my takeaways from the video are 1. to protect yourself from danger 2. to protect someone close to you from danger 3. to protect something you believe in 4. learned to hate something from others
I'm a young man trying to nurture my inner gentleness after a childhood of watching my drunk dad abuse women, and the bobo doll theory hits home for me. My father was beaten by his stepfather, and as an adult he taught me that domestic violence is ok. It's been a hard chain to break but when I look at my partner and see the love in his eyes I appreciate how far away from that life I've come. Frustration is completely natural, using it as an excuse to hurt anyone is just flexing how tiny your self control is.
Get in the army, lad. It worked for me. I don’t think Ive lost my temper since I was 17 unless I actively chose to go into that mode then just flip the switch and go back to normal
Patrick Teahan's channel is great for the childhood trauma! I've grown so much from his content! He's a therapist. 😉 He does role playing ...it's hard to explain...but WOW! crazy bullseyes stuff!!!
1:50-Thanatos 2:10-Eros 3:00-Frustration Agression Theory 3:16-Aggression stems from Frustration and this frustration is result of barrier which doesn't let us accomplish our goals. When the goal is accomplished still aggression can persist. Frustration can turn to aggression based on person's self awareness and self control 5:10-Social Learning theory we get angry after seeing other people get angry
Hey, I've seen the video series on Social Psychology and I really want to appreciate the efforts you've put in making this! The content is to the point yet explained perfectly! kudos to you, mate. Keep up the good work!
Thanatos was the personification of death in Greek mythology. Also, Thanos from Marvel comics had an obsession with death and the personification in the comics was a woman whom he fell in love with.
The social theory in my case my father had anger issues I see myself turning into him sometimes I see my siblings turning into him I think it's a learned behavior
Yo psychology TH-camr, if you mention studies, you will get a BIG boost in viewers and reputation for including the source of the study you used in your vid inside the description. You know it but im just making you aware of it cus i ❤️ ur vids, ma man
i was always the quiet kid and school and there was a day i went and I wasn't exactly angry i just felt like im not in the mood and a guy annoyed and i almost fought him for no reason but we were in a crowd i would have never done it in my calmer state wouldn't have had the courage to
I always have Frustration-aggression. It's like if I'm in a situation and someone just touches me or speaks a word out of their mouth. It makes me go poof and I lash out on the person without having any clear reason.
I know bobo, as Webbles wobble but they don't fall down. Good stuff. Are there any recent work on some of these topics? We(human kind) have learned a lot about the brain. Seems weird to use stuff from the 50-70s.
According to Freud humans have a life instinct (eros) and a death instinct, called thanatos. This death instinct compels humans to engage in risky and destructive behaviors that could lead to death (remember, it is an instinct for personal death.)
Frustration-aggression theory is just describing my current 3 am, sick with the worst flu since covid, not been able to study for a week, constant coughing fits, no sleep, everything going wrong, and me trying to not smash my head through the door while I have my last exam in 6 hours
The BoBo doll does explain a lot about what we witnessed growing up and how the cycle can continue. Like you mentioned, there are many who come from these backgrounds destined to repeat the same things in their lives. Those who do not become violent and aggressive are likely to be the ones who grow into the other end of the spectrum and become perpetual 'victims' because it's what they learned to be. I believe that it's a sound theory. And yet, only one part of a whole. If we are fortunate in our lives, we will come across a few people who can show us what healthy is...then we are truly blessed and can begin to heal and change the cycle. Because this is in the realm of social learning, I believe the cycle has a better chance at being broken if govt's could see the advantages of offering more resources for learning how to parent in healthy ways.
@@hi.moriarty what do you mean by “who can show us what healthy is”? do you not know what healthy is or you do know but just haven’t had first-hand experience with healthy people?
@@FruityHachi What a great clarifying question, Dom! Thanks! I meant that I hadn't experienced, as a normal dynamic in my own life. What I thought was healthy from my childhood, has actually turned out to be a cruel misinteretation of what I believed was supposed to be loving qualities. I was my Mother's favorite. That says a lot right there. I'm 54 years old now and have, in the last 2 years, formed a great network of healing and growth-oriented people in my life. Seeing what honesty, sincerity, empathy, compassion, support and a genuine appreciation for me in who I am as an individual WAS NOT what my Mother has done in my life, even up tp 2 weeks ago. There was no personal connection or encourgement with her except in what I was giving to her. Does that makes sense? Without these peoplereinforcing what I knew was "good" by actually showing it to me, selflessly...without those conditions, I would not have been as confident in building what was good and healthy in myself. I KNEW inherently I think, because the her psychological and emotonal abuse created 52 years of e believing that there was something wrong and broken about me for who I was. I knew I hurt. And hurting is wrong. But I didn't know why. Covert manipulation and the abuse that my mom has been doing to me has only come to full light in my awareness through what I had learned on my own over the years, and was reinforced in my comprehension of that knowledge from The people who I have established HEALTHY relationshps with. Mom is not one of those peop anymore welcome to be in my life.
sociopaths ussauly grow up in abusive homes Also growing up with an abusive father with a mother who shames you for being agresive When that's what you learned I am blamed for my emotions as well as my siblings emotions It's torture It's gotten to the point where being agresive or assertive enjoyable because doing something exciting with adrenaline calms me down And anger feels the same as bordem
Children are not be toyed with. Neither are adolescents. A method better suited for such, would be to register how much they feel they were loved by their parents or loved ones. Humans are naturally concerned with their own self being or with other peoples welfare. Honestly, I never gave much credence to fight or flight response, because there is a third option... reflection.
I dont get it. i mean eros means love in greek. Thanatos means death in greek also. Why did freud use these two words for explaining what aggression is?
Sometimes people touches me whether intentionally or unintentionally, I become very frustrated and aggressive, may I know what is the reason, is it because of the frustration theory or a combination of the 3 theories you had proposed, how to counteract or control me not being aggressive , please help sir. 🐧😗🐴👪
Bobo doll experiment is cheap. The kids just observed HOW to play with that bobo doll and repeat it. That doesnt mean the kids are more likely to be aggressiv. Of course humans are adaptive, doing stuff thats observed from others but its not THE answer here.
This is bullshit these old theories no take into account the hormonal control of the body. Without oxytocin people mostly males become extremely aggressive because they cannot empathize with others. Oxytocin is found in all mammals during birth as it creates the bond between the mother and the baby, even if the baby is sick or deformed. Also emotions were not controlled will take over a persons life. The more you let out the more out of control you become. That is because your body is in fight or flight and full of cortisol and adrenaline. Most aggressive people have zero control over their emotions and believe that their emotions should dictate their life
my takeaways from the video are
1. to protect yourself from danger
2. to protect someone close to you from danger
3. to protect something you believe in
4. learned to hate something from others
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Best video on anger management must watch
Nice that these videos are simplified so understanding abstract ideas is made easier
I’m a student of psychology and I love your Content, Keep it up
I'm a young man trying to nurture my inner gentleness after a childhood of watching my drunk dad abuse women, and the bobo doll theory hits home for me. My father was beaten by his stepfather, and as an adult he taught me that domestic violence is ok. It's been a hard chain to break but when I look at my partner and see the love in his eyes I appreciate how far away from that life I've come. Frustration is completely natural, using it as an excuse to hurt anyone is just flexing how tiny your self control is.
I love that you could share this! 💖
So you had a bad childhood and now you are gay. Like clockwork
@@ceoofracism9625 Ouch.
Feel better being mean?
Get in the army, lad. It worked for me. I don’t think Ive lost my temper since I was 17 unless I actively chose to go into that mode then just flip the switch and go back to normal
Patrick Teahan's channel is great for the childhood trauma! I've grown so much from his content! He's a therapist. 😉 He does role playing ...it's hard to explain...but WOW! crazy bullseyes stuff!!!
1:50-Thanatos
2:10-Eros
3:00-Frustration Agression Theory
3:16-Aggression stems from Frustration and this frustration is result of barrier which doesn't let us accomplish our goals. When the goal is accomplished still aggression can persist. Frustration can turn to aggression based on person's self awareness and self control
5:10-Social Learning theory we get angry after seeing other people get angry
So that's where those Marvel comic characters names comes from, Thanos and his brother Eros.
What about Erostothanos
Hey, I've seen the video series on Social Psychology and I really want to appreciate the efforts you've put in making this! The content is to the point yet explained perfectly! kudos to you, mate. Keep up the good work!
Thanatos was the personification of death in Greek mythology.
Also, Thanos from Marvel comics had an obsession with death and the personification in the comics was a woman whom he fell in love with.
i wish schools teached us something like this
The social theory in my case my father had anger issues I see myself turning into him sometimes I see my siblings turning into him
I think it's a learned behavior
Yo psychology TH-camr, if you mention studies, you will get a BIG boost in viewers and reputation for including the source of the study you used in your vid inside the description.
You know it but im just making you aware of it cus i ❤️ ur vids, ma man
This is amazing content!
Aggression is both learned and inherited.
i was always the quiet kid and school and there was a day i went and I wasn't exactly angry i just felt like im not in the mood
and a guy annoyed and i almost fought him for no reason but we were in a crowd
i would have never done it in my calmer state
wouldn't have had the courage to
Thank you for making this video!
I think these theories are all right depending on the situation
I always have Frustration-aggression. It's like if I'm in a situation and someone just touches me or speaks a word out of their mouth. It makes me go poof and I lash out on the person without having any clear reason.
I know bobo, as Webbles wobble but they don't fall down. Good stuff. Are there any recent work on some of these topics? We(human kind) have learned a lot about the brain. Seems weird to use stuff from the 50-70s.
Thank you
Great content
i really like your content .
I didn’t really understand the death instinct. Can someone explain?
According to Freud humans have a life instinct (eros) and a death instinct, called thanatos. This death instinct compels humans to engage in risky and destructive behaviors that could lead to death (remember, it is an instinct for personal death.)
Frustration-aggression theory is just describing my current 3 am, sick with the worst flu since covid, not been able to study for a week, constant coughing fits, no sleep, everything going wrong, and me trying to not smash my head through the door while I have my last exam in 6 hours
Bobo doll theory makes more sense that the others. As children who grow up in abusive families tend to become aggressive later in life .
The BoBo doll does explain a lot about what we witnessed growing up and how the cycle can continue. Like you mentioned, there are many who come from these backgrounds destined to repeat the same things in their lives. Those who do not become violent and aggressive are likely to be the ones who grow into the other end of the spectrum and become perpetual 'victims' because it's what they learned to be.
I believe that it's a sound theory. And yet, only one part of a whole.
If we are fortunate in our lives, we will come across a few people who can show us what healthy is...then we are truly blessed and can begin to heal and change the cycle.
Because this is in the realm of social learning, I believe the cycle has a better chance at being broken if govt's could see the advantages of offering more resources for learning how to parent in healthy ways.
@@hi.moriarty what do you mean by “who can show us what healthy is”?
do you not know what healthy is or you do know but just haven’t had first-hand experience with healthy people?
@@FruityHachi What a great clarifying question, Dom! Thanks!
I meant that I hadn't experienced, as a normal dynamic in my own life. What I thought was healthy from my childhood, has actually turned out to be a cruel misinteretation of what I believed was supposed to be loving qualities. I was my Mother's favorite. That says a lot right there. I'm 54 years old now and have, in the last 2 years, formed a great network of healing and growth-oriented people in my life. Seeing what honesty, sincerity, empathy, compassion, support and a genuine appreciation for me in who I am as an individual WAS NOT what my Mother has done in my life, even up tp 2 weeks ago. There was no personal connection or encourgement with her except in what I was giving to her.
Does that makes sense?
Without these peoplereinforcing what I knew was "good" by actually showing it to me, selflessly...without those conditions, I would not have been as confident in building what was good and healthy in myself. I KNEW inherently I think, because the her psychological and emotonal abuse created 52 years of e believing that there was something wrong and broken about me for who I was. I knew I hurt. And hurting is wrong. But I didn't know why.
Covert manipulation and the abuse that my mom has been doing to me has only come to full light in my awareness through what I had learned on my own over the years, and was reinforced in my comprehension of that knowledge from The people who I have established HEALTHY relationshps with. Mom is not one of those peop anymore welcome to be in my life.
sociopaths ussauly grow up in abusive homes
Also growing up with an abusive father with a mother who shames you for being agresive
When that's what you learned
I am blamed for my emotions as well as my siblings emotions
It's torture
It's gotten to the point where being agresive or assertive enjoyable because doing something exciting with adrenaline calms me down
And anger feels the same as bordem
FUCKING Beautiful explanation thank you for this informitive and interesting video.
GREAT PRESENTATIO N
Children are not be toyed with. Neither are adolescents. A method better suited for such, would be to register how much they feel they were loved by their parents or loved ones. Humans are naturally concerned with their own self being or with other peoples welfare. Honestly, I never gave much credence to fight or flight response, because there is a third option... reflection.
I dont get it. i mean eros means love in greek. Thanatos means death in greek also. Why did freud use these two words for explaining what aggression is?
The Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that the strong man isn't the one who can wrestle but the strong man is the one who can control his anger.
Wow!!! This is so good
Anger is just reacting to a lack of control. Being aggressive is good for a man but not when it’s uncontrollable
Sometimes people touches me whether intentionally or unintentionally, I become very frustrated and aggressive, may I know what is the reason, is it because of the frustration theory or a combination of the 3 theories you had proposed, how to counteract or control me not being aggressive , please help sir. 🐧😗🐴👪
*Burn them all.*
- A wise king
Wasn't it a queen?
They deserve punishment and i deserve to be the executant - someone angry
@@ashRAFKSALIM I think he's referring to Killmonger the pissed off antagonist from black panther.
I was referring to Aerys Targaryen, the Mad King.
@@naughtyskywalker9292 Haha , Like Father Like Daughter
thanks a lot.
Gotta flip agression on it's head from negative to positive
I am PISSED OFF at our country. What about that???
Nice content 👍👍
Bobo doll experiment is cheap. The kids just observed HOW to play with that bobo doll and repeat it. That doesnt mean the kids are more likely to be aggressiv. Of course humans are adaptive, doing stuff thats observed from others but its not THE answer here.
How to reduce short temper aggression
"Wearing the wrong jersey at the wrong place can actually become dangerous"
(He's talking about Cleveland)
Drive theory of agreession
I think the “instinct” theories sound painfully outdated
3rd one Ig
Frustration aggression theory
who is here becuase they are writing an essay about it?
I will destroy anyone
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There should be anti government behavior in place
This shit is fucked up yooooo!
This is bullshit these old theories no take into account the hormonal control of the body. Without oxytocin people mostly males become extremely aggressive because they cannot empathize with others. Oxytocin is found in all mammals during birth as it creates the bond between the mother and the baby, even if the baby is sick or deformed. Also emotions were not controlled will take over a persons life. The more you let out the more out of control you become. That is because your body is in fight or flight and full of cortisol and adrenaline. Most aggressive people have zero control over their emotions and believe that their emotions should dictate their life