As a man, I see this as a win. The real challenge these days is finding a girl who isn't ran through by 80 guys by the time she's 23. The fact that there are girls in their early 20's who haven't even had a first kiss is honestly wholesome. I don't see it as sad, I see it as them having good morals and not just giving it up because they feel like they "need" to.
Hey Brett. So the 23 year old girl who has never been kissed (she took down the original video) has released an update video. You mention in this video about how men never approach anymore, or men don't initiate. In the update video, she says she is getting a bunch of "creepy" messages saying "I'll be your first kiss". Here are men, who are DMing her, getting called creeps PUBLICLY because they are trying to flirt digitally. Men do not approach anymore PRECISELY because many women do not have the grace to politely reject men (and in some cases not publicly shame them for their perhaps nervous or awkward approach). Men do not want to be blasted on the internet/among peers/at school. There is very little space for men to approach. Most men view the outcome of an approach as follows: a low chance of success OR be considered a CREEP. There is no room for grace and a woman just being disinterested and politely turning you down. Or, even if she does politely turn you down in person - she may very well go and tell her friends she was approached by some creep at Trader Joe's or wherever women WISH they would be approached.
I expect this will go unread but as a guy I'm actually grateful to the women who admit they haven't had a romantic relationships. As a 27 year old guy in the same situation, I just see it as another avenue to bond over. To learn these kinds of experiences together.
Yeah, these pure women are sitll not going to want an unattractive unfunny person like yourself though. I just assume these 2 things are true if you're a virgin at 27
Yeah, it's becoming more of the 'norm' than the exception. Many 20 somethings today are in her and your same position. I am one of them. It's sad to see the state of the relationships between the sexes today.
thats just a cope you would much rather your girl tell you "yeah ive never been with another guy before" you just say that bc you are stuck with her now and are afraid you cant get a more pure woman, simple LMAO
Genuine women tend to have a lower body count by default for their age, but regardless, I really don't care. It's all about if our personalities connect and our values in life and what she expects of me. I honestly think most non low body count dudes care either... These dudes saying it on red pill channels say it because they have to appeal to the 90%+ of their fanbase who aren't even visible in the dating market whatsoever. it's very easy to 100% feel way more passionate about wanting a woman to have a low body count because you're sexless As far as past trauma's go, everyone has them. You just being in this comment section bitching about women is because of the ''trauma' you have experienced@@LukeplaysTV
@@Czaint its pretty common. Even if it doesn't involve legalities, some find the need to call men out on social media for shit that didn't even happen. Hell recently a blind dude got kicked out of a gym for being a "creep because you are staring" even after he proved he was blind. Not to say there arnt creepy men but not ALL of them are. its toxic all around and we keep blaming each other ( males and females).
@@Czaint It exists and is pretty common. It doesn't always get to the level of police reports but it is there a lot, even if just done in a "joking" manner or "casual" threat. It can be leveled at a guy asking a girl out or even a long-time friend or boyfriend.
I didn’t have a first kiss until 23. The first guy I kissed was the first guy I ever dated, and now we’ve been married 6 years. I’m so glad I don’t have a whole physical history I had to process through before getting married.
This is the way. Kissing random men just damages pair-bonding. A woman who was never kissed is very attractive to good guys, only the bad boys hate this kind of woman because they can't use them.
You and your husband are very lucky. I would kill to be able to say what u just did. As a 25 yo male virgin. I’m not proud I’m a virgin this late in my life but I’m not ashamed of it either. I have never been into hook up culture. I have always wanted to find a meaningful relationship. I’m not even saying I think u should wait till marriage for sex, but it should be with a person who you truly care for. I have had opportunities to pursue women I knew were giving me “the eyes.” But I never made the move cuz I knew all they were looking for was another hook up. I would kill to find a girl like the one in this video. Feminism and hook up culture has RUINED dating for men.
So my wife was a virgin, never had been on a date, never kissed a guy until we met. We started dating in 2017. She was 28, and I was 27 at that time. We shared a kiss, but saved our intimacy until marriage. It was one of the things that attracted me to her. We got married in 2019, and now have two wonderful children. It is worth the wait for the right person.
I'm a guy, I'm 19 ( almost 20 )... never dated, never had bed fun, never kissed a girl... getting my life on track is more important to me than getting a girlfriend at the moment.
Minus dating back in my Freshman year (Which failed quickly), I'm in the same situation. Never kissed, never had sex. But I am looking to have at least a stable income and be in better shape before I try anything. Gonna be 20 in a week.
Real shit bro. Im in highschool and i keep hearing how these ppl date for a few and break up. Doesnt sound that appealing to me. Plus the dread of choosing the wrong career and regretting it for life is more important to me rn.
In my own experience, the issue with approaching girls irl is that there's a good chance they'll already be taken or if they don't find you attractive, they'll perceive you as creepy. Guys don't want to be seen as creepy so that fear keeps them from talking to women irl which leaves just finding girls on dating apps which brings its own issue of most of the girls on there are usually just looking for a hook up.
Most of the guys who seem creepy generally have no shame. They'll be creepy or misread the cues and still won't care. If you're a relatively normal person, you'll be able to gauge the situation and determine if it's the right time/place to ask a girl out. I can't speak for all women, but I never like being approached in a public place, especially if it's not somewhere you'd expect to find a date, like say, the grocery store. I'm sure people hitting the bars and clubs are more open, but idk if they're looking for something serious, either :/ shit's tough out there.
@@palmanardozza2041 That's where I disagree with you. Even if you're a normal guy, we don't know when it's "okay" to approach a girl. That's the main issue. Girls determine whether a guy is "creepy" or not depending on if they find them attractive. If a girl doesn't find the guy that's asking them out attractive, then he's creepy. Meanwhile, women are complaining that guys they do find attractive aren't asking them out and that's because we can't tell if you find us attractive or creepy.
I was a 28 year old guy who had never dated. It wasn’t because of lack of trying just constant rejection due to being an average guy. I was depressed for years and never thought I’d get married. Long story short I finally met my best friend at 29 years old who is now my wife. We’ve been married 5 years and have 2 children and are both so thankful that we have only ever been with the other and nobody else.
@@jakubskyba7946 Look at yourself in the mirror and if there's some fixing to be done, get on that first. You're not getting any younger. The rest should be obvious.
@@Fr3nchFri3sBecause you know that she has enough moral values not to jump with a random guy to bed after one datę and probably wants a meaningfull relationship
@@bartekmechanik Doesn't necessarily mean that she just jumps in bed with every guy, for example, perhaps she was convinced that she was in fact in a meaningful relationship, but it ended up not being what she thought it was.
@@NathanXYX. Ha! Yeah no I've had one boyfriend and the most we did was kiss. 💀 I simply try to live my life open minded and see different peoples points of view.
In my early 20s I started dating this really gorgeous girl who was my age. I had only slept with one girl until that time. On our third date she told me that she had slept with 39 guys. I stopped viewing her as gorgeous on the spot. I wasn't a conservative or a very religious person. In theory, if you had asked me if I would mind dating a really beautiful girl who had many ex-boyfriends, I would tell you that I wouldn't mind, at that time. And yet I felt disgusted. And I suspect that most of us (men or women) feel disgusted in such situations, whether we will admit it or not. Everyone likes to feel unique and, nope, I won't feel that way if the amount of men you have kissed would suffice for the siege of a provincial castle.
That cause of retroactive jealousy is real thing. Men want subcouncisly women is his and his alone. Doesnt mater if it past or future. That why there was rule in every country to not have sex outside mariage, so guys wont cuck each other. And this way each guy could have atleast one virign girl. Whole idea of waiting till mariage, was to ensure each guy would have virgin wife.
you dodged a huge bullet 10 partners in your 20s is fine especially for females, but 11+ is too much, either they don't respect themselves, low self-esteem or they have poor judgement (which will be a headache for you regardless). Great job on reading the situation and leaving.
I am an older guy that stopped trying to date years ago. I had a lot of trauma during my childhood so I simply missed out on typical social stuff until later in life. By then there was a stigma for not dating that was very difficult to overcome. I tried dating online, asking people out in person lots of stuff. It was a nightmare. I ran into scams, ghosting, mean insulting comments, by the end of it I felt ugly and worthless. It makes simply asking someone out risky, will they think Im creepy, too ugly, too old, whatever label. And its often not a simple yes or no. Cancel culture is very real. People always want to put labels saying what men and women are "doing wrong" or whats wrong with them. Simple answer nothing its just the times we live in. Im now successful, self confident, and worked out my own internal problems from the childhood trauma. All while being single. Life is good for me. Point is its ok for us to be ourselves. No need for masks. We are all broken but all worthy of love. Be yourself grow with others. Love with your entire being. Will I try dating again? I keep going back and forth. I don't know. Either way it will be fine :). Peace to you all. I hope all that read this find joy in life.
Thanks for sharing, I strangely relate to what you wrote a lot although we're different in a lot of other aspects. Glad that you're doing well now friend and hope that you find whatever it is that will make you happy.
@@rightcliquegod7653 Thank you for your kind words. I'm helping others through a nonprofit and find peace through my faith. I used to be very lonely but have found when you heal it fills a lot of that void. People are more alike than different. Our core regardless of culture, race, gender is all the same. Our hearts beat the same. We want love and peace deep down.
There is still something you have not figured out. You believe you have solved all your issues but you have not. You are trying to force a change and banking on it too much and it's probably causing another problem. Like if a dude tries to act too manly just isn’t real.
I've asked out around 35+ women in college, not counting dating apps. I've received no after no after no. Once a girl changed her mind about saying yes to a date because "guys never asked her out and she didn't know how to respond." I'm an engineer, I was a D1 athlete, I'm a Christian, I'm 6' 1" and I am seeking a long term relationship. I don't understand why it's so difficult. It's hard to believe women like this are out there. If you'd put yourself on my radar, I would totally ask you out! edit: y'all, I think I figured it out... I've just been too intense and had expectations that ruined one or both parties enjoyment of the moment.
They're out there and they are NOT Christian...that is the problem. Christianity is dying, a slow death, very slow death, but it is dying...the faster it dies off(and ALL other religions so that people start THINKING for themselves), the better off we will be as a society.
@bentuinstra4441 It's so strange when I have gfs that get asked out by very nice and attractive men and act offended and say no!!! And then turn around and complain about being single. Sometimes I feel like something's wrong with me because I've never even held hands with someone but it is all in the Lord's timing and we can trust in him!!! It is hard to know how to put yourself on someone's radar tho. But if you really want a relationship I guess you just have to try.
@@katemesser4978 If you want to get on a guy's radar, give him attention! Talk to him, text him first, offer to hang out just with him. If he finds you attractive, then you'll have a good chance! (Ask him out if you want to, as well! A woman will experience much less rejection than a man will for asking someone out)
I’m a 20 year old girl, and I’ve never been in a relationship or been kissed. It’s been tough trying to figure out why I can’t find a man. The other day, feeling very emotional, I just laid on the floor and cried questioning if I’ll find someone one day. Usually I just be myself and remember that it’s okay if I don’t, but sometimes I just break down. I put so much into being my best self and being social. We don’t know what the future has in store for us, but I know that whatever happens, it’s okay, we all have so much potential and should never stress over relationship troubles. I know my worth and that no matter what, I am so valuable!!
@@jurassicthunder i meant value in the eyes of God. meaning, we all have equal value, regardless of how other people see us. if im feeling hard on myself for feeling no one is interested in me romantically, i just remind myself i have my value from God.
This gives me so much hope. As a teenager who is surrounded by girls who aren’t exactly trying to make themselves wife material, knowing that girls like this are out there is almost exciting to me.
*This* I'm 21 and by age of 27 I wouls like to have started a family and most girls I meet straight up tell they hate kids/don't want them any time soon.
Dude, as a soon to be 20 year old engineer, I've been trying to find normal women since I left Highschool, the road is long but I still believe they're out there.
I also don’t blame men for staying single, in a society where if you flirt with someone and ask them out, if she’s not interested, then you’re open to claims of harassment.
Yeah, a guy asked a coworker for her number at work last week. That was it, nothing more, and there was an entire harassment stand down held because of it... Multiple guys were talking about how they were thinking about doing the same thing, but now they never will. That's why we're in this situation.
we had a meeting at one of my jobs that said if you ask a person{lets just say a woman) out and she does not like you she can claim harrasmenrt and have you terminated.
As a dude I’m literally scared to even talk to women in a public space sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing. It’s a mix of three things. I don’t want to get accused of doing something I’m not, I don’t want her boyfriend that I didn’t know about to sucker punch me from behind and something inside me knows I’ll get “the look” if I do. The one that says “why are you talking to me weirdo?”
I definitely know the feeling. It's as if you're talking to a girl, you already feel like a predator. I think talking with more girls, and maybe being in a situation where you meet more (e.g., bartending, cashiering, selling fruit by a roadside - the last one is what I do), will help!
Dude your problem is you're overthinking. None of that matters. Getting accused of doing something your not, you know your intentions, that's all that matters. Boyfriend, not your problem and shouldn't even cross your mind. I clicked with a clerk girl really well recently, so much so it felt natural to ask for her number so i did. But she said she was taken. Fair enough, i said lucky guy, wished her a good rest of her day. Hell i wouldn't mind if said boyfriend appeared and sucker punched me. Would only work in my favour because what kind of asshole does that just for talking to a girl and then respecting she has a boyfriend when she said she did. Personally i'm not scared of fighting either though so. Maybe work on that as well. And girl that has that response from you just trying to talk to them, calling you a weirdo. Isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's like thanks for showing a major red flag right off the bat. That kind of person isn't a good person and not someone you would want a relationship with anyway. Its all perspective my friend, right now through your putting all these consequences on yourself.
The other half of this is guys are probably less likely to ask a girl out because they don’t want to be seen as a creep. We see it all the time where it’s “cute” when a “hot guy” does something that a “regular guy” would be considered creepy for doing.
I had an ex who once told me about a time she felt really cornered and threatened. I asked what happened and she said this guy approached her and started flirting but she wasn’t interested. I said I was sorry that happened and asked what he said/did to make her so fearful. She told me nothing, it was the fact she wasn’t attracted to him that made her so afraid. I’ve wrestled with that for close to ten years now. No matter how much I want to approach someone I’m interested in, it will never be more than how much I don’t want to scare them.
Yeah sometimes some women lie because of that fear. A man says hello, and in her mind she adds in an evil laugh with that hello. Now it's something else. Wtf. 😂
That's her fault, not his. Actually, it's her parents fault for raising her so poorly that her threat detection mechanism sees a friendly overture as a threat at all. That or she picked her romantic partners so poorly that she would up getting traumatized through her experiences with them. In any case, it's not on the guy that she was afraid of him. Any more than it's the spiders fault when girls scream at seeing them.
If a woman considers you attractive, she will be angry because you didn't read her mind and approach her immediately. But if she considers you unattractive, then just the fact that you exist will be considered as a threat to her life by her.
I was this girl when I was 21. I was introverted and very picky. I had just moved in with my very extroverted friend for my last year of college, and she asked if I wanted to go to the football game. It was the last thing I wanted to do, but I forced myself to go and put myself out there. We met with a group of guys she knew from class, and the quiet one in the group caught my interest when he said he wasn’t into partying. I literally remember thinking “you’ll do.” Anyways, 7 years later and we’ve been married 4 years and have 2 beautiful little girls 😊
Just realize that all relationships take work. None of them are perfect. Find somebody that seems somewhat compatible with you, and start talking to them. It’s ok to fib and pretend to be into a show they like until you find things you actually have in common. You’ll laugh about it later.
_”You’ll do.”_ not sure if this is the best thing or the worst thing ever to hear from a woman. Is it settling for less, or selecting JUST you out of all the other fish? 🐟
I heard this quote about 10 years ago and it still holds up. “The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move” I’m very afraid to make the first move and the last 4 girls I’ve asked out or were going ask out either ghosted me or turned me down this year alone. I’m 30 and the dating pool is looking pretty empty.
This could be because they can sense your desperation. Nobody wants to be your second, third or fourth choice. I knew a guy who was engaged and would still flirt with all the girls he could at work and still ended up single. I gave him a chance after they split by going out with him but he was still hung up on his ex. We can sense desperation and it's not attractive. If you want to make a real connection take a real interest in someone and be okay with the friend zone for a while. Let it grow organically. You literally have nothing to lose by being friends at first...
Be a friend first. I used to have a male friend who was rejected a lot and I told him young women tend to be superficial and then, suddenly close to 30, they grow up and look for males who are responsible and who are good friends. Eventually he became the exact type of male that women want to marry and have kids with.
I’m 43, single, and was one of the rare cases of single custody dads in the US. My son is currently 25 and lives on his own about 25-30 miles away now. Even with that kind of decent reputation, women want nothing to do with me. I’m average looking, 6 ft tall, and make good money for a blue-collar guy. It’s damn near impossible to find a good woman currently. So I’ve basically resigned to being alone and saving my money for my son and nephews. It’s a bit lonely but knowing my bloodline will carry on makes it worth the loneliness. To all my fellow brothers out there, if you have family, you are not alone. If you don’t have family, I wish I had something more substantial to say to you. I am sorry that I do not.
Aren't thre any options that may come along as you practice your hobbies? Recently there have been many women joining gyms in order to keep themselves fit, there are lots of women playing tennis or other sports, or going to cooking classes. The best place of all to meet women, as I've heard, is dance classes. You can always try those social activities, if you can muster the courage! At 43 you are definitely not too old to find a good relationship or to experience something new and refreshing!
@@beefchampion2792 Definitely not going to the gym just to be called a creep on social media and my hobbies are mostly solitary, but you’re not wrong. I could make the effort. I’m not sure if it’s worth it though. I don’t think women are interested in a guy like me nowadays. I’m not a bad boy, I’m not super wealthy, I’m not a douche bag, and I’m in my 40’s. I think that ship has sailed.
As a 22 (about to be 23) year old guy who has also never kissed, finding out that a girl Im attracted to that is in the same boat would make her incredibly more attractive, because it would cancel out that awkward cliche for both of us and would increase the potential for a long term relationship where we could actaully share important experiences. It would also tell me that there is much higher chance that we share similar values, standards, and level of level of social energy. The terrible thing is that people like us are kind of doomed to rarely meet each other, because we are clearly more reserved and less likely to attend social events where we would stand a chance at meeting each other.
Young woman here, I think you’re right about having a hard time meeting each other. But I will say that as a Catholic woman, I would prefer to be pursued. For you as a man, maybe build social circles with other virtuous women and then just go for it. I really feel for men because they’re often put in the spot to be rejected, but I think many conservative women would prefer a man to take up his role and pursue the relationship. Best of luck!
You cite your faith...but the one documented story in the Bible that I can think of someone pursuing someone for marriage is a woman pursuing the man. Maybe a little murky if you consider Jacob and Rachel....point is women absolutely should pursue good men. Maybe not just ask them out but pursue...yes
@@katien3022 "maybe build social circles with other virtuous women" If it was possible for young men these days to do that then you wouldn't be hearing about how it is hard, if not impossible, to find a virtuous woman.
I'm exactly the same, but a few years older. I want a girl who is very sweet and/or has little dating experience because I think she'd be less judgmental if I'm awkward. Plus, shy girls are cute and they're more likely to be both of those things.
As a girl, it’s so frustrating what feminism has done. Men are more careful about talking to women, if they do so at all. Edit: I have no problem asking a man out. I’ve done so. But I’m a traditional woman looking for a traditional man, so I’m more interested in a guy taking charge. I’m usually the one to initiate conversation and flirting, but then wait for him to make the next step by asking me out.
I'm a 25M. Throughout middle school, high school, and my young adult years I pursued girls and tried so hard to find a relationship and got burnt so badly so many times. Most of the time it was because girls tend to be afraid of hurting men's feelings and end up leading them on and confusing them. I finally had my first real relationship at 23 and as a result learned what it's actually like when a girl likes you. It's not such a big problem any more. But damn, girls please be blunt, honest, but still polite.
You something funny if ads become reality. many lonely girls in your local area. Congrats by the way and do all you can for your partner because its hard to find pair this days as instead of partners they want dogs so they can live easily whenever they bored.
It's not a new Problem by any stretch of the imagination. I'm Gen-X, and I've gone to the same thing. But these days I don't even bother to ask, because every single time I have approached a woman to ask her out ask her coffee date anything, I get rejected or I get accused of being a stalker or just it's it's outrageous. And honestly I think the women of my generation are broken, now whether that's because of feminism or because they've been with assholes I don't know but I've yet to find a woman anywhere close to my age range that isn't broken
bruh what kind of girls have you been talking to, all the girls I know hang out in sheep herds(I'm talking herds of like 10 or more, and the moment a guy gets the confidence to ask on of them out, they all start clowning him
If women like you as a person and loves your attention and especially if you can do something for them - they will just breadcrumb you along and milk the attention and benefits for as long as possible.
As a 25-year-old gal who has myself never been in a relationship or had a first kiss yet, this type of video is so refreshing to see. I'm so happy to see Brett using her platform to address an issue like this which really does deserve a conversation. As conservative and God-fearing women in 2024, it makes sense that it would take a little bit more time for us to find our person. And as hard as it might be at times, we need to simply hold fast to what we know is right and good, and do what is best for ourselves. We should never try to be like anyone else, because somewhere out there is a man who is looking for YOU, just as you are as your most authentic self. And I believe that right man when he meets you will have nothing but immense respect for your dating history, or lack thereof. Brett is right, these are tough times. But we were born into this time, and as long as we lean on God and His promises we (both men and women alike) can get through it and come out the other side with joy and triumph. Just never lose hope, because without hope you don't have anything ♥
This is very encouraging to me as a 23 yr male without ever being in any relationship or kiss etc… It is amazing and refreshing to know there are many people out there; I just have to work hard and show them how much I value their honor and am willing to work to get them as God-fearing women
@@lukewilliams3334 I'm so glad that I was able to give some encouragement for you 🕊 I know it certainly helps to know I'm not the only one in my 20s who hasn't experienced those things yet.
one thing that make it hard also is if you ask out the wrong person thanking there a good person they will talk about being asked out (internet/irl) by a friend and they will label you as a creep and if you live in a small town like me it makes it hard when i was in high school a guy was hanging out with a girl he liked her she seemed to like him then one day over spring brake she got a BF and when school started he aked her at the BF found out beat him up and he was labeled as a creep by everyone in the school to the point where he tryed to leave this world
This girl's video made me feel so much better about myself. I'm 20 and have never even been on a date or asked out. I'm aware that I am super picky and have a very limited social life, though.
I just turned 16 and as a teenager, I've witnessed all of the "relationships" that my friends go and have gone through. I personally get made fun of for not having a first kiss or having a girlfriend. It's okay to not have your first kiss or 'time' yet because it just makes it that much more valuable when you find someone who you truly love and will truly love you back.
Absolutely correct, man. Im 25. Lost my first time and first kiss when i was 19 to a drunk woman at a bar that took me home. Not worth it. I felt like I lost part of me to a stranger whose real name I didnt even know. When I met my first girlfriend at 21 I felt so bad I couldnt give her my first kiss, and that I could never give her my first time.
Same. My friends are constantly up my ass being 16 and single without my first kiss. It just seems like kids our age are trying to gain kissing or dating points or something. I just don't get it.
The irony is I would be impressed and attracted even more so to a women who hasn’t had any romantic/relationship experience if it was because she was waiting for the right person. There’s nothing wrong with having good and reasonable standards. I won’t date a girl who isn’t a Christian and who doesn’t take that seriously. I’ve just eliminated like 95% of the population of America lol.
You and me are one in the same brother. Those are my exact parameters, and while I haven’t found her yet, a girl with strong faith and conviction will be the most attractive thing to me
Maybe God has set you apart to be that person she will listen to instead of just ignoring the gospel whenever it is preached. That's the beauty of a relationship, when you make Love the greatest of the three, faith and hope will follow. If she loves you, the faith will follow
Dating has definitely changed so much. It's been very difficult. I'm a 20 year old introverted man, never kissed anyone, and talking to people I don't know is hard, let alone asking someone out, almost seems impossible in this day and age.
I’m 27 and in your shoes brother. I’m just now starting to get my life turned around and start working out and eating better. I put myself on dating apps but havnt had much luck yet. I really just don’t want to die alone lol.
I do go to church, have my whole life, I just have a hard time opening up, especially when all the relationships I’ve been in have felt very one sided. I know I’ll find a Godly woman one day that will love me like I will love her, that just hasn’t happened yet
@@cadenwendling3380 Hey, friend, please consider reaching a psychotherapist in your area. (You don't have to quit being an introvert.) Self-knowledge really helps :)
Trust me. There are a lot of women looking for guys like you. Just keep trying, you'll find her, because believe me girls are looking for you. My friends certainly are
Just gotta say as a 21 year old male who also hasn’t had any physical interaction with the opposite gender and is around only people that have a high body count, this is wholesome and hope inducing, I also think that (I think) not having any serious physical interaction before marriage shows respect not only for your partner but also yourself!
21? Too immature. 35? Too old you freaking pado. So basically if you're a man, you will never ever be loved. The one thing that makes life worth living, women are incapable of. I've never been kissed either. Don't want to. It's not worth the false SA charges.
Not having sex before marriage is only a virtue for women. Your sexuality as a man is worthless. You need to understand this. Like really understand this. You have no sexual value in todays society. If you want to view yourself as being pure or think that abstaining from sex gives self-respect then that's fine, whatever makes you feel content. Even very good looking men young or old have very little sexual value to women that they truly are attracted to. Women use sex as a means to attain a lifestyle or obtain the services of a man- labor, protection, servant, etc....This is 100% fact. If you are a very attractive man then you have lots of "fun" but only with women you don't find super attractive. Beautiful women don't go around having fun except with the wealthy men. The dream that you might find this perfect woman who is demure and nice and smart and funny and attractive (to you) and not sexually experienced---this is not reality. Just like when women say they want a man who earns $200k and is inshape and votes Democrat and blah blah blah---that is also not going to happen for her. Best she can do is find a teacher or a small business owner who earns $75k-$100k, who isn't super handsome but is masculine and does things for her. She'll divorce him after 7 years and collect alimony. You probably aren't going to find this special perfect woman that bonds off video games or being shy or whatever constellation of quirky things would be great. If you find a woman who appears to be like this, you can be almost sure she has slept with a bunch of guys, has a drug problem, is bi polar, is a single mother, etc....there is always something.
This is so relatable! I am so glad that I am not the only one who is going through this (also 23yr old single female who has never done anything)! Thank you for the advice Brett, hopefully not all hope is lost.
I'm a 27-year-old guy and I have no problem asking a girl out. However, what makes me a bit hesitant is the fear of being recorded and ending up on TikTok, being labeled as a creep. Considering my appearance and how I present myself ( I Consider myself a 4 out of 10), I don't fit the stereotypical image of someone who approaches a girl, and I worry that I might be labeled as a weirdo or creep right away. The frustration of constantly getting ghosted on dating apps like Boo, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and Facebook dating has led me to delete them altogether.
approaching in real life takes way more confidence than just an app, do that, way more respected, woman are way more forgiving in the looks department than us men
You are being ghosted because 90% of profiles are bots. Go out and meet real people. Join clubs, voluntary work, anything that gets you to have real life connections.
I have met my fiancée almost a year ago, and she was 27 and had never kissed anyone. I was actually shocked about this, but she saw it as her value/standard and was (is still) proud of it. Unfortunately for her, we kissed… Whoever you are, do it right and don’t lower your hopes just to fit a society standard.
Dont get married. -80% of divorces are initiated by women -over 50% of marriages end in divorce -she will take just half of EVERYTHING you own if you are lucky -you will lose custody of your children
I want a girl like this, but its hard to: A) even see any women my age (25) around in public, B) have confidence when everything in society is constantly berating young men
Well i think you need to go places where people in their twenties are. My advice: learn couple dances and go to a Salsa Bars and other locations. You can meet women in class or outside of it. Plus women always love men, who can dance. (Might sound a little bit stupid, but it is worth it to give it a try. And lets be honest besides from hookups you don't meet any woman in clubs). Other way would be partys from friends, where there are women your age you can meet. But i also know it's hard, so... i need to be braver the next time i want to ask someone out. 😅
@@QuinnQuell-yt3zmHow do you meet people in person without going to clubs, bars, etc. I’ve been having a hard time making and friends or trying to date because I don’t drink, smoke, or vape. I work as a CNA in q nursing home so there’s not really any men that work their especially not ones my age.
This is my biggest issue with the world ad a young guy, we’re told if we don’t have xyz by x age that we’re losers. Even if we are late bloomers that we’re running out of time. Lose Lose situation.
I'm a guy and I was 20. She was 29 and kissed me! It took me by total suprise. She thought I didn't like her. I told her I just didn't know what to do. She was a bit confused for a second. Then she told me to 'come here'. Rest is history.
In the past, I have dated a girl who had never had a relationship before. I really liked the fact she had no other relationship baggage and that I could be her first relationship. I considered it an honor. Ladies don't worry about society, just go to the places you would meet a good guy and hopefully one day you'll find one that deserves your first kiss.
I feel like most people don’t think like this to me like doing anything with a virgin or someone that hasn’t done anything in a really long time you have to be so nice to them and cherish them but that hasn’t been my case maybe it’s all just limiting beliefs sometimes I’m worried that no one’s gonna be nice😭
I've dated a few as well. Some upbringing stuff can lead to this. Taking warnings from parents too seriously, considering intimacy dirty or unholy. It sadly easy, and there are many ways, to eff up a child for most of life.
Actually, I'm dating someone, but both of us have had a history of past partners. I think that has benefited us because it provided us with the experience to make each other happy.
I'm a guy and almost 37. The last kiss i had was 18 1/2 years ago and that was with the only girlfriend I've had. I've never messed around with anyone because I'm saving myself for when i get married. I'm so ready to find a woman and get married. Hang in there single people, there is still hope!!
I'm a 37yr old man and I've stopped asking out women... my last few relationships I've been used lied to cheated on mentally and physically abused and treated like shit. I just have no urge to experience any of that again
trust me lad you will find the one! take a few months or years of rest from the dating life, and trust me you will be refreshed and ready to find the one!
32-year-old man here, pretty much the same situation. I have no inclination to constantly ruin my own life, so it makes the prospect of even asking a woman out pretty, ah... unappealing.
23yr old man here and in the same boat. And the risks of asking out a girl in this era just honestly isn't worth it. I'd prefer to not be dragged through the streets and online as "a creep"
Bro, forget the harassment and other false accusations. Just trying to get a straight answer out of a woman is painful as all Hell. How do women even make it through a day with this terrible decision making and indecisiveness?
Her being 23 and not having had a first kiss yet is honestly pretty wholesome. There’s just a purity about it that makes the whole situation, idk, attractive I guess.
Some people think attractiveness = sexiness, which is false. Attractiveness is simply the ability to be drawn to, which is what this comment is talking about. Everyone has opinions, but this one is just better.
I’m 27 and never kissed a girl. I’ve asked out 1000’s of women but got rejected by everyone except the woke liberal fat chick with short, blue hair that identifies as a man
@@GrianaArande believe it or not, most guys aren't attracted to girls who have been with a ton of other guys. Feel free to 🤮 at that all you want, but that's the reality of the world.
@@GrianaArande Some people just dont want a girl thats been through 40+ releationships, having someone who hasnt been in a releationship is lightyears ahead of someone who has had 40+ releationships
I'm 23 I've kissed a girl once and I'm a virgin. I have asked girls out at work, at school and college when I was younger and have been blanked, received well and acknowledged but got no reply after getting the initial "yes" and just out right ignored. I haven't spent this time idle though, I have gone out, enjoyed myself made new friends but I would never say "I'm a ladies magnet". I have grown up in other areas of my life but relationships and love is just something that seems to pass me by; like its an inside joke that everyones in on but me. From watching your video (even though its from a women's perspective) I must say I feel relieved as when your in this situation you definitely feel like the only one and it can be soul destroying at times. So I just wanna thank you for bringing light to this and that there is hope out there.
If you see my comment keep going brother, the problem is most men view convos as very objective oriented, “ok she is pretty i will compliment her” whereas women want to have fun, it’s counterintuitive these days but think of conversation and flirting like dancing, the objective of dance isnt to do it as fast as possible or to get from one end of the dance floor to the other, you do it to enjoy/express yourself and have FUN with the other person, once you realize this women are much more receptive as well as people in general
I'm 29. All i want at this point is to find a nice, traditional, conservative woman, fall in love, get married, and raise a family together. But A.) Finding one who wants to be found is extremely hard and b.) The stigma of a guy approaching a woman to ask her out or even just compliment her is such an enormous hurdle that i usually just don't take the step out of fear of being labeled a creep or worse.
That's an American problem. I went to Thailand and it was so easy. I wasn't even trying to hook up or anything. I went alone and went to find people to drink with and it was all natural. In America, I'm not white enough to speak to.
That's very true. I've held giving compliments to women out of fear of being labeled a creep for even noticing. I can handle rejection, but I'm not ready to be falsely accused.
Get on a Christian dating app if you are religious. Something like the one called Upward. There’s so many good Christian women in their late 20’s dying for a husband and waiting for a man to approach. Just be careful, don’t go for the ones with provocative pics, bikini photos, or filters, if you know what to look for it’s not as hard as it seems.
If you want to find a good future wife, you need to be looking in the right place, just like Matt Walsh has his own fishing spots. I don't know about your religion, but looking to date a woman that shares your religious beliefs can help you get there. People who go to church tend to be more conservative, and even if they aren't, would still not call you a creep (don't do to others what you don't wish upon yourself), as long as your approach is not creepy.
I’m 18 and never been kissed but I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people growing up that did not make dating and ‘getting kissed’ their priorities. Plenty of my friends haven’t been kissed and I also know a lot of girls who regret the guys they’ve kissed. I’ve dated a couple guys but it never seemed right. I know I’m young but don’t be embarrassed by not having a first kiss and don’t let anyone shame you for that fact about yourself.
I know an engineer that is looking for a future house wife, you interested? Edit- He is 22, 6 foot 2 inches, in a masters program and living in florida
Stay with what you're doing. So many young women out there today are straight up disgusting with the amount of men they bed. The fact that you don't give anything away due to societal pressure says a lot of good things about you. You're one of the few respectable ones out there. Keep your head up!
This month, I had a woman ask for my number, and then she friend-zoned me after 2 dates. Men eventually get tired of the rejection, the games, and the manupulation. Over time, we prefer our male friends, our hobbies, and our own peace and security. Sure, the pain of not having a woman never really goes away, but it does lessen with time, and the benefits of being single greatly supercede the risks of modern dating.
Sorry to hear it didnt work out. I get what you are saying and i do agree but it sounds like in this specific case that the woman deserves some props. She did shoot her shot, stepped up and asked for a your number and tried to take some initiative. Not every date is gonna lead to marriage and i get how the friend zone can feel rough but atleast she went for it, probably felt like you didnt click and ended it the way many women do by asking to just be friends. You absolutely shouldnt accept the friend zone and just say something like "thanks but i dont need more friends" and then go about your business. Its so rare for women to do anything more than "look and smile" these days and then just expect men to do litterally everything. She gets some respect for trying at least.
Haha this brings me joy. Natural selection doing its job making sure yall losers dont have offspring. Stop whining and be a real men. Ooh tip! Dont objectivy women, maybe date women who arent 17 years old with a supermodel body😮😮
I agree with @johantolli372, she wanted to try it out so she went for it and decided it didnt work between yall, thats the 2nd best outcome for any dating scenario
@@TheNinjapancake14 I've been told I'm good looking non-stop since as long as I can remember but it only last so long, maybe with a really unstable girl she will stick around for your looks but generally a good looking guy only gets his foot in the door with his looks and after that all the insane high standards women have still apply. Also, women kind of see really good looking guys as short term prospects a lot of the time sort of like how a lot of men might only see really good looking women for only short term flings. I'm not saying I'm not greatful for my looks but I swear to Christ I want to put a paper bag over my damn head some days....this probably sounds arrogant af but the grass ain't always greener on the otherside. The most magical chemistry I had with a girl was when I was slightly overweight, unshaven and wearing a mask and sick as hell and the girl was also wearing a mask, after three weeks I shaved and showed up without a mask and she took hers off and we finally saw eachothers faces for the first time only after getting to know eachother. You've never seen two people stutter so hard lol. My point is this: I feel a shit ton of pressure to be as good on the inside as I am on the outside so to speak and I think I am but I never really know.
In like middle school and through high school I asked out several girls, some said yes, majority said no. I was promptly made to feel pretty awful about myself for several different reasons when I wasn't creepy or going past lines at all. I know a lot of guys that this has happened to and resulted in them just not talking to women and continuing to be awkward with women because they avoid flirting or asking girls out generally.
My experience in high-school definitely didn't help. They treated me like dirt. The classic ew, not with you response. It's pretty hard to fix your self-image and confidence if all you ever heard when asking someone out was that you're gross, ugly or creepy. To me this crap is self inflicted. They want to be c*nts to guys in school and then later in life wonder why they never get approached or asked out.
@@gaia7240 You missed the point. The issue isn’t that women turn men down. It’s that from even the earliest ages boys are mocked, laughed at, and belittled. Which for too many guys simply convinces them that either they’re not good enough for anyone or that pursuing women at all isn’t worth it.
@@gaia7240 Because biology? Young boys naturally develop an interest in girls around that age. A lot of girls develop interest in boys at that age as well. The molestation point is beside the point. What men are trying to express is that the way girls treat them from middle school all the way into adulthood causes men to quit pursuing women all together. Statistically, few of these boys are trying to assault girls in middle school.
The sad thing is is that there is so much pressure on our generation to get this experience while we’re young so we “won’t be behind”. I remember my first year of college my group of “friends” made fun of me bc I said I am waiting for marriage, and I had received so much backlash from them. I can only imagine what this girl experiences from her friends/the people she surrounds herself with.
I've had a terrible experience with dating, and I haven't dated since high school. I've been told I'm no good by my ex and her friends, and have lost almost all motivation to ask someone due to the possibility that they may see me as no good. I'm perfectly fine with being single now, but I struggled with finding my identity during that time. I would totally ask a girl out if I just decided one day to through my bad thoughts and feelings away about myself and just do it, but I feel as if the culture I'm surrounded by has had something to do with it.
After dealing with countless rejections, friend zonings and disappointing relationships, ive just gotten so discouraged as a guy to even try anymore. I used to ask girls out a fair amount in highschool, but not anymore. Im 22 now and just trying to work on myself, but since covid happened i think i realized that idk how to do that stuff anymore. Im glad to hear that this isnt just a me thing, which is a relief but sad at the same time. Wish everyone the best of luck finding someone!
In the same boat man. Been ghosted and friend zoned so many times. And I just wanted to experience a relationship like some of my friends have. Right now I’m focusing on myself and getting my money up
You’re only 22 bro. I was a virgin until age 17, but then through a miracle I had hooked up with over 60 girls from ages 17-25. I’m decent looking and tall but being in the military then a fraternity helped a lot
You’ve been discouraged as a man since high school? That’s way too early to even try cause the women around high school most don’t want too much of that and it wouldn’t last. Good that you focus on yourself but once you’re ready and all, ask a woman you find appealing in character etc, I believe you will find someone only if you try. There’s never success without failing. Good luck man.
As a 33yr man, I have basically given up on asking women out. The sheer amount of rejection and being told "Sorry, just not interested" really weighs on the mind. And I'm even told I'm relatively good looking, so I don't know what the issue is. Oh well.
And they act all friendly and seem like they want asked out, but it screeches to a halt the second you ask her out. Women want all the options. Have many guys ask them out. 1. Take him up on the offer and have a great time. 2. Call him a creep, throw a vase, and scream for the police.
I feel like some of this needs to talked about and normalized more. I didn't have my first kiss till 31. I had severe eczema growing up (which made me feel very ugly and uncomfortable in my own body) and came from a broken home and kinda just kept to myself. I worked on myself and got a well paying job and used my money to help my skin/psychological issues. When I turned 30 I decided to finally put myself out there. I dated my now boyfriend for a couple months before I let him kiss me. We just got to know each as friends. Thankfully he was very understanding and didn't make me feel bad at all about my lack of experience. I am very glad I waited all this time. I don't think I was ready to experience intimacy before and could have ended experiencing it with someone who didn't care about me. My boyfriend has always made sure I felt comfortable and doesn't want to hurt me.
I think you bring up a good point. A lot of the Red Pill community talks about how they grew up watching their fathers/grandfathers/uncles/older brothers getting their lives destroyed in divorce court, and it makes them paranoid about marriage. But I don't think I've heard anybody bring up the effects that divorce has on young women. I think it's a very big factor that's helping to wreck the dating market and hurting our society. I'm significantly older than you, and I've been in the military for over 25 years (combat veteran in Afghanistan), so I tend to put things insanely bluntly compared to most men my age, and especially compared to the younger generations. And to put it bluntly, most of the time that I see parents screwing up their kids with the Dad ditching his family (or the Mom driving him out the door), the thought that comes to my mind with regards to the daughters is, "Good grief. They're going to be lucky if they don't give that girl a complex and have her in a string of abusive relationships or on a stripper pole." Like I said, that's kind of how some of the more blunt members of my generation viewed idiots who were messing up their daughters (with sons it was a case of hoping they didn't kill themselves or end up getting their lives wrecked in divorce court themselves). Obviously there's a lot more nuance to it. I'm very glad you got help and turned out healthy and seem to have found a great guy. It takes a lot of strength to come through a family breakup without a lot of very damaging stuff (I've seen it happen in my own family). We clearly need a lot more research into how young women are being affected by the destruction of the nuclear family.
I don't understand why you thought that men just generally want to hurt their gf? Like sorry but what? Yes ofc there are men who only live to hurt people(mostly women) but that's like 1% of the men. This doesn't mean i hate you or anything i literally loved every single word you said & very happy for you but I didn't get that part. All I'm saying is there are billions of men who will be just like your bf who wouldn't have hurt you.
@@BD-1-And-Only dude. you got to TEACH her to be ‘experienced'… Thats why it’s so fun… because you get to ‘practice' over and over again until you both know what the other likes in bed...
While it's unfortunate that more and more people are struggling to find the right one early on, this was a very wholesome read. I'm so glad you found someone!Really happy for you!
The girls being upset not being asked out by guys can thank feminism and other women for that. Feminists and other women complaining when us men ask them out or call us creepy/being accused of something have totally ruined it for the others as it has us against the idea of doing it due to these reasons - nothing worse than trying to be social and ask a girl out only to get called creepy
At some point there just comes a breaking point where you feel like you want to give up pursuing people. I’m 25 and have never had a girlfriend, have never had my first kissed, am still a virgin (proudly), have only had one date, it’s not easy. I’m pulling for you, we’re all in this together.
@@flowersent9614 Nothing wrong with attention and money. Now you called us men rapists, you should be ashamed of yourself. Look like you don't have father not brothers. Your life must be so sad.
@@Canyoureadmydeadpan If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.
@@flowersent9614 If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.
I am a young dude. My perspective on dating and asking a girl out is fear. Part of that is the fact that I live in Southern California; so there's roughly a 70% chance of whoever I ask out to be a nut job who will publicly embarrass me or accuses me of being a horrible person. Part of it is the fact that the only women that I would actually want to ask out are women that I work with or have worked with. This means that the potential consequences in today's day could be that I get fired because I revealed that I hold more conservative views to a coworker. Another part of it is that I don't want to constantly be expending not only my time and effort but also money, just to get backhanded again and again. Maybe this is some terminally online shit but I don't wanna pay for none of that girl's stuff until I know shes serious and not just going on a date to get a nice free dinner. And obviously there is another part of it: me just being a pussy and not wanting to do it. I would hope that last part is less of a contributor than the others , but you can never be so certain.
Yeah, you pretty much summed it up. Too much risky investment that doesn't feel worth it unless it's for something real serious. That, and the ever-present risk of rejection and public humiliation.
@@Abee_e.short23 If you're looking for a conservative Christian, then there's no better place than church. That, or some kind of Republican convention or event.
I'm just an average dude. There's no way I'd ever ask out any woman. Too much potential legal liability. I've had a woman threaten me with it. That was it. I was done.
I did not touch her. I did ask only once. She informed me she didn't like me and used it as blackmail for me to stop hanging out with our mutual friends.
The socializing thing is especially fascinating to me, I'm in high school and a lot of conversations always seem to boil down to a contest of who's the most traumatized and who's more "mature" by being downtrodden by the world as a whole. I'm glad I have friends where we can talk about fun things as well as sad things but they're always real things
My wife and I started dating when she was 21 and this is exactly her story. We've been happily married for 10 years and have an awesome little boy with another on the way. Before her, every girl I was with had high body counts and were toxic as all get out. I was ready to just accept that the day of a good woman who respected herself and valued her partner were long gone. I'm glad I was wrong.
Enjoy divorce when she goes through menopause, blames you for her being unhappy and takes half your stuff. Btw... a prenub isn't good enough for family courts anymore
@ccastro603 Given divorce is over 50% in the US and 80% of it is initiated by women specifically around their 40s... it seems like an oddly specific common outcome.
I'm now 38 and when I was younger it was immensely easier to talk to, interact, and be around women. Then somewhere things changed and the process seems like its overthinking. It's like walking on egg shells with women on so many levels. I always felt I had to do everything in a relationship and I think that's gotten worse with the girl boss mentality. I think social media has done some real damage to both genders and social interaction.
I’m a female and I agree but I’m younger and so confused. A few boys called my friend a slut for sleeping with a guy and having two exes but they made fun of me for never having anything romantic in my life
@@frogfell3126sounds to me like the people of your age group aren’t fully developed up there and just need some time to mature. give it time and the confusion will clear, just trust the process 😉
Yeah I'm 29 and I can tell you that up until 2016 or so dating was very easy. Tinder even was easy as pie, nobody overthought it, everybody was chill, you could meet people in person, things were relaxed. I really noticed it around 2018 or 2019 that women had become very mean and nasty, scammy, or, well...they were dudes who became ladies
I went to a Christian university for an entire year. Got involved in many activities and even a music group. I only talked to 3 girls while I was there. None of them ever expressed any real interest, and I was always having to do all the social heavy lifting like carrying on a conversation. For a guy with ADHD and really bad social anxiety, I'm surprised I got that far. I know it's not because of my looks or because of my personality. I have many friends across the states alone who love me for who I am, and I am very confident in my appearance. I've just never had a woman be seriously interested in any sort of relationship with me. I'm still pretty young, so I'm trying to keep my head up, but it's tough out here.
There’s someone out there for everyone. Even the crazies lol. Takes time, but in the meantime keep putting yourself out there. Someone will give you the same energy and time you deserve. Make sure your morals and values line up.
@@beautyandbrainz That is not true. Sometimes there are 10 women for a guy, 2 wives for a husband, 100 women for only 2 guys, they put them in rotation, etc. and sometimes they do it at once. Could we just avoid downplaying a serious problem the dating market has these days? Hook up culture, feminism, parties, Metoomovement, pornography, female hypergamy, you name it, it is not that simple.
I quit asking women out after college. Every girl I had ever asked out since HS rejected me. I'm average, not handsome, not ugly but I am 6'3 so at least I have that. I had a friend that forced me on a blind date with her friend, I didn't want to go knowing I'd get rejected yet again but I relented. We've been married 10 years now.
In Asian countries the concept of arranged marriage exists where the parents choose a guy or girl for their daughter/son and if both girl and boy agrees then they get married. Seeing your video today makes me think that this the existence of this concept actually helps a lot of people to find partners and have a married life and kids which probably would've been harder if they had to do everything on their own.
Then their spouses cheat on them. Happened in my family and I really can't feel bad for my Aunt on some level. Not because I think it's her fault, I think it's good her husband showed his shitty side and decided to put his dick in another employee (who for all I know, may have been manipulatoed or she's a poor gold digger trying to get into a better country) ALSO, because back then the husband is of a family who has MORE money, is settled in a first world country, so it makes me suspect there is financial benefit and living benefit there. Her parents actually found her a marriage partner because they loved their daughter and not because they're assholes at least.
Like this doesn't happen in not arranged marriages 😅 They have their perks and downsides. Good for demographics. Bad for economics and progress (young guys don't have the motivation to strife and compete so much).
I remember when I was single for the longest time, and I would see my friends around me who are from asian backgrounds and were able to meet serious/well-intended guys through family and without lifting a finger. I really envied that haha, it seemed quite handy and I felt like I also needed all the help I could get.
I didn’t have my first kiss until age 30, and I was ridiculously self-conscious about it. Figured guys would make negative assumptions about me for my lack of experience. So dumb. Met my now husband and he viewed it as a positive. And I love the fact that my first kiss was with the man who became my husband. I have zero relationship baggage and it is so great. I agree wholeheartedly with Brett: don’t chase after experiences just for the sake of an experience or because you feel like a loser. Make it meaningful and you won’t regret it.
@@websterriLooking for a 30 year old? I'll take a 30 year old virgin over a 20 year old sloor, but let's be real... men are not looking for 30 year olds in aggregate for relationships.
I agree wholeheartedly about the not chasing experiences. I had my first kiss days before my 23rd birthday, but it was with my now husband as well. We're actually each other's first kiss, and it is so special for both of us.
As a fellow teenager (who is a Christian who holds scorned Puritan values), my advice would be: Wait. Be patient. Teenage relationships pretty much only happen because you feel pressured (because your friends are also in relationships) to have a girlfriend. Just wait, and you will find someone. I've seen it happen with my older siblings. They waited, they found. Most people would find the values our family holds EXTEREMELY strict, to the point of cultism. I personally hold the same beliefs as my parents do, so I know that girls are very findable. It just takes time.
@@DavidBergman1776that’s it. I’m a muslim and I find this peer pressure thing very unfortunate. If you want a meaningful relationship, you should be patient and seek one with good values and long term intentions.
I’m a 26 year old male. I’ve been on and off dating apps for about six years now. Found a girl the other day and did a FaceTime date with her that went really well. We set up an in person date, and the day before the date, she texted me saying she actually had feelings for another guy. I’ve lost count of how many times this has happened to me.
The irony is that the internet is the problem. Women have too many choices, and aren't given the needed social pressure to pick a man in their prime (early 20's). 95% of us men lose out as a result, and they jump from man to man like we're all different flavors of candy, rejecting us for equally trivial and superficial reasons. That and divorce is financially incentivized. But hey, let's support governnent-endorsed feminism (which is a hate and supremacist group) because Uncle Sam wants that extra tax money, and listen to Brett who doesn't know what she's talking about!
@@raketensven3127he way Zoomer men, likely unknowingly, indulge the female desire for attention, validation, and promiscuity by "dating" virtually, by also having her keep him at a safe distance. This was originally for most of their sheepish fear of the C-sickness, but then women kept it cuz it felt "right."
you are what they call a bench bro I wouldn't worry about bro just hit the gym make money get better skills become comfortable with yourself and trust me you are not put up with this kind of nonsense
Women are unable to find relationships due to either high expectations of what a man should be or due to men being scared of approaching women due to the possibility of being part of a “me too” scandal or being called a creep. Men also need to step up their game by touching grassing, get hobbies and staying in shape.
I'm a 33 year old man who has never dated, kissed, or even held hands. I grew up extremely sheltered and in a religious household and as a result I am very introverted, to the point where I'm basically a hermit. I don't have friends, in fact I have never had any friends, or a social life. The thought of approaching a woman and going through the process of getting into and maintaining a relationship is such an alien concept to me that I don't even try because I wouldn't want to put a a woman through the mess that is me when there are so many other people who are more deserving of love. I'm not sad about it and I don't blame anyone for it. I've come to accept that I am just someone who is not meant to be loved by someone and is meant to be alone.
In the past, when I've asked girls out in the social and recreational groups that I was a part of, I got rejected, but was accused of making women uncomfortable, "hitting on them," or being accused of being "creepy." This resulted in me being told that I was no longer welcome to participate in these groups. Since I was no longer welcome in these social and recreational groups, I had to do activities by myself or with groups that had few single, eligible women.
What you got was feedback! You have to take the information and change your behavior. EFI cars have an o2 sensor in the exhaust pipe and an airflow sensor on the intake. It is constantly getting feedback on the air volume coming in and the amount of o2 going out and adjusting the amount of fuel it is injecting. If it stops taking that feedback and adjusting then it will run like shit. Your daring life is running like shit because you aren’t adapting. If you touch a hot burner on a stove you will get burned. That doesn’t mean you should stop cooking. It just means you need to learn to cook without touching the damn burner! Don’t sit there starving and blaming the stove.
The difference between “harassment” and “flirting” is how attractive she finds the guy to be. So; most guys who are not “top tier” in attractiveness are simply not communicating with women as they fear they will be roasted online and accused of awful things. I am so glad my dating years are behind me and I am married now… I hate what the current young singles are having to deal with.
This is not true, can men stop telling us this? 1, women are turned on by touch. Not sight. Men are turned on by sight so they’re projecting their own thoughts onto women. 2, I’ve been harassed by what people would deem “good looking guys” and it’s still horrible. Stop telling women this. Absolute Bs.
@@spagooter1807 A lot of people still care about the personality, I’m a woman and I genuinely would rather an unconventionally attractive guy with a great personality than anything else. It’s very sad seeing men and women alike become vain
@@bogdannn1343 I’ve only ever fallen for people after I’ve first gotten to know them, stop assuming. How does nobody understand what being friends is anymore???? 💀😭 I date to marry so I’ve only dated once before, and the last person I dated wasn’t that good looking… BUT his personality was to die for. That’s what got me. Soon, everything about him was beautiful to me . Do I think some people look objectively better than others in my own personal opinion? Yes. I love striking features and unconventionally attractive people more than conventionally attractive… BUT, it does not mean I love them. I could only ever love someone for their personality.
Coming from a young girl, I appreciate it so much more than people think when they even just look at people and smile when crossing paths. I attend church and many events held by the church, which have hundreds of people my age that are so open to conversation and are incredibly bold especially in the face of modern day feminism etc., which I am beyond grateful for. Even considering that, for example, I recently had my first experience with a guy who had liked me, and he couldn't even ask me straight up for my number, even though we had known each other for years. he eventually went to his dad to ask my dad for my phone number. It's honestly so sad what we have done to young men.
@@camelio10 yea, except he legit walked up to me asked if I wanted to leave the people I was talking to to go play a game and left. He gave no hints, was super awkward, and left me confused. I am super oblivious to everything and am not super in tune with social cues (mainly bc of developmental issues in my younger years.) Not to mention the fact that I didn't have a phone at the time, so it was even more off my radar. So, bc of all of the above, I did not ask for his number. But yes, I get your point.
You're wrong. This isn't sad. This is how it was done in the past, and should still be done today. Parents should contact each other first, vet respective families and children, make sure they're suitable before the kids go out. It's shocking how parents today just throw their kids to the wolves to either get pumped and dumped by players or financially/emotionally ruined by female predators. Me and my wife met through our parents. We were both virgins at time of marriage. My wife is a first generation Chinese immigrant. She cooks, cleans, abandoned her career to become a full time mother and housewife when our son came, and now that he's 4 years old and entering pre-k, she's starting a business with my help. She may be on the short side, and not the prettiest gal around, but she had a traditional upbringing, proper mindset and priorities (no sex prior to wedlock, baby first, THEN career, not wasting youth on a job until too old to have a healthy child). This is the wife material your grandfather had, that's so rare today. I'm 6', maintained 4.0 GPA for scholarships, made low 6 figures straight out of college, no student loan debt. I'm frugal, saved for investments and rental properties. Currently $10k per month in additional rental income from 6 families of tenants. I don't drink, don't smoke weed, don't go to parties, and don't sleep around. I had a plan for my life since middle school, and getting arrested, contracting STDs, or getting babytrapped aren't a part of it. We live in a society where vice is celebrated and virtue is stigmatized. When I said I wanted to marry a virgin, that's cringe because I'm acting a predator. When I said I am a virgin, that too is cringe because I'm acting like an incel. When I turn down girls or offers to hook me up with some, even that is cringe because I need to get out more. Add this to the toxic mix of peer pressure with other self-destructive behavior like drinking and smoking weed. This degenerate western society we live in today does everything within its power to draw us down. Where are the parents in all this? Where are the fathers of young girls who get pumped and dumped, build sky high bodycount looking for "the one?" As if they can find him this way on their own. Divorce rate is 90% for women with 6+ bodycount, 6% for virgins at time of marriage. All these deluded girls will accomplish is ruining any possibility of a good life for themselves - if you carry 90% forecast of divorce within yourself, there's no escape, you're done this lifetime. Where are the mothers of naive young guys that get babytrapped, or marry single mothers? Pick up the tap for another man's child, possibly pay child support for that man's child and alimony when she takes back her broke baby daddy whom she really wants. Your father knows men, your mother knows women, they want the best life for you. If they pick for you, you'll have a good life. If they throw you out there to the wolves by yourself, chances are, you'll get eaten.
@@georgedang449 I get what you're saying and can relate to just abt everything you said minus the fact that I am a 5'4 female that is unmarried (and 14 y'/o). I've got the gpa, IQ, and everything else. Btw, congrats on all the achievements. You're a rare breed. But what I am saying is that boys nowadays can't effectively communicate. And, for the record, I met the guy i was talking about because of our parents. And again, we are growing up in a religious community where everyone trusts and knows everyone. Everyone is always in sight of each other. No questions asked. I understand that parents meeting before the kids do can work in some cultures and families, but you have to understand, some people's parents, (incuding mine), don't even talk to their children to know them enough to get to the point where that is possible. Personally, in my family, my mom is addicted to her phone (and therefore has no sense of reality or who her kids really are) and my dad is at work or literally just doesn't have any interest in my dating life whatsoever, much less setting me up for a date. So, in summary, I think that it can often be good to meet potential partners through parents, and wasn't even what I was addressing to begin with. Young men just tend to stress over interactions with women bc of feminism. Even if a date were to be set up, most guys would have no clue how to then further pursue a relationship. You've got a good sentiment that i generally agree with, but it doesn't exactly apply in my situation, and I wasn't even addressing that.
Also went through high school from 2016-2020 where there was this big "women don't want to be harassed by men at bus stops/supermarkets/work/with friends" and for me personally, and I'd imagine others too kind of engraved in the minds of teens and young men that there really isn't any good time to approach women. I seem to remember this being a pretty big thing mainly on the internet but I also definitely remember it in school.
I literally got hauled into the principle's office in middle school and told I wasn't allowed to look at a girl on the bus because it was sexual harassment. I had always hated her.
I was in the same situation until I met my wife. Theres things that aren't obvious that I only learnt just before I met her. I'll list below, hope it helps someone: 1. Always ask for her number or ask her out on the first meeting (Establishes the intention, not just looking for a friend). 2. Never straight up tell a girl you like her, you hint at it. 3. Don't let yourself get hung up / commit to a girl who isn't equally as hung up on you. 4. Give people a chance. You don't need to feel anything before getting to know them. 5. Relationships are a trade. It costs time, energy and money. What your getting has to be worth it. 6. No one owes you anything and life isn't fair. Improve yourself if you want things to come your way. 7. Take care of yourself (appearance, fitness, grooming etc). Its not arrogant, its self discipline. 8. If you want something you have to make it happen. It wont just come your way.
It doesn't help that I kept being teased in school whenever I'd be friendly with a girl "Ooooh, is she your girlfriend?!" No, just a friend In middle and high school, I rationalized it that no relationship from that era lasts (which I was right) on top of not being attracted to a single person - I'm now out of school, and wanting a romantic relationship; but I don't get attracted to looks, I have to know someone first, but nobody is open to conversation
I stopped dating almost a decade ago and just focused on myself and I am very happy being a single man. Last straw for me was being accused of something for just speaking my mind on a social issue and I was like you know what, I don't need this. Don't need the drama of the opposite sexes social issues, don't need the drama of ex boyfriends, baby daddies, single mothers, etc etc. I'd love to have an intelligent partner to talk to on a daily basis and share life with, but honestly I am just as happy being single.
Ay cheers!! Same exact thing, but I am a woman. Not a feminist, never been one and I despise them. Personally I will never marry because of the risks that men carry. Talking about redpill or feminist men who think crying about spilled coffee is breaking the gender roles. Or the worst kind, manchildren. I guess this whole thing is not a men or women problem, but a society. Almost everyone sucks nowadays, maybe they always did but just hid it so well. Anyway, I believe a single life is the way to go. I hate that people think single means depressed and alone. NO! It means some freedom, family and friends and yourself. Cheers on the single life, mate!
I got my first kiss at 23, and I definitely felt that way. Then I met my now husband, and he was in a similar situation. I’m really glad we were able to muddle through the awkwardness together, and it gave us some really funny memories.
It is just a shame what this world has come to that us guys literally have to fear getting into legal trouble if we ask a girl out and she takes it the wrong way.
My sister is 17 tried to ask her crush over fb he should just said no. But he thought she was a creep he is soon 19 and my sister soon 18 sad where men just not look a chance to date a women. I am 22 still have my V card and trying to get porn away from me. I think roles should flipped females needs to ask guys out more because of current events. I am a stright male.
I lost a bet and slapped this one girl's 🍑 thinking she'll slap me. Guess what? She liked it and wanted to get my number... I just walked away, I felt harrased and uncomfortable 😢
I'm 23 and I've asked out countless girls and every single one turned me down, so for the time being I give up. The thrill and excitement of asking a girl out is completely gone when I already know the answer
I've been with a decent amount of girls, but I've been turned down by at least 5 times as many. It's a hard thing to not take personally. I tried to just ask girls out one day. Like, that was my goal, kind of like a homework assignment. I kept it pretty short "Hi, I'm Jesse would you like to go out on a date with me". 99% of the girls response was a pretty blatant no. And the other 1% was still a no, she was just nice about it lol most girls don't like being asked out, at least not directly, I concluded. They like getting to know you and all of that first which makes you EVEN more vulnerable when you get turned down. OR they want the most charismatic guy on the planet which most of us aren't... So yea, lol it's tough out there
@@jessemiller3108speaking facts. That's exactly the same with my situation. I think door to door sales is easier than adding a girl out. I've had a chance with one girl but I was young and dumb then. I still am dumb though when it comes to hints.
Girls get asked out all the fucking time. Guys often want to fuck them. That gets old. If you get turned down and really like them then try again another time. Make a joke of it. If they say no a second time a month later then ok. Work on how you ask girls out. You do not know the fucking answer until you get it. Good luck. Don't take it personally because they get asked out a lot.
@@jessemiller3108I found that getting to know each other a bit is really the thing needed for a yes. Literally just a few good conversations help you out massively. Also You can see if theres a spark or not
By the way, it's always worth analysing your approach and also appearance. Everything makes a difference. There's only so much one can do with appearance but you need to maximise and also make an effort with how you dress. Looking fit and a bit muscly helps too. I used to be super skinny and had limited success with women. But when I bulked up a bit it made a difference.
Brett “a good man approaching you isn’t an attack” Reality “that’s right! A good LOOKING man approaching isn’t an attack… but when women find 80% of men unattractive… it’s likely it’ll be taken as an attack”
@@goranmilic442 Because women only want to be approached and receive attention by attractive men. As soon as the man is unattractive, their advances are perceived as creepy
You just have to approach in a different way brother. Be funny. I swear the okay or bad looking men have the best game and the gym exists. I’m good looking but have terrible game so I get looks but not dates lol.
If the woman considers you attractive then you walking up and speaking to her is fine, if she doesn’t then you’re a creep and harassing her is the jist of it
once ugly to average looking men stop being called "creepy" for simply asking a woman out this issue won't go away. it's here to stay. once ugly to average looking men won't get called creepy for his looks then there's a chance this issue will slow down a bit.
Its the old question "what do women want" men definitely do not know what women want but women also don't know what women want. You give them what they want and then they are miserable and complain. You don't give them what they want and they complain there are no real men left. Either all women are crazy or normal women need to tell the minority of crazy feminists to shut up.
As someone who is a little older but has also experienced a lot of the same issues discussed here, it helped me immensely to actually figure out who I was and better myself. It took me a very long time to do so, but once I worked on myself, I was then able to find a great partner in a relationship. I, too, used to beg and complain online, and then I figured out that no one was really themselves on any social media. It’s the worst place to find a mate. Nothing beats actual human interaction. Nothing.
@@drakomus7409 My wife's pretty far out of my league, but she was interested in me. Don't know why, but I was exactly what she was looking for. Granted, this was 16 years ago, before online dating was a thing.
I didn’t have my first kiss until 23 years old, with my first ever boyfriend. We’re engaged now and I love that I only know how his kiss feels and nobody else’s, I can remember the exact kiss so well and it’s so so special to me.
To the girl in the video, I'm a 28 year old girl, never been kissed, never been on a date. No romance, no nothing. It's not embarrassing. It will happen when/if the right man comes along. I'll be happy to have waited for him OR I'll be happy as a single woman, not having slept around or had meaningless relationships to hit "social milestones", only to feel empty. However, I'm surprised this isn't just me or a couple girls online but rather more common than I realized.
I’m 23 but I’m a guy I don’t control sex just marriage and I’ll gladly wait until I find the “one” just working as much as possible right now not worth it to get together and not be able to provide
I was like this by choice. My husband was my first everything and it was the best for us. I never touched another guy before him, never even had a boyfriend. We have the best relationship and I don't think our "lack of experience" was a negative, if anything, it was a huge plus for both of us. There's something very special about everything being new and special for the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with rather than a random guy you may never see again.
As a man, I think it's much more valuable to make a friendship with someone than to just go straight to asking a woman out without even knowing them. I also think that women shouldn't be scared to ask men out as well, because I personally don't mind it at all and it makes me a lot less stressed because I know that the person for sure wants to go out. I think the situation is more about people wanting to form a good friendship first with someone before taking it a step further rather than people just asking people out to get into a relationship. I also think that a lot of people my age have anxiety about things like this and it is hard to overcome that and get the courage to ask someone out. I think as long as people form lasting friendships, they will eventually find someone they feel comfortable being in a serious relationship with.
Coming as friendship in the beginning is extremely dangerous. I mean you can approach like a friend but you have to follow quickly with your real intentions.
It may be valuable, it's just not generally an option. Most hobbies have a strong sexual division, meaning it's hard to find something to do that men and women both enjoy and participate in in way that makes it possible to find friends of the other sex. For people who have moved away from their birthplace for work that have to start their social circles from scratch the chances of getting somewhere via that route seem low. Better to go for something where the intention of finding a romantic partner is the target, not an optional extra.
That would be nicer, but it is not realistic. If men limited themselves to only the very rare situations where a man can truly get to know someone without asking them out, the human race would die out from lack of famillies. And what is going on here is that men (and women) have 10000% WRONG ideas about each other. Women are *NOT* impressed by a man who is a timid "gentleman." Women are biologically programmed -- hard wired -- to be attracted to a strong male. Being timid -- as they will see it -- earns you nothing but regrets and missed opportunities. If you can get to know a woman informally and casually, that's great. But don't bank on it because it is only going to happen about 0.0000000000001% of the time. And when you take the courage and strength and leadership and initiative to ask a woman out, her heart will respond to your maleness in a far more positive way. If a woman senses that you are interested but don't ask her out, she will feel the man is a wimp.
If you approach her as a friend, then that’s likely what you’ll remain. If you’re interested in dating her, then it’s best to let her know asap. If you hesitate, you masterbate.
As a man, I see this as a win. The real challenge these days is finding a girl who isn't ran through by 80 guys by the time she's 23. The fact that there are girls in their early 20's who haven't even had a first kiss is honestly wholesome. I don't see it as sad, I see it as them having good morals and not just giving it up because they feel like they "need" to.
You act like that's a bad thing
If she's been run through by 80 people than she definitely knows what she's doing
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 I'm acting like what is a bad thing?
@@cheesemakerkeesee395 if she’s run through by 80 people then she definitely doesn’t know what she’s doing in terms of relationships
He is saying that a girl knowing what they are doing sexually is a turn on for him, he like that inside out poon.
Hey Brett. So the 23 year old girl who has never been kissed (she took down the original video) has released an update video. You mention in this video about how men never approach anymore, or men don't initiate. In the update video, she says she is getting a bunch of "creepy" messages saying "I'll be your first kiss". Here are men, who are DMing her, getting called creeps PUBLICLY because they are trying to flirt digitally. Men do not approach anymore PRECISELY because many women do not have the grace to politely reject men (and in some cases not publicly shame them for their perhaps nervous or awkward approach). Men do not want to be blasted on the internet/among peers/at school. There is very little space for men to approach. Most men view the outcome of an approach as follows: a low chance of success OR be considered a CREEP. There is no room for grace and a woman just being disinterested and politely turning you down. Or, even if she does politely turn you down in person - she may very well go and tell her friends she was approached by some creep at Trader Joe's or wherever women WISH they would be approached.
So true
Facts .
To be fair, there's a difference between a man shooting his shot to date a woman digitally and a horde of men lustfully messaging to be her first kiss
Yup.
Give Brian more likes!
I expect this will go unread but as a guy I'm actually grateful to the women who admit they haven't had a romantic relationships. As a 27 year old guy in the same situation, I just see it as another avenue to bond over. To learn these kinds of experiences together.
Yeah, these pure women are sitll not going to want an unattractive unfunny person like yourself though. I just assume these 2 things are true if you're a virgin at 27
Yeah, it's becoming more of the 'norm' than the exception. Many 20 somethings today are in her and your same position. I am one of them. It's sad to see the state of the relationships between the sexes today.
I'm 37 and never kissed a girl. For some of us, life is unfair in that way.
thats just a cope you would much rather your girl tell you "yeah ive never been with another guy before" you just say that bc you are stuck with her now and are afraid you cant get a more pure woman, simple LMAO
Genuine women tend to have a lower body count by default for their age, but regardless, I really don't care. It's all about if our personalities connect and our values in life and what she expects of me. I honestly think most non low body count dudes care either... These dudes saying it on red pill channels say it because they have to appeal to the 90%+ of their fanbase who aren't even visible in the dating market whatsoever. it's very easy to 100% feel way more passionate about wanting a woman to have a low body count because you're sexless
As far as past trauma's go, everyone has them. You just being in this comment section bitching about women is because of the ''trauma' you have experienced@@LukeplaysTV
As a guy all we want is a girl who won’t file for harassment if we ask them out but at the same time hasn’t been tag teamed by the Dallas Cowboys.
😂
Why do guys act like false accusations are common? 😂 Like your fighting shit that doesn’t exist.
@@Czaint 😐
@@Czaint its pretty common. Even if it doesn't involve legalities, some find the need to call men out on social media for shit that didn't even happen. Hell recently a blind dude got kicked out of a gym for being a "creep because you are staring" even after he proved he was blind. Not to say there arnt creepy men but not ALL of them are. its toxic all around and we keep blaming each other ( males and females).
@@Czaint It exists and is pretty common. It doesn't always get to the level of police reports but it is there a lot, even if just done in a "joking" manner or "casual" threat. It can be leveled at a guy asking a girl out or even a long-time friend or boyfriend.
I didn’t have a first kiss until 23. The first guy I kissed was the first guy I ever dated, and now we’ve been married 6 years. I’m so glad I don’t have a whole physical history I had to process through before getting married.
This is the way. Kissing random men just damages pair-bonding. A woman who was never kissed is very attractive to good guys, only the bad boys hate this kind of woman because they can't use them.
This is a similar story to me and my wonderful husband, and I am so so grateful. ❤ No baggage or comparisons!
You and your husband are very lucky. I would kill to be able to say what u just did. As a 25 yo male virgin. I’m not proud I’m a virgin this late in my life but I’m not ashamed of it either. I have never been into hook up culture. I have always wanted to find a meaningful relationship. I’m not even saying I think u should wait till marriage for sex, but it should be with a person who you truly care for. I have had opportunities to pursue women I knew were giving me “the eyes.” But I never made the move cuz I knew all they were looking for was another hook up. I would kill to find a girl like the one in this video. Feminism and hook up culture has RUINED dating for men.
Good for you. Wish you luck and happiness and may you bless others ❤️
How many mules did your father include in the dowry?
Just kidding, but let's not conflate a kiss at the 7th grade dance with "a sexual history".
So my wife was a virgin, never had been on a date, never kissed a guy until we met. We started dating in 2017. She was 28, and I was 27 at that time. We shared a kiss, but saved our intimacy until marriage. It was one of the things that attracted me to her. We got married in 2019, and now have two wonderful children. It is worth the wait for the right person.
Hopefully u were also a virgin
AWWW this is so cute!
wow that is great
Were you Virgin too?😅
Hell yeah
I'm a guy, I'm 19 ( almost 20 )... never dated, never had bed fun, never kissed a girl... getting my life on track is more important to me than getting a girlfriend at the moment.
It's best to go that
Guys need to get life together, before finding a wife
I ain't religious but amen brother, in almost the same boat
Respect unfortunately I can’t take the loneliness lmao
Minus dating back in my Freshman year (Which failed quickly), I'm in the same situation. Never kissed, never had sex. But I am looking to have at least a stable income and be in better shape before I try anything. Gonna be 20 in a week.
Real shit bro. Im in highschool and i keep hearing how these ppl date for a few and break up. Doesnt sound that appealing to me. Plus the dread of choosing the wrong career and regretting it for life is more important to me rn.
The problem is, its no longer "safe" to approach women. You never know when it's going to be accepted or you will be vilified.
Plus the payoff is not really worth the risk 😂
Bull. What’s going to happen? I cold approach women and I’m healthy and fine.
Unless you’re a huge creep that’s not true. Even if u are a creep, a lot of men don’t ever get called out.
grow some balls
@@dinosaur___7209 I was accused of sexual harassment after I asked someone out, if they ain't your type everyone in a 1 mile radius needs to know
In my own experience, the issue with approaching girls irl is that there's a good chance they'll already be taken or if they don't find you attractive, they'll perceive you as creepy. Guys don't want to be seen as creepy so that fear keeps them from talking to women irl which leaves just finding girls on dating apps which brings its own issue of most of the girls on there are usually just looking for a hook up.
Jordan Peterson its your fault for not being better....
literally me I dont care about rejection I just dont want to be humiliated and called ugly
I really don't give a shit about outcomes and I will try when I feel It's right and if that makes me creepy So be it
Most of the guys who seem creepy generally have no shame. They'll be creepy or misread the cues and still won't care. If you're a relatively normal person, you'll be able to gauge the situation and determine if it's the right time/place to ask a girl out. I can't speak for all women, but I never like being approached in a public place, especially if it's not somewhere you'd expect to find a date, like say, the grocery store. I'm sure people hitting the bars and clubs are more open, but idk if they're looking for something serious, either :/ shit's tough out there.
@@palmanardozza2041 That's where I disagree with you. Even if you're a normal guy, we don't know when it's "okay" to approach a girl. That's the main issue. Girls determine whether a guy is "creepy" or not depending on if they find them attractive. If a girl doesn't find the guy that's asking them out attractive, then he's creepy. Meanwhile, women are complaining that guys they do find attractive aren't asking them out and that's because we can't tell if you find us attractive or creepy.
I was a 28 year old guy who had never dated. It wasn’t because of lack of trying just constant rejection due to being an average guy. I was depressed for years and never thought I’d get married. Long story short I finally met my best friend at 29 years old who is now my wife. We’ve been married 5 years and have 2 children and are both so thankful that we have only ever been with the other and nobody else.
Thanks for sharing, looking to follow in your footsteps!
I mean if you are desperate then every chance is a chance, so nothing wrong here
gives me hope, happy to hear this!
@@jakubskyba7946 Look at yourself in the mirror and if there's some fixing to be done, get on that first. You're not getting any younger. The rest should be obvious.
DUUUUUUUUUDDDDDDEEEE. Thats so cute.
dating a girl who hasn't been kissed or touched before it's the best thing guys can ask for in a girl. It's an honor honestly.
Rather dumb question, but why?
@@Fr3nchFri3sBecause you know that she has enough moral values not to jump with a random guy to bed after one datę and probably wants a meaningfull relationship
@@bartekmechanik Doesn't necessarily mean that she just jumps in bed with every guy, for example, perhaps she was convinced that she was in fact in a meaningful relationship, but it ended up not being what she thought it was.
@@Fr3nchFri3s looks like you're one of them trying to make yourselves look innocent
@@NathanXYX. Ha! Yeah no I've had one boyfriend and the most we did was kiss. 💀 I simply try to live my life open minded and see different peoples points of view.
In my early 20s I started dating this really gorgeous girl who was my age. I had only slept with one girl until that time. On our third date she told me that she had slept with 39 guys.
I stopped viewing her as gorgeous on the spot. I wasn't a conservative or a very religious person. In theory, if you had asked me if I would mind dating a really beautiful girl who had many ex-boyfriends, I would tell you that I wouldn't mind, at that time.
And yet I felt disgusted. And I suspect that most of us (men or women) feel disgusted in such situations, whether we will admit it or not. Everyone likes to feel unique and, nope, I won't feel that way if the amount of men you have kissed would suffice for the siege of a provincial castle.
That cause of retroactive jealousy is real thing. Men want subcouncisly women is his and his alone. Doesnt mater if it past or future.
That why there was rule in every country to not have sex outside mariage, so guys wont cuck each other. And this way each guy could have atleast one virign girl. Whole idea of waiting till mariage, was to ensure each guy would have virgin wife.
you dodged a huge bullet 10 partners in your 20s is fine especially for females, but 11+ is too much, either they don't respect themselves, low self-esteem or they have poor judgement (which will be a headache for you regardless). Great job on reading the situation and leaving.
@@anchorsanvils *For me, anything above 0 before marriage is too much.*
@@anchorsanvilsthat’s one partner a year… what the fuck are you doing wrong that your going through a guy a year. That’s a lot.
STD's my guy
I am an older guy that stopped trying to date years ago. I had a lot of trauma during my childhood so I simply missed out on typical social stuff until later in life. By then there was a stigma for not dating that was very difficult to overcome. I tried dating online, asking people out in person lots of stuff. It was a nightmare. I ran into scams, ghosting, mean insulting comments, by the end of it I felt ugly and worthless. It makes simply asking someone out risky, will they think Im creepy, too ugly, too old, whatever label. And its often not a simple yes or no. Cancel culture is very real. People always want to put labels saying what men and women are "doing wrong" or whats wrong with them. Simple answer nothing its just the times we live in. Im now successful, self confident, and worked out my own internal problems from the childhood trauma. All while being single. Life is good for me. Point is its ok for us to be ourselves. No need for masks. We are all broken but all worthy of love. Be yourself grow with others. Love with your entire being. Will I try dating again? I keep going back and forth. I don't know. Either way it will be fine :). Peace to you all. I hope all that read this find joy in life.
Get a passport, try another country.
Thanks for sharing, I strangely relate to what you wrote a lot although we're different in a lot of other aspects. Glad that you're doing well now friend and hope that you find whatever it is that will make you happy.
@@rightcliquegod7653 Thank you for your kind words. I'm helping others through a nonprofit and find peace through my faith. I used to be very lonely but have found when you heal it fills a lot of that void. People are more alike than different. Our core regardless of culture, race, gender is all the same. Our hearts beat the same. We want love and peace deep down.
There is still something you have not figured out. You believe you have solved all your issues but you have not. You are trying to force a change and banking on it too much and it's probably causing another problem. Like if a dude tries to act too manly just isn’t real.
@@HelloThere..... -Wow-how can you know so much about someone you don't even know...? Amazing.
I've asked out around 35+ women in college, not counting dating apps. I've received no after no after no. Once a girl changed her mind about saying yes to a date because "guys never asked her out and she didn't know how to respond." I'm an engineer, I was a D1 athlete, I'm a Christian, I'm 6' 1" and I am seeking a long term relationship. I don't understand why it's so difficult. It's hard to believe women like this are out there. If you'd put yourself on my radar, I would totally ask you out!
edit: y'all, I think I figured it out... I've just been too intense and had expectations that ruined one or both parties enjoyment of the moment.
They're out there and they are NOT Christian...that is the problem. Christianity is dying, a slow death, very slow death, but it is dying...the faster it dies off(and ALL other religions so that people start THINKING for themselves), the better off we will be as a society.
Why waste time on women they are a lost cause nowadays
Many value saying no to inflate their self esteem more than saying yes and potentially having a relationship.
@bentuinstra4441
It's so strange when I have gfs that get asked out by very nice and attractive men and act offended and say no!!! And then turn around and complain about being single. Sometimes I feel like something's wrong with me because I've never even held hands with someone but it is all in the Lord's timing and we can trust in him!!! It is hard to know how to put yourself on someone's radar tho. But if you really want a relationship I guess you just have to try.
@@katemesser4978 If you want to get on a guy's radar, give him attention! Talk to him, text him first, offer to hang out just with him. If he finds you attractive, then you'll have a good chance! (Ask him out if you want to, as well! A woman will experience much less rejection than a man will for asking someone out)
I’m a 20 year old girl, and I’ve never been in a relationship or been kissed. It’s been tough trying to figure out why I can’t find a man. The other day, feeling very emotional, I just laid on the floor and cried questioning if I’ll find someone one day. Usually I just be myself and remember that it’s okay if I don’t, but sometimes I just break down. I put so much into being my best self and being social. We don’t know what the future has in store for us, but I know that whatever happens, it’s okay, we all have so much potential and should never stress over relationship troubles. I know my worth and that no matter what, I am so valuable!!
It's because if we approach, we will certainly be bombed on the airstrip. this happens to me every time
@@PhileasFogg-qj5te i get called a creep even if i don't look like one 😔
your last sentence is the reason.
@@jurassicthunder you're not wrong
@@jurassicthunder i meant value in the eyes of God. meaning, we all have equal value, regardless of how other people see us. if im feeling hard on myself for feeling no one is interested in me romantically, i just remind myself i have my value from God.
This gives me so much hope. As a teenager who is surrounded by girls who aren’t exactly trying to make themselves wife material, knowing that girls like this are out there is almost exciting to me.
*This* I'm 21 and by age of 27 I wouls like to have started a family and most girls I meet straight up tell they hate kids/don't want them any time soon.
Get excited! Get social!
There is every reason to hold onto that hope if you're smart and play your cards right.
Bruh
Dude, as a soon to be 20 year old engineer, I've been trying to find normal women since I left Highschool, the road is long but I still believe they're out there.
@@jaroslav3905 Tv has pushed for women to hate children. I think our cultural leaders are either idiots or want to put an end to humanity.
I also don’t blame men for staying single, in a society where if you flirt with someone and ask them out, if she’s not interested, then you’re open to claims of harassment.
Exactly
Yeah, a guy asked a coworker for her number at work last week. That was it, nothing more, and there was an entire harassment stand down held because of it... Multiple guys were talking about how they were thinking about doing the same thing, but now they never will. That's why we're in this situation.
Yea that's why a lot of men are afraid to ask a girl out because of that
I’m married to my coworker
we had a meeting at one of my jobs that said if you ask a person{lets just say a woman) out and she does not like you she can claim harrasmenrt and have you terminated.
As a dude I’m literally scared to even talk to women in a public space sometimes it’s kinda embarrassing. It’s a mix of three things. I don’t want to get accused of doing something I’m not, I don’t want her boyfriend that I didn’t know about to sucker punch me from behind and something inside me knows I’ll get “the look” if I do. The one that says “why are you talking to me weirdo?”
I definitely know the feeling. It's as if you're talking to a girl, you already feel like a predator. I think talking with more girls, and maybe being in a situation where you meet more (e.g., bartending, cashiering, selling fruit by a roadside - the last one is what I do), will help!
Dude your problem is you're overthinking. None of that matters. Getting accused of doing something your not, you know your intentions, that's all that matters. Boyfriend, not your problem and shouldn't even cross your mind. I clicked with a clerk girl really well recently, so much so it felt natural to ask for her number so i did. But she said she was taken. Fair enough, i said lucky guy, wished her a good rest of her day. Hell i wouldn't mind if said boyfriend appeared and sucker punched me. Would only work in my favour because what kind of asshole does that just for talking to a girl and then respecting she has a boyfriend when she said she did. Personally i'm not scared of fighting either though so. Maybe work on that as well.
And girl that has that response from you just trying to talk to them, calling you a weirdo. Isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's like thanks for showing a major red flag right off the bat. That kind of person isn't a good person and not someone you would want a relationship with anyway.
Its all perspective my friend, right now through your putting all these consequences on yourself.
You've spoken facts my friend.@@midgarw6775
@@Scooter110 Feel what way? Having confidence and not being hung up over rejection?
@@Scooter110 Oh sorry. Said it was a reply to me, TH-cam comments are really shit
The other half of this is guys are probably less likely to ask a girl out because they don’t want to be seen as a creep. We see it all the time where it’s “cute” when a “hot guy” does something that a “regular guy” would be considered creepy for doing.
It’s always been a dice roll. 🎲
The difference is the consequences of failing the roll now FAR exceed the benefits of succeeding.
I had an ex who once told me about a time she felt really cornered and threatened. I asked what happened and she said this guy approached her and started flirting but she wasn’t interested. I said I was sorry that happened and asked what he said/did to make her so fearful. She told me nothing, it was the fact she wasn’t attracted to him that made her so afraid. I’ve wrestled with that for close to ten years now. No matter how much I want to approach someone I’m interested in, it will never be more than how much I don’t want to scare them.
Yeah sometimes some women lie because of that fear. A man says hello, and in her mind she adds in an evil laugh with that hello. Now it's something else. Wtf. 😂
That's her fault, not his.
Actually, it's her parents fault for raising her so poorly that her threat detection mechanism sees a friendly overture as a threat at all.
That or she picked her romantic partners so poorly that she would up getting traumatized through her experiences with them.
In any case, it's not on the guy that she was afraid of him. Any more than it's the spiders fault when girls scream at seeing them.
@@houseofhas9355 It's almost like we shouldn't be telling little boys and girls about "toxic masculinity" and "the male gaze".
If a woman considers you attractive, she will be angry because you didn't read her mind and approach her immediately. But if she considers you unattractive, then just the fact that you exist will be considered as a threat to her life by her.
@@jamesjonnes Hyperbole, but not far off.
I was this girl when I was 21. I was introverted and very picky. I had just moved in with my very extroverted friend for my last year of college, and she asked if I wanted to go to the football game. It was the last thing I wanted to do, but I forced myself to go and put myself out there. We met with a group of guys she knew from class, and the quiet one in the group caught my interest when he said he wasn’t into partying. I literally remember thinking “you’ll do.” Anyways, 7 years later and we’ve been married 4 years and have 2 beautiful little girls 😊
Just realize that all relationships take work. None of them are perfect. Find somebody that seems somewhat compatible with you, and start talking to them. It’s ok to fib and pretend to be into a show they like until you find things you actually have in common. You’ll laugh about it later.
Is he also introverted?
@@joanjaeger8943that’s beautiful! I’m glad for you. It brings hope to a guy who doesn’t exactly know what to do. Thanks for sharing.
Sounds like a Disney movie scenario
_”You’ll do.”_ not sure if this is the best thing or the worst thing ever to hear from a woman.
Is it settling for less, or selecting JUST you out of all the other fish? 🐟
I heard this quote about 10 years ago and it still holds up. “The world is full of lonely people afraid to make the first move”
I’m very afraid to make the first move and the last 4 girls I’ve asked out or were going ask out either ghosted me or turned me down this year alone. I’m 30 and the dating pool is looking pretty empty.
Just go overseas for a wife
This could be because they can sense your desperation. Nobody wants to be your second, third or fourth choice. I knew a guy who was engaged and would still flirt with all the girls he could at work and still ended up single. I gave him a chance after they split by going out with him but he was still hung up on his ex. We can sense desperation and it's not attractive. If you want to make a real connection take a real interest in someone and be okay with the friend zone for a while. Let it grow organically. You literally have nothing to lose by being friends at first...
@@izzyash2031 could be, but I’m not desperate. I’ll definitely take your advice anyways
Be a friend first. I used to have a male friend who was rejected a lot and I told him young women tend to be superficial and then, suddenly close to 30, they grow up and look for males who are responsible and who are good friends. Eventually he became the exact type of male that women want to marry and have kids with.
Focus on figuring out your life purpose. Then, look to your left and right and see the single woman standing next to you.
I’m 43, single, and was one of the rare cases of single custody dads in the US. My son is currently 25 and lives on his own about 25-30 miles away now. Even with that kind of decent reputation, women want nothing to do with me. I’m average looking, 6 ft tall, and make good money for a blue-collar guy. It’s damn near impossible to find a good woman currently. So I’ve basically resigned to being alone and saving my money for my son and nephews. It’s a bit lonely but knowing my bloodline will carry on makes it worth the loneliness. To all my fellow brothers out there, if you have family, you are not alone. If you don’t have family, I wish I had something more substantial to say to you. I am sorry that I do not.
Aren't thre any options that may come along as you practice your hobbies?
Recently there have been many women joining gyms in order to keep themselves fit, there are lots of women playing tennis or other sports, or going to cooking classes. The best place of all to meet women, as I've heard, is dance classes. You can always try those social activities, if you can muster the courage! At 43 you are definitely not too old to find a good relationship or to experience something new and refreshing!
@@beefchampion2792 Definitely not going to the gym just to be called a creep on social media and my hobbies are mostly solitary, but you’re not wrong. I could make the effort. I’m not sure if it’s worth it though. I don’t think women are interested in a guy like me nowadays. I’m not a bad boy, I’m not super wealthy, I’m not a douche bag, and I’m in my 40’s. I think that ship has sailed.
Hey brother, remember to get into the Word and trust in God. Study out the Scripture and what He says. Dive into the book of Psalms :)
You've got your kid. You've done your part, enjoy your retirement from the opposite sex!
As a 22 (about to be 23) year old guy who has also never kissed, finding out that a girl Im attracted to that is in the same boat would make her incredibly more attractive, because it would cancel out that awkward cliche for both of us and would increase the potential for a long term relationship where we could actaully share important experiences. It would also tell me that there is much higher chance that we share similar values, standards, and level of level of social energy. The terrible thing is that people like us are kind of doomed to rarely meet each other, because we are clearly more reserved and less likely to attend social events where we would stand a chance at meeting each other.
Best of luck to you 🤞
Young woman here, I think you’re right about having a hard time meeting each other. But I will say that as a Catholic woman, I would prefer to be pursued. For you as a man, maybe build social circles with other virtuous women and then just go for it. I really feel for men because they’re often put in the spot to be rejected, but I think many conservative women would prefer a man to take up his role and pursue the relationship. Best of luck!
You cite your faith...but the one documented story in the Bible that I can think of someone pursuing someone for marriage is a woman pursuing the man. Maybe a little murky if you consider Jacob and Rachel....point is women absolutely should pursue good men. Maybe not just ask them out but pursue...yes
@@katien3022
"maybe build social circles with other virtuous women"
If it was possible for young men these days to do that then you wouldn't be hearing about how it is hard, if not impossible, to find a virtuous woman.
I'm exactly the same, but a few years older. I want a girl who is very sweet and/or has little dating experience because I think she'd be less judgmental if I'm awkward. Plus, shy girls are cute and they're more likely to be both of those things.
As a girl, it’s so frustrating what feminism has done. Men are more careful about talking to women, if they do so at all.
Edit: I have no problem asking a man out. I’ve done so. But I’m a traditional woman looking for a traditional man, so I’m more interested in a guy taking charge. I’m usually the one to initiate conversation and flirting, but then wait for him to make the next step by asking me out.
The risk is too great. A simple question turns into a "me too" moment.
Excuse me miss, but do you have the time?
POLICE!!!
What's stopping women from approaching men? ;) Be empowered! Ask the guy out! Break the mold of gender stereotypes! What's wrong? ;)
I'm curious, have you personally noticed this? Do less men actually approach you or talk to you?
These girls want to be asked out but only by certain guys lol thats the catch otherwise noone would be complaining.
@@chewface with a name like "chewface" i suspect its not a lack of empowerment thats keeping that from happening...
I'm a 25M. Throughout middle school, high school, and my young adult years I pursued girls and tried so hard to find a relationship and got burnt so badly so many times. Most of the time it was because girls tend to be afraid of hurting men's feelings and end up leading them on and confusing them. I finally had my first real relationship at 23 and as a result learned what it's actually like when a girl likes you. It's not such a big problem any more. But damn, girls please be blunt, honest, but still polite.
Yes please tell me straight up don’t tiptoe around my feelings just speak your mind
You something funny if ads become reality. many lonely girls in your local area. Congrats by the way and do all you can for your partner because its hard to find pair this days as instead of partners they want dogs so they can live easily whenever they bored.
It's not a new Problem by any stretch of the imagination. I'm Gen-X, and I've gone to the same thing.
But these days I don't even bother to ask, because every single time I have approached a woman to ask her out ask her coffee date anything, I get rejected or I get accused of being a stalker or just it's it's outrageous. And honestly I think the women of my generation are broken, now whether that's because of feminism or because they've been with assholes I don't know but I've yet to find a woman anywhere close to my age range that isn't broken
bruh what kind of girls have you been talking to, all the girls I know hang out in sheep herds(I'm talking herds of like 10 or more, and the moment a guy gets the confidence to ask on of them out, they all start clowning him
If women like you as a person and loves your attention and especially if you can do something for them - they will just breadcrumb you along and milk the attention and benefits for as long as possible.
As a 25-year-old gal who has myself never been in a relationship or had a first kiss yet, this type of video is so refreshing to see. I'm so happy to see Brett using her platform to address an issue like this which really does deserve a conversation.
As conservative and God-fearing women in 2024, it makes sense that it would take a little bit more time for us to find our person. And as hard as it might be at times, we need to simply hold fast to what we know is right and good, and do what is best for ourselves. We should never try to be like anyone else, because somewhere out there is a man who is looking for YOU, just as you are as your most authentic self. And I believe that right man when he meets you will have nothing but immense respect for your dating history, or lack thereof.
Brett is right, these are tough times. But we were born into this time, and as long as we lean on God and His promises we (both men and women alike) can get through it and come out the other side with joy and triumph. Just never lose hope, because without hope you don't have anything ♥
this is wonderful! stay strong
Exactly 🖤
This is very encouraging to me as a 23 yr male without ever being in any relationship or kiss etc… It is amazing and refreshing to know there are many people out there; I just have to work hard and show them how much I value their honor and am willing to work to get them as God-fearing women
@@lukewilliams3334 I'm so glad that I was able to give some encouragement for you 🕊
I know it certainly helps to know I'm not the only one in my 20s who hasn't experienced those things yet.
Stay strong man and women. God will lead you the way to your dream woman or your dream man just have hope. And keep on praying.
As a guy, I am just tired of being rejected and then asked to "just be friends". I would love for someone to think I'm worth their time and affection.
U dropped this 👑
Start working out
@@MatthewSchellenberg no offense but u definitely don’t work out so that’s ironic
Focus on yourself and do what you like, follow your heart, find joy, and soon people will start seeing this, and before your know it, it’ll happen!:)
one thing that make it hard also is if you ask out the wrong person thanking there a good person they will talk about being asked out (internet/irl) by a friend and they will label you as a creep and if you live in a small town like me it makes it hard when i was in high school a guy was hanging out with a girl he liked her she seemed to like him then one day over spring brake she got a BF and when school started he aked her at the BF found out beat him up and he was labeled as a creep by everyone in the school to the point where he tryed to leave this world
This girl's video made me feel so much better about myself. I'm 20 and have never even been on a date or asked out. I'm aware that I am super picky and have a very limited social life, though.
Ok, how tall are you?
@@LiamHalla-pe5ntwhat? How is that relevant?
Where are you from?
@@dominickleonardimore than you realize…
Stay the course. Quality over quantity.
I just turned 16 and as a teenager, I've witnessed all of the "relationships" that my friends go and have gone through. I personally get made fun of for not having a first kiss or having a girlfriend. It's okay to not have your first kiss or 'time' yet because it just makes it that much more valuable when you find someone who you truly love and will truly love you back.
Same here bro 👍
Absolutely correct, man. Im 25. Lost my first time and first kiss when i was 19 to a drunk woman at a bar that took me home. Not worth it. I felt like I lost part of me to a stranger whose real name I didnt even know. When I met my first girlfriend at 21 I felt so bad I couldnt give her my first kiss, and that I could never give her my first time.
@@AceAratadam that’s real
Same. My friends are constantly up my ass being 16 and single without my first kiss. It just seems like kids our age are trying to gain kissing or dating points or something. I just don't get it.
Feel you bro 🥲
Title of this video - “Go ask a girl out!”
Me - “Uhhh no. My peace is too valuable. Good day.”
The irony is I would be impressed and attracted even more so to a women who hasn’t had any romantic/relationship experience if it was because she was waiting for the right person. There’s nothing wrong with having good and reasonable standards. I won’t date a girl who isn’t a Christian and who doesn’t take that seriously. I’ve just eliminated like 95% of the population of America lol.
You and me are one in the same brother. Those are my exact parameters, and while I haven’t found her yet, a girl with strong faith and conviction will be the most attractive thing to me
Maybe God has set you apart to be that person she will listen to instead of just ignoring the gospel whenever it is preached. That's the beauty of a relationship, when you make Love the greatest of the three, faith and hope will follow. If she loves you, the faith will follow
She’s not a unicorn, she does exist! Unfortunately for me, it didn’t work out with her. 😆
@@cheddarbub6324brothers, do you see born again women as having “history”? Really?
most men are, we dont want women that are run through by 100's of dicks
Dating has definitely changed so much. It's been very difficult. I'm a 20 year old introverted man, never kissed anyone, and talking to people I don't know is hard, let alone asking someone out, almost seems impossible in this day and age.
I’m 27 and in your shoes brother. I’m just now starting to get my life turned around and start working out and eating better. I put myself on dating apps but havnt had much luck yet. I really just don’t want to die alone lol.
@@brody8857 Both of you guys should start going to church/synagogue if you want to meet kind, non-judging women.
I do go to church, have my whole life, I just have a hard time opening up, especially when all the relationships I’ve been in have felt very one sided. I know I’ll find a Godly woman one day that will love me like I will love her, that just hasn’t happened yet
@@cadenwendling3380 Hey, friend, please consider reaching a psychotherapist in your area. (You don't have to quit being an introvert.) Self-knowledge really helps :)
Trust me. There are a lot of women looking for guys like you. Just keep trying, you'll find her, because believe me girls are looking for you. My friends certainly are
Just gotta say as a 21 year old male who also hasn’t had any physical interaction with the opposite gender and is around only people that have a high body count, this is wholesome and hope inducing, I also think that (I think) not having any serious physical interaction before marriage shows respect not only for your partner but also yourself!
21? Too immature. 35? Too old you freaking pado. So basically if you're a man, you will never ever be loved. The one thing that makes life worth living, women are incapable of. I've never been kissed either. Don't want to. It's not worth the false SA charges.
Bro gets no bitches, unironically kinda funny
@justinwentzel5166I know bro 😮💨😕
Not having sex before marriage is only a virtue for women. Your sexuality as a man is worthless. You need to understand this. Like really understand this. You have no sexual value in todays society. If you want to view yourself as being pure or think that abstaining from sex gives self-respect then that's fine, whatever makes you feel content.
Even very good looking men young or old have very little sexual value to women that they truly are attracted to. Women use sex as a means to attain a lifestyle or obtain the services of a man- labor, protection, servant, etc....This is 100% fact. If you are a very attractive man then you have lots of "fun" but only with women you don't find super attractive. Beautiful women don't go around having fun except with the wealthy men.
The dream that you might find this perfect woman who is demure and nice and smart and funny and attractive (to you) and not sexually experienced---this is not reality. Just like when women say they want a man who earns $200k and is inshape and votes Democrat and blah blah blah---that is also not going to happen for her. Best she can do is find a teacher or a small business owner who earns $75k-$100k, who isn't super handsome but is masculine and does things for her. She'll divorce him after 7 years and collect alimony.
You probably aren't going to find this special perfect woman that bonds off video games or being shy or whatever constellation of quirky things would be great. If you find a woman who appears to be like this, you can be almost sure she has slept with a bunch of guys, has a drug problem, is bi polar, is a single mother, etc....there is always something.
@@tuber420 have fun with E.D.
This is so relatable! I am so glad that I am not the only one who is going through this (also 23yr old single female who has never done anything)! Thank you for the advice Brett, hopefully not all hope is lost.
why do you guys think being a virgin is bad? like seriously? a guy will marry a virgin girl over an actress that has kissed plenty of dudes on screen
I'm a 27-year-old guy and I have no problem asking a girl out. However, what makes me a bit hesitant is the fear of being recorded and ending up on TikTok, being labeled as a creep. Considering my appearance and how I present myself ( I Consider myself a 4 out of 10), I don't fit the stereotypical image of someone who approaches a girl, and I worry that I might be labeled as a weirdo or creep right away. The frustration of constantly getting ghosted on dating apps like Boo, Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, and Facebook dating has led me to delete them altogether.
Don't give up
approaching in real life takes way more confidence than just an app, do that, way more respected, woman are way more forgiving in the looks department than us men
@xtal16 I was 316lb now sitting at 256lb currently in the gym going x5 a week and eating healthy. Tired of playing games with these ladies.
@xtal16 Dude no, don't be that stereotypical 'just go to the gym bro'' guy. No amount of gym can fix an unfortunate face.
You are being ghosted because 90% of profiles are bots. Go out and meet real people. Join clubs, voluntary work, anything that gets you to have real life connections.
I have met my fiancée almost a year ago, and she was 27 and had never kissed anyone.
I was actually shocked about this, but she saw it as her value/standard and was (is still) proud of it.
Unfortunately for her, we kissed… Whoever you are, do it right and don’t lower your hopes just to fit a society standard.
Dont get married.
-80% of divorces are initiated by women
-over 50% of marriages end in divorce
-she will take just half of EVERYTHING you own if you are lucky
-you will lose custody of your children
Hope you guys marry and have a great family.
Damn bro you asked her to marry you in a year, best of luck
Some women will sleep with guys but won’t kiss them
@@jamesjonnes if God's will, we'll achieve that.
Thanks a lot for the support!
I want a girl like this, but its hard to: A) even see any women my age (25) around in public, B) have confidence when everything in society is constantly berating young men
Well i think you need to go places where people in their twenties are. My advice: learn couple dances and go to a Salsa Bars and other locations. You can meet women in class or outside of it. Plus women always love men, who can dance. (Might sound a little bit stupid, but it is worth it to give it a try. And lets be honest besides from hookups you don't meet any woman in clubs). Other way would be partys from friends, where there are women your age you can meet. But i also know it's hard, so... i need to be braver the next time i want to ask someone out. 😅
@@QuinnQuell-yt3zmHow do you meet people in person without going to clubs, bars, etc. I’ve been having a hard time making and friends or trying to date because I don’t drink, smoke, or vape. I work as a CNA in q nursing home so there’s not really any men that work their especially not ones my age.
@@QuinnQuell-yt3zmHow do you expect to meet someone decent at a place like that?
Brett just pointed out a gold mine of these women in the US. Get on that thread and talk to the women!
This is my biggest issue with the world ad a young guy, we’re told if we don’t have xyz by x age that we’re losers. Even if we are late bloomers that we’re running out of time. Lose
Lose situation.
I'm a guy and I was 20. She was 29 and kissed me! It took me by total suprise. She thought I didn't like her. I told her I just didn't know what to do. She was a bit confused for a second. Then she told me to 'come here'. Rest is history.
My wife and I were both virgins on our wedding night. Our lives are wonderfully uncomplicated and baggage-free. Bring back “waiting.”
People are obsessed with sex now it's unhealthy
That's all I want for my future, a virgin girl as me. However this sounds unrealistic nowadays, mainly in Brazil
@@mateuscosta9960 Good luck with that...
@@dinos9607it’s very possible, unlikely in America. Have money/ time to travel basically.
@@mateuscosta9960 Brazil is even worse than america good lord...
In the past, I have dated a girl who had never had a relationship before. I really liked the fact she had no other relationship baggage and that I could be her first relationship. I considered it an honor. Ladies don't worry about society, just go to the places you would meet a good guy and hopefully one day you'll find one that deserves your first kiss.
Well said sir 👏 👏
I've dated a couple of women where I was their first relationship and kiss and those sadly didn't work out
I feel like most people don’t think like this to me like doing anything with a virgin or someone that hasn’t done anything in a really long time you have to be so nice to them and cherish them but that hasn’t been my case maybe it’s all just limiting beliefs sometimes I’m worried that no one’s gonna be nice😭
I've dated a few as well. Some upbringing stuff can lead to this. Taking warnings from parents too seriously, considering intimacy dirty or unholy. It sadly easy, and there are many ways, to eff up a child for most of life.
Actually, I'm dating someone, but both of us have had a history of past partners. I think that has benefited us because it provided us with the experience to make each other happy.
As a dad, I would be proud of her. Just keep on doing what you are doing young lady.
The woke feminists have screwed it up for them
I'm a 34 year old man and never had a relationship. Are you proud of me too?
Weird
I'm a guy and almost 37. The last kiss i had was 18 1/2 years ago and that was with the only girlfriend I've had. I've never messed around with anyone because I'm saving myself for when i get married. I'm so ready to find a woman and get married. Hang in there single people, there is still hope!!
I'm a 37yr old man and I've stopped asking out women... my last few relationships I've been used lied to cheated on mentally and physically abused and treated like shit. I just have no urge to experience any of that again
trust me lad you will find the one! take a few months or years of rest from the dating life, and trust me you will be refreshed and ready to find the one!
@@rasmusgregersen9818There is no the one. You settle for less or your alone
Im 39 and inthe same boat...a lot of the women i meet are the definition of crazy
@@rasmusgregersen9818 There is no "the one". There is only compromise.
32-year-old man here, pretty much the same situation. I have no inclination to constantly ruin my own life, so it makes the prospect of even asking a woman out pretty, ah... unappealing.
23yr old man here and in the same boat. And the risks of asking out a girl in this era just honestly isn't worth it. I'd prefer to not be dragged through the streets and online as "a creep"
Bro, forget the harassment and other false accusations.
Just trying to get a straight answer out of a woman is painful as all Hell.
How do women even make it through a day with this terrible decision making and indecisiveness?
Her being 23 and not having had a first kiss yet is honestly pretty wholesome. There’s just a purity about it that makes the whole situation, idk, attractive I guess.
Purity mindset 🤮
Some people think attractiveness = sexiness, which is false. Attractiveness is simply the ability to be drawn to, which is what this comment is talking about. Everyone has opinions, but this one is just better.
I’m 27 and never kissed a girl. I’ve asked out 1000’s of women but got rejected by everyone except the woke liberal fat chick with short, blue hair that identifies as a man
@@GrianaArande believe it or not, most guys aren't attracted to girls who have been with a ton of other guys. Feel free to 🤮 at that all you want, but that's the reality of the world.
@@GrianaArande Some people just dont want a girl thats been through 40+ releationships, having someone who hasnt been in a releationship is lightyears ahead of someone who has had 40+ releationships
Don't women understand that virginity and never having kissed before is a huge plus for them with men?
I'm 23 I've kissed a girl once and I'm a virgin. I have asked girls out at work, at school and college when I was younger and have been blanked, received well and acknowledged but got no reply after getting the initial "yes" and just out right ignored. I haven't spent this time idle though, I have gone out, enjoyed myself made new friends but I would never say "I'm a ladies magnet". I have grown up in other areas of my life but relationships and love is just something that seems to pass me by; like its an inside joke that everyones in on but me.
From watching your video (even though its from a women's perspective) I must say I feel relieved as when your in this situation you definitely feel like the only one and it can be soul destroying at times. So I just wanna thank you for bringing light to this and that there is hope out there.
If you see my comment keep going brother, the problem is most men view convos as very objective oriented, “ok she is pretty i will compliment her” whereas women want to have fun, it’s counterintuitive these days but think of conversation and flirting like dancing, the objective of dance isnt to do it as fast as possible or to get from one end of the dance floor to the other, you do it to enjoy/express yourself and have FUN with the other person, once you realize this women are much more receptive as well as people in general
I'm 29. All i want at this point is to find a nice, traditional, conservative woman, fall in love, get married, and raise a family together. But A.) Finding one who wants to be found is extremely hard and b.) The stigma of a guy approaching a woman to ask her out or even just compliment her is such an enormous hurdle that i usually just don't take the step out of fear of being labeled a creep or worse.
That's an American problem. I went to Thailand and it was so easy. I wasn't even trying to hook up or anything. I went alone and went to find people to drink with and it was all natural. In America, I'm not white enough to speak to.
That's very true. I've held giving compliments to women out of fear of being labeled a creep for even noticing. I can handle rejection, but I'm not ready to be falsely accused.
Get on a Christian dating app if you are religious. Something like the one called Upward. There’s so many good Christian women in their late 20’s dying for a husband and waiting for a man to approach. Just be careful, don’t go for the ones with provocative pics, bikini photos, or filters, if you know what to look for it’s not as hard as it seems.
If you want to find a good future wife, you need to be looking in the right place, just like Matt Walsh has his own fishing spots. I don't know about your religion, but looking to date a woman that shares your religious beliefs can help you get there. People who go to church tend to be more conservative, and even if they aren't, would still not call you a creep (don't do to others what you don't wish upon yourself), as long as your approach is not creepy.
@@agees924yeah those don’t work either
I’m 18 and never been kissed but I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people growing up that did not make dating and ‘getting kissed’ their priorities. Plenty of my friends haven’t been kissed and I also know a lot of girls who regret the guys they’ve kissed. I’ve dated a couple guys but it never seemed right. I know I’m young but don’t be embarrassed by not having a first kiss and don’t let anyone shame you for that fact about yourself.
Same i am 18 too
If you think 18 is bad than what can middle-aged single men say?
I know an engineer that is looking for a future house wife, you interested?
Edit-
He is 22, 6 foot 2 inches, in a masters program and living in florida
Stay with what you're doing. So many young women out there today are straight up disgusting with the amount of men they bed. The fact that you don't give anything away due to societal pressure says a lot of good things about you. You're one of the few respectable ones out there. Keep your head up!
Always happy when I hear about the next generation doing it right. Keep it up Gen Z. You can make a better world if you hold onto your values.
This month, I had a woman ask for my number, and then she friend-zoned me after 2 dates. Men eventually get tired of the rejection, the games, and the manupulation. Over time, we prefer our male friends, our hobbies, and our own peace and security. Sure, the pain of not having a woman never really goes away, but it does lessen with time, and the benefits of being single greatly supercede the risks of modern dating.
Sorry to hear it didnt work out. I get what you are saying and i do agree but it sounds like in this specific case that the woman deserves some props. She did shoot her shot, stepped up and asked for a your number and tried to take some initiative. Not every date is gonna lead to marriage and i get how the friend zone can feel rough but atleast she went for it, probably felt like you didnt click and ended it the way many women do by asking to just be friends. You absolutely shouldnt accept the friend zone and just say something like "thanks but i dont need more friends" and then go about your business. Its so rare for women to do anything more than "look and smile" these days and then just expect men to do litterally everything. She gets some respect for trying at least.
Haha this brings me joy. Natural selection doing its job making sure yall losers dont have offspring. Stop whining and be a real men. Ooh tip! Dont objectivy women, maybe date women who arent 17 years old with a supermodel body😮😮
I agree with @johantolli372, she wanted to try it out so she went for it and decided it didnt work between yall, thats the 2nd best outcome for any dating scenario
That means you’re good looking and inviting enough for a girl to reach out. You guys just didn’t match, but this is a good sign, no?
@@TheNinjapancake14 I've been told I'm good looking non-stop since as long as I can remember but it only last so long, maybe with a really unstable girl she will stick around for your looks but generally a good looking guy only gets his foot in the door with his looks and after that all the insane high standards women have still apply. Also, women kind of see really good looking guys as short term prospects a lot of the time sort of like how a lot of men might only see really good looking women for only short term flings.
I'm not saying I'm not greatful for my looks but I swear to Christ I want to put a paper bag over my damn head some days....this probably sounds arrogant af but the grass ain't always greener on the otherside. The most magical chemistry I had with a girl was when I was slightly overweight, unshaven and wearing a mask and sick as hell and the girl was also wearing a mask, after three weeks I shaved and showed up without a mask and she took hers off and we finally saw eachothers faces for the first time only after getting to know eachother. You've never seen two people stutter so hard lol. My point is this: I feel a shit ton of pressure to be as good on the inside as I am on the outside so to speak and I think I am but I never really know.
In like middle school and through high school I asked out several girls, some said yes, majority said no. I was promptly made to feel pretty awful about myself for several different reasons when I wasn't creepy or going past lines at all. I know a lot of guys that this has happened to and resulted in them just not talking to women and continuing to be awkward with women because they avoid flirting or asking girls out generally.
My experience in high-school definitely didn't help. They treated me like dirt. The classic ew, not with you response. It's pretty hard to fix your self-image and confidence if all you ever heard when asking someone out was that you're gross, ugly or creepy. To me this crap is self inflicted. They want to be c*nts to guys in school and then later in life wonder why they never get approached or asked out.
Dude who want a boyfriend in middleschool?
@@gaia7240 You missed the point. The issue isn’t that women turn men down. It’s that from even the earliest ages boys are mocked, laughed at, and belittled. Which for too many guys simply convinces them that either they’re not good enough for anyone or that pursuing women at all isn’t worth it.
@@theauthenticwaffle651 the point is why pursuing women at a young age? You say boys are laughed at but girls are molested by those boys
@@gaia7240 Because biology? Young boys naturally develop an interest in girls around that age. A lot of girls develop interest in boys at that age as well. The molestation point is beside the point. What men are trying to express is that the way girls treat them from middle school all the way into adulthood causes men to quit pursuing women all together. Statistically, few of these boys are trying to assault girls in middle school.
The sad thing is is that there is so much pressure on our generation to get this experience while we’re young so we “won’t be behind”. I remember my first year of college my group of “friends” made fun of me bc I said I am waiting for marriage, and I had received so much backlash from them. I can only imagine what this girl experiences from her friends/the people she surrounds herself with.
Sad truth
I mean, hate to be that guy, but if they are making fun of you for making reasonable choices, are they really your friends?
@@felipeferreira00 read the comment again. She put friends in quote marks
@@kairon5249 Still leaves a bit of room for interpretation
Mad respect to you for waiting until marriage. Don't let anyone knock you down for that, it's honourable and in my opinion, a great thing to do! :)
I've had a terrible experience with dating, and I haven't dated since high school. I've been told I'm no good by my ex and her friends, and have lost almost all motivation to ask someone due to the possibility that they may see me as no good. I'm perfectly fine with being single now, but I struggled with finding my identity during that time. I would totally ask a girl out if I just decided one day to through my bad thoughts and feelings away about myself and just do it, but I feel as if the culture I'm surrounded by has had something to do with it.
After dealing with countless rejections, friend zonings and disappointing relationships, ive just gotten so discouraged as a guy to even try anymore. I used to ask girls out a fair amount in highschool, but not anymore. Im 22 now and just trying to work on myself, but since covid happened i think i realized that idk how to do that stuff anymore. Im glad to hear that this isnt just a me thing, which is a relief but sad at the same time. Wish everyone the best of luck finding someone!
In the same boat man. Been ghosted and friend zoned so many times. And I just wanted to experience a relationship like some of my friends have. Right now I’m focusing on myself and getting my money up
You’re only 22 bro. I was a virgin until age 17, but then through a miracle I had hooked up with over 60 girls from ages 17-25. I’m decent looking and tall but being in the military then a fraternity helped a lot
ikr like the problem for me isn't getting label as a creep or something, for me it's just not even worth it at this point.
You’ve been discouraged as a man since high school? That’s way too early to even try cause the women around high school most don’t want too much of that and it wouldn’t last. Good that you focus on yourself but once you’re ready and all, ask a woman you find appealing in character etc, I believe you will find someone only if you try. There’s never success without failing. Good luck man.
This sounds exactly like my story.
As a 33yr man, I have basically given up on asking women out. The sheer amount of rejection and being told "Sorry, just not interested" really weighs on the mind. And I'm even told I'm relatively good looking, so I don't know what the issue is. Oh well.
Sir are really 33 years old
And they act all friendly and seem like they want asked out, but it screeches to a halt the second you ask her out.
Women want all the options. Have many guys ask them out.
1. Take him up on the offer and have a great time.
2. Call him a creep, throw a vase, and scream for the police.
Maybe it’s because you don’t know the difference between “ways” and “weighs”
Same bro
@@vs71597 Yep, undateable from the first message. There's your answer buddy
I feel like some of this needs to talked about and normalized more. I didn't have my first kiss till 31. I had severe eczema growing up (which made me feel very ugly and uncomfortable in my own body) and came from a broken home and kinda just kept to myself. I worked on myself and got a well paying job and used my money to help my skin/psychological issues. When I turned 30 I decided to finally put myself out there. I dated my now boyfriend for a couple months before I let him kiss me. We just got to know each as friends. Thankfully he was very understanding and didn't make me feel bad at all about my lack of experience. I am very glad I waited all this time. I don't think I was ready to experience intimacy before and could have ended experiencing it with someone who didn't care about me. My boyfriend has always made sure I felt comfortable and doesn't want to hurt me.
I think you bring up a good point.
A lot of the Red Pill community talks about how they grew up watching their fathers/grandfathers/uncles/older brothers getting their lives destroyed in divorce court, and it makes them paranoid about marriage.
But I don't think I've heard anybody bring up the effects that divorce has on young women. I think it's a very big factor that's helping to wreck the dating market and hurting our society.
I'm significantly older than you, and I've been in the military for over 25 years (combat veteran in Afghanistan), so I tend to put things insanely bluntly compared to most men my age, and especially compared to the younger generations. And to put it bluntly, most of the time that I see parents screwing up their kids with the Dad ditching his family (or the Mom driving him out the door), the thought that comes to my mind with regards to the daughters is, "Good grief. They're going to be lucky if they don't give that girl a complex and have her in a string of abusive relationships or on a stripper pole."
Like I said, that's kind of how some of the more blunt members of my generation viewed idiots who were messing up their daughters (with sons it was a case of hoping they didn't kill themselves or end up getting their lives wrecked in divorce court themselves). Obviously there's a lot more nuance to it. I'm very glad you got help and turned out healthy and seem to have found a great guy. It takes a lot of strength to come through a family breakup without a lot of very damaging stuff (I've seen it happen in my own family).
We clearly need a lot more research into how young women are being affected by the destruction of the nuclear family.
Honestly lack of experience is an extreme turn off for me, but I also don’t want a girl who’s been ran through.. it’s a delicate medium
I don't understand why you thought that men just generally want to hurt their gf? Like sorry but what?
Yes ofc there are men who only live to hurt people(mostly women) but that's like 1% of the men.
This doesn't mean i hate you or anything i literally loved every single word you said & very happy for you but I didn't get that part.
All I'm saying is there are billions of men who will be just like your bf who wouldn't have hurt you.
@@BD-1-And-Only dude. you got to TEACH her to be ‘experienced'…
Thats why it’s so fun…
because you get to ‘practice' over and over again until you both know what the other likes in bed...
While it's unfortunate that more and more people are struggling to find the right one early on, this was a very wholesome read. I'm so glad you found someone!Really happy for you!
They’re just mad we aren’t giving them a chance to reject us.
The world needs more women like Brett, especially in this day and age.
There are women like Brett but they don't have a popular TH-cam channel with 2.5 million subscribers. You just have to find them out there.
She looks like Ben Shapiro's daughter.
@@Gaze73 That's right Baby. Ooh la la.
@@Gaze73 I never knew how to put it into words but that is it
@@Gaze73 She looks like Ben Shapiro's son
The girls being upset not being asked out by guys can thank feminism and other women for that. Feminists and other women complaining when us men ask them out or call us creepy/being accused of something have totally ruined it for the others as it has us against the idea of doing it due to these reasons - nothing worse than trying to be social and ask a girl out only to get called creepy
Feminism isn't the problem. Misandry and feminism are not synonymous.
False accusations are rare stop complaining about someone that really doesn’t even happen to the average man. 😂
@@thevirginmarty9738 🤨
yes thank stupid feminism
@@thevirginmarty9738yea they kinda are… modern feminism and misandry are basically interchangeable
At some point there just comes a breaking point where you feel like you want to give up pursuing people. I’m 25 and have never had a girlfriend, have never had my first kissed, am still a virgin (proudly), have only had one date, it’s not easy. I’m pulling for you, we’re all in this together.
How is it "not easy"?
Good luck Marco.
Good luck Marco.
@@WendysFrieshow is it easy?
You aren't missing anything buddy, mark my words, there will come a time when you'll wish you could go back to your current situation.
guys get called creeps by just looking, how are we supposed to ask women out?
Brett really just hit us with the ol "son, you don't need a girl friend, what you need is a grill friend"
Women's number one love is attention and their second love is money
@@Canyoureadmydeadpanens number one love is sex and number two is sexual assault
@@flowersent9614 Nothing wrong with attention and money. Now you called us men rapists, you should be ashamed of yourself. Look like you don't have father not brothers. Your life must be so sad.
@@Canyoureadmydeadpan If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.
@@flowersent9614 If that's the kind of people you surround yourself with, that says more about you than them, as people generally surround themselves with like-minded individuals. If you surround yourself with disgusting degenerates, you are probably a disgusting degenerate yourself.
I am a young dude. My perspective on dating and asking a girl out is fear. Part of that is the fact that I live in Southern California; so there's roughly a 70% chance of whoever I ask out to be a nut job who will publicly embarrass me or accuses me of being a horrible person. Part of it is the fact that the only women that I would actually want to ask out are women that I work with or have worked with. This means that the potential consequences in today's day could be that I get fired because I revealed that I hold more conservative views to a coworker. Another part of it is that I don't want to constantly be expending not only my time and effort but also money, just to get backhanded again and again. Maybe this is some terminally online shit but I don't wanna pay for none of that girl's stuff until I know shes serious and not just going on a date to get a nice free dinner. And obviously there is another part of it: me just being a pussy and not wanting to do it. I would hope that last part is less of a contributor than the others , but you can never be so certain.
Blablabla get of the internet man. Touch grass
Yeah, you pretty much summed it up. Too much risky investment that doesn't feel worth it unless it's for something real serious. That, and the ever-present risk of rejection and public humiliation.
@@Abee_e.short23 If you're looking for a conservative Christian, then there's no better place than church. That, or some kind of Republican convention or event.
Yeah I'm pretty sure the rate of cluster B personality disorders in Cali chicks is probably 10x higher than most states.
Same
I'm just an average dude. There's no way I'd ever ask out any woman. Too much potential legal liability. I've had a woman threaten me with it. That was it. I was done.
Oh god what's happening to the world
What did you do? Did you touch her in any way? or followed her? Asked repeatitively? Just asking to understand better?
I did not touch her. I did ask only once. She informed me she didn't like me and used it as blackmail for me to stop hanging out with our mutual friends.
@@christellen3077 those kinds of assumptions are why men are opting out of relationships you know...
lol same it actually scary af cuz if you go to court for some shit like that its forever i stopped going to clubs after a fake grope allegation
The socializing thing is especially fascinating to me, I'm in high school and a lot of conversations always seem to boil down to a contest of who's the most traumatized and who's more "mature" by being downtrodden by the world as a whole. I'm glad I have friends where we can talk about fun things as well as sad things but they're always real things
My wife and I started dating when she was 21 and this is exactly her story. We've been happily married for 10 years and have an awesome little boy with another on the way. Before her, every girl I was with had high body counts and were toxic as all get out. I was ready to just accept that the day of a good woman who respected herself and valued her partner were long gone. I'm glad I was wrong.
Enjoy divorce when she goes through menopause, blames you for her being unhappy and takes half your stuff.
Btw... a prenub isn't good enough for family courts anymore
@@Canyoureadmydeadpanoddly specific 🤨 📸
same here, I was my wife's first kiss. coming up on 8 years. one kid, second on the way. our lives sound very similar.
@ccastro603
Given divorce is over 50% in the US and 80% of it is initiated by women specifically around their 40s... it seems like an oddly specific common outcome.
@@Canyoureadmydeadpanbro is on to something
I'm now 38 and when I was younger it was immensely easier to talk to, interact, and be around women. Then somewhere things changed and the process seems like its overthinking. It's like walking on egg shells with women on so many levels. I always felt I had to do everything in a relationship and I think that's gotten worse with the girl boss mentality. I think social media has done some real damage to both genders and social interaction.
I’m a female and I agree but I’m younger and so confused. A few boys called my friend a slut for sleeping with a guy and having two exes but they made fun of me for never having anything romantic in my life
@@frogfell3126sounds to me like the people of your age group aren’t fully developed up there and just need some time to mature. give it time and the confusion will clear, just trust the process 😉
Yeah I'm 29 and I can tell you that up until 2016 or so dating was very easy. Tinder even was easy as pie, nobody overthought it, everybody was chill, you could meet people in person, things were relaxed. I really noticed it around 2018 or 2019 that women had become very mean and nasty, scammy, or, well...they were dudes who became ladies
Nailed it. Social media has damaged peoples abilities to socialize in person.
@@frogfell3126This generation does not know what it wants.
I went to a Christian university for an entire year. Got involved in many activities and even a music group. I only talked to 3 girls while I was there. None of them ever expressed any real interest, and I was always having to do all the social heavy lifting like carrying on a conversation. For a guy with ADHD and really bad social anxiety, I'm surprised I got that far. I know it's not because of my looks or because of my personality. I have many friends across the states alone who love me for who I am, and I am very confident in my appearance. I've just never had a woman be seriously interested in any sort of relationship with me. I'm still pretty young, so I'm trying to keep my head up, but it's tough out here.
There’s someone out there for everyone. Even the crazies lol. Takes time, but in the meantime keep putting yourself out there. Someone will give you the same energy and time you deserve. Make sure your morals and values line up.
@@beautyandbrainz That is not true. Sometimes there are 10 women for a guy, 2 wives for a husband, 100 women for only 2 guys, they put them in rotation, etc. and sometimes they do it at once. Could we just avoid downplaying a serious problem the dating market has these days? Hook up culture, feminism, parties, Metoomovement, pornography, female hypergamy, you name it, it is not that simple.
@@beautyandbrainz
"There’s someone out there for everyone."
Any cursory examination of society would quickly tell you that is not true.
I’m a girl and I’m in nearly the exact same boat
@@beautyandbrainz I appreciate the encouraging words! And will do!
😭😭😭 your ad transitions are epic and hilarious, they get me every-time. Slick!
I quit asking women out after college. Every girl I had ever asked out since HS rejected me. I'm average, not handsome, not ugly but I am 6'3 so at least I have that. I had a friend that forced me on a blind date with her friend, I didn't want to go knowing I'd get rejected yet again but I relented. We've been married 10 years now.
I guess from what im heaing. Its just a game of taking chances
@@m.v.r752that’s what love is sometimes you just meet someone you click with sometimes it doesn’t work out
@@m.v.r752and 80% of the time you lose. Yes, that includes after you get hitched. The game is not worth the risk.
In Asian countries the concept of arranged marriage exists where the parents choose a guy or girl for their daughter/son and if both girl and boy agrees then they get married. Seeing your video today makes me think that this the existence of this concept actually helps a lot of people to find partners and have a married life and kids which probably would've been harder if they had to do everything on their own.
Then their spouses cheat on them. Happened in my family and I really can't feel bad for my Aunt on some level. Not because I think it's her fault, I think it's good her husband showed his shitty side and decided to put his dick in another employee (who for all I know, may have been manipulatoed or she's a poor gold digger trying to get into a better country) ALSO, because back then the husband is of a family who has MORE money, is settled in a first world country, so it makes me suspect there is financial benefit and living benefit there. Her parents actually found her a marriage partner because they loved their daughter and not because they're assholes at least.
OR the husband is abusive in one or more ways. It's too real 🥲
Like this doesn't happen in not arranged marriages 😅 They have their perks and downsides. Good for demographics. Bad for economics and progress (young guys don't have the motivation to strife and compete so much).
I remember when I was single for the longest time, and I would see my friends around me who are from asian backgrounds and were able to meet serious/well-intended guys through family and without lifting a finger. I really envied that haha, it seemed quite handy and I felt like I also needed all the help I could get.
@@meenakshimeyyappan22 You act like this doesnt happen in love marriages or whatever.
I didn’t have my first kiss until age 30, and I was ridiculously self-conscious about it. Figured guys would make negative assumptions about me for my lack of experience. So dumb. Met my now husband and he viewed it as a positive. And I love the fact that my first kiss was with the man who became my husband. I have zero relationship baggage and it is so great. I agree wholeheartedly with Brett: don’t chase after experiences just for the sake of an experience or because you feel like a loser. Make it meaningful and you won’t regret it.
Thats the dream. So many guys are looking for this.
My first kiss is my husband too! He feels so so special that he has that from me. 😊
@@websterriLooking for a 30 year old? I'll take a 30 year old virgin over a 20 year old sloor, but let's be real... men are not looking for 30 year olds in aggregate for relationships.
30? bit late, you cant have 10 babies if you start at 30. 3rd world is breeding us out of existence
I agree wholeheartedly about the not chasing experiences. I had my first kiss days before my 23rd birthday, but it was with my now husband as well. We're actually each other's first kiss, and it is so special for both of us.
As a guy with crippling anxiety, it is so hard to get out there and ask a girl out. Just wish I knew if they liked me first. Rejection is no fun.
As a teenager, it sucks to try and find a girl with my values and beliefs, I'm hoping that something in culture will change.
Brother, i dont know why, but i feel like you have good values 😂
@@YmirLucius😂
As a fellow teenager (who is a Christian who holds scorned Puritan values), my advice would be: Wait. Be patient. Teenage relationships pretty much only happen because you feel pressured (because your friends are also in relationships) to have a girlfriend. Just wait, and you will find someone. I've seen it happen with my older siblings. They waited, they found. Most people would find the values our family holds EXTEREMELY strict, to the point of cultism. I personally hold the same beliefs as my parents do, so I know that girls are very findable. It just takes time.
@@DavidBergman1776 That's a lie.
@@DavidBergman1776that’s it. I’m a muslim and I find this peer pressure thing very unfortunate. If you want a meaningful relationship, you should be patient and seek one with good values and long term intentions.
I’m a 26 year old male. I’ve been on and off dating apps for about six years now. Found a girl the other day and did a FaceTime date with her that went really well. We set up an in person date, and the day before the date, she texted me saying she actually had feelings for another guy. I’ve lost count of how many times this has happened to me.
FaceTime date...wtf is even that?
That sucks!
The irony is that the internet is the problem. Women have too many choices, and aren't given the needed social pressure to pick a man in their prime (early 20's). 95% of us men lose out as a result, and they jump from man to man like we're all different flavors of candy, rejecting us for equally trivial and superficial reasons. That and divorce is financially incentivized. But hey, let's support governnent-endorsed feminism (which is a hate and supremacist group) because Uncle Sam wants that extra tax money, and listen to Brett who doesn't know what she's talking about!
@@raketensven3127he way Zoomer men, likely unknowingly, indulge the female desire for attention, validation, and promiscuity by "dating" virtually, by also having her keep him at a safe distance. This was originally for most of their sheepish fear of the C-sickness, but then women kept it cuz it felt "right."
you are what they call a bench bro I wouldn't worry about bro just hit the gym make money get better skills become comfortable with yourself and trust me you are not put up with this kind of nonsense
Women are unable to find relationships due to either high expectations of what a man should be or due to men being scared of approaching women due to the possibility of being part of a “me too” scandal or being called a creep. Men also need to step up their game by touching grassing, get hobbies and staying in shape.
Bingo
Of course everything is a woman’s fault
Exactly
Yep exactly what's going on here
If women think I’m a creep, it’s on them. A me too scandal is fairly unlikely and its occurrence has been blown out of all proportion.
I'm a 33 year old man who has never dated, kissed, or even held hands. I grew up extremely sheltered and in a religious household and as a result I am very introverted, to the point where I'm basically a hermit. I don't have friends, in fact I have never had any friends, or a social life. The thought of approaching a woman and going through the process of getting into and maintaining a relationship is such an alien concept to me that I don't even try because I wouldn't want to put a a woman through the mess that is me when there are so many other people who are more deserving of love. I'm not sad about it and I don't blame anyone for it. I've come to accept that I am just someone who is not meant to be loved by someone and is meant to be alone.
Believe me, there are women out there in a similar situation.
I'm the same as you in every way you described, but I'm 36 years old. 🫣
Same here. I'm not afraid of it, I just don't have the desire to pursue or even see the point of relationships
@@agees924although there numbers are very few
In the past, when I've asked girls out in the social and recreational groups that I was a part of, I got rejected, but was accused of making women uncomfortable, "hitting on them," or being accused of being "creepy." This resulted in me being told that I was no longer welcome to participate in these groups.
Since I was no longer welcome in these social and recreational groups, I had to do activities by myself or with groups that had few single, eligible women.
That’s wild
Wild, but not rare
Then don’t be creepy
What you got was feedback! You have to take the information and change your behavior. EFI cars have an o2 sensor in the exhaust pipe and an airflow sensor on the intake. It is constantly getting feedback on the air volume coming in and the amount of o2 going out and adjusting the amount of fuel it is injecting. If it stops taking that feedback and adjusting then it will run like shit. Your daring life is running like shit because you aren’t adapting.
If you touch a hot burner on a stove you will get burned. That doesn’t mean you should stop cooking. It just means you need to learn to cook without touching the damn burner! Don’t sit there starving and blaming the stove.
He wasnt being creepy, the women are being wicked
We know them by their fruits
The difference between “harassment” and “flirting” is how attractive she finds the guy to be. So; most guys who are not “top tier” in attractiveness are simply not communicating with women as they fear they will be roasted online and accused of awful things. I am so glad my dating years are behind me and I am married now… I hate what the current young singles are having to deal with.
Yup
This is not true, can men stop telling us this?
1, women are turned on by touch. Not sight. Men are turned on by sight so they’re projecting their own thoughts onto women.
2, I’ve been harassed by what people would deem “good looking guys” and it’s still horrible.
Stop telling women this. Absolute Bs.
@@spagooter1807 A lot of people still care about the personality, I’m a woman and I genuinely would rather an unconventionally attractive guy with a great personality than anything else. It’s very sad seeing men and women alike become vain
@@abjectmadness1111 how can you know the man personality if you are not in relationship with him? stop lying please you go first by attractiveness.
@@bogdannn1343 I’ve only ever fallen for people after I’ve first gotten to know them, stop assuming. How does nobody understand what being friends is anymore???? 💀😭
I date to marry so I’ve only dated once before, and the last person I dated wasn’t that good looking… BUT his personality was to die for. That’s what got me. Soon, everything about him was beautiful to me .
Do I think some people look objectively better than others in my own personal opinion? Yes. I love striking features and unconventionally attractive people more than conventionally attractive… BUT, it does not mean I love them. I could only ever love someone for their personality.
I'm 26 and I've never held a girl's hand outside of a prayer circle.
Coming from a young girl, I appreciate it so much more than people think when they even just look at people and smile when crossing paths. I attend church and many events held by the church, which have hundreds of people my age that are so open to conversation and are incredibly bold especially in the face of modern day feminism etc., which I am beyond grateful for. Even considering that, for example, I recently had my first experience with a guy who had liked me, and he couldn't even ask me straight up for my number, even though we had known each other for years. he eventually went to his dad to ask my dad for my phone number. It's honestly so sad what we have done to young men.
Glory to God ! Wait for marriage !!
You do know you could have asked for his number as well
@@camelio10 yea, except he legit walked up to me asked if I wanted to leave the people I was talking to to go play a game and left. He gave no hints, was super awkward, and left me confused. I am super oblivious to everything and am not super in tune with social cues (mainly bc of developmental issues in my younger years.) Not to mention the fact that I didn't have a phone at the time, so it was even more off my radar. So, bc of all of the above, I did not ask for his number. But yes, I get your point.
You're wrong. This isn't sad. This is how it was done in the past, and should still be done today. Parents should contact each other first, vet respective families and children, make sure they're suitable before the kids go out. It's shocking how parents today just throw their kids to the wolves to either get pumped and dumped by players or financially/emotionally ruined by female predators.
Me and my wife met through our parents. We were both virgins at time of marriage. My wife is a first generation Chinese immigrant. She cooks, cleans, abandoned her career to become a full time mother and housewife when our son came, and now that he's 4 years old and entering pre-k, she's starting a business with my help. She may be on the short side, and not the prettiest gal around, but she had a traditional upbringing, proper mindset and priorities (no sex prior to wedlock, baby first, THEN career, not wasting youth on a job until too old to have a healthy child). This is the wife material your grandfather had, that's so rare today.
I'm 6', maintained 4.0 GPA for scholarships, made low 6 figures straight out of college, no student loan debt. I'm frugal, saved for investments and rental properties. Currently $10k per month in additional rental income from 6 families of tenants. I don't drink, don't smoke weed, don't go to parties, and don't sleep around. I had a plan for my life since middle school, and getting arrested, contracting STDs, or getting babytrapped aren't a part of it.
We live in a society where vice is celebrated and virtue is stigmatized. When I said I wanted to marry a virgin, that's cringe because I'm acting a predator. When I said I am a virgin, that too is cringe because I'm acting like an incel. When I turn down girls or offers to hook me up with some, even that is cringe because I need to get out more. Add this to the toxic mix of peer pressure with other self-destructive behavior like drinking and smoking weed. This degenerate western society we live in today does everything within its power to draw us down.
Where are the parents in all this? Where are the fathers of young girls who get pumped and dumped, build sky high bodycount looking for "the one?" As if they can find him this way on their own. Divorce rate is 90% for women with 6+ bodycount, 6% for virgins at time of marriage. All these deluded girls will accomplish is ruining any possibility of a good life for themselves - if you carry 90% forecast of divorce within yourself, there's no escape, you're done this lifetime. Where are the mothers of naive young guys that get babytrapped, or marry single mothers? Pick up the tap for another man's child, possibly pay child support for that man's child and alimony when she takes back her broke baby daddy whom she really wants. Your father knows men, your mother knows women, they want the best life for you. If they pick for you, you'll have a good life. If they throw you out there to the wolves by yourself, chances are, you'll get eaten.
@@georgedang449 I get what you're saying and can relate to just abt everything you said minus the fact that I am a 5'4 female that is unmarried (and 14 y'/o). I've got the gpa, IQ, and everything else. Btw, congrats on all the achievements. You're a rare breed. But what I am saying is that boys nowadays can't effectively communicate. And, for the record, I met the guy i was talking about because of our parents. And again, we are growing up in a religious community where everyone trusts and knows everyone. Everyone is always in sight of each other. No questions asked.
I understand that parents meeting before the kids do can work in some cultures and families, but you have to understand, some people's parents, (incuding mine), don't even talk to their children to know them enough to get to the point where that is possible. Personally, in my family, my mom is addicted to her phone (and therefore has no sense of reality or who her kids really are) and my dad is at work or literally just doesn't have any interest in my dating life whatsoever, much less setting me up for a date.
So, in summary, I think that it can often be good to meet potential partners through parents, and wasn't even what I was addressing to begin with. Young men just tend to stress over interactions with women bc of feminism. Even if a date were to be set up, most guys would have no clue how to then further pursue a relationship.
You've got a good sentiment that i generally agree with, but it doesn't exactly apply in my situation, and I wasn't even addressing that.
Also went through high school from 2016-2020 where there was this big "women don't want to be harassed by men at bus stops/supermarkets/work/with friends" and for me personally, and I'd imagine others too kind of engraved in the minds of teens and young men that there really isn't any good time to approach women. I seem to remember this being a pretty big thing mainly on the internet but I also definitely remember it in school.
I literally got hauled into the principle's office in middle school and told I wasn't allowed to look at a girl on the bus because it was sexual harassment.
I had always hated her.
Women reap what they sow
@@ClokworkGremlinnawww they were in the same delulu level as those gym thots. We power scaling delusion now its bout to be like goku vs saitama lol
I was in the same situation until I met my wife. Theres things that aren't obvious that I only learnt just before I met her. I'll list below, hope it helps someone:
1. Always ask for her number or ask her out on the first meeting (Establishes the intention, not just looking for a friend).
2. Never straight up tell a girl you like her, you hint at it.
3. Don't let yourself get hung up / commit to a girl who isn't equally as hung up on you.
4. Give people a chance. You don't need to feel anything before getting to know them.
5. Relationships are a trade. It costs time, energy and money. What your getting has to be worth it.
6. No one owes you anything and life isn't fair. Improve yourself if you want things to come your way.
7. Take care of yourself (appearance, fitness, grooming etc). Its not arrogant, its self discipline.
8. If you want something you have to make it happen. It wont just come your way.
This sounds like what my husband would say. I guess I married a very smart man, lol. And it sounds like your wife did also.
Explain point no. 3
This is good advice for girls too
Imma need you to expound on pt 2.
@eddymuigai3909 Basically if they like you more than you like them or vise versa get out of the relationship and don't waste their/your time
It doesn't help that I kept being teased in school whenever I'd be friendly with a girl "Ooooh, is she your girlfriend?!" No, just a friend
In middle and high school, I rationalized it that no relationship from that era lasts (which I was right) on top of not being attracted to a single person
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I'm now out of school, and wanting a romantic relationship; but I don't get attracted to looks, I have to know someone first, but nobody is open to conversation
I am nearly 20, and I've never been in a relationship. Hope all this hookup culture blows over so i can find a wife😂😂
I've never been able to get in the hookup culture.
I am a traditional female, and I want this hookup culture to end!
Yep I hope hookup culture goes away asap
I'm 20 too man, I hope the same.
Also 20. Had a "relationship" for like week. Thats it
I stopped dating almost a decade ago and just focused on myself and I am very happy being a single man. Last straw for me was being accused of something for just speaking my mind on a social issue and I was like you know what, I don't need this. Don't need the drama of the opposite sexes social issues, don't need the drama of ex boyfriends, baby daddies, single mothers, etc etc. I'd love to have an intelligent partner to talk to on a daily basis and share life with, but honestly I am just as happy being single.
Ay cheers!! Same exact thing, but I am a woman. Not a feminist, never been one and I despise them. Personally I will never marry because of the risks that men carry. Talking about redpill or feminist men who think crying about spilled coffee is breaking the gender roles. Or the worst kind, manchildren.
I guess this whole thing is not a men or women problem, but a society. Almost everyone sucks nowadays, maybe they always did but just hid it so well.
Anyway, I believe a single life is the way to go. I hate that people think single means depressed and alone. NO! It means some freedom, family and friends and yourself.
Cheers on the single life, mate!
I got my first kiss at 23, and I definitely felt that way. Then I met my now husband, and he was in a similar situation. I’m really glad we were able to muddle through the awkwardness together, and it gave us some really funny memories.
That was your choice though
This comment gives me hope
@@pappousmakis9062do not allow it. Ignore this problem in your life. Hope is the first step on the road to disappointment.
@@luiz8755 bro i hope you find god to give you hope 🙏
Nice
Many guys are reluctant to even look at a girl these days in case they get accused of God knows what. Love you Brett. ❤
It is just a shame what this world has come to that us guys literally have to fear getting into legal trouble if we ask a girl out and she takes it the wrong way.
Yeah definitely seems like women need to ask us out....to kinda makes it simple clear.
I think the fear has always been there. Make the leap. Even the girls are starting to ask out the guys.
My sister is 17 tried to ask her crush over fb he should just said no. But he thought she was a creep he is soon 19 and my sister soon 18 sad where men just not look a chance to date a women. I am 22 still have my V card and trying to get porn away from me. I think roles should flipped females needs to ask guys out more because of current events. I am a stright male.
I lost a bet and slapped this one girl's 🍑 thinking she'll slap me. Guess what? She liked it and wanted to get my number... I just walked away, I felt harrased and uncomfortable 😢
@@TheNinjapancake14maybe but today it can completly fuck you over and back
I'm 23 and I've asked out countless girls and every single one turned me down, so for the time being I give up. The thrill and excitement of asking a girl out is completely gone when I already know the answer
I've been with a decent amount of girls, but I've been turned down by at least 5 times as many. It's a hard thing to not take personally. I tried to just ask girls out one day. Like, that was my goal, kind of like a homework assignment. I kept it pretty short "Hi, I'm Jesse would you like to go out on a date with me". 99% of the girls response was a pretty blatant no. And the other 1% was still a no, she was just nice about it lol most girls don't like being asked out, at least not directly, I concluded. They like getting to know you and all of that first which makes you EVEN more vulnerable when you get turned down. OR they want the most charismatic guy on the planet which most of us aren't... So yea, lol it's tough out there
@@jessemiller3108speaking facts. That's exactly the same with my situation. I think door to door sales is easier than adding a girl out. I've had a chance with one girl but I was young and dumb then. I still am dumb though when it comes to hints.
Girls get asked out all the fucking time. Guys often want to fuck them. That gets old. If you get turned down and really like them then try again another time. Make a joke of it. If they say no a second time a month later then ok. Work on how you ask girls out. You do not know the fucking answer until you get it. Good luck. Don't take it personally because they get asked out a lot.
@@jessemiller3108I found that getting to know each other a bit is really the thing needed for a yes. Literally just a few good conversations help you out massively. Also You can see if theres a spark or not
By the way, it's always worth analysing your approach and also appearance. Everything makes a difference. There's only so much one can do with appearance but you need to maximise and also make an effort with how you dress. Looking fit and a bit muscly helps too. I used to be super skinny and had limited success with women. But when I bulked up a bit it made a difference.
Brett “a good man approaching you isn’t an attack”
Reality “that’s right! A good LOOKING man approaching isn’t an attack… but when women find 80% of men unattractive… it’s likely it’ll be taken as an attack”
Good looking or bad looking man - what does that have to do with being an attack or not?
@@goranmilic442 aka Verbal Assault and grounds for internet humiliation... If you look like Brad Pitt though, no problem.
@@goranmilic442 Because women only want to be approached and receive attention by attractive men. As soon as the man is unattractive, their advances are perceived as creepy
You just have to approach in a different way brother. Be funny. I swear the okay or bad looking men have the best game and the gym exists. I’m good looking but have terrible game so I get looks but not dates lol.
If the woman considers you attractive then you walking up and speaking to her is fine, if she doesn’t then you’re a creep and harassing her is the jist of it
Completely agree. I'm 22 and single and not interested in playing games. That is why I stay single
once ugly to average looking men stop being called "creepy" for simply asking a woman out this issue won't go away. it's here to stay. once ugly to average looking men won't get called creepy for his looks then there's a chance this issue will slow down a bit.
Jordan Peterson says it's your fault if women feel this way and nothing they do is wrong.
Its the old question "what do women want" men definitely do not know what women want but women also don't know what women want. You give them what they want and then they are miserable and complain. You don't give them what they want and they complain there are no real men left.
Either all women are crazy or normal women need to tell the minority of crazy feminists to shut up.
😂because ugly men can't be creepy, no, they can do nothing wrong ever
@@JessicaB1982so other guy was the second option
Um. I am pretty sure you are being called for another reason. Not because you are "ugly".
As someone who is a little older but has also experienced a lot of the same issues discussed here, it helped me immensely to actually figure out who I was and better myself. It took me a very long time to do so, but once I worked on myself, I was then able to find a great partner in a relationship. I, too, used to beg and complain online, and then I figured out that no one was really themselves on any social media. It’s the worst place to find a mate. Nothing beats actual human interaction. Nothing.
Both my wife and I were virgins when we were married in our mid 20s. It was the absolute BEST thing we could have ever done for our relationship.
That is awesome.
these girls do not watn you tho keith, they want the top 1% that has every girl chasing him. normal guys dont do it for these never been kissed girls.
@@drakomus7409 My wife's pretty far out of my league, but she was interested in me. Don't know why, but I was exactly what she was looking for. Granted, this was 16 years ago, before online dating was a thing.
I didn’t have my first kiss until 23 years old, with my first ever boyfriend. We’re engaged now and I love that I only know how his kiss feels and nobody else’s, I can remember the exact kiss so well and it’s so so special to me.
To the girl in the video, I'm a 28 year old girl, never been kissed, never been on a date. No romance, no nothing. It's not embarrassing. It will happen when/if the right man comes along. I'll be happy to have waited for him OR I'll be happy as a single woman, not having slept around or had meaningless relationships to hit "social milestones", only to feel empty. However, I'm surprised this isn't just me or a couple girls online but rather more common than I realized.
I’m 23 but I’m a guy I don’t control sex just marriage and I’ll gladly wait until I find the “one” just working as much as possible right now not worth it to get together and not be able to provide
Keep in mind that at 30 a woman's value decreases dramatically. Don't wait around too long being picky.
Don't worry, the perfect guy is out there, I'm sure of it. Life always has a funny way of working itself out in the end
@@protorhinocerator142harsh truth
Are you a femcel
I was like this by choice. My husband was my first everything and it was the best for us. I never touched another guy before him, never even had a boyfriend. We have the best relationship and I don't think our "lack of experience" was a negative, if anything, it was a huge plus for both of us. There's something very special about everything being new and special for the person you plan to spend the rest of your life with rather than a random guy you may never see again.
Amen, wish I was still a virgin so when I find that right woman it'd really be special. I envy what you two have (but I know I shouldn't 🤣)
i assume he was the one that asked you out, hit on you
I'm 28 and I hope it's the same for me. I haven't had any experience, not even a kiss :((
Wow that's really rare, congrats to you guys!
i assume you are a guy, male@@seochanqbinnie
As a man, I think it's much more valuable to make a friendship with someone than to just go straight to asking a woman out without even knowing them. I also think that women shouldn't be scared to ask men out as well, because I personally don't mind it at all and it makes me a lot less stressed because I know that the person for sure wants to go out. I think the situation is more about people wanting to form a good friendship first with someone before taking it a step further rather than people just asking people out to get into a relationship. I also think that a lot of people my age have anxiety about things like this and it is hard to overcome that and get the courage to ask someone out. I think as long as people form lasting friendships, they will eventually find someone they feel comfortable being in a serious relationship with.
Coming as friendship in the beginning is extremely dangerous. I mean you can approach like a friend but you have to follow quickly with your real intentions.
It may be valuable, it's just not generally an option. Most hobbies have a strong sexual division, meaning it's hard to find something to do that men and women both enjoy and participate in in way that makes it possible to find friends of the other sex. For people who have moved away from their birthplace for work that have to start their social circles from scratch the chances of getting somewhere via that route seem low. Better to go for something where the intention of finding a romantic partner is the target, not an optional extra.
That would be nicer, but it is not realistic. If men limited themselves to only the very rare situations where a man can truly get to know someone without asking them out, the human race would die out from lack of famillies.
And what is going on here is that men (and women) have 10000% WRONG ideas about each other.
Women are *NOT* impressed by a man who is a timid "gentleman." Women are biologically programmed -- hard wired -- to be attracted to a strong male. Being timid -- as they will see it -- earns you nothing but regrets and missed opportunities.
If you can get to know a woman informally and casually, that's great.
But don't bank on it because it is only going to happen about 0.0000000000001% of the time.
And when you take the courage and strength and leadership and initiative to ask a woman out, her heart will respond to your maleness in a far more positive way.
If a woman senses that you are interested but don't ask her out, she will feel the man is a wimp.
L take honestly
If you approach her as a friend, then that’s likely what you’ll remain. If you’re interested in dating her, then it’s best to let her know asap. If you hesitate, you masterbate.