I Survived: The Case of Alex Skeel and his abusive girlfriend (FULL HD)
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This thought-provoking documentary tells the story of a British man Alex Skeel, who survived an abusive relationship with his girlfriend, and leads to a wider discussion of masculinity, the complex nature of relationships, and stereotypes about abuse and domestic violence.
The film dives into the relationship Skeel had with his then-girlfriend Jordan Worth through interviews with Skeel and his family and friends. It paints a picture of an average man who for years endured a form of unthinkable, raw violence, both physical and mental, that is infrequently told from a male victim point of view. It demonstrates how Skeel's livelihood was slowly slipping away and how even family and friends had no idea what was happening.
The documentary portrays a teenage romance that slowly warped into something else entirely, using police testimony to showcase Skeel's suffering from one of the most severe domestic violence cases the police department had ever seen. By sharing his story, Skeel hopes to challenge assumptions about violence and masculinity in relationships, and to empower victims of domestic violence to come forward.
In April 2018, Jordan Worth was sentenced to seven and a half years in prison. She became the first female in the UK to be convicted of coercive and controlling behavior. As of 2022, Worth was released from prison. PLEASE LIKE, SHARE AND COMMENT.
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I don't see a thanks button. Only the like button. 🤨
@@GypsyRock same here.. 😶🤭
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@@GypsyRock I've got a thanks button if you wanna borrow it...let me know & if so you can push all my buttons 😂
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Remember this is not about men vs women, it’s about abusers vs the abused. Men and women need to stand together against abuse regardless of gender.
Preach
💯 Drew 💯
Agreed
Thank you!!
God bless him for coming forward, God bless the Police for not giving up. Abuse to men is also out there and You are very right, gender is not not the issue, abuse is.
Tormented him for years, torturing him and almost killing him daily, and she gets out after 4 years. That's just disgusting.
"Justice" system
Sexist justice system
isn't it 14 years
Ye she got two seven year prison sentences
@@aytansafarli7701 the sentence was, but she got out after 4 is what the video said at the end
The cop who finally caught on and helped Alex is an actual hero and a great man. The way he criticized himself for not seeing it earlier is very telling of his character
If you’ve never been in a relationship and in love with a malignant narcissist, you won’t understand until you do.
I think she may have some APD sprinkled in her mix
I agree
She had other issues but def NPD
True words. I totally understood his excuses. Bless his beautiful soul ❤️
I agree, covert narcissists are the worst.
That policeman is a real hero. He was able to get through to Alex while no one in his life could. He very well saved his life. I hope he lives the rest of his life in pure bliss and happiness.
Absolutely that policeman is a hero!
Hear hear
Totally.God bless Him
Absolutely 100%
First responders are the lifeline !
This brought me to tears when I saw that Jordan was the first woman ever sentenced on those charges. Are we all blind? There are many men who are abused. We need to help them to seek justice. Please guys, if you are being abused, reach out to someone you trust. Insist that your voice be heard by the authorities.
Most definitely we are, think about all the fake pregnancies, false rape charges, false arrests, domestic violence protection orders. I'll never get the footage of the women literally sitting in bed beating socking . Hitting herself with things. To view that was so sick watching that, wanting to pin it all on the boy friend, they need to be prosecuted harshly. 👎🚫💯💔
I am dating a “girlfriend”. I don’t understand what a girl or a woman is these days. I am totally confused.
if yer male the odds are stacked against you to a ridiculous degree. the cops rarely ever believe you (and all the female has to do is turn on the waterworks and claim he abused her) and plus the justice system in general will treat her with kid gloves simply because she's a girl and when it's her word against a guy's word vast majority will believe her and she knows that. even AMBER HEARD told JOHNNY DEPP "yer a man i'm a woman nobody's ever gonna believe you".
NO GENDER IN PSYCHOPATH CONDITION THIS CONDITION MOSTLY TRIGGER BY PARENTS How THEY RAISED THEIR CHILDREN IF YOU SPOILED OR ABUSE CHILDREN 100% they will be
Why can’t we watch these things and not have to hear thought of ppl
What I find most frightening about this sad case is the amount of love and support he had around him and still fell victim to this sick cruel manipulator. I’m aware many don’t have that. So glad he managed to escape alive and has his babies and loving family around him. Hopefully he will meet someone wonderful to share his life with so he can experience a loyal, loving , fulfilling relationship which is what he deserves. Very brave to share his story I hope he’s helping others.
Exactly. We raise our kids with love and presence and we send them out to the world thinking we have given them everything to stand on their own.
They asked him why he didn't just walk away
@coffeepeachesplans Who did? His family? Whoever doesn't underatand why people don't just walk away clearly don't know a lot about DV then. Also, I am sure he also worried about his kids. I wouldn't want to walk away from my abuser and have my kids left with that person. He needed to know that Jordan would be locked up and his kids safe with him.
Its because she is a wonderful looking young woman. Halo effect. If she would be a mid age bad looking "creep" guy, would be in jail instantly
Something like this happened to me when I was 20, but I was isolated, living abroad. I grew up with a wonderful family, though. It can happen to anyone. I was willing to dismiss red flags and trusted his words over my gut instincts.
The fact that she falsified his identity on social media to push everyone who cared away even more. Absolutely wretched
Hats off to the officer who didn't budge untill he told the truth of what's happening. So many officers who turn a blind eye at domestic/violent abuse
They don't if they think the female is the victim! I called the police and I was the one taken away to the police station 😂
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Often yes, but… Actually I imagine some children of domestic violence relationships who were let down by the authorities join the police to stop it happening to anyone else, same as some kids who were ill as a child and failed by rubbish doctors want to go into medicine. And of course for some of those it was mum or stepmum who was the abuser, and nobody helped because of sexism.
I’m so happy that officer realized what was going on and didn’t let it go until he found out the truth. He saved Alex’s life
indeed they are trained for that and a good cop will see past the gender and directly into the signs.
Exactly and thank goodness for that good cop.
He definitely saved this young man's life and he may not see it because that is his job, but he is a big hero. A lot of people would have said, he is a man he could defend himself, but this officer said absolutely not and did not live him there to die and that is amazing. He looked past gender and just saw a human being that was vulnerable and scared and went into action, great officer but most of all great human.
@@jojosg414 lol a man being abused by a woman 😂
Yes I agree 🥺 I am so happy that cop got the truth out of him
When Alex’s mother recounted him coming home and bursting into tears…that got me. I hope Alex, the children, and the families are all doing better. I’m so happy he had the family support that was waiting for him at home.
Same. I watched the entire video with so much empathy and emotion. It's a powerful video. But my eyes remained dry throughout..... until his mom spoke of his home coming. It hit me.... HARD. I realized I was crying like it was MY child. Her raw emotion was coming through in waves!!! 😢
Alex seems like such a kind soul. It's a tragedy that his kind heart was filled with so much pain! He is so lucky to have such loving friends and family there to help him replace that pain with happiness and pure love! ❤️
Same
Yes, exactly the same.
The mother should take A LOT of the blame. Alex was free and then his mum had to go all gooey eyed over the grandchild and convinced him to get back with Jordan as she "had changed since becoming a mother".
This is a great example of how hard it is to leave an abuser. The “why you can’t leave” is so very complicated. So glad you finally got away from her Alex. Keep your kids far away from her forever. The children were also abused in that they were witnesses to such horrific events, and who’s to say she wouldn’t one day start physically abusing them.
It's only hard if your weak.. physically or mentally or both
@@Reno420alex an abuser makes you weak mentally. If you have never been the one who is being abused by a partner, it’s very hard to understand
@@Reno420alexGrow up
Trauma bonds are real, it’s not always that easy.
Stay single you have no problems if only people understood that
This isn’t just domestic violence. It’s down right torture of a human being.
I understand. Truly. And torture is illegal. 🦊🌚
No he's just weak
@nicolecarnevale3226 no its love
@@kingston9248 Youre disgusting
Are u mentally disabled to call a domestic abuse victim ‘weak’? Maybe you should get some help or just grow up
She’s not just abusive. She’s a psycho. She tortured him. She almost killed him.
@dani cali Women are getting longer sentences? In which paralel universe?
@@dontFwsocalNo depends where you live. A demon bitch hit me after a few months I left with my daughter in 3 days she went to court lied and took my daughter for a month and a half that it took to prove that she was a liar. If I as a man tried to take some chicks kid. A judge would never go for that or believe me. Women have it easy in most of the western world
@dani cali are u Jordan’s mom??
@dani cali what??????? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The evil b****
Its not just about the abuse that he suffered, but how nonchalantly she admits to most if the abuse. "Yeah, I hit him with the hairbrush when we argued in the car" and "Yeah, he slept on the floor" and the "Yeah, I slashed him with the knife but I never stabbed him".
Feminists created a world where women can murder men without facing consequences. THAT is the source of her entitlement. Cops always believe women and punish innocent men. I am starting to see more man-hating women falsely accusing male cops. Maybe cops need to experience what ordinary men go through at the hands of violent women. Perhaps this will help cops sympathize with male victims.
As someone who was in such a relationship, I'm glad she admitted her wrong doing. My husband denies denies and denies, so it becomes my word against his. He told me after admitting throwing boiling water over me to the police, he would never ever admit to anything again. He would even build a plausible story around the lie.... now THAT is warped
She's likely a psychopath.
@@saffieyz1buy some hidden camera aroung the house... But be very careful.. And try not to look always the place where you hide them...
I had a mentally abusive ex who was casual about it as well. She said stuff like 'I did it because I could', and when I confronted her for being abusive, she said, 'Just because something is true, doesn't mean you should say it'. Some people literally just don't care (she literally googled whether she was a sociopath), and for me (a non sociopath), it has genuinely left me with severe nightmares and trust issues. I think this poor guy fell into the trap that I and so many abused partners do, which is to assume that our partner can't be as heartless and cruel as they are. So, we rationalise their abuse and take responsibility for things that we shouldn't
Praise the Lord this man got out! Abuse is abuse. I’m a DV survivor myself. I don’t care if your male of female. When your broken, your broken. This man HAS SO MUCH COURAGE!! To speak out and help other men. Even though I’m a women, men and women need to see this.
Anyone who says this man is weak because he was abused by a woman doesn’t know what true strength and bravery really is. Bless you and your beautiful babies Alex. ❤
True words 👍
I bet 99% of the reason he stayed is cause he was scared if he left she'd move onto harming the kids.
Nobody is saying that … i just wish we would teach our children not to put up with bullies … to report to retaliate or just have the heart to leave them
Any idiot can punch back. But it takes a real man to step back and say No, I'm not doing this. I leave before I do this. No man is weak for not punching back. Ever. Anyone who thinks this, is a complete moron in my eyes.
Leaving an abusive situation is not that easy.
I was raised in domestic violence, I then married a women with boelrderline personality disorder and as a male, my request for help was laughed at, and rejected. I'm now 3rd year at university in psychology and raise 4 young children alone. I hope one day the law will see domestic abuse without the bias of gender.
I was too. This woman seems to have classic BPD. Possibly a psychopath too. No remorse.
It's simple, but well done you 💞
Happy for your children and yourself 💞
Not to be rude but why did you keep knocking her up
@@pinkpugginz I know it can be difficult to understand but there can be multiple reasons. 1. When an abuser abuses, they periodically show you love and kindness (false hope really) and you desperately await the return of that. 2) Fear. 3) R*pe and there is more reasons. Getting out of an abusive and violent relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can do. The amount of control and brain washing that goes into it, they literally change the way you think, the way you see yourself, they make you lose touch with reality, they give you fears you never knew you could have and at the same time they're pretending to love you, occasionally love bombing you too keep you going so they can abuse you more. They strip away your confidence, your identity, your sanity, they make you question your reality. Eventually your just a shell of the person you use to be and you give up. It becomes either you do as you're told or you get hurt, but even then, they will find any reason to abuse you, you could drop a spoon n that's it, then it becomes random, it's not even about you anymore, it's anything at all and you find yourself constantly waiting for the next attack. Other than this, another reason to stay is that so many people have been killed trying to leave abusive relationships and that is a very well known fact. Leaving is of the scariest and hardest things in the world. Also a fact. I hope this helps to answer your question.
I'm so glad he's safe and that he's sharing his story! This happens too often to men and women, but we aren't talking about male victims enough ❤
happens more to men than women tbh.
@@djd4142 True but no one cares when it's done to a man "because men are stronger" but if he fights back to defend himself he is abusive.
I'm not sure where you got that information, I've never seen research that says men are abused more than women in relationships. All victims are equal of course, but the reason society is focusing on women is because they suffer worse injuries and ultimately, in cases of deadly violence 8/10 victims are women.
@althegreat2961 what are you talking about. I didn't say it happened to men more? As someone who's gone through dv, I know the stats on women. We aren't talking about that right now though... you're kind of proving my point. We're talking about men victims and then you say "but women"
This is such a disturbing experience that he had to live through. She is one very sick person. I’m scared for the public when she is released. I doubt she will lose these behaviors because of some prison time. She starved, stabbed, threw boiling water and isolated this man while her 2 babies witnessed it all. I’m glad he is safe now and pray he heals emotionally and spiritually.
She only served 4 years and was released from prison in 2022! She got engaged to some bricklayer in 2023 and apparently ran a marathon to raise money for women affected by domestic violence - the sick irony. I'm sure the evil hyena did this as a joke and equally twisted people actually donated money for her "cause". Talk about a sadistic way to spit in the face of everyone who's been abused. This is what she wrote on her fundraising page:
"My Story
The Centre For Women's Justice are my legal team who have supported me personally over the last few years and are continuing to do so. They are experts in their field, and support female offenders who have been subject to male violence and historical domestic abuse. They provide legal advice, assistance with public inquiries, inquests and legal challenges. They ensure access to justice for female victims of male violence who find themselves in the criminal justice system due to resisting or retaliating to abuse.
My case was complex and complicated but CWJ gave me the time effort and energy to understand my case and support me! Please sponsor me to run the London marathon to help raise money for them!!!!"
Thank you to the neighbors who made the first call. Thank you for “getting involved” and helping save his life. We are all here to take care of each other. Simple.
Amen 🙏. Thank u for saying that!! So sad many others don't think as u abd I. We should be here top help each other, not harm each other
Agreed & Amen to that❤grateful for your POV
Amen Amen Amen
We need to keep getting involved and speaking up for those who have been Silenced 🔕
True! Imagine the doctors said he was only 10 days away from his death.. poor Alex!
what really shocks me is how quickly his ENTIRE family gave up on him. They tried, but in my opinion they had multiple signs that he was in serious danger and they just.. gave up.
Alex is a gentle soul, and abusers pick their victims well.
That's very true
yup...
I agree! Demonic spirits pick their victims very well. They can take down an entire family. So sad!
Psychopaths had a friend who was abusive to every boyfriend. Harrassed them stalked phoned txt emailed she was a living nightmare. Restraining Orders did not stop her at all.... a true psycho. 😮
Ikr
Thanks to this wonderful young policeman that wouldn't except Alex's explanation for his injurys, if it wasn't for him Alex wouldn't be here today. My heart broke when broken Alex come home and being cuddled by his grandad like a small child, he has a lovely family. Wishing you and your children much happiness.
The police officer who finally intervened on the situation, and who helped Alex, one of the truly best officers I’ve seen in a very long time. He’s definitely a hero with heart. He needs to come to America and give training seminars to these malice and uncaring police officers here who use their power negatively.
When he said "I just don't want to be hurt anymore" it broke my heart 😔 I hope Alex finds the love he truly deserves
What a psycho. My mom didn't feed us so table dinners were weird to me too, but at least I didn't turn out like her!
He was naive and this was his first girlfriend, and she took advantage of that. I hope he and his family does everything in their power to keep their baby away from her
That’s horrible. 😢I’m so glad he got out of this. Women are just as capable. Abuse is abuse. No matter the gender. I feel for this man. ❤
Yes love for himself first
I hope he loves himself. I hope his babies are kept away from her too. Narcissists like that spread their bs. She used those babies to trap him, and even when the police came she was holding the newborn while out there to emotionally blackmail him into saying nothing. They always use children as a game.
Besides my daughter being killed by her boyfriend, this has to be the most brutal saddest thing I have ever seen or heard! Like Alex, my beautiful daughter never told our close family, her best friends, or anyone else that she being abused 😢, we didn't find out,until she was killed! Domestic Violence isn't about gender, it's about making it stop,and finding support, housing, for those who are being abused! God bless you Alex! If you're being abused or know someone being abused, PLEASE GET HELP! 💜💜💜
So sorry for you!
With me it's my Mom, being manipulated, mind-gamed and whatnot by her boyfriend. She does not see it, does not believe it, even though it's ridiculously obvious, how he's constantly keeping taps on her, and controls her. Luckily she's just as obstinate in not letting him isolate her from family and friends. She showed signs of violence twice, always claims she fell. This has been going on for 20 years now and all I can hope for is that he just dies... horrible as that sounds.
Sorry for venting to you...
You are so right though, about abuse being gender-independent.
I can't even find any consoling words for you, damn this boy"friend", I hope he's in jail for life!
@@ulalaFrugilegaI'm sorry to hear about your mam. Maybe you could inform the police now, meaning that circumstances will be known there and any possible future emergency call will be taken serious immediately. All the best for your mam, God bless 🙏
I'm so sorry for you and your daughter. I had several female and one male friends in abusive marriages - non of them told friends or family about it for years. You're right: Asking for help is crucial, it's the important first step to get out of hell. Thank you for sharing and God bless you 🙏🍀
I'm so sorry to what happened to your daughter 😥
May God bless you
@@ulalaFrugilega I'm so sorry you have to be a witness of your mother being hurt, I am quite sure you have talked to her, and asked her if she is okay,just continue to be there for her, and let her know what and how you feel,without making her feel embarrassed, for some reason, a lot of abused women feel embarrassed or think it's their fault. You keep praying and stay encouraged! And venting is good and needed, so don't feel bad for venting!🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗
I myself was a victim of DV and I'm so very proud of you young man!! I'm so sorry you had to go through this and I hope that the mental scars heal as quickly as the physical ones. You are now in such an amazing position to share your story and give hope and strength to other men who are suffering in silence. It takes strength and heart to admit we are being abused whether you are male or female and your story is incredibly inspirational. Goodluck in your future and enjoy those beautiful babies you have. ❤
This breaks my heart as a mother of a 15yr old son who has a beautiful gentle soul like Alex - i pray to God he only ever finds a stable minded good heartes girlfriend
Just a gentle man who was naive about what romantic love and loyalty is. I pray Alex finds someone who will love him and his family the way they deserve.
I agree. Can't put all women or men in a single category. Hell find someone good to him, one day, hopefully.
Most likely he can become the abuser due to fear and being triggered he needs lots of counseling
@@Lovedaisymorehe probaly does need counseling but its doubtful that he will ever become an abuser himself.
@@LovedaisymoreI didn't become the abuser because I was abused my friends who male haven't so please don't think abused will become abusers therapy works
Men who suffer domestic abuse av it rough because they are not allowed in the shelter same as women as theres less shelter for men when it comes to domestic abuse
Bless this police officer for pushing and pushing to save Alex's life. We all need LE like this.
Wishing Alex and his babies the best future 💕
Worst domestic violence case of his entire career!? With the statistics on women brutally murdered by their SOs I find that surprising.
@@ellaova maybe he hadn't dealt with many other domestics himself at that point, he was still quite a young officer so maybe that's why it was the worst he had dealt with ,either way what you said is still true the stats for women being murdered are bad but there is plenty of abused men as well.
Really, he was sent from God. He didn't accept his answer until he was telling the truth. Alex' suffering touched me to tears. I hope the next girl treats him with all her love and respect that he really deserves and washes all the pain away that he cares from all the years in his soul and cells. Wish him, his kids, his family his friends all the best, they are all very lovely. Greetings from Germany. 💞
How did they survive? and move house? Neither worked.
This is a terrible story and I'm glad Alex was saved.
@@ellaova Well ya, he would be that in abt 2weeks for sure.. And murder is the worst, right
It's telling that a lot of the conflicts happened on birthdays. Narcissistic people can't stand the attention given to other people and not to them. So they make a scene or cause a fight to get the focus back on them.
i was in an emotionally abusive relationship before. Some comments on here are blaming him for allowing that situation. but the reality is when you are in the middle of it, they make it seem that there is no outside world, like you can only stay in a little box. it’s hard to escape. luckily i had my mum who said to me “you can be with him and have a life like this or you can leave him and there is a new life waiting for you”. at that moment, i left. it felt safe to leave. the next day, i went out. for the first time i felt what freedom was. i wore the clothes that i want. i did what i want with no contact. I can’t forget the feeling of sitting in the car with my mum, the sun, in an outfit i wanted to wear. it’s hard to overcome, but now i’m in the most loving, safe relationship
I watched my mother abuse my father for nearly 60 years. No one believed us. Society can be dangerously deluded about women, starting with family, friends and even police. The media gives it zero attention. But millions of men are abused every single day. Well done to this young man for speaking out and for raising awareness. I wish him, his children, family and friends all the best in the world.
I believe you. Look at Amber turd. Even Jonnys mother was so abusive to his own father.
SAME !!!! Not even the social workers who my therapist called believed me “thats just how she is”. Haven’t spoken to her in 5 years now, never will again. Having a toxic mother figure as a female especially is so detrimental, she was supposed to be the primary caregiver, but just showed us how evil and bitter person can be. We breaking the cycle sis ❤️🩹
@@SavedPdf Same 💞🫂
He's very brave for speaking out. This form of abuse is still not really fully accepted. I had a work colleague who used to come in with some really nasty injuries, but he never wanted to speak out. We're not in contact now sadly, but I still worry about him. Dr Ramani's channel is a good one for healing from this kind of abuse.
Same here🥺it was more na emotinal abuse&control but still,even my therapyst gaslighted me about the situation,so yeah if the professionals can be oblivious about those dynamics how will average person see it..this must change!Depp trial opened a whole new dimension to this issue tnx god and I hope now also man will have have more courage to tell someone&people will believe them when this happens!Much peace to all🙏
It’s not that she’s a woman. It’s that she says things like “I only cut him. I never STABBED him!” with such ease and innocence
This reminded me of amber Heard saying "I did not punch you, I was hitting you"
Sounds like Amber Heard
It's not that she's a woman. It's that she's a psychopath.
Domestic abusers are experts in downplaying their behavior as not being that serious.
Crazy thing is, we all know abuse can become normalized for victims, but it's astonishing to realize that abuse becomes normalized for abusers too. This girl is a prime example. She's abused him so frequently, and so casually, she thought it slicing him with a knife wasn't a big deal to the point she openly told the police.
This was a VERY IMPORTANT STORY TO BE TOLD! So many men go through this and don't say a word out of fear of not being believed, being made fun of, shame, and isolation. The abuser has usually isolated this person, gas lighted this person to the point they are questioning their own sanity...harming their minds just as badly, if not worse, than they've harmed their bodies. This girl acts as though she doesn't know the magnitude of her actions or is playing a game to manipulate the situation. She plays the sweet quiet girl. I cannot say enough about the officer who helped Alex, was there for him, let him know he could and would help him. That kind of caring and compassion is necessary for these situations and i'm so happy this officer is the one who was there to help. I also wanted to comment on Alex's best friend who speaks throughout. This young man IS A TRUE FRIEND! Alex is lucky to have him and vice versa. Friendships like this don't come along often so when they do, hold onto them and cherish them. Such kind and caring young men.
Good for you Alex. You seem to be a wonderful father with 2 precious children. And now to be helping others...that is one of the best way to help yourself to heal and to be an amazing role model for your children. Bless you Alex and to anyone else who may be the 'silent survivor' of abuse of any kind, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. THERE IS A WAY OUT. TRUST YOURSELF AND THOSE WHO WANT TO HELP. Love yourself enough to demand respect and proper treatment and if you don't get it, LEAVE. People don't often change when it come to this type of behavior.
I’m a woman and this breaks my heart this is so sad Alex was a beautiful man he didn’t deserve this I hope and pray that Alex finds someone who loves him
That officer straight up saved his life. Too many of these stories end in tragic deaths. Thank you Sir for not giving up and getting him out.
and the kids, I hope she doesnt get custody because that emotional abuse will be brutal
@@gjh9299 I doubt she ever would because of her extreme violence it would be beyond ridiculous to even think about giving her responsibility to look after a goldfish never mind a child
@@georgia8592 Tragically, sociopaths like her get custody all the time. They manipulate the courts in the same way they manipulate their victims. We are devastatingly inept at dealing with narcissistic sociopaths/psychopaths at any level.
@@gjh9299 after 7+ years in jail & the charges why she went to jail in the 1st place make it a 0.0000000001% chance she'll ever get custody & I highly doubt he'll ever let her see them after she does hard time anyways, atleast I hope not!
@@gjh9299 Well I guess shes already out & posting all about it on FB, she didn't even serve 1/2 the time. See comments below.
My mom is 70 years old and is still an abusive monster. They don't change. When someone shows you who they truly are, believe them and plan accordingly. I'm so sorry Alex and I'm proud of you for getting away. God bless you and you're in my prayers 💖
An abuser calling others abusers
She's in prison I'm guessing
My mom is cruel and evil aswell
So hard, hu?
@@fnafplayer6447 i dont think so
My mother was very abusive towards my father growing up. No wonder he started drinking. Thanks for shining some light on this topic.
Mine as well. Kinda messed me and my bro up on what a relationship looked like thinking all that was normal for men to be treated that way in a relationship. Just glad I found someone that actually respects me and showed me what a healthy relationship should look like.
I can relate to this... my ex girlfriend was very abusive towards myself and her own family. I stayed around thinking she would change, but things only got worse. I'm glad I finally woke up and ended the relationship before she could do anymore harm.
But in Australia... the male is always cast as the abuser. So nothing was ever done. My country needs to wake up and realise that women physically and emotionally abuse men as well. Australia needs to watch this.
Thank you for the video... im glad he is safe as well as the kids. She deserved what she got. It's not always the male that is the abuser!
I am a woman who survived abuse. I couldn't imagine how a man could get abused and not being able to protect himself.
Now I understand. It's not matter of gender. It's matter of heart and mind.
I was in islamic country and they prefer males, they tend to accuse women as exaggerating and moody and ungrateful. So I understand how in western country it is harder for a male to be believed and how that feels.
Unfortunately the man is the abuser Ina by country and i just don’t understand it
No one should be abused. Ever. I’m glad he escaped with his life. I’m even happier he has made his story public. What a brave man.
Yes he is a brave man hopefully this will help others
My son was in an abusive relationship and when she sent him tot he hospital she blamed him because he refused to argue with her. Women are capable, as much as men can be, of such evil and malicious behaviors. Good job to the parents and family for never giving up
May God bless your Son.
My partner went through exactly the same thing, 10 years ago she assaulted him then called the police and said it was him. She was angry that he would not argue back. Years later he found out she did this a lot in previous relationships.
Thanks for your comment! Where is the father? I only saw a mom and a grandpa, in this story about Alex.
What I can see in these scenarios is young men who have no idea what masculinity is. If they knew how to be the “3 P’s” then they would not let their relationships get to that point. Men need to be manly, in their relationships, or their women take that roll and don’t know how to do it. It makes women crazier when their men don’t stop their crazy! If you love her then you won’t let her control you. Violence & Manipulation is never Love. The 3 P’s are: Protector, Provider, and Procreator. Alex needed the Public Authorities to finally be the protectors of that family. That’s terrible! Especially for the infant and toddler, who now have an incarcerated mother. Their troubles aren’t over. Alex’s mother doesn’t realize she treated him differently than his brother and sister. He was timid and insecure. Jordan, being a narcissist, took advantage of Alex’s weak personality. It’s just too bad that they became parents before they could fix their personality problems. The best solution for this family is for Jordan AND Alex to get psychiatric care and learn how to deal with adversity. They both have contributed to the demise of their family. I don’t know if Jordan can ever learn to feel empathy, but I’m certain Alex can learn how to be a real man. God allows bad things to happen because He doesn’t control us. If we pray, and ask Him for help, He will help 10 fold! My life is proof. I’m a stubborn woman, but I have a strong husband that loves me with the love of a protector. I thank God for him everyday.
♥️🙏🏼✝️
@@666999stardustanother narcissist that finds weak men to control.
No shit lady anyone is capable of anything that’s evil I don’t even know why people question this lady what’s wrong with you?
What a courageous young man. How he never waivered and hurt her back shows he is the purest of souls. For him to come out of such circumstances and continue to want to help people just validates the kind of man we need more of. I am sending him all the love and light for him to hold during his journey to recovery.
You think that's courage. He did nothing. Even shunned and obstructed help.😂😂
He was raised a weak and ineffectual man by his parents and society. Nothing here to be proud of. It's incredibly sad that, not only was he not properly equipped to protect himself and his family, but people are actual praising that, and continuing to raise their sons to be the same. Horrifying, really.
@@alexhughes2129You have no clue what you're talking about
But he does have the right to defend himself. I know he didn't. But no man deserves to be a punching bag. And just because a man defends himself doesn't make him any less of a man. Plz don't empathise with the abuser
My parents divorced when I was ten and we didn’t see my Dad much after that. I remember his mother, my grandmother, being a horrible women and we were quite happy not to have to see her again. She was never nice to my Mum either. When my Grandad died they found him covered in bruises and it turns out she’d been abusing him for years. No wonder my Dad was a bit dysfunctional
As the daughter of an abusive mother, I appreciate that these stories are being told by men who are victims. My mother painted my father as the abuser (even blaming him for her abuse of my younger brother and I) when she was the abuser. Her abuse was mostly emotional, and I can remember my father crying and I was just a child and I was too afraid of her to go to him. Unfortunately my father mistakenly thought she would not abuse her children and since he was away a lot for work, he didn't witness it. The bullies at school were nothing compared to what we got at home. My parents split when I was ten. For years my mother poisoned my mind about my father and I didn't speak to him for years and only reunited with him and shared our stories when I was in my late 20s. Sadly he died within months. My mother is still alive decades later making everyone's life hell. You may say I don't have to be in touch with her, but try being a woman who doesn't speak to your mother and see how you get treated. People have sympathy for someone who had an abusive father, but an abusive mother - they think you are exaggerating or imagining it.
You’re surrounded by the wrong people. I too have an abusive mother and have not spoken to her for years and I’m supported in my decision.
Yes! Some people cannot get their head around a mother being abusive. My mother too was abusive. She's a horrible narcissistic evil person and some of my earliest memories are of her telling me she wished she terminated me. I believe you!
The only way to get out of it, is stopping relationships with the abuser. I feel so sorry that I didn’t do it earlier because my horrible abusive mother manipulated me times and times again into believing that she loves me. I would forgive her and open my heart again for her, and she would destroy me again. She would tell all relatives, friends and neighbors that I am a horrible person. She made it her mission in life. She isolated me with her relatives. My older brother, who was her favorite, doesn’t support me. She used to say to me that my brother was their love child, but she should have done an abortion with me. But I would rather not have any relationship with them than accept that I am not good enough and betray myself.
Yes, it is not easy, but it is the only way to survive. And this is what I suggest you do, SL Silver.
@@Vita_Voitane completely agree with you!!!
I hope you can find the support and courage you need to speak the truth openly. Much love x
My brother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. He never spoke a word of it until she got caught. In his second relationship, now, he has become aware of triggers. I'm so proud of this young man for doing something with his horrific experience that will bring help to others. I think he chose a great tattoo.
I am happy he’s in a better place, I am glad he has a sister like you who has his back and shows him kindness.
And I think that society is very SICK if the women started act like men and men were scared to be men and let this happen.
@@Vittoria1012But this is not acting like man. It's not normal behavior for either gender. It's psychotic.
I’m so happy most men don’t say anything because they are embarrassed and just like women they don’t deserve it either
Mine too. He had to get stitches multiple times and she threatened to kill him. He had to get stitches from glass bottle she smashed on his face. And she punched him in the ear and side with her keys in her hand and his ear was spilt in two and had to get stitches from that. She regularly punched and beat on him the years they were married.
As a woman who witnessed my mum being slammed face first into s wall and covered in blood by my father during my childhood, it did mess me up but it also makes me have so much love and care. Idk how people can hurt someone they love?
Because it's about power & control, not love. They have no idea what love is. But they will love bomb at the start with gifts, romantic gestures etc to get the victim where they want them quickly. Whirlwind romance & presenting an outwardly 'perfect' man/woman scenario is a classic abuser tactic. As soon as theyve got their victim where they want them the abuse kicks in.
Think of this, we learn about love in childhood, so if the love you get from your caregiver is mixed with violence, then that is in your subconscious, therefore one feels: "if they love me they should abuse me."
I recommend you check Alain de Botom's Ted talks.
This is an eye opener. You always hear about men abusing women but this is the first time that I have heard the story from the abused man's point of view. Wow...I just read an update on where she is now. She was let out of prison early and she is currently ENGAGED with some guy. His friends have apparently told him about her past but apparently, he is staying with her, for now, that is. Hopefully, this new guy wakes up and gets away before it's too late for him.
I'm so glad that police officer acted like a friend to him and showed genuine concern and kindness. If it wasn't for him Alex more than likely would not be here with us today.
A typical case of a "Beta Male" with low testosterone level and no cojones. 😁 I can not use the appropriate words otherwise I get banned. So this is a big problem of the new generation nowadays.
Police officer was a star 💫 He trusted his intuition. I’m sure he’s helped many with his wise calm self ✨
Absolutely shattered me when they said “he wants his Mum.” He probably slept for days when he was finally able to rest in a safe and loving home.
Omg I am SOBBING!! It's so true that they'll ALWAYS be our babies no matter their age!🙏❣️
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People love this story. But don't believe it, it's probably textbook retaliatory litagation
You will cry no stop for 3 days, then sleep 3 days.
He probably had night terrors. Poor baby. I pray for his healing.
The double standard of abuse is slowly getting recognized but there's still a stigma in our society regarding the validity of male victims testimonies.
I am a survivor of a highly abusive relationship, I was able to escape after an attempt to take my life. Abusers are abusers, not assigned to one Gender. Thank you for speaking your story ❤
It broke my heart when he said he wanted his mum. I am glad he has the support of family and friends. This young woman is a danger to society and hopefully she’ll get help.
the only help she should get ........is ...jail time...!!!...That is the problem ....he wanted his ....MOM....!!!....She raised him as a weak .....mommies boy.!!....that why he couldnt even stand up against this woman.......His mother is to blame for all this...!!!!
@@kingalfred3902 yikes bro for men like you there's the stigma of weak men and this toxic masculinity
@@kingalfred3902 80% of the suicides are committed by men and its because they think they can't reach out for the same reason as you're considering this man weak. Is weak a person who has endured so much pain to the point of not telling anyone? I wonder if you could know how that even feels.
A hit man or cyanide would've been s good choice
Help in a lethal injection? I agree!!
It blows my mind how casually and guiltlessly she talks about abusing him so cruelly
She just casually mentions the hair brush and cutting him like it’s no big deal.
She’s a narcissist , she probably thought to much of herself to realize how much harm she was inflicted upon him and I’m sure others.
She’s a psychopath narcissist no conscience, no empathy.
She's a stone cold Narcissist and Psychopath. I wouldn't want to cross her!
psychopath
😢I'm a mum going through this now..my boy has two babies with her..thank you for this..blessings from Rhode Island USA
Narcissistic abuse is equally split. He experienced what's called trauma bonding. You must have experienced it to fully understand why walking away is extremely difficult.
Spot on. I've got one in my family You only understand it when it happens to you
yes
Otherwise known as Stockholm syndrome right?
Well that is a different term entirely.@@shainaochs6058
This is such a good depiction of how coercive control often doesn't involve locks and chains. People like Jordan, consciously or not, use people's love, loyalty, and decency against them. I really appreciate Alex and his family's willingness to share this painful story and I'm so glad he and his children are safe.
Well said.
I'm still recovering from a subtle, verbally abusive X-wife, & a closet Narcissist. 2 yrs alone feels like only a month ago, & it even feels like ptsd (my nerves & self confidence are shot to hell). But, I'll get thru this w/ God's help. I can never trust women again. 😔
It's very much conscious. If it weren't, they wouldn't have to hide it.
It’s absolutely heartbreaking to see how fully this young man lost himself in the toxic relentlessness of this girl. He may not have been chained and shackled physically, but he certainly was mentally. It’s a horrifically strange phenomenon. I’m glad he survived, so many others do not.
@@patriot692me too but its only been less than 2 weeks since the abuse has finally stopped in dec 2023. I guess it couldve stopped in nov but she texted me first on dec1st and Christmas eve so i kept trying to get closure as to what happened in our relationship. Things kept getting worse starting in oct once i found out she already had a new bf and i had broken a 5 week no contact with her that started in september. I just couldnt take her abuse anymore. Eventhough i still love her to this day. Jan5th 2024
She isn't just an abuser. She's clinically insane.
They usually are though.
She is clinically insane AND an abuser. One thing doesn’t exclude the other …
She's also an abuser.
Well that would mean she didn’t know what she was doing. She 100% knew what she was doing. Maybe a psychopath. But not clinically insane.
Amen!!! You said it all!
She's a classic vulnerable narcissist. Those types of people are so difficult to clock. People like that don't change. They can hide it but it never lasts.
Now her name and her face are out there, hopefully she can't do this to anyone anymore.
Released in 2022. Shocking!
One of my dear friend’s son (a firefighter), was killed by his abusive girlfriend. She shoved him out of a moving car and he struck his head, he died shortly after. The things that go on behind closed doors can be horrible. Women can be just as capable of abuse and because men are taught not to speak up about their problems/feelings, or to defend themselves against women, then what’s left?! This is a fantastic video to raise awareness that abuse isn’t just one sided with men hurting women. NO ONE should suffer abuse.
The police actually went above and beyond. He’s the one that got Alex to confess to the truth. It’s amazing how Alex is giving back after this incident. Bless him and his family ❤
Lol a man being abused by a woman. Shut up.
Yeah that police officer quite literally saved his life, by not taking a lie for an answer. When good people go the police force lives are saved.
@@Filmgirlphilosopher as long as they get cops with integrity. 🤔
All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at.
Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24)
The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) .and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26).
O.M.G. for real!! I am a grown man that's never been abused. When I saw his mother start crying when she got the call that Alex was coming home, and actually saw him.... I broke down, and started to cry. Since grown, I don't cry only have cried at my father's funeral... but this broke me!! I pray Alex can continue to grow, heal, and be the wonderful guy he was before meeting Jordan🙏🏻 🙏🏻
That's the part that got me too.
Amen
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You should cry more often, it cleans the soul. It is ok to cry. You are not less of a man because of it. When men go around sayin they don't cry, they come off as insecure.
it's ok to cry. it's human, not weak. We are biologically meant to cry as human beings.
Poor guy. Those first clips of him sitting there with the bandsges on his arm, skinny, broken, sad. It really broke my heart. I hope he is in a safe place now and can find true love someday. He surely deserves it
This was absolutely heartbreaking. So glad he was able to get away from her! And raise his kids! She could have abused them too and he probably would’ve died.
He suffered from Stockholm syndrome where the victim sees the abuser as the person they truly love and the abuse was seen as true love by the abuser. We see this abuse in men, but he believed he had to stay also for the children. This happens to 15% men, but they are too ashamed to report it.
The captives in the bank in Stockholm were treated really well by their captors. They weren't abused by them in any way, at any point. This is without a doubt Battered Spouse Syndrome.
Must be. Either that or his child.
Greg...I don’t believe it is shame, it is a small part of it though as you said. I believe Alex stayed for his kids and the sincere belief that it would all get better. That he could handle it. My son recognizes he is being abused, but...thinks he can hold on til the kids are older. I pray he sees the light sooner.
This isn’t Stockholm syndrome it’s domestic abuse. You don’t call it Stockholm syndrome when a woman stays with an abusive man.
Nonsence. It pathectic he lied Say he did It himself. Nobody standing up to her playing games
I left my narcissistic abusive parents finally at age 39. Nobody had believed me for all those years about the abuse and was instead put on medications. At age 38 I finally found a trauma therapist who BELIEVED me. I have now been on my own for 3.5 years in bed, recovering from chronic fatigue, asthma, chronic pain, rapid cycling bipolar 2 disorder and mood swings. 15 hours of Zoom trauma therapy by 3 different therapists. I have now been free of symptoms and off medications for 1 year. It took me 39 years and almost dying to find help. 12 step SLAA, codependents anonymous and Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional families have been my life line.
I believe you and i am so sorry to read that No one did believe you. Im really touched by your story. I know what it's like.
Jesus Christ saved my life and my soul when i cried out to Him.
I wiuld not have survived if it wasnt for Him.
I'm from Germany so my english is not perfect and i'm not good with words even in german so i can't express myself very well but i want you to know that you are loved, i love you and you have my full symphathy . But so much more important is that Christ loves you incredibly much.
He's alive and He wants you to come Home, which is the personal intimate and living Father-daugther relationship with your Creator you were created to be in.
He wants to give you a new life.
All the teauma i have been through He healed with His marvelous Love.
I dont have no counselor or therapist but Him.
Please have a look into the Living Waters ch4nnl.
I would love to meet you one day.
Peace be unto you ❤️
Please can you help me can you share your therapist. I do have chronic fatigue syndrome chronic pain etc. The abuse has caused me to get so sick I can't work anymore. I've seen couple therapist but none has helped. Trying to get well for my kids
I do understand how people don't want to believe you. No one ever believed me.
Well done for escaping 💪🏾 an survivng
Is there a website or a group I can reach out to for children with manipulating mothers?
The fact that she was the FIRST female in the UK to be sentenced for this...frightening
Thanks for the courage to tell your story here! It´s so important for the victims that their friends and family won´t give them up! Even not if the situation seems to be completely bizarre.
She felt that everything she did to him was okay and justified. "Oh yeah I hit him but I never hurt him." "He told me he wanted to cook pasta and I sad no because I wasn't hungry." "Yeah he sleeps on the floor because me and tj sleep on the bed." And none of that sounded bizarre to her.
Yes because In abusers minds nothing is their fault, everything is the victims fault. And they know damn well how to justify doing what they did in their minds and try to explain it to their victims in a way that makes us feel bad.
That stood out to me too. She really thought her behaviour was justified. He seemed so brainwashed that even he didn't seem to understand that he hadn't done anything wrong , which is heartbreaking.
It is possible the abuser herself had this behaviour normalised for her at some point. They don't elaborate on her parents who, when briefly mentioned, did not seem to intervene when Alex was isolated from his support network.
Domestic Violence is often learned behaviour and is a "repeating cycle" of behaviours and abuse.
Not excusing the behaviour - just highlighting how one of the best ways to combat DV is to break the cycle by protecting kids from witnessing violence, often from their own parents
She never heard the word NO as a child. Never held accountable for her actions or I believe she has demonic attachments especially speaking to his grandparent/ elderly the way she did. Very sad. We need to pray for her! Could you imagine if everybody prayed for their enemies?
@@carama3590 It's hard to say. He mentions that she thought of herself as his intellectual superior - I've noticed this kind of thinking in a few girls (not ALL girls). Especially if their bf's are footballer types. They see their bf's as stupid boofheads; it's horribly patronizing . I know one girl who never hesitates to cut her bf down to size & always tells him to shut up. I've always felt bad for him but after seeing this I'm actually worried about him!
"I don't want to hurt her.." he's literally so precious and she treated him horribly! This made me so upset. I hope Alex gets all the healing in the world. ♡
i feel that he is the type of man that should havea happy ending girl ... someone to cherish someone to love someone who will love him back
Hopefully he heals well enough to open himself up for the right person. I’m glad he has the kids and a strong family support.
Yeah and when she’s talking to police she has the audacity to say “I didn’t hurt him. I didn’t hurt Alex” . Wtf?!? Maybe in her mind hurt is only hurt when she kills him. Then she’d be like “yeah I hurt him but it was his fault”. Ugh. And her I’m meek with baby voice, so tiny mouse I could never hurt someone. Such an act. A methodical act from a monster, planned beginning to end
Only God will Heal him completly! 🙏🏼❤️
This is Jordan from the documentary. Just to be clear, I never meant to hurt Alex! There were occasions when I lost my cool with him and subsequently had to beat him but it would only EVER be when he pushed me over the edge. This documentary is incredibly one sided also as Alex was certainly no angel himself. He would often shout and lose his cool. Anyway I’m doing better for myself now, and I’m glad that part of my life is behind me.
This made me cry a bit. I get so sad for people that this happens to. And something that really stood out to me, was that people tend to assume that only those who have no support end up in these situations, which just isn't true. This is a good example of how an abuser isolates their victim from that support no matter how much there is. This was really well put together and I am so so so so so glad that Alex has is babies and his family back and that he survived this woman. Good on you! And what you have done with that experience is really inspiring, so thank you for sharing your story. It is one that needs to be heard.
Thank you for sharing you story and bringing awareness to the public regarding the domestic abuse yo suffered. I pray 🙏 that you will continue to heal and build your dream life with your two beautiful children. The support you have from your family and friends is so lovely to see. Be well, be happy, and may the work you do to bring more awareness to help professionals recognize the signs of domestic abuse so it can stamped out all over the world.
This is so so so important. Men can absolutely be victims of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence in heterosexual relationships. Thank you for shedding light on this issue. And thank you Alex for bravely sharing your story.
In every kind of relationship, not just hetero 😟
I grew up in a rough area with a rough life and most of the physical domestic violence I’ve seen has been from female to male. Just my anecdotal experience.
Why do you point out heterosexual relationships? Violence can be in any type of relationship!
@@ShyAnn291I think because folks can likely conceive of DV between two men more easily than between a het couple. Despite the evidence to the contrary, people still find it hard to believe when a woman abuses a man.
Actually, in any relationship. Heterosexual or gay.
"I took a brush and hit him where I could"
"There was a hammer but I didn't hurt him"
"I only ever cut him but I never stabbed him"
Boy, this girl is a psychopath!
She spoke about it like it was normal 😢
Sounds just like someone we all know. Amber Heard
That's funny how when the woman is the abuser she admits to doing wrong but down plays is like it's not a big deal. Like it's okay I'm a woman so forgive me anyway. But an abusive man would admit that they made him do it or he had to do it to teach them something. And both have in common they say they will never do it again but they always break that promise. They control everything they do and wear and separate them from their family and friends.
Checks every box for sure!
@@shoshanahtheodile9586 because usually when a woman punch a guy they would see it as joking, but when a guy punch a girl even if it's a light punch he would be seen as a bad guy.
In many comedic movies women punching men even considered funny. There is a series in my country where the wife literally abusing their husbands (because they cheat a lot) and it's famous for years on tv.
apperently men being abbused is funny to a lot of people.
She's the kinda crazy that don't get better. She just learns to hide it better. She will NEVER stop. She should not be around any other living things, especially people! She snowed them with her demeanor.
Alex allowed this to continue!!! She won't stop unless SOMEONE STOPS HER.
Hi Carolina as far as I'm concerned domestic violence should be treated the same from both men and women do you agree
It’s pretty terrible to victim blame.one woman already victimized him he doesn’t need another
Thank you for sharing your story with us! I wish you all the best and lots of love in your life!
Props to the cop that realized there was a problem and didn’t leave till it was solved ❤️
Whenever there are stories like this, I am always reminded of Jeffrey Dahmer and how long it took before the cops believed what they were being told - because the victims were all men, gay men at that. It's even worse in the case of Ian Watkins. Just unforgivable.
@@limlaith Must add most were Black men as well.
@@shon0032 That means they're higher on the oppression stack. Gay Black Lives Matter More... right?
Yes hes very observant, we need more police like him 👮
His family will have tried the police route and those calls, allegations & complaints, etc, will be on their system.
So proud of this young man! Abuse is not gender controlled. Abuse is Abuse & should be stopped.
So very lucky he is still alive.
99%are men abusing women though
You are so right
It actually is for the most part gender controlled. Men abuse more than women - physically - that’s why by the police officer said he didn’t expect it as the usual case is the man abusing the woman. That’s reality.
Thank you for so bravely sharing your story, Alex. It really shed a clear light on how female abusers can use all the same tools of power and control male male abusers do. She isolated you from friends and family. She controlled you financially, by making you quit your job and taking your wallet from you. She accused you of cheating and all sorts of things you never did. She drugged you. She used the children as a form of emotional extortion (as evidenced with questioning whether your mother wanted to meet her grandson or not... I can't imagine what other levels she went to), and it escalated to horrific physical abuse that could've killed you. You are not a victim; you're a survivor. I'm beyond grateful to know you're with your family and friends again, looking after your children, and she was held accountable. I pray you all heal from her torture, and that the children thrive with you in her absence.
I’m glad this story was put together to help others recognise potential problems in there newly founded relationships and avoid the pain and grief of being with an abusive partner.
Emotional abuse can easily go under the radar as it’s subtle and doesn’t immediately leave a mark.
Well done to the Cop who took him from the house and had a private chat with him! Alex was a lucky guy!
I vary rarely get tearful…..but this got me 😭😭😭
Awful, my ex husband was horrible to me. I divorced him my life is so much better back to my normal self
I wish all cops took the time
It took a very long time for my 23 year old son to finally see that his “girlfriend” was abusing him. She controlled everything from money, to clothes he wore,tattoos she put on his body and isolating him from friends and family. He finally broke up with her and just last week, he had those tattoos covered up. He eventually told me that she would bite him, punch him and choke him. This was a great documentary and I am so proud of Alex for sharing his story and helping professionals understand just how real this is. Happy healing to Alex and those beautiful babies.
Healing prayers and love to your son. I hope the best for him.
I'm future worried about the kids when she gets out.
@@tammiewilson5185 This was my first thought after completely watching the episode :(
I'm so sorry, Tracy, and to your beautiful son and children xx
"She" needs locking away for the sane time as murder, because this very nearly happened.
I have no words for "her"
Karma.
Good luck for your son and children, and hope one day he meets someone as beautiful as him.
Xx God bless ❤️
I suspect you were a part in why he chose a girl like that. Kids who are loved and taught boundaries don’t go after abusive partners.
A very brave man for speaking up. Thank you for sharing your story. I know it will help many people.
Thank you for sharing your story.
It wasn't just the physical abuse, but the psychological and emotional abuse that allowed him to continue accepting the physical abuse. Fortunately for him, he has a family that never gave up on him and a police officer who followed his instincts in the end. May Alex heal from his trauma and find a partner worthy of him.
Honestly, I feel like the physical abuse "saved" him in a way. If he wasn't physically abused, I don't think he would have ever left the relationship.
@@soxpeewee It is, I feel, much the same for women when there are children involved. Kids are often the primary or only reason a woman will leave or seek the help she wouldn't seek for herself alone. Gosh this story made me cry.
I have a son in same atm,wushing he can find strength
@@corinazammet7697 ❤
Thank God for that officer. It must be different in the UK than the US. I've called the police twice on a man and I had PHYSICAL evidence (black eye with a cut very close to my eye where he chucked a nightlight switch at my face, along with other misc things). When the police came, I was a mess, crying and not doing a good job at composing myself. The man who assaulted me was my husband and he told them that I had psychological issues and that I did it to myself. They believed him and they left without doing anything. If they would have done their job a bit they would have seen his felony domestic abuse charges from his X-wife... which she fought to bring down to a misdemeanor. Fast-forward 6 months, he broke my nose in 2 places and the ER doc begged me to let them call the police. I refused because what were they going to do? They've never done anything before and I did not want to lose my livelihood and everything as he would have taken everything from me and had the resources. The ER doc looked me in the eyes and said, "next time he will kill you." That's the 2nd ER doctor to tell me that. But... the police are utterly useless in my area.
I started crying when the officer said the McDonald's was one of the best meals he's ever had. Mental health needs to be more of a priority all over the world. Abuse awareness needs to be more accesible. My heart breaks for Alex and his family, but especially his mom. We work so hard to raise our babies to be kind hearted and loving and someone comes along and tries to break them. I hope they are all in better spots now.
And that's saying something I mean maccas is no oil painting food
@Steve Salkas 100%...
This girl is so disgusting, made me sooo angry. I hope she will be punished in her entire life.
I agree!!!! I learned a lot through father Malachi Martin. Art Bell has seven interviews with him on how demons can ruin peoples lives, and how we are in the spiritual war here on earth people better wake up to reality on what’s really going on and how these demonic attachments obsession possession can affect one’s lives.
Thank you for telling your story 🥺
As an abused foster I remember that feeling of not wanting to go home I was sick as hell with chicken pox as soon as they said I had to go home I cried vreal bad!!!! I did not want to go home!!!😷😷😷😓😓😓
Any woman would be so blessed to have a genuine man like Alex. I have tears down my face
People that are not close to there family
do not want you to be close with your
family his family show him much love
she could not stand that .that make her
a hater
She was also blessed with 2 babies. She had everything. And didn’t deserve any of it.
@@gwendolynosler3930 That's terribly unfair and untrue, and downright cruel to those who don't deserve it. There are a laundry list of reasons why people are not close to their families, you fail to differentiate between victim and abuser, or any other issues.
Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath, she will not change. There are a lot of them, unfortunately, and they are all dangerous. As a society we desperately need to understand this problem far, far more than we do, and only then can begin to deal with it effectively.
@@barbarakauppi9915 I agree. I am not close to my family. Thats because my dad didnt care to be in my life, my mom died when I was 11, and my aunt and cousins were narcissists like Jordan (one of my cousins even put pills in a milkshake she made me for God knows what reason). I would love to be with a man who is close to his family because then maybe I would feel like I actually have a family....
@@MylisaKay I’m so sorry that’s awful
When they asked him if he ever had to defend himself from her and he said “I never wanted to hurt her”….I felt that. I hurt for him. It showed his heart.
My story is very similar. She has wanted me dead for 10 years
@@ibdunny And where are you now? Are you safe? Did you leave? Please leave if you can 😪
He’s very much a gentle soul. Poor guy, may he always be forever happy from now on
When is she out?😬
@@ingridc.llewellyn3910She's been out...only served half her sentence and is engaged to someone else now.
Incredibly brave. Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤
I wish Alex, his children, mum, friends and family all happiness, peace and abundance. Overcoming trauma is not easy, and sharing your story enlightens the world about female abusers. Much love ❤
I was in a coercive relationship for 19 years, I drove to suicide and in the end I'd had 4 hospital and psychiatric admissions because of her. I lost everything because of it. House, job, my daughters, my self esteem. She controlled everything from my finances, my medication, to telling me what I could wear and how to dress. She isolated me from my family, my social circle was nothing, I had no friends, and the thing was, she moved her father in to the house, and he is just as bad. Now.....I'm trying to move on, and it will take some time. I'm still on medication, and I still have to see the doctor for reviews every now and again. Her love was measured in how she could belittle me, manipulate me, hurt me. One one veteran friends notified the emergency services on the night I had planned to go away. If he hadn't stepped in, I probably wouldn't be here now. It wasn't until I was in hospital that the nursing staff showed me which path I should tread if I want to see my daughters grow up. That said, the path I had the courage to walk is now without her, sure she still has a level over control over me through my daughters, but I've woken up. Its a very surreal experience as a guy to be systematically abused over such a long period of time, but help is there, just have courage to talk to someone. It'll be hard, but, with the right support, you will find life again....
Oh wow. I hope you are healing every day. 💓 stay strong and remember that your worth is not dependent upon how someone treated you. I feel sorry for the next guy.
Very sorry to read your story. I'm very happy for you that you've moved on without this terrible person in your life whom you believed loved you. Much Healing and Blessings. God bless you and your children🙏
19 years? Holy f 😳 I'm so sorry
To go through that abuse for 19 years, my god! It's a miracle you're still here to tell the tale. But I'm pleased you got the help you needed to gather the strength & will power to get away from her. ❤👍⭐
So sorry you had to go through that. Keep strong friend.
This guy seems genuinely sweet and caring, and for him to go through all of this is heart breaking. I am glad he was able to get out of this.
If he wasnt sweeet or nice he wouldnt go thru it ;)
obviously they target the nice ones, if she targeted another sociopath it wouldn’t have lasted
The amount of trauma I could’ve avoided if I’m not afraid to offend someone is astronomical
@@186mars yup! thats also a hard lesson learned on my part. worst part is, now that i shut down and become slightly rude when i feel something is off, everyone who genuinely has bad intention gives up immediately, because the fight isn’t worth it.
Thats the result off you are man, but not an asshole...
The asshole road is way more relaxed 😎 never trust a woman!!! Never give a woman power over yourself...
Well done mate... keep up your good work. I wish you and your children the very best...stay positive 🙏
I'm in tears😔this happened to me .. female abuser if I hadn't of escaped I wouldn't wouldn't be typing this now.. He's a survivor of a vile monster.. thank you for sharing your story 🙏
There was an experiment performed in public where a man (actor) was abusive to his gf (actress). As soon as he started yelling and she started to cower, the public intervened and offered her help, telling him to leave.
Part 2 of the experiment was role reversal. She became abusive to him. She was yelling, swearing, threatening, and then escalated to pushing and shoving. The public watched, most even laughed. No one thought that he was unsafe. Just because he was a man, and had a larger frame than her, everyone assumed she was harmless.
It was a sad reality. We need to change our way of thinking was abuse looks like, and what a perpetrator looks like.
This. 🎯😣 So many men are also in abusive relationships, and it's so much harder for many of them to get out - bc people don't take it as seriously. It's heartbreaking. I'm glad men are starting to share their experiences and raise awareness.
People assume men have the capability to walk away much easier then women. Women get trapped in more was than one. So there is a general assumption men will take care of themselves while women get trapped. So they need help even in abusive situation vs men its not even stature its self.
This is disgusting, but I still don't understand why a bigger person doesn't defend themselves.
I would rather commit seppuku than be treated like this.
@@rebeccahughes7766 yes this is very true. But if there are children involved, it is in fact much harder for men to leave, since the law is on the the mother's side (unless there is any concrete proof that the kids are in danger) ...things need to change!
True. Even lesbian relationships have highest abuse rate from all. It definitely shows that women can be THAT abusive, and it's not taken seriously. I highly doubt that many men aren't abused by their gfs/wives. I feel like it's concealed as if it's a open secret in their relationships. I was once in a party where a guy who got punched in his stomach by his gf then she walked away with pissed face. Afterwards, he seemed scared and little shaky although I asked him if he's okay. He ignored my question and switched to party mode. It's honestly bizarre to think about how much men go through that.
It's not unusual for there to be a female offender. It's just unusual for them to be charged.
Exactly. I’ve seen it numerous times! People just don’t take it as seriously as they should! And sadly that includes the guy taking the abuse too!
We need to raise our daughters just like we raise our sons when it comes to abuse.
It's not unusual for her to be charged, it's unheard of. It's unusual for anyone to care that a man is being abused.
Agreed!
Look at the statistics. Domestic violence is the leading cause of death for women under 35 in America. Men who are killed by women are a tiny fraction of the total number of men who get murdered. It's not a conspiracy against men that we don't treat the violence exactly the same. Men are much more dangerous to women (and to each other) than the other way around.
It's even more unusual that it comes into the light in the first place. Evil doesn't discriminate but there is a shame that men experience when abused by women.
Strong self esteem and a loving yourself first is the key to not letting yourself be abused. My first marriage was to a broken toxic women. As soon as we married she thought she could impose her will on me but found out I’m nice only until I’m mistreated. She raised her hand to me I warned her never again,she thought she could do it again but got back just as much as she gave. One day I said to myself enough. I sat her down and told her bye. She tried everything to get me back but I refuse to repeat mistakes. Life is great now I found the perfect person to spend my life with.