This is divine timing. Quit my job, went to Jamaica for 11 days, and now I’m resting my body. Recovering from the toxic jobs that I’ve had past 9 years. Thank you Alecia, for reminding us that there’s more to life 💛💛💛
@AleciaRenece I just want to say thank you, Sis. for this broadcast; in light of everything that recently happened with our sister Sonya Massey we need to know it's ok to take break.💐💕
I clocked out of work and sat on my couch and listened to music for two hours. And now ordering food and relaxing ! I’m tired ❤🫠😂 hope to see your on tour !!
@@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! I'm listening to music tooooo! 🥹🫂💛 It's like a massage for my senses. I am so sorry you be tired 🫂🌃🌺🌼 what's for dinner? (I'm bout to get butter chicken ☺️). I'm wishing you a sweet sleep, deep rest and that you rise tomorrow we'll rested. 🛌🏾🌃💛🫂
"to be seen as normal, we have to always be doing." the questions we get to start every conversation: what are you doing, what are you up to, what did you do today...then when you tell them "i'm not doing anything, just laying on the couch", you almost feel guilty saying it. when did it become a crime to relax?
@@CamJames Hiiiiiiiii! 👋🏾☺️🌻 Yeeeeeeeeeees! Exactly. This. We've been programmed and conditioned to fear being still... Or being "caught" not working (I'm sure this stems from the trauma or slavery and Capitalism). I planning on making a part two of this video because that guilt and shame is not natural. It breaks my heart. Even when I'm sitting still I'm always like "... is there something I should be doing?!" smh 😔
I 💯percent agree that hardworking people are usually rewarded with more work instead of more pay. Once my boss saw that I can accomplish all the tasks he gave me well, he gave me another supervisor's work to do, and I'm tired.
Yes!!! I feel this completely. I am in nursing school full time and working as a Cna full time. Girl…last week I quit my job. I decided to withdraw all my 401k and just take a break for a month. I’m tired and burnt out.
@@deescorpio8454 I'm so glad that you did what you had to do to take good care of your self. So many people would muscle through. That is SO muuuuuch 🥺🌻🌼🌺 you deserve rest. You deserve peace. Money comes and goes, your health and well being is most important 🫂🫶🏾🥹
I wish I could do this. I am starting law school next month and work in the court system full-time. It's part of my overall goal, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't tired.
Not gonna lie, I woke up today almost sick with anxiety and stress. Trying to bounce back and find employment and balance the burnout that has been with me since college. I realized that all I wanted to do today was my nails to make me feel like myself again, so today I’m gonna lay down and paint these pretty ass nails! 💙🧿💙
I have been told that I was lazy, not pro-active, and many times. Family members are saying I should take another job to make more money. I am mentally exhausted from my current job. It’s hard to unlearn that I’m not lazy, when you are told that all day.
@@Topg1 it's so difficult. Especially around people who continue to gaslight and disrespect you. You are NOT lazy. I'm sending you so much love!!! 🫂🌻💛🌺 And REST.
I got looked at crazy for checking out 40 plus books from the library. The notion we are suppose to always be working, buying or paying is insane. People will say, you don’t have time to read. Imagine if someone nurtured peace over stress
You are very right about everything and I have experienced all of this. One of my co-workers was going through a sad situation and was crying really hard at work, though she still was trying to do her job. Most everyone stopped doing their task to look at her. Some of us asked her what was wrong. Clearly she was grieving or something else horrible had happened in her life. One of her friends at work convinced her to go home to handle whatever situation she was going through. She was sobbing horribly at this point. Management was present and saw the entire situation from the start. They asked her nothing nor had words of comfort. The woman told them she needed to go because something had happened. They just looked at her and said no objections but also had no reaction. After the woman walked out one supervisor said in an annoying tone, "She could have at least finished her shift." I looked at the chick and shook my head. She had no emotions about that woman's sadness and that sickened me. Yep, the management and corporations at these jobs don't care about us.
@@virtualinlife1996 oh wow. That is absolutely AWFUL. 😮💨🥺💔 I am so sorry that happened and they reacted like that to her. How inconsiderate and unkind. 🫂🫂🫂 Thank you so much for sharing this with us. These jobs really don't care about us. They don't see us as human beings with emotions or feelings. It's so unfortunate.
Each time I start feeling down a video like this pops up. I've worked since 15 and now I'm 47. I'm also still raising my second child. I feel guilty for doing the bare minimum. How'd I get so lazy?? No ma'am. I've realized my body is recovering and healing itself for me and my ancestors.
I got called lazy growing up constantly. Mover out really young and was on a path for a long time trying to prove I was not. I find now: am deeply tired.
Nope, checked out from being a mental health counselor in 2021 and it was the BEST DECISON EVER. Now I spend my days doing embroidery, doing research on textiles and new stitch work, tend to my plants, or stare out the window admiring the trees and birds. At first, I felt guilty and lazy, but now I'm like to heck with that, I paid my dues. I have earned this life. People that make 4 times what I make in a year tell me how jealous they are of me, because even though they make a lot of money, it goes out just as fast as they make it. People think I am rich and have a large amount of money stashed, because they see how I live. Nope, I paid off bills before I retired from the military, I saved a little bit for emergencies and I live within my means, and just chill. I thought about doing some part time work just because, and as soon as I logged into INDEED, I got a migraine. Nope, logged off and picked up my embroidery hoop. I have found peace and nothing or no one will take it from me.
I’m right there with you…retired from working for over 40 years in education and at first felt like I should still be doing stuff, like I was wasting time even tho I earned the right to sit my ass down. It pisses me off when folks ask me what am I doing with my time. When I say not much they look at me like I’m crazy, like I’m supposed to still fill up my days even when I don’t have to…took me over two years to be okay with just doing what my energy allows me to do. If that’s sit and veg out, so be it…
The song at the end is a bop. But wow, I find that the older generations project this idea of laziness the most because it’s what they’ve been engrained to believe. I can’t imagine the amount of work and self sacrifice they’ve had to make just for a little bit of stability. But they too have to understand that they were robbed of true freedom, which is rest! And stop calling the younger generations lazy for doing the unlearning work.
I haven't worked consistently in awhile and get questioned on that quite a bit. Today at a free craft event got asked point blank what do I do. I stated I have fun and enjoy life. Even after shared do not work regularly they asked what my regular job is 😅
At times I think - let me works as hard as I can for the next 5 years or so. The end goal being financially stable enough... to be able to slow down 🤷🏾♀️ Even as I type it, I know this makes no sense. But at the same time, I fear for the future. Can I live with bare minimum? Personally, I don't mind. But what if the bare minimum is no longer enough in the future? How about my family? How can I contribute to their well-being with bare minimum? How can I prepare for an emergency with bare minimum? The world we live in 😣
Hustle culture is John Henryism. This me reflect on my mother and father. But specifically my father who is 78 blind with dementia. He worked all his life to be laid up in a nursing home unable to enjoy life. Working now to save for retirement age to be in a state where your retirement is paid to nursing home is vexing. That song is priceless 😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
YES. This. Also, I am so sorry to hear about your father. I'm sending you and your family love and comfort. You're absolutely right! And thank you so much for being so kind. I sincerely appreciate you.
My first semester in college, the night before finals, everyone was staying up late, cramming. I went to sleep. Back then I was like nope, that makes no sense to exhaust myself and burn myself out.
I negotiated remote work and have been able to travel, explore and work at my own pace. That office life is over! I feel so much more relaxed. Thank you for this message ❤
Thank you for this!!! I am burnt out and angry!! Exhausted.. Trauma after Trauma in my personal life and I had to keep going because the bills needed to be paid.. Much Love Sis!!🌹🌹✨✨
Oh Gosh! This speaks to me! After overworking my entire life, from I was 15, then college & working in my early 20s. I struggled in my late 20s & thirties to cope with working & an inability to sleep, etc, etc, etc. In 2015, I could go no longer. I ended up disabled, & despite starting many projects, I have never been able to follow through/ complete anything. And now struggle with poverty etc.... Sigh
@@adayinthelight7575 absolutely! Nothing wrong with having a degree or doing great things. I celebrate you. I also celebrate your rest, your being and your joys! 🥰🫂💛🌻🌺🫶🏾 You deserve so many of the good things.
I quit my job 2 weeks ago. In between times of mild panic I remind myself that I don’t need to be in a hurry to do anything. I was lying in bed with intentions of taking a nap when I saw this video. It was so timely. And the song at the end lulled me off to sleep. I woke up to rewind back to the song so I could drift off again. I need a get that on a hour long loop😂🎶💤❤️ Thank you!!!!
I've been resting for the last 3months after being on the grind for the last 10 years. Sometimes working 7 days a week FT and usually 2 jobs. Some work environments are taxing on your mental, emotional and physical health.
I've always thought this as a kid growing up. Idk if it's a creative thing or like being on the fringes of society in various ways but I've never been able to fully buy into hustle culture. We're so much more than our work. I'm reupping on my nap hobby again. Rest is my right.
I had this convo the other day. I've been getting up very early since pre school so my mom could go to work and then off to school. We've all been programmed to give our energy and time at an early age.
I FEEL THIS. I literally had a moment today where I checked in with my body & was like wow… my nervous system is FRIED & EYE am tired. & I just had to give myself a moment to feel that completely & allow it. I’ve also been trying to rewrite the belief that my worth is tied to my accolades & productivity. Because I notice myself placing an unnecessary expectation & pressure on myself that is exhausting. & it’s tricky bc that belief is so subconscious sometimes I don’t even notice it happening. But yes this message was needed & that song was very soothing, thank you 💜
I found I’m personally in a better mood when I sleep and rest as needed, and interact with others when I feel like. I understand not everyone has that privilege but the fact of the matter is getting rest as you need it will improve your life.
Watching this at 2:16AM after spending my entire work day yesterday (the entire day) on the literal verge of tears. I got no sleep Monday night and wanted nothing more than to rest and slowly pack as my time runs out to stay where I am currently living. I spent yesterday so sad because of fatigue (on every level). I came home at 7:30pm and didn't make it past the couch. Now I'm scrolling the internet in the middle of the night. This video is right on time for me! I think I'm going to sleep good for the last few hours of my night after watching this. Thank you for the permission to admit I am tired AF!
This hands down is the best channel on TH-cam. It’s real, authentic, and very informative. Especially because the world is changing and dreary. For a person who is in his 30s it definitely makes sense
Thank you for sharing! ❤ I woke up and booked an hour-long yin yoga class. Afterward, I felt so relieved. Then, I had lunch, taking my time to savor every flavor instead of eating on the go. Those 2 1/2 hours I thought I didn't have but now my peace is restored. 😌😮💨
Your saying what I've been saying for a decade now. I'm tired of playing the game it's boring, exhausting and a waste of my damn time. I wish I could escape the game. It's worst knowing your in a game and that you cannot escape because you have to survive
ALECIA THIS SPEAKS TO MY SOUL!!! I literally said I'm just going to accept that I am a lazy person...not really taking into account that we are all exhausted!!
Awwwwwww! It's my absolute pleasure. 💛💛💛 Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for sharing so much kindness with me. Much love and joy to yooooou! 🫂🥹🥰💛🌺🌼🌻
I work full time, but they tell us to come in at 9-5 Fridays so they don’t have to pay benefits. So I forget that sometimes while trying to maintain a schedule and I arrive at the usual 8 by mistake. So last time that happened, I just went to explore the library. I love doing that except when I run into books spelling out why I’m having so many problems lol.
This is so on point right now. I took the summer semester off from school (still working full time) and doing any other obligations. I cannot believe how incredibly depleted and drained I am. It's been almost 4 weeks and I still feel burnt to a crisp. I was initially pushing myself to leap into my "personal" to do list, but I've backed off of that. I'm prescribing myself 3 months of slow living and doing what I can, not pushing past my limits.
OMG! I feel like you wrote this literally for me! I can relate. I am 4 weeks into my summer break of what I can only describe as one of my most mentally and emotionally draining work years yet(educator…need I say more) and I have a personal to do list that I am currently failing at miserably. I to have just decided to give myself grace and just enjoy some slow living. I’m currently sitting on my balcony enjoying the view. It’s been my favorite way to relax. Although I must say, I’m still not completely rejuvenated as I continue to lose sleep and worry about the things that I have yet to get done in my personal life; deep cleaning, paying bills, backlogged doctors appointments, unfinished projects, connecting w/family that misses you because you’ve put them off all during the work year…and so much more. There is never enough time to do it all and please everyone. The more you try, the more you feel like you’ve failed somewhere. Life balance is hard and I hope to one day figure it out. But for now, this video and your comment at least allows me to give myself grace and know that I’m not alone. Also, most importantly I’m not lazy, I’m just tired. Blessings to you. I pray your current pause for some slow living rejuvenates your mind, body and soul so that you can continue to move forward with a more renewed since of self.
Thank U, 4 this vid. I've felt SOOO Alone in this respect. U R made 2 Shame yoself & H8 yoself bcuz How Dare You Not Work Harder & Grind & be Obsess with becoming a Success. I just wanna Be. Be me, with flaws & imperfections & Be OK with it. So, Thanx 4 this vid bcuz I've been dealing with these feelings for some yrs...Thank U😊
I was told that I needed to do more around the house by a mf who was retired and home all day. Oh, and he was unseasoned, too. I was working full time and trying to carve out time for myself to take care of myself. Every day, even though my check barely covers anything, I'm so glad I moved.
This week I been exhausted because of my job. It’s been a lot going on, a lot of changes, and a lot more meetings this week than I normally have. So yes I’m both physically and mentally exhausted. Thank God I don’t have to deal with this next week and I’m using my PTO next Thursday and Friday.
Thank you for this video. I recently just came to this realization and this past week I have been unapologetic about resting. We can literally kill ourselves because of stress/exhaustion.
Nuanced is the very least that this conversation is. I am having so many thoughts right now, just listening to this conversation, and I start to wonder about how this message is being delivered in other circles, and how it is being received by the people that need it most. Thank you for this Alecia, it is always awesome to awaken to your insights.
WHEEEEWWW !!!! Drop the f’ing mic!!!!!! 😫 I literally talk to myself about this in my head (at work) all the time!l 4:36 !!! This doesn’t make any sense at all.
I currently work overnight while being a full time student. Lol I tell myself all the time I’m so tired and everyone looks at me like I’m crazy for choosing rest . I noticed they don’t realize or acknowledge my working so hard 24/7 but be so quick to notice one day I take off to recoup. I’m so ready to quit my job but my fear of not having enough to pay my bills or hearing my mom in my ear about me being a quitter I’ve just been holding it off but definitely making it to the breaking point. So for me, my rest looks like quitting honestly and just being free for at least two weeks
@@caroline1557 Awwwwww! Thank you so muuuuch! I really had a lot of fun creating this song. It expressed how exhausted I am. 😅☺️💛🥰🌻🌺 Thank you so much for even listening. I hope you're having marvelous evening.
The part about higher ups making the most abd having the most leisure time.... I see this everyday at my job. A lot of the managers where I am are in meetings most days. I somehow got to see what they make a month and had to fight feeling like a failure.
Got fired from my job recently. I’ve been trying to get ADA accommodations from my job cuz it was hard for me to go to work everyday due to my disability. I had struggles to get my diagnosis papers or get a physician and because of that I got fired. I felt so ashamed that I wasn’t able to keep up especially as a bw I’m expected to be a fucking work horse. It sucks. But now I have enough money saved aside to take a break from work for at least a month. And it’s so hard not to shame myself for resting and not doing anything productive even tho I’ve been craving rest since I started the job.
I felt like I wasn’t doing enough to reach my goals and become the person I always envisioned, then I realized I am just TIRED. I’m overworked, underpaid, and just exhausted. Thank you for this video. I’m letting go and deciding to rest.
This was very comforting. I'm taking on full time studies after being ill for an extended period of time. The pressure is intense. I needed to be reminded not to burn myself out unnecessarily, so thank you! Also, your singing voice is, and has always been so beautiful.
I am so tired I want to cry.
I'm tired too and I am crying!!!
This is divine timing. Quit my job, went to Jamaica for 11 days, and now I’m resting my body. Recovering from the toxic jobs that I’ve had past 9 years. Thank you Alecia, for reminding us that there’s more to life 💛💛💛
Good for you!
@@sillybaby1990 yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Congratulations! I love this for you!!! Continue to rest and recover. I'm sending you so much love. 💛🌻🫂🌺
Laziness doesn't exist. No one can prove that to me. There is ALWAYS a reason. Laziness is a calvinist, capitalist plot.
I am with you. It's used to shame others and force us to "work hard".
Laziness exists…
@@fatsani27 we'll talk more about that later. ☺️💛
Yes
Not calvinist too!😂
The reason why I get home from work and open a coloring book 😂
Great idea; Im gonna get coloring book and crayons!
@@PeukinsPoint Yeeeeeeeeeees! I love thiiiiiiiiis 🥹🤸🏾♀️✨💕
@AleciaRenece I just want to say thank you, Sis. for this broadcast; in light of everything that recently happened with our sister Sonya Massey we need to know it's ok to take break.💐💕
I clocked out of work and sat on my couch and listened to music for two hours. And now ordering food and relaxing ! I’m tired ❤🫠😂 hope to see your on tour !!
@@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!! I'm listening to music tooooo! 🥹🫂💛 It's like a massage for my senses. I am so sorry you be tired 🫂🌃🌺🌼 what's for dinner? (I'm bout to get butter chicken ☺️). I'm wishing you a sweet sleep, deep rest and that you rise tomorrow we'll rested. 🛌🏾🌃💛🫂
Hope you enjoyed it❤
"to be seen as normal, we have to always be doing."
the questions we get to start every conversation: what are you doing, what are you up to, what did you do today...then when you tell them "i'm not doing anything, just laying on the couch", you almost feel guilty saying it. when did it become a crime to relax?
@@CamJames Hiiiiiiiii! 👋🏾☺️🌻 Yeeeeeeeeeees! Exactly. This. We've been programmed and conditioned to fear being still... Or being "caught" not working (I'm sure this stems from the trauma or slavery and Capitalism).
I planning on making a part two of this video because that guilt and shame is not natural. It breaks my heart.
Even when I'm sitting still I'm always like "... is there something I should be doing?!" smh 😔
@@CamJames also... You hit the nail on the head. It was literally illegal to rest. 💔
Agreed
I refuse to move up in my company. I don't give a d*mn about 'growth'. I want to take my lil calls and watch my lil TH-cam and then clock out. 🤷🏾♀️
I 💯percent agree that hardworking people are usually rewarded with more work instead of more pay. Once my boss saw that I can accomplish all the tasks he gave me well, he gave me another supervisor's work to do, and I'm tired.
Have noticed that too in jobs.
Yes!!! I feel this completely. I am in nursing school full time and working as a Cna full time. Girl…last week I quit my job. I decided to withdraw all my 401k and just take a break for a month. I’m tired and burnt out.
@@deescorpio8454 I'm so glad that you did what you had to do to take good care of your self. So many people would muscle through. That is SO muuuuuch 🥺🌻🌼🌺 you deserve rest. You deserve peace. Money comes and goes, your health and well being is most important 🫂🫶🏾🥹
Travel for a month international and care for yourself 😊
Yessss❤take care of you
Idk you but I'm proud of you ❤
I wish I could do this. I am starting law school next month and work in the court system full-time. It's part of my overall goal, but I would be lying if I said I wasn't tired.
Not gonna lie, I woke up today almost sick with anxiety and stress. Trying to bounce back and find employment and balance the burnout that has been with me since college. I realized that all I wanted to do today was my nails to make me feel like myself again, so today I’m gonna lay down and paint these pretty ass nails! 💙🧿💙
I ESPECIALLY dont understand why our culture over works doctors. I want a Doctor thats rested.
No frrr staying up late makes me sick I’d rather wake up early after a good nights rest
Saaaaaame here! I LOVE Early mornings, but one thing about me? Imma go to sleep. LOL! I'm sending you so much love! ☺️✨🌒🌸🫂
I have been told that I was lazy, not pro-active, and many times. Family members are saying I should take another job to make more money. I am mentally exhausted from my current job. It’s hard to unlearn that I’m not lazy, when you are told that all day.
Mental exhaustion is worst than physical exhaustion.
@@ltiya75islearning82 Wow. Never thought about it like that. Having ADHD/autism diagnosis as an adult makes me very mentally exhausted.
@@Topg1 it's so difficult. Especially around people who continue to gaslight and disrespect you. You are NOT lazy. I'm sending you so much love!!! 🫂🌻💛🌺 And REST.
I got looked at crazy for checking out 40 plus books from the library. The notion we are suppose to always be working, buying or paying is insane. People will say, you don’t have time to read. Imagine if someone nurtured peace over stress
❤ that you checked out so many books!!!!! I usually have many checked out at a time too!
You are very right about everything and I have experienced all of this. One of my co-workers was going through a sad situation and was crying really hard at work, though she still was trying to do her job. Most everyone stopped doing their task to look at her. Some of us asked her what was wrong. Clearly she was grieving or something else horrible had happened in her life. One of her friends at work convinced her to go home to handle whatever situation she was going through. She was sobbing horribly at this point. Management was present and saw the entire situation from the start. They asked her nothing nor had words of comfort. The woman told them she needed to go because something had happened. They just looked at her and said no objections but also had no reaction. After the woman walked out one supervisor said in an annoying tone, "She could have at least finished her shift." I looked at the chick and shook my head. She had no emotions about that woman's sadness and that sickened me. Yep, the management and corporations at these jobs don't care about us.
@@virtualinlife1996 oh wow. That is absolutely AWFUL. 😮💨🥺💔 I am so sorry that happened and they reacted like that to her. How inconsiderate and unkind. 🫂🫂🫂 Thank you so much for sharing this with us. These jobs really don't care about us. They don't see us as human beings with emotions or feelings. It's so unfortunate.
Each time I start feeling down a video like this pops up. I've worked since 15 and now I'm 47. I'm also still raising my second child. I feel guilty for doing the bare minimum. How'd I get so lazy?? No ma'am. I've realized my body is recovering and healing itself for me and my ancestors.
This is the one... i dont want to die exhausted...
I got called lazy growing up constantly. Mover out really young and was on a path for a long time trying to prove I was not. I find now: am deeply tired.
Nope, checked out from being a mental health counselor in 2021 and it was the BEST DECISON EVER. Now I spend my days doing embroidery, doing research on textiles and new stitch work, tend to my plants, or stare out the window admiring the trees and birds. At first, I felt guilty and lazy, but now I'm like to heck with that, I paid my dues. I have earned this life. People that make 4 times what I make in a year tell me how jealous they are of me, because even though they make a lot of money, it goes out just as fast as they make it. People think I am rich and have a large amount of money stashed, because they see how I live. Nope, I paid off bills before I retired from the military, I saved a little bit for emergencies and I live within my means, and just chill. I thought about doing some part time work just because, and as soon as I logged into INDEED, I got a migraine. Nope, logged off and picked up my embroidery hoop. I have found peace and nothing or no one will take it from me.
I’m right there with you…retired from working for over 40 years in education and at first felt like I should still be doing stuff, like I was wasting time even tho I earned the right to sit my ass down. It pisses me off when folks ask me what am I doing with my time. When I say not much they look at me like I’m crazy, like I’m supposed to still fill up my days even when I don’t have to…took me over two years to be okay with just doing what my energy allows me to do. If that’s sit and veg out, so be it…
"For what, for who, for WHY"
Beautifully said
I’m about to go to sleep!!
@@adayinthelight7575 yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! Sleep well! Sweet dreeeams 🥹🤗🌃
🗣️ *SPEAK ON IT!!!* Thank you. 🙌🏾
The song at the end is a bop. But wow, I find that the older generations project this idea of laziness the most because it’s what they’ve been engrained to believe. I can’t imagine the amount of work and self sacrifice they’ve had to make just for a little bit of stability. But they too have to understand that they were robbed of true freedom, which is rest! And stop calling the younger generations lazy for doing the unlearning work.
I am going to swim after work because it feels good. Thank you for the reminder.
Ughhhh..... You are speaking to my spirit 😢 I'm so tired
@@wakeupmakeupslay 🫂🫂🫂🌺🌻💛🌼🥺 same here. I'm sending you so much love, nourishment and Deeeep rest. You work so hard.
You spoke the words my body has felt for a long time but couldnt convey
🤩🎶 "Working hard, from 9 to 5, to put food on my table and stay alive..." 🎶 🤩
This song is on repeat on my head for quite some time now 😍
@@MsFadir Awwwwwwww!!!!! 🫂🌻🌺🌼🥰💛 Thank you so much for listening to my aooooong 🥰🥹🫂🌻😘🫶🏾 I hope you're having a beautiful evening!
@@AleciaRenece Thank YOU!
Love you your voice, your style... your songs!
Have a nice evening Alecia 😊
Certainly in my head often!
Nice song at the very end girl😊
I haven't worked consistently in awhile and get questioned on that quite a bit. Today at a free craft event got asked point blank what do I do. I stated I have fun and enjoy life. Even after shared do not work regularly they asked what my regular job is 😅
At times I think - let me works as hard as I can for the next 5 years or so. The end goal being financially stable enough... to be able to slow down 🤷🏾♀️
Even as I type it, I know this makes no sense.
But at the same time, I fear for the future. Can I live with bare minimum? Personally, I don't mind. But what if the bare minimum is no longer enough in the future? How about my family? How can I contribute to their well-being with bare minimum? How can I prepare for an emergency with bare minimum?
The world we live in 😣
This
I understand, this is part of the reason why I am not having children.
Love you Alecia! Thank you for this! ❤
Hustle culture is John Henryism. This me reflect on my mother and father. But specifically my father who is 78 blind with dementia. He worked all his life to be laid up in a nursing home unable to enjoy life. Working now to save for retirement age to be in a state where your retirement is paid to nursing home is vexing. That song is priceless 😊😊😊❤❤❤❤❤❤
YES. This. Also, I am so sorry to hear about your father. I'm sending you and your family love and comfort. You're absolutely right! And thank you so much for being so kind. I sincerely appreciate you.
@@AleciaRenece likewise to your appreciation ❤
My first semester in college, the night before finals, everyone was staying up late, cramming. I went to sleep. Back then I was like nope, that makes no sense to exhaust myself and burn myself out.
I wanna cry, you are such a blessing
Imma lollygag around while working from home 😂
Yes. We are exhausted everyday.
I negotiated remote work and have been able to travel, explore and work at my own pace. That office life is over! I feel so much more relaxed. Thank you for this message ❤
thank you for this.... I get so irritated with hyper-productivity content all over the internet...
Thank you for this!!! I am burnt out and angry!! Exhausted.. Trauma after Trauma in my personal life and I had to keep going because the bills needed to be paid.. Much Love Sis!!🌹🌹✨✨
Oh Gosh! This speaks to me! After overworking my entire life, from I was 15, then college & working in my early 20s. I struggled in my late 20s & thirties to cope with working & an inability to sleep, etc, etc, etc. In 2015, I could go no longer. I ended up disabled, & despite starting many projects, I have never been able to follow through/ complete anything. And now struggle with poverty etc.... Sigh
In other countries. They allow you to take naps while working and you get paid
Thanks!
This is awesome. Though I have a degree and make a decent living. I’m realizing that it’s about the small things in life.
@@adayinthelight7575 absolutely! Nothing wrong with having a degree or doing great things. I celebrate you. I also celebrate your rest, your being and your joys! 🥰🫂💛🌻🌺🫶🏾 You deserve so many of the good things.
@@AleciaReneceThank you for the reminder and confirmation in my thought process.
Was craving a new video from you. Wanted some rejuvenation ❤
Awwwwww! That's so kind! I really hope you find this helpful 🥹🥰🫂🌺💛
This is absolutely true 💜💜💜
Human being vs human doing
Thank you for this.
I'm so grateful for finding you 😢. I needed to hear this.
I take Naps 😴
I quit my job 2 weeks ago. In between times of mild panic I remind myself that I don’t need to be in a hurry to do anything. I was lying in bed with intentions of taking a nap when I saw this video. It was so timely. And the song at the end lulled me off to sleep. I woke up to rewind back to the song so I could drift off again. I need a get that on a hour long loop😂🎶💤❤️ Thank you!!!!
You are absolutely right, and I became aware of that a few years ago.
@@lejewelkcrigler4126 Yeeeeeeeeeees 🌼🌻💛🫂 we gotta be kind to ourselves.
Honey I’m just going to say it I LOVE you😊 you’re so dope. Thank you for wisdom ❤it’s truly appreciated.
I've been resting for the last 3months after being on the grind for the last 10 years.
Sometimes working 7 days a week FT and usually 2 jobs.
Some work environments are taxing on your mental, emotional and physical health.
I couldn't agree more.
I've always thought this as a kid growing up. Idk if it's a creative thing or like being on the fringes of society in various ways but I've never been able to fully buy into hustle culture. We're so much more than our work. I'm reupping on my nap hobby again. Rest is my right.
I like that nap hobbies ❤
I had this convo the other day. I've been getting up very early since pre school so my mom could go to work and then off to school. We've all been programmed to give our energy and time at an early age.
I FEEL THIS. I literally had a moment today where I checked in with my body & was like wow… my nervous system is FRIED & EYE am tired. & I just had to give myself a moment to feel that completely & allow it. I’ve also been trying to rewrite the belief that my worth is tied to my accolades & productivity. Because I notice myself placing an unnecessary expectation & pressure on myself that is exhausting. & it’s tricky bc that belief is so subconscious sometimes I don’t even notice it happening. But yes this message was needed & that song was very soothing, thank you 💜
All of THIS. 😔
I found I’m personally in a better mood when I sleep and rest as needed, and interact with others when I feel like. I understand not everyone has that privilege but the fact of the matter is getting rest as you need it will improve your life.
Watching this at 2:16AM after spending my entire work day yesterday (the entire day) on the literal verge of tears. I got no sleep Monday night and wanted nothing more than to rest and slowly pack as my time runs out to stay where I am currently living. I spent yesterday so sad because of fatigue (on every level). I came home at 7:30pm and didn't make it past the couch. Now I'm scrolling the internet in the middle of the night. This video is right on time for me! I think I'm going to sleep good for the last few hours of my night after watching this. Thank you for the permission to admit I am tired AF!
This hands down is the best channel on TH-cam. It’s real, authentic, and very informative. Especially because the world is changing and dreary. For a person who is in his 30s it definitely makes sense
Alecia, you are truly such a special gift! i’m so happy you exist! 🥰💕
WE ARE HUMAN BEINGS 😊
NOT HUMAN DOINGS!!!
Thank you for sharing! ❤ I woke up and booked an hour-long yin yoga class. Afterward, I felt so relieved. Then, I had lunch, taking my time to savor every flavor instead of eating on the go. Those 2 1/2 hours I thought I didn't have but now my peace is restored. 😌😮💨
Your saying what I've been saying for a decade now. I'm tired of playing the game it's boring, exhausting and a waste of my damn time. I wish I could escape the game. It's worst knowing your in a game and that you cannot escape because you have to survive
ALECIA THIS SPEAKS TO MY SOUL!!! I literally said I'm just going to accept that I am a lazy person...not really taking into account that we are all exhausted!!
True Sis, so True 👏🏾✨💖💖
@@mizrelmizrel 🫂💛🥰🌻🌺🌼
Thank you for sharing your content and insight. 🙏
Awwwwwww! It's my absolute pleasure. 💛💛💛 Thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for sharing so much kindness with me. Much love and joy to yooooou! 🫂🥹🥰💛🌺🌼🌻
I work full time, but they tell us to come in at 9-5 Fridays so they don’t have to pay benefits. So I forget that sometimes while trying to maintain a schedule and I arrive at the usual 8 by mistake. So last time that happened, I just went to explore the library. I love doing that except when I run into books spelling out why I’m having so many problems lol.
wow was struggling with myself today because of the quantity of my productivity. I needed this so much thank you for your Divine timing.
This is so on point right now. I took the summer semester off from school (still working full time) and doing any other obligations. I cannot believe how incredibly depleted and drained I am. It's been almost 4 weeks and I still feel burnt to a crisp. I was initially pushing myself to leap into my "personal" to do list, but I've backed off of that. I'm prescribing myself 3 months of slow living and doing what I can, not pushing past my limits.
OMG! I feel like you wrote this literally for me! I can relate. I am 4 weeks into my summer break of what I can only describe as one of my most mentally and emotionally draining work years yet(educator…need I say more) and I have a personal to do list that I am currently failing at miserably. I to have just decided to give myself grace and just enjoy some slow living. I’m currently sitting on my balcony enjoying the view. It’s been my favorite way to relax. Although I must say, I’m still not completely rejuvenated as I continue to lose sleep and worry about the things that I have yet to get done in my personal life; deep cleaning, paying bills, backlogged doctors appointments, unfinished projects, connecting w/family that misses you because you’ve put them off all during the work year…and so much more. There is never enough time to do it all and please everyone. The more you try, the more you feel like you’ve failed somewhere. Life balance is hard and I hope to one day figure it out. But for now, this video and your comment at least allows me to give myself grace and know that I’m not alone. Also, most importantly I’m not lazy, I’m just tired.
Blessings to you. I pray your current pause for some slow living rejuvenates your mind, body and soul so that you can continue to move forward with a more renewed since of self.
Thank U, 4 this vid. I've felt SOOO Alone in this respect. U R made 2 Shame yoself & H8 yoself bcuz How Dare You Not Work Harder & Grind & be Obsess with becoming a Success. I just wanna Be. Be me, with flaws & imperfections & Be OK with it. So, Thanx 4 this vid bcuz I've been dealing with these feelings for some yrs...Thank U😊
I was told that I needed to do more around the house by a mf who was retired and home all day. Oh, and he was unseasoned, too. I was working full time and trying to carve out time for myself to take care of myself.
Every day, even though my check barely covers anything, I'm so glad I moved.
This week I been exhausted because of my job. It’s been a lot going on, a lot of changes, and a lot more meetings this week than I normally have. So yes I’m both physically and mentally exhausted. Thank God I don’t have to deal with this next week and I’m using my PTO next Thursday and Friday.
Beautiful 🙏🏾
@@AsTheSunRises thank you so much for being here. 🥹🥰🌺🫂🌻🌼
Society is sick
Thank you for this video. I recently just came to this realization and this past week I have been unapologetic about resting. We can literally kill ourselves because of stress/exhaustion.
This was/is such an encouraging video. I love listening to sound reasoning. Have a good life and thanks. I love your music 🎵🎶🎵.😊❤
Amen to this video 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼💖
Nuanced is the very least that this conversation is. I am having so many thoughts right now, just listening to this conversation, and I start to wonder about how this message is being delivered in other circles, and how it is being received by the people that need it most. Thank you for this Alecia, it is always awesome to awaken to your insights.
WHEEEEWWW !!!! Drop the f’ing mic!!!!!! 😫 I literally talk to myself about this in my head (at work) all the time!l 4:36 !!! This doesn’t make any sense at all.
I currently work overnight while being a full time student. Lol I tell myself all the time I’m so tired and everyone looks at me like I’m crazy for choosing rest . I noticed they don’t realize or acknowledge my working so hard 24/7 but be so quick to notice one day I take off to recoup. I’m so ready to quit my job but my fear of not having enough to pay my bills or hearing my mom in my ear about me being a quitter I’ve just been holding it off but definitely making it to the breaking point. So for me, my rest looks like quitting honestly and just being free for at least two weeks
Loved the song from the second it started lol ❤❤❤
@@caroline1557 Awwwwww! Thank you so muuuuch! I really had a lot of fun creating this song. It expressed how exhausted I am. 😅☺️💛🥰🌻🌺 Thank you so much for even listening. I hope you're having marvelous evening.
The part about higher ups making the most abd having the most leisure time.... I see this everyday at my job. A lot of the managers where I am are in meetings most days. I somehow got to see what they make a month and had to fight feeling like a failure.
There’s a book called Laziness Does Not Exist by Devon Price. Highly recommend!
Your music is so good too, thank you! ❤
Girly , your messages always hit and at the right time too. Thank you so much ❤.
Got fired from my job recently. I’ve been trying to get ADA accommodations from my job cuz it was hard for me to go to work everyday due to my disability. I had struggles to get my diagnosis papers or get a physician and because of that I got fired. I felt so ashamed that I wasn’t able to keep up especially as a bw I’m expected to be a fucking work horse. It sucks. But now I have enough money saved aside to take a break from work for at least a month. And it’s so hard not to shame myself for resting and not doing anything productive even tho I’ve been craving rest since I started the job.
Please take care of yourself and rest as a disabled black woman the world doesn't value our work so please REST
@@jasmine-ub5fl thank you🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾
Laziness is what folks do, to give the finger to the world.
Oh my goodness this blessed me!
OMG, my heart literally LEAPT in my chest when you said you're going on tour soon. YYYYAAAAAYYYY!!! 😃😃😃😃😃🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Your channel is so healing ❤❤❤
I can’t wait tell I’m doing really well to pour financially into your ministry. ❤❤❤
I hope to see you on tour! Come to LA please. And I took a leave of absence from work and it was the best thing I could have done.
You bring so much joy to my soul💕
Yeah, not here for the grinding thing. I do as little as possible as often as possible.
Love the song. You have a beautiful voice.
I felt like I wasn’t doing enough to reach my goals and become the person I always envisioned, then I realized I am just TIRED. I’m overworked, underpaid, and just exhausted. Thank you for this video. I’m letting go and deciding to rest.
Your videos ALWAYS hit 🔥✊🏾👌🏾
Thank you for using your platform to say this
This was very comforting. I'm taking on full time studies after being ill for an extended period of time. The pressure is intense. I needed to be reminded not to burn myself out unnecessarily, so thank you! Also, your singing voice is, and has always been so beautiful.
I am going for a long walk and then I will make something nice to eat.
That song if 🔥🚒 ❤!!!!
Jamming!!!!
Love the message and Song🎉