Once you figure them out I would then blame it on myself. You know what’s going on do not engage and meet them or ever speak with them. They have a severe mental illness. Your warned👈🏻
Many thanks, Joe. I love to listen about the one who can't be controlled. It gives me some of my dignity back, after feeling like a fool for letting him in my life at all.
That's me, I changed. I figured things out and worked on me. Now he is angry, I can feel it. He doesn't even look me in the eye. I think he cannot stand to be around me any longer, but has no place to go.
As I listened to Joe, I found myself nodding in agreement to whatever he said. He seemed to be talking to me. Thank you, Joe for your quiet, direct delivery and for your work. I am subscribing!
I love this dude's channel and he is absolutely spot on with everything he says. Tiniest comment I wanted to add to Joe's point - around 8:03 - when you are able to grow and become a more evolved person - narcissists are threatened not only because they can't secure supply from you anymore - but also - because they see that you are able to mature and grow - and they can't. And that drives them nuts because it puts a mirror in front of their face - and reveals their emotional shortcomings and inability to solve their insecurities - and they effing hate that. You have an emotional vocabulary at that point that they detest because they want it - but can't bring themselves to learn it - and they know the value of it - but can't do the work to acquire it - cause it means looking in the mirror - and they HATE that. It's a tiny little add on comment - but felt compelled to share it. LOVE what you do Joe B. House. Seriously. I straight up love your channel. You help so many people. God bless you brother
@@steelesharpensteele6252 Thank you for your comment - it's a house of mirrors with these people. I'm glad if something resonated with you. Best of luck to you as well on this diabolical journey of dealing with and understanding this hyper destructive personality disorder. The more we can understand it - the more we can protect ourselves. We are stronger together. Good luck to you and thanks for the comment. Happy New Year. Let it be the best one ever.
It takes time to work these people out. I had a friend like that. Once he realised he couldn't control me anymore. He lost interest. Oh well, it's his loss...!!! He should learn to treat people nice in the first place. But they are not able to do that and the other persons feelings, nor accept someone's boundaries... They have very low self esteem for themselves and no respect for others.... I've learnt my lesson with these kind of people. Avoid them like the plague if you can..
Joe, I hope you had a great Thanksgiving with your family. I love this message so much.. During the last hoover attempt, I presented the final blow mentioning my new project on YT (it's almost ready) on healing from NPD relationships.. HAHAHA Joe, in one fell swoop the poison arrow took him down... He ran out the door like a bat out of hell on fire..🤭 🦇 Thank you Joe as always for your great content. 👏🏻♥😉🙏🏼
He tried to dominate me til i told him not to yell at me. OmG the rage in text & then in person was crazy! It didnt bother me to much, he was nice a couple days later. Then i passed him on the sidewalk & he flew off at me so bad. Thats the rage that hit my core. Really spaced me out for months!
My ex covert narcissist sociopath only text me from fake numbers not telling me who he is and says hey, what’s going on or hey are you busy. And he uses area codes from particular states that we use to talk about. It’s so odd.
I'm thinking the guy who messaged me that I poured my heart out to was him. When I got the gut feeling I blocked him. I was a mess & I needed someone to pour it out to. Idk, he said something that made me think it was him
@@penibeni1085 they also stalk you on social media. I got rid of my social media once I realized what was going on. And then I added ticktock last year. I saved everything I found out about him on intellus (background check) includes social media user names. I wrote it down 3 years ago and went to look at it once I added the only social media I had which was then ticktock. Yep it was him. They are fuel junkies they love both positive and negative fuel. And never go on dating websites or talk to strangers on social media. I have been studying this for over 3 years now. That’s where most of them flock. I’m sure it was him. They want to see how broken you may or may not be. It’s called oneupmanship. They always and forever want to one up you. As you feel bad they rise and feel more powerful with themselves. Also another thing that is interesting dual mothership. If he has ever compared you to his mother, your such a good person, you have a pure heart just like my mother. Comparing that is called duel mothership. Also another note to take in not all people with NPD has ASPD, but everyone with ASPD has NPD. Stay no contact and never answer phone calls or text that you do not recognize or have saved. Best of luck to you!👍🏻👈🏻
Often, Fridays have been a memorable day listening to your videos. I appreciate this one today👏 2:26 is a great part of this video and I can relate. You explain it so well. I also like that you say it's okay to have gone through abuse. As long as You learn & grow from it & not let it happen again😌🙏 This video is very validating. Thank you for all these kind, empathetic reminders, Joe🙏💙 This video was insightful & comforting😌❤️🩹 God Bless 🙏✨😚
I remember the first time I got together with a narcissist one of my friends said too my other friend his words were she will bleed him dry I should of listened but at the time I thought no way that someone so beautiful can ever do anything like that and how wrong I was stay no contact life gets better ❤
I am more big picture focused in everything so these in depth analysis help me a lot with processing past family and romantic narcissistic relationships
Hello Mr. Joe B. House.. I Love your videos.. I would like for you to do a video on, why the narcissist keeps your belongings.. And why the narcissist leaves there belongings, months after they broke up with you
1) They keep your belongings with them to use that as a reason to get in touch again (as a hoover) in the future. As in they would contact you about wanting to return your stuff. So they would love to have an alibi for reaching out to you because they hate looking weak (i.e. reaching out to you because they needed your supply and they caved first). 2) They leave their belongings with you so you are constantly reminded of them. Knowing you are constantly thinking/reminded of them gives them thought fuel. There are two types of fuel you can provide a narcissist: A) Proximate fuel: Them being able to directly see/witness you agonizing over them (ex: you calling/texting, begging, apologizing, stalking, etc...) B) Thought fuel: Them indirectly imagining you in tremendous pain and agony because they left you/broke up with you, they gave you the silent treatment or even flat out ghosted you.
Sometimes it’s a trade off. If you gave them gifts or took them to restaurants they might figure you can keep those things as recompense. They clearly don’t want to face you to collect them. If you know where they live you can mail them or deliver them yourself. If you know the approximate value you can send them money. I would do what I could to get rid of them or store them properly. Either way it’s baggage.
@@dreamguy2427 Thank you so much for this response. My ex narcissist gave me absolutely no closure.. After the discard, ends up blocking my number, and unfriending me on facebook.. We've been broken up about 6 months now. And she still has my things.. We bumped into each other 6 months ago, and she asked me if her things were still in my car.. I had given them back to her, I thought she get all of her belongings.. Until I got home, popped my trunk open, and noticed she left her coffee mug, that has her name on it.. This might sound a bit crazy, but I've had so many detailed dreams about my ex narcissist, ever since the discard.. And I also feel her energy around me everywhere.. It's so draining.. Sorry for the long message.. It's just so much, I've been going through behind the scenes
My Christmas was ruined because he made changes that made his life easier. This is after i gave my entire weekend to be with him and his family. I cried all day.
Why do they come back for you but then when all of the hurt has changed you and you are too hurt to even be the same with them they tell you that you’ve changed and actually they don’t love you anymore and leave you again?
It’s a game. You’re trying to use your own rationale and your own empathic behaviors and feelings as a way to try and understand the what and why of what they’re doing. Why do you want to understand what they’re doing? More than likely so you can alter your behavior to accommodate them. Read the Bible. They are evil. Evil is real. The Bible is life’s 101 how to manual. We are living in a world of good versus evil. Stop looking at them as a human being and projecting your good feelings onto them. Stop trying to see the good in them. They are a shell of a human being operated by a spirit of evil. Some great movies that represent this would be Denzel, Washington in the movie, Fallen, or the movie, Constantine. The entity who treats you that way is doing it on purpose because they like to hurt you. They enjoy watching you get upset. There’s nothing to try to figure out except to know in your soul that they have no soul. You’re just gaslighting yourself. The cognitive dissonance is so strong I get it. You’re trying to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. 1)This person has been so good to me 2) but yet they do horrible things to me …so they must have some good in them so I’ll hold on to the good and be understanding through the bad. The good they demonstrate is the trick or the deception so that they can hook you and then be bad right in front of you and you’ll do nothing to stop them. They are very sick evil people.
They text you from fake numbers. Just ignore, they like any kind of fuel positive or negative doesn’t really matter. I know this sounds nuts but it is true.👈🏻🫤👈🏻
I didn't get the fake number text but the phone calls, been going on for almost 4 months but he doesn't say anything but these numbers are invalid and sometimes in the evening/night, for awhile I didn't think to much about it intill I heard about it on other narc channels
@@user-ow1ve8rk4n yeah I heard about it on other channels too. Who knows if it is them and who really cares. It’s a severe mental illness, the sooner you figure this out the better it becomes.👈🏻
I don’t think they like it when you ignore their fake texts. It silently tells them you do not care or want to engaged in their minds games.
Once you figure them out I would then blame it on myself. You know what’s going on do not engage and meet them or ever speak with them. They have a severe mental illness. Your warned👈🏻
Many thanks, Joe. I love to listen about the one who can't be controlled. It gives me some of my dignity back, after feeling like a fool for letting him in my life at all.
That's me, I changed. I figured things out and worked on me. Now he is angry, I can feel it. He doesn't even look me in the eye. I think he cannot stand to be around me any longer, but has no place to go.
As I listened to Joe, I found myself nodding in agreement to whatever he said. He seemed to be talking to me.
Thank you, Joe for your quiet, direct delivery and for your work.
I am subscribing!
I love this dude's channel and he is absolutely spot on with everything he says. Tiniest comment I wanted to add to Joe's point - around 8:03 - when you are able to grow and become a more evolved person - narcissists are threatened not only because they can't secure supply from you anymore - but also - because they see that you are able to mature and grow - and they can't. And that drives them nuts because it puts a mirror in front of their face - and reveals their emotional shortcomings and inability to solve their insecurities - and they effing hate that. You have an emotional vocabulary at that point that they detest because they want it - but can't bring themselves to learn it - and they know the value of it - but can't do the work to acquire it - cause it means looking in the mirror - and they HATE that. It's a tiny little add on comment - but felt compelled to share it. LOVE what you do Joe B. House. Seriously. I straight up love your channel. You help so many people. God bless you brother
Facts good points
@@steelesharpensteele6252 Thank you for your comment - it's a house of mirrors with these people. I'm glad if something resonated with you. Best of luck to you as well on this diabolical journey of dealing with and understanding this hyper destructive personality disorder. The more we can understand it - the more we can protect ourselves. We are stronger together. Good luck to you and thanks for the comment. Happy New Year. Let it be the best one ever.
JOE, THANK YOU FOR ANOTHER AWESOME MESSAGE!! YOU SPEAK THE FACTS ON THIS TERRIBLE UNFORTUNATE DISORDER! KEEP UP THE GREAT WORK!!
It takes time to work these people out.
I had a friend like that.
Once he realised he couldn't control me anymore. He lost interest.
Oh well, it's his loss...!!!
He should learn to treat people nice in the first place. But they are not able to do that and the other persons feelings, nor accept someone's boundaries...
They have very low self esteem for themselves and no respect for others....
I've learnt my lesson with these kind of people.
Avoid them like the plague if you can..
Joe, I hope you had a great Thanksgiving with your family. I love this message so much.. During the last hoover attempt, I presented the final blow mentioning my new project on YT (it's almost ready) on healing from NPD relationships.. HAHAHA Joe, in one fell swoop the poison arrow took him down... He ran out the door like a bat out of hell on fire..🤭 🦇
Thank you Joe as always for your great content. 👏🏻♥😉🙏🏼
He tried to dominate me til i told him not to yell at me. OmG the rage in text & then in person was crazy! It didnt bother me to much, he was nice a couple days later. Then i passed him on the sidewalk & he flew off at me so bad. Thats the rage that hit my core. Really spaced me out for months!
My ex covert narcissist sociopath only text me from fake numbers not telling me who he is and says hey, what’s going on or hey are you busy. And he uses area codes from particular states that we use to talk about. It’s so odd.
I'm thinking the guy who messaged me that I poured my heart out to was him. When I got the gut feeling I blocked him. I was a mess & I needed someone to pour it out to. Idk, he said something that made me think it was him
@@penibeni1085 they also stalk you on social media. I got rid of my social media once I realized what was going on. And then I added ticktock last year. I saved everything I found out about him on intellus (background check) includes social media user names. I wrote it down 3 years ago and went to look at it once I added the only social media I had which was then ticktock. Yep it was him. They are fuel junkies they love both positive and negative fuel. And never go on dating websites or talk to strangers on social media. I have been studying this for over 3 years now. That’s where most of them flock. I’m sure it was him. They want to see how broken you may or may not be. It’s called oneupmanship. They always and forever want to one up you. As you feel bad they rise and feel more powerful with themselves. Also another thing that is interesting dual mothership. If he has ever compared you to his mother, your such a good person, you have a pure heart just like my mother. Comparing that is called duel mothership. Also another note to take in not all people with NPD has ASPD, but everyone with ASPD has NPD. Stay no contact and never answer phone calls or text that you do not recognize or have saved. Best of luck to you!👍🏻👈🏻
@@emmamonroe3311 same
Often, Fridays have been a memorable day listening to your videos. I appreciate this one today👏 2:26 is a great part of this video and I can relate. You explain it so well. I also like that you say it's okay to have gone through abuse. As long as You learn & grow from it & not let it happen again😌🙏 This video is very validating. Thank you for all these kind, empathetic reminders, Joe🙏💙 This video was insightful & comforting😌❤️🩹
God Bless 🙏✨😚
You always hit all the spots! Thank you
I remember the first time I got together with a narcissist one of my friends said too my other friend his words were she will bleed him dry I should of listened but at the time I thought no way that someone so beautiful can ever do anything like that and how wrong I was stay no contact life gets better ❤
I am more big picture focused in everything so these in depth analysis help me a lot with processing past family and romantic narcissistic relationships
Hello Mr. Joe B. House.. I Love your videos.. I would like for you to do a video on, why the narcissist keeps your belongings.. And why the narcissist leaves there belongings, months after they broke up with you
1) They keep your belongings with them to use that as a reason to get in touch again (as a hoover) in the future. As in they would contact you about wanting to return your stuff. So they would love to have an alibi for reaching out to you because they hate looking weak (i.e. reaching out to you because they needed your supply and they caved first).
2) They leave their belongings with you so you are constantly reminded of them. Knowing you are constantly thinking/reminded of them gives them thought fuel. There are two types of fuel you can provide a narcissist:
A) Proximate fuel: Them being able to directly see/witness you agonizing over them (ex: you calling/texting, begging, apologizing, stalking, etc...)
B) Thought fuel: Them indirectly imagining you in tremendous pain and agony because they left you/broke up with you, they gave you the silent treatment or even flat out ghosted you.
Sometimes it’s a trade off. If you gave them gifts or took them to restaurants they might figure you can keep those things as recompense. They clearly don’t want to face you to collect them. If you know where they live you can mail them or deliver them yourself. If you know the approximate value you can send them money. I would do what I could to get rid of them or store them properly. Either way it’s baggage.
@@dreamguy2427 Thank you so much for this response. My ex narcissist gave me absolutely no closure.. After the discard, ends up blocking my number, and unfriending me on facebook.. We've been broken up about 6 months now. And she still has my things.. We bumped into each other 6 months ago, and she asked me if her things were still in my car.. I had given them back to her, I thought she get all of her belongings.. Until I got home, popped my trunk open, and noticed she left her coffee mug, that has her name on it.. This might sound a bit crazy, but I've had so many detailed dreams about my ex narcissist, ever since the discard.. And I also feel her energy around me everywhere.. It's so draining.. Sorry for the long message.. It's just so much, I've been going through behind the scenes
On the way out, he said to me: I do not hate you. Lol
It’s about respect,or blow off and don’t come back! Ever!
My Christmas was ruined because he made changes that made his life easier. This is after i gave my entire weekend to be with him and his family. I cried all day.
RUN FAST ASAP!!! Aren't you tired of being used and abused. Don't you have any respect for yourself...
Same. Ruined Christmas and new years. Got cheated on anyway. You deserve better!!!!
@user-qs5hz4mf3p Yes, I am very tired. I used to have respect for myself.
@@Hiddenplace414 I'm sorry! Yes, we both do. It's so hard.
Gosh Joe... 💯🙏Downloads.. when will this Saga end?!..🙏🤠
Thank you ! 🤗❤
Hot damn, Joe. So on point. 🙌🏼
Joe, good video!
Insightful⚡️🥂
Why do they come back for you but then when all of the hurt has changed you and you are too hurt to even be the same with them they tell you that you’ve changed and actually they don’t love you anymore and leave you again?
It’s a game. You’re trying to use your own rationale and your own empathic behaviors and feelings as a way to try and understand the what and why of what they’re doing. Why do you want to understand what they’re doing? More than likely so you can alter your behavior to accommodate them. Read the Bible. They are evil. Evil is real. The Bible is life’s 101 how to manual. We are living in a world of good versus evil. Stop looking at them as a human being and projecting your good feelings onto them. Stop trying to see the good in them. They are a shell of a human being operated by a spirit of evil. Some great movies that represent this would be Denzel, Washington in the movie, Fallen, or the movie, Constantine. The entity who treats you that way is doing it on purpose because they like to hurt you. They enjoy watching you get upset. There’s nothing to try to figure out except to know in your soul that they have no soul. You’re just gaslighting yourself. The cognitive dissonance is so strong I get it. You’re trying to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. 1)This person has been so good to me 2) but yet they do horrible things to me …so they must have some good in them so I’ll hold on to the good and be understanding through the bad. The good they demonstrate is the trick or the deception so that they can hook you and then be bad right in front of you and you’ll do nothing to stop them. They are very sick evil people.
All aboard. The CRAZY Train.
Changed for the better,learnt the lesson and now onward and upwards! No more disrespect!
@@shirleyvanderheijden5934 let’s pray 💜💜💜
Like these videos but the volumes too low for me. Any advice? Also any advice re narcissist neighbors as well? Thanks.
I can only agree.
They text you from fake numbers. Just ignore, they like any kind of fuel positive or negative doesn’t really matter. I know this sounds nuts but it is true.👈🏻🫤👈🏻
I didn't get the fake number text but the phone calls, been going on for almost 4 months but he doesn't say anything but these numbers are invalid and sometimes in the evening/night, for awhile I didn't think to much about it intill I heard about it on other narc channels
@@user-ow1ve8rk4n yeah I heard about it on other channels too. Who knows if it is them and who really cares. It’s a severe mental illness, the sooner you figure this out the better it becomes.👈🏻