God bless him for coming forward, God bless the Police for not giving up. Abuse to men is also out there and You are very right, gender is not not the issue, abuse is.
Anyone who says this man is weak because he was abused by a woman doesn’t know what true strength and bravery really is. Bless you and your beautiful babies Alex. ❤
Nobody is saying that … i just wish we would teach our children not to put up with bullies … to report to retaliate or just have the heart to leave them
Any idiot can punch back. But it takes a real man to step back and say No, I'm not doing this. I leave before I do this. No man is weak for not punching back. Ever. Anyone who thinks this, is a complete moron in my eyes.
She should not have custody of those children. A woman capable of what she did to her boyfriend is more than capable of doing the same to her own children.
She should never be allowed to see them again. She did this in front of those children, so she should have had child abuse charges, and her rights to those children stopped away. Her goal was to hurt Alex the worst way possible, and going after his children and doing something horrific to them would meet her goal perfectly. I would not put it past her, and that's a scary thought.
That policeman is a real hero. He was able to get through to Alex while no one in his life could. He very well saved his life. I hope he lives the rest of his life in pure bliss and happiness.
Thank you to the neighbors who made the first call. Thank you for “getting involved” and helping save his life. We are all here to take care of each other. Simple.
what really shocks me is how quickly his ENTIRE family gave up on him. They tried, but in my opinion they had multiple signs that he was in serious danger and they just.. gave up.
This brought me to tears when I saw that Jordan was the first woman ever sentenced on those charges. Are we all blind? There are many men who are abused. We need to help them to seek justice. Please guys, if you are being abused, reach out to someone you trust. Insist that your voice be heard by the authorities.
Most definitely we are, think about all the fake pregnancies, false rape charges, false arrests, domestic violence protection orders. I'll never get the footage of the women literally sitting in bed beating socking . Hitting herself with things. To view that was so sick watching that, wanting to pin it all on the boy friend, they need to be prosecuted harshly. 👎🚫💯💔
if yer male the odds are stacked against you to a ridiculous degree. the cops rarely ever believe you (and all the female has to do is turn on the waterworks and claim he abused her) and plus the justice system in general will treat her with kid gloves simply because she's a girl and when it's her word against a guy's word vast majority will believe her and she knows that. even AMBER HEARD told JOHNNY DEPP "yer a man i'm a woman nobody's ever gonna believe you".
NO GENDER IN PSYCHOPATH CONDITION THIS CONDITION MOSTLY TRIGGER BY PARENTS How THEY RAISED THEIR CHILDREN IF YOU SPOILED OR ABUSE CHILDREN 100% they will be
The cop who finally caught on and helped Alex is an actual hero and a great man. The way he criticized himself for not seeing it earlier is very telling of his character
He definitely saved this young man's life and he may not see it because that is his job, but he is a big hero. A lot of people would have said, he is a man he could defend himself, but this officer said absolutely not and did not live him there to die and that is amazing. He looked past gender and just saw a human being that was vulnerable and scared and went into action, great officer but most of all great human.
I was raised in domestic violence, I then married a women with boelrderline personality disorder and as a male, my request for help was laughed at, and rejected. I'm now 3rd year at university in psychology and raise 4 young children alone. I hope one day the law will see domestic abuse without the bias of gender.
@@pinkpugginz I know it can be difficult to understand but there can be multiple reasons. 1. When an abuser abuses, they periodically show you love and kindness (false hope really) and you desperately await the return of that. 2) Fear. 3) R*pe and there is more reasons. Getting out of an abusive and violent relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can do. The amount of control and brain washing that goes into it, they literally change the way you think, the way you see yourself, they make you lose touch with reality, they give you fears you never knew you could have and at the same time they're pretending to love you, occasionally love bombing you too keep you going so they can abuse you more. They strip away your confidence, your identity, your sanity, they make you question your reality. Eventually your just a shell of the person you use to be and you give up. It becomes either you do as you're told or you get hurt, but even then, they will find any reason to abuse you, you could drop a spoon n that's it, then it becomes random, it's not even about you anymore, it's anything at all and you find yourself constantly waiting for the next attack. Other than this, another reason to stay is that so many people have been killed trying to leave abusive relationships and that is a very well known fact. Leaving is of the scariest and hardest things in the world. Also a fact. I hope this helps to answer your question.
Often yes, but… Actually I imagine some children of domestic violence relationships who were let down by the authorities join the police to stop it happening to anyone else, same as some kids who were ill as a child and failed by rubbish doctors want to go into medicine. And of course for some of those it was mum or stepmum who was the abuser, and nobody helped because of sexism.
Alex Skeel is a true inspiration and brave man. He inspired me to break away from an abusive partner. Hearing what he went through helped me identify the red flags and toxic traits of that person. Never be afraid to ask for help it doesn’t make you any less of a human being
Psychopaths had a friend who was abusive to every boyfriend. Harrassed them stalked phoned txt emailed she was a living nightmare. Restraining Orders did not stop her at all.... a true psycho. 😮
@dontFwsocalNo depends where you live. A demon bitch hit me after a few months I left with my daughter in 3 days she went to court lied and took my daughter for a month and a half that it took to prove that she was a liar. If I as a man tried to take some chicks kid. A judge would never go for that or believe me. Women have it easy in most of the western world
God have mercy 😢😢very sad indeed. In Africa it's the opposite, the men beat women and even to an extend of killing them. Some children watch their father hitting their mother almost on daily basis. Even chasing them to sleep outside in cold and rains.
He was naive and this was his first girlfriend, and she took advantage of that. I hope he and his family does everything in their power to keep their baby away from her
I hope he loves himself. I hope his babies are kept away from her too. Narcissists like that spread their bs. She used those babies to trap him, and even when the police came she was holding the newborn while out there to emotionally blackmail him into saying nothing. They always use children as a game.
My mom is 70 years old and is still an abusive monster. They don't change. When someone shows you who they truly are, believe them and plan accordingly. I'm so sorry Alex and I'm proud of you for getting away. God bless you and you're in my prayers 💖
Besides my daughter being killed by her boyfriend, this has to be the most brutal saddest thing I have ever seen or heard! Like Alex, my beautiful daughter never told our close family, her best friends, or anyone else that she being abused 😢, we didn't find out,until she was killed! Domestic Violence isn't about gender, it's about making it stop,and finding support, housing, for those who are being abused! God bless you Alex! If you're being abused or know someone being abused, PLEASE GET HELP! 💜💜💜 🙏🏽🙏🏽Thank All of You for your beautiful kind words of encouragement and support! I Pray that, if you or someone you know is being physically, mentally or emotionally abused, PLEASE SEEK HELP, AND SAFETY! GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU! 🙏🏽💪🏽👍🏼💜💜💜
So sorry for you! With me it's my Mom, being manipulated, mind-gamed and whatnot by her boyfriend. She does not see it, does not believe it, even though it's ridiculously obvious, how he's constantly keeping taps on her, and controls her. Luckily she's just as obstinate in not letting him isolate her from family and friends. She showed signs of violence twice, always claims she fell. This has been going on for 20 years now and all I can hope for is that he just dies... horrible as that sounds. Sorry for venting to you... You are so right though, about abuse being gender-independent. I can't even find any consoling words for you, damn this boy"friend", I hope he's in jail for life!
@@ulalaFrugilegaI'm sorry to hear about your mam. Maybe you could inform the police now, meaning that circumstances will be known there and any possible future emergency call will be taken serious immediately. All the best for your mam, God bless 🙏
I'm so sorry for you and your daughter. I had several female and one male friends in abusive marriages - non of them told friends or family about it for years. You're right: Asking for help is crucial, it's the important first step to get out of hell. Thank you for sharing and God bless you 🙏🍀
@@ulalaFrugilega I'm so sorry you have to be a witness of your mother being hurt, I am quite sure you have talked to her, and asked her if she is okay,just continue to be there for her, and let her know what and how you feel,without making her feel embarrassed, for some reason, a lot of abused women feel embarrassed or think it's their fault. You keep praying and stay encouraged! And venting is good and needed, so don't feel bad for venting!🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗
Just a gentle man who was naive about what romantic love and loyalty is. I pray Alex finds someone who will love him and his family the way they deserve.
@@LovedaisymoreI didn't become the abuser because I was abused my friends who male haven't so please don't think abused will become abusers therapy works
Men who suffer domestic abuse av it rough because they are not allowed in the shelter same as women as theres less shelter for men when it comes to domestic abuse
This is so so so important. Men can absolutely be victims of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence in heterosexual relationships. Thank you for shedding light on this issue. And thank you Alex for bravely sharing your story.
I grew up in a rough area with a rough life and most of the physical domestic violence I’ve seen has been from female to male. Just my anecdotal experience.
@@ShyAnn291I think because folks can likely conceive of DV between two men more easily than between a het couple. Despite the evidence to the contrary, people still find it hard to believe when a woman abuses a man.
i was in an emotionally abusive relationship before. Some comments on here are blaming him for allowing that situation. but the reality is when you are in the middle of it, they make it seem that there is no outside world, like you can only stay in a little box. it’s hard to escape. luckily i had my mum who said to me “you can be with him and have a life like this or you can leave him and there is a new life waiting for you”. at that moment, i left. it felt safe to leave. the next day, i went out. for the first time i felt what freedom was. i wore the clothes that i want. i did what i want with no contact. I can’t forget the feeling of sitting in the car with my mum, the sun, in an outfit i wanted to wear. it’s hard to overcome, but now i’m in the most loving, safe relationship
why you say they make it they they .. why someone else fault in the situations where two people? why you don['t ask yourself why am I so easily manipulated? why you don't ask yourself do you have any self worth and self love?
My brother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. He never spoke a word of it until she got caught. In his second relationship, now, he has become aware of triggers. I'm so proud of this young man for doing something with his horrific experience that will bring help to others. I think he chose a great tattoo.
Mine too. He had to get stitches multiple times and she threatened to kill him. He had to get stitches from glass bottle she smashed on his face. And she punched him in the ear and side with her keys in her hand and his ear was spilt in two and had to get stitches from that. She regularly punched and beat on him the years they were married.
As the daughter of an abusive mother, I appreciate that these stories are being told by men who are victims. My mother painted my father as the abuser (even blaming him for her abuse of my younger brother and I) when she was the abuser. Her abuse was mostly emotional, and I can remember my father crying and I was just a child and I was too afraid of her to go to him. Unfortunately my father mistakenly thought she would not abuse her children and since he was away a lot for work, he didn't witness it. The bullies at school were nothing compared to what we got at home. My parents split when I was ten. For years my mother poisoned my mind about my father and I didn't speak to him for years and only reunited with him and shared our stories when I was in my late 20s. Sadly he died within months. My mother is still alive decades later making everyone's life hell. You may say I don't have to be in touch with her, but try being a woman who doesn't speak to your mother and see how you get treated. People have sympathy for someone who had an abusive father, but an abusive mother - they think you are exaggerating or imagining it.
Yes! Some people cannot get their head around a mother being abusive. My mother too was abusive. She's a horrible narcissistic evil person and some of my earliest memories are of her telling me she wished she terminated me. I believe you!
The only way to get out of it, is stopping relationships with the abuser. I feel so sorry that I didn’t do it earlier because my horrible abusive mother manipulated me times and times again into believing that she loves me. I would forgive her and open my heart again for her, and she would destroy me again. She would tell all relatives, friends and neighbors that I am a horrible person. She made it her mission in life. She isolated me with her relatives. My older brother, who was her favorite, doesn’t support me. She used to say to me that my brother was their love child, but she should have done an abortion with me. But I would rather not have any relationship with them than accept that I am not good enough and betray myself. Yes, it is not easy, but it is the only way to survive. And this is what I suggest you do, SL Silver.
@@ellaova maybe he hadn't dealt with many other domestics himself at that point, he was still quite a young officer so maybe that's why it was the worst he had dealt with ,either way what you said is still true the stats for women being murdered are bad but there is plenty of abused men as well.
Really, he was sent from God. He didn't accept his answer until he was telling the truth. Alex' suffering touched me to tears. I hope the next girl treats him with all her love and respect that he really deserves and washes all the pain away that he cares from all the years in his soul and cells. Wish him, his kids, his family his friends all the best, they are all very lovely. Greetings from Germany. 💞
This breaks my heart as a mother of a 15yr old son who has a beautiful gentle soul like Alex - i pray to God he only ever finds a stable minded good heartes girlfriend
@@gjh9299 I doubt she ever would because of her extreme violence it would be beyond ridiculous to even think about giving her responsibility to look after a goldfish never mind a child
@@georgia8592 Tragically, sociopaths like her get custody all the time. They manipulate the courts in the same way they manipulate their victims. We are devastatingly inept at dealing with narcissistic sociopaths/psychopaths at any level.
@@gjh9299 after 7+ years in jail & the charges why she went to jail in the 1st place make it a 0.0000000001% chance she'll ever get custody & I highly doubt he'll ever let her see them after she does hard time anyways, atleast I hope not!
O.M.G. for real!! I am a grown man that's never been abused. When I saw his mother start crying when she got the call that Alex was coming home, and actually saw him.... I broke down, and started to cry. Since grown, I don't cry only have cried at my father's funeral... but this broke me!! I pray Alex can continue to grow, heal, and be the wonderful guy he was before meeting Jordan🙏🏻 🙏🏻
You should cry more often, it cleans the soul. It is ok to cry. You are not less of a man because of it. When men go around sayin they don't cry, they come off as insecure.
I watched my mother abuse my father for nearly 60 years. No one believed us. Society can be dangerously deluded about women, starting with family, friends and even police. The media gives it zero attention. But millions of men are abused every single day. Well done to this young man for speaking out and for raising awareness. I wish him, his children, family and friends all the best in the world.
He's very brave for speaking out. This form of abuse is still not really fully accepted. I had a work colleague who used to come in with some really nasty injuries, but he never wanted to speak out. We're not in contact now sadly, but I still worry about him. Dr Ramani's channel is a good one for healing from this kind of abuse.
Same here🥺it was more na emotinal abuse&control but still,even my therapyst gaslighted me about the situation,so yeah if the professionals can be oblivious about those dynamics how will average person see it..this must change!Depp trial opened a whole new dimension to this issue tnx god and I hope now also man will have have more courage to tell someone&people will believe them when this happens!Much peace to all🙏
This is such a good depiction of how coercive control often doesn't involve locks and chains. People like Jordan, consciously or not, use people's love, loyalty, and decency against them. I really appreciate Alex and his family's willingness to share this painful story and I'm so glad he and his children are safe.
I'm still recovering from a subtle, verbally abusive X-wife, & a closet Narcissist. 2 yrs alone feels like only a month ago, & it even feels like ptsd (my nerves & self confidence are shot to hell). But, I'll get thru this w/ God's help. I can never trust women again. 😔
It’s absolutely heartbreaking to see how fully this young man lost himself in the toxic relentlessness of this girl. He may not have been chained and shackled physically, but he certainly was mentally. It’s a horrifically strange phenomenon. I’m glad he survived, so many others do not.
@@patriot692me too but its only been less than 2 weeks since the abuse has finally stopped in dec 2023. I guess it couldve stopped in nov but she texted me first on dec1st and Christmas eve so i kept trying to get closure as to what happened in our relationship. Things kept getting worse starting in oct once i found out she already had a new bf and i had broken a 5 week no contact with her that started in september. I just couldnt take her abuse anymore. Eventhough i still love her to this day. Jan5th 2024
My son was in an abusive relationship and when she sent him tot he hospital she blamed him because he refused to argue with her. Women are capable, as much as men can be, of such evil and malicious behaviors. Good job to the parents and family for never giving up
My partner went through exactly the same thing, 10 years ago she assaulted him then called the police and said it was him. She was angry that he would not argue back. Years later he found out she did this a lot in previous relationships.
Thanks for your comment! Where is the father? I only saw a mom and a grandpa, in this story about Alex. What I can see in these scenarios is young men who have no idea what masculinity is. If they knew how to be the “3 P’s” then they would not let their relationships get to that point. Men need to be manly, in their relationships, or their women take that roll and don’t know how to do it. It makes women crazier when their men don’t stop their crazy! If you love her then you won’t let her control you. Violence & Manipulation is never Love. The 3 P’s are: Protector, Provider, and Procreator. Alex needed the Public Authorities to finally be the protectors of that family. That’s terrible! Especially for the infant and toddler, who now have an incarcerated mother. Their troubles aren’t over. Alex’s mother doesn’t realize she treated him differently than his brother and sister. He was timid and insecure. Jordan, being a narcissist, took advantage of Alex’s weak personality. It’s just too bad that they became parents before they could fix their personality problems. The best solution for this family is for Jordan AND Alex to get psychiatric care and learn how to deal with adversity. They both have contributed to the demise of their family. I don’t know if Jordan can ever learn to feel empathy, but I’m certain Alex can learn how to be a real man. God allows bad things to happen because He doesn’t control us. If we pray, and ask Him for help, He will help 10 fold! My life is proof. I’m a stubborn woman, but I have a strong husband that loves me with the love of a protector. I thank God for him everyday. ♥️🙏🏼✝️
"I don't want to hurt her.." he's literally so precious and she treated him horribly! This made me so upset. I hope Alex gets all the healing in the world. ♡
Yeah and when she’s talking to police she has the audacity to say “I didn’t hurt him. I didn’t hurt Alex” . Wtf?!? Maybe in her mind hurt is only hurt when she kills him. Then she’d be like “yeah I hurt him but it was his fault”. Ugh. And her I’m meek with baby voice, so tiny mouse I could never hurt someone. Such an act. A methodical act from a monster, planned beginning to end
This is Jordan from the documentary. Just to be clear, I never meant to hurt Alex! There were occasions when I lost my cool with him and subsequently had to beat him but it would only EVER be when he pushed me over the edge. This documentary is incredibly one sided also as Alex was certainly no angel himself. He would often shout and lose his cool. Anyway I’m doing better for myself now, and I’m glad that part of my life is behind me.
It's telling that a lot of the conflicts happened on birthdays. Narcissistic people can't stand the attention given to other people and not to them. So they make a scene or cause a fight to get the focus back on them.
It's interesting you mentioned it. I've just watched another video about a women in Kazakhstan, who was abused by her husband, a high-rank diplomat. He was ignoring her Birthday, and when late at night she wanted to eat a piece of cake in the kitchen, snapped at her and picked up a fight. So f... weird.
The police actually went above and beyond. He’s the one that got Alex to confess to the truth. It’s amazing how Alex is giving back after this incident. Bless him and his family ❤
All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at. Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24) The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) .and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26).
It took a very long time for my 23 year old son to finally see that his “girlfriend” was abusing him. She controlled everything from money, to clothes he wore,tattoos she put on his body and isolating him from friends and family. He finally broke up with her and just last week, he had those tattoos covered up. He eventually told me that she would bite him, punch him and choke him. This was a great documentary and I am so proud of Alex for sharing his story and helping professionals understand just how real this is. Happy healing to Alex and those beautiful babies.
I'm so sorry, Tracy, and to your beautiful son and children xx "She" needs locking away for the sane time as murder, because this very nearly happened. I have no words for "her" Karma. Good luck for your son and children, and hope one day he meets someone as beautiful as him. Xx God bless ❤️
It broke my heart when he said he wanted his mum. I am glad he has the support of family and friends. This young woman is a danger to society and hopefully she’ll get help.
the only help she should get ........is ...jail time...!!!...That is the problem ....he wanted his ....MOM....!!!....She raised him as a weak .....mommies boy.!!....that why he couldnt even stand up against this woman.......His mother is to blame for all this...!!!!
@@kingalfred3902 80% of the suicides are committed by men and its because they think they can't reach out for the same reason as you're considering this man weak. Is weak a person who has endured so much pain to the point of not telling anyone? I wonder if you could know how that even feels.
The double standard of abuse is slowly getting recognized but there's still a stigma in our society regarding the validity of male victims testimonies.
@@186mars yup! thats also a hard lesson learned on my part. worst part is, now that i shut down and become slightly rude when i feel something is off, everyone who genuinely has bad intention gives up immediately, because the fight isn’t worth it.
Thats the result off you are man, but not an asshole... The asshole road is way more relaxed 😎 never trust a woman!!! Never give a woman power over yourself...
I started crying when the officer said the McDonald's was one of the best meals he's ever had. Mental health needs to be more of a priority all over the world. Abuse awareness needs to be more accesible. My heart breaks for Alex and his family, but especially his mom. We work so hard to raise our babies to be kind hearted and loving and someone comes along and tries to break them. I hope they are all in better spots now.
I agree!!!! I learned a lot through father Malachi Martin. Art Bell has seven interviews with him on how demons can ruin peoples lives, and how we are in the spiritual war here on earth people better wake up to reality on what’s really going on and how these demonic attachments obsession possession can affect one’s lives.
As a victim of domestic violence myself it's refreshing to see someone get away, start to heal and get some closure. Seeing a male prospective is much needed. I commend Alex on his strength and courage and say " thank you" for helping people to understand that nothing is simple in that situation.
amen! It is wonderful to see victims ( Men and Woman)can get the help. and be honest and want the true to come out ,in anyways and live they life.. what a heros!
I'm also a victim of domestic violence, yet I still found myself like I'm sure so many others did, saying "WHY DIDN'T HE JUST LEAVE?!?" It's something you just can't explain or even fully understand, the whole "staying in an abusive relationship" part. I never in a million years thought it would happen to me, always said I'd never allow it, never tolerate it. Yet, there I was for all that time. Police, court, police, court, and there you are telling yourself it WILL change, it WILL get better. But it won't. It will only get worse. I agree, it was interesting to see it from a male victim's perspective. I hope others in these situations are able to make it out and live the safe, happy lives they deserve.
My mother abused my dad….he NEVER raised a hand to her. But she would fly off the handle, throw dishes, whatever at him. She would punch him aggressively in the arm until WE, as small children would beg her to stop. She had a lightening fast temper. We never knew what would set her off. She would scream, yell…my poor dad never raised his voice at her. He drank. She screamed. I didn’t even know what abuse was, but I felt dad was unfairly picked at by mom. When she wasn’t ranting at him, it was us until he would step in and she would turn her attention to him. I didn’t realize at the time that he purposely distracted her from us. My poor dad. RIP Dad. He succumbed to a heart attack a few years ago.
I’m so very sorry about your Dad. My late Mother was exactly the same with my Dad and me. That’s why I’ve reached out to you. It struck a chord as her behaviour was exactly the same ! When she died, my husband and I moved him in with us and we gave him the best life possible , including the happiness of seeing 2 Grandchildren born ❤❤
Alex, I’m 51 yrs old. My mom abused my dad, sister and myself. You are a strong young man and a great dad. We can’t change people but we can change. Never forget that tribulations we go through gives us strength, experience and hope. We are never defined by what happens to us but how we come out of it. Much love to you and the kids.
Yes, always watch out for someone trying to isolate you from friends and family. They'll do it in slow and subtle ways, so my advice is to take stock where you are right now. Ask yourself, how are your relationships and interactions with family and circle of friends? Do you see them all regularly? Can they contact you easily and vice versa? Also ask yourself, do you have a significant other or one particular friend in your life who you seem to spend a lot more time with? That in itself may not be wrong or harmful. But are they good with your family and friends - do they stop you from having enough time with your other friends and loved ones?
What I find most frightening about this sad case is the amount of love and support he had around him and still fell victim to this sick cruel manipulator. I’m aware many don’t have that. So glad he managed to escape alive and has his babies and loving family around him. Hopefully he will meet someone wonderful to share his life with so he can experience a loyal, loving , fulfilling relationship which is what he deserves. Very brave to share his story I hope he’s helping others.
@coffeepeachesplans Who did? His family? Whoever doesn't underatand why people don't just walk away clearly don't know a lot about DV then. Also, I am sure he also worried about his kids. I wouldn't want to walk away from my abuser and have my kids left with that person. He needed to know that Jordan would be locked up and his kids safe with him.
Something like this happened to me when I was 20, but I was isolated, living abroad. I grew up with a wonderful family, though. It can happen to anyone. I was willing to dismiss red flags and trusted his words over my gut instincts.
Crazy thing is, we all know abuse can become normalized for victims, but it's astonishing to realize that abuse becomes normalized for abusers too. This girl is a prime example. She's abused him so frequently, and so casually, she thought it slicing him with a knife wasn't a big deal to the point she openly told the police.
It actually is for the most part gender controlled. Men abuse more than women - physically - that’s why by the police officer said he didn’t expect it as the usual case is the man abusing the woman. That’s reality.
When they asked him if he ever had to defend himself from her and he said “I never wanted to hurt her”….I felt that. I hurt for him. It showed his heart.
I currently can’t stop crying….. praise that officer that took his duties even further to saved a life and rescue Alex from that monster disguised in a pretty little package. As for Alex it takes a great deal of courage and strength to share your story and committing yourself to a mission of helping others recognize abuse. Thank you for being brave!!!! And for setting the example for his kids to know how they need to be treated and how to treat others. Thank God he got out alive.
I dated a pretty little monster much like her but I couldn't stand the change in personality and the massive disrespect so I kicked her out of my life. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but I had to. And she went on to cheat and destroy another relationship and marriage. Really makes me sick..
Alex seems like the sweetest kindest guy. I hope he finds the most incredible woman who treats him like gold, respects him, and gives him and all the love, affection and security that he deserves
He's a total pushover. He may be sweet and feeble, but what woman wants to be with a sniveling man who allowed an 80lb woman to abuse him? He seems like the king of all simps.
I wish Alex, his children, mum, friends and family all happiness, peace and abundance. Overcoming trauma is not easy, and sharing your story enlightens the world about female abusers. Much love ❤
I'm so glad that police officer acted like a friend to him and showed genuine concern and kindness. If it wasn't for him Alex more than likely would not be here with us today.
A typical case of a "Beta Male" with low testosterone level and no cojones. 😁 I can not use the appropriate words otherwise I get banned. So this is a big problem of the new generation nowadays.
I'm so thankful Alex made it out and that he was strong enough to participate in this documentary, knowing the world needed to hear his story. Abuse is abuse. As a survivor myself, I know abuse has no gender. I cried when he was finally reunited with his family. I remember the day I was. Alex, you are such a beautiful and kind soul. I love that that was not taken from you. I wish you all the peace, joy, love and light in the world for you and your children. And Jordan....you are SICK. I hope you get the SERIOUS help you need.
This young woman beat this young man down so bad. I understand that this can happen. You get in trenched in this twisted game and being a feeling person they can manipulate you.
Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath/psychopath, she will never change. At this point in time there is no cure or truly effective treatment for that, we are sadly behind. For your own sake, please look into narcissism, it can help a lot. Fair warning, though, there's a TON of useless gibberish out there, most of it from "professionals" who claim expertise they do not possess because science itself does not yet possess it. There's so much work to be done, brain/cognitive/psychological sciences are only just scratching the surface.
It has been ignored for too long. We have a case in the news now in the US that involves a man being murdered by his abusive girlfriend. If you watch the video of them in an elevator, it is shocking to see how abusive she was to her partner. It went on for a couple years and because he was so much bigger than her, nobody took it seriously. And now he is dead. We need to do much more as a society to take domestic abuse more seriously, that includes any gender and every relationship dynamic.
It wasn't just the physical abuse, but the psychological and emotional abuse that allowed him to continue accepting the physical abuse. Fortunately for him, he has a family that never gave up on him and a police officer who followed his instincts in the end. May Alex heal from his trauma and find a partner worthy of him.
@@soxpeewee It is, I feel, much the same for women when there are children involved. Kids are often the primary or only reason a woman will leave or seek the help she wouldn't seek for herself alone. Gosh this story made me cry.
People that are not close to there family do not want you to be close with your family his family show him much love she could not stand that .that make her a hater
@@gwendolynosler3930 That's terribly unfair and untrue, and downright cruel to those who don't deserve it. There are a laundry list of reasons why people are not close to their families, you fail to differentiate between victim and abuser, or any other issues. Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath, she will not change. There are a lot of them, unfortunately, and they are all dangerous. As a society we desperately need to understand this problem far, far more than we do, and only then can begin to deal with it effectively.
@@barbarakauppi9915 I agree. I am not close to my family. Thats because my dad didnt care to be in my life, my mom died when I was 11, and my aunt and cousins were narcissists like Jordan (one of my cousins even put pills in a milkshake she made me for God knows what reason). I would love to be with a man who is close to his family because then maybe I would feel like I actually have a family....
Whenever there are stories like this, I am always reminded of Jeffrey Dahmer and how long it took before the cops believed what they were being told - because the victims were all men, gay men at that. It's even worse in the case of Ian Watkins. Just unforgivable.
Dude. Total respect to you. Your getting out and telling your story will give someone else the courage to get out and tell his story. You'll never know how many lives you save.
As a mother myself, I don't think I would have just stood there and do nothing! Just like a father protecting his princess, I'd be protecting my prince. B*tch would be sorry!!
If someone did this to my son……she would end up spending the rest of her life in a 3rd world prison being tortured for the rest of her life. I pray that every abuser instantly dies of a massive heart attack the moment they commit the first act of abuse.
My dad was abused by my mom who suffered from mental illness. After being married to her for 13 years, he finally divorced her and moved on. I was glad when they split, but I hated the fact that he didn't take me and my sister with him and we had to endure a lot because of that. Thankfully, my sister and I prevailed, but our relationship with our parents are practically non-existent and as we get older, we have found peace with that.
I'm so sorry 💔 That would suck 😞 Especially your Dad leaving you behind. Society isolated men or they learned to isolate themselves back in the day. My Dad would never leave my Mom. But he worked up North and believed everything she told him. Until he had to live with her himself after he retired. Still he never spoke a word against her. He wouldn't regardless. He didn't believe in divorce and I'm sure he made excuses for her in his head. Anyway I hope that you'll find true happiness if you haven't already and be able to trust it. HUGS
I got left behind as a child with a abusive parent and always fought y didn’t you take me,I hope u have found peace and you and your sister have a beautiful loving life all the best to you both xxxx
How terrible, I'm so sorry! I read a book called Bad Childhood Good Life by doctor Laura Shlessinger. It's a very thin book but it truly saved me, and I've read them all. Good luck to you. 🍀
I’m sorry My dad went through the same as well as me with my mum. He gave her so much love support etc Sacrificed his life health mind for her n us kids Didn’t deserve any of the abuse Had to hear her go on and on about how she wishes he was d…d n even scolded me for crying when he passed due to cancer
Wow I am soo sorry for your loss. I hope you’re now older and have removed yourself from her abuse? This shouldn’t be so hard for people to believe a women can abuse a man. It happens just the same if not even more. My heart goes out to you ❤I hope you’re doing well and have been able to grieve the death 😔of your dad in a healthy and whole hearted way. 💝@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 wow! I am by
What a beautiful family, group of friends and police officer. It took every one of them to save that poor kid and nurse him back to life. Bless them all.
And I'm so very happy they loved him so much harder, than they disliked her, when people make poor choices is when we need to stand by, as they will eventually some how maybe God will place the right person there, with right words, authority whatever is needed. But abusers need to be stopped dead in there blazing manipulative often soft spoken, shy tracks! Families friends band together there going to need to you help them pick up the pieces of there former self. Stand firm don't waver. It took an underground group, and my mom's brother to save my life. The cops never forced him to see me, or call out for me. It was considered family matters, much has changed today thank goodness. Mine lasted until 1992. Officers never stepped in our home and looked for me or my new born he just told them No. And they would leave. 👎 I was eventually for the 2nd time left for dead. When I got help. Accidentally he left a phone. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
This helps me be aware of my own unhealthy tendencies to control. My dad was very insecure and ago centric and was very desperate for my family to behave in a way that made him feel like a good father. And whenever my husband doesn’t act in the way I expect love to look like, that controlling desperation comes up. So I’m learning to deal with my fears instead of taking it out on him.
The entire time I wanted to just jump through the screen and hug him. It hurts my heart to know what he endured at her hands and the fact that he remained the kindhearted, incredibly loving and caring Dad that he is, speaks volumes. She never broke his spirit.
ALEX I'M VERY PROUD OF YOU FOR COMING FORWARD WITH YOUR STORY I HOPE THAT YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN ARE LIVING THE PERFECT LIFE YOU DESERVE. AFTER 25 YEARS I FINALLY FOUND THE BALLS TO LEAVE MY ABUSIVE , CHEATING AND LYING HUSBAND.
I was in a situation like this for about 7 years. The woman I was with tried to stab me a number of times, scratched my face numerous times, broke my things, constantly screamed at me, treated me bad and insulted me, cheated on me numerous times, poisoned me once that made me so sick that I was laying on the floor and could barely hear or stay conscious while she stood over me smiling and asking "What's the matter, not feeling good?" (once that I know of - they're may have more times since I would get sick a lot while I was with her), I rarely got sick before I knew her or after we divorced but while I was with her I seemed to get sick pretty often, she also stabbed my shoes and cut up my clothes with scissors and one time broke my thumb in three places. I stayed with her because I so badly wanted my family to stay together. When we finally separated and divorced I felt so relieved and happy and started healing from all the damage that had been done. My life became so much better after we divorced (not immediately but over a short period of time), I couldn't believe I was with her for so long and put up with such horrible treatment.
You poor pet, I can understand, I was beat up and I totally believed it was my own fault, like no doctor, nurse, psychologist, psychiatrist, nobody could tell me any different cause I didn't believe anyone else, I won't go in to everything cause I'd be messaging for age's and age's but when I finally, finally was away from him I could slowly see how demented and evil he really was and he could act so nicely around his family and friend's so noone could see what he really was. But a lot of times men in particular are not believed or made fun off cause they are supposed to be "the tough one", it's extremely unfair and they should be listened to before thing's get worse or people should really help even if they have to force the help to their friend or friend's that are in need. You went through a lot and for what, she was the evil dirty slut but with time people will see what they are really like and hopefully if not in this lifetime, in death they will get exactly what they deserve so make sure the next woman you are with, that she is actually nice and good to you, the first sign of her being any way horrible, get out and don't ever look back, ok
I am so sorry you had to live through that. Wishing you an immensity of strength and endurance to work your way out of that trauma and get to a place of joy and trust again
I have a 9yo son who has been running a 102 degree fever for 3 days cuddled in bed with me and I've got tears running silently down my face... Just him being sick kills me... I can't imagine how that mom felt then... But also those yrs she lost him because of the forced isolation. It makes me sick to my stomach to imagine having no contact with him for years... To not even know where he lives.. 😭
Hearing his mom talk about how he looked so frail, that hurt. I'm glad he had a support system and that cop pushed for his well being... it was all so inspiring, thank you all for staying by Alex.
Did you even watch the story @winning your comments are astounding - completely insensitive and sexist! This young man was 10days away from death after systemic abuse for years, struggling to walk, repeatedly burned with boiling water poured on him, beaten, cut with knives, not given any access money or food. He was physically and mentally tortured in horrific ways and you say ‘he could have left but chose to stay’. He was frightened for his life and the life of his young children who he loves, isolated from all his friends and family and understandably terrified what his abuser might do should he tell anybody. You say ‘he could have left, but most women in the same scenario cannot’ is an absolutely vile comment to make. Maybe you struggle to accept women can be as abusive, but they can and plenty are, and it’s no wonder men are less likely to seek help and speak out with comments like this. At least watch the program absorb his story, and have some respect for this victim before you tell him and other male victims of DV that they are ‘choosing it’ SMH.
I pray that this women never enters his life and his children’s life again. I truly believe that his children are better off without her. For a person to have that much hate in their heart is sickening.
We don't because that not the narrative media likes to tell. Not to mention that most police, will just make fun of the guy, but if a woman has a finger wagged in her face, it's domestic violence and abuse. This officer was rare and also British and they are more frail like their men. So no, men can't bring it up ever and to do so is considered pathetic. So stfu.
Seeing the response she sent to the Grandad and the message he sent back, and thinking it was actually Alex who sent the message, brought me to tears. The LEO that kept on Alex to tell him the truth is a hero. And Alex has such a wonderful family, and a great best friend. Truly a great story and a happy ending. I wish you and your family all the best Alex. Godspeed.
The way he just slept in the bed when he got back home...frail body, skinny, broken and finally safe.. that broke my heart. Cannot imagine what the mother must have felt to see him like that. Bless him and his children.
@@mickehogan3230 she had physical and psychological control over him. Not to mention she also had his son so he wanted to make it work. In some way I think he was trying to be a good dad which is fine but also a good partner which meant for him reckless submission.
My parents divorced when I was ten and we didn’t see my Dad much after that. I remember his mother, my grandmother, being a horrible women and we were quite happy not to have to see her again. She was never nice to my Mum either. When my Grandad died they found him covered in bruises and it turns out she’d been abusing him for years. No wonder my Dad was a bit dysfunctional
God bless the officer for not being blinded by her being female and well spoken. Some of the most evil people are the ones who come at you well spoken and smiling. May Alex have a happy healthy life with his children. May she get exactly what she deserves.
Totally agree!!!!! so glad he did what he did..!!! but the officer shouldn't let it eat at him for missing it the first time.Iamd so happy Alex got away very close call!!! I have a sister who does things similar to this police had bn called you name it, she was almost put in 72 hour mental hold for things. and as well as abuse to my niece n nephew and mother.. but then she moved away, she chose the guy instead of her kids. I ended up with my niece and my nephew went with his father... but the thing was not only was my sister playing victim, she was also the abuser to even her recent boyfriends the one that she got really physical was why she moved, bc she didn't want cops involved due to restraining orders ect. Cause she would be in trouble too.. but to up and leave her kids was ridiculous we barely talk now because she and her newish boyfriend is all she cares for. And goin to party 24/7 ! But maybe one day she will grow up and me being years younger I grew faster, it just makes me wonder what is goin on in her head .. and just stop the nonsense..
She knew exactly what was doing, she used the baby as a tool to drive a wedge between his family. She isolated him to punish and control him. From the jump she was bad news! I don't like your hair, shoes, clothes , friends these are early signs of control. Am happy Alex is alive and able to raise awareness and relate his experience with abuse.
Yes! Even when it’s possibly nice… I had an ex who would worriedly say ‘you look tired today’ which initially seemed sweet and like he was concerned for me. But then I realised it was a way for him to tell me to not see my friends bc it’d make me more tired… or wear more makeup to cover how tired I am. I quickly left after discovering this.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Its not a competition my friend and it takes a lot of balls for a man to come forward even though alex was kinda pushed by the police officer that had a hunch and played things not by the book by turning his camera off and having a chat with him man to man.. I agree with you about the majority of police officers abusing their power though and that's definitely a reason fellas don't come forward because it doesn't get taken seriously hence the girl being the first girl charged with that crime while there are millions more out there doing the exact same thing
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus y'all are the type to abuse people. Narcississm on full blast, making someone else's tragedy about you... Fuck outta here
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Don't invalidate the sufferings of others. Every person has a different level of tolerance and strength to deal with traumas or things in general. You can't say, "My problem is bigger than yours..." and make them feel they aren't worth it. I've been physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually abused in so many parts of my life. I studied Psychology and finished it to be able to help others. I know you are broken, but that doesn't give you the right to make others feel less.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus You are broken, you need more help than you think. Rubbing off your toxicity here or to anyone isn't a plus point for you. I could have you traced wherever you are in the world and have some hospital and police to assist you as you might be a danger to yourself or others.
Thank you for so bravely sharing your story, Alex. It really shed a clear light on how female abusers can use all the same tools of power and control male male abusers do. She isolated you from friends and family. She controlled you financially, by making you quit your job and taking your wallet from you. She accused you of cheating and all sorts of things you never did. She drugged you. She used the children as a form of emotional extortion (as evidenced with questioning whether your mother wanted to meet her grandson or not... I can't imagine what other levels she went to), and it escalated to horrific physical abuse that could've killed you. You are not a victim; you're a survivor. I'm beyond grateful to know you're with your family and friends again, looking after your children, and she was held accountable. I pray you all heal from her torture, and that the children thrive with you in her absence.
I was in a coercive relationship for 19 years, I drove to suicide and in the end I'd had 4 hospital and psychiatric admissions because of her. I lost everything because of it. House, job, my daughters, my self esteem. She controlled everything from my finances, my medication, to telling me what I could wear and how to dress. She isolated me from my family, my social circle was nothing, I had no friends, and the thing was, she moved her father in to the house, and he is just as bad. Now.....I'm trying to move on, and it will take some time. I'm still on medication, and I still have to see the doctor for reviews every now and again. Her love was measured in how she could belittle me, manipulate me, hurt me. One one veteran friends notified the emergency services on the night I had planned to go away. If he hadn't stepped in, I probably wouldn't be here now. It wasn't until I was in hospital that the nursing staff showed me which path I should tread if I want to see my daughters grow up. That said, the path I had the courage to walk is now without her, sure she still has a level over control over me through my daughters, but I've woken up. Its a very surreal experience as a guy to be systematically abused over such a long period of time, but help is there, just have courage to talk to someone. It'll be hard, but, with the right support, you will find life again....
Oh wow. I hope you are healing every day. 💓 stay strong and remember that your worth is not dependent upon how someone treated you. I feel sorry for the next guy.
Very sorry to read your story. I'm very happy for you that you've moved on without this terrible person in your life whom you believed loved you. Much Healing and Blessings. God bless you and your children🙏
To go through that abuse for 19 years, my god! It's a miracle you're still here to tell the tale. But I'm pleased you got the help you needed to gather the strength & will power to get away from her. ❤👍⭐
He suffered from Stockholm syndrome where the victim sees the abuser as the person they truly love and the abuse was seen as true love by the abuser. We see this abuse in men, but he believed he had to stay also for the children. This happens to 15% men, but they are too ashamed to report it.
The captives in the bank in Stockholm were treated really well by their captors. They weren't abused by them in any way, at any point. This is without a doubt Battered Spouse Syndrome.
Greg...I don’t believe it is shame, it is a small part of it though as you said. I believe Alex stayed for his kids and the sincere belief that it would all get better. That he could handle it. My son recognizes he is being abused, but...thinks he can hold on til the kids are older. I pray he sees the light sooner.
I feel so honored to have come across this. The biggest blessings to the neighbor that reported this and to the officer that listened and acted. So proud of Alex, he has a beautiful Tribe filled with kids, family and friends.
It is tragic how abusers find the sweetest people. They prey upon virtues like they're weaknesses. So glad he had family that never gave up on him and that he and his kids have a real chance at life.
Very true. My great-uncle went through that with his psycho ex-wife. He was beaten constantly and she laughed about it and said the police would never believe a woman could abuse a man. He was the kindest man. My grandma (his sister) begged him to leave his wife because she saw the bruises. Eventually he was forced to leave her because he said it came down to killing in self defense or walking out. That trauma followed him the rest of his life. It's so sad.
People saying “please reach out” etc don’t understand it doesn’t feel as easy as that for people who are stuck in this situation. We as men are raised to be strong and bottling things up tends to be the norm. I’m so happy for Alex to be free physically and emotionally ❤
As a woman, I tried reaching out to places and people that were supposed to help and was turned away because they "couldn't help someone with kids". No loving parent will willingly leave their children alone in the hands of a monster- just knowing what was done to you and if you aren't there for the abuser to abuse, that the kids could possibly be their target. I can't begin to imagine how much worse it would be for a man/father in my situation. And for how little DV abusers are persecuted- male and especially female-, reaching out for help can too easily lead to worse abuse or death.
..to ask for help requires a lot of self confidence, which is one of thr things that gets eroded in an abusive relationship, and who would be happy to leave their children with someone who is known to treat people without e emotional empathy?
Sort of justified considering that she is already walking free again where a man would not, and as a guy you basically have to be beaten up like that to be listened to and people still sort of hope it was self-defense. Between people wanting the world to fit their orderly assumptions and campaigns to judge whom to believe by their gender it's not a surprise.
That's the problem. We teach boys that they have to be tough, no matter what. They can't feel, they can't be sensitive, they can't show weakness. This is our failing as a society, not yours.
@@moondog7694so much of what he endured resonated with me, I survived a male version of her. They were a malignant narcissist. He was lucky to survive at all. They are some of he most dangerous and predatory people out there 💜
@Lux Aeterna they both fall under the umbrella of cluster B's personality disorders. And they gont get better. Dr Ramani has loads of content on here about surviving/ dealing with a NPD sibling 💜
I am so glad this man has shown such bravery and strength and integrity to tell his story, because so many men don’t & that’s not blame to be placed but I’m hoping this encourages men to speak up, they deserve the help & support.
As a survivor and warrior of ‘DV’ myself, I want to reach out to you and say how very sorry I am for the torture you endured at the hands of the person you loved and trusted. I also want to tell you how brave you are. May the universe surround you with an endless supply of love and light as you move through your life’s journey. ❤🙏❤️
She was a narcissist and she used the abuse to control him. When his family said they were hoping she'd changed, I felt sorry for them. Narcissists don't change. Him staying is from trauma bonding. You cannot blame him for that. It is extremely difficult to leave an abuser because the abuser will act nice at times, making the victim think they will get the original person back (the person they met in the beginning). As he said, it's complicated but it is a psychological change to the person's brain. I'm so thankful he was able to leave her.
Rachel, your comment has helped me. I was a DV victim and I thought I could get the original person back.For years I would walk around the house trying to think of safe ways to leave the house !! I was helped to safety and now have a better understanding of dv.
You can't just diagnose her as a narcissist because you saw this. Doing what she does is not normally due to narcissism. She definitely has something wrong but she would need proper assessment.
People don't realize how much we are manipulated in a very subtle way by evil that is around us. How many have said j felt like something was pushing me to it ? There really are things that we can't see. They're being caught on camera by people everywhere now. It's something we don't think about. We don't know that it's real until we're in a situation like that ourselves. We need to teach responsibility to kids at an early age so they will know instinctively what thoughts are theirs and what is a thought that isn't theirs, that doesn't feel right, that you don't want. We don't have a good feel for that so we're easily fooled by thoughts that aren't ours but we just accept because they're there. We need to teach kids that they can be pushed into things by something they can't see. It's frightening but it's better than keeping quiet. That's how we get into things by not standing up to that first push. That initial urge to do or say something can happen so fast we don't really think about it. It's time to teach kids to slow down and examine what's happening inside of them. Explain about thoughts and feelings, and how we can easily go in a direction we don't want to but it's like we just get pushed into it. It's more than just mental illness, it's what causes the mental illness. Evil is the root of these things, they are the causation of pain and suffering and it's high time we start facing the truth of the fact, evil exists and it loves to make us hurt.
Alex, if you read this, I hope you have found healing. What you went through was horrific to say the least. I was in a DA marriage. I know that it can take a long time to heal. Please know that not all women are this way. I found a man that truly loves me unconditionally and would never lay a hand on me. I pray you will find someone to love that cherishes you and truly loves your beautiful children! God bless you and your future!
his best friend is so cool. he knew from the start something wasn’t right and always cared about him. that moment when he texted the girl “hi jordan” after she pretended to be alex was brilliant
My son was with his abusive wife for 14 years. She made his life pure hell. I will never forgive myself for not seeing how bad things were and getting him out of that marriage. He stayed for his children. She was gradually turning them against him. They actually have a better relationship now that he has divorced their mother. Evil truly exists in this world and sometimes it comes in the form of a sweet sounding, smiling female.
Hope your son is doing so much better, and that you’re all healing and finding peace as a family, yourself and his kids included. It is truly devastating the effect domestic ab*se has on a whole family 💔 Very happy to hear your son found the strength to get out 🙏🏼💗
@Eva Lilith I’m currently living it and in a sense I think you’re right. I saw it from the get go but couldn’t make him see it for anything. Then they started having kids and he just does everything she says, even when it doesn’t make sense. He works for her father so she’s got him there too. I cannot stand her but I spend half my time mad at him for allowing her to keep us all apart. No, it may not make sense to feel that way but nothing about this makes sense at all. I haven’t seen my son or grandkids for 6 years and one little girl I’ve never met. They live about 20 minutes from us. He hasn’t seen his two sisters either. I’m afraid to think what those kids are living through. I’ve tried, God knows I’ve tried. It’s a terrible place to be!!
Bless your heart honey. I feel so bad for you. I’ve been abused by a significant other and it’s soul crushing and can leave you feeling devastated and not knowing which way to turn! You’re doing the right thing in speaking out about this. You’re helping others dealing with the same things! Shame on her for hurting you. She was taking her pain out on you, it had nothing to do with what you did or didn’t do. Those people are damaged and they have to damage the people they’re involved with to bring them down to her level!
Oh my word, when I saw the photo of Alex snuggling his grandfather after reuniting I lost it. Alex acknowledged he always wanted to be with his granddad when he was sick as a child. Thank God nothing happened to his grandfather while Alex was being held prisoner. I'm so sorry this happened to you, Alex.
@@daniellestoops1448 this played a role in my emotional breakdown as well. This story is horrific, and I'm so glad that officer was persistent. No remorse shown by the monster.
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Remember this is not about men vs women, it’s about abusers vs the abused. Men and women need to stand together against abuse regardless of gender.
Preach
💯 Drew 💯
Agreed
Thank you!!
God bless him for coming forward, God bless the Police for not giving up. Abuse to men is also out there and You are very right, gender is not not the issue, abuse is.
Tormented him for years, torturing him and almost killing him daily, and she gets out after 4 years. That's just disgusting.
"Justice" system
Sexist justice system
isn't it 14 years
Ye she got two seven year prison sentences
@@aytansafarli7701 the sentence was, but she got out after 4 is what the video said at the end
Anyone who says this man is weak because he was abused by a woman doesn’t know what true strength and bravery really is. Bless you and your beautiful babies Alex. ❤
True words 👍
I bet 99% of the reason he stayed is cause he was scared if he left she'd move onto harming the kids.
Nobody is saying that … i just wish we would teach our children not to put up with bullies … to report to retaliate or just have the heart to leave them
Any idiot can punch back. But it takes a real man to step back and say No, I'm not doing this. I leave before I do this. No man is weak for not punching back. Ever. Anyone who thinks this, is a complete moron in my eyes.
Leaving an abusive situation is not that easy.
She should not have custody of those children. A woman capable of what she did to her boyfriend is more than capable of doing the same to her own children.
Absolutely. The moment the kids would have been old enough to start distancing themselves from her it would have started to be dangerous for them too.
She should never be allowed to see them again. She did this in front of those children, so she should have had child abuse charges, and her rights to those children stopped away. Her goal was to hurt Alex the worst way possible, and going after his children and doing something horrific to them would meet her goal perfectly. I would not put it past her, and that's a scary thought.
I agree, it’s incredibly concerning that she’s got kids and also that she works with animals, both of which someone like her would be likely to abuse
Not to mention she most likely got the kid at least partly as way to manipulate her boyfriend
She's in prison
That policeman is a real hero. He was able to get through to Alex while no one in his life could. He very well saved his life. I hope he lives the rest of his life in pure bliss and happiness.
Absolutely that policeman is a hero!
Hear hear
Totally.God bless Him
Absolutely 100%
First responders are the lifeline !
Thank you to the neighbors who made the first call. Thank you for “getting involved” and helping save his life. We are all here to take care of each other. Simple.
Amen 🙏. Thank u for saying that!! So sad many others don't think as u abd I. We should be here top help each other, not harm each other
Agreed & Amen to that❤grateful for your POV
Amen Amen Amen
We need to keep getting involved and speaking up for those who have been Silenced 🔕
True! Imagine the doctors said he was only 10 days away from his death.. poor Alex!
what really shocks me is how quickly his ENTIRE family gave up on him. They tried, but in my opinion they had multiple signs that he was in serious danger and they just.. gave up.
This brought me to tears when I saw that Jordan was the first woman ever sentenced on those charges. Are we all blind? There are many men who are abused. We need to help them to seek justice. Please guys, if you are being abused, reach out to someone you trust. Insist that your voice be heard by the authorities.
Most definitely we are, think about all the fake pregnancies, false rape charges, false arrests, domestic violence protection orders. I'll never get the footage of the women literally sitting in bed beating socking . Hitting herself with things. To view that was so sick watching that, wanting to pin it all on the boy friend, they need to be prosecuted harshly. 👎🚫💯💔
I am dating a “girlfriend”. I don’t understand what a girl or a woman is these days. I am totally confused.
if yer male the odds are stacked against you to a ridiculous degree. the cops rarely ever believe you (and all the female has to do is turn on the waterworks and claim he abused her) and plus the justice system in general will treat her with kid gloves simply because she's a girl and when it's her word against a guy's word vast majority will believe her and she knows that. even AMBER HEARD told JOHNNY DEPP "yer a man i'm a woman nobody's ever gonna believe you".
NO GENDER IN PSYCHOPATH CONDITION THIS CONDITION MOSTLY TRIGGER BY PARENTS How THEY RAISED THEIR CHILDREN IF YOU SPOILED OR ABUSE CHILDREN 100% they will be
Why can’t we watch these things and not have to hear thought of ppl
The cop who finally caught on and helped Alex is an actual hero and a great man. The way he criticized himself for not seeing it earlier is very telling of his character
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Yes! I second your comment
@jmc6327 Jordan, is that you?
@AmakaRickman what? Do we know each other? I've only known 1 Nigerian, and you don't look like adeola.
If only every cop could be like him.
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I’m so happy that officer realized what was going on and didn’t let it go until he found out the truth. He saved Alex’s life
indeed they are trained for that and a good cop will see past the gender and directly into the signs.
Exactly and thank goodness for that good cop.
He definitely saved this young man's life and he may not see it because that is his job, but he is a big hero. A lot of people would have said, he is a man he could defend himself, but this officer said absolutely not and did not live him there to die and that is amazing. He looked past gender and just saw a human being that was vulnerable and scared and went into action, great officer but most of all great human.
@@jojosg414 lol a man being abused by a woman 😂
Yes I agree 🥺 I am so happy that cop got the truth out of him
I was raised in domestic violence, I then married a women with boelrderline personality disorder and as a male, my request for help was laughed at, and rejected. I'm now 3rd year at university in psychology and raise 4 young children alone. I hope one day the law will see domestic abuse without the bias of gender.
I was too. This woman seems to have classic BPD. Possibly a psychopath too. No remorse.
It's simple, but well done you 💞
Happy for your children and yourself 💞
Not to be rude but why did you keep knocking her up
@@pinkpugginz I know it can be difficult to understand but there can be multiple reasons. 1. When an abuser abuses, they periodically show you love and kindness (false hope really) and you desperately await the return of that. 2) Fear. 3) R*pe and there is more reasons. Getting out of an abusive and violent relationship is one of the most difficult things a person can do. The amount of control and brain washing that goes into it, they literally change the way you think, the way you see yourself, they make you lose touch with reality, they give you fears you never knew you could have and at the same time they're pretending to love you, occasionally love bombing you too keep you going so they can abuse you more. They strip away your confidence, your identity, your sanity, they make you question your reality. Eventually your just a shell of the person you use to be and you give up. It becomes either you do as you're told or you get hurt, but even then, they will find any reason to abuse you, you could drop a spoon n that's it, then it becomes random, it's not even about you anymore, it's anything at all and you find yourself constantly waiting for the next attack. Other than this, another reason to stay is that so many people have been killed trying to leave abusive relationships and that is a very well known fact. Leaving is of the scariest and hardest things in the world. Also a fact. I hope this helps to answer your question.
Hats off to the officer who didn't budge untill he told the truth of what's happening. So many officers who turn a blind eye at domestic/violent abuse
They don't if they think the female is the victim! I called the police and I was the one taken away to the police station 😂
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Often yes, but… Actually I imagine some children of domestic violence relationships who were let down by the authorities join the police to stop it happening to anyone else, same as some kids who were ill as a child and failed by rubbish doctors want to go into medicine. And of course for some of those it was mum or stepmum who was the abuser, and nobody helped because of sexism.
Alex Skeel is a true inspiration and brave man. He inspired me to break away from an abusive partner. Hearing what he went through helped me identify the red flags and toxic traits of that person.
Never be afraid to ask for help it doesn’t make you any less of a human being
I’m glad you got out of a bad situation. I hope you’re in a much better place now. ❤
@@riveramnell143 thank you very much. I appreciate it :)
Alex is a gentle soul, and abusers pick their victims well.
That's very true
yup...
I agree! Demonic spirits pick their victims very well. They can take down an entire family. So sad!
Psychopaths had a friend who was abusive to every boyfriend. Harrassed them stalked phoned txt emailed she was a living nightmare. Restraining Orders did not stop her at all.... a true psycho. 😮
Ikr
She’s not just abusive. She’s a psycho. She tortured him. She almost killed him.
@dani cali Women are getting longer sentences? In which paralel universe?
@dontFwsocalNo depends where you live. A demon bitch hit me after a few months I left with my daughter in 3 days she went to court lied and took my daughter for a month and a half that it took to prove that she was a liar. If I as a man tried to take some chicks kid. A judge would never go for that or believe me. Women have it easy in most of the western world
@dani cali are u Jordan’s mom??
@dani cali what??????? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
The evil b****
This isn’t just domestic violence. It’s down right torture of a human being.
I understand. Truly. And torture is illegal. 🦊🌚
No he's just weak
@nicolecarnevale3226 no its love
@@kingston9248 Youre disgusting
Are u mentally disabled to call a domestic abuse victim ‘weak’? Maybe you should get some help or just grow up
😢I'm a mum going through this now..my boy has two babies with her..thank you for this..blessings from Rhode Island USA
Prayers for you & your family 🙏
Any good updates?
Try to seek fir help...
Do u mean u can't see ur son now and he's being abused?
God have mercy 😢😢very sad indeed. In Africa it's the opposite, the men beat women and even to an extend of killing them. Some children watch their father hitting their mother almost on daily basis. Even chasing them to sleep outside in cold and rains.
When he said "I just don't want to be hurt anymore" it broke my heart 😔 I hope Alex finds the love he truly deserves
What a psycho. My mom didn't feed us so table dinners were weird to me too, but at least I didn't turn out like her!
He was naive and this was his first girlfriend, and she took advantage of that. I hope he and his family does everything in their power to keep their baby away from her
That’s horrible. 😢I’m so glad he got out of this. Women are just as capable. Abuse is abuse. No matter the gender. I feel for this man. ❤
Yes love for himself first
I hope he loves himself. I hope his babies are kept away from her too. Narcissists like that spread their bs. She used those babies to trap him, and even when the police came she was holding the newborn while out there to emotionally blackmail him into saying nothing. They always use children as a game.
No one should be abused. Ever. I’m glad he escaped with his life. I’m even happier he has made his story public. What a brave man.
Yes he is a brave man hopefully this will help others
My mom is 70 years old and is still an abusive monster. They don't change. When someone shows you who they truly are, believe them and plan accordingly. I'm so sorry Alex and I'm proud of you for getting away. God bless you and you're in my prayers 💖
An abuser calling others abusers
She's in prison I'm guessing
My mom is cruel and evil aswell
So hard, hu?
@@fnafplayer6447 i dont think so
If you’ve never been in a relationship and in love with a malignant narcissist, you won’t understand until you do.
I think she may have some APD sprinkled in her mix
I agree
She had other issues but def NPD
True words. I totally understood his excuses. Bless his beautiful soul ❤️
I agree, covert narcissists are the worst.
Besides my daughter being killed by her boyfriend, this has to be the most brutal saddest thing I have ever seen or heard! Like Alex, my beautiful daughter never told our close family, her best friends, or anyone else that she being abused 😢, we didn't find out,until she was killed! Domestic Violence isn't about gender, it's about making it stop,and finding support, housing, for those who are being abused! God bless you Alex! If you're being abused or know someone being abused, PLEASE GET HELP! 💜💜💜
🙏🏽🙏🏽Thank All of You for your beautiful kind words of encouragement and support! I Pray that, if you or someone you know is being physically, mentally or emotionally abused, PLEASE SEEK HELP, AND SAFETY! GOD BLESS ALL OF YOU! 🙏🏽💪🏽👍🏼💜💜💜
So sorry for you!
With me it's my Mom, being manipulated, mind-gamed and whatnot by her boyfriend. She does not see it, does not believe it, even though it's ridiculously obvious, how he's constantly keeping taps on her, and controls her. Luckily she's just as obstinate in not letting him isolate her from family and friends. She showed signs of violence twice, always claims she fell. This has been going on for 20 years now and all I can hope for is that he just dies... horrible as that sounds.
Sorry for venting to you...
You are so right though, about abuse being gender-independent.
I can't even find any consoling words for you, damn this boy"friend", I hope he's in jail for life!
@@ulalaFrugilegaI'm sorry to hear about your mam. Maybe you could inform the police now, meaning that circumstances will be known there and any possible future emergency call will be taken serious immediately. All the best for your mam, God bless 🙏
I'm so sorry for you and your daughter. I had several female and one male friends in abusive marriages - non of them told friends or family about it for years. You're right: Asking for help is crucial, it's the important first step to get out of hell. Thank you for sharing and God bless you 🙏🍀
I'm so sorry to what happened to your daughter 😥
May God bless you
@@ulalaFrugilega I'm so sorry you have to be a witness of your mother being hurt, I am quite sure you have talked to her, and asked her if she is okay,just continue to be there for her, and let her know what and how you feel,without making her feel embarrassed, for some reason, a lot of abused women feel embarrassed or think it's their fault. You keep praying and stay encouraged! And venting is good and needed, so don't feel bad for venting!🙏🏽🙏🏽🤗
Just a gentle man who was naive about what romantic love and loyalty is. I pray Alex finds someone who will love him and his family the way they deserve.
I agree. Can't put all women or men in a single category. Hell find someone good to him, one day, hopefully.
Most likely he can become the abuser due to fear and being triggered he needs lots of counseling
@@Lovedaisymorehe probaly does need counseling but its doubtful that he will ever become an abuser himself.
@@LovedaisymoreI didn't become the abuser because I was abused my friends who male haven't so please don't think abused will become abusers therapy works
Men who suffer domestic abuse av it rough because they are not allowed in the shelter same as women as theres less shelter for men when it comes to domestic abuse
This is so so so important. Men can absolutely be victims of domestic abuse and intimate partner violence in heterosexual relationships. Thank you for shedding light on this issue. And thank you Alex for bravely sharing your story.
In every kind of relationship, not just hetero 😟
I grew up in a rough area with a rough life and most of the physical domestic violence I’ve seen has been from female to male. Just my anecdotal experience.
Why do you point out heterosexual relationships? Violence can be in any type of relationship!
@@ShyAnn291I think because folks can likely conceive of DV between two men more easily than between a het couple. Despite the evidence to the contrary, people still find it hard to believe when a woman abuses a man.
Actually, in any relationship. Heterosexual or gay.
i was in an emotionally abusive relationship before. Some comments on here are blaming him for allowing that situation. but the reality is when you are in the middle of it, they make it seem that there is no outside world, like you can only stay in a little box. it’s hard to escape. luckily i had my mum who said to me “you can be with him and have a life like this or you can leave him and there is a new life waiting for you”. at that moment, i left. it felt safe to leave. the next day, i went out. for the first time i felt what freedom was. i wore the clothes that i want. i did what i want with no contact. I can’t forget the feeling of sitting in the car with my mum, the sun, in an outfit i wanted to wear. it’s hard to overcome, but now i’m in the most loving, safe relationship
Where is she now? She won't change
@@isingormus1971 i’m against her. ofcourse she won’t change. but i was just annoyed people blamed him when he is not at fault
why you say they make it they they .. why someone else fault in the situations where two people? why you don['t ask yourself why am I so easily manipulated? why you don't ask yourself do you have any self worth and self love?
My brother was in an abusive relationship for 6 years. He never spoke a word of it until she got caught. In his second relationship, now, he has become aware of triggers. I'm so proud of this young man for doing something with his horrific experience that will bring help to others. I think he chose a great tattoo.
I am happy he’s in a better place, I am glad he has a sister like you who has his back and shows him kindness.
And I think that society is very SICK if the women started act like men and men were scared to be men and let this happen.
@@Vittoria1012But this is not acting like man. It's not normal behavior for either gender. It's psychotic.
I’m so happy most men don’t say anything because they are embarrassed and just like women they don’t deserve it either
Mine too. He had to get stitches multiple times and she threatened to kill him. He had to get stitches from glass bottle she smashed on his face. And she punched him in the ear and side with her keys in her hand and his ear was spilt in two and had to get stitches from that. She regularly punched and beat on him the years they were married.
As the daughter of an abusive mother, I appreciate that these stories are being told by men who are victims. My mother painted my father as the abuser (even blaming him for her abuse of my younger brother and I) when she was the abuser. Her abuse was mostly emotional, and I can remember my father crying and I was just a child and I was too afraid of her to go to him. Unfortunately my father mistakenly thought she would not abuse her children and since he was away a lot for work, he didn't witness it. The bullies at school were nothing compared to what we got at home. My parents split when I was ten. For years my mother poisoned my mind about my father and I didn't speak to him for years and only reunited with him and shared our stories when I was in my late 20s. Sadly he died within months. My mother is still alive decades later making everyone's life hell. You may say I don't have to be in touch with her, but try being a woman who doesn't speak to your mother and see how you get treated. People have sympathy for someone who had an abusive father, but an abusive mother - they think you are exaggerating or imagining it.
You’re surrounded by the wrong people. I too have an abusive mother and have not spoken to her for years and I’m supported in my decision.
Yes! Some people cannot get their head around a mother being abusive. My mother too was abusive. She's a horrible narcissistic evil person and some of my earliest memories are of her telling me she wished she terminated me. I believe you!
The only way to get out of it, is stopping relationships with the abuser. I feel so sorry that I didn’t do it earlier because my horrible abusive mother manipulated me times and times again into believing that she loves me. I would forgive her and open my heart again for her, and she would destroy me again. She would tell all relatives, friends and neighbors that I am a horrible person. She made it her mission in life. She isolated me with her relatives. My older brother, who was her favorite, doesn’t support me. She used to say to me that my brother was their love child, but she should have done an abortion with me. But I would rather not have any relationship with them than accept that I am not good enough and betray myself.
Yes, it is not easy, but it is the only way to survive. And this is what I suggest you do, SL Silver.
@@Vita_Voitane completely agree with you!!!
I hope you can find the support and courage you need to speak the truth openly. Much love x
Bless this police officer for pushing and pushing to save Alex's life. We all need LE like this.
Wishing Alex and his babies the best future 💕
Worst domestic violence case of his entire career!? With the statistics on women brutally murdered by their SOs I find that surprising.
@@ellaova maybe he hadn't dealt with many other domestics himself at that point, he was still quite a young officer so maybe that's why it was the worst he had dealt with ,either way what you said is still true the stats for women being murdered are bad but there is plenty of abused men as well.
Really, he was sent from God. He didn't accept his answer until he was telling the truth. Alex' suffering touched me to tears. I hope the next girl treats him with all her love and respect that he really deserves and washes all the pain away that he cares from all the years in his soul and cells. Wish him, his kids, his family his friends all the best, they are all very lovely. Greetings from Germany. 💞
How did they survive? and move house? Neither worked.
This is a terrible story and I'm glad Alex was saved.
@@ellaova Well ya, he would be that in abt 2weeks for sure.. And murder is the worst, right
This breaks my heart as a mother of a 15yr old son who has a beautiful gentle soul like Alex - i pray to God he only ever finds a stable minded good heartes girlfriend
Same...❤❤❤❤❤
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Same ❤
Me too hun, my son is 14❤
That officer straight up saved his life. Too many of these stories end in tragic deaths. Thank you Sir for not giving up and getting him out.
and the kids, I hope she doesnt get custody because that emotional abuse will be brutal
@@gjh9299 I doubt she ever would because of her extreme violence it would be beyond ridiculous to even think about giving her responsibility to look after a goldfish never mind a child
@@georgia8592 Tragically, sociopaths like her get custody all the time. They manipulate the courts in the same way they manipulate their victims. We are devastatingly inept at dealing with narcissistic sociopaths/psychopaths at any level.
@@gjh9299 after 7+ years in jail & the charges why she went to jail in the 1st place make it a 0.0000000001% chance she'll ever get custody & I highly doubt he'll ever let her see them after she does hard time anyways, atleast I hope not!
@@gjh9299 Well I guess shes already out & posting all about it on FB, she didn't even serve 1/2 the time. See comments below.
O.M.G. for real!! I am a grown man that's never been abused. When I saw his mother start crying when she got the call that Alex was coming home, and actually saw him.... I broke down, and started to cry. Since grown, I don't cry only have cried at my father's funeral... but this broke me!! I pray Alex can continue to grow, heal, and be the wonderful guy he was before meeting Jordan🙏🏻 🙏🏻
That's the part that got me too.
Amen
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You should cry more often, it cleans the soul. It is ok to cry. You are not less of a man because of it. When men go around sayin they don't cry, they come off as insecure.
it's ok to cry. it's human, not weak. We are biologically meant to cry as human beings.
I watched my mother abuse my father for nearly 60 years. No one believed us. Society can be dangerously deluded about women, starting with family, friends and even police. The media gives it zero attention. But millions of men are abused every single day. Well done to this young man for speaking out and for raising awareness. I wish him, his children, family and friends all the best in the world.
I believe you. Look at Amber turd. Even Jonnys mother was so abusive to his own father.
@Mary B. Same 💞🫂
He's very brave for speaking out. This form of abuse is still not really fully accepted. I had a work colleague who used to come in with some really nasty injuries, but he never wanted to speak out. We're not in contact now sadly, but I still worry about him. Dr Ramani's channel is a good one for healing from this kind of abuse.
Same here🥺it was more na emotinal abuse&control but still,even my therapyst gaslighted me about the situation,so yeah if the professionals can be oblivious about those dynamics how will average person see it..this must change!Depp trial opened a whole new dimension to this issue tnx god and I hope now also man will have have more courage to tell someone&people will believe them when this happens!Much peace to all🙏
My son is going through this now and her revenge against all of us truly is demonic
The part that made me smile 42:50 after her conviction, in the park with his children, he is wearing Grey, and so is his son. ❤
This is such a good depiction of how coercive control often doesn't involve locks and chains. People like Jordan, consciously or not, use people's love, loyalty, and decency against them. I really appreciate Alex and his family's willingness to share this painful story and I'm so glad he and his children are safe.
Well said.
I'm still recovering from a subtle, verbally abusive X-wife, & a closet Narcissist. 2 yrs alone feels like only a month ago, & it even feels like ptsd (my nerves & self confidence are shot to hell). But, I'll get thru this w/ God's help. I can never trust women again. 😔
It's very much conscious. If it weren't, they wouldn't have to hide it.
It’s absolutely heartbreaking to see how fully this young man lost himself in the toxic relentlessness of this girl. He may not have been chained and shackled physically, but he certainly was mentally. It’s a horrifically strange phenomenon. I’m glad he survived, so many others do not.
@@patriot692me too but its only been less than 2 weeks since the abuse has finally stopped in dec 2023. I guess it couldve stopped in nov but she texted me first on dec1st and Christmas eve so i kept trying to get closure as to what happened in our relationship. Things kept getting worse starting in oct once i found out she already had a new bf and i had broken a 5 week no contact with her that started in september. I just couldnt take her abuse anymore. Eventhough i still love her to this day. Jan5th 2024
My son was in an abusive relationship and when she sent him tot he hospital she blamed him because he refused to argue with her. Women are capable, as much as men can be, of such evil and malicious behaviors. Good job to the parents and family for never giving up
May God bless your Son.
My partner went through exactly the same thing, 10 years ago she assaulted him then called the police and said it was him. She was angry that he would not argue back. Years later he found out she did this a lot in previous relationships.
Thanks for your comment! Where is the father? I only saw a mom and a grandpa, in this story about Alex.
What I can see in these scenarios is young men who have no idea what masculinity is. If they knew how to be the “3 P’s” then they would not let their relationships get to that point. Men need to be manly, in their relationships, or their women take that roll and don’t know how to do it. It makes women crazier when their men don’t stop their crazy! If you love her then you won’t let her control you. Violence & Manipulation is never Love. The 3 P’s are: Protector, Provider, and Procreator. Alex needed the Public Authorities to finally be the protectors of that family. That’s terrible! Especially for the infant and toddler, who now have an incarcerated mother. Their troubles aren’t over. Alex’s mother doesn’t realize she treated him differently than his brother and sister. He was timid and insecure. Jordan, being a narcissist, took advantage of Alex’s weak personality. It’s just too bad that they became parents before they could fix their personality problems. The best solution for this family is for Jordan AND Alex to get psychiatric care and learn how to deal with adversity. They both have contributed to the demise of their family. I don’t know if Jordan can ever learn to feel empathy, but I’m certain Alex can learn how to be a real man. God allows bad things to happen because He doesn’t control us. If we pray, and ask Him for help, He will help 10 fold! My life is proof. I’m a stubborn woman, but I have a strong husband that loves me with the love of a protector. I thank God for him everyday.
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@@666999stardustanother narcissist that finds weak men to control.
No shit lady anyone is capable of anything that’s evil I don’t even know why people question this lady what’s wrong with you?
"I don't want to hurt her.." he's literally so precious and she treated him horribly! This made me so upset. I hope Alex gets all the healing in the world. ♡
i feel that he is the type of man that should havea happy ending girl ... someone to cherish someone to love someone who will love him back
Hopefully he heals well enough to open himself up for the right person. I’m glad he has the kids and a strong family support.
Yeah and when she’s talking to police she has the audacity to say “I didn’t hurt him. I didn’t hurt Alex” . Wtf?!? Maybe in her mind hurt is only hurt when she kills him. Then she’d be like “yeah I hurt him but it was his fault”. Ugh. And her I’m meek with baby voice, so tiny mouse I could never hurt someone. Such an act. A methodical act from a monster, planned beginning to end
Only God will Heal him completly! 🙏🏼❤️
This is Jordan from the documentary. Just to be clear, I never meant to hurt Alex! There were occasions when I lost my cool with him and subsequently had to beat him but it would only EVER be when he pushed me over the edge. This documentary is incredibly one sided also as Alex was certainly no angel himself. He would often shout and lose his cool. Anyway I’m doing better for myself now, and I’m glad that part of my life is behind me.
It's telling that a lot of the conflicts happened on birthdays. Narcissistic people can't stand the attention given to other people and not to them. So they make a scene or cause a fight to get the focus back on them.
Absolutely. My ex did this every single year.
Those beasts sicken me to my core. I don’t hate people but boy do I I absolutely despise narcs.
I agree, I noticed that too having dealt with a narcissistic ex in the past.
It's interesting you mentioned it. I've just watched another video about a women in Kazakhstan, who was abused by her husband, a high-rank diplomat. He was ignoring her Birthday, and when late at night she wanted to eat a piece of cake in the kitchen, snapped at her and picked up a fight. So f... weird.
Telltale narc behavior!You are spot on!
The police actually went above and beyond. He’s the one that got Alex to confess to the truth. It’s amazing how Alex is giving back after this incident. Bless him and his family ❤
Lol a man being abused by a woman. Shut up.
Yeah that police officer quite literally saved his life, by not taking a lie for an answer. When good people go the police force lives are saved.
@@Korenski23VO as long as they get cops with integrity. 🤔
All have done evil “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23) The penalty for sin is hell (Revelation 21:8). Because of Gods love for us Jesus Christ came down from heaven to take the punishment for our sin on the cross in which he was spat on, beaten, mocked and laughed at.
Christ died for the sins of the world and The third day God raised him from the dead (Praise God). This was done so that those who believe on Christ will not perish (hell) but have life everlasting (heaven); be justified by Gods grace through redemption in Christ (John 3:16) (Romans 3:24)
The blood Jesus shed on the cross washes away our sin if we Believe in The Son of God and his finished work (ordained by God) on the cross. When this happens the believer receives the righteousness of Christ in place of their own unrighteousness (all sins are forgiven) and this makes them saved (going heaven) .and they are born again as a Christian. (Romans 3:25-26).
It took a very long time for my 23 year old son to finally see that his “girlfriend” was abusing him. She controlled everything from money, to clothes he wore,tattoos she put on his body and isolating him from friends and family. He finally broke up with her and just last week, he had those tattoos covered up. He eventually told me that she would bite him, punch him and choke him. This was a great documentary and I am so proud of Alex for sharing his story and helping professionals understand just how real this is. Happy healing to Alex and those beautiful babies.
Healing prayers and love to your son. I hope the best for him.
I'm future worried about the kids when she gets out.
@@tammiewilson5185 This was my first thought after completely watching the episode :(
I'm so sorry, Tracy, and to your beautiful son and children xx
"She" needs locking away for the sane time as murder, because this very nearly happened.
I have no words for "her"
Karma.
Good luck for your son and children, and hope one day he meets someone as beautiful as him.
Xx God bless ❤️
I suspect you were a part in why he chose a girl like that. Kids who are loved and taught boundaries don’t go after abusive partners.
It broke my heart when he said he wanted his mum. I am glad he has the support of family and friends. This young woman is a danger to society and hopefully she’ll get help.
the only help she should get ........is ...jail time...!!!...That is the problem ....he wanted his ....MOM....!!!....She raised him as a weak .....mommies boy.!!....that why he couldnt even stand up against this woman.......His mother is to blame for all this...!!!!
@@kingalfred3902 yikes bro for men like you there's the stigma of weak men and this toxic masculinity
@@kingalfred3902 80% of the suicides are committed by men and its because they think they can't reach out for the same reason as you're considering this man weak. Is weak a person who has endured so much pain to the point of not telling anyone? I wonder if you could know how that even feels.
A hit man or cyanide would've been s good choice
Help in a lethal injection? I agree!!
The double standard of abuse is slowly getting recognized but there's still a stigma in our society regarding the validity of male victims testimonies.
This guy seems genuinely sweet and caring, and for him to go through all of this is heart breaking. I am glad he was able to get out of this.
If he wasnt sweeet or nice he wouldnt go thru it ;)
obviously they target the nice ones, if she targeted another sociopath it wouldn’t have lasted
The amount of trauma I could’ve avoided if I’m not afraid to offend someone is astronomical
@@186mars yup! thats also a hard lesson learned on my part. worst part is, now that i shut down and become slightly rude when i feel something is off, everyone who genuinely has bad intention gives up immediately, because the fight isn’t worth it.
Thats the result off you are man, but not an asshole...
The asshole road is way more relaxed 😎 never trust a woman!!! Never give a woman power over yourself...
I started crying when the officer said the McDonald's was one of the best meals he's ever had. Mental health needs to be more of a priority all over the world. Abuse awareness needs to be more accesible. My heart breaks for Alex and his family, but especially his mom. We work so hard to raise our babies to be kind hearted and loving and someone comes along and tries to break them. I hope they are all in better spots now.
And that's saying something I mean maccas is no oil painting food
@Steve Salkas 100%...
This girl is so disgusting, made me sooo angry. I hope she will be punished in her entire life.
I agree!!!! I learned a lot through father Malachi Martin. Art Bell has seven interviews with him on how demons can ruin peoples lives, and how we are in the spiritual war here on earth people better wake up to reality on what’s really going on and how these demonic attachments obsession possession can affect one’s lives.
As a victim of domestic violence myself it's refreshing to see someone get away, start to heal and get some closure. Seeing a male prospective is much needed. I commend Alex on his strength and courage and say " thank you" for helping people to understand that nothing is simple in that situation.
hope your ok .
Yeah
@@bettyg83 I hope so . ❤️
amen! It is wonderful to see victims ( Men and Woman)can get the help. and be honest and want the true to come out ,in anyways and live they life.. what a heros!
I'm also a victim of domestic violence, yet I still found myself like I'm sure so many others did, saying "WHY DIDN'T HE JUST LEAVE?!?" It's something you just can't explain or even fully understand, the whole "staying in an abusive relationship" part. I never in a million years thought it would happen to me, always said I'd never allow it, never tolerate it. Yet, there I was for all that time. Police, court, police, court, and there you are telling yourself it WILL change, it WILL get better. But it won't. It will only get worse. I agree, it was interesting to see it from a male victim's perspective. I hope others in these situations are able to make it out and live the safe, happy lives they deserve.
My mother abused my dad….he NEVER raised a hand to her. But she would fly off the handle, throw dishes, whatever at him. She would punch him aggressively in the arm until WE, as small children would beg her to stop. She had a lightening fast temper. We never knew what would set her off. She would scream, yell…my poor dad never raised his voice at her. He drank. She screamed. I didn’t even know what abuse was, but I felt dad was unfairly picked at by mom. When she wasn’t ranting at him, it was us until he would step in and she would turn her attention to him. I didn’t realize at the time that he purposely distracted her from us. My poor dad. RIP Dad. He succumbed to a heart attack a few years ago.
I’m so very sorry about your Dad. My late Mother was exactly the same with my Dad and me. That’s why I’ve reached out to you. It struck a chord as her behaviour was exactly the same ! When she died, my husband and I moved him in with us and we gave him the best life possible , including the happiness of seeing 2 Grandchildren born ❤❤
@@jennawalden8547 That's very loving of you
Alex, I’m 51 yrs old. My mom abused my dad, sister and myself. You are a strong young man and a great dad. We can’t change people but we can change. Never forget that tribulations we go through gives us strength, experience and hope. We are never defined by what happens to us but how we come out of it. Much love to you and the kids.
Such amazing words of wisdom. Ty for sharing 😇
@@leelebirdsong8339 Romans 8:28 And we know all things work together for good to them that love God, to them called according to his purpose ♥️🙏😊💚
The fact that she falsified his identity on social media to push everyone who cared away even more. Absolutely wretched
Yes, always watch out for someone trying to isolate you from friends and family. They'll do it in slow and subtle ways, so my advice is to take stock where you are right now. Ask yourself, how are your relationships and interactions with family and circle of friends? Do you see them all regularly? Can they contact you easily and vice versa?
Also ask yourself, do you have a significant other or one particular friend in your life who you seem to spend a lot more time with? That in itself may not be wrong or harmful. But are they good with your family and friends - do they stop you from having enough time with your other friends and loved ones?
@@ellendillon4493
I am not joking when I say this and it was years ago my abuser was always very kind to my dog.
What I find most frightening about this sad case is the amount of love and support he had around him and still fell victim to this sick cruel manipulator. I’m aware many don’t have that. So glad he managed to escape alive and has his babies and loving family around him. Hopefully he will meet someone wonderful to share his life with so he can experience a loyal, loving , fulfilling relationship which is what he deserves. Very brave to share his story I hope he’s helping others.
Exactly. We raise our kids with love and presence and we send them out to the world thinking we have given them everything to stand on their own.
They asked him why he didn't just walk away
@coffeepeachesplans Who did? His family? Whoever doesn't underatand why people don't just walk away clearly don't know a lot about DV then. Also, I am sure he also worried about his kids. I wouldn't want to walk away from my abuser and have my kids left with that person. He needed to know that Jordan would be locked up and his kids safe with him.
Its because she is a wonderful looking young woman. Halo effect. If she would be a mid age bad looking "creep" guy, would be in jail instantly
Something like this happened to me when I was 20, but I was isolated, living abroad. I grew up with a wonderful family, though. It can happen to anyone. I was willing to dismiss red flags and trusted his words over my gut instincts.
You, my man, are an inspiration.
The impact you have had on the planet is the most beautiful legacy anyone could leave for their children.
It’s not that she’s a woman. It’s that she says things like “I only cut him. I never STABBED him!” with such ease and innocence
This reminded me of amber Heard saying "I did not punch you, I was hitting you"
Sounds like Amber Heard
It's not that she's a woman. It's that she's a psychopath.
Domestic abusers are experts in downplaying their behavior as not being that serious.
Crazy thing is, we all know abuse can become normalized for victims, but it's astonishing to realize that abuse becomes normalized for abusers too. This girl is a prime example. She's abused him so frequently, and so casually, she thought it slicing him with a knife wasn't a big deal to the point she openly told the police.
So proud of this young man! Abuse is not gender controlled. Abuse is Abuse & should be stopped.
So very lucky he is still alive.
99%are men abusing women though
You are so right
It actually is for the most part gender controlled. Men abuse more than women - physically - that’s why by the police officer said he didn’t expect it as the usual case is the man abusing the woman. That’s reality.
When they asked him if he ever had to defend himself from her and he said “I never wanted to hurt her”….I felt that. I hurt for him. It showed his heart.
My story is very similar. She has wanted me dead for 10 years
@@ibdunny And where are you now? Are you safe? Did you leave? Please leave if you can 😪
He’s very much a gentle soul. Poor guy, may he always be forever happy from now on
When is she out?😬
@@ingridc.llewellyn3910She's been out...only served half her sentence and is engaged to someone else now.
Thank you for sharing. I am a woman and I get so angry when people act like men do not get abused.
I currently can’t stop crying….. praise that officer that took his duties even further to saved a life and rescue Alex from that monster disguised in a pretty little package. As for Alex it takes a great deal of courage and strength to share your story and committing yourself to a mission of helping others recognize abuse. Thank you for being brave!!!! And for setting the example for his kids to know how they need to be treated and how to treat others. Thank God he got out alive.
I dated a pretty little monster much like her but I couldn't stand the change in personality and the massive disrespect so I kicked her out of my life. It was one of the hardest things I ever had to do but I had to. And she went on to cheat and destroy another relationship and marriage. Really makes me sick..
@@lovetofly32 Wow. Some people never change. I’m glad you got away in time.
Me too. I literally cried watching this.
Alex seems like the sweetest kindest guy. I hope he finds the most incredible woman who treats him like gold, respects him, and gives him and all the love, affection and security that he deserves
He's a total pushover. He may be sweet and feeble, but what woman wants to be with a sniveling man who allowed an 80lb woman to abuse him? He seems like the king of all simps.
Shitheads will always prey on the sweet and innocent.. too bad he wasn't a little tougher, perhaps he is now. Wish him the best too
He went for the pretty looking blonde and here he is. This is exactly what happens to losers who love people just because of their physical appeal
this guy needs to grow some balls
Woman love assholes.thats why I'll always be one
Absolutely shattered me when they said “he wants his Mum.” He probably slept for days when he was finally able to rest in a safe and loving home.
Omg I am SOBBING!! It's so true that they'll ALWAYS be our babies no matter their age!🙏❣️
😍😍😍
You will cry no stop for 3 days, then sleep 3 days.
He probably had night terrors. Poor baby. I pray for his healing.
And allowed to eat
I wish Alex, his children, mum, friends and family all happiness, peace and abundance. Overcoming trauma is not easy, and sharing your story enlightens the world about female abusers. Much love ❤
I'm so glad that police officer acted like a friend to him and showed genuine concern and kindness. If it wasn't for him Alex more than likely would not be here with us today.
A typical case of a "Beta Male" with low testosterone level and no cojones. 😁 I can not use the appropriate words otherwise I get banned. So this is a big problem of the new generation nowadays.
Police officer was a star 💫 He trusted his intuition. I’m sure he’s helped many with his wise calm self ✨
I'm so thankful Alex made it out and that he was strong enough to participate in this documentary, knowing the world needed to hear his story. Abuse is abuse. As a survivor myself, I know abuse has no gender. I cried when he was finally reunited with his family. I remember the day I was. Alex, you are such a beautiful and kind soul. I love that that was not taken from you. I wish you all the peace, joy, love and light in the world for you and your children.
And Jordan....you are SICK. I hope you get the SERIOUS help you need.
Hope she gets what’s coming
This young woman beat this young man down so bad. I understand that this can happen. You get in trenched in this twisted game and being a feeling person they can manipulate you.
Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath/psychopath, she will never change. At this point in time there is no cure or truly effective treatment for that, we are sadly behind.
For your own sake, please look into narcissism, it can help a lot. Fair warning, though, there's a TON of useless gibberish out there, most of it from "professionals" who claim expertise they do not possess because science itself does not yet possess it. There's so much work to be done, brain/cognitive/psychological sciences are only just scratching the surface.
It has been ignored for too long. We have a case in the news now in the US that involves a man being murdered by his abusive girlfriend. If you watch the video of them in an elevator, it is shocking to see how abusive she was to her partner. It went on for a couple years and because he was so much bigger than her, nobody took it seriously. And now he is dead. We need to do much more as a society to take domestic abuse more seriously, that includes any gender and every relationship dynamic.
You are so right. THE ABUSE HAS NO GENDER.
It wasn't just the physical abuse, but the psychological and emotional abuse that allowed him to continue accepting the physical abuse. Fortunately for him, he has a family that never gave up on him and a police officer who followed his instincts in the end. May Alex heal from his trauma and find a partner worthy of him.
Honestly, I feel like the physical abuse "saved" him in a way. If he wasn't physically abused, I don't think he would have ever left the relationship.
@@soxpeewee It is, I feel, much the same for women when there are children involved. Kids are often the primary or only reason a woman will leave or seek the help she wouldn't seek for herself alone. Gosh this story made me cry.
I have a son in same atm,wushing he can find strength
@@Harpyeagl ❤
@Cathy Flower sorry that happen to you 🙏🏾
How very Brave this was of him to share this to help others! Thank you and God Bless you and your family and your friends
Any woman would be so blessed to have a genuine man like Alex. I have tears down my face
People that are not close to there family
do not want you to be close with your
family his family show him much love
she could not stand that .that make her
a hater
She was also blessed with 2 babies. She had everything. And didn’t deserve any of it.
@@gwendolynosler3930 That's terribly unfair and untrue, and downright cruel to those who don't deserve it. There are a laundry list of reasons why people are not close to their families, you fail to differentiate between victim and abuser, or any other issues.
Jordan is a narcissistic sociopath, she will not change. There are a lot of them, unfortunately, and they are all dangerous. As a society we desperately need to understand this problem far, far more than we do, and only then can begin to deal with it effectively.
@@barbarakauppi9915 I agree. I am not close to my family. Thats because my dad didnt care to be in my life, my mom died when I was 11, and my aunt and cousins were narcissists like Jordan (one of my cousins even put pills in a milkshake she made me for God knows what reason). I would love to be with a man who is close to his family because then maybe I would feel like I actually have a family....
@@MylisaKay I’m so sorry that’s awful
Props to the cop that realized there was a problem and didn’t leave till it was solved ❤️
Whenever there are stories like this, I am always reminded of Jeffrey Dahmer and how long it took before the cops believed what they were being told - because the victims were all men, gay men at that. It's even worse in the case of Ian Watkins. Just unforgivable.
@@limlaith Must add most were Black men as well.
@@shon0032 That means they're higher on the oppression stack. Gay Black Lives Matter More... right?
Yes hes very observant, we need more police like him 👮
His family will have tried the police route and those calls, allegations & complaints, etc, will be on their system.
Dude. Total respect to you. Your getting out and telling your story will give someone else the courage to get out and tell his story. You'll never know how many lives you save.
He’s a cheater. Well deserved
@@paulineescreza3061 you crazy just like her for sure. Seek help
@@paulineescreza3061 are you for real, what a stupid senseless thing to say
@@paulineescreza3061 where did even get that from?
@@paulineescreza3061 did you watch the same program?
I'm so proud of him for having both the courage to tell his story and for staying away from this dangerously toxic girl.
As a mother with a son, I’d be so heartbroken if someone did this to my son. My heart goes out to this family 🙏🙏
As a mother myself, I don't think I would have just stood there and do nothing! Just like a father protecting his princess, I'd be protecting my prince. B*tch would be sorry!!
She'd be dead.
Truee
If someone did this to my son……she would end up spending the rest of her life in a 3rd world prison being tortured for the rest of her life.
I pray that every abuser instantly dies of a massive heart attack the moment they commit the first act of abuse.
Mines …. Imma knock her head off her shoulders
My dad was abused by my mom who suffered from mental illness. After being married to her for 13 years, he finally divorced her and moved on. I was glad when they split, but I hated the fact that he didn't take me and my sister with him and we had to endure a lot because of that. Thankfully, my sister and I prevailed, but our relationship with our parents are practically non-existent and as we get older, we have found peace with that.
I'm so sorry 💔
That would suck 😞
Especially your Dad leaving you behind.
Society isolated men or they learned to isolate themselves back in the day.
My Dad would never leave my Mom.
But he worked up North and believed everything she told him.
Until he had to live with her himself after he retired.
Still he never spoke a word against her.
He wouldn't regardless.
He didn't believe in divorce and I'm sure he made excuses for her in his head.
Anyway
I hope that you'll find true happiness if you haven't already and be able to trust it.
HUGS
I got left behind as a child with a abusive parent and always fought y didn’t you take me,I hope u have found peace and you and your sister have a beautiful loving life all the best to you both xxxx
How terrible, I'm so sorry! I read a book called Bad Childhood Good Life by doctor Laura Shlessinger. It's a very thin book but it truly saved me, and I've read them all. Good luck to you. 🍀
I’m sorry
My dad went through the same as well as me with my mum.
He gave her so much love support etc
Sacrificed his life health mind for her n us kids
Didn’t deserve any of the abuse
Had to hear her go on and on about how she wishes he was d…d n even scolded me for crying when he passed due to cancer
Wow I am soo sorry for your loss. I hope you’re now older and have removed yourself from her abuse? This shouldn’t be so hard for people to believe a women can abuse a man. It happens just the same if not even more. My heart goes out to you ❤I hope you’re doing well and have been able to grieve the death 😔of your dad in a healthy and whole hearted way. 💝@@healingandgrowth-infp4677 wow! I am by
What a beautiful family, group of friends and police officer. It took every one of them to save that poor kid and nurse him back to life. Bless them all.
He is so sweet he deserves someone like him
Yep he has really good friends and family and a good policeman who saw through the bluff..this was a shocking story
And I'm so very happy they loved him so much harder, than they disliked her, when people make poor choices is when we need to stand by, as they will eventually some how maybe God will place the right person there, with right words, authority whatever is needed. But abusers need to be stopped dead in there blazing manipulative often soft spoken, shy tracks! Families friends band together there going to need to you help them pick up the pieces of there former self. Stand firm don't waver. It took an underground group, and my mom's brother to save my life. The cops never forced him to see me, or call out for me. It was considered family matters, much has changed today thank goodness. Mine lasted until 1992. Officers never stepped in our home and looked for me or my new born he just told them No. And they would leave. 👎 I was eventually for the 2nd time left for dead. When I got help. Accidentally he left a phone. 🙏🙏🙏🙏
It is so sad that he missed all this time with his family, but I am so glad that his grandpa is still alive!!!
This helps me be aware of my own unhealthy tendencies to control. My dad was very insecure and ago centric and was very desperate for my family to behave in a way that made him feel like a good father. And whenever my husband doesn’t act in the way I expect love to look like, that controlling desperation comes up. So I’m learning to deal with my fears instead of taking it out on him.
It blows my mind how casually and guiltlessly she talks about abusing him so cruelly
She just casually mentions the hair brush and cutting him like it’s no big deal.
She’s a narcissist , she probably thought to much of herself to realize how much harm she was inflicted upon him and I’m sure others.
She’s a psychopath narcissist no conscience, no empathy.
She's a stone cold Narcissist and Psychopath. I wouldn't want to cross her!
psychopath
The entire time I wanted to just jump through the screen and hug him. It hurts my heart to know what he endured at her hands and the fact that he remained the kindhearted, incredibly loving and caring Dad that he is, speaks volumes. She never broke his spirit.
ALEX I'M VERY PROUD OF YOU FOR COMING FORWARD WITH YOUR STORY
I HOPE THAT YOU AND YOUR BEAUTIFUL CHILDREN ARE LIVING THE PERFECT LIFE YOU DESERVE.
AFTER 25 YEARS I FINALLY FOUND THE BALLS TO LEAVE MY ABUSIVE , CHEATING AND LYING HUSBAND.
I was in a situation like this for about 7 years. The woman I was with tried to stab me a number of times, scratched my face numerous times, broke my things, constantly screamed at me, treated me bad and insulted me, cheated on me numerous times, poisoned me once that made me so sick that I was laying on the floor and could barely hear or stay conscious while she stood over me smiling and asking "What's the matter, not feeling good?" (once that I know of - they're may have more times since I would get sick a lot while I was with her), I rarely got sick before I knew her or after we divorced but while I was with her I seemed to get sick pretty often, she also stabbed my shoes and cut up my clothes with scissors and one time broke my thumb in three places. I stayed with her because I so badly wanted my family to stay together. When we finally separated and divorced I felt so relieved and happy and started healing from all the damage that had been done. My life became so much better after we divorced (not immediately but over a short period of time), I couldn't believe I was with her for so long and put up with such horrible treatment.
So sorry you went through that and I applaud you for finding the courage to leave
You poor pet, I can understand, I was beat up and I totally believed it was my own fault, like no doctor, nurse, psychologist, psychiatrist, nobody could tell me any different cause I didn't believe anyone else, I won't go in to everything cause I'd be messaging for age's and age's but when I finally, finally was away from him I could slowly see how demented and evil he really was and he could act so nicely around his family and friend's so noone could see what he really was. But a lot of times men in particular are not believed or made fun off cause they are supposed to be "the tough one", it's extremely unfair and they should be listened to before thing's get worse or people should really help even if they have to force the help to their friend or friend's that are in need. You went through a lot and for what, she was the evil dirty slut but with time people will see what they are really like and hopefully if not in this lifetime, in death they will get exactly what they deserve so make sure the next woman you are with, that she is actually nice and good to you, the first sign of her being any way horrible, get out and don't ever look back, ok
So happy you got away from that crazy bitch, enjoy your life and don't take abuse from anyone ❤luv from Australia oxox
I am so sorry you had to live through that. Wishing you an immensity of strength and endurance to work your way out of that trauma and get to a place of joy and trust again
Awful. 😢
I started crying with the mom when she received news of what happened to her son. Thank goodness he's free of this evil ex witch.
I cried there, too 😢
Me too. Having a son of a similar age, it would have broken me. Thank god he was found before it was too late
I have a 9yo son who has been running a 102 degree fever for 3 days cuddled in bed with me and I've got tears running silently down my face... Just him being sick kills me... I can't imagine how that mom felt then... But also those yrs she lost him because of the forced isolation. It makes me sick to my stomach to imagine having no contact with him for years... To not even know where he lives.. 😭
You spelled Bitch wrong
@@heffeff I cried when I saw the picture of him and his grandpa.
Hearing his mom talk about how he looked so frail, that hurt. I'm glad he had a support system and that cop pushed for his well being... it was all so inspiring, thank you all for staying by Alex.
He could have left but choose to stay.
Most women don't make it out alive
Did you even watch the story @winning your comments are astounding - completely insensitive and sexist! This young man was 10days away from death after systemic abuse for years, struggling to walk, repeatedly burned with boiling water poured on him, beaten, cut with knives, not given any access money or food. He was physically and mentally tortured in horrific ways and you say ‘he could have left but chose to stay’. He was frightened for his life and the life of his young children who he loves, isolated from all his friends and family and understandably terrified what his abuser might do should he tell anybody. You say ‘he could have left, but most women in the same scenario cannot’ is an absolutely vile comment to make. Maybe you struggle to accept women can be as abusive, but they can and plenty are, and it’s no wonder men are less likely to seek help and speak out with comments like this. At least watch the program absorb his story, and have some respect for this victim before you tell him and other male victims of DV that they are ‘choosing it’ SMH.
@@6917emily it was just sarcasm, I bet, 'cause many women get it as a response - you could walk away.
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@@NT-qd2rs how was that sarcasm ?
I pray that this women never enters his life and his children’s life again. I truly believe that his children are better off without her. For a person to have that much hate in their heart is sickening.
As a female survivor of domestic abuse I hope men like Alex will be able to stand up and free themselves from the awful existence of being abused.
We don't because that not the narrative media likes to tell. Not to mention that most police, will just make fun of the guy, but if a woman has a finger wagged in her face, it's domestic violence and abuse. This officer was rare and also British and they are more frail like their men. So no, men can't bring it up ever and to do so is considered pathetic. So stfu.
Seeing the response she sent to the Grandad and the message he sent back, and thinking it was actually Alex who sent the message, brought me to tears. The LEO that kept on Alex to tell him the truth is a hero. And Alex has such a wonderful family, and a great best friend. Truly a great story and a happy ending. I wish you and your family all the best Alex. Godspeed.
That part broke my heart and had me bawling 😭 💔
The way he just slept in the bed when he got back home...frail body, skinny, broken and finally safe.. that broke my heart. Cannot imagine what the mother must have felt to see him like that. Bless him and his children.
Many people with abusive parents end up in abusive relationships. Sad world
Why would this young man take a handful of pills because she told him to?
@@mickehogan3230 I"m not understanding most of this.
@@mickehogan3230 she had physical and psychological control over him. Not to mention she also had his son so he wanted to make it work. In some way I think he was trying to be a good dad which is fine but also a good partner which meant for him reckless submission.
@@terilachonce280 Cute cat pic.
My parents divorced when I was ten and we didn’t see my Dad much after that. I remember his mother, my grandmother, being a horrible women and we were quite happy not to have to see her again. She was never nice to my Mum either. When my Grandad died they found him covered in bruises and it turns out she’d been abusing him for years. No wonder my Dad was a bit dysfunctional
God bless the officer for not being blinded by her being female and well spoken. Some of the most evil people are the ones who come at you well spoken and smiling. May Alex have a happy healthy life with his children. May she get exactly what she deserves.
No one seems to realize true evil knows to hide itself!
True facts 🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🥃🥃🥃🥃🥃🐕🐕🐕🐕🎥
reminds me of amber heard
Totally agree!!!!! so glad he did what he did..!!! but the officer shouldn't let it eat at him for missing it the first time.Iamd so happy Alex got away very close call!!! I have a sister who does things similar to this police had bn called you name it, she was almost put in 72 hour mental hold for things. and as well as abuse to my niece n nephew and mother.. but then she moved away, she chose the guy instead of her kids. I ended up with my niece and my nephew went with his father... but the thing was not only was my sister playing victim, she was also the abuser to even her recent boyfriends the one that she got really physical was why she moved, bc she didn't want cops involved due to restraining orders ect. Cause she would be in trouble too.. but to up and leave her kids was ridiculous we barely talk now because she and her newish boyfriend is all she cares for. And goin to party 24/7 ! But maybe one day she will grow up and me being years younger I grew faster, it just makes me wonder what is goin on in her head .. and just stop the nonsense..
Well put
She knew exactly what was doing, she used the baby as a tool to drive a wedge between his family. She isolated him to punish and control him. From the jump she was bad news! I don't like your hair, shoes, clothes , friends these are early signs of control. Am happy Alex is alive and able to raise awareness and relate his experience with abuse.
Yes! Even when it’s possibly nice… I had an ex who would worriedly say ‘you look tired today’ which initially seemed sweet and like he was concerned for me. But then I realised it was a way for him to tell me to not see my friends bc it’d make me more tired… or wear more makeup to cover how tired I am. I quickly left after discovering this.
I've myself as a female lived through domestic violence, and Alex you are a survivor. NOT A VICTIM! HOLD YOUR HEAD HELD HIGH. Prayers for healing
same here exactly we are not victims we are survivors
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Its not a competition my friend and it takes a lot of balls for a man to come forward even though alex was kinda pushed by the police officer that had a hunch and played things not by the book by turning his camera off and having a chat with him man to man.. I agree with you about the majority of police officers abusing their power though and that's definitely a reason fellas don't come forward because it doesn't get taken seriously hence the girl being the first girl charged with that crime while there are millions more out there doing the exact same thing
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus y'all are the type to abuse people. Narcississm on full blast, making someone else's tragedy about you...
Fuck outta here
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus Don't invalidate the sufferings of others. Every person has a different level of tolerance and strength to deal with traumas or things in general. You can't say, "My problem is bigger than yours..." and make them feel they aren't worth it. I've been physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually abused in so many parts of my life. I studied Psychology and finished it to be able to help others. I know you are broken, but that doesn't give you the right to make others feel less.
@Seven Inches of Throbbing Pink Jesus You are broken, you need more help than you think. Rubbing off your toxicity here or to anyone isn't a plus point for you. I could have you traced wherever you are in the world and have some hospital and police to assist you as you might be a danger to yourself or others.
Thank you for so bravely sharing your story, Alex. It really shed a clear light on how female abusers can use all the same tools of power and control male male abusers do. She isolated you from friends and family. She controlled you financially, by making you quit your job and taking your wallet from you. She accused you of cheating and all sorts of things you never did. She drugged you. She used the children as a form of emotional extortion (as evidenced with questioning whether your mother wanted to meet her grandson or not... I can't imagine what other levels she went to), and it escalated to horrific physical abuse that could've killed you. You are not a victim; you're a survivor. I'm beyond grateful to know you're with your family and friends again, looking after your children, and she was held accountable. I pray you all heal from her torture, and that the children thrive with you in her absence.
I was in a coercive relationship for 19 years, I drove to suicide and in the end I'd had 4 hospital and psychiatric admissions because of her. I lost everything because of it. House, job, my daughters, my self esteem. She controlled everything from my finances, my medication, to telling me what I could wear and how to dress. She isolated me from my family, my social circle was nothing, I had no friends, and the thing was, she moved her father in to the house, and he is just as bad. Now.....I'm trying to move on, and it will take some time. I'm still on medication, and I still have to see the doctor for reviews every now and again. Her love was measured in how she could belittle me, manipulate me, hurt me. One one veteran friends notified the emergency services on the night I had planned to go away. If he hadn't stepped in, I probably wouldn't be here now. It wasn't until I was in hospital that the nursing staff showed me which path I should tread if I want to see my daughters grow up. That said, the path I had the courage to walk is now without her, sure she still has a level over control over me through my daughters, but I've woken up. Its a very surreal experience as a guy to be systematically abused over such a long period of time, but help is there, just have courage to talk to someone. It'll be hard, but, with the right support, you will find life again....
Oh wow. I hope you are healing every day. 💓 stay strong and remember that your worth is not dependent upon how someone treated you. I feel sorry for the next guy.
Very sorry to read your story. I'm very happy for you that you've moved on without this terrible person in your life whom you believed loved you. Much Healing and Blessings. God bless you and your children🙏
19 years? Holy f 😳 I'm so sorry
To go through that abuse for 19 years, my god! It's a miracle you're still here to tell the tale. But I'm pleased you got the help you needed to gather the strength & will power to get away from her. ❤👍⭐
So sorry you had to go through that. Keep strong friend.
He suffered from Stockholm syndrome where the victim sees the abuser as the person they truly love and the abuse was seen as true love by the abuser. We see this abuse in men, but he believed he had to stay also for the children. This happens to 15% men, but they are too ashamed to report it.
The captives in the bank in Stockholm were treated really well by their captors. They weren't abused by them in any way, at any point. This is without a doubt Battered Spouse Syndrome.
Must be. Either that or his child.
Greg...I don’t believe it is shame, it is a small part of it though as you said. I believe Alex stayed for his kids and the sincere belief that it would all get better. That he could handle it. My son recognizes he is being abused, but...thinks he can hold on til the kids are older. I pray he sees the light sooner.
This isn’t Stockholm syndrome it’s domestic abuse. You don’t call it Stockholm syndrome when a woman stays with an abusive man.
Nonsence. It pathectic he lied Say he did It himself. Nobody standing up to her playing games
I feel so honored to have come across this. The biggest blessings to the neighbor that reported this and to the officer that listened and acted. So proud of Alex, he has a beautiful Tribe filled with kids, family and friends.
Crazy ! The interview where she says I don’t have any mental health issues just wow ! I pray that the kids don’t pick up any abusive genes 🧬
Monkey see, monkey do!!!!🙄
It is tragic how abusers find the sweetest people. They prey upon virtues like they're weaknesses. So glad he had family that never gave up on him and that he and his kids have a real chance at life.
So true mate!! Tragic
Very true. My great-uncle went through that with his psycho ex-wife. He was beaten constantly and she laughed about it and said the police would never believe a woman could abuse a man. He was the kindest man. My grandma (his sister) begged him to leave his wife because she saw the bruises. Eventually he was forced to leave her because he said it came down to killing in self defense or walking out. That trauma followed him the rest of his life. It's so sad.
People saying “please reach out” etc don’t understand it doesn’t feel as easy as that for people who are stuck in this situation. We as men are raised to be strong and bottling things up tends to be the norm. I’m so happy for Alex to be free physically and emotionally ❤
As a woman, I tried reaching out to places and people that were supposed to help and was turned away because they "couldn't help someone with kids". No loving parent will willingly leave their children alone in the hands of a monster- just knowing what was done to you and if you aren't there for the abuser to abuse, that the kids could possibly be their target. I can't begin to imagine how much worse it would be for a man/father in my situation. And for how little DV abusers are persecuted- male and especially female-, reaching out for help can too easily lead to worse abuse or death.
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..to ask for help requires a lot of self confidence, which is one of thr things that gets eroded in an abusive relationship,
and who would be happy to leave their children with someone who is known to treat people without e emotional empathy?
Sort of justified considering that she is already walking free again where a man would not, and as a guy you basically have to be beaten up like that to be listened to and people still sort of hope it was self-defense.
Between people wanting the world to fit their orderly assumptions and campaigns to judge whom to believe by their gender it's not a surprise.
That's the problem. We teach boys that they have to be tough, no matter what. They can't feel, they can't be sensitive, they can't show weakness. This is our failing as a society, not yours.
Men are victims of narcissistic abuse too. I'm glad you survived and found the courage to share your story. It will save lives 💜
She seems more of a psychopath. She appears to find delight in toying with people and that others are nothings in her mind.
Sounds more like BPD to me.
Because men don't choose good women.
Also men are physically stronger than women.
@@moondog7694so much of what he endured resonated with me, I survived a male version of her. They were a malignant narcissist. He was lucky to survive at all. They are some of he most dangerous and predatory people out there 💜
@Lux Aeterna they both fall under the umbrella of cluster B's personality disorders. And they gont get better. Dr Ramani has loads of content on here about surviving/ dealing with a NPD sibling 💜
I am so glad this man has shown such bravery and strength and integrity to tell his story, because so many men don’t & that’s not blame to be placed but I’m hoping this encourages men to speak up, they deserve the help & support.
As a survivor and warrior of ‘DV’ myself, I want to reach out to you and say how very sorry I am for the torture you endured at the hands of the person you loved and trusted. I also want to tell you how brave you are. May the universe surround you with an endless supply of love and light as you move through your life’s journey. ❤🙏❤️
The universe can’t, but God can. I pray he feels HIS presence and turns his life to God.
She was a narcissist and she used the abuse to control him. When his family said they were hoping she'd changed, I felt sorry for them. Narcissists don't change. Him staying is from trauma bonding. You cannot blame him for that. It is extremely difficult to leave an abuser because the abuser will act nice at times, making the victim think they will get the original person back (the person they met in the beginning). As he said, it's complicated but it is a psychological change to the person's brain. I'm so thankful he was able to leave her.
You are spot on 👍
Rachel, your comment has helped me. I was a DV victim and I thought I could get the original person back.For years I would walk around the house trying to think of safe ways to leave the house !! I was helped to safety and now have a better understanding of dv.
Not just trauma bonding but his child
You can't just diagnose her as a narcissist because you saw this. Doing what she does is not normally due to narcissism. She definitely has something wrong but she would need proper assessment.
People don't realize how much we are manipulated in a very subtle way by evil that is around us.
How many have said j felt like something was pushing me to it ? There really are things that we can't see. They're being caught on camera by people everywhere now. It's something we don't think about. We don't know that it's real until we're in a situation like that ourselves.
We need to teach responsibility to kids at an early age so they will know instinctively what thoughts are theirs and what is a thought that isn't theirs, that doesn't feel right, that you don't want.
We don't have a good feel for that so we're easily fooled by thoughts that aren't ours but we just accept because they're there.
We need to teach kids that they can be pushed into things by something they can't see.
It's frightening but it's better than keeping quiet. That's how we get into things by not standing up to that first push. That initial urge to do or say something can happen so fast we don't really think about it. It's time to teach kids to slow down and examine what's happening inside of them. Explain about thoughts and feelings, and how we can easily go in a direction we don't want to but it's like we just get pushed into it.
It's more than just mental illness, it's what causes the mental illness. Evil is the root of these things, they are the causation of pain and suffering and it's high time we start facing the truth of the fact, evil exists and it loves to make us hurt.
Alex, if you read this, I hope you have found healing. What you went through was horrific to say the least. I was in a DA marriage. I know that it can take a long time to heal. Please know that not all women are this way. I found a man that truly loves me unconditionally and would never lay a hand on me. I pray you will find someone to love that cherishes you and truly loves your beautiful children! God bless you and your future!
God bless you, Danielle Hopper. Your post made my cry all over again. Thank you for sharing
his best friend is so cool. he knew from the start something wasn’t right and always cared about him. that moment when he texted the girl “hi jordan” after she pretended to be alex was brilliant
My son was with his abusive wife for 14 years. She made his life pure hell. I will never forgive myself for not seeing how bad things were and getting him out of that marriage. He stayed for his children. She was gradually turning them against him. They actually have a better relationship now that he has divorced their mother. Evil truly exists in this world and sometimes it comes in the form of a sweet sounding, smiling female.
We know abuse happens from both men and women.
Hope your son is doing so much better, and that you’re all healing and finding peace as a family, yourself and his kids included. It is truly devastating the effect domestic ab*se has on a whole family 💔
Very happy to hear your son found the strength to get out 🙏🏼💗
Amen!
@Eva Lilith I’m currently living it and in a sense I think you’re right. I saw it from the get go but couldn’t make him see it for anything. Then they started having kids and he just does everything she says, even when it doesn’t make sense. He works for her father so she’s got him there too. I cannot stand her but I spend half my time mad at him for allowing her to keep us all apart. No, it may not make sense to feel that way but nothing about this makes sense at all. I haven’t seen my son or grandkids for 6 years and one little girl I’ve never met. They live about 20 minutes from us. He hasn’t seen his two sisters either. I’m afraid to think what those kids are living through. I’ve tried, God knows I’ve tried. It’s a terrible place to be!!
Well done to the Cop who took him from the house and had a private chat with him! Alex was a lucky guy!
I vary rarely get tearful…..but this got me 😭😭😭
Awful, my ex husband was horrible to me. I divorced him my life is so much better back to my normal self
I wish all cops took the time
Bless your heart honey. I feel so bad for you. I’ve been abused by a significant other and it’s soul crushing and can leave you feeling devastated and not knowing which way to turn! You’re doing the right thing in speaking out about this. You’re helping others dealing with the same things! Shame on her for hurting you. She was taking her pain out on you, it had nothing to do with what you did or didn’t do. Those people are damaged and they have to damage the people they’re involved with to bring them down to her level!
Oh my word, when I saw the photo of Alex snuggling his grandfather after reuniting I lost it. Alex acknowledged he always wanted to be with his granddad when he was sick as a child. Thank God nothing happened to his grandfather while Alex was being held prisoner. I'm so sorry this happened to you, Alex.
It's fucked up that she told him he had died, too.
@@daniellestoops1448 this played a role in my emotional breakdown as well. This story is horrific, and I'm so glad that officer was persistent. No remorse shown by the monster.