Sigh. I’m 😢. And to think you were very Farr from alone too. So many folks suffer with mental illness. It’s getting better.. we are trying to take away the stigma so ppl can get help. There is no shame. I understand. I have a number of my own issues I work on and that shame poison creeps in like a venom. I send you love and healing. May you be well and comforted 🩷
I still have slight hoarding tendencies but, my home has never been the filth-ridden house that I grew up in. I recently purged and am proud to say that all I have is what a normal person would own. 66 y.o. and I'm finally free!
To cut up a used book is one thing. I do art Journaling, and I do it all the time. But a brand new book? No, Tara...give it away. Also religious paraphernalia is a big clutter item.
Brendan is so soft spoken and gentle with this lady. Love that. I watch these shows where they force time limit's which causes people involved to snap at the hoarder. Hoarders like familiarity. Their world is their home. Their junk is tied to a sense of loss in life. Its not a 2-day process. Too bad she didn't take the therapy deal. Therapy can be painful but does help a person realize why they are messed up.
I have come to the point where I want to get rid of the things I've hoarded with the intention of upcycling and just never done it...I need to declutter before I become a fully blown hoarder.
Two years ago I moved from a 1,100 square foot home to a 700 square foot apartment. I HAD to get rid of a lot, even though I was never a hoarder. It really made me think about what I needed and what I didn't. Lots of trips to Goodwill for sure! And I feel so much better about it-less for my kids when I "depart".
Hopefully she eventually got some help for her addiction. And sorted her home out. When I cleaned up I found letters from 15 years ago in my cubord. And a trailer load of donations. Saving to sell online it’s annoying to upload then wait I put a full box of brand new items of clothing on for like 15 from this size to that size it sat for like 2 weeks no interest. I’m like out it goes I don’t want all this left in my house.
I easily go into eco-hoarding. My trick is just to make a quick craft from it, use it as my art therapy for the day, and I feel SO MUCH BETTER about getting rid of the upcycling materials the same day. I feel claustrophobic around clutter, and I also hate wasting. This is a win-win for me.
She reminds me of someone I used to work with, the non stop chatter was overwhelming and her mental state would deteriorate as the day went on, especially when she didn’t take her medication. It was exhausting to deal with.
I want to personally thank this show. My son (18) used to be so messy. Very messy. I always had to get onto him about cleaning up his room and bringing his dirty dishes out, etc. One day, I noticed how clean everything was. Didn't say anything. But he kept it immaculate. He started getting involved in keeping the rest of the house clean. One day not long ago, I asked him what happened. I pointed out he used to be filthy and why did he do a sudden about face and change. He was about 10-12, and he came into the kitchen and I was watching "some show" where the house was full of trash and someone either died or almost died (he couldn't remember which) and he said that something clicked in his head that you will die if you don't keep stuff clean (I assume it was the episode where the older lady tied herself to a chair at night to sleep, slipped out and fell into her diapers and could have died) and he started keeping everything clean. Now he's a bigger neat freak than I am. He gets annoyed if I accidentally bump something out of place in his room XD
Gabor Mate, Psychiatrist is an amazing resource for all of us. Something happened during childhood , a trauma. It might have been something we’d not even notice. It’s core issues are she felt unseen and unheard by her parent(s). She does need therapy but it has to relate to coping skills. Learning new way to handle stress, feeling overwhelmed. She’s aware and wants to change. Physical problems connected to this. Positives in her life are her friends, she has a job and she’s seeking help. The man was so supportive and kind. His approach to her was so good!! Her friends were really supportive. 😢😢
It amazes me how many hoarders claim to be collectors but true collectors know you have to store the collectibles properly or it is a pointless money losing exercise.
Hi. I understand your feeling about teddy bears I’m 77 and still have my teddy he was all I had to really love and he loved me back with out any nonsense, God bless you I bet you have a kind beautiful heart. Lots of love and good wishes from Carol in Queensland Australia. .🙏❤️
Hanging on to and purchasing Teddy bears to help you is a level of emotional immaturity that is rather sad. Unfortunately it's common amongst hoarders. This person has never gotten past her childhood traumas and is living with them in her adulthood. She has become her mother because it's all she knows. To change would take an enormous effort on her part as she would have to reject a huge part of herself. I don't find these shows entertaining, I find them sad for the most part.
When people get evicted or move and can’t take things with them in my neighborhood you see all their stuff out on the street. It’s honestly the thing I need to see to keep my consumption at bay. That and estate sales.
What kind of hoarders is this? I've never seen one like this before! Where are the therapists, organizers and clean up crews?! I need Dr zazzio!! 😁😁 Did that grown woman really just say " ooh I need my address I forgot where I live"??!! She obviously has other issues than hoarding!!
She probably couldn't bring in the funds for the whole shabang... Plus she lives in an apartment, so I'm sure there were legalities for how many people could be there and no dumpsters type thing.
This case really shows how important a good team from the programme is there at the time. She would have benefited greatly from the psychologist as well as the professional hoarding organiser being there As well as the clean up teams. Poor lady has some rough issues but wonderful friends to help her and support her ❤
I'm shocked she refused therapy she seemed to work with the show's therapist really well but he needed to push her a little more. She def. had trauma when talking about that teddy bear. If you noticed she liked to collect kid like stuff, comic books, bears, precious moments, mcdonald's toys
If you ever meet a narcissist hoarder - and there are plenty featured on this show - you'll know why. My father in law is a narcissist hoarder. I feel very sorry for his wife and sons.
@@theladyoftheinvisibleempire I truly hope you live the rest of your life with your naivete intact. It would be lovely to just know the 'nice' hoarders like this lady featured in the video and not be subject to the abusive, grandiose, control freak, scar-your-children kind.
@@jsabri6324 I don't know who you think you are or why you insist on insulting strangers on the internet because they have more compassion than you but news flash, you don't know any of these hoarders either! Be kind because everyone is fighting a battle you can't see!!!!
I don't care for this guy who is the organizer. You don't need to sit down and go over everything, do that as you are cleaning instead of wasting time. She already said she doesn't want a lot of these things.
The only hoarders I can't get along with is people who have to buy out everything in the grocery store I go for 2% milk oh look there is none meanwhile that guy has like 100 of them 😞
If a hoarder house would be emptied 100%, is the thing they are afraid of that they would have to be with themselves, accompanied only by their thoughts? Not one object or a thing to lose yourself to..
1 way to organize is completely empty 1 room. Decide the use of room. Put e'thing connected w/that use in that room & nothing else. Her house seems big enough to do that. My mom's house was. My tiny condo isn't.
Controll issues. Serious. Landlord could say he takes out the garage of the rentalagreement so she will have to clear it and confront her issues , so blessed she will be to be free of thinking in boxes.
Later doesn't come we need to break the cycle this really hit home literally buy a nicotinr vape and throw it away by the end of the day in the trash angerly and realize I want better
Did they just move all her stuff in the garage??? I am also a hoarder. And I get rid of stuff a lot to challenge myself. It’s very hard. But my apartment is only 390 ft.² and everyone I know actually has more stuff than I do….. so sometimes I wonder if I actually am a hoarder, or if my apartment is just too small. Plus most people I know have a storage locker when they have an apartment my size which I cannot afford a monthly fee.
Well addiction and other mental illness are hard to live with as the person suffering from it as well as loving the victim of it. Hopefully you'd find more empathy than you're displaying here. It's okay to be frustrated, but try and expand your way of thinking and empathy.
The main problem with hoarders is their brain is cluttered so their life is cluttered. EVERYTHING is important and EVERYTHING is valuable. In reality 90% of their hoard is cheap cheap cheap. They REFUSE to listen to a professional organizator. Their scrambled brain cannot phantom anything other than their own way of thinking which is why they're in the mess they are. They cannot let go of something as simple as a rubber band or paper clip. Their stuff is shuffled around from room to room or tossed in a garage; nothing is ever thrown away permanently.
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This woman needs to go to therapy to address her childhood trauma and issues. Bless her it’s like watching a very overwhelmed child
Totally. They really needed to have a therapist there for this one, along with the organizer. 😊😊
I agree I hope she’s doing well now
Yeah, this stuff almost always comes from trauma. I hope she improves. She seems like a sweet lady. Just very anxious
Like a child in an adult body. My heart goes out ro her.
🥺🙏🏼
Growing up - I didn't realize "hoarders" existed. I just lived in constant stress and shame about my mother's home.
Sigh. I’m 😢. And to think you were very Farr from alone too. So many folks suffer with mental illness. It’s getting better.. we are trying to take away the stigma so ppl can get help. There is no shame. I understand. I have a number of my own issues I work on and that shame poison creeps in like a venom.
I send you love and healing. May you be well and comforted 🩷
@@commonsense571 thank you ❤️❤️❤️
Same.
@@drumminwoman5646 ❤️❤️❤️
I still have slight hoarding tendencies but, my home has never been the filth-ridden house that I grew up in. I recently purged and am proud to say that all I have is what a normal person would own. 66 y.o. and I'm finally free!
This poor woman, I feel like I’m seeing a little girl in a grown woman’s body. I hope she’s doing really well and progressing.
Yes same I hope she’s doing well, I felt rlly bad 4 her
@@t.e.m.i7364 She's refusing therapy so..........
"Maybe I'll just keep the scriptures"
"You have all the scriptures in the bible"
Lmao what a comeback
To cut up a used book is one thing. I do art Journaling, and I do it all the time. But a brand new book? No, Tara...give it away. Also religious paraphernalia is a big clutter item.
"Maybe someone who doesn't know Jesus can have that" 😂
Brendan is so soft spoken and gentle with this lady. Love that. I watch these shows where they force time limit's which causes people involved to snap at the hoarder. Hoarders like familiarity. Their world is their home. Their junk is tied to a sense of loss in life. Its not a 2-day process. Too bad she didn't take the therapy deal. Therapy can be painful but does help a person realize why they are messed up.
I have come to the point where I want to get rid of the things I've hoarded with the intention of upcycling and just never done it...I need to declutter before I become a fully blown hoarder.
Two years ago I moved from a 1,100 square foot home to a 700 square foot apartment. I HAD to get rid of a lot, even though I was never a hoarder. It really made me think about what I needed and what I didn't. Lots of trips to Goodwill for sure! And I feel so much better about it-less for my kids when I "depart".
Hopefully she eventually got some help for her addiction. And sorted her home out.
When I cleaned up I found letters from 15 years ago in my cubord. And a trailer load of donations. Saving to sell online it’s annoying to upload then wait I put a full box of brand new items of clothing on for like 15 from this size to that size it sat for like 2 weeks no interest. I’m like out it goes I don’t want all this left in my house.
I easily go into eco-hoarding. My trick is just to make a quick craft from it, use it as my art therapy for the day, and I feel SO MUCH BETTER about getting rid of the upcycling materials the same day. I feel claustrophobic around clutter, and I also hate wasting. This is a win-win for me.
She reminds me of someone I used to work with, the non stop chatter was overwhelming and her mental state would deteriorate as the day went on, especially when she didn’t take her medication. It was exhausting to deal with.
I want to personally thank this show. My son (18) used to be so messy. Very messy. I always had to get onto him about cleaning up his room and bringing his dirty dishes out, etc.
One day, I noticed how clean everything was. Didn't say anything.
But he kept it immaculate.
He started getting involved in keeping the rest of the house clean.
One day not long ago, I asked him what happened. I pointed out he used to be filthy and why did he do a sudden about face and change.
He was about 10-12, and he came into the kitchen and I was watching "some show" where the house was full of trash and someone either died or almost died (he couldn't remember which) and he said that something clicked in his head that you will die if you don't keep stuff clean (I assume it was the episode where the older lady tied herself to a chair at night to sleep, slipped out and fell into her diapers and could have died) and he started keeping everything clean.
Now he's a bigger neat freak than I am. He gets annoyed if I accidentally bump something out of place in his room XD
Do you comment this on every Hoarders video?
@@Missab4000 thanks for noticing me, Senpai.
lol "thanks for traumatizing my son, he used to be so messy, but now hes a neat freak and has a panic attack if theres a mess!"
god, shes stuck at whatever young age she got traumatized at. so sad
That's what it seems like. Something hurt her, and all this stuff is a cocoon.
@@teresahegerich8835That’s EXACTLY how it was for me. I was 10. Unpacking it now at 18. 🫶🏻
My parents are Hoarders and I understand the stress of living with them. Not being able to throw out the simple stuff they weren't using.
the teddy bear poster at 2:56 is the same one that I stared at in my school nurses office waiting to be picked up while throwing up
Gabor Mate, Psychiatrist is an amazing resource for all of us. Something happened during childhood , a trauma. It might have been something we’d not even notice. It’s core issues are she felt unseen and unheard by her parent(s). She does need therapy but it has to relate to coping skills. Learning new way to handle stress, feeling overwhelmed. She’s aware and wants to change. Physical problems connected to this. Positives in her life are her friends, she has a job and she’s seeking help. The man was so supportive and kind. His approach to her was so good!! Her friends were really supportive. 😢😢
bless her heart but the near constant stream-of-consciousness chatter makes me so anxious
What a patient man helping her. She needs therapy.
The ONE and ONLY thing she needs is a good therapist!!
It amazes me how many hoarders claim to be collectors but true collectors know you have to store the collectibles properly or it is a pointless money losing exercise.
Hi. I understand your feeling about teddy bears I’m 77 and still have my teddy he was all I had to really love and he loved me back with out any nonsense,
God bless you I bet you have a kind beautiful heart. Lots of love and good wishes from Carol in Queensland Australia.
.🙏❤️
Hanging on to and purchasing Teddy bears to help you is a level of emotional immaturity that is rather sad. Unfortunately it's common amongst hoarders. This person has never gotten past her childhood traumas and is living with them in her adulthood. She has become her mother because it's all she knows. To change would take an enormous effort on her part as she would have to reject a huge part of herself. I don't find these shows entertaining, I find them sad for the most part.
She should think if she gets evicted she can’t take all those belongings with her…..!
Be nice if it worked that way.
When people get evicted or move and can’t take things with them in my neighborhood you see all their stuff out on the street. It’s honestly the thing I need to see to keep my consumption at bay. That and estate sales.
I think she has arrested development, Tara is very childlike and most kids do not have the perception or grasp of reality adults do.
What kind of hoarders is this? I've never seen one like this before! Where are the therapists, organizers and clean up crews?! I need Dr zazzio!! 😁😁
Did that grown woman really just say " ooh I need my address I forgot where I live"??!! She obviously has other issues than hoarding!!
She probably couldn't bring in the funds for the whole shabang... Plus she lives in an apartment, so I'm sure there were legalities for how many people could be there and no dumpsters type thing.
It was the third episode of the first season
She has friends who love and care about her. She should think about which is more important 🤔.
They are usually very self involved, mentally I’ll ppl usually can’t see beyond themselves
I've seen Tara around town. Good for her!
Omg how is she doin tday
Children will do what they see their parents do. Plain and simple.
Not always, I never did. My mother was not a hoarder, but would have hysterics if something was a tiny bit out of place, I have never done that.
Or, they will overcorrect and do the exact opposite to an unhealthy extreme. My grandmother was an abusive minimalist, so now my mom hoards.
Tara really needs psychotherapy!
“Later _is_ _now_ “
But what is tomorrow, but yesterdays today
Sweet woman. Needs to be loved.
It's difficult to watch people abuse themselves.
This lady may have trauma but it feels like she has adhd too.
This case really shows how important a good team from the programme is there at the time. She would have benefited greatly from the psychologist as well as the professional hoarding organiser being there As well as the clean up teams. Poor lady has some rough issues but wonderful friends to help her and support her ❤
Every time I watch an episode I get rid of more stuff!,
Me too, I got infected by „Hoarders“ 😂😂😂. Down with the clutter 👍
I couldnt cope with that woman
That poor woman. Hope she accepted help.😢
At least she's just cluttery and not dirty.
This might be the most rational and self aware hoarder I've ever seen
Totally! And genuinely self-aware. Not hiding behind pseudobabble that another "self-aware" hoarder used.
I'm so tired of hearing Dorothy's "Hi!" at the end of these.
It's awful. Totally inappropriate and annoying.
I'm shocked she refused therapy she seemed to work with the show's therapist really well but he needed to push her a little more. She def. had trauma when talking about that teddy bear. If you noticed she liked to collect kid like stuff, comic books, bears, precious moments, mcdonald's toys
I felt so sorry for this poor woman.
I ask though how come people don't feel sorry for every hoarder
If you ever meet a narcissist hoarder - and there are plenty featured on this show - you'll know why.
My father in law is a narcissist hoarder. I feel very sorry for his wife and sons.
I feel bad for most but not all deserve sympathy if they are bad people and subjected their families to immense pain
@@alexcanning5383 but they all have a sickness. It's very sad that you all cherry pick who deserves sympathy and who doesn't.
@@theladyoftheinvisibleempire I truly hope you live the rest of your life with your naivete intact.
It would be lovely to just know the 'nice' hoarders like this lady featured in the video and not be subject to the abusive, grandiose, control freak, scar-your-children kind.
@@jsabri6324 I don't know who you think you are or why you insist on insulting strangers on the internet because they have more compassion than you but news flash, you don't know any of these hoarders either! Be kind because everyone is fighting a battle you can't see!!!!
I don't care for this guy who is the organizer. You don't need to sit down and go over everything, do that as you are cleaning instead of wasting time. She already said she doesn't want a lot of these things.
The hoard is not the worst I've seen but this is the clearest example of the mental aspect of Hoarding.
Cardboard boxes all over. Flatten them and recycle all but 3. I notice HSN boxes, too. Sort needs from wants. Tina, Al's wife
She still has a child’s mind it’s so super cute I hope she’s doing well today God bless her🥺🫶🏼🙏🏼❤️
Too bad the woman doesn't collect shelves to display her collections.
The only hoarders I can't get along with is people who have to buy out everything in the grocery store I go for 2% milk oh look there is none meanwhile that guy has like 100 of them 😞
If a hoarder house would be emptied 100%, is the thing they are afraid of that they would have to be with themselves, accompanied only by their thoughts?
Not one object or a thing to lose yourself to..
1 way to organize is completely empty 1 room. Decide the use of room. Put e'thing connected w/that use in that room & nothing else. Her house seems big enough to do that. My mom's house was. My tiny condo isn't.
Controll issues. Serious. Landlord could say he takes out the garage of the rentalagreement so she will have to clear it and confront her issues , so blessed she will be to be free of thinking in boxes.
She needs a psychologist, not an organizer. Moving things from one box to another in another room does nothing.
Later doesn't come we need to break the cycle this really hit home literally buy a nicotinr vape and throw it away by the end of the day in the trash angerly and realize I want better
I have a whole box of stuffed animals too.
I love plushies too, i am 38 years old
A & E come to my house and see if I’m one 😢
Seeing you have a problem is the first step to recovery at least she knows she has a problem
I can understand her completely, I'm going thru something very similar. It is terrible to be this way.
So we’re no longer using therapists in the show. This isn’t gonna work.
I am an avid minimalist. These shows just drive me crazy. I was yelling at the video for her to get rid of the TV and entertainment center!
I must say her stuff is cute. The kind of stuff I liked when I was a teen.
Leave the bears alone 😢🐻
Even in the state of the house at the end I'll pass on the movie invite
Did they just move all her stuff in the garage??? I am also a hoarder. And I get rid of stuff a lot to challenge myself. It’s very hard. But my apartment is only 390 ft.² and everyone I know actually has more stuff than I do….. so sometimes I wonder if I actually am a hoarder, or if my apartment is just too small. Plus most people I know have a storage locker when they have an apartment my size which I cannot afford a monthly fee.
Lazy sad excuse
I can't even finish watching, this woman is such a diva. They say they want help, but they really don't want anything gone.
There’s a controlling, selfish person under that soft, childish exterior.
There really is no cure …. If you watch the revisiting a year later episodes it’s back to the way it was to begin with
If she is able to keep her house clean, has the funds etc. maybe she should get a cat or dog, something that shows her love as well.
These people are so infuriating. She has better friends than me because I’d walk away so fast
Well addiction and other mental illness are hard to live with as the person suffering from it as well as loving the victim of it. Hopefully you'd find more empathy than you're displaying here. It's okay to be frustrated, but try and expand your way of thinking and empathy.
Must be Scorpio
@@SteveWondered-nt9vjImagine basing your personality on horoscopes.🤡
No I just can't🤦
She seems soft and childlike, but she’s actually quite controlling.
The main problem with hoarders is their brain is cluttered so their life is cluttered. EVERYTHING is important and EVERYTHING is valuable. In reality 90% of their hoard is cheap cheap cheap. They REFUSE to listen to a professional organizator. Their scrambled brain cannot phantom anything other than their own way of thinking which is why they're in the mess they are. They cannot let go of something as simple as a rubber band or paper clip. Their stuff is shuffled around from room to room or tossed in a garage; nothing is ever thrown away permanently.
I've seen hoarders in these clips fight to hold on to a piece of paper soaked in mouse urine, every item is precious whatever condition it is in 😬
@MargaretUK Oh yeah. They hadn't seen or thought of it in years, but now it's precious.
Wow
Who's paying these people to clean this up?
Is this an early episode? Nothing like most of the episodes... not as good!
Light level..🤔
2008
That guy sucks. Where is the TEAM, Corey, Matt, Dr Z etc lol
This episode sucked!!! Wheres the old gang?
Most people who "don't know Jesus" have done so by choice. Why can't people just respect other people's religions?
I just want her to have all teddy bears in the world if that makes her happy.
Exactly what a hoarder does NOT need 😅
ONE🐻 is quite enough! 😅
'People back in my days didn't have autism' Yeah right
Okay, so why is there no sound???
Ai ai ai dios mio my comic strips 😢😢😢😢 grow up and go home
Wow, a different side of Michael that we never saw. Not nice, shame on him
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Remind me... Who pays the hoarders for the thousads of dollars worth of stuff they bin?
SHE DOES NOT STOP TALKING!! Waaaay too much vocab. She's chaos. Sad...