If anyone else is touch deprived I really recommend a weighted blanket! the weight feels like a big hug and also gives a sense of safety! it’s helped me so much since living alone!!!
My therapist has recommended me to hug myself when I'm struggling with this. I usually wrap a blanket around myself and just pull it tight. I also love liking blankets and pillows around me!
I don't have any plants, but a fresh bouquet of flowers always brightens my day. It's also so silly that people think you can't buy yourself flowers. I love buying myself flowers! I don't make pretty flower arrangements like you, but flowers at the dining table is perfect to look at
I love fresh flowers. You could buy a bouquet and of course enjoy them for you. You could also divide the bunch and deliver 1/2 to a friend and say I thought these were so pretty and I was enjoying mine so much I made this arrangement for you. You could thrift a few vases just for this purpose and give yourself the goal/challenge to give away all the vases filled with flowers in a month to brighten someone’s day.
Hey Michel! I occasionally watched your videos when you were married but have started to watch you regularly (as in every single video hehe) since you announced that you're going through a divorce. The reason why is because this very hard season of life that you're going through right now has really displayed your character. I've been able to see your strength in enduring and courage in sharing your feelings/mindset with us throughout this ongoing journey. The way you're dealing with this divorce has been a huge inspiration to me when it comes to how to deal with trials. So thank you so much for being so transparent and honest, it's truly admirable. Sending lots of prayers your way!
This means a lot. Thank you for choosing to hang w me on my recent videos, I’m so happy that you feel like you connect with them 🥰 and thank you for your kind words, ILYSM!
Hi Dear Michel - I 100% agree as well with Elizabeth. I am so invested in your growth and your beauty and grace through out this chapter of your life. I have so much faith that you will be totally ok. You are wonderful. 🥰
I bought 10 acres of land and built a treehouse right in the middle. It’s built just like a house and even has a fireplace. I absolutely love my solitude. 🥰
I loved living alone. I was with my parents till 23, then lived in a dorm for 2 years, and finally lived alone for 2 years in an apartment and it was amazing! It was great to decorate a space the way I wanted to feel homey. It was different for me as I hadn't had any opportunity my whole life to just be on my own, away from people, so i was thankful to finally have that time and space.
I literally started crying when you were talking about not being able to come home and hug someone. Gosh.... Ive gone through all this with you and have somewhat read through the lines about what happened with brook. and my heart just breaks for you . Hugs and lots of prayers for you !!! You are my VERY FAVORITE YouTouber . Much love Michael!!!
Missing touch is for sure a thing. This is why I always get my nails done and/or pedicure. It may be a stranger but still human touch is so important even on a small scale! I’m glad you said that because I thought I was the only one!
YES! I also feel like massages help me with this too. Since I know what to expect, I’m not uncomfortable but I feel like it reduces my touch-related-stress :-)
I was single for 4 years and one thing I heard from a movie, of all things, is to sleep in the middle of the bed. I always felt lonely and would cry myself to sleep, but when I started sleeping in the middle it was invigorating because you can HOG THE BED!!! 😊❤️🇨🇦😘
My husband of 27 years left December 29, 2021. I have spent the last year (with my 2 adult daughters-autistic) reclaiming my joy. The best parts for me is having a clean house and no TV blaring in the background. When I need something done, I do it myself, I don’t have to “check in”. I have always had a hard time asking for help as well. BEST of all, I can live my faith without ridicule from someone who was “supposed “ to have loved me. I feel now that I have worth. I do agree it is hard not having someone to share things with. (I was with him for over half my life and he was the only one) I am so proud of you and it is such a joy to watch you begin to flourish after such heartbreak/ache. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✝️
This is a topic I know very well. I lived with my family until I was 22 and with roommate until I was 29. Then because my roommates all kept getting married off, I moved to my own apartment. At first I was excited and thrilled to have control over everything in the apartment but as the holidays came, I began to see how lonely it can get. I have always wanted to be married and at 41 and still waiting, I can tell you that there will be ups and downs around holidays. You have to search out friends and make plans or you will face the 'being alone' head on. Sometimes that's great after a party or event, to go home and just relax. But when you are an extrovert, and nothing is going on in the dead of winter (Maine-snow, freezing, darker days) you have to make do.... I watch youtubers like yourself and feel comforted!
I went through a divorce as well when I was 33 so I understand and sympathize 100% with everthing you are going through (you are doing great by the way!). My biggest mistake was giving away my 2 dogs I had at that time since I had no room for them in my tiny 3 1/2 appartment on the 3rd floor. I am so happy for you that you have Max!!! I cried in that video!! I see nothing wrong with sleeping with your dog in your bed. He will give you comfort when you need it the most and that will bring you so much joy. Now at 44 years old, i'm now in a wonderful relationship with a man that respects me and loves me for who I am and we have 2 dogs and they sleep in our bed (if they feel like it lol). Keep on the amazing work that you are doing. You are on the path that is meant for you! God has got your back! Love all your video and you are in my prayers xxx
I just wanted to let you know that you are looking happier and stronger more each time I watch your videos! Sending you a virtual hug and I hope you find total peace soon!!
Watching vlogs and chatty videos are a great way to feel less alone. I love chatty videos, follow me around, vlogs etc because it's like spending the day with someone. It's especially comforting watching a GRWM when I'm getting ready myself.
Something small that I really love about Michel's videos is that she keeps Max's barks in the video and she even translates what he says for us! As somebody who has been working from home for the past couple of years with a best friend who likes to occasionally bark when I'm in a Zoom meeting, it's nice to see someone include their dog in the conversation rather than having to act annoyed about it. It makes us really feel like we're in her and Max's space as a friend, and I think it is really sweet.
Having TH-cam or podcasts playing in the background is a great tip for so many situations! I always had TH-cam videos going as I was writing my PhD thesis to help make long hours in my office feel less lonely. A good tip for cooking while living alone is to prep things that you can then use in a variety of meals. For example I might cook a big batch of a mince and tomato sauce that I could turn into spaghetti bolognese, nachos, sloppy Joes, cottage pie, etc. Freeze individual portions and then you can defrost as needed and quickly make up different meals.
Maybe I've missed it, but if you haven't already: I would love to hear more about how you tackled the apartment hunting process (especially when moving states or to somewhere new that you aren't already) - most important things you learned in the process, what sites or resources you used, how to know what neighborhood within a city you wanted/felt safe in, all those sorts of questions. How to find the next place to live when starting a new chapter, basically. Thanks for this vid!
I really got lucky - just toured two and chose one of them! I was stressed about the turnaround and feel like I truly lucked out that I like where I ended up. But this is a great video idea if I crowdsource tips and ideas!🥰
Hi Erin, the first thing i did was talk to ppl at church and then i called the churches in the areas i was looking at for help. I’m Catholic so it was pretty cut and dry which parish offices i needed to call. If you can try very hard to make a trip to look at apartments. It’s too big of a decision to try to rent and apartment site unseen. If you can’t make a trip, try to get references from the parishes you’re looking in. Also, since covid 2020 many churches still have livestream of their mass/service. And may have a group you can chat online with.
Lived alone for 16 years. No pets. No plants. Rarely have music on unless I have clients in my photo studio. I love it. I wanted to face me; to get to know me. It can be lonely but I've got enough hobbies and work to keep me occupied. Plus, I learned to face silence without distractions. Sounds like you've got a good set up 😊
I've just found your channel, and wanted to say you're very brave to share this journey. I went through it as a 33 disabled woman, and it took a while, especially emotionally, to adjust after 15 yrs of marriage. It can be difficult to get that intellectual stimulation of a connected conversation, where two ppl are on the same page- but challenging one another. I miss that the most. But after a few years, I actually love living alone, and am involved in so many projects and volunteer opportunities, that I don't have a longing for anyone romantic. Even the need for touch has been filled by God, somehow. God is so good. If you feel you're lacking anything in your life, I encourage you to pray, and don't stop. If it's a longing for touch, or feeling lonely, or desiring a new friend, He will fulfill all of your needs, as He has mine. God bless you, and take your time processing all of the tough stuff. It gets easier ❤
Hi girl,when noise’s bother you is called “Misophonia” ! I have it as well,people tapping thier nails , squeaky shoes,people eating sounds, whistling while waiting for something,etc,etc, tons of just little things that most people don’t realize or think about!
I don’t like to be alone at home at night. I feel ya on just about every topic of discussion in this chat. Finding comfort and safety is top of my list when I have nights alone. In what we can see, I think you’ve created a beautiful space!
Cooking for one - I’ve started freezing leftovers like soup or casseroles or pasta meals. I used to throw a lot of stuff out unfortunately because I’d eat leftovers a few times and still have half a casserole left. Now when I make something that has 4-6 portions, I’ll immediately freeze 3-4 individual portions and it makes it SUPER easy to grab a few weeks later when you’re in the mood to eat it again and headed out the door for work.
My husband dies a few months ago. It was so hard to be alone or sleep alone. Such a lonely lonesome feeling because he was my best friend.I keep something on all the time and when I come home it does not feel so bad.you are such a bright spit to so many oeople Michel.thank you
Being able to realize how many things I can do that I used to depend on someone else to do has been exciting, but being sick and alone is awful because it brings a different kind of fear. The best thing I’ve learned about living on my own though is not having to feel bad if I want to go to bed early or stay up late since it won’t impact anyone else whichever I decide. Oh and being able to just get up and go on a whim without waiting to discuss plans with anyone else is fun too.
Honestly, your videos are one of the biggest things that have helped me live alone during pandemic lockdowns! You have such a nice presence it honestly feels like I'm listening to a close friend :-)
So fitting that this video is released on the first night I am solo after my separation. No partner and no kids. Thank goodness for TH-cam and cats 🐱 🥰
The best part of living alone, for me, was being able to eat whatever I wanted and not have to think about what my SO liked/wanted. Whenever my current partner is out of town, I eat all the things he hates just because I can. When I broke up with my ex, I made tuna sandwiches for a week because he couldn't stand the smell, and I hadn't had one in four years! 😂
One tip I have is to watch things on your TV, or to get a TV if you don't have one. I know content is available on phones, tablets or laptops, but there's something comforting about watching things on the big TV. It fills the room with light and noises, and similar to what you said, you're less likely to notice random sounds
My mom and I decided to move in with each other because she was alone and I was alone. It has been so nice having my mom as my BFF, but also having someone. I have lived alone for the past 11 years and I was over it. I am older, so I am able to help my mom also. I still have times when I feel lonely, but I am so picky after getting divorce so many years ago. I just do not have the tolerance for certain things then I did when I was younger :-) I loved this Vlog.
I've found being a long term part of twitch communities really help me. And like engaging in the chat and having a home base favorite streamer that I believe in and follow who's vibe really matches my own. I've made so many friends and they've been such a support to me in tough times. They're international too so there's often someone online to chat to
We might be the same person. Dog mom guilt, touch deprived (both in previous relationship and now living alone), and having the most supportive parents on earth. Watching you has helped me feel less alone in this season, so thank you for that. ❤️
Thank you for this! Recently ended a five-year relationship, and will be moving out on my own (first time without SO/roomies). This video was incredibly helpful and empowering! Definitely will be coming back to reference it when moving day comes 👍❤️
This was helpful. I'm retired, I live alone and find myself to be noise adverse more recently. When I divorced, I craved hugs too. I'm a recent subscriber and love watching your journey.
This was wonderful, and so well done. The hardest things for me after leaving my long term relationship were: Walking into the grocery store and remembering I had to take the lead, and I wasn't there for things for the other person. Over the years my needs had been slowly pushed to the back, to the bottom of the list, to the if we have time list. Etc. And we got his things first in the store. And he hated me Walking in front of him. He said it made him feel like I was ignoring him. The first time I had to go to the store after leaving I was completely frozen in the entrance and for the life of me, could not remember a single thing I needed or where it was anyway. And it was so scary. It also felt like everyone was looking at me when I went shopping, for like 2 years. Adjusting to having a different schedule. We'd had the exact same schedule for over a decade because we worked together. I had intense anxiety that I missing things or late for things I no longer did, because of how long that schedule had been the same. Learning to feel confident driving again. He'd criticized my driving for so long, even when he was the one doing the driving that day. And I was so jumpy and frazzled trying to get used to driving without someone sitting next to me waiting for something to point out. It was like his ghost was still there looking for the tiniest mistake when I drove. When something happens with my phone or computer, I have no idea how to fix it or what to do next. He always did. Now I don't have that resource. Some of the best things: I no longer had my phone on ring 24/7. And I no longer worried I'd get a middle of the night phone call that was an emergency. I have trouble separating sounds. I now watch every single thing with the subtitles on, and no one's mad about it. And it makes every time I watch something so much easier and more relaxing I do laundry whenever I want now. Not having to argue about is it a good or convenient time to wash dirty clothes, EVERY SINGLE TIME, is so satisfying. And like you said, if you clean it, you know it'll stay clean until you change it. No surprises. I have a really hard time with a lot of sounds too. You're definitely not alone there. I can't stand mouth sounds. Chewing, swallowing, that kind of thing. Last relationship guy got so hung up on people have to eat together. He wouldn't eat if he was starving unless I ate with him. He'd get hurt if I ate without him. And he was such a loud chewer. The peace I have at meal times or with a snack are unprecedented.
Since living alone I’ve decorated how I like. I’ve got beautiful flowers and butterfly wallpaper in my sitting room. Everyone compliments me on it and says that the wallpaper just me lol. I just love it. 🥰.
The feeling like a burden asking for something from a significant other /husband..I think what really for me hurt the most is when he stopped just "knowing " i didn't have to ask . I remember redoing my bedroom very feminine. Keeping it so clean . Except for the other side of the bed. It would stay made . But I would end up having a pile of stuff on it. A book,tablet ,magazines, packages, snacks🤣 ..I think anything to fill the emptiness 💚 You have handled this all with such grace . You are amazing !!
Being widowed, my Christmas & birthday gifts always came from my husband. Another widow told me every month buy a gift card or two from my favorite stores and stick in an envelope. Then when Christmas shopping (or at birthday) take that envelope of gift cards and only use on myself. I slept with the same man for almost 25 years. I couldn't sleep in our bed for a few years after he died, only able to sleep on the couch. Now finally back in a bed (after moving) but still can only sleep with tv or podcast on. He died while I slept and I found him so I still wake in panic attacks all night, checking that kids are alive, which is strange.
Hey. I’m about to move to Europe for a couple years without my family and I’ll be living alone. This was super helpful and makes it feel likes it’s not going to be as bad as I feel like it’s going to be and that there are some perks to being alone. Thank you.
I’ve been watching for a long time and I have to say I really love the vlogs and these kind of videos. I went from living with family and my pets to moving in with my partner who goes to the office most days. It’s been a hard transition during the day to be alone and wfh. I don’t really have coworkers to interact with or my cat to take a break with so watching your vlogs has been really nice. I usually watch them during lunch so it’s like I get to take a break and having lunch with a friend. I hope you keep vlogging and doing these chatty videos. Also love how frequently you are uploading too it’s nice! Thank you!
This is super random, but UGH your makeup/skin is always so beautiful. You just look effortlessly flawless and I love it. I just can never get over how beautiful you look in your videos. Lol
After I got a divorce, I experienced everything that you mentioned. I specifically remember the two most challenging for me being: raising my daughter alone (except for every other weekend) and making ALL of the decisions. I also felt like I was bothering people when I had to reach out for support or advice. I did eventually learn to not overshare my life with everyone. But, instead, to have a select few of close friends to seek advice and to bounce things off. Secondly, the lack of touch or hugging really bothered me for a long, long time. It has been many years now and I have learned new little ways to bring joy and happiness into my life just like you are doing! xo
Thank You! You've again reconfirmed that's it's okay to not be okay all the time. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing the deepest parts of your life, even in turmoil. You have a inviting spirit that welcomes all and I being no different: I know what it's like to have a community you just want to connect with and validates what you are doing, so thank you.
I have been following you for awhile now. I like this Michel better. You seem more relaxed and real (I hope that part isn't mean). You just seem so much happier. ❤
Look up misophonia, that helped my understanding of myself a lot around sensitivity to certain sounds! You seem to be such a lovely person, thanks for sharing vulnerability.
I have not lived alone in 21 years, I honestly don’t know how well I would cope. I love the new you and the Vlogs. I would love to hear about how you got your apartment so fast and from a different state. Thank you for all you do. ❤️
Hello Michel it sounds like you have some amazing tips to help living alone. I love your chatty videos they make me feel like you are my friend. I also am a touch person but having a dog helps hugging them makes me feel loved.
I was hit hard when you mentioned that you went days without leaving your house. I have been alone in my house working from home during the pandemic. The only time I left was for my disabled son who lives in his own home. Forty years of marriage and four children together and After a divorce I discovered TH-cam and…YOU. You are right. It is like hanging with a friend who knows what happened to your old life. Thank you.
This is wonderful advice and tips, I can already tell you as a young married woman that these are some things I wish I’d have known. The thing I would add is take time to do what you love each week. Set time aside either if you have a partner or not and be intentional with it. My husband knows that I have reading times where I get to recharge doing what I love!
Loved loved loved this 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 It’d be really helpful to do a vlog segment where you run through your weekly checklist for super practical, living alone tasks like when & how you grocery shop, keep track of bills, clean, etc
Invest in a crockpot. Freeze leftovers. Easiest dinner solution ever. Minimal dishes. Get some post-it notes for reminders. Makes a world of difference.
I live alone and I found a way to help myself with being deprived of touch. For me I need to be intentional with touching myself. One example is when I'm in bed all tucked in ready to sleep I take my own hand and hold it, stroke the backside and I say kind things to myself (I usually say I love you, I am listening). Also if Im emotional I take one hand and stroke myself on the arm over and over for as long as I need. It can also be being mindful and present while putting on lotion. It felt super weird at first but now I truly enjoy it and it feels like another way of taking good care of myself. 💗💗💗
I love cooking, especially dinner because it’s how I unwind, and it’s so nice to be able to cook whatever I want when I want it without having to worry about what anyone else wants to eat! Definitely an upside :)
Love and appreciate this video! You've created a beautiful home! Thanks for sharing. Would LOVE a candle, plants and flowers video to keep your space fresh and beautiful.(maybe your FAVS) I see them in your vlogs and hope they make you feel as special as you are😘
I’m moving out into my first home at the end of this year and I’m definitely looking forward to being able to control the noise and energy of my space. I’m an empath and when you’re surrounded by people who make a huge deal out of nothing and voice their anxiety constantly, shout a lot due to a short fuse and don’t care if anyone else needs quiet due to working or sleeping, it’s tough! The light is at the end of the tunnel though 😊 I’m also a clean freak, when my space is messy or dirty, I can’t focus, it’s like an itch I can’t scratch so I’m basically looking forward to being able to control my environment and not have anyone interrupt it ☺️☺️☺️
This is my current situation to a T. You are so very kind and beautiful for putting this together. Just niw starting to heal from my catastrophic divorce and being essentially left all alone. Move in is July 28th, and im sitting here eating dinner alone again and realized i needed to look help on living alone. You have given me strength, thank you kindly. If you are ever in Columbus dinner is on me. Cheers Da Poni
First of all, congratulations to have some time alone! It helps you to dwell into yourself, know yourself better. Your triggers, pain points, insecurities and so much more thats just within us and we never really faced it, cz we are around people all the time. Taking this time is going to carve you stronger than before, a better person and ofcourse...an improved life awaits you!!! :)
I'm a few months late but wanted to say -- you're not a diva for being noise-sensitive, and you might have Misophonia! Definitely recommend looking it up, it made so much make sense for me.
I'm married but my husband works off so he's not home very often. I love this video and really appreciate the tips. I've been struggling lately with being really lonely and not knowing what to do alone. Thank you for sharing! I needed this. Living alone isn't easy a lot of the time.
I live alone and I myself am going through a divorce as well… But I do find that watching TH-camrs vlogs or even just random videos on TH-cam helps me get through things sometimes and so I do spend more time watching TH-cam than I do regular TV. I could probably go a week without watching a TV show or a movie on Netflix and yet I will probably watch two or three TH-cam videos a day if not more because I just feel more connected there.
When I lived alone for awhile and also was home alot due to job changes, I would put the TV on to a comedian special. Like a stand up comic or something. You technically don't have to watch them but it's the talking and laughing that helped
A couple years back I wanted to start a TH-cam channel and my husband told me that he would support me in me doing that… But whenever I tried to pursue it or make a video or spent time editing something or filming stuff… I could tell that he was annoyed by it and would become impatient and there were even times where he threw out stuff that I was using to film with that the whole idea of trying to do TH-cam while I was with him became not even a choice… because I feared what he would think or if he would get irritated…and now that we aren’t together it’s made me reevaluate things and now I think I might possibly like to try that out in my free time. I don’t have anybody to come home to that I have any responsibility to take care of or please or make dinner for and so now is probably the perfect time for me to give my dreams a go. Whether it is successful or not… I might as well give it a shot because there’s nobody holding me back now like there was before.
Hey Michel, I agree with the other comments that we see more of your character recently. It is comforting to know that you are a real person (not fake influencer), and that you are going through real things and navigating the best you can. I respect and appreciate you being vulnerable and talking about the things people may not want to share.
Our happiness is not dependent on our circumstances but on what we focus our mind on- that's what I live by. Every situation in life has its pros and cons. I'm a single parent and in my 30s and for a long time I was miserable because of being single. Now I choose to focus on the pros of that (for example I don't have to share a bathroom with anyone lol). I'm happy to hear that you are noticing the good in your changes of circumstances. We always have better days and worse days (in marriage too), but we can make the choice to actively focus on the good... little things that make us happy 🙂 thanks for your honest videos 🤗
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If anyone else is touch deprived I really recommend a weighted blanket! the weight feels like a big hug and also gives a sense of safety! it’s helped me so much since living alone!!!
My therapist has recommended me to hug myself when I'm struggling with this. I usually wrap a blanket around myself and just pull it tight. I also love liking blankets and pillows around me!
Also regular massages
Omg I forgot I have one of these. I need to whip it out!🥰
Or just hit me up because I’ll touch you all kinds of ways, throughout all kinds of hours 😏💯
A corn snake is also a great option 😂 they watch you, only need to eat once every 1-2 weeks, and their heat requirements are pretty minimal.
I don't have any plants, but a fresh bouquet of flowers always brightens my day. It's also so silly that people think you can't buy yourself flowers. I love buying myself flowers! I don't make pretty flower arrangements like you, but flowers at the dining table is perfect to look at
Completely agree! It’s uplifting to but yourself pretty flowers and smile when you look at them.
Yes! And I love how fresh flowers can add a lot of variety to your space and to your routine. Such a great suggestion!
LOVE THIS! Flowers are the ultimate mood booster for me🥰
Agree I will buy flowers while shopping w my husband and he loves it. I love to make things pretty and calming
I love fresh flowers. You could buy a bouquet and of course enjoy them for you. You could also divide the bunch and deliver 1/2 to a friend and say I thought these were so pretty and I was enjoying mine so much I made this arrangement for you. You could thrift a few vases just for this purpose and give yourself the goal/challenge to give away all the vases filled with flowers in a month to brighten someone’s day.
Hey Michel! I occasionally watched your videos when you were married but have started to watch you regularly (as in every single video hehe) since you announced that you're going through a divorce. The reason why is because this very hard season of life that you're going through right now has really displayed your character. I've been able to see your strength in enduring and courage in sharing your feelings/mindset with us throughout this ongoing journey. The way you're dealing with this divorce has been a huge inspiration to me when it comes to how to deal with trials. So thank you so much for being so transparent and honest, it's truly admirable. Sending lots of prayers your way!
yes, to all of this! ^^^
This means a lot. Thank you for choosing to hang w me on my recent videos, I’m so happy that you feel like you connect with them 🥰 and thank you for your kind words, ILYSM!
Hi Dear Michel - I 100% agree as well with Elizabeth. I am so invested in your growth and your beauty and grace through out this chapter of your life. I have so much faith that you will be totally ok. You are wonderful. 🥰
Loved that you called it a season.
I bought 10 acres of land and built a treehouse right in the middle. It’s built just like a house and even has a fireplace. I absolutely love my solitude. 🥰
that's so cute 😍
I love this!!!
I loved living alone. I was with my parents till 23, then lived in a dorm for 2 years, and finally lived alone for 2 years in an apartment and it was amazing! It was great to decorate a space the way I wanted to feel homey. It was different for me as I hadn't had any opportunity my whole life to just be on my own, away from people, so i was thankful to finally have that time and space.
I literally started crying when you were talking about not being able to come home and hug someone. Gosh.... Ive gone through all this with you and have somewhat read through the lines about what happened with brook. and my heart just breaks for you . Hugs and lots of prayers for you !!! You are my VERY FAVORITE YouTouber . Much love Michael!!!
Missing touch is for sure a thing. This is why I always get my nails done and/or pedicure. It may be a stranger but still human touch is so important even on a small scale! I’m glad you said that because I thought I was the only one!
YES! I also feel like massages help me with this too. Since I know what to expect, I’m not uncomfortable but I feel like it reduces my touch-related-stress :-)
I was single for 4 years and one thing I heard from a movie, of all things, is to sleep in the middle of the bed. I always felt lonely and would cry myself to sleep, but when I started sleeping in the middle it was invigorating because you can HOG THE BED!!! 😊❤️🇨🇦😘
My husband of 27 years left December 29, 2021. I have spent the last year (with my 2 adult daughters-autistic) reclaiming my joy. The best parts for me is having a clean house and no TV blaring in the background. When I need something done, I do it myself, I don’t have to “check in”. I have always had a hard time asking for help as well. BEST of all, I can live my faith without ridicule from someone who was “supposed “ to have loved me. I feel now that I have worth. I do agree it is hard not having someone to share things with. (I was with him for over half my life and he was the only one) I am so proud of you and it is such a joy to watch you begin to flourish after such heartbreak/ache. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻✝️
This is a topic I know very well. I lived with my family until I was 22 and with roommate until I was 29. Then because my roommates all kept getting married off, I moved to my own apartment. At first I was excited and thrilled to have control over everything in the apartment but as the holidays came, I began to see how lonely it can get. I have always wanted to be married and at 41 and still waiting, I can tell you that there will be ups and downs around holidays. You have to search out friends and make plans or you will face the 'being alone' head on. Sometimes that's great after a party or event, to go home and just relax. But when you are an extrovert, and nothing is going on in the dead of winter (Maine-snow, freezing, darker days) you have to make do.... I watch youtubers like yourself and feel comforted!
I went through a divorce as well when I was 33 so I understand and sympathize 100% with everthing you are going through (you are doing great by the way!). My biggest mistake was giving away my 2 dogs I had at that time since I had no room for them in my tiny 3 1/2 appartment on the 3rd floor. I am so happy for you that you have Max!!! I cried in that video!! I see nothing wrong with sleeping with your dog in your bed. He will give you comfort when you need it the most and that will bring you so much joy. Now at 44 years old, i'm now in a wonderful relationship with a man that respects me and loves me for who I am and we have 2 dogs and they sleep in our bed (if they feel like it lol). Keep on the amazing work that you are doing. You are on the path that is meant for you! God has got your back! Love all your video and you are in my prayers xxx
I just wanted to let you know that you are looking happier and stronger more each time I watch your videos! Sending you a virtual hug and I hope you find total peace soon!!
Watching vlogs and chatty videos are a great way to feel less alone. I love chatty videos, follow me around, vlogs etc because it's like spending the day with someone. It's especially comforting watching a GRWM when I'm getting ready myself.
Something small that I really love about Michel's videos is that she keeps Max's barks in the video and she even translates what he says for us! As somebody who has been working from home for the past couple of years with a best friend who likes to occasionally bark when I'm in a Zoom meeting, it's nice to see someone include their dog in the conversation rather than having to act annoyed about it. It makes us really feel like we're in her and Max's space as a friend, and I think it is really sweet.
Agreed 100%...the Max translations make me lol. 😁🙌
Huge tip for touch deprivation and trouble sleeping alone: Pregnancy pillow!! 10/10 helpful. It feels like cuddling, but is more comfortable 💛
Having TH-cam or podcasts playing in the background is a great tip for so many situations! I always had TH-cam videos going as I was writing my PhD thesis to help make long hours in my office feel less lonely. A good tip for cooking while living alone is to prep things that you can then use in a variety of meals. For example I might cook a big batch of a mince and tomato sauce that I could turn into spaghetti bolognese, nachos, sloppy Joes, cottage pie, etc. Freeze individual portions and then you can defrost as needed and quickly make up different meals.
Maybe I've missed it, but if you haven't already: I would love to hear more about how you tackled the apartment hunting process (especially when moving states or to somewhere new that you aren't already) - most important things you learned in the process, what sites or resources you used, how to know what neighborhood within a city you wanted/felt safe in, all those sorts of questions. How to find the next place to live when starting a new chapter, basically. Thanks for this vid!
Yes….this!!
I really got lucky - just toured two and chose one of them! I was stressed about the turnaround and feel like I truly lucked out that I like where I ended up. But this is a great video idea if I crowdsource tips and ideas!🥰
Hi Erin, the first thing i did was talk to ppl at church and then i called the churches in the areas i was looking at for help. I’m Catholic so it was pretty cut and dry which parish offices i needed to call. If you can try very hard to make a trip to look at apartments. It’s too big of a decision to try to rent and apartment site unseen. If you can’t make a trip, try to get references from the parishes you’re looking in. Also, since covid 2020 many churches still have livestream of their mass/service. And may have a group you can chat online with.
You know how relieved and glad I am to hear your tips. Now I know I’m not the only one suffering and the tips are really helpful. 😢
Lived alone for 16 years. No pets. No plants. Rarely have music on unless I have clients in my photo studio. I love it.
I wanted to face me; to get to know me.
It can be lonely but I've got enough hobbies and work to keep me occupied.
Plus, I learned to face silence without distractions.
Sounds like you've got a good set up 😊
I've been living alone for 12 yrs now and the best thing for me is quiet and doing what you want when you want.
I've gotten back into the habit of reading at night before I go to sleep. Really makes it easier to settle down
I've just found your channel, and wanted to say you're very brave to share this journey. I went through it as a 33 disabled woman, and it took a while, especially emotionally, to adjust after 15 yrs of marriage.
It can be difficult to get that intellectual stimulation of a connected conversation, where two ppl are on the same page- but challenging one another. I miss that the most.
But after a few years, I actually love living alone, and am involved in so many projects and volunteer opportunities, that I don't have a longing for anyone romantic.
Even the need for touch has been filled by God, somehow. God is so good. If you feel you're lacking anything in your life, I encourage you to pray, and don't stop. If it's a longing for touch, or feeling lonely, or desiring a new friend, He will fulfill all of your needs, as He has mine.
God bless you, and take your time processing all of the tough stuff. It gets easier ❤
Hi girl,when noise’s bother you is called “Misophonia” ! I have it as well,people tapping thier nails , squeaky shoes,people eating sounds, whistling while waiting for something,etc,etc, tons of just little things that most people don’t realize or think about!
I don’t like to be alone at home at night. I feel ya on just about every topic of discussion in this chat. Finding comfort and safety is top of my list when I have nights alone. In what we can see, I think you’ve created a beautiful space!
This would be a great series to keep adding on to!
Cooking for one - I’ve started freezing leftovers like soup or casseroles or pasta meals. I used to throw a lot of stuff out unfortunately because I’d eat leftovers a few times and still have half a casserole left. Now when I make something that has 4-6 portions, I’ll immediately freeze 3-4 individual portions and it makes it SUPER easy to grab a few weeks later when you’re in the mood to eat it again and headed out the door for work.
My husband dies a few months ago. It was so hard to be alone or sleep alone. Such a lonely lonesome feeling because he was my best friend.I keep something on all the time and when I come home it does not feel so bad.you are such a bright spit to so many oeople Michel.thank you
This was so good. I loved living alone and enjoyed the silence. But I love my own company. Thank you for sharing. Take care and stay safe 💝
Being able to realize how many things I can do that I used to depend on someone else to do has been exciting, but being sick and alone is awful because it brings a different kind of fear. The best thing I’ve learned about living on my own though is not having to feel bad if I want to go to bed early or stay up late since it won’t impact anyone else whichever I decide. Oh and being able to just get up and go on a whim without waiting to discuss plans with anyone else is fun too.
Honestly, your videos are one of the biggest things that have helped me live alone during pandemic lockdowns! You have such a nice presence it honestly feels like I'm listening to a close friend :-)
I'm going through a lot right now with family. Your vlogs/videos help to calm me.
So fitting that this video is released on the first night I am solo after my separation. No partner and no kids. Thank goodness for TH-cam and cats 🐱 🥰
The best part of living alone, for me, was being able to eat whatever I wanted and not have to think about what my SO liked/wanted.
Whenever my current partner is out of town, I eat all the things he hates just because I can. When I broke up with my ex, I made tuna sandwiches for a week because he couldn't stand the smell, and I hadn't had one in four years! 😂
Yes! I actually love to cook for 1 because I’m a fan of leftovers and it’s easier thinking about what I want and not what do I and my SO want
My ex HATED the way Cheerios smelled. I love Cheerios. Finding a balance was impossible and now I enjoy my Cheerios argument free
One tip I have is to watch things on your TV, or to get a TV if you don't have one. I know content is available on phones, tablets or laptops, but there's something comforting about watching things on the big TV. It fills the room with light and noises, and similar to what you said, you're less likely to notice random sounds
My mom and I decided to move in with each other because she was alone and I was alone. It has been so nice having my mom as my BFF, but also having someone. I have lived alone for the past 11 years and I was over it. I am older, so I am able to help my mom also. I still have times when I feel lonely, but I am so picky after getting divorce so many years ago. I just do not have the tolerance for certain things then I did when I was younger :-) I loved this Vlog.
I've found being a long term part of twitch communities really help me. And like engaging in the chat and having a home base favorite streamer that I believe in and follow who's vibe really matches my own. I've made so many friends and they've been such a support to me in tough times. They're international too so there's often someone online to chat to
Yes, this is so true!!
Yes! I don't even live alone but twitch chats are so helpful especially if it's small or a slower chat. Sooooo good!
You should be so proud of yourself! You are doing great!
We might be the same person. Dog mom guilt, touch deprived (both in previous relationship and now living alone), and having the most supportive parents on earth. Watching you has helped me feel less alone in this season, so thank you for that. ❤️
Always feels like sitting down with a close friend! Thank you for all you share! 🥰
I luv to decorate. Being able to style your apt is fun and liberating
We love you too! Your honesty and openness I know has helped me and I'm sure so many.
I'm so happy to see that you're embracing this phase of your life. Keep living and loving it!
Thank you for this! Recently ended a five-year relationship, and will be moving out on my own (first time without SO/roomies). This video was incredibly helpful and empowering! Definitely will be coming back to reference it when moving day comes 👍❤️
Your channel is definitely one of the way I cope with the transition to living alone ! 🌱
This was helpful. I'm retired, I live alone and find myself to be noise adverse more recently. When I divorced, I craved hugs too. I'm a recent subscriber and love watching your journey.
This was wonderful, and so well done.
The hardest things for me after leaving my long term relationship were:
Walking into the grocery store and remembering I had to take the lead, and I wasn't there for things for the other person. Over the years my needs had been slowly pushed to the back, to the bottom of the list, to the if we have time list. Etc. And we got his things first in the store. And he hated me Walking in front of him. He said it made him feel like I was ignoring him. The first time I had to go to the store after leaving I was completely frozen in the entrance and for the life of me, could not remember a single thing I needed or where it was anyway. And it was so scary. It also felt like everyone was looking at me when I went shopping, for like 2 years.
Adjusting to having a different schedule. We'd had the exact same schedule for over a decade because we worked together. I had intense anxiety that I missing things or late for things I no longer did, because of how long that schedule had been the same.
Learning to feel confident driving again. He'd criticized my driving for so long, even when he was the one doing the driving that day. And I was so jumpy and frazzled trying to get used to driving without someone sitting next to me waiting for something to point out. It was like his ghost was still there looking for the tiniest mistake when I drove.
When something happens with my phone or computer, I have no idea how to fix it or what to do next. He always did. Now I don't have that resource.
Some of the best things:
I no longer had my phone on ring 24/7. And I no longer worried I'd get a middle of the night phone call that was an emergency.
I have trouble separating sounds. I now watch every single thing with the subtitles on, and no one's mad about it. And it makes every time I watch something so much easier and more relaxing
I do laundry whenever I want now. Not having to argue about is it a good or convenient time to wash dirty clothes, EVERY SINGLE TIME, is so satisfying. And like you said, if you clean it, you know it'll stay clean until you change it. No surprises.
I have a really hard time with a lot of sounds too. You're definitely not alone there. I can't stand mouth sounds. Chewing, swallowing, that kind of thing. Last relationship guy got so hung up on people have to eat together. He wouldn't eat if he was starving unless I ate with him. He'd get hurt if I ate without him. And he was such a loud chewer. The peace I have at meal times or with a snack are unprecedented.
I enjoyed reading your post
Thanks Michel! As my husband and I prepare for deployment I'm thankful for any and all tips about living by yourself.
The background you have of your bedroom makes these videos so cozy! Love it!
Thank you for being you🌸
Since living alone I’ve decorated how I like. I’ve got beautiful flowers and butterfly wallpaper in my sitting room. Everyone compliments me on it and says that the wallpaper just me lol. I just love it. 🥰.
The feeling like a burden asking for something from a significant other /husband..I think what really for me hurt the most is when he stopped just "knowing " i didn't have to ask . I remember redoing my bedroom very feminine. Keeping it so clean . Except for the other side of the bed. It would stay made . But I would end up having a pile of stuff on it. A book,tablet ,magazines, packages, snacks🤣 ..I think anything to fill the emptiness 💚 You have handled this all with such grace . You are amazing !!
Yes I love what we said Jaci and Chelsea🤗
Being widowed, my Christmas & birthday gifts always came from my husband. Another widow told me every month buy a gift card or two from my favorite stores and stick in an envelope. Then when Christmas shopping (or at birthday) take that envelope of gift cards and only use on myself. I slept with the same man for almost 25 years. I couldn't sleep in our bed for a few years after he died, only able to sleep on the couch. Now finally back in a bed (after moving) but still can only sleep with tv or podcast on. He died while I slept and I found him so I still wake in panic attacks all night, checking that kids are alive, which is strange.
Hey. I’m about to move to Europe for a couple years without my family and I’ll be living alone. This was super helpful and makes it feel likes it’s not going to be as bad as I feel like it’s going to be and that there are some perks to being alone. Thank you.
I’ve been watching for a long time and I have to say I really love the vlogs and these kind of videos. I went from living with family and my pets to moving in with my partner who goes to the office most days. It’s been a hard transition during the day to be alone and wfh. I don’t really have coworkers to interact with or my cat to take a break with so watching your vlogs has been really nice. I usually watch them during lunch so it’s like I get to take a break and having lunch with a friend. I hope you keep vlogging and doing these chatty videos. Also love how frequently you are uploading too it’s nice! Thank you!
YES omg everything you said about feeling like a burden when asking for help. I feel that.
This is super random, but UGH your makeup/skin is always so beautiful. You just look effortlessly flawless and I love it. I just can never get over how beautiful you look in your videos. Lol
After I got a divorce, I experienced everything that you mentioned. I specifically remember the two most challenging for me being: raising my daughter alone (except for every other weekend) and making ALL of the decisions. I also felt like I was bothering people when I had to reach out for support or advice. I did eventually learn to not overshare my life with everyone. But, instead, to have a select few of close friends to seek advice and to bounce things off. Secondly, the lack of touch or hugging really bothered me for a long, long time. It has been many years now and I have learned new little ways to bring joy and happiness into my life just like you are doing! xo
Thank You! You've again reconfirmed that's it's okay to not be okay all the time. Thank you for being vulnerable and sharing the deepest parts of your life, even in turmoil. You have a inviting spirit that welcomes all and I being no different: I know what it's like to have a community you just want to connect with and validates what you are doing, so thank you.
I’m obsessed with what we said such a good listen 💕
Michel! I know break-ups are hard but you are killing it, SIS! Living alone is a blessing!
I move on Saturday to a place of my own, so this video is right on time, thanks for sharing ❤️
I have been following you for awhile now. I like this Michel better. You seem more relaxed and real (I hope that part isn't mean). You just seem so much happier. ❤
I love when Max chimes in! 😊
Look up misophonia, that helped my understanding of myself a lot around sensitivity to certain sounds! You seem to be such a lovely person, thanks for sharing vulnerability.
I have not lived alone in 21 years, I honestly don’t know how well I would cope. I love the new you and the Vlogs. I would love to hear about how you got your apartment so fast and from a different state. Thank you for all you do. ❤️
Michel, you are doing great, so inspirational to everyone no matter what the situation is!!Be proud!!!
These tips are so helpful and realistic
I enjoy your vlogs and feel less alone while watching. It's like catching up with a close friend. ❤️
Hello Michel it sounds like you have some amazing tips to help living alone. I love your chatty videos they make me feel like you are my friend. I also am a touch person but having a dog helps hugging them makes me feel loved.
I was hit hard when you mentioned that you went days without leaving your house. I have been alone in my house working from home during the pandemic. The only time I left was for my disabled son who lives in his own home.
Forty years of marriage and four children together and After a divorce I discovered TH-cam and…YOU. You are right. It is like hanging with a friend who knows what happened to your old life. Thank you.
These make great gift ideas for someone living alone 🙂! Thank you
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This is wonderful advice and tips, I can already tell you as a young married woman that these are some things I wish I’d have known. The thing I would add is take time to do what you love each week. Set time aside either if you have a partner or not and be intentional with it. My husband knows that I have reading times where I get to recharge doing what I love!
You are the sweetest soul …. I just love you girl 💜💜
Loved loved loved this 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 It’d be really helpful to do a vlog segment where you run through your weekly checklist for super practical, living alone tasks like when & how you grocery shop, keep track of bills, clean, etc
You should do a video on interior designing / link products ! Love your style !
I agree with comments here, plus, I have noticed, you look so much better! Especially physically. Example: Lack of Rash and Fingernail issues.
Invest in a crockpot. Freeze leftovers. Easiest dinner solution ever. Minimal dishes. Get some post-it notes for reminders. Makes a world of difference.
I live alone and I found a way to help myself with being deprived of touch. For me I need to be intentional with touching myself. One example is when I'm in bed all tucked in ready to sleep I take my own hand and hold it, stroke the backside and I say kind things to myself (I usually say I love you, I am listening). Also if Im emotional I take one hand and stroke myself on the arm over and over for as long as I need. It can also be being mindful and present while putting on lotion. It felt super weird at first but now I truly enjoy it and it feels like another way of taking good care of myself. 💗💗💗
The SQUEAKS in basketball!! They absolutely drive me up the wall. You are not alone.
YES on the asking for help!! I'm the same way!!!!!
I love cooking, especially dinner because it’s how I unwind, and it’s so nice to be able to cook whatever I want when I want it without having to worry about what anyone else wants to eat! Definitely an upside :)
Love and appreciate this video! You've created a beautiful home! Thanks for sharing. Would LOVE a candle, plants and flowers video to keep your space fresh and beautiful.(maybe your FAVS) I see them in your vlogs and hope they make you feel as special as you are😘
I’m moving out into my first home at the end of this year and I’m definitely looking forward to being able to control the noise and energy of my space. I’m an empath and when you’re surrounded by people who make a huge deal out of nothing and voice their anxiety constantly, shout a lot due to a short fuse and don’t care if anyone else needs quiet due to working or sleeping, it’s tough! The light is at the end of the tunnel though 😊
I’m also a clean freak, when my space is messy or dirty, I can’t focus, it’s like an itch I can’t scratch so I’m basically looking forward to being able to control my environment and not have anyone interrupt it ☺️☺️☺️
I did not know being touch deprived was a real thing. That makes so much sense. Ty for talking about that. Thank you alot.❤❤
This is my current situation to a T. You are so very kind and beautiful for putting this together. Just niw starting to heal from my catastrophic divorce and being essentially left all alone. Move in is July 28th, and im sitting here eating dinner alone again and realized i needed to look help on living alone. You have given me strength, thank you kindly. If you are ever in Columbus dinner is on me. Cheers
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I LOVE your videos! I just found you, and you’re so down to earth and real🤍
First of all, congratulations to have some time alone! It helps you to dwell into yourself, know yourself better. Your triggers, pain points, insecurities and so much more thats just within us and we never really faced it, cz we are around people all the time. Taking this time is going to carve you stronger than before, a better person and ofcourse...an improved life awaits you!!! :)
Thinking of you today. Hoping you are treating yourself!
Michel, you are so amazing. I’ve been alone for 10 years, it’s so good, I’m with you on music and pet, it helps so much 😊
Here in the first minute!! 😱😂😭 snow day here in Chicago ❄️❄️❄️ happy for a chatty video! ❤️
I'm a few months late but wanted to say -- you're not a diva for being noise-sensitive, and you might have Misophonia! Definitely recommend looking it up, it made so much make sense for me.
Lol the sneaker squeaks 👟 I’m audio-sensitive too-you’re not alone.
I'm married but my husband works off so he's not home very often. I love this video and really appreciate the tips. I've been struggling lately with being really lonely and not knowing what to do alone. Thank you for sharing! I needed this. Living alone isn't easy a lot of the time.
I live alone and I myself am going through a divorce as well… But I do find that watching TH-camrs vlogs or even just random videos on TH-cam helps me get through things sometimes and so I do spend more time watching TH-cam than I do regular TV. I could probably go a week without watching a TV show or a movie on Netflix and yet I will probably watch two or three TH-cam videos a day if not more because I just feel more connected there.
When I lived alone for awhile and also was home alot due to job changes, I would put the TV on to a comedian special. Like a stand up comic or something. You technically don't have to watch them but it's the talking and laughing that helped
A couple years back I wanted to start a TH-cam channel and my husband told me that he would support me in me doing that… But whenever I tried to pursue it or make a video or spent time editing something or filming stuff… I could tell that he was annoyed by it and would become impatient and there were even times where he threw out stuff that I was using to film with that the whole idea of trying to do TH-cam while I was with him became not even a choice… because I feared what he would think or if he would get irritated…and now that we aren’t together it’s made me reevaluate things and now I think I might possibly like to try that out in my free time. I don’t have anybody to come home to that I have any responsibility to take care of or please or make dinner for and so now is probably the perfect time for me to give my dreams a go. Whether it is successful or not… I might as well give it a shot because there’s nobody holding me back now like there was before.
Hey Michel, I agree with the other comments that we see more of your character recently. It is comforting to know that you are a real person (not fake influencer), and that you are going through real things and navigating the best you can. I respect and appreciate you being vulnerable and talking about the things people may not want to share.
Hang on girl, you're strong enough 💪 💓 💖
Our happiness is not dependent on our circumstances but on what we focus our mind on- that's what I live by. Every situation in life has its pros and cons. I'm a single parent and in my 30s and for a long time I was miserable because of being single. Now I choose to focus on the pros of that (for example I don't have to share a bathroom with anyone lol). I'm happy to hear that you are noticing the good in your changes of circumstances. We always have better days and worse days (in marriage too), but we can make the choice to actively focus on the good... little things that make us happy 🙂 thanks for your honest videos 🤗
The car pool podcast is a great chatty one! They just started but it 2 sisters just chatting away. Love them!