At 65 I retired as a full-time science professor and have been teaching part-time ever since. Also, I have a large vegetable garden 25 meters by 30 meters . On the weekend I teach the neighborhood children physics and chemistry from 7 to 10 in the morning for free of course. . Next February, I will be 80 and have just signed a new 3-year contract with the university. Hardly ever watch TV but always watch your videos and eagerly look forward to the next one P.S. have never owned a cell phone. Best regards, Timmydog
I hear ya on the phone.....I'm a flip phone guy. I'm busy too, and smart phone seemed clumsy to carry. No tv, but am on second ipad....many projects going all the time...lots of parts to order and research to do.
OMG! GREAT VIDEO! I am going through this now at 55 following the divorce. Family thinks I am nuts for forgiving her but it is poison to my system. I have no hard feelings. I have bucket list items written down and the world is anew. Exercising nearly daily to be able to do these items like fly fishing all the Gold Medal Rivers out west and motorcycle trips cross country with friends. We are presented an opportunity. USE IT! Don't dwell, you only hurt you. I think this is my new favorite channel. Thank you John! You have the chance to help a lot of men going through tough times.
Don't be bitter but get rid of the people that use you. Pets don't criticize you and want you to feel bad about yourself so that they can take opportunities to use you👍🏼.
John as a 36 year old man this video was great for me. Through all the darkness I am searching for some positivity and this is it. I want to give to others like you do and I really want to make a difference in their lives it just feels like a drop in the bucket sometimes.
John I love your videos that you put together even that now it's been 7 years that I've been divorced it's nice to come to your Channel it's been invigorating for me helps me get a better clarity especially that I have no family living anymore I do have two children grown but I am a prideful man and I would never go to my children and burden them I stay strong in front of my children so I thank you for going through the effort to help so many men very difficult times bless you my brother oh and stay single 😄💪
I think you just nailed the essential “why” of failed relationships. My definition of a successful life turned out to be far different from my ex’s. After 10 years she left 4 years ago. It was hard as I also lost my first wife to cancer when she was 46. I really thought I had got my second chance and it was great for a long time. It just wasn’t meant to be. Forgiveness and finding a mountain to climb has been instrumental to finding my way back. At 63 I am contently single and enjoying all facets of my new life adventure. Thank you John. I really connect with your experiences and thoughts. All the best.
Thank you John, wishing everyone a great day! Purpose is everything, my neighbor is 95 and drives everywhere has his Zest still. I saw him on an extension ladder two stories up replacing his gutters by himself! Great advice John, thank you!
To forgive, you must first forgive yourself for making the series of choices that led to your disappointing outcome. When you can feel compassion for yourself for the part you played in creating the unwanted outcome, it becomes possible to feel it for the other person as well. You do this not for someone's absolution or reconciliation but to release yourself from being forever held hostage by anger. Of course you never completely forget the pain, yet that pain is a gift -- a gateway to a more resilient version of yourself.
John..."Not Religious"? Your respect and understanding of Jesus and the Christian message is spot on. Whether you realize it or not, you are really evangelizing! One of your best messages yet. Insight that truely resonates. I will share with others. Bravo! God Bless.
I guess I don’t go to church anymore, but I do have very strong, spiritual beliefs. I just don’t like the way Christianity has turned away from its true values in our culture. Too many people use Christianity as a way to be divisive and even cruel to others. And I can’t buy into that. But thanks I appreciate it.
I really enjoyed this session. The hope, the positivity and the forgiveness messages. Since, I struggle understanding why staying single is or would be a dafault better choice for people. I am not religious too much, but the biblical suggestion that “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” resonates with me. ( see Genesis 2,18)
I have been retired for 20 years. I stayed very busy having to be the caregiver to 5 people,family and inlaws.That consumed 13 years of my life. That was stressful and was not my plans for retiring, but i am glad i did the right thing. One family member remains,brother, who is house bound and can't walk without a walker. I have been active getting much better on playing my guitars, classis rock and blues. I also am active in building and flying RC aircraft. I am good at computer created artwork. I live alone as an old divorced boomer, and my friends have passed on. I enjoy my peaceful time i have remaining. One needs to be active and have hobbies or share time with friends.
I retired early to care for my parents, for ten years. They are gone now, but I look back and wish they were still here, but they stayed in their home with me. I salute you for going the distance, and having some hobbies on the side. We are a rare club in this society,we who treasure our families.
Man, I torpedo'd my marriage because I had a big problem with alcoholism. I love your videos. Makes me feel life isn't over. ps. It's not always the womans fault.
In the realm of spiritual physics, what you are describing is called the "Law or Reciprocity." It's a universal law that is activated by the user. You can think of it as a powerful force available to everyone. "For every action, there is a reaction." Good video!!!
Also has a ton to do with who you surround yourself with. Being around no one is better than allowing the wrong people in your life. Boundaries are key essentials.
Hi John; This video,I listened to while preparing my breakfast; I shook off the depressive thoughts early this morning, took a long walk, raked up bags of leaves, and then made a great breakfast with your video on. I think of the great Don Henley song "Forgiveness",there is a lot in the lyrics. Every day is a new day, and the dark thoughts come first thing in the morning, in bed, so it is critical to get up, get out and plan the day. It takes courage to get older, and now, probably like you, I now understand the courage that my parents and grandparents had to face as they aged. Have a great day!
I believe you are totally correct. A successful man never feels he has succeeded. He is always pushing. Always building. Always creating. The loss of a spouse, the love of your life, makes life extremely difficult to carry on. She was the air under your wings. You must replace her somehow or you crash
Yes your work has motivated me to learn more about my active life as a retired military man who still backpacks, travels, lift weights, swims and camps at age 62. I help other baby boomers keep their physical fitness and mental fitness up in our retirement years by researching and helping veterans navigate their disability and healthcare claims. It all gives me purpose in these later years. Thanks for the advice you gave me on the Hoka shoes to help out with my plantar fasciitis. Don’t really like the way they look but they’ve been incredibly helpful in my recovery to get back to hiking! 👍
Yeah, I’m right there with you on the shoes. I’m not a big fan of the style, but they do make a big difference on my feet. I ran a 5K in them over the summer and I was amazed at how little pain I felt.
You know what, after hearing you speak about purpose, I have a hypothesis. Maybe, just maybe, most guys get married as an excuse to run away from their true purpose in life. Think of all the Teslas', George Washington Carvers, Wright Brothers, Leonardo DaVincis' the world has lost to marriage. When I think back on my last relationship in 2010, the greatest benefit I received was guaranteed distraction.
I’ve become a recent fan of your channel John! You’re amazing! 💪🏻 🙏🏻 I’m a thriving 49 yr old Gen-X’r. When I moved to Vegas from CA 2 years years ago, my first gf here was 20 (Mexican, and she was such a DIME). My current gf is from Colombia who lives in Vegas too and she’s 28. The fitter I got, the more youthful I appeared. So I just kept going. I still get carded today. The older women are the ones who really hate on me (for obvious reasons…)…. But hey, I’ve put in the work and every point you mention in this vid is right on the money. I have a martial arts 🥋 and dance background and am currently a PT model/actor/artist here in Sin City. I also have an AMGc63s. NONE of these (material) things matter until and unless you invest in self improvement which also changes your entire energy and glow 💯 The energy and vibe doesn’t lie. Get into the self-improvement game and it takes care of everything else in your life! Including career, opportunities etc.. I’m truly living my best life before turning 50 here and feel like I have 50 more in me 🙏🏻 💪🏻
0:00 i WILL GO INSANE HOW YOU MANAGE TO FILM THE SAME MOTIVES LOOKING CONSIDERABLY DIFFERENT EVERY TIME, AND SO VERY INTENSE EACH AND EVERY TIME! 👌 First seconds of this vid are true feast of my colours: orange and blue (I am Leo in horoscope), and after that you are "adding" green which matches perfect with both orange AND blue! If only for the visual qualities, I would look your vids each and every day! Both in photography of the vids and in your meditations you are better than a pro! You are best youtuber I have ever encountered. True story!
GOOD ONE JOHN! I can't tell you how much your videos have helped, it's been 10 years for me, I am 74, you have a gift! Yes you must fight on, get out and just do something, after she left I got a job at Lowes, part time it was good for me untill I was 72, the kids that they started hiring were just to lazy for me to deal with, the last 2 years have been a bore, long walks along the Susquehanna, and at state parks keep me going now!
The best advice I can give is dont take things personally. I understand easier said than done. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Process your emotions and release them in private. You will get upset angry but just release in private. Think of Earth as a school to master your emotions in a Polarity environment. Observe but try not to absorb. Find meaning in life and dont chase happiness.
17:06 - Dear John, in the Roman Empire the most cruel sentence for a person was DAMNATIO MEMORIAE - erasing the person from the memory. Not hate, but un-recollection. It is form of forgiving somebody`s wrongdoings to yoursely =)
Life comes in quarters. Live right and charge the goal in overtime! And last… don’t be a little bitc%‼️ Cheers from 📍Medellin Colombia ! 🇨🇴 #NewRich! 🛩️💃🏾💃🏾🕺🏾
My grand father worked to the day he died at age 89. He would get up and have breakfast with his wife and go to the car wash and fill the coins ND clean the bathrooms and clean up around the business. By noon he was back at home and having lunch with his wife. He died in a Walmart getting a spark plug for his tractor to cut his 2 achers of grass. My father retired at 65 and did well with volunteer work, but then found out he was being used and stopped that work. He did walk 3 to 4 miles a day, but his mind started to go down hill mentally. The brain is a muscle, stop using it? It will fade away!
My Grandma lived to be 98, worked to late 80's. She always said it was because she worked. She felt like you said added value to others as well as herself and physically active😊
Great advice. I don't have any stories about my grandfathers. One died 10 years before I was born. The other died when I was 5 or 6 years old. But I definitely want to have a great, active retirement.
Yeah, I feel like life is just beginning now. I feel like I’m just now smart enough to figure out this stuff out and I don’t want it to end before I have all the fun I want.
I think the older we get the less of a good attitude we have & the more bitter we become. Aging is a hard pill to swallow with the changes occurring with our looks. Most of us start losing our sex appeal from middle-age onward. I'm 63 & though in great shape & fit for my age, when I look in the mirror I see a harsh, aging appearance. Hair graying & thinning, ear lobes droopy, saggy neck skin, hairs growing out of my nose & ears, facial muscles deteriorating, etc. It's no wonder I'm invisible to women on the dating apps! 🤣 (I don't use filters). I miss my younger days when I was a fairly good looking dude & women had genuine desire for me. Now I try to avoid looking into a mirror afraid of what I'm going to see next! 🤣🤣🤣
Great video. It's becoming more and more clear that stored stress and trauma are a huge determinant of health. And conversely, lack of stress along with meaning and belief are the huge positive forces. Good example locally: a local friend was diagnosed with mediatized prostate cancer. Given 2 months to live. Got a 2nd opinion. Same conclusion: get your affairs in order. He and his wife are devout Christians. They prayed, and he started juicing. Two years later, he's cancer free. The doctors can't belief it. I belief that his consciousness and belief itself transformed his health. Mind can literally induce changes in matter and biology. Your take on forgiveness is on the money: it frees your mind from the negativity and hate, which are corrosive. I take a bit of an exception to the "belief" that you are always "running out of time." That itself can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, focussing on the idea that you are "running out of time" can easily flip to a sense of dread and anxiety. Personally, I prefer to think of time and life as mysterious and full of limitless possibility, freeing yourself to not worry about such limits. A high school classmate recently saw me for the first time in decades, and was very unpleasant. "Why do you still look the same as you did in high school," she snapped. I didn't have a chance to respond, but if I could have, it would be, "Because I don't have the same beliefs you do." Anyway, great video. To limitless possibility and living like the present moment is all we have and need!
Good morning. First try to be healthy as a young person, including exercising and eating Good foods. As a person ages, the quality of life will improve if you can stay healthy. Pick your friends carefully too. Read📖 good books..........on the way to the gym this morning
my mother was exactly the same way. she worked full time at walmart as a cashier. but when she quit that due to some back pain she started going down hill very fast.
Id agree purpose is a must and im very much looking forward to building a legacy business i have in mind that i hope will help millions of people. Its interesting the comments you made, at this stage of life that seems more important to me than actual wealth for myself. If it were all about me i doubt id have the motivation. On the forgiveness thing.... check. As i said recently im sure my ex is/was a covert narcissist and i forgive her for that. The fact is its not her fault exactly, its something picked up from a childhood trauma and is almost impossible to change. I know she made effort, but just couldn't lower the wall to meaningful conversation and solving issues due to it. So hard to not forgive. I feel a fool for not seeing it earlier but even thats probably a good thing given it was vital i was around for my son's depression or he may not be with us today. Which i heavily suspect has everything to do with ex condition.
Hi John! Love your channel! I'm learning a lot from you and other older folks since my father, which is a great person, never taught me anything about life and was a bit narcissistic. Although my father loved, still loves, himself more than his family i'm not angry at him and love him, i digressed a bit. So, my question is whether you have some tips for a guy at his late twenties. I'm 28 y.o, very satisfied with life cured most of my childhood traumas, was able to migrate to a new country/continent and managed to build some sort of life. I have a fairly good understanding of women, money, diet and in general the important stuff. What things you are appreciating in your age that you didn't think about in your late twenties? Thanks John!!
Why hello again John…… I remember reading about some monks, and I don’t remember what part of the world they lived in… But it doesn’t matter for the story…… Anyway, One of the big purposes of the monks each year was to run in this quite long race and had to train to get in shape for this race that was many many miles long… Probably as long or longer as a marathon…… Anyway, to train for this race they had these large barrels because they also made brandy or beer and what they would do is meditate inside the barrel like most of the Day and this went on for many days before the race. On the day of the race they would all leave their barrels and run the race like they were fully trained athletes…… But it was all in their mind…… When I was much younger I had a job with a purpose like you have no with your fitness training…… Like you😢, I had to keep in really good shape for this job so I how to work out and also have a very good diet…… Like your job, my clients needed help to perform properly and I was there to help them…… What did I do for a living back then? I was a prostitute…… Jazlyn
It’s a sobering thing to look back over our lives wondering if we have lived it well. Some of us not so much …how do feel about the book of Ecclesiastes ? That book shows life as having many seasons…
I've heard your grandpa's story so many times. Retire, health goes south and it's all over in a few months. I'll never understand this "no purpose" after retirement. But then again i've always been a work to live kind of guy not a live to work. My point is, i can't wait to retire. The minute this is possible i'm out! Might drop dead a few months after like everyone else but they'll be the greatest few months of my life, dammit!
related to people dying abruptly when they retire ...actually ive been seriously thinking the advance of AI and something like the humanoid robots "doing all the work" could well be the ultimate behavioral sink if it becomes reality. To talk a little bit about boring biology and evolution - we are born to struggle, to face pressure and challenge. Im quite convinced that throwing humans like we are today to situation where they (and everyone else) could just do whatever they pleased would turn very quick very fatal. Im just not seeing most of us having such strong mind and drive that in situation where we had everything, we would be able to choose the "right thing". AI that knew everything, could build anything and be everything ...that would be ultimate passivator - truly what would be the point of our existence at that point? To just idle to eternity? Actually that remind me of exurb1a's "Then Next Comes" - here on youtube. Now theres some food for thought and entertainment baked in one.
Back in the old days, being a husband and wife actually meant something. Now a husband/ex-husband is seen as a retirement plan for women. No thank you, I'll stay on the sidelines.
I went through this too. Sports exhausted me too much after 6 years of intense running, working out, playing bball etc. I need something different for a while. Somebody told me, you need to accept your state (of being regretful, things have not worked out etc.) Say out loud the word "Yes", "Yes this is how things are now, yes" Then I did very small steps doing less 'active' and exhausting things, e.g., going to a local park, later went there regularly, greeted people, talked to them when the chat you up etc. Now I got a new place to remodel etc. Later I might join a book club or a self help group or hike group. (In my area there are no divorce groups, but men groups and depression groups. This helped me a great deal even though I only went a few times.) Cooking decent meals from scratch for yourself also can occupy oneself and give you a flow experience. Painting walls can be soothing as well.
I say yes. They take away from the quality of life. When you settle for a woman you say ok, this is all life has to offer me, I am content. But it takes away from all the awesome things life has to offer. You can live an absolutely fulfilling life without a woman. Society led us to believe getting a woman was success. But success is not there. There are milestones in there like having children, going on trips. But it takes away from all the creativity and drive and passion you could have put into so many other things! I say this as a divorced man ... But women are 1000% a liability.
My issue is that i mentioned the D word several times but never left her. Now that she decided on divorcing her i feel sad and regretful. We were not compatible but still its 32 years married .
I used to be negative and bitter until i went off the scale to see life as a bunch of switches and levers, good, bad are all the same BS. Every now and then i relapse to negativity, but, i push myself back off scale. It all makes sense within the realm of life as perception and death as the end of it, so, as we reach the end, our perception narrows and at first this narrowing is filled with negativity, but, its actually nothingness since the mind is terrified of nothingness, which, is death, it hangs on to negativity as its last resort. To accept nothingness, one has to reject negativity if it makes sense. Positivity is mostly childish nonsense that's part of the free ticket to life, but, one is either extremely lucky and protected, or, a fortunate mind mutant to hang on to any positivity leftovers beyond 50-60.
@maplesyrup1805 gratitude is positive, but as a whole, life is subjective along with an individual's feelings, attitudes, etc.. its childish because it starts in childhood under protection and make believe realities. After enough life mileage these subjective layers erode and exposed to have no foundation. Its not wrong to hang on to it, in fact its better to never lose it, but once lost, it is mostly gone and useless, so "be positive" is mostly nonsense, it's either there, or not and by itself it can't reverse negative, or what's real, which is the objective nothingness of life. At best trying to be positive is a short lasting pretend.
Lol. When I was still married, I sometimes would not pay the phone bills so that they stopped the iternet service so that my wife would wake up from her youtube addiction from time to time (She would watch 10 hours videos and tv straight and not go grocery shopping, lol.). Oh well, it did not help me much because I still got divorced now. 🤣
Forgive her for you.. for yourself... for your own peace of mind. Happened to me too. Every minute you think of her and her brutality, she lives rent-free inside your head. MEN love. Women are INCAPABLE of loving. They love wallets. They love money as power. They love the drama that gets them their money, and empties your wallet. They desire to be the source of your brokenness, and unhappiness, and destruction. Success is the best revenge of all. It starts with forgiving her, and forgiving yourself for having fallen for the illusion and the trap that besets all men. Truly the only relationship that counts is that between you and your Creator. BUT it doesn't mean you can't use this to your advantage.
I moved on with me. I dont forgive her. I never will. I dont forgive hardly anyone. I think 'forgiveness' is being weak. Have an attitude of not caring about them. Forgetting them. But forgive? No.
Christ or Christianity is not all about forgiveness. Christ and Christianity was all about the Law. Christ said "If you love me, keep my commandments". John 14:15. Forgiving one another is mercy, for the sake of Christian brotherhood. The Law is understated, or not stated, in the modern churches.
I think about the comment I left you a while back regarding your Father. You had a decent response but I wasn't sure you understood fully. As before I don't know the totality of that situation, not trying to judge. I already did that, wrongly to my Father n Law, he withdrew and had another family. I judged him and didn't understand, I had kids he never knew. Fast forward my wife his daughter did the same thing to me as my Mother n Law did to him. One of my children took to mom's side without question and was not good to me. Now I have a Grandchild 3 who I have never seen. I unfortunately understand my Father n Law now and he's not here to apologize to, but my life is very similar to his was now. What you are talking about here, about betrayal and how you feel, leaving situations, maybe give grace to your father's memory. Maybe he felt as many men do? As you say you can forgive but you don't have to trust or let back may in. Just a thought, enjoy your perspective and videos have a good day.
When I think about my dad, I understand that his upbringing was very different and he did not have strong healthy relationship with his father. Even as a child, I witnessed his inability to manage that relationship with any tact or affection. I also understand that he probably did not receive a lot of nurturing from his grandma from his mother. I think he became really dependent on approval from women. When my parents got divorced, he became extremely dependent and needy and was very clingy throughout the entire process. He became suicidal because of the divorce. He started dating girls that were half his age. He didn’t want to talk to me or my sister for years. Then he remarried, and he started to settle down in his behaviors. After he started having children, I would bring my children over for holidays and birthdays and everything was good. I assume his new wife really did not like him giving time and attention to our families. I doubt she gave him an ultimatum, but I’m sure she made it very clear to him how she felt. From that day forward and that was almost 20 years ago he has had very little contact with me or my family or my sister or her family. Now he’s nearing death and he seems to regret some of his decisions. But he won’t actually say that. My dad was never a terrible father. He did the bare minimum and kept us under roof and fed us. But he was never an enthusiastic father. He was never Someone I could trust to have my back. On several key moments in my life, he gave me advice that did not pass muster. He is who he is and he is the product of his past experiences. So I try not to judge. I do pity him. I feel like he’s missed great opportunities to have some wonderful experiences with my family and my sister‘s family and those times are gone and they cannot be reclaimed. My children do not know him and they could not pick him out of a lineup. I doubt he will live another 12 months. He is a cautionary tale for me. His role in my life has allowed me to contrast the way he managed his role as a father with how I believe one should be managed. I do everything in my power to be the man my father never was.
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Excellent advice (as usual). I enjoy seeing the woods in its different seasons.
Glad you enjoyed it
At 65 I retired as a full-time science professor and have been teaching part-time ever since. Also, I have a large vegetable garden 25 meters by 30 meters . On the weekend I teach the neighborhood children physics and chemistry from 7 to 10 in the morning for free of course. . Next February, I will be 80 and have just signed a new 3-year contract with the university. Hardly ever watch TV but always watch your videos and eagerly look forward to the next one P.S. have never owned a cell phone. Best regards, Timmydog
I hear ya on the phone.....I'm a flip phone guy. I'm busy too, and smart phone seemed clumsy to carry.
No tv, but am on second ipad....many projects going all the time...lots of parts to order and research to do.
OMG! GREAT VIDEO! I am going through this now at 55 following the divorce. Family thinks I am nuts for forgiving her but it is poison to my system. I have no hard feelings. I have bucket list items written down and the world is anew. Exercising nearly daily to be able to do these items like fly fishing all the Gold Medal Rivers out west and motorcycle trips cross country with friends. We are presented an opportunity. USE IT! Don't dwell, you only hurt you. I think this is my new favorite channel. Thank you John! You have the chance to help a lot of men going through tough times.
@@Sal834 no benefits from holding a grudge. Plus once you get that nasty angry feeling out of your body you feel so much better.
Don't be bitter. Be better. Because we only get one chance at this thing called life.
Don't be bitter but get rid of the people that use you.
Pets don't criticize you and want you to feel bad about yourself so that they can take opportunities to use you👍🏼.
@suefleming yes. Most definitely.
John as a 36 year old man this video was great for me. Through all the darkness I am searching for some positivity and this is it. I want to give to others like you do and I really want to make a difference in their lives it just feels like a drop in the bucket sometimes.
John I love your videos that you put together even that now it's been 7 years that I've been divorced it's nice to come to your Channel it's been invigorating for me helps me get a better clarity especially that I have no family living anymore I do have two children grown but I am a prideful man and I would never go to my children and burden them I stay strong in front of my children so I thank you for going through the effort to help so many men very difficult times bless you my brother oh and stay single 😄💪
I think you just nailed the essential “why” of failed relationships. My definition of a successful life turned out to be far different from my ex’s. After 10 years she left 4 years ago. It was hard as I also lost my first wife to cancer when she was 46. I really thought I had got my second chance and it was great for a long time. It just wasn’t meant to be. Forgiveness and finding a mountain to climb has been instrumental to finding my way back. At 63 I am contently single and enjoying all facets of my new life adventure. Thank you John. I really connect with your experiences and thoughts. All the best.
Thank you John, wishing everyone a great day! Purpose is everything, my neighbor is 95 and drives everywhere has his Zest still. I saw him on an extension ladder two stories up replacing his gutters by himself! Great advice John, thank you!
Thanks,
To forgive, you must first forgive yourself for making the series of choices that led to your disappointing outcome. When you can feel compassion for yourself for the part you played in creating the unwanted outcome, it becomes possible to feel it for the other person as well. You do this not for someone's absolution or reconciliation but to release yourself from being forever held hostage by anger. Of course you never completely forget the pain, yet that pain is a gift -- a gateway to a more resilient version of yourself.
John..."Not Religious"? Your respect and understanding of Jesus and the Christian message is spot on. Whether you realize it or not, you are really evangelizing! One of your best messages yet. Insight that truely resonates. I will share with others. Bravo! God Bless.
I guess I don’t go to church anymore, but I do have very strong, spiritual beliefs. I just don’t like the way Christianity has turned away from its true values in our culture. Too many people use Christianity as a way to be divisive and even cruel to others. And I can’t buy into that. But thanks I appreciate it.
@@john-griffin I think the same way. Grew up in church but no longer attend.
@@john-griffin So many churches are just so interested in getting money from you anyway so I don't go to church either.
I live in the very heart of Southern California. Not going to have ANY problem filling my life when I retire. Environment is everything.
Hey John! I'm in my early 30's and find a lot of wisdom in your videos. Just wanted to show my appreciation. 🤝
Gosh John. So insightful. I’m grateful for your videos!!! You are giving to all of us!!
I'm glad you enjoy the videos. Thanks
Get rid of the people that steal your money and make you feel bad about yourself.
Excellent John thank you
I really enjoyed this session. The hope, the positivity and the forgiveness messages. Since, I struggle understanding why staying single is or would be a dafault better choice for people.
I am not religious too much, but the biblical suggestion that “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” resonates with me. ( see Genesis 2,18)
For sure forgiveness is important. Let things go and remember its a learning experience.
I have been retired for 20 years. I stayed very busy having to be the caregiver to 5 people,family and inlaws.That consumed 13 years of my life.
That was stressful and was not my plans for retiring, but i am glad i did the right thing. One family member remains,brother, who is house bound and can't walk without a walker. I have been active getting much better on playing my guitars, classis rock and blues. I also am active in building and flying RC aircraft. I am good at computer created artwork. I live alone as an old divorced boomer, and my friends have passed on. I enjoy my peaceful time i have remaining.
One needs to be active and have hobbies or share time with friends.
I retired early to care for my parents, for ten years. They are gone now, but I look back and wish they were still here, but they stayed in their home with me. I salute you for going the distance, and having some hobbies on the side. We are a rare club in this society,we who treasure our families.
Excellent video. Sound advice. Always good content and well thought out material. Thx!!
Man, I torpedo'd my marriage because I had a big problem with alcoholism. I love your videos. Makes me feel life isn't over. ps. It's not always the womans fault.
Yes ,forgiveness was one of his teachings but also: love your neighbor, feed the poor, heal the sick, and welcome the stranger.
In the realm of spiritual physics, what you are describing is called the "Law or Reciprocity." It's a universal law that is activated by the user. You can think of it as a powerful force available to everyone. "For every action, there is a reaction." Good video!!!
Thanks!
Also has a ton to do with who you surround yourself with. Being around no one is better than allowing the wrong people in your life. Boundaries are key essentials.
You are helping a lot of folks, John.
I hope so. I really appreciate the feedback.
Hi John; This video,I listened to while preparing my breakfast; I shook off the depressive thoughts early this morning, took a long walk, raked up bags of leaves, and then made a great breakfast with your video on. I think of the great Don Henley song "Forgiveness",there is a lot in the lyrics. Every day is a new day, and the dark thoughts come first thing in the morning, in bed, so it is critical to get up, get out and plan the day. It takes courage to get older, and now, probably like you, I now understand the courage that my parents and grandparents had to face as they aged. Have a great day!
I believe you are totally correct. A successful man never feels he has succeeded. He is always pushing. Always building. Always creating. The loss of a spouse, the love of your life, makes life extremely difficult to carry on. She was the air under your wings. You must replace her somehow or you crash
John, another great video. You aren't afraid to speak the truth. Love it!
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for this message. 100% true. We forgive, but we cannot forget, and therefor we Go Our Own Way!
Hey John, Life 2.0 is your finest monolog. The benefits and inspiration are really appreciated.
Thanks, I really appreciate that
Back to back classical wisdom.
Yes your work has motivated me to learn more about my active life as a retired military man who still backpacks, travels, lift weights, swims and camps at age 62. I help other baby boomers keep their physical fitness and mental fitness up in our retirement years by researching and helping veterans navigate their disability and healthcare claims. It all gives me purpose in these later years. Thanks for the advice you gave me on the Hoka shoes to help out with my plantar fasciitis. Don’t really like the way they look but they’ve been incredibly helpful in my recovery to get back to hiking! 👍
Yeah, I’m right there with you on the shoes. I’m not a big fan of the style, but they do make a big difference on my feet. I ran a 5K in them over the summer and I was amazed at how little pain I felt.
Always make it clear that you are friends with benefits and that's it nothing more.
You know what, after hearing you speak about purpose, I have a hypothesis. Maybe, just maybe, most guys get married as an excuse to run away from their true purpose in life. Think of all the Teslas', George Washington Carvers, Wright Brothers, Leonardo DaVincis' the world has lost to marriage. When I think back on my last relationship in 2010, the greatest benefit I received was guaranteed distraction.
I think you are on to something there. Great insight. Thanks
Tesla was murdered by the CIA
I’ve become a recent fan of your channel John! You’re amazing! 💪🏻 🙏🏻
I’m a thriving 49 yr old Gen-X’r. When I moved to Vegas from CA 2 years years ago, my first gf here was 20 (Mexican, and she was such a DIME).
My current gf is from Colombia who lives in Vegas too and she’s 28. The fitter I got, the more youthful I appeared. So I just kept going. I still get carded today. The older women are the ones who really hate on me (for obvious reasons…)…. But hey, I’ve put in the work and every point you mention in this vid is right on the money. I have a martial arts 🥋 and dance background and am currently a PT model/actor/artist here in Sin City. I also have an AMGc63s.
NONE of these (material) things matter until and unless you invest in self improvement which also changes your entire energy and glow 💯
The energy and vibe doesn’t lie. Get into the self-improvement game and it takes care of everything else in your life! Including career, opportunities etc..
I’m truly living my best life before turning 50 here and feel like I have 50 more in me 🙏🏻 💪🏻
To be forgiven, one must be repentant and honestly ask for forgiveness. That is Jesus' true gig.
You can do that if you want, but you’ll be sorry for it in the long run you’re the only one who suffers
0:00 i WILL GO INSANE HOW YOU MANAGE TO FILM THE SAME MOTIVES LOOKING CONSIDERABLY DIFFERENT EVERY TIME, AND SO VERY INTENSE EACH AND EVERY TIME! 👌 First seconds of this vid are true feast of my colours: orange and blue (I am Leo in horoscope), and after that you are "adding" green which matches perfect with both orange AND blue! If only for the visual qualities, I would look your vids each and every day! Both in photography of the vids and in your meditations you are better than a pro! You are best youtuber I have ever encountered. True story!
Oh yes, I love the nature shots so much as well. 🌳🌿🍁 And the cute doggies, they look up John with love and trust. Like two little teddy bears. 🥰🥰
GOOD ONE JOHN! I can't tell you how much your videos have helped, it's been 10 years for me, I am 74, you have a gift! Yes you must fight on, get out and just do something, after she left I got a job at Lowes, part time it was good for me untill I was 72, the kids that they started hiring were just to lazy for me to deal with, the last 2 years have been a bore, long walks along the Susquehanna, and at state parks keep me going now!
Amazing how getting out in nature really makes a big difference
The best advice I can give is dont take things personally. I understand easier said than done. Forgive yourself and forgive others. Process your emotions and release them in private. You will get upset angry but just release in private. Think of Earth as a school to master your emotions in a Polarity environment. Observe but try not to absorb. Find meaning in life and dont chase happiness.
Great advice
I'm 61 and plan on being the oldest man in the world someday. Therefore, it's easier to forget the past and focus on my goal..
16:24 Christianity is about the SALVATION of the soul through FORGIVENESS
17:06 - Dear John, in the Roman Empire the most cruel sentence for a person was DAMNATIO MEMORIAE - erasing the person from the memory. Not hate, but un-recollection. It is form of forgiving somebody`s wrongdoings to yoursely =)
What a great Video! Thanks for everything. I consider myself very lucky to have wise advice so I can grow even being only 37.
Got to keep moving! Gym and fitness every day and yes - find a passion or purpose!
Life comes in quarters. Live right and charge the goal in overtime! And last… don’t be a little bitc%‼️ Cheers from 📍Medellin Colombia ! 🇨🇴 #NewRich! 🛩️💃🏾💃🏾🕺🏾
My grand father worked to the day he died at age 89. He would get up and have breakfast with his wife and go to the car wash and fill the coins ND clean the bathrooms and clean up around the business. By noon he was back at home and having lunch with his wife. He died in a Walmart getting a spark plug for his tractor to cut his 2 achers of grass. My father retired at 65 and did well with volunteer work, but then found out he was being used and stopped that work. He did walk 3 to 4 miles a day, but his mind started to go down hill mentally. The brain is a muscle, stop using it? It will fade away!
Another great vid. When you have time I'd be interested to hear more from you about how to clear negative thoughts from our heads please. Cheers!
Will do! Thanks
My Grandma lived to be 98, worked to late 80's. She always said it was because she worked. She felt like you said added value to others as well as herself and physically active😊
That is awesome.. What type of work was your Grandmother doing in her late 80s?
Great advice. I don't have any stories about my grandfathers. One died 10 years before I was born. The other died when I was 5 or 6 years old. But I definitely want to have a great, active retirement.
Yeah, I feel like life is just beginning now. I feel like I’m just now smart enough to figure out this stuff out and I don’t want it to end before I have all the fun I want.
Forgiveness does not mean, there is not consequence.
There are two kinds of old people:
1) Those with a good attitude, and
2) bitter old men and women
I work with some very bitter older humans who can’t retire and it is torturous to endure their aggravated, loathsome, infectious hatred of the youth.
Attitude is everything
I'm both 😅
@@Job.Well.Done_01it's harder to endure youthful....movements and vaxxes.
I think the older we get the less of a good attitude we have & the more bitter we become. Aging is a hard pill to swallow with the changes occurring with our looks. Most of us start losing our sex appeal from middle-age onward. I'm 63 & though in great shape & fit for my age, when I look in the mirror I see a harsh, aging appearance. Hair graying & thinning, ear lobes droopy, saggy neck skin, hairs growing out of my nose & ears, facial muscles deteriorating, etc. It's no wonder I'm invisible to women on the dating apps! 🤣 (I don't use filters). I miss my younger days when I was a fairly good looking dude & women had genuine desire for me. Now I try to avoid looking into a mirror afraid of what I'm going to see next! 🤣🤣🤣
thank you for the message once again.
I agree 100% John. Great video.
Thanks 👍
I need this fatherly advice
great video. full of useful advice. thanks
Glad it was helpful!
Death is also a gift.
Love this
Great video. It's becoming more and more clear that stored stress and trauma are a huge determinant of health. And conversely, lack of stress along with meaning and belief are the huge positive forces. Good example locally: a local friend was diagnosed with mediatized prostate cancer. Given 2 months to live. Got a 2nd opinion. Same conclusion: get your affairs in order. He and his wife are devout Christians. They prayed, and he started juicing. Two years later, he's cancer free. The doctors can't belief it. I belief that his consciousness and belief itself transformed his health. Mind can literally induce changes in matter and biology. Your take on forgiveness is on the money: it frees your mind from the negativity and hate, which are corrosive. I take a bit of an exception to the "belief" that you are always "running out of time." That itself can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. That is, focussing on the idea that you are "running out of time" can easily flip to a sense of dread and anxiety. Personally, I prefer to think of time and life as mysterious and full of limitless possibility, freeing yourself to not worry about such limits. A high school classmate recently saw me for the first time in decades, and was very unpleasant. "Why do you still look the same as you did in high school," she snapped. I didn't have a chance to respond, but if I could have, it would be, "Because I don't have the same beliefs you do." Anyway, great video. To limitless possibility and living like the present moment is all we have and need!
That’s a really good story! Very valuable information. Thanks.
Hey there John! Thanks for the great message today. I’m turning 60 in 9 days, I’m mulling over your wise ideas.. appreciate it
I’m glad the videos are inspiring you to take steps to have a better life. Now as all you got so you might as well make the most of it.
Thanks
Thank you!
Thanks
Thank you! I’m glad you like the videos
Going from 100mph to 1mph is a shock to the body. Big change needs to happen at an evolutionary pace, not a revolutionary pace.
The video was very useful. Great content. I am 51 years old, retired, and asking myself, "Now what?"
Glad you enjoyed it!
Good morning. First try to be healthy as a young person, including exercising and eating Good foods. As a person ages, the quality of life will improve if you can stay healthy. Pick your friends carefully too. Read📖 good books..........on the way to the gym this morning
Absolutely 🎉
Great advice, thanks
Hi John, great podcast.
my mother was exactly the same way. she worked full time at walmart as a cashier. but when she quit that due to some back pain she started going down hill very fast.
Great. Again. Thank you.
Thank you too!
Another great video!!
Thanks again!
Great video!
Glad you enjoyed it
Great video I really needed to listen to that thanks
Glad it was helpful!
just another great video, to find my purpose , don’t know about that one
Thanks
Good video!!
Really Good video...enjoyed it!!
Glad you enjoyed it
Id agree purpose is a must and im very much looking forward to building a legacy business i have in mind that i hope will help millions of people. Its interesting the comments you made, at this stage of life that seems more important to me than actual wealth for myself. If it were all about me i doubt id have the motivation.
On the forgiveness thing.... check. As i said recently im sure my ex is/was a covert narcissist and i forgive her for that. The fact is its not her fault exactly, its something picked up from a childhood trauma and is almost impossible to change. I know she made effort, but just couldn't lower the wall to meaningful conversation and solving issues due to it. So hard to not forgive. I feel a fool for not seeing it earlier but even thats probably a good thing given it was vital i was around for my son's depression or he may not be with us today. Which i heavily suspect has everything to do with ex condition.
John, I forgive…but I don’t forget.
"Take a couple cruises and cash in my chips"😂
Hi John!
Love your channel! I'm learning a lot from you and other older folks since my father, which is a great person, never taught me anything about life and was a bit narcissistic.
Although my father loved, still loves, himself more than his family i'm not angry at him and love him, i digressed a bit.
So, my question is whether you have some tips for a guy at his late twenties. I'm 28 y.o, very satisfied with life cured most of my childhood traumas, was able to migrate to a new country/continent and managed to build some sort of life. I have a fairly good understanding of women, money, diet and in general the important stuff.
What things you are appreciating in your age that you didn't think about in your late twenties?
Thanks John!!
Why hello again John…… I remember reading about some monks, and I don’t remember what part of the world they lived in… But it doesn’t matter for the story…… Anyway, One of the big purposes of the monks each year was to run in this quite long race and had to train to get in shape for this race that was many many miles long… Probably as long or longer as a marathon…… Anyway, to train for this race they had these large barrels because they also made brandy or beer and what they would do is meditate inside the barrel like most of the Day and this went on for many days before the race. On the day of the race they would all leave their barrels and run the race like they were fully trained athletes…… But it was all in their mind……
When I was much younger I had a job with a purpose like you have no with your fitness training…… Like you😢, I had to keep in really good shape for this job so I how to work out and also have a very good diet…… Like your job, my clients needed help to perform properly and I was there to help them…… What did I do for a living back then? I was a prostitute…… Jazlyn
I’m sure you helped many men get through their problems
It’s a sobering thing to look back over our lives wondering if we have lived it well. Some of us not so much …how do feel about the book of Ecclesiastes ? That book shows life as having many seasons…
I haven’t read that one, I’ll have to check it out. Thanks.
I've heard your grandpa's story so many times. Retire, health goes south and it's all over in a few months. I'll never understand this "no purpose" after retirement. But then again i've always been a work to live kind of guy not a live to work. My point is, i can't wait to retire. The minute this is possible i'm out! Might drop dead a few months after like everyone else but they'll be the greatest few months of my life, dammit!
You are right. Life is short and too precious to not enjoy it!
Really good message here man.
Thanks
I am never going to retire
Men are built to keep going and never retire. We are doers.
Forgiveness is for you. You can forgive yourself.
I worked at Kroger, one of the worst jobs I ever had.
I’m sure it’s a different company now. He retired in the late 90s.
related to people dying abruptly when they retire ...actually ive been seriously thinking the advance of AI and something like the humanoid robots "doing all the work" could well be the ultimate behavioral sink if it becomes reality.
To talk a little bit about boring biology and evolution - we are born to struggle, to face pressure and challenge. Im quite convinced that throwing humans like we are today to situation where they (and everyone else) could just do whatever they pleased would turn very quick very fatal. Im just not seeing most of us having such strong mind and drive that in situation where we had everything, we would be able to choose the "right thing". AI that knew everything, could build anything and be everything ...that would be ultimate passivator - truly what would be the point of our existence at that point? To just idle to eternity?
Actually that remind me of exurb1a's "Then Next Comes" - here on youtube. Now theres some food for thought and entertainment baked in one.
Back in the old days, being a husband and wife actually meant something. Now a husband/ex-husband is seen as a retirement plan for women. No thank you, I'll stay on the sidelines.
Men are just Atm machines and if the machine runs out of money...they leave.
I retired at 58 and if I’m not adventuring or being active, I get very sad.
Now is the time! You’re just a few steps away from your front door and an entire world it’s waiting for you.
I went through this too.
Sports exhausted me too much after 6 years of intense running, working out, playing bball etc. I need something different for a while.
Somebody told me, you need to accept your state (of being regretful, things have not worked out etc.)
Say out loud the word "Yes", "Yes this is how things are now, yes"
Then I did very small steps doing less 'active' and exhausting things, e.g., going to a local park, later went there regularly, greeted people, talked to them when the chat you up etc.
Now I got a new place to remodel etc. Later I might join a book club or a self help group or hike group.
(In my area there are no divorce groups, but men groups and depression groups. This helped me a great deal even though I only went a few times.)
Cooking decent meals from scratch for yourself also can occupy oneself and give you a flow experience. Painting walls can be soothing as well.
A friend of mine, he does headspins to forget it all. 😆
Hey John love your stuff I got a question for you. Do you think women are liabilities?
I say yes. They take away from the quality of life. When you settle for a woman you say ok, this is all life has to offer me, I am content. But it takes away from all the awesome things life has to offer. You can live an absolutely fulfilling life without a woman. Society led us to believe getting a woman was success. But success is not there. There are milestones in there like having children, going on trips. But it takes away from all the creativity and drive and passion you could have put into so many other things! I say this as a divorced man ... But women are 1000% a liability.
I think they can be distractions. A woman who is not supportive is a liablity. I am making a video on that this weekend. Thanks
My issue is that i mentioned the D word several times but never left her. Now that she decided on divorcing her i feel sad and regretful. We were not compatible but still its 32 years married .
I used to be negative and bitter until i went off the scale to see life as a bunch of switches and levers, good, bad are all the same BS. Every now and then i relapse to negativity, but, i push myself back off scale. It all makes sense within the realm of life as perception and death as the end of it, so, as we reach the end, our perception narrows and at first this narrowing is filled with negativity, but, its actually nothingness since the mind is terrified of nothingness, which, is death, it hangs on to negativity as its last resort. To accept nothingness, one has to reject negativity if it makes sense. Positivity is mostly childish nonsense that's part of the free ticket to life, but, one is either extremely lucky and protected, or, a fortunate mind mutant to hang on to any positivity leftovers beyond 50-60.
How about gratitude? I don’t think gratitude is childish and it leads to being positive.
@maplesyrup1805 gratitude is positive, but as a whole, life is subjective along with an individual's feelings, attitudes, etc.. its childish because it starts in childhood under protection and make believe realities. After enough life mileage these subjective layers erode and exposed to have no foundation. Its not wrong to hang on to it, in fact its better to never lose it, but once lost, it is mostly gone and useless, so "be positive" is mostly nonsense, it's either there, or not and by itself it can't reverse negative, or what's real, which is the objective nothingness of life. At best trying to be positive is a short lasting pretend.
I don’t even watch tv. Tried to cancel it, but wife refused to.
Lol. When I was still married, I sometimes would not pay the phone bills so that they stopped the iternet service so that my wife would wake up from her youtube addiction from time to time (She would watch 10 hours videos and tv straight and not go grocery shopping, lol.). Oh well, it did not help me much because I still got divorced now. 🤣
I am having trouble with forgiving her. She betrayed me. It is unimaginable that she did it. How can I possibly forgive her?
You betrayed you. Losing yourself Ina relationship is betraying oneself
Forgive her for you.. for yourself... for your own peace of mind. Happened to me too. Every minute you think of her and her brutality, she lives rent-free inside your head. MEN love. Women are INCAPABLE of loving. They love wallets. They love money as power. They love the drama that gets them their money, and empties your wallet. They desire to be the source of your brokenness, and unhappiness, and destruction. Success is the best revenge of all. It starts with forgiving her, and forgiving yourself for having fallen for the illusion and the trap that besets all men. Truly the only relationship that counts is that between you and your Creator. BUT it doesn't mean you can't use this to your advantage.
Never forgive. Never speak to her again. Look forward and do the best you can.
I moved on with me. I dont forgive her. I never will.
I dont forgive hardly anyone. I think 'forgiveness' is being weak.
Have an attitude of not caring about them. Forgetting them.
But forgive? No.
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Christ or Christianity is not all about forgiveness. Christ and Christianity was all about the Law. Christ said "If you love me, keep my commandments". John 14:15. Forgiving one another is mercy, for the sake of Christian brotherhood. The Law is understated, or not stated, in the modern churches.
I think about the comment I left you a while back regarding your Father.
You had a decent response but I wasn't sure you understood fully.
As before I don't know the totality of that situation, not trying to judge.
I already did that, wrongly to my Father n Law, he withdrew and had another family. I judged him and didn't understand, I had kids he never knew. Fast forward my wife his daughter did the same thing to me as my Mother n Law did to him.
One of my children took to mom's side without question and was not good to me. Now I have a Grandchild 3 who I have never seen. I unfortunately understand my Father n Law now and he's not here to apologize to, but my life is very similar to his was now. What you are talking about here, about betrayal and how you feel, leaving situations, maybe give grace to your father's memory. Maybe he felt as many men do? As you say you can forgive but you don't have to trust or let back may in.
Just a thought, enjoy your perspective and videos have a good day.
When I think about my dad, I understand that his upbringing was very different and he did not have strong healthy relationship with his father. Even as a child, I witnessed his inability to manage that relationship with any tact or affection. I also understand that he probably did not receive a lot of nurturing from his grandma from his mother. I think he became really dependent on approval from women. When my parents got divorced, he became extremely dependent and needy and was very clingy throughout the entire process. He became suicidal because of the divorce. He started dating girls that were half his age. He didn’t want to talk to me or my sister for years. Then he remarried, and he started to settle down in his behaviors. After he started having children, I would bring my children over for holidays and birthdays and everything was good. I assume his new wife really did not like him giving time and attention to our families. I doubt she gave him an ultimatum, but I’m sure she made it very clear to him how she felt. From that day forward and that was almost 20 years ago he has had very little contact with me or my family or my sister or her family. Now he’s nearing death and he seems to regret some of his decisions. But he won’t actually say that. My dad was never a terrible father. He did the bare minimum and kept us under roof and fed us. But he was never an enthusiastic father. He was never Someone I could trust to have my back. On several key moments in my life, he gave me advice that did not pass muster. He is who he is and he is the product of his past experiences. So I try not to judge. I do pity him. I feel like he’s missed great opportunities to have some wonderful experiences with my family and my sister‘s family and those times are gone and they cannot be reclaimed. My children do not know him and they could not pick him out of a lineup. I doubt he will live another 12 months. He is a cautionary tale for me. His role in my life has allowed me to contrast the way he managed his role as a father with how I believe one should be managed. I do everything in my power to be the man my father never was.
You were doing so well until you brought religion into it. Organised religion is about having power over other people.