instagram is embarassing (khloe kardashian, make IG casual, and more)
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I'm in highschool and I've found that a lot of my girl friends understand that instagram is fake and they're moving towards body positivity. BUT the issue weirdly seems to be centered around the fact that it isn't the girls who follow the IG influencers but it's the guys. so there's this weird vibe that the girls are trying to ditch this beauty standard but all these boys are still hanging on to these photoshopped versions of what women are supposed to look like. I wish it didn't cause so much insecurity (because I'm trying to ditch that internal male gaze) but it's kind of interesting to be aware of.
yes ive noticed this! i suppose men dont feel the need to move towards body positivity because they feel less affected by it? idk
@@bella8351 yeah that makes sense! i definitely think it's way easier to be the one observing the beauty rather than the one trying to achieve it
Boys and men are either just very behind in seeing how fake Instagram is, or they know but seem to not react - it’s like they feel they’ll be emasculated if they show they care as caring is too feminine? My brother is really into fitness and will constantly tell me that most of the big (male) fitness influencers are on steroids and obviously all muscle pictures are posed and edited. That being said, he still finds pressure to match up to this kind of physique despite knowing it’s not real. I saw a tiktok where a girl pointed out that GymSharks Instagram page had all these realistic body pictures of female athletes to celebrate “real” bodies, but all the photos of male athletes were ultra posed/tensed shots to make them look lean af. She had positive reactions from most girls but she got SO much hate from boys in the comments calling her horrible things and saying they “weren’t as weak” as the girls and didn’t “cry” about their appearance. Basically, they told her to fuck off, mind her own business and not to speak for or help them. A man then did the same video and all these men were commenting saying they agreed and there was too much pressure on them, I sat there like 🤨
I feel like they’re coming to a realisation about the fakery of social media but it’s just taking them much longer to get there.
The problem is, is that they seem to be REALLY bad at telling what’s fake and what isn’t, so they’ll follow girls they think are natural when in reality they aren’t. Us girls know this because we know the tricks of the trade through “outing” pages like Beauty False or surgery before and after comparison photos and even influencers posts outing themselves to highlight internet vs reality! But the boys don’t, they haven’t seen this content because the algorithm doesn’t show it to them and also hardly any male influencers they would follow produce similar content either. As a result, the girls in their everyday life are subconsciously held to these online caricatures and thus the cycle continues...
I think things will change, but it’s not going to happen quickly.
Yes, I live in Germany and I feel the same way. I just talked about this with a girl friend the other day and we think it also has a lot to do with porn
it's so weird coz they're obsessed with these girls but will sit there and comment 'plastic' or 'fake' under their pictures
Recognizing the fact that you're not that important to most people you meet is refreshing and disconcerting at the same time.
Yes, yes it is LOL😂
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If I won’t see you again in my life why will I care about you?
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I really overthink even posting on the close friends story as if I didn't handpick those people myself, it's insane
Righttttt
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Yes omg when I post a picture I feel like I'm gonna have a panic attack lol
I like how the lighting looks like the Instagram app cover.
Yesssss
I always think that too
Factssss
EXACTLY. it's also so frustrating because.. she has a show called "revenge body" that evolves around helping people with their body image, emotionally and physically through exercise, mental support, etc....but like... how can she be promoting this when she herself and her WHOLE family have gotten rid of their insecurities through surgeries...like.... i feel like at this point she just profited from selling this idea of "body positivity" which is just.....frustrating.
!!!!!!
Yes, Khloe and the whole family did. I do not understand why she made a show on "changing your body for the good," yet her body is not natural. Okay, maybe if she did a little work here and there, but most of her body is done (surgically/botox)😐
But thats the gag, her show isnt healthy. 1) it profits off the diet industry and fatphobia. 2) she literally endorses changing yourself for other people/the attention of others. 3) what mental support bc she doesnt touch on improving relationships with food and exercise, doesnt set these people up with therapy, etc. Khloe is someone who assimilated. She didnt work on her mental health/insecurities, she made them worse.
also the connotations of revenge in "revenge body"; a cry for help bottom line
@@juliaostlund9360 yesss like its no longer about you and your body but instead its about others and what they think of you/your body/ your image as a whole
i deleted instagram 4 years ago. life of a non desperate ghost is chefs kiss for me
I went through a detox for a whole year and now I can use it without it affecting my mental health. I barely follow anyone and only use it for fashion and hobbies. Social media can be a great tool. We've just normalized abusing it
It’s been so freeing!! I love it!
I deleted it when I found out some of my friends said they were busy and they decided to eat dinner somewhere without me to only post it like I can not see. I felt pain every time I see people with their friends on Instagram after that. So I had to delete it for the sake of my mentality.
@@mel2ne118 good job💗
@@lnnttr I am happier and more relaxed ever since 💗
I think the beautifying filters on insta are just bad for people’s self esteem. I used to love using them when I was younger because it made me look like the perfect version of myself. But over time I felt the need to always use a filter whenever I took a photo because I felt super ugly without it. Now I’ve stopped using them and I feel much more confident about my appearance. Sorry for the rant I just wanted to comment something to support Madisyn lmao
Thank you for sharing ❤️
Yepp I can relate
I noticed how weird I was starting to feel when using filters so I spent a year trying to practice taking normal selfies and accepting my natural appearance... it worked and now I feel a lot more comfortable with the way I look. I just hate the fact that social media makes people feel like that overtime
Exactly i can't take pictures without them anymore
Yes, I stopped using a lot of the instagram story filters. As dumb as it sounds, they made me feel bad about myself. I wish people would start appreciating their unique beauty and features, not knocking anyone, but a lot of these insta girls really do look the same.
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Exact thought lol
Im from Argentina (South America) and tbh the Kardashians here are a laughing stock, no one takes them seriously. People know they use photoshop and think they look like barbies in their photos, no one likes them really. Here it's badly seen to use photoshop in your photos, people will judge you because you are contributing to this unrealistic beauty standard.
omg it's so weird seeing someone from here, i think people also dont like them because they arent the standard, i feel like with older women there isnt any standard but for young women, if you arent skinny people wont like you, i know because of my experiences, which is sad but then again, its Argentina,,,,,
@@lourdesamorena7194 for older women the standard is to look as young as possible or they’ll be disregarded
Same here in Germany. Not sure how the situation is in high school though as I'm in university already. But nobody takes them seriously/looks up to them/admires them here in my age range and circle of acquaintances. People are also well aware of the problems that being as rich as these people are causes other people (the ones at the bottom of the food chain aka the poor. Making them more poor or even homeless) in a capitalist society. Hence why people like Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates and also the Kardashians are not well liked here. They're shitty people for accepting the effects they have on society at large just to... I mean idk? Why are they accepting it? To wear ugly, overpriced, unethically produced clothes and own mansions so big, they spent 95% of their time in them on just 5% of the area? From a moral perspective, these people straight-up disgust me ngl.
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Same in england lol
Instagram increases body dysmorphia and gives you insecurities you never had. Apparently I have hip dips and that's bad or something? If never heard of them before 🙄
That's so dumb. Hip dips are so normal - I have them, too. It's shocking how these IG women will seriously tell their impressionable audience that natural feminine features are somehow bad!
and now they're making insecurities on ankles, LITERALLY ANKLES, LIKE DO YALL NOT HAVE ANYTHING ELSE TO DO?!
FRR cuz i knew this girl who was slim thick and had hip dips she’s so pretty with them idk how people don’t like hip dips
FOREEAL I WAS LIKE WHAT IS THAT???🥴
What's that?
as a german living in the uk, the kardashians might not be as influential in europe but many europeans (for some weird reason) want to be american and see the u.s. as the ideal and that also kind of includes the beauty standards
edit: yes many of us make fun of the US and obviously nobody aspires to be like them politics wise HOWEVER we consume huge amounts of american media, especially in movies and social media which leads to us subconsciously adapting to those ideals
I love football so I wish I lived in Europe lmao😭
I mean the only "football" we have here is just egghand
right? i noticed recently were literally under american propaganda 😭 i thought the us and canada were the dream perfect aesthetic abundant life until i got on american social media and found out its not all that perfect
LMAO i've wanted to move away from the US to somewhere in europe for the longest time
this is exactly how it is in the middle east too its so wild
lmao at our school (I'm German) everybody's making fun of the US... it's probably different, depending on your surroundings idk
You said it, it’s becoming like something from dystopian black mirror universe. Honestly it’s giving me vibes from the social media black mirror episode where social currency determines how privileged you are in society.
Yo that was such a good episode!!! 😩
Yes!
which episode is it??
nosedive was a good one
she said it and then followed up with “if you don’t have instagram YOU DONT EXIST?” what kind of a world are we living in? why do i need to have instagram to make friends or meet people when i could do that in real life??
Hot take: A lot of girls don't actually like giving out their number so they'll opt for getting their instagram. And for the take on DM-ing a girl only when they post is not always because they forget you exist, but also because it's a lot easier to make conversation when something relevant or recent pops up. It's not always a wise approach to cold DM out of the blue. But if you're just friends, That rule goes out the window
yeah i agree. not gonna give me number to randoms on the street
i feel like snapchat's replaced that now, and it's basically a second phone number
@@mrlean5078 who uses Snapchat in 2021
@@qiarnab pretty much every middle schooler/high schooler in america
Late reply but tbh the solution is to give the girl your number. Or ask "can i give you my number?" If she's interested, she'll text you.
“THEY BE LOOKING LIKE POLAR EXPRESS CHARACTERS” 💀✋
The “Instagram” look people get done may look nice in photos but it is terrifying in person or non edited photos/ videos. Humans are not meant to look like that.
I’ve yet to see someone with ‘Instagram face’ in real life. Not sure if I’d want to lol
I live in Sydney (AUS) and you see it quite a lot...It *never* looks good. Ever. I don't understand why women try to change their faces just so they can more effectively photo-shop them online? Like...WHAT?
Personally I think it looks bad in photos too but eh
Literally, it always looks awful to me
Even in the videos these people post. I unfollowed someone because of the way they looked in their videos was so jarringly unnatural. But their photos always looked great.
the kardashians enjoy people talking about them. they always doing something to keep up buzz about this. they're frustrating. and omg i miss 2014/2015 instagram it was so casual and more fun.
Welcome to the pirate ship, you are not my first mate 😚
I only had Instagram in 2013, and it was so...random and chill.
@@madamebkrt Word! 🙌🏽
remembering when it was socially acceptable to have adventure time role-play parties under a photo in the comments 💀
i love coming across accounts that haven't been used in a long time😭 and all the trends. like why tf were we obsessed with mustaches...
I ordered a sticker that says "social media seriously harms your mental health" and put it on everything that can access social media (computer, phone...). Its a great reality check and I've noticed an improvement with how I'm feeling while on instagram and tiktok. It reminds me of surgeon general warnings on cigarette packs. Anyway, just wanted to throw this out there in case anyone else thinks it might help them. Having the anchored reminder really does help a lot.
Thanks! I might think about using this
Omg I did that with a post it note and now my only social media is TH-cam, and I feel so much better and freer.
Everyone read Ten Arguments for deleting your social media accounts if you wanna know how our brains are being trained. Companies know it's harmful and dont care
If you need a daily reminder/reality check after using Instagram or any other social media, literally just delete it? Why go through those lengths just to post a picture and like random strangers or that one hs buddy’s drink order? Weird mental torture culture.
thats a nice idea!
They're mad about a standard they've created smh
FACTS
i agree i agree i agree (also you’re rlly pretty 🤭)
If the Kardashians stopped doing the perfectionist shit; There'll be a new huge crazy-perfectionist influencers taking their place and people would flock to follow them instead.
The problem isn't the Kardashians alone, it's us people too.
Studies have shown people get dopamine from looking at attractive people.
I'm not American, and my sister really likes Kylie Jenner, and I see all the insecurities she suffers from because of following the Kardashians.
Exactly
It’s like they enforced them, but people keep them going.
@@thecoolest5813 yep, true
Yup! Mediocrity will never sell.
I'm an older millennial and I feel like millennials care sooo much more about appearing perfectly on IG than gen z does...like so many ppl I know irl are such a hot mess but you'd never know it by looking at their IG feed lol
Thissss 😩 an illusion
Agree and disagree. I think there's still a lot of work that goes into the "authenticity" or laid back aesthetic that a lot of 'gen z' put forward. But it definitely differs from the glossy, put together Millenial instagram aesthetic.
@@sofiamunera705 You're right..maybe it's not so much that gen z cares less about social media, they just try harder to appear casual while millennials look like they put a lot of effort into their posts. Both groups try too hard, but gen z appears effortless.
In some ways I think gen z is worse. At least by looking at a millennial's photos you know it's polished. Gen z is just as fake but it's harder to see.
i feel like millennials started the "ig aesthetic" and gen z is trying to be the curated casual look with ironic memes instead but they're both still trying
Dude I’ve wanted to say this for AGES!!!! Instagram made me hella insecure when I used to use it. Even though I wasn’t trying that hard to look pretty on my page, my discover page would give me a whole grocery list of new insecurities EVERY DAY. It was brutal. :(
Yes! Now I am litteraly insecure about my stretchmarks eventhough before social media I didnt know they existed
Same, I can’t explain cuz I speak Spanish but yes.... they are so many girl and perfects women, and I even Ugly but ...... is like that.
Wow, I know I deleted social media for a year and it made me so irrelevant irl.. ppl would always look at me crazy.. such a sad place we’re in smh 🤦🏿♀️
Facts
ahhh me too💀 istg no one gives a fuck about me bc I don't have instagram so I can't be someone they can hang out with to seem cooler since I don't have a cool ig lmao
It's seriously so depressing to think about...
What? Is social media THAT important where you guys live? Because, where I'm from (Portugal) it's not that big of a deal, to the point that there aren't any actual "influencers" and that there are A LOT of people that either *don't have social media or that don't post anything there* and just use it to follow the news or something of the sort.
Social media here is mostly to talk to the friends you've made in real life and to follow events/ shows/ companies/ news/ celebrities. Instagram specifically also has the added function of a public sort of photo album. Though people tend to curate what they post, and there are some who will take 100 pictures before posting one, they do not usually photoshop their face or their body - filters, as in colour grading, are common, however.
That's how I see it, at least in my age range (I'm an university student, so it might be different for teenagers).
I hate living in this decade
tbh posting pics of yourself so people online can look at you in their free time is weird. Its borderline weird even among friends, but its been extremely normalised. I dont post shit on ig but after hearing you talk about it, I can understand the mentality of people posting all the time.
I feel the same. I don't think you can live in the moment when your trying to capture it, with the intention of showing it to the world. I don't have instagram, and I think if it's making people this unhappy they should just delete it. No one's going to care anyway, people will find someone new to follow and nobody's life is affected by a stranger's pictures, even if they think it is.
I’ve never thought of it like that. It’s weird.
I see my Instagram account as more of an album or scrapbook to appreciate my life, friends, and events. Yeah in reality everyone just looks at it, but I want people to take away a chunk of the person I am from my insta. I’ve also made friends through Instagram so there’s that.
People do it to feed their EGO.
@@obesewhale1899 yesyes ! honestly i get slightly annoyed when i’m having fun with my friends and they start getting caught up in taking a picture for their instagram story, kinda ruins the moment,, and who cares about us anyways
I totally agree what you said about the whole "make instagram casual" hype that's happening rn. People only care about your casual instagram if you can uphold a certain aesthetic. It's usually that rich white girl "casual" aesthetic too. Photo dumps are interesting too because yeah it's just a bunch of photos that are on your camera roll but they usually are like aestheticlly pleasing out takes you know?
i don't have an instagram, and i'm pretty much off the grid b/c of it. i don't like taking photos to share with others, only to keep to my self. it's pretty lonely but i just hate instagram culture too much to join again any time soon.
I also don’t use Instagram but I’ve found that I only like socializing with my close friends/boyfriend and also random people I meet at parties, or friends of friends, that’s always enough for me. Plus I also enjoy being alone like half the time. I think it just depends on how okay you feel being by yourself or with only a few people in your life consistently, it’s okay to not socialize with lots of people !
You're not alone. I deleted mine almost 6 months ago. It's swell out here haha
I've never had any social media except for pinterest and I'm completely ok with it honestly, every option for social media apps seems too toxic and I'd rather not associate with that
take ur time hun ! i get uuuu so deep
I didn’t think I saw the photo of Khloe because when I searched it up I said- well that can’t possibly be it because that’s a good photo. I was shook when I realized that was the photo. I can’t even comprehend that.
Omg same
I feel like one reason Instagram got less exciting is because the pandemic put life as we knew it on hold. we like sharing our unique and positive moments, but there are much less of those when everyone is dealing with the effects of the same issue
I agree 😩
That's a really good point, I never thought of it that way.
It's a combination of that and when they took out the "following" tab smh
I stopped using Instagram when I was probably about 15. I also stopped using tiktok about 4 months ago because seeing all these seemingly perfect women was so damaging to my mental health. I’m naturally skinny and petite but even the skinny girls on tiktok would make me feel like I wasn’t skinny enough, or my my stomach wasn’t flat enough. Dangerous territory. Since I’ve stopped using those apps and I’ve researched into just how fake most social media is, I feel SO much better about myself.
YES! like i havent posted on instagram for a while because i feel so pressured to be cool and have good fashion when i literally do nothing all day
Right 🥴
me except i don’t post on insta at all but i feel pressured to when i just don’t want to
Fuckin me too
Lol I never even know what to post... 😂 so I barley ever post. & I don’t want my page to me just pictures of myself. Like if I traveled for a living then I would be more enticing to post nature. But yeah I make one post every like 4 months 😂😂😂
@@lnnttr yesss I feel this in my soul
when she said “when you don’t have instagram, you DO NOT exist” it hit…. really hard….
fr, i kept deleting my ig cuz it always felt toxic but then I automatically wasn't in contact with anyone. And then I made finstas just for talking to ppl which automatically became my instas but deleted them again and again ... it's just ... *ugh* . But then I finally created like an artsy ig page with an artistic name, following pages I like and it became much more comfy to be on this platform.
i guess so, but if you give no shits it’s great.
It's actually really calming that way.. you would still have a bunch of close friends and your family that like you for you and I think that's enough. Atleast for me.
The FILTERS are so accurate, majority of the filters haves a lip filler like there's nothing wrong with having big lips but why??? Or that making the eyes big and the face "skinny" and "toned" like calm down.
Pinterest kinda is the same I always have to remind myself that these model people represent a minority and no one in my life looks like that
I FELT the story embarrassment. There’s been so many times when I was deeply embarrassed (when I had no reason to be) for posting something, but I started forcing myself to do it more and keep things up cause why care what people think?
yea i get u cuz ive done that too but also remember if u really don’t want to post it you don’t have to either
I’m so glad other people are bringing this up, I thought I was the only one!
Top tip: delete all social media’s so then when you meet people you can look your best, it’s better in real life. Be ethereal in real life so people don’t feel disappointed from the gram.
ive had to teach myself that although social media (insta especially) certainly highlights issues in the world like men only liking hourglass figures, toxic hustle culture etc. i noticed that while those issues def exist, they arent as prominant as insta makes them seem. Ive noticed that insta is kinda like the fun house mirrors that exaggerates whats reflected and I have to constantly remind myself that there is life outside of instagram
Defo there is life outside of IG.. like a living breathing world 😩
Also, can we talk about how strange it is to post pictures of ourselves that we think look pretty just so other people can see them and also agree that we are pretty? The narcissism Instragram promotes is so unhealthy. I've only taken one selfie since deleting the app a couple months ago and I don't miss the horrible experience of taking dozens of photos and becoming frustrated because I don't look 'good enough' in any of them.
What’s funny and a bit ironic, is that I just got a commercial about a book that gives tips on growing a big following on Instagram lmao.
I’m going to college and I don’t have most social media, I’m hoping I can just find a good, small group of people who are similar to me and not addicted to social media 🙏🏻
Best of luck!
Same! I'm so scared of being isolated because I don't have Instragram (by far the most popular and "important" app in my country).
I did not realize this was such an issue in other places. Not having instagram or any other social media should not be a cause for social isolation. SMS and phone calling are really all you need to arrange outings with friends and keep contact.
I sincerely hope that both of you can find good friends and build healthy relationships with them. Good luck!
We could all be friends if we see a person not on their phones
I recommended Instagram if you wanna keep a connection with someone you barely met instead of giving away your whole phone number where they can find a lot of personal info
You know what's worse than Instagram? Twitter
Don’t even start 😫🖐🏽
nooo
i agree, there is too many “yes men” on that app
Yeah I'd probably give the edge to Twitter.
Twitter is BRUTAL🤝
a cesspool of IMVU characters that fully sent me
Me too!
I can relate with the whole asking for your Instagram and leaving. When i tried to make friends on Bumble BFF, some people would do this. They leave their Instagram handle and go and I'm like, can we just at least get to know each other first even a bit?? because I know after that we won't continue talking and I'll just be another addition to their followers, just another person to like their photos on Instagram.
Re: "ugh why did I post that nobody cares"
I was in that hole a while back, and the mindset I adopted which helped me is that this is MY account, this is MY page, MY post, MY story. I posted it because I wanted to, because I liked it, because I care. It's healthier imo to use social media when you do it for your own enjoyment, and not to push a certain image. It's easy to say it, but truly, once you realise that having a photo that YOU are proud of is enough reason to post if you want to, even if it isn't "perfect".
12:50 I also feel like Instagram makes people feel like they are influencers, and at some point it makes you wanna "pretend" or live that dream out through Instagram, being an influencer is seen as one of the coolest careers, and so many people look up to them at the same time, it kinda makes you wish you were an influencer and then Instagram allows you to play pretend. idk if this makes sense
that’s so true ! girls i went to school had a couple thousand followers and would put “public figure” on their instagram. it made them more narcissistic- believing they were special because guys liked their pictures. because the guys want to be with the girl who’s hot on instagram obviously. the paradox was they were insecure. it wasn’t like they ever made any living or actual money off it, they just looked like influencers in their pictures... and, actually, having boys you don’t like in your DM’s probably isn’t going to make you confident. it’s a little sad.
@@lucy-wp8ic yeah we had the same at both schools I went to, and everyone would look up to the girl who had the most followers on Instagram. At some point made me wanna be like that too and I remember being so upset just bc I wouldn't get as many likes as everyone else.
Im so here for the signing at the intro
me: sad and having a bad day
madisyn: posts
me: automatically comfy and happy
i like how the lamps in the background make the instagram logo,, very smart :)
Your voice in the intro 😍😍
It's been nearly 5 months since I don't have Instagram anymore and my mental health is getting more and more better. I used to compare myself to others and there was a lot of drama, I think that leaving social media is the best thing that I ever done in my life.
I dont have instagram or any social media and i can say social life does go down but thr quality of ppl surrounding me has sky rocketed
i deleted instagram a month ago and i have never felt happier
The real question is why is everyone so easily manipulated ? They didn’t create beauty standards and make it a law that we abide by them, we voluntarily abided by them in the fear of what others thought about us. Ego is a drug, everybody’s an addict in these days I guess
You are so right about social media being boring lately. It’s so weird
wow, your content is so damn refreshing.
YOU INCLUDED THE PHOTO girl i hope this doesn’t get deleted. Btw love ur channel
looks like other youtubers who used the photo in their thumbnails are fine and monetized so i think we good
@@MadisynBrown yes another youtuber used it, her video is monetized and available don't worry
I surprisingly love reels...but that's because I don't think I can handle tiktok
Reels is recycled tiktoks from 2 weeks ago bye
@@us3r1625 yeah but that kinda makes it better, i cant handle brand new tiktoks lol
@@us3r1625 okay??
@@us3r1625 tik tok the app the community fucking sucks and you do too. bye.
I agree. I’m too old for tiktok
i just don’t understand the joy in looking at pictures of people all day
Tbh I never understood the thing with social media. If ppl can't talk to me on WhatsApp then I probably can't really talk on IG much either, I don't feel the need to scroll through social media or be on IG except for very specific reasons. So idk, I may never understand why the world cares so much about this whole looking perfect online thing but truly, in a year or two, you'll probably have a different goal, and that whole IG personality you spent so many hours trying to build is not going to matter to you much anymore
dude it’s not that hard to not have an instagram... i haven’t had social media for the longest and i’m perfectly fine
People really be acting like its the end of the world or like you cant meet people normally lmao
That's why i dont have any social media accounts anymore
You have a TH-cam account
@@londonfleurina2388 I don’t have social media accounts either and at least in my opinion I don’t consider TH-cam as social media because I don’t have a presence on here where I’m presenting myself/ my identity if that makes sense. I just consider it media rather than social media
@@jaci7974 yeah same
Same hereeee woop woop we’re the cool kids B)
@@jaci7974 samee, im planning to stop using social media ( especially tiktok ) but its been really hard for me, I feel like im literally addicted to social media, do u have any tips on how to stop? or can u just share how and why u decided to stop?
Tiktok looks sooo cringy once you haven’t been on it in months talking from my experience
tiktok is funny
YES, but the cringiness is oddly addicting 😩
@@jojo-qm7ve tiktok sucks and ofc its addicting cuz its social media
@@piyalichhajed6009 lmao right, i finally got bored of it and deleted it, best thing ever, I realized how stupid some of the arguments on tiktok are, I mean what do I expect, its an app filled with teens and kids
A tu ally tiktok is my fav app bc you can choose what you like and there is a lot of interesting videos and you can learn a lot of things, maybe you just have to ignore the cringy things and block them.
I really do think it's hilarious how there are so many men in 2021 who take "I don't have a Snapchat" as rejection. It's happened to me a few times too lol 🤣
i actually knew "BLM" as Bureau of Land Management before it stood for Black Lives Matter and so i got really confused the first few times i saw someone post blm because i was like, what do y'all have to do with land management??
The part about if you don’t have ig, then you don’t exist, is so true. I have ig but I don’t post AT ALL. So it’s basically like I don’t have one 😂 but periodically I have people texting me asking if I’m okay because they don’t see me on Instagram
Bruh had this exact realisation the other day, I had a whole free day last weekend with no work or any plans & as it was nice weather I got in my bikini and was chilling with my dog outside. I felt cute so started taking pictures ans then thought ima come inside to quickly edit this one. Hours later im still their trying to perfect the perfect “casual” insta photo dump. Honestly so pathetic and damaging and I felt like shit when I posted it as well. Crazy how I realised it was fucked up but still did it stop it.
I hate being reminded that I am indeed black and struggling
The thing you have to understand tho is that there are a lot black people who will condemn white people for *NOT* speaking up on black struggles (see: silence is acceptance)
I agree that it’s annoying being constantly reminded of struggles when I just wanna browse social media for memes and funny videos, but I also feel like non-racist white people need to constantly prove that they’re not racist by bringing awareness to black issues, *ESPECIALLY* with how loosely the word “racist” is constantly thrown around, and with how many people are constantly labeled racist for *NOT* speaking up on said issues/struggles
Literally like damn can y’all leave us alone?😭
I’m so sorry:(( I rlly hope that racism can actually be fought instead of the blm acronym being thrown around randomly as if its an aesthetic. Remember you’re beautiful and worthy of love and respect!! You look so pretty :D
death doesn’t scare me, but posting on my private story does
for the record i no longer have a private story... left that in 2020 lol
I feel the same way, about IG especially. I keep taking selfies thinking I'll post one, but they just sit on my phone and I feel like no one knows what I look like anymore lol 🙃 and I've been trying to get myself to share art but everytime I try, I get caught up in the perfection/curation aspect
"Polar Express characters" omg its true! 😂
The amount of times I felt called out and attacked during this video
You’re content is so fricking good and this video in particular is just everything I needed to hear. You’re point about people not asking for phone numbers or asking for Instagram and just never talking again. So true. Thank you for sharing these amazing points!!
You're the kind of youtuber that I can just feel is genuine. And I mean this in the best way possible. I'm literally sitting here with a smile on my face, we have the same kind of humor...
i'm crying at the "polar express characters" part omfg
Tysm for talking about the beauty standards in your videos, I felt sm happier when I didn't feel insecure because of you and many ppl :)
omg im so glad i found you cause its so refreshing to see a content creator just being real and having real talk about this stuff, its what we all need rn
The fact that you've literally addressed so many things I felt I was just complaining to complain about when it came to present day social media, I knew I wasn't bugging. I LOVE THIS VIDEO SO FUCKING MUCH.💕
Im 35 and only got an instagram like 2 years ago. When it came out I was in film school and completely disgusted by this homogeneous “photographery” social media thing. The format of the big block of pics with no borders, the filters, even the way comments are structured is built to flood and smush together.
So now I’ve seen for myself what it is, I do not get why people do this to themselves. Even my friends on there don’t interact with each other through anything beyond emojis or likes.
So it feels like spying on people you used to know but are no longer in their real lives.
Anyways I deleted my account and will now get back to living my life.
Good video.
Get that booty 🤘
Class plays such an important part in beauty perceptions - the woman who can afford to splurge on her appearance with time and money is more desirable, more otherly. The perfection these people display is not real but they can afford to curate their lives. The Kardashians were a driver for this filtered portrayal of life, and influencers have strengthened it.
Social media is overtaught bc part of us wants to try to live up to that level. Even within our own small social groups, we want to increase our social capital. I don't post a lot because of anxiety and comparing myself to others I know, but I hope to work on that. Realising that we can remove ourselves from that pressure, and view it as what it is - curation and editing - will lead to more peace.
My Instagram feed is just pictures of sneakers, trees and buildings, with the odd photo of me uploaded, I follow a wide college of people Instagram is my favourite social platform though, used to be Twitter but that’s too damn toxic now.
I’m from eastern Europe, and Kardashians aren’t really well-known where I live, but the beauty standards here are pretty much the same.
I think Kardashians didn’t set all these ideals themselves, but they contributed a lot to these unrealistic body goals, for sure
Can i ask what is the standard there ?
@@highwithoutweed4361 it’s the same thing : an hourglass shape, big breasts and hips, but a skinny waist, no cellulite, no body hair, clear skin with no acne etc
@@MariaStanislavivna that’s actually surprising
I always thought European standards were more or less like skinny bodies and clear skin , tall , more eurocentric
Idk what i was imagining lol
Never thought hourglass would be a thing there
@@highwithoutweed4361 well here where i live in north italy the beauty standars are more like, you said you thought, than the american ones, i guess depends of the country
@@lnbrr oh i see that’s interesting there’s diversity in different parts
Edit : diversity in beaut stands lol
I agree with this 100%. I always get embarrassed or don’t feel like I fit an “aesthetic” when I post pictures. Everything has become so unrealistic :/
Do you guys remember when having a phone with internet was actually a really difficult thing? Cause I miss it
me trying not to go over my 500 mb data limit before i get charged ,,, and this was in 2013!
@@twoicecreams. mine's at 100 mb HAHAHAHAHA good times
Now im glad my parents made "no insta or tick tok before turning 18" rule . Earlier i felt like i was missing out but nahh im glad my parents saved me from these hell holes.
same haha i only started social media at 16 and im glad i get more control about how i use it
Gaurika? Wow ur the second person ive ever seen named Gaurika. Such a rare name i was questioning if you could be my classmate at first
Something that has helped me a lot is shutting off notifications for my social media apps. I go on them for a little bit of time, but only when I feel like it. That way I'm not constantly being thrown into all of the drama that is on social media. I enjoy it for the connections that I made and the art that I have discovered, but with the examples you gave, I completely dislike many platforms, including instagram, for.
Always great to hear you voice your perspective and open up a conversation. Social media really does cause people's perspective of self and self-worth to change, sometimes postitive but also many negative ways.
I appreciate your content and hope you are doing well. Sending supportive, postive, and loving energy♡
Sameeee
The Kardashians aren't even keeping up with the Kardashians
Youre like one of the only youtuber that i watch the vedios till the end, you’re content is just so interestinggg
honestly i think if the kardashians dropped their image a new group would take over. they dont make the fashion, they're products and examples of it. if they dont look perfect then they dont have a following
i felt so much pressure to post something 'perfect'ly catered to my 'aesthetic' i had to delete instagram altogether. and just like how you said, it's almost like i dropped off the face of the earth but at least im not stressed abt looking 'perfect' anymore 💁💁
honestly, thank you for this video!! found myself highkey nodding and lowkey crying throughout
Girl start a podcast I would listen
I love how honest this is 🙌🏽thanks for shedding some light in an open and honest way
not the polar express characters 😭😭
im going into my third year of uni and havent had social media for over a year. I wondered why my social life was dead and now it kinda makes sense
Big same , and it’s honestly so sad to think about
F*cking same. Took me forever to come to this realization. I always wrote social media off as a dumb thing for superficial people and not a foundational pillar of a social life in the 21st century. Turns out, both are right
your videos are absolutely amazing i love them !!!🤩🤩
ive been thinking abt this for abt a year now and i love how u just articulate it perfectly, its why i deleted all my social medias
the way that intro legit made me blush 😳💗
also describing instagram people as "imvu characters" is too accurate
IG is indeed so embarassing, I could never be posting selfies everyday like it's nothing
I just discovered your channel and I am a big fan of your point of view on things and made me reflect and literally had a whole conversation with my mom. Thank you for inspiring me also in music.
yes finally we are talking about this. i personally feel to pressured about what to post on Instagram that I end up never actually post
I really enjoyed what you said about people trying to seem “carefree” on the platform when we literally put so much effort into our posts - I think we need to find that healthy balance again, where we use social media for its actual purpose. To express our creativity and connect with others - I feel like we’re overindulgent because it’s easier and seemingly ‘less taxing’ than actually taking time to call or meet up with someone. It’s ironic, how we try to make our lives seem effortless on SM when in reality so many of us prioritize it over most things. “There’s no such thing as not giving a fuck because when you’re choosing to not give a fuck - you’re actively trying to not care, meaning you do”- so I agree we need to stop taking it so seriously and actually live our lives! Amazing vid, loved listening to you, you should start a podcast !💃🏾