My dad is a Vietnam war vet and he is mentally healthy and he said the same thing you are saying, you have to leave all that stuff where it is or you’re going to go crazy. That’s why he doesn’t talk about it, I know very little about his time in the army because he chooses not to discuss it.
@sass1826 I think therapy can be good if you're still processing your trauma. BUT it will only work if there's action to move on and get over from that trauma. Just talking about it and reliving it, like many do in therapy without specific action to get out, won't do anything and keep you stuck. But the worst is to talk about the trauma online, at least in therapy it's contained and hopefully won't affect your reputation or make everyone see you as the traumatized woman.
@@sass1826 with therapy, they have healing modalities like EDMR, CBT and DBT and others without talk therapy. I feel like talk therapy is giving these narc therapists supply if you know what I mean. Some are sadistic
I don’t like to be with my friends or anyone if i am not feeling well about myself. Clear your head before you come out to the world!! I swear you will feel much better.
I completely agree with your point on getting a mentor instead of a therapist. I was struggling with years of trauma that had accumulated from 2020 and tried going to therapy first because I wanted to heal and move on. However, I soon realized that therapy didn't work for me because I wanted advice on doing the inner work and healing, but the first therapist told me "there are no quick fixes in therapy, this will take a while". I've seen a short that explained that therapists are paid for the number of sessions you have with them, so it doesn't benefit them if your problems are resolved. Then, I found a mentor and completely healed in a year. Would highly recommend a mentor instead.
I saw a therapist that helped me release a huge source of stress for me that kept me emotionally chained up since birth. Now onto better things. I really appreciate my therapist.
Great topic 😊I feel like in the beginning trauma can be useful and validating, but I noticed that I needed to stop watching it, as it started to get very repetitive have the opposite of a healing effect and I felt more depressed by it after a certain point.
I believe people keep talking about their trauma because they like the attention and compassion they get from it, and keep using it as an excuse. Rather than moving on and be strong. For those who still need healing, i recommend gestald therapy, which focus on solution finding rather than adding salt on the wound
Yep I did my own intensive healing and I no longer identify with my trauma. Now I work on myself with knowing who I am etc. I no longer trauma dumping and no longer on social media much
Maria, what a wonderful time that you posted this subject. While on my healing journey, I made a conscious decision and effort not to allow past traumas to affect me and future relationships. And now I’m in a new and budding relationship we started no lie yesterday! It feels good to be present and look forward. You are so appreciated Maria 🩷👏✨
My dad is a Vietnam war vet and he is mentally healthy and he said the same thing you are saying, you have to leave all that stuff where it is or you’re going to go crazy. That’s why he doesn’t talk about it, I know very little about his time in the army because he chooses not to discuss it.
Discussing it only open back old wounds. Which is why I’ve always been skeptical about therapy
@sass1826 I think therapy can be good if you're still processing your trauma. BUT it will only work if there's action to move on and get over from that trauma. Just talking about it and reliving it, like many do in therapy without specific action to get out, won't do anything and keep you stuck. But the worst is to talk about the trauma online, at least in therapy it's contained and hopefully won't affect your reputation or make everyone see you as the traumatized woman.
@@sass1826 with therapy, they have healing modalities like EDMR, CBT and DBT and others without talk therapy. I feel like talk therapy is giving these narc therapists supply if you know what I mean. Some are sadistic
I don’t like to be with my friends or anyone if i am not feeling well about myself.
Clear your head before you come out to the world!! I swear you will feel much better.
I completely agree with your point on getting a mentor instead of a therapist. I was struggling with years of trauma that had accumulated from 2020 and tried going to therapy first because I wanted to heal and move on. However, I soon realized that therapy didn't work for me because I wanted advice on doing the inner work and healing, but the first therapist told me "there are no quick fixes in therapy, this will take a while". I've seen a short that explained that therapists are paid for the number of sessions you have with them, so it doesn't benefit them if your problems are resolved. Then, I found a mentor and completely healed in a year. Would highly recommend a mentor instead.
Where did you find your mentor?
what are mentors called? idk where to find them
@@Cookiedesigns254 During an interview, when I was job hunting.
I agree! My timeline is wiped CLEAN from any trauma based content on every social media platform.
I saw a therapist that helped me release a huge source of stress for me that kept me emotionally chained up since birth. Now onto better things. I really appreciate my therapist.
I personally think black women are out of control on social media its one rant after the other.
I’m so glad I don’t see much of them on my algorithm
I see Maria post I immediately click! Became Patreon member today love you girl
Yay! Thank you! 😘
Great topic 😊I feel like in the beginning trauma can be useful and validating, but I noticed that I needed to stop watching it, as it started to get very repetitive have the opposite of a healing effect and I felt more depressed by it after a certain point.
Thank you for this video, I totally agree. I'm guilty of sometimes consuming trauma content, but I'm trying to keep away from it.
I believe people keep talking about their trauma because they like the attention and compassion they get from it, and keep using it as an excuse. Rather than moving on and be strong.
For those who still need healing, i recommend gestald therapy, which focus on solution finding rather than adding salt on the wound
Yep I did my own intensive healing and I no longer identify with my trauma. Now I work on myself with knowing who I am etc. I no longer trauma dumping and no longer on social media much
Thank you for this reminder.
it’s best to just fix your issues on your own. a lot of people don’t care and don’t have good intentions when you tell them your problems.
Anyone who keeps trauma harpering or still doing unhealthy habits, I can't hang out with them. I have low intolence.
Therapy is in fact pretty useless
I needed this message ❤ thank you
And even if you have 0 trauma, you’ll definitely get one by watching all these -ism videos 🤦🏻♀️
Lol right 😂
Maria, what a wonderful time that you posted this subject. While on my healing journey, I made a conscious decision and effort not to allow past traumas to affect me and future relationships. And now I’m in a new and budding relationship we started no lie yesterday! It feels good to be present and look forward. You are so appreciated Maria 🩷👏✨
The lesson are so important but most people will not learn this
Omg , Powerful 👏
Wayyy too many narcissistic abus3 channels… and most therapists I’ve tried have been useless. I’m better off doing shadow works or revision
This is perfect timing since the full moon is about releasing ❤
Right on…started thinking about doing shadow work.
Amazing! How to make it at home??
Try EMDR. It works.
11:15 is an exercise that is therapists do
Thanks so much for this 🩷