He didn't even use protection and then slept with her... It wasn't just cheating it was complete disregard for her health, the mother of his children. Why would you want someone like that in your life?
She wants all of the other things that he is for her. While that is a major thing and a deal breaker for so many she is weighing everything else good that existed against this. Staying is such a hard choice
i so agree with this. i understand messing up. even infidelity - ok. but putting her health at risk - F THAT GUY. and ps i dont believe for a second it was a one - off.
OBs check for STIs early in pregnancy. They wouldn’t have checked again at 6 months or later. He was likely concerned for the healthy of the pregnancy; too late for the concern tho.
@@chelsbolin or wasn't privy to that info and was scared OB might tell her. Most men don't know your checked once. They know you go for checkups but not extent unless he's gone with her to other appt. We just don't have all the details. I would've thrown his a$s out
I had three young kids, my husband came home from a work trip with an STI. I left. Things seemed great between us before I found out! I was also in total shock. But I knew I am better than that. I left. Women cannot just forgive this kind of thing. Is it hard on the kids to come from a divorced home. Yes. But that’s his fault not mine. And my kids now know this behavior is unacceptable in relationships. Unacceptable. I consider this physical abuse. Not just mental and emotional. They are putting our health at risk. Get OUT!
That is an opportunity for you to confront him and force him to deal with his issues to become a better man, husband, and father. Marriage is designed for life. No one is perfect and sometimes it requires a big mistake to get called out and come to Jesus and remake yourself and your marriage.
@@FoodFreedomUSAthat is for him to decide and repent. some people would rather be inviscerated by the consequences of their temptations than talk to Yeshua. not everyone wants to be confronted by Him.
@Foxie770 even the Bible says you can divorce due to adultery. When I confronted him, he said he assumed when he got caught we would “just go to counseling”. Apparently his father did the same thing to his mom. And they would just go to counseling. I was not about to keep that toxic family cycle going. I broke it. My sons now know that type of behavior has consequences. Had I stayed it would have been more of the same.
Her husband not only cheated but also didn't care enough about his wife's health to even use protection. He is not worth her time. He will do it again.
Cheating is one thing, cheating on your PREGNANT wife is another thing, but cheating on your pregnant wife-unprotected and giving her and the baby and std… he should go to jail. Not even kidding. I feel like that is on par with assault
Cheating is NEVER ok. Pregnancy or not. Cheating is a sign of emotional immaturity and work that needs to be done to repair issues from childhood. You can grow together and rebuild these relationships. As long as both spouses are making an honest effort.
Spot on. I completely agree. There is one tenth of one percent of cheaters who actually come around and don’t do it again. Once a cheater always a cheater 99.99% of the time.
@@mikedanaher3413 Agreed. And 99% of cheaters really don't have remorse about it. A large part of them feels like they deserve to do it, they deserve to get away with it. The rationalization that goes on in a cheaters mind has got to be the most selfish thing a person can do to another person.
A partner who brings home sexually transmitted disease is equally dangerous as a partner who beats you if not worse. Get out now while you can before he gives you something you can’t get rid of.
I promise you that your statement is 100% incorrect and ignorant. I was in a relationship with a partner who not only cheated and gave me an STD while pregnant, but severely beat me during our relationship and even while I was pregnant. Him giving me an STD showed he didn’t care about me or the baby, but him beating me while I was a pregnant was a sign that he had the power to end our lives at any moment and he didn’t care. Please don’t say such harmful statements and think that there is truth to it.
@@ellafruitloops yeah and there are STDs that can be fatal as well. HPV can cause cancer (I personally know 2 people who had HPV related cancer and one passed away), syphilis can be fatal if untreated and of course there is HIV. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can cause organ damage and infertility and could have caused the loss of their unborn child. They are equally evil and blatantly dismissive of their family's safety - one is just more immediate.
@@jc_80 ...Often money can be used as a weapon to control (Financial abuse) and other forms of manipulation may be implemented to maintain the "Dominant role" in the home. I would strongly agree that the woman should have a career to fall back on or have the option to work part time or telecommute, in order to remain current in the workforce. Also, in my opinion, there should be three separate bank accounts: the husband's, the wife's, in addition to, a joint account for bills which effect both individual's (Mortgage, utilities, taxes, etc). The couple should create a financial plan / calculation toward expenses. For example, if the husband has a higher salary, then perhaps he pays 65% of the bills and the wife pays 35%, which is transferred from each account to the joint account. So, the husband and the wife have their own money and there is little co- mingling of funds except for the necessary bills to run a household.
@@Wheres_Jackie ..I would agree, however, it may be more complicated than that. Did he initially put on a false front to manipulate her ? Maybe she was blindsided ? Was he cheating from the beginning or after the first or second child ? What a mess ...I would agree !!
The courts can’t/won’t help if the husband doesn’t have enough assets or income. To leave the marriage and still survive, she needs a steady source of income of several thousand dollars a month for living expenses, plus enough time during the day to take care of 3 babies. Unless they have a McMansion with lots of equity to split and/or he’s wealthy or a high earner, there is no way any child support check or even any temporary alimony is going to support her and 3 babies under age 3 or even pay just for the skyrocketing cost of childcare for a newborn and 2 toddlers so that she can work. If she tries to end the marriage, she is in danger of homelessness, pure and simple. That, more than forgiveness, is the reality that’s not being spelled out when Dr. John stops short of urging her to kick him to the curb. Hard lessons to learn for all women who want to get married and have children-first have/earn/build up a substantial nest egg and invest it and put it in a separate trust, and then get a prenup from a reputable family law attorney in your state with lots of prenup experience-all BEFORE getting married. If you cannot afford to do this, then you cannot afford marriage and children. I hate to say this and no one wants to hear it, but that’s reality.
He never would have told her if it wasn’t for the STI. And the fact she believes he’ll never do it again is unreal. Wanting to make it work with someone who gave you another woman’s disease is THE saddest thing I’ve ever heard. This poor girl has zero self-esteem.
A married man had an affair, not just any type of affair, but a dirty nasty raw affair. He made sure he went fully raw, for he has been so deprived of a raw vagina because life has been so hard for him, oh poor him. Then when he finally catches an STD, the gift of lies yep I said it the gift of lies not the gift of life for he shall not enter the kingdom he knew better and he chose not to do better for Jesus had already died for our sins in advance before he was even crucified and this bastard went ahead and broke his vow, are for gas she'll do them apart for he shall die. Oh Father Pappa jinn Ginn of dongjianng, luhzhis zhiyuhs yuhshi yuhshao yesu the most clever beautiful #1 in the beGINNIng. Weeper2Reaper he was who .. Who was he .. He who was Sam was who. Who was Sam Sam who was Sam I am.
She should walk out with the children and never look back.. this time it was chlamydia, next time it could be something that isn't curable! Run!! cheating is never a one time thing. He cheated on you knowing you are pregnant and he didn't even bother to protect your health and the health of your unborn child. His actions prove exactly how selfish he is.
If it was herpes and she gave birth not knowing, it could kill the baby. I know a woman where this happened: husband cheated when she was pregnant and said nothing to her. As the baby was born it was exposed and didn’t have the immune system to fight it off and died a couple of days later. I told my husband when this happened to this woman and he went white as a ghost bc I was pregnant at the time also and he was cheating on me with my best friend. Men who cheat when their wives are pregnant (and do so with unprotected sex) should have a special place in hell.
Yes, a pregnant woman with herpes genital should take antivirals before delivery for the baby to be born safe. Her husband was such a coward to not even warn her to save his child. Some people marry for nothing and care only for themselves.
All these comments with men cheating on pregnant wife...stomach full testes empty ladies...it's not difficult..make women great again...repeal the 19th
The level of disrespect and disregard for this woman by her spouse is through the roof. It’s bad enough that he violated her trust by having an affair. On top of that he didn’t care enough to use protection. He recklessly endangered the life & health of both his wife and unborn child. 😤
It is unforgivable. If this doesn't tell her, " I don't value you, love you, your health and well being, our marriage or tbat of our children" then Idk what will...😮
As a dude I can easily second this a lot of the talks are like if she cheats it’s over now of course me and my circle we don’t cheat but yes as a general rule guys are way less forgiving
@@yvngtay4970 Idk about other woman, I will leave when my man cheated on me. My mother did not do it on my dad, and that painful on her and on me and my siblings. I don't want to have that for me, and my future children. We broke the broken cycle, ans no more forgiving and go on with broken marriage.
@@yvngtay4970 It is true. Most women would lower their standard and more forgiving in their partner. The sad part is this make the men take advantage of the kindness even more.
@@Hamyhamster24 I’m saying don’t be naive to a man saying “it’s just a one-time thing” especially when you’re stuck at home pregnant. I’m a man and I understand male nature.
People are very confused as to what a broken home ACTUALLY is. It’s not separated parents because one has been abused the other/the others trust. It’s a mom that’s mentally unhealthy due to staying in a relationship where the person she was supposed to trust her life to, gave her an STD while she’s six months pregnant and risked her AND the unborn baby’s lives. THAT is broken. THAT is what your kids will accept as normal if you don’t show them otherwise. Stop continuing the cycle thinking you’re doing something TOTALLY different, when instead you’re copying the same things.
So he literally cheated without using protection and especially cheated on his PREGNANT wife and ONLY admitted it because of the STD since his unborn baby could be born with lung infection or eye infection. I could forgive a betrayal but put my unborn baby in risk... That I would never forget.
My sister went through something similar. She forgave him but he didn't change. Fortunately, she finally left him and she is doing so much better on her own. GOD, I pray this girl finds the strength to leave that POS.
@@laperlenoir cheating is not a disease. Perhaps for very few people it might be a constant problem that stems from a mental disorder, but for the most part, people don't cheat because they're "cheaters," they cheat for a reason or many reasons. It could be revenge, attention, love, depression, low self esteem, etc. Once they grow out of that, they stop cheating.
We had a patient who just found out she has HPV. Where did she get it? From her husband who finally admitted that he had a one night stand 6 years ago. Yes ppl, 6 years ago!! I called him to see if we can get him scheduled for counseling asap and he said he’s too busy right now. What could be more important than fixing your marriage or confronting your bad decisions? He made my blood boil. That poor lady now has to deal with the emotional and physical trauma of this.
HPV is pretty common tho, the most common std. and protection isn’t guaranteed with condoms. She should have gotten the HPV vaccine when she was young. Women tend to suffer the most from it. Regardless, the husband was a punk.
I could never get over the fact that my safety and more importantly the safety of our child was less important to my husband than his selfish urges. I just could never get over it. I am not judging her for doing what she is doing but I, myself, could not do it. He clearly showed me I mean nothing to him.
Stds actually can take up to 6 months to show up on a test after you get it so let's be honest he didn't cheat once recently this was probably a long term or long time ago thing.
Symptoms can show within 1-3 weeks though for Chlamydia. So even if it doesn’t show on a test yet they’ll still try to treat it. But yeah I don’t think this is his first time cheating.
The fact that he only shared this news with his wife because he contracted and spread the STI is unforgivable. If he was clean I’m sure he wouldn’t of fessed up until he digged a bigger hole.
All these women having kids back to back and no out plan just in case something bad happens is wild. Obviously no one wants to plan for a relationship to end bad but if you’re CHOOSING to bring life into this world you need to be prepared to do what it takes to protect them. If you stay after such a vile act, you are destroyed and that is worse for the kids than having 2 houses
Wtf do you mean by “these women having kids” ..l last time I checked, it takes w people to make babies. What’s wrong with you? How about you talk about the shitty, cheating, shitbag of the husband here before you attack other women?
Marriage is not designed for an “out plan,” it’s for LIFE. That’s why it’s critical to marry an emotionally well adjusted person from a good family with good Biblical values. Marriage is designed for repairing childhood issues, it’s a commitment you make to each other to go through life as a unit. Forgiveness can be given when the spouse is truly repentant.
@@FoodFreedomUSApeople change overtime. You CANNOT predict someone’s future behavior. If YOU can, please share your secrets because then everyone would have perfect relationships.
Notice how the woman is still warned to chose grace. She's broken and she's already being told she's not allowed to do anything wrong. But he gets all the unconditional love. He already has grace. Where's the grace for her, for not being a saint. Always those who are betrayed, men and women, who have to be gracious. The cheaters don't even appreciate it.
I chose grace too. 7 years into my marriage. Then 17 years in it happened all over again. (I'm sure more in between, but only came to light at this time). We are still married due to very extenuating circumstances and finances. But now I'm even deeper in than if I had just trusted myself and not him, and left at the 7 year mark. I ruined my own life with grace. Now we live as basic roommates and so much hate. I ficus on our 5 special needs medically fragile kids and he barely shows up.
There are no words to describe the filth of this guy. You can hear the pain in her voice. Unfortunately the best scenario is for her to end the relationship ASAP!
So hard to do when you're in such a vulnerable state as this! I have the 2.5 year old and 1 year old. Stopping there. My husband has had addiction issues and I have been really struggling to get to that point. Thinking of being a single parent with these aged children is overwhelming; while pregnant, you are even more vulnerable.
Quite a few for a lot of us unfortunately. I think that it actually takes the common experience of staying too long and forgiving too much to actually create stronger boundaries.
It's not a one time thing. He had to tell you because of the STD. Words are words. Actions will tell you everything. 3 kids in 4 years. Cheating spouse. Tough road.
It will. You let them get away with it once... In most (not all but most) cases they will do it again. Seen this over and over again. So sad when people get into situations like these and have young kids!
As a woman who stayed also pregnant with my first child he didn't change. Found out at 7 months he was still sleeping with multiple women it sent me into labour after he abused me when I found out one of the woman's mother called me to ask me who he chose it was insane. It traumatized me
Just don’t... not worth it nowadays. Look at the divorce rates. (Not without a prenup at least). This coming from someone who has been married before...and came out of a drama-free situation!
Right. If it wasn’t for wanting children I’d never get married. Sometimes I just want to get my kids out of a marriage then leave and co parent. Men are too carnal
Sadly, yes...you let them "get away with it" once....9/10 they'll do it again. Especially when they know you are dependent on them and have pretty much nowhere to go. I've seen it time and time again. Cheating is FAR more prevalent that people want to realize/admit!
I'm 40, never been married and as much as that use to bother me, after listening to these horror stories on this show between married couples, I guess I'm not actually missing out on anything grand. This poor woman is delusional if she believes this was his first and only time. Listening to these horror stories how the husbands have no respect for their wives is scaring me straight out of wanting one.
These are people with issues. These are not the happily married couples calling in. No one is perfect and most of us have some childhood baggage to sort out. We tend to do this through relationships because it’s only through relating that problems come to the fore. Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone. Marriage is a container for LIFE. Adultery is the only justification for divorce, but it’s not an automatic justification. It can be healed and the cheater can resolve those issues which compel them to lie and cheat. Usually it’s attachment issues and emotional abuse from a parent.
@@KiLovely it depends. Some people are lucky and have healthy relationships as in marriage. I believe there has to be a balance as in everything in this life: Don't ignore serious issues because of fear of being alone but also don't miss out or push away good people because there is also scum out there. I have seen and interacted with wonderful people, people with healthy mindsets despite their flaws (we all have).
This is the exact same story of how I was born, mom catching chlamydia from my dad cheating while I was in the womb. Just makes me sad that the same pains keep happening to others too *sigh*.
I know a man who was having 2crelationss one with wife one with girlfriend. He got both pregnant at same time. Her mother was a widow and conservative so she would not tell her mother who the dad was. He promised to leave his wife but did not. He had 4 children with his wife . I donnt think his wife ever knew.
It is bad enough that he cheated, but he did it while she was pregnant, then gave her an STD! This man has zero respect for his marriage and his family. This woman will have trust issues for the rest of her life.
My best friend had a casual affair with a nice guy for about a year. One day he called her in a panic, asking her to get checked because he found out his other girlfriend had HPV and cancer of the cervix. She had no symptoms and put off seeing her doctor. I am a nurse and I nagged her until she went to the doctor. Her Pap smear showed some early dysplastic changes, which progressed to more serious changes, and she had a hysterectomy. She tested positive for the most serious strain of HPV (they did DNA testing on it). She still goes in for a yearly checkup--so far, she's OK.
",,,She still goes in for a yearly checkup--so far, she's OK", Really? She had to have a Hysterectomy. That in itself is trauma to the body, mental and hormonal issues. Never able to have children. Plus for future relationships she will always have this jerks actions to base all her emotions on going forward. Forgive, of course, but forget? She will always have issues. She is thankful to be alive, and currently not testing positive, but really --- she is NOT ok. Thank goodness she had a good friend to nagged her to get checked. Keep checking on her. You are a Blessing
Wow, this is a horrible situation. This doesn’t seem like it was a single incident though. He finally had to admit it because he contracted a STI and gave it to his pregnant wife! I don’t think she should stay with him just because she doesn’t want to break up the family. I’m praying for this woman to make the best decision for herself and her kids
Amen STIs don't usually show up immediately after you contract them it can take 6 months to a year to turn up on tests so yeah not believe in the whole it recently happened thing.
@@inalaska1208 For sure! This most certainly wasn't a one time offense, as he claimed. Likely been going on for a while! Plus, he knows now that she isn't (or likely isn't) going anywhere with three young kids at home. Tragic! We gotta do better, ladies! Never, ever depend fully on a man...and always have a backup plan, in case you get duped...like she did!
@@EadsB7002 this is why im not sure about ever having children. Most marriages fail and the high risk of being a single mother even after doing everything right is eye opening
@@kimberlylusby3365 I had those same feelings. And i was actually married to a good guy! However, i knew early on something wasn't right. Long story short, i was simply too young and we just weren't at all compatible. Therefore, kids were completely off my radar. And in looking back, i am SO so very glad we didn't have them. Not sure if i'd ever marry again--the odds are really aren't in your favor nowadays. You've gotta be super careful and extremely discerning...and sometimes even then, folks still get it wrong and end up with losers.
Now she already know what she needs to do, put him on child support. He cares nothing about your life or his unborn child life. He's out in these streets laying it low and spreading it wide with no protection.
I think anyone who was in love with someone and was cheated on, can relate to this. However, contracting an STD and the innocent children add more complexity to this issue.
and always have a backup plan- a skill/career you can return to/fall back on in the event you end up with a total loser of a dude like this one! That way you aren't "trapped" and can get out and not have to tolerate such insanity.
She has been so invested in her dream of a good family she has been ignoring his cheating. He is running around spreading his swimmers freely. She can do better when she is ready.
@@COINsimp2024 substantially higher chances of mental problems, drug abuse, falling victim to molestation, academic underperformance and criminal behaviour as well as producing single parent child care situations themselves. Would not call that "fine".
@@oddity1109 yes, so? Chances are also worse when you get hit by a meteor but that is not what we are talking about (sounds more mean in text than how I intend it, just saying it for clarification as to how saying that something else is also problematic does not change anything). Also, you are much more likely to be abused as a child in single parent household (single mother especially) by the new "partners" of the single parent vs in a dual parent household.
When I was a teenager living with my bf he gave me an STD, and tried to gaslight me as if it appeared out of nowhere and had nothing to do with him. Found out later he cheated on me a lot.
I was with a guy when I was 19, and after we had sex, he told me he had chlamydia 🤬 I was pissed!!! I yelled at him and asked why he would knowingly give me an std? He said he forgot and just got caught up in the moment. I tested positive for it when i went to my doctor the next day. Never talked to that pos again.
I was in this exact situation (other than the std and the way I found out about the cheating) during my second pregnancy. I came from a broken family and tried to stick it out for my kids but I became miserable due to the constant fighting. I’ve always been very trusting in the relationships I’ve had but after the cheating I ended up being paranoid about everything. When I realized I wasn’t “me” anymore and saw how the fighting was having an affect on my kids I ended the relationship. As much as I wanted to keep my family together, I didn’t want my children growing up thinking that’s what a family looks like, because it doesn’t. I truly hope he told her about the cheating because he was remorseful and not simply because of the std. I honestly believe once someone cheats on a person they will do it again. That happened to me and I felt so stupid for even trying again. I hope she heals from this and doesn’t lose herself while trying to start over with her husband... this whole situation is just so sad.
9/10 it's not worth the precious time, energy, heart to save.....if they do it once (and you forgive them/stay) , i will almost guarantee you they will do it again....I've seen it time and time again with several close friends/family members.
It's like you fall in love, want to start a family and then it's the kiss of death..what gives?? So selfish to cheat on someone when they are literally risking their lives to have your big headed kids but this is when the most cheating happens. I am just -
yes because the woman is pregnant and not feeling well and not feeling up to building up her husband's ego like he needs and she's too tired to have sex, much less the kind like she hasn't been with a man for a month to also build up his ego for being a "great" lover. men are so self absorbed, if not selfish. some men give of themselves for their family , but are still self absorbed and always trying to build up their ego. most men say they cheat because of their ego. she "made" him feel funny, young, talented, sexy, smart you name it, just like you did when you first started dating. and in his mind, you quit! but he forgets to realize he quit making you feel sexy, smart, talented, etc after you got married, but still expects you to do it for him! what gives?? you don't go out and cheat to build up your ego though. or do you? some women do the same thing!
So I question why this Team chose to have one child per year? This doesn't allow the marriage bond to strengthen, it stresses it, no sleep, endless diapers, crying. I always wince when in 2014 I hear teen girls having no life plans but get married and make babies. Please develop earning skills, round you out as a person with interests, because life happens. Early widowhood, divorce, and suddenly you need to provide for those babies, plan ahead ladies, this isn't the 1940s.
I've had to walk away with 3 of my kids for our own happiness, once trust is broken it's really hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I really hope this was a one time thing on his part but for her she'll always have that in back of her mind.
The ONLY reason he told her was because of the SIT and there was no way around that. This is likely not the only time he has cheated on her. Probably been doing it the whole marriage. Giving passwords etc means nothing....he probably has accounts she knows nothing about.
Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice! They only claim it’s a mistake “after” they get caught. I’m sure this husband would have never admitted to it had it not been for the STD involved. I feel for this lady, she’s incredibly forgiving.
I’m crying right now 😭feel so bad for this lady and all of the women out there that are going through the same thing. This is why God has do not commit adultery to protect us.
My gosh, I can't believe what she's going through and how her husband can do that. We need to hold each other accountable as men lest we fall to the same type of behavior or let it continue to foster in our society
Yes! I think it’s despicable that so many men will have a “bros before [you know what]“ attitude (and so many women do too!) where they will make excuses and cover for a friend who they know is cheating on their spouse. We need to put morality and family first.
My brother did this exact thing to his now ex-wife. When I understandably was furious with him and told him off, my family acted like I was the bad person and my mom called me heartless for distancing myself from him cause he’s “family.” Oh and guess what? After my nephew was born he continued to cheat on her multiple times with multiple women, including hookers…sometimes with my baby nephew in the house while he was having sex with hookers. This comment section made me feel validated.
I know someone else who had this happen. Found out her husband cheated because she got an STD. In her case she had to go to the dr and figure it out the hard way.
You sir have just gained a subscriber. Thank you for continuing to do what you do. You were definitely meant to encourage and uplift people. Wow! I feel rejuvenated.
I know right! No sugar coating, get right to a choice to be made and a path to follow all while making you feel like life isn't over even though you might feel like that. Incredible!
I think people should wait a while before they tell their family & friends when something like this happens. Now she feels like she owes them an explanation for trying to work it out with her husband. That’s what marriage counseling is for.
Very true I've learned the hard way dont go telling everyone your business because every relationship has it's ups and downs you just don't know about all the drama everyone else has
I think people should never share such details with friends and family! It is no one's business. This woman needs to leave her cheater. Once a cheater always a dick looking for a new hole. There is NO cure. Why should you have to die young? He will bring home aids, syphilis, herpes, Chlamydia, gonnereha, etc. This isn't a one time thing at all. You want that man as a role model for your kids? Wake-up.
Yes, but depending on her support structure she may have needed to reach out. And if we could bottle up emotions to wait for the next available appointment (which these days… phew! Can take a while!) I can see how I’m some situations it doesn’t always work that way. Hence why I usually talk to one friend when my husband acts up (and vice versa for her fiance) She understands it and also knows I want my marriage to succeed. My husband knows she and I talk and he is slightly afraid of her, but he respects her always
Yes, he made the choice to go outside their marriage, but WITH or WITHOUT protection is irrelevant. CHEATING is CHEATING. Went thru it myself, with 10 kids of my own!
Wasn’t the first time. He would have kept his mouth shut if he didn’t contract that sti. Thanks John for your encouraging words. Stay true. Don’t cheat. Stay true.. love it. It takes a lot to rebuild and this woman wants to fight for her marriage. A true blessing of a woman.
He's probably cheated hundreds of times. He was just caught by the disease. What happened to her to cause her to have zero self esteem? I'd leave this monster at light speed and take him for all he's worth!
An accident is quite different from a mistake. Cheating is NEVER an accident, mistake maybe if the person actually has remorse otherwise it’s a conscious and habitual choice
As someone who went through the exact same thing, please know you are a strong, beautiful, and amazing mother! If you truly believe he is going to change then fight for your marriage. But if you have any doubt in your gut, then leave. You never want to lie to your child about why his/her mother is crying. Life is short!
@@Somegirl3602 true, like this is a clown show not a marriage now she has STD, any wife who stay with cheater in hope he changes, you are giving him green lights for it because he knew you are an idiot for stay, I wouldn’t stay because if the roles were reversed he wouldn’t stay, so why should I?
Im so baffled why this woman wants to stay with a man who cheated, didn't use protection and then gave you an STD while you were pregnant.. This woman needs some self worth
Babies born to moms without treated Chlamydia, can have a chance of an eye Infection that causes a congenital lazy eye muscle. The child can suffer from the effects their whole life.
If she stays, how can she raise emotionally healthy kids through the resentment of what he did? Scary! She is stronger than I am. Couldn’t of been me. Woulda had to call the sheriff.
He didn't even use protection and then slept with her... It wasn't just cheating it was complete disregard for her health, the mother of his children. Why would you want someone like that in your life?
Exactly! Disgusting and this is a part of cheating we don’t discuss enough as a society
She wants all of the other things that he is for her. While that is a major thing and a deal breaker for so many she is weighing everything else good that existed against this. Staying is such a hard choice
He also put the babies life in danger.
She doesn't have a choice about him being in her life - they have kids.
i so agree with this. i understand messing up. even infidelity - ok. but putting her health at risk - F THAT GUY. and ps i dont believe for a second it was a one - off.
With a husband like this, who needs enemies?
You got that right
facts my husband did this to me at 9 months pregnant
@@arose7335 I’m so so so sorry to hear that
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He told her because of the pregnancy, he feared her doctor would tell her so that's the only reason this coward confessed.
OBs check for STIs early in pregnancy. They wouldn’t have checked again at 6 months or later. He was likely concerned for the healthy of the pregnancy; too late for the concern tho.
@@chelsbolin or wasn't privy to that info and was scared OB might tell her. Most men don't know your checked once. They know you go for checkups but not extent unless he's gone with her to other appt. We just don't have all the details. I would've thrown his a$s out
@@chelsbolin at the clinic I worked at we tested every three months if it was in between a test month the baby could’ve been affected this man a pos
@@paintitblack9712Exactly
She’s just as bad as him. Zero self worth.
I had three young kids, my husband came home from a work trip with an STI. I left. Things seemed great between us before I found out! I was also in total shock. But I knew I am better than that. I left. Women cannot just forgive this kind of thing. Is it hard on the kids to come from a divorced home. Yes. But that’s his fault not mine. And my kids now know this behavior is unacceptable in relationships. Unacceptable. I consider this physical abuse. Not just mental and emotional. They are putting our health at risk. Get OUT!
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That is an opportunity for you to confront him and force him to deal with his issues to become a better man, husband, and father. Marriage is designed for life. No one is perfect and sometimes it requires a big mistake to get called out and come to Jesus and remake yourself and your marriage.
@@FoodFreedomUSAthat is for him to decide and repent. some people would rather be inviscerated by the consequences of their temptations than talk to Yeshua. not everyone wants to be confronted by Him.
@Foxie770 even the Bible says you can divorce due to adultery. When I confronted him, he said he assumed when he got caught we would “just go to counseling”. Apparently his father did the same thing to his mom. And they would just go to counseling. I was not about to keep that toxic family cycle going. I broke it. My sons now know that type of behavior has consequences. Had I stayed it would have been more of the same.
@@kellykirk4244you made the right choice for you AND your kids 👏
Her husband not only cheated but also didn't care enough about his wife's health to even use protection. He is not worth her time. He will do it again.
and if you you let them get away with it once - chances are (very high) that they WILL do it again! I've seen it too many times.
if he cared he wouldnt have cheated in the first place
Hosea and Gomer
he could kill that baby if she has an sti from him
Or the health of HIS unborn child!!
Oh dear, some STDs can make your child blind. This is serious!!!
Cheating is one thing, cheating on your PREGNANT wife is another thing, but cheating on your pregnant wife-unprotected and giving her and the baby and std… he should go to jail. Not even kidding. I feel like that is on par with assault
Cheating is NEVER ok. Pregnancy or not. Cheating is a sign of emotional immaturity and work that needs to be done to repair issues from childhood. You can grow together and rebuild these relationships. As long as both spouses are making an honest effort.
So basically, if he’s providing he can put your life at risk because it’s better than being alone and struggling? Gotcha.
Agree
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i hear where you're coming from. but then she's a single mom with no child support.
The husband likely would not have said anything if he didnt have the STI.
Spot on. I completely agree. There is one tenth of one percent of cheaters who actually come around and don’t do it again. Once a cheater always a cheater 99.99% of the time.
@@mikedanaher3413 Agreed. And 99% of cheaters really don't have remorse about it. A large part of them feels like they deserve to do it, they deserve to get away with it. The rationalization that goes on in a cheaters mind has got to be the most selfish thing a person can do to another person.
I'm glad he came clean and made sure both her and her unborn baby were treated. But I don't think I could ever trust him again if it were me.
Yup my thoughts as well.
I wondered about that too. Never said anything. But would he have cheated again since he got away with it this time?
A partner who brings home sexually transmitted disease is equally dangerous as a partner who beats you if not worse. Get out now while you can before he gives you something you can’t get rid of.
I promise you that your statement is 100% incorrect and ignorant. I was in a relationship with a partner who not only cheated and gave me an STD while pregnant, but severely beat me during our relationship and even while I was pregnant. Him giving me an STD showed he didn’t care about me or the baby, but him beating me while I was a pregnant was a sign that he had the power to end our lives at any moment and he didn’t care. Please don’t say such harmful statements and think that there is truth to it.
@@ellafruitloops She's right, an incurable STD such as HIV and HPV can also lead to your death.
@@ellafruitloops yeah and there are STDs that can be fatal as well. HPV can cause cancer (I personally know 2 people who had HPV related cancer and one passed away), syphilis can be fatal if untreated and of course there is HIV. Chlamydia and gonorrhea can cause organ damage and infertility and could have caused the loss of their unborn child. They are equally evil and blatantly dismissive of their family's safety - one is just more immediate.
NO kdding. couldve been AIDS. herpes. or....or. F HIM HES HORRIBLE.
Even worse
She is very vulnerable because she has 2 young children and is pregnant with her 3rd. Poor women. My heart is broken for her!
I would agree ! What a mess ! What a selfish POS !
Some husbands knock you up multiple times so you can’t leave and they can treat you anyway they want don’t have kids unless you have a career
@@jc_80 ...Often money can be used as a weapon to control (Financial abuse) and other forms of manipulation may be implemented to maintain the "Dominant role" in the home. I would strongly agree that the woman should have a career to fall back on or have the option to work part time or telecommute, in order to remain current in the workforce. Also, in my opinion, there should be three separate bank accounts: the husband's, the wife's, in addition to, a joint account for bills which effect both individual's (Mortgage, utilities, taxes, etc). The couple should create a financial plan / calculation toward expenses. For example, if the husband has a higher salary, then perhaps he pays 65% of the bills and the wife pays 35%, which is transferred from each account to the joint account. So, the husband and the wife have their own money and there is little co- mingling of funds except for the necessary bills to run a household.
She picked him!
@@Wheres_Jackie ..I would agree, however, it may be more complicated than that. Did he initially put on a false front to manipulate her ? Maybe she was blindsided ? Was he cheating from the beginning or after the first or second child ? What a mess ...I would agree !!
This girl has a Rock Solid Divorce Case. No judge or jury would deny her whatever she wants.
The courts can’t/won’t help if the husband doesn’t have enough assets or income. To leave the marriage and still survive, she needs a steady source of income of several thousand dollars a month for living expenses, plus enough time during the day to take care of 3 babies. Unless they have a McMansion with lots of equity to split and/or he’s wealthy or a high earner, there is no way any child support check or even any temporary alimony is going to support her and 3 babies under age 3 or even pay just for the skyrocketing cost of childcare for a newborn and 2 toddlers so that she can work. If she tries to end the marriage, she is in danger of homelessness, pure and simple. That, more than forgiveness, is the reality that’s not being spelled out when Dr. John stops short of urging her to kick him to the curb.
Hard lessons to learn for all women who want to get married and have children-first have/earn/build up a substantial nest egg and invest it and put it in a separate trust, and then get a prenup from a reputable family law attorney in your state with lots of prenup experience-all BEFORE getting married. If you cannot afford to do this, then you cannot afford marriage and children. I hate to say this and no one wants to hear it, but that’s reality.
He never would have told her if it wasn’t for the STI. And the fact she believes he’ll never do it again is unreal.
Wanting to make it work with someone who gave you another woman’s disease is THE saddest thing I’ve ever heard. This poor girl has zero self-esteem.
Exactly and the fact he cheated while she was pregnant he’s a pos
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A married man had an affair, not just any type of affair, but a dirty nasty raw affair. He made sure he went fully raw, for he has been so deprived of a raw vagina because life has been so hard for him, oh poor him. Then when he finally catches an STD, the gift of lies yep I said it the gift of lies not the gift of life for he shall not enter the kingdom he knew better and he chose not to do better for Jesus had already died for our sins in advance before he was even crucified and this bastard went ahead and broke his vow, are for gas she'll do them apart for he shall die. Oh Father Pappa jinn Ginn of dongjianng, luhzhis zhiyuhs yuhshi yuhshao yesu the most clever beautiful #1 in the beGINNIng.
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She's pregnant. You probably can't empathize if you don't know how it feels to be pregnant
She is about to have 3 babies under 3. That gives her decisions heavier consequences. Don't judge a person and a situation you don't know.
It’s not an accident, it’s a choice.
@@leatherface9377 actually I do. But it’s always a choice, it can be a bad choice, a mistake but never an accident.
@@leatherface9377 not an excuse. We’re all tempted strongly by something. Still gotta say no.
Absolutely. It was HIS CHOICE. I don’t believe he only cheated once. He cheated for years with multiple women.
it's over and broken. kids will live miserable.
Too have that little self control as an adult is beyond me. Even as a teenager full of hormones cheating was a hard no for me.
She should walk out with the children and never look back.. this time it was chlamydia, next time it could be something that isn't curable! Run!! cheating is never a one time thing. He cheated on you knowing you are pregnant and he didn't even bother to protect your health and the health of your unborn child. His actions prove exactly how selfish he is.
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He needs to pay child support and he can live in his car.
She picked him
Cheating of course can be a one time thing. Depends on the relationship
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If it was herpes and she gave birth not knowing, it could kill the baby. I know a woman where this happened: husband cheated when she was pregnant and said nothing to her. As the baby was born it was exposed and didn’t have the immune system to fight it off and died a couple of days later. I told my husband when this happened to this woman and he went white as a ghost bc I was pregnant at the time also and he was cheating on me with my best friend. Men who cheat when their wives are pregnant (and do so with unprotected sex) should have a special place in hell.
Yes, a pregnant woman with herpes genital should take antivirals before delivery for the baby to be born safe. Her husband was such a coward to not even warn her to save his child. Some people marry for nothing and care only for themselves.
How disgusting and horrible.
Condoms don't offer protection against herpes... It's an awful STD
How horrible! (And sad) I’m so sorry to hear that and I’m glad Your baby was o.k.
All these comments with men cheating on pregnant wife...stomach full testes empty ladies...it's not difficult..make women great again...repeal the 19th
The level of disrespect and disregard for this woman by her spouse is through the roof. It’s bad enough that he violated her trust by having an affair. On top of that he didn’t care enough to use protection. He recklessly endangered the life & health of both his wife and unborn child. 😤
This is unforgivable to me.
It is unforgivable. If this doesn't tell her, " I don't value you, love you, your health and well being, our marriage or tbat of our children" then Idk what will...😮
I am very understanding and patient but an STI while I am pregnant. It's a NO 😤
Straight to divorce!
Same here!
What if it had been something life altering like HIV or an HPV infection that led to cervical cancer. What a jerk! 😡
Straight up!!!!
Babies are dying from undiagnosed syphillis in the mother. This is really dangerous behavior.
Most men would never give their wife a second chance. Women are so forgiving.
As a dude I can easily second this a lot of the talks are like if she cheats it’s over now of course me and my circle we don’t cheat but yes as a general rule guys are way less forgiving
@@yvngtay4970 Idk about other woman, I will leave when my man cheated on me. My mother did not do it on my dad, and that painful on her and on me and my siblings. I don't want to have that for me, and my future children. We broke the broken cycle, ans no more forgiving and go on with broken marriage.
Thanks for the credit
@@yvngtay4970 It is true. Most women would lower their standard and more forgiving in their partner. The sad part is this make the men take advantage of the kindness even more.
You mean they are stupid or have low self-esteem.
Whenever I feel like my life is a mess I just watch the show and am reminded how thankful I don't share most of these stories
Exactly.
Same. Stay encouraged. Things literally could always be worse.
yass 2k in credit card debt and a failing car but i m so happy!!
We’re blessed 🙏
Hey you never know, you could be calling in a month disclosing you got AIDS
He only came clean because he contracted and STI that he knows he gave to her.
Hosea and Gomer
Her symptoms would have shown and she would’ve found out that’s why he told her
He killed her spirit and soul I can hear it in her voice
Ladies fyi “it was a one-time thing” means nothing.
Are you saying if your wife/gf cheated and gave you STD, it is ok cause it’s one time thing so means nothing?
@@Hamyhamster24 I’m saying don’t be naive to a man saying “it’s just a one-time thing” especially when you’re stuck at home pregnant. I’m a man and I understand male nature.
@@Allergic2broke oh ok I misread my bad. But yeah thanks for spreading your insights...more women need to see this lol
So true
Exactly! One time Friday. One time Tuesday. One time Wednesday. It will be one time every day next week.
People are very confused as to what a broken home ACTUALLY is. It’s not separated parents because one has been abused the other/the others trust. It’s a mom that’s mentally unhealthy due to staying in a relationship where the person she was supposed to trust her life to, gave her an STD while she’s six months pregnant and risked her AND the unborn baby’s lives. THAT is broken. THAT is what your kids will accept as normal if you don’t show them otherwise. Stop continuing the cycle thinking you’re doing something TOTALLY different, when instead you’re copying the same things.
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Very sad but very true.
AMEN. The truth!!!
So he literally cheated without using protection and especially cheated on his PREGNANT wife and ONLY admitted it because of the STD since his unborn baby could be born with lung infection or eye infection. I could forgive a betrayal but put my unborn baby in risk... That I would never forget.
My sister went through something similar. She forgave him but he didn't change. Fortunately, she finally left him and she is doing so much better on her own. GOD, I pray this girl finds the strength to leave that POS.
Kudos to your sister for loving and respecting herself and her kids enough!!
Don't judge if she stays that's her decision why are you trying to break a family up she said she wants to make it work
@@adamgonzalez1236 Her husband broke the family up, not her! And did you read, she left, she didn’t stay!
@@adamgonzalez1236 boy shut up! Women have caught life changing diseases due to men being a slave to sex. He broke up his own family
You sound like a cheater, Adam. Lol.
The truth is, can you ever trust a cheater?
The trust has been broken forever.
Take it from me as I have been the bad guy: i regret my past and am a new person. My spouse can trust me now. I have grown up. Give ppl a chance
You are a unicorn. Cheaters cheat. That’s what they do.
Or the people that cheat with them knowingly or unknowingly.
@@laperlenoir cheating is not a disease. Perhaps for very few people it might be a constant problem that stems from a mental disorder, but for the most part, people don't cheat because they're "cheaters," they cheat for a reason or many reasons. It could be revenge, attention, love, depression, low self esteem, etc. Once they grow out of that, they stop cheating.
People can change if they truly feel bad for what they have done. They will never do it again. But if they don’t then yes they will do it again.
My husband did that to me exactly but it was my first child and I lost it because of it. I hate my husband and I never want to see him ever again!
We had a patient who just found out she has HPV. Where did she get it? From her husband who finally admitted that he had a one night stand 6 years ago. Yes ppl, 6 years ago!! I called him to see if we can get him scheduled for counseling asap and he said he’s too busy right now. What could be more important than fixing your marriage or confronting your bad decisions? He made my blood boil. That poor lady now has to deal with the emotional and physical trauma of this.
I doubt it was only once 6 years ago.
@@amyfeinstein3596 of course not but cheaters won’t admit to anything unless they’re caught unfortunately
@@NT-bz5nh He already knows he got HPV.
HPV is pretty common tho, the most common std. and protection isn’t guaranteed with condoms. She should have gotten the HPV vaccine when she was young. Women tend to suffer the most from it. Regardless, the husband was a punk.
@@thehungrysage the vaccination my not have been available when she was young. It wasn't an option for me.
You never "accidently" have an affair...
I could never get over the fact that my safety and more importantly the safety of our child was less important to my husband than his selfish urges. I just could never get over it. I am not judging her for doing what she is doing but I, myself, could not do it. He clearly showed me I mean nothing to him.
Exactly.. This relationship is not worth saving...
Stds actually can take up to 6 months to show up on a test after you get it so let's be honest he didn't cheat once recently this was probably a long term or long time ago thing.
I didn't know this. 😯
But it can be as short as two weeks too but regardless, dude was a punk
Symptoms can show within 1-3 weeks though for Chlamydia. So even if it doesn’t show on a test yet they’ll still try to treat it. But yeah I don’t think this is his first time cheating.
The fact that he only shared this news with his wife because he contracted and spread the STI is unforgivable. If he was clean I’m sure he wouldn’t of fessed up until he digged a bigger hole.
You would hope a marriage counselor would know stuff like that. So as to help with an honest conversation.
All these women having kids back to back and no out plan just in case something bad happens is wild. Obviously no one wants to plan for a relationship to end bad but if you’re CHOOSING to bring life into this world you need to be prepared to do what it takes to protect them. If you stay after such a vile act, you are destroyed and that is worse for the kids than having 2 houses
Wtf do you mean by “these women having kids” ..l last time I checked, it takes w people to make babies. What’s wrong with you? How about you talk about the shitty, cheating, shitbag of the husband here before you attack other women?
Marriage is not designed for an “out plan,” it’s for LIFE. That’s why it’s critical to marry an emotionally well adjusted person from a good family with good Biblical values. Marriage is designed for repairing childhood issues, it’s a commitment you make to each other to go through life as a unit. Forgiveness can be given when the spouse is truly repentant.
All these people cheating, betraying their spouses and families is what we should be saying
@@FoodFreedomUSApeople change overtime. You CANNOT predict someone’s future behavior. If YOU can, please share your secrets because then everyone would have perfect relationships.
@Foxie770 that's the most ridiculous thing I've heard.
Notice how the woman is still warned to chose grace. She's broken and she's already being told she's not allowed to do anything wrong. But he gets all the unconditional love. He already has grace. Where's the grace for her, for not being a saint. Always those who are betrayed, men and women, who have to be gracious. The cheaters don't even appreciate it.
exactly what i was thinking. he GOT to have a new woman and now keep his family. sure he has to 'work' but he still got what he wanted. disgusting.
standard Christian bs
I chose grace too. 7 years into my marriage. Then 17 years in it happened all over again. (I'm sure more in between, but only came to light at this time). We are still married due to very extenuating circumstances and finances. But now I'm even deeper in than if I had just trusted myself and not him, and left at the 7 year mark. I ruined my own life with grace. Now we live as basic roommates and so much hate. I ficus on our 5 special needs medically fragile kids and he barely shows up.
😢😢 I'm very sorry...I know how you feel. 20 wasted years for me
@@js78-jxbyyup ...32 kids grown and in now leaving he blames me
If that was me calling, the title would be "My late husband..." No to be funny, I wish this woman all the strength in the world.
I screamed so loud!!! I may not kill him but I would not stay
Lol, you right it’s not funny what happen to her but your comment is hilarious.
We could arrange that
Ditto!
Nah, he can't pay child support if he's dead. I'd support neutering, though.
I can’t sleep with someone that gave me an STD
There are no words to describe the filth of this guy. You can hear the pain in her voice. Unfortunately the best scenario is for her to end the relationship ASAP!
So hard to do when you're in such a vulnerable state as this! I have the 2.5 year old and 1 year old. Stopping there. My husband has had addiction issues and I have been really struggling to get to that point. Thinking of being a single parent with these aged children is overwhelming; while pregnant, you are even more vulnerable.
How many red flags does it take for a woman to realize she should RUN.....
Man idk
Quite a few for a lot of us unfortunately. I think that it actually takes the common experience of staying too long and forgiving too much to actually create stronger boundaries.
It's not a one time thing. He had to tell you because of the STD. Words are words. Actions will tell you everything.
3 kids in 4 years. Cheating spouse. Tough road.
Very. It's so sad there are so many women who've had multiple kids with total losers!
Quick as you can, get Rid of Him. Period. It will happen Again. Period.
It will happen again. It has happened before he just got caught... with a disease. I hate that she had all these babies with him.
Grace
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@@thegospeldesigner3173 yes God gives grace. However when we deny Christ’s passion on the cross and go our own way guess what the outcome is?
It will. You let them get away with it once...
In most (not all but most) cases they will do it again. Seen this over and over again. So sad when people get into situations like these and have young kids!
As a woman who stayed also pregnant with my first child he didn't change. Found out at 7 months he was still sleeping with multiple women it sent me into labour after he abused me when I found out one of the woman's mother called me to ask me who he chose it was insane. It traumatized me
I am so sorry that that happened to you! I hope you're doing better now . ❤
I felt her soul crying through the phone. 😢 I pray she finds peace and is able to move on if need be. That’s so unforgivable.
This makes me fear marriage and having children in every way possible
Just don’t... not worth it nowadays. Look at the divorce rates. (Not without a prenup at least). This coming from someone who has been married before...and came out of a drama-free situation!
Same here yikes 😱
Have a kid but don't get married. Just make sure you have the life knowledge and money secured. Pass your genes down but do not be dependent.
Right. If it wasn’t for wanting children I’d never get married. Sometimes I just want to get my kids out of a marriage then leave and co parent. Men are too carnal
@@Brandiisbeloved Cant blame ya, Im a man who hangs with other men and I hate to admit it but we are horny fucks.
She is awesome, no one deserves what he’s put her through and he knows she’s trapped!
Respect yourself lady dang get out
Poor lady! You can hear the hurt in her voice.
I want to hug her and help her pack!
Cheaters always cheat. You can't change people, you can only control your own actions. I would just say don't let people walk all over you.
This is the beginning of the end for them. Ultimate betrayal, if he was able to do it once he will absolutely do it again.
Sadly, yes...you let them "get away with it" once....9/10 they'll do it again. Especially when they know you are dependent on them and have pretty much nowhere to go. I've seen it time and time again. Cheating is FAR more prevalent that people want to realize/admit!
I'm 40, never been married and as much as that use to bother me, after listening to these horror stories on this show between married couples, I guess I'm not actually missing out on anything grand. This poor woman is delusional if she believes this was his first and only time. Listening to these horror stories how the husbands have no respect for their wives is scaring me straight out of wanting one.
I had a great husband before he passed marriage is great if you wait on God
I was married 20 years ago and never want to do it ever again. Life is very peaceful now.
These are people with issues. These are not the happily married couples calling in. No one is perfect and most of us have some childhood baggage to sort out. We tend to do this through relationships because it’s only through relating that problems come to the fore. Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone. Marriage is a container for LIFE. Adultery is the only justification for divorce, but it’s not an automatic justification. It can be healed and the cheater can resolve those issues which compel them to lie and cheat. Usually it’s attachment issues and emotional abuse from a parent.
@@KiLovely it depends. Some people are lucky and have healthy relationships as in marriage. I believe there has to be a balance as in everything in this life: Don't ignore serious issues because of fear of being alone but also don't miss out or push away good people because there is also scum out there. I have seen and interacted with wonderful people, people with healthy mindsets despite their flaws (we all have).
This is the exact same story of how I was born, mom catching chlamydia from my dad cheating while I was in the womb. Just makes me sad that the same pains keep happening to others too *sigh*.
I know a man who was having 2crelationss one with wife one with girlfriend. He got both pregnant at same time. Her mother was a widow and conservative so she would not tell her mother who the dad was. He promised to leave his wife but did not. He had 4 children with his wife . I donnt think his wife ever knew.
It is bad enough that he cheated, but he did it while she was pregnant, then gave her an STD! This man has zero respect for his marriage and his family. This woman will have trust issues for the rest of her life.
My best friend had a casual affair with a nice guy for about a year. One day he called her in a panic, asking her to get checked because he found out his other girlfriend had HPV and cancer of the cervix. She had no symptoms and put off seeing her doctor. I am a nurse and I nagged her until she went to the doctor. Her Pap smear showed some early dysplastic changes, which progressed to more serious changes, and she had a hysterectomy. She tested positive for the most serious strain of HPV (they did DNA testing on it). She still goes in for a yearly checkup--so far, she's OK.
",,,She still goes in for a yearly checkup--so far, she's OK", Really? She had to have a Hysterectomy. That in itself is trauma to the body, mental and hormonal issues. Never able to have children. Plus for future relationships she will always have this jerks actions to base all her emotions on going forward. Forgive, of course, but forget? She will always have issues. She is thankful to be alive, and currently not testing positive, but really --- she is NOT ok. Thank goodness she had a good friend to nagged her to get checked. Keep checking on her. You are a Blessing
A "casual " affair? Why no string her up comments?
Wow, this is a horrible situation. This doesn’t seem like it was a single incident though. He finally had to admit it because he contracted a STI and gave it to his pregnant wife! I don’t think she should stay with him just because she doesn’t want to break up the family. I’m praying for this woman to make the best decision for herself and her kids
Amen STIs don't usually show up immediately after you contract them it can take 6 months to a year to turn up on tests so yeah not believe in the whole it recently happened thing.
@@inalaska1208 For sure! This most certainly wasn't a one time offense, as he claimed. Likely been going on for a while! Plus, he knows now that she isn't (or likely isn't) going anywhere with three young kids at home. Tragic! We gotta do better, ladies! Never, ever depend fully on a man...and always have a backup plan, in case you get duped...like she did!
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this is why im not sure about ever having children. Most marriages fail and the high risk of being a single mother even after doing everything right is eye opening
@@kimberlylusby3365 I had those same feelings. And i was actually married to a good guy! However, i knew early on something wasn't right. Long story short, i was simply too young and we just weren't at all compatible. Therefore, kids were completely off my radar.
And in looking back, i am SO so very glad we didn't have them.
Not sure if i'd ever marry again--the odds are really aren't in your favor nowadays. You've gotta be super careful and extremely discerning...and sometimes even then, folks still get it wrong and end up with losers.
Her family is already broken. Your stuff can be broken and you live in the same house.
Now she already know what she needs to do, put him on child support. He cares nothing about your life or his unborn child life. He's out in these streets laying it low and spreading it wide with no protection.
Shout out to Evelyn Braxton for the classic quote
@@AllIAm1 Shout out to Michael Braxton for making it possible.
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To all the women out there who have ever been hurt and had to work through it to find strength again. I ( a fellow woman) salute you!
“And Men”...
Agree from another.
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Very true. We’re all just human.
I think anyone who was in love with someone and was cheated on, can relate to this. However, contracting an STD and the innocent children add more complexity to this issue.
and always have a backup plan- a skill/career you can return to/fall back on in the event you end up with a total loser of a dude like this one! That way you aren't "trapped" and can get out and not have to tolerate such insanity.
She has been so invested in her dream of a good family she has been ignoring his cheating. He is running around spreading his swimmers freely. She can do better when she is ready.
When you violate the person you made vows to it’s never the same again! So sad people have no shame!
She’s lucky the kids are little. It’ll be easy to leave now because they won’t ever remember living in a 2 parent home and they’ll be fine.
Objectively, single parents raising kids exponentially increases the likelyhood of the kids not being fine.
That's not really true at all.
@@COINsimp2024 substantially higher chances of mental problems, drug abuse, falling victim to molestation, academic underperformance and criminal behaviour as well as producing single parent child care situations themselves. Would not call that "fine".
@@NietzscheanMan chances are worse when you grow up in an abusive household.
@@oddity1109 yes, so? Chances are also worse when you get hit by a meteor but that is not what we are talking about (sounds more mean in text than how I intend it, just saying it for clarification as to how saying that something else is also problematic does not change anything). Also, you are much more likely to be abused as a child in single parent household (single mother especially) by the new "partners" of the single parent vs in a dual parent household.
When I was a teenager living with my bf he gave me an STD, and tried to gaslight me as if it appeared out of nowhere and had nothing to do with him. Found out later he cheated on me a lot.
How?!
this is sooo common it's so scary. like nurses actually do blood tests during pregnancy to check for stds.
What an evil man. So sorry for her. I pray she has the support & strength to get rid of him.
I was with a guy when I was 19, and after we had sex, he told me he had chlamydia 🤬
I was pissed!!! I yelled at him and asked why he would knowingly give me an std?
He said he forgot and just got caught up in the moment.
I tested positive for it when i went to my doctor the next day.
Never talked to that pos again.
Happened to me😒 glad I didn’t have any child involved. There’s a lot of scumbags on earth
I was in this exact situation (other than the std and the way I found out about the cheating) during my second pregnancy. I came from a broken family and tried to stick it out for my kids but I became miserable due to the constant fighting. I’ve always been very trusting in the relationships I’ve had but after the cheating I ended up being paranoid about everything. When I realized I wasn’t “me” anymore and saw how the fighting was having an affect on my kids I ended the relationship. As much as I wanted to keep my family together, I didn’t want my children growing up thinking that’s what a family looks like, because it doesn’t. I truly hope he told her about the cheating because he was remorseful and not simply because of the std. I honestly believe once someone cheats on a person they will do it again. That happened to me and I felt so stupid for even trying again. I hope she heals from this and doesn’t lose herself while trying to start over with her husband... this whole situation is just so sad.
I went through the same thing... It is not worth staying... He's going to do it again and again and again... She needs to leave.
9/10 it's not worth the precious time, energy, heart to save.....if they do it once (and you forgive them/stay) , i will almost guarantee you they will do it again....I've seen it time and time again with several close friends/family members.
Yeah, then the alpha man comes and tell you it is ok when men cheats lol.
The real question is does he have life insurance? 😂
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Why？
Asking the real questions 😂😂
It's like you fall in love, want to start a family and then it's the kiss of death..what gives?? So selfish to cheat on someone when they are literally risking their lives to have your big headed kids but this is when the most cheating happens. I am just -
yes because the woman is pregnant and not feeling well and not feeling up to building up her husband's ego like he needs and she's too tired to have sex, much less the kind like she hasn't been with a man for a month to also build up his ego for being a "great" lover. men are so self absorbed, if not selfish. some men give of themselves for their family , but are still self absorbed and always trying to build up their ego. most men say they cheat because of their ego. she "made" him feel funny, young, talented, sexy, smart you name it, just like you did when you first started dating. and in his mind, you quit! but he forgets to realize he quit making you feel sexy, smart, talented, etc after you got married, but still expects you to do it for him! what gives?? you don't go out and cheat to build up your ego though. or do you? some women do the same thing!
And when they’re young and need lots of attention too.
So I question why this Team chose to have one child per year? This doesn't allow the marriage bond to strengthen, it stresses it, no sleep, endless diapers, crying. I always wince when in 2014 I hear teen girls having no life plans but get married and make babies. Please develop earning skills, round you out as a person with interests, because life happens. Early widowhood, divorce, and suddenly you need to provide for those babies, plan ahead ladies, this isn't the 1940s.
Big headed kids😂
I've had to walk away with 3 of my kids for our own happiness, once trust is broken it's really hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I really hope this was a one time thing on his part but for her she'll always have that in back of her mind.
The ONLY reason he told her was because of the SIT and there was no way around that. This is likely not the only time he has cheated on her. Probably been doing it the whole marriage. Giving passwords etc means nothing....he probably has accounts she knows nothing about.
He has a burner at work.
Wooow poor girl! Soo sorry to hear about this...🥺🥺 i hate cheaters.
Thats why it’s important to be freaky af so this type of thing doesn’t happen.
Cheating is not a mistake, it’s a choice! They only claim it’s a mistake “after” they get caught. I’m sure this husband would have never admitted to it had it not been for the STD involved. I feel for this lady, she’s incredibly forgiving.
So true!
Forgiving, Or foolish? Why so many kids, so close....trying to keep him?
This didn't *happen*; he did this.
"It was only one time." Sure, Jan. 😏
I’m crying right now 😭feel so bad for this lady and all of the women out there that are going through the same thing. This is why God has do not commit adultery to protect us.
I’m so tired hearing people claiming to want to go to counseling AFTER the cheating
I agree.
“That Suuuuuuuucks” 🤣 that’s what any woman wants to hear 🤣🤣
I hate when he says that. I know he’s trying to be empathetic but it’s not at all comforting.
He could have gotten extra pills and offered her “vitamins”
yeah, This guy has a bad way with words...I think he is not a good person to give advice. He always says really stupid stuff.
Lol
@@jasonnames hes a counsellor lol, maybe counsellors in America aren't trained correctly but he still has a PhD
My gosh, I can't believe what she's going through and how her husband can do that. We need to hold each other accountable as men lest we fall to the same type of behavior or let it continue to foster in our society
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Yes! I think it’s despicable that so many men will have a “bros before [you know what]“ attitude (and so many women do too!) where they will make excuses and cover for a friend who they know is cheating on their spouse. We need to put morality and family first.
It goes both ways men cheat and women cheat how about men AND women need to hold each other accountable
@@adamgonzalez1236 Exactly 👍
@@adamgonzalez1236 Absolutely, I find people tend to listen to people of the same gender more often as they see the opposite gender as the enemy.
I am praying for you and your babies..
Stay strong.
My brother did this exact thing to his now ex-wife. When I understandably was furious with him and told him off, my family acted like I was the bad person and my mom called me heartless for distancing myself from him cause he’s “family.” Oh and guess what? After my nephew was born he continued to cheat on her multiple times with multiple women, including hookers…sometimes with my baby nephew in the house while he was having sex with hookers. This comment section made me feel validated.
He didn't just jeopardize his wife, he jeopardized his child, how sick and disgusting
I know someone else who had this happen. Found out her husband cheated because she got an STD. In her case she had to go to the dr and figure it out the hard way.
Praying for you and yours. It’s your call to stay or go kiddo but, it’s probably going to happen again. No matter how “sorry” he is right now.
I don't know that I could ever trust him again.
You sir have just gained a subscriber. Thank you for continuing to do what you do. You were definitely meant to encourage and uplift people. Wow! I feel rejuvenated.
I know right! No sugar coating, get right to a choice to be made and a path to follow all while making you feel like life isn't over even though you might feel like that. Incredible!
I think people should wait a while before they tell their family & friends when something like this happens. Now she feels like she owes them an explanation for trying to work it out with her husband.
That’s what marriage counseling is for.
That’s really smart and mature - I think you are right
Very true I've learned the hard way dont go telling everyone your business because every relationship has it's ups and downs you just don't know about all the drama everyone else has
I think people should never share such details with friends and family! It is no one's business. This woman needs to leave her cheater. Once a cheater always a dick looking for a new hole. There is NO cure. Why should you have to die young? He will bring home aids, syphilis, herpes, Chlamydia, gonnereha, etc. This isn't a one time thing at all. You want that man as a role model for your kids? Wake-up.
Exactly. Keep your mouth closed if you are going to stay
Yes, but depending on her support structure she may have needed to reach out. And if we could bottle up emotions to wait for the next available appointment (which these days… phew! Can take a while!) I can see how I’m some situations it doesn’t always work that way. Hence why I usually talk to one friend when my husband acts up (and vice versa for her fiance) She understands it and also knows I want my marriage to succeed. My husband knows she and I talk and he is slightly afraid of her, but he respects her always
If your spouse cheats and you decide to stay with them, you better not tell anyone or they will judge you just as bad as the cheater.
How devastating. They do contacting tracing with STI's so makes me wonder if he was anticipating a letter from the Health department.
I just wanna know how someone “accidentally” cheats on their spouse?
Alcohol. I’m not saying everyone who drinks cheats but you’re 30%-50% more likely to cheat if you’re intoxicated biased on a study done in 2011.
@@audreypichot8371 drinking without your spouse at a bar isn’t an accident.
It's that He 'accidentally ' got caught.
You lost me when you referred to his cheating as an accident. No. He did it because he made a choice to go outside his marriage without protection.
Yes, he made the choice to go outside their marriage, but WITH or WITHOUT protection is irrelevant. CHEATING is CHEATING. Went thru it myself, with 10 kids of my own!
Wasn’t the first time. He would have kept his mouth shut if he didn’t contract that sti. Thanks John for your encouraging words. Stay true. Don’t cheat. Stay true.. love it. It takes a lot to rebuild and this woman wants to fight for her marriage. A true blessing of a woman.
No rebuilding. Only divorce.
She NEEDS to LEAVE, "yesterday"
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on ME.
Must be easy to say that when not in her position
Agreed. My self respect would not allow me to stay with a cheater.
@@primabellas6856 Agreed... that's just an unfortunate way to have to live.
More than likely, this is not the husband's 1st rodeo; it's probably the 1st one he had to confess.
@@bcreilly180 that is why society must punish the cheater and help the cheated on spouse to win the divorce case.
The second you have to start asking for passwords and the second you have to leave .
Yep! And that's no marriage/relationship worth having either!
The pain majority of women go through in marriages..💔💔💔💔💔!!!
Yeah I rather be single not interesed unless it will benefit me in a tangible way
Reason 1001 why I'm single.
He's probably cheated hundreds of times. He was just caught by the disease. What happened to her to cause her to have zero self esteem? I'd leave this monster at light speed and take him for all he's worth!
An accident is quite different from a mistake. Cheating is NEVER an accident, mistake maybe if the person actually has remorse otherwise it’s a conscious and habitual choice
Cheating is not a mistake. If you betray your pregnant wife, you know what you’re doing.
As someone who went through the exact same thing, please know you are a strong, beautiful, and amazing mother! If you truly believe he is going to change then fight for your marriage. But if you have any doubt in your gut, then leave. You never want to lie to your child about why his/her mother is crying. Life is short!
She needs to leave... Cheaters always cheat... he's sorry now but will start all over years down the line.
We as women need to stop promoting women to stay and work it out when men don't...
@@Somegirl3602 once a Cheater always a cheater u hope this woman RUNS TO FILE HER DIVORCE ASAP !
He’s been cheating for a long time. He just now got the STD. He’ll get caught again and claim “sex addiction” and cry and beg for forgiveness.
@@Somegirl3602 true, like this is a clown show not a marriage now she has STD, any wife who stay with cheater in hope he changes, you are giving him green lights for it because he knew you are an idiot for stay, I wouldn’t stay because if the roles were reversed he wouldn’t stay, so why should I?
Im so baffled why this woman wants to stay with a man who cheated, didn't use protection and then gave you an STD while you were pregnant.. This woman needs some self worth
Babies born to moms without treated Chlamydia, can have a chance of an eye Infection that causes a congenital lazy eye muscle. The child can suffer from the effects their whole life.
He said it was a one time thing?
HUUUGE red flag. He is downplaying.
Forgive him and then walk out that door hunny! I can hear the absolute pain in your voice.
Never stay !!! NO WAY !! Get out of my house ! He is going to continue doing this ! STD?
If she stays, how can she raise emotionally healthy kids through the resentment of what he did? Scary! She is stronger than I am. Couldn’t of been me. Woulda had to call the sheriff.
He would be SO gone & SO sued!!!
Great idea!!!