaries, and is constantly trying to get my siblings to talk to me. She sends birthday cards every year, but they go straight in the bin. It's one of her many manipulation tactics. If I tell her to stop, she will treat that as an opportunity to up the harassment. It's really not black and white.
What grandmother in her right mind would make a public declaration that she prefers one child over the other ? It could have been a big misunderstanding since I didn't hear the grandmother's side of the story but while you can't always love everybody equally ,discretion is strongly advised !!!!
its because her grandmother is a evil person she thinks she never did something wrong thats why there was no healing
no loving person on this earth would EVER say something like that its because she has a narrowed mind she is not even able to think that she did something wrong youve heard that in her last words as she said her is not strong enough, its not that she wasnt strong enough she knew in her heart it wasnt worth it.
The young lady remembered that memory as a child. It is likely that Grandma meant it as a joke, but was ignorant to the fact that children take words literaly.
Children hear what you say, not what you mean. I HIGHLY doubt it's the way she remembers. I'm sure there's so much more to it. Age barriers, cultural barriers, LANGUAGE barriers, and on. Honestly, the grandmother seems confused as to why she's even like this.
The grandmother may have meant, "I like this baby outfit better than the other one". Shame that grandma didn't get a chance to speak.
If you understand cultural differences you understand grandma here. My mum is the same but she doesn’t mean anything by it, her language makes things come out differently to what she intends. Like my 4 brothers and sisters are doing well and I’m the hobo 😂😂😂 it’s all good I know she refers to my carefree attitude 😂❤ give grandma a go …
Wow this is such a breakthrough for all I really hope everyone works things out life is short. I would like to try this with my siblings we have so much tension between us at times. I'm going to really think this through for a while.
Ive been thinking for months n.many yrs..still nothing works. If i dont contact them they wont even give a call or just a txt message..i gave up..sorry to say...i had decided to cut contact. The yrs ive tried has given me health issues..so is better i keep a distance and get no tension and stress from them.
Kayla maybe a grown woman .. but that was a little girl sitting in front of her dad .. and he said sorry .. bet she's waited for that her whole life.
What a beautiful brother and sister and how lucky they are to have each other! 👫
I can not believe Blyth did this!
-I think (from the little seen here), that the grandmother and grand daughter both have stubborn ways. The grandmother is indirectly teaching her that she is worthy no matter how peope may see her at a given movement. And that worth MUST be depended on our own inner acknowlegement of our unique beauty (if we give this power to those outside of us we will never be whole). And the granddaughter is teaching the grandmother indirectly that her words, and her status mattered to the point where the hurt of her words devastated her and how she shows up in the world. Words matter when we have close bonds and relationships.
-I like that the dad was able to see the hurt in his duagther, some men do really think they're children are better off without them b/c of self-loathing and not making the mark when it comes to how they show up in the world for themselves and what they ( think), for their families, when the reality is most children just want their company.
-I could also tell that the brother and sister look like twins lol. I could pick up that he loves his sister deeply. Sometimes people close themselves off b/c they are afraid to lose their love again. Its a coping mechanism.
How tf did the grandma teach her granddaughter that she's worthy by telling her she likes her new sister better than her? Or by only having negative things to say about her as a kid like she's too loud or too naughty?
I would love to do this with my ex-husband. He surgically removed me from his life and we haven’t spoken since before the divorce. He was my best friend. Nothing changes past feelings. I had to move on for my physical and mental health
@7:06 Ray Martin, what an insensitive, horrible question to ask Caylee, Are you sure he is going to turn up?
Grandmother looked at her with nothing but hurt, guilt and silent accusation. I didn’t see any warmth, love, or forgiveness. All this did was retrigger her granddaughter’s feelings of rejection.
I just saw hurt and concern in her eyes so maybe some of what we see is open to interpretation. I only know the granddaughters side of the story but it seems to me that no good can ever come out of publicly declaring favorites ! That is a big no no and near and dear to every grandchild's heart .
@@celestialcircledance if you like one of your children more than the other you should go check a priest or a psychologist.
YOUR Mind MUST be sick if you do that.
if you do that yourself sometimes go check the value of your life something went terribly wrong
In Asian households it is common to joke about those things, my mum used to say that as a joke, and I understand that@@alfrichter969
@alfrichter969 you can definitely like another child more than another, however the LOVE should absolutely be equal no matter what. Like and love are totally different
@@theunknown6066 i think u shouldnt like a child more because they will notice somehow. its probably a personal matter if you like one child more than the other....
would you like a child more for a certain aspect? like humor or sportiness or if a child is more attached to you?
Blythe, one day you gonna regret that. I was adopted and my grandma was mean to me. It was how she was raised. If you studied your culture, you would know why she is that way. I'm honestly believe she said she like the baby better cause you were likely bratty in her eyes because of your culture but did you Ever blame your parents? They could hAVE SORTED IT TOO. THAT WAS MEAN, SHE WON THO
Her feelings are valid. I totally get why she walked away. Dis u not even hear wgat her grandma said hahaha said she thought ahe was strong enought but she is not haha. What????!
Right? So many extremely questionable people on here totally bending over backwards to justify that woman because she's old and just tossing the young lady THAT old woman traumatized under the bus. Those are all the same people who guilt abused kids into "forgiving" their abusive parent because "you only have one mom" or "but that's your moooooom". They're also usually the exact same people who are doing the abusing.
It sounds like Blyth was spoiled and thought she was number 1 until little sister came along. Her grandmother was not in the wrong and doesn’t deserve to be dismissed. Grandmother should rest easy knowing she made the effort. Blyth probably blames her sister for her life and everything that is wrong.
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Facts.
I agree. It's like she's still acting like a child.
Her grandmother said out loud that she preferred the new baby over Blyth. Beyond Hurtful. Why would a grandmother speak those words?
Wishing Kayleigh and her Dad all the best.
Belle on the other hand, did this for attention. See that huge grin she has on her face when Ray meets her outside the door after she's walked away from her grandma.
im sorry to tell you but i think you are wrong.
i saw the resentment in her eyes that wasnt for attention that was pain
ive rewatched the clip and i dont see ANY big grin or something if you know about human behavior humans often laugh especially when they feel uncomfortable.
honestly i felt exactly the same way as she did when i saw the grandmother trust me that old woman has no good heart i see that at 100miles
@@alfrichter969 Agree with all but the bad grandma heart. What you're seeing is a generational and cultural divide. It is not a common thing to have people in their 60's and 70's to be openly crying and sharing. Watching several of these, you see the differences in how they were raised. Not that they don't feel, but you don't share that in front of strangers. And lest we forget, there is a television host and an entire crew filming. Likely to be about 8-10 other people in the room with them.
I do think they can work it out, provided the grandma also remembers she's not dealing with her own cultural norms alone and that Belle is not going to be quiet and submissive as she expects. It will take both sides to relent.
@@Madamegato thats probably all true but the girls reaction said it all there were imidiate flashback so she gave her the same feeling as years ago. there was no acceptance or forgiveness only projection of guilt from the grandma.
from my experience those 2 will never be united. you cant forgive someone if the other side is not aware of mistake. you cannot forgive a person that says i have not done anything wrong, trust me i speak of my own experience with my own mother.
our life was pretty tough mostly because of my mother i have 2 other brothers that almost totally deny her. im the only one of 3 children that still has somewhat of good contact to her. thats because i lived the longest period with her. i understand her the most thats why i can understand her behavior but i can NEVER accept if she tries to change the past for her comfort thats something i absolutely will not accept not even for a second when she is in my presence.
In Belle case, I wonder why her parents are not involved in the reconciliation. The cultural differences and age gap between grandma and grand daughter is too wide. If for some reasons Belle's parents separated and grandma had to look after her, I can imagine the difficulty of raising a so-called "rebellious" child. At the end, the parents are at fault. It is not the grandma's duty to raise the child, resulting in resentment and hurt.
Clearly, you've never had someone you practically worshipped tell you to your face they like your siblings much better abd sonehow in all your years of life you've managed to not once meet a person who smiled when nervous/anxious/etc. Weird.
Sad when families fall out but lovely when they are reunited. It be nice if every family of the world were friends but the enemy hits where it hurts the most, God is stronger and brings familys back together Amen
i think there's a misunderstanding between blythe and grandma she should speak to grandma and ask her why she said those things maybe sh will get closure then but she never explained to grandma why she just cut her out of her life she will regret it grandma wont be around forever
Can you wear a little child and somebody you love very dearly came out and said I like this one better. No matter who it was.. but comparing u to another ans u always trusted that grandma or parent....u would understand
Blythe seems like she was a bit of a brat as a child, which of course will cause her grandmother to prefer a baby that cant speak. The love is still there, but she doesnt have to like them equally. Theres a big difference between like and love. It seems she was just jealous of her little sister as the attention wasnt all on her anymore...
Grandma is cold and unfeeling, with a flickering undercurrent of contempt. Only narcissists choose to overtly favour one grandchild over another. Blythe was onto her then and can still see through her now. I wish Blythe all the love ❤️
One of the most delusional things I've ever heard. I swear people make these things up in their head.
she was just a kid she's being dramatic kids take everything literally it could have been a joke or a language barrier her English is not prefect now and that happened like 10 years ago it was probably worse then your only getting her story not the grandmothers. and she cant talk it out she's a grown woman. You can tell the grand mother doesn't really even know why she was cutout. it seems like she was spoiled and when she got a sister half the attention went there and she was used to all of it
Half the commenter's on here seem likely to fill that description as well.
What the grandmother said was inappropriate to say around a child. To "choose" to hold unto a supposed wrong is a!so rather questionable. There is some "adulting" that needs to be done. People will want forgiveness, but will withhold if from the other party and from themselves. To truly forgive, you must release the other party from the past and yourself for holding onto the negative emotion for so long.
I think the grandma was your typical cold hearted mean Asian grandma.
A bit racist no?
@@HigginsBiggins I don’t think so, Asian grandmothers are known to be very strict, as well as Russian grandparents. That’s been my experience, it was not meant as a racist comment at all. My grandmother was not the nicest woman. My children’s grandparents are from the Middle East. Thus my husband was born n raised in the Middle East. The way every culture parents and grandparents is very different.
My Asian grandma was the most sweetest and loving grandma! I miss her dearly ❤
You're projecting. There was warmth. You just ignored it. If cold-hearted is what you wanna see, you're gonna see it.
Seems like you know all about the typical cold hearted mean Asian grandma.
Have you had personal experience?
If not, maybe reflect and wonder whether you are judgemental?
Whtever happens to Blyth mom?
Grandma doesnt show love, shes waiting for an answer why she was cut off for 10 yrs. Saying goes..Look into the eyes you could get some answers. Shes not genuine in her smile
When you do your everything for them for them just to cut you off when their Father, my son, died. My door is shut now for good as I'm never going to be able to recover from their cruel cruelness!
@@lindasharp8523lmfaooooo my womb donor said nearly the same thing to anyone who'd listen. Meanwhile SHE is the abuser, SHE is the one who gave an 18 month old a traumatic brain injury and much more.
I feels sad for the grandma. Wish mine was still alive
I’m sorry for your your loss mine also recently passed away
holding her grandma responsible for something that was said to her as a child is so pathetic. if you dont tell the grandma WHY you are ignoring her then why should she care about your 10 year tantrum, you had 10 YEARS to be a big girl and tell her how you feel
Exactly
you’ll be the ignored grandma one day
yea if it would be so easy.
but if a child hears that its different to a grown person im sorry but activate brain function before judging.
a 5 year old child can not make a difference between said word.
a 5 year old child will only understand that its worse something is wrong with her they will look for reasons why they resent them and they will find the everywhere.
they can never build trust because the person thats supposed to give you unconditional love just made conditions to love you.
they will always feel alone and wrong.
its useless to talk to a person that thinks it never did something wrong.
@@alfrichter969as a grown person, you have to take the courage to look the person in the eyes and have a conversation, if you can't do that, you have no chance in life
Ah yes, justify child abuse just because it came from the family
Caylee was better off without such a useless father who didnt think of his daughter or care for her well-being. She could have offed herself and he wouldn’t have felt an ounce of shame or guilt for abandoning her.
He didn’t leave her, her mom took them and never came back and he was paying child support if he had abandoned her he wouldn’t have done that but yea I get he couldv3 reached out or wtv but he thought she didn’t want to see him
blyths grandma has always been the adult in the relationship, and instead of saying kids should respect their elders,,, they need to be deserving of respect,,, seems grandma didnt ever try to reach out or reconcile at all
to say grandma never reached out is false, she tried calling her and blythe cut her phone off seems blythe never explained why she cut grandma out of her life so there