Even though she knows she shouldn’t talk, it’s so compelling to have the undivided attention of two men who are intensely interested in listening to her talk about her favorite subject, herself, that she can’t help herself
When she's describing Stefan becoming obsessed with her and watching her sleep, I have the nagging suspicion she is simply describing her own self and actions
Yup I agree. I also think that when she was saying how he said “I don’t want you to leave, you’re not going anywhere” before their “fight” started, most likely it was the exact opposite. I have a feeling that he took the taxi drivers advice and most likely realized that she’s no good for him & probably told her she was in the wrong and that he wants her to leave and wants to end their relationship. So yeah I think she gives accurate information but explains it from the opposite pov.
i've been there and yes, they do that... when describing the ultimate fight, i believe she just swapped who did what, that's why it's so easy for her to tell the whole thing... awful story
These videos are SO well made! - No distracting music - No dramatization - Very well edited - minimal voiceover/captions that precisely highlight important clues - explains crucial info i.e. interrogation techniques or background info Thank you
That was honestly one of the hardest interviews to sit through, the woman has more stories than a public library and the way she plays victim while being completely self centered, I feel sorry for whoever gets stuck in a cell with her.
The story was personally hard for me because I used to have a friend who was a walking stereotype of BPD. Seeing her use similar tactics previously used to manipulate me isn't easy
I dated a chick just like her and so jealous of my daughter that was 9. I didn’t care that she was a playboy model she had to go. Next thing I know she’s going around saying I was holding her against her will for months. All of which was news too me and everyone else. Crazy is bone deep my friend.
She is so obviously lying and self obsessed. I’m guessing she’ll try it with everyone stuck with her. But her cell mates aren’t detectives and can say what they think.
“So is he beating you up or is he about to die?” I usually cant stand when dispatchers get smart with a caller, but I genuinely enjoyed that. How she just took a sharp turn from “he is beating me up he wont stop” to all of the sudden her saying hes unconscious and not breathing
yea but the dispatchers that you and I despise...usually are really rude and snappy and yell. But this one said it it a nicer tone...so it was different. And yea I can't stand it when they get bitchy...
Well, she said he “WAS” beating her up. Then the dispatcher asked if he was still there because she referred to the beating in past tense. She said he was and that she thinks he’s about the die. I was confused when she asked if he was beating her or about to die because those two things aren’t mutually exclusive. He WAS beating her. AND he’s about to die. Even if this truly was self defense and this woman was simply protecting her life, that could all still be true. It’s weird to nitpick that to be annoyed/suspicious about because that is honestly one of the most believable parts of her entire story
It was not being smart. It was a genuine question that needed to be asked for clarification. Just so happens it’s a much needed question that we can all enjoy and imagine was her being a smart ass. She had to be able to tell EMS what was going on.
Thank God she got life. She was rejected by every man she had a relationship with because as soon as they got to know her true insane behaviour they dumped her double quick. Poor Stephan, clearly a remarkably intelligent and successful gentleman, kind and generous, just retiring and he gets involved with a psychopathic narcissist. RIP dear Stephen .
My ex niece. BPD and cunning. Goes from man to man or family member to another. There is a BPD forum on the internet for those who are unfortunate to deal with one BPD who isn’t functional. My heart goes to anyone who suffers from this as it’s not their fault.
As a person who did jail time, not prison, there’s actually a difference. There are many crazy women in Jails. She reminds me of 2 girls I did time with. First they’re your friend next their ready to kill you for some slight they made up in their head.
Aw, it made me so sad when Stefan’s friend said he cried after the incident of her biting him. You can tell he was already dealing with a lot of abuse up until that point and was emotionally exhausted from her.
@@ir9567 Some people can be very controlling and manipulative. Even if he told her to get lost she’d probably still try to follow him around and contact him. Maybe he thought it would be easier not to upset her, who knows. Poor guy didn’t deserve it though.
@@ir9567 i think he was just a nice man and she needed help. A lot of help. I feel like I've been in the same situation and felt like "Oh, this poor person. They're crazy and I'll stop seeing them just after I help them one more time..."
Ana: “I don’t think i should talk and should get a lawyer.” Detective: “Ana, you are really smart, I can tell.” Ana: *goes on to rant and bury herself in lies for an hour plus.* Her ego and narcissist personality just couldn’t resist after they complimented her.
I agree with you. It's interesting that she projects onto him. She says he drank a lot, he maybe took drugs. Didn't you hear the concierge at the condo say she always seemed intoxicated Her speech was slurred and I don't know if she was drunk or high. This woman is no victim of anything, she's a victimizer.
when you open your mouth and say anything other than I plead the fifth or I want a lawyer, you are knocking on prisons doors even if you didnt do anything
It's rather chilling that Stefan had been warned even by strangers to get away from her before he was harmed. Please- if you are in an abusive situation: Get Out before you can't.
Yes! And there are just as many female abusers out there as there are male abusers. As a mother of 2 sons it terrifies me. I've told my sons more than once, if a woman puts her hands on you that is abuse. You get as far away from her as possible and stay away.
@Doctor Van Nostrand go look it up. Check out domestic violence research. The numbers are nearly half and half. Stop basing all of your opinions on what you're told.
Can we talk about how heartbreaking it is to have the taxi driver stop him and tell him to be careful and get away from Ana on the same night (or even hour!) he gets murdered by her? I can't comprehend how tragic that is. Rest In Peace Stefan :(
@@denny414 That's a excuse, if it's your best friend to your cab driver telling you to leave her. Take the hint. My 78 year old grandma took the advice, and shes a victim of als.
The dectectives are failures too, Even if they do their job they do it with tactics that are unacceptable anywhere in the western world except your failure nation.
The very distressed pleading from the cab driver is what does it for me. I'm hard headed, and I've learned the hard way alot. When even a stranger or someone you don't know well is telling you the situation is messed up, it's messed up, and it hurts to confront that.
she reminds me of an old friend i had. never responsible for anything, always a victim, could never do wrong. we were friends for ten years, and she dropped me the second i decided to stand up for myself and be independent. narcissists NEED someone under their thumbs constantly, they ALWAYS need that power, and consider any sort of independence from them or their mindsets an insult. it's tiring and unfair.
My mother in law was just like that. I’m so glad I dumped both of them. It’s exhausting catering to someone’s fragile ego 24/7. I’m too strong minded for the nonsense
It’s like she’s reversing the roles here. When describing his behavior, it’s actually HER behavior she’s describing. This woman is clearly unhinged and took the life of an amazing man with a beautiful & loving heart 💔
This is totally my ex Wife... After 7 years, it all finally ended on Christmas morning. I had just came out of the bathroom, as I entered the area between the dining room and the kitchen, all I saw was the flash of a Knife. A very long knife. I believe it was Devine Intervention that saved me and my 2 year old son. I don't know how I got the knife away from her, but I remember stepping backward, knocking my son down. So he didn't see his mom with the knife... This was the worst Christmas I have ever experienced. As Law enforcement here, didn't believe a word I said, but instead believed everything she told them. Even though all the physical evidence proved that I was attacked. My Hair was on the floor, I had placed the knife, on top of cupboards, out of her reach. Keeping myself between her and the kitchen. It was the worst experience in my life. I had received a copy of her statement, which revealed to me and eventually Law Enforcement, the Vile Narcissistic Person she truly is. I did not pursue a Law Suit against Law Enforcement, but I was divorced 2 years later. I raised my son, without child support and he is now 22, Married and I will be a Grandpa any day now...("Thank you Lord for guiding me through this 🙏")E.L.K.
Literally every single thing that she claims happened to her, she has done to someone else. Someone I used to be friends with was what I call a "trauma thief." She acted just like this. According to her, she was always the victim, everyone was out to get her, steal from her, hurt her, etc. When in fact, she stole from people and lied constantly.
this was my ex husband. He cheated, physically and emotionally abused me, but then would mock me saying that I was "always the victim" even though I never even told people
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You're absolutly right! If any channel on TH-cam deserves Money, Recognition & the praise of the many, its Ewu! Their team really goes *all* out on every video... *every* 👏 *damn* 👏 *time* 👏...how do I send money like this please? ❤
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@@Nytephyrenarcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness and is a literal personality disorder that alters your brain chemistry. social media has nothing to do with it. you’re on a social media platform right now
The one time I was juror it was a stabbing case. You could tell it was the “friend” of the victim who accidentally stabbed him during the fight they got into with the defendant from the first day. When we all got to the deliberation room we all were relieved that we were on the same page even though we hated the defense lawyer. We sat in the room and talked shit for like 30 minutes just so it looked like we were deliberating lol
@@xXprettyxkittyXx Lol glad you all saw it. I try to look at things overall, with the trial as just one piece of everything, meaning I'd want to be *_well over_* 99% certain of guilt if I was going to convict anyone, because even if you are literally 99% sure they're guilty, that means if 1 out of 100 people who come through that courtroom are innocent, then they would be convicted anyway. Combine this with the fact that our prisons aren't meant to keep us safe so much as they are for essentially for mentally (and sometimes physically) punishing/torturing criminals, I absolutely would have to be certain to convict. 99% just ain't enough. I think a society needs to choose only one: either prisons designed to punish OR courts that don't require absolute certainty. Not both (which unfortunately is the case today as "reasonable doubt" has evolved from 1 in 1,000 chance in the 1980's to a 1 in 50 chance of false imprisonment today).
@@ChadDidNothingWrong 99% is beyond a reasonable doubt IMO, its almost impossible to know 100% in most cases where the defendant doesn't confess. (EDIT: Infact, even some confessions still maintain the possibility of doubt and not 100%) Therefore doubt may always be present but it just not a reasonable doubt. 100% is what I would like for the death penalty or something.
Hearing her talk about Stefan really sounds like she's projecting onto him. Like all of the things she said he had done was actually what she was doing to him.
Bingo!!! I just told my daughter the same thing. She is most definitely projecting. Especially the part where she says she asked herself if Stefan is possessed. She definitely subconsciously asks herself this question I’m sure on a daily basis. During rare moments of self reflection she probably questions all of her horrible behavior and wonders if she does it because she is possessed. Thank you for this in depth look at a narcissistic mind. For any of us that have had to deal with one in their lifetime this is a front row seat into their mind.
I had a girlfriend say the whole "been broken emotionally, spiritually, etc" "realized I need to get out of bed and eat or ill die" thing almost word for word. She ended up being so much like this girl. Finds a rescuer. Gas lights the fuck out of you when she finds a different rescuer. I suppose I should be glad she just cheated on me and bailed instead of killing me.
ya it’s all excuses. i’ve actually been in an physically abusive relationship and i can even see it’s always a two way street. i take responsibility for my end of it, and my inability to leave or set boundaries. and i don’t want to be called a victim. if something is wrong in my life, it’s my wrong doing, not other peoples. that’s the pattern with these women/people, they blame everything on everyone else and try to claim they are a saint. it’s constant manipulation, and an extremely self centered style of navigating life
"Is he beating you up or is he about to die...?" I'm wheezing. Half the time I get annoyed when the 911 operators want to play 20 questions or give the caller an attitude, but this one literally gave zero f**ks.🤣
What a brutal death. It broke my heart hearing how Stefan ended up crying after Anna attacked him… and how he lived in fear. Only to be killed in the end. She’s not “crazy”, but she is entitled, narcissistic and cruel.
She’s a heartless drunk, maybe he finally had enough and told her to leave, so she attacked him yet again, this time she killed him. She deserves her life sentence, I was worried she might get away with man slaughter, but luckily she’s so narcissistic that she decided to speak to the officers rather than get a solicitor/lawyer.
I feel like everything she said regarding abuse is true about HER. I believe she was projecting all the abuse and behavior she was actually doing towards everyone.
Dependent Personality Disorder. I’m so glad there’s a name for what an old friend of mine may have had. Some people say that there’s always that one friend who can never stay single. But there were many times when I thought that something is definitely wrong with my friend. Always chasing/obsessing the next potential boyfriend. If she stayed single for two weeks, it’s because she thinks she’s getting back together with an ex. She would do anything for her new beau and try molding herself to his taste. Her choices in men and the drama is what affected our friendship and I cut her out of my life for my own sanity.
I knew a girl who always talked about her abuse saying "He pushed me, grabbed me, held me down..." When I talked to her ex he said "Yeah, because she's psycho and attacks me" about a year later she's back with the ex. Outside the bar, I was smoking and he stormed out with her yelling "You're gonna talk to me!" Her grabbing his shirt from behind and then she started punching him in the back of the head. I started yelling at her. He turned around grabbed her and put her up against a car. All of a sudden, she's "get off of me, you wanna beat me..." Playing the innocent abuse victim. Guys that didn't see her punches were coming to her rescue. It was a shit show. But that reminds me of her.
I think the acoustic panels are not just for the recording quality but also because it is believed (but not proven) that being in a room with no acoustics at all is disorienting and can make a person feel unwell and lonely, so it might help the detectives get information from the suspects faster.
@@TitusSc acoustic panels makes it easier to focus not the other way, it has a calming effect or maybe it is just me, when I walk in to my home studio with acoustic treatment it feels blissfully quite with less sound reflections, it's great, highly recommend.
@@bakedcreations8985 there’s such a thing as “deafening silence”. The acoustic panels would make it so that, while left alone, the suspect can’t distract themselves by listening to the hustle and bustle going on outside the room. They have nothing to focus on but the their own racing thoughts and I can see how that would intensify anyones stress.
i do that a lot tho and its just something i say on default because of my social anxiety so its not always necessarily deception, sometimes its just a stalling tactic while talking and i use it to fill in empty spots while talking because im so anxious, but other than that i agree
I feel like it may also depend on where you live. Idk abt anywhere else, but in the South "y'kno" is a very common thing people say at the end of every/every other sentence. Kind of like how people use the word "like" a million times in a conversation. But I totally understand what you mean.
Yeah this was like watching Michelle Blair with her vague descriptions and multitude of "ya know what I'm saying" spoutings. Both monsters but of different calibers.
Yes saying "you know" is an attempt to have the person say "yes" making the suspect feel more calm and feel like they think the detective is believing them
@@SlitWristMisfit_ facts it’s ridiculous just because she’s an evil bitch doesn’t make her a narcissist. Your totally msby words are abused and used incorrectly
I am binging on EWU nowadays and I have to tell that no subscription service based platform has contents with this much quality. I am really grateful that I am able to watch your channel for free. I’ll help your channel once I start working I promise. Please keep up your amazing work.
@@uniquegod1997 lifetime? I kinda doubt that. I wonder which marketplace it was that you visited. Most sell drugs or other useless things. Most are also scams
Just.. wow.. less than 15 minuets over hearing her talk and shes just insufferable in how she talks about people loving her so much and how great she is.
“I would never hurt anyone because I’m a good person, ya know?” “I always try to keep the peace, having harmony in the home is important to me, ya know?” “I cared for him and he cared for me too. He wanted to get married and have kids with me, ya know?” “I bit him on the head by accident, not on purpose, ya know?”
Seeing all the ways she lied about him was sad and just exhausting. His physical/emotional description changed when it benefited her story. She calls him childish, then old and frail, then he's a former weight lifter, but she had to be like a caretaker to him. My heart hurts for Stefan, he must have been so scared of her 💔
Right? I noticed that very much as well. One moment "oh I wasnt attracted to him, I just liked his brain and knowledge" then "oh yeah he was a freak obsessed with me" then "he was a good guy" and the doorperson said they acted like a couple.... she has a very warped and self centric view of everything
I watch a lot of these videos and sometimes, especially with certain people, I don't know how detectives do it. Sitting in a room listening to that woman blathering on and on about herself for hours, all the "poor me, I'm a victim of everyone and everything", the constant stream of bullshit and lies and poorly executed manipulation....I just don't think I could stand to be around her for hours on end.
I'm guessing that they keep the victim(s) and anyone that is affected at the forefront of their mind. They know they have to in order to protect the rest of the public. It does look so mentally exhausting! And here we are doing it for free! Lol
How you can always spot someone who is narcissistic is how they talk. They don't talk to you, they talk AT you. They are story tellers or Walt Disney as I say. They love to paint you a lovely detailed story and not once indicate they are lying. It's very difficult to pick up on their lying unless you know one very well or live with them. They lie with complete ease and talk almost as if they are giving an audition of themselves to an audience
Those are only the stupid ones. The more sociopathic narcissists will be quite engaged with you in a conversation, asking leading questions and seemingly very attentive to you. What they're really doing is looking for ways to manipulate you.
@@letsrock1729 I'm sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately, I naturally do that, but I am conscious enough to use that information only to make sure I don't hurt the person.
@@Steinkrieg How does that work? Because if you're doing those things for the purpose of manipulating someone, but then don't actually manipulate them, the whole 'procedure' loses its 'meaning'.
I left my management job of 5 yrs after dealing with a superior exactly like this woman. I was only working with her for two, but she always had some crazy story to tell, or gossip about someone and she always had to play it up and be super dramatic. She wasn’t entirely hard to get along with-until you disagreed with her. Then she went into panic mode. She became almost like a child “please! Just-you gotta do this thing! Please I NEED this done NOW! Please please!” She would do it until you just did it to shut her up. Which ended up getting worse when her personal life was a wreck. Then it became unbearable. Eventually I had my own home issues and needed to be home by a specific time everyday. Since suddenly I couldn’t work 10-12 hr days for her, I was called lazy. I “NEVER did ANYTHING to help her. Ever!” Not even once thru the whole time of being there apparently 🙄 Eventually I had a mental breakdown and we got into a shouting match and she called me a baby, called me selfish, childish, I wasn’t helping her, I was lazy etc. So I threw my keys on the ground and left. It sucked bc I NEEDED to have a steady income at the time. Living paycheck to paycheck, but she had become unhinged and I couldn’t stay there anymore. After I left my former coworkers told me all the lies she came up with. Saying I assaulted her, that I “went crazy” and painted herself as the victim. 🙄 I am in a much better job now, been there nearly a year and loving it! ❤
Sounds exactly like my bipolar, childish, narcissist mother. Imagine being raised by a nutcase like that. Always being gaslighted, physically and verbally abused. She's the reason I hate people who assume and jump to conclusions. And why I despise bullies. Oh but if you ask her, she's the mother of the century. A horrible human being. It's shocking that I didn't snap.
its incredible the type of people you have to work with i know what u mean, and most are protected by managers nosses god knows why god knows why some do a very good job and they dont want to lose them but u MUST also care for the menatl wellbeing of your workers not just the physical, Ive quit jobs bc of working w crazy people believe me and im an excellent worker but i can only deal with crazies for a time and then im off
What’s really frightening are the number of comments of people who actually know similar type woman. In this age where people don’t tend to go out of their way for others, when complete strangers warn you about the people in your life, you need to take heed.
Listening to this woman is making me anxious! I know she doesn’t realize she sounds absolutely batsh*t crazy. I’m sure all of the people that have had to cross this woman’s path have had to question reality because she literally argued that fish wasn’t fish.
@@pattywolford No joke. It got so dull hearing her complain that she’s always the victim and then the rambling about being in a relationship but not being intimate or just wanting to be an intern that they can sleep with? It’s just like… lol
I can’t help but compare her behavior, minus the actual murdering part, to many people I know. Scary. I’m still processing. These videos are always so eye opening to me. I learn so much even if it’s just the smallest tips to help me navigate humanity… grateful in some odd way.
yep if you have a women telling you that her man is possessed and starts attacking his physic, mental state while also saying hes the abusive one, more times than not the person speaking is usually the abusive one maybe not physical abuse but mental abuse at the very least. people can be super abusive to people and not even realize they are abusive its sad specially for women because so many times do we hear that men beat women so its easy to be abusive and project your abuse onto the other person. sucks but its true realize when your toxic traits are showing and correct them and if its another person that's doing this and they are in denial about being the abusive one you need to leave, could just end up like this poor guy...being out of shape and using drugs isn't a reason to abuse someone its a sign they need help.
I walked away from a relationship like that. Once she started drinking she didn't know when to stop, and would start ranting that I was looking at other women. She drove my family away by acting sullen when they came to visit, she drove my cat out of the house depite having lived with her son who had had a dog. Of couse, I had to welcome HER family when they came to visit and act as a taxi driver every time they wanted to go anywhere. Eventually I said enough is enough and told her I would sooner die alone than live with her a day longer.
8:10 "He asked me to marry him." I wouldn't be surprised if he was actually murdered because he didn't want to marry her. She doesn't seem like the type to take rejections very well.
I guarantee the conversation at his condo that night was "I'm absolutely done with you. This is the last straw. I'm calling you a cab in the morning." And then death by high heel.
This is raw and educational content not over dramatic music or anything over the top. Just police interrogations and detailed breakdowns of all the psychological techniques and methods detectives use to get the truth in the end I never in my 30 years on earth knew how much detail went into interrogations.
No, not every interrogation is so in-depth explained, they follow a particular script and adjust as they feel their way through. We would have psychologists doing the interview😂
I noticed she said 'y'know?' many times when explaining her story to the detectives, probably looking for some kind of verbal comfort or agreement that her actions were justified. Stefan was a kind and caring man, she deserves every moment she spends behind bars and more. Thank you EWU for doing such an amazing job with these videos, especially for always giving respect to the victims and their families. The analysis is also extremely well explained, and as someone who aspires to be in the criminal psychology field, I have learned so much from all of your videos.
Unfortunate that we didn't get to see the investigators break her phony story apart with evidence. I would liked to have seen her realize that she was found out.
I think the reason is that it's already known that she killed the guy. They were not looking for a suspect like in other videos. They just needed to hear why from her own mouth.
This woman would be an absolute nightmare to live with or date. Nothing is ever good enough, and the second you tell her no (no matter how many things you have done for her) the claws come out and suddenly you're a monster... the perpetual victim that couldn't possibly be the reason why none of her relationships work out. Always the perfect angel when recanting events, everyone else is out of control. Always beware when people use "Next thing you know" or something like "Blah blah blah" to skip over important details... huge red flag.
What you discribed is roughly the typical experience of dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. There's a honeymoon period at the start where they act like the universe revolves around you and you're the best partner ever... Then it just switches to what you discribed
@@Man_Emperor_of_Mankind it's terrifying to think that the partner that you know and love could just be putting on an act and you never really know who someone actually is...
She is the most unconvincing storyteller I’ve ever heard, she tells the story like a child recounting something that happened where they were bad but think they can make it sound like they weren’t by lying. You. Could have given this case to a deaf and blind detective with no interpreter and they would say “Bitch is lying, book her” lol
It's so weird that Stefan would date her. He must have had some pretty deep-rooted insecurities because he seems insanely out of her league. He looks decent for an old guy, has his ducks in a row, has nice friends, lives in a cool place, is apparently super nice to everyone. Meanwhile, she admits being a gold digger, she admits manipulating every guy she meets with sex, which is especially weird because her looks are average at best, and the way she shames him for is age is also strange because she looks like she is past 50 herself. Stefan really should have listened to Anders... or the concierge... or the cab drivers... or his neighbors... so many people telling him she was not worth it and only trouble. So sad he had to pay this high a price for bad judgment... RIP Stefan!
Ana: “if I have one flaw it’s really that I’m too perfect, too loving, too wonderful so it makes me a target for literally every person I’ve ever met to deceive and abuse me”
@@nicholassimon1419 narcissism is a rampant issue among the entire world, particularly 1st world. just because one not-so great group says this stuff doesnt mean it isnt true.
@@CarefulHowYouStep yes but it’s no more true about American women than it is about American men for instance, so if someone chooses to single out women it’s not for the sake of accuracy it’s for the sake of resenting/disliking women.
I applaud those officers for being able to sit there straight faced through 3½ hours of narcissistic projection and persecution complex. In the end their hard work was rewarded with her openly admitting that she ripped out his hair, beat him to death with the $1,500 shoe he bought her while she held him dowm, and she even pointed out that all the marks on her were from a fight the night before with a girl who's place she was crashing at. There was nothing they needed to ask her.
I have NEVER fast forwarded a single episode you’ve posted. Until this one. 🤦🏼♀️ I could NOT listen to her drone on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, (continue for at least an hour). I hope those detectives got raises.
Stefan seemed like a kind and loving soul, it's heartbreaking when we lose good people so violently because of selfish monsters like her, he deserved so much better RIP Stefan
i appreciate that even though she gaslit and spun and assaulted, that his friends and witness testimony, were able to corroborate his previous accounts and shed light on facts, as well as likelihoods, regarding his ultimate experience. a voice for someone who couldn’t share his own account. i especially appreciated the breakdowns, info, and delineation, about and between borderline, codependency, narcissism, and anti social.
I think the way she handled herself in this interview totally eliminated the need for corroboration of his demeanor, attitudes, and style. She handed the detectives all the evidence they needed by her ranting about herself and her body language.
I know a person who is literally addicted to being a victim. Its exhausting. One day I listened to it till I couldn't take it anymore and I just screamed at her and said " everything's not always about you " it didnt help😣
I just won't allow people like that in my life, I've had friends that have friends like that, were all out in a big group, I keep them at arms length or just straight up tell them, I don't like you, don't like the games you play, keep your distance from me and keep my name out your mouth....never had time for that shit, I am autistic and adhd, I think that really contributed alot to me not giving a crap and being very unemotional about it, I truly don't care about your hurt feelings, that's truly how I'd feel, I'm nicer now since I've gotten much older,lol
Bruh I know this chick is a heinous murderer but if I closed my eyes I can almost picture my exes and several of my friends exes talk about themselves in the same way this lady does. Shit’s wild.
The way she turns everything she does on him reminds me a lot of the way my mother is. Nothing is ever her fault, relishes in attention and loves being a victim.
She made a fatal mistake at 48:20 when she said when she judged him he would "regress". Portraying him as mousey, childlike, frail man...hardly a man that would attack her and overpower her. (I think she realized her mistake, because immediately after she began to fumble her words trying to 'recover' but couldn't think of what to say.) A lot of people with Narcissistic personality traits don't like someone else being in control, so if he was trying to break it off with her aka: stop taking care of her, then I could totally see how things could turn violent.
My own children got that advice from their mom when they were around ten. Be unfair and yell. Afterwards he will do want you want. CPTSD is hard to have. "Predators" sniff you out.
@@JazzLispAndBeer Indeed they do...learning to spot the Red Flags before getting too involved will go a long way in avoiding them or allowing them to get too close in your life. Having ties with them forever because of children is as tough as it gets, making it harder to heal from past traumas...look up videos regarding 'understanding narcissists', there are some really great support videos out there. Understanding how they think and react is your best defense. I wish you peace in your heart, sir.
I feel so sad for Stefan, I wish he was still with us. The moment his friend saw him crying about the issue with that evil lady, he was bitten. He was a good man, he was trying so hard and ended up losing his life that way. 😞
@@blue-sq7tj Yeah, imagine things could be so different if he doesn't get inside. I don't know if it's because he was an alone and needy man, and also the fact he loved her, he kinda accepts the risk, when loving someone we stay blind. All he wanted was someone to take care of him I felt.
Wow! This case was fascinating with all the witness testimony. When I first saw their pictures, I was thinking she was an escort. Stefan was warned so many times by people, but he was just too passive about it. Smart guy, but not street smart. It cost him his life.
The scariest thing is that many of us seem to have met this type of person, but it didn't result in murder (yet). Yikes! Thanks EWU for another great analysis :)
I want to thank you for the subtitules, English is not my first language so sometimes it’s hard to understand the suspect’s interviews, I hope your channel keeps growing. Hugs from México!
@@Flamsterette Had a girlfriend years ago with severe bipolar. When she was manic she spoke the same way. Could be drugs, but I wouldn't doubt a mental disorder either.
In the UK even for some assault charges, the first thing they do is meticulously collect and catalog your clothes for forensics. They even stand you on paper to collect anything that might fall off of your clothes. I can't believe this Hasn't been done here and she's literally sat there wearing the evidence.
@@markfrost2707 I share similar sentiments as Luke haworth, who has serious reservations as to the integrity of the evidence wrapped around her hind limbs (a.k.a pair of blue jean trousers). He posed a very intelligent question. My wife is a forensic expert, and based in The UK. Her exercises always highlight the critical effects of tampering with evidence and how crucial trace elements in a crime scene could be substantially significant in identifying culprits. The prints on the chair could interfere with the DNA prints on her outfit and who knows how many hands have tampered with the coverall, she's been provided.
Can we all take a second to give these detectives credit for not reacting to this crazy lady with all those sound effects! I couldn’t contain my facial expressions/reactions listening to her speak. This lady needs professional help in prison!
I would have either laughed in her face or just walked out. I had to deal with someone like this for the majority of my life and my god it was like listening to nails on a chalkboard on repeat the entire time listening to her speak. The input the narrator put over the footage was a nice relief from her nonstop talking-
Every thing this whoore said is what All modern woman say I dated older men a narcissist I dated a man that hit me bla bla lies always men's fault multiple baby daddies dating bad boys trash but funny when woman finally listen they say damn she's annoying yeah all of you are like this she takes men's money but doesn't want to give s3x saying ooo just friends you have done that bs too
The sound effects are the way a lot of hispanics talk and use them to describe things, doesn't mean she's crazy. She crazy for killing someone with a goddamn stiletto and being abusive.
i really liked how james talked about ana- saying that she was "with child" and that she "suffered a miscarriage" just really kind phrasing that made him seem like a good person
This woman gaslighted an elderly gentleman into thinking he had all these ailments. She broke down his intelligence, confidence, and ability to defend himself, until he was completely controllable. I'm only half way through the video but I'm guessing his bank account was draining as fast as his life did 😔 I tell my teenage sons all the time STAY AWAY FROM BERSERKERS! My SIL presents like this lunatic in the video so at least they can see it in real life with their aunt. It's a whole other level of existence and it is absolutely exhausting.
The venemous way she talks about him like a child, too. The fact she would say it that way, and imply a disgust and hatred to ward him and children, makes me angry like no other
"Because I don't like INCEST. And I don't want to be with a CHILD." Holy sh*t lady. You are CERTIFIABLE. Some parts of this ish seriously had me LOLing. HARD.
I've tried to watch this video fully twice, and both times I fell asleep near the middle of it(so I've only seen the beginning and end). But every time I woke up it was the lady STILL nonstop talking about some kind of long winded story, so I dont feel like I missed much 😂
After all the serial killers, murderers, and thieves that interrogators have to deal with, this is probably the first I've seen where felt like the interrogators (and viewers) were the ones suffering mental agony
it always shakes me to know that murderers have families. like she was about to go visit her mom and her daughter and they were probably sitting there wondering where she was the next day anxious that something happened to her. but really she was taking someone’s life.
Those could have been lies for all we know. Also its note worthy her kids dont live with. Not judging anyone else for that bc there are several factors that could play into that,, but she just seems sketchy. She wasn’t going anywhere
I think that since he’s always a calm and quite shy man, she probably never seen him angry before. So I’m assuming that most likely they came upstairs after the taxi altercation and tried to put her in her place and tell her that she was in the wrong. He probably tried breaking off their relationship and told her to leave, most likely because the taxi lady told him that she’s no good and he finally seen it for himself that he needs to remove himself from her. So her saying that he was saying he doesn’t want her to go is probably the exact opposite. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to ever leave me” was most likely “I want you to leave”.
Thinking the same thing! Usually, the culmination of toxic relationships like this is when the other partner is finally breaking up for good with the narcissistic partner. He was probably exhausted with her and asked her to never come back. Narcissists are so scary, imagine she just killed him but she sure has no problem blabbering for hours about how she was so good to him and that he was obsessed with her. She killed him and she's also trying to assassinate his character.
He does have a really nice voice, but I would prefer it if he toned down the dramatic narration style a little, and his accent is kind of strange. Sounds like he may be from rural Ohio or so, his "L"s, mostly at the end of words, sound very odd.
Nobodies talking about how annoyed the 911 operator sounded for no reason?? Like girl, if this wasn’t a murderer you were talking to, that would be a really bad attitude for an operator.
I'm only at the 45:23 mark, and this woman is all over the place, and the detectives DESERVE an award for being so incredibly patient with her. I can't imagine how ANYONE can have a conversation with her. The way she contradicts herself throughout the interrogation is absolutely priceless. Alf seemed like a great guy that took great care of her, but the second he doesn't buy her whatever or doesn't do whatever she wants, she throws a temper tantrum. She seems like a spoiled and pampered brat. I'm so incredibly glad that Alfs friends came forward and spoke to the detectives, and told them exactly what they saw. It's disturbing. Thank you, EWU, for always putting out phenomenal content.
Half hour in and I can’t even finish this. It’s too disturbing. Poor Stefan - he’ll be immortalized through his work and impact on the people around him.
I wonder if she's killed any other men who wouldn't marry her (so she could use them for US citizenship and money until she used them dry). I'm sure he realised she was just using him. The way she sits there with blood on her without a qualm is like she's done it before.
Except for the murdery thing, this woman was exactly like my ex girlfriend. She was terrifyingly narcissist, and it's one of those things that you don't realize until they've already locked you in. I learned that she would tell me the most loving things, and say that she wants to be with me forever, etc. But behind my back she would tell some people that I'm the worst person ever, and would tell others how she wants to marry me. She manipulated everyone in order to get the most attention possible. No matter what I did for her, it never mattered. One 'mistake' on my part and I had to practically get down on my knees apologizing. She would purposefully go out of her way to lie and do things that she knew would hurt me, but if I were to take any offense then *I* was the one in the wrong. And one of the most dangerous things you can do is to reject a narcissist. They don't hurt you. They break you. My ex completely broke me. It messed me up for months, but despite all I got put though, the more I learn about people in relationships with narcissists... I got off easy.
wow, you literally described my relationship down to a T. My sanity has been at stake for a long time bc my brain can’t process how the unforgivable shit that they do makes sense in their head??? it’s a one-way street and nothing else they’ll do exactly what they demand you don’t do. my chances of meeting someone else are nonexistent bc i can’t go through the phases of another psychotic relationship again. it’s exhausting. it’s crazy how you can meet someone and think “yeah, this is the one” and then a few months/yrs later .. boom
@@jailenep1930 something that really helped me was reading articles and watching TH-cam videos about being in a relationship with a narcissist. It's so validating to hear someone you've never met describe your experience down to the smallest detail. It's incredible how similar they are to each other. They all seem to have the same playbook. Like animals with very specific instincts that were born just knowing how to do it.
That sounds very similar to an ex-friend I had for four years. Being afraid around them everyday and worrying you'll trigger their wrath is one thing, but putting your foot down and saying enough opens up a whole different world of pain. And even after you get away, you still worry if you yourself were the problem thanks to being gaslit so much. I still worry on an off that I'm a narcissist and don't recognize it so watching interrogation videos like this make me extremely paranoid. I'm not sure if anyone else whose dealt with a narc feels the same way when watching stuff like this. 😅 I'm glad you're not with your ex anymore. You didn't deserve that.
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It actually sucks energy out of you just watching someone lying and lying and lying; your body can somehow feel it. It's horrible.
Right through the screen. You don't even have to know somebody with whom to compare. There is just this bar and she sets it.
@@cars365 I was just about to post that. Jen Psaki, Jean-Pierre? Lying fest of democrat elite.
Yes, this whole time I’m like Ughhhhh! I am literally feeling drained.
Really tense in the shoulders and you feel icky 😬
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Even though she knows she shouldn’t talk, it’s so compelling to have the undivided attention of two men who are intensely interested in listening to her talk about her favorite subject, herself, that she can’t help herself
Exactly.
Facts!
Oh you nailed it! I was wondering why anyone in their right mind would talk. This makes so much sense to me!😊
"This one is being really nice to me, if I play my cards right maybe he'll be my new man" is probably what was going through her crazy little head.
like jodi arias in her interview 😂
When she's describing Stefan becoming obsessed with her and watching her sleep, I have the nagging suspicion she is simply describing her own self and actions
Yup I agree. I also think that when she was saying how he said “I don’t want you to leave, you’re not going anywhere” before their “fight” started, most likely it was the exact opposite. I have a feeling that he took the taxi drivers advice and most likely realized that she’s no good for him & probably told her she was in the wrong and that he wants her to leave and wants to end their relationship. So yeah I think she gives accurate information but explains it from the opposite pov.
i've been there and yes, they do that... when describing the ultimate fight, i believe she just swapped who did what, that's why it's so easy for her to tell the whole thing... awful story
She's a malignant narcissist. Virtually each one of her accusations is a confession.
Yes, it’s called Projection.
Yes, that's what narcissists do!!
These videos are SO well made!
- No distracting music
- No dramatization
- Very well edited
- minimal voiceover/captions that precisely highlight important clues
- explains crucial info i.e. interrogation techniques or background info
Thank you
Well said
The narrator's voice is also a big plus. He's got a great voice for this.
Yess ! So glad I'm a Subi! Lol
That was honestly one of the hardest interviews to sit through, the woman has more stories than a public library and the way she plays victim while being completely self centered, I feel sorry for whoever gets stuck in a cell with her.
seriously she was just jumping from topic to topic i wanted to skip so bad 😭
The story was personally hard for me because I used to have a friend who was a walking stereotype of BPD. Seeing her use similar tactics previously used to manipulate me isn't easy
I dated a chick just like her and so jealous of my daughter that was 9. I didn’t care that she was a playboy model she had to go. Next thing I know she’s going around saying I was holding her against her will for months. All of which was news too me and everyone else. Crazy is bone deep my friend.
Oh god I’d hate to be her bunkie
She is so obviously lying and self obsessed. I’m guessing she’ll try it with everyone stuck with her. But her cell mates aren’t detectives and can say what they think.
“So is he beating you up or is he about to die?”
I usually cant stand when dispatchers get smart with a caller, but I genuinely enjoyed that. How she just took a sharp turn from “he is beating me up he wont stop” to all of the sudden her saying hes unconscious and not breathing
yea but the dispatchers that you and I despise...usually are really rude and snappy and yell. But this one said it it a nicer tone...so it was different. And yea I can't stand it when they get bitchy...
Well, he could have been striking her and then she shot him in self defense. That's happened in these cases
I mean logistically it made no fucking sense how she was trying to say anything went down.
Well, she said he “WAS” beating her up. Then the dispatcher asked if he was still there because she referred to the beating in past tense. She said he was and that she thinks he’s about the die. I was confused when she asked if he was beating her or about to die because those two things aren’t mutually exclusive. He WAS beating her. AND he’s about to die. Even if this truly was self defense and this woman was simply protecting her life, that could all still be true. It’s weird to nitpick that to be annoyed/suspicious about because that is honestly one of the most believable parts of her entire story
It was not being smart. It was a genuine question that needed to be asked for clarification. Just so happens it’s a much needed question that we can all enjoy and imagine was her being a smart ass. She had to be able to tell EMS what was going on.
Respect to the two detectives for sitting through all that b.s. so calmly.
For over an hour. God it's annoying.
Wot an evil dog
@@louisemccarthy1747 Hey... Dogs are beautiful... this one is a lamprey, she attaches herself to others and eats them alive.
The one closest had a bit of leg action going on for a bit. Probably normal reaction for the situation.
She's a mess.
I am glad I read your comment because I started to type almost exactly the same thing, then I saw yours, and I deleted mine, you've beaten me to it😁
Thank God she got life. She was rejected by every man she had a relationship with because as soon as they got to know her true insane behaviour they dumped her double quick. Poor Stephan, clearly a remarkably intelligent and successful gentleman, kind and generous, just retiring and he gets involved with a psychopathic narcissist. RIP dear Stephen .
My ex niece. BPD and cunning. Goes from man to man or family member to another. There is a BPD forum on the internet for those who are unfortunate to deal with one BPD who isn’t functional. My heart goes to anyone who suffers from this as it’s not their fault.
That’s to bad people should listen to loved ones sometimes you don’t see what and outside person sees.
He was a saint
Imagine being locked in a cell with her, and no one else, for 23 hours a day... you'd be pleading for the death penalty within a week.
Stop lying, u would be trying to clap them cheeks 🍑🍑.. lmao... They say those crazy women got the best water park 🌊🌊⛲💦 😂😂
As a person who did jail time, not prison, there’s actually a difference. There are many crazy women in Jails. She reminds me of 2 girls I did time with. First they’re your friend next their ready to kill you for some slight they made up in their head.
I don't think I'd be begging for the death penalty, but they might give it to me. My cell would be quiet after a short time.
id give her the dealth penalty lol
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Aw, it made me so sad when Stefan’s friend said he cried after the incident of her biting him. You can tell he was already dealing with a lot of abuse up until that point and was emotionally exhausted from her.
@@ir9567 He was passive and wanted a friend. Unfortunately he put up with that crap, some people do.
@@ir9567 Some people can be very controlling and manipulative. Even if he told her to get lost she’d probably still try to follow him around and contact him. Maybe he thought it would be easier not to upset her, who knows. Poor guy didn’t deserve it though.
@@ir9567 i think he was just a nice man and she needed help. A lot of help. I feel like I've been in the same situation and felt like "Oh, this poor person. They're crazy and I'll stop seeing them just after I help them one more time..."
I think he had a shoe fetish. Probably also some masochist tendency. That will bring crazies into your life for shure.
He was an idiot for putting up with it
Ana: “I don’t think i should talk and should get a lawyer.”
Detective: “Ana, you are really smart, I can tell.”
Ana: *goes on to rant and bury herself in lies for an hour plus.*
Her ego and narcissist personality just couldn’t resist after they complimented her.
I agree with you. It's interesting that she projects onto him. She says he drank a lot, he maybe took drugs. Didn't you hear the concierge at the condo say she always seemed intoxicated Her speech was slurred and I don't know if she was drunk or high. This woman is no victim of anything, she's a victimizer.
Despite their skills in manipulation, narcissists are more easily manipulated than the average person. I was married to one.
She definitely seems like she's on something or has been drinking definitely seems like a narcissist
That smug she showed.... game over
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They are usually paranoid and don't recal traumatic events nor have the ability to have sympathy.
When a detective tells you “you’re an intelligent person” just know you’re knocking on prison doors 😂
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when you open your mouth and say anything other than I plead the fifth or I want a lawyer, you are knocking on prisons doors even if you didnt do anything
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It's rather chilling that Stefan had been warned even by strangers to get away from her before he was harmed.
Please- if you are in an abusive situation: Get Out before you can't.
RIGHT!!! It is scary
Yes! And there are just as many female abusers out there as there are male abusers. As a mother of 2 sons it terrifies me. I've told my sons more than once, if a woman puts her hands on you that is abuse. You get as far away from her as possible and stay away.
It’s sad because people don’t know they’re in one until people tell them or they feel they can accept that type of behavior
@@doctorvannostrand where did you get this statistic
@Doctor Van Nostrand go look it up. Check out domestic violence research. The numbers are nearly half and half. Stop basing all of your opinions on what you're told.
Can we talk about how heartbreaking it is to have the taxi driver stop him and tell him to be careful and get away from Ana on the same night (or even hour!) he gets murdered by her? I can't comprehend how tragic that is. Rest In Peace Stefan :(
Bro should of taken a hint. Literally everybody warned him
No, let's not talk about that- it's too sad.
@@jonah.donohue he was old passive and lonely she took advantage of his kindness and yearning for companionship
That was something. She might have convinced him, but this horrible woman kept yelling at him and he felt he had to give in to her yelling, I guess.
@@denny414 That's a excuse, if it's your best friend to your cab driver telling you to leave her. Take the hint. My 78 year old grandma took the advice, and shes a victim of als.
Those detectives deserve a bloody medal. This woman is so self centred its unreal..
Facts.
The dectectives are failures too, Even if they do their job they do it with tactics that are unacceptable anywhere in the western world except your failure nation.
I was thinking how I sympathize with those detectives having to sit and listen to her.
@@pattywolford its better than shooting it out with gang bangers in the streets.....
she actually seems typical...
The very distressed pleading from the cab driver is what does it for me. I'm hard headed, and I've learned the hard way alot. When even a stranger or someone you don't know well is telling you the situation is messed up, it's messed up, and it hurts to confront that.
The fact that her mother and sister told her to get a psychiatric evaluation tells you a lot.
she reminds me of an old friend i had. never responsible for anything, always a victim, could never do wrong. we were friends for ten years, and she dropped me the second i decided to stand up for myself and be independent. narcissists NEED someone under their thumbs constantly, they ALWAYS need that power, and consider any sort of independence from them or their mindsets an insult. it's tiring and unfair.
10 years. That's lucky. It took me 20 to get away from my narcissistic "best friend"
That had to be exhausting.
Sounds like amber heard. That’s crazy.
Lol, so relatable. My friendship lasted for 8 years or so. I'm so glad I got away from it after all. Feeling so free since then :'D
My mother in law was just like that. I’m so glad I dumped both of them. It’s exhausting catering to someone’s fragile ego 24/7. I’m too strong minded for the nonsense
It’s like she’s reversing the roles here. When describing his behavior, it’s actually HER behavior she’s describing. This woman is clearly unhinged and took the life of an amazing man with a beautiful & loving heart 💔
I'm glad to read your comment.
That's exactly what I was thinking.
This is totally my ex Wife... After 7 years, it all finally ended on Christmas morning. I had just came out of the bathroom, as I entered the area between the dining room and the kitchen, all I saw was the flash of a Knife. A very long knife. I believe it was Devine Intervention that saved me and my 2 year old son. I don't know how I got the knife away from her, but I remember stepping backward, knocking my son down. So he didn't see his mom with the knife... This was the worst Christmas I have ever experienced. As Law enforcement here, didn't believe a word I said, but instead believed everything she told them. Even though all the physical evidence proved that I was attacked. My Hair was on the floor, I had placed the knife, on top of cupboards, out of her reach. Keeping myself between her and the kitchen. It was the worst experience in my life.
I had received a copy of her statement, which revealed to me and eventually Law Enforcement, the Vile Narcissistic Person she truly is. I did not pursue a Law Suit against Law Enforcement, but I was divorced 2 years later. I raised my son, without child support and he is now 22, Married and I will be a Grandpa any day now...("Thank you Lord for guiding me through this 🙏")E.L.K.
I'm finally a Grandpa... "Sterling R. Kidd" was born 01-02-23, 9lbs. Baby Boy...🎶🙏🎶
Congratulations, glad you made it out alive
Thank You... I am so greatfull I was able to finish raising my son.🎶🙏🎶
Glory to Jesus! I’m so glad he intervened in ur life . God bless you❤
Eddie I just saw this comment, congratulations on being a grandpa and say hi to Sterling for us! 😊❤
Literally every single thing that she claims happened to her, she has done to someone else. Someone I used to be friends with was what I call a "trauma thief." She acted just like this.
According to her, she was always the victim, everyone was out to get her, steal from her, hurt her, etc. When in fact, she stole from people and lied constantly.
It's a narcisist thing, they're always the victim, everyone is bad except them.
I grew up with my mom being like that. It was exhausting and a chaotic and troublesome childhood
It’s called DARVO - Deny , Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender.
this was my ex husband. He cheated, physically and emotionally abused me, but then would mock me saying that I was "always the victim" even though I never even told people
@@jessigirlrae1688 I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm glad that he is your EX and I hope you are doing well. ❤️
It just doesn’t feel right to watch such great content without giving back in a little way. You are a channel who genuinely cares for the victims, content accuracy and your audience. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
That was very sweet of you robin 🫶🏻
You're absolutly right! If any channel on TH-cam deserves Money, Recognition & the praise of the many, its Ewu! Their team really goes *all* out on every video... *every* 👏 *damn* 👏 *time* 👏...how do I send money like this please? ❤
Nice try ewu. Lol.
@@monalisa-bs4zs what do you mean by this?
@@monalisa-bs4zs are you insinuating they they donated to their own channel to start a wave of donations?
Because your comment has been analyzed by a qualified team of
- licensed attorney and former criminal prosecutor
- licensed clinical psychologist
- former licensed professional counselor
and they all say, "nah, probably not"
She not only killed Stefan, she's also trying to alienate his character. Wow, narcissists are so scary and exhausting to be around!
THAT is WHY they cause TRAUMA bonds. It is difficult to get over a Narcissist. They mess with your thinking.
Unfortunately narcissism is only rising. With everyone addicted to social media and phones, they live for likes and followers. It’s pathetic.
Likes are another cancer.
She's more like someone with BPD.
@@Nytephyrenarcissistic personality disorder is a mental illness and is a literal personality disorder that alters your brain chemistry. social media has nothing to do with it. you’re on a social media platform right now
The fact that her testimony went on for 3x as long as the jury deliberated for is hilarious to me.
Imagine being a juror there sitting listening to her ramble for 6 hours lmaooo
The one time I was juror it was a stabbing case. You could tell it was the “friend” of the victim who accidentally stabbed him during the fight they got into with the defendant from the first day. When we all got to the deliberation room we all were relieved that we were on the same page even though we hated the defense lawyer.
We sat in the room and talked shit for like 30 minutes just so it looked like we were deliberating lol
And telling 😅
@@xXprettyxkittyXx Lol glad you all saw it.
I try to look at things overall, with the trial as just one piece of everything, meaning I'd want to be *_well over_* 99% certain of guilt if I was going to convict anyone, because even if you are literally 99% sure they're guilty, that means if 1 out of 100 people who come through that courtroom are innocent, then they would be convicted anyway.
Combine this with the fact that our prisons aren't meant to keep us safe so much as they are for essentially for mentally (and sometimes physically) punishing/torturing criminals, I absolutely would have to be certain to convict. 99% just ain't enough.
I think a society needs to choose only one: either prisons designed to punish OR courts that don't require absolute certainty. Not both (which unfortunately is the case today as "reasonable doubt" has evolved from 1 in 1,000 chance in the 1980's to a 1 in 50 chance of false imprisonment today).
@@ChadDidNothingWrong 99% is beyond a reasonable doubt IMO, its almost impossible to know 100% in most cases where the defendant doesn't confess. (EDIT: Infact, even some confessions still maintain the possibility of doubt and not 100%)
Therefore doubt may always be present but it just not a reasonable doubt.
100% is what I would like for the death penalty or something.
Maaaan, I want to give the WHOLE EWU team mad props. You guess do so much work and I know that this community is grateful. Thank you guys
Actually it’s called the EWU crew (you would know this if you were a real fan)
@@mozaic529 LMAO
@@mozaic529 clearly the ewu crew considers them a real fan. Lol
THE EWU CREW!
Y'all outdoing yourselves
Stefan was a brilliant scientist - I’ve read his work and it’s unbelievably horrifying he had to meet this terrible woman.
.. .well but maybe it was fun
@@0DdOne dude stop
@@0DdOne you make weird comments 🤔
Y'all are just so fake
@No One is A Hero sorry..bro. I meant like oh don't use humor or imagination
Without the transcript, that 911 call would be completely unintelligible
I got genuinely upset listening to her
Like the two weeks lady from total recall
Hearing her talk about Stefan really sounds like she's projecting onto him. Like all of the things she said he had done was actually what she was doing to him.
I agree
Agree. Narcissists will tell everyone you're doing the most horrible things...but in reality, they're ticking off what THEY'RE doing to others.
Yep! I'm not familiar with this case, but I wonder if he told her to stay in Waco, when she was going to visit her family?
Bingo!!! I just told my daughter the same thing. She is most definitely projecting. Especially the part where she says she asked herself if Stefan is possessed. She definitely subconsciously asks herself this question I’m sure on a daily basis. During rare moments of self reflection she probably questions all of her horrible behavior and wonders if she does it because she is possessed. Thank you for this in depth look at a narcissistic mind. For any of us that have had to deal with one in their lifetime this is a front row seat into their mind.
Exactly
There's no way I could listen to that woman whine about her life for hours after she killed her bf/husband.
Jesus then the jury had to listen to her bullshit for 6 hours. She didn't do herself any favors with that.
Would have to slap her🤣
@@MadeInTheAbyss Dude, your comment is the most blatantly passive aggressive comment I've seen on TH-cam today, lol. Chill out.
@@anonview pretty sure it's a comment designed to get you to reply to it
@@MadeInTheAbyss this will blow your tiny mind kid, but there are thousands upon thousands of other ways, *and* jobs, where you can make good money
I had a girlfriend say the whole "been broken emotionally, spiritually, etc" "realized I need to get out of bed and eat or ill die" thing almost word for word. She ended up being so much like this girl. Finds a rescuer. Gas lights the fuck out of you when she finds a different rescuer. I suppose I should be glad she just cheated on me and bailed instead of killing me.
Half the 40 year old middle aged women are like this saying spiritual when they don't know what it is
I don't know how someone can be broken spiritually. It's learning so unless you lose your memory you can't be spiritually broken
@@MrTripcore It's an excuse for their own failures as a person.
ya it’s all excuses. i’ve actually been in an physically abusive relationship and i can even see it’s always a two way street. i take responsibility for my end of it, and my inability to leave or set boundaries. and i don’t want to be called a victim. if something is wrong in my life, it’s my wrong doing, not other peoples.
that’s the pattern with these women/people, they blame everything on everyone else and try to claim they are a saint. it’s constant manipulation, and an extremely self centered style of navigating life
@CYRUSTHEVIRUS their code word for sleeping around is 'healing'
"Is he beating you up or is he about to die...?"
I'm wheezing. Half the time I get annoyed when the 911 operators want to play 20 questions or give the caller an attitude, but this one literally gave zero f**ks.🤣
Same thought here ☝🏼!!!!!!
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Yep everytime I see one of these the operators always seem terrible
she was wailing and muffled I'm surprised the operator got anything out of her call.
What a brutal death. It broke my heart hearing how Stefan ended up crying after Anna attacked him… and how he lived in fear. Only to be killed in the end. She’s not “crazy”, but she is entitled, narcissistic and cruel.
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Nah she's definitely crazy. Just mild crazy but crazy nonetheless
She’s a heartless drunk, maybe he finally had enough and told her to leave, so she attacked him yet again, this time she killed him. She deserves her life sentence, I was worried she might get away with man slaughter, but luckily she’s so narcissistic that she decided to speak to the officers rather than get a solicitor/lawyer.
She is absolutely crazy what the FUCK are you talking about. She believes in demons.
I feel like everything she said regarding abuse is true about HER. I believe she was projecting all the abuse and behavior she was actually doing towards everyone.
Typical woman.
Exactly. That is one of the text book forms of "gaslighting", and is exactly what Ana was doing.
It’s called ‘Projective Identification “. I guess it’s gaslighting too.
You are exactly right it’s very common for abusers to do this .
Yes!
Hats off to the investigators, EWU crew and everyone who sat through this interrogation.
It's so painful to watch Ana's interview.
dont worry its a skit not a real case
@Ucrain the life sentence shes serving is a pretty funny skit 😁
the most painful thing is all the adverts ....
@@ucrain4971 it is real footage
What makes it hard to watch?
Dependent Personality Disorder. I’m so glad there’s a name for what an old friend of mine may have had. Some people say that there’s always that one friend who can never stay single. But there were many times when I thought that something is definitely wrong with my friend. Always chasing/obsessing the next potential boyfriend. If she stayed single for two weeks, it’s because she thinks she’s getting back together with an ex. She would do anything for her new beau and try molding herself to his taste. Her choices in men and the drama is what affected our friendship and I cut her out of my life for my own sanity.
I knew a girl who always talked about her abuse saying "He pushed me, grabbed me, held me down..." When I talked to her ex he said "Yeah, because she's psycho and attacks me" about a year later she's back with the ex. Outside the bar, I was smoking and he stormed out with her yelling "You're gonna talk to me!" Her grabbing his shirt from behind and then she started punching him in the back of the head. I started yelling at her. He turned around grabbed her and put her up against a car. All of a sudden, she's "get off of me, you wanna beat me..." Playing the innocent abuse victim. Guys that didn't see her punches were coming to her rescue. It was a shit show. But that reminds me of her.
@@blue-sq7tj nah. Women like that do it all by themselves, you just say that because you don’t want to be on the guy’s side.
That’s how my sister is. I pray for her future partner
@@pale_saint I'm not even sure what you're saying
Eh you don’t really know the full story then it sounds like. Sounds like there’s some mutual abuse there
@@jonathanmosher72lol for real
Finally, a police department that understands that acoustics in an interrogation room matter.
I think the acoustic panels are not just for the recording quality but also because it is believed (but not proven) that being in a room with no acoustics at all is disorienting and can make a person feel unwell and lonely, so it might help the detectives get information from the suspects faster.
@@TitusSc acoustic panels makes it easier to focus not the other way, it has a calming effect or maybe it is just me, when I walk in to my home studio with acoustic treatment it feels blissfully quite with less sound reflections, it's great, highly recommend.
@@bakedcreations8985 there’s such a thing as “deafening silence”. The acoustic panels would make it so that, while left alone, the suspect can’t distract themselves by listening to the hustle and bustle going on outside the room. They have nothing to focus on but the their own racing thoughts and I can see how that would intensify anyones stress.
Saying "like y'know" 4,000,000 times when telling a story is always a dead ass red flag for me that someone's lying to my face.
i do that a lot tho and its just something i say on default because of my social anxiety so its not always necessarily deception, sometimes its just a stalling tactic while talking and i use it to fill in empty spots while talking because im so anxious, but other than that i agree
I feel like it may also depend on where you live. Idk abt anywhere else, but in the South "y'kno" is a very common thing people say at the end of every/every other sentence. Kind of like how people use the word "like" a million times in a conversation. But I totally understand what you mean.
Yeah this was like watching Michelle Blair with her vague descriptions and multitude of "ya know what I'm saying" spoutings. Both monsters but of different calibers.
Yes saying "you know" is an attempt to have the person say "yes" making the suspect feel more calm and feel like they think the detective is believing them
Or they have a compulsion.
I love how a lot of these cases on the surface seem cut and dry, but the deeper you get into them the more bizarre they become
Cut and dried.
Very true.
I smiled every time the cab lady said “Mr Esteban.” She seems nice.
When you see a person is narcissistic, plan quietly and run. They are DANGEROUS.
Except that narcissistic is the most overused word today. Anytime someone doesn't like someone or something they do, they label them a "narcissist."
@@SlitWristMisfit_ , learn the nine traits-if the person meets six, you are looking at a true narcissist. Easy queasy.
@@SlitWristMisfit_ facts it’s ridiculous just because she’s an evil bitch doesn’t make her a narcissist. Your totally msby words are abused and used incorrectly
I lived with one 5 years ...made it out to the other side...
@@lorrie5881 strong girl ❤️
I am binging on EWU nowadays and I have to tell that no subscription service based platform has contents with this much quality. I am really grateful that I am able to watch your channel for free. I’ll help your channel once I start working I promise. Please keep up your amazing work.
I think I’ve watched almost every video over the last couple of months 😅
@@uniquegod1997 ok edgelord. I WeNt oN tHe dArKwEb... for Netflix.. when you can stream any thing you want freely online. 😂
@@uniquegod1997 what's the link
No you won't. Stop 🤥
@@uniquegod1997 lifetime? I kinda doubt that.
I wonder which marketplace it was that you visited. Most sell drugs or other useless things. Most are also scams
I done forgot what this interview is all about. This lady tells more stories then my 12 year old adhd son in 5 min when he had an amazing day.
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As someone w adhd I can Def verify this as truth. Sometimes we can't slow down until someone says something bout us being silly.
@julianhernandez6457 oh yeah, I gotta keep telling my son to stop and slow down ( at least 20 times ) when he's in the zone and happy about something
I can relate.
Let them speed through, afterwards you can always ask them to tell it again and you'll see it'll be way more understandable 😂
Her blood tests came back positive for meth, cocaine, pcp, lsd, ecstacy, literal ghosts, and her blood alcohol level was an impressive 75%.
literal ghosts
Someone should have called a priest or the ghost busters-
First you can't drug test for LSD or ghosts. Second blood alcohol at .75 is crazy and unbelievable, .40 is lethal.
She fr thought she was the Demoman from Team Fortress 2
@@JMD501 I think it was a joke?
Just.. wow.. less than 15 minuets over hearing her talk and shes just insufferable in how she talks about people loving her so much and how great she is.
“I would never hurt anyone because I’m a good person, ya know?” “I always try to keep the peace, having harmony in the home is important to me, ya know?” “I cared for him and he cared for me too. He wanted to get married and have kids with me, ya know?” “I bit him on the head by accident, not on purpose, ya know?”
@@SoldMySoul45YA KNOW?!? 😂
Seeing all the ways she lied about him was sad and just exhausting. His physical/emotional description changed when it benefited her story. She calls him childish, then old and frail, then he's a former weight lifter, but she had to be like a caretaker to him. My heart hurts for Stefan, he must have been so scared of her 💔
Right? I noticed that very much as well. One moment "oh I wasnt attracted to him, I just liked his brain and knowledge" then "oh yeah he was a freak obsessed with me" then "he was a good guy" and the doorperson said they acted like a couple.... she has a very warped and self centric view of everything
Where he lived he could of kept her from coming in. So sad
I lost my mind at the number of times this woman uttered "You know?". Made it really hard for me to finish the video lol. It was SO grating!
😂 I could stand to watch it again I’d count it.
I watch a lot of these videos and sometimes, especially with certain people, I don't know how detectives do it. Sitting in a room listening to that woman blathering on and on about herself for hours, all the "poor me, I'm a victim of everyone and everything", the constant stream of bullshit and lies and poorly executed manipulation....I just don't think I could stand to be around her for hours on end.
Not without knocking the hell out of her. So yeah it's better to avoid people like her altogether. Quick way to going to jail.
Forget the cops...what about her poor CELLMATE !!
I'm guessing that they keep the victim(s) and anyone that is affected at the forefront of their mind. They know they have to in order to protect the rest of the public. It does look so mentally exhausting! And here we are doing it for free! Lol
Is so exhausting and infuriating, I am very unlucky since my mom is exactly like her, lucky for you not to know someone in your life like this
Try growing up with your whole family being like her lol
How you can always spot someone who is narcissistic is how they talk. They don't talk to you, they talk AT you. They are story tellers or Walt Disney as I say. They love to paint you a lovely detailed story and not once indicate they are lying. It's very difficult to pick up on their lying unless you know one very well or live with them. They lie with complete ease and talk almost as if they are giving an audition of themselves to an audience
Like my ex
Those are only the stupid ones. The more sociopathic narcissists will be quite engaged with you in a conversation, asking leading questions and seemingly very attentive to you. What they're really doing is looking for ways to manipulate you.
@@Steinkrieg Definitely agree with that. It's the love-bombing stage. Unfortunately I've been there.
@@letsrock1729 I'm sorry you had to go through that. Unfortunately, I naturally do that, but I am conscious enough to use that information only to make sure I don't hurt the person.
@@Steinkrieg How does that work? Because if you're doing those things for the purpose of manipulating someone, but then don't actually manipulate them, the whole 'procedure' loses its 'meaning'.
I left my management job of 5 yrs after dealing with a superior exactly like this woman. I was only working with her for two, but she always had some crazy story to tell, or gossip about someone and she always had to play it up and be super dramatic. She wasn’t entirely hard to get along with-until you disagreed with her. Then she went into panic mode. She became almost like a child “please! Just-you gotta do this thing! Please I NEED this done NOW! Please please!” She would do it until you just did it to shut her up. Which ended up getting worse when her personal life was a wreck. Then it became unbearable. Eventually I had my own home issues and needed to be home by a specific time everyday. Since suddenly I couldn’t work 10-12 hr days for her, I was called lazy. I “NEVER did ANYTHING to help her. Ever!” Not even once thru the whole time of being there apparently 🙄
Eventually I had a mental breakdown and we got into a shouting match and she called me a baby, called me selfish, childish, I wasn’t helping her, I was lazy etc. So I threw my keys on the ground and left.
It sucked bc I NEEDED to have a steady income at the time. Living paycheck to paycheck, but she had become unhinged and I couldn’t stay there anymore. After I left my former coworkers told me all the lies she came up with. Saying I assaulted her, that I “went crazy” and painted herself as the victim. 🙄 I am in a much better job now, been there nearly a year and loving it! ❤
Felt that had a toxic female manager who caught feelings and acted like a big ass hoe bag
Sounds exactly like my bipolar, childish, narcissist mother. Imagine being raised by a nutcase like that. Always being gaslighted, physically and verbally abused. She's the reason I hate people who assume and jump to conclusions. And why I despise bullies. Oh but if you ask her, she's the mother of the century. A horrible human being. It's shocking that I didn't snap.
Stay blessed.
its incredible the type of people you have to work with i know what u mean, and most are protected by managers nosses god knows why god knows why some do a very good job and they dont want to lose them but u MUST also care for the menatl wellbeing of your workers not just the physical, Ive quit jobs bc of working w crazy people believe me and im an excellent worker but i can only deal with crazies for a time and then im off
Women suck
What’s really frightening are the number of comments of people who actually know similar type woman.
In this age where people don’t tend to go out of their way for others, when complete strangers warn you about the people in your life, you need to take heed.
She looks exactly like my mom when she’s acting out the growling situation.
Listening to this woman is making me anxious! I know she doesn’t realize she sounds absolutely batsh*t crazy. I’m sure all of the people that have had to cross this woman’s path have had to question reality because she literally argued that fish wasn’t fish.
I had to fast forward through much of her rambling. Those detectives deserve awards for sitting through that.
@@pattywolford
No joke. It got so dull hearing her complain that she’s always the victim and then the rambling about being in a relationship but not being intimate or just wanting to be an intern that they can sleep with? It’s just like… lol
Somehow still dudes ended up getting with this cow. So imagine how low the bar is nowadays
@@dicknr1 It's still not low enough, I can't get a Girlfriend or even a laid and it's been almost a year now.
@@dicknr1 🤣
I can’t help but compare her behavior, minus the actual murdering part, to many people I know. Scary. I’m still processing. These videos are always so eye opening to me. I learn so much even if it’s just the smallest tips to help me navigate humanity… grateful in some odd way.
I agree. It all seems too familiar, like I’ve had these conversations before.
This is probably a good time to drop people like this from your life. Just in case. lmao
I agree only, I think it does help navigate in life.
yep if you have a women telling you that her man is possessed and starts attacking his physic, mental state while also saying hes the abusive one, more times than not the person speaking is usually the abusive one maybe not physical abuse but mental abuse at the very least. people can be super abusive to people and not even realize they are abusive its sad specially for women because so many times do we hear that men beat women so its easy to be abusive and project your abuse onto the other person. sucks but its true realize when your toxic traits are showing and correct them and if its another person that's doing this and they are in denial about being the abusive one you need to leave, could just end up like this poor guy...being out of shape and using drugs isn't a reason to abuse someone its a sign they need help.
You know that many total screw ups?
She said she couldn't love anyone. That's true. There's no room to love anyone but herself.
I walked away from a relationship like that. Once she started drinking she didn't know when to stop, and would start ranting that I was looking at other women. She drove my family away by acting sullen when they came to visit, she drove my cat out of the house depite having lived with her son who had had a dog. Of couse, I had to welcome HER family when they came to visit and act as a taxi driver every time they wanted to go anywhere. Eventually I said enough is enough and told her I would sooner die alone than live with her a day longer.
Good on you for getting out of that❤
8:10 "He asked me to marry him."
I wouldn't be surprised if he was actually murdered because he didn't want to marry her.
She doesn't seem like the type to take rejections very well.
I guarantee the conversation at his condo that night was "I'm absolutely done with you. This is the last straw. I'm calling you a cab in the morning." And then death by high heel.
This is raw and educational content not over dramatic music or anything over the top. Just police interrogations and detailed breakdowns of all the psychological techniques and methods detectives use to get the truth in the end I never in my 30 years on earth knew how much detail went into interrogations.
No, not every interrogation is so in-depth explained, they follow a particular script and adjust as they feel their way through. We would have psychologists doing the interview😂
I noticed she said 'y'know?' many times when explaining her story to the detectives, probably looking for some kind of verbal comfort or agreement that her actions were justified. Stefan was a kind and caring man, she deserves every moment she spends behind bars and more. Thank you EWU for doing such an amazing job with these videos, especially for always giving respect to the victims and their families. The analysis is also extremely well explained, and as someone who aspires to be in the criminal psychology field, I have learned so much from all of your videos.
Yup! The amount of "you know"s made me soo angry...
Yeah it got so annoying for me to hear her keep saying that. Like no, I don’t know, yknow?
"is he beating you up or about to die?" LMFAOOO
I was expecting her to garble out a yes. 😂
Unfortunate that we didn't get to see the investigators break her phony story apart with evidence. I would liked to have seen her realize that she was found out.
Me too...
Thats why I'm watching it...smh
She would just have kept coming up with stories/lies to explain whatever they showed her.
I was so sad that the video was coming to an end and the detectives didn't challenge anything.
I think the reason is that it's already known that she killed the guy. They were not looking for a suspect like in other videos. They just needed to hear why from her own mouth.
This woman would be an absolute nightmare to live with or date. Nothing is ever good enough, and the second you tell her no (no matter how many things you have done for her) the claws come out and suddenly you're a monster... the perpetual victim that couldn't possibly be the reason why none of her relationships work out. Always the perfect angel when recanting events, everyone else is out of control. Always beware when people use "Next thing you know" or something like "Blah blah blah" to skip over important details... huge red flag.
you hate woman! she is an innocent victim woman don't comit violent crimes men do
@@tonyamartin1425 you're either joking, or my comment hit too close to home for you
You described 2 of my ex girlfriend perfectly.. guess that's why they're ex's lmao
What you discribed is roughly the typical experience of dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder. There's a honeymoon period at the start where they act like the universe revolves around you and you're the best partner ever... Then it just switches to what you discribed
@@Man_Emperor_of_Mankind it's terrifying to think that the partner that you know and love could just be putting on an act and you never really know who someone actually is...
Babe wake up, new EWU video
Weird as shit.
First thought that popped into mind
UwU
@@Multijee1 OwO
No. eWu
She is the most unconvincing storyteller I’ve ever heard, she tells the story like a child recounting something that happened where they were bad but think they can make it sound like they weren’t by lying. You. Could have given this case to a deaf and blind detective with no interpreter and they would say “Bitch is lying, book her” lol
It's so weird that Stefan would date her. He must have had some pretty deep-rooted insecurities because he seems insanely out of her league. He looks decent for an old guy, has his ducks in a row, has nice friends, lives in a cool place, is apparently super nice to everyone. Meanwhile, she admits being a gold digger, she admits manipulating every guy she meets with sex, which is especially weird because her looks are average at best, and the way she shames him for is age is also strange because she looks like she is past 50 herself.
Stefan really should have listened to Anders... or the concierge... or the cab drivers... or his neighbors... so many people telling him she was not worth it and only trouble. So sad he had to pay this high a price for bad judgment... RIP Stefan!
off topic but seeing a Hennes in this comment section was... weird.
RIGHT!!!??? My thoughts exactly
It seems to me that might’ve been fetish fuelled relationship. She did murder him with a stiletto after all.
Sounds a bit like Amber Turd
Its amazing how much damage a single pussy can do to a man. Ive seen many a good man brought low because "the pussy is amazing"
the fact you can feel the narcissistic vibe right away. 😵💫
That female driver seems like she has a genuine heart. She seemed concerned for him
SEEMS
Never does “you’re an intelligent person” coming from a detective ever end well 😂
Was literally going through an EWU video binge and you upload a new one. Man this channel is always on point. Thanks Raven and EWU crew!
Same!!
@Vibe Master my nama greg
Samee! 💕
Ana: “if I have one flaw it’s really that I’m too perfect, too loving, too wonderful so it makes me a target for literally every person I’ve ever met to deceive and abuse me”
the mind frame of modern american women
@@ohhlook2328 or so incels would have us believe
@@nicholassimon1419 ?
@@nicholassimon1419 narcissism is a rampant issue among the entire world, particularly 1st world. just because one not-so great group says this stuff doesnt mean it isnt true.
@@CarefulHowYouStep yes but it’s no more true about American women than it is about American men for instance, so if someone chooses to single out women it’s not for the sake of accuracy it’s for the sake of resenting/disliking women.
I applaud those officers for being able to sit there straight faced through 3½ hours of narcissistic projection and persecution complex. In the end their hard work was rewarded with her openly admitting that she ripped out his hair, beat him to death with the $1,500 shoe he bought her while she held him dowm, and she even pointed out that all the marks on her were from a fight the night before with a girl who's place she was crashing at. There was nothing they needed to ask her.
I have NEVER fast forwarded a single episode you’ve posted. Until this one. 🤦🏼♀️ I could NOT listen to her drone on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on, (continue for at least an hour). I hope those detectives got raises.
Stefan seemed like a kind and loving soul, it's heartbreaking when we lose good people so violently because of selfish monsters like her, he deserved so much better
RIP Stefan
i appreciate that even though she gaslit and spun and assaulted, that his friends and witness testimony, were able to corroborate his previous accounts and shed light on facts, as well as likelihoods, regarding his ultimate experience. a voice for someone who couldn’t share his own account.
i especially appreciated the breakdowns, info, and delineation, about and between borderline, codependency, narcissism, and anti social.
I think the way she handled herself in this interview totally eliminated the need for corroboration of his demeanor, attitudes, and style. She handed the detectives all the evidence they needed by her ranting about herself and her body language.
I know a person who is literally addicted to being a victim. Its exhausting. One day I listened to it till I couldn't take it anymore and I just screamed at her and said " everything's not always about you " it didnt help😣
Aw lol
I just won't allow people like that in my life, I've had friends that have friends like that, were all out in a big group, I keep them at arms length or just straight up tell them, I don't like you, don't like the games you play, keep your distance from me and keep my name out your mouth....never had time for that shit, I am autistic and adhd, I think that really contributed alot to me not giving a crap and being very unemotional about it, I truly don't care about your hurt feelings, that's truly how I'd feel, I'm nicer now since I've gotten much older,lol
Bruh I know this chick is a heinous murderer but if I closed my eyes I can almost picture my exes and several of my friends exes talk about themselves in the same way this lady does. Shit’s wild.
Trash attracts trash. You and your friends collectively can't attract a normal woman. Wonder what that says about you and your friends.
The way she turns everything she does on him reminds me a lot of the way my mother is. Nothing is ever her fault, relishes in attention and loves being a victim.
My mom is the same too. Exactly the same.
My mom's the same
shoutout to my fellow children of narcissists, i'm so sorry
Bipolar, narcissist alcoholic mom...yup
@@dopesickdog could be BPD as well. I feel like both BPD and NPD tends to project onto others.
She made a fatal mistake at 48:20 when she said when she judged him he would "regress". Portraying him as mousey, childlike, frail man...hardly a man that would attack her and overpower her. (I think she realized her mistake, because immediately after she began to fumble her words trying to 'recover' but couldn't think of what to say.) A lot of people with Narcissistic personality traits don't like someone else being in control, so if he was trying to break it off with her aka: stop taking care of her, then I could totally see how things could turn violent.
My own children got that advice from their mom when they were around ten. Be unfair and yell. Afterwards he will do want you want. CPTSD is hard to have. "Predators" sniff you out.
@@JazzLispAndBeer Indeed they do...learning to spot the Red Flags before getting too involved will go a long way in avoiding them or allowing them to get too close in your life. Having ties with them forever because of children is as tough as it gets, making it harder to heal from past traumas...look up videos regarding 'understanding narcissists', there are some really great support videos out there. Understanding how they think and react is your best defense. I wish you peace in your heart, sir.
Yep her ego is so fragile it engaged her. Narcassistic rage innit
I feel so sad for Stefan, I wish he was still with us. The moment his friend saw him crying about the issue with that evil lady, he was bitten. He was a good man, he was trying so hard and ended up losing his life that way. 😞
@@blue-sq7tj Yeah, imagine things could be so different if he doesn't get inside. I don't know if it's because he was an alone and needy man, and also the fact he loved her, he kinda accepts the risk, when loving someone we stay blind. All he wanted was someone to take care of him I felt.
@@pauIlo he could have done way better.
@@rockstarofredondo I don't know anyone with a ball of crystal.
Gentlemen, never enter relationships and never cohabitate. In this day and age it is just waaaay too dangerous for us.
Wow! This case was fascinating with all the witness testimony. When I first saw their pictures, I was thinking she was an escort. Stefan was warned so many times by people, but he was just too passive about it. Smart guy, but not street smart. It cost him his life.
The scariest thing is that many of us seem to have met this type of person, but it didn't result in murder (yet). Yikes! Thanks EWU for another great analysis :)
I want to thank you for the subtitules, English is not my first language so sometimes it’s hard to understand the suspect’s interviews, I hope your channel keeps growing. Hugs from México!
English is my first language and I still had a hard time understanding this one 😬
hi Veronica!
You are right , subtitles are very useful. And they are not auto-generated subtitles.
I'm french and sometimes i really need them.
@@VektorEpsilon One minute in, and it sounds like she's high or drunk.
@@Flamsterette Had a girlfriend years ago with severe bipolar. When she was manic she spoke the same way. Could be drugs, but I wouldn't doubt a mental disorder either.
Her story is so unbelievable. The way she tells it.
Omg. She needs big help.
I'm thinking she can't be fixed.
In the UK even for some assault charges, the first thing they do is meticulously collect and catalog your clothes for forensics. They even stand you on paper to collect anything that might fall off of your clothes. I can't believe this Hasn't been done here and she's literally sat there wearing the evidence.
what are you talking about?? Do you think she normally wears paper overalls?
@@markfrost2707 I don't think you understood my comment in its entirety you pretentious little man! If you read it carefully I think you might get it
@@markfrost2707 You weren't really listening to what was said, is that possible? Otherwise you wouldn't say such stupid sh*t.
@@markfrost2707 I share similar sentiments as Luke haworth, who has serious reservations as to the integrity of the evidence wrapped around her hind limbs (a.k.a pair of blue jean trousers). He posed a very intelligent question.
My wife is a forensic expert, and based in The UK. Her exercises always highlight the critical effects of tampering with evidence and how crucial trace elements in a crime scene could be substantially significant in identifying culprits.
The prints on the chair could interfere with the DNA prints on her outfit and who knows how many hands have tampered with the coverall, she's been provided.
@@markfrost2707 she wears it over her pants that are full of blood and only because she asked for cover up, check around 19:08 again...
Can we all take a second to give these detectives credit for not reacting to this crazy lady with all those sound effects! I couldn’t contain my facial expressions/reactions listening to her speak. This lady needs professional help in prison!
I would have either laughed in her face or just walked out.
I had to deal with someone like this for the majority of my life and my god it was like listening to nails on a chalkboard on repeat the entire time listening to her speak. The input the narrator put over the footage was a nice relief from her nonstop talking-
"Prison help" I agree. Ass whoopin.
Every thing this whoore said is what All modern woman say I dated older men a narcissist I dated a man that hit me bla bla lies always men's fault multiple baby daddies dating bad boys trash but funny when woman finally listen they say damn she's annoying yeah all of you are like this she takes men's money but doesn't want to give s3x saying ooo just friends you have done that bs too
@@chadberles2056 Whore*
Sorry I don't mean this to be rude or anything, just mentioning how it's spelled ^^"""
The sound effects are the way a lot of hispanics talk and use them to describe things, doesn't mean she's crazy. She crazy for killing someone with a goddamn stiletto and being abusive.
i really liked how james talked about ana- saying that she was "with child" and that she "suffered a miscarriage"
just really kind phrasing that made him seem like a good person
I thought he sounded like a gentleman. Nice.
she probably lied about the pregnancy
I also noticed that. He sounded like an old-timey gent when he said that.
@@oldjohnny9341 Ugh, very likely to lock him down for a while. I'm actually surprised Amber Heard didn't do that to Johnny Depp.
@M W even if she did the point is he worded it that way to be a gentleman and that’s good on him
Narcissists hate boundaries. Hate being made to look like they are in the wrong.
This woman gaslighted an elderly gentleman into thinking he had all these ailments. She broke down his intelligence, confidence, and ability to defend himself, until he was completely controllable. I'm only half way through the video but I'm guessing his bank account was draining as fast as his life did 😔 I tell my teenage sons all the time STAY AWAY FROM BERSERKERS! My SIL presents like this lunatic in the video so at least they can see it in real life with their aunt. It's a whole other level of existence and it is absolutely exhausting.
Holy crap this lady has a ball of snakes for brains! Always the victim or the hero, NEVER the villain. Lock it away for good.
The venemous way she talks about him like a child, too. The fact she would say it that way, and imply a disgust and hatred to ward him and children, makes me angry like no other
He likely had very little confidence to begin with or he wouldn't have gotten this nut jobs attention.
"Because I don't like INCEST. And I don't want to be with a CHILD." Holy sh*t lady. You are CERTIFIABLE. Some parts of this ish seriously had me LOLing. HARD.
I've tried to watch this video fully twice, and both times I fell asleep near the middle of it(so I've only seen the beginning and end). But every time I woke up it was the lady STILL nonstop talking about some kind of long winded story, so I dont feel like I missed much 😂
Same. It seemed more like 10 hours than whatever it actually was.😴
Sameee
Imagine having to listen to her stories when she’s drunk 😭
Omg so many of us haha
That’s why I speed it up 1.5X, but it’s STILL putting me to sleep.
After all the serial killers, murderers, and thieves that interrogators have to deal with, this is probably the first I've seen where felt like the interrogators (and viewers) were the ones suffering mental agony
it always shakes me to know that murderers have families. like she was about to go visit her mom and her daughter and they were probably sitting there wondering where she was the next day anxious that something happened to her. but really she was taking someone’s life.
Sometimes family members just hold their breath for years, decades, waiting for the inevitable to occur.
I'm going go.tosleeo9
pretty sure they were relieved she didn't show up
@@honeybadger1847 very true..they don't want to believe it so i think that's why they never get them help when they need it.
Those could have been lies for all we know. Also its note worthy her kids dont live with. Not judging anyone else for that bc there are several factors that could play into that,, but she just seems sketchy. She wasn’t going anywhere
I think that since he’s always a calm and quite shy man, she probably never seen him angry before. So I’m assuming that most likely they came upstairs after the taxi altercation and tried to put her in her place and tell her that she was in the wrong. He probably tried breaking off their relationship and told her to leave, most likely because the taxi lady told him that she’s no good and he finally seen it for himself that he needs to remove himself from her. So her saying that he was saying he doesn’t want her to go is probably the exact opposite. Instead of saying “I don’t want you to ever leave me” was most likely “I want you to leave”.
Thinking the same thing! Usually, the culmination of toxic relationships like this is when the other partner is finally breaking up for good with the narcissistic partner. He was probably exhausted with her and asked her to never come back. Narcissists are so scary, imagine she just killed him but she sure has no problem blabbering for hours about how she was so good to him and that he was obsessed with her. She killed him and she's also trying to assassinate his character.
Literally the only interrogation channel I could ever watch ngl it’s the Voice
Other channels don’t hit the same😭😭
Well said!
He does have a really nice voice, but I would prefer it if he toned down the dramatic narration style a little, and his accent is kind of strange. Sounds like he may be from rural Ohio or so, his "L"s, mostly at the end of words, sound very odd.
Nobodies talking about how annoyed the 911 operator sounded for no reason?? Like girl, if this wasn’t a murderer you were talking to, that would be a really bad attitude for an operator.
I'm only at the 45:23 mark, and this woman is all over the place, and the detectives DESERVE an award for being so incredibly patient with her. I can't imagine how ANYONE can have a conversation with her.
The way she contradicts herself throughout the interrogation is absolutely priceless. Alf seemed like a great guy that took great care of her, but the second he doesn't buy her whatever or doesn't do whatever she wants, she throws a temper tantrum. She seems like a spoiled and pampered brat.
I'm so incredibly glad that Alfs friends came forward and spoke to the detectives, and told them exactly what they saw. It's disturbing. Thank you, EWU, for always putting out phenomenal content.
Half hour in and I can’t even finish this. It’s too disturbing. Poor Stefan - he’ll be immortalized through his work and impact on the people around him.
His name was Stefan. At least get his name right if you want to immortalise him.
@@jinxterx Huh?
It’s just so crazy that she’s casually sitting there with her pants full of her victim’s blood…
Yeah cops should've had them bagged and tagged 🤯
I wonder if she's killed any other men who wouldn't marry her (so she could use them for US citizenship and money until she used them dry). I'm sure he realised she was just using him. The way she sits there with blood on her without a qualm is like she's done it before.
Right... Lol shit crazy.. I guess they want her to explain it with all that shit just like that
Legend has it that wasn't from the victim,
She has a super crazy period!
Insanely heavy flow that just soaks her.
@@MONSTERSINC801 eww 😅😅
Detective tells cab driver that dudes name was Stefan. She continues to call him Estaban.😂
Esteban is Stephen in Spanish
The detective even told her his last name and she remembered, Andersson, and then went back to calling him "Mr. Esteban"
Except for the murdery thing, this woman was exactly like my ex girlfriend. She was terrifyingly narcissist, and it's one of those things that you don't realize until they've already locked you in. I learned that she would tell me the most loving things, and say that she wants to be with me forever, etc. But behind my back she would tell some people that I'm the worst person ever, and would tell others how she wants to marry me. She manipulated everyone in order to get the most attention possible. No matter what I did for her, it never mattered. One 'mistake' on my part and I had to practically get down on my knees apologizing. She would purposefully go out of her way to lie and do things that she knew would hurt me, but if I were to take any offense then *I* was the one in the wrong.
And one of the most dangerous things you can do is to reject a narcissist. They don't hurt you. They break you. My ex completely broke me. It messed me up for months, but despite all I got put though, the more I learn about people in relationships with narcissists... I got off easy.
wow, you literally described my relationship down to a T. My sanity has been at stake for a long time bc my brain can’t process how the unforgivable shit that they do makes sense in their head??? it’s a one-way street and nothing else they’ll do exactly what they demand you don’t do. my chances of meeting someone else are nonexistent bc i can’t go through the phases of another psychotic relationship again. it’s exhausting. it’s crazy how you can meet someone and think “yeah, this is the one” and then a few months/yrs later .. boom
@@jailenep1930 something that really helped me was reading articles and watching TH-cam videos about being in a relationship with a narcissist. It's so validating to hear someone you've never met describe your experience down to the smallest detail.
It's incredible how similar they are to each other. They all seem to have the same playbook. Like animals with very specific instincts that were born just knowing how to do it.
I went through the same with my ex. It was crazy making, and the healing process has been long and complex. Glad we got out.
i found that just saying ‘okay’ to a narcissist either shuts them down or drives them crazy.
That sounds very similar to an ex-friend I had for four years. Being afraid around them everyday and worrying you'll trigger their wrath is one thing, but putting your foot down and saying enough opens up a whole different world of pain. And even after you get away, you still worry if you yourself were the problem thanks to being gaslit so much. I still worry on an off that I'm a narcissist and don't recognize it so watching interrogation videos like this make me extremely paranoid. I'm not sure if anyone else whose dealt with a narc feels the same way when watching stuff like this. 😅 I'm glad you're not with your ex anymore. You didn't deserve that.