Just before my now-husband and I got married I had a dream that I was dating a celebrity. I woke up feeling so guilty about it and told him about it while apologizing. He just laughed, said “why are you apologizing about a dream?”, gave me a kiss and cuddled up with me until it was time to get up. He teased me about it a little, but when he saw that it really did upset me (no matter how irrational that was) he stopped and just reassured me that he knew that you don’t have control over your dreams and even if you did, who cares. _That’s_ how OP’s fiancé should have reacted. He should have just laughed about it with her, then used it as an excuse to snuggle up in bed for a while. Or something like that. He let his true colors show, and they are ugly and putrid. I’m so glad OP left. Negging behavior like that and trying to tear her down could easily escalate to more serious abusive behavior if she’d stayed.
What was most telling to me was how he said that SHE wouldn't leave HIM, instead of him not leaving her (even though she's let herself go according to him). Because he's such a catch apparently lol
Whenever my wife or I dream of something like that we jokingly "demand" the other apologizes, but we just laugh about it and make jokey pouty faces to each other. OPs fiance is off his rockers...
Judge, Bailiff, and the guy's lawyer: **Stares at the guy, in a "are you for real" face** The guy: **Not realizing what he said** *"WHAT?!"* "Congratulations, you played yourself."
feels weird that the judge didnt have the bailiff immediately arrest him for what should be crimes... misuse of the courts, perjury (lying on sworn statements of why he is in a lawsuit) and so on.
@@mitchverr9330 the guy was connected in that town. Had probably given donations to charities associated with political associations. Essentially, he thought he was untouchable and got super brazen.
@@mitchverr9330I was thinking that too, since he said it out loud from his own mouth lol Maybe they needed someone to press charges, and instead OP sued him back. 🤷🏽♀️
First story, I was going to ask 'Is he trying to drain OP's money?' and he said it straight out. Good on OP's uncle for being there for him too because it quite literally paid out in the end for him but I was also really hoping that there was some news that the guy got booted from the council and lost his licenses. The dude's almost like a cartoon villain with how he tried to really OP's business
Small town politics are like that. My dad filed for a building permit variance because the garage would be too close to the property line. In the middle of the municipal meeting the brother of the mayor approached my dad with an offer to fix things for a price. Yes, bribing in the middle of borough council meeting. My dad rose up exclaiming his disgust over the bribery attempt and walked out of the meeting. Our contractor hearing what was going on decided to just pore the cement for the foundation. That garage is still in the same position 70 years later.
Yeah wish they didn’t settle but I of course get it. Seems like a slam dunk case. But ops right that there’s no idea if it would be more or less than what they got
I have periodically mentioned to a friend, coworker, etc. that they might benefit from therapy. I have also learned to warn people: >therapists don't 'fix us'. -they help us figure out ways to fix ourselves >It is a lot of work -often painful, scary, difficult work >it is likely that going to therapy will mean losing 'friends' -often these are not real friends but those who benefit from our dysfunction by taking advantage of us -some are/were real friends but whose own dysfunction no longer fits with our growing health >there is often a time of the Terrifying Void -we have lost 'friends' -we no longer feel bad all the time, but now often feel nothing/empty -often, we don't know what we need or want or how to fill that void But, I let people know that I will still be their friends, and cheer on their progress; that they are worth the effort to heal; that usually losing old habits and toxic people means making room for a variety of emotions, happy new experiences, and people who will actively support us. It takes time and work, and it is difficult and scary, but it is ultimately worth the effort. If you are thinking about taking this step then know that you are worth the effort.
the part about dreaming about being with a random actor being rude because he's taller than her exbf? like what? It's a DREAM she's probably never even been in the same ROOM as that actor, she doesn't know how tall he is! Dreams are wonky as shit. For all he knows the dream actor was the exact same height as the exbf
I've had that happen. I was with this chic that woke me up by hitting me repeatedly saying I cheated on her. When she finally calmed down she said she had a dream I was sleeping with a mutual friend. I told her to simply leave she kept pleading that it was 2am I repeatedly said I don't care. I told her that she is lucky my brother wasn't there because she would be leaving with bracelets. She gave me a fat lip, a bruise under my eye and a few bruises from body shots. She eventually left, the next morning the mutual friend calls me cussing me out asking me how dare I cheat on her friend. I stopped her mid sentence and asked "did she tell you who it was with? Because she had a dream that you and I were sleeping together. Is there something you want tell me because I don't remember this." She replied with she did it again. "Again, wtf you mean again." And hung up. After that I stopped hanging out with the mutual friends.
@@mauriciodiaz8315 apparently, both the mutual friend and the girl that set me up with her knew prior. The fd up part was they tried to defend her and told me I was being dramatic. The other guy in the group brought up the fact that she could've unalived me by hitting me, smothering me or she could've grabbed my knife. When they started to dismiss that I ended my friendship with that group at that moment.
First story: So glad it worked out, but let's not ignore the fact it only worked out as well as it did because OP happened to have a lawyer relative who was willing to work pro-bono. This was obviously not the first time the douchebag old guy used this dirty tactics to ruin someone, and likely before OP he's always been successful. The fact someone can sue you for about any reason and you'd likely have to spend money to defend yourself even if the root cause is completely frivolous is scary!
@@augustaseptemberova5664 Hm. Maybe it's different if the case is dismissed, rather than brought to court? Disclaimer: I really don't know what I'm talking about.
@@Lopitra it depends*. Theres also the risk of losing at which point you pay your own, and the other guys lawyer fees (if you get spooked part way in or exhausted by it, you could be financially crippled and just give up to stop it getting worse). Some laywers will go on a "pay at the end" thing, others will want payment as you go along.
So glad she left him. If he's going to get that upset over a dream, what's he going to do with something more serious?? He sounds like the sort of guy who gets upset when he finds out he's having a girl instead of a boy and blames it on his pregnant partner.
The fact that the ex fiance got angry about her dream that, she was dating an actor, is hilariously stupid. I'm pretty sure a majority of people can't control what they are going to dream about.
I recently dreamt I accidentally sent Greta Thunburg sexy pics when she replied to a "Car for sale" ad I had, and I wasn't able to delete the pics, and trying to apologize just made it worse. Brains are weird.
@@animefan8591 ok don’t know what the point of you saying that was. Both situations are equally stupid doesn’t matter what gender. He shouldn’t have said what he said, he shouldn’t have reacted the way he did.
In the last story I find it real hypocritical that the Ex-BF claimed op was cat-fishing as a younger woman on her birthday when it seems he had been cat-fishing her as an older man for their whole relationship, after all she said he was 23 but he must have added 20 years to his age based on his behaviour.
Do you understand the argument he was making? Because he lost me. She was going out with platonic friends, who are girls... I can't speak for everyone, but if someone's 20-30 years older than the rest of the friend group, nobody really bats an eye (with exceptions involving minors, obviously). Also, weren't these pre-existing friends? How in the world would catfishing even occur, even if it _had_ happened?
@@Wendy_O._KoopaI think that just further illustrates her ex's irrational behavior and how awful a person he is. He was grasping at straws to maintain his sense of power over her.
Story 1 : It’s pretty smart to open a business that offers a cheaper price for the good alcohol if all the stores have expensive when someone offers something cheaper, but still on a budget and still taste good they’re going to buy more often than the expensive one. It’s a pretty smart idea and now op is the only alcohol business
That's how the free market is supposed to work. The bad guys use the law and/or government to squash competition, thus manipulating the market. Contrary to decades of propaganda, those crooked greedy businessmen and their pet judges and politicians were the villains in Ayn Rand's books. Honest businessmen like OP were the protagonists.
Psychopaths bully disabled people as we speak. Now. In time&spac,e it's right here, at least in time. So can i ask you to have our back and show solidarity? Speak up against the bully? H-ck, maybe even report him? !
A star walks into a black hole but doesn't seen phased. The black hole then turns to the star and says, "I don't think you understand the gravity of this situation."
About the second story: My first boyfriend would always joke about how I was ugly etc and even though we generally teased each other this kept going on for so long that it started to hurt. He was definitely very good-looking and even though at the time I lacked the relationship experience and confidence, I was doing quite well myself. Apart from that though I was always putting in extra effort on everything from my looks to my style. One time he made that joke again and I stopped and asked "do you really think I'm that ugly?" and he looked shocked and said "no, I'm just trying to mess with your head a bit, if you really were ugly I wouldn't be saying anything". He's been my ex for years now but I have heard men trying to "mess with women's heads" or "take them down a notch" so often since then. I know better now but it's still quite sad that some people can't be happy for or proud of their partners and have to bring them down to feel better.
@@leesills7800actually, he can; because he witnessed something in public (witnesses other than the lawyer), and you don’t have privilege for ongoing breaches. Not only can the lawyer be compelled to testify, he can be disbarred for refusal. Attorney-client privilege isn’t absolute. Thing said with witnesses aren’t covered, and ongoing breaches of law (both criminal and civil) aren’t covered.m Had the guy told the lawyer his intent in private, as in within the lawyer’s office, it still wouldn’t be covered. Attorney-client privilege allows you to admit to past illegal acts, in order to enable the best possible defence, without the attorney being able to turn on you. It has to be past illegal acts. It can’t be current/ongoing, and it can’t be illegal acts planned for the future.
Story 2. What the fiance was extremely uncalled for. There was no reason to dish on her like that and I'm not sure why her mother and her friends all thought it was okay. I'm not sure if we are missing something? But there is absolutely no reason to tell somebody that their dream couldn't be a reality because of the way they look! That's some real life condescending. That's being mean in real life for no reason at all. And the fact that he doubled down trying to almost prove to her that she didn't look nice was insane! Pack is he trying to get at here?! Just to crush her self-confidence? All he did was prove that he's a genuine jerk. My husband would never ever under any circumstances ever say that to me because it's only trying to hurt her.
I bet you anything the second OP's nasty ex would have ended up cheating on her after they were married if she hadn't dumped him and that he and her "friends" would have blamed her for it.
I think what he didn’t find attractive was her confidence and independence. He didn’t like her going to therapy because he knew he couldn’t get away with abusing her the way he wants to.
Dude fell down the rabbit hole of.... I'm blanking on the name, but that guy who got arrested in Romania(?) after getting into a Twitter spat with Greta Thunberg - and that guy related content creators.
Story 1: So this guy saw a competitor, believed that this was targeting him specifically, and decided to try to buy OP's store, followed by attempting to bully OP out of money when refused. Yeah, that kind of narcissistic ego is only going to shove you downhill And then comes the trial itself. Talk about stubborness
Story 2: Hi, ive been married for 3 years and I can't even imagine being in a relationship like that story. At least once every couple of days my husband will say something about me being the best or being the most beautiful person in the world. I give that back to him as much as I can. Marriage is not about settling, it's about building each other up. I don't want him to doubt that he's the best person on this planet for me. That's how it should work. If OP's ex was less insecure, he would realize that and it wouldn't have ruined his relationship. No matter how many light-hearted jokes get thrown in your relationship, you never want to make your partner think that they are unattractive in any way. Even at 8 months pregnant, my husband is still calling me beautiful and sexy and that's only built me up throughout being pregnant. If any of you in the comments are getting married soon, or are in a committed relationship of some kind, take that to heart. There is a reason why these relationships tend to get stagnant over time. You have to keep working on the relationship and doing everything you can to make your partner feel worthy.
I have no idea why OP initially felt sad that "the man she loved wasn't there anymore". He was never there in the first place. The man OP knew and loved never existed. He was an act, a mask put on by OP's douchebag ex to hide what a spineless insecure narcissist he was. Don't lament the loss of your ex-fiance, OP, because he was just the mask worn by a monster.
OP likes a buff Professor Snape in her dreams, and fiancé can't take it. Glitter bombs and cracking Star Wars DVDs as retaliation for calling off the wedding. LOL.
As if people control their dreams. Lol. Please tell me how to do that so I stop waking punching things due to mine getting violent and reenacting themselves.
Not only that, it is essentially illegal to frivolously sue someone multiple times. All you're doing is wasting the court's time, and if the case keeps getting dropped, then that just goes to show that there's nothing there. I'm not familiar enough to know everything that's being broken here, but safe to say that this definitely goes into the realm of things you could easily be sued for, and since he openly said everything, he's guaranteeing that he will lose, since he made it clear that this is specifically what he is trying to do. I'm sure that he will also be open to getting removed from the board for using his position to abuse power. I'm hoping this would result in not only a Nice. I'm out paid back to OP, plus him being stripped of his position, and him having to sell off his businesses. The last one would be the hardest part, but honestly with how he's been acting, there's a chance that OP could cross litigation against the board, for the actions of one of its members.
Story 2: this is emotional abusive control regardless of if he meant it as a joke or not what he said cannot be excused so maybe you should prove him wrong and leave. Also it's funny he calls you disrespectful yet is allowed to insult you in such a disgusting way. Glad in the update you left that toxic butthole.
I wouldn't call 2 people a lot. I have an Uncle that works for a glass repair and window place and one of the local cops was both my soccer coach and DARE instructor when I was a kid. But by your logic it would be suspicious if someone broke one of my windows and both these people came to do their jobs. Are all your family and friends just unemployed or something?
In a small town, relationships accumulate. In my grandmother’s town, I was related to the insurance man, the dept store owner, and the lawyer, and probably more I never met .
Story 1- They’d get in trouble for being “Vindictive”….after the guy blatantly sued you 5x and was hoping for you to be bankrupt you are DAMN RIGHT id be “Vindictive”.
Going to therapy and learning to set up boundaries and not let yourself be belittled and talked down to is “being cocky and more demanding”??? That’s a massive yikes from me dude! Sounds to me like he would’ve gotten more abusive had OP gone through with the marriage
Story 2: F your old "friends" and your mom, what you described sounded like the early stage of mental abuse and they all ignored it because your friend just wanted to go to a party with free food and booze, and I don't even know what the heck's wrong with your mom. Thank God you found people that actually care about you and could see the obvious signs, as for your stuff if it's not worth it fine but I highly recommend taking pictures and suing his ass. But you know what's funny to me, he had a chance to backtrack but instead he doubled down with BS coins that only May the mad slip even more, enjoy your new single life with men who can see how valuable you are.
2nd story these emotions are easily managed. Remove the person causing them. You don't need a man who casually insults you like that. 'I'm grateful he chose to be with me' Girl, no.
Story 1: Depending on the part of the midwest, a liquor store is a gold mine. Oh yeah, small towns in the midwest are rife with corrupted governments. Well, they aren't always smart about their corruption, which is why everyone seems to know, but no one with the power to do anything is willing to. The real shame is the corrupt guy(putting it youtube friendly) got away with it ultimately because his name wasn't revealed. Story 2: After listening to the whole story I think they're kind of birds of a fealther, though she seems to be trying to be better. His jealousy was obvious with his reaction to her dream. They both seem to have based their relationship on looks, and to no surprise, it fell apart once they went a little bit deeper. I doubt he'll change, but hopefully OP learns not to judge people by their looks, nor confuse seeming attractive with a quality person.
My favorite thing about the dream story is that everyone is taller than OP's ex (5'7) and Adam Driver (6'2) is taller than everyone. Was going to make a joke about her only being allowed to have dream sex with hobbits, but Sean Astin is 5'6 1/2, so maybe I'm on the ex's side a bit?
Lol I’m a woman and 5’11” would she get in trouble if there are taller women in her dream? I mean, 5’7” isn’t too short but there are a lot of people taller so it would be hard to control that in a dream, even for lucid dreamers!
My dreams are ALWAYS weird. Like yesterday, I dreamt that I was watching Dudley Dursley, from Harry Potter, be tortured by a guy from Supernatural. And I always tell my bf, "I had a weird dream," and he'll say, "Clowns or midgets?" (Supernatural quote). I then tell him about the dream, and he'll usually say something along the lines of, "Huh. Weird," or, "Alright then." He never judges me for my weird dreams like OP #2's fiance because he knows I can't control them and that they just happen.
Story one. Accepting the settlement. Good job, you did nothing to stop the corruption and you did nothing to stop his malicious acts against you. There will be no record of the lawsuit beyond filed and settled out of court. The severe corruption will continue unimpeded, unpunished, and it has spread to your local venue to boot. Unless denying the settlement will cause your case to fail, never settle.
@@dudeorduuude5211 my wife is taller than I am, heh. I've mostly dated people my height or taller. It never bothered me. There's too much stigma for guys about being short. So what if I can't reach the top kitchen cabinets without a foot stool, what gets stored there anyway?!?
I am so glad that the second OP gtfo'd. The future would not have been good with having the ex, the 'friends' that were more interested in a wedding than her well being, and a Mom who thought that behavior was excusable. If she had stayed I have no doubts she would have suffered an abusive relationship with those people. Remember to always value yourself, because in this world there are some people who will take advantage of you.
We must've dated the same guy because my ex hated the idea of celebrity crushes and has hit me over the fact I've had a dream where I met mine. He apparently has never had a "celebrity crush" and the fact I had a dream about one meant that I was gonna leave him cus it was wrong to find celebrities attractive. Anyways, my current bf is a total sweetheart and doesn't care about that type of stuff, he thinks it's adorable. He knows me celeb crushes and "fantasies" (which we all know that stuff never happens) and I know about his too. Good on her for leaving him. I hope she finds someone better who values her and also doesn't care that celebrity crushes are no big deal.
14:16 ehh I don’t see the appeal 14:25 ironic. The friends of my closest circle are the ones that are the most levelheaded and unbiased. Which is the reason why we are the closest 17:16 could you elaborate on that? 17:28 I didn’t think that at all, because yeah it would lower her self-esteem, but it wouldn’t make her want him more. It would make her want someone else.
There's a county in Kentucky USA where, in order to start a new business, or provide services as an existing business from outside the county, you have to get permission from every other business in your field in that county. I wish that was a joke. Lawyer TH-camr Steve Lehto did a couple of episodes on that- original dispute was about a private ambulance service being allowed to operate in that county.
If I ever told my partner that I dreamt of a taller guy (actor or not) my partner would just ask details. My partner and I are both 5’2. OP dodged a bullet with this man child and it’s great that she still has some support around her that values her
A few notes on Adam Driver: He's 40 years old, 6'2" and his wife of over a decade is Joanne Tucker. It's really irrelevant, but it seems certain that he wouldn't be interested in OP. Hope it doesn't ruin her dreams. Now she's free to find someone better... maybe taller.
Fairly certain that the first story is a lie. He said he was writing the title of his post as his uncle called him, then after the call in his post he explains what happened over the course of the next 2 months. The assumption here being that he hung up and continued making the post he had started. Either he just stopped writing the title and didn't get back around to actually making the post for another 2 months after that phone call or he's full of it. Or he can see the future and just wrote what was going to happen since he already knew. The way it's worded though it sounds like he had sat down to write then got a call from his uncle then continued writing the post. Maybe he really can see the future and just knew what the next few months would look like. It's also interesting how these court proceedings went on for about a month each but the only details we have is; the defendant that is listed, that his uncle represented him, and that the cases were dismissed, the 2nd case being the same exact suit with the same assertion, yet it somehow took a week longer. There was precedent at that point to end it quickly or not accept the case at all and turn the man away. Why is there no details of these proceedings? You'd think something interesting was said or happened, not even a single comment about something that was claimed in an entire month long proceeding. This isn't even mentioning the supposed other multitude of times he was sued, by the same guy with the same judge presiding. No judge would let the same case go to court this many times. There is too much precedent to prove the man suing doesn't have a case. Frankly it's just a little too obvious of the little guy small business owner overcoming the power of this seasoned business owner with connections. The situation with his previous job is also just nonsensical in how he quit and became his own boss. Side note: The assertion that his business is a success is contradicted by the fact its run by 2 employees who have yo overwork themselves. A $4000 profit is a good paycheck but that money needs to be used for the business as well as loans and bills and expenses, seeing as this is their only source of income $4000 isn't a lot of money for two people with that much debt, in fact its less than two people would make on minimum wage in my state. We also hear nothing about his girlfriend through all of this, she's mentioned once so he can pretend someone called her a slur and so that he can mention she is an Asian American and that they both work a ton of hours. This means she either also quit a job or didn't have one to begin with. It's also funny that he says he kicks people out if they're rude, yet when someone calls his gf a slur he just charges them more? Shes also suddenly his fisnce at the end with a wedding quickly approaching which is interesting, technically since it had been months this is feasible, still though, to propose and plan a wedding and then have it be drawing near seems like a stretch. "Idk who told him we were suing him" yall did, at the last court case. Finally he ends with "it wasn't as big of a win as we wanted" yet he got to keep his business, get a settlement so much bigger than the offers to buy the business (which were only a fraction of the loan amount) and live happily ever after. There wasn't a better way to win.
One thing that I noticed as well, is that everything seems really convenient. Like there just happened to be loans available cheaply when he wanted to start a business, his uncle just happened to be a lawyer, etc.
Story 1 sounds super weird to me, the guy openly admitted to perjury about his lawsuits, he would have had to swear in that they were about libel, but he openly admitted it was about trying to cripple OP financially to force him to sell. All of which is highly illegal, how was that guy not having criminal prosecution against him immediately?
What is “discovery”? 11:07 in French une chicane is a fight, argument or scolding 11:25 if you believe it is right thing to do…. 16:50. Adam drivers in Star Wars?
"Discovery" is the part of a legal process where both sides gather as much evidence in regards to the situation as possible, and share it with each other so they can build their legal arguments as accurately as possible. Withholding info from discovery can get you in Mega Trouble, like hundreds of thousands in fines trouble, depending on the case
Story 2: From the way OP's mom was reacting to the abuse, it wouldn't surprise me if she was railing the ex. It would explain why the dad and siblings were on OP's side, but the mom wasn't.
There will be a case coming up in Las Vegas where a judge, and possibly former defense council will likely testify. A defendant jumped over the bench and attacked the judge.
That would be one hell of a lawsuit against the first guy. The judge and bailiff would be called as witnesses, as would the guy’s own lawyer - because, my guy, privilege neither applies to things said with witnesses nor does it apply to ongoing unlawful action. You can tell your lawyer that you’re guilty, and be protected - you can’t tell them your crimes are ongoing and be protected.
I remeber the alcohol story being read by rSlash years ago, and I think it was on a revenge sub, but him re-reading it on the Reddit Updates sub before reading the updates is way better than him just starting with the updates, because it's been between 1-4 years since he last read it
"you'll never get anyone half as good looking as Adam driver" Correct response: "You're right. I'll just have to settle for someone as ugly as you" Or "No shit. Why do you think I'm with you" Edited to add second option
First story: I have no doubt the guy got his two other stories by keep sue the people who owner it and he try the same thing with OP but thankful OP uncle had his back and I bet all my money the guy plan was just keep sue OP till OP run out of money and then offer him some money for less and buy his building and when he found out OP uncle have his back this dumbass said it out loud he sue OP till he run out of money in front of everyone include a judge and when the guy fired his manager who gave OP text message it was a wrap, people like him are bully they keep sue till you run out of money and in the end OP won
You mentioned the judge being a witness to the testimony, but now I'm wondering if there's an audio record or if there was a stenographer in the court room making a record of the proceedings. If the judge isn't enough of a slam dunk witness, that court record certainly would be.
Psychopaths bully disabled people as we speak. Now. In time&space, it's right here, at least in time. So can i ask you to have our back and show solidarity? Speak up against the bully?
I'm confused on several counts here. I made a legitimate observation about the existence of court record as a means of evidentiary support in a case against a vexatious litigant, a point of curiosity specifically regarding a bully using their position, wealth, and personal opinion of moral superiority against a small business owner. In what way does that present me as someone who wouldn't have the back of victims in cases similar to this? Even asking about the existence of such records carries the implication of speaking out against this bully behavior, so I'm at a loss again about how this is not me having someone's back against intimidating or strong-arming behavior. And how did my comment have anything to do with the initial argument you presented about psychopaths and individuals with disabilities? It's not just psychopaths targeting people with disabilities - even people who are otherwise well-meaning in their daily lives can present an argument that is perceived as ableist or discriminatory. That also doesn't address the additional fact that it's not just disabled people who are targeted - anyone who is part of a demographic that isn't culturally or sociologically seen as normative can be victimized by bullying and the concept of being 'less than'. On a final note, I should know a rather telling amount about ableist commentary and bullying of disabled people, given that I myself am disabled.
I feel like rslash should make long-form content and post it on weekends, i think people would flock more towards that type of content over this short-form stuff that may only have two stories and barely any commentary.
I'm Australian so I was confused by the 1st story cause our alcohol taxes are so high meaning that $15/6pack is not really out there. So I spent the story thinking this mans petty as starting a business over maybe a few buck extra.
16:19 ever since she started therapy she’s been cocky? You mean she developed a sense of self external from his approval? What a douchebag. He obviously was relying on her insecurity to maintain the security of the relationship.
2nd Story: "Be realistic" in a dream? Also, all your friends and family think you are overreacting because he essentially called you undesirable? My advice: GET NEW FRIENDS
I'm so glad OP from the 'managing emotions' story left.. My parents are hitting their 60s, and my dad constantly ignores my mom, or screams at her and says horrible things while looking at young models that are their grandkid's age right in front of her. Even saying 'you'll never look like this' when he looks like an effing rotten potato who does nothing but sit on the couch and watch cowboy movies. My mom cries a lot, she has no friends and he's always trying to get her to stay away from family too. He's decent at lovebombing when he feels like being nice, but it's not something to actually make things okay. That would have been OP's future...
I'm going through nearly the same exact thing!! I was in a car accident last year after the other driver ran a red light. While I was at the hospital, I was 2 months pregnant at the time, I could hear her right next to me talking about how she's going to claim everything hurts. Not only did this lady not have car insurance but she had no license, no seatbelt on, and there was no up to date registration. The sheriff and my car insurance found me not at fault and would not pay her squat. In the state of California, if you dont have car insurance you are not entitled to any compensation from either insurance company. She's trying to get $50,000. Now she's trying to sue me personally and we are still in the process of having it thrown out. She doesn't know I have a video of her running the light and she's lying to her lawyer about what happened.
I loved my ex for years, but when we broke up after 3 days he had decided to slash my car tires. Well just like op the second I saw it all those feelings evaporated. It's so funny how bad ex's blame the therapy.
Years ago, my oldest sister had a dream in which her long-time boyfriend deflowered a female relative. When she woke from the dream, she was very angry with her boyfriend. The relationship ended a few years later (unrelated to the dream). Some time later, sister got a new boyfriend. Again dreamed that he deflowered that same relative! She started to get mad at him, but before saying anything to him, she realized how irrational she was being.
Story 2: If insecurity was a smell, my nose would have disintegrated from this post. Like, it was just one dream, *ONE DREAM,* and this was how he reacted, even turned into a completely destructive manchild when OP broke up with him. As for the unsupportive friends and mom, shame on them
I see a lot of old banks become alcohol or cigar sales places. It's kind of interesting to think about XD imagine a dispensary bank that you just drive up and pull your order from the tube
Monopoly: No, they likely can't (or won't) call the judge. All they need is the court transcript. The official court record is evidence enough of his words.
Liquor story: I've heard this before but not the update. OP, I hope a part of the settlement was that this guy, his business and so on would no longer sue you. All things considered though, I consider making some anonymous phone calls from a burn phone to the state's liquor commission about his shady dealings on his local liquor board, from a far different area than where you live. Dream story: You're well rid of this man and those so-called friends. It would only have gotten worse had you continued with him.
Monopoly story - OP got lucky. I have proof that a lawyer committed inheritance theft and fraud, I turned them into the bar association, but they told me that they will call it “reasonable doubt”…. Lawyers are the slimiest.
For the first story I'm pretty sure if op wins the harassment he can file for a motion I can't remember the name of that basically only let's a case be filed against op without a judge looking over the guys evidence first
2nd story: He literally just told op "Your lucky I settled for you became your so ugly that nobody will actually get with you, even if you decide to leave me."
Second story: The second I heard the demeaning with the dream I knew that douche was abusive and when he said "the teraphy made you cocky and more demanding and took the chance to take you back to earth" is more like "since you started teraphy *my control over you was getting weak* amd I took the chance to *chain you back and force you on your hands and knees again beneeth me where you belong*"
Story 2: I never get stuff like that. The implication there is either that the GUY can’t do any better, or else he would have, or that he’s not that much of a catch to begin with, since he had to “settle for the ugly girl.”
I think it's incel talk. They think they "don't have to work as hard" to keep an "ugly girl". All very dehumanizing, but they prefer to frame it that way
Just before my now-husband and I got married I had a dream that I was dating a celebrity.
I woke up feeling so guilty about it and told him about it while apologizing.
He just laughed, said “why are you apologizing about a dream?”, gave me a kiss and cuddled up with me until it was time to get up.
He teased me about it a little, but when he saw that it really did upset me (no matter how irrational that was) he stopped and just reassured me that he knew that you don’t have control over your dreams and even if you did, who cares.
_That’s_ how OP’s fiancé should have reacted. He should have just laughed about it with her, then used it as an excuse to snuggle up in bed for a while. Or something like that.
He let his true colors show, and they are ugly and putrid. I’m so glad OP left. Negging behavior like that and trying to tear her down could easily escalate to more serious abusive behavior if she’d stayed.
He's a crab in a bucket dragging others down when they try to improve
See? _This_ is the correct response.
What was most telling to me was how he said that SHE wouldn't leave HIM, instead of him not leaving her (even though she's let herself go according to him). Because he's such a catch apparently lol
Whenever my wife or I dream of something like that we jokingly "demand" the other apologizes, but we just laugh about it and make jokey pouty faces to each other.
OPs fiance is off his rockers...
He's an insecure turd and she's better off without him.
He's jealous of her dreams. LOL
words cannot express the amount of relief i felt when the OP of the second story referred to her fiance as her ex.
Wow. Adam Driver indirectly saved a woman from marrying a complete narcissist.
can you imagine him finding out hes so tall and hot that he exposed a narcissist?
Go him, I guess
I did not like him in Girls. I liked him in some other movies. He seems like a nice man.
Judge, Bailiff, and the guy's lawyer: **Stares at the guy, in a "are you for real" face**
The guy: **Not realizing what he said** *"WHAT?!"*
"Congratulations, you played yourself."
How he managed to not get caught red-handed up until this point is a mystery
@@BadassHater1Ikr???
feels weird that the judge didnt have the bailiff immediately arrest him for what should be crimes... misuse of the courts, perjury (lying on sworn statements of why he is in a lawsuit) and so on.
@@mitchverr9330 the guy was connected in that town. Had probably given donations to charities associated with political associations. Essentially, he thought he was untouchable and got super brazen.
@@mitchverr9330I was thinking that too, since he said it out loud from his own mouth lol Maybe they needed someone to press charges, and instead OP sued him back. 🤷🏽♀️
Stories of corrupt people losing in the end are worth more than gold.
Every small town has them in spades.
First story, I was going to ask 'Is he trying to drain OP's money?' and he said it straight out. Good on OP's uncle for being there for him too because it quite literally paid out in the end for him but I was also really hoping that there was some news that the guy got booted from the council and lost his licenses. The dude's almost like a cartoon villain with how he tried to really OP's business
Right. There's no reason a person like that should stay on any kind of counsel! They have proved their character.
Small town politics are like that. My dad filed for a building permit variance because the garage would be too close to the property line. In the middle of the municipal meeting the brother of the mayor approached my dad with an offer to fix things for a price. Yes, bribing in the middle of borough council meeting. My dad rose up exclaiming his disgust over the bribery attempt and walked out of the meeting. Our contractor hearing what was going on decided to just pore the cement for the foundation. That garage is still in the same position 70 years later.
When I was hearing the first story I stated thinking about killdozer.
Yeah wish they didn’t settle but I of course get it. Seems like a slam dunk case. But ops right that there’s no idea if it would be more or less than what they got
@@drwboy07similar thoughts, though mine involved mixing gas with Styrofoam.
I have periodically mentioned to a friend, coworker, etc. that they might benefit from therapy. I have also learned to warn people:
>therapists don't 'fix us'.
-they help us figure out ways to fix ourselves
>It is a lot of work
-often painful, scary, difficult work
>it is likely that going to therapy will mean losing 'friends'
-often these are not real friends but those who benefit from our dysfunction by taking advantage of us
-some are/were real friends but whose own dysfunction no longer fits with our growing health
>there is often a time of the Terrifying Void
-we have lost 'friends'
-we no longer feel bad all the time, but now often feel nothing/empty
-often, we don't know what we need or want or how to fill that void
But, I let people know that I will still be their friends, and cheer on their progress; that they are worth the effort to heal; that usually losing old habits and toxic people means making room for a variety of emotions, happy new experiences, and people who will actively support us. It takes time and work, and it is difficult and scary, but it is ultimately worth the effort.
If you are thinking about taking this step then know that you are worth the effort.
Absolutely wonderful comment, thank you ❤
the part about dreaming about being with a random actor being rude because he's taller than her exbf? like what? It's a DREAM she's probably never even been in the same ROOM as that actor, she doesn't know how tall he is! Dreams are wonky as shit. For all he knows the dream actor was the exact same height as the exbf
Very bitchy behavior, it's the same if your girlfriend get mad if she had a dream of you cheating on her.
I've had that happen. I was with this chic that woke me up by hitting me repeatedly saying I cheated on her. When she finally calmed down she said she had a dream I was sleeping with a mutual friend. I told her to simply leave she kept pleading that it was 2am I repeatedly said I don't care. I told her that she is lucky my brother wasn't there because she would be leaving with bracelets. She gave me a fat lip, a bruise under my eye and a few bruises from body shots. She eventually left, the next morning the mutual friend calls me cussing me out asking me how dare I cheat on her friend. I stopped her mid sentence and asked "did she tell you who it was with? Because she had a dream that you and I were sleeping together. Is there something you want tell me because I don't remember this." She replied with she did it again. "Again, wtf you mean again." And hung up. After that I stopped hanging out with the mutual friends.
@@drwboy07 sorry you were dating crazy.
@@drwboy07hold on this has happened before
@@mauriciodiaz8315 apparently, both the mutual friend and the girl that set me up with her knew prior. The fd up part was they tried to defend her and told me I was being dramatic. The other guy in the group brought up the fact that she could've unalived me by hitting me, smothering me or she could've grabbed my knife. When they started to dismiss that I ended my friendship with that group at that moment.
First story: So glad it worked out, but let's not ignore the fact it only worked out as well as it did because OP happened to have a lawyer relative who was willing to work pro-bono. This was obviously not the first time the douchebag old guy used this dirty tactics to ruin someone, and likely before OP he's always been successful. The fact someone can sue you for about any reason and you'd likely have to spend money to defend yourself even if the root cause is completely frivolous is scary!
And here I thought all lawyer fees would always be covered by whoever lost the lawsuit. I'm sad to learn I was wrong.
I'm confused. I always thought the one filing the suit has to pay for all expenses if they accuse falsely.
@@augustaseptemberova5664 Hm. Maybe it's different if the case is dismissed, rather than brought to court? Disclaimer: I really don't know what I'm talking about.
@@Lopitra it depends*. Theres also the risk of losing at which point you pay your own, and the other guys lawyer fees (if you get spooked part way in or exhausted by it, you could be financially crippled and just give up to stop it getting worse). Some laywers will go on a "pay at the end" thing, others will want payment as you go along.
@@Lopitra Not in the US. That's been the rule in the UK forever, and the EU may follow suit (no pun intended.)
So glad she left him. If he's going to get that upset over a dream, what's he going to do with something more serious?? He sounds like the sort of guy who gets upset when he finds out he's having a girl instead of a boy and blames it on his pregnant partner.
The fact that the ex fiance got angry about her dream that, she was dating an actor, is hilariously stupid. I'm pretty sure a majority of people can't control what they are going to dream about.
This one woman dreamed her husband cheated on her and she got mad at him wanting him to apologize for her dream.
I recently dreamt I accidentally sent Greta Thunburg sexy pics when she replied to a "Car for sale" ad I had, and I wasn't able to delete the pics, and trying to apologize just made it worse.
Brains are weird.
@@animefan8591 ok don’t know what the point of you saying that was.
Both situations are equally stupid doesn’t matter what gender.
He shouldn’t have said what he said, he shouldn’t have reacted the way he did.
@@itzTeTeI think they were just sharing a similar story to show that it happens, my mom is like that
she could told him in the end "i had another dream where I date a 30 ft man" that could have being funny, but i'm glad that Op left him
In the last story I find it real hypocritical that the Ex-BF claimed op was cat-fishing as a younger woman on her birthday when it seems he had been cat-fishing her as an older man for their whole relationship, after all she said he was 23 but he must have added 20 years to his age based on his behaviour.
Do you understand the argument he was making? Because he lost me. She was going out with platonic friends, who are girls... I can't speak for everyone, but if someone's 20-30 years older than the rest of the friend group, nobody really bats an eye (with exceptions involving minors, obviously). Also, weren't these pre-existing friends? How in the world would catfishing even occur, even if it _had_ happened?
@@Wendy_O._KoopaI think that just further illustrates her ex's irrational behavior and how awful a person he is. He was grasping at straws to maintain his sense of power over her.
Story 1 : It’s pretty smart to open a business that offers a cheaper price for the good alcohol if all the stores have expensive when someone offers something cheaper, but still on a budget and still taste good they’re going to buy more often than the expensive one. It’s a pretty smart idea and now op is the only alcohol business
That's how the free market is supposed to work. The bad guys use the law and/or government to squash competition, thus manipulating the market. Contrary to decades of propaganda, those crooked greedy businessmen and their pet judges and politicians were the villains in Ayn Rand's books. Honest businessmen like OP were the protagonists.
Psychopaths bully disabled people as we speak. Now. In time&spac,e it's right here, at least in time. So can i ask you to have our back and show solidarity? Speak up against the bully? H-ck, maybe even report him?
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A star walks into a black hole but doesn't seen phased. The black hole then turns to the star and says, "I don't think you understand the gravity of this situation."
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Premium joke 🤣
Edit to add: Quasar-a sara 🤷🏻♀️😉
Nice one, I love space jokes.
@@Kati_P😂😂😂
I thought this was gonna be a lobotomy kaisen meme💀
About the second story: My first boyfriend would always joke about how I was ugly etc and even though we generally teased each other this kept going on for so long that it started to hurt. He was definitely very good-looking and even though at the time I lacked the relationship experience and confidence, I was doing quite well myself. Apart from that though I was always putting in extra effort on everything from my looks to my style. One time he made that joke again and I stopped and asked "do you really think I'm that ugly?" and he looked shocked and said "no, I'm just trying to mess with your head a bit, if you really were ugly I wouldn't be saying anything". He's been my ex for years now but I have heard men trying to "mess with women's heads" or "take them down a notch" so often since then. I know better now but it's still quite sad that some people can't be happy for or proud of their partners and have to bring them down to feel better.
First story: Guys lawyer is also a witness against him, so he needs a new lawyer.
As long as he retains the same lawyer the lawyer can not be forced to testify against him
@@leesills7800actually, he can; because he witnessed something in public (witnesses other than the lawyer), and you don’t have privilege for ongoing breaches.
Not only can the lawyer be compelled to testify, he can be disbarred for refusal. Attorney-client privilege isn’t absolute. Thing said with witnesses aren’t covered, and ongoing breaches of law (both criminal and civil) aren’t covered.m
Had the guy told the lawyer his intent in private, as in within the lawyer’s office, it still wouldn’t be covered.
Attorney-client privilege allows you to admit to past illegal acts, in order to enable the best possible defence, without the attorney being able to turn on you. It has to be past illegal acts. It can’t be current/ongoing, and it can’t be illegal acts planned for the future.
Story 2. What the fiance was extremely uncalled for. There was no reason to dish on her like that and I'm not sure why her mother and her friends all thought it was okay. I'm not sure if we are missing something? But there is absolutely no reason to tell somebody that their dream couldn't be a reality because of the way they look! That's some real life condescending. That's being mean in real life for no reason at all.
And the fact that he doubled down trying to almost prove to her that she didn't look nice was insane! Pack is he trying to get at here?! Just to crush her self-confidence? All he did was prove that he's a genuine jerk. My husband would never ever under any circumstances ever say that to me because it's only trying to hurt her.
I bet you anything the second OP's nasty ex would have ended up cheating on her after they were married if she hadn't dumped him and that he and her "friends" would have blamed her for it.
Oh that small town corruption. The man handing out licensing is potentially a business rival... no wonder there was no competition.
How to tell someone you are no longer attracted to them in the most a-holish way.
I think what he didn’t find attractive was her confidence and independence. He didn’t like her going to therapy because he knew he couldn’t get away with abusing her the way he wants to.
Dude fell down the rabbit hole of.... I'm blanking on the name, but that guy who got arrested in Romania(?) after getting into a Twitter spat with Greta Thunberg - and that guy related content creators.
Story 1: So this guy saw a competitor, believed that this was targeting him specifically, and decided to try to buy OP's store, followed by attempting to bully OP out of money when refused.
Yeah, that kind of narcissistic ego is only going to shove you downhill
And then comes the trial itself. Talk about stubborness
And fires the main person who has dirt on him. I had really hoped this guy lost his spots on the license committee and the board.
Is anti-competitive behaviour not illegal in the States?
@JamesDavy2009i believe it is, but it's also the United States.
@@sandwichqueen True-one of the most corrupt nations in the OECD.
@@JamesDavy2009 Lol, we're the least corrupt, try doing some actual research, you might learn some actual facts.
The fact that justice allows people to sue for whatever crazy reason they want, is insane.
Story 2: Hi, ive been married for 3 years and I can't even imagine being in a relationship like that story. At least once every couple of days my husband will say something about me being the best or being the most beautiful person in the world. I give that back to him as much as I can. Marriage is not about settling, it's about building each other up. I don't want him to doubt that he's the best person on this planet for me. That's how it should work. If OP's ex was less insecure, he would realize that and it wouldn't have ruined his relationship. No matter how many light-hearted jokes get thrown in your relationship, you never want to make your partner think that they are unattractive in any way. Even at 8 months pregnant, my husband is still calling me beautiful and sexy and that's only built me up throughout being pregnant. If any of you in the comments are getting married soon, or are in a committed relationship of some kind, take that to heart. There is a reason why these relationships tend to get stagnant over time. You have to keep working on the relationship and doing everything you can to make your partner feel worthy.
Story 2: imagine being emasculated over a dream and then acting half your age because your gf just learned she's worth more than your bullshit.
You lift your partner up, not put them down, the guy hooked her and then treated her like that, so is that who he is?
Wait. So dreaming about someone taller emasculated him? Oh, dear. Poor baby got his fee-fees hurt!
I have no idea why OP initially felt sad that "the man she loved wasn't there anymore". He was never there in the first place. The man OP knew and loved never existed. He was an act, a mask put on by OP's douchebag ex to hide what a spineless insecure narcissist he was. Don't lament the loss of your ex-fiance, OP, because he was just the mask worn by a monster.
A simple rule for any relationship: DO NOT ACCEPT DISRESPECT. EVER.
Know your worth. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, your worth being free for them and their toxicity.
My wife told me the other day about a steamy dream she had with Jason Momoa and I just laughed and asked if I can join in next time lol.
OP likes a buff Professor Snape in her dreams, and fiancé can't take it. Glitter bombs and cracking Star Wars DVDs as retaliation for calling off the wedding. LOL.
Honestly, the glitter is more a women's petty revenge. He is appropriating women's pettiness.
@@dudeorduuude5211He don't deserve to be included in our womenly pettiness. Lmfao
@@dudeorduuude5211 I now think of Mark Rober when I hear of glitter used in revenge. His glitter though is of the finest kind.
As if people control their dreams. Lol. Please tell me how to do that so I stop waking punching things due to mine getting violent and reenacting themselves.
I just woke up crying because of a nightmare of being sa'ed and murdered by a tall scary guy I worked with.
Bro, that first guy outed himself as a vexatious litigant TO A JUDGE
Unfortunately, his tactics would have worked had OP not had a pro bono attorney
Not only that, it is essentially illegal to frivolously sue someone multiple times. All you're doing is wasting the court's time, and if the case keeps getting dropped, then that just goes to show that there's nothing there. I'm not familiar enough to know everything that's being broken here, but safe to say that this definitely goes into the realm of things you could easily be sued for, and since he openly said everything, he's guaranteeing that he will lose, since he made it clear that this is specifically what he is trying to do. I'm sure that he will also be open to getting removed from the board for using his position to abuse power. I'm hoping this would result in not only a Nice. I'm out paid back to OP, plus him being stripped of his position, and him having to sell off his businesses. The last one would be the hardest part, but honestly with how he's been acting, there's a chance that OP could cross litigation against the board, for the actions of one of its members.
Story 2: this is emotional abusive control regardless of if he meant it as a joke or not what he said cannot be excused so maybe you should prove him wrong and leave. Also it's funny he calls you disrespectful yet is allowed to insult you in such a disgusting way.
Glad in the update you left that toxic butthole.
Last Story: So you're telling me that a 5'7" guy turned out to be super insecure with a Napoleon complex? Whaaaaat?
Man, OP has a lot of very conveniently employed family members for their specific needs
I wouldn't call 2 people a lot. I have an Uncle that works for a glass repair and window place and one of the local cops was both my soccer coach and DARE instructor when I was a kid. But by your logic it would be suspicious if someone broke one of my windows and both these people came to do their jobs.
Are all your family and friends just unemployed or something?
@@RiveroftheWither 3 people because of the family friend who banks but that's a good point, yeah
In a small town, relationships accumulate. In my grandmother’s town, I was related to the insurance man, the dept store owner, and the lawyer, and probably more I never met .
Story 1- They’d get in trouble for being “Vindictive”….after the guy blatantly sued you 5x and was hoping for you to be bankrupt you are DAMN RIGHT id be “Vindictive”.
Going to therapy and learning to set up boundaries and not let yourself be belittled and talked down to is “being cocky and more demanding”???
That’s a massive yikes from me dude! Sounds to me like he would’ve gotten more abusive had OP gone through with the marriage
And blamed her for whenever he cheats. That guy will never do better than her.
This subreddit is great for quality over quantity
And yet we get both
Story 2: F your old "friends" and your mom, what you described sounded like the early stage of mental abuse and they all ignored it because your friend just wanted to go to a party with free food and booze, and I don't even know what the heck's wrong with your mom. Thank God you found people that actually care about you and could see the obvious signs, as for your stuff if it's not worth it fine but I highly recommend taking pictures and suing his ass. But you know what's funny to me, he had a chance to backtrack but instead he doubled down with BS coins that only May the mad slip even more, enjoy your new single life with men who can see how valuable you are.
2nd story these emotions are easily managed. Remove the person causing them. You don't need a man who casually insults you like that. 'I'm grateful he chose to be with me' Girl, no.
Adam Driver is a badass. He was in the Marine Corps.
Semper Fi 🦅🌎⚓️
Bro what?? “It’s disrespectful to have a dream about a taller guy” is the funniest thing I have ever heard a man say
Story 1: Depending on the part of the midwest, a liquor store is a gold mine. Oh yeah, small towns in the midwest are rife with corrupted governments. Well, they aren't always smart about their corruption, which is why everyone seems to know, but no one with the power to do anything is willing to. The real shame is the corrupt guy(putting it youtube friendly) got away with it ultimately because his name wasn't revealed.
Story 2: After listening to the whole story I think they're kind of birds of a fealther, though she seems to be trying to be better. His jealousy was obvious with his reaction to her dream. They both seem to have based their relationship on looks, and to no surprise, it fell apart once they went a little bit deeper. I doubt he'll change, but hopefully OP learns not to judge people by their looks, nor confuse seeming attractive with a quality person.
My favorite thing about the dream story is that everyone is taller than OP's ex (5'7) and Adam Driver (6'2) is taller than everyone. Was going to make a joke about her only being allowed to have dream sex with hobbits, but Sean Astin is 5'6 1/2, so maybe I'm on the ex's side a bit?
Lol I’m a woman and 5’11” would she get in trouble if there are taller women in her dream? I mean, 5’7” isn’t too short but there are a lot of people taller so it would be hard to control that in a dream, even for lucid dreamers!
@@rebeccajesse4604 And I thought OP was a tall woman at 5'7 😵💫
@@adamabou-nasr1130 lol she is tall but there’s always someone taller and shorter!
The first story just casually dropped the *We're Getting Married* bomb and idk if rslash noticed.
Yes! I've been waiting for an update to the liquor store one for a while!
My dreams are ALWAYS weird. Like yesterday, I dreamt that I was watching Dudley Dursley, from Harry Potter, be tortured by a guy from Supernatural. And I always tell my bf, "I had a weird dream," and he'll say, "Clowns or midgets?" (Supernatural quote). I then tell him about the dream, and he'll usually say something along the lines of, "Huh. Weird," or, "Alright then." He never judges me for my weird dreams like OP #2's fiance because he knows I can't control them and that they just happen.
Last story...
You can only dream about Tom cruise and Peter Dinklage
I just ran to Google and found out that "pro bono" essentially means "it's on the house"
Haha! No, it means you like U2.
Story one. Accepting the settlement.
Good job, you did nothing to stop the corruption and you did nothing to stop his malicious acts against you.
There will be no record of the lawsuit beyond filed and settled out of court.
The severe corruption will continue unimpeded, unpunished, and it has spread to your local venue to boot.
Unless denying the settlement will cause your case to fail, never settle.
Hey, what's wrong with being only 5'7"???? I kind of like being short for a guy.
Nothing. Other than tall women may not date you because you are too tall to sling over their shoulder.
There is nothing wrong with it, it's his attitude and insecurities that lead him to act this way towards OP that are the problem.
@@dudeorduuude5211 my wife is taller than I am, heh. I've mostly dated people my height or taller. It never bothered me. There's too much stigma for guys about being short. So what if I can't reach the top kitchen cabinets without a foot stool, what gets stored there anyway?!?
I am so glad that the second OP gtfo'd. The future would not have been good with having the ex, the 'friends' that were more interested in a wedding than her well being, and a Mom who thought that behavior was excusable. If she had stayed I have no doubts she would have suffered an abusive relationship with those people. Remember to always value yourself, because in this world there are some people who will take advantage of you.
We must've dated the same guy because my ex hated the idea of celebrity crushes and has hit me over the fact I've had a dream where I met mine. He apparently has never had a "celebrity crush" and the fact I had a dream about one meant that I was gonna leave him cus it was wrong to find celebrities attractive.
Anyways, my current bf is a total sweetheart and doesn't care about that type of stuff, he thinks it's adorable. He knows me celeb crushes and "fantasies" (which we all know that stuff never happens) and I know about his too.
Good on her for leaving him. I hope she finds someone better who values her and also doesn't care that celebrity crushes are no big deal.
The second story. I'm sure that guy is and will be happy with Pamala Handerson.
😂
14:16 ehh I don’t see the appeal
14:25 ironic. The friends of my closest circle are the ones that are the most levelheaded and unbiased. Which is the reason why we are the closest
17:16 could you elaborate on that?
17:28 I didn’t think that at all, because yeah it would lower her self-esteem, but it wouldn’t make her want him more. It would make her want someone else.
There's a county in Kentucky USA where, in order to start a new business, or provide services as an existing business from outside the county, you have to get permission from every other business in your field in that county. I wish that was a joke.
Lawyer TH-camr Steve Lehto did a couple of episodes on that- original dispute was about a private ambulance service being allowed to operate in that county.
So in the lawsuits story, it's sweet that OP's partner started off as GF, and was now getting called fiancee
If I ever told my partner that I dreamt of a taller guy (actor or not) my partner would just ask details. My partner and I are both 5’2. OP dodged a bullet with this man child and it’s great that she still has some support around her that values her
The ex in the last story is a peach. A rotten moldy peach.
A few notes on Adam Driver: He's 40 years old, 6'2" and his wife of over a decade is Joanne Tucker. It's really irrelevant, but it seems certain that he wouldn't be interested in OP. Hope it doesn't ruin her dreams. Now she's free to find someone better... maybe taller.
Fairly certain that the first story is a lie. He said he was writing the title of his post as his uncle called him, then after the call in his post he explains what happened over the course of the next 2 months. The assumption here being that he hung up and continued making the post he had started. Either he just stopped writing the title and didn't get back around to actually making the post for another 2 months after that phone call or he's full of it. Or he can see the future and just wrote what was going to happen since he already knew.
The way it's worded though it sounds like he had sat down to write then got a call from his uncle then continued writing the post. Maybe he really can see the future and just knew what the next few months would look like. It's also interesting how these court proceedings went on for about a month each but the only details we have is; the defendant that is listed, that his uncle represented him, and that the cases were dismissed, the 2nd case being the same exact suit with the same assertion, yet it somehow took a week longer. There was precedent at that point to end it quickly or not accept the case at all and turn the man away. Why is there no details of these proceedings? You'd think something interesting was said or happened, not even a single comment about something that was claimed in an entire month long proceeding.
This isn't even mentioning the supposed other multitude of times he was sued, by the same guy with the same judge presiding. No judge would let the same case go to court this many times. There is too much precedent to prove the man suing doesn't have a case. Frankly it's just a little too obvious of the little guy small business owner overcoming the power of this seasoned business owner with connections. The situation with his previous job is also just nonsensical in how he quit and became his own boss.
Side note: The assertion that his business is a success is contradicted by the fact its run by 2 employees who have yo overwork themselves. A $4000 profit is a good paycheck but that money needs to be used for the business as well as loans and bills and expenses, seeing as this is their only source of income $4000 isn't a lot of money for two people with that much debt, in fact its less than two people would make on minimum wage in my state.
We also hear nothing about his girlfriend through all of this, she's mentioned once so he can pretend someone called her a slur and so that he can mention she is an Asian American and that they both work a ton of hours. This means she either also quit a job or didn't have one to begin with. It's also funny that he says he kicks people out if they're rude, yet when someone calls his gf a slur he just charges them more? Shes also suddenly his fisnce at the end with a wedding quickly approaching which is interesting, technically since it had been months this is feasible, still though, to propose and plan a wedding and then have it be drawing near seems like a stretch.
"Idk who told him we were suing him" yall did, at the last court case.
Finally he ends with "it wasn't as big of a win as we wanted" yet he got to keep his business, get a settlement so much bigger than the offers to buy the business (which were only a fraction of the loan amount) and live happily ever after. There wasn't a better way to win.
One thing that I noticed as well, is that everything seems really convenient. Like there just happened to be loans available cheaply when he wanted to start a business, his uncle just happened to be a lawyer, etc.
@vange1687 lol not just any lawyer either, a super lawyer basically. On the bar in 3 states and willing to do 5 cases for free
@@emberriahla2067 Hmmm yes, super realistic lol
Woah this is a first for me; I’m never this early lol. But this is a good way to start my morning
Omg, Adam driver? He isn't good looking at all. I'm sure she CAN do better than the fiance and her her dream man.
Story 1 sounds super weird to me, the guy openly admitted to perjury about his lawsuits, he would have had to swear in that they were about libel, but he openly admitted it was about trying to cripple OP financially to force him to sell. All of which is highly illegal, how was that guy not having criminal prosecution against him immediately?
What is “discovery”?
11:07 in French une chicane is a fight, argument or scolding
11:25 if you believe it is right thing to do….
16:50. Adam drivers in Star Wars?
"Discovery" is the part of a legal process where both sides gather as much evidence in regards to the situation as possible, and share it with each other so they can build their legal arguments as accurately as possible. Withholding info from discovery can get you in Mega Trouble, like hundreds of thousands in fines trouble, depending on the case
@@twistysunshine yeah I was gonna say he didn’t do that, and yeah he didn’t get in trouble for that specifically
Story 2: From the way OP's mom was reacting to the abuse, it wouldn't surprise me if she was railing the ex. It would explain why the dad and siblings were on OP's side, but the mom wasn't.
There will be a case coming up in Las Vegas where a judge, and possibly former defense council will likely testify. A defendant jumped over the bench and attacked the judge.
Love rslash making my afternoon!
He's making my morning lol
@@FlynMaker7me too
That would be one hell of a lawsuit against the first guy. The judge and bailiff would be called as witnesses, as would the guy’s own lawyer - because, my guy, privilege neither applies to things said with witnesses nor does it apply to ongoing unlawful action. You can tell your lawyer that you’re guilty, and be protected - you can’t tell them your crimes are ongoing and be protected.
I remeber the alcohol story being read by rSlash years ago, and I think it was on a revenge sub, but him re-reading it on the Reddit Updates sub before reading the updates is way better than him just starting with the updates, because it's been between 1-4 years since he last read it
Morning rslash fans
Morning!!!!
afternoon!! (it’s 2pm where i live!!)
Good morning
Top of the mornin’
Good morning ☀️
"you'll never get anyone half as good looking as Adam driver"
Correct response:
"You're right. I'll just have to settle for someone as ugly as you"
Or
"No shit. Why do you think I'm with you"
Edited to add second option
First story: I have no doubt the guy got his two other stories by keep sue the people who owner it and he try the same thing with OP but thankful OP uncle had his back and I bet all my money the guy plan was just keep sue OP till OP run out of money and then offer him some money for less and buy his building and when he found out OP uncle have his back this dumbass said it out loud he sue OP till he run out of money in front of everyone include a judge and when the guy fired his manager who gave OP text message it was a wrap, people like him are bully they keep sue till you run out of money and in the end OP won
You mentioned the judge being a witness to the testimony, but now I'm wondering if there's an audio record or if there was a stenographer in the court room making a record of the proceedings. If the judge isn't enough of a slam dunk witness, that court record certainly would be.
Psychopaths bully disabled people as we speak. Now. In time&space, it's right here, at least in time. So can i ask you to have our back and show solidarity? Speak up against the bully?
I'm confused on several counts here. I made a legitimate observation about the existence of court record as a means of evidentiary support in a case against a vexatious litigant, a point of curiosity specifically regarding a bully using their position, wealth, and personal opinion of moral superiority against a small business owner. In what way does that present me as someone who wouldn't have the back of victims in cases similar to this? Even asking about the existence of such records carries the implication of speaking out against this bully behavior, so I'm at a loss again about how this is not me having someone's back against intimidating or strong-arming behavior.
And how did my comment have anything to do with the initial argument you presented about psychopaths and individuals with disabilities? It's not just psychopaths targeting people with disabilities - even people who are otherwise well-meaning in their daily lives can present an argument that is perceived as ableist or discriminatory. That also doesn't address the additional fact that it's not just disabled people who are targeted - anyone who is part of a demographic that isn't culturally or sociologically seen as normative can be victimized by bullying and the concept of being 'less than'.
On a final note, I should know a rather telling amount about ableist commentary and bullying of disabled people, given that I myself am disabled.
How can he be vindictive if he's not the one who filed five frivolous lawsuits? Tax his azz!!
I feel like rslash should make long-form content and post it on weekends, i think people would flock more towards that type of content over this short-form stuff that may only have two stories and barely any commentary.
I'm Australian so I was confused by the 1st story cause our alcohol taxes are so high meaning that $15/6pack is not really out there. So I spent the story thinking this mans petty as starting a business over maybe a few buck extra.
One of my friends is from the Midwestern part of the US. As he puts it, alcohol is cheaper than milk and he comes from a dairy state.
16:19 ever since she started therapy she’s been cocky? You mean she developed a sense of self external from his approval? What a douchebag. He obviously was relying on her insecurity to maintain the security of the relationship.
2nd Story: "Be realistic" in a dream? Also, all your friends and family think you are overreacting because he essentially called you undesirable?
My advice: GET NEW FRIENDS
I'm so glad OP from the 'managing emotions' story left.. My parents are hitting their 60s, and my dad constantly ignores my mom, or screams at her and says horrible things while looking at young models that are their grandkid's age right in front of her. Even saying 'you'll never look like this' when he looks like an effing rotten potato who does nothing but sit on the couch and watch cowboy movies. My mom cries a lot, she has no friends and he's always trying to get her to stay away from family too. He's decent at lovebombing when he feels like being nice, but it's not something to actually make things okay. That would have been OP's future...
Fiance (jerk) story: He gaslighted her, She was smart to leave his sorry backside. May she go on to find a man who truly values her for her!
I'm going through nearly the same exact thing!! I was in a car accident last year after the other driver ran a red light. While I was at the hospital, I was 2 months pregnant at the time, I could hear her right next to me talking about how she's going to claim everything hurts. Not only did this lady not have car insurance but she had no license, no seatbelt on, and there was no up to date registration. The sheriff and my car insurance found me not at fault and would not pay her squat. In the state of California, if you dont have car insurance you are not entitled to any compensation from either insurance company. She's trying to get $50,000. Now she's trying to sue me personally and we are still in the process of having it thrown out. She doesn't know I have a video of her running the light and she's lying to her lawyer about what happened.
I loved my ex for years, but when we broke up after 3 days he had decided to slash my car tires. Well just like op the second I saw it all those feelings evaporated. It's so funny how bad ex's blame the therapy.
That last OP needs to go to a convention where Adam Driver is a guest and get a picture taken with him and send it to her ex
Doesn't everyone have dreams of being with Adam Driver? Frankly, if someone didn't have dreams of being with Adam Driver I'd see that as a red flag.
Years ago, my oldest sister had a dream in which her long-time boyfriend deflowered a female relative. When she woke from the dream, she was very angry with her boyfriend. The relationship ended a few years later (unrelated to the dream). Some time later, sister got a new boyfriend. Again dreamed that he deflowered that same relative! She started to get mad at him, but before saying anything to him, she realized how irrational she was being.
Story 2: If insecurity was a smell, my nose would have disintegrated from this post. Like, it was just one dream, *ONE DREAM,* and this was how he reacted, even turned into a completely destructive manchild when OP broke up with him.
As for the unsupportive friends and mom, shame on them
The most surprising and confusing thing about the last story is people thinking Adam Driver is attractive. 😅😆
Shout out to the uncle in the liquor store story. I'd sue just to make sure my uncle gets paid
I see a lot of old banks become alcohol or cigar sales places. It's kind of interesting to think about XD imagine a dispensary bank that you just drive up and pull your order from the tube
My old bank is becoming a Dunkin’ Donut. Another local one is now Popeye’s and a third is Bojangles.
Monopoly: No, they likely can't (or won't) call the judge. All they need is the court transcript. The official court record is evidence enough of his words.
Liquor story: I've heard this before but not the update. OP, I hope a part of the settlement was that this guy, his business and so on would no longer sue you. All things considered though, I consider making some anonymous phone calls from a burn phone to the state's liquor commission about his shady dealings on his local liquor board, from a far different area than where you live.
Dream story: You're well rid of this man and those so-called friends. It would only have gotten worse had you continued with him.
Monopoly story - OP got lucky.
I have proof that a lawyer committed inheritance theft and fraud, I turned them into the bar association, but they told me that they will call it “reasonable doubt”….
Lawyers are the slimiest.
For the first story I'm pretty sure if op wins the harassment he can file for a motion I can't remember the name of that basically only let's a case be filed against op without a judge looking over the guys evidence first
BF doesn't regard you as attractive, he's gonna cheat.
2nd story: He literally just told op "Your lucky I settled for you became your so ugly that nobody will actually get with you, even if you decide to leave me."
Judges can absolutely be called to testify.
Second story: The second I heard the demeaning with the dream I knew that douche was abusive and when he said "the teraphy made you cocky and more demanding and took the chance to take you back to earth" is more like "since you started teraphy *my control over you was getting weak* amd I took the chance to *chain you back and force you on your hands and knees again beneeth me where you belong*"
I think OP should run a 10% sale on his entire inventory to celebrate his business being paid off entirely 😂
Story 2: I never get stuff like that. The implication there is either that the GUY can’t do any better, or else he would have, or that he’s not that much of a catch to begin with, since he had to “settle for the ugly girl.”
I think it's incel talk. They think they "don't have to work as hard" to keep an "ugly girl". All very dehumanizing, but they prefer to frame it that way